Sounds like Jessica learned the manipulation tricks from mom. If you give in, it will just continue into the future and get worse. Stand your ground and set boundaries with mom and Jessica. Good luck.
No, OP, you're NOT the default babysitter. It sounds like your sister is a bit jealous of you because you don't have any kids. What happened to the kid's father? Has she tried to deal with that? And has your mother offered to help with him? You're not guilty of anything.
It seems strange that grandma and grandpa don't want to spend quality time with Liam themselve . My sister had two children and she was also single but she never expected us to ever take the children. My brother and I would take them but when we wanted and enjoyed them. She appreciated the time and we enjoyed them. Yes, we babysat, but she always asked, and if we had 20:52 were never ridiculed.
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If she is a single mother by choice then everyone with a spine, should tell her to quit her sob story of 'I'm a single mom, its sooooo hard' and tell her, either get baby daddy to help or shut the F up so everyone can have a nice time with our family.
Just because you don't have kids doesn't mean you have to help others with theirs. They had the kids, they can take care of them. Don't have kids if you can't handle it.
I'm a grandmother and no you are not responsible. Jessica is responsible for her child and she needs to grow up. And your mother can step up and look after Liam.
I'm a single mom too. My sister and brother both don't have kids. I never asked them to watch my kid during Christmas at my parents house I never ask at any other time when we all were together. I choose to have a kid and she 8s my responsibility not theirs. They looking forward to relax as much as i do. I truly don't understand the concept of being tired of your own kids. Kids are a joy not a burden. I enjoy every minute of it watching growing up. Having aventures together. Listening to her stories. Cooking together and all other stuf we did together. Same with my grandkids. They grow up way to fast and i cherish the memories.
OP, your mom will continue to blame you as long as you let her. Be a doormat or TELL HER OFF. Don't go to family Christmas BUT do go NO Contact with your mom. Your mother does not love you, she just wants to use you in as many ways as possible: as a free babysitter, as a scapegoat, as a doormat to ease her own conscience. Dump HER.
She made the choice to become a single mom. He's her responsibility, or is she saying her child is ruining Christmas? If she were a widow, she'd be wearing that sash everywhere she went to get free babysitting.
You will always be babysitting, if you dont put a stop to that. Theres enough people there to watch him..give him toys to play with, and then you all can keep an eye on him
Tell them you've been stressed at work and they are just causing you more stress, so you've decided not to come at all, and don't forget to add, "Thanks for ruining Christmas," because you just know they'll accuse you of that.
Key sentence YOU DON’T HAVE KIDS…If a rift happens, you’re not to blame. The adults should understand that you are not responsible for thus child, he’s your nephew, not your son. Shame on the adults for their behavior. Why doesn’t the mother take care of HER grandson if she thinks family helps each other?
Why couldn’t everyone in the family take turns watching the little one? Say, “ I can help but everyone needs to take a turn so that everyone can enjoy the day!”
I am so sick of the "I'm a single mom" excuse in these stories and real life. I was/am a single mom who had NO FAMILY to help with ANYTHING after husband gone and I never whined like these women do. Yes it's not easy and yes it is 24/7/365 but out of love everything is possible and worth it. As for OP....babysitting is not a family obligation you are allowed to say no.
You solve this by not attending the family Christmas yourself and tell you mother that she can invite the heart of the family to replace you as you are done, grow a spine and stop being the family doormat, do something else that you can enjoy
No, Op isn’t the NTA for saying no. You truly don’t know someone until you finally say no. Jessica can either watch him herself or find another baby sitter.
"Yes, Mom, it is selfish not babysitting Liam the whole holiday. Im glad you said that. So you can babysit Liam the whole holiday. " "Yes, Im young, but you have experience, so it shouldn't be difficult for you to babysit. " "Oh, Nick made it difficult by butting in on the conversation? Yes, others people should stay out Jessica and my conversation. So dont get involved and make things complicated."
Nope, not the a-hole. The kid is not your responsibility. But, part of the problem was your willingness to “step in” all the time in the past. If “mom” thinks Jessica needs a break then let “mom” watch the kid.
NTA. But your mom should get a gold medal for her mental gymnastics. Edited to add: Mom gets the silver. Jessica gets the gold in a last minute photo finish.
