Guaranteed Way To DEFEAT a Narcissist

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  • @narcabusecoach
    @narcabusecoach  Рік тому +6

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    • @JL-re1rx
      @JL-re1rx Рік тому

      BEST NARCISSISTIC BEHAVIOR RECOVERY VIDEO!!
      The upbeat and inspiring last section on Decide is the BEST!!
      MANY THANKS DINESH!!

  • @danmcdonald8522
    @danmcdonald8522 Рік тому +27

    Excellent video. The narc has a strange disorder. They are diabolical sneaky and miserable. They are only concerned about themselves. These creatures are pathological liars. Don't waste your time on these lost cause. Stay away God bless.

  • @leannimalcrackers
    @leannimalcrackers Рік тому +12

    Think JADE! Do not Justify, Argue, Defend and Explain.

  • @bjrowell-cu9vt
    @bjrowell-cu9vt Рік тому +179

    i dont understand why people call these demons dangerous. Once you find out what these soulless things are, and you are healed, yiu see nothing but cowards, little bullies, the lowest lifeforms on earth.

    • @twinkleshineful
      @twinkleshineful Рік тому +11

      I agree with you ❤️

    • @anonymouslyanonymous4774
      @anonymouslyanonymous4774 Рік тому +19

      Remember your own journey and have grace for others…proof of healing is not just the realization of what they are but what YOU are…

    • @bernitacenteno1326
      @bernitacenteno1326 Рік тому +15

      @bjrowell. I do. No one has attacked you premeditatedly I guess. No one has risked the lives of you, and your and their innocent child. It is the ones most vulnerable who are unwittingly always in danger and the ones targeted, often secretly, to hurt covertly. Do you see now ?

    • @bernitacenteno1326
      @bernitacenteno1326 Рік тому +12

      ​@@twinkleshineful Who do you agree with ? Narcissists often make it look like an accident or do things just to cause harm to another or their....then it's as if it's your fault that something just happened. Not so. They all are different and use different tactics. They're really really dangerous. I couldn't see at first when I experience it in lots of different ways. I'm clear headed now and free now. I thank God and pray every day and live a normal healthy life, better than I use to.

    • @crystalcole888
      @crystalcole888 Рік тому +30

      Hard to say this without being offensive, but you're very naive. These are people who are intent on hurting you for their own gain and pleasure. If you really really wanted to hurt someone, I'm sure you could find a way. Now imagine someone twisted spending all of their time and mental energy trying to come up with ways to hurt someone. I hope this expands your understanding.

  • @KO-bt6jb
    @KO-bt6jb Рік тому +46

    They may fool some. They may even fool themselves. But they do not fool God.

  • @simonpegg1196
    @simonpegg1196 Рік тому +47

    Narcs don't understand truth, love and logic. When no-contact is not an option, better to talk in a language that they understand. Tell them the opposite of what you intend to do. Confuse them inside out. Do so in a subtle, calm manner while staying as far away physically and emotionally as you can. This is the best way to defeat a narc.

    • @Irfaan_Miq
      @Irfaan_Miq Рік тому +3

      I don't think so. If it's not your nature, then don't. Narc can damage you forever and never care about it. If you can't ignore or leave a narc as it could be too late, setting up boundaries is a must.

    • @leenasekhawat8408
      @leenasekhawat8408 Рік тому +1

      Perfectly said !!

  • @tarey05
    @tarey05 Рік тому +40

    Today, June 1, is World Narcissistic Abuse day instituted in 2016! Annually on this day, victims acknowledge and celebrate our survival and transformation as well as recognize those professionals who help us along the way! , Danish, your videos on this topic absolutely serve as a healing balm for victims and survivors of narc abuse as well as a navigating tool toward a life of profound positive change and success! We appreciate you for your dedication to support us in this challenging journey and for sharing ur own personal suffering that has expedited our own recovery! Thank you for all, Danish. We love you! ❤

    • @ND-or5so
      @ND-or5so Рік тому

      First for me to know

    • @hsprathima
      @hsprathima Рік тому +2

      So true...dame words same thoughts from me too,...him dont have enough words to thank Danish....thank you thank you..toure helping so many ppl amidst these tearful ,scary , traumatizing ,depressing, confusing, and dark days.🙏🙏🙏🙏...

    • @daylenestaneart775
      @daylenestaneart775 Рік тому

      This is good to know!

