If it feels like to much bro there are people that care, there are so many more beautiful experiences life has to offer you. There is someone out there for you that can offer you all that you need and MORE! It’s just about getting through this time🙏🏼 We lose a lot of men every day to suicide. So please speak to a loved one and know it doesn’t make you weak! But just incase here is a list of helplines: 🇺🇸US: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988, or visit 988lifeline.org 🇬🇧 Uk: Samaritans: Call 116 123 (free, 24/7) or visit www.samaritans.org 🇨🇦Canada: Talk Suicide Canada: Call 1-833-456-4566 or text 45645 🇦🇺Aus:Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 or visit www.lifeline.org.au 🇮🇳India:AASRA: Call +91-9820466726 🇿🇦 South Africa: SADAG: Call 0800 567 567 or 0800 21 22 23 🇪🇺Europe: 116 123 (Helpline Network): Available in many European countries (free, 24/7) 🇩🇪 Germany:Telefonseelsorge: Call 0800 111 0 111 or 0800 111 0 222 🇫🇷 France: SOS Amitié: Call 09 72 39 40 50 🇳🇿 NZ: Lifeline: Call 0800 543 354 or text HELP to 4357 🇯🇵 Japan: TELL: Call 03-5774-0992 🇧🇷 Brazil: CVV: Call 188 or visit www.cvv.org.br
I’m a woman and when I divorced my husband I sought refuge in the gym. Was tired of being sad over it since I knew I exhausted every avenue at making the relationship work. He didn’t. His loss. Will I meet someone else? I’d like to say yes, but I don’t think so. Too many men out here talk about wanting a “good” woman (whatever that means) only to mistreat her with their bs games. I don’t feel like being with someone who’s not going to appreciate me or my efforts, and turns out to be a psychopathic narcissist. I am at a point in my life where I have zero tolerance for nonsense. So at the moment, I’m in the best company I know: mine.
This is just my opinion I'm not a doctor or therapist or psychologist with that being said . What I would do in a breakup is to learn the art of stalking and leave little messages like a cat in the front door 😂 hahaha 🤣
Same, you are never alone. Everything will get better with time. Stay focused, work tirelessly, and don’t let yourself down. We are going through the same emotions, I wish I had someone to talk to me the way I speak to others. Just remember that it all gets better with time.❤️
@@brianfigueroa3643 thank you for your kind words, Brian they really make a difference 🥹🥹 we will be stronger and wiser all we can do now is be proud of our capacity to love others as we wished they loved us.
@@brianfigueroa3643thank you so much for you kind words, Brian. They really mean a lot 🥹🥹. This will make us stronger and wiser and all we can do now is be proud of our capacity to love others as we wished they have loved us.
I have been through the same thing man. Use it as an opportunity to work on yourself, sometimes we need this kind of pain to grow but I know you can do it, just like I and others believe in you you should believe in yourself, you got this!
Here's what's gonna happen. One day you're gonna wake up, eat your breakfast, brush your teeth, go about your business. And sooner or later, you're gonna realize you haven't thought about it. None of it. And that's the moment you realize you can forget. When you know that's possible, it all gets easier.
What helped me out of my post breakout depression: The message in the episode Blacklist S01E16. “There is nothing that can take the pain away. But eventually, you will find a way to live with it. There will be nightmares. And every day when you wake up, it will be the first thing you think about. Until one day it will be the second thing” you can move on and grow, have faith in yourself bro.
Abusive ex broke my heart 2 days before my highschool graduation. Since then, I’ve been in a rut I cannot get out of. I think of them every single day. I was diagnosed with CPTSD a week ago. It’s been the worst pain I’ve ever felt, and I have faced death more than once. We live in the same town. I see them constantly with the guy they’re now with: someone I used to call my friend. Videos like these bring me to tears. Not only for the effort and love put into them from the creator, but the comment section. It’s one of the few places I feel I connect deeper with strangers than immediate family. I am reminded I am not alone. It’s been 6 months since they left. I’ll be starting college, soon, living with a few closer friends in a dorm far away from home. It’s the first time I’ve been able to say “I’m doing this for me”. And I can’t wait.
Noel you help me so much. My mental health got much better and I'm so much happier now just because I changed and started working out. I'm honestly glad I didn't end it because I'm just a 13yo girl, that's literally so young. Please Noel keep going! You're one of the kindest people I've ever seen. You're my idol. You're the father we all need.
I'm glad you are going to the gym and making healthy life choices! Being young right now is challenging especially with social media being as big as it is. Thankfully there's creators like Noel that are spreading positivity. Keep it up
it's been 3 years. despite changing everything about myself the way I look, think sometimes i still see the same skinny guy crying over her in the mirror but it gets better fellas stay hopeful God bless you all
Sorry to hear that bro, i've been going through the same thing a little earlier and just believe me, everything will be okay, when you reach the lowest point it's the best time to change, we have only one life, so keep going forward without looking back, time will heal all your wounds, stay strong and safe, much love bro
Gotten out of a one year breakup (thanks dude). Also to anyone reading this take help. Take help of your parents or your friends because I took help and it works . I am sure it will help (: . And also I don’t find the gym a place to take out my energy in I find studying is a better alternative so don’t think about how you just have to go to the gym I also tried journaling. Do what you like do what you want to do. Honestly I am still 16 and this was my first relationship. I have cried and taken help from my mother and I have found it really helpful I would really suggest to anyone reading this PLEASE TAKE HELP. The world is a good place and people who love you will be willing to help. It has been 2 weeks since my breakup and sometimes I look back and I see that I was strong to ask for help please take help guys (:
Having experienced a tough breakup myself, I unconsciously bottled up my emotions for 6 months until I finally let my emotions out in private and truly being in touch with my feelings. This helped me move on so much quicker. It’s important to have alone time to introspect and truly understand what you are feeling. This coupled with gyming and a healthy diet goes a long way.
"Heart-break is inevitable part of life"~ Noel You always inspire us to overcome the miseries of our lives......thanks for making us feel good with such information😊❤
Noel, I was genuinely so depressed after just being hit by a breakup and this gem popped up in my feed like some sort of miracle. I really appreciate this!
This is probably one of the most important lessons in life. My dad never taught me how to heal thru one so thank you Noel. Life goes on and days get brighter. Keep moving forward and don't look back.
