to hear the person who u had a serious relationship say that he/she was never really in love with u is the most heartbreaking thing u could ever get to hear
About two weeks ago, my girlfriend of four years who I was planning on proposing to told me she was never in love with me and doesn’t want a future with me. Still haven’t left my bed or stopped crying
The straight couple … I don’t think there’s anything that crushes you more than when someone you absolutely adore is just not that into you . I could feel that guy’s pain through the screen
Right and he's only going to cause himself more pain trying to remain her friend. He needs to surround himself with good people and finally grieve the relationship. I hope this gave him some closure.
He had serious communication issues which killed all her feelings for him. The fact that she said he never told her he loved her, then seeing him really wanting her back was very painful to watch.
@@Yasi_nzi right, you could tell she was hurt because she wanted to hear that when they were together but he couldn’t get his stuff together and she had to move on
I originally didn't catch that Stacy was suffering from post-partum depression -- I think it's pretty messed up that Heather is leaving her in that kind of situation with a two year old child since Stacy did the work of pregnancy and labor, when Stacy is so desperate to work things out.
@@DianaHsu1 now i get that it’s sad to leave someone with depression, but that’s not something you look at during a relationship. If it doesn’t work anymore, you shouldn’t stay together no matter if they have mental issues that it will affect
@@D1sturb3d.gh0u1 I understand your point, but I dont think she should leave since they clearly still love eachother and Heather should bei there for Stacy even in rough times.
Its weird but I dont think so... Stacy was saying hard think like I bring you down. Like recognising her flaws. And the answer of that is speaking about looks... Especially when she's crying. If I was Stacy I would't take it well.
Heather said she likes to "save a persons feelings", so for me that moment felt more like avoiding a response which would hurt Stacy (in confirming what Stacy said about her bringing her down)
It’s honestly so heartwarming because even in argument they still have so much appreciation for each other which is what marriage and breakups should be.
heather need to figure out her own happiness before she can be with stacy, i see her pain and her aches i wish for her self love to grow enough to live without her. straight girl idfk idrc Deonte and Koach need to work on learning about eachother and lean into eachother without letting life get in the way. ~my perception of the vid>;3
Anyone else down to watch 3 full versions with all the couples answering all 30 questions? Because I would. Seeing the insight into their dynamics is really helpful to look for what to avoid in a way?
@@beem1637 I don't think so (yes it could be seen like that) however she could have phrased it better example "I feel that because of my mental state is one reason why we shouldn't get back together"
I think Heather made the right decision. You can't fix someone else's depression and it can take a huge toll on your mental wellbeing to stay in that environment.
@@Loregasmo I think they mean that they hadn’t really discussed the questions before, so when they were being completely honest with each other in the video, they had to come to terms with the answers they both received and gave.
I felt that too. You could feel the weight of their responses and how they were really trying to figure out where they were. I have faith they'll get back together outta all of them and I hope so.
@@userpanda1 I could see it both ways because of that comment. I thought maybe she was avoiding putting him on blast. If not, I do feel bad for him though.
Yeah I kind of got a vibe that she was kind of like this dream girl that he probably never thought in a million years he would date and he's trying to recapture that
I think Stacy and Heather would benefit greatly from therapy together. Not necessarily for them to get back together, but since they have a child and clearly care about one another. I think it would help them both individually and together with communication and with co-parenting. I do believe they truly love each other and can make a friendship and co-parenting work very well, even if they never get back together. They need to continue the honesty journey and better, honest communication, and finding the right relationship/family therapist could really help them! I also want to encourage Stacy to try really hard to continue working on herself and having faith that the best can come into fruition so long as she focuses on living herself and being happy on her own- without needing ANYBODY else, and focusing on truly enjoying being a mother, and making sure she gets the help she needs for PPD, because it takes a long time to heal from and the body is always forever altered from birth, especially the first 5-7yrs (we keep our baby's DNA in us forever!). I do think Heather truly loves her, and I think they both need that of Stacy. And Heather should focus on the honest communication in the meantime within therapy and how she can be a support without resorting to easier habits. Those two can be happy in the future, regardless of how their family looks, and I wish the best for them!
For the straight couple.... She said he's never told her that he loved her. She said that him telling her that was weird for her, and I feel like that says a lot honestly. I feel like there's a story.
@@CaribouOrange No its weird to be in a serious relationship with someone and then never tell them you love them when you really do, and then wait until after your broken up to tell them.
Most couples never seem to get closure and doing so would help, so if you spin it that way, I see it as an even bigger positive. Most couples break up for valid reasons and some of these reasons won’t ever be resolved without big changes…changes some people would refuse to make. Trying to make it work without changing is a never ending cycle of heartbreak and exhaustion
The 30 Questions certainly allows you to strip away any kind of doubt you may have about your own partner. It really lets you get to know more about them in-depth.
I’m actually so glad this video didn’t end all rainbows and sunshine. Relationships are hard. Mentally, physically… this shows such reality and it’s nice to see people making responsible decisions for themselves, eachother and their kids. loved this one
Heather and Stacy broke my heart. You can feel the love they have for each other through the screen, but you can also feel how much hurt is there still.
I watched a therapist reacting to this video she really like the queer women. Saying that she hopes they can work out their situation. Broke me when they didn't get back together.
That moment at 9:08 and 9:25 though :) Seems like you can see them both in real time realizing there may be something deeper between them that they hadn’t actually acknowledged yet.
I think for the younger straight couple, the issue seemed to be lack of communication within the relationship. Like what she wanted in there sex life, and him saying he still loves her, yet he's never said " I love you" to her. I think communication really brings people in the relationship together. It's simple and straight forward yes, but you'd be surprised whenever things work out with just talking to your partner about what you're comfortable with. the lesbian couple, with how they communicated and there tones was perfect. Even when Heather disagreed with her wife but still respected her opinion.
