I got through the suicide of my 14 year old son. I didn't think at the time I could go on living. 11 years later and I am still here. I can dig through anxiety now.
Trust yourself. Such a simple a concept (that my doctors have never implored me to employ). Yet it has turned out to be very helpful when faced with anxiety and the random panic attacks that seem to occur from out of nowhere. Thank you Ms Julia Kristina.
Cputb1: I found hilariously ironic that both of us are doing self help on youtube and getting more benefit from it than we did from so called professionals.
@@juliakristinamah Please dont take my comment to be directed at you. I wouldnt watch your videos if I didnt find them honest, rational, caring, thought provoking and helpful. In my experience, based on my own experience and research and the testimony of others; the average mental health provider is useless and some are harmful. You fit neither category.
I've been going through anxiety for the last couple of years since making many changes in my life. I've tried so many different solutions, but this video is the best thing I've found. You absolutely nailed the problem, and now anytime I'm having an episode I can hear your voice in my head reminding me to trust myself. Honestly, every time I hear it I'm nearly moved to tears by the joy it gives me that I can finally feel the anxiety subside. Thank you so much Julia. You're genuinely my hero.
Richard, I am SO happy you found this helpful. Right now I'm a little more active on my Facebook Like page and do mental health and personal development videos on there about once a week. I'd love to connect with you there: facebook.com/JuliaCounsellor
Great Emily! I give regular live mental health and personal growth talks over on my Facebook Page. Would love to have you come and join me there! fb.me/juliacounsellor
Julia Kristina Counselling I have had random small anxiety attacks through out life but about a week ago I had a super bad one and ever since I have had multiple attacks daily, I don't want to go on medication but I have looked into cognitive behavioural therapy but I'm just not sure what to do I need help I can't live everyday like this I do t wanna leave my house out of fear I'll have a panic attack at work I want to quit everything and stay in my room all day. I need help
I think one of the solutions to anxiety is security and "feeling secure." Financially, emotionally, health issues, feeling stable & on solid ground makes anxiety disappear. I do agree trust is a solution too and being in tune with your intuition helps. Have a plan for situations that produce anxiety. Just my 2 cents from experience.
I've been dealing with depression and anxiety since June of this year. My family and friends are my biggest support but they often don't understand what I'm feeling when I have an anxiety attack. Let alone when I'm going through an attack I can't explain to them what is wrong with me. Your videos are helping them understand what depression and anxiety is. Thank you for sharing this with the world.
I don’t comment usually but this video I found of yours is one I was desperate to find to help my husband understand ME and how to help deal and manage my anxiety and what he can do to help me out without breaking down and feeling down on myself! THANK YOU for giving me hope
I appreciate what this video is trying to accomplish. Answering the "what-ifs" sounded to me like a step towards preparation and planning. If one plans and has backup plans then I believe the stress and anxiety somewhat dissipates. Your words are encouraging. To trust yourself and your strength to get back up after an unfavorable outcome, though, is incredibly difficult. I feel, though, that part of the problem in why people cannot "trust" themselves or their ability to pull themselves through a rut is that the discomfort associated with failure and the odds (for some) of failure being the outcome can be so great that we feel there's no way we can trust. We don't want to face failure again. And when we're faced with failure being a possibility and past attempts have ended in failure, trust becomes increasingly difficult to come by. I think that some of us may hear this and think we're supposed to trust in our abilities to succeed. I know you're saying to rather trust in our ability to pull through and continue, but most of us don't want to face failure or the possibility of it because the aftermath is debilitating. I'm not sure I'm making sense. In my case, I've attempted the bar exam twice. I'm attempting it a third time. My anxiety is rooted in fear of future failure, just as you said. I have survived two past failures but not without facing and struggling with depression and hits to my confidence and self worth. A third attempt could devastate me, it could end me. Sounds dramatic, I know. But that is the reality of how I feel. So, if you could speak to those of us that have to face situations where multiple attempts for similar situations have led and may lead to the same result (failure), and how to deal with that anxiety we'd really appreciate it.
Amazing talk!! Thank you so much for helping so many people, I;m going to pass this on to all of my closest friends and family. You gave us a gift, a truly beautiful gift.
@@divinetiming1005 I heard another thing you can do is if you feel your starting to get anxious do something nice for someone like drop someone a message to say your thinking of them
Absolutely amazing life advice, I've become a lot better at trusting myself and it WORKS to stop my anxiety from getting to me. There's always going to be a bad day, and everyone has those days; however, the ability to make it a good day starts by trusting yourself. Thank you for making this video.
