HARDER- a short film about domestic abuse

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  • Опубліковано 24 лис 2024

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  • @tinekespa1190
    @tinekespa1190 2 роки тому +39

    I cry and pray for all the lovely souls that are still getting abused.
    My thoughts are with you.
    I'm a surviver.

  • @kris.tea.p
    @kris.tea.p 2 роки тому +34

    The way the male is portrayed in this video is EXACTLY the way my ex acted.. It takes a lot of strength and support to end relationships like this. I really hope that if anyone in a current situation sees this video and it resonates with them I do hope they have the strength to leave. It’s not worth losing each and every day to a person that just wants to destroy you so you are a shell of your former self ❤️❤️

    • @URFUTUREUK
      @URFUTUREUK Рік тому +1

      I'm glad you left too. You must feel so strong now. I hope you heal completely.

  • @lourdesgaffarena638
    @lourdesgaffarena638 2 роки тому +5

    they are manipulative monsters who will stop at nothing to destroy you,U have been experiencing mental abuse for years but ever since I stood up for myself and reported the abuse things have changed slowly in my direction ,The worse thing is that due to difficulties I still have to live under the same roof ,Even if things are not easy I no longer listen to his menacing words and ignore his presence ,

  • @huddabug2878
    @huddabug2878 4 роки тому +42

    I’m just realizing after 12 years of my parents fighting that my mum is definitely receiving domestic abuse from my father

    • @Iwantedtobe007
      @Iwantedtobe007 4 роки тому +6

      Hudda Bug hope you and your mum are now away from any abuse.

  • @EndTimesStudies
    @EndTimesStudies Рік тому +3

    I have managed to get help for domestic violence before I became another statistic. But now I find I am in a mental abuse relationship and it is even worse. They have everybody fooled and think I am crazy, I needed to see this. Bless you

  • @sharondutton7558
    @sharondutton7558 4 роки тому +22

    These films make me realize that defending myself is very important in that situation. And these men's opinions are worthless, they need to look in the mirror the men do, they are not so greaat themselves for hitting a woman.

  • @Michelle-qd9gm
    @Michelle-qd9gm 3 роки тому +11

    I looked like a freak to my ex along with the violence when I had a mastectomy with breast cancer he walked out on me thank god I look at myself and say I am beautiful happily married now to a man who says I am beautiful every day

  • @tiffanyolsen7881
    @tiffanyolsen7881 2 роки тому +6

    If we all stand together we can fight for a day were violence never happens again,
    Sincerely, a survivor

  • @silvialogan9226
    @silvialogan9226 2 місяці тому +1

    I feel sorry for everybody who has been abused by their partners and their family members.

  • @katie-vs9fg
    @katie-vs9fg 6 років тому +37

    Glad they're starting to raise awareness of domestic abuse.. I went through it for 4 years.. Don't know what goes on behind closed doors nowadays.. 1 like = 1 💙

  • @chriscunningham8807
    @chriscunningham8807 2 роки тому +4

    Trying to obtain help and support is extremely difficult. Instead of telling the victim to leave hold the perpetrator accountable for their violent abd abusive choices. These guys can be charming and treat people with respect and suddenly become quiet when police are mentioned. The impact of their violence affects the victim long after the abusive event. PTSD and flashbacks keep the victim trapped in the violence and repeatedly feeling and remembering the tension, fear and pain triggered by violence. Those witnessing or hearing the violence are also adversely affected. Children, neighbours, visitors, friends and family suffer along with whole communities where violence has become normalised and repeats itself into the next generation/s. .

  • @doorschick89
    @doorschick89 Рік тому +3

    It's easy to judge. Woman think because they would leave, you can. Everyone is different, some have spent a lifetime, knowing nothing but abuse, it's hard for them to believe, they are worth anything else.

  • @susanowensbyjones7167
    @susanowensbyjones7167 Рік тому +2

    My first husband, when asked by his attorney in our divorce court, had he ever hit me, replied "I only hit her where the bruises wouldn't show". I still flinch when a man raises his voice or hands around me. I tense up and know the blows are coming.
    I have a good husband now, he never hits me or abuses me. He knows my past. He doesn't understand how any man could hit his wife, especially me. He loves me. ❤

  • @jmricht
    @jmricht 2 роки тому +5

    I was abused by a fire captain/medic. He broke one of my ribs.

    • @rachelreii5952
      @rachelreii5952 2 роки тому +6

      I know of "professionals" who have abused their gfs they can be someone you think is a good person like a fire fighter in your case

    • @Mason-.-
      @Mason-.- Рік тому +1

      No one cares

  • @chrissi975
    @chrissi975 4 роки тому +17

    My ex grabbed me by the neck in public like a dog to force me to look at him.
    Is that abuse?

    • @Lonewolf-fw7nz
      @Lonewolf-fw7nz 4 роки тому +11

      Definitely 😔 does he do anything else ?