  • @seemasahal5272
    @seemasahal5272 Рік тому +18

    Hi Danish , thank u so much . U have no idea how much u r helping me to overcome 10’years of abuse . Got married to him thinking he is the best person in the world though it was arranged marriage. In just one week he started showing his true colours. Today m here lost my son custody , lost my health , my USA medical PG residency, he didn’t even give my eductional certificates . Came out of this relationship with one set of clothes. He is not even letting me talk to my son it’s been 2 years . M here today thinking if this life is worth living

    • @sadiamufti8890
      @sadiamufti8890 Рік тому +2

      Don't loose hope. Pray to God and move forward . All the best.❤

    • @anacardinale5769
      @anacardinale5769 Рік тому +6

      I have been at the lowest, darkest places in my long life many times due to narcissistic abuse of my mother and siblings. I have felt like giving up thinking my life could never turn around. I am here to tell you, life is worth living. You are unique and special and God loves you. And He loves me. Learn to trust in God, ask Him to strengthen you. Pray for your son, one day you will see him again. Never give up hope. And, use your pain to help others who also hurt.

  • @Tibor0803
    @Tibor0803 Рік тому +3

    The way how I deflect to a narcissistic person is that I give her a useless, yet funny answer she cannot do anything with and this way she literally shuts the hell up, or just answers positively and shut her mouth afterwards.

  • @martiabomargood823
    @martiabomargood823 Рік тому +1

    Its been many years that i have been away from the NARC of my married yrs. Its still not enough. The children are adults. Im still healing!!!!

  • @ZOELIFE23-365
    @ZOELIFE23-365 Рік тому +7

    ❤So helpful thank you so much. Co-parenting with a NARC is a nightmare, let alone living with one whos always tryna push your buttons and even turn your kid against you. I will continue to disengage for my emotional health. Your encouragement means a lot!!! 😊

  • @mumo9413
    @mumo9413 Рік тому +3

    In the UK Courts, we can apply for indirect contact (Skype, emails) or if direct contact is ordered, it can be at a Contact Centre where they are constantly observed by trained Social workers!

  • @JL-re1rx
    @JL-re1rx Рік тому +4

    BEST NARCISSISTIC BEHAVIOR RECOVERY VIDEO!!
    The upbeat and inspiring last section on Decide is the BEST!!
    MANY THANKS DINESH

  • @peasofmind9110
    @peasofmind9110 Рік тому

    Thankyou Danish, this is the Best advice I’ve ever found about this- I have a narcissistic abusive mother and I have been looking for the words to use to protect myself from her for a long time, exact quotes, these are like gold dust to me, I honestly can’t thank you enough for this, it is brilliant. Sometimes escaping isn’t really an option with complex family situations (I left home years ago as soon as I was old enough but I’m 40 now and the abuse continues). Thankyou so much, You are so knowledgeable and clearly understand the difficulties of it all. Much love indeed, you are a wonderful person 💜💜

  • @raymondmcdonald2499
    @raymondmcdonald2499 Рік тому +14

    Once u figured them out game is over 😂

  • @lupitahummel5934
    @lupitahummel5934 Рік тому

    I'm usually I stay home stay quiet person but I had to let you know you saved my life.

  • @Nn-sz9ht
    @Nn-sz9ht Рік тому +7

    Thank you Danish for bringing this awareness in such a human and warm way. Your videos really help me and so many others to know that we are not the problem. I wish you all the best! Happy healthy healing everyone

  • @teresitamelendy8155
    @teresitamelendy8155 Рік тому +8

    Thank you Danish! I love all your messages- the 5 D’s are a positive way to reinforce the healing process with positivity and self love 🙏🏼❤️

  • @helenahon
    @helenahon Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this video. Good solutions. I realised I was part of the problem because I gave her the opportunity to provoke me. All I had to do was to avoid her. Now that I have security cameras, I make sure I scan my space before stepping into it. It's inconvenient but it's worth the effort.
    Sometimes it still slips through. They will shout across the road when they see me. It's not just her now but all her gang members + her husband. The trick is to get away as quickly as possible so I am out of earshot. Or to simply not get triggered. They can shout all they want.
    They are desperate for attention.

  • @Turkiye4Life
    @Turkiye4Life Рік тому +8

    Hi Danish! Thank you for your hard work. Could you please do a video on a topic which isn't covered very much. What to do when no contact is not an option. In my case, my son who's totally manipulated by his narc wife to the point that he doesn't even want to set eyes on us, where he used to adore us. It's very sad😢

  • @eternalriver7866
    @eternalriver7866 Рік тому +7

    My spouse is a narcissist and it’s leading to divorce. I just can’t take them back anymore. This last time I found out there was things happening before our wedding even. They don’t change.

