WHAT TO EXPECT | Miscarriage at 8 weeks + chemical pregnancy
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- Опубліковано 13 кві 2023
- Two months ago I shared that we had a miscarriage. Despite it being a few months after the event at the time I still couldn't talk about it in depth. Through my healing I watched so many videos here of women who had experienced the same or a very similar situation. I always knew I wanted to open up about ours in more detail.
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Sometimes there isn't an answer to Why? I've seen anorexic, drug addicted women conceive and carry multiple times. It is mostly out of our control. I hope whoever is reading this knows there truly is no personal responsibility when it comes to miscarrying. It is a tremendous loss we must grieve and then find peace.
Thank you for this video! Thank you for speaking openly about what you went through. Thank you for not making a miscarriage at 8 weeks pregnant seem like nothing happened. Wish you all the best ❤️
I had 3 miscarriages before I had my daughter, followed by another miscarriage before I had my son, then another miscarriage before my youngest daughter so I empathise totally with your situation. Don’t give up because you will get there in the end! I now have a granddaughter too! Sending good vibes to you ❤
Did you ever find out why? Did you take any medication? I have a healthy daughter followed by 2 miscarriages, one with twins. I need reassurance that I'll have more babies, I want to be a mom again so badly😢❤
@@annamilenamariani3751 no I never found out why. I was very depressed before I had my first daughter but when I had her I realised that I could have a baby so just put it down to the fact that some pregnancy’s front make it. I think twins are more likely to miscarry, so don’t give up hope. You will have another baby I’m sure. It’s hard to deal with I know. Xx
@@gailhenderson7196 yes that is true. I think I could also accept that maybe we are more prone to miscarry, as long as I know in tge end I'll have my 3 children that I long for I'll take the hard road to get there. Glad you were able to come to terms with it and got your beautiful family in the end. Thankfully I just turned 30 so hopefully I'll have some time to get there ❤️ every child is a miracle. All the best to you!
@@annamilenamariani3751 I was 32 when I had my first daughter, so you have lots of time. I’m 65 now and have a 2 year old granddaughter 🙂good luck on your journey xx
@@gailhenderson7196 to you too ❤️
Laura, I was so moved by your account of such a traumatic experience. So eloquently explained you will help countless women by sharing this.
I had a miscarriage 28 years ago and still cry about how I felt that day.
I miscarried my 3rd child at 21 weeks. To say I was devastated is an understatement. Part of my healing has been naming him, remembering him, and not "hiding" him. Even having a little goodbye "service" for him. Sadly miscarriages are all too common, I could write a book of all the friends and loved ones who have had them, 😢. You are doing all the right things Laura, so sorry for your loss. But just wait, once you start having babies your home will be filled to the brim with utter joy!!! 🤗
Thank you for talking about this so openly on this platform. I went through a chemical pregnancy last March and literally had no idea what it was prior to it happening. Miscarriage isn’t spoken about openly enough and I feel like it should. Talking to my family and friends about it after it happened was so therapeutic and really helped with my healing.
Also, as a fellow Type A personality, I can relate so much to you with the tracking, vitamins, pre-seed, grapefruit juice discussion. I definitely fell down the conceiving Internet rabbit hole!
I now have a healthy 3 month old baby boy and, although the journey to getting him wasn’t the easiest, I can certainly say I appreciate every moment with him and do not take even the late nights/lack of sleep for granted.
I wish you all the best on your journey. Sending you and infinite amount of love and baby dust from Canada ❤️
What a strength and grace you show through such a tough subject. I'm sure that this will help so many people going through the same thing. Praying for y'all ❤
Sending you and Ollie the warmest thoughts and prayers, Laura. Hugs and cuddles to your sweet pup too. ❤
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my first and 3 more later and remember feeling so scared, heartbroken and alone. This is going to help so many women. ❤️
So eloquently put. You will help so many people with this. Sending so much love to you and Ollie ❤️
This will help so many women Laura. My heart goes out to any woman going through this. Such a vulnerable time ❤️
Thank you sharing this and for being detailed. My ttc journey has been hard and I'm glad people feel they can share their experiences for others
I can not thank you enough for sharing much a difficult experience! Sending all the positivity your way! xxx
Thank you for making this Laura, it takes real strength and grace to share such heartache. Sending you and Ollie all the luck and love in the world. Be patient with your body and be kind to yourself always xx
Well done Laura, that was all so sad but you told it all so well and I’m sure it will help others who may be going through the same thing. I wish you well for the future.
