“In That Moment, I Realized That She Got It.” A Mother Learns To Empathize With Gay Son.
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- Опубліковано 24 кві 2017
- When Bryan came out to his mother in 2007, his mother responded by quoting passages from the Bible. Eventually, his mother's stance would soften and her empathy grew.
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I knew pretty early my son was gay so when he came out at 16 yrs old I was determined he was going to be a normal teenager , with boyfriends or whatever that entailed. He cried on my shoulder when he had breakups , we ate ice cream when he had boyfriend drama and we went shopping when he gave up on dating . When he met " the one" we sat up the whole night talking. When he got married I walked him into the church and handed him to my beautiful son in law. When will mothers realize that nothing is more important than their children's health and happiness. I have been told he will burn in hell and so will l , fine if that is so I will burn with him. He is more important than any church or promise of an after life.
Fan Girl god your suck an amazing parent I wish mine were even close to your level of acceptance
That's beautiful and it made me tear up. I did not have that experience with my mom as a teen, but we've come a long way since then and yesterday she joined me at the Pride Parade. That meant the world to me. I'm sure you're a wonderful mother and that your son appreciates your love and support. I hope you realize how much hurt and how many scars you have saved him from. Kudos to you!
Can u tell me a very good way to come out
Ruairi O'Donohoe just gotta say the words mate, no way round it! Sorry, but it does get easier... start with someone who you can talk easily with and go from there...you’ll be grand!!
@@lindsayadsbroons5944 yeah but what I've done I was more looking how for older people and parents
If I ever had to consult the Bible with how to treat and understand my children, I would be failure as a mother.
What an incredible young man, an excellent communicator and obviously a man of integrity. I would be so proud to have a son like you.
NOT YOU of course people who make these trolling comments have no profile photo. Now who is the coward? (Curious the answer but not really interested)
@@notyou8716 - A coward? A coward goes onkine calling others sexual deviants, without being honest about thwir own struggles, their own short comings.
Even Paul admitted the ways i which he was weak. And he never called anyone a coward. Repent brother.
@@notyou8716 If you think being gay is akin to "fighting the darkness," you are probably gay, and that's awesome!!
WHo puts down their grandson for studying at Columbia! It boggles the mind that you'd be anything but proud that he was at one of the world's great universities.
Loved your bible verse response 😂🏆
3:40 - what his mother said to him brought tears to my eyes.
You have a lot of bravery. And shame on your family for being so close-minded as to even call your *travel plans* "liberal." As if that makes any sense at all.
It makes sense, because being liberal politically is associated more with open-mindedness and helping people.
I guess any travel plan that doesn't involve "straight pride", white supremacy rallies or hunting innocent animals is considered "liberal" 🙄
There's nothing "brave" or "courageous" about taking the path of least resistance. There's nothing more cowardly than giving into the darkness.
If he was my son, I'd disown his sleazy ass.
NOT YOU
Disowning him would be beneficial to him if you’re that horrible of a parent.
Bryan has a lovely, compassionate, forgiving attitude and he allows himself to be vulnerable which is the best thing he can do for himself. Admirable.
"not pushing people away through avoidance or sarcasm." Wow, what a wise young man. I'm 55 and need to learn that!
You really have been extremely strong in the face of so much hostility, especially from you own family. I'm delighted to read that at least your mother is now trying to understand how difficult it's been for you, and I hope other members of your family are also becoming more accepting. (I trust, too, that your mum remains well!)
Bryan is awesome, for one thing, he made it through telling his story without breaking down. I was crying just while I watched.
My parents and family knew I was gay and never had a problem with it. I have an uncle who's been with his husband for close to 27 years now. One day my mother asked me when did I know I liked boys, I asked when she knew she liked boys. She said I just knew .. I said it's the same with me. After that she asked when can she and my dad meet my boyfriend, I said as soon as I meet him first. She and my now ex-boyfriend are like the best of friends.
Tell your parents this:
The prophets in the Old Testament, and Paul in New Testament, were dealing with the same thing, male temple prostitution. It was rampant in the religious practices of Israel at of the time of the prophets. Also, it was still a huge part of religious practice among the gentiles during the time that Paul was trying to convert them to Christianity.
Male temple prostitutes were revered and honored as the protectors of the goddess because of their dedication.
They were called Dogs, not in the negative since of the word as found in Deuteronony 23:17-18, but out of respect for their dedication to the goddess. They were her guard dogs.
It was the writer of the book of Deuteronomy who turned the title Dog on its head and made it something ugly.
They did it to eradicate the practice of Male prostitution in the worship of Yahweh and the other pagan gods the Israelites were worshipping at that time.
Homosexuality was widely accepted around the world during the times of the prophets, and the time of Paul. It's every where in nature.
What we see in the bible is religious and patriarchal bias, for good reasons; however, it created a problem that continues to this day.
Homosexuality is not a sin.
Holy shit, dude, this blew my mind. Thanks for this, I'm gonna look into it.
Pork and shrimps are good too.
Adding that the reference of men lying with other men was a huge mistranslation. It was men were not to lie with boys. Children. Funny how that was twisted whilst the church protects child molesters, don't you think?
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This is what we need. To be patient. So many grow up entrenched in ideologies you've got to give them time, as painful as it is and as much pain as they may have put you through. I know from personal experience my family and friends and even community are just trying to do the "right" thing. If it isn't how they experience life it's hard for them to understand. We're so lucky to have the internet and be able to connect to the larger lgbtq community and the world is moving towards understanding. It really is. Never give up
All my struggles were before I came out. I remember what they said before they knew, so I know many are just kind to my face.
