Uncovering Family Secrets | Episode 17 | Give It To Me Straight
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- Опубліковано 5 чер 2023
- In this episode, Jon and Alex answer listener questions about catching your parents in a lie, when your partner cheats and you keep it to yourself, and finding out your baby was named after the one that got away. As a bonus, Jon and Alex have an update from a listener submission from their last episode and whether or not she said yes.
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We need updates on this Ella story, hm.
yes!
That Ella story is our needed reminder MEN ARE SCARY.
Wow! I can’t get over some of these secrets. If my Dad wasn’t my biological father, I would want to know so that I can make my own choices with that information rather than having my parents make the decision for me, especially as an adult. Super interesting discussion guys, I really enjoy your podcast!! 😊
Thank you for listening!
I cannot stop laughing. Jon says there’s only a few personality types - angry , sad….. IM DYING LMAO
Only recently discovered this podcast and I’m OBSESSED! 👏🏼 I will now be binging all episodes! Sending love from Scotland 🏴 🫶🏼
Same
same. ive even started dreaming that my partner and I are friends with them , hanging around hahah
I found you guys on instagram through a reel and now am down a rabbit hole of watching episodes 👀😂
Same 😂year later 😂
I died laughing at Alex's reaction to Jon not knowing what 23andme was! 😅
To the sibling, who now knows her sister is not her real blood sister, just tell her! Tell your parents to tell her or you will,
And they will most likely step up and do the right thing! If EVERYONE in the family, aunts, uncles, extended family even know, it will be more devastating if she finds out thru someone random thru an oopsie moment
alex, how do you get your hair so shiny?
Hello from Australia! 👋 I've been listening to you guys via Spotify and am now rewatching all your episodes on UA-cam! Can't get enough!
Seriously makes my drive to & from work so much more enjoyable and even catch myself laughing in the car at your straight & honest answers to all these crazy questions. Thank you for being you & for making these podcasts 🥰
Thank you so much!!
I'm always listening to your podcast when I'm at work (office work ain't as fun without you guys) and I always have to pause this to silently laugh. You guys are AMAZINGLY FUNNY and I love your guy's relationship. Y'all are so much fun! God bless you both! LOVE YOU GUYSSS
You're the best! Thank you for listening!
You know what… I feen over when you guys are going to post next every week that I’m not even mad about the ads… for me that says A LOT 🫠 anyway I just tuned in so let’s get gooooo with the chaotic almost evil Alex laughter & Jon’s sarcasm & asking the same questions over again that all of us ADHDers were actually wondering too 😂😂 😂 hehhe just the best combo
Hahaha very accurate statement 😅
John saying “Fuck that guy!” Is taking me out 😂😂😂
Learning your life is a lie is a struggle but having the truth sets her free. I agree she needs to know, EVERYONE knows but those three siblings. Sickening!
I’m Ukrainian, living in South Carolina. I discovered your podcast like a month ago and watch it little by little every day since then. I love it. I like how open minder you guys are I think your discussions help people a lot to make the decision. I also wanted to say that it was great for me to hear that Jon is so much into the war topic, thank you for bringing it up to your public. News in states are very brief, they drop important details and they don’t tell much. This war so so much worse that I believe you imagine. Huge Thanks for supporting Ukraine 🇺🇦
My dad raised my three sisters that were too young to know he wasn’t their real dad when they got together. They later found out but it didn’t matter because my dad treated them like gold. Debatably better than myself (not that I was treated poorly by him, my dad is one of the closest people in my life) they ended up meeting their real father and I don’t think it changed things but my dad was heart broken I think because they were his daughters in his eyes, had worked his ass off to give us a good life and would work all week running a business and waking up at 5 am on weekends to bring us to horse shows etc. They are still very close with our dad and my dad is their dad. They didn’t even care about that guy because he didn’t raise them or care about them growing up at all. He was the type that sat and polished his car everyday and lived with his parents etc. I genuinely don’t think that it’s important to know about the bloodline, what matters is what father raised you, who put in the hours and the time. Who was there when you cried about a skinned knee or a broken heart. I can see the other side, but if this father loved her and raised her as his own then it doesn’t really matter. I think it causes more hurt to know than to not because then you think about all the reasons your biological father didn’t want you etc and usually if they aren’t in the picture than the father was absent. Not all the time. But a lot of the time.
