Such a helpful video! I’m a 58 yr old that just bought a 20 yr old Tennessee Walker. I’m an animal lover and in less than 2 weeks, we have really bonded! He loves when I snuggle his head and kiss him. Such a sweet boy! Only rode him once (waiting for tack), but going tomorrow for a private lesson. We’re just 2 old folks learning about each other together. I think he’s going to teach me how to ride him! Now if I could just master mounting! I’m SO out of shape! 🤦🏻♀️💪🏽🐎
Wonderful! Thank you for giving that senior a good home, most people don't understand that with proper care, they make fantastic calm, relaxed and bomb-proof riding companions for years. Best of luck to you both!
@Reez Gerarddo it! Same here. Have had them before and quickly found that there is nothing like the smell and affection of a horse. So many need good homes, so you'd be doing both of you a favor! 😊👍🏼
I'm turning 60 in November, and my husband is 64. We are currently working on putting up fence posts, and once completed have two Rocky Mountain gaited horses coming. I had a horse when I was 12, and have been around horses a little bit here and there over the years, but don't really know how to ride well. And I'm out of shape too. We'll have to encourage each other. Enjoy! ♥️
I have ptsd. I had a opportunity to volunteer to work with horses recently and it changed something in me. I never imagined i would shovel shit for free but i found a peace in it. That opportunity is gone. Watching you videos at least helps me hold on to that peace in a way, I truly thank you for that.
After my gelding passed away , I bought a new mare as my main riding horse . Of course 3 days later a huge snow storm had to come through and destroy our barn and fence. So i had to board my 2 mares (new mare and retired mare) in those 2 months they were boarded, I was able to gain massive trust with the new mare because she knew I would be there every single day at 5:00 pm to feed and groom her. And once she moved back home, it was the easiest transition i have ever seen a horse have. and i think that is owed to the fact that i made sure i was her constant , no matter how much she moved around (at just 11 i was her 7th home, everyone gave up on her) she knew i would always be there. And all those people who gave up on her, were so wrong. Because just one year later, she is now a hell of a barrel horse. DONT GIVE UP
Ahhh so when I wanted my horse Millie to trust me more I would go in the roundpen and let her graze and I was told: pick grass with her. I was like ‘what’🤠. My instructor was like “you heard me, get down on the floor near her and pick the grass”. I was like ‘uhhh okay’. What I came to learn though is that this is just how horses learn to trust eachother so buy mimicking her eating and pretending to eat with her we were building trust. She was actually circling me quite a bit until she got bored and went to the edge of the roundpen for the longer grass. Ahhh I love that horse. She thinks with her stomach and I love that about her.
My daughter just started taking riding lessons and we have found this channel very informative and encouraging. Really like these videos, we've subscribed! :)
I love that you focused on the importance of undemanding time with your horse. I have had my mare for 10 years, and our journey together has been challenging and uplifting. Balancing undemanding time with ground work and riding was the key to unlocking her curiosity, trust, affection and respect. Great video!!!!
Just my opinion, my horse is amazing. If another horse is giving me trouble, he comes and runs the horse to the barn and looks to me for appraisal. One day, he did this out of the blue when I was having trouble out of a young mare and has done it ever since I praised him for the action. Note: My horse does not do the groundwork. My horse is desensitized to new things often. He is calm and looks to me for advice in almost every situation. My horse and I accomplished this relationship by spending time together. When I first got him, he was already ten years old. He had been broke and ridden but not for several years. There was some slight abuse also. I would go every day and brush him, talk to him, and just sit in the barn with him to do my homework. At first, he was jumpy with new sounds or quick movements but soon learned that I was only there to love him and hitch a ride. So, my opinion and advice are to gain your horse's trust, respect, and companionship, you MUST spend time with them. Learn how they communicate with you and allow them to learn the same from you. Be patient and always stay calm. Every horse is different, just like humans. You have to build a bond by getting to know each other. Horses do not dislike people, they just need time to learn that they can like you. BTW, they are amazing for making a bad mood good. Your videos are so helpful and I hope you continue to make them.
I am currently struggling with trust and respect with my horse. It's gotten worse since I broke my ankle in Dec from a fall while mounting (she bolted while I was mounting - didnt know my saddle tree had broken and was causing her pain). I cant wait to get to the barn tomorrow and do groundwork! I never realized how important groundwork was. I am a fairly new horse owner
So sorry you broke your ankle! I've had falls that shattered my confidence; it is really all about just getting back out there. Groundwork is a great place to start and to help get your confidence back! I hope it goes well!
Check out Tao of Horsemanship channel. She is the best I ever seen and has hundreds of training videos available. Caroline Beste will win your heart as easily as she does all her animals. Liberty training, horse pilates, and everything else you ever wanted to know is available from a true guru. Enjoy!
1. Spend time with your horse: brushing, petting their face, graze and hang out, leading, play in the ring, talking to them, feeding. 2. Groundwork: spend time "face to face," establishes you as leader, teach pressure/release. 3. Being assertive: gently , fairly, consistently asking for what you want. 4. Work on Desensitizing. 5. Be aware of your emotions: be calm.
I had Cruz at a full service barn for the first two months, then moved him to a place where he has a huge pasture but I feed and clean up after him myself. We’ve been there four months now and it’s made a huge, positive difference in our relationship!
Great video. I found that the pasture horses I care for respond to their “special time”. Just one on one brushing, removing burrs from their tail and main, talking. They get to where they look forward to their time. I do this each morning and evening after breakfast and dinner. This is a good time to check for damage or injuries like hood splits etc. I also like to just sit on the bench near them and watch the sunset. We all seem to enjoy that quality time.