I want to show the guy who hurt me so bad that I'm not as weak as he thought not physically nor mentally and if by any means that i have to change my whole self into the better version so be it, Thank you , because this is really needed right now! 💕
Tbh I'll tell you my story when it was 2023 i went to a breakup and my cousin introduce me to workout and dad noel, at first I'm enjoying his skits then I've seen his past breakup videos on how to move on, till this day the words he said is still on me and t first it's hard to accept but later on i would just focus myself for me to be better a be greater version of myself, thanks dad noel and thank you for reading ♥️ from Philippines
@NoelDeyzel You don't know how much of an impact you have had on me sir, at first I cried and cried and couldn't accept that person was no longer in my life, and I didn't accept what you were saying in the video but slowly I realized that what you said was right, and I've tried my best to become a greater person rather be stuck on the past, Until now i still follow you because I enjoy your content even on Instagram and because I've learned some life lessons and even on workout. One thing that helped me is put your quotes on my wallpaper phone so every time I feel down I would just read it. Thank you dad noel and have a great time everyone!
You are a sent from heaven, Noel. I never thought I would find myself in such a stupid situation as now, I was betrayed by the guy I thought would be my future husband,and it's really stupid, but every time I'm alone my chest hurts like I'm having a heart attack, a constant emptiness. The good thing is that I have more time to go to the gym and I can maximize my train based on the hate I feel for him.
This couldn’t have come at a better time. I recently found out that my fiancée was planning to leave me for weeks all the while asking me for money, favors, and support. When I confronted her she ghosted me. She’s since moved states away and I feel so shellshocked and alone.
It's ok. Don't spend time looking at the past, instead invest that into the future. *Your future.* Take care of yourself, don't watch corn, be kind and compassionate to others, stand up for yourself, and most importantly *stay strong.* Don't think that you don't matter, because you do.
I've always been kind of a loner (at first due to circumstances of life, due to moving around different countries in my youth), but now i'm just very isolated in life, no friends irl, no relationships ever. I go to the gym because its necessary and also fun, but almost as an escape from my life, away from everything.
Noel thank you for releasing this video. It really couldnt've come out in a better time. Three months ago I broke up with my very toxic girlfriend and she got together with one of my friends. I always thought that our relationship was too much about lust (as you said) however I just needed to hear it from someone that it really happens to other guys. Once again thank you very much and sorry for my bad English.
I dont usually comment, but i just want to say thank you, you posted this with perfect timing for what is going on in my life. Keep up with the positivity
Thank you for this brother. I was used and discarded like a tool by someone I put all my time and effort in and almost a year later, I am far from being healed. But this does makes things feel lighter, especially coming from you. Thank you
Been dealing with an abusive relationship... Moving past the idea that I'm not with anything and still missing the person who hurt me and going to gyming and showing up for myself. It's a neverending journey but it's so rewarding 🖤🖤🖤 keep doing what you're doing
Got left behind from a 15 year relationship, I will try. I will break, I will preserve, I will fall. Thank you for this video Daddy Noel. May all the good fortune in the world come for all of us. Both in health and blessings, we will need it more than ever for everyone here and for the future days that are coming.
I'm very appreciative of this video. Thank you for making it. Brothers, please do not take your life after a break up. It may not seem like it now, but there is still much to see, learn, and experience. I wish strength upon thee.
just got cheated on and she did it with one of my friends and she couldnt care less abt how i felt after two years of saying i meant everything to her. Great timing with this video
Noel,thank you so much for this videos man. It's helping me a lot ,I've went through past relationships and none of them loved me,but now I've found peace and love in myself, so thank you Noel,You're my hero, God bless❤❤❤❤
Wow. This is quite timely. I had to break up with my girlfriend two days ago. I've cried more since than the last year as a whole. It hurts so much but I'm glad we ended things on a positive note. Still have so many feelings I'm dealing with. But I'll get through it
I have both been broken up with after 4 years and dumped someone for overstepping after almost a year. Secret tips are: Do not immediately go out and try to hookup with tons of other people or go straight into another relationship. Don't ever try to beg or bargain for them back. And don't think of it as "I lost my one person". Think of it as you were trying on shoes going "nope, nope, ugh not this one, these are good but they aren't gonna last" before at some point you find the perfect ones
Noel thanks for everything you do. Everything you said was amazing. I’m a little over 2.5 years sober and I’ve lost a marriage and currently healing from a recent break up. What was hard was she was my person and I was hers. What you said about the isolation was a reminder of what I did! That’s something I’m working on is isolation during a relationship and post! Even though this breakup was so hard it has truly showed me what I want to work on in the future I’m super codependent I was embarrassed of saying that before but now through healing going to the gym watching your videos I can tell myself hey I want to work on this and through healing I’ve learned that I want want to chill and just me alone for the first time in my life and not chase the companionship for the first time out of fear I want it for the right reasons! Also what I’ve learned is if I live my life vulnerably it opens to hurt but I get to truly experience everything life gives me without any regrets it’s scary but it’s worth it! Thanks again Noel for everything you do!
Yo, if you wasn’t in my life, I swear, I’d never be a Senior Radiologist at 24, flying private jets through leasing like I’m on a whole new level. See that reflection in the mirror? *That person*-that’s the one who changed my life more than anyone, even more than Noel himself! But I gotta give mad respect to Noel Deyzel, this man *literally* flipped the script on what I thought was possible. *I’m being real*-it’s not just about following someone’s journey, it’s about realizing that *you* have the power to change your own. *Noel's wisdom showed me* that the only person who can stop you is you. He sparked something in me that no one else could. *Listen, life’s crazy*, but look at me now, living a dream I didn’t even think could exist. *The mirror doesn't lie*, and neither do I-*you are your own hero* in this story. But still, I respect Noel for being the one who showed me that it’s all about self-belief and *the hustle*. *You want greatness?* Then get after it, because life doesn’t wait. *Noel didn’t just change my life-he helped me realize that the real change starts from within!* Crazy, man. *Ultra-imaginable* success, and it’s just the beginning!
You guys are going to make me tear up with these comments. My purpose with this and my content is to help people, reading words like this really hits home for me. Super proud of you bro, thank you !