i am almost 36, i have lost both my parents. i only found out in a family fight at 20 that my dad was wasn't my biological dad, and i will always be curious about my biological father, i will always wonder, what he looks like, what happened? what is his personality? 😮 so i agree 1000% with Alex
For the Ella story, she can definitely still change the baby’s name. Might be a long process but it can be done. Also never too late to bring it up with the husband bc seriously wtf!
I was the Sara in the adoption scenario. My bio dad abandoned my mom when he found out she was pregnant. She met my step dad when I was 2. He had twin daughters that were 10 years older than me. My mom and step dad got married and he adopted me. They had a son together shortly after. I grew up thinking he was my "real" dad, his daughters were my half sisters and my brother was my real brother. My sisters knew growing up and never said anything. My brother never knew. My parents divorced when I was 14 and I actually ended up moving in with my stepdad. I didn't find out I was adopted until I was 18 and about to join the military. Being 18 and an asshole, of course there was some teenaged angst and bullshit about being lied to, but I've always considered him my dad and the fact that he's not my biological dad has never changed my feelings towards him. He raised me and helped make me the man I am today. I'm 44 now and I've never held anything against anyone in my family for not being told he wasn't my real dad. They did what they thought was best. I'm not sure how old the sisters are now and how old they were when Sara said she'd never want to know, but she definitely should know, especially if she wants to start a family of her own
I love your guys' podcast - can't get enough! Ciao ciao, byeeeee!
Yay! Thank you!❤
"Lock it up. You're disgusting!" 😂😂😂😂😂 Alex, you're perfect!
Hi guys, I'm about to take a 7 hour flight next Tuesday so youre going to need to come out with 7 more episodes to listen to while I'm on the plane, k much appreciated. Thanks guys.
Alright we will get to work 😅
@@giveittomestraight Just be sure not to release all 7 until Tuesday because I'm highly impulsive. 🙇
Lmao why is John so lost?! Alex you’re a saint 😂
“let me practice” BYEEEE😂😂😂😂
Also, Alex my friend and I are in our 30’s and we love Animal Kingdom. We regularly visit AK and Epcot. I suggest going during cooler months January-February. We love the rides, bar hopping, and the food. I hope you get to go soon and find a great partner to go with.
It wasn't until @52:00 in that I realized the echo! Another classic episode 🤌🏼
at the moment when you think that the world already forgot about Ukraine, it was really nice to hear Jon worrying about Ukraine and the horrible invasion we are living in now. thank you for that small mention
Just came here from the behaviour analysis spidey and this has me so happy. I’m not the only one who talks so much 😅 I love your dynamics and I’m excited to watch more ❤
Agree 100% with Jon on this one! Alex- I love your thought process but he wins this one.
Yes,student nurse here and we call it sun down. This is when the elderly patients get agitated
Jon you put the can down now! Lol you forgot the joke bro😅
vacuum up the bugs with a hand vacuum / vacuum extension :)
Jon kills me 😅
yay! Love you guys!
My favorite part of the week is listening to you guys 🫶🏼
It would be weird if the step siblings grew up together, but if they met as adults I think it's fine.
