Want a Deeper Connection? Let Down Your Guard (Matthew Hussey)

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 460

  • @SamElle
    @SamElle 3 роки тому +321

    being vulnerable and revealing my insecurities is SO SO scary just because I have had people in the past use it against me. They would bring it up when we got into an argument and it would honestly hurt a lot. It's really hard for me to trust people now

    • @leesteal4458
      @leesteal4458 3 роки тому +13

      Be careful what you tell. Pick and chose what you tell.

    • @meeperbird
      @meeperbird 3 роки тому +15

      Watch ten videos about covert narcissists. If you’re attracting them, it won’t stop until you learn to identify them from day one.

    • @SamElle
      @SamElle 3 роки тому +1

      @@leesteal4458 yea im definitely more guarded now!

    • @SamElle
      @SamElle 3 роки тому

      @@meeperbird okay that makes sense! Thanks for that tip!!!

    • @hilj6555
      @hilj6555 3 роки тому +3

      We’ve all had that and I don’t know why people are mean

  • @Lilsunshinebaby
    @Lilsunshinebaby 3 роки тому +267

    I’ll forever be loyal to Matthew lol he literally gives the best advice

  • @plantberet5045
    @plantberet5045 3 роки тому +104

    Forget romantic relationships, friends behave like this too. I open my heart and wounds to friends I feel close to but they use it against me as a weapon.

    • @marviscrewz2470
      @marviscrewz2470 3 роки тому

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    • @marviscrewz2470
      @marviscrewz2470 3 роки тому

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      @marviscrewz2470 3 роки тому

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    • @simontmn
      @simontmn 2 роки тому +1

      Those aren't good friends. Assuming you're female, this is something male friends can be good for. They may not seem the most emotionally sensitive but they are much less likely to use vulnerability against you.

  • @andlj.179
    @andlj.179 3 роки тому +191

    "Perhaps the single most important aspect of any healthy relationship is empathy. Without empathy, there is no willingness to cooperate or to be respectful". That holds true also for disagreements. Empathetic people keep respect for their partner even in the heat of the argument and don't purposely say things to inflict emotional damage. They are aware that hurtful words might stay much longer in someone's mind after the argument is already over. Hurtful things being said you couldn't revoke. There are three words, which might lessen the psychological harm done: " I am sorry", but only if a person, who is apologising, means this sincerely. It is so rare that someone is willing to come and upfront apologise and genuinely mean it. The best apology is always changed behaviour! In communication with people bear in mind: "Speak to people in such a way that if they died the next day, you'd be satisfied with the last thing you said to them"!

    • @TlhomphoDitedu
      @TlhomphoDitedu 3 роки тому

      Beautifully articulated

    • @andlj.179
      @andlj.179 3 роки тому

      @@TlhomphoDitedu Thank you!

    • @orientaldancernoorie
      @orientaldancernoorie 3 роки тому +2

      Very well written 👏 I always believed empathy is the most important thing but unfortunately i have met very few people in my life who actually had this quality. I have always shown empathy but never received it as much in any of my relationships.

    • @andlj.179
      @andlj.179 3 роки тому +2

      @@orientaldancernoorie Thank you! I share your sentiment in regards to empathetic people, the ones suitable for relationship. I am in the same boat as you in this respect. But you know what they say "the higher the vibe, the smaller the tribe".

    • @smokingcrab2290
      @smokingcrab2290 4 місяці тому

      You can mean it, but the other person won't want to hear it. Also, it's genuinely difficult to have empathy for a person who has no empathy for you. And it's especially hard to have empathy for a person who does not value a connection with you and treats you like a disposable accessory to their goals, and their ambitions.

  • @FynePr1ntWilliamsMUS1C
    @FynePr1ntWilliamsMUS1C 3 роки тому +171

    "Growing closer comes from revealing the wound".. I agree. Let someone know what hurt you, so they can do their part to help you heal. If they ignore your pain, they aren't right for you. How can you truly love someone, if you're fine with them hurting inside? Vulnerability is key. Drop the tough ego and let's be human.🖤💯👑

    • @TlhomphoDitedu
      @TlhomphoDitedu 3 роки тому +1

      👌🏾

    • @CarloGonzalezTV
      @CarloGonzalezTV 2 роки тому +6

      Damn. “How can you truly love someone, if you’re fine with them hurting inside?” That is so fucking well said

    • @SuspiriaX
      @SuspiriaX 2 роки тому +1

      What if it's your dad who ignores your pain?
      You tell him, he empathizes a tiny bit, next day he's forgotten your pain and acts rather surprised when you remind him.
      Almost as if he never believed that you are in pain in the first place.
      How can we deal with that?