I thought this was just me, planning all the time, having a back up plan. I constantly analyse stuff. Then I watch this video. And it clicks. I've been unknowingly using the what if questions and planning to ease anxiety. You explain it in such a easy way to understand. Thank you :)
This is a good video. I constantly struggle with generalized anxiety disorder, and this video offers some good insight and help. I struggle with the thought of dying. I have been to hospitals and specialists many times over to get checked out. But whenever my anxiety hits, which has become quite often, it always circles around the thought that I am dying. I did have a near death experience when I was 15, and at 32 I still find I am dealing with it. So thank you for trying to help people like myself!
Thank you so much Julia, this is such important work that you are doing and the resources that you are providing is changing my life, thank you for making a difference
I think the reason why we avoid asking “What if” is because deep inside we feel that if we actually say it out loud, it will surely happen and manifest itself. So we avoid addressing it.
how do you stop daily panic attacks heart palpitations dizzyness off balance when we walk shaking its insane i wake up everyday fearing another panic attack
Sultan Mir I also deal with the same thing. Have you tried tapping??? I'm also looking into a vitamin b complex in addition to magnesium I've heard these are great natural things
Sultan Mir understand that these feelings are very normal. They are not harmful in any way, and half the world goes through them. They are a blessing. Do not fear them. Enjoy them. You are afraid of harmless sensations. That’s all. They persist because you fear them. Nothing more. What you resist will persist. Accept them, love them, and your fear of them ends. And your suffering ends.
Ive been looking through CBT videos the last few days and have found very few of them watchable, let alone helpful. So this was a pleasant surprise. Easy to hear, audio-wise, and straightforward concepts. Good stuff!
not a bad idea! i always used to just try to take some small action towards it. like if it's a presentation im worried about, just do 1 slide and then go take a break. but it gets the ball rolling :s
Great video, and thanks for making this! It seems helpful, and I think the theory makes sense and is on a good track. I'm still learning about this and studying it, but here are some of my thoughts... There seems to be a benefit to having a survivor mentality instead of a victim mentality in order to empower one's self and approach a challenging situation from a place of strength and maintain a potential for growth. Having self-confidence in one's ability to handle a situation and survive it and get stronger from the experience, no matter what the environment brings or what emotional reaction is evoked within us. Maybe we can't necessarily trust ourselves that we won't get anxious, but we can trust that we can survive having any experience, even an anxious one, and thus trust in our ability to handle it. Not getting lost in the externalized fear of an outer environment that we generally can't predict nor control, but rather, staying centered with the inner experience and our physical reaction to it that we can mostly control and can learn to control better with time with experience and with confidence building. Instead of getting lost in an endless daydream, maybe envision a triumphant end to that story with a stoic or heroic outcome. (So as to fire those neurons and wire those neurons together, to reinforce such a thinking-habit.) Replacing the future-envisioned panic with an image of calm, composure and coping. Realizing that even if we can't prevent our mind from imagining negative scenarios that spontaneously pop into our conscious mind, we can at least rest assured that we are completely empowered to pull our conscious mind back to the present moment anytime we want. Even if we can't stop negative thoughts, we can absolutely decide how we want to think about them, judge them or draw conclusions about them, and whether we choose to believe in them or not, and we can choose to not give energy to them by not ruminating on them if we so decide. We don't necessarily have to associate fear with excitement, and excitement with fear. We can consider them separately if we so decide. It is a cognitive choice whether we conflate them or not. My guess is that people without anxiety may simultaneously experience excitement and fear but they don't co-associate or conflate them in their mind.
I have had really bad anxiety and never notice it until recently. I have been through a lot (dealing with my Multiple Sclerosis, trying to perform a career change after being laid off and feeling like I'll never succeed to that).
I think some of my anxiety comes from childhood trauma. My mom used to tell me “when we get home I’m gonna beat you”. Then I would be anxious until we got home and she would flat out stomp on my spirit.
There are awesome tips in this video, like to trust yourself and answering the what if question. But my doubts arise when you suggest to think about all the past successes and the things that we already have overcome. You say their existence proves that there is no reason to think I'm unable to overcome new challenges. But how should I deal with past situations that turned out badly? They are proof that I can fail and how do I know how a new situation will turn out? That makes the fear seem reasonable and I just don't see the solution for this.