  • @lupitahummel5934
    @lupitahummel5934 Рік тому

    Hello dr. Danish I've listened to most of your videos married to a narcissist for 37 years, I started listening to your videos you have helped me a hundred and 20%, I want to say thank you thank you thank you. I never knew what was going on until 4 months ago, then I realized what the f***. I really couldn't believe it, I really love the way you talk I listen to you and you help me I get him I said thank you.

  • @hallelujah5506
    @hallelujah5506 Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for your videos/knowledge. i came across your videos about 2 months ago. There has been three videos that I really resonate with when what I've dealt with a Narcisstic mother who has made me feel like I'm losing my mind at times. Reading her letters and having decent communication expectations and want accountability! But that is something we will never get from them. Anyways, Very HELPFUL!!

  • @tummyjoy8910
    @tummyjoy8910 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for this!

  • @amthatgalirene
    @amthatgalirene Рік тому +6

    Deflect
    Disengage
    Decline
    Document
    Decide to prioritize your well being

  • @peacefuldays4255
    @peacefuldays4255 Рік тому +13

    Danish can you please do a video about the malignant narcissist and just how dangerous they actually are.

    • @TwinklingofaneyeLoveStoryofGod
      @TwinklingofaneyeLoveStoryofGod Рік тому +2

      I went grey rock with mine and he dislocated my thumb by football tackling me to the floor!
      I pray your safe, I am.
      Shalom ❤

    • @m.pellicier
      @m.pellicier Рік тому +5

      I was married to an EXTREME MALIGNANT narc. I have HORRIBLE and VERY SCARY experience HOW DANGEROUS they REALLY are. Whoever the malignant narc is in your life, the only way you can stay safe is to get away from him/her, go no contact, and keep them OUT OF YOUR LIFE FOREVER!!

    • @peacefuldays4255
      @peacefuldays4255 Рік тому +1

      @@TwinklingofaneyeLoveStoryofGod I'm trying

    • @TwinklingofaneyeLoveStoryofGod
      @TwinklingofaneyeLoveStoryofGod Рік тому

      @@peacefuldays4255 ua-cam.com/video/Vo68-BDXXH0/v-deo.html
      This is a bible study on Matthew 4: 1-11

    • @Ptls68
      @Ptls68 Рік тому

      I know of a danish woman who had a half year Old baby. Her ex had a policerestrainorder not to come near her becaurse he had a history of violence. One day he rang her doorbell and she opened her door not knowing it was him Holding her son in her arms. He steppes foreward and with his hands grapped her head presses his Tombs against her eyeballs and crushed her eyes
      She lost both eyes

  • @ekenechristyike5461
    @ekenechristyike5461 Рік тому

    Thank you so much brother... Its bitter and sweet for me cos I'm devasted that i could be this naive.....and fooled by a person i trusted with my heart.
    Secondly, i can stop inhaling slow poisoned air and drinking deadly poison. Its not just my spouse, 80% of hus family 😢😢 and i didn't notice it.
    The discovery almost sent me to a psychiatric ward or even early grave...uf not for the mercy of God.
    SOMETIMES I FEEL I SAD FOR NOT KNOWING EARLY ENOUGH. 22yrs of confusion and illnesses😭

  • @m.f.richardson1602
    @m.f.richardson1602 Рік тому +3

    Thank you.
    Always helpful and useful.
    Peace 💕🇺🇲

  • @TravelT970
    @TravelT970 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for creating this channel Danish. This has been very helpful.

  • @Atanun4
    @Atanun4 Рік тому +4

    Thank you❤

  • @mnm_creations
    @mnm_creations Рік тому

    Allah khush rakhain apko Danish bhai
    Dealing with narcissist n these points r very important for guidance as im going through post separation n co parenting situation

  • @timothysmith8407
    @timothysmith8407 Рік тому +2

    Danish, your content is so helpful. Thank you for everything.

  • @herbvoigt9002
    @herbvoigt9002 Рік тому

    Thanks!