@@parker1059 Yeah that’s insane. There were definitely skewed perspectives in the relationship. The guy thought he would get back with her because he’s still in love with her. The girl never was in love with him and moved on, so much so that she slept with someone else shortly after the relationship ended. Owen is going to have to realize he needs to move on, it’s hard but he’ll get better with time.
@@emmabunch-benson4795 i feel that. Something was def off. "Im still in love with her" but she never was. She also admitted she thinks their relationship lacked intamacy? Strange. She deff seemed done with his shit lol
I'm going to be honest, I think Owen blinsided the girl. She said that he never told her that he was still in love with her and also mentioned how romantically they weren't compatible. She seemed just emotionally over the relationship due to the fact she never received that type of love that he's now expressing within the relationship. I feel for her.
Omari Bro, he never said he loved her and seems like they didn’t get along during their relationship then suddenly pulled a stunt to get her back after he knows she had moved on.
As a married lesbian in an interracial relationship with a young kid who went through a separation due to mental health- yowza!! We got back together though. Mental health struggles can be a silent poison in a relationship. Our vows weren't traditional but they did include sickness and health. My wife has ptsd from being a covid nurse. Who she is now is not the same as who I married. I'm lucky that she's still the one for me. Heather and Stacy may not get there but I hope they both end up OK even if it's apart.
Y’all are incredibly beautiful in your profile picture. I am so glad everything ended up working out. I can’t begin to imagine what she went through. I am on disability for CPTSD and I know it can be difficult to support someone who has mental health issues. Wishing y’all all the best, always. Be safe, be well, be happy. 🤍
Yeah mental health is a lot. I have struggles too and when I wasn’t in therapy it was really hard for my partner. But we’re in a better place now that I’m in therapy again and he feels like he has a lot more space in our relationship. He’s someone who likes to fix things, but mental health isn’t something you can just fix so he felt really burdened by this desire when I was at my worst. But yeah, I’m glad I’m fortunate enough to have met a therapist that I really click with, and I know my partner feels a lot safer in our relationship too.
Ok, the girl from the straight couple is ABSOLUTELY checked out of that relationship and was probably never really there, I actually feel bad for the guy because I think we just saw him get his heart re-broken
Stacy and Heather seem like really good people but their situation is so difficult. Heather wants to be there but being there probably wouldn't help because depression doesn't go away like that and as Stacy, that brings her down. I think being separared but maintaining contact for the sake of a good development of their child and not losing each other is the healthiest way to go.
When the cut host asked what the answer was and so much came out. That's exactly what we need. To prod at the awkward and uncomfortable to get at these true emotions. That's what they're here for. To show vulnerability and create open communication to move forward in a healthy way. I love how real it got.
This was very sad to watch. Stacy was accepting but, you could see her heart breaking. Owen, OMG! I cried. He was completely devastated. Koach and Deonte should just be together, they are both so adorable.
I think the gay dudes are the only with chances to end together. The straight couple basically realized they aren't a good match and in the lesbian couple I don't think the black girl wants to.
@@aa4488 Well, they were separated. She was mad at the length of time it took to tell her, not what it was. Plus they didn't elaborate what it was that transpired.
I think with Owen and the woman ,people need to realize that you can sympathize with one of the people's stories without it taking away from the other. Feeling sympathy for Owen doesn't mean the girl is bad or wrong. It's just a painful situation and I think people can relate to the hurt of unrequited love or feelings.
Am I the only one that doesn’t really feel bad for Owen and feel more for the girl he really blindsided by bringing her in this show? Imagine your ex who never told you they loved you told you the first time IN FRONT OF A CAMERA AND OTHER PEOPLE
It's so crazy because you see these people walls breaking down. But you see them grow and you see those micro changes in their faces the indicate their emotional /reflecting stage. Great video and very thankful for these people accepting to be vulnerable in front of the camera
As someone who has battled with postpartum depression I can totally relate to her feelings.. the anger, sadness, guilt and overall being overwhelmed with emotions you can’t explain nor control can make you spiral into darkness. Feeling alone with it makes you say and do things you wouldn’t have before and then the person you thought would never leave does because of it all makes you worse and feel as if you’re not good enough to love. I almost committed suicide but didn’t because of my daughter, she needed me even if I was broken. Hope to anyone else going through it know that you’re loved and you will get better just look at your child and know you have a purpose
It’s crazy how someone can make you feel emotions you’ve never felt before, show you a side of yourself you’ve never seen, can’t even imagine world without them.. but soon enough it becomes dull and somehow destructible. At a certain point, loving someone and being in a relationship is no longer effortless, and you have to put in the work to maintain it, if you both want it. This video was so beautiful and uniquely accurate
With Owen and the girl….he referenced their relationship as “hooking up”. I’m just wondering if he made it more than it actually was? Especially because of the boundary thing she mentioned..idk.
the people villainizing the girl from the straight relationship are weird. sure, it's sad for the guy, but she obviously did not see this coming and said most of what she said before she knew he still had feelings for her. she looked completely taken aback when he told her. we don't know any details about their relationship, but it seems like they had and still have issues with communication. she's obviously moved on, and that is not a bad thing. it was important for him to hear that, since it's clearly not gonna happen.
I hope Stacey and Heather work it out🥺you can tell that they both still care about each other and their marriage but it was a lot of mental and emotional exhaustion that broke them up. I think with therapy (individual and coupled) they could work it out. Definitely not today or in the future, I think their is a possibility.
And it takes both people to work at solving problems, both assuming personal responsibility. If one is doing all the blaming and one is doing all the adapting, that is not a relationship . It’s a dictatorship.
