HOW I FOUND OUT HE CHEATED! | TERRELL & JARIUS

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  • You CHEATED & HOW I FOUND OUT!! THIS BROKE my HEART.... Finding out the person you love most has been cheating on you can literally break a person. In this video we find out just how I found out and what happened.
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  • @anishalashae2611
    @anishalashae2611 4 роки тому +49

    Let’s make something very clear it is very big of Terrell and Jarius to even have this conversation with us, and them sharing their lives with us. This is soooo big of them to go this deep with us. So remember that they have over came these obstacles and they have moved passed it! It would be hard for me to share something this deep with even my closest friends and family. So I can only imagine how hard this is for them! I’m so glad, that we get to experience this with them! Terrell & Jarius, I’m so glad that we get to experience your lives with you and thank you for sharing your stories with us! I love y’all!!! This series is amazing and is helping so many people! Keep pushing! Love you!!! #SupporterForever

    • @keyoharris
      @keyoharris 4 роки тому +1

      Anisha LaShae 🗣PREACH THIS‼️ #SupporterForever

  • @robschrader7587
    @robschrader7587 4 роки тому +21

    OK so I have told you that John and I were together for 26 years until he passed away July of 2012. As you know in that 26 year there were many up's and downs. But I will cut to the Chase and say that John ended up in the hospital July 4th of 2012. He fell in our family room and broke his hip. We went to the ER and of course they admitted him. John suffered from Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis. Along with several other things. They did surgery by putting a pin in. And long story short things began to go downhill after that with his breathing. He ended up on a respirator in a medically induced coma for a week. I sat by his bedside day-and-night praying that God would heal him. However it was not to be and we took John off of the ventilator that Friday. Now let me tell you that the hardest thing to do is to sit there and hold John after he had passed away and tried to apologize for all of the mistakes I had made in our 26 years. And I still struggle with that today. I'm very glad to see that you boys are talking things out. 💞

  • @abccats
    @abccats 4 роки тому +15

    Being cheated on is the worse thing someone could do in a relationship. 😔😔
    I could never stay with someone after that.

  • @jamesmcneiljr
    @jamesmcneiljr 4 роки тому +24

    Even if the cheating is sexual or emotional - never stay with someone who decides to cheat on you. Forgive yes, but never stay. That person never valued you in the first place.

    • @psims8744
      @psims8744 4 роки тому +4

      James S. McNeil, Jr. emotional hurts more than sexual...to me anyway.

    • @brandonstilinskit3924
      @brandonstilinskit3924 4 роки тому +6

      It's easy to say that until you are in that predicament, you may think that if it happens to you will leave but when it happens nobody knows the outcome at that moment

    • @SexCJR1
      @SexCJR1 4 роки тому +1

      You're right! It easier to stay than to leave. That's why heart manipulation typically begins when the manipulators feel there is enough love capital built up! RUN toward the pain and you will come through on the other side thinking, "WTF was I thinking" TRUST me!

    • @duwarrendukes852
      @duwarrendukes852 4 роки тому

      James S. McNeil, Jr. I think I’m going to stay single

    • @princessbc9791
      @princessbc9791 3 роки тому +2

      @@brandonstilinskit3924 I left the few times it's happened to me....everytime. Some people just can't be around untrustworthy people regardless of the type of relationship.

  • @mrneverbackupordown
    @mrneverbackupordown 4 роки тому +17

    That type of pain is a pain you never quite get over. It’s like a brick in your pocket. If you walk around with it enough you just learn to walk with it, it can either make you stronger or weigh you down

    • @duwarrendukes852
      @duwarrendukes852 4 роки тому +1

      mrneverbackupordown your comment is awesome it makes a lot of sense

  • @russelstephan6342
    @russelstephan6342 4 роки тому +26

    Can we just judge Jarius less and APPLAUD them for fighting for their love and raising a beautiful family at that? Its show alot of strength in character especially in Terrels part, Love and stay 💪

  • @patriciawarren3308
    @patriciawarren3308 4 роки тому +9

    You are a bigger man than many Terrell. God bless you.

  • @Jessie-qq6qz
    @Jessie-qq6qz 4 роки тому +12

    I'm a scorpio and I'm not sure if I am the way I am because of my astrological sign but once I'm betrayed whether it be lied to or cheated on it completely ruins my relationship and how I look at someone no matter how much i want to forgive.

    • @KrystleShuron
      @KrystleShuron 4 роки тому +2

      Blanquita G I’m a Scorpio as well and I’m
      The same way.

  • @cheriwilson8727
    @cheriwilson8727 4 роки тому +16

    😢 I’ve been both Jarius and Terrell. Don’t read the negative comments because unconditional love is obtainable. Love is I forgive you 100% for hurting me and I will give 100% to never hurt you again.

