It's thanks to people like Jess, who stick their head above the parapet, that positive change can happen. A brave and powerful talk spoken right from the heart.
I was 14 when a man grabbed my chest on street and I was alone I was so scared 😭😭 but now it been 1 year I am 15 but now I was so scared to go anywhere alone 😟it's not good please stop this
i understand your fear, when i was 7 i was in a bathroom with two girls and they did things to me i didnt want to happen, they told me they would continue if i ever told anyone so a kept quite, i never told anyone and i will never tell anyone, i was horrified since that day so i understand your fear. I hope you overcome it❣️
I’m so so sorry this happened to you. You are not alone and that is not your fault. The world we are living in has people who are so disconnected and messed up. I’m older than you and I hope that maybe I change the world and you can to do that future generations of women can walk freely in a world of men that love them and are connected to them. I understand your pain. 🧡💗🧡 Billions and billions of people in this world know exactly how you feel 🧡💗🧡💗 and we’re here with you
I am sorry for what women and girls go through on the streets as a man i stand by you to make Change happen and by also calling out other men's behaviour.
Are you sorry 😔 when it's a man being harassed because let me tell you it happens to men as well, I am extremely attractive and it happens to me all the time by both men and women ok, I cringe every time I go out side, believe me it's not easy for me ok
In an environment where the morning news regularly makes my tummy flip with anxiety at what this world will look like in the next decade and how seemingly helpless we are to stop it on a tangible scale, it is talks like these that make the hairs on the back of my neck stand up with hope. This next generation of women are out to change the world - and I hope we let them. Talks like this make me feel like there is a corner ahead that we didn't know was there - that there is still opportunity for change. For more. For better. "Strong women: may we be them, may we know them, may we raise them." Hats off to you Jess. You are a WARRIOR!
all true, but honestly I found this a bit preachy. this issue is so scary and not something we can girl-boss our way out of by talking about equality and saying 'our bodies belong to us'. I appreciate her intention and confidence, and it's good that she's opening a conversation on this topic, but sometime I would actually love to hear more input on this from a man - to know that they recognise that though it's to do with the culture as a whole, it's really down to them to help to police this creepy behaviour on a smaller scale ie. when their friends and classmates/coworkers do it. Or it would be good to hear from someone with a psychology or sociology background who could explain why this behaviour even happens. all too often men only realise that harassment and sexism is terrible when they have a daughter of their own
Let me tell you some more examples that happened in our past; in the later periods of Ottoman empire, the empire was suffering, there was a family, a high class one, and two little girls, taking high and qualified educations, miss İhsan Raif and her sister Belkız, one day a man at the age of 40 or so, secretly took help from the workers of the house and tried to kidnapp İhsan Raif, the girls started to scream out loud and the man ran away. Their father was sooo mad and angry, "his honor was ruined because of his daughter" and İhsan Raif was ONLY 13! He made up his mind, she had to marry her attacker!!! At the age of 13!!!!...In the end she divorced her husband and made her last marriage. She wrote songs, poems, she supported the Independence War in Turkey.
What should bystanders do in such a situation? I am a dude who never has encountered something similar but I want to be ready in case I see something happening.
Appreciate you wanna do something about it you must tell the harasser that harrasing doesnt make them look cool if they understand it in few words fine otherwise report it to cops whatever you witness but you may not want to reveal your identity thats totally fine
The second one was from Eastern Anatolia, Urfa. Her name was Ünzile, she was married to her cousin Ali, they were both forced when they were at the age of 8 and 14, if you live in Eastern Anatolia or Southeastern Anatolia, you have to live by the rules called Töre! If you refuse these rules, you'll get killed! When Ünzile was 12 this couple had two babies! Ali was so nice to his wife, against all the strict life and Harrasment in both of their families, he stood up for her, protected her. She had to live like a woman at the age of 40! Ali was against taking a second wife, so they had 8 kids. Because of their ages, they had to go to hospital at the time of pandemic. Both of them are still mad at their parents. Now she is at the age of 30! A songwriter met this woman and dedicated a song to her and all the child brides...