Thankyou Julia I get a lot anxiety and fear very up and down in life and so many doctor and body pain iam tired and worrying I need help and I get very anger
Hi Julia, Your video was very helpful. Lately, I've been going to a particularly rough patch of anxiety, to the point that i cannot focus on my academics or day or day activities. Listening to your advice and suggestions almost instantaneously elevated my hopes of control over my life again. I will be going through your material here and I would love to see more! Subscribed! cheers! :)
Thank you for this video... anxiety can't have or lives guys! We must F I G H T! For me ppl being around me help me Knowing I'm not alone Anxiety needs to be dug out, by the root
This video is amazing! thank you so much for this useful advice :) :) :) your so right with the fact that everybody has been through difficult times have like myself and others have achieved so much more then we all realise, be great! guys! :) :)
I'm so happy to hear that Beautiful Dreamer! I give regular live mental health and personal growth talks over on my Facebook Page. Would love to have you come and join me there! fb.me/juliacounsellor
Oh dear I like this but as u was explaining my brain went in a spin .right at fist I have Bern trying to confront my fears . And I'm glad I watched yr video to learn this is the art .to beating anxiety so I was on the right track . Only problem is when u said draw from yr past experiences I sufferd panic attacks over 4 years 2003 to 2006 then after it came in waves pending doom and usually left . I have Bern diegnosied OCD intrusive thoughts ptsd and Panicdissorder .I've really been battling them things the past 14 years . And I've achieved lots moved 4 houses within 5 year span .been abroad raised my kids my youngest is now 11 oldest 21 . I've done every kind of anxiety from heath to terms to cemtrical to what if .to supernatural fear to religious one I've done many .wether it was the OCD intrusive thoughts making me panic or panicking making me have OCD I don't no . But I need I struggled I take things very litlary interpersonilise and I take things in easy like from Frases or utube or m9vies and some reason my mind seems to take them in a perceived danger way .or I see and here triggers .triggers over things I don't fully understand do they frighten me . I been messed around over last 14 years in UK by mental heath servises I've only had 4 lots of iapt.i finially got refured to psyciritrist last month for full assement .I was happy to finially get in at first .But I also was convinced I had adhd . But no psyciritrist said he was swaying towards bpd and asberges or autisim . Then he said somethink I shit myself with he said I could slip into psychosis with bpd .And I asked what that he said see and or gear things dellousions . Well that is one big fear for me I hope that never happens althou if it did I would ring emergenceys servises and section myself . I left that office I googled bpd and flipped I brought on 2 panic attacks of which I haven't had for 6 years at least .and I've sent myself in a downwards spiral because if his suggestion and guess what he only said . He's bordering on bpd he said he swaying towards. Not even given full diegnosis yet an boom I flipped .I've been feeling shit for ages and any other little thing appointed or debt stuff with vodaphone problem is all making me feel I carnt cope .So I started doing the happy list the positive list I even came to conclusion fight it in cinemas my thought on loop over 300 times saying the fear I couldn't seem to conclude . Just repeat the fear feel the sensation.i said no I can do this I'll fight it I can handle it . But even thou I've done this I still keep on with symptoms it's like ice triggerd my mind on a downwards spiral and I want to get off it.and I'm scared of going bk to full blown panic mode .actually . I'm 39 now to old for this shit .all things effect me badly .I rang out of hours I told her psyciritrist made me I'll.worst and she saiddont think of it as full bpd .think of it as mild bpd sensitivity dissorder . And when I mentioned I'm doing happy lists or achievement lists. She asked if I'm writing them to reassure my identy because I've lost my identy. I said no I'm doing them lists to read 3 positives for every 1 negitive.but that whole day then I kept repeating was I doing lists because I've lost my identy . Untill the night I wrote for clarity and I said to self wether it's positive happy list or wether it's because to remind me of who I am what dose it matter actually. I joined 2 bpd groups but left I do not think I have that or I don't self harm dissasociate or have fear of being alone . I have in past felt surreal . I do now more than ever feel any slight change to circumstances makes me feel negitive worried as heck .I almost feel my brains poorly like it's sore or needs rest from anxiety . My fears are not of what I can expose myself to .they are other level .of OCD type .
I used to do so many things but it's a struggle just to get out of the house now. I can go to work but that's all I want to do. My wife just left me too and I know this has something to do with it. I've been taking .5 Xanax twice a day and I was starting to get off them until she left. I'm not who I used to be and I don't know what happened. I dont want the Xanax but it's the only thing that makes the dizziness and chest tightness go away. I dont know what to do. I can't afford outside help and I don't really have anyone to talk to. I want to feel normal again so I'm praying these videos help.
What if you can think of things you've gotten through in the past, but you didn't exactly handle them well ie. they made you panicky, made you doubt yourself? That's not really proof that you can handle whatever life throws at you...