    • @FynePr1ntWilliamsMUS1C
      @FynePr1ntWilliamsMUS1C 2 роки тому +3

      @@SuspiriaX There's no "one size fits all" approach to understanding these things, but I'll share my opinion. I was speaking on friendship and relationship type of situations. Those people we can kick to the curb more easily. Lol. With parents, we sometimes assume they should have it figured out because they're older and wiser right? Thing is, older doesn't automatically make you wiser. They just couldn't stop aging. As long as you know they aren't intentionally hurting you, try to understand they have areas that need growth too. Maybe that's something you two can work on together, communicate what's going on within more often with eachother.. It couldn't hurt to try. Letting things slide all the time will only build resentment, and have you believing he doesn't care. You're his child, and even if he's bad at showing he cares it doesn't mean he flat out just doesn't care.
      Parents are only products of their environments like we are, and most are still trying to figure things out... Just like we are. Emotional intelligence is a big deal. I've actually just started listening to a new audio book on it. My wife and her mother had a somewhat similar situation. I told her to maintain the relationship in a way that she'd be able to handle the day her mom passes away, without feeling like she could have kept more in touch. She knows her mom isn't intentionally trying to be hurtful to her, and her mom is stuck in her ways. We can't control how people are, but we can control how we perceive them. This allowed her to pay more attention to her mom's more positive attributes. I hope somewhere in this you find something of value.

    • @FynePr1ntWilliamsMUS1C
      @FynePr1ntWilliamsMUS1C 2 роки тому +2

      @@CarloGonzalezTV thank you🙏🏾💯

  • @ptrsrfns
    @ptrsrfns 3 роки тому +70

    I find what works for me is to express how I feel and express what I want, and just wait. If I don't get it, I walk away. Simple. It's not easy tho, since this requires emotional self control. 😔

  • @IEVAKambarovaite
    @IEVAKambarovaite 3 роки тому +23

    I watched Malcolm & Marie last night.. so many lessons in that film. A great example of what not to do when getting into an argument with someone you love. Who's seen it?

  • @redpanda146
    @redpanda146 2 роки тому +8

    “Love doesn't die a natural death. Love has to be killed, either by neglect or narcissism.

  • @iceriahikari4707
    @iceriahikari4707 3 роки тому +86

    This video made me cry. I just showed my wounds to my boyfriend last night and he did all the signs Matt mentioned of an amazing relationship. It made me feel a lot less anxious about how me and my boyfriend's relationship are going. Thank you so much! Your videos are really awesome

    • @ricciardoeste5896
      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

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      Let's me recommend you to someone who helped me get back my lover without delay

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      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

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      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

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  • @jet9451
    @jet9451 3 роки тому +28

    I have been watching Matthew since high school. Not only do I walk away feeling confident but with more knowledge as well. These videos have stuck with me over the years and I use his advice in my own life as well. Watching Matthew’s videos and listening to what he really has to say has changed me, in a good way.

  • @milaalt1141
    @milaalt1141 3 роки тому +50

    Definitely...having attachment trauma helps with attacking our partners because core wounds bring up flashbacks of abandonment, pain, and rejection. The best thing to do is practice loving ourselves deeply, and knowing that we are important. Also keeping a journal and writing down our insecurities and negative thoughts to know how to change helps

    • @LoriLoriLori21
      @LoriLoriLori21 3 роки тому +1

      That’s so interesting. I think that is a struggle of mine.

  • @moonstar9101
    @moonstar9101 3 роки тому +24

    I’ve had a relationship where I suffered narcissistic abuse. I doubt I’ll ever be able to let my guard down fully again. I no longer trust my own judgement. The usual advice of give yourself time, self love, healing... all easier said than done.

    • @meredithayres
      @meredithayres 3 роки тому +3

      Was in a narcissist relationship too and feel the same way. It’s very scary.

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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    • @user-vn9sh6hv8r
      @user-vn9sh6hv8r 3 роки тому +2

      Go to Dr Ramani's channel (if you haven't already found her). One recent video is about this exact situation. Everything is easier said than done - but that doesn't mean it won't happen. 💕

  • @erinbaxter4723
    @erinbaxter4723 3 роки тому +7

    Matt-
    Been listening to your videos for years and have learned so much from you. The content in the recent videos "Is Your Anxiety Sabotaging Your Relationship?" and "Want a Deeper Connection?" are exactly what I need right now. Thank you for all you do. Your knowledge sharing really does make a difference. 🙂

  • @Gabriela323
    @Gabriela323 3 роки тому +5

    Matthew’s videos and book always make me feel better when I feel down on myself. They remind me that I am a high value woman and that even if I don’t like my current situation there are steps I can take to change it. I struggle with depression, so when I have an episode I isolate myself and don’t answer messages for fear I will say something dumb and they’ll stop liking me. Due to this, my friends now avoid me. I miss them, but I’ll take this as a lesson and I’ll take the risk of being vulnerable and open up about what’s really going on.