Everybody can lend the hand to watch her son, not just you. He is not your son. He’s not your responsibility., and for your sister to say well don’t be there for the holiday. If you’re not gonna watch him, it’s not her decision to make. When I had my kids, everybody help me and I didn’t rely on a single separate person to take care of my kids because I knew they were my kids and not someone else’s. So sister… Take care of your own son.
If you don’t want children keep your legs together. Maybe someone will thinks that’s harsh nope…be a parent take care of your own children. At family events holidays etc I always took care of my “three” children and resented family members telling my kids to do something in front of me as their dad. When family members did this I would tell my children to sit down and tell the family member you don’t volunteer my children in front of me or even if I’m preoccupied you ask me just as I don’t ask them to watch my children I do it because I’m the parent not them. I’m glad those years are long past
It would be a bit dishonest, but rent a pair of crutches & wrap up your ankle or knee. Hobble in & ask brother or dad to step out & get your suitcase for you. Tell sis & mom you have a bad sprain, ripped tendon, whatever... & that Dr. said relax & stay off your feet whenever possible, so you won't be able to watch nephew. If sister doesn't come, save this ruse for a future time when you might need it!
Her child is her responsiblity. If the rest of your family is worth anything at all they would tell your areogant and entitled aister she is excluded from all family events until she apologizes and changes her bad attitude.
OP, don't you dare go to your parents' house for Christmas! I would bet money that Jessica will cancel last minute on her plan to spend the day with her ex, and show up with Liam and then dump him on you.
Kyle IS family. She literally gave birth to a child for that man. This is fine. The mother is just instigating trouble. And the sister has been seeing the ex for some time. That why she kicked all of this trouble off.
Mother agrees with Jessica because she is the golden child in mother's eyes. Jessica is lazy and selfish, you and your brother should boycott Christmas. Jessica and Kyle can spend it with your mother because your mother and sister are using you.
You are not the problem. You're wise to distance yourself from your sisters drama. You will Never win against her self centered narrative. And it sounds like your mother is the same
If you can lay down, get pregnant, then you should be able to take care of YOUR CHILD without trying to guilt trip someone else into taking over YOUR RESPONSIBILITY!!!
Op your sister and mom need a life. They need to understand your working hard and are burnt out to jessica needs to understand your the aunt not the baby sitter an thats not fair to you she spread her legs to have the kid not you your mom is just as bad thank God your brother an dad arw on your side.
So. Much. Drama. Choosing to have a child is 100% selfish. There are joys and challenges that come from making that choice, but it is still just that: a choice you make. It doesn’t mean anyone else is responsible for your choice, it doesn’t mean they have to do anything for you. You chose to have a child and you have to take responsibility for it. OP is nowhere near being an AH. And mom needs to stop the misogyny and accept that OP has the right to not have kids - she isn’t responsible for helping out for any reason. Yes, we have family, but family is made up of individuals who can help or not as they see fit. Mom’s golden child is a drama queen and mom loves feeding into the drama. OP should spend time with the family members who love and support her and ignore the rest. Mom and sis will end up looking in from the outside while OP, her bro and dad continue to act as family should.
The cynical side of me says... if you want a relaxing Xmas, or any future event, is to go your own way. Take a vacation from everyone. Go on a cruise, ski trip, or whatever and let your family decide, do they want to be part of your life, or are they happier without the "trouble-making daughter" around. (And you can decide if they are worth it.)
A child is the mothers responsibility , NOT the aunts! Maybe Christmas might be better spent elsewhere , away from all 16:55 the drama & the entitlement.
Nope not your child, of your mum thinks your sister needs a break why doesn’t she offer to look after him…… i just wouldn’t go have Christmas at a friends house
1st Grandma can take and watch Liam if she wants her daughter to relax. Forcing op (another daughter) to take full watching is not fair and is beating favortisim Op needs to set boundries it seems since she isn't being respected. See is been seen as the child's second parent since she been watching him, getting him things for last 3 years. 3 grandparents need to step up or find this dead beat bio dad and get him to pay child support for child.
Tell your family to get over themselves. You needed time to relax yourself but they decided to make you the default babysitter...nope. You are not the AH....your entitled family is.