    • @missmargmillionaire6421
      @missmargmillionaire6421 4 роки тому +14

      If you have to ask...yes...its the beginning of control. Run.

    • @andreeaburian1408
      @andreeaburian1408 4 роки тому +6

      it is my love.

    • @lewisjulian0830
      @lewisjulian0830 3 роки тому +9

      Yes any person that grabs at you. Yell, belittle, controls you. This is not love , it's ownership.

    • @nozzymac8541
      @nozzymac8541 2 роки тому +2

      Yes! My ex dragged me out of bed by one arm because he couldn’t handle that I was sad because my horse had died. I was so stupid, I didn’t think of it as abuse. Even though I cried. It took him belittling me in front of our daughter who was 4 at the time, for me to leave. I couldn’t raise her in a house where it was okay for her dad to speak to me that way.

  • @simranandsarah2235
    @simranandsarah2235 5 років тому +7

    Hello. I need to contact the violence reduction unit at Scotland police to discuss how we can implement some of the strategies used in Scotland

    • @sentheacross2930
      @sentheacross2930 5 років тому +1

      NOBODY HELPING MY FAMILY EITHER MY STORY IS DOCUMENTED EVERYDAY., NO USE OF ME EVEN GOING TO NOBODY.

  • @MrEccentricities
    @MrEccentricities 6 років тому +13

    u know what's harder to talk about than the abuse? The beating they go through because you didn't bring it up

  • @shinobidragon999
    @shinobidragon999 6 років тому +8

    Scottish accents this is interesting to see a Scottish domestic violence movie

  • @missolesoul
    @missolesoul Рік тому

    In my DV relationship, he would put down and criticize every inch of me and make fun of me. I was eating too much, even when just getting home after a whole day, while he sat on his ass. This was decades ago and I still hear the comments about my body and face and personality being laughably horrible, yet he was jealous. Strange huh?

  • @harryseldon6712
    @harryseldon6712 6 років тому +4

    Everyone should watch Australian Bettina Arndt, who is an Australian sex therapist, journalist and clinical psychologist. She is so amazed at the feminist propaganda on DV, she made this video. It is very easy to listen to.
    *Bettina Arndt on Monstrous Lies about Domestic Violence*

    • @harryseldon6712
      @harryseldon6712 6 років тому

      ua-cam.com/video/-1-I8AttyDc/v-deo.html
      So always presenting a male as the abuser is sexist and misleading, other videos that are informative are:
      1. *ManWomanMyth - Domestic Violence - Introduction*
      2. *Police Training for Domestic Violence with Donald Dutton* ... only 11 minutes
      3. *Christina Hoff Sommers on Violence Against Women*
      4. *Dr. Tonia Nicholls - The uncomfortable facts on IPV*
      5. *Julio shares his experience with domestic violence & the justice system*
      6. *The Truth About Domestic Violence - You'll Never Believe...*
      7. *Laws ruining men*

    • @mrsc4760
      @mrsc4760 4 роки тому +4

      Why do you have to negate the abuse males commit in order to promote male victims ?
      Men can be victims too, but that doesn't mean it's feminist propaganda to raise awareness about male violence Which 8s the majority of violence on the planet .Most men who are physically attacked, are attacked by other men.

  • @_Hajar_
    @_Hajar_ 2 роки тому +2

    Gotta look up what it is when the way the bf speaks on here is just what I hear from myself ALL the time.

  • @spiderz4811
    @spiderz4811 2 роки тому +5

    Hey thank you so much for raising awareness, do you think you could please do one gender reversed as well as same sex couples.

  • @linzikarenable
    @linzikarenable 3 роки тому +3

    20 years as a health care worker nobody had the talk with me

  • @shadowblurs7576
    @shadowblurs7576 7 років тому +35

    If you had the chance to change ur fate? Would you?

  • @seckincenberci4168
    @seckincenberci4168 6 років тому +4

    THEY CANT ME !!!

  • @seriouslysinglemom3835
    @seriouslysinglemom3835 5 років тому +17

    It gets worse when you leave. There is no way out. Help does not come and you look over your shoulder every moment.
    Do not be fooled. Help is scarce and oftentimes makes everything worse.
    The only person you can truly rely on is yourself.

    • @AsteriaWitch-x5k
      @AsteriaWitch-x5k 5 років тому +18

      please don't spread the word like this. Yes it can get worse when a person tried to leave an abusive relationship but there is so much help out their for women, children and men who are in this type of situation. By scaremongering women into not leaving is not making their situation any easier.

    • @genevawelch9865
      @genevawelch9865 5 років тому +5

      Seriously Single Mom why does it get worse when you leave?

    • @sentheacross2930
      @sentheacross2930 5 років тому +4

      THAT;S WHAT HE SAID .