  • @ChetheV
    @ChetheV Рік тому +1

    I’m trying not to cry but watching vulnerability videos and I came across this on UA-cam and you’re SO right. It’s already hard it is to date idk why people make things more difficult than it needs to be.

  • @JosieWeir
    @JosieWeir 2 роки тому +4

    This is awesome. Yes I made him feel safe to reveal his vulnerable side and visa versa and It has brought us so close together.

  • @rosekikule2378
    @rosekikule2378 Рік тому +1

    Matthew was born for this. His advice is genuine and honest.......Hussey for life

  • @lizogilvie8337
    @lizogilvie8337 3 роки тому +8

    Oh my god...this video was bloody brilliant 👌🏻
    Firstly, I love it when you do videos like this because
    1. I learn so much about myself
    2. Even though I’m not in a relationship atm I can ‘store’ these skills away for future use (and practice using them in the meantime)
    3. Your advice is so practical and can used in any facet of life not just ‘romantic relationships’ - work and friends/family too.
    ALSO... I can not believe that you give the additional training out for free in addition to that...it is so, so, so useful!
    Thank you 🙌🏻

  • @EmilyRaskett
    @EmilyRaskett 3 роки тому +13

    Such good advice! Vulnerability is so important ❤️

  • @triciad9947
    @triciad9947 3 роки тому +4

    Thankyou for caring and kind to us matt ❤

  • @IEVAKambarovaite
    @IEVAKambarovaite 3 роки тому +42

    *How do you know if you're in an amazing relationship? You have to reveal your wounds*
    Matthew Hussey

  • @5thdimensionliving727
    @5thdimensionliving727 2 роки тому +5

    Gr8 video Matthew. During a date, I was told I was very guarded. This was a shock to me because I didn’t think I did anything that warranted that reaction. But when I reflected on this feedback, I soon realised that I still have trust issues over how I my last relationship ended, which was very acrimoniously. The key is to express my vulnerability and see if the the other person can hold it in a potential relationship. Definitely good for thought. Thank you 🙏🙏

  • @krautbonbon
    @krautbonbon 3 роки тому +5

    could not hit more close to home! Perfect timing, thanks Mat!

  • @skyscrapers3863
    @skyscrapers3863 3 роки тому +7

    Thank you Matt, this is the exact content that I need right now

  • @rose_wood123
    @rose_wood123 3 роки тому +3

    This is so good and a gem of advice for awareness! 💛

  • @tangerpan
    @tangerpan 3 роки тому +2

    This was powerful. Thank you

  • @dindi380
    @dindi380 3 роки тому +6

    Practically you need to reveal wounds and see how someone responds to that - Matt 🙌

  • @yasmineben1807
    @yasmineben1807 3 роки тому +6

    i’ve discovered matthew in 2016 and i’ve learned a lot from him through the years i’m forever grateful ❤️

    • @mataregins461
      @mataregins461 3 роки тому

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      @mataregins461 3 роки тому

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    • @carolblessing
      @carolblessing Рік тому

      I came across Herbalist Zaazu online and he's a great spellcaster who helped save my marriage by reuniting my husband and I with his love spell casting , I vow to tell the whole word how he saved my marriage , God bless

  • @HG-qo9cx
    @HG-qo9cx 3 роки тому +7

    In all honesty, I mainly watch Hussey’s videos to help improve my communication skills in all aspects of my life. If he would create videos or a separate channel just talking about communication in general in and especially outside of romance. I’ve been able to act more diplomatically with other’s thanks to this.

    • @ONLYLOVEIZATION
      @ONLYLOVEIZATION 2 роки тому +1

      Yeah I was thinking the same. M H is great with Communication advice.

  • @jaclarkeable
    @jaclarkeable 3 роки тому +2

    Takes so much time to be vulnerable. Both of us are terrified of being vulnerable

  • @sgaf7001
    @sgaf7001 Рік тому +3

    I don't talk a lot about what is going on inside me, but once I do and I notice that the other person (a friend, partner, or whatever) is not listening by heart, I start to step back from whatever relationship we have. I'm a deep and emotional person. If they can only connect to me when I'm on my highs, then they will eventually leave once they experience the lows.

  • @PilotAdventurer
    @PilotAdventurer 3 роки тому

    I agree with this Matthew. I always hope I can skip the evisceration. I will take the vulnerable moments any day over the evisceration moments.