I applaud all the individuals involved for having the courage to be so vulnerable and answer these type of questions in front of strangers AND then have it shared online for the world to see. I hope everyone is able to get the love they deserve and help they may need ❤
I had the same issue with my ex as the black couple. I felt like his friends were more of a priority to him than I was even though I would drive 2 hours to him almost every weekend. He had cancelled on me two times in a row and we only got to see each other intimately every 2 weeks because he got his daughter every other weekend. It just became too much for me to handle, especially because of the distance.
Heather and her wife definitely could get out this and fix their relationship. They are gentle with each other. They really love and care for each other and also seem to respect each other so much
okay this is absolutely random, but yall should do a "I take my tinder date to the box for 12 hrs" episode cus that would be perfect because they're already attracted to each other and connected on some level so hopefully the box can take it further
isn't the whole point of the box getting each others perspective or getting to know them? so whats the point when there's no problem to get each others perspective and/or u already know them
@@opaliatzs the box is like an intense way of getting people acquainted with each other. Instead of going on 5 different dates or losing someone compatible because of failure to follow through with the awkward phases you knock all that out in one sitting in the box. Also, what hindered quite a few couples was an immediate dissatisfaction with their looks, matching with someone or doing an ordeal like that- that puts you with someone you know you'd give a chance can avert all that.
-Being that Owen still has feeling for her, it would be hard to just be friends. Feelings can get in the way of that. Hopefully he moves on. That's all he can do. -Why would Koach want to be with someone who stands him up? Hopefully Deonte realizes that if he wants to be with Koach, he can't do that sort of thing.
Stacy and Heather need to go to marriage counseling. They brought a child into the world and don't know how to handle parenthood and keeping their marriage alive. Heather seems to not understand what postpartum depression can be like and how real it can be, thats basically what I got from what Stacy was saying. Heather being the partner that did not carry the child should have educated herself on what postpartum can be like and should have been that medium to help her spouse get help when she needed it. Marriage to a lot of people seems to mean nothing, you vow for better or worse, sick and in health, richer or poorer, life will have trials and you have to be able to work through those trials together. It just seems to me that when sh*t got real Heather couldn't deal with it and thats on her. Ending the marriage and getting in new relationships is not going to change anything the "spark" will die out in other relationships as well. Marriage isn't about keeping the "sparks" going, its about keeping the embers lit and you do need to add some fuel to keep the fire going and keep producing embers.
That’s a really good question. My diction has never played a role when we were together. And throughout that journey he’s always been super supportive I have a tendency of being close to him
I really didn’t like how she answered the question about how he can improve sexually (basically that he was bad at giving head). She knew the whole time she didn’t want to get back together with him, so what was the point of saying that in front of thousands of people? He can’t use that kind of feedback considering she doesn’t want to be more than friends and his technique could be perfect for the next woman he’s with. A more appropriate thing to say would’ve been “you need to listen to your partner when they tell you what they want,” if that was the root of the issue. Otherwise what she said was just mean and not useful.
@@elainecary2884 I’d usually be the last one to come to the defense of a woman who seemingly doesn’t communicate her sexual desires/needs appropriately (disclaimer for my own sanity lol), but maybe she just didn’t have anything else. Taking everything at face value, it just seems that she finds them incompatible and he’s still pining for her in some way. In that case there could be nothing else to work on other than that one small aspect, which is great for his future cause all of that can be improved with communication (or, as you said, his technique could be perfect for the next person). You can’t fix incompatibility, but he can work and that and sounds like he is or is at least willing to
@@elainecary2884 She was shocked that he was still in love with her, though. She had no idea that was his aim or that he was still pining for her, so I don't think she thought she was kicking him while he was down. Their incompatibility was obvious to her, and she thought it was mutual after their amicable break up. Moreover, he was the one who invited her there, and then she got blindsided by the fact that he never got over her and was using this as couples therapy. I feel bad for both of them, but especially her; that's a hell of a way for an ex to misread the breakup and her feelings, and put her in the awkward position of having to be a villain on camera for millions of viewers. All that aside, they were brought on to talk openly and honestly. Giving feedback to an ex as friends is genuinely one of the nicest things you can do, imo. Knowing what you might need to work on does actually help in future relationships, and a vague "listen to your partner more" (while being good advice, not knocking that!) might not have hit home the same way.
I feel for Stacy because post partum is tough to go through. You need a SOLID relationship and a solid partner to be there for you and understand all the changes your body and mind is going through.
1. Lets recount how we first met, how do you remember it? 2. Who is responsible for the breakup? 3. Are you in love with someone else? 4. Sexuall, where can I improve? 5. Why do you think we didnt work out? 6. What is sth you havent told me since our breakup? 7. Where do you think we failed us? 8. Why am I not good enough to be in a rs with? 9. Have you slept with anyone since we seperated? 10. Call a friend and ask them if we should get back together 11. What expectations didnt I meet as a Partner? 12. Name 3 reasons why we shouldnt get back together 13. When did you know you had fallen out of love with me? 14. Are you happier without me? 15. What would it take for you to give us another chance? 16. Can we get back together?
I’m amazed by how truthful and evident these questions and answers are. The chemical, responsible, sorrowful, loving connections are front & center. Best of confidence to everyone. Trust yourself.
I really don’t feel that bad for the straight guy. It was so clear she had moved on and the fact he really thought at all she would be interested in getting back together is kind of shocking given everything literally both of them said.
Completely understand having mental health issues and how that affects the relationship dynamic. I'm lucky to have a husband who's been a saint but it does cause a lot of strain at times and it makes me feel like I'm dragging down the relationship often. Even though I go to counseling and take medication I still feel this way. It's not easy and not for everyone.
This is a wonderful video. I so appreciate all of the people in the video being willing to share their stories and feelings. I would love for a more in-depth video for each of the couples. Similar to how there are Lineup videos will all the guessers, then videos with each of the guessers individually. I would love to see a video for each of the couples individually. Also, this would make an amazing series.
