I just graduated nursing school, passed the NCLEX RN, and accepted a job in the trauma ICU and stumbled upon y’all’s page. Your story definitely gives me motivation to be the best nurse I can be.
I had an uncle who was paralyzed. As a kid, I remember he would have to sit on the toilet for HOURS and just wait for the bowel movement to happen. He would take stool softeners and would just have to wait for his body to expel the bowel movement on its on. I remember him always having to drink magnesium citrate. But he had a lot of issues with passing bowel movements. This often left him with bowel impactions and one time it damn near killed him. One thing that REALLY helped him was having his feet elevated. He had this stool that had a little border around 3 of the 4 edges so his feet couldn’t fall off since his knees tended to pull to the sides, making his feet fall off regular stools. And he cut down a pool noodle, sliced it down the middle, and put it on the edges so he could rest his legs on the side easier since it was leaving these massive indentations on his legs, since he’d often be there for hours, and didn’t have any control to keep his legs upright and off the edge. It was cutting in to his legs pretty bad for a while until he did the pool noodle thing. I’ve actually seen stools online that come with foot straps but that may be hard to reach if someone can’t bend forward and has limited finger/grip ability. It seems in the last 15 years things have gotten a bit more efficient for both number 1 and number 2. If I remember correctly he had a permanent catheter. And going #2 for him was something I could tell he really didn’t care for doing because it took soooo long. He would be sitting in the bathroom for like 3 hours and I’d be sitting outside the bathroom door with the bathroom door cracked, reading to him or talking to him. We had an extra bathroom downstairs that kinda became his bathroom when he stayed with us, and my parents put a shelf up in the corner of the room so he could have a tv in there, as this was long before smartphones. His injury was caused by him falling through a roof while on a roofing job. I wish he was around today to be able to see all the advancements for people with spinal cord injuries. All the accessibility there is now. Also, i KNOW he’d have been super excited about Neuralink and devices like it. He’d always tell me that one day spinal cord injuries would be a simple fix. He genuinely believed it. I never knew how that could be true but it appears that we’re moving in that direction.
Brianna, thank you so much for sharing with us some memories with your uncle. It was moving to hear how hopeful he was for the future and how sweet a niece you were keeping him company. That filled my heart with joy! Greetings from Italy!
This sounds alot like me. It really hit home. Im so glad you had a relationship with him qnd he with you. I know my relationships with my nieces and nephew mean the world to me. Im sorry to hear that he passed away. That upset me thinking how that wld be for me and my family.
Look people...stop going at Charisma for joking with Cole. They've talked about how clumsy she is in other videos. They're being playful. She's never once (any all the videos they have) disrespected, talk down to, demoralized, or mistreated Cole. She is loving, thoughtful, selfless, & giving. If you don't know this already...then you should watch their videos & get a clue before commenting! The negativity in the comments is sad. Cole & Charisma...I know y'all are about positivity & y'all have mentioned the crazy comments y'all get but, I've never seen it until this video & WOW...the nerve of some people LOL! I may have (did) reply to a few comments & it may (wasn't) not have been positive. I'm a work in progress. Sorry 😩🤔🤷🙏😔. BLESSINGS from Texas.
I’m so glad you spoke up for her she is selfless & giving towards her man, she never treat him as if he is useless, great respect to her. He’s her equal. Thank you, be safe love from London.🇬🇧🌹
@@texastwister6988 you obviously don't know what a "Karen" is. And I'm sure they can take up for themselves. However, I WILL always stand up for ignorance, unkindness, and mistreatment of others. You sit over there and be embarrassed with your thumbs up your *ss! Good day.
My son is a quad like you. He lives on his own. He caths his self using a speedi cath. It comes in a container that looks like a blue toothbrush holder. It is easier he thinks than the one your are using. He caths in about 10 minutes depending on how long he has to pee.- and he does not have to use tools with his limited hand function. I like your idea of the bungee cord to hold down your pants.
This VaPro Pocket may help reduce UTI’s. The speedy Cath needs gloves and the VaPro Pocket has the glove on the catheter. Speedy Cath needs you need to be near a toliet, the VaPro Pocket has a reflux valve so the urine stays in the bag. You can empty it when you get to the bathroom. Great for SCI patients to use in bed. Can’t do that with Speedy Cath.
@@cradseck seems like pros and cons of both. The speedy cath might good for cole when he is just at home alone and has access to be able to wash his hands and have the toilet right there.
I am just so proud of you, Cole! Having someone like Charisma who always pushes you to be more independent is a huge blessing. The love you have for each other is rare and beautiful. Keep on shining! God bless y'all!!!
I don’t pray too often, but I believe in God with all my being! With that said, I pray for a miracle upon Cole’s life and health! May he find himself able to use all parts of his body to no limits! Charisma, you are the the strongest woman I know, and may God fulfill all your dreams and desires! God bless you both!