I had the worst presentation today because another instructor was with me in the class. I panicked and almost fainted I couldn't speak up and my knees were shaking. I don't think answering the what if question will solve that. I tried so many times to answer "what's the worst that can happen?". Well, the worst happened and I couldn't deal with it and it felt so bad.
Hi Julia, I dont know if you'd read my comment. But the answers to my "What Ifs" are 1. I'll go broke and I can't support my family. 2. I'll forever feel anxious. Because the 2 most powerful "What if" questions are: I got laid off and couldnt find any job. Second, there are thugs every night hanging around making noises at night and nobody said anything in my neighborhood. I dont know if I ever face anything close to this as being married with a kid changes everything within me. I get scared easily because I feel a sense of responsibility. So how do I cope with these types of "What Ifs"? I hope you reply. Thanks.
i have a fear of being anxious.. i am scared of talking to people.. i am scared what if i talk to someone and my lips start trembling.. what if they notice that i am shaking.. what should i do.. i had a one month course of anti anxiety pills.. and now i have some emergency pills left .. but i am trying not to rely on that so i am not taking those pills..what should i do ?
This was a great technique, thanks! So how much is it to get you to travel to Ireland and have a counselling session here? lol. In all seriousness, I would love to email you my problems and situation at the moment to see what your thoughts would be on them and how to overcome them. You seem like you would definitely know.
Whenever I watch a video with the subject of anxiety, I become anxious. Anxiety is not something I feel I can control. Only after I get through whatever is making me anxious, will the anxiety go away. Pep talks do nothing. I do them as a habit, but the anxiety does not subside.
So the problem I have is that, What are you supposed to do when you have multiple failures in varying aspects of your life? Especially when those failures were things that carried a lot of meaning in your life? I mean at some point don't you have to be realistic and say "maybe I can't trust myself"?
My ex has done parent alienation which is a clinical psych diagnosis how do I reach how do I stop that and results my children have my children are suffering and I find it really difficult and I'm the mother he's the father and he has all he has done so much damage to the kids who are now parents himself and are struggling with the same stuff
Trust!!! Wow! Would have never thought about that.... seems silly since I am a believer in Jesus Christ! But yes... TRUST yourself to handle challenges
Jessica Parker Yes, one of my favorite verses when I’m anxious: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.” How have you been doing lately? Praying you are feeling better and in a good place! 🙏🏻💗
I got through the suicide of my 14 year old son. I didn't think at the time I could go on living. 11 years later and I am still here. I can dig through anxiety now.
wow that is amazing im so happy that you were able to get through that as well .
I needed this today. I will work on that I like the thought of thinking of plan b.
I cried while watching this...thank you Julia
Trust yourself. Such a simple a concept (that my doctors have never implored me to employ). Yet it has turned out to be very helpful when faced with anxiety and the random panic attacks that seem to occur from out of nowhere. Thank you Ms Julia Kristina.
Absolutely my pleasure! I'm so happy you found it useful.
Easier said then done
Cputb1: I found hilariously ironic that both of us are doing self help on youtube and getting more benefit from it than we did from so called professionals.
@@juliakristinamah Please dont take my comment to be directed at you. I wouldnt watch your videos if I didnt find them honest, rational, caring, thought provoking and helpful. In my experience, based on my own experience and research and the testimony of others; the average mental health provider is useless and some are harmful. You fit neither category.
I've been going through anxiety for the last couple of years since making many changes in my life. I've tried so many different solutions, but this video is the best thing I've found. You absolutely nailed the problem, and now anytime I'm having an episode I can hear your voice in my head reminding me to trust myself. Honestly, every time I hear it I'm nearly moved to tears by the joy it gives me that I can finally feel the anxiety subside. Thank you so much Julia. You're genuinely my hero.
Richard, I am SO happy you found this helpful. Right now I'm a little more active on my Facebook Like page and do mental health and personal development videos on there about once a week. I'd love to connect with you there: facebook.com/JuliaCounsellor
Julia Kristina Counselling
I found this video really helpful, thank you.
Great Emily! I give regular live mental health and personal growth talks over on my Facebook Page. Would love to have you come and join me there! fb.me/juliacounsellor
Julia Kristina Counselling I have had random small anxiety attacks through out life but about a week ago I had a super bad one and ever since I have had multiple attacks daily, I don't want to go on medication but I have looked into cognitive behavioural therapy but I'm just not sure what to do I need help I can't live everyday like this I do t wanna leave my house out of fear I'll have a panic attack at work I want to quit everything and stay in my room all day. I need help
I think one of the solutions to anxiety is security and "feeling secure." Financially, emotionally, health issues, feeling stable & on solid ground makes anxiety disappear. I do agree trust is a solution too and being in tune with your intuition helps. Have a plan for situations that produce anxiety. Just my 2 cents from experience.