Jess is the parent not op she sounds super entitled go lc. Can see where Jess gets it from why can’t mum look after her grand kid. Every time kid comes over to open take kid back to mum or grandma or have drink sorry I’ve been drinking can’t look after you’re kids. Baby 2 coming can’t wait till Jess dumps them on you oh and pays for them
That’s stupid not my child not my problem… why should bother i am not the one who’s enjoying the sex when they are making the child… that’s bs.. and when you have the child of your own who’s gonna baby sit for you…
I hate the term suck it up, it's like be the bigger person. Mom and Jessica can suck it up and accept that wants a Christmas not cating to the favourites wants. Also the hypocrisy of calling her selfish because she won't bow to they selfish needs
OP is not the problem! She is Liam's aunt, not his mother. His mother should be the main caregiver! Jessica is playing the "single mom" card to get everyone to sympathise with het and force OP to babysit. Why must OP be the unpaid babysitter for Liam? She also wants to enjoy Christmas as well. It's good that Jessica is back with her ex. OP can have a relaxing Christmas for a change. I think Jessica is spending Christmas with Kyle to spite ger family because OP refuses to bend to her will..
If you got a brother, why can't you split the babysitting between the two of you? One watches for the first half of the day, then the other for the rest of the day.
Show up with loud toys for the toddler, get him playing with them, slip out the door and head to the pub. The other option is to start drinking early since no reasonable person would trust someone who's been drinking to watch a toddler.
Let your yes be yes and your no be no. Anything less than that is a sin. Matthew 5:37. Don’t let anyone manipulate your yes or no. If Jessica says you shouldn’t come to Christmas and mom says only Jessica is the heart of Christmas, then don’t go. Plan a vacation out of town.
I'd definitely plan a trip and ask my brother if he'd like to go with me. Call Mom (on speaker, of course) to wish her "Merry Christmas." Tell her that you and your brother are having fun in Aspen! See ya, Mom!
S1- hey Jessica, no one cares how hard your life is. You chose to be a baby mama. Welcome to the consequences. The world does not owe you help or understanding. Good, good spend Christmas with your baby daddy. Use your kid as a weapon to get back at your sister, what a good mom you are.
I come from a large family, I’m single and childless. I would just not attend Christmas, rather than be forced to babysit! In addition I would stay away for months, just to drive home the point that I do, as I say.
Soon, Jessica will make baby #2 with the losser while still complaining about how hard single motherhood is. NTA
I wouldve told my mom "then YOU watch him"
I have kids and Ive never felt someone is obligated to watch my children
Sounds like Jessica learned the manipulation tricks from mom. If you give in, it will just continue into the future and get worse. Stand your ground and set boundaries with mom and Jessica. Good luck.
No, OP, you're NOT the default babysitter. It sounds like your sister is a bit jealous of you because you don't have any kids. What happened to the kid's father? Has she tried to deal with that? And has your mother offered to help with him? You're not guilty of anything.
Here’s a novel idea. Everyone can take turns looking after Liam.
It seems strange that grandma and grandpa don't want to spend quality time with Liam themselve .
My sister had two children and she was also single but she never expected us to ever take the children. My brother and I would take them but when we wanted and enjoyed them. She appreciated the time and we enjoyed them.
Yes, we babysat, but she always asked, and if we had 20:52 were never ridiculed.
Nope, nope nope. Not your circus, not your monkeys.
Buy an airline ticket to a warm beach for Christmas!
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😂😂😂 Jessica coming home with baby number 2 on the way ..Get your boundaries in HARD .
Exactly
NTA,OP!! NOT your child,NOT your responsibility. Take a pass on the family gathering and give yourself a much- deserved break!!
Well, what I would do is spend the Christmas with friends instead of family, just for them to see what it is to babysit a toddler.
If she is a single mother by choice then everyone with a spine, should tell her to quit her sob story of 'I'm a single mom, its sooooo hard' and tell her, either get baby daddy to help or shut the F up so everyone can have a nice time with our family.
Just because you don't have kids doesn't mean you have to help others with theirs. They had the kids, they can take care of them. Don't have kids if you can't handle it.
OP should spend next Christmas with her brother. Then the mom can spend it with Jessica, who she things is the center of the family.
I'm a grandmother and no you are not responsible. Jessica is responsible for her child and she needs to grow up. And your mother can step up and look after Liam.
Her life is so hard? Imagine that... decisions have consequences. It's not your sister's fault that you got knocked up.