When he said "I miss his spunk" I almost choked on my water. Anybody else have a dirty mind? As sad as this was to watch, I think it was good. Hard hitting and direct questions are always best and necessary for understanding.
please put their names on the screen whenever they are on screen. it makes it easier to figure out who the comments are talking about and to be able to write comments about or relating to something similar to them.
Owen should sever ties with his Ex. The fact that she said it was "weird" when he expressed he loved her clearly illustrates she didn't take it that seriously. Yikes, poor guy. Don't even bother creating boundaries and just move on (unless you have a mutual friend circle you need to maintain or something to that effect).
@@Ella.L. Cmon Ella. I'll make some concessions here that perhaps bringing her on without notice wasn't his best choice. That being said, it's obvious she was checked out from the jump or passing time.
For Heather and Stacy, if you see this, please read Attached by Levine and Heller. It will change your perspective on your relationship and help you both approach it differently!!
to hear the person who u had a serious relationship say that he/she was never really in love with u is the most heartbreaking thing u could ever get to hear
I’ve been there. We eventually got divorced when we realized we never really were in love with each other.
A friend of mine experienced this. After 8 years her boyfriend told her he never loved her at all.
About two weeks ago, my girlfriend of four years who I was planning on proposing to told me she was never in love with me and doesn’t want a future with me. Still haven’t left my bed or stopped crying
@@anthonyalber9306 I’m sorry to hear that. It’ll get better with time. Keep your head up.
@@anthonyalber9306 this is awful. But better late than never ... You'll find the right one for you. She made way for this.
The straight couple … I don’t think there’s anything that crushes you more than when someone you absolutely adore is just not that into you . I could feel that guy’s pain through the screen
He needs to completely remove her from his life. Otherwise he will stay depressed for a long time
Right and he's only going to cause himself more pain trying to remain her friend. He needs to surround himself with good people and finally grieve the relationship. I hope this gave him some closure.
He had serious communication issues which killed all her feelings for him. The fact that she said he never told her he loved her, then seeing him really wanting her back was very painful to watch.
@@Yasi_nzi right, you could tell she was hurt because she wanted to hear that when they were together but he couldn’t get his stuff together and she had to move on
@@nurhesen he’ll never move on if he doesn’t
Stacy seems like her soul just aches, you can feel it. I respect Heather for supporting her even though she chose to stay separated
Damn..spoiler!
She needs medication to get her stable and some counseling long term.
I originally didn't catch that Stacy was suffering from post-partum depression -- I think it's pretty messed up that Heather is leaving her in that kind of situation with a two year old child since Stacy did the work of pregnancy and labor, when Stacy is so desperate to work things out.
@@DianaHsu1 now i get that it’s sad to leave someone with depression, but that’s not something you look at during a relationship. If it doesn’t work anymore, you shouldn’t stay together no matter if they have mental issues that it will affect
@@D1sturb3d.gh0u1 I understand your point, but I dont think she should leave since they clearly still love eachother and Heather should bei there for Stacy even in rough times.
When Heather was telling Stacy how beautiful she was even when she was crying.. that was so wholesome. I loved it.
Its weird but I dont think so... Stacy was saying hard think like I bring you down. Like recognising her flaws. And the answer of that is speaking about looks... Especially when she's crying. If I was Stacy I would't take it well.
@@ooscardls I agree. It’s a sweet and wholesome thing to say but in the situation, it just seemed like she was dodging talking about it.
Heather said she likes to "save a persons feelings", so for me that moment felt more like avoiding a response which would hurt Stacy (in confirming what Stacy said about her bringing her down)
@@user-tj5lx3ce4q agreed. hopefully they actually talk about their issues more off camera.
It’s honestly so heartwarming because even in argument they still have so much appreciation for each other which is what marriage and breakups should be.
Heather is done with Stacy.
Straight girl is done with Owen.
Deonte and Koach still have something there.
“Heather and straight girl” lol
@@kerrid5717 I didn’t see a name for her lol
Well yes… that’s exactly what they said in the video… lmao
heather need to figure out her own happiness before she can be with stacy, i see her pain and her aches i wish for her self love to grow enough to live without her.
straight girl idfk idrc
Deonte and Koach need to work on learning about eachother and lean into eachother without letting life get in the way.
~my perception of the vid>;3
@@pissboy_8671 yeah I feel as though Stacy really made heather her source of happiness though and heather just got burnt out and is over it
Anyone else down to watch 3 full versions with all the couples answering all 30 questions? Because I would. Seeing the insight into their dynamics is really helpful to look for what to avoid in a way?
This is what annoyed me. Skipping questions and going for the juicy ones instead. If the full one is online, that'd be pretty cool to see.
It wouldnt properly be from Cut if they didnt cut out most of the footage
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Yeah it's odd that we get such a small content. I want to watch the full thing.
I lost it when she said "I think I bring you down with my sadness-" and her response just broke me 😭
Honestly!!
Love in action
Saying that makes her sound manipulative
@@beem1637 I don't think so (yes it could be seen like that) however she could have phrased it better example "I feel that because of my mental state is one reason why we shouldn't get back together"
Even tho that is probably true but i feel like she was guilt tripping her
I think Heather made the right decision. You can't fix someone else's depression and it can take a huge toll on your mental wellbeing to stay in that environment.
Yeahhh it’s true. I’ve been in Stacey’s shoes and in Heathers. It’s a sad situation for the two.
Yes! I think if she saw a therapist & worked on herself there’s hope!
I see myself in Heather , its so hard to cut the connection someone you love but we need to move on.
She needs to get her own help
Well, they may still reunite.
Oof! That was a tough one to watch. Thank you to all of the couples who let us bear witness to their vulnerability and honesty.