I've been dealing with depression and anxiety since June of this year. My family and friends are my biggest support but they often don't understand what I'm feeling when I have an anxiety attack. Let alone when I'm going through an attack I can't explain to them what is wrong with me. Your videos are helping them understand what depression and anxiety is. Thank you for sharing this with the world.
how are you now ??
This video made me think and realize I haven't overcome any of my crappy experiences. Confidence dropped even further.
I just found this video series. Julia is amazing and I am grateful to her
Julia you are so confident with your knowledge-Thanks
I don’t comment usually but this video I found of yours is one I was desperate to find to help my husband understand ME and how to help deal and manage my anxiety and what he can do to help me out without breaking down and feeling down on myself! THANK YOU for giving me hope
Jody, this just filled my heart. I am so grateful to hear this has been helpful for you. And thank you for taking the time to say so.
From the bottom of my heart, I would like to say thank you.
absolutely my pleasure Christian!
You are a great person doing a great job, thank you!!!
Wow, this totally amazed me. However, it makes great sense.
A fantastic speaker.
This is a great video. I can tell you have great passion for what you do.
I appreciate what this video is trying to accomplish. Answering the "what-ifs" sounded to me like a step towards preparation and planning. If one plans and has backup plans then I believe the stress and anxiety somewhat dissipates. Your words are encouraging. To trust yourself and your strength to get back up after an unfavorable outcome, though, is incredibly difficult. I feel, though, that part of the problem in why people cannot "trust" themselves or their ability to pull themselves through a rut is that the discomfort associated with failure and the odds (for some) of failure being the outcome can be so great that we feel there's no way we can trust.
We don't want to face failure again. And when we're faced with failure being a possibility and past attempts have ended in failure, trust becomes increasingly difficult to come by.
I think that some of us may hear this and think we're supposed to trust in our abilities to succeed. I know you're saying to rather trust in our ability to pull through and continue, but most of us don't want to face failure or the possibility of it because the aftermath is debilitating.
I'm not sure I'm making sense.
In my case, I've attempted the bar exam twice. I'm attempting it a third time. My anxiety is rooted in fear of future failure, just as you said. I have survived two past failures but not without facing and struggling with depression and hits to my confidence and self worth. A third attempt could devastate me, it could end me. Sounds dramatic, I know. But that is the reality of how I feel.
So, if you could speak to those of us that have to face situations where multiple attempts for similar situations have led and may lead to the same result (failure), and how to deal with that anxiety we'd really appreciate it.
Maybe you could speak on how to let go of something that one has invested so much time, effort and resources into. I don't know.
Amazing talk!! Thank you so much for helping so many people, I;m going to pass this on to all of my closest friends and family. You gave us
a gift, a truly beautiful gift.
Oh wonderful Judy, I'm so grateful you found it helpful.
This is incredible advice! Thank you! I’m going to try it x
@@divinetiming1005 I heard another thing you can do is if you feel your starting to get anxious do something nice for someone like drop someone a message to say your thinking of them
A simple method...thank you for sharing your thoughts!
Absolutely amazing life advice, I've become a lot better at trusting myself and it WORKS to stop my anxiety from getting to me. There's always going to be a bad day, and everyone has those days; however, the ability to make it a good day starts by trusting yourself. Thank you for making this video.
I thought this was just me, planning all the time, having a back up plan. I constantly analyse stuff. Then I watch this video. And it clicks. I've been unknowingly using the what if questions and planning to ease anxiety. You explain it in such a easy way to understand. Thank you :)
This channel has really helped me to understand and how to help my wife. Thank you
Thank you.
Thank you xxx
This is a good video. I constantly struggle with generalized anxiety disorder, and this video offers some good insight and help. I struggle with the thought of dying. I have been to hospitals and specialists many times over to get checked out. But whenever my anxiety hits, which has become quite often, it always circles around the thought that I am dying. I did have a near death experience when I was 15, and at 32 I still find I am dealing with it. So thank you for trying to help people like myself!
WOW, great video, simple and to the point, the What If, which is just fear. Thanks!
Yes! That fear is a bugger, but it doesn't have to have the final say.
Thank you so much Julia, this is such important work that you are doing and the resources that you are providing is changing my life, thank you for making a difference
I am so glad I found this video!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH! I needed to hear everything in it! (Especially, answering the "what if?")
I grew up in a household where the ones who were supposed to take care of me abused me. I have cptsd. We're working on it.
Good for you for having the courage to work through the pain.