Your tutorial videos are just great. I’m learning so much from you and Warwick Schiller. I don’t own a horse, but I’ve managed to unofficially buddy-up with a beautiful bay mare 🐴 . I don’t know her name or the owners, but she’s out there in a paddock with her boyfriend (maybe gelded but I don’t know). They were a pair until someone added another mare. I’m going to call her Shirley, because she surely is good for my soul. I just have to go to the fence line and she’ll saunter across to greet me. She’s very communicative and gentle. I guess I’m more interesting than the boring paddock 24/7. I give her a good rub and scratch. I massage her face and pull her ears a little. Scratch behind the ears, forehead rub. Cup her muzzle and nose gently and on occasion give her a carrot 🥕 or apple 🍎 . Weird thing is, she can’t seem to hold and manipulate the apple in her mouth. She always drops it as if she can’t hold it in her mouth. Maybe her teeth aren’t sharp enough. Carrots are cheaper and are easy to feed her. I always make sure her paddock partners 🐎 get their fair share of carrots 🥕 and apples 🍎. Can’t leave them out. They’ve also become more interested since they seem to know Shirley trusts me. The other horses are more sociable now. You can even detect some jealousy from the other horses from their body language. They definitely have words with one another. Shirley is definitely a softie.
I love your videos. This summer while it's been so hot I have walked my horse daily and I do feel like we have a better bond and she respects me more. I enjoy this time as much as riding. She actually meets me at the gate and lowers her head for the halter.
I'm so greatful for your videos. When I was a young child my older sister worked at a horse farm with mostly retired race horses with behavioral issues. These are the only horses I have ever been around. Most have never seen a child . Anyway I was conditioned to fear them. And now as an adult I still do. I understand those horses are not the norm and want to overcome this conditioning so I figured start over like I haven't been taught anything. But this hasn't stopped the anxiety I feel around them yet. I figure learning to read there body language will help alot. So I'm so very thankful you make these.
I always loved talking to horses, telling them how special they are, asking for their help and understanding……many’s the time I would ask them how they’re feeling and love being close.
My favourite horse at the barn (I take lessons) was (apparently) hit by a few girls one or two years ago. Before that (I wouldn’t know I didn’t know him back then) he was very nice and social but now he’ll try to bite or walk away as soon as you get close to him. He’s really a great horse and he’s so nice most of the time, but when I put the bridle on to brush or tack him up, he tries to bite. He (most of the time) hates being pet on his face, it could be bc that’s where the girls hit him. I love him and I don’t want him to be scared and unhappy.
I think I have a pretty close, trusting relationship with my gelding Diesel. We sometimes have to work on the respect factor, but he definitely knows I'm his mom and caretaker. He knows the sound of my car when I drive up the driveway of his boarding farm. I can call out the window to him and he whinnies in response. He generally will come to his run-in shed when I call him. One time he was waaay out in his field, and I called, and he came cantering through the field to me. I've also trained him to go around his run-in shed to meet me at the gate (it helps to have a food/treat motivated horse). Part of our trust-building came from really listening and paying attention to him. Sometimes he gets fidgety in the cross-ties. Rather than disciplining him, I try to figure out what's making him fidget: a fly on his belly, an itch on his hind leg, needing to pee (he only pees in the grass), etc. Like you said, you have to spend time with your horse, not just riding, but bonding time. If they associate you only with work, they won't trust you as much.
There was this one grey mare named Cloud at the stable that I volunteer at and when I would open the gait and latch it she would always come walking or troting up to me she was always the first pony to come up and say hi to me and I would say hi to her and start walking through the paddock to say hi to my other pony friend Glory and Cloud would always be right at my side or right behind me following me to where Glory was. One of my favorite memories of Cloud was when my brothers were at the barn with me and we were all hanging out in the paddock Glory and I were at the hay box and Cloud and my brothers were at the corner of the paddock looking for stuff in the dirt so the boys were on their heals and Cloud was right in between and every time one of the boys picked up their finging Cloud would sniff it as if to "approve" it was adorable to see how the three of them got a long really well. Note: I let my brothers do that because I trusted cloud enough because cloud had such a calm nature and she was super curious and adventurous so I had no problem with them doing that
I just have to subscribe to your channel. I really like how down to earth you are. Im from Denmark and I have a danish oldenborg. She was straight up dangerous when I got her about 3 years ago but now she's my angel. I was just being with her to gain her trust.
Your posts are the best on youtube, you don't know how much you helped me.. I am a green rider, I am following all your instructions.. it is helping me tremendously.. Thank you
Love your video about trust and being a friend with your horse. I have had my buddy Beau for about 2years or so we have become friends and your right doing all kinds of different things with him really makes the him want to be with me. We are so much happier now . Thank-you for the time you take to do your videos.
I also wanted to ask a question. When i volunteered perhaps four times to clean stalls just to be around the horses i had something special happen. I'm sure people on here can explain it to me and its probably my ignorance. The horse that I was told was the crazy dangerous one, well we bonded. I never felt threatened by her. She showed me more love that many people i have met. I don't do social stuff because i'm a recluse.
I love your outlook! I’ve been doing most of these things with my lease horse for 6 months now and it’s been going very well ❤ in fact I can’t wait to see him today 😍
OMG thank you all the videos and helpful advice. I don't really think, judging from the videos that Tucker ever not trust you. You two are such great team
The only horse I know is an older fleabit mare in a pasture along the bikepath, and if I stop she will come over to the fence and socialize. That's pretty cool! I'd like to know more about how Scarlett communicates, and these videos are great.