  • @narimanekh8626
    @narimanekh8626 3 роки тому +21

    Lots of love from Algeria 🇩🇿 ❤

  • @Kiky812
    @Kiky812 Рік тому

    I talked about this in therapy recently but matt's videis are part of my therapy... Sometimes i am afraid about opening up or i don't know how to do it and my therapust said in this way you leave your boyfriend out and it was so painful to realize! I want to open up so that he knows me and can Love me for my deep self and for who I am.Opening up is and act of courage and of deep Love.

  • @wahibacena5090
    @wahibacena5090 3 роки тому

    Thank you Matt,
    That was so much Helpful

  • @skylight_gameuse
    @skylight_gameuse 3 роки тому +4

    4:49 great explanation of bad/healthy relationships

  • @lovethejourney1180
    @lovethejourney1180 3 роки тому +2

    Thanks a lot for this video. I took it on board and this way of communicating helped me with a challenging conversation I had with my landlord. I opened up up to her and shared something emotional about myself and she reacted more positively than in previous conversations. :-)

    • @carolblessing
      @carolblessing Рік тому

      I came across Herbalist Zaazu online and he's a great spellcaster who helped save my marriage by reuniting my husband and I with his love spell casting , I vow to tell the whole word how he saved my marriage , God bless

  • @ropi8739
    @ropi8739 3 роки тому +2

    I love you Matthew!!

  • @mandylu7496
    @mandylu7496 3 роки тому +4

    Matthew! This video opened my mind so much to my relationship. I appreciate you taking about this and showing how to move forward. I have had months and years of termoil and you have hit the nail on the head in this video for me! Thank you!

    • @ricciardoeste5896
      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

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      Let's me recommend you to someone who helped me get back my lover without delay

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      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

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  • @annewick3287
    @annewick3287 9 місяців тому

    Coming from a therapist this is true trauma work. Good for you Matthew!

  • @louisemil5756
    @louisemil5756 3 роки тому +7

    Let's hope Jessica can learn to deal with things more constructively and be kind to herself. It is not easy to let down your guard, especially if you have been hurt. You are exactly right it is about finding the right person to support you in healing your wounds, in order to fix them. Compassion and understanding is needed too, we all have flaws and things we need to work on as human beings. Some more than others. Great video Matt. :)

    • @carolblessing
      @carolblessing Рік тому

      I came across Herbalist Zaazu online and he's a great spellcaster who helped save my marriage by reuniting my husband and I with his love spell casting , I vow to tell the whole word how he saved my marriage , God bless

  • @janetnilsen9728
    @janetnilsen9728 3 роки тому +3

    As Matt gets older, his work ignites me. This video totally nails human dynamics at its absolute best best.

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear’i can refer you to someone who help me to fix my relationship problems’he can also help you too

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      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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  • @cherieknight7931
    @cherieknight7931 3 роки тому +2

    Matthew, you are my favorite relationship coach! I’m you Mom’s age and yet every tim you speak it resonates more deeply with me than any other top coach out there in the world! Feeling so blessed to have found you before it’s too late for me to find my forever person ♥️♥️♥️

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      Never too late

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      I can refer my dear,I can refer you to a relationship expert who help me manifesty my ex back few days ago ,after six months of breakup ,he can also help you to solve all your relationship problems too

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

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  • @godsplan7726
    @godsplan7726 3 роки тому

    Matthew Hussey..u r God's most beautiful creation..
    Matthew Hussey..u r a blessing to the world..
    Matthew Hussey..I love you the most..I respect you the most..

  • @rartinderkaur3499
    @rartinderkaur3499 3 роки тому +4

    Thanks for your sincere efforts with you rich words .We connect not through our strength but through our weakness ,and the more one feels emotionally safe in relationship ,the more person express his full self and that total acceptance is Deep connection . Respect grows more and where without saying a word we convey the message ,"that whatever may come in future ,one is not alone anymore ". Thanks for everything and keep growing and smiling . Much care always 😘

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear’i can refer you to someone who help me to manifest my relationship back few days ago after six months of break up

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      He can also help you too

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      Whatzpp him now

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      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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  • @fecrittendon6135
    @fecrittendon6135 2 роки тому

    Outstanding, bravo

  • @riasingh160
    @riasingh160 3 роки тому

    Amazing views about relationship n useful advice for viewers good job.

  • @stirlingshade
    @stirlingshade Рік тому

    Thank ye matie. Never thought of it that way.