I just went through this, at 10 weeks. I can't describe how much it means to have this video. Thank you
Thank you Laura, that must have been hard and is so very generous of you to share. Your positivity is amazing, you will be the best mum ❤
Thank you for sharing this part of your lives with us, Laura. You’re so lovely and yes, if you feel lead to make this experience known to others, you may, indeed, help another through it. Thankfully, I never had a miscarriage. I’m a grandmother who had to google “yoke sac” and “chemical pregnancy!” Ultrasounds were not typical in the late 70’s-mid 80’s. God bless you and Ollie. 🙏♥️
You are incredible for taking so bravely and honestly about your journey. I’m so, so sorry that you are both going through this difficult time, through sharing this you will be helping lots of other couples feel like they are not alone. Sending love xx
I will be praying for your journey❤ Thank you for sharing this difficult experience.
So brave of you to share this, I wish you both all the best for the future. I’m sure everything will work out for you X
Thank you for this video. I recently suffered from a placenta abruption which caused my son to be still born at 32 weeks. I have spent so much time looking for women’s experiences like my own. It’s incredibly helpful to talk with other people when you are in the thick of it. I’m so sorry for your losses 💔
You are so brave to speak out and I truly believe great things are on the way for you and Ollie❤
This was incredibly brave & selfless of you to share Laura, I can’t imagine how hard it must have all been, the fact you will help other women/couples by sharing your experience ❤, I admire you greatly & thank you. Much love x
Well done Laura and thank you for sharing. I’ve not been through this and I totally agree that having the knowledge beforehand would be an absolute gem.
Thank you Laura for this video, it was so informative and so well delivered I have no doubt this will help a lot of women going through the same thing. I am sorry for your loss but hope is a wonderful thing and I will say prayers for you and Ollie. ❤❤❤
Hi Laura,so brave of you to share this.I’m sure listening to this will help a lot of people who are going through similar experiences.
It’s so heartbreaking for you both to go through this as we all take for granted that we’re going to be able to just get pregnant.
You are such a lovely couple I hope & pray that you get all the tests done and that sometime in the near future you will have a brother or sister for Otto…lots of love to you both xxx
Thank you Laura. I have found that in the midst of something traumatic and heartbreaking, facts give some small measure of control and comfort because you understand what is happening and so it's not perhaps quite so frightening. Thank you for sharing your story so thoroughly. I think it will help many going through this. I wish you well xx
Thank you for your bravery in sharing this deeply personal experience. Lots of love to you, Ollie & Otto x
You are such a brave woman to share this. There will be people out there that this will help. God bless you and Ollie!!
Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability in this video ❤
Thank you so much for sharing that, it’s great to have an insight into your experience and how you’re doing. I hope things continue to look up! ❤
Laura, this is so brave of you to share this and also generous. I'm on the other side of child-bearing years but feel for you and your loss and hope that soon you will have your heart's desire. You and Ollie are such a wonderful couple and it's easy to see how much you love each other!
I’m so glad you had support from both family and friends and the early pregnancy unit. I unfortunately did not have a good experience and would never want someone else to go through that.
Thank you for sharing this Laura. Praying for you
Thank you for sharing your experiences. You are helping a lot of people going through the same thing. I am so sorry for your loss and wishing you the best. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. You are so amazing to open up about this devastating experience and share the details no one else does.