Thank you for sharing your bathroom tips. It's *reality* with those suffering from quad/paraplegia. I know when my son first became paralyzed over ten years ago after awaking from a coma from a bout with bilateral pneumonia during the H1N1 epidemic...it was hard at first, 'embarrassing', if you will, for him to void this way...although now he's had to have an ostomy, supra pubic and now a ureter catheter placed due to many physical complications associated with paraplegia that most folks aren't aware of. He's currently in hospital being treated for a twisted intestine blockage/hernia that affects numerous paraplegics. I quit my job to be first and foremost a fulltime *Mother* as well as his caregiver. Life is good, no matter the obstacles we're given. The information you two beautiful souls share are so invaluable. I just wanted to reach out and say, *THANK YOU* both for sharing your journey with us. ♡
I recall when your dad made the wish that you would become independent in being able to do your IC... YOU DID IT!!!! AMAZING ACCOMPLISHMENT. I feel so PROUD of you.
Ok, this video is one of my best for 3 reasons: Cole becoming independent is going to make their life as a couple much easier. It's going to boost Cole's confidence even more(he already has plenty) It goes to show how far love can go. He so badly wants to make sure he doesn't put a strain on their relationship that he is determined to try until he can do his own ICs himself and everything it takes to relieve Charisma who is very sweet by the way. Very well done you two. Charisma you should be proud of yourself, pushing Cole be more independent is love all the way. I am so happy for you guys. Ps. was a bit disappointed when you said you are not pregnant. I was about to start jumping. There are many people out here who love you. Take care
I love what you said about the bathroom !!!! When you said Cole can help bathe the babies . Giving a person responsibility and making them feel needed , gives them a purpose. I believe his attitude towards life is awesome and you play a huge role in his happiness. Y’all are definitely the epitome of soulmates. I’ve never seen 2 people thats supposed to be together as much as you two . I’m a new subscriber and have no idea how I came across y’all’s channel, but so glad I did . Much love to you both from Montgomery Alabama
"We're not pregnant" from a woman usually means "not going to" and if she says "not yet" then it means "maybe", but if and when she says "not going to happen" it means "over your dead body". Speaking from experience here boys.
@@Nightis81 of course I do, seeing as I'm a woman. You should take your advice and not be a 'dimwit' as you said. You're not in her head so you don't know what she's thinking. Don't go on social media and expose your lack of training.
I went to school with C&C today Thank you both for sharing your love for each other and what daily life is like. You are a PHENOMENAL couple and I hope and pray that you are Blessed with Joy, Love and Prosperity each and every day. Cole you are so wonderful as you look forward to helping Charisma help you and looking to the future as to your contribution. Once again, Blessings and much love coming at you. 💞💞🤟🙏🏿💕💕
That’s great! I’m sure his parents are so happy that Cole is becoming more independent; I love you guys because you are such a blessing to each other. Thank you all for sharing the information.
This really gives you appreciation for being able to go to the bathroom normally. I never knew the difficulty spinal cord injuries had to go through to use the bathroom independently. Gives me a whole new sense of respect ✊
I have spina bifida/myelomeningocele (MMC), which is a disability, meaning I was born with it. Just like Cole I'm paralyzed under the level where my spinal cord is damaged (which in my case is in the Th12-L1 - waist - area. That's a very high MMC). What all of us with MMC, and probably the same with other people with injured spinal cords as well, have in common is that the muscles controlling the bladder (and bowels) don't work like they should.
Every time I see you two, it makes my heart smile. Cole, I pray for you EVERY night that advances will be made for spinal cord injury patients. If I knew it was possible, I would donate my spinal cord to you. The two of you are the epitome of toughness, grace, integrity and grit in the face of incredible challenges. What more can I say? You guys are great. Much love from Tennessee
Everything you guys blog about is everything I’m learning about my love, like going to the bathroom, showering, picking out his clothes, getting dressed, him putting on shoes, as well as driving 🥰 I wouldn’t trade him for the world ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Cole you are the man!! Adorable and independent. You have such a beautiful soul. I know so much has to do with your mom and dad and how you were raised. And then God put Charisma right smack down in the middle. She’s such a strong women with a kind heart. You two blend better then many couples I’ve seen in YouTub. Thank you for keeping it real y’all.
It is exciting to see Cole becoming more and more independent. Even his hand functions are getting better and more diverse. Good for you Cole. We all are rooting for you and Charisma.🙏
This was such a great video, very informative and I love that Cole is learning different ways to become independent so he can feel good about himself and not feel like he is a burden even though he is not. I adore you guys. God will continue to bless you both.
I love their relationship ☺️❤️🤗! This is the kinda interaction EVERYONE asks the universe everyday for in a mate. You guys handle your daily struggles better than half of us with "normal" lives.