*_@NoelDeyzel_* You're welcome, bro! I’m telling you, one day we’ll be chillin’ in a private jet-*no cap*, I promise you that! I’m out here in Toronto, just grinding and making moves. The way things are going, you might be getting a call from me soon saying, ‘Yo, we flying out to the sky like *straight-up* bosses!’ But hey, let’s see where time takes us. Life’s unpredictable, but the hustle’s real, and the dream’s ultra unimaginable, my man! Big respect to you, Noel-honestly, your influence is one of the reasons I'm out here aiming for the top. Who knows? Maybe one day we’ll be laughing about this while sipping something cold 30,000 feet in the air. Appreciate you, for real!
I dont know how you dropped this video at such a perfect time, but currently going through the weirdest breakup of my life. Ive been in two very bad relationships, including being cheated on, however this last one was different. She was kind, caring, one of the most amazing partners ive been with, and I ended it because I wasnt ready. Since breaking up with her Ive been completely stuck in a rut. I cant seem to get out of bed, off my phone, dealing with things in a terrible way, but I also know that being single is the best decision for me right now. So, although it may be hard now, I know some day soon I will pick myself up and reach normalcy. Thank you for all those words noel, youre the best!
6 years together and she cheated, moving in with me only a few months ago. Couldn’t agree more about relating a breakup to a death, what you said there really hit hard for me. Keeping myself busy is also great advice, I’ve thrown myself back into the gym, university work and my job, along with reconnecting with friends and family that I distanced myself from throughout the relationship and I can already see that light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you for this video Noel, you are an inspiration to me and so many others ❤️
I can't thank you enough for this. I just recently went throigh the most painful breakup and I've been having trouble finding ways to cope and heal. This video has helped me so much snd im so grateful!
This comes at the perfect time. Thanks, daddy Noel! ❤ broken up with two months ago after an eight year relationship because “we were no longer compatible“
This saved me and pulled me back from the ledge. Been struggling with the loss of my first and only relationship I’ll ever have probably. 2 years and now I’m forgotten while she’s with a new man
What an awesome video, really. So many men out there needed to hear everything Noel talks about in this video. This is beautiful content, lifting his fellow brothers up from the dark places into the light. Keep it up, good sir!!
Thanks so much Noel. The forbidden pre (heartbreak) really is a tough one to talk about in my experience and I think your guidance can really save lives and help people start over. Never stop, I love you man!!
I have always had problems with regulating my thoughts and emotions. So when my partner of 8 years left me a couple of months ago I started drinking again, got angry, and violent. Turns out I have ADHD and having to deal with that on top of the breakup has completely fucked me over. I'm currently on sick leave from work and started going to the gym again. Working out is one of the few times in the week where I can maintain focus on something else, something that makes me feel good and tires me out. Thank you, Noel, for being honest and open and for the wholesome content. You're an inspiration.
I broke up with my first girlfriend last July to focus on quitting my pornography addiction. Now coming up to 4 months clean from that stuff. Really helpful video my good sir, so much love respect to you ❤
The best advise I heard that helped me get through break-up was "Ask yourself, is what you're holding onto really worth it?". You have to find peace by letting go of what's hurting you. For some its learning how to live with it, for some its learning how to forget it, and for others its coming to terms with what happened and realising what's your fault and their fault and still choosing to move on. Not necessarily because you forgive the other person (if they did something that bad), but because you deserve peace. And if you feel like you're at fault and you did something wrong which caused them to be hurt just listen to them, their pain is not up for debate, and apologise. But if it's too late please try to forgive yourself.
The thing that helps me out the most in intensively, emotionally distressing situations like breakups, is writing things down. Grab a pen, a piece of paper and just write your emotions and thoughts down for 5-10 minutes a day. I noticed that I tended to be extremely harsh on myself and devolve into negative self-talk. After ordering my thoughts after a particularly traumatic break up, I could see that I was telling myself awful lies about myself to put the blame on me. But she took advantage of me and cheated on me, while I thought she was my soulmate. Additionally, you will also notice that there are a lot of people around you that really care about you and will really appreciate, if you open up to them.
This video was actually really helpful, I was in a talking stage with someone for a while. And i really liked her, and as things progressed further i started to really love her. but one day she just ignored me, im really not sure what i did or if i said something. I was really hard on myself for maybe three weeks, i was always told im too young to be worrying about it this much but i really couldnt help but over think, i couldnt believe that it was over, and i blamed myself for that. i really loved her, but its starting to get to the acceptance stage. and everything is getting much better, i really appreciate you for the advice. much love man, thank you ❤💪
Thanks Noel, this happened to me over the last few months. The first love of my life broke up with me after 5 years. Looking back of course there was more both of us could have done, but it was obvious that we were falling apart due to different paths in life. Though I’m happy to say I’m at the “acceptance” stage, Everything you said is so true. To those of you who are going through a first time break up, it will feel like they have died. You mourn everything you shared together, and everything, and I mean everything sparks memories. Had it not been for my friends and family having my back I don’t know how I would have got on my feet. So please, reach out to anyone when you are in need. Even those who I thought would be critical ended up being the most supportive. Our biggest obstacle in life is usually ourselves, our doubts, and our fears. Don’t wait until it’s too late. Reach out. To those who want anonymity, feel free to use the reply’s as a safe spot. We’re all here for each other
This video came out when I needed it most. Over the past few weeks a lot of bad things happened to me, had my first ever breakup, ruined my relationship with my parents and friends, feeling that my anxiety and depression is coming back. Trying to do better, but it's very hard. Started going to a psychologist, meditating, sometimes taking some xanax just to feel calm and not think about all the bad things. It's up and down, but feeling little bit better each day. Thank you for this video, Noel!
Having this video come out a day after a breakup with my girlfriend feels so surreal. But it’s these kinds of videos that let me know that even though losing someone you’ve known for so long can be really debilitating, things do get better and I’ve just gotta keep my head up. So thank you for reminding me that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Last month I was in a situationship. Nothing was ever serious, but I still really liked her, still felt like we could’ve had something great. Later, I saw her at a party with another dude and it really broke me. Never thought a failed situationship could ever hurt this bad. The only thing I can do is reflect and use the lessons I learned to do better in the future. Nothing about this is easy, but I strive to be better and do better.
6 year relationship ended earlier this year, every word this man has said in this video has hit true. Currently just working on myself before I put myself back out there. But hey, at least the workouts are going crazy.
