Feeling huge compassion for the person suffering the awful loneliness having lost the three people they had in their life. Their inner response to that must be deeply, deeply painful and I can only feel that they were needing to express the hugeness of this on here where it is safe to do so. I'm glad the person is in this community so we can all hold her and each other in what we are going through in our own world that is hard to cope with 💖
Poor woman...I can only imagine the pain she feels right now. I hear you loud and clear and hope you find peace in the future, remembering the good times with a smile.
It’s very hard when the universe has everything happening so close together. She is stronger than she realizes. I don’t know how religious she is but I totally believe that God only lets us go through the things that He knows we can handle. I pray for her tranquility ❤️
I felt this, too. My significant other for over 10 years was on the road all week and only home on weekends, so in spending as much time with him as I could, I let other friendships and activities. Now that we are apart, I am extremely lonely, although I'm not often actually physically. Other than my children, he was the only person who let me know I was important to him. So I can understand how she feels. Besides loneliness, losing so many close people during such a short time is a trauma, and she may need help in recovering from that. Wendy's answer was sweet and helpful, as was the video about loneliness.
Wonderful Q&A. I respect how thoughtful you are in your responses, especially to the griever who asked the "quirky" question. I could really feel the care you put into your answer. You made a great point, and still respected that she was coming from a place of hurt. I recently read "anger is sad's bodyguard". Big hugs to you and your big heart!!
Gosh thank you, I was a little nervous in a way to share that one but felt it was important and not to shy away from the tricky ones with high emotion... xxx Big loves to you too Stacey xxx
Yes everyone’s pain is valid but not many can express it as graceful as u. And with such empathy. I enjoy listening to your voice, you sound so beautiful, so calming, I don’t no how else to explain. But keep up the good pet and gidday from down under
So many of us have been in very alone and lonely place at sometime in our life…..however, the friends we loose are not the only people in the world. Even in our pain we can involve ourselves in others by doing volunteer work, or even reaching out on line and making new acquaintances that can become friends. You did a wonderful job answering from your heart Wendy. Blessings from Betty in Ohio.
You are wonderful! I love how sincerely genuine you are. You speak your truth in a soft and heart filled way. Thanks Wendy. Peace, love and prosperity to you and James for 2023!! 🧚♂️💓🧚
I don’t think anyone likes the sound of their own voice but I must tell you Wendy that just hearing your voice can calm me down if I’m having an off day. I find it soothing and comforting. ❤
Regarding the comment from Anne about comparative loneliness.. I’d like to put forth the paper plate analogy. We’re each given a plate which represents our capacity for load bearing. Each persons plate is made from something different depending on various factors. Each person goes through life gathering bricks which represent trauma. The person with a steel plate can take quite a few bricks before their plate buckles under the load. The person with the paper plate possibly can’t even take a single brick. We can’t see what people’s plates are made from. So we shouldn’t judge anyones suffering by the size or number of bricks we perceive them to be carrying.
I have been following you for a short while, this is the first time I’ve listened to a Q&A and I wanted affirm how well you handled the comment from Anne who is obviously is hurting quite badly, you were graceful and still true to yourself emphasizing how important it is to give a voice to your loneliness. I teach art therapy to cancer patients and have my own autoimmune disease that has challenged me my entire life, as well I am in menopause, I have had to learn NOT to minimize my own health issues thinking I have no right to complain since I don’t have cancer. It’s easy to diminish our own suffering if we compare…bravo for pointing out that it’s not a competition.
@@tracyguillemette6255 Charlene, so well said. Even in my prayer life I find myself apologizing for asking God’s help in my life when I know there are those who are suffering so in theirs.
The “competitive” nature of pain and suffering, along with fear of judgment, are the primary reasons why I do not share my thoughts/feelings/experiences with others, whether in person or online ☹️. This avoidance unfortunately results in loneliness and disconnection. Thank you for your kind responses in this q&a and for letting us know we aren’t alone❤
Please don't be self conscious about your voice because it's lovely! 🙂 It's normal for our voice to sound different when we hear it recorded outside of us as opposed to how we hear it internally. And I'm sure that I'm not alone when I say that your voice is enchanting 😊
I agree! I love Wendy's voice & accent. She is very relaxing to listen to. :) and you are so true. So many of us can't stand listening to our own voices when you hear it recorded. 😍🤩😁
@@carolbonnett7409 I agree with what you say Carol 🙂 And I remember the first time I heard my voice on a tape recorder, I couldn't believe that was me! I sounded so different! Lol
I also enjoy listening to Wendy's voice. I recently read a Guardian article about why people don't like the sound of their own voices -- in recordings we sound more high-pitched than we do internally. Fortunately for me, I sound like my sister, and I do like her voice, so don't mind my own so much.
@@marthamurphy3913 Interesting 🤔 I recorded my voice and listened to it to see if that's actually true but in my case it's not. I don't find that it sounds higher. Try it. What do you think? It was many years ago, when I was around 12 or 13 yrs of age when I didn't like the sound of my voice. But I do like it now 🙂 I remember my voice sounding a little deeper and monotone like at that time and that's no longer the case.
You were very kind in your responses to the more challenging questions. I agree with you completely, loneliness and chronic illnesses are not competitive. You can stand in a crowd and feel lonely. I’m lonely, due to chronic illness and an inability to leave the house. I do have a husband, but as we are youngish he has a social and sport life outside our marriage (quite rightly as he is my career). I have just lost my mummy and she was my best friend. I find your videos very cathartic, very reassuring and most importantly validating. Sending fairy love and acorn magic, 🐝💛
I'm sorry about your illness and disability, and also about losing your mum. I have fibromyalgia, and belong to an online support group. Sometimes I have to take a break from it when it seems to become competitive rather than supportive. May the fairies be with you!
It's always so nice when an artist is willing to show the normal life behind the scenes, because there are a lot of people who feel like they aren't "real artists" if they balance family and other work with their creative life. That kind of authenticity is one of the reasons why we love this channel!
Loneliness is subjective to each person who feels it. Someone can experience loneliness in a room full of friends and family they care about, whereas another person can spend weeks at time by themselves and never experience that feeling. It's unfair to take your feelings and measure them against someone else's experiences. Missing James because you love him, enjoy his company, and want to have him near you is a wonderful thing because it shows that you have true companionship and love in your life. I feel that when my husband is away and it reminds me that I am lucky.
something that people forget is they confuse "loneliness and alone" - I'm a home alone person but 95% of the time I'm not lonely - I've a creative life, I attend events out of the house when I need, I go out most mornings for a short walk in my hood... and if necessary drift around my city when I need to. Love your responses to both the ordinary and extraordinary questions...
You're absolutely correct.✨ It's not a competition.🌷 Since the fairies have been brought into the conversation, I feel it's safe to say, very recently, within the first few seconds of seeing you for the first time, I thought you were a fairy, which is why I continued to watch the remainder of the video. Mind you, I'm dealing with a series of little brain injuries; and when I'm tired, which I was at the time, I see things. I'm okay. It's a side effect of the brain injuries. Your aura is somewhat ethereal and, you're as cute as a button. I'm quite certain though, you are fully human and totally sweet.🧚🏻♀️
Can I just add that I think you are a lovely and warm soul and a beautiful artist. Please don't stop doing what you do. You are so wonderful to watch 😊
You are always such a delight to watch! God bless you! I have gotten used to being alone because I’ve just a handful of relationships in my whole life, I am 62. I am comfortable in my silence. Being an empath and severely introvert, I have so much trouble with the human variety!! I much prefer animals and nature!! I would like to find a relationship to be in, but my past has made that so negative, I back off into my cocoon. I would like to reincarnate as a dog. A change in life’s difficulties! 😅 Thank you and be blessed!! ❤
Oh honey, nobody should ever send you a "silly" message that might be offensive! That's absolutely ridiculous! You have always been a sweet, gentle, creative and positive person in my life since I've fallen upon you on UA-cam. I am a 61 year old who feels your challenges in many areas of your life. Your Vegetarian friend from The Land of Enchantment, NM, USA Happy New Year to wonderful you and James.
I loved the way you addressed these questions! Especially the “ quirky” category. Some dreadful things have and are happening in my life but I still find joy every day. I especially am thankful for the wonderful things that have come forth from the sad things. I truly believe things happen for a reason and we need patience to find out what .❤
Finding joy isn’t always easy, but the effort seems to take me out of current issues! I am blessed to be able to see nature out my windows, looking out sparks joy! My cup of tea is comforting! I am not sure about the “reason” but I do trust that it all things work together for good to those who love God! When we look back on our past issues, this perspective offers understanding of how it has worked for my good!