I FEEL YOU. I FEEL EXACTLY THE SAME. ONE OF THE REASONS WHY I BROKE UP W MY EX WAS , CUZ SHE LEFT ME HANGIN WHEN I NEEDED HER MOST. I NEEDED HER AS MY ROCK. SHE IS ABLED BODY AND EVERYTHING. SO, IF SHE CANT HELP ME PHYSICALLY WHAT CAN SOMEONE IN A WHEELCHAIR HELP ME, PHYSICALLY. SOMETHINGS, YOU NEED A PHYSICALLY NOT TO MUCH OF EMOTIONAL HELP.
I'm so impressed with and proud of Cole. A cousin of mine had a SCI (cervical as well) from a car accident about 10 years ago. He unfortunately passed away a couple years later, but he wasn't as optimistic with his care and struggled with his ability to see how beautiful life could still be after his injury (all understandable feelings). I wish UA-cam pages like this were around at the time so he could have envisioned it for himself. Thank you guys for sharing your lives with us!
I can't believe how well you do with what you have to go through. I like your attitude about what has happened the last many many years since your horrible accident. I know you wish that you could take that day back when you were just 16 years old but God has made you much stronger for going through all that you have.
Charisma: I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T DO YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEAN??!! Cole’s Face: 👁👄👁 Ayyyye I was just listening to that song!!! 😂🕺🏿💃🏽....I got the feeling Charisma played this song for Cole after filming 😄♥️
I really enjoyed this video. It’s wonderful to see Cole gain more independence. The OT in me was so excited to see the adaptations in your house. Thank you for promoting SCI awareness. ❤️ your channel.
My heart broke while you were reading the hurtful words written by trolls. Please just delete that stuff. As soon as you see it’s nasty stop reading and delete. Unfortunately hate and racism is a part of our world. Please stop 🛑 reading the hate. You are two of Gods beautiful creations and you are perfect in His eyes. Cole you are a miracle. Your alive and have the love of an amazing beautiful woman. You are living life and doing it well. God Bless both of you. Please don’t change. You have a wonderful life ahead.
You guys give me hope. My partner is a lot older than Cole and needs some extra help. U guys have so many things that I don't think my partner knows about. Can't wait to show him!!!
You don't know how blessed you are, having access to these equipment to make you more independent. In developing countries like mine, something as simple as intermittent catheters are not available. I usually have to rely on the generosity of friends outside my country. Well done,guys! Keep creating awareness! By the way, I like the sound of babies...😉😉
Discovered your channel yesterday and have been watching all your videos non-stop.... then I saw you just uploaded and it made my day!! You guys are my favorite people on UA-cam, sending much love your way
Hi there...new viewer here. I just have to say I genuinely love this channel and y'all for the positivity you ALWAYS show and spread. I'm a new-ish mommy (little guy is 6 months) and for some reason, had been down lately (ppd I'm assuming) until I found this channel. Your videos always make me smile! In addition, I've been faced with some hard realities about my own health lately...skuleosis worsening and arthritis kicking in. Sometimes I get SO frustrated when my hands won't work or are swollen and numb...I could scream. Or when my back hurts so bad I can barely move...but any time I start to throw myself a pity party, I find myself coming back to this channel...just to see someone so differently abled than myself with even less mobility be so genuinely happy is really good for my soul. After feeling like a jerk, I'm able to pull myself out of all that and look around and appreciate my many blessings, instead. So thank you for that. 💙
I feel like every video I watch, I learn something new. I genuinely had no idea of a quarter of the things that are discussed. Your videos are so informative and fun to watch. Thanks for making me a more knowledgeable person!
The company should pay you two and used this video as an educational guide for newly injured patients.👏🏽❤️❤️ I know the song Charisma was singing-great reference Charisma.👏🏽
Do all you can on your own . Keep trying and trying ,,Never Give Up. I'm a quad also and pushed to be totally independent. The help is always nice but times there aren't any help. I'm 66 now and in constant pain keeps me bed bound and I hate it. Drugs to help is all right now. Keep the faith young man. There's nothing you can't do use your mind to figure away.
It's weird how I've transitioned from a worried viewer of your videos to a subscribing avid fan. I'm not even in your country and yet I feel like we've all been together for years, and yes, i'm including my fellow subscribers.
I was worried for Charisma. I've seen probably four of such interracial videos that look so wonderful at first, most times with the woman showing way too much skin on the thumbnail. Then usually the woman comes to say they are no longer together. I'd gotten so pissed off that I just keep scrolling when I see such videos. I only started watching Cole and Charisma's videos because I happened upon the video of Cole's accident and I wanted to follow up on his story.