  • @TheONE-bn1lh
    @TheONE-bn1lh 4 роки тому +17

    Wow I don’t think I could forgive someone who cheated on me . So I give it up to y’all

    • @princessbc9791
      @princessbc9791 3 роки тому +1

      Agreed. I forgive and keep it moving...

  • @felicitymemela1963
    @felicitymemela1963 4 роки тому +14

    😳Now I understand when Ryan always tells Meek that cheating is a hell no and why he goes in depth on the cheating issue

  • @tonyb.3796
    @tonyb.3796 4 роки тому +7

    You never know what makes a relationship looks so strong and blissful until you know the amount of sacrifice, forgiveness, and understanding it took to make it last. I’m rooting for you all to make it last forever. True love seems rare these days.

  • @nathanmalik1697
    @nathanmalik1697 4 роки тому +7

    Love you both. Keep up the realness but remember you're not obligated to tell us everything. Only share what you're at peace with the whole world knowing. Either way, we'd be here, loving and supporting you.

  • @tommyrichardson797
    @tommyrichardson797 4 роки тому +24

    I don't care how strong the arguement was. For your lover to have sex with someone else the same night of a heated argument is grounds for separation. Meaning, he knows someone he could easily have sex with. He said it himself that he had someone in mind with whom he could have sex. For him to do that means he was emotionally cheating before the arguement, he probably escalated the arguement to give lead to cheat, him not showing any remorse for cheating, and him keeping the details of cheating from you so long means that he has it in him to cheat again. For those reasons, I would never look at him the same and the relationship would be over. Just sticking your penis or giving your ass up to someone is one thing, but to have emotion behind it is a whole other situation. Emotional cheating never heals.

  • @dr.emilyacevedo812
    @dr.emilyacevedo812 4 роки тому +19

    I would have NOT taken him back.

  • @NotMeGworl
    @NotMeGworl 4 роки тому +17

    This is why I'm afraid to date. My demons are strong, and they would have committed a crime of passion.

    • @_chade
      @_chade 4 роки тому +2

      J C Gotta take care of Self first before you can give yourself to someone else. Therapy can help with that. You are aware of your issues, so that’s a huge step in the right direction. I wish you the best of luck in your journey!

  • @JJM-he6zt
    @JJM-he6zt 4 роки тому +24

    Listen, dude cheated on me, I forgive him. However, the trust just was not there! I ended the relationship. If there's no trust, no relationship! I believe if you do it once, you will do it again. Arguments will always happen, don't have time to worry if you cheated.

    • @vgreen1106
      @vgreen1106 2 роки тому

      Facts!!!
      Lord knows I Really tried but Trust is gained in drops and lost by gallons!

    • @bigphat200
      @bigphat200 6 місяців тому

      I think think this happen when they were much younger. They're mature men today. Don't let pass mistake be a life sentence

  • @jamesbourne6391
    @jamesbourne6391 4 роки тому +8

    This was hard for me to watch. I could see and feel the pain moving through you both.

  • @mrsjones14226
    @mrsjones14226 Рік тому +4

    Omg this was so sweet. I love you guys. I was also with my hubby since 18. He is 10yrs older so I was the one who hurt him. I thank God he realized my youth and me learning myself and through those mistakes realizing I didn't want to lose him. 31yrs later we are so in Love. Sometimes mistakes help us learn. Thanks for sharing being so transparent. I'm sure this has help so many

  • @nancyjones1930
    @nancyjones1930 3 роки тому +5

    We all should be able to forgive other people regardless of whether we stay or not. Holding on to the anger just makes you sick and destroys you!

  • @TheAnthonyBrownShow
    @TheAnthonyBrownShow 4 роки тому +2

    Now y'all gonna stop making me cry. Both of you are strong and smart individuals. This too shall pass.

  • @SauceyTycoon
    @SauceyTycoon 4 роки тому +8

    Man this is the dopest, most genuine, transparent, brave, and mature thing I have ever seen a couple on UA-cam do. Its very commendable and i. The process you are helping other couples by showing what it means to truly resolve issues in a relationship. Its very refreshing and I wish you both much healing growth and prosperity. Unfortunately my ex was not about taking accountability which i why the relationship had no resilience or longevity. Its so refreshing to see people grow and learn. Thank you for sharing your life and opening up your closet to the world. Lord knows that in itself is a big risk. Sending love and positive vibes♥️

  • @lovebeamer1
    @lovebeamer1 4 роки тому +6

    Powerful young brothers... As I've stated before... Even infidelity can be worked through.. It's a process, once trust is broken on any level and it definitely changes the timber of the relationship period. Usually when the cheater comes clean, it to relieve themselves of their own guilt, not clearly seeing the impact of pain and scarring placed on the other person involved... It will never be quite the same... but true forgiveness is equally as powerful!!! Jarius.. now it's a much clearer understanding as to how you are about the prospects of another moving in on your man lol... The threat of that karma's not going anywhere young man... and you can't put an expiration date on how long it takes the person who you've dishonored, to get over it! However, together you can get through.. It's on the other side of situation, like this... where the true unconditional love is!!!! You both are still young, with a lot going on in your world.. While I believe counseling, might be a helpful plus.. Jarius you may want truly address and deal with the ghost of your past in moving forward... Hang on in there guys... Continue the work.. You'll get through! 😘

  • @nicolet4261
    @nicolet4261 4 роки тому +3

    I applaud you two for having come out with this part of your lives to so many of us. It’s heartwarming to know that you feel you can trust your loyal fans to give you and the love and support you deserve. I wish you both nothing but the best in 2020 and for years to come.