Wendy,I love your videos. You are such a positive person. The world needs more people like you. I’m sure you’re at least part fairy yourself. I really loved the response to the poor lady who lost people and sounded like she felt you had no right to your feelings unless you reached her level of loss. You are absolutely right that it isn’t a competition. Each of us has own our level of what we can handle and even that changes on a daily basis. Stay as you are. You are a lovely lady. Sending you lots of love and hugs from the US.🤗
I absolutely love the community that you bring together and thanks for sharing your tips and tricks. Also thank you for sharing your life with us. As a 51-year-old introvert I really appreciate knowing that I'm not alone. What a wonderfully scary and exciting journey this life can be.💜
Happy New Year to you, James & your family! Because of your wonderful sounding voice, is one of the many reasons I love you and your channel! I love the fact that you're atypical from other artists here on YT and are willing to share personal information that resinates with many of us. Keep being you! 🧚♀
Thank you so much for validating our feelings are our own and that we are not in a competition as to who has it worse. Many times I feel invisible and invalidated and so I am learning to accept that my emotions are valid. Soft Hugs ❤️
I love to simmer rosemary in water and use it as a hair rinse for my long hair or spray it in during week and use it as room spray and bathe in it too. I also use warm almond oil through my hair. Love natural remedies and will never cut my hair!xxx
Hey there Wendy. My name is Jacqueline, I am a South African born living in Italy for a long time now. I am so glad I found your channel. You can say I am your newest big fan!! I love your energy, and your view on life. Your art is amazing too! I have watched many videos, I am subscribed to many channels, but nothing like yours. You have given me so much motivation after watching your recent video on starting over at 50. I am turning 44 in June this year and have experienced quite a bit of pain emotionally and physically, which brought me to a place in my life where I felt like I had no purpose anymore. Somehow you have given me a little nudge. It is possible to start over. Regardless of what type of starting over it is. Thank-you for being you. I am going to binge watch your videos now!!! Much love and light. Jacqueline
I absolutely understand missing your family and feeling lonely after spending a few days with them. I feel the same way when I come home from visiting my family and it takes me a few days to stop feeling sad. Loneliness is certainly relative! You can be in a crowded space and still feel lonely. The fact that you state that you don't have friends, makes me sad, because I think you a just such a lovely person and truly wish we were friends!
You are so kind and thoughtful in your responses and I totally agree it's not a competition. We all feel what we feel for a reason and that is ok. Resenting anyone else who we perceive to be in a better place than us is never going to help us feel better. Ann is clearly suffering deep and painful loneliness and is struggling to find any joy. She's hurting and projecting out her anger and/or resentment. Hopefully she can find some peace and connection. I am so pleased to have found you this past week Wendy...you are my study fairy!! I am in the final stages of my PhD, submission end Jan and resisting the jar of nutella has been hard! (failed a few times!!)....but, you're journalling has inspired me and I'm now loving creating mine, particularly during the 'witching hour' (typically between 3-4 in the afternoon), it's so helpful and you are so authentic - thank you!!
I think you said that you were self conscious about your voice when you started UA-cam in the video. I really love your accent and your voice. I'm 25 and been struggling to accept myself. I hope i manage to accept myself and be at peace with life when im at your age. Thank you for making this corner of UA-cam so peaceful Wendy. Love you. 🌹
You can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. So many people want to compete with “feelings” when in fact they can’t be measured like that, as they’re different for everyone. Anyways, The way you handle yourself is so inspiring. Thank you for your content. I adore your Q&A’s❤ I still struggle watching myself while I edit. I literally cringe.😂 much love 💕🧚🏽♀️
Re loneliness and addressing this question, I want to commend you Wendy for handling this comment so compassionately. I think you can feel lonely even if you're surrounded by hundreds of people, if you can't connect with them, you can feel completely alone. You don't have to have physically lost someone to feel alone
HI Dear, Gypsy. Really loved catching up with you with your Q&A. 💓 I particularly loved how you handled your quirky questions regarding loneliness. Agree with you 100% ....we all have different lives and scenarios and it's not a competition on who has suffered or struggled the most. Brilliant response, beautiful soul sister. Wishing you continued success and happiness in the coming year. Big hugs
Thank you for sharing so generously. I feel sorry for the lady who is struggling with loneliness and illness, but you’re right, it’s not a competition and we all have our struggles. I have a lot of issues and worries and no friends but when I feel down I try to practice gratitude. It’s all you can do and try to find joy wherever you can. Creativity is the answer to so many problem. Get out of your head and into your hands (quote borrowed from Kate at the last homely house channel). Wishing you a happy new year! Xxx
I also have a habit of practicing gratitude. However, recently I have learned that past trauma, if we fail to deal with it, may raise its ugly head when we don't expect it, which can cause problems in the future. I had never even thought of some of the things that have happened to me as "trauma" until I recently read "The Body Keeps The Score." Now I realize that, in not sharing about those things with someone else and dealing with them, I have left myself emotionally vulnerable to them. May you be truly blessed!
This is so helpful. Your hair is fabulous! On the competitive trauma, we all have our own journey and our own experience of life. My adult daughter suddenly estranged herself from the family, at the beginning of lockdown. So she is alive and living her life somewhere, but the grief and heartbreak has been devastating for me. I started journaling and some other mindful exercises to help myself carry on. If we can all be kind to each other, because you never know what’s going on in another’s life.
34 year old north yorkshire gal here. Came by chance to your channel the other evening when feeling pretty anxious and low, now I can't stop watching your videos on the daily! Art, nature, real life chats. I love it all, thank you! x
On a note about the lady commenting about loneliness, I just wanted to say the first video I saw that drew me to Wendy was about living with low energy. I was a bit excited to watch it and learn more about this person since this is something I really struggle with. After seeing all the things she accomplishes, I was, in a way, disappointed that it wasn't much my situation. Low energy is definitely relative, like a lot of things. I'm sure Wendy has less energy than she once did and maybe the average person, but from my perspective, I'm much further down the low energy spectrum. I'm not trying to compete. I think the lady expressing her thoughts on the loneliness of people's situations was just a bit disappointed and hurt when she came to realize that maybe the depth of it the two of you felt was not the same. It's of course, no one's fault. And it's a good thing whenever it's lessened, but then you sink back down to your own depth of what you're experiencing after thinking you could find someone to relate and you feel just as alone as you did before. It was wrong of her to be angry with you, but I understand the disappointed feeling. The ones who are truly struggling at a deep level to the point where we can barely function in life are usually not going to be in the spotlight about it nor are we going to be very inspirational to others because we don't have a handle on things. So we really can't expect to find many influencers at our level. I can't make a youtube video about it, but just wanted to say to those barely clinging on to hope that I am very proud of you and the fact that you haven't given up makes you a true warrior to me. Being in the thick of warrior mode is usually not a pretty sight and not what people want to look at. Many of these popular youtube channels are generally success stories and that's great, but that's not everyone's life. Some of us struggle worse than others, but there is greater opportunity in that. Realize it is not your journey, but that it is ok, take what you can from influencers, embrace as much as you can the little happy moments that appear in life and keep forging your own path knowing that you are a trail blazer, blazing away a path made by your own unique set of circumstances that could be used to help someone else in the future. Be proud. It is of my belief that we are chosen for these things. And don't be afraid to share your story, that is how we help each other. A tool I've found on my own is grounding. It's also something Wendy has mentioned. Grounding or earthing helps with a vast array of problems including, but not limited to cardiovascular and inflammation. It helps me feel calmer and just helps to regulate all processes of the body and I've only just started. Powdered electrolyte drink mix and EmergenC mix have also become some of my go-tos. Good for so many circumstances including blood pressure regulation and immunity. It's ok if you don't fit the mold of someone else's escape route. Stay strong my fellow warriors, I see you. You are achieving great things, simply by trying! Keep going and forge the path! 🐺🗡🌠⚡
I had to laugh when you said you wanted to be a dancer and would like to have a dance studio, but you don't like to sweat. I'm a former dancer and we always used to say race horses and dancers sweat the most. I remember literal puddles from some dancers at the barre. Loved your answers. Loneliness is subjective: one person's is just as valid as another's and grief is a lifelong process, some things you never get over.
soooo true, made me laugh too! I think as a dancer, in my other parallel universe, I would have to got used to the sweating!!! and yes, grief is lifelong for sure, 😚
My goodness, i find you such a delight to listen too and watch. Its very clear to me that tne powers that be have touched you with a lovely soul and it manifests in every you do, say and feel. What a blessing.
You've helped me to remember to try and keep my light bright. I suffer so much from very low energy levels. I always feel better after I've listened to you no matter the topic.
