This video was so helpful. I'm a middle school student and I have an 84 year old dad, and it has come to my attention recently that his life is coming to an end. I always knew that it would happen, but now that it's happening I can't even explain the grief I'm feeling. I didn't even know what anticipatory grief was until I saw this video. Thank you for the wise video ❤
Sorry to hear there is loss in the near future for your family. May you all be held with patience and compasion during this difficult stage of life's journey.I hope the lessons and memories with your Dad will provide loving remembrance long after his physical life ends.
Dr. Helen, I appreciate you taking the time to explain the concepts and how to try and deal with those emotions. My fiancé has fallen into a vegetative state three months ago due to a brain tumor, to which the doctors affirm that there is no coming back, and we know that his life will come to an end sooner or later. It hurts like nothing I've ever experienced, and I have people saying to me that I shouldn't be grieving because he has not passed away (including friends and his own family). So having some explanation - and validation (like another person commented below) - gives me some kind of comfort in what I'm experiencing. Thank you so much ❤
May your love be a light for all your days- despite the grief you are experiencing now. Sorry to hear such a terribly timed and unfair loss has entered your lives. He is not deceased but it's so understandable and valid that you are mourning the interactions, the life & plans you held.
This is big in dementia circles. You miss the way a person used to be but they arent even gone. It is a booger of a feeling because it can really suck the joy out of your remaining time.
Absolutely relatable! I sat helplessly beside both of my grandmothers for years of visits when dementia had already stolen their personalities and ability to share the love and stories they held.
Thank You for your kind insightful words - this is the second parent that I’ve been going through this with and it is very difficult Now my anxiety & depression is terrible because it’s hard to let go - I don’t think my dad is going to last through the year 💔😢 he has 2 kinds of cancer he is fighting So sad 😭
Sending you fortitude and compassion - those losses sounds terribly difficult and sad. You are not alone as you navigate these painful life stages. I hope your community has perhaps support orgs with those who understand.
Thank you for this helpful video! I have been struggling with anticipatory grief for a long time, which has intensified with recent health concerns regarding my aging father. Even before this, I would often worry about the loss of loved ones, even though there was no immediate concern for their health-thinking about the “what if’s” if the loss happen. I have tried many ways to help with this, including some of what you have talked about in this video, and it is helpful. However, this nagging worry about the future persists, taking joy away from the present at times. Do you have suggestions about this type of generalized worry/grief about future loss?
As someone with aging elders too, I understand the cloud of anticipatory grief that lingers in the background of this life season. You ask a great question- it's at the heart of the human condition- how do we accept the existential reality of inescapable loss? Let me think on some tips for future video. In the short term mindfulness practices are all about learning to be in the now. As well as fully experiencing and appreciating each moment, each breath. Ruminating about the future leads to amplified anxiety.
@@HellaMentalHealth Thank you for your thoughtful response. I have been finding some inspiration lately in reading the texts of Viktor Frankl, and think he had it right about finding meaning in suffering, specifically around the things we can’t control. Mindfulness practice is a great suggestion, as there is so much in the moment where we can find meaning, if we are able to see it. It is so easy to get caught up in the rumination, which clouds this ability to appreciate what the moment has to offer. I look forward to the future video. Take care.
This video was so helpful. I'm a middle school student and I have an 84 year old dad, and it has come to my attention recently that his life is coming to an end. I always knew that it would happen, but now that it's happening I can't even explain the grief I'm feeling. I didn't even know what anticipatory grief was until I saw this video. Thank you for the wise video ❤
Sorry to hear there is loss in the near future for your family. May you all be held with patience and compasion during this difficult stage of life's journey.I hope the lessons and memories with your Dad will provide loving remembrance long after his physical life ends.
This was very helpful to me. Having some explanation- and validation - for what I’m experiencing was centering for me. Thank you.
Thank you for seeking info- we are all on various points on this very bumpy life journey. I hope you can make space to honor the grief journey.
Dr. Helen, I appreciate you taking the time to explain the concepts and how to try and deal with those emotions. My fiancé has fallen into a vegetative state three months ago due to a brain tumor, to which the doctors affirm that there is no coming back, and we know that his life will come to an end sooner or later. It hurts like nothing I've ever experienced, and I have people saying to me that I shouldn't be grieving because he has not passed away (including friends and his own family). So having some explanation - and validation (like another person commented below) - gives me some kind of comfort in what I'm experiencing. Thank you so much ❤
May your love be a light for all your days- despite the grief you are experiencing now. Sorry to hear such a terribly timed and unfair loss has entered your lives. He is not deceased but it's so understandable and valid that you are mourning the interactions, the life & plans you held.
This is big in dementia circles. You miss the way a person used to be but they arent even gone. It is a booger of a feeling because it can really suck the joy out of your remaining time.
Absolutely relatable! I sat helplessly beside both of my grandmothers for years of visits when dementia had already stolen their personalities and ability to share the love and stories they held.
Excellent presentation. Intelligent, sensitive, wise. Thanks, fellow human!
Thank you. It was very helpful to hear pre grieving can be a long process. Relieved to know my feelings are not abnormal.
Thank you for watching, glad you are seeking information for this difficult journey. You are definitely not alone!
Thank You for your kind insightful words - this is the second parent that I’ve been going through this with and it is very difficult
Now my anxiety & depression is terrible because it’s hard to let go - I don’t think my dad is going to last through the year 💔😢 he has 2 kinds of cancer he is fighting
So sad 😭
Sending you fortitude and compassion - those losses sounds terribly difficult and sad. You are not alone as you navigate these painful life stages. I hope your community has perhaps support orgs with those who understand.
Thank you for this helpful video! I have been struggling with anticipatory grief for a long time, which has intensified with recent health concerns regarding my aging father. Even before this, I would often worry about the loss of loved ones, even though there was no immediate concern for their health-thinking about the “what if’s” if the loss happen. I have tried many ways to help with this, including some of what you have talked about in this video, and it is helpful. However, this nagging worry about the future persists, taking joy away from the present at times. Do you have suggestions about this type of generalized worry/grief about future loss?
As someone with aging elders too, I understand the cloud of anticipatory grief that lingers in the background of this life season. You ask a great question- it's at the heart of the human condition- how do we accept the existential reality of inescapable loss? Let me think on some tips for future video. In the short term mindfulness practices are all about learning to be in the now. As well as fully experiencing and appreciating each moment, each breath. Ruminating about the future leads to amplified anxiety.
@@HellaMentalHealth Thank you for your thoughtful response. I have been finding some inspiration lately in reading the texts of Viktor Frankl, and think he had it right about finding meaning in suffering, specifically around the things we can’t control. Mindfulness practice is a great suggestion, as there is so much in the moment where we can find meaning, if we are able to see it. It is so easy to get caught up in the rumination, which clouds this ability to appreciate what the moment has to offer. I look forward to the future video. Take care.