  • @jamiechen9115
    @jamiechen9115 3 роки тому +2

    This is so awesome. Watched this video at least three times and took notes. Thanks for guiding us to be a better person💙💙💙much love

    • @ricciardoeste5896
      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

      Life is all about happiness
      Let's me recommend you to someone who helped me get back my lover without delay

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      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

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  • @englishwithsanjuktadas
    @englishwithsanjuktadas 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much 🙏

  • @YolandaGirl
    @YolandaGirl 3 роки тому +9

    I revealed my wounds in my last relationship and his response was to break up with me because he didn't want to keep hurting me and felt less feelings for me after our conversation. What's worse is right before that his friend yells into the phone, "Leave him alone. We're going to find him a girl..." I don't know if I'll ever open up to another man again.

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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    • @juliagstoettner8699
      @juliagstoettner8699 3 роки тому +3

      You absolutely dodged a bullet there! I know it hurts, but you want to use your precious time on someone who is actually wanting to be part of your life, including your wounds, and wants to help you heal instead of walking away. That person can't even deal with looking at themselves I'm sure. Keep your head up dear, someday someone will be in your life who will want to stay especially cause you've been able to do that. ❤

    • @YolandaGirl
      @YolandaGirl 3 роки тому +2

      @@juliagstoettner8699 Thank you for the kind words! I'm trying to think of it having to do more than him than me. It's still sad though that I put myself out there like that.

  • @shahanymuhsin6493
    @shahanymuhsin6493 2 роки тому

    Thank you mattew 💗💓

  • @Cowface
    @Cowface Рік тому +1

    I love it, weapons vs wounds. I think people default to the weapons, without realizing what they’re doing. Given that, I think that implementing this will take some mindfulness, somatic awareness, inner child work, etc to realize they’re actually defending a wound. It takes stepping back from the conclusion that the other person is the entire problem.

  • @namyroxasrax9009
    @namyroxasrax9009 3 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @tarapn1984
    @tarapn1984 3 роки тому

    Thank you🙏🏻❤️

  • @sab4895
    @sab4895 3 роки тому +5

    I was vulnerable in my last relationship with a trauma I lived for years..when my bf would have his moods he would always use my weaknesses against me, knowing where it hurt.. It only made me put up walls to every guy that came after that. Hence, still single.

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear,I can refer you to a relationship expert who help me to manifest my ex back few days ago,after six months of breakup ,he can also help you too

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      Whatzpp him now

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      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

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  • @stephen123go4
    @stephen123go4 3 роки тому +1

    omg its sooooooooooooooo right!!! the best relationship is they help and surports u to go throw ur wond is not embarass u

    • @carolblessing
      @carolblessing Рік тому

      I came across Herbalist Zaazu online and he's a great spellcaster who helped save my marriage by reuniting my husband and I with his love spell casting , I vow to tell the whole word how he saved my marriage , God bless

  • @MenMovement
    @MenMovement 3 роки тому

    You'r so right👏🏻

  • @mariesham2996
    @mariesham2996 3 роки тому +2

    ❄️ so amazing Matt ❤️so important to understand this angle 🤔👍

    • @carolblessing
      @carolblessing Рік тому

      I came across Herbalist Zaazu online and he's a great spellcaster who helped save my marriage by reuniting my husband and I with his love spell casting , I vow to tell the whole word how he saved my marriage , God bless

  • @katherineskouson1415
    @katherineskouson1415 3 роки тому

    I love this

  • @adventuresforthesoul6472
    @adventuresforthesoul6472 Рік тому

    Love this

  • @billieglasscock7465
    @billieglasscock7465 3 роки тому +2

    Ouch!! That hits home! Wow! Enlightenment!! Passive aggressiveness is exactly the tool I use! Wow! I just need to let down my guard... ouch’ it’s not going to be easy

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      I can. Refer you to. a relationship,expert who help me to manifest my ex back few days ago after six months of breakup,he can also help you too

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      Whatzpp him now

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      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      +2349130316818

    • @carolblessing
      @carolblessing Рік тому

      I came across Herbalist Zaazu online and he's a great spellcaster who helped save my marriage by reuniting my husband and I with his love spell casting , I vow to tell the whole word how he saved my marriage , God bless

  • @danielleemch8991
    @danielleemch8991 3 роки тому +2

    That was absolutely amazing wow Matthew you are a Genius I loved it thank you so much 😍

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear’i can refer you to someone who help me to manifest my ex back few days ago’after six months of breakup ‘he can also help you too

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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  • @nicoleonfeels
    @nicoleonfeels 3 роки тому +9

    If you don’t let people see the truest version of yourself, think of what kind of people you’ll attract.

    • @ricciardoeste5896
      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

      Life is all about happiness
      Let's me recommend you to someone who helped me get back my lover without delay

    • @ricciardoeste5896
      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

      Text on whatapp for directives..