Suzy...27 years ago I had chronic fatigue and was always unwell.After 7 years of tests (ridiculous amount of time but that's what it took back then) I was diagnosed with coeliacs disease...changing my diet improved my health because obviously gluten was damaging me and energy levels.I also had very heavy monthly cycles and had iron,B vitamins and calcium deficiencies. Maybe if you look at your diet and/or get a blood test to check your full vitamin and mineral levels you may find out there's something that you can do to improve your energy levels/health. If I hadn't of asked my GP for the tests I would probably still have chronic fatigue and very poor health. Wishing 🌠you a healthy✨️ happy 🙂abundant🪄 2023🎉
Dear Wendy. Thank you for this open and compassionate video. I would like to comment on the hair theme and the washing of it, in order to be of help: I would highly recommend the washing of human hair every day (preferably) Here is the reason why: Our hair is exposed to many outside influences every day, such as oils from cooking, fumes and substances from our workplaces (depending on where you work), trafic pollution (especially diesel, which is sticking to other surfaces and highly cancer causing). All these things accumulate on and in your hair every day! Doctors and holistic practitioners have therefore recommended the washing of hair, before one goes to bed especially, every day or as frequent as possible. Especially people who are allergic should do this. Just imagine taking all those toxins with you to bed, rubbing it over your pillow and sheets. And hair is allways close to your face. I can imagine these accumulated toxins can cause sleep disorders as well as mood swings and other slow processing illnesses. We are exposed to so many chemicals as is, at least we can reduce them in washing our hair and exposed skin every day. If this is too time consuming, because long hair does take time to wash and dry, I recommend to do what our ancestors did long ago: To wear a night cap! 🙂You can make them even yourself. Sew yourself a bonnet (looking like a flower fairy for sure 🙂), or even just a wear a scarf, wrapped around your head. That will do the trick as well. You can then wash the cap or scarf frequently and thus illiminate a load of toxins from entering your body through breathing them in. On shampoo: There are thousands of good natural products out there on the market. For example: Nature Sustained Bio-Shampoo - by Nature Sustained Store (Amazon). Or you can make your own shampoo. There are many recipes out there. You could even just wash with water and do a rinse with apple cider vinegar. Makes the silver hair shining and bright. 🙂 Huggs and love from Schurwald Forest, Germany
I enjoyed the question and answer session. I feel bad for the woman who had so many losses in such a short span of time but we can't compare ourselves to others. My analogy would be say there are two woman who have each lost children. One has lost 4 in a tragic car accident and the other only one based on a health issue. The one who lost four can't say to the woman who lost one, "Look at me you've only lost one." Life doesn't work that way because the mother who lost only one still has the right to grieve. It's the same thing with loneliness. A person can still feel lonely even when they are surrounded by friends. Loneliness is loneliness and we can't tell others how they should feel.
You are so compassionate and self actualized. I am a curmudgeonly pessimist and I so admire your point of view. I have gotten so much good advice on journaling and life from your films. I wish you would never get trolled. You don’t deserve to receive negativity when your putting so much sunshine into the world. ❤
As a young girl I loved paper dolls. They are very hard to find. I would love to see you offer fairy paper dolls. I also love a good storage box with beautiful art on it. You could make it so it is flat to ship, but easy to assemble once received.
Never forget that just because someone has it worse off than you, doesn’t mean your hurt isn’t valid. Don’t ever feel guilty for it! It’s like saying you aren’t allowed to ever be happy because there is someone out there who is happier than you. It’s mean and rude to compare and belittle someone else’s feelings because you have it worse. Well done Wendy for such a great response!!
You can wash your hair with honey 🍯 -I use 2 good dollops -Dissolve in hot water -Cool 20mins -And use like a shampoo Clarified,clean and shiny ✨ Can also rinse with a pint diluted cider vinegar 🍺
Watching your videos and reading the comments help keep me from feeling lonely. Your gentle, lovely voice is always welcome. Thank you for answering all those questions - for being so brave, and spending so much effort for us all. You are a warm, loving, and generous person, and a bright light shining on all of our bumpy journeys. Sending massive hugs, to you and James, your family, and to all our UA-cam family (you aren't alone - I'm here, sending you hugs!) And as for hair tips, Dr. Bronner's works as a shampoo, but I condition with an olive oil conditioner. Also, I find that a beer rinse (yes, beer! Most are made with natural ingredients) adds body and shine to my hair, and can cut the greasy scalp feel. Be sure to let us know if you find something that works well for you😉
I do so enjoy your talks and the grace and kindness you show to the questions asked. 😊. I started taking an art class when I retired. It's unstructured, different tools, mediums, and processes. A wonderful teacher goes from person to person with suggestions and encouragement. I am enjoying a lovely exploration.
You are a generous loving spirit full of goodness.You have many people who send you good wishes and wish you all the good things you wish for yourself. Just carry on being your unique self
I don't think we talk about menopause enough. Including health providers. I'm having some pretty crazy symptoms at age 42. Racing heartbeat, anxiety, just feeling weird. With no explanation. I'm not stressed, my health, my heart all is good, and so these sudden changes have been shocking, and nobody warned me about any of it.
Visit a health practitioner to work out the cause of your health issues. Talk to the women in your family to find out how they experienced menopause. Not every woman has menopausal issues. I had no symptoms whatsoever.
Same. I have been to many doctors for a variety of issues (weight gain, racing heart, itchy skin, frozen shoulder, etc), but no resolution. I am surprised none of the docs mentioned peri/menopause. I am listening to Dr Marie Haver on UA-cam. She has wonderful, helpful info. I am starting menopause replacement hormones.
This is Connie, using my husband's utube. Your voice is lovely and encouraging and the reason I began listening. I'm 73 and began painting again in 2016. Having a wonderful time of it. I've always felt most everyone I've met was a potential friend. It's worked for me. Thank you for your videos. You are a delight.
Don’t EVER feel down about any trolls posting stuff online, they are just very sad people who have nothing better to do. You have a beautiful growing community who love watching your videos. I was soooo happy today when my delivery arrived from your Etsy shop, thank you they are beautiful and I’m going to use them in my journal. 😊
Hi Wendy, I am new to your channel. I just want to say, I Love your Beautiful voice!!!😃 It is so soft and sweet, I love the sound of your voice! That is one of the first things that I noticed when I began to watch your videos. Also, I think You look like a fairy!! To me, your Beautiful fairy paintings, All of them,look like beautiful self portraits to me. I think you are sort of magical and whimsical, and I appreciate you, and James. Thank you for sharing with us your creative process! It's really cool, fun, and inspiring. 😊 🧚♀️
Your soul shines and your spirit radiates! Love your transparency and the gentleness of your comments-always so sensitive and thoughtful…your compassion is inspiring when comments are rude or unkind. Blessings to you and the beautiful, cozy, lovely circle you have conjured for us. Love from the rainy mountains of California.
You have a unique ability to communicate with us, I know I feel as if we are having a visit! Also I get hints that we have common influences and experiences! What a joy this sparks! The bumpy road seems smoother or at least possible to navigate when you suggest ways to cope! Blessed days!
Love your kindness and patience. We are all dealing with our own hurts and with living through very interesting/exhausting times. Its good to remember that we all want to be heard and seen. Thanks for doing a great job with that. May we all find the sweet Love within that is our comfort, and may we feel seen and heard, and see and hear those who need us. blessings.
Wendy, I think what makes your channel so magical, is not just your art, but your wisdom of life itself. You have so much to give and advise that benefits so many people. I love your channel! Happy New Year! 🎉
Wendy, you are so generous and thoughtful in your responses. You are soft and caring, but also firm when needed. I watched this in 3 sessions over the course of today which was a really choppy day for me, so it felt cohesive beginning and ending with you. I always leave your videos feeling lovely and warm and inspired.💝
Thanks for your patience with all those questions. Your answers were well thought out and helpful. One comment that hit me about pricing, you said that artists need to consider the time it took to get to where we are as well as the time in creating a piece, this is so true a lot of times people don't take that into consideration, a piece of art reflects years of study and practice. Thanks for reminding me of that. I'm in my 70s and have been an artist all my life and wouldn't want to be anything else 😊
Your responses are compassionate and wise Wendy darling 😘 your voice I love it's beautiful😘 it's very important for everyone to feel their feelings and not compare or measure eachothers issues/suffering. Love and Peace Wendy 💜 ...love the musical notes at the end too😘💜
What a kind person you are...amazing how you answered the quirky questions. Sometimes when we are in so much pain we cant see anyone else's perspective on pain. I can see your patience with people that is so special, definitely elementary school teacher vibes, you can see the caring!
Wendy I am so proud of you for your deep and acknowledging way that you shared the grieving woman's comment. Part of grief is anger, I thought your response was very validating and supportive. But as you always demonstrate, "we rise, by lifting others up"
I hope you see this. I'm in menopause now. When I was in peri-menopause, I felt VERY lonely. I had friends. I have a partner. I felt lonely. I've come to realize it's the hormone changes. Also, no one should gate-keep emotions. The best thing I did was talk about how I was feeling and then people who were in menopause reached back and lifted me up. I hope I can do the same for you. It's a hard road to walk. Full of tears, fears, and loneliness. I grieved my husband many times as he sat on the couch next to me. I felt so crazy
Big big compassion and love all around, and hoping Ann finds peace wherever possible. 💖 Your kindness and care is much appreciated. Just one other thing I'd like to note - in general, I guess. COVID has unfortunately created extremely polarizing experiences - and where everyone's been so isolated (some more than others), their experiences, the good and the bad, were all amplified to the extreeemes. And the isolation prevented people from often having the "community" support they needed to really process things like grief and loss. And that polarizing of experiences sometimes makes people feel even *more* isolated, etc... I guess what I'm trying to say is that people's loneliness and pain is quite often more common than we'd like, and less managed than we'd need. This can make Humaning In General much harder than it used to be! ..So I suppose friendly reminder to all that being human is incredibly messy and chaotic, especially right now. We're doing our best. And that counts for something!! ❤️ and all we can do
Perfect answer to "try it on for size" I so agree, "loneliness is personal" and there's not a competition for who's more lonely or who's situation is worse. So gracious of you in your answering this statement. I love your honesty and how in touch you are! Thank you. I'm a 68 yr old widow for the past 7 years and though all 3 of my children live within the same city the loneliness I experience changes with the seasons, etc. I can be extremely lonely with all my family around me. I adore fairies and your creativity! Keep YouTubing! I love your humor as well!