  • @tuka5871
    @tuka5871 4 роки тому +6

    My boyfriend and I are going through the exact same thing. He cheated on me almost 2 years ago and only told me about it 3 months ago. I know the pain caused by cheating in a relationship and I’m encouraged by the fact that Terrel, like myself, is trying to forgive his partner. Love is beautiful and people make mistakes sometimes. Even the people we entrust our hearts with make mistakes.

    • @otinothomas5791
      @otinothomas5791 4 роки тому

      Tuka so sorry that happened to you know your worth

    • @TheRenegadeStarr
      @TheRenegadeStarr 3 роки тому

      Wow... this is a huge fear of mine. Being with someone who “loves me” but will have no problem lying straight to my face for years just so they can keep using me. Ugh, anxiety.

  • @kesha6974
    @kesha6974 3 роки тому +5

    What makes me mad is when the one being cheated on finds out and the cheater finally admits it but wants you to give them credit for finally admitting what they did like they just told you upfront. It’s Great that you are communicating and revisiting it to grow. I will take this into my next relationship. Love you all💜

    • @lenoz_bank9539
      @lenoz_bank9539 3 роки тому

      *I decided to write about how effective my channel is at hacking smart phones without the owner knowing and I strongly recommend them to everyone in all honesty*

  • @mainakelvin3316
    @mainakelvin3316 3 роки тому +13

    Now this kinda thing makes me not want relationship. I don't know how you get over/past betrayal but I never will forgive cheating. To me it's the worse form of disrespect. I'm Happy for you.

  • @jermen5137
    @jermen5137 4 роки тому +8

    I want to give y’all a hug!! Well an Internet hug. ♥️

  • @seanjosephjr
    @seanjosephjr 4 роки тому +2

    I love the level of respect, truth, and transparency that you guys show throughout your videos and I’m sure that you show to each other in real life. I am 15 years young and having a clear representation of what a gay black marriage looks like is amazing to me. I’m not fully clear of where all of this is headed but I love what I have received so far, and the information that you guys have shared from your past to give advice has truly given me an understanding. For the longest I felt like even though I am so young now, that I won’t find true love later, one we’re many of the mistakes the you two have made can be avoided. And in the event that I’m in a situation we’re these things aren’t, that I’ll truly know how to handle the situation. Seeing a relationship like this, that also involves kids seems so rare to me. That’s exactly what I see for myself in the future, with less hardships I hope.
    I’m rambling now, but I truly truly do love what you guys are doing with the channel and how you guys are now big enough to help mend broken metals. 🌸
    Stay true. Stay strong. And as always, stay blessed! 💖

  • @meekalphonso
    @meekalphonso 4 роки тому +25

    The title of this video damn near gave us a heart attack 😩

    • @jgwrnbsn
      @jgwrnbsn 4 роки тому +2

      Meek and Ryan, it's so neat to see you commenting!! I just finished watching Day 13, it's was great as always!! Much love to all of you ❤️

    • @SexCJR1
      @SexCJR1 4 роки тому +2

      You should STILL be shocked. The cheating happened in the past, but forever reamains engrained on the hearts memory

  • @shondamccoy8623
    @shondamccoy8623 4 роки тому +12

    Trust is hard to find but when u cheat does it ever come back fully

  • @shinning57
    @shinning57 4 роки тому +5

    We know y'all share your lives with us but I think it takes true Men 2 be able to set in front of the camera and tell this story.You don't owe us anything. May God continue to Bless Your Marriage. I Love Y'all ❤️ much love Family ♥️

  • @steven22ful
    @steven22ful 4 роки тому +8

    I have to command Terrel because for me cheating is a deal breaker...I will not be able to stay with someone who has cheated on me because moving forward I would not be worried about trusting the person, I would be more concerned about trusting myself...