I'm a single mom too. My sister and brother both don't have kids. I never asked them to watch my kid during Christmas at my parents house I never ask at any other time when we all were together. I choose to have a kid and she 8s my responsibility not theirs. They looking forward to relax as much as i do. I truly don't understand the concept of being tired of your own kids. Kids are a joy not a burden. I enjoy every minute of it watching growing up. Having aventures together. Listening to her stories. Cooking together and all other stuf we did together. Same with my grandkids. They grow up way to fast and i cherish the memories.
Jessica is the golden child. Your mom is the AH!!
OP, your mom will continue to blame you as long as you let her. Be a doormat or TELL HER OFF. Don't go to family Christmas BUT do go NO Contact with your mom. Your mother does not love you, she just wants to use you in as many ways as possible: as a free babysitter, as a scapegoat, as a doormat to ease her own conscience. Dump HER.
Everyone needs to tell mom to shut up. Sister decided to have a kid now deal with it
She made the choice to become a single mom. He's her responsibility, or is she saying her child is ruining Christmas? If she were a widow, she'd be wearing that sash everywhere she went to get free babysitting.
Notice how it is only the sister who is expected to look after the child and "Nick" is never asked at all.
Why don't dad, mom and brother step in and watch Liam by turns? How can people be so insensitive?
Just don’t go to Christmas. Period.
OP is the scapegoat for her mother and sister. Recommendation: No contact with mother. Mother is toxic.
You will always be babysitting, if you dont put a stop to that. Theres enough people there to watch him..give him toys to play with, and then you all can keep an eye on him
No you are not the problem! Stand your ground. Funny she didn’t expect your brother to watch the child
Tell them you've been stressed at work and they are just causing you more stress, so you've decided not to come at all, and don't forget to add, "Thanks for ruining Christmas," because you just know they'll accuse you of that.
My sister is a single parent of 4 boys, where the oldest ist turning 13 soon. Never ever would she do something like this.
Why isn’t Nick required to watch the child? Why isn’t OP’s mom doing it? Why isn’t OP’s dad helping? Where is the family here?
Key sentence YOU DON’T HAVE KIDS…If a rift happens, you’re not to blame. The adults should understand that you are not responsible for thus child, he’s your nephew, not your son. Shame on the adults for their behavior. Why doesn’t the mother take care of HER grandson if she thinks family helps each other?
No one has the right to take another one for granted. Good for you
Your mother will end up alone after she guilts everyone away. She needs professional help.
Am tired of ppl trying to put their kids on other people they need to stop having kids they can’t take care of themselves u owe them nothing
No OP your sister and Mom are ridiculous. Stay away at Christmas. A vacation sounds good.
It's her kid her responsibility
I never asked anyone to help me watch my children. I knew it was my responsibility.
Why woukd I mind watching my own children?
Single mom? Not your fault. Enjoy your holiday. If you have to do it without family … so be it.
Why couldn’t everyone in the family take turns watching the little one? Say, “ I can help but everyone needs to take a turn so that everyone can enjoy the day!”
I am so sick of the "I'm a single mom" excuse in these stories and real life. I was/am a single mom who had NO FAMILY to help with ANYTHING after husband gone and I never whined like these women do. Yes it's not easy and yes it is 24/7/365 but out of love everything is possible and worth it. As for OP....babysitting is not a family obligation you are allowed to say no.
You solve this by not attending the family Christmas yourself and tell you mother that she can invite the heart of the family to replace you as you are done, grow a spine and stop being the family doormat, do something else that you can enjoy
No, Op isn’t the NTA for saying no. You truly don’t know someone until you finally say no. Jessica can either watch him herself or find another baby sitter.
"Yes, Mom, it is selfish not babysitting Liam the whole holiday. Im glad you said that. So you can babysit Liam the whole holiday. "
"Yes, Im young, but you have experience, so it shouldn't be difficult for you to babysit. "
"Oh, Nick made it difficult by butting in on the conversation? Yes, others people should stay out Jessica and my conversation. So dont get involved and make things complicated."
Just don't attend. Holiday or not it's not your kid.
Nope, not the a-hole. The kid is not your responsibility. But, part of the problem was your willingness to “step in” all the time in the past. If “mom” thinks Jessica needs a break then let “mom” watch the kid.
NTA. But your mom should get a gold medal for her mental gymnastics.
Edited to add: Mom gets the silver. Jessica gets the gold in a last minute photo finish.