My prayers for you and Olly as you go for testing and all the next steps. Praying for healthy, full-term pregnancies. 🙏❤🙏❤
Thank you for reaching out to other women and their partners during a difficult personal time. Interdependence is much more helpful then independence when we need information as well as support. Thank you Laura and Ollie.
Laura, so brave of you to share such a personal and devastating thing to have happened. There will be many women who can relate and will thank you for being so open. Wishing you and Ollie the vest best 💐🙏
I really appreciated your honesty in this video. My husband and I are on our fertility journey and it’s so tough. Hoping for a happy and healthy baby for you!!
Thank you so much for posting i dont think people realise how emotional and mentally draining trying to get pregnancy is. I am sure this video will help so many people going through it.
Laura, what a brave and wonderful person you are. Your generosity in sharing your journey is an absolute gift.
It's so kind of you to share and provide information for others . I'm sure your dreams will come true.x❤
Thank you for being so open about your experience. It makes me so sad that miscarriage isn’t talked about as if it’s a taboo subject. Thank you for the detail too. It really helps to know what happens and how it can feel physically. Thank you. I’m so sorry you have gone through this. xx
You spoke beautifully about your experience Laura. I'm sorry it had to happen. Thank you for sharing so generously! I think Mr. Otto Paws will be a big brother in time :D
I admire your openness about this. It is so hard to talk about. I am so sorry for you and Ollie.
Thank you for sharing Laura! All the best for you and Ollie💗
Just thank you for being vulnerable and speaking on something you of course do not need to. I feel for both you and Ollie and I hope you both have nothing but happiness and get that dream to come true ❤❤❤
Very brave of you Laura... it´s great we have this information at our finger tips now... even 30 years ago, it was not talked about, talking from my own experience.. sending you massive love & respect xx🤗
Right there with you--miscarriaged at 8 weeks in November and still not pregnant afterwards. It's weird and painful, but sometimes okay too. Wishing you luck with testing! We're starting ours this summer too.
Thank you for talking about this Laura ❤ I think it's so important to talk about as so many women go through it and don't have a good support system around them, so im sure being able to watch this would be really helpful ❤ I was born without a womb so have had to go through my own grieving process, we got a puppy and he helped me heal my heart too ❤ he's still helping 9 years on, we are now very happy and settled without children. Wishing you all the best on this tough journey ❤
Thank you so much for including the actual details. I think for so many people part of the trauma is having no idea what other people have experienced because so much of this is taboo. This was beautifully explained and I'm so grateful
Hi Laura, I’m so sorry you are going through this. Thank you so much for sharing your journey. This may be the most informative video I’ve ever seen on this topic! Honestly, as woman we don’t know what to except and it takes a brave heart like yours to help others and she’d some light. This is a very important video so thank you. Sending you and Ollie all the love and support. Your dream of having a baby will no doubt come true. I already know the kid will be so lucky to have you guy! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing your heartbreaking experience with everyone. Some people go through a miscarriage alone and haven’t got a clue what to expect or how to process it. You were very frank and honest and literally told people what might happen along this upsetting journey.
Speaking out may also help you process your own experience and aid with your healing.
You also gave people the opportunity to move forward on the clip and not listen to the details.
Well done you for being brave and honest. I have had 2 miscarriages so know exact how hard it is to talk about it and how painful it is.
Take care my lovely xx
Thanks so much for making this Laura. It's clear from your level-headedness in filming that you've done a lot of processing, and it's really admirable to have the confidence and peace to share your journey. I know most days are rougher than this, but it's wonderful to see you feel positive and hopeful about the future. Rooting for your family!