  • @hlezi.lungelo370zulu5
    @hlezi.lungelo370zulu5 4 роки тому +6

    Terrell you are a kind person wishing you both good life, you such an inspiration

  • @creamybrn
    @creamybrn 4 роки тому +4

    I applaud you both for sticking it out. Relationships take real work & commitment. I went through a similar situation with my ex. He cheated on me with several guys. One of the guys went through some extreme measures to tell me about his hook-ups with my ex. I already knew the guy was telling me the truth but I had to walk in & catch my ex in the act in order to accept it. I tried my best to forgive him & move on. He eventually confessed to all of the other infidelities (which I already knew). I was willing to put in the effort to make our relationship work. Unfortunately, he was unwilling to meet me halfway and help me rebuild my trust in him. So I truly commend y'all for being adult enough to make it work. I wish you both continued success and love in your relationship.

  • @emanuelsanders2030
    @emanuelsanders2030 2 роки тому +9

    Trust ~ is alot like fine crystal! It's the most beautiful but most delicate thing, once it's chipped, cracked or broken its never quite the same.

  • @RDH1986
    @RDH1986 4 роки тому +8

    Mannnn, I love y’all both. Y’all are like my lil cousins in my head. Makes me cry watching this. I never knew any of it, but thank you for your transparency.

  • @Klp_l-pe7wf
    @Klp_l-pe7wf 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you both for showing your strength and showing your vulnerability.

  • @tyquanlove
    @tyquanlove 4 роки тому +3

    I really appreciate you both for sharing your true selves to so many of us! Your stories bring tears to my eyes as a new subscriber.

  • @edwardpalmore7114
    @edwardpalmore7114 4 роки тому +5

    Remaining together is a challenge, fellas. There always folks around who want to sample what you have built together. The biggest hurt with losing someone is that it make one feel lonely and empty for a while. Recommit yourself to each other. Beef up your goals -- that is your rationale for remaining with each other. Learn not to say anything which you will not want to be rehearsed in the future. Good luck, boys. You can meet the challenge.

  • @davidcruse3143
    @davidcruse3143 4 роки тому +5

    Don't ever give up on each other, y'all are made for one another, LOVE CONQUERS EVERYTHING, the bond between y'all is strong, please don't let that bond weaken

  • @TheRenegadeStarr
    @TheRenegadeStarr 3 роки тому +6

    I run in the other direction when Im hurt to that level. I don’t deal with cheating at all so that hurt would probably always stay with me, and since he wanted to keep you around to satisfy himself without giving you the option to make an informed decision on leaving or staying and he was comfortable lying to you for years I honestly would have had to move on or Id so something drastic. I can’t deal with lying like that. Even thinking about it churns my stomach. I’d say you’re way more forgiving than I ever would be. Best of luck on y’all’s journey.

  • @GannyAngie
    @GannyAngie 3 роки тому +7

    I was with my boyfriend for eleven years, found out he was having a whole other relationship with another woman for nine years, it hurt me to my heart. It was forgiven months later and a few years later we got married. Don't know how I was able to forgive but it took some time.

  • @BrotherRahb
    @BrotherRahb 4 роки тому +2

    Omg I have never seen this side of Terrell, I understand now wow. I’m so glad you guys have been transparent you’re healing and healing others.

  • @trevor6551
    @trevor6551 4 роки тому +1

    What I see is that baggage from previous relationships have added to all this and them being strong is a power

  • @yoniiboo8735
    @yoniiboo8735 4 роки тому +3

    I understand both sides. Both you guys are brave to even put this out there ‼️ love you guys❤️

  • @heatherschaper8191
    @heatherschaper8191 4 роки тому +12

    You should both go back to where you started, without the kids. Court again, get to know each other all over again. whenever I watch your videos I just feel like there's a wall between both of you, it's like each of you is protecting themselves from the other, you are very guarded from the way you interact. Believe me, unless you deliberately address your insecurities, they wont fix themselves. so take time off if you need to,. away from the babies, as often as possible. let the grannys have them for some time. Talk and talk, then talk some more. you need to get back to that place of friendship which I feel you lost along the way. At this point I see Terrell as the one whose been fighting for your relationship and as for Jarius, though remorseful now, looks the type to move on in a minute..speaks volumes. So, go fall in love again, can you Jarius look at Terrell the way you did the first time, when you couldn't leave him alone? work on rekindling the romance and then move on from there. I know it isn't easy especially now with the cheating confession, but some people have done it successfully.

  • @clifton.pettyjohn
    @clifton.pettyjohn 4 роки тому +1

    Mush love and respect to the both of you. You're willingness to be vulnerable is helping so many!!!