I am going through a divorce. I will admit, it was mostly my fault it happened. In those moments I felt like I was trapped. Like I couldn't do anything good. It got to the point where I would have self doubt and eventually accepting that I couldn't change for the better. It felt like I couldn't control my own thoughts and emotions. It's been 4 months since she's left. It still hurts, but I'm maintaining it. I'm accepting that I'm not perfect.
Perfect timing, I got dumped almost a month ago now, and after 2 years, I can look back to it and have no regrets because I know in my heart I did the best I could ♥️, greatful for the experience and memories but life moves on!!! Keep your heads up, high bros! There's always light in the darkness 😁
This has perfect timing. I think I’m breaking up with my girlfriend after thanksgiving. We’re going down two different paths and I don’t think it’s sustainable long term. I wanna save her the hurt and stress of it later on and as much as it sucks I think it’s for the best. Please pray for her and for her to have strength
Hey Noel, I really enjoy all your content and I appreciate you. Do you know any good ways to deal with body dysmorphia other than “simply stop caring?”
Hello there, i saw this video's title and thought of sharing some things that i figured out maybe they might help someone: 1. You're not meant to be with anyone, so that person is not special it's just a lesson i know it sucks and hurts to think of it that way but, that's the truth and nobody can run away from it. 2. Let time do its magic, the first time i heard this i thought it was straight bs but after refelcting i realized what it meant, time is the best way to move on. 3. Love is like a campfire, if you add wood it will burn more and last longer, but if you don't then that fire will die and by the time it will become a cold place, that's how love works the longer the time the colder that spot becomes (spot i mean feelings towards that person). 4. Don't try to control what you can't, and you can't control others, you can control yourself and your environment but not the people, I think this one is very important to learn, and for me it was one of the hardest ones to learn. 5. I suggest you don't talk to that person again, don't even try, unless they reach out, and you need to be honest with yourself about how much emotional energy you want to put in especially when things are uncertain. 6. Learn and Reflect from your past, we're nothing without our past, don't try to forget it but, be happy with the experiences you had and the relationships you had and you still have, im talking about relationships in general not romantic relationships only. 7. Love your parents, as i grew up i realized how much work parents put in for their chlidren, and remember, they are doing what they think is right, and they are doing their best always, so appreciate them while you can, you can't find someone who will love you more than your parents. If you want to talk about anything or you want to have a friend, feel free to just send a message on instagram: wood89878
Got cheated on before my wedding and the relationship was for 7 years. Everything came shattering down. Trying to get back and rediscovering myself once again. Thank you for this video Noel ❤
Thank you Noel…. She left for medical school three months ago, and slowly stopped replying consistently after a month, with messages here and there. I was well aware it would be a stressful and busy time for her so I decided to give her space after she stopped replying routinely. The past 81 days have been nothing but pain… I was really looking forward to seeing her during her Thanksgiving break… she finally texted me back yesterday and called it off, that we should be friends, that she cannot afford any distractions…. 😔
for people under 30 getting over a breakup isn't really that big of a deal. You have a larger social circle which will help you heal faster. The older you get the much harder it gets. I turned 40 this past April, my ex broke up with me this past July after 3 and a half years together. Its been 4 months and I've been struggling real hard with the reality of regret. I feel I missed my window at a family and I lost so much and made so many avoidable decisions that ended our time together. Healing from regret and a break up at 40 has been my hardest struggle to date. I hope this gets better
Thanks sir, I needed this. Mark my word one day I'll be training with you at Gold's. That's my fitness goal. Looking to compete in 2 years too so lets get it
If it feels like to much bro there are people that care, there are so many more beautiful experiences life has to offer you. There is someone out there for you that can offer you all that you need and MORE! It’s just about getting through this time🙏🏼
We lose a lot of men every day to suicide. So please speak to a loved one and know it doesn’t make you weak!
But just incase here is a list of helplines:
🇺🇸US: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988, or visit 988lifeline.org
🇬🇧 Uk: Samaritans: Call 116 123 (free, 24/7) or visit www.samaritans.org
🇨🇦Canada: Talk Suicide Canada: Call 1-833-456-4566 or text 45645
🇦🇺Aus:Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 or visit www.lifeline.org.au
🇮🇳India:AASRA: Call +91-9820466726
🇿🇦 South Africa: SADAG: Call 0800 567 567 or 0800 21 22 23
🇪🇺Europe: 116 123 (Helpline Network): Available in many European countries (free, 24/7)
🇩🇪 Germany:Telefonseelsorge: Call 0800 111 0 111 or 0800 111 0 222
🇫🇷 France: SOS Amitié: Call 09 72 39 40 50
🇳🇿 NZ: Lifeline: Call 0800 543 354 or text HELP to 4357
🇯🇵 Japan: TELL: Call 03-5774-0992
🇧🇷 Brazil: CVV: Call 188 or visit www.cvv.org.br
You got my respect! 🫡
God bless you king
Wow, man! You are really a special human, Noel.
I’m a woman and when I divorced my husband I sought refuge in the gym. Was tired of being sad over it since I knew I exhausted every avenue at making the relationship work. He didn’t. His loss. Will I meet someone else? I’d like to say yes, but I don’t think so. Too many men out here talk about wanting a “good” woman (whatever that means) only to mistreat her with their bs games. I don’t feel like being with someone who’s not going to appreciate me or my efforts, and turns out to be a psychopathic narcissist.
I am at a point in my life where I have zero tolerance for nonsense. So at the moment, I’m in the best company I know: mine.
This is just my opinion I'm not a doctor or therapist or psychologist with that being said . What I would do in a breakup is to learn the art of stalking and leave little messages like a cat in the front door 😂 hahaha 🤣
This couldn’t have come at a better time… the love of my life broke up with me last Wednesday and it’s beeen sooo hard for me ….
Hope this help you bro, hold on things will get better.
Same, you are never alone. Everything will get better with time. Stay focused, work tirelessly, and don’t let yourself down. We are going through the same emotions, I wish I had someone to talk to me the way I speak to others. Just remember that it all gets better with time.❤️
@@brianfigueroa3643 thank you for your kind words, Brian they really make a difference 🥹🥹 we will be stronger and wiser all we can do now is be proud of our capacity to love others as we wished they loved us.