    • @ricciardoeste5896
      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

      + 1 9 1 6 8 0 0 2 7 4 1.

    • @Mystic_Light
      @Mystic_Light 3 роки тому +2

      Funny, I show people the truest version of myself always and all I seem to attract are narcissistic jerks....🤷‍♀️ oh sure they say all manner of nice words, but their actions are totally different. I'm empathic, highly intuitive and psychic...a gift and a curse. I want to believe that people are kind, but more than half of them are completely and totally self-serving, and I seem to be the one doing all the giving. No thanks, no more letting my guard down. Decades of being taken advantage of is more than enough for this chick.

  • @lucydelpilar7289
    @lucydelpilar7289 3 роки тому

    perfectly said.

  • @ew2645
    @ew2645 3 роки тому +3

    Hey Matthew! You did a video on the problematic nature of 50 shades. When are you going to do one on Bridgerton?

  • @larinaballerina
    @larinaballerina 3 роки тому +1

    Brilliant as always Mathew. Thank you so much for your valuable content

    • @mariagracias6331
      @mariagracias6331 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear ,I can refer you to a relationship expert who help me to manifesty my ex back few weeks ago after six months of breakup ,he can also help you too

    • @mariagracias6331
      @mariagracias6331 3 роки тому

      Whatzpp him now

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      @mariagracias6331 3 роки тому

      +2349130316818

  • @Rabi485
    @Rabi485 3 роки тому +4

    Hey Mathew, Rabia here. I'm not a sort ov person who does this comment thing but Mathew I just can't help..Your content along with your accent is just OMG. Just wanna listen to you everyday, everytime for the rest of my life.💞

  • @POPDATA
    @POPDATA 3 роки тому +4

    His house is goals in life

  • @lifegenius763
    @lifegenius763 3 роки тому

    Thanks Matt for such an insightful video! It really went through me because I think, without realising, defending myself brings out my passive aggresion, plus I easily block people and never concede!! I know terrible, isn't it. I definitely know I feel vulnerable but I never express it..I think its why I've been single for 5.5 years despite getting lots of interest on dating apps...i think I'm quick to show my 'weapons' the second I feel judged or misunderstood or disrespected..unwittingly, its forced lots of rejectees to contact me and apologise not knowing how they've offended me! I will now learn how to feel comfortable being vulnerable with someone I like..thanks Matt..all your awesome!! Love it 🙏🙏

    • @ricciardoeste5896
      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

      Life is all about happiness
      Let's me recommend you to someone who helped me get back my lover without delay

    • @ricciardoeste5896
      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

      Text on whatapp for directives..

    • @ricciardoeste5896
      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

      + 1 9 1 6 8 0 0 2 7 4 1.

    • @lifegenius763
      @lifegenius763 3 роки тому

      @@ricciardoeste5896 thx so much! Just whats app you a message. Lets chat on there

    • @ricciardoeste5896
      @ricciardoeste5896 3 роки тому

      @@lifegenius763 okay bro

  • @wassuphollabackgirl1
    @wassuphollabackgirl1 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much Matthew. I did this but the person was not kind to me and used my wounds as a weapon against me.

    • @alexros6642
      @alexros6642 3 роки тому +3

      I can relate, so that was not the person to be with. Those people are there to bring the wounds out. You are the only responsible to work and heal them. The right person will understand and support, that’s it. But I know, it makes it harder to trust again, after an abusive relationship, but have to remain positive, at least that is what I say to myself 😊

    • @wassuphollabackgirl1
      @wassuphollabackgirl1 3 роки тому +2

      @@alexros6642 great. Thank you. I am trying to be more positive and also I am not with that person anymore.

  • @emmaj1384
    @emmaj1384 3 роки тому +5

    I would also say follow through with what you say. I went on a lovely date with a lovely man, I was open with him (told him I'd been cheated on), and at the end, he was like, "Let's do this again." And then disappeared.

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear’i can refer you to someone who help me to manifest my ex back few days ago,after six months of breakup’he can also help you too

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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  • @PriyamGhosh31
    @PriyamGhosh31 3 роки тому +2

    First one here!!!!! ❤️ Your content!

    • @Mark_R_Tho
      @Mark_R_Tho 3 роки тому +1

      Not a contest!!!!!!!

    • @PriyamGhosh31
      @PriyamGhosh31 3 роки тому

      I'm just excited! Don't be a killjoy! Hehehhee

  • @BeccahJoy
    @BeccahJoy 3 роки тому +2

    Love it.