  • @djaswome
    @djaswome 4 роки тому +1

    Whew. I... actually don't know where to begin this time. I'm still trying to process everything. The emotions from both of you were so strong, I'm legit feeling them right now. When people have been hurt, one way they deal with it is seeking vengeance. Being coveted by another who isn't your romantic partner is something that many people subconsciously enjoy (even though they'd never act on it). But, with enough temptation, almost anyone would change their minds, especially if they are doing it for vindication. It's important for people to realize that seeking vindication through vengeance always leads to intense regret. Even if it feels good in the moment, it's all fleeting. Eventually, you'll have to face up to what you've done and acknowledge the harm you've caused yourself and your partner.
    This particular topic is something that many of us have experienced. Betrayal leaves a scar on the soul that hardly ever heals. You can lose yourself in your pain and never fully regain what you've lost. However, full transparency and accountability does wonders, if both people are willing to truly address their feelings, even if it means being in immense pain. I know just how crushing this has been for the both of you and... how you both are still dealing with everything. Please, keep being transparent. Allow yourselves to feel everything and get all out of your systems. Healing is a long, arduous process. But, it's necessary and I know you two will be alright. I love you both.

  • @Tpainlilbro
    @Tpainlilbro 4 роки тому +8

    Ppl on here hating because they are telling their story and being open and honest mean while y’all at home getting cheated on as we speak

  • @dwayneess
    @dwayneess 4 роки тому +6

    Wow! In order to to grow sometimes we have to go through some shit. You can see the pain on both their faces as they go through and explain difficulty but I'm glad you guys got past it and through it and now are in a better place. All relationship regardless straight or gay have issues and that has to be worked out if two people are willing to work it out and still want to be together. I drew strength and respect from you guys for allowing us a glimpse into your personal life. Being transparent is a beautiful thing and really give the teachable moment for other gay couple that we still can overcome certain things together. Thank you guys for sharing your story with us.

  • @sarahfoster3476
    @sarahfoster3476 4 роки тому +1

    I came to your channel through Meek and Ryan.
    Heartbreaking from someone who was cheated on. I could not recover at the time, but bravo to the both of you for staying and working on your relationship.
    All the best.
    🇨🇦

  • @markj2595
    @markj2595 4 роки тому +2

    This is a really good but hard series to watch. I’ve never been in a long term relationship so I’m of the mindset right now that if my bf cheats we’re done period. Idk what it’s like to have that kind of love that would make me want to work through it but y’all are strong for taking this out, especially on camera. I think it will help others hopefully deal with issues like this and communicate better. Nothing but love, peace, and healing for you guys!!!💙💙💙

  • @bryantkeith695
    @bryantkeith695 4 роки тому +12

    I view Jarius differently, but not in a bad way. By sharing their story, he seems like a more complex person, which is normal. We all have the capacity to do hurtful things. I don’t feel like cheating is right but humans do dumb things all the time. The statement “Once a cheater, always a cheater” is too black and white for real life. Some people grow. It’s not about changing, but growing. Plus, I don’t know what (if anything) Terrell has done to contribute negatively to the relationship. But let’s give them a chance to finish what they have to say. This is a series, so we haven’t gotten the full story.

  • @HectorCruzNY
    @HectorCruzNY 4 роки тому +6

    Sadly, a common case of the insecure partner setting out to do precisely what they fear most from their partner. Glad you guys worked passed it. Hope the lessons were learned.

    • @savonthomas3551
      @savonthomas3551 4 роки тому +1

      Umm, insecurity that spawned from actual cheating.

  • @donnythedasher811
    @donnythedasher811 4 роки тому +4

    How do you deal with “once a cheater always a cheater” mindset or people telling you that?

  • @garysamuelsjr
    @garysamuelsjr 4 роки тому +4

    This is amazing and I absolutely love you from the bottom of my heart for your transparency and authenticity. It is truly a privilege to be your subscriber and to know that I have people like y’all to look to for the example of true devoted, hard working dedicated love and I mean that! For real! I will never forget about y’all no matter where I go in life, y’all are my family. I pray many blessings over y’all’s lives, y’all got my heart and I have y’all’s. Thank you!

  • @latoyasmith8237
    @latoyasmith8237 4 роки тому +8

    Well, this is perhaps the part of the series you might've kept to yourselves though I applaud you for sharing it. Simply because now I look at Jarius very differently. It's one thing to have arguments in a relationship and another completely different thing to cheat as a result of it. The fact that he moves on too quickly makes me wonder what was happening before the argument. Cheating has a way of destroying trust plus the cheater is not only selfish but degrades the relationship but himself even more. Moving forward with forgiveness then the healing process Jarius has a lot of work to do. You guys will be fine

    • @jayclark8805
      @jayclark8805 4 роки тому

      It been over 5 years since it happened. Did y’all watch all the videos

    • @latoyasmith8237
      @latoyasmith8237 4 роки тому +2

      @@jayclark8805 looks like you skipped the part where Jarius only RECENTLY confessed to cheating after that argument they had.

    • @markj2595
      @markj2595 4 роки тому +2

      The Truth Nope! He recently confessed to the extent and all the details of the cheating. Again, the cheating was not just revealed that’s been mentioned a while back in a previous video. Only the details and extent of what happened by Jarius has just been stated.