@@brianfigueroa3643thank you so much for you kind words, Brian. They really mean a lot 🥹🥹. This will make us stronger and wiser and all we can do now is be proud of our capacity to love others as we wished they have loved us.
I have been through the same thing man. Use it as an opportunity to work on yourself, sometimes we need this kind of pain to grow but I know you can do it, just like I and others believe in you you should believe in yourself, you got this!
Here's what's gonna happen. One day you're gonna wake up, eat your breakfast, brush your teeth, go about your business. And sooner or later, you're gonna realize you haven't thought about it. None of it. And that's the moment you realize you can forget. When you know that's possible, it all gets easier.
Correct brother
The best quote from better call saul
Mike said that
You don’t forget. It just hurts less and the experience goes into the background.
I used this exact same quote when trying to help my friend who's struggling with a breakup
What helped me out of my post breakout depression: The message in the episode Blacklist S01E16. “There is nothing that can take the pain away. But eventually, you will find a way to live with it. There will be nightmares. And every day when you wake up, it will be the first thing you think about. Until one day it will be the second thing” you can move on and grow, have faith in yourself bro.
One of my favorite series of all time man
Not exactly motivating to say "Don't worry, it's only the worst thing that's happened so far"
Abusive ex broke my heart 2 days before my highschool graduation. Since then, I’ve been in a rut I cannot get out of. I think of them every single day. I was diagnosed with CPTSD a week ago. It’s been the worst pain I’ve ever felt, and I have faced death more than once. We live in the same town. I see them constantly with the guy they’re now with: someone I used to call my friend.
Videos like these bring me to tears. Not only for the effort and love put into them from the creator, but the comment section. It’s one of the few places I feel I connect deeper with strangers than immediate family. I am reminded I am not alone.
It’s been 6 months since they left. I’ll be starting college, soon, living with a few closer friends in a dorm far away from home. It’s the first time I’ve been able to say “I’m doing this for me”.
And I can’t wait.
Glad to hear you are making progress bro. You’ve given so much of yourself, now time to regain your strength
A huge thing that helped was getting a hobby , no matter what it is spend time building your self and enjoying your own company
Noel you help me so much. My mental health got much better and I'm so much happier now just because I changed and started working out. I'm honestly glad I didn't end it because I'm just a 13yo girl, that's literally so young. Please Noel keep going! You're one of the kindest people I've ever seen. You're my idol. You're the father we all need.
Cant tell you how big my smile was reading this, thank you for the incredible comment
@@NoelDeyzel :')
I'm glad you are going to the gym and making healthy life choices! Being young right now is challenging especially with social media being as big as it is. Thankfully there's creators like Noel that are spreading positivity. Keep it up
it's been 3 years. despite changing everything about myself the way I look, think sometimes i still see the same skinny guy crying over her in the mirror but it gets better fellas stay hopeful God bless you all
just broke up from a 3 year relationship. this video is a Godsend. thank u sm Noel
Sorry to hear that bro, i've been going through the same thing a little earlier and just believe me, everything will be okay, when you reach the lowest point it's the best time to change, we have only one life, so keep going forward without looking back, time will heal all your wounds, stay strong and safe, much love bro
Hope it helps you in some way
Gotten out of a one year breakup (thanks dude). Also to anyone reading this take help. Take help of your parents or your friends because I took help and it works . I am sure it will help (: . And also I don’t find the gym a place to take out my energy in I find studying is a better alternative so don’t think about how you just have to go to the gym I also tried journaling. Do what you like do what you want to do. Honestly I am still 16 and this was my first relationship. I have cried and taken help from my mother and I have found it really helpful I would really suggest to anyone reading this PLEASE TAKE HELP. The world is a good place and people who love you will be willing to help. It has been 2 weeks since my breakup and sometimes I look back and I see that I was strong to ask for help please take help guys (:
How do I?
@ just go to your parents. It will help. And if you feel like crying then cry
Having experienced a tough breakup myself, I unconsciously bottled up my emotions for 6 months until I finally let my emotions out in private and truly being in touch with my feelings. This helped me move on so much quicker. It’s important to have alone time to introspect and truly understand what you are feeling. This coupled with gyming and a healthy diet goes a long way.
"Heart-break is inevitable part of life"~ Noel
You always inspire us to overcome the miseries of our lives......thanks for making us feel good with such information😊❤
Hope it helps bro, thank you for your support
Noel, I was genuinely so depressed after just being hit by a breakup and this gem popped up in my feed like some sort of miracle. I really appreciate this!
The one and most important and longlasting relationship you will ever have is with yourself. So remember to be kind to yourself.
This is probably one of the most important lessons in life. My dad never taught me how to heal thru one so thank you Noel. Life goes on and days get brighter. Keep moving forward and don't look back.
Absolutely!❤
I want to show the guy who hurt me so bad that I'm not as weak as he thought not physically nor mentally and if by any means that i have to change my whole self into the better version so be it,
Thank you , because this is really needed right now! 💕
Don't do it for him. Do it for you. He's not worthy of you.
Love you daddy Noel! Healing the world and you don’t even realize it ❤️🩹 🌎
Tbh I'll tell you my story when it was 2023 i went to a breakup and my cousin introduce me to workout and dad noel, at first I'm enjoying his skits then I've seen his past breakup videos on how to move on, till this day the words he said is still on me and t first it's hard to accept but later on i would just focus myself for me to be better a be greater version of myself, thanks dad noel and thank you for reading ♥️ from Philippines
This makes me so happy, feedback like this is so motivating for me. I love being able to help you guys.
@NoelDeyzel You don't know how much of an impact you have had on me sir, at first I cried and cried and couldn't accept that person was no longer in my life, and I didn't accept what you were saying in the video but slowly I realized that what you said was right, and I've tried my best to become a greater person rather be stuck on the past, Until now i still follow you because I enjoy your content even on Instagram and because I've learned some life lessons and even on workout. One thing that helped me is put your quotes on my wallpaper phone so every time I feel down I would just read it. Thank you dad noel and have a great time everyone!
You are a sent from heaven, Noel. I never thought I would find myself in such a stupid situation as now, I was betrayed by the guy I thought would be my future husband,and it's really stupid, but every time I'm alone my chest hurts like I'm having a heart attack, a constant emptiness. The good thing is that I have more time to go to the gym and I can maximize my train based on the hate I feel for him.