Since I was little, I’ve had heard stories about my dad not being my biological father. During my teenage years, I became curious but didn’t ask questions, as my dad cheated on his wife to be with my mom, divorced and got married with my mom, it was a whole thing. I also grew up with my half siblings and the exes hung around each other bc of the kids soooo it was a taboo thing to talk about. I’m a married adult, my parents are now separated. My mom decided to tell my husband who my real father is and of course he told me, bc he knew the whole back ground and that I was suspicious. In the end, I was taken aback/semi angry that my mom told my husband instead of me. I think her intentions were to hurt me. I didn’t care about my dad not being my biological dad. I remember him from my childhood, even though we separated for a couple of years, he sacrificed himself by working multiple jobs to bring me to this country and provide for me and his family. I admire him more bc he was a good man to me and stepped up when the other loser couldn’t. In addition, it made me sick to realize that my siblings were in fact half siblings and my half siblings were step siblings. There are so many levels of emotions/ upheaval to consider with disclosing this type of information/ secret. The only ones that I think have the power to disclose this information, would be the parents. They have the reasoning of why it’s been kept a secret. The sister needs to find a way to cope, it’s selfish to want to disclose a bombshell bc she can’t hold on to it. Her sister may be blissfully living her life, this is a bombshell that can derail happiness.
Do black or dark green paint on your wall! You can put up lighting on your trees, maybe coloured lights.
i vote dark green
"College is different" 😂😂 nahhh because it's still a weird thing. There's literally a short summer between high school senior and college freshman
The sibling with a different dad question has my head spinning! I don't know what I would do with that information. There are reasons that she needs to know, medical history, are there other siblings she has? I'm sure there are a million other things I'm not thinking of.
people are definitely missing out if they aren't watching on youtube lol!!
lol good ❤😊 advice guys
The sister needs to tell her or tell her parents to do so. It’s going to come out at some point… if the parents pass, and it comes out… it may cause a rift with the siblings. Or the when the sister has kids, if they do a dna test… they may think their mom withheld telling them. It may make the sister resent her parents for never telling her.
That brother is a horndog 😂
I think with the step siblings it would depend on if they grew up together as siblings or not. If they grew up as siblings that’s kind of yuck IMO
I love this podcast but man the last few pods have been just listening to you two bicker back and forth 😅
And I'm here for it
Same
That sister deserves to know her biological parentage. It’s WILD that all the extended family know- I’d be incredibly offended. It’s not a matter of who your “real dad” is- it’s a matter of knowing genetic conditions you might be predisposed to.
Can we get a makeup tutorial Alex?!!
This is the confirmation I needed. Kail has 5 baby dads 😂 either Lux or creed isn’t Chris’s kid…95% sure it’s creed
Kail paints chris as a dead beat….yet he’s taking care of and ‘posing’ as creeds dad. But only until ‘23 and me’ comes out and Kail gives her “I had no idea” speech
Case closed 😂
I am getting so frustrated over the sister’s biological father question. She deserves to know because: 1. She has a right to know of any genetic issues from her biological father’s side. 2. It sucks finding out that your entire family has kept a secret from you. Why do they all deserve to know but not the person that is actually affected by the information? 3. Maybe she would like to reach out to him at some point and build a relationship with him. That’s not up to her family to decide and if he says no, at least she tried.
Also, it could’ve been a one night stand at a young age, if he wasn’t ready, yes they should’ve been more careful, but she wanted to keep the baby and he didn’t. He has a right to make that decision if he knows he’s not fit / equipped to be a parent. It has obviously been 20+ years since this happened, maybe he would like to know his biological daughter. Maybe he had kids later on in life and she and the kids deserve to know each other if that’s what they want. Unless I missed something that says he still wants nothing to do with her. Either way, this is about her and she deserves to know the truth.
Can you guys put time stamps on your videos? That way the viewer can skip to the section of the video that has the good questions they’re interested in.
Aleeeex you're gorgeeoouusssss
Telling someone not to vape or drink alcohol etc., is not going to make the person stop. More than likely, they know it’s bad for them and probably feel guilty about it and shame themselves for it. Telling them not to or shaming them isn’t going to help anything, they’re just going to distance themselves from you and keep doing it lmao
You guys are so awesome and gorgeous! Having so much fun listening to you all. Btw... The sister not knowing she's not biologically related to her dad is criminal. That's WHO she is. She deserves to know. I'd be so Fuc#&@ pissed off if I found out my "loved ones" knew and didn't tell me. Terrible in my opinion. It's a fact. She should know. Not anyone else's right to hide.