This is the first video I’ve seen of yours and I DID get the Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald reference. 😂 I grew up in a home with a disabled (cerebral palsy/developmental disabilities) uncle and love how y’all talk about accessibility. You’re such a fun loving and beautiful couple, I can’t wait to watch more of your videos! ❤️
I understand that this is an awkward subject for most but as someone with a declining neurological illness you bring me so much peace. Just knowing that how and when and why and how you guys feel about it
Who knew this informative video could actually be... fun!!! I have to agree with so many comments here; you two are great. Keep up the positivity and playfulness! 💜
Hi, I am Chebet from Kenya. I am blessed by your videos as a nurse and psychologist. I suggest you add bumpers on the wheelchair to avoid any injuries. It could be a padded cover over the knees to start with. God bless and continue staying positive. Love you
It's so good to see Cole more independent. He's sooo damn handsome and Charisma is absolutely beautiful. Your kids are going to be adorable 🤗
@Question Everything me either!!!
Yes they really will be!
Oh my god, their kids are going to be incredibly beautiful.
Absolutely
yeeess i agree
I just graduated nursing school, passed the NCLEX RN, and accepted a job in the trauma ICU and stumbled upon y’all’s page. Your story definitely gives me motivation to be the best nurse I can be.
We love nurses!
Congratulations those are my goals. I’m 21 😩
That is amazing and congratulations !! I can’t wait to be at that point in my life helping great people such as Cole. God bless you all 💯
@@Nia62899 you can do it! Don’t give up!
@@irene-monique89 you’ll get there!
I had an uncle who was paralyzed. As a kid, I remember he would have to sit on the toilet for HOURS and just wait for the bowel movement to happen. He would take stool softeners and would just have to wait for his body to expel the bowel movement on its on. I remember him always having to drink magnesium citrate. But he had a lot of issues with passing bowel movements. This often left him with bowel impactions and one time it damn near killed him. One thing that REALLY helped him was having his feet elevated. He had this stool that had a little border around 3 of the 4 edges so his feet couldn’t fall off since his knees tended to pull to the sides, making his feet fall off regular stools. And he cut down a pool noodle, sliced it down the middle, and put it on the edges so he could rest his legs on the side easier since it was leaving these massive indentations on his legs, since he’d often be there for hours, and didn’t have any control to keep his legs upright and off the edge. It was cutting in to his legs pretty bad for a while until he did the pool noodle thing. I’ve actually seen stools online that come with foot straps but that may be hard to reach if someone can’t bend forward and has limited finger/grip ability.
It seems in the last 15 years things have gotten a bit more efficient for both number 1 and number 2. If I remember correctly he had a permanent catheter. And going #2 for him was something I could tell he really didn’t care for doing because it took soooo long. He would be sitting in the bathroom for like 3 hours and I’d be sitting outside the bathroom door with the bathroom door cracked, reading to him or talking to him. We had an extra bathroom downstairs that kinda became his bathroom when he stayed with us, and my parents put a shelf up in the corner of the room so he could have a tv in there, as this was long before smartphones. His injury was caused by him falling through a roof while on a roofing job. I wish he was around today to be able to see all the advancements for people with spinal cord injuries. All the accessibility there is now. Also, i KNOW he’d have been super excited about Neuralink and devices like it. He’d always tell me that one day spinal cord injuries would be a simple fix. He genuinely believed it. I never knew how that could be true but it appears that we’re moving in that direction.
Wow he died? Sorry for your loss
Brianna, thank you so much for sharing with us some memories with your uncle. It was moving to hear how hopeful he was for the future and how sweet a niece you were keeping him company. That filled my heart with joy! Greetings from Italy!
This sounds alot like me. It really hit home. Im so glad you had a relationship with him qnd he with you. I know my relationships with my nieces and nephew mean the world to me. Im sorry to hear that he passed away. That upset me thinking how that wld be for me and my family.
Look people...stop going at Charisma for joking with Cole. They've talked about how clumsy she is in other videos. They're being playful. She's never once (any all the videos they have) disrespected, talk down to, demoralized, or mistreated Cole. She is loving, thoughtful, selfless, & giving. If you don't know this already...then you should watch their videos & get a clue before commenting! The negativity in the comments is sad. Cole & Charisma...I know y'all are about positivity & y'all have mentioned the crazy comments y'all get but, I've never seen it until this video & WOW...the nerve of some people LOL! I may have (did) reply to a few comments & it may (wasn't) not have been positive. I'm a work in progress. Sorry 😩🤔🤷🙏😔. BLESSINGS from Texas.
Love you
Love you quys God's will upon your life 😘💕
Wow, are you their spokesperson? Please be quiet Karen..you're an embarrassment to Texas 🙄 They can take up for themselves 😏
I’m so glad you spoke up for her she is selfless & giving towards her man, she never treat him as if he is useless, great respect to her. He’s her equal. Thank you, be safe love from London.🇬🇧🌹
@@texastwister6988 you obviously don't know what a "Karen" is. And I'm sure they can take up for themselves. However, I WILL always stand up for ignorance, unkindness, and mistreatment of others. You sit over there and be embarrassed with your thumbs up your *ss! Good day.