Julia Kristina Counselling Thank you so much. One step at a time. I'll get there. Thank you for your videos ;-)
Special K 30 yes you will get there!!! I hope you're better and well! I'm on my journey too! Nice to know I'm not alone
I think the reason why we avoid asking “What if” is because deep inside we feel that if we actually say it out loud, it will surely happen and manifest itself. So we avoid addressing it.
how do you stop daily panic attacks heart palpitations dizzyness off balance when we walk shaking its insane i wake up everyday fearing another panic attack
Sultan Mir I also deal with the same thing. Have you tried tapping??? I'm also looking into a vitamin b complex in addition to magnesium I've heard these are great natural things
Sultan Mir understand that these feelings are very normal. They are not harmful in any way, and half the world goes through them. They are a blessing. Do not fear them. Enjoy them. You are afraid of harmless sensations. That’s all. They persist because you fear them. Nothing more. What you resist will persist. Accept them, love them, and your fear of them ends. And your suffering ends.
Sultan Mir ok
Ive been looking through CBT videos the last few days and have found very few of them watchable, let alone helpful. So this was a pleasant surprise. Easy to hear, audio-wise, and straightforward concepts. Good stuff!
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not a bad idea! i always used to just try to take some small action towards it. like if it's a presentation im worried about, just do 1 slide and then go take a break. but it gets the ball rolling :s
YES! So great to start small, simple and doable - that really helps to get us going!
Awesome.
So true - your videos are SO helpful!
its gr8..rather then fighting thoughts..we should trust. i wish i could heard something about how not to give importance to thoughts.
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this. 🙏🏾
More please!
Thanks, have some experience with similar techniques, sometimes a challenge to remember to do, but this is a great motivator to keep up the practice
Great video, and thanks for making this! It seems helpful, and I think the theory makes sense and is on a good track.
I'm still learning about this and studying it, but here are some of my thoughts... There seems to be a benefit to having a survivor mentality instead of a victim mentality in order to empower one's self and approach a challenging situation from a place
of strength and maintain a potential for growth. Having self-confidence in one's
ability to handle a situation and survive it and get stronger from
the experience, no matter what the environment brings or what
emotional reaction is evoked within us. Maybe we can't necessarily
trust ourselves that we won't get anxious, but we can trust that we can survive
having any experience, even an anxious one, and thus trust in our ability to handle it.
Not getting lost in the externalized fear of an outer environment that we generally can't predict nor control, but rather, staying centered with the inner experience
and our physical reaction to it that we can mostly control and can
learn to control better with time with experience and with confidence
building. Instead of getting lost in an endless daydream, maybe
envision a triumphant end to that story with a stoic or heroic
outcome. (So as to fire those neurons and wire those neurons
together, to reinforce such a thinking-habit.) Replacing the
future-envisioned panic with an image of calm, composure and coping.
Realizing that even if we can't prevent our mind from imagining
negative scenarios that spontaneously pop into our conscious mind, we
can at least rest assured that we are completely empowered to pull
our conscious mind back to the present moment anytime we want. Even
if we can't stop negative thoughts, we can absolutely decide how we
want to think about them, judge them or draw conclusions about them,
and whether we choose to believe in them or not, and we can choose to
not give energy to them by not ruminating on them if we so decide. We
don't necessarily have to associate fear with excitement, and
excitement with fear. We can consider them separately if we so
decide. It is a cognitive choice whether we conflate them or not. My guess is that people without anxiety may simultaneously experience excitement and fear but they don't co-associate or conflate them in their mind.
Thank you for your vids! You're so awesome! Sharing!❤
Thank you for watching, Sonya! That means a lot to me. :-)
This is very unique advice on anxiety. Thank you.
I have had really bad anxiety and never notice it until recently. I have been through a lot (dealing with my Multiple Sclerosis, trying to perform a career change after being laid off and feeling like I'll never succeed to that).
I think some of my anxiety comes from childhood trauma. My mom used to tell me “when we get home I’m gonna beat you”. Then I would be anxious until we got home and she would flat out stomp on my spirit.
thank you!
My pleasure Richard!
What a powerful video ❤
This is terrific...will be using this tool!
There are awesome tips in this video, like to trust yourself and answering the what if question. But my doubts arise when you suggest to think about all the past successes and the things that we already have overcome. You say their existence proves that there is no reason to think I'm unable to overcome new challenges. But how should I deal with past situations that turned out badly? They are proof that I can fail and how do I know how a new situation will turn out? That makes the fear seem reasonable and I just don't see the solution for this.
Great video thank you!