It's not about who's lonelier than the next person; it's about sharing what helps you so that perhaps the next person can find some relief. As an alone person myself, I keep trying new things to bring me joy and a sense of gratitude. Thank you for adding to my joy.
Hello Wendy - I did send an email... wish I had posted in the comments section on reflection. However most of my questions were answered. Thank you for taking the time to share 🥰
UA-cam proposed one of your videos to me a few days ago. I love them and I watch of few every day. Your art is beautiful and your art journaling so inpiring. I love your honesty and vulnerability and the courage it takes to express them. I have had chronic pain for the past 5+ years. Gabor Mate's book When the body says no helped me see so many things about pain in a new way. You giving us permission to rest and take breaks before we are completely exhausted is very much appreciated. Remifemin helped me so much during my menopause, especially with the mood swings and hot flashes. I wish I knew back then about journaling my feelings out. I have been doing it for the past 3 years and it has been life-changing.
You are a kind and considerate woman, I am so happy I came upon your podcast a little over a year ago and you are a delight to listen too. You are coming into yourself and are a lovely example to other women coming into themselves also. Wishing you and your family a very happy healthy new year!
Thank you for being an inspiration to me. Our culture is so obsessed with youth and happiness that it is really heart warming to see a woman in her 50ies who is living and loving not only life but also herself. I really enjoy that besides your accent, the nature and artwork seen in the videos and of course - that you are also a veggie! Greetings from Germany!
I am in the same situation as you... just my husband and I... I 've been watching some of your videos because you are sweet❤ if we do spend time here we are not really alone in my opinion. And yes, journaling does help a lot! Xx
That was a joy to watch and hear. Love the Q & A, thanks Wendy , for your open and honest answers. It's so nice to hear from a similar sensitive, arty, creative person because they seem so hard to find and few and far between out in the big world.❤🙏
I absolutely love your voice. I watch a couple of other podcasts regularly that usually have to do with the negativity of reality, because life is both negative and positive. And I have an ongoing need to know the how's and why's of things. And after I'm done with them I come here to your channel to unwind, relax and watch your lovely self in nature and in your studio. Your voice is calming and interesting. And I mean interesting as opposed to our American accent here, which I consider to be flat and boring compared to yours. I'm still new here and still catching up on your older vids. Thank you for the 2023 Q and A. You have a very lovely channel and I will see you again soon. ♥️
I just found you a couple of weeks ago and I love your content and you. I watched a journaling video last time, and I found myself thinking about what you were saying many times over the coming days. I've never been one to journal, but I have written poems in a way to relieve myself of great weight from life. Once it is written it is like I release it from myself and can deal with it. I think I will start journaling. I wish I was as artistic as you are, but I do have a creative side. In the video today there were a couple of things you said that resonated with me also. I too was a single mother from the time my son was born. It was hard and very challenging especially financially as you said! Very difficult, I always thought it was even more difficult because I didn't have anyone to talk to about my son that I knew loved my child the same way I did. Lastly, the transition to gray. I too, am a natural brunette with very dark brown hair....such a challenge! every three weeks I have to color. Recently I decided to keep out a strip of gray (white) hair along my part as a baby step! Like you the front of my hair is white with back and sides seeming to be dark gray with some brown mixed in :) Sometimes I find people on here that feel like they could be my soul sister, I feel that way with you! I'm a fellow knitter and crocheter also! Sigh :) Just had to reach out!
I found it very interesting about what you wrote regarding poetry. I noticed last year when I was feeling really low that writing a poem made such a huge difference to lifting my spirits. I actually called my poems free verse as they are not correctly written poetry. I write about my walks and strangely not about feeling low, but I love to write about all I have seen when out walking in the countryside. Anyway I hope you try the journaling, I don't know anything about it so will be interested to hear what Wendy has to say on the subject.
You did an exceptional explanation about addressing loneliness. We can't measure each other's situations to others. You do an elequent job addressing so many things.
48:07 This moment’s conversation (time stamp at 48:07) is my favorite part of the video - your eyes sparkle as your inner essence radiates through your fingertips and your descriptive words. You are an excellent instructor, an encouraging colleague, and a brilliant Light in this world. Thank you for sharing your heart.
Thank you so much for being you! Thank you for being so brave and sharing. It is nice to hear the honesty of others who also struggle without comparing who is struggling more. Struggles make us stronger and more compassionate for others. We are not alone! Keep on being you 💜💜💜
Happy New Year Wendy ❤ this is much welcome and mood boosting watching / listening whilst I sew confined to my bed in illness! Thank you for continuing to share with us x
This is the second or third video I am watching of yours. I'm new to the channel and can't believe I've never discovered it before. I'm a 57 year old lonely woman who lived for art all her life, until I even stopped doing that many years ago. I feel lost in an abyss (due to exhaustion from ill health and paralyzing fear) and I'm determined to find my way back out. Joe Dispenza meditations and Wim Hoff are inspiring me at the moment re health. But oh, I feel I have suddenly landed back in an environment that is lighting the very shadows of my memory, of the real me here. Even though it's only the third vid I relate to practically everything you say and what the community bring as well. It seems I'm not the only lonely and lost artist. I feel I will commune here with like minds and I feel encouraged and so so grateful to have found you. I may (will!) even find excitement for what the future holds instead of fear and despair. It is a long road but I want to accelerate my journey down the right one. Thank you for being here!!! UA-cam channels, online communities can be so very much to someone like me. Much love to you and to us all. 💙🙏🦋
Hello Wendy, Happy new year!!! Today I want to tell you something about loneliness. My elderly sister is poorly for quiet a long time. ( about 10 years now). She is living alone in Amsterdam and I am the only relative she sees on a regular basis. She has no friends and hardly leaves the house. I tried to move her or find her some help. But she don’t want any.I worried a lot about her being on her own and fragile. She never contacts me. I am always scared that one bad day she get sick or an accident and not able to find any help. I told her of course, but she told me not to worry so much. I always feel sorry for her, but one day she told me that she likes to be alone! She got accustom to this situation.I think that I project my feelings of loneliness on her! So you never can tell what loneliness really is for someone else. It is so personal. You never can compare your situation with another person. I am always looking forward to a new video!! Thank you for everything 😘❤️🌹👍
I'm actually completely alone and almost never feel lonely, so yes, loneliness is very subjective... I also noticed that there are two types of people when they're feeling bad: the first type tries to cheer up other people even though they're going through hard times themselves, and the other type tries to emphasize their own grief by depreciating other people's feelings. Thank you so much for this Q&A, Wendy ❤️ Sending you hugs and lots of love!
Personally I think you sharing your loneliness was a comfort to me. Even if we all have different degrees of it was can relate and I think that in itself made me feel a little less alone in my feelings. I just found your channel and I am thankful to find you here.
Happy new year to you and all the lovely people here, I have been watching Dr. Gabor Mate too and appreciate him speaking out.. I am an alone (eventhough I have a partner ) too I think it is a symptom of our time however I believe loniiness is a very personal thing everybody feels it differently , I think it is important to have Alonetime. Tons to write about this subject ... .I believe if you need help support a smile or anything to lift your spirit it will be sent to you from somewhere unexpected (maybe it is because we sent out SOS waves unconsciously who will be responded to) thank you Wendy for beeing here 🌎♥
Bless you, you seem like such a sweet person. Please do not be embarrassed about your voice, I find it very pleasing to listen to. You say you do not have friends, I would say you would be a lovely inspiring friend to have. You are a friend to so many people. Hope 2023 is kind to you Bless you
Dear Wendy, very interesting all these questions and your answers! Well, it is a long video but the time went bye so quickly because it is such a joy to listen to you! Thank you and may you and your loved ones have a lucky and peaceful year 2023.🍀❤️🎉
Feeling huge compassion for the person suffering the awful loneliness having lost the three people they had in their life. Their inner response to that must be deeply, deeply painful and I can only feel that they were needing to express the hugeness of this on here where it is safe to do so. I'm glad the person is in this community so we can all hold her and each other in what we are going through in our own world that is hard to cope with 💖
Poor woman...I can only imagine the pain she feels right now.
I hear you loud and clear and hope you find peace in the future, remembering the good times with a smile.
I agree I hope that the Lady finds peace and Wendy answered the Questions beautifully 😍.
It’s very hard when the universe has everything happening so close together. She is stronger than she realizes. I don’t know how religious she is but I totally believe that God only lets us go through the things that He knows we can handle. I pray for her tranquility ❤️
I agree, she sounded angry and in a lot of pain. I am sending her compassion and kindness.
I felt this, too. My significant other for over 10 years was on the road all week and only home on weekends, so in spending as much time with him as I could, I let other friendships and activities. Now that we are apart, I am extremely lonely, although I'm not often actually physically. Other than my children, he was the only person who let me know I was important to him. So I can understand how she feels. Besides loneliness, losing so many close people during such a short time is a trauma, and she may need help in recovering from that. Wendy's answer was sweet and helpful, as was the video about loneliness.
Wonderful Q&A. I respect how thoughtful you are in your responses, especially to the griever who asked the "quirky" question. I could really feel the care you put into your answer. You made a great point, and still respected that she was coming from a place of hurt. I recently read "anger is sad's bodyguard". Big hugs to you and your big heart!!