    • @TandJFamily
      @TandJFamily  4 роки тому +1

      Mark J someone with sense!!! Whew, thank you Jesus for real LOYAL supporters ✊🏾

    • @latoyasmith8237
      @latoyasmith8237 4 роки тому +1

      @@TandJFamily the rest of don't have sense? yet we remain loyal supporters as we'll. Alll we do is try and interpret the information you put to us honestly and in the best way we know how.

  • @artaviusveasey7076
    @artaviusveasey7076 4 роки тому +3

    I’m soo proud of you guys journey and allowing us in to see the growth. The gift of transparency is a blessing. I pray through these tough conversations y’all have relive you are able to recognize how far you’ve come as a couple and chose to stay together through the pain. I wish peace over the both of u and may God keep you. Take care and thanks again for letting us in y’all lives. See ya next week!!

  • @dr.robertjones9624
    @dr.robertjones9624 4 роки тому +6

    Please don’t entertain what others say but learn on each other

  • @franklineonyebuchi2236
    @franklineonyebuchi2236 4 роки тому +4

    Please your kids are too adorable!, please remember your kids!

  • @dennisvega4945
    @dennisvega4945 4 роки тому +1

    POWERFUL POWERFUL POWERFUL. Thank you for your honesty & transparency. My love ,hope & prayers will be with both of you & those beautiful children

  • @tavarisclark377
    @tavarisclark377 4 роки тому +4

    This got to be hard. I thank you both for being true to yourself and to your fans. Letting us see the true T and J family. My spouse stepped out on me and Lord I just knew that was the end of the world. But my the grace of God he healed my broken heart and we are still together. Keep this series coming very interesting.

  • @LC-uz6em
    @LC-uz6em 3 роки тому +2

    Jarius you are blessed that you found someone who loves you unconditionally. I couldn't handle you and your deceptiviness. The ease in which you lash out without thinking you were/are reckless with his heart.

  • @emperor1470
    @emperor1470 4 роки тому +19

    I never understood why people get into a relationship with someone if they want to have sex with other people... it's baffling. Just be single until you truly want to commit, even if it takes you until you're 80 at least no one is being hurt.

  • @bigboii2709
    @bigboii2709 4 роки тому +2

    Y’all almost made me cry hearing this. I love y’all. I’m glad y’all are opening up to us and letting is know everybody the couple goals have real ass problems. Like I mean y’all skipped over in a video somebody stepped out and we was wondering what happened and who but to hear what happened and know it really happened breaks my heart but it also shows me that one little argument can turn into something big and me as a person that likes to get the last word and want someone to feel how I feel. This is teaching me to sometimes just let some things go not everything but because Ik me and Ik I’m the tour of person that if u make me mad I’m say things to try my best to make u feel little I should work on it and start listening and stop reacting to everything. I’m loving the open doors to yah relationship but ours still have me sad to know y’all have went thru something like this. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ y’all

  • @justicemoore807
    @justicemoore807 4 роки тому +5

    This was sooo raw & real. I love it !!! I am the type of person that idolize youtube relationships but to see this type of video really helps me understand the problems I go through are normal. You both are beautiful people ❤️ binge watching all your videos haha

  • @freedomchance9982
    @freedomchance9982 4 роки тому +3

    Such a tough video to watch, and I know it was a tough one to record. Thank you both for sharing your truth with us so we can gain some insight into our own lives. I love you two so much, and I applaud the work you are both doing in your relationship! I pray that you both continue to work on your individual wholeness as you work on your relationship. LOVE! 💜🙏🏾💜

  • @alphacharm
    @alphacharm 4 роки тому +7

    I like y’all but this is why I don’t do relationships or believe in them. I hope y’all can get through this obstacle though.💛💛💛💛

    • @bartdude82
      @bartdude82 4 роки тому

      Can you explain more on why you don't believe in them? You sure you just haven't found the right one yet?

  • @jojoradford3203
    @jojoradford3203 4 роки тому +3

    I'm very proud even though I just met you both watching the video. Despite of infidelity, I see growth, still love, forgiveness, hypocrisy, honest, raw details, and moving forward. We got to have more conversations like these in order to have a forgiving kindred relationships. Always forever be honest with realness within ourselves and others.

  • @kenroywalters3117
    @kenroywalters3117 4 роки тому +9

    Everyone deserves a second chance 💯 you guys deserve each other and I wish you guys all the best ❤️🙏🏾

  • @iamwhole8910
    @iamwhole8910 4 роки тому +7

    So crazy in heterosexual relationships if the woman cheats the man almost never stays. A lot of women will stay after being cheated on. In gay men relationships most men stay and eventually open the relationship up for more partners to varying degrees. Relationships are as complicated the people involved. Thankyou for sharing this part of your relationship, I’m sure so many people have been through similar things. There is healing in truth and sharing.