    • @eg4514
      @eg4514 3 роки тому +6

      It’s still better to do everything you can to get away from the situation than staying and hating yourself all the time for being coward

    • @NarnianLady
      @NarnianLady 3 роки тому +8

      @@genevawelch9865 Because that's when the abuser feels like losing control. That causes rage and often escalates the situation. That's why many women end up being killed by their exes AFTER they left and tried to make a fresh start. SO, leaving needs to be done after careful planning, with professionals if necessary..

  • @amandamorgan2802
    @amandamorgan2802 2 роки тому +1

    And social media creates another platform to be bullied.I know..what a pathetic excuse of a man this character in this movie is.

  • @chhournsovoeurn9434
    @chhournsovoeurn9434 7 років тому +4

    Can

    • @cousinsully
      @cousinsully 7 років тому +1

      chhourn sovoeurn can metal can of baked beans 🤤

    • @aceclop
      @aceclop 7 років тому +2

      Pickle Rick
      can a can do the can can

  • @myriamgaudet20
    @myriamgaudet20 6 років тому +1

    Song?

  • @salamander8301
    @salamander8301 2 роки тому

    Why are they always called Sarah...

  • @Binknew
    @Binknew 3 роки тому +3

    Control Freaks,,😲

  • @racheloconnor3704
    @racheloconnor3704 3 роки тому +2

    A tipical bully boy omg

  • @ReyBanYAHUAH
    @ReyBanYAHUAH 2 роки тому

    Always remember we must repent of our sins (sin is transgression The Law Of Yahuah The Father in Heaven. The Law are The Books: Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, & Deuteronomy). We must repent of our sins and Have Belief On Yahusha The Messiah. HE Died and Rose three days later so that we can be forgiven of our sins!
    Come to HIM🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂

  • @gracecallowayable
    @gracecallowayable 3 роки тому

    Sad!!!👠👠👠

  • @chlariepeace3093
    @chlariepeace3093 3 роки тому +1

    Just like Scottish to do the I do not like them never will and these films. Should not be shown

  • @kyleleigh3215
    @kyleleigh3215 5 років тому +3

    It's not alleged abuse. It's just putting women in the place they belong. There's nothing wrong in how a man wants to do that. If u women didn't complicate things then u wouldn't allegedly get abused. Get over it.

    • @chloem193
      @chloem193 5 років тому +17

      You're disgusting, 🖕

    • @Noobmasterdp
      @Noobmasterdp 5 років тому +3

      I'm personally more interested in domestic violence against men since it needs more exposure. Both sides are wicked, but not all women deserve it, as not all men deserve it.

    • @shhbequiet749
      @shhbequiet749 4 роки тому +4

      kyle leigh and that’s on being disgusting ✌️

    • @AbhishekRaj-ye5fx
      @AbhishekRaj-ye5fx 4 роки тому +3

      No

    • @sophedits9802
      @sophedits9802 3 роки тому +7

      You are a disgusting filthy human being get the fuck out

  • @jasonsandifer3250
    @jasonsandifer3250 3 роки тому +6

    These stories very disturbing, and very upsetting, this man was extremely cruel and Very violent
    This was absolutely terrible and Very difficult to watch
    I hope this Woman Survived this terrible situation and left this very violent situation
    Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man tough...
    Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man strong...
    Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man cool...
    Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man a man....
    Beating a woman is Not masculine
    Beating Women is NOT sexy
    Beating Women is NOT manly
    Using abuse, and force for sexual intimidation, by harmful behavior for sexual intimacy with someone doesn’t make a man, strong, cool, or, manly.
    I believe in the Safety and Well-being Women, Children, and Men
    WOMEN Have the RIGHT to FEEL SAFE and BE SAFE
    This is a reply post regarding a article on Assault Against Woman:
    For what is statistically true, or accurate, and even what is not included statistically, and all other crime such as this is what is ( violence against women) Always unacceptable...
    Women have the Right to Feel SAFE and be Safe...
    No woman..., or person....child...should ever have to experience this kind heinous personal intrusion in their lifetime, this seems to be occurring at least according to news reports more, and all to often.
    Actually this activity should be in a stage, or state of Reversal, and NOT Increasing, I am continually upset as well as greatly disturbed in hearing such stories, as I have always have been...
    My Heart Always... goes out to any person which have experienced any such similar experience of intrusion, attacks, and, or invasion of their personal well-being... due violence, and or violent behavior,
    I will continue Praying for the Safety and Well-Being of Others...
    Keep everyone SAFE
    PLEASE BE SAFE
    Your Life is important
    Advocate of Humanity, Author, Writer, Poet, Safety Advocate
    Jason Sandifer,
    Michigan
    MESSAGE REPOSTED
    10/16/2021, 10/30/2021
    11/06/2021

    • @lj6079
      @lj6079 3 роки тому +1

      This was a movie not real but in real life it's much worse, both for women and men- men are very reluctant to report abuse