Gosh thank you, I was a little nervous in a way to share that one but felt it was important and not to shy away from the tricky ones with high emotion... xxx Big loves to you too Stacey xxx
@@theunexpectedgypsy Yes, it's very important that people understand that everyone's pain is valid.
Yes everyone’s pain is valid but not many can express it as graceful as u. And with such empathy. I enjoy listening to your voice, you sound so beautiful, so calming, I don’t no how else to explain. But keep up the good pet and gidday from down under
So many of us have been in very alone and lonely place at sometime in our life…..however, the friends we loose are not the only people in the world. Even in our pain we can involve ourselves in others by doing volunteer work, or even reaching out on line and making new acquaintances that can become friends. You did a wonderful job answering from your heart Wendy. Blessings from Betty in Ohio.
You are wonderful! I love how sincerely genuine you are. You speak your truth in a soft and heart filled way. Thanks Wendy. Peace, love and prosperity to you and James for 2023!! 🧚♂️💓🧚
I don’t think anyone likes the sound of their own voice but I must tell you Wendy that just hearing your voice can calm me down if I’m having an off day. I find it soothing and comforting. ❤
Regarding the comment from Anne about comparative loneliness.. I’d like to put forth the paper plate analogy. We’re each given a plate which represents our capacity for load bearing. Each persons plate is made from something different depending on various factors. Each person goes through life gathering bricks which represent trauma. The person with a steel plate can take quite a few bricks before their plate buckles under the load. The person with the paper plate possibly can’t even take a single brick. We can’t see what people’s plates are made from. So we shouldn’t judge anyones suffering by the size or number of bricks we perceive them to be carrying.
Vivid analogy !! So true, i most definitely agree.
Each person’s experiences and are feelings are unique and there is no reason nor way to compare.
I have been following you for a short while, this is the first time I’ve listened to a Q&A and I wanted affirm how well you handled the comment from Anne who is obviously is hurting quite badly, you were graceful and still true to yourself emphasizing how important it is to give a voice to your loneliness. I teach art therapy to cancer patients and have my own autoimmune disease that has challenged me my entire life, as well I am in menopause, I have had to learn NOT to minimize my own health issues thinking I have no right to complain since I don’t have cancer. It’s easy to diminish our own suffering if we compare…bravo for pointing out that it’s not a competition.
well said!
@@tracyguillemette6255 Charlene, so well said. Even in my prayer life I find myself apologizing for asking God’s help in my life when I know there are those who are suffering so in theirs.
The “competitive” nature of pain and suffering, along with fear of judgment, are the primary reasons why I do not share my thoughts/feelings/experiences with others, whether in person or online ☹️. This avoidance unfortunately results in loneliness and disconnection. Thank you for your kind responses in this q&a and for letting us know we aren’t alone❤
Thanks for this comment. This is true for me as well.
I can relate to your comment also.
I agree.
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@@patti3d 😊
Please don't be self conscious about your voice because it's lovely! 🙂
It's normal for our voice to sound different when we hear it recorded outside of us as opposed to how we hear it internally. And I'm sure that I'm not alone when I say that your voice is enchanting 😊
I agree! I love Wendy's voice & accent. She is very relaxing to listen to. :) and you are so true. So many of us can't stand listening to our own voices when you hear it recorded. 😍🤩😁
@@carolbonnett7409 I agree with what you say Carol 🙂
And I remember the first time I heard my voice on a tape recorder, I couldn't believe that was me! I sounded so different! Lol
I have a London accent and when I hear it I think I sound awful! but I'm proud to be a Londoner and it sounds posher than some
I also enjoy listening to Wendy's voice. I recently read a Guardian article about why people don't like the sound of their own voices -- in recordings we sound more high-pitched than we do internally. Fortunately for me, I sound like my sister, and I do like her voice, so don't mind my own so much.
@@marthamurphy3913 Interesting 🤔
I recorded my voice and listened to it to see if that's actually true but in my case it's not. I don't find that it sounds higher. Try it. What do you think?
It was many years ago, when I was around 12 or 13 yrs of age when I didn't like the sound of my voice. But I do like it now 🙂 I remember my voice sounding a little deeper and monotone like at that time and that's no longer the case.
You were very kind in your responses to the more challenging questions. I agree with you completely, loneliness and chronic illnesses are not competitive. You can stand in a crowd and feel lonely. I’m lonely, due to chronic illness and an inability to leave the house. I do have a husband, but as we are youngish he has a social and sport life outside our marriage (quite rightly as he is my career). I have just lost my mummy and she was my best friend. I find your videos very cathartic, very reassuring and most importantly validating. Sending fairy love and acorn magic, 🐝💛
Hugs from Scotland Bee.
I'm sorry about your illness and disability, and also about losing your mum. I have fibromyalgia, and belong to an online support group. Sometimes I have to take a break from it when it seems to become competitive rather than supportive. May the fairies be with you!
❤ Bee
It's always so nice when an artist is willing to show the normal life behind the scenes, because there are a lot of people who feel like they aren't "real artists" if they balance family and other work with their creative life. That kind of authenticity is one of the reasons why we love this channel!
Loneliness is subjective to each person who feels it. Someone can experience loneliness in a room full of friends and family they care about, whereas another person can spend weeks at time by themselves and never experience that feeling. It's unfair to take your feelings and measure them against someone else's experiences. Missing James because you love him, enjoy his company, and want to have him near you is a wonderful thing because it shows that you have true companionship and love in your life. I feel that when my husband is away and it reminds me that I am lucky.
You are a healer. Your thoughtful responses were so candid and gentle that I felt we were engaged in a ftf conversation. Thank you so much.
Very good, kind but firm
something that people forget is they confuse "loneliness and alone" - I'm a home alone person but 95% of the time I'm not lonely - I've a creative life, I attend events out of the house when I need, I go out most mornings for a short walk in my hood... and if necessary drift around my city when I need to. Love your responses to both the ordinary and extraordinary questions...
You're absolutely correct.✨ It's not a competition.🌷
Since the fairies have been brought into the conversation, I feel it's safe to say, very recently, within the first few seconds of seeing you for the first time, I thought you were a fairy, which is why I continued to watch the remainder of the video. Mind you, I'm dealing with a series of little brain injuries; and when I'm tired, which I was at the time, I see things. I'm okay. It's a side effect of the brain injuries. Your aura is somewhat ethereal and, you're as cute as a button. I'm quite certain though, you are fully human and totally sweet.🧚🏻♀️
Can I just add that I think you are a lovely and warm soul and a beautiful artist. Please don't stop doing what you do. You are so wonderful to watch 😊
Just because someone has things worse than you doesn’t invalidate your own feeling. Also, condolences to Ann and the loss of her mother and her work.
You are always such a delight to watch! God bless you!
I have gotten used to being alone because I’ve just a handful of relationships in my whole life, I am 62. I am comfortable in my silence. Being an empath and severely introvert, I have so much trouble with the human variety!! I much prefer animals and nature!!
I would like to find a relationship to be in, but my past has made that so negative, I back off into my cocoon. I would like to reincarnate as a dog. A change in life’s difficulties! 😅
Thank you and be blessed!! ❤
Oh honey, nobody should ever send you a "silly" message that might be offensive! That's absolutely ridiculous! You have always been a sweet, gentle, creative and positive person in my life since I've fallen upon you on UA-cam. I am a 61 year old who feels your challenges in many areas of your life. Your Vegetarian friend from The Land of Enchantment, NM, USA Happy New Year to wonderful you and James.
I loved the way you addressed these questions! Especially the “ quirky” category. Some dreadful things have and are happening in my life but I still find joy every day. I especially am thankful for the wonderful things that have come forth from the sad things. I truly believe things happen for a reason and we need patience to find out what .❤
Finding joy isn’t always easy, but the effort seems to take me out of current issues! I am blessed to be able to see nature out my windows, looking out sparks joy! My cup of tea is comforting! I am not sure about the “reason” but I do trust that it all things work together for good to those who love God! When we look back on our past issues, this perspective offers understanding of how it has worked for my good!
I am so alone so you are helping me 💖 thank you.
I am an artist and now due to you I am making journals.💮💮💮🌷
A very kind and down to earth lady.I am glad I came across your videos.
Wendy,I love your videos. You are such a positive person. The world needs more people like you. I’m sure you’re at least part fairy yourself. I really loved the response to the poor lady who lost people and sounded like she felt you had no right to your feelings unless you reached her level of loss. You are absolutely right that it isn’t a competition. Each of us has own our level of what we can handle and even that changes on a daily basis. Stay as you are. You are a lovely lady. Sending you lots of love and hugs from the US.🤗
I don't get how anyone could come to this humble channel and say anything rude. It just boggles my mind!
Yes, it's rather peaceful in here.
Well done addressing those ' quirky questions' Wendy., Big hugs to the person who is going through so many losses.