    • @savonthomas3551
      @savonthomas3551 4 роки тому +2

      I'm I'm gay and Ive been in a relationship for almost 5 years. I can tell you right now, I find out he cheating. Im not staying anywhere. I'm out. Cheating is a no go

    • @eypu999
      @eypu999 4 роки тому +1

      @@savonthomas3551 good for you

  • @BenjaminBanks615
    @BenjaminBanks615 4 роки тому +1

    This is so enlightening and I respect the transparency. I feel like so many gay male couples go thru this but don’t know how to navigate the reconciliation process. Jarius spoke the truth. I love and respect this.

  • @jayman01able
    @jayman01able 4 роки тому +2

    I just wanted to share something...One if we would think and talk before we react to issue(s)/problem(s) all relationship would be better, second understand that anything that you do outside of your marriage and or relationship will always cause someone to react, and last to you Jarius don't let that mistake have power over you and your actions. If Terrell has forgiven you then forgive yourself. You can not hold on to stuff like that and move forward at the same time. Just some words from a GBM who has been married for 15 years and together for 22 with the same man. Stand on the love you two share!!!!!

  • @j0hn0nah
    @j0hn0nah 4 роки тому +3

    ❤❤❤❤❤ Brave and strong men! Sending love and forgiveness to your family. Terrell has such a kind heart. Kudos to Jarius for coming clean. May your home grow ever stronger.

  • @greaterlove8349
    @greaterlove8349 4 роки тому +3

    Yeah it sucks to be cheated on but at least he is man enough to admit that he was solely wrong and ask for your forgiveness. I know you wont ever forget but you seem like a person with a big enough heart to forgive and move ahead. PRAYING THAT YOUR FAMILY ALWAYS STAY TOGETHER.

  • @otinothomas5791
    @otinothomas5791 4 роки тому +10

    How do you trust him after all of that

  • @cliffordjones9399
    @cliffordjones9399 4 роки тому +2

    There is no correct way to handle or react to the news that your Husband/Partner has cheated on you. You both must decide if your relationship is worth saving. Jarius will need to earn back Terrell's trust. Terrell with need to honestly decide if he can forgive Jarius. You guys have tripped me out with this very raw discussion of your past. I give you a lot of respect for your honesty. I am happy to see you are working through this. All relationships have their issues. But you are the ones that will decide how you will let those issues affect your relationship. Wishing you strength and love.

  • @preciouscannes
    @preciouscannes 4 роки тому +21

    Imaging working late on your birthday. Coming home. Finding doors locked. Getting to the master bedroom and I cant get in. Once the door was opened, Honey child, Condom wrappers on the floor and an unknown Guest. Shattered !!! Only thing I said was, pack your things, Im breaking the lease tomorrow. BOOM... I don't play...

    • @ReggiesWorld
      @ReggiesWorld 4 роки тому +3

      Damn 😢🤬

    • @preciouscannes
      @preciouscannes 4 роки тому +5

      We Live And Learn

    • @JulieJSchmidt
      @JulieJSchmidt 4 роки тому +4

      That happen to me on my birthday too. Except she and him didnt use condoms. I was divorced 65 days later!

    • @preciouscannes
      @preciouscannes 4 роки тому +2

      Good riddance to bad rubbish....

    • @TheRenegadeStarr
      @TheRenegadeStarr 3 роки тому

      You and I are the same, boom, done, nothing to talk about, ending it.

  • @lemisejaheim8
    @lemisejaheim8 4 роки тому +1

    I really appreciate you guys sharing the past with us,👏🏾👏🏾you guys can overcome anything, I love you guys.

  • @BkWellness
    @BkWellness 4 роки тому

    Emotional maturity and forgiveness are not easy. Thank you both for sharing your story; it's important to remember the struggle AND successes in our relationships. It takes work and your openness to share bits of your journey is refreshing.

  • @ackeeandsaltfishh
    @ackeeandsaltfishh 3 роки тому +4

    That was pretty intense. Thanks for sharing. It's great that you guys are doing the work that needs to be done to heal.❤🏳️‍🌈

    • @lenoz_bank9539
      @lenoz_bank9539 3 роки тому

      *I decided to write about how effective my channel is at hacking smart phones without the owner knowing and I strongly recommend them to everyone in all honesty*

  • @skeewee-c6206
    @skeewee-c6206 3 роки тому +3

    Wow 😳 thanks for sharing. I can’t believe that I actually understand both of your perspectives. Usually things are black or white for me but not this time.