Also re: documenting, I've made a couple of vlogs about having long COVID and they are so precious to me, I'm 100% sure you will treasure having captured your state of mind at this time, no matter how things progress. Sending lots of love x
Well done Laura on sharing your sad experience 😢. Sending hugs and positive vibes to you both 🥰🥰🥰
Wow thank you so much for sharing that and being so open Laura. I really appreciate you sharing your experience in detail even if it is hard to hear. I have no children and have never been pregnant so had no idea that is what happened in that situation. I hope you find some comfort knowing your bravery is supporting and educating others. Lots of love to you, Ollie & Otto. Best of luck with your pregnancy journey. It will happen for you I just know it xxx ❤
Thank you for sharing this story, it's so important to normalize things women go through regularly. 🙏 - I'm so sorry for your loss, and it's really encouraging that you guys took the calm science approach as a way to heal through it while it was happening. All the love.
So sad to hear what you experienced and to remember these same feelings myself from 15 years ago when I had several miscarriages. Thank you for using your gift of eloquence in sharing this to help others, such a brave and kind thing to do. I still clearly remember the hours googling and needing information during and after. I have since been blessed with two children who are now 14 and 12) but you never forget your miscarriaged children no matter how early it happens in the pregnancy. Best wishes .. be kind to yourself. xx
You are such a strong and reflected woman, you have all my respect! Sending power and love to you and Olli and wish you alle the best!
Thank you Laura, the more women share, the healthier women will be- both mentally & physically. Thank you.❤️
I don’t normally comment, but always follow you both, now three with the absolutely adorable Otto. You are incredibly brave to tell you’re sad story and to let other people who are, or who have experienced the same pain of miscarriage. I also feel that one day soon your little family will increase and you will be telling a different story of happiness and great news soon. All the very best wishes and good luck to you both, you are such lovely happy people. ❤️❤️❤️💐
Thanks for sharing, I am sure it will help a lot of people going trough that tough time. Glad you are feeling better now & hope you will soon see your wish granted 🙏
All the best for you! It is very good to tell your loved ones early about pregnancies - because you get help and understanding if you miscarry. It's good to be able to share joy - and grief.
Thank you so much for sharing this Laura, this will help so many women ❤
Hey Laura, you are such a lovely person, to bare all to help others whilst you're still currently on your pregnancy journey is so selfless 💖 Both you and Ollie are such and example of how we all should be. Take care both, I wish you so much joy, happiness, health and love for your future with your baby journey xxxx
Thank you so much for this video! my experience was very much like your experience (though 16 years ago) This was such a great thing for you to share for others who will need to hear this inthe future.
Thank you Laura for sharing your journey for all women trying to find answers. You have such strength and a beautiful light and I’m sure your blessing will come when the time is right. Hold on to positivity and joy and lots of puppy cuddles. 🥰🦋
Laura I’m sending you and Ollie a big hug 🫂. You are amazing sharing your story to help others. You will be a wonderful mother of that I have no doubt. Love to you both and Otto xxxx
As always, I’m touched by your grace and thoughtfulness when sharing such an emotional topic. Thank you for adding in the details, that must have been very difficult but I know it will help so many people me included. Wishing you both all the best ❤
I think all are on the same page about you being so open about the highs and lows of pregnancy and miscarriages. My heart goes out to you and Oli for sadness and also joy. Sending love from across the pond ❤
Amazing. I congratulate you on your strength and courage to share your experience and in detail, which not many do. You conduct yourself with such elegance even through tough times. My prayers, thoughts and good wishes go to you and Ollie for a much fuller home, how ever that happens.
Thank you for this video Laura! I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks followed by a chemical pregnancy the following month. And now 4 months on I am 14 weeks pregnant with a seemingly healthy baby 🤞🏼 just wanted to say it’s completely normal to hang onto the hope of falling pregnant again/getting a pet to help you through the dark times. The only reason I was able to get through my losses was the hope I was going to be pregnant again, even now I still have days/nights where I cry for the babies I’ve lost. There’s no right or wrong way to deal with losses ❤️ I wish you all the best on your journey xxx
Thank you for sharing. It is useful to other women to know what to expect when such things happen. Being outside in the garden and cuddling up with the dog helps. Best of luck on this journey! All support from your community!