This guy is strong AF in all the ways. I’m very impressed.
what mother, after seeing what the others put you though at that meal, to her own son, could not suddenly have a moment of clarity and reach out to love her own flesh and blood? While you did not deserve to have to be the one to educate your family, it probably took that moment in the 3rd person for your mother to see what you had gone through and the godawful treatment from the intolerant. You are so brave, and your mom too, finally at the point where you can be yourselves with each other Thx Bryan for being yourself...hopefully your father and the others in your family important to you have come around too.
Great story, thanks so much for sharing...
I am SO sorry you had to go through this - hugs and love.
I never really had any closure on my sexuality with my parents. They were just generally a bit uncomfortable about it. Over a decade later, there isn't any normal or comfortable way to discuss anything related to my sexuality. I just don't bother discussing it, and will avoid talking about anything related to it. Feels sad, because I would love to have had fun, drawn out conversations about partners I've had over the years with my parents.
Happy for you. I hope your mother gets there sooner than later. My religous parents will never accept me. Fast forward 22 years being with the love of my life honestly its their loss. It used to hurt my partner but now he doesn't care anymore. I came to the realization that they can believe the way they want to. I told them we are not going to talk about it at all. They have honored that. Always live your life as your true self no matter what other people say or do.
I HAVE TO SAY, YOU CAME OUT DOING AND LOOKING GREAT AFTER THAT FAMILY HELL!!! YOU CAN MAKE IT THROUGH ANY STORM IN LIFE. PROUD OF YOU, I DO HOPE AND FEEL THAT SOME IF NOT ALL OF YOUR FAMILY ACCEPT'S ALL OF YOU! IF NOT IT WILL BE A BIG LOST ON THERE PART.
STAY STRONG.
That a whole family can bear down on this intelligent young man and find fault after fault in all the good things he was doing only showed how far below him they were! His initial response to his Mother's scriptural beating of him was perfection. When someone beats you up with scripture, make sure you know the scriptures that THEIR lives are going against and beat them right back! That they're judging you in itself is against scripture!
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How sweet!
Amazing ❤️
Beautiful 🙌🏽🙏🏽
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Im glad that you mother open up her heart to you her son…… I am both proud and happy for you…….
Girl your mother knew long before you think.
There is a book titled "The Children are Free: reexamining the Biblical Evidence on Same-sex Relationships by Rev. Jeff Miner and Rev. John Tyler Connoley." The authors go through bible verses and find there are verses that support gay and lesbians.
Rod McKuen would say words similar to the following at the end of every act. "It does not matter who you love or how you love, but that you love. The good is God made manifest and loving is the contribution to that good and to that only God. For in the end the act of loving anyone is the act of loving God."
Lmao that is like the ultimate secret weapon being raised Christian and being gay 😂
This pretty much sums up my relationship with my mother at the moment. I am not religious anymore, but growing up in a strongly religious household has awarded me with a huge knowledge on the bible that will shut up any homophobic person - in particular, my mother.
Can't deal with extreme Christians, their egos are ridiculous.
However, I'm happy that it got better for him.
Family doesn't mean blood and blood doesn't mean family.
Thats one of the first things that gay people learn.
How do you get through to a person/parent that does not empathize ?
Honestly sometimes you can't I am 50 years old and my religous parents will never accept me and my partner of 22 years. It is their loss. You need to live your life as your true self no matter what people say or do. It can be difficult but it is so worth it. I wish you the best life of love and peace and I hope your parents are more accepting sooner than later.
I love that this guy pulled Biblical rank on his mother
I am crying 🌈♥️🌈♥️
1:38 what verses is he referring to?
How many forks and knives does your dad use while eating?? How many per hand???
He is sooo handsome..
They already knew.
Actually the "Bible-banging" had an unintended effect on me: It made me question Christianity so deeply that I converted to Judaism! Both openly gay and Jewish 🌈🕎
At first I thought I don’t care for this. Then I realized it as half over a f zI still. Watched this. This guy is investing. I liked it. 😊😊🎃
This guy is interesting.
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I came from an abusive family
When my brother came out ..I thought do you beat anyone.... do you push your children through walls and beat your wife in front of small children....
O you don't, I'm good
Ironic... it does say in bible man can’t lay with man , but doesn’t mention woman lay with woman!!!!
Should and anorexic person continue in their path?
What do you mean?
@@cacamilis8477 ..a person with anorexia feels they are fat... Are they really fat?
A person with homosexuality feels they are gay.. are they really gay?
@@sweetbeep What does anorexia have to do with being attracted to people of the same gender as you? I don't understand why you would compare the two?
@@cacamilis8477 .. someone may not really be gay even if they FEEL like it.
@@sweetbeep How exactly would that happen? Can you explain? I mean, if you're attracted to guys, as a guy, you're gay, right? Unless of course you also like girls and other genders, then you're bisexual, right? Isn't anorexia harmful? How is being gay harmful?
“What do you mean you’re gay!? Don’t you know that this book that gets most of reality incorrect and says that donkeys and snakes can talk, says that people aren’t gay!?”
Lol religion seems to make you gullible and promotes compartmentalized thinking. I was very much able to delude myself about this stuff back when I was a Christian.
You Are Beautiful in your Extreme Kindness and Compasion and Patience with all the Ignorence that must have hurt to your own humble heart. Much Respect and Love