Thank you, thank you for making this. You're helping & educating a LOT of us out here. Appreciate you Cole and Charisma.
Hey I recognize you from Alwyn's channel!
@@roseiam small world haha. Hope you're great.
Appreciate it!
My son is a quad like you. He lives on his own. He caths his self using a speedi cath. It comes in a container that looks like a blue toothbrush holder. It is easier he thinks than the one your are using. He caths in about 10 minutes depending on how long he has to pee.- and he does not have to use tools with his limited hand function. I like your idea of the bungee cord to hold down your pants.
Love that
I hope they see this comment! That’s great
This VaPro Pocket may help reduce UTI’s. The speedy Cath needs gloves and the VaPro Pocket has the glove on the catheter. Speedy Cath needs you need to be near a toliet, the VaPro Pocket has a reflux valve so the urine stays in the bag. You can empty it when you get to the bathroom. Great for SCI patients to use in bed. Can’t do that with Speedy Cath.
Cool I hope they see this❤
@@cradseck seems like pros and cons of both. The speedy cath might good for cole when he is just at home alone and has access to be able to wash his hands and have the toilet right there.
I am just so proud of you, Cole! Having someone like Charisma who always pushes you to be more independent is a huge blessing. The love you have for each other is rare and beautiful. Keep on shining! God bless y'all!!!
Love how candid you are with sharing your life. Takes a lot of guts to be so transparent for awareness' sake.
I don’t pray too often, but I believe in God with all my being! With that said, I pray for a miracle upon Cole’s life and health! May he find himself able to use all parts of his body to no limits! Charisma, you are the the strongest woman I know, and may God fulfill all your dreams and desires! God bless you both!
And so , thy will be done, in Jesus name. They certainly deserve it.
Even if he doesn't become fully able bodied I'm sure he's gonna live a perfectly happy life with his loving wife
@@KayraR1221 that's so true, it's all about the mentality of the person, and cole is unstoppable, a very positive young man.
Amen 🙏🏾💕
Thanks you are wonderful God almighty bless you 🙏🙏💓
When you rather watch Charisma and Cole instead of sleeping 😴
Love u guys.. God bless
This is exactly me right now 😁.
TheBeautifulsong3 yess!
Literally doing that now 🤣🤣
TheBeautifulsong3 or working (me) lol
Thank you for sharing your bathroom tips. It's *reality* with those suffering from quad/paraplegia. I know when my son first became paralyzed over ten years ago after awaking from a coma from a bout with bilateral pneumonia during the H1N1 epidemic...it was hard at first, 'embarrassing', if you will, for him to void this way...although now he's had to have an ostomy, supra pubic and now a ureter catheter placed due to many physical complications associated with paraplegia that most folks aren't aware of. He's currently in hospital being treated for a twisted intestine blockage/hernia that affects numerous paraplegics. I quit my job to be first and foremost a fulltime *Mother* as well as his caregiver. Life is good, no matter the obstacles we're given. The information you two beautiful souls share are so invaluable. I just wanted to reach out and say, *THANK YOU* both for sharing your journey with us. ♡
Charisma singing Webbie at the end and Cole having no idea what she's talking about has me cryinggggg lmao
cole: *spins and bumps into something*
“it didn’t break anything” 😂
that’s so me . like who cares ? nothings broken 💀 so that’s all that matters
L Cam his response is what i’m referring to . so what exactly are you talking about ?
I recall when your dad made the wish that you would become independent in being able to do your IC... YOU DID IT!!!!
AMAZING ACCOMPLISHMENT.
I feel so PROUD of you.
I just watched that video, before this one!
Ok, this video is one of my best for 3 reasons:
Cole becoming independent is going to make their life as a couple much easier.
It's going to boost Cole's confidence even more(he already has plenty)
It goes to show how far love can go. He so badly wants to make sure he doesn't put a strain on their relationship that he is determined to try until he can do his own ICs himself and everything it takes to relieve Charisma who is very sweet by the way.
Very well done you two. Charisma you should be proud of yourself, pushing Cole be more independent is love all the way. I am so happy for you guys.
Ps. was a bit disappointed when you said you are not pregnant. I was about to start jumping. There are many people out here who love you. Take care
Well said.
What's Up To Everyone Reading This, Be Bless And Have A Bless WEEK.