  • @So.avant.garde1
    @So.avant.garde1 4 роки тому +2

    I love y’all dudes for your honesty. In all of your videos. I know this is hard to do, but I personally, really appreciate it. It helps me figure out a few things in my own life. 😘

  • @anthonyprather1670
    @anthonyprather1670 4 роки тому +2

    This a very beautiful representation of love! This is adulting, at its best!
    I applaud you both for your transparency. ❤️

  • @sarah73235
    @sarah73235 4 роки тому +9

    He was living a double life and a big argument is not an excuse for you to cheat unless you had planned it that way. Am pissed😡😡

    • @maomao8410
      @maomao8410 4 роки тому +4

      Thank you soo much🙏

  • @duwarrendukes852
    @duwarrendukes852 4 роки тому +4

    With my little experience in life I have found being in Love with someone is so one sided

  • @kimisshecandles
    @kimisshecandles 3 роки тому

    Thanks for sharing your most personal, intimate moments. You live and learn. Its big of you to apologize, and bigger of you to accept and move on!

  • @shea82
    @shea82 4 роки тому +1

    My favs this is deep. I will say this you are building a foundation on so many levels. Keep at it, I truly see that the love is there. At the end of the day DO NOT I MEAN DO NOT let these miserable folks in the comments disrupt y’all peace. They wish they had someone to be this transparent with they ass. Not only apologize but also taking the necessary actions to change. Value what you got, ain’t nothing left out here. Grass is not greener, water the grass you got. Peace, love and understanding brothers. 🙌🏿❤️❤️

  • @ifyn7621
    @ifyn7621 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you for sharing this painful part of your past. Are you in couples counselling? I think it would help in healing the past and building a stronger future.❤️

  • @ChristopherDJones-mw9xi
    @ChristopherDJones-mw9xi 4 роки тому +3

    Awe I love yall transparency I'm over here ballin out my eyes

  • @DaisyKayBirch
    @DaisyKayBirch 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much guys 💜💜 Rolemodeling like U do saves lives & strengthens everyone. Both choosing to take the high road, again & again. A Persian saying goes: I CUT this thread btwn U & Me; we re-tie it, and, we're closer. 🌿💚🌿

  • @jaihsorty22
    @jaihsorty22 4 роки тому +1

    I just want to thank both of you for being so transparent in your journey It’s refreshing to see a couple being so open and honest I really appreciate it and it is helping me to deal with a lot of issues from my past relationship and marriage that ended in divorce so I’m rooting for you guys and I am praying for you and again thank you

  • @debramack5712
    @debramack5712 4 роки тому +1

    I can remember when I was sitting in that same space Terrell. For the life of me I never hurt so bad. Like you I had to go through all the emotions and come out on the other side of it. OMG I made it and the strength that I have today is because of the pain that I had to work through. Jarius your strength for Terrell to work through the hurt and the pain and allowing him to feel whatever it is he needs to feel will allow you both to find peace with each other. Love you both.

  • @psims8744
    @psims8744 4 роки тому +2

    WOW! Thank you for sharing...I can’t imagine that was an easy thing to do. This has made me think about how I handle situations when “in a relationship”. Glad you guys have worked through it or are working through it! #poweroflove ❤️✊🏽

  • @antoniodjones
    @antoniodjones 3 роки тому +1

    Someone needed to hear this. This is therapeutic for you guys. I'm glad you survived the seemingly, unsurvivable. I bid you guys well in your relationship...keep being transparent, communicate the tough stuff, and love like it is NOBODY'S fucking business!!!! I LOVE YA'LL LOVE...and the beautiful kids...

  • @antoniowilliams756
    @antoniowilliams756 2 роки тому +2

    I personally went through this with my ex…he actually told me I was convenient after I asked why are we still here if we’re not going to become official!!??!’ It was games but I wish thing’s were this pure

  • @Yuena
    @Yuena 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you guys for being so open with us. We don't deserve y'all!! You guys are both human and people need to remember that. Can't wait to see you guys in NYC again soon!! Or BALIIII!!!

  • @iAmaze87
    @iAmaze87 2 роки тому +7

    Amazing strength. I’m humbled. I’ve been there. Ty for sharing that there is hope on the other side of hurt.

  • @curtiswilliams7306
    @curtiswilliams7306 4 роки тому +4

    I have questions.
    If you two decided to break up, how is it cheating? Did you both have an understanding that the breakup was temporary? Did you both agree to be exclusive although you were not together? At what point does someone mean what they say? Because I am a person that I generally mean what I say. So, were you both just saying things to hurt each other? Furthermore, despite how Terrell felt, why is it okay to fight with someone else since the two of you were on a break? The third party had no commitment to you. Okay, he was in your class, but T &J made promises to each other. The third party was acting under the guise that Jarius was not partnered due to the breakup, and thus, he was fair game, so why should he catch a beatdown?
    Also, I do not like lying and try to avoid it. So, if I am asked about something by my boyfriend, I will be truthful. When Jarius admitted the truth, Terrell took it as though he said it like it was nothing. So, was Terrell's issue the way Jarius admitted it, that it was done nonchalantly? If more remorse was shown, would it have softened the blow? How could he have administered the truth better? Do you think honesty is best, even when it may hurt the other person?
    Thanks for sharing your wisdom.