I know right?
agreed
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Pretty brave of them to do this all things considered
Yes it’s brave to get a chance to go viral on the internet.
@@BaldLezB_In some of them are actually there to try to save their relationships.
It's not always about clout.
@@Angela-xi1oq yes so let’s share our relationship problems online.
@@BaldLezB_In that's one way to see things
@@Angela-xi1oq I agree
Ok but the biracial couple felt like they were genuinely trying to come to the terms of being honest like completely honest.
Interracial*
What does this even mean and how did 500 other people understand this jumble of words
@@Loregasmo It seems that more than 600 people disagree with u. 😀
@@Loregasmo I think they mean that they hadn’t really discussed the questions before, so when they were being completely honest with each other in the video, they had to come to terms with the answers they both received and gave.
I felt that too. You could feel the weight of their responses and how they were really trying to figure out where they were. I have faith they'll get back together outta all of them and I hope so.
Poor Owen. I could feel how painful that was for him.
Bro she said she was never even in love with him 😭That’s gotta hurt 😩
Owen is hot!!!
the clip of him at the end hurt bro 😭
She mentioned him not respecting boundaries idk..
@@userpanda1 I could see it both ways because of that comment. I thought maybe she was avoiding putting him on blast. If not, I do feel bad for him though.
i think it would be cool to have the similar concept, the 30 questions, but with friends. who agrees?
i would 100% watch that over couple videos
I would volunteer to do that with a few of my ex friends
Oh yea definitely
Absolutely
I agree!
I hope the guy in the blue shirt moves on soon and finds a happy relationship
He's a child. He has lots of time!
@@DA-js7xz there no "lots of time" in situation were nothing matters anymore.
@@DA-js7xz Just because hes young....?
Yeah I kind of got a vibe that she was kind of like this dream girl that he probably never thought in a million years he would date and he's trying to recapture that
@@bklynkat23 totally agree.
I think Stacy and Heather would benefit greatly from therapy together. Not necessarily for them to get back together, but since they have a child and clearly care about one another. I think it would help them both individually and together with communication and with co-parenting. I do believe they truly love each other and can make a friendship and co-parenting work very well, even if they never get back together. They need to continue the honesty journey and better, honest communication, and finding the right relationship/family therapist could really help them! I also want to encourage Stacy to try really hard to continue working on herself and having faith that the best can come into fruition so long as she focuses on living herself and being happy on her own- without needing ANYBODY else, and focusing on truly enjoying being a mother, and making sure she gets the help she needs for PPD, because it takes a long time to heal from and the body is always forever altered from birth, especially the first 5-7yrs (we keep our baby's DNA in us forever!). I do think Heather truly loves her, and I think they both need that of Stacy. And Heather should focus on the honest communication in the meantime within therapy and how she can be a support without resorting to easier habits. Those two can be happy in the future, regardless of how their family looks, and I wish the best for them!
Well said
@@TT.3123 Thank you Emmie!
agreed!!
Individual therapy as well
I totally agree!
For the straight couple.... She said he's never told her that he loved her. She said that him telling her that was weird for her, and I feel like that says a lot honestly. I feel like there's a story.
Yes, she's embarrassing.
@@CaribouOrange What are you talking about?
@@CaribouOrange No its weird to be in a serious relationship with someone and then never tell them you love them when you really do, and then wait until after your broken up to tell them.
@@CaribouOrange both of them really
Weird cause she says she wanted more intimacy..but then said that it didn't make much sense really.
This one looks more like a closure round of questions than an actually move to save the relationship
Indeed
Most couples never seem to get closure and doing so would help, so if you spin it that way, I see it as an even bigger positive. Most couples break up for valid reasons and some of these reasons won’t ever be resolved without big changes…changes some people would refuse to make. Trying to make it work without changing is a never ending cycle of heartbreak and exhaustion
The 30 Questions certainly allows you to strip away any kind of doubt you may have about your own partner. It really lets you get to know more about them in-depth.
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I’m actually so glad this video didn’t end all rainbows and sunshine. Relationships are hard. Mentally, physically… this shows such reality and it’s nice to see people making responsible decisions for themselves, eachother and their kids. loved this one
This is one where we need the whole unedited thing, like with the 12-hour box.
Heather and Stacy broke my heart. You can feel the love they have for each other through the screen, but you can also feel how much hurt is there still.
I watched a therapist reacting to this video she really like the queer women. Saying that she hopes they can work out their situation. Broke me when they didn't get back together.
The couple with the child just broke my heart. I can see their love for each other....but also so much pain. I have hope for them.
Really? The fat one cheated. Where’s the love?
That moment at 9:08 and 9:25 though :) Seems like you can see them both in real time realizing there may be something deeper between them that they hadn’t actually acknowledged yet.
thats exactly what i thought!
One of the most beautiful moments
Yesssssssss
I think for the younger straight couple, the issue seemed to be lack of communication within the relationship. Like what she wanted in there sex life, and him saying he still loves her, yet he's never said " I love you" to her. I think communication really brings people in the relationship together. It's simple and straight forward yes, but you'd be surprised whenever things work out with just talking to your partner about what you're comfortable with.
the lesbian couple, with how they communicated and there tones was perfect. Even when Heather disagreed with her wife but still respected her opinion.
She straight up said she was never in love with him
@@parker1059 Yeah that’s insane. There were definitely skewed perspectives in the relationship. The guy thought he would get back with her because he’s still in love with her. The girl never was in love with him and moved on, so much so that she slept with someone else shortly after the relationship ended. Owen is going to have to realize he needs to move on, it’s hard but he’ll get better with time.