The one time at Christmas, one of my uncles was talking about how he and his guy friends one time went in a sauna, walked out in the middle of winter in only a towel, got on their skidoos and raced to the end of the lake. I responded, wow! must be nice too be men! Imagine If it was young women acting that way? The responses would probably have been more along the lines of what a bunch of sl*ts! That's so irresponsible! And they're 'asking for it." That's what you call male privilege.
Here is a piece of advice men also are harassed by both men and women it happens to me all the time,im exceedingly handsome man and believe me this type of thing does not just happen to women,i have been followed by both men and women at store and in the streets all the time i have been catcalled repeatedly but I don't see these liberal people women who don't talk about it, but when it's a woman then they have something to say about it, men and women it should not matter harassment is wrong period ok
For those showering praise here in the comments...what will you teach your daughters about real world situations ?...where you can’t count on every man being honorable...ever..Because however bad you want things to change, acting as if Your desires will make it so, and going forth into the big bad world with that theory tucked under your arm is folly
@@yupitsjoe7113 no? Teaching women to be afraid wont fix it. Men need to learn to not harass people. You dont teach people not to be abused, you teach people to not abuse. This is some victim blaming bs.
I think men should embrace this ridiculousness. Don't talk to them, don't open doors..don't even acknowledge them. Women practically kill themselves for attention. And giving them what they claim they want here, across the board would drive them insane.
@@sarahsteingruber7173 If what I proposed occurred women wouldn't be objectified (which happens to men all the time) She wouldn't have to worry about some guy staring at her, asking for her phone number. She can enjoy being left alone & receive attention from women. At the very least approach men if interested. But that rarely happens because women don't like to take risk or have to deal with any rejection in life.
@@rabbitskipper4454 No, if men didn't objectify women, women wouldn't be objectified. This is not difficult to understand. If men stop staring at women, if they stop asking strangers for their phone numbers and actually leave women alone, then women wouldn't have to worry or experience anxiety about male predators. This has nothing to do with women not wanting to take risks or deal with rejection. And women are not attention seekers, if that were the case, women would be street harassing men to get their attention. The majority of women just want to be able to go about their lives without men making comment or grabbing their bodies. It would be very refreshing if men could just shut up and respect this wish. You think you are making some kind of point here that needs to be shared. You do not. In this conversation, what you need to do is this: Ask the women you know if this has happened to them, ask them how it makes them feel. Actually listen to what they say. Don't tell them what they need to do differently. Then go to the men in your life and tell them to stop doing this. It's not a matter of stopping acknowledging women, it's acknowledging them more with respect - by respecting their space, their feelings, their dignity and respecting them as human beings.
@@sarahsteingruber7173 You do realize this is not a women's only issue right? And second when has it ever been wrong to admire a women's front or behind!
Sarah Steingrüber I know lots of guys who wouldn’t have met their girlfriends and wives if they didn’t go up and approach them in the street and ask for their number.
It's thanks to people like Jess, who stick their head above the parapet, that positive change can happen. A brave and powerful talk spoken right from the heart.
I was 14 when a man grabbed my chest on street and I was alone I was so scared 😭😭 but now it been 1 year I am 15 but now I was so scared to go anywhere alone 😟it's not good please stop this
i understand your fear, when i was 7 i was in a bathroom with two girls and they did things to me i didnt want to happen, they told me they would continue if i ever told anyone so a kept quite, i never told anyone and i will never tell anyone, i was horrified since that day so i understand your fear. I hope you overcome it❣️
I’m so so sorry this happened to you. You are not alone and that is not your fault. The world we are living in has people who are so disconnected and messed up. I’m older than you and I hope that maybe I change the world and you can to do that future generations of women can walk freely in a world of men that love them and are connected to them. I understand your pain. 🧡💗🧡 Billions and billions of people in this world know exactly how you feel 🧡💗🧡💗 and we’re here with you
Very well put. No excuses for those who perpetuate unequal gender power dynamics in the name of a toxic form of masculinity
You are AMAZING. This talk makes me so proud to be a women. Onwards and upwards for us💘 So very proud of you Jess xx
Jessica Pepperell this means so much to me! You are an amazing young woman 🌼
You're pathetic
@@claytontrubee589 i don't like her comment but why is this commentor pathetic?