We have a lot of horses at are barn but there is this one mini that doesn’t trust ANYONE she has been abused all the way up to the time to when we got her about 15 or more years later and I’m watching a lot of these to help her try to trust me thank you!
Good vid 👍 I just started working at horse stables I do the cleaning and feeding for about 150 horses and they all have different personalities they're like huge dogs and some of them are pretty scary so I need them to trust me and I need to be comfortable with them
ONE OTHER THING Carmella...I just had a week of being very frustrated and not wanting to go back (of course I was going back), but that in itself can really shake your confidence, motivation, and enjoyment with your horse. Could you potentially do a video on that subject?
I had trouble focusing on your lesson because I could take my eyes off of your gorgeous hair! Oh my goodness, my dream hair that I’ll never have. How, how could you have cut it? Loved the lesson… love the hair! Thanks
Wow,, so much great help, education ,,trust and communication comes before riding. No one else ever establishes all this important teaching and how to,, so nicely. Do you give personal lessons. Appears you are in PA.
Hi I am a complete beginner with horse riding and tommorow is my first horse riding lesson eek I'm so excited!! Equine Helper are you a teacher or something
Thank this video is very helpful I'm trying to train a Spanish barb And have been getting her to trust me , she really loves to be brushed and scratched for sure .❤ so thank you this was really helpful .
I have never had room for a horse but recently I was given a 18-21 year old gelding (that acts like he is 10) and he stays at my friends house. I fell in love with him the very FIRST time I saw him, even though I wasn't the one riding him, well turns out he is the leader of his 5 horse herd, and he has sweet itch, so he is a little more expensive than the others, he has to have a fly sheet and he ends up destroying them, he has to have a fly mask, just got him a new one, he needs monthly kenalog shot, and he has to have NEEM spray, my mom now asks me why I chose the special horses all the time (he is also very stubborn) 😂 I tell her that I can't control the feelings of the heart 🤣
I agree with all your points here, but I would like to add (from experience)that another trust and bonding exercise is taking your horse swimming)horses are naturally great swimmers, and if you swim next to them and on their backs, it's such a tangible and blessed exercise that you can do together ❤)...obviously, always make sure that the water you chose is safe, preferably water that has running streams through it, or soft waves, never swim in standing, stagnant water (harmful parasites live in such water)...anyway, from my personal experience, water and swimming is a very effective way to not only bond with your horse, but also is a tool to get a horse comfortable with you being on his, or her back 🥰
I've had my wild mare for about 4 months and she has been doing super well. I can brush her, she moves around a lot. Mind you, she has never been around people before. She follows me when I'm out in the pasture with her and she snickers for me when I drive home. She ABSOLUTELY HATES her face being touched, she has never bit or stomped at me, but she does toss her head around when I go to touch her. She is a huge dork who wants to eat everything in sight no matter how well I'm feeding her. I'm talking fence posts, lead ropes. E V E R Y T H I N G. It's hilarious. I have a 130 pound boxer pattie mix who thinks she is a dog and he wants to play. She looks at him like he's the stupidest thing the world (he is lol). I also have an outside cat who'd scared of the big, bad, fluff butt mare and all my mare wants is to be her bestest friend. She's like "I jUsT wAnT tO lOvE yOu! CoMe BaCk!" Lol haha
I really like your videos. Thank you for making them. I seem to be on a journey of learning with a very smart, independent minded mare and I guess I don't have sense enough to give up. Lol. I really love this adorable mare and so I guess we will be learning together. I'm not very confident with mares like her. She is a naturally dominant lead mare type, so I guess I will be learning a lot. Thank you for helping me with your videos.
Thank you for this❤️ I recently started training my trainers new horse who was abused and has 0 trust for humans. It’s been about 6 months and I can barely get his bridle on without him freaking out. He will follow me around and nicker when he cant see me. Then if i try to pet him he will run away! He also is the perfect horse when I ride bareback but if I try to put any kind of tack on him he bucks and rears and doesn’t listen at all. I’m only 14 so its hard to find time for me to spend more then 3 or 4 hours a week with him. Any tips please?
i used to work with a horse that was pretty neglected when i was abt your age and he had similar issues, like he didn't trust me, didnt let me catch him in the field, bucked like hell (his owners never came around, and when they did they'd just tack up, get on and get thrown off then leave after hosing him down) and he was afraid of the water. i went 3 times a week after school and did ground work (lunging without the lunge line until he'd join up in the arena, which often took a really long time, be patient), I'd spent time grooming him, talking to him, getting him to give me his feet (he had a lot of issues with that), until i felt comfortable riding him. i started just having my dad hold his lead while i put my weight on his back, then just sat on him tackless while my dad was leading him around, and i finally started actually riding him. just go really slow and don't always work them, teach them that you're a safe space. in the end he bucked me off, and i got confidence issues so the barn owners ended up leasing him to someone else because i wasnt able to train him in saddle like i used to. he was around 17-20 and i now think that he had arthritis in his hind legs and i wasnt as careful as i should have been, partly why he threw me off. make sure you're in tune with their needs and i would also recommend learning stretching movements for horses because it's a nice trust excercise and helps with stiffeness :)
I think try find someone to be with him more and find a calmer horse for you before your confidence goes into the toilet. Also take lessons with an expert.
My horse turns her back to me (in disrespect) when I enter the stable to halter and/or feed her. How do I disengage the hind end when her hind end is all that is facing me?