Not your kid so you don’t have to watch it. Your choice. Whoever get mad fawkem
Your sister's child is her responsibility, not yours. Just say NO. 😅
and if the grandma is so upset, she can babysit. 'we can eat in peace'... hahahahahahhahaaaa. bet jessica's kid is a brat
Mommy can stand up and do it. You are NOT being selfish at all.
Everybody can lend the hand to watch her son, not just you. He is not your son. He’s not your responsibility., and for your sister to say well don’t be there for the holiday. If you’re not gonna watch him, it’s not her decision to make. When I had my kids, everybody help me and I didn’t rely on a single separate person to take care of my kids because I knew they were my kids and not someone else’s. So sister… Take care of your own son.
5 adults 1 three yr old. How hard can it be. Instead of fighting, all take a turn amusing the child.
If you don’t want children keep your legs together. Maybe someone will thinks that’s harsh nope…be a parent take care of your own children. At family events holidays etc I always took care of my “three” children and resented family members telling my kids to do something in front of me as their dad. When family members did this I would tell my children to sit down and tell the family member you don’t volunteer my children in front of me or even if I’m preoccupied you ask me just as I don’t ask them to watch my children I do it because I’m the parent not them. I’m glad those years are long past
I wasn't telling her anything, I just wasn't doing it? Why can't you stand up to these people?
It would be a bit dishonest, but rent a pair of crutches & wrap up your ankle or knee. Hobble in & ask brother or dad to step out & get your suitcase for you. Tell sis & mom you have a bad sprain, ripped tendon, whatever... & that Dr. said relax & stay off your feet whenever possible, so you won't be able to watch nephew.
If sister doesn't come, save this ruse for a future time when you might need it!
No wonder Jessica is single
Charge her big money. Then go holiday. Charge you mum too.
You let him hit it raw, you had no second thoughts and now you’re a single mom and now you are single mom……
Sacrificing oneself is NOT keeping piece in anyway, it's just sacrificing oneself so others can feel at ease.
Not your responsibility...she choose to have a baby...
Her child is her responsiblity. If the rest of your family is worth anything at all they would tell your areogant and entitled aister she is excluded from all family events until she apologizes and changes her bad attitude.
OP, don't you dare go to your parents' house for Christmas! I would bet money that Jessica will cancel last minute on her plan to spend the day with her ex, and show up with Liam and then dump him on you.
Kyle IS family. She literally gave birth to a child for that man. This is fine. The mother is just instigating trouble. And the sister has been seeing the ex for some time. That why she kicked all of this trouble off.
Mother agrees with Jessica because she is the golden child in mother's eyes. Jessica is lazy and selfish, you and your brother should boycott Christmas. Jessica and Kyle can spend it with your mother because your mother and sister are using you.
Will my Mom...Will Jessica...Will you ever stop whining??????
No. What a family. Makes me realize how lucky I am.
You are not the problem. You're wise to distance yourself from your sisters drama. You will Never win against her self centered narrative. And it sounds like your mother is the same
I would back off the whole thing. No babysitting and not favors. I would stay away. Sounds like bipolar is a big thing in the house.
If you can lay down, get pregnant, then you should be able to take care of YOUR CHILD without trying to guilt trip someone else into taking over YOUR RESPONSIBILITY!!!
Op your sister and mom need a life. They need to understand your working hard and are burnt out to jessica needs to understand your the aunt not the baby sitter an thats not fair to you she spread her legs to have the kid not you your mom is just as bad thank God your brother an dad arw on your side.
So. Much. Drama. Choosing to have a child is 100% selfish. There are joys and challenges that come from making that choice, but it is still just that: a choice you make. It doesn’t mean anyone else is responsible for your choice, it doesn’t mean they have to do anything for you. You chose to have a child and you have to take responsibility for it. OP is nowhere near being an AH. And mom needs to stop the misogyny and accept that OP has the right to not have kids - she isn’t responsible for helping out for any reason. Yes, we have family, but family is made up of individuals who can help or not as they see fit. Mom’s golden child is a drama queen and mom loves feeding into the drama. OP should spend time with the family members who love and support her and ignore the rest. Mom and sis will end up looking in from the outside while OP, her bro and dad continue to act as family should.
I'd go some where else for Christmas and see how mom likes having Christmas with no daughters--like a short vacation
The cynical side of me says... if you want a relaxing Xmas, or any future event, is to go your own way. Take a vacation from everyone. Go on a cruise, ski trip, or whatever and let your family decide, do they want to be part of your life, or are they happier without the "trouble-making daughter" around. (And you can decide if they are worth it.)