  • @rufaisaheed6500
    @rufaisaheed6500 Рік тому +1

    Hmmmmm this message saved my life

  • @animetsystudio9841
    @animetsystudio9841 Рік тому

    Tysm for this video..me and my mom are enduring my narcissistic father and his relative. I think this is an ancestoral curse which is passing down. I really don't want to be like father and I will try my best to be a good parent in future. Only grandma and grandpa were the person who were not like them..only due to aunt and uncle's vile narcissism they were made guilty and made everyone against them...they were fighter and fought till their last breath. Now I'm damm sure they all will get karma and just to me, my mom and my grandma and grandpa. Most vile person in family tree is elder aunt who bullied my mom and slutshamed/degraded her..n now her daughters are doing the same, but I'm NOT going to let them trample me easily and my dumb papa is captived by them and believes their crappy lies and manipulation. Even if they go to most niche path to degrade me and mum papa NEVER takes our side and cover ups them. I'm just under him bc he's paying for education dw once I earn I will leave him and my mom will do the same..bc we both have endured so much and my mom endured more than me, she's still enduring so that I can be financially independent and stable in life. As she's not working and just a housewife. Now I don't have doubts of leaving my father in future since he said these 3 things that are so degrading.
    1. I regret listening to your decision about career choice bc you are huge failure when I didn't scored good percentile in mba exam.
    2. To my mum when she told him about my photoshoot and his 1st words was "she must've clicked naked pics (yesterday's situation where my mom dk that I heard and saw everything)" which made my mum absolutely mad.
    3. Scolding and shouting in front of whole cyber cafe and degrading and belittling me in 11th grade who was new to internet and made minor mistake while filling form where every single person was looking at me.
    Ik in future he will torture me more dw me being silent and enduring is my biggest weapon and leaving him will be biggest attack.

  • @nalinidharanipragada1997
    @nalinidharanipragada1997 Рік тому

    Very useful. I follow almost all these methods except for documenting. I am afraid that even that will backlash and I will be more hurt than before

  • @CL-we6hg
    @CL-we6hg Рік тому +1

    I totally ignore them and keep on my own path

  • @gracegrace9567
    @gracegrace9567 Рік тому +2

    Another really brilliant analysis ❤

  • @davidabraxton
    @davidabraxton Рік тому

    Thsnk yu for these videos..bern watching and taking notes. Much respect 🙌

  • @dianaalyssa8726
    @dianaalyssa8726 Рік тому +3

    Mine has been too quiet. It's like a sleeping Old God waiting to attack somehow.

  • @humeraahmed6477
    @humeraahmed6477 Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing awareness programs!

  • @jacklimcortez7660
    @jacklimcortez7660 Рік тому

    Thanks 😊 very helpful stand strong and be calm prayers 🙏🙏 and love to those who are going through difficult times better times ahead know and love who you are 😊😁💖

  • @carparthero
    @carparthero Рік тому +18

    trying to heal while living with a narcissist is impossible. it’s like trying to dry your hair while standing in the rain. impossible.
    let go of the urge to change or control the narcissist. the idiot narcissist is a broken, pathetic person that you cannot fix. control yourself instead and let that be enough. when they cannot take away your self control, it is GAME OVER for them.
    cheers 🍻from southern ontario, canada 🍁

    • @carparthero
      @carparthero Рік тому +1

      @jbrown2908 unfortunately not everyone can just walk away. whether it's a business relationship (co-worker) , co-parenting matter or even a landlord-tenant situation as examples.
      in such scenarios, grey rock is the next best alternative where no-contact cannot be practiced.
      cheers, steven 😁

    • @carparthero
      @carparthero Рік тому

      @jbrown2908 thanks for your kind words.
      keep fighting the good fight.
      -steven

    • @musicwithlovie4838
      @musicwithlovie4838 Рік тому

      😂😂😂🤣true 😂😂 my god.. please protect my kids

  • @Anushka-rc5bb
    @Anushka-rc5bb 16 днів тому

    can you please tell whether or not to block a narcissist during no contact ?

  • @asramohiuddin4058
    @asramohiuddin4058 Рік тому

    Excellent video. Thank you so much.

  • @rapstar4575
    @rapstar4575 Рік тому +1

    Love the vids ❤🎉

  • @pattyfidei3417
    @pattyfidei3417 Рік тому +3

    100% TRUE

  • @sweetbee2174
    @sweetbee2174 Рік тому +3

    my son took audio recording during his dad ranting

  • @cefcat5733
    @cefcat5733 Рік тому

    Sometimes I tell them that I don't feel like fighting with you now. Just don't feel like it.

  • @barishankhonglah4690
    @barishankhonglah4690 Рік тому

    I am trying

  • @sandyyyy231
    @sandyyyy231 Рік тому

    Awesome👍

  • @Ptls68
    @Ptls68 Рік тому

    How do you document everything? Is journaling enough or do you need prof from others or photoes or audible proof of conversations or…?