Amen you too
ANNDIS & CHEFTON you are only saying that to get likes on the comment
@@hattieslaughter9370 I'm Loved By God & He knows My Name... Now Bun Out! Hater
ANNDIS & CHEFTON boo I’m not a hater I’m speaking the truth
@@hattieslaughter9370 Good Night. Your Opinion Does Not Equals The Truth, Stop Trolling.
me singing “independent” with Charisma, dont worry girl I got you✊🏾
Me too lol Charisma make sure you play that song for Cole
Ok! I was jammin, finished the song for her lol
I love what you said about the bathroom !!!! When you said Cole can help bathe the babies . Giving a person responsibility and making them feel needed , gives them a purpose. I believe his attitude towards life is awesome and you play a huge role in his happiness. Y’all are definitely the epitome of soulmates. I’ve never seen 2 people thats supposed to be together as much as you two . I’m a new subscriber and have no idea how I came across y’all’s channel, but so glad I did . Much love to you both from Montgomery Alabama
charisma: “we’re not pregnant”
cole: “not yet”
👀😂 hmmmm
"We're not pregnant" from a woman usually means "not going to" and if she says "not yet" then it means "maybe", but if and when she says "not going to happen" it means "over your dead body". Speaking from experience here boys.
@@Nightis81 well, in Charisma's case, I don't think it means 'not going to'. It simply means what exactly she said or what Cole said, 'not yet'
@@wunmikeji Oh good GOD you have no idea how women are and how they act in REAL LIFE do you dimwit?
@@Nightis81 of course I do, seeing as I'm a woman. You should take your advice and not be a 'dimwit' as you said. You're not in her head so you don't know what she's thinking. Don't go on social media and expose your lack of training.
That bathroom mirror is on another level, y'all. Now you two won't fight for space in the bathroom. I am enjoying your videos.
Hey Cole and Charisma, I've been in a wheelchair since June of this year. Your content gives me hope!
❤️❤️
I’m glad Cole is trying to be more independent practice make perfect God bless y’all
December isn't far away can't wait to see her wedding dress
I know i am looking forward to the wedding video! I am expecting an hour long video or at least 4 15 minute videos.😉
Cole your not clumsy.... your chair gets happy!........ smile
Thank you for sharing this! You will help so many people!
I went to school with C&C today
Thank you both for sharing your love for each other and what daily life is like.
You are a PHENOMENAL couple and I hope and pray that you are Blessed with Joy, Love and Prosperity each and every day.
Cole you are so wonderful as you look forward to helping Charisma help you and looking to the future as to your contribution.
Once again, Blessings and much love coming at you.
💞💞🤟🙏🏿💕💕
Cole gets more handsome every time I see him. Cole you are sooo handsome,
I seconded that! - Charisma
I agree and Charisma is so cute!!
Extremelyyyyyyy handsome. That smile 😫
Very cute couple
Cole it’s ok if you like looking at yourself :)
That’s great! I’m sure his parents are so happy that Cole is becoming more independent; I love you guys because you are such a blessing to each other. Thank you all for sharing the information.
Very informative, Cole you really are very independent. You guys rock together. Love the bathroom.❤
Cole when I first saw your hair cut low I mistook your scar for a part. I was like Cole showing some swag. Love your videos UR94
I thought the exact same thing!!!
Bahahah! 😂
Yes!!!!
This really gives you appreciation for being able to go to the bathroom normally. I never knew the difficulty spinal cord injuries had to go through to use the bathroom independently. Gives me a whole new sense of respect ✊
I have spina bifida/myelomeningocele (MMC), which is a disability, meaning I was born with it. Just like Cole I'm paralyzed under the level where my spinal cord is damaged (which in my case is in the Th12-L1 - waist - area. That's a very high MMC). What all of us with MMC, and probably the same with other people with injured spinal cords as well, have in common is that the muscles controlling the bladder (and bowels) don't work like they should.
Having been a fan for a while, I feel so proud seeing Cole committed to doing little things to be more independent. Great job! You are so inspiring!
I continue to enjoy watching you guys.
HAPPY SUNDAY!!
Bathroom came out soo nice!
Yay! The plant I sent is thriving
Staaaaay positive my fev couple on UA-cam
Every time I see you two, it makes my heart smile. Cole, I pray for you EVERY night that advances will be made for spinal cord injury patients. If I knew it was possible, I would donate my spinal cord to you. The two of you are the epitome of toughness, grace, integrity and grit in the face of incredible challenges. What more can I say? You guys are great. Much love from Tennessee
Awww....This is so touching. God bless you.
I appreciate how much these two keep us educated and doing it with a positive attitude
Everything you guys blog about is everything I’m learning about my love, like going to the bathroom, showering, picking out his clothes, getting dressed, him putting on shoes, as well as driving 🥰 I wouldn’t trade him for the world ❤️❤️❤️❤️
It will take time but cole can do anything he can put his mind too. I enjoy their videos. Keep up the work. God bless and be safe.
Wonderful cuties. Was just thinking Cole & Charisma should post today and they did
Cole you are the man!! Adorable and independent. You have such a beautiful soul. I know so much has to do with your mom and dad and how you were raised.
And then God put Charisma right smack down in the middle. She’s such a strong women with a kind heart. You two blend better then many couples I’ve seen in YouTub. Thank you for keeping it real y’all.
Love the microwave that rolls out, it’s such a great accessible height x
You are more of a man than I ever was. This was really an eye opener. I so respect you.