Your videos are sooo helpful I’ve always wanted a horse and my mother said maybe soon, so these videos help me to learn what it is like to have one and what I need, I have a question in one of your videos with what we need when we have a horse is there gonna be certain type of grain or hay we will need for the horse?
The best thing to do when it comes to choosing grain is researching different types of grain and asking your vet. Different types of grain have different levels of sugar and nutrients, so it’s important to find the one that works best for your horse!
Do you have tips for working with 3yo of the track mare? My dads friend just got one and she is super sweet! I have only been riding for about five months, but I ADORE my lesson horses. Thank you and have a great day!
Hi Lorry! This is a great question! The biggest thing the horse notices is your demeanor. For example, if many riders start to feel their horse getting anxious under saddle, they subconsciously start to tense up. When you're tense, your horse can recognize that and then thinks they are justified in being nervous. On the ground, its more about just staying relaxed and acting as if you don't even notice whatever your horse is looking at. Hope this helps! here is my latest video where I talk more about this: ua-cam.com/video/bdxrtvDr0J8/v-deo.html
I just recently got my horse (8 months ago) and she doesn’t exactly trust me. She’ll listen but I can tell she respects and trusts her previous owner a lot more. She’s been in boarding 2 hrs away since we got her bc we haven’t been able to bring her home until sometime this month. Bc of the distance and covid I haven’t been able to visit her as much as I want to. Once I’m able to spend a lot of time with her every day will she start to accept me?
Great video, as all of them. What to do when my horse puts his neck straight up and ears pointed forward while riding of hand walking, how to calm her down, teach her to relax when I am near her in a scary to a horse situation? A noise? Another horse that spooked?
That is not recommended as this can cause horses to get pushy and food aggressive. If they were to do this at all, you must safely withhold the food until they stand quietly and politely for you again.
@@joebertucci813 Been doing this with the lesson horse: When he begs he gets nothing; we wait until he stops; when he turns his head away politely I use a clicker and then open-palm feed him. We repeat this until he doesn't beg, only waits until he hears the clicker and then takes the treat. Just takes time and patience and it works.
Love your helpful tips. You also have a great delivery. My son especially needs to understand about animals feeding off of our energy. I am curious what is your training background . I am a reader and a info nerd. I like to know the why before asking for an action. You seem to constantly give that. I am curious about who you follow or choose to not follow. There is so much instruction and video training, it's sometimes hard to follow a certain method. Just curious who you align with? Some clinicians push this and some push that or seem too soft or or or or ...... or say do this or that or don't do this or that. It's overwhelming sometimes. Would love uour thoughts. Gonna go watch more videos now. Thank you! Oh I am an eastern oregon small farmer with two horses with very different but awesome personalities. Both came here from super crappy situations. One 3 yr draft cross, super goofy but oh so smart and haven’t hadchim even a yr. One 18 Tennessee Walker a doof but so so sweet and yet still pissy. This girl has through lots. Had her 4 yes and so happy she now has a good home. Love them as well as all my critters. Bye the way my name is Dorothy. Luke is my 20 yr old. I need to change my name on my profile. Lol
my grandpa has a horse that is 12 years old in human years and he is my therapist I talk to him a lot even when I ride him but I am getting a new horse that is my own and I am happy 😁
Such a helpful video! I’m a 58 yr old that just bought a 20 yr old Tennessee Walker. I’m an animal lover and in less than 2 weeks, we have really bonded! He loves when I snuggle his head and kiss him. Such a sweet boy! Only rode him once (waiting for tack), but going tomorrow for a private lesson. We’re just 2 old folks learning about each other together. I think he’s going to teach me how to ride him! Now if I could just master mounting! I’m SO out of shape! 🤦🏻♀️💪🏽🐎
Wonderful! Thank you for giving that senior a good home, most people don't understand that with proper care, they make fantastic calm, relaxed and bomb-proof riding companions for years. Best of luck to you both!
I pray you will both receive the blessings you need in eachother 💙 God bless you for your wisdom in appreciating an older horse!
@Reez Gerarddo it! Same here. Have had them before and quickly found that there is nothing like the smell and affection of a horse. So many need good homes, so you'd be doing both of you a favor! 😊👍🏼
I'm turning 60 in November, and my husband is 64. We are currently working on putting up fence posts, and once completed have two Rocky Mountain gaited horses coming. I had a horse when I was 12, and have been around horses a little bit here and there over the years, but don't really know how to ride well. And I'm out of shape too. We'll have to encourage each other. Enjoy! ♥️
@@kmwichterman You'll do great! The bond you'll develop will be so lovely. God bless you 💙
I have ptsd. I had a opportunity to volunteer to work with horses recently and it changed something in me. I never imagined i would shovel shit for free but i found a peace in it. That opportunity is gone. Watching you videos at least helps me hold on to that peace in a way, I truly thank you for that.
i might get a horse if it has a bit in its mouth im getting out of horses for good
After my gelding passed away , I bought a new mare as my main riding horse . Of course 3 days later a huge snow storm had to come through and destroy our barn and fence. So i had to board my 2 mares (new mare and retired mare) in those 2 months they were boarded, I was able to gain massive trust with the new mare because she knew I would be there every single day at 5:00 pm to feed and groom her. And once she moved back home, it was the easiest transition i have ever seen a horse have. and i think that is owed to the fact that i made sure i was her constant , no matter how much she moved around (at just 11 i was her 7th home, everyone gave up on her) she knew i would always be there. And all those people who gave up on her, were so wrong. Because just one year later, she is now a hell of a barrel horse. DONT GIVE UP
Love this story!!!