Bruh….. I almost lost it because John never got the point of the dad secret scenario!!💀 Is not about the guy!! Omggg lol who the hell cares if he’s a serial killer, is about the girl who doesn’t know! Lol
Now we know why he’s always the last one to know in his family😂
No, definitely not about the dad but he was 100% right when he mentioned that the girls mental health needs to be considered before opening up a can of worms that may send her spiraling.
I know a family where the step siblings ended up together. They no longer speak to one another.
Rella 😂
If the step siblings met when they were kids, it’s just as weird as adopted siblings dating. Nope. But if they were adults, it’s fine. It’s funny and weird, but fine.
HUGE red flag if your husband wants to name your kid after his ex
John was way annoying about the biological dad situation 😒 I agree with Alex 100%. They’ve done studies about people knowing their biological origins or not and people always prefer to know and do better knowing.
Jon: I'm the daughter of a murderer. 🤣
Also Alex I literally always love your shiny hair & gloss… I think more colorful/pastel maybe tops or even just a pop of colorful earrings for some weird reason make watching so much more aesthetic😅 jon too! Let’s get some colorful Hawaiian shirts here & there 😂
LOL don’t block me for that lmao I freaking love y’all & I’m y’all’s biggest fan 😂❤❤❤
I think her parents told her because they want her to know.
I’m jealous you haven’t watched the sopranos. It seems like I’ve already watched all the good shows lol
32:50 there’s a time and a place it’s way to awkward doing that stuff in front of family
Also idk if my brother saved me from knowing a secret that would potentially ruin my life …. I would be thankful for that. Like if he just felt sooooo guilty and telling me made HIM feel better. He now passed the burden to me. Which ….. I had more to lose bc my parent wasn’t actually my parent and now I know . Does that make sense? Take it to the grave yall HAHAHAHA
Use Ella's middle name as her given.
I think honestly it’s fine as long as your parents don’t have kids because then you share a sibling then it’s weird 25:10
I would take that fam secret to the grave. Regardless if the dad isn’t her biological dad …. He is her dad. He raised her and took her as his own. If she knows it might really FCK her up. For real
if it makes you happy living your life as a lie when everyone knows the truth.
I’m siding with Alex on this one. PARENTS - grow some 🥜 and be honest with your daughter!
I was in the position that the older sister was in and nobody told me. I had a good life but that was MY BUSINESS NOONE ELSES. I still don’t talk to my family members who kept that secret from me. Start telling your children the truth! WE NEED TO KNOW FOR MEDICAL REASONS SO STOP BEING SO IGNORANT
If she cheated on him. He should’ve left then! But now he needs to leave asap. Take care of your kids as an amazing dad but trash her and move on. No therapy, no none of that bs. Kick her to the curb and move on. Hasn’t been that many years to be that big a deal.
Dudeee, I’m with Jon kinda…. Transition to Elanore…… and then you can even transition the nickname to Nora from there and leave it in the past somewhat…..
That whole story is so messed up fr tho🤦🏼♀️
Btw I’m also adopted, so I found a ton of this super riveting
John plz don’t watch main stream media.
Also the Ella story! 😮😮😮😮😮 that’s intense and would make me sick to my stomach. Plz follow up with this woman!!!!!! I HAVE TO KNOW!!!!
I agree with Jon’s take on real sister scenario. Who cares who your biological parents were, if you are happy with the family who raised you.
Also!….. that one about the sibling, she literally stated at one point that she would never want to know if she was in that situation….. and I feel like people are forgetting that part….. yeah she might have been younger,
But we respect DNRs don’t we? Even years after they’re made……
It’s a bit selfish to disrespect that wish to ease your own discomfort.
Especially if she’s doing well in life…..
It’s important to consider that this small amount of information could entirely upend and change the course of her life forever.
And that would be on whoever told her🤷🏼♀️
Lmao I’m taking Jon’s side with the half sister question. If I was the half sister and was told my dad is not my biological father I would have a melt down and want to know who my biological dad is and then I would have a second melt down finding out he rejected me. Nothing good can come from this. Take the secret to the grave lol that’s what she gets for probing.