Thanks so much for taking the time to say thank you :-)
I loved this video. It was very interesting to watch and you made it sound so do-able. Thank you =)
Awesome! Let me know how it goes.
Extremely helpful, thank you so much for making this video 💜💜💜💜💜💜
Absolutely my pleasure Marisol!
Hi. Okay, got it the “what if”, very helpful information. Thanks Julia!
Thankyou Julia I get a lot anxiety and fear very up and down in life and so many doctor and body pain iam tired and worrying I need help and I get very anger
Thank you
Awesome!!
Hi. I am not necessarily competent for some challenge I may face, but I can trust my Lord. So I have to trust the Lord and not myself.
Hi Julia, Your video was very helpful. Lately, I've been going to a particularly rough patch of anxiety, to the point that i cannot focus on my academics or day or day activities. Listening to your advice and suggestions almost instantaneously elevated my hopes of control over my life again. I will be going through your material here and I would love to see more! Subscribed! cheers! :)
Thank you for this video... anxiety can't have or lives guys! We must F I G H T!
For me ppl being around me help me
Knowing I'm not alone
Anxiety needs to be dug out, by the root
You are amazing! Thank you ❤️
This is great. I needed this today.
Thank you. 😚
thank you ☺
You're welcome!
thanks you very much this is really helpful for me thanks you
You helped me. Thank you
This video is amazing! thank you so much for this useful advice :) :) :) your so right with the fact that everybody has been through difficult times have like myself and others have achieved so much more then we all realise, be great! guys! :) :)
So glad I found this video. Thank you xoxo
I'm so happy to hear that Beautiful Dreamer! I give regular live mental health and personal growth talks over on my Facebook Page. Would love to have you come and join me there! fb.me/juliacounsellor
I have to watch this a lot because I have anxiety bad the tension keeps me worse
Thank u
i like your videos
Interesting question. What's the worst thing that could happen? The same thing as if I do nothing.
Oh dear I like this but as u was explaining my brain went in a spin .right at fist I have Bern trying to confront my fears .
And I'm glad I watched yr video to learn this is the art .to beating anxiety so I was on the right track .
Only problem is when u said draw from yr past experiences I sufferd panic attacks over 4 years 2003 to 2006 then after it came in waves pending doom and usually left .
I have Bern diegnosied OCD intrusive thoughts ptsd and Panicdissorder .I've really been battling them things the past 14 years .
And I've achieved lots moved 4 houses within 5 year span .been abroad raised my kids my youngest is now 11 oldest 21 .
I've done every kind of anxiety from heath to terms to cemtrical to what if .to supernatural fear to religious one I've done many .wether it was the OCD intrusive thoughts making me panic or panicking making me have OCD I don't no .
But I need I struggled I take things very litlary interpersonilise and I take things in easy like from Frases or utube or m9vies and some reason my mind seems to take them in a perceived danger way .or I see and here triggers .triggers over things I don't fully understand do they frighten me .
I been messed around over last 14 years in UK by mental heath servises I've only had 4 lots of iapt.i finially got refured to psyciritrist last month for full assement .I was happy to finially get in at first .But I also was convinced I had adhd .
But no psyciritrist said he was swaying towards bpd and asberges or autisim .
Then he said somethink I shit myself with he said I could slip into psychosis with bpd .And I asked what that he said see and or gear things dellousions .
Well that is one big fear for me I hope that never happens althou if it did I would ring emergenceys servises and section myself .
I left that office I googled bpd and flipped I brought on 2 panic attacks of which I haven't had for 6 years at least .and I've sent myself in a downwards spiral because if his suggestion and guess what he only said .
He's bordering on bpd he said he swaying towards. Not even given full diegnosis yet an boom I flipped .I've been feeling shit for ages and any other little thing appointed or debt stuff with vodaphone problem is all making me feel I carnt cope .So I started doing the happy list the positive list I even came to conclusion fight it in cinemas my thought on loop over 300 times saying the fear I couldn't seem to conclude . Just repeat the fear feel the sensation.i said no I can do this I'll fight it I can handle it .
But even thou I've done this I still keep on with symptoms it's like ice triggerd my mind on a downwards spiral and I want to get off it.and I'm scared of going bk to full blown panic mode .actually .
I'm 39 now to old for this shit .all things effect me badly .I rang out of hours I told her psyciritrist made me I'll.worst and she saiddont think of it as full bpd .think of it as mild bpd sensitivity dissorder .
And when I mentioned I'm doing happy lists or achievement lists. She asked if I'm writing them to reassure my identy because I've lost my identy. I said no I'm doing them lists to read 3 positives for every 1 negitive.but that whole day then I kept repeating was I doing lists because I've lost my identy .