Ahhh so when I wanted my horse Millie to trust me more I would go in the roundpen and let her graze and I was told: pick grass with her. I was like ‘what’🤠. My instructor was like “you heard me, get down on the floor near her and pick the grass”. I was like ‘uhhh okay’.
What I came to learn though is that this is just how horses learn to trust eachother so buy mimicking her eating and pretending to eat with her we were building trust. She was actually circling me quite a bit until she got bored and went to the edge of the roundpen for the longer grass. Ahhh I love that horse. She thinks with her stomach and I love that about her.
My daughter just started taking riding lessons and we have found this channel very informative and encouraging. Really like these videos, we've subscribed! :)
I love that you focused on the importance of undemanding time with your horse. I have had my mare for 10 years, and our journey together has been challenging and uplifting. Balancing undemanding time with ground work and riding was the key to unlocking her curiosity, trust, affection and respect.
Great video!!!!
Just my opinion, my horse is amazing. If another horse is giving me trouble, he comes and runs the horse to the barn and looks to me for appraisal. One day, he did this out of the blue when I was having trouble out of a young mare and has done it ever since I praised him for the action. Note: My horse does not do the groundwork. My horse is desensitized to new things often. He is calm and looks to me for advice in almost every situation. My horse and I accomplished this relationship by spending time together. When I first got him, he was already ten years old. He had been broke and ridden but not for several years. There was some slight abuse also. I would go every day and brush him, talk to him, and just sit in the barn with him to do my homework. At first, he was jumpy with new sounds or quick movements but soon learned that I was only there to love him and hitch a ride. So, my opinion and advice are to gain your horse's trust, respect, and companionship, you MUST spend time with them. Learn how they communicate with you and allow them to learn the same from you. Be patient and always stay calm. Every horse is different, just like humans. You have to build a bond by getting to know each other. Horses do not dislike people, they just need time to learn that they can like you. BTW, they are amazing for making a bad mood good. Your videos are so helpful and I hope you continue to make them.
I am currently struggling with trust and respect with my horse. It's gotten worse since I broke my ankle in Dec from a fall while mounting (she bolted while I was mounting - didnt know my saddle tree had broken and was causing her pain). I cant wait to get to the barn tomorrow and do groundwork! I never realized how important groundwork was. I am a fairly new horse owner
So sorry you broke your ankle! I've had falls that shattered my confidence; it is really all about just getting back out there. Groundwork is a great place to start and to help get your confidence back! I hope it goes well!
Check out Tao of Horsemanship channel. She is the best I ever seen and has hundreds of training videos available. Caroline Beste will win your heart as easily as she does all her animals. Liberty training, horse pilates, and everything else you ever wanted to know is available from a true guru. Enjoy!
I hope things have improved for you two💙
How'd it go?
@@CarmellaAbel such good ideas
thank you so much this is sooo helful because i just started leasing a new horse X
Thanks for the comment, Catherine! Good luck with your new horse!
same
Me too
1. Spend time with your horse: brushing, petting their face, graze and hang out, leading, play in the ring, talking to them, feeding.
2. Groundwork: spend time "face to face," establishes you as leader, teach pressure/release.
3. Being assertive: gently , fairly, consistently asking for what you want.
4. Work on Desensitizing.
5. Be aware of your emotions: be calm.
I had Cruz at a full service barn for the first two months, then moved him to a place where he has a huge pasture but I feed and clean up after him myself. We’ve been there four months now and it’s made a huge, positive difference in our relationship!
Great video.
I found that the pasture horses I care for respond to their “special time”. Just one on one brushing, removing burrs from their tail and main, talking. They get to where they look forward to their time. I do this each morning and evening after breakfast and dinner. This is a good time to check for damage or injuries like hood splits etc.
I also like to just sit on the bench near them and watch the sunset. We all seem to enjoy that quality time.
Your tutorial videos are just great. I’m learning so much from you and Warwick Schiller. I don’t own a horse, but I’ve managed to unofficially buddy-up with a beautiful bay mare 🐴 . I don’t know her name or the owners, but she’s out there in a paddock with her boyfriend (maybe gelded but I don’t know). They were a pair until someone added another mare. I’m going to call her Shirley, because she surely is good for my soul. I just have to go to the fence line and she’ll saunter across to greet me. She’s very communicative and gentle. I guess I’m more interesting than the boring paddock 24/7. I give her a good rub and scratch. I massage her face and pull her ears a little. Scratch behind the ears, forehead rub. Cup her muzzle and nose gently and on occasion give her a carrot 🥕 or apple 🍎 . Weird thing is, she can’t seem to hold and manipulate the apple in her mouth. She always drops it as if she can’t hold it in her mouth. Maybe her teeth aren’t sharp enough. Carrots are cheaper and are easy to feed her. I always make sure her paddock partners 🐎 get their fair share of carrots 🥕 and apples 🍎. Can’t leave them out. They’ve also become more interested since they seem to know Shirley trusts me. The other horses are more sociable now. You can even detect some jealousy from the other horses from their body language. They definitely have words with one another. Shirley is definitely a softie.
I love your videos. This summer while it's been so hot I have walked my horse daily and I do feel like we have a better bond and she respects me more. I enjoy this time as much as riding. She actually meets me at the gate and lowers her head for the halter.