I'm still in the middle of heartbreak, and this video helped me to calm myself. Thank you so much, Uncle Noel. You've brought peace to my mind.
I’m so glad it was able to help out my bro, thank you so much for the support 😇🙏🏼
This couldn’t have come at a better time. I recently found out that my fiancée was planning to leave me for weeks all the while asking me for money, favors, and support. When I confronted her she ghosted me. She’s since moved states away and I feel so shellshocked and alone.
It's ok. Don't spend time looking at the past, instead invest that into the future. *Your future.* Take care of yourself, don't watch corn, be kind and compassionate to others, stand up for yourself, and most importantly *stay strong.* Don't think that you don't matter, because you do.
Noel, the girls are here listening too☺️
I've just been through my first breakup
Thank you so much for the encouragement
I've always been kind of a loner (at first due to circumstances of life, due to moving around different countries in my youth), but now i'm just very isolated in life, no friends irl, no relationships ever. I go to the gym because its necessary and also fun, but almost as an escape from my life, away from everything.
Noel thank you for releasing this video. It really couldnt've come out in a better time. Three months ago I broke up with my very toxic girlfriend and she got together with one of my friends. I always thought that our relationship was too much about lust (as you said) however I just needed to hear it from someone that it really happens to other guys. Once again thank you very much and sorry for my bad English.
I dont usually comment, but i just want to say thank you, you posted this with perfect timing for what is going on in my life. Keep up with the positivity
Thank you for this brother.
I was used and discarded like a tool by someone I put all my time and effort in and almost a year later, I am far from being healed. But this does makes things feel lighter, especially coming from you. Thank you
Been dealing with an abusive relationship... Moving past the idea that I'm not with anything and still missing the person who hurt me and going to gyming and showing up for myself. It's a neverending journey but it's so rewarding 🖤🖤🖤 keep doing what you're doing
Got left behind from a 15 year relationship, I will try. I will break, I will preserve, I will fall. Thank you for this video Daddy Noel. May all the good fortune in the world come for all of us. Both in health and blessings, we will need it more than ever for everyone here and for the future days that are coming.
ouch man 15 years is insanely long... hope you find peace 🙏
I needed this video 2 years ago but it’s good to see it now
I’m glad it’s found you regardless of the timing bro, hope it was able to help😇🙏🏼
I'm very appreciative of this video. Thank you for making it. Brothers, please do not take your life after a break up. It may not seem like it now, but there is still much to see, learn, and experience. I wish strength upon thee.
just got cheated on and she did it with one of my friends and she couldnt care less abt how i felt after two years of saying i meant everything to her. Great timing with this video
That's not your friend
@@elijahlupuwana not anymore but he wasnt ever like a close friend he was just in the group but still it sucks
Thank you for always being so positive, my friend! I pray happiness always finds you in your daily walk 🙏🏻 God bless!
Noel,thank you so much for this videos man. It's helping me a lot ,I've went through past relationships and none of them loved me,but now I've found peace and love in myself, so thank you Noel,You're my hero, God bless❤❤❤❤
Wow. This is quite timely. I had to break up with my girlfriend two days ago. I've cried more since than the last year as a whole. It hurts so much but I'm glad we ended things on a positive note. Still have so many feelings I'm dealing with. But I'll get through it
You will for sure get through it bro
This is perfect timing I’m going through my first breakup and it’s been really hard to keep my mind in a positive state
I wonder what you had to go trough to have this level of understanding. Noel, you are truly the GOAT
I have both been broken up with after 4 years and dumped someone for overstepping after almost a year. Secret tips are: Do not immediately go out and try to hookup with tons of other people or go straight into another relationship. Don't ever try to beg or bargain for them back. And don't think of it as "I lost my one person". Think of it as you were trying on shoes going "nope, nope, ugh not this one, these are good but they aren't gonna last" before at some point you find the perfect ones
Noel thanks for everything you do. Everything you said was amazing. I’m a little over 2.5 years sober and I’ve lost a marriage and currently healing from a recent break up. What was hard was she was my person and I was hers. What you said about the isolation was a reminder of what I did! That’s something I’m working on is isolation during a relationship and post! Even though this breakup was so hard it has truly showed me what I want to work on in the future I’m super codependent I was embarrassed of saying that before but now through healing going to the gym watching your videos I can tell myself hey I want to work on this and through healing I’ve learned that I want want to chill and just me alone for the first time in my life and not chase the companionship for the first time out of fear I want it for the right reasons! Also what I’ve learned is if I live my life vulnerably it opens to hurt but I get to truly experience everything life gives me without any regrets it’s scary but it’s worth it! Thanks again Noel for everything you do!
Yo, if you wasn’t in my life, I swear, I’d never be a Senior Radiologist at 24, flying private jets through leasing like I’m on a whole new level. See that reflection in the mirror? *That person*-that’s the one who changed my life more than anyone, even more than Noel himself! But I gotta give mad respect to Noel Deyzel, this man *literally* flipped the script on what I thought was possible. *I’m being real*-it’s not just about following someone’s journey, it’s about realizing that *you* have the power to change your own. *Noel's wisdom showed me* that the only person who can stop you is you. He sparked something in me that no one else could.
*Listen, life’s crazy*, but look at me now, living a dream I didn’t even think could exist. *The mirror doesn't lie*, and neither do I-*you are your own hero* in this story. But still, I respect Noel for being the one who showed me that it’s all about self-belief and *the hustle*. *You want greatness?* Then get after it, because life doesn’t wait. *Noel didn’t just change my life-he helped me realize that the real change starts from within!* Crazy, man. *Ultra-imaginable* success, and it’s just the beginning!
You guys are going to make me tear up with these comments.
My purpose with this and my content is to help people, reading words like this really hits home for me.
Super proud of you bro, thank you !
*_@NoelDeyzel_* You're welcome, bro! I’m telling you, one day we’ll be chillin’ in a private jet-*no cap*, I promise you that! I’m out here in Toronto, just grinding and making moves. The way things are going, you might be getting a call from me soon saying, ‘Yo, we flying out to the sky like *straight-up* bosses!’ But hey, let’s see where time takes us. Life’s unpredictable, but the hustle’s real, and the dream’s ultra unimaginable, my man! Big respect to you, Noel-honestly, your influence is one of the reasons I'm out here aiming for the top. Who knows? Maybe one day we’ll be laughing about this while sipping something cold 30,000 feet in the air. Appreciate you, for real!