Owen was so cringe. He gave super weird vibes. He felt like a stalker, not like a real relationship
@@emmabunch-benson4795 i feel that. Something was def off. "Im still in love with her" but she never was. She also admitted she thinks their relationship lacked intamacy? Strange. She deff seemed done with his shit lol
@@wyld3r of course “his shit”
I'm going to be honest, I think Owen blinsided the girl. She said that he never told her that he was still in love with her and also mentioned how romantically they weren't compatible. She seemed just emotionally over the relationship due to the fact she never received that type of love that he's now expressing within the relationship. I feel for her.
Thanks queen
For her? That boy is still crying
Omari Bro, he never said he loved her and seems like they didn’t get along during their relationship then suddenly pulled a stunt to get her back after he knows she had moved on.
also the way he freaked about her sleeping with someone else and then her casually mentioning that they had issues with boundaries.
@@felixculpa3488 I was thinking about this as well!!
Proof how much communication is SO KEY to a productive and healthy relationship .
That poor sweet woman just got out of depression and then immediately being served divorce? My heart goes out to her
Same as someone with mental health issues. But at least her ex does seem kind and a good friend/co parent
Love the rawness and this platform to say what normal ppl think and go through and we aren't alone
I genuinely admire the way Heather acts, such a mature and calm way to handle this questions. Hope the best for her, even when I don't even know her
"I think I bring you down with my sadness,"
"I think you're so beautiful" and now I'm absolutely sobbing
As a married lesbian in an interracial relationship with a young kid who went through a separation due to mental health- yowza!! We got back together though. Mental health struggles can be a silent poison in a relationship. Our vows weren't traditional but they did include sickness and health. My wife has ptsd from being a covid nurse. Who she is now is not the same as who I married. I'm lucky that she's still the one for me. Heather and Stacy may not get there but I hope they both end up OK even if it's apart.
Y’all are incredibly beautiful in your profile picture. I am so glad everything ended up working out. I can’t begin to imagine what she went through. I am on disability for CPTSD and I know it can be difficult to support someone who has mental health issues. Wishing y’all all the best, always. Be safe, be well, be happy. 🤍
i wish you two the best, its a hard thing you were going through but i hope life treats you both good in the future
Got any more descriptive words for yourself you wanna throw in there?
“I’m married, single, white, Asian, Jewish, I love macaroni & cheese, my favorite movie is Home Alone and I like long walks on the beach” head-ass
Yeah mental health is a lot. I have struggles too and when I wasn’t in therapy it was really hard for my partner. But we’re in a better place now that I’m in therapy again and he feels like he has a lot more space in our relationship. He’s someone who likes to fix things, but mental health isn’t something you can just fix so he felt really burdened by this desire when I was at my worst. But yeah, I’m glad I’m fortunate enough to have met a therapist that I really click with, and I know my partner feels a lot safer in our relationship too.
Ok, the girl from the straight couple is ABSOLUTELY checked out of that relationship and was probably never really there, I actually feel bad for the guy because I think we just saw him get his heart re-broken
Owen is definitely hurting, honestly don’t be friends with her, I think it will just hurt more since she already moved on and slept with other(s)
PLEASE you guys gotta make full length versions of these, the way I would’ve loved watching a long ass video of them talking about each question😭
Stacy and Heather seem like really good people but their situation is so difficult. Heather wants to be there but being there probably wouldn't help because depression doesn't go away like that and as Stacy, that brings her down.
I think being separared but maintaining contact for the sake of a good development of their child and not losing each other is the healthiest way to go.
When the cut host asked what the answer was and so much came out. That's exactly what we need. To prod at the awkward and uncomfortable to get at these true emotions. That's what they're here for. To show vulnerability and create open communication to move forward in a healthy way. I love how real it got.
post partum depression isn't talked about enough and needs to be
The “you’re beautiful you’re really beautiful” part made me tear up 😢
This was very sad to watch. Stacy was accepting but, you could see her heart breaking. Owen, OMG! I cried. He was completely devastated. Koach and Deonte should just be together, they are both so adorable.
I think the gay dudes are the only with chances to end together. The straight couple basically realized they aren't a good match and in the lesbian couple I don't think the black girl wants to.
i know i wouldn't want to in her place💀 the other girl was full of redflags imo
@@opaliatzs100 percent. People are playing violins for her depression, but she literally cheated.
@@aa4488 Well, they were separated. She was mad at the length of time it took to tell her, not what it was. Plus they didn't elaborate what it was that transpired.
I think with Owen and the woman ,people need to realize that you can sympathize with one of the people's stories without it taking away from the other. Feeling sympathy for Owen doesn't mean the girl is bad or wrong. It's just a painful situation and I think people can relate to the hurt of unrequited love or feelings.
I love how people bare intimate aspects of their lives so that I can have something entertaining to watch while eating takeout.
Am I the only one that doesn’t really feel bad for Owen and feel more for the girl he really blindsided by bringing her in this show? Imagine your ex who never told you they loved you told you the first time IN FRONT OF A CAMERA AND OTHER PEOPLE
Nop
It's so crazy because you see these people walls breaking down. But you see them grow and you see those micro changes in their faces the indicate their emotional /reflecting stage. Great video and very thankful for these people accepting to be vulnerable in front of the camera
My poor guy with long hair was absolutely crushed
I don’t what it is but god I love seeing such raw videos - something so cathartic about watching these people get these things out of their system
As someone who has battled with postpartum depression I can totally relate to her feelings.. the anger, sadness, guilt and overall being overwhelmed with emotions you can’t explain nor control can make you spiral into darkness. Feeling alone with it makes you say and do things you wouldn’t have before and then the person you thought would never leave does because of it all makes you worse and feel as if you’re not good enough to love. I almost committed suicide but didn’t because of my daughter, she needed me even if I was broken. Hope to anyone else going through it know that you’re loved and you will get better just look at your child and know you have a purpose
I’m in awe of the strength it took to make the decision to stay here for your daughter. Very commendable
🤍🫡
It’s crazy how someone can make you feel emotions you’ve never felt before, show you a side of yourself you’ve never seen, can’t even imagine world without them.. but soon enough it becomes dull and somehow destructible. At a certain point, loving someone and being in a relationship is no longer effortless, and you have to put in the work to maintain it, if you both want it. This video was so beautiful and uniquely accurate
With Owen and the girl….he referenced their relationship as “hooking up”. I’m just wondering if he made it more than it actually was? Especially because of the boundary thing she mentioned..idk.