I'm so greatful for your videos. When I was a young child my older sister worked at a horse farm with mostly retired race horses with behavioral issues. These are the only horses I have ever been around. Most have never seen a child . Anyway I was conditioned to fear them. And now as an adult I still do. I understand those horses are not the norm and want to overcome this conditioning so I figured start over like I haven't been taught anything. But this hasn't stopped the anxiety I feel around them yet. I figure learning to read there body language will help alot. So I'm so very thankful you make these.
I always loved talking to horses, telling them how special they are, asking for their help and understanding……many’s the time I would ask them how they’re feeling and love being close.
My favourite horse at the barn (I take lessons) was (apparently) hit by a few girls one or two years ago. Before that (I wouldn’t know I didn’t know him back then) he was very nice and social but now he’ll try to bite or walk away as soon as you get close to him. He’s really a great horse and he’s so nice most of the time, but when I put the bridle on to brush or tack him up, he tries to bite. He (most of the time) hates being pet on his face, it could be bc that’s where the girls hit him. I love him and I don’t want him to be scared and unhappy.
I think I have a pretty close, trusting relationship with my gelding Diesel. We sometimes have to work on the respect factor, but he definitely knows I'm his mom and caretaker. He knows the sound of my car when I drive up the driveway of his boarding farm. I can call out the window to him and he whinnies in response. He generally will come to his run-in shed when I call him. One time he was waaay out in his field, and I called, and he came cantering through the field to me. I've also trained him to go around his run-in shed to meet me at the gate (it helps to have a food/treat motivated horse).
Part of our trust-building came from really listening and paying attention to him. Sometimes he gets fidgety in the cross-ties. Rather than disciplining him, I try to figure out what's making him fidget: a fly on his belly, an itch on his hind leg, needing to pee (he only pees in the grass), etc. Like you said, you have to spend time with your horse, not just riding, but bonding time. If they associate you only with work, they won't trust you as much.
There was this one grey mare named Cloud at the stable that I volunteer at and when I would open the gait and latch it she would always come walking or troting up to me she was always the first pony to come up and say hi to me and I would say hi to her and start walking through the paddock to say hi to my other pony friend Glory and Cloud would always be right at my side or right behind me following me to where Glory was. One of my favorite memories of Cloud was when my brothers were at the barn with me and we were all hanging out in the paddock Glory and I were at the hay box and Cloud and my brothers were at the corner of the paddock looking for stuff in the dirt so the boys were on their heals and Cloud was right in between and every time one of the boys picked up their finging Cloud would sniff it as if to "approve" it was adorable to see how the three of them got a long really well.
Note: I let my brothers do that because I trusted cloud enough because cloud had such a calm nature and she was super curious and adventurous so I had no problem with them doing that
I just have to subscribe to your channel. I really like how down to earth you are. Im from Denmark and I have a danish oldenborg. She was straight up dangerous when I got her about 3 years ago but now she's my angel. I was just being with her to gain her trust.
Thank you so much, Heidi! Best of luck with your horse!
Your posts are the best on youtube, you don't know how much you helped me.. I am a green rider, I am following all your instructions.. it is helping me tremendously.. Thank you
Love your video about trust and being a friend with your horse.
I have had my buddy Beau for about 2years or so we have become friends and your right doing all kinds of different things with him really makes the
him want to be with me.
We are so much happier now .
Thank-you for the time you take to do your videos.
I also wanted to ask a question. When i volunteered perhaps four times to clean stalls just to be around the horses i had something special happen. I'm sure people on here can explain it to me and its probably my ignorance. The horse that I was told was the crazy dangerous one, well we bonded. I never felt threatened by her. She showed me more love that many people i have met. I don't do social stuff because i'm a recluse.
This will help me SO MUCH!! I bought a 3 year old crossbred Arabian, and this will most definitely be helpful
I love your outlook! I’ve been doing most of these things with my lease horse for 6 months now and it’s been going very well ❤ in fact I can’t wait to see him today 😍
OMG thank you all the videos and helpful advice. I don't really think, judging from the videos that Tucker ever not trust you. You two are such great team
I am very happy you post and share. I learn so much from you. You are smart and fun and informative. Thank you.
I’m so happy that my horse trusts me
Well the horse I’m leasing
The only horse I know is an older fleabit mare in a pasture along the bikepath, and if I stop she will come over to the fence and socialize. That's pretty cool! I'd like to know more about how Scarlett communicates, and these videos are great.
We have a lot of horses at are barn but there is this one mini that doesn’t trust ANYONE she has been abused all the way up to the time to when we got her about 15 or more years later and I’m watching a lot of these to help her try to trust me thank you!
You have such beautiful hair!!! Love all your videos and helpful info! ❤️
Started watching your videos and joined your channel. Learning about basics of riding and horsemanship. Love your channel. Great advice, tips, etc.!!
This help me a lot. I am looking for a horse, and I’ve been wondering how to make a good connection with the horse. Thanks!
I love seeing how your horse respects you!
Thank you so much, I have a rescue mare who's just so nervous! I just want her to be happy and to have a connection
Good vid 👍 I just started working at horse stables I do the cleaning and feeding for about 150 horses and they all have different personalities they're like huge dogs and some of them are pretty scary so I need them to trust me and I need to be comfortable with them
ONE OTHER THING Carmella...I just had a week of being very frustrated and not wanting to go back (of course I was going back), but that in itself can really shake your confidence, motivation, and enjoyment with your horse. Could you potentially do a video on that subject?
This is a great video idea Lorry, one that I think many horse riders deal with but no one talks about!
Thank you!!! (love your cute doggy!!!)