You never stopped teaching, we can learn so much from you. ☕🌻
I absolutely love the community that you bring together and thanks for sharing your tips and tricks. Also thank you for sharing your life with us. As a 51-year-old introvert I really appreciate knowing that I'm not alone. What a wonderfully scary and exciting journey this life can be.💜
Happy New Year to you, James & your family! Because of your wonderful sounding voice, is one of the many reasons I love you and your channel! I love the fact that you're atypical from other artists here on YT and are willing to share personal information that resinates with many of us. Keep being you! 🧚♀
Thank you so much for validating our feelings are our own and that we are not in a competition as to who has it worse. Many times I feel invisible and invalidated and so I am learning to accept that my emotions are valid. Soft Hugs ❤️
I love to simmer rosemary in water and use it as a hair rinse for my long hair or spray it in during week and use it as room spray and bathe in it too. I also use warm almond oil through my hair. Love natural remedies and will never cut my hair!xxx
Thank you for the hair tip - something to try!
Nice to hear your tips
I buzzed my hair last month. I love it. So easy, so clean, so fun to change the color. Also I live in a very hot region so it’s cool.
Hey there Wendy. My name is Jacqueline, I am a South African born living in Italy for a long time now. I am so glad I found your channel. You can say I am your newest big fan!! I love your energy, and your view on life. Your art is amazing too! I have watched many videos, I am subscribed to many channels, but nothing like yours. You have given me so much motivation after watching your recent video on starting over at 50. I am turning 44 in June this year and have experienced quite a bit of pain emotionally and physically, which brought me to a place in my life where I felt like I had no purpose anymore. Somehow you have given me a little nudge. It is possible to start over. Regardless of what type of starting over it is. Thank-you for being you. I am going to binge watch your videos now!!! Much love and light. Jacqueline
Many thanks for all your time, attention, and thoughtful answers to all your questions in this video! 💛
I absolutely understand missing your family and feeling lonely after spending a few days with them. I feel the same way when I come home from visiting my family and it takes me a few days to stop feeling sad. Loneliness is certainly relative! You can be in a crowded space and still feel lonely. The fact that you state that you don't have friends, makes me sad, because I think you a just such a lovely person and truly wish we were friends!
You are so fundamentally kind Wendy. You inspire me to be more understanding when people express their pain in my direction.
You are so kind and thoughtful in your responses and I totally agree it's not a competition. We all feel what we feel for a reason and that is ok. Resenting anyone else who we perceive to be in a better place than us is never going to help us feel better. Ann is clearly suffering deep and painful loneliness and is struggling to find any joy. She's hurting and projecting out her anger and/or resentment. Hopefully she can find some peace and connection. I am so pleased to have found you this past week Wendy...you are my study fairy!! I am in the final stages of my PhD, submission end Jan and resisting the jar of nutella has been hard! (failed a few times!!)....but, you're journalling has inspired me and I'm now loving creating mine, particularly during the 'witching hour' (typically between 3-4 in the afternoon), it's so helpful and you are so authentic - thank you!!
I think you said that you were self conscious about your voice when you started UA-cam in the video. I really love your accent and your voice. I'm 25 and been struggling to accept myself. I hope i manage to accept myself and be at peace with life when im at your age. Thank you for making this corner of UA-cam so peaceful Wendy. Love you. 🌹
You can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. So many people want to compete with “feelings” when in fact they can’t be measured like that, as they’re different for everyone. Anyways, The way you handle yourself is so inspiring. Thank you for your content. I adore your Q&A’s❤ I still struggle watching myself while I edit. I literally cringe.😂 much love 💕🧚🏽♀️
Re loneliness and addressing this question, I want to commend you Wendy for handling this comment so compassionately. I think you can feel lonely even if you're surrounded by hundreds of people, if you can't connect with them, you can feel completely alone. You don't have to have physically lost someone to feel alone
HI Dear, Gypsy. Really loved catching up with you with your Q&A. 💓 I particularly loved how you handled your quirky questions regarding loneliness. Agree with you 100% ....we all have different lives and scenarios and it's not a competition on who has suffered or struggled the most. Brilliant response, beautiful soul sister. Wishing you continued success and happiness in the coming year. Big hugs
Thank you for sharing so generously. I feel sorry for the lady who is struggling with loneliness and illness, but you’re right, it’s not a competition and we all have our struggles. I have a lot of issues and worries and no friends but when I feel down I try to practice gratitude. It’s all you can do and try to find joy wherever you can. Creativity is the answer to so many problem. Get out of your head and into your hands (quote borrowed from Kate at the last homely house channel). Wishing you a happy new year! Xxx
I also have a habit of practicing gratitude. However, recently I have learned that past trauma, if we fail to deal with it, may raise its ugly head when we don't expect it, which can cause problems in the future. I had never even thought of some of the things that have happened to me as "trauma" until I recently read "The Body Keeps The Score." Now I realize that, in not sharing about those things with someone else and dealing with them, I have left myself emotionally vulnerable to them. May you be truly blessed!
@@marthamurphy3913 so true! Very wise comment ❤
This is so helpful. Your hair is fabulous! On the competitive trauma, we all have our own journey and our own experience of life. My adult daughter suddenly estranged herself from the family, at the beginning of lockdown. So she is alive and living her life somewhere, but the grief and heartbreak has been devastating for me. I started journaling and some other mindful exercises to help myself carry on. If we can all be kind to each other, because you never know what’s going on in another’s life.
34 year old north yorkshire gal here. Came by chance to your channel the other evening when feeling pretty anxious and low, now I can't stop watching your videos on the daily! Art, nature, real life chats. I love it all, thank you! x
This beautiful woman is so amazing that I am always inspired with whatever she does.
You are such a beautiful light. Thank you 🙏
On a note about the lady commenting about loneliness, I just wanted to say the first video I saw that drew me to Wendy was about living with low energy. I was a bit excited to watch it and learn more about this person since this is something I really struggle with. After seeing all the things she accomplishes, I was, in a way, disappointed that it wasn't much my situation. Low energy is definitely relative, like a lot of things. I'm sure Wendy has less energy than she once did and maybe the average person, but from my perspective, I'm much further down the low energy spectrum.
I'm not trying to compete. I think the lady expressing her thoughts on the loneliness of people's situations was just a bit disappointed and hurt when she came to realize that maybe the depth of it the two of you felt was not the same. It's of course, no one's fault. And it's a good thing whenever it's lessened, but then you sink back down to your own depth of what you're experiencing after thinking you could find someone to relate and you feel just as alone as you did before. It was wrong of her to be angry with you, but I understand the disappointed feeling.
The ones who are truly struggling at a deep level to the point where we can barely function in life are usually not going to be in the spotlight about it nor are we going to be very inspirational to others because we don't have a handle on things. So we really can't expect to find many influencers at our level. I can't make a youtube video about it, but just wanted to say to those barely clinging on to hope that I am very proud of you and the fact that you haven't given up makes you a true warrior to me. Being in the thick of warrior mode is usually not a pretty sight and not what people want to look at. Many of these popular youtube channels are generally success stories and that's great, but that's not everyone's life. Some of us struggle worse than others, but there is greater opportunity in that. Realize it is not your journey, but that it is ok, take what you can from influencers, embrace as much as you can the little happy moments that appear in life and keep forging your own path knowing that you are a trail blazer, blazing away a path made by your own unique set of circumstances that could be used to help someone else in the future. Be proud. It is of my belief that we are chosen for these things.
And don't be afraid to share your story, that is how we help each other. A tool I've found on my own is grounding. It's also something Wendy has mentioned. Grounding or earthing helps with a vast array of problems including, but not limited to cardiovascular and inflammation. It helps me feel calmer and just helps to regulate all processes of the body and I've only just started. Powdered electrolyte drink mix and EmergenC mix have also become some of my go-tos. Good for so many circumstances including blood pressure regulation and immunity.
It's ok if you don't fit the mold of someone else's escape route.
Stay strong my fellow warriors, I see you. You are achieving great things, simply by trying! Keep going and forge the path! 🐺🗡🌠⚡
Yes, a full video on your grey hair journey, please!❤
Yes, a Faerie Card Deck please! Love your creativity, journaling, advice, and kindness. Blessings to you 🧙
I had to laugh when you said you wanted to be a dancer and would like to have a dance studio, but you don't like to sweat. I'm a former dancer and we always used to say race horses and dancers sweat the most. I remember literal puddles from some dancers at the barre.
Loved your answers. Loneliness is subjective: one person's is just as valid as another's and grief is a lifelong process, some things you never get over.
soooo true, made me laugh too! I think as a dancer, in my other parallel universe, I would have to got used to the sweating!!! and yes, grief is lifelong for sure, 😚
My goodness, i find you such a delight to listen too and watch. Its very clear to me that tne powers that be have touched you with a lovely soul and it manifests in every you do, say and feel. What a blessing.
You've helped me to remember to try and keep my light bright. I suffer so much from very low energy levels. I always feel better after I've listened to you no matter the topic.
Suzy...27 years ago I had chronic fatigue and was always unwell.After 7 years of tests (ridiculous amount of time but that's what it took back then) I was diagnosed with coeliacs disease...changing my diet improved my health because obviously gluten was damaging me and energy levels.I also had very heavy monthly cycles and had iron,B vitamins and calcium deficiencies.
Maybe if you look at your diet and/or get a blood test to check your full vitamin and mineral levels you may find out there's something that you can do to improve your energy levels/health.
If I hadn't of asked my GP for the tests I would probably still have chronic fatigue and very poor health. Wishing 🌠you a healthy✨️ happy 🙂abundant🪄 2023🎉
Dear Wendy. Thank you for this open and compassionate video.