I felt that pain in his laugh when he asked the question mann. Owen keep your head up king your snapback is falling
the people villainizing the girl from the straight relationship are weird. sure, it's sad for the guy, but she obviously did not see this coming and said most of what she said before she knew he still had feelings for her. she looked completely taken aback when he told her.
we don't know any details about their relationship, but it seems like they had and still have issues with communication.
she's obviously moved on, and that is not a bad thing. it was important for him to hear that, since it's clearly not gonna happen.
I’m glad these people are able to have open and honest conversations! Need more of this between people
Love how honest the girl in black w black nails was! This video was so healing like 😢❤
Don’t lose your identity... that one is crucial! I’ve been in relationships with narcissists and that’s the first thing they take...
I'm sorry, bro. Wish you the best.
I think the questions are great as they are direct and i respect all those people conversing openly and honestly with each other
Koach is one of my favourite people on this channel! He seems like he would be an amazing friend!
I hope Stacey and Heather work it out🥺you can tell that they both still care about each other and their marriage but it was a lot of mental and emotional exhaustion that broke them up. I think with therapy (individual and coupled) they could work it out. Definitely not today or in the future, I think their is a possibility.
And it takes both people to work at solving problems, both assuming personal responsibility. If one is doing all the blaming and one is doing all the adapting, that is not a relationship . It’s a dictatorship.
The lady with dreads and the white lady where so emotional
I mean understandably so, they have a kid together
When a kid is thrown into the mix, it becomes more serious
those are braids
I applaud all the individuals involved for having the courage to be so vulnerable and answer these type of questions in front of strangers AND then have it shared online for the world to see. I hope everyone is able to get the love they deserve and help they may need ❤
I had the same issue with my ex as the black couple. I felt like his friends were more of a priority to him than I was even though I would drive 2 hours to him almost every weekend. He had cancelled on me two times in a row and we only got to see each other intimately every 2 weeks because he got his daughter every other weekend. It just became too much for me to handle, especially because of the distance.
Heather and her wife definitely could get out this and fix their relationship. They are gentle with each other. They really love and care for each other and also seem to respect each other so much
Wow.. I feel so bad for Owen. You can tell how in love with her he still is. I hope he is able to heal.
okay this is absolutely random, but yall should do a "I take my tinder date to the box for 12 hrs" episode cus that would be perfect because they're already attracted to each other and connected on some level so hopefully the box can take it further
I think many matches on tinder are already going straight to a box for 12 hours …
isn't the whole point of the box getting each others perspective or getting to know them? so whats the point when there's no problem to get each others perspective and/or u already know them
@@opaliatzs the box is like an intense way of getting people acquainted with each other. Instead of going on 5 different dates or losing someone compatible because of failure to follow through with the awkward phases you knock all that out in one sitting in the box. Also, what hindered quite a few couples was an immediate dissatisfaction with their looks, matching with someone or doing an ordeal like that- that puts you with someone you know you'd give a chance can avert all that.
A relationship is only hard if one person is doing all the work.
-Being that Owen still has feeling for her, it would be hard to just be friends. Feelings can get in the way of that. Hopefully he moves on. That's all he can do.
-Why would Koach want to be with someone who stands him up? Hopefully Deonte realizes that if he wants to be with Koach, he can't do that sort of thing.
Owen needed to hear that in order for him to move on
Stacy and Heather need to go to marriage counseling. They brought a child into the world and don't know how to handle parenthood and keeping their marriage alive. Heather seems to not understand what postpartum depression can be like and how real it can be, thats basically what I got from what Stacy was saying. Heather being the partner that did not carry the child should have educated herself on what postpartum can be like and should have been that medium to help her spouse get help when she needed it. Marriage to a lot of people seems to mean nothing, you vow for better or worse, sick and in health, richer or poorer, life will have trials and you have to be able to work through those trials together. It just seems to me that when sh*t got real Heather couldn't deal with it and thats on her. Ending the marriage and getting in new relationships is not going to change anything the "spark" will die out in other relationships as well. Marriage isn't about keeping the "sparks" going, its about keeping the embers lit and you do need to add some fuel to keep the fire going and keep producing embers.
Yeah and they could have gotten seperated too i feel bad for stacy
Deonte was on the Sober Truth or Drink so I wonder how much his addiction or recovery played a part in their relationship working out
That’s a really good question. My diction has never played a role when we were together. And throughout that journey he’s always been super supportive I have a tendency of being close to him
@@deauntedamper3274 That's great! I'm glad he's part of your support system. I'm rooting for y'all! ❤️
The amount of courage it took to do this publicly, respect.
I hope Owen finds peace. I know this is just a snippet of things, but she felt pretty cold towards him.
I was thinking the same thing about her being cold but we also don’t know what has happened before this so idk
I really didn’t like how she answered the question about how he can improve sexually (basically that he was bad at giving head). She knew the whole time she didn’t want to get back together with him, so what was the point of saying that in front of thousands of people? He can’t use that kind of feedback considering she doesn’t want to be more than friends and his technique could be perfect for the next woman he’s with. A more appropriate thing to say would’ve been “you need to listen to your partner when they tell you what they want,” if that was the root of the issue. Otherwise what she said was just mean and not useful.
@@elainecary2884 seems like she just doesn't like him. I'm warmer to every friend I have!