My horse first didnt even wanted to take candy of me, but now she loves it ❤
This is so helpul! Thanks so much!
Thanks, Chris! No problem!
i just got a new horse and this is really helpful tysm
Her and her horse are so beautiful and have such a good relationship
Wow, your hair is so pretty!
I had trouble focusing on your lesson because I could take my eyes off of your gorgeous hair! Oh my goodness, my dream hair that I’ll never have. How, how could you have cut it? Loved the lesson… love the hair! Thanks
Saw the dog, subscribed. 👍
Wow,, so much great help, education ,,trust and communication comes before riding. No one else ever establishes all this important teaching and how to,, so nicely. Do you give personal lessons. Appears you are in PA.
Hi I am a complete beginner with horse riding and tommorow is my first horse riding lesson eek I'm so excited!! Equine Helper are you a teacher or something
Trust works both ways ❤
Great 👍 information and when I ever have a horse 🐎 definitely I think of your guidance 🙏🏽😇
Totally agree! Thank for breaking it down because you care about the horse and us.Who are willing to learn! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Thank this video is very helpful I'm trying to train a Spanish barb
And have been getting her to trust me , she really loves to be brushed and scratched for sure .❤ so thank you this was really helpful .
I have never had room for a horse but recently I was given a 18-21 year old gelding (that acts like he is 10) and he stays at my friends house. I fell in love with him the very FIRST time I saw him, even though I wasn't the one riding him, well turns out he is the leader of his 5 horse herd, and he has sweet itch, so he is a little more expensive than the others, he has to have a fly sheet and he ends up destroying them, he has to have a fly mask, just got him a new one, he needs monthly kenalog shot, and he has to have NEEM spray, my mom now asks me why I chose the special horses all the time (he is also very stubborn) 😂 I tell her that I can't control the feelings of the heart 🤣
Your hair looks fabulous in this video. Lol. Great information also thanks
Thank you so much the relationship between the owner and the horse is huge to me!❤️
Thank you so much! I just recently got my mare and she’s always been in my face and not responding while riding. I now know what to do. Thank you!
thx for a greaat video! you have lovely hair btw!
I agree with all your points here, but I would like to add (from experience)that another trust and bonding exercise is taking your horse swimming)horses are naturally great swimmers, and if you swim next to them and on their backs, it's such a tangible and blessed exercise that you can do together ❤)...obviously, always make sure that the water you chose is safe, preferably water that has running streams through it, or soft waves, never swim in standing, stagnant water (harmful parasites live in such water)...anyway, from my personal experience, water and swimming is a very effective way to not only bond with your horse, but also is a tool to get a horse comfortable with you being on his, or her back 🥰
your videos really help me out!
i am really gonna use your ✨tips✨
Hi thank you so much soon I’m going to get my 1st horse I already know him I just want him to trust me a lot
THANK YOU! THIS BY FAR WAS THE BETTER OF WHAT I NEEDED!
This is such a lovely video! Thanks for all the fantastic tips :)
There is a large, floating spirit orb at 0.34 in front of the couch on the right side of the screen! It quickly floats from the top, going downwards.
unrelated but your hose is so pretty!
This is helpful. I wanted to learn somethings to train him and gain his trust and this was perfect. I took lots of notes
Another great video! Your channel is awesome. Thank you!
Thank you for watching! 😊
I love watching your videos. You and I are very similar on how we treat our horses. I love tucker. ❤
I've had my wild mare for about 4 months and she has been doing super well. I can brush her, she moves around a lot. Mind you, she has never been around people before. She follows me when I'm out in the pasture with her and she snickers for me when I drive home. She ABSOLUTELY HATES her face being touched, she has never bit or stomped at me, but she does toss her head around when I go to touch her. She is a huge dork who wants to eat everything in sight no matter how well I'm feeding her. I'm talking fence posts, lead ropes. E V E R Y T H I N G. It's hilarious. I have a 130 pound boxer pattie mix who thinks she is a dog and he wants to play. She looks at him like he's the stupidest thing the world (he is lol). I also have an outside cat who'd scared of the big, bad, fluff butt mare and all my mare wants is to be her bestest friend. She's like "I jUsT wAnT tO lOvE yOu! CoMe BaCk!" Lol haha
Boxer pittie mix I mean. Like boxer / pit bull
I really like your videos. Thank you for making them. I seem to be on a journey of learning with a very smart, independent minded mare and I guess I don't have sense enough to give up. Lol. I really love this adorable mare and so I guess we will be learning together. I'm not very confident with mares like her. She is a naturally dominant lead mare type, so I guess I will be learning a lot. Thank you for helping me with your videos.
Thank you so much! I love your positive energy.😊
Thank you for this❤️ I recently started training my trainers new horse who was abused and has 0 trust for humans. It’s been about 6 months and I can barely get his bridle on without him freaking out. He will follow me around and nicker when he cant see me. Then if i try to pet him he will run away! He also is the perfect horse when I ride bareback but if I try to put any kind of tack on him he bucks and rears and doesn’t listen at all. I’m only 14 so its hard to find time for me to spend more then 3 or 4 hours a week with him. Any tips please?
i used to work with a horse that was pretty neglected when i was abt your age and he had similar issues, like he didn't trust me, didnt let me catch him in the field, bucked like hell (his owners never came around, and when they did they'd just tack up, get on and get thrown off then leave after hosing him down) and he was afraid of the water. i went 3 times a week after school and did ground work (lunging without the lunge line until he'd join up in the arena, which often took a really long time, be patient), I'd spent time grooming him, talking to him, getting him to give me his feet (he had a lot of issues with that), until i felt comfortable riding him. i started just having my dad hold his lead while i put my weight on his back, then just sat on him tackless while my dad was leading him around, and i finally started actually riding him. just go really slow and don't always work them, teach them that you're a safe space. in the end he bucked me off, and i got confidence issues so the barn owners ended up leasing him to someone else because i wasnt able to train him in saddle like i used to. he was around 17-20 and i now think that he had arthritis in his hind legs and i wasnt as careful as i should have been, partly why he threw me off. make sure you're in tune with their needs and i would also recommend learning stretching movements for horses because it's a nice trust excercise and helps with stiffeness :)
I love how you’re not giving up on this sweet boy!