Laura, thank you thank you for the detailed information!! We got married a few weeks after you guys. TTC here too, it’s stressful but trying to not make it my all consuming personality, but I like the research and having details like this is really so helpful. I think it’s super positive you’ve been able to get pregnant. And you’re on the right track I’m sure. If not too invasive, I can’t wait for the next TTC video and eventually positive test for you (and me!) and a healthy pregnancy. Rooting for you from London x
I’m so sorry this happened to you, but this video is so informative and so good, when I was pregnant I was so worried and looking for as much information about anything really and it was so limited.
Sending lots of hugs and love and happy thoughts for your future rainbow
Sending you love and strength - thank you for the level of detail and honesty, very brave and so informative for others ❤
That was very touching and brave of you to be so open about your miscarriage. I can only imagine what you went through, sounds very traumatic. To lose a baby how ever must have been hard. I hope your video will help others go through what you experienced and I hope you get some comfort from that. Don’t give up trying, it will happen when you lease expect it x
You are so brave. Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable and detailed story about this unbelievably difficult time in your life. I think it’s so valuable for women to talk through this, as so many more struggle with this than any of us ever realize. We went through our infertility journey during the pandemic, and it was such an isolating and lonely time…We were so fortunate despite that difficult stage and just celebrated our girls’ first birthday. Leading up to our pregnancy, though, I was deeply depressed. Having a resource like this video would have been so comforting. The best of luck to you and Ollie. I hope things work out the way you want them to, and thank you again. ❤
its shocking how common this is and how little its spoken about. keep going! its crazy to think about how many little things need to be lined up perfectly to create another human being. i have 33 i had a missed mc at 10 weeks in novemeber and thankfully did fall pregnant again 4 months later and so far 14 weeks along and no issues. you really do have to push for testing and have to end up doing all your research yourself. i think what helped me was continuing taking my very high quality prenatals since my first pregnancy and especially increasing my vitamin D which was very low originally (my dr didnt even mention it). i went crazy with reaseach and ovulation testing - i found i was way better off not usng them as they caused way too much stress and my period was super regular as yours is, it was way easier for me just to focus on every other day during my fertile window. it was a really hard and sad time but stay hopefull as you are
It’s powerful to share your story Laura…it can really help. I had 6 miscarriages and 3 rounds of ivf. My baby is 1…I hope it gives hope to anyone who needs it
Thank you thank you thank you for doing this Laura, sending love and hugs to you both ❤
I think what you said about enjoying life together at the moment is the most important thing you can do. Sorry you've experienced this loss and thanks for sharing, this will help others xxx
Dear Laura, you are very brave to share all of this and I’m sure it will help many women who watch your channel. I had 2 miscarriages in a row and I had 5 live births. Miscarriages happen sometimes for mysterious reasons that has nothing to do with our health. My only advice at this point, is don’t get too caught up in all the testing, as it will increase your stress level. Keep enjoying your life as a couple together, stay healthy and have a lot of ‘romantic’ times. Sometimes our bodies need more than just a few months to get back to normal. Try not to take a pregnancy test too early, yours could have been a false positive. I understand it is hard to not be hyper focused on this. I wish you and Ollie the best. 💕
Your statement starting at 12:13 was so beautiful and resonated with me so much. I feel exactly the same way, that we are able to move on with our day to day life but you never really heal from the loss of your baby completely. Sending you so much love and hugs on your fertility journey together ❤❤❤
Thank you Laura. For myself after seven years of trying and many IVF treatments I was finally pregnant. At around the same time as you I had a gush of blood and I remember the doctor saying to me on the phone “If it’s going to happen, it will happen”. That was one of the worst, most fearful nights of my life. I am pleased to say that my beautiful boy held on and was born later that year. We were only blessed with one child but he is my heart and soul. Don’t give up, when the time is right, you know the rest……….❤
Dear Laura, you are so strong for sharing tbis piece of you. I am so sorry you two had to go through this. Your baby will fing you. Love everything that you and Olie do. ❤
Linda,
I had a miscarriage at age 39 after being told I could not have another child after the first at 21. I was so happy after having surgery for a repair caused by a coil put through the wall of my uterus. In two weeks I was pregnant and so happy all was well until I got to 12 weeks and I had just told everyone and I miscarried. The disappointment was terrible and was into hospital for a d and c . No internet then no friends in a new area and no mum. Husband felt I needed to do something and bought
Fabric for me to redo the dining room chairs. This was not the answer but getting pregant again was fantastic and just before my 40th I had my wonderful ben who is the love of my life and now he is 30 and I am 73 and I still can feel the pain. Lovetoyou
Thank you so much for being this open and sharing your experience with us in such details. I am not even conceiving and anywhere near trying, but still am very interested in learning and there is so much we just don't know.