Awesome talk, well done Jess. Keep up the good work and speak it as it is.
I am sorry for what women and girls go through on the streets as a man i stand by you to make Change happen and by also calling out other men's behaviour.
Are you sorry 😔 when it's a man being harassed because let me tell you it happens to men as well, I am extremely attractive and it happens to me all the time by both men and women ok, I cringe every time I go out side, believe me it's not easy for me ok
Don't you understand? They don't want you to stand by them. That's harassment. Stand some place else.
@@felixmidas2020 I do get your point on some level, you have to be careful, there is no misunderstanding
Jess, this made my heart swell everytime I saw it, and still does. You are a WONDER!
In an environment where the morning news regularly makes my tummy flip with anxiety at what this world will look like in the next decade and how seemingly helpless we are to stop it on a tangible scale, it is talks like these that make the hairs on the back of my neck stand up with hope.
This next generation of women are out to change the world - and I hope we let them. Talks like this make me feel like there is a corner ahead that we didn't know was there - that there is still opportunity for change. For more. For better.
"Strong women: may we be them, may we know them, may we raise them."
Hats off to you Jess. You are a WARRIOR!
Rosie Hawkins this means so much!! Thankyou ✨✨
I don’t even remember how many times i have been harassed and embarrassed…being a woman is extremely difficult…😣
Anya I understand you but we are changing things for better. We have this potential. Harassers will be cut out more and more 💪🏻😉
I hope my girls are as strong as you are Jess, thank you
Boom! Powerful message from the beating heart of humanity. Thank you
This girl is amazing
all true, but honestly I found this a bit preachy. this issue is so scary and not something we can girl-boss our way out of by talking about equality and saying 'our bodies belong to us'. I appreciate her intention and confidence, and it's good that she's opening a conversation on this topic, but sometime I would actually love to hear more input on this from a man - to know that they recognise that though it's to do with the culture as a whole, it's really down to them to help to police this creepy behaviour on a smaller scale ie. when their friends and classmates/coworkers do it. Or it would be good to hear from someone with a psychology or sociology background who could explain why this behaviour even happens. all too often men only realise that harassment and sexism is terrible when they have a daughter of their own
So much admiration for this young woman
No one should be harassed on the street Women or Men!!!
Let me tell you some more examples that happened in our past; in the later periods of Ottoman empire, the empire was suffering, there was a family, a high class one, and two little girls, taking high and qualified educations, miss İhsan Raif and her sister Belkız, one day a man at the age of 40 or so, secretly took help from the workers of the house and tried to kidnapp İhsan Raif, the girls started to scream out loud and the man ran away. Their father was sooo mad and angry, "his honor was ruined because of his daughter" and İhsan Raif was ONLY 13! He made up his mind, she had to marry her attacker!!! At the age of 13!!!!...In the end she divorced her husband and made her last marriage. She wrote songs, poems, she supported the Independence War in Turkey.
Brilliant and eye opening talk
Incredible x
Need more voices like this. NOW.
What should bystanders do in such a situation? I am a dude who never has encountered something similar but I want to be ready in case I see something happening.
Appreciate you wanna do something about it you must tell the harasser that harrasing doesnt make them look cool if they understand it in few words fine otherwise report it to cops whatever you witness but you may not want to reveal your identity thats totally fine
This helped me to understand that I'm not aloun with these thinks and it's not my fault.
legendary talk.
You give me courage 🙌
Powerful words ! ❤
It's not a problem just as long as men look but don't touch. Then if they do, they deserve to be prosecuted.