I dont know how you dropped this video at such a perfect time, but currently going through the weirdest breakup of my life. Ive been in two very bad relationships, including being cheated on, however this last one was different. She was kind, caring, one of the most amazing partners ive been with, and I ended it because I wasnt ready. Since breaking up with her Ive been completely stuck in a rut. I cant seem to get out of bed, off my phone, dealing with things in a terrible way, but I also know that being single is the best decision for me right now. So, although it may be hard now, I know some day soon I will pick myself up and reach normalcy. Thank you for all those words noel, youre the best!
6 years together and she cheated, moving in with me only a few months ago.
Couldn’t agree more about relating a breakup to a death, what you said there really hit hard for me.
Keeping myself busy is also great advice, I’ve thrown myself back into the gym, university work and my job, along with reconnecting with friends and family that I distanced myself from throughout the relationship and I can already see that light at the end of the tunnel.
Thank you for this video Noel, you are an inspiration to me and so many others ❤️
we love you noel, always, this helps people, including me a lot
I can't thank you enough for this. I just recently went throigh the most painful breakup and I've been having trouble finding ways to cope and heal. This video has helped me so much snd im so grateful!
This comes at the perfect time. Thanks, daddy Noel! ❤ broken up with two months ago after an eight year relationship because “we were no longer compatible“
This saved me and pulled me back from the ledge. Been struggling with the loss of my first and only relationship I’ll ever have probably. 2 years and now I’m forgotten while she’s with a new man
What an awesome video, really. So many men out there needed to hear everything Noel talks about in this video. This is beautiful content, lifting his fellow brothers up from the dark places into the light. Keep it up, good sir!!
Thanks Noel. I'm 34, and just got divorced. Your timing is uncanny, but much needed. Thank you. ❤
Thanks so much Noel. The forbidden pre (heartbreak) really is a tough one to talk about in my experience and I think your guidance can really save lives and help people start over. Never stop, I love you man!!
Noel Deyzel is the gym bro we all needed 😢
Love you so much for always supporting us. Thank you for stepping up and being the dad we needed 🙏❤️
I truly appreciate you and your kind words and support, thank you so much😇🙏🏼
I have always had problems with regulating my thoughts and emotions. So when my partner of 8 years left me a couple of months ago I started drinking again, got angry, and violent. Turns out I have ADHD and having to deal with that on top of the breakup has completely fucked me over. I'm currently on sick leave from work and started going to the gym again. Working out is one of the few times in the week where I can maintain focus on something else, something that makes me feel good and tires me out. Thank you, Noel, for being honest and open and for the wholesome content. You're an inspiration.
I broke up with my first girlfriend last July to focus on quitting my pornography addiction. Now coming up to 4 months clean from that stuff. Really helpful video my good sir, so much love respect to you ❤
0:00 already a banger
The best advise I heard that helped me get through break-up was "Ask yourself, is what you're holding onto really worth it?". You have to find peace by letting go of what's hurting you. For some its learning how to live with it, for some its learning how to forget it, and for others its coming to terms with what happened and realising what's your fault and their fault and still choosing to move on. Not necessarily because you forgive the other person (if they did something that bad), but because you deserve peace. And if you feel like you're at fault and you did something wrong which caused them to be hurt just listen to them, their pain is not up for debate, and apologise. But if it's too late please try to forgive yourself.
You're looking INSANE these days Noel. Shredded!
Also great message :)
Thank You Dad Love You !
This one was perfectly timed
Stay strong bro, hope this video helps
Thanks Noel you are the best
The thing that helps me out the most in intensively, emotionally distressing situations like breakups, is writing things down. Grab a pen, a piece of paper and just write your emotions and thoughts down for 5-10 minutes a day. I noticed that I tended to be extremely harsh on myself and devolve into negative self-talk. After ordering my thoughts after a particularly traumatic break up, I could see that I was telling myself awful lies about myself to put the blame on me. But she took advantage of me and cheated on me, while I thought she was my soulmate. Additionally, you will also notice that there are a lot of people around you that really care about you and will really appreciate, if you open up to them.
This video was actually really helpful, I was in a talking stage with someone for a while. And i really liked her, and as things progressed further i started to really love her. but one day she just ignored me, im really not sure what i did or if i said something. I was really hard on myself for maybe three weeks, i was always told im too young to be worrying about it this much but i really couldnt help but over think, i couldnt believe that it was over, and i blamed myself for that. i really loved her, but its starting to get to the acceptance stage. and everything is getting much better, i really appreciate you for the advice. much love man, thank you ❤💪
Hey man, I appreciate all that you do for the community and I see you as a role model. Keep it going man, thank you for the wisdom. 😊
"....that's the beauty and the joy and wonders of growing up and experiencing life....." hit me hard "positively".
Thanks Noel, this happened to me over the last few months. The first love of my life broke up with me after 5 years. Looking back of course there was more both of us could have done, but it was obvious that we were falling apart due to different paths in life. Though I’m happy to say I’m at the “acceptance” stage, Everything you said is so true. To those of you who are going through a first time break up, it will feel like they have died. You mourn everything you shared together, and everything, and I mean everything sparks memories. Had it not been for my friends and family having my back I don’t know how I would have got on my feet. So please, reach out to anyone when you are in need. Even those who I thought would be critical ended up being the most supportive. Our biggest obstacle in life is usually ourselves, our doubts, and our fears.
Don’t wait until it’s too late. Reach out.
To those who want anonymity, feel free to use the reply’s as a safe spot. We’re all here for each other
This video came out when I needed it most. Over the past few weeks a lot of bad things happened to me, had my first ever breakup, ruined my relationship with my parents and friends, feeling that my anxiety and depression is coming back. Trying to do better, but it's very hard. Started going to a psychologist, meditating, sometimes taking some xanax just to feel calm and not think about all the bad things. It's up and down, but feeling little bit better each day. Thank you for this video, Noel!