@@elainecary2884 I’d usually be the last one to come to the defense of a woman who seemingly doesn’t communicate her sexual desires/needs appropriately (disclaimer for my own sanity lol), but maybe she just didn’t have anything else. Taking everything at face value, it just seems that she finds them incompatible and he’s still pining for her in some way. In that case there could be nothing else to work on other than that one small aspect, which is great for his future cause all of that can be improved with communication (or, as you said, his technique could be perfect for the next person). You can’t fix incompatibility, but he can work and that and sounds like he is or is at least willing to
@@elainecary2884 She was shocked that he was still in love with her, though. She had no idea that was his aim or that he was still pining for her, so I don't think she thought she was kicking him while he was down. Their incompatibility was obvious to her, and she thought it was mutual after their amicable break up. Moreover, he was the one who invited her there, and then she got blindsided by the fact that he never got over her and was using this as couples therapy. I feel bad for both of them, but especially her; that's a hell of a way for an ex to misread the breakup and her feelings, and put her in the awkward position of having to be a villain on camera for millions of viewers.
All that aside, they were brought on to talk openly and honestly. Giving feedback to an ex as friends is genuinely one of the nicest things you can do, imo. Knowing what you might need to work on does actually help in future relationships, and a vague "listen to your partner more" (while being good advice, not knocking that!) might not have hit home the same way.
I feel for Stacy because post partum is tough to go through. You need a SOLID relationship and a solid partner to be there for you and understand all the changes your body and mind is going through.
Bro in the blue is struggling god damn that was hard to watch
The two women belong to each other. The two dudes are better off as friends. My heart breaks for the long haired kid.
I feel like it was the other way around
Owen wants to get back with her so bad. I really hope Cut let him see her answer so he can move on from that relationship. keep your head up 👑👑
owen reminds me far too much of clingy, stalkery, abusive & manipulative men. HUGE ick vibes
I feel for the guy in the blue sweater. Loving someone that has no desire to be with you is one of the worst feelings I’ve experienced.
When she told Owen that she was never in love with him he broke right there
Blonde guy got told he’s a good friend but sucks as a lover 🥶
1. Lets recount how we first met, how do you remember it?
2. Who is responsible for the breakup?
3. Are you in love with someone else?
4. Sexuall, where can I improve?
5. Why do you think we didnt work out?
6. What is sth you havent told me since our breakup?
7. Where do you think we failed us?
8. Why am I not good enough to be in a rs with?
9. Have you slept with anyone since we seperated?
10. Call a friend and ask them if we should get back together
11. What expectations didnt I meet as a Partner?
12. Name 3 reasons why we shouldnt get back together
13. When did you know you had fallen out of love with me?
14. Are you happier without me?
15. What would it take for you to give us another chance?
16. Can we get back together?
I wonder what the other 14 questions were.
@@aarongmoore same, I really want to know. I think they’d be extremely beneficial!
@@aarongmoore they’re at the end
I’m amazed by how truthful and evident these questions and answers are. The chemical, responsible, sorrowful, loving connections are front & center. Best of confidence to everyone. Trust yourself.
The pain is deep with Owen and Heather, I hope they move on soon and find happy relationships😞
So much respect for the people to talk to come together and talk to each other, and do it in front of the camera!!!
I really don’t feel that bad for the straight guy. It was so clear she had moved on and the fact he really thought at all she would be interested in getting back together is kind of shocking given everything literally both of them said.
Heather seems like a really precious person
The white girl completely got over it,it’s time for the guy to get over it too
I was so close to crying this is so sad but it's also so wholesome at the same time this makes me realize how much love can hurt sometimes
I find it more humbling.
I'd be down for the full 30 questions with each couple
Completely understand having mental health issues and how that affects the relationship dynamic. I'm lucky to have a husband who's been a saint but it does cause a lot of strain at times and it makes me feel like I'm dragging down the relationship often. Even though I go to counseling and take medication I still feel this way. It's not easy and not for everyone.
This is a wonderful video. I so appreciate all of the people in the video being willing to share their stories and feelings.
I would love for a more in-depth video for each of the couples. Similar to how there are Lineup videos will all the guessers, then videos with each of the guessers individually. I would love to see a video for each of the couples individually.
Also, this would make an amazing series.
When he said "I miss his spunk" I almost choked on my water. Anybody else have a dirty mind? As sad as this was to watch, I think it was good. Hard hitting and direct questions are always best and necessary for understanding.
please put their names on the screen whenever they are on screen. it makes it easier to figure out who the comments are talking about and to be able to write comments about or relating to something similar to them.
I agree! I have no idea which one is Owen!
@@chadspro Owen's the long-haired dude in the first clip.
When Heather told Stacy she was beautiful even when she cries I lost it. 😕 I haven’t cried like that in a while.
Owen should sever ties with his Ex. The fact that she said it was "weird" when he expressed he loved her clearly illustrates she didn't take it that seriously. Yikes, poor guy. Don't even bother creating boundaries and just move on (unless you have a mutual friend circle you need to maintain or something to that effect).
Nope. ,,Weird", because HE never told HER when they were still together!
@@Ella.L. Cmon Ella. I'll make some concessions here that perhaps bringing her on without notice wasn't his best choice. That being said, it's obvious she was checked out from the jump or passing time.
Anyone else catch Owen adding, “anyone I know?“ to the question about sleeping with anyone post break up?
My heart aches for Stacy. Postpartum affects so much more than yourself. I hope she can heal.
This was intense and interesting, thanks to all the participants for their emotional bravery.
I like this series, please do more
2:50 KILLED ME
"Yeah no" "No?" "No." "Shit. Alright."
Dead
For Heather and Stacy, if you see this, please read Attached by Levine and Heller. It will change your perspective on your relationship and help you both approach it differently!!