I second all of the thanks and admiration for sharing your story and putting it out there - well done Laura 💪🏻. After having had 3 miscarriages, a TFMR at 20wks and a few chemicals too, I know only too well how important it is to get more info out there. To everyone too, not just those who end up in a ‘journey’ with TTC. I found that people who haven’t been through these things, were the ones who most found it uncomfortable and don’t like to - or know how to - talk about these things. Don’t take it personally if it’s your closest friends or family that aren’t good with this topic and lean into the people that do help you in this new part of your life.
Some advice in case it helps - first and foremost, the mantras - be kind to yourself and treat yourself as you would your best friend. Secondly, know yourself and your body, take ownership over this whole process, no one will champion your needs more than you and you deserve it so don’t feel guilty or overly polite, just go get what you want. Next is tommy tommys tommys. Need I say more! And then lastly, def focus on what makes you happy in life and making the most of things but don’t sit in the queue and wait for others to take notice. You might not, but you might be years waiting in these processes and no one joining the dots etc. We requested an appointment with a consultant recommended through a friend. He’s part nhs and part private so you know you’re getting the best of what you need but still under the care of nhs unless you decide otherwise. And they found out in two months more than my previous years of being picked up and put down with each event. Sending you love and hope 😘x
So, so brave of you to talk so openly about your experience. I too had two miscarriages in quick succession when I was 24 but then went on to have two healthy babies now aged 32 and 30. There was no support, tests or information back then. Hopefully things have improved now. Stay healthy and happy and it will happen ❤
Thank you so much for being so honest and sharing the details
Thank you for sharing your story. I had a missed miscarriage around 13 yr ago. It was so hard and the image of the little one will never ever leave me. I am also a timeline type person and really struggled too when special dates went by. I went on to have two gorgeous boys, and I had two little ones before the miscarriage. Well done for sharing it's so important to talk about this. A pregnancy loss is a pregnancy loss regardless of where you are on that journey and deserve compassion xx
Thank you for this video, there was so much I was unaware of. I've recently split from my partner so babies aren't on the cards for me right now but one day they will be and I find these video SO informative. It's so helpful to know this, I'm the kind of person who wants to be prepared for the good or the bad. This journey will be so helpful for so many and I know that you guys will become parents one day and that will be a joy to watch ❤
Love and hugs to you, Olli and Otto. ❤
Thanks for making this video Laura, I know when I was going through a miscarriage I was looking for something like this to help me know what to expect. So I have no doubt you’ll be helping lots of women with this information.
After 3 miscarriages, we now have our healthy rainbow baby, after going private and getting the progesterone pessaries, along with a few other bits.
Reading through the comments, there are lots of inspiring stories, that hopefully give you faith in your journey, stay strong and keep positive. Sending some baby dust your way.
Oh Laura I'm feeling all the emotions watching this as I've gone through exactly the same as you a few months later 😔💕 xxx
Excellent vlog and much needed to explain simply, honestly and openly the physical and emotional aspects of miscarriage.
Laura & Ollie, thank you for sharing difficult details of your loss. Rarely do women openly share specifics of a miscarriage and I know so many will benefit from your post(+others). Hoping for best positive outcome for you both(+fur babe/Otto)going forward.