Having this video come out a day after a breakup with my girlfriend feels so surreal. But it’s these kinds of videos that let me know that even though losing someone you’ve known for so long can be really debilitating, things do get better and I’ve just gotta keep my head up. So thank you for reminding me that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
The amount of respect I have for this man is uncountable, thx so mutch for your content ou 💪
Thanks for this video man, Its really deeply moving. Especially cause it sounds just like my mind during workouts, and shit is mesmerizing.
Last month I was in a situationship. Nothing was ever serious, but I still really liked her, still felt like we could’ve had something great. Later, I saw her at a party with another dude and it really broke me. Never thought a failed situationship could ever hurt this bad.
The only thing I can do is reflect and use the lessons I learned to do better in the future. Nothing about this is easy, but I strive to be better and do better.
10:26 just wanted to mention that this frame is just perfect at the vid
The background and of course you are just perfect ❤
i am so thankful for you and this community.
Dude, I needed this so badly. You're the best and most influential man in this generation ❤️
I’m so glad this came to you at the right time, thank you for your support and kind words my bro😇
Dude thank you so much. I’ve been struggling with a heartbreak for a few months. This really damn helped me.
My ex-girlfriend cheated on me whit my female best friend and broke up with me day of tryouts for a sports team. She destroyed me.
Thank you, Noel,
💪
6 year relationship ended earlier this year, every word this man has said in this video has hit true. Currently just working on myself before I put myself back out there.
But hey, at least the workouts are going crazy.
I am going through a divorce. I will admit, it was mostly my fault it happened. In those moments I felt like I was trapped. Like I couldn't do anything good. It got to the point where I would have self doubt and eventually accepting that I couldn't change for the better. It felt like I couldn't control my own thoughts and emotions.
It's been 4 months since she's left. It still hurts, but I'm maintaining it. I'm accepting that I'm not perfect.
needed this man, thank you for the wisdom. love you bro
Thank you so much for this video. You really hit the nail on the head. It really helped!
Im not in a relationship but I'm watching to educate myself.
Came In the best time.. been heartbroken for a while now
Hope this helps bro, happiness is around the corner
Thanks a lot Noel ❤@@NoelDeyzel
Perfect timing, I got dumped almost a month ago now, and after 2 years, I can look back to it and have no regrets because I know in my heart I did the best I could ♥️, greatful for the experience and memories but life moves on!!! Keep your heads up, high bros! There's always light in the darkness 😁
Ty daddy, ive never experienced a breakup but ive also never had anyone to teach me these lessons so thankyou.
This has perfect timing. I think I’m breaking up with my girlfriend after thanksgiving. We’re going down two different paths and I don’t think it’s sustainable long term. I wanna save her the hurt and stress of it later on and as much as it sucks I think it’s for the best. Please pray for her and for her to have strength
Love you Noal. Thank you for this video. U gave me a lot to think about.
Definitely going to be applying some of your advice.
Love you man, take care.
Never had a gf or any kind of relationship and it's really depressive... Trying to become better every god damn day, thank you, Noel
Noel became the father that he never had that we always needed 💪🏻❤
Very well timed Noel. Thank you.
I really like this kind of videos where you just work out and talk about stuff or life
Hoy bro you're huge inspiration for me and I hope I can get like you one day you always make my day better and I love you're content keep it up bro❤
Hey Noel, I really enjoy all your content and I appreciate you. Do you know any good ways to deal with body dysmorphia other than “simply stop caring?”
Hello there, i saw this video's title and thought of sharing some things that i figured out maybe they might help someone:
1. You're not meant to be with anyone, so that person is not special it's just a lesson i know it sucks and hurts to think of it that way but, that's the truth and nobody can run away from it.
2. Let time do its magic, the first time i heard this i thought it was straight bs but after refelcting i realized what it meant, time is the best way to move on.
3. Love is like a campfire, if you add wood it will burn more and last longer, but if you don't then that fire will die and by the time it will become a cold place, that's how love works the longer the time the colder that spot becomes (spot i mean feelings towards that person).
4. Don't try to control what you can't, and you can't control others, you can control yourself and your environment but not the people, I think this one is very important to learn, and for me it was one of the hardest ones to learn.
5. I suggest you don't talk to that person again, don't even try, unless they reach out, and you need to be honest with yourself about how much emotional energy you want to put in especially when things are uncertain.
6. Learn and Reflect from your past, we're nothing without our past, don't try to forget it but, be happy with the experiences you had and the relationships you had and you still have, im talking about relationships in general not romantic relationships only.
7. Love your parents, as i grew up i realized how much work parents put in for their chlidren, and remember, they are doing what they think is right, and they are doing their best always, so appreciate them while you can, you can't find someone who will love you more than your parents.
If you want to talk about anything or you want to have a friend, feel free to just send a message on instagram: wood89878
Heart touching video bro. Appreciate it ✨️
Noel on top
Love and appreciate you guys
Got cheated on before my wedding and the relationship was for 7 years. Everything came shattering down. Trying to get back and rediscovering myself once again. Thank you for this video Noel ❤
this couldn't have came at a better time
Hope it helps bro
This was unexpected but I am so glad you did this. Thank you Noel.
Not even gotten to the relationship point let alone the break up and struggling with loneliness a lot. But we keep going.
Breakups have created more beasts in the gym than anything else ever could.
Thank you Noel….
She left for medical school three months ago, and slowly stopped replying consistently after a month, with messages here and there. I was well aware it would be a stressful and busy time for her so I decided to give her space after she stopped replying routinely. The past 81 days have been nothing but pain… I was really looking forward to seeing her during her Thanksgiving break… she finally texted me back yesterday and called it off, that we should be friends, that she cannot afford any distractions…. 😔
for people under 30 getting over a breakup isn't really that big of a deal. You have a larger social circle which will help you heal faster. The older you get the much harder it gets. I turned 40 this past April, my ex broke up with me this past July after 3 and a half years together. Its been 4 months and I've been struggling real hard with the reality of regret. I feel I missed my window at a family and I lost so much and made so many avoidable decisions that ended our time together. Healing from regret and a break up at 40 has been my hardest struggle to date. I hope this gets better
Thanks sir, I needed this. Mark my word one day I'll be training with you at Gold's. That's my fitness goal. Looking to compete in 2 years too so lets get it
Thank You Omni Man
I lost the love of my life 2 months ago I needed that ! Thank you