LEARNING IS THE KEY TO EVERYDAY LIFE.. ONCE YOU FIND YOUR OWN WAY OF DURING THINGS... EASY FOR YOU ...THANKS... C&C BLESS YOU BOTH..
Thank you for continuing to show how Cole is becoming more independent. Great team.
It is exciting to see Cole becoming more and more independent. Even his hand functions are getting better and more diverse. Good for you Cole. We all are rooting for you and Charisma.🙏
I like how you guys are proactive. You guys think about the future with the children in mind.Cole bathing the babies so cute.... can't wait.
This was such a great video, very informative and I love that Cole is learning different ways to become independent so he can feel good about himself and not feel like he is a burden even though he is not. I adore you guys. God will continue to bless you both.
Ive been a fan for soooooo long! I just wanted to say that I love you guys!
I love their relationship ☺️❤️🤗! This is the kinda interaction EVERYONE asks the universe everyday for in a mate. You guys handle your daily struggles better than half of us with "normal" lives.
Cole you’re amazing. Just don’t hurt yourself. Good idea Cole. A tv in the bathroom is a great idea. Growth is taking place people. 🥰
Cole IS AMAAAZZZIINNGGGG ! LOVE HIS SPIRIT - At times when I watch I tear-up because he his a TRUE WARRIOR !!!!
These two wonderful peoples always inspires me with their will to facing their daily life. We all go to the bathroom Cole so we are here for you❤
She is a wonderful woman because I’m not sure I could do it.
I FEEL YOU. I FEEL EXACTLY THE SAME.
ONE OF THE REASONS WHY I BROKE UP W MY EX WAS , CUZ SHE LEFT ME HANGIN WHEN I NEEDED HER MOST. I NEEDED HER AS MY ROCK. SHE IS ABLED BODY AND EVERYTHING.
SO, IF SHE CANT HELP ME PHYSICALLY WHAT CAN SOMEONE IN A WHEELCHAIR HELP ME, PHYSICALLY.
SOMETHINGS, YOU NEED A PHYSICALLY NOT TO MUCH OF EMOTIONAL HELP.
I'm so impressed with and proud of Cole. A cousin of mine had a SCI (cervical as well) from a car accident about 10 years ago. He unfortunately passed away a couple years later, but he wasn't as optimistic with his care and struggled with his ability to see how beautiful life could still be after his injury (all understandable feelings). I wish UA-cam pages like this were around at the time so he could have envisioned it for himself. Thank you guys for sharing your lives with us!
That's awesome the company actually thought of the person using/needing to open the package as well. Way to go to the company who makes it🌞🌞🌞
I can't believe how well you do with what you have to go through. I like your attitude about what has happened the last many many years since your horrible accident. I know you wish that you could take that day back when you were just 16 years old but God has made you much stronger for going through all that you have.
Charisma: I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T DO YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEAN??!!
Cole’s Face: 👁👄👁
Ayyyye I was just listening to that song!!! 😂🕺🏿💃🏽....I got the feeling Charisma played this song for Cole after filming 😄♥️
I sure did! Haha
😂
You are so considerate of each other. I am really learning a lot. People pay for this knowledge. Thanks.
I really enjoyed this video. It’s wonderful to see Cole gain more independence. The OT in me was so excited to see the adaptations in your house. Thank you for promoting SCI awareness. ❤️ your channel.
Amazing Cole! You are doing an excellent job becoming independent.
These two are going to have the cutest kids!! Probably be really beautiful.
My heart broke while you were reading the hurtful words written by trolls. Please just delete that stuff. As soon as you see it’s nasty stop reading and delete. Unfortunately hate and racism is a part of our world. Please stop 🛑 reading the hate. You are two of Gods beautiful creations and you are perfect in His eyes. Cole you are a miracle. Your alive and have the love of an amazing beautiful woman. You are living life and doing it well. God Bless both of you. Please don’t change. You have a wonderful life ahead.
You guys give me hope. My partner is a lot older than Cole and needs some extra help. U guys have so many things that I don't think my partner knows about. Can't wait to show him!!!
You don't know how blessed you are, having access to these equipment to make you more independent. In developing countries like mine, something as simple as intermittent catheters are not available. I usually have to rely on the generosity of friends outside my country. Well done,guys! Keep creating awareness! By the way, I like the sound of babies...😉😉
I love you guyss🙌🏾❤️ just praying that cole gets complete healing, and the treatment he needs will be available soon. In jesus name☺️❤️❤️
The way things are progressing, I see it in the future. In Jesus name.
@@lystrafrancois6594 Amen
What a wonderful couple. You're just made for each other. Lucky and happy will be the children born in the light of your love.
So wonderful to see that he is getting more independent....💚💙...
Discovered your channel yesterday and have been watching all your videos non-stop.... then I saw you just uploaded and it made my day!! You guys are my favorite people on UA-cam, sending much love your way
Me 2
That pinching tool is impressive. Yay Cole!