I would like to comment on the hair theme and the washing of it, in order to be of help:
I would highly recommend the washing of human hair every day (preferably) Here is the reason why:
Our hair is exposed to many outside influences every day, such as oils from cooking, fumes and substances from our workplaces (depending on where you work), trafic pollution (especially diesel, which is sticking to other surfaces and highly cancer causing). All these things accumulate on and in your hair every day! Doctors and holistic practitioners have therefore recommended the washing of hair, before one goes to bed especially, every day or as frequent as possible. Especially people who are allergic should do this. Just imagine taking all those toxins with you to bed, rubbing it over your pillow and sheets. And hair is allways close to your face. I can imagine these accumulated toxins can cause sleep disorders as well as mood swings and other slow processing illnesses. We are exposed to so many chemicals as is, at least we can reduce them in washing our hair and exposed skin every day.
If this is too time consuming, because long hair does take time to wash and dry, I recommend to do what our ancestors did long ago:
To wear a night cap! 🙂You can make them even yourself. Sew yourself a bonnet (looking like a flower fairy for sure 🙂), or even just a wear a scarf, wrapped around your head. That will do the trick as well.
You can then wash the cap or scarf frequently and thus illiminate a load of toxins from entering your body through breathing them in.
On shampoo:
There are thousands of good natural products out there on the market. For example: Nature Sustained Bio-Shampoo - by Nature Sustained Store (Amazon).
Or you can make your own shampoo. There are many recipes out there. You could even just wash with water and do a rinse with apple cider vinegar. Makes the silver hair shining and bright. 🙂
Huggs and love from Schurwald Forest, Germany
I enjoyed the question and answer session. I feel bad for the woman who had so many losses in such a short span of time but we can't compare ourselves to others. My analogy would be say there are two woman who have each lost children. One has lost 4 in a tragic car accident and the other only one based on a health issue. The one who lost four can't say to the woman who lost one, "Look at me you've only lost one." Life doesn't work that way because the mother who lost only one still has the right to grieve. It's the same thing with loneliness. A person can still feel lonely even when they are surrounded by friends. Loneliness is loneliness and we can't tell others how they should feel.
You are so compassionate and self actualized. I am a curmudgeonly pessimist and I so admire your point of view. I have gotten so much good advice on journaling and life from your films. I wish you would never get trolled. You don’t deserve to receive negativity when your putting so much sunshine into the world. ❤
I understand the loneliness. And it is very vulnerable and brave for you to say so. I appreciate you and your UA-cam videos.
As a young girl I loved paper dolls. They are very hard to find. I would love to see you offer fairy paper dolls. I also love a good storage box with beautiful art on it. You could make it so it is flat to ship, but easy to assemble once received.
Never forget that just because someone has it worse off than you, doesn’t mean your hurt isn’t valid. Don’t ever feel guilty for it! It’s like saying you aren’t allowed to ever be happy because there is someone out there who is happier than you. It’s mean and rude to compare and belittle someone else’s feelings because you have it worse.
Well done Wendy for such a great response!!
You can wash your hair with honey 🍯
-I use 2 good dollops
-Dissolve in hot water
-Cool 20mins
-And use like a shampoo
Clarified,clean and shiny ✨
Can also rinse with a pint diluted cider vinegar 🍺
Watching your videos and reading the comments help keep me from feeling lonely. Your gentle, lovely voice is always welcome.
Thank you for answering all those questions - for being so brave, and spending so much effort for us all. You are a warm, loving, and generous person, and a bright light shining on all of our bumpy journeys. Sending massive hugs, to you and James, your family, and to all our UA-cam family (you aren't alone - I'm here, sending you hugs!)
And as for hair tips, Dr. Bronner's works as a shampoo, but I condition with an olive oil conditioner. Also, I find that a beer rinse (yes, beer! Most are made with natural ingredients) adds body and shine to my hair, and can cut the greasy scalp feel. Be sure to let us know if you find something that works well for you😉
I do so enjoy your talks and the grace and kindness you show to the questions asked. 😊. I started taking an art class when I retired. It's unstructured, different tools, mediums, and processes. A wonderful teacher goes from person to person with suggestions and encouragement. I am enjoying a lovely exploration.
You are a generous loving spirit full of goodness.You have many people who send you good wishes and wish you all the good things you wish for yourself. Just carry on being your unique self
I love your videos wendy keep being awesome 🌟
I don't think we talk about menopause enough. Including health providers. I'm having some pretty crazy symptoms at age 42. Racing heartbeat, anxiety, just feeling weird. With no explanation. I'm not stressed, my health, my heart all is good, and so these sudden changes have been shocking, and nobody warned me about any of it.
Genuine question asked out of curiosity not criticism. Who was supposed to warn you?
Not to be that person but how do you know it's menopause and not something else?
Visit a health practitioner to work out the cause of your health issues. Talk to the women in your family to find out how they experienced menopause. Not every woman has menopausal issues. I had no symptoms whatsoever.
Same. I have been to many doctors for a variety of issues (weight gain, racing heart, itchy skin, frozen shoulder, etc), but no resolution. I am surprised none of the docs mentioned peri/menopause. I am listening to Dr Marie Haver on UA-cam. She has wonderful, helpful info. I am starting menopause replacement hormones.
This is Connie, using my husband's utube. Your voice is lovely and encouraging and the reason I began listening. I'm 73 and began painting again in 2016. Having a wonderful time of it. I've always felt most everyone I've met was a potential friend. It's worked for me. Thank you for your videos. You are a delight.
Don’t EVER feel down about any trolls posting stuff online, they are just very sad people who have nothing better to do. You have a beautiful growing community who love watching your videos. I was soooo happy today when my delivery arrived from your Etsy shop, thank you they are beautiful and I’m going to use them in my journal. 😊
Hi Wendy, I am new to your channel. I just want to say, I Love your Beautiful voice!!!😃 It is so soft and sweet, I love the sound of your voice! That is one of the first things that I noticed when I began to watch your videos. Also, I think You look like a fairy!! To me, your Beautiful fairy paintings, All of them,look like beautiful self portraits to me. I think you are sort of magical and whimsical, and I appreciate you, and James. Thank you for sharing with us your creative process! It's really cool, fun, and inspiring. 😊 🧚♀️
Your soul shines and your spirit radiates! Love your transparency and the gentleness of your comments-always so sensitive and thoughtful…your compassion is inspiring when comments are rude or unkind. Blessings to you and the beautiful, cozy, lovely circle you have conjured for us. Love from the rainy mountains of California.
You have a unique ability to communicate with us, I know I feel as if we are having a visit! Also I get hints that we have common influences and experiences! What a joy this sparks! The bumpy road seems smoother or at least possible to navigate when you suggest ways to cope! Blessed days!
Love your kindness and patience. We are all dealing with our own hurts and with living through very interesting/exhausting times. Its good to remember that we all want to be heard and seen. Thanks for doing a great job with that. May we all find the sweet Love within that is our comfort, and may we feel seen and heard, and see and hear those who need us. blessings.
Wendy, I think what makes your channel so magical, is not just your art, but your wisdom of life itself. You have so much to give and advise that benefits so many people. I love your channel! Happy New Year! 🎉
Wendy, you are so generous and thoughtful in your responses. You are soft and caring, but also firm when needed. I watched this in 3 sessions over the course of today which was a really choppy day for me, so it felt cohesive beginning and ending with you. I always leave your videos feeling lovely and warm and inspired.💝
Thanks for your patience with all those questions. Your answers were well thought out and helpful. One comment that hit me about pricing, you said that artists need to consider the time it took to get to where we are as well as the time in creating a piece, this is so true a lot of times people don't take that into consideration, a piece of art reflects years of study and practice. Thanks for reminding me of that. I'm in my 70s and have been an artist all my life and wouldn't want to be anything else 😊
Your responses are compassionate and wise Wendy darling 😘 your voice I love it's beautiful😘 it's very important for everyone to feel their feelings and not compare or measure eachothers issues/suffering. Love and Peace Wendy 💜 ...love the musical notes at the end too😘💜
What a gracious woman you are. No it's not a competition. I'm so happy for people who have what don't but really want ... ❤
What a kind person you are...amazing how you answered the quirky questions. Sometimes when we are in so much pain we cant see anyone else's perspective on pain. I can see your patience with people that is so special, definitely elementary school teacher vibes, you can see the caring!
Wendy I am so proud of you for your deep and acknowledging way that you shared the grieving woman's comment. Part of grief is anger, I thought your response was very validating and supportive. But as you always demonstrate, "we rise, by lifting others up"
I hope you see this. I'm in menopause now. When I was in peri-menopause, I felt VERY lonely. I had friends. I have a partner. I felt lonely. I've come to realize it's the hormone changes. Also, no one should gate-keep emotions. The best thing I did was talk about how I was feeling and then people who were in menopause reached back and lifted me up. I hope I can do the same for you. It's a hard road to walk. Full of tears, fears, and loneliness. I grieved my husband many times as he sat on the couch next to me. I felt so crazy
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Big big compassion and love all around, and hoping Ann finds peace wherever possible. 💖 Your kindness and care is much appreciated.