The second one was from Eastern Anatolia, Urfa. Her name was Ünzile, she was married to her cousin Ali, they were both forced when they were at the age of 8 and 14, if you live in Eastern Anatolia or Southeastern Anatolia, you have to live by the rules called Töre! If you refuse these rules, you'll get killed! When Ünzile was 12 this couple had two babies! Ali was so nice to his wife, against all the strict life and Harrasment in both of their families, he stood up for her, protected her. She had to live like a woman at the age of 40! Ali was against taking a second wife, so they had 8 kids. Because of their ages, they had to go to hospital at the time of pandemic. Both of them are still mad at their parents. Now she is at the age of 30! A songwriter met this woman and dedicated a song to her and all the child brides...
The one time at Christmas, one of my uncles was talking about how he and his guy friends one time went in a sauna, walked out in the middle of winter in only a towel, got on their skidoos and raced to the end of the lake. I responded, wow! must be nice too be men! Imagine If it was young women acting that way? The responses would probably have been more along the lines of what a bunch of sl*ts! That's so irresponsible! And they're 'asking for it." That's what you call male privilege.
Jess i love it!
Hi name buddy.Really good speech !! Such a meaningful message.
Incredible!
Amazing!!!!
Don’t do it !!!!!!!
It's not ok yeah
we knew 25 unlikes was the one who harassing
Were u in a rough neighborhood?? Thank God I didnt go through this but just got stinking comments instead.
Here is a piece of advice men also are harassed by both men and women it happens to me all the time,im exceedingly handsome man and believe me this type of thing does not just happen to women,i have been followed by both men and women at store and in the streets all the time i have been catcalled repeatedly but I don't see these liberal people women who don't talk about it, but when it's a woman then they have something to say about it, men and women it should not matter harassment is wrong period ok
For those showering praise here in the comments...what will you teach your daughters about real world situations ?...where you can’t count on every man being honorable...ever..Because however bad you want things to change, acting as if Your desires will make it so, and going forth into the big bad world with that theory tucked under your arm is folly
Thank you for being one of the only people to bring this up.
@@yupitsjoe7113 no? Teaching women to be afraid wont fix it. Men need to learn to not harass people. You dont teach people not to be abused, you teach people to not abuse. This is some victim blaming bs.
Men should learn the lessons and not women.
For real inspiration young women of today and tomorrow...watch listen to Camille Paglia....
Does anyone know her @ ?
Instagram is @jesssjleigh (3 s’s) ahah x
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I bet the woman giving this talk has a boyfriend LOOOOL. The hypocrisy is real.
she has a gf
I think men should embrace this ridiculousness. Don't talk to them, don't open doors..don't even acknowledge them. Women practically kill themselves for attention. And giving them what they claim they want here, across the board would drive them insane.
Your comment is not helpful.
@@sarahsteingruber7173 If what I proposed occurred women wouldn't be objectified (which happens to men all the time) She wouldn't have to worry about some guy staring at her, asking for her phone number. She can enjoy being left alone & receive attention from women. At the very least approach men if interested. But that rarely happens because women don't like to take risk or have to deal with any rejection in life.
@@rabbitskipper4454 No, if men didn't objectify women, women wouldn't be objectified. This is not difficult to understand.
If men stop staring at women, if they stop asking strangers for their phone numbers and actually leave women alone, then women wouldn't have to worry or experience anxiety about male predators.
This has nothing to do with women not wanting to take risks or deal with rejection. And women are not attention seekers, if that were the case, women would be street harassing men to get their attention.
The majority of women just want to be able to go about their lives without men making comment or grabbing their bodies. It would be very refreshing if men could just shut up and respect this wish.
You think you are making some kind of point here that needs to be shared. You do not. In this conversation, what you need to do is this:
Ask the women you know if this has happened to them, ask them how it makes them feel. Actually listen to what they say. Don't tell them what they need to do differently. Then go to the men in your life and tell them to stop doing this.
It's not a matter of stopping acknowledging women, it's acknowledging them more with respect - by respecting their space, their feelings, their dignity and respecting them as human beings.
@@sarahsteingruber7173 You do realize this is not a women's only issue right? And second when has it ever been wrong to admire a women's front or behind!
Sarah Steingrüber I know lots of guys who wouldn’t have met their girlfriends and wives if they didn’t go up and approach them in the street and ask for their number.