You guy's have got this house set up like the ( JETSONS) everything is soooooooooooo convenient for everyone!!!
I'm so happy to have found your channel!!! Love you guys! Great video, very informational.
Hi there...new viewer here. I just have to say I genuinely love this channel and y'all for the positivity you ALWAYS show and spread. I'm a new-ish mommy (little guy is 6 months) and for some reason, had been down lately (ppd I'm assuming) until I found this channel. Your videos always make me smile! In addition, I've been faced with some hard realities about my own health lately...skuleosis worsening and arthritis kicking in. Sometimes I get SO frustrated when my hands won't work or are swollen and numb...I could scream. Or when my back hurts so bad I can barely move...but any time I start to throw myself a pity party, I find myself coming back to this channel...just to see someone so differently abled than myself with even less mobility be so genuinely happy is really good for my soul. After feeling like a jerk, I'm able to pull myself out of all that and look around and appreciate my many blessings, instead. So thank you for that. 💙
Don't worry Cole I run into things and I don't even have a wheelchair! Lmao
Yeah same 📌🤣
Cole. I am so proud of you...your confidence is showing...Keep up the good work!!!!! ..Charisma you are a gem!!!
There should be no haters they are just mean unhappy people.
Some people are just hateful to others because they are miserable themselves
Cole I just always love the way you handle yourself....you are so mentally strong....love you charisma
Beautiful couple/family love watching you guys al much! Keep doing what your doing💕❤💕❤
Very glad that Cole is learning how to be independent. One never knows, an emergency could come up, and Charisma is no where around!!!!!!!
I'M SURPRISED THAT SOMEONE AS YOUNG AS COLE KNOWS ANY GORDON LIGHTFOOT SONGS. WOW.
Great song! Love Gordon Lightfoot. Grew up on Lake Erie!❤️
You two are just the cutest couple!!!! I dont even see the wheelchair! I see a loving couple loving life.
Good job!!!! independent cole we all are proud of u!!!
I feel like every video I watch, I learn something new. I genuinely had no idea of a quarter of the things that are discussed. Your videos are so informative and fun to watch. Thanks for making me a more knowledgeable person!
I am so happy for you guys Cole is able to do a little more for himself I wish you peace and blessings...
The company should pay you two and used this video as an educational guide for newly injured patients.👏🏽❤️❤️ I know the song Charisma was singing-great reference Charisma.👏🏽
You two are just the cutest couple ❤️
Do all you can on your own . Keep trying and trying ,,Never Give Up. I'm a quad also and pushed to be totally independent. The help is always nice but times there aren't any help.
I'm 66 now and in constant pain keeps me bed bound and I hate it. Drugs to help is all right now. Keep the faith young man. There's nothing you can't do use your mind to figure away.
It's weird how I've transitioned from a worried viewer of your videos to a subscribing avid fan. I'm not even in your country and yet I feel like we've all been together for years, and yes, i'm including my fellow subscribers.
Hello, may I ask why you were worried?
I was worried for Charisma. I've seen probably four of such interracial videos that look so wonderful at first, most times with the woman showing way too much skin on the thumbnail. Then usually the woman comes to say they are no longer together. I'd gotten so pissed off that I just keep scrolling when I see such videos. I only started watching Cole and Charisma's videos because I happened upon the video of Cole's accident and I wanted to follow up on his story.
I really love how independent and positive he is ❣️
This is the first video I’ve seen of yours and I DID get the Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald reference. 😂 I grew up in a home with a disabled (cerebral palsy/developmental disabilities) uncle and love how y’all talk about accessibility. You’re such a fun loving and beautiful couple, I can’t wait to watch more of your videos! ❤️
I understand that this is an awkward subject for most but as someone with a declining neurological illness you bring me so much peace. Just knowing that how and when and why and how you guys feel about it
Who knew this informative video could actually be... fun!!! I have to agree with so many comments here; you two are great. Keep up the positivity and playfulness! 💜
Cole and Charisma you come a long way and the best thing you did is buy a good size home to make it accessible and organized!
Cole never gives up. I'm sure his drive and determination has led to his success. Behind every successful man is a GREAT WOMAN. Stay positive!!!
Hi, I am Chebet from Kenya. I am blessed by your videos as a nurse and psychologist.
I suggest you add bumpers on the wheelchair to avoid any injuries. It could be a padded cover over the knees to start with. God bless and continue staying positive. Love you
How can 11 people do not like this channel? Don't watch...HATERS
Exactly
Cole is glowing.....looking so happy.....likewise Charisma
Good job Cole, seems like you have a great support team. Remember, don’t give up and continue to allow yourself growth
Gosh, y’all make me so happy. We need more happiness like this in the told. I found y’all through Hannah and Shane’s channel and I’m so happy I did.