I think try find someone to be with him more and find a calmer horse for you before your confidence goes into the toilet. Also take lessons with an expert.
With this horse you said he is realy good bare back you could try train him liberty as this might gain his trust to you in a more slower gental way.
Fantastic, thank you, very helpful !
My horse turns her back to me (in disrespect) when I enter the stable to halter and/or feed her. How do I disengage the hind end when her hind end is all that is facing me?
Thank you for your videos. Your kindness and thoughtful approach are really helpful.
thank you this is so helful
Your videos are sooo helpful I’ve always wanted a horse and my mother said maybe soon, so these videos help me to learn what it is like to have one and what I need, I have a question in one of your videos with what we need when we have a horse is there gonna be certain type of grain or hay we will need for the horse?
The best thing to do when it comes to choosing grain is researching different types of grain and asking your vet. Different types of grain have different levels of sugar and nutrients, so it’s important to find the one that works best for your horse!
It also depends on how old the horse is and what you want to do with the horse
This really relates to my health oh my lord!!!
I don't have a horse but I will try all this with my horse club horses
Do you have tips for working with 3yo of the track mare? My dads friend just got one and she is super sweet! I have only been riding for about five months, but I ADORE my lesson horses. Thank you and have a great day!
I love reading to my horse i just go in his pen and sit down and read or sing❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much Carmella!
When our horse looks to us for leadership, for instance in “spooky” situations, how and what do you do, specifically, in order to show that to them?
Hi Lorry! This is a great question! The biggest thing the horse notices is your demeanor. For example, if many riders start to feel their horse getting anxious under saddle, they subconsciously start to tense up. When you're tense, your horse can recognize that and then thinks they are justified in being nervous. On the ground, its more about just staying relaxed and acting as if you don't even notice whatever your horse is looking at. Hope this helps! here is my latest video where I talk more about this: ua-cam.com/video/bdxrtvDr0J8/v-deo.html
I got my horse to trust me by asking her to lean back, that I would catch her.
Thank you that helped a lot
So helpful ❤ love your videos ❤
I can't tell you how much you just helped me!😍😍😍😍thank you soooo much!
That was very informative and a beautifull gift❤️
At first i was scared of my horse, Firefly. But i got used to her. Now me and her are best friends.
I just recently got my horse (8 months ago) and she doesn’t exactly trust me. She’ll listen but I can tell she respects and trusts her previous owner a lot more. She’s been in boarding 2 hrs away since we got her bc we haven’t been able to bring her home until sometime this month. Bc of the distance and covid I haven’t been able to visit her as much as I want to. Once I’m able to spend a lot of time with her every day will she start to accept me?
Your great! Thank you for educating others!
This was really helpful. Thank you!!
Excellent video
Great video, as all of them. What to do when my horse puts his neck straight up and ears pointed forward while riding of hand walking, how to calm her down, teach her to relax when I am near her in a scary to a horse situation? A noise? Another horse that spooked?
Your hair is beautiful 🥰
Wonderful lesson! Thank you!
Thank you. ❤ Totally helpful.
Another way to gain trust is by giving food from your hands and thats what I did with Bolt.
That is not recommended as this can cause horses to get pushy and food aggressive. If they were to do this at all, you must safely withhold the food until they stand quietly and politely for you again.
@@joebertucci813 Been doing this with the lesson horse: When he begs he gets nothing; we wait until he stops; when he turns his head away politely I use a clicker and then open-palm feed him. We repeat this until he doesn't beg, only waits until he hears the clicker and then takes the treat. Just takes time and patience and it works.
Love this! Thank you.xx
Love your helpful tips. You also have a great delivery. My son especially needs to understand about animals feeding off of our energy. I am curious what is your training background . I am a reader and a info nerd. I like to know the why before asking for an action. You seem to constantly give that. I am curious about who you follow or choose to not follow. There is so much instruction and video training, it's sometimes hard to follow a certain method. Just curious who you align with? Some clinicians push this and some push that or seem too soft or or or or ...... or say do this or that or don't do this or that. It's overwhelming sometimes. Would love uour thoughts. Gonna go watch more videos now. Thank you! Oh I am an eastern oregon small farmer with two horses with very different but awesome personalities. Both came here from super crappy situations. One 3 yr draft cross, super goofy but oh so smart and haven’t hadchim even a yr. One 18 Tennessee Walker a doof but so so sweet and yet still pissy. This girl has through lots. Had her 4 yes and so happy she now has a good home. Love them as well as all my critters. Bye the way my name is Dorothy. Luke is my 20 yr old. I need to change my name on my profile. Lol
Thank you! Your such a huge help!
my grandpa has a horse that is 12 years old in human years and he is my therapist I talk to him a lot even when I ride him but I am getting a new horse that is my own and I am happy 😁
Omg girl soooo good!