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear’i can refer you to someone who hope me to manifest my ex back few days ago after six months of breakup’he can also help you too

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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  • @louiethemouseful
    @louiethemouseful 3 роки тому

    damn, quarantine working well for matthew ;)

  • @nazelikeshishian9777
    @nazelikeshishian9777 3 роки тому

    Matthew you are amazing as always, your videos always help me to be better in relationship ❤😘🤗😍

    • @marviscrewz2470
      @marviscrewz2470 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear,I can refer you to a powerful of relationship love expert who help me to manifest my ex back few weeks ago

    • @marviscrewz2470
      @marviscrewz2470 3 роки тому

      He can also help you too

    • @marviscrewz2470
      @marviscrewz2470 3 роки тому

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      @marviscrewz2470 3 роки тому

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  • @ashleyoakley4562
    @ashleyoakley4562 2 роки тому

    awesome look

  • @sadieloveskoko
    @sadieloveskoko 3 роки тому +1

    i hope your health is goood brother

    • @Ohkeh640
      @Ohkeh640 3 роки тому

      He looks unwell

  • @kazumimizuki8207
    @kazumimizuki8207 3 роки тому +3

    Smart af + pretty= hot afff =Matthew

  • @monicalevyt
    @monicalevyt 3 роки тому

    Haha you're great!

  • @angelahappyeastertoyoutoow7616

    very nice background

  • @lesleyfjelly9816
    @lesleyfjelly9816 3 роки тому +3

    Thanks Matthew. I am surprised to see people here criticising you because you are not married or with children. It is a shame. We all have our own personal goals and dreams. Marriage and children does not necessarily mean heaven for everyone. I wonder why people have any business in commenting on your relationship status. 🤔

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      I can refer you to someone who help me to manifest my ex back few days ago’after six months of breakup

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      He can also help you too

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      Whatzpp him now

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      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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  • @roxanne83
    @roxanne83 2 роки тому +1

    I would not do this in the beginning of a relationship. This is for later stages

  • @krautbonbon
    @krautbonbon Рік тому

    i feel like everytime i show my wounds and insecurities to someone i’ve been dating for a few months it’s too much for people and they leave me and say they don’t want a relationship.

  • @Womansdailyneeds
    @Womansdailyneeds 3 роки тому

    Why be with one who uses your negative against you. Be there for those you love . If one doesn’t accept you for you and tries to change you then there not the one for you. Last night the guy I like asked me to be his but it sounds to good to be true like I’m in a dream but who knows. Thanks Matthew ❤️😊😄 looking good by the way

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      Hi

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      I can refer you to a relationship expert who help me to manifest my ex back few days ago after six months of breakup

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      He can Also help you too

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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  • @saugatmukherjee8119
    @saugatmukherjee8119 3 роки тому +1

    Hi Matthew- What do you do when you have shared your wounds and your vulnerabilities to the person , who then acknowledged and understood them (and apparently, for the short term, you bond improves) but then a month or so later , the same problem occurs. Do you do the same again? The person in question here is not necessarily a bad person or a narcissist. Do we then distance ourselves and expectations from that person?

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear’ I can refer you to a relationship expert who help me to manifest my ex back few days ago’he can also help you to solve all your relationship problems too

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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  • @Mandy.S.
    @Mandy.S. 3 роки тому +1

    I liked this one... it will be good to use some of this knowledge when I get there! I also liked the one about expanding your vocabulary so you don't need to curse. 😉

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear,I can refer you to a relationship expert who help me to manifest my ex back few days ago after six months of breakup he can also help you go sovle all your relationship problems

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear,I can refer you to a relationship expert who help me to manifest my ex back few days ago after six months of breakup he can also help you go sovle all your relationship problems

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      Whatzpp him now

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      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

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  • @deborac_barcellos
    @deborac_barcellos 3 роки тому

    Thank you Matt!!🙏😍🤗😇!! Did you make this video specially for me? You are lovely💖!!

    • @mariagracias6331
      @mariagracias6331 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear,I can refer you to a relationship expert who hlep me to manifest my ex back few days ago ,after six months of breakup

    • @mariagracias6331
      @mariagracias6331 3 роки тому

      He can also help you too

    • @mariagracias6331
      @mariagracias6331 3 роки тому

      Whatzpp him now on via

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      @mariagracias6331 3 роки тому

      +2349130316818

    • @deborac_barcellos
      @deborac_barcellos 3 роки тому

      Don't believe in manifestation's crap thing...believe in God's blessings in right timing. SORRY!! But thank you💖🙏

  • @bektiller1622
    @bektiller1622 2 місяці тому

    Omg... I've only just started this video.... my defence mechanism is putting on my secret and silent armour and build a wall around myself and my kids if they've been involved or witnessed especially as well!! So no you can't get to me or my kids anymore.... and I went through this on/off for years until I finally divorced him and left him (and took my children with me). So... yeah.... I have past pain, because I did give him the opportunities, the talks, to do therapy, to change his behaviour etc ... but it got too much it was hurting all of us! So we left. 😢 how do I know someone else isn't going to do that to us again? 🥺

  • @Artnotforthesakeofart
    @Artnotforthesakeofart Рік тому

    My walls are so high up now that even I am unable to break them down.
    Maybe with time they weaken, then I will attempt again. Right now I have no emotional energy to do anything. Weirdly numb...but also in a good way.
    That makes me question if it worth putting my guard down. Idk.