Just one other thing I'd like to note - in general, I guess. COVID has unfortunately created extremely polarizing experiences - and where everyone's been so isolated (some more than others), their experiences, the good and the bad, were all amplified to the extreeemes.
And the isolation prevented people from often having the "community" support they needed to really process things like grief and loss.
And that polarizing of experiences sometimes makes people feel even *more* isolated, etc...
I guess what I'm trying to say is that people's loneliness and pain is quite often more common than we'd like, and less managed than we'd need. This can make Humaning In General much harder than it used to be!
..So I suppose friendly reminder to all that being human is incredibly messy and chaotic, especially right now. We're doing our best. And that counts for something!! ❤️ and all we can do
Perfect answer to "try it on for size" I so agree, "loneliness is personal" and there's not a competition for who's more lonely or who's situation is worse. So gracious of you in your answering this statement. I love your honesty and how in touch you are! Thank you. I'm a 68 yr old widow for the past 7 years and though all 3 of my children live within the same city the loneliness I experience changes with the seasons, etc. I can be extremely lonely with all my family around me.
I adore fairies and your creativity! Keep YouTubing! I love your humor as well!
Much loves Kathy and thank you 😙😙✨✨🫖🫖🫖🫖
It's not about who's lonelier than the next person; it's about sharing what helps you so that perhaps the next person can find some relief. As an alone person myself, I keep trying new things to bring me joy and a sense of gratitude. Thank you for adding to my joy.
Hello Wendy - I did send an email... wish I had posted in the comments section on reflection. However most of my questions were answered. Thank you for taking the time to share 🥰
Very sweet response to Jen you had there. I'm so impressed you went to college as a single mum!
UA-cam proposed one of your videos to me a few days ago. I love them and I watch of few every day. Your art is beautiful and your art journaling so inpiring. I love your honesty and vulnerability and the courage it takes to express them.
I have had chronic pain for the past 5+ years. Gabor Mate's book When the body says no helped me see so many things about pain in a new way. You giving us permission to rest and take breaks before we are completely exhausted is very much appreciated. Remifemin helped me so much during my menopause, especially with the mood swings and hot flashes. I wish I knew back then about journaling my feelings out. I have been doing it for the past 3 years and it has been life-changing.
You are a kind and considerate woman, I am so happy I came upon your podcast a little over a year ago and you are a delight to listen too. You are coming into yourself and are a lovely example to other women coming into themselves also. Wishing you and your family a very happy healthy new year!
Thank you for being an inspiration to me. Our culture is so obsessed with youth and happiness that it is really heart warming to see a woman in her 50ies who is living and loving not only life but also herself. I really enjoy that besides your accent, the nature and artwork seen in the videos and of course - that you are also a veggie! Greetings from Germany!
I am in the same situation as you... just my husband and I... I 've been watching some of your videos because you are sweet❤ if we do spend time here we are not really alone in my opinion. And yes, journaling does help a lot! Xx
That was a joy to watch and hear. Love the Q & A, thanks Wendy , for your open and honest answers. It's so nice to hear from a similar sensitive, arty, creative person because they seem so hard to find and few and far between out in the big world.❤🙏
I love listening to your voice it’s very calming! Great video! Happy New Year.
I absolutely love your voice. I watch a couple of other podcasts regularly that usually have to do with the negativity of reality, because life is both negative and positive. And I have an ongoing need to know the how's and why's of things. And after I'm done with them I come here to your channel to unwind, relax and watch your lovely self in nature and in your studio. Your voice is calming and interesting. And I mean interesting as opposed to our American accent here, which I consider to be flat and boring compared to yours. I'm still new here and still catching up on your older vids. Thank you for the 2023 Q and A. You have a very lovely channel and I will see you again soon. ♥️
I just found you a couple of weeks ago and I love your content and you. I watched a journaling video last time, and I found myself thinking about what you were saying many times over the coming days. I've never been one to journal, but I have written poems in a way to relieve myself of great weight from life. Once it is written it is like I release it from myself and can deal with it. I think I will start journaling. I wish I was as artistic as you are, but I do have a creative side. In the video today there were a couple of things you said that resonated with me also. I too was a single mother from the time my son was born. It was hard and very challenging especially financially as you said! Very difficult, I always thought it was even more difficult because I didn't have anyone to talk to about my son that I knew loved my child the same way I did. Lastly, the transition to gray. I too, am a natural brunette with very dark brown hair....such a challenge! every three weeks I have to color. Recently I decided to keep out a strip of gray (white) hair along my part as a baby step! Like you the front of my hair is white with back and sides seeming to be dark gray with some brown mixed in :) Sometimes I find people on here that feel like they could be my soul sister, I feel that way with you! I'm a fellow knitter and crocheter also! Sigh :) Just had to reach out!
I found it very interesting about what you wrote regarding poetry. I noticed last year when I was feeling really low that writing a poem made such a huge difference to lifting my spirits. I actually called my poems free verse as they are not correctly written poetry. I write about my walks and strangely not about feeling low, but I love to write about all I have seen when out walking in the countryside. Anyway I hope you try the journaling, I don't know anything about it so will be interested to hear what Wendy has to say on the subject.
You did an exceptional explanation about addressing loneliness. We can't measure each other's situations to others. You do an elequent job addressing so many things.
I don’t know how anybody could be unkind to you. You are so sweet. ❤
48:07 This moment’s conversation (time stamp at 48:07) is my favorite part of the video - your eyes sparkle as your inner essence radiates through your fingertips and your descriptive words. You are an excellent instructor, an encouraging colleague, and a brilliant Light in this world. Thank you for sharing your heart.
Thank you so much for being you! Thank you for being so brave and sharing. It is nice to hear the honesty of others who also struggle without comparing who is struggling more. Struggles make us stronger and more compassionate for others. We are not alone! Keep on being you 💜💜💜
Happy New Year Wendy ❤ this is much welcome and mood boosting watching / listening whilst I sew confined to my bed in illness! Thank you for continuing to share with us x
This is the second or third video I am watching of yours. I'm new to the channel and can't believe I've never discovered it before. I'm a 57 year old lonely woman who lived for art all her life, until I even stopped doing that many years ago. I feel lost in an abyss (due to exhaustion from ill health and paralyzing fear) and I'm determined to find my way back out. Joe Dispenza meditations and Wim Hoff are inspiring me at the moment re health. But oh, I feel I have suddenly landed back in an environment that is lighting the very shadows of my memory, of the real me here. Even though it's only the third vid I relate to practically everything you say and what the community bring as well. It seems I'm not the only lonely and lost artist. I feel I will commune here with like minds and I feel encouraged and so so grateful to have found you. I may (will!) even find excitement for what the future holds instead of fear and despair. It is a long road but I want to accelerate my journey down the right one. Thank you for being here!!! UA-cam channels, online communities can be so very much to someone like me. Much love to you and to us all. 💙🙏🦋
Hello Wendy, Happy new year!!! Today I want to tell you something about loneliness. My elderly sister is poorly for quiet a long time.
( about 10 years now). She is living alone in Amsterdam and I am the only relative she sees on a regular basis. She has no friends and hardly leaves the house. I tried to move her or find her some help. But she don’t want any.I worried a lot about her being on her own and fragile. She never contacts me.
I am always scared that one bad day she get sick or an accident and not able to find any help.
I told her of course, but she told me not to worry so much.
I always feel sorry for her, but one day she told me that she likes to be alone!
She got accustom to this situation.I think that I project my feelings of loneliness on her! So you never can tell what loneliness really is for someone else. It is so personal. You never can compare your situation with another person.
I am always looking forward to a new video!! Thank you for everything 😘❤️🌹👍
I'm actually completely alone and almost never feel lonely, so yes, loneliness is very subjective... I also noticed that there are two types of people when they're feeling bad: the first type tries to cheer up other people even though they're going through hard times themselves, and the other type tries to emphasize their own grief by depreciating other people's feelings.
Thank you so much for this Q&A, Wendy ❤️ Sending you hugs and lots of love!
Personally I think you sharing your loneliness was a comfort to me. Even if we all have different degrees of it was can relate and I think that in itself made me feel a little less alone in my feelings. I just found your channel and I am thankful to find you here.
Happy new year to you and all the lovely people here, I have been watching Dr. Gabor Mate too and appreciate him speaking out.. I am an alone (eventhough I have a partner ) too I think it is a symptom of our time however I believe loniiness is a very personal thing everybody feels it differently , I think it is important to have Alonetime. Tons to write about this subject ... .I believe if you need help support a smile or anything to lift your spirit it will be sent to you from somewhere unexpected (maybe it is because we sent out SOS waves unconsciously who will be responded to) thank you Wendy for beeing here 🌎♥
Lovely video, you answered all the questions with care and compassion, you would be a good art therapist, thank you
Bless you, you seem like such a sweet person. Please do not be embarrassed about your voice, I find it very pleasing to listen to.
You say you do not have friends, I would say you would be a lovely inspiring friend to have.
You are a friend to so many people. Hope 2023 is kind to you
Bless you
Dear Wendy, very interesting all these questions and your answers! Well, it is a long video but the time went bye so quickly because it is such a joy to listen to you! Thank you and may you and your loved ones have a lucky and peaceful year 2023.🍀❤️🎉