  • @knittingpassion6106
    @knittingpassion6106 Рік тому +2

    I did every thing but I failed because I did not things I want for my child deflect narc said bad things I ignore narc engage in bad behaviour I disengage I decline I document and did my best but what I want didn't get I am depressed

    • @janenjuguna1661
      @janenjuguna1661 Рік тому +3

      I have no words to explain how much your channel has helped me.38years of marriage, to a man who can never say sorry and blames me for everything. May God bless you. I thank God because all my children are grown up and working.

  • @chingling8177
    @chingling8177 Рік тому

    The narcissist has f with my head too much I'm so angry I don't know what I'm doing anymore coz Iv cut them out of my life the other day but I don't know what they are going to do later on I'm worried that they are going to hurt someone I love and now I feel like I'm on a race against time

  • @DeniseDaffron
    @DeniseDaffron Рік тому

    Do they know they are sick??? How if at all will they repair ?? It is so sad…They feel very misunderstood That’s what my Narcissist would say! Total denial !! I just don’t see how they get well- very sad.. The bad part is mine loved me but couldn’t change It was a habit to be a monster. I caught him hiding calls and women on his phone and he cried like a baby in shame! But never apologized- crazy!! 😮

  • @taheraahmed6295
    @taheraahmed6295 Рік тому

    My son is married to a Narcissist. He had gone thru all these stages. When he found that she is N he started taking action. His kids are small but he makes their breakfast, their tiffin and brings them back from school. He also gives them lunch. But he says he is tired and needs to do his office work also. Leaving her is not possible as the 3rd child is 22 months. What can we do as parents?

  • @SunkenButterfly
    @SunkenButterfly Рік тому

    Anyone f#cking with your emotions is an enemy.
    Master your emotions.
    -bushidoist

  • @Moraayaa
    @Moraayaa Рік тому

    After marriage economically depends upon narc...then how can we deal with narc when according to situation we can't leave narc? How can protect kids from their each abuse.

  • @bhrigurajsinghchauhan9154
    @bhrigurajsinghchauhan9154 Рік тому

    Sir please help me🙏🥺

  • @barishankhonglah4690
    @barishankhonglah4690 Рік тому

    Some words you used are rhe same words i am told i am . so, who am i?

  • @aswathya9135
    @aswathya9135 Рік тому +4

    Sir . Every professionals already said that npd is a mental disorder so my question is . Any treatment ? Aur any solution . How can we save them from this disorder

    • @aqdassyed6572
      @aqdassyed6572 Рік тому

      It's not disorder they are evil and know what they are doing and playing dumb

    • @leenasekhawat8408
      @leenasekhawat8408 Рік тому

      Save yourself! They r demons in human body.

  • @samchalohana4423
    @samchalohana4423 Рік тому

    If your child is a Narcissist,and you want to help him, what to do?

  • @siyakitchen1892
    @siyakitchen1892 Рік тому

    Hello sir

  • @carolemorales5055
    @carolemorales5055 Рік тому

    Thanks for reminding me. He gives me brain fog

  • @CL-we6hg
    @CL-we6hg Рік тому

    Or live 2 feet across the hallway from me

  • @vixynfoxtail2267
    @vixynfoxtail2267 Рік тому

    Seems to me only about 10% of these comments have any actual real experience with an actual narcissist and have actual narcissist abuse
    Someone being mean to you or not agreeing with you is not narcissism...
    The pain is indescribable, you literally have no foundation, they steal your dreams and your reality
    You go up, should of gone down, go down you should of gone up, do nothing and you should of done something, do something and you should of done nothing
    You have no control over anything, and all the while they blame you and destroy your life and every relationship you have... they have you so confused and believing that you are so inferior that you just break...
    You are nothing, and they train you to love it

  • @aajkabaadshah
    @aajkabaadshah Рік тому

    Your videos are informative and helpful 👍🏻👏

  • @ekenechristyike5461
    @ekenechristyike5461 Рік тому +2

    Thank you so much brother... Its bitter and sweet for me cos I'm devasted that i could be this naive.....and fooled by a person i trusted with my heart.
    Secondly, i can stop inhaling slow poisoned air and drinking deadly poison. Its not just my spouse, 80% of hus family 😢😢 and i didn't notice it.
    The discovery almost sent me to a psychiatric ward or even early grave...uf not for the mercy of God.
    SOMETIMES I FEEL I SAD FOR NOT KNOWING EARLY ENOUGH. 22yrs of confusion and illnesses😭