  • @sunshine-wb7gr
    @sunshine-wb7gr 3 роки тому +1

    Stay safe 🙏🇦🇮 Anguilla

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear’i can refer you to a relationship expert who help me to manifest my ex back few days ago’after six months of breakup’he can also help you too

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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  • @beboou8572
    @beboou8572 3 роки тому

    UHHHH ... no ones gonna talk about the amaaaazing house 😍😍😍😍😍 my mind got distracted by the house for a moment 😆

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear ,I can refer you to a relationship expert who hlep me to manifest my ex back few days ago after six months of breakup ,he can also help you too

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      +2349130316818

    • @kumarkavam593
      @kumarkavam593 3 роки тому

      Whatzpp him

  • @GreenStarMidoriBoshi
    @GreenStarMidoriBoshi 2 роки тому +2

    I''m a bit pissed off that even though Mathew gives really good relationship advice, I don't see nearly enough plain psychological advice. There are a few videos about wounds, anxiety and how to improve ones self, but I'm personally looking forward for more

    • @CarloGonzalezTV
      @CarloGonzalezTV 2 роки тому

      I agree with what your saying; the only thing I’d add or change would be that there are other people I go to for that content, for example Esther Perel, Brené Brown, Lori Gottlieb, etc.
      There are people that dedicate their work to the psychological side of things, so that people like Matthew have more insight to use for their material on “real world” application of that psychology.
      It would be nice if it were to be available all from one source, but in the meantime there are other people out there with insight that can be well paired with points he brings up, and together help paint a better picture of how to go about that situation/topic.
      The main reason I left this comment was to share the people I had mentioned that I felt do a good job covering the psychology of relationships we have with ourselves and others
      I hope you’re well☀️

    • @nathlete87
      @nathlete87 2 роки тому +1

      Personal development school - Thais Gibson

  • @npkrn6764
    @npkrn6764 Рік тому

    Some can, however, be using these techniques to be manipulative. For instance, someone may give you the silent treatment then finally say I hurt them when I said something, yet it didn't reeeeaaally hurt their feelings, they just said it assuming that will make you forget all about the fact that they reacted in a non-productive way - like the silent treatment, ghosting, whatever. I hope my thought there was clear!
    I know this video was geared towards practicing good communication skills between two people with ultimately good intentions, but since many watch your videos who have been played with, I thought I'd mention how things can be understood differently. The key is figuring out if their intention in their communication (or lack thereof) is honorable, or manipulative.

  • @janetnilsen9728
    @janetnilsen9728 3 роки тому +2

    Get him a show here in the USA!

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      Hello my dear ‘ I can refer you to a relationship expert who help me to manifest my ex back few days ago’after six months of breakup

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      He can also help you too

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

      Whatzpp him now on via

    • @pottiluis4262
      @pottiluis4262 3 роки тому

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  • @aishiya2398
    @aishiya2398 3 роки тому

    i always said things ill regret. i thought to myself all the time after the arguments i started, that i ruined this relationship. im sabotaging it and now it wont be the same. and he saw my ugly side. 😭.
    now i just hope he dumps me so i can start over as a perfect partner again. yikes, i hate it but thts wht i always think

    • @carolblessing
      @carolblessing Рік тому

      I came across Herbalist Zaazu online and he's a great spellcaster who helped save my marriage by reuniting my husband and I with his love spell casting , I vow to tell the whole word how he saved my marriage , God bless

  • @cassievoo2
    @cassievoo2 3 роки тому

    Love from Malaysia

  • @janessmorales7072
    @janessmorales7072 2 роки тому

    Love u too

  • @jaquelinesmith3545
    @jaquelinesmith3545 2 роки тому

    I have a question I have men fall in love with me before they even meet
    me? They look at my profile photos and ready my profile bio and then
    after a phone call they are texting me in love like we have been
    together for months without even meeting face-to-face. What is that all
    about?

  • @irenemiranda4973
    @irenemiranda4973 3 роки тому

    Spanish version please!!!