Untill the night I wrote for clarity and I said to self wether it's positive happy list or wether it's because to remind me of who I am what dose it matter actually.
I joined 2 bpd groups but left I do not think I have that or I don't self harm dissasociate or have fear of being alone .
I have in past felt surreal .
I do now more than ever feel any slight change to circumstances makes me feel negitive worried as heck .I almost feel my brains poorly like it's sore or needs rest from anxiety .
My fears are not of what I can expose myself to .they are other level .of OCD type .
I used to do so many things but it's a struggle just to get out of the house now. I can go to work but that's all I want to do. My wife just left me too and I know this has something to do with it. I've been taking .5 Xanax twice a day and I was starting to get off them until she left. I'm not who I used to be and I don't know what happened. I dont want the Xanax but it's the only thing that makes the dizziness and chest tightness go away. I dont know what to do. I can't afford outside help and I don't really have anyone to talk to. I want to feel normal again so I'm praying these videos help.
What if you can think of things you've gotten through in the past, but you didn't exactly handle them well ie. they made you panicky, made you doubt yourself? That's not really proof that you can handle whatever life throws at you...
Will try this thanks :)
Awesome! LMK how it goes.
I had the worst presentation today because another instructor was with me in the class. I panicked and almost fainted I couldn't speak up and my knees were shaking. I don't think answering the what if question will solve that. I tried so many times to answer "what's the worst that can happen?". Well, the worst happened and I couldn't deal with it and it felt so bad.
Helpful
My new what if is, what if it all goes perfectly? totally shut down all the bullshit to do with what if.
Excellent video.
Thankssss much 😍
Hi Julia, I dont know if you'd read my comment. But the answers to my "What Ifs" are 1. I'll go broke and I can't support my family. 2. I'll forever feel anxious. Because the 2 most powerful "What if" questions are: I got laid off and couldnt find any job. Second, there are thugs every night hanging around making noises at night and nobody said anything in my neighborhood. I dont know if I ever face anything close to this as being married with a kid changes everything within me. I get scared easily because I feel a sense of responsibility. So how do I cope with these types of "What Ifs"? I hope you reply. Thanks.
I don't know how to trust myself cuz I always disappoint myself. How can I trust me? Are there any steps to do so?
fatmah i am also dealing with this anxiety but in a different way
Excellent
i have a fear of being anxious.. i am scared of talking to people.. i am scared what if i talk to someone and my lips start trembling.. what if they notice that i am shaking.. what should i do.. i had a one month course of anti anxiety pills.. and now i have some emergency pills left .. but i am trying not to rely on that so i am not taking those pills..what should i do ?
Hi Julia. I have severe social anxiety and now it is getting really worse. I don't have the money to afford therapy. Could you please help me?
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This was a great technique, thanks! So how much is it to get you to travel to Ireland and have a counselling session here? lol. In all seriousness, I would love to email you my problems and situation at the moment to see what your thoughts would be on them and how to overcome them. You seem like you would definitely know.
I'm really happy you found it useful Senan.
have you ever,
personally,
gone through the depths,
of fear and abandonment.
Know that most of the time whatever happens it's not the end of the world and u won't die. What's the worst thing that could happen?
Im from india nd highly depressed
I need ur help
Whenever I watch a video with the subject of anxiety, I become anxious. Anxiety is not something I feel I can control. Only after I get through whatever is making me anxious, will the anxiety go away. Pep talks do nothing. I do them as a habit, but the anxiety does not subside.
It all go's back to lack of self love
So the problem I have is that, What are you supposed to do when you have multiple failures in varying aspects of your life? Especially when those failures were things that carried a lot of meaning in your life? I mean at some point don't you have to be realistic and say "maybe I can't trust myself"?
Thanks Julia please more videos
Thank you!
You are welcome!
My ex has done parent alienation which is a clinical psych diagnosis how do I reach how do I stop that and results my children have my children are suffering and I find it really difficult and I'm the mother he's the father and he has all he has done so much damage to the kids who are now parents himself and are struggling with the same stuff
hi.. actually I have problem of doing same thing again n again plz tell me I am a teen of 17 ....
loving ur vids 😉👍
Thanks so much!
Trust!!! Wow! Would have never thought about that.... seems silly since I am a believer in Jesus Christ!
But yes... TRUST yourself to handle challenges
Jessica Parker Yes, one of my favorite verses when I’m anxious: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.”
How have you been doing lately? Praying you are feeling better and in a good place! 🙏🏻💗
How about WHAT ANXIOUS PTSD PEOPLE DONT WANT TO FEEL