A child is the mothers responsibility , NOT the aunts! Maybe Christmas might be better spent elsewhere , away from all 16:55 the drama & the entitlement.
Nope not your child, of your mum thinks your sister needs a break why doesn’t she offer to look after him…… i just wouldn’t go have Christmas at a friends house
1st Grandma can take and watch Liam if she wants her daughter to relax. Forcing op (another daughter) to take full watching is not fair and is beating favortisim
Op needs to set boundries it seems since she isn't being respected. See is been seen as the child's second parent since she been watching him, getting him things for last 3 years.
3 grandparents need to step up or find this dead beat bio dad and get him to pay child support for child.
Tell your family to get over themselves. You needed time to relax yourself but they decided to make you the default babysitter...nope. You are not the AH....your entitled family is.
and mommies are brick wall. that is because they are, at least the entitled ones are.
Your time is yours
Jess is the parent not op she sounds super entitled go lc. Can see where Jess gets it from why can’t mum look after her grand kid. Every time kid comes over to open take kid back to mum or grandma or have drink sorry I’ve been drinking can’t look after you’re kids. Baby 2 coming can’t wait till Jess dumps them on you oh and pays for them
That’s stupid not my child not my problem… why should bother i am not the one who’s enjoying the sex when they are making the child… that’s bs.. and when you have the child of your own who’s gonna baby sit for you…
OP needs to not make the trip home.
Also, OP doesn’t have kids and doesn’t understand but also is qualified enough to babysit.
🙄
I hate the term suck it up, it's like be the bigger person. Mom and Jessica can suck it up and accept that wants a Christmas not cating to the favourites wants.
Also the hypocrisy of calling her selfish because she won't bow to they selfish needs
OP is not the problem! She is Liam's aunt, not his mother. His mother should be the main caregiver! Jessica is playing the "single mom" card to get everyone to sympathise with het and force OP to babysit. Why must OP be the unpaid babysitter for Liam? She also wants to enjoy Christmas as well. It's good that Jessica is back with her ex. OP can have a relaxing Christmas for a change. I think Jessica is spending Christmas with Kyle to spite ger family because OP refuses to bend to her will..
If you don't stand up for yourself you will be taken care of everybody children even when you have your own child stop feeling bad
If you got a brother, why can't you split the babysitting between the two of you? One watches for the first half of the day, then the other for the rest of the day.
OP buy a ticket to a sunny place and relax
Jessica doesn't want help she wants to abandon her responsibilities as a parent.
I would have said”sure” then just not do it!😂
Your family will never change
Can’t stand your mom!’
Show up with loud toys for the toddler, get him playing with them, slip out the door and head to the pub. The other option is to start drinking early since no reasonable person would trust someone who's been drinking to watch a toddler.
Tell dad to come to your place if he wants to see you.
Let your yes be yes and your no be no. Anything less than that is a sin.
Matthew 5:37.
Don’t let anyone manipulate your yes or no.
If Jessica says you shouldn’t come to Christmas and mom says only Jessica is the heart of Christmas, then don’t go. Plan a vacation out of town.
I'd definitely plan a trip and ask my brother if he'd like to go with me. Call Mom (on speaker, of course) to wish her "Merry Christmas." Tell her that you and your brother are having fun in Aspen! See ya, Mom!
@ I agree! Stop the manipulation immediately
Why is it so hard to expect someone to be responsible for their own child? In my family the moms had to step up. Not a babysitter here.
Beggar them! Book yourself a holiday and go for a pleasant relaxing holiday for yourself.
S1- hey Jessica, no one cares how hard your life is. You chose to be a baby mama. Welcome to the consequences. The world does not owe you help or understanding. Good, good spend Christmas with your baby daddy. Use your kid as a weapon to get back at your sister, what a good mom you are.
Send mom to Christmas with sister.
Don't go to family for the holidays. Go on a sunny vacation and turn off your phone.
I come from a large family, I’m single and childless. I would just not attend Christmas, rather than be forced to babysit! In addition I would stay away for months, just to drive home the point that I do, as I say.
Jessica and mother sound like master manipulators.
This family is absolutely stubborn and won’t listen to you and blame you for everything
So why can't grandma or grandpa watch the kid? What about other siblings? What about other family members?