The Social Cinema
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- Опубліковано 26 гру 2021
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~instrumental music (in order of appearance)~
"flamboyant" - dorian electra
"so damn tired" - deanz
"we run at night" - bureaucrap
"all my life" - k-ci & jojo
"grit & chips" - t-shirt & sweats
"NO CAP" - t-shirt & sweats
"falconeer" - lovren
"a dark road to nowhere" - dex 1200
"cipher" - gridded
"drawn to you" - vincent vega
"uh" - cushy
~ articles, threads and studies ~
www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/art...
"'Zola' Understands the Internet" - Shirly Li ➡ www.theatlantic.com/culture/a...
"The Presentation of Self in Every Day Life" - Erving Goffman ➡ monoskop.org/images/1/19/Goff...
"Zola Tells All" (Rolling Stone piece with A'Ziah King) ➡ www.rollingstone.com/feature/...
Original Zola Thread ➡ imgur.com/gallery/WDwyW
~books i read leading up to making this mess~
"Trick Mirror" by Jia Tolentino
"The Shallows" by Nicholas G. Carr
"The Age of Surveillance Capitalism" by Shosha Zuboff
"The Attention Merchants: The Epic Scramble to Get Inside Our Heads" by Tim Wu
~better videos about twitter~
• Twitter and Empathy | ...
• Twitter and Anti-intel... - Фільми й анімація
i *meant* to post it saturday shut up
Okay
No worries, an upload is still an upload, no matter how long it may take! 💕😻
You have such interesting opinions and share perspectives on films I've never seen allowing me to engage cinema I might not have seen in a deeper way. When I heard you wanted to leave UA-cam I was a little bummed but I really hope you achieve success wherever your heart takes you and maybe we see your work in a film one day
@@choicethetaurus i would dislike but they way you self promo is pretty funny so i let it go. plus the song isnt half bad.
@@choicethetaurus Probably the last Time I click on a random link....Ngl this was kinda good
It makes more sense than you could possibly know. All of it. 💕
khadijaa 😍
OMG Hi khadija :)
ive never heard someone have the same relationship to social media as me where youre just...not sure what to do with it. like you spend all your time on it but you dont post or say anything because youre not sure how to communicate in that way
i have completely given up on most social media except, funnily enough, tumblr. Its the only one that isnt a constant emotional drain or deeply difficult for me to keep up with
I completely agree with you.
Wrt tumblr being weirdly the easiest to keep up with, I think that has to do with how you can just _feel_ that it's sub-optimal while you're using it. There's a sleekness to other social media platforms nowadays, and the haplessness of tumblr makes it a lot easier to not take discourse on there seriously.
precisely
I think thats not a relationship, its an addiction.
and isn't social media mechanism addictive? it's hard having a health relationship with something that was build to stimulate the brain in a 'never sufficient always come back, and quickly' way
i hate how twitter only rewards grand statements that ignore any nuance, the so-called “hot takes”. this creates the system where you never interact with real people and their opinions, you always get cheap parodies, scarecrows. this, in turn, warps the perception users have of real life issues. i used to go on twitter every morning a year ago, and it made me so miserable and angry, like the whole universe was out to get me and the world was ending. and then i deleted twitter to focus on studying. this was such a relief for my mental health! the best choice i’ve ever made
A perfect start to the morning!!
For me too
And to me a perfect ending to the day
I love your channel also. Great content!
Social Media feeds into our celebrity obsession we already have.
It really does!!
"Ingrid goes West" is a massively underrated movie, and boosts strong performances from Aubrey and Lizzie. I love how they acknowledged that much like Ingrid, Taylor is also putting up a front, and uses the allure of social media to make herself seem more interesting than she really is. She doesn't even read the books she posts about, and is in denial about how terrible of a person her brother is.
And how terrible a person she is herself!
yep. i was much happier without twitter. i deleted my account, then came back a few days later. eventually i'll be gone for good. i strongly dislike twitter and tiktok as they mirror each other, i already got rid of my tiktok and hopefully i'll have the willpower to get rid of twitter eventually.
...bout to quit UA-cam🥺
Nah I get it. You'll be missed while you're gone and celebrated when you return.
I just got on Twitter fr over the summer when I decided to get serious and I see how stressful it is. I think I'm somewhT immune being older and not having any online presence until I was in my mid 20s and that was on Facebook which is a little less prone to awfulness cause it's much easier to keep a closed circle.
They will break you eventually.
The way I frowned :(. But, I really hope you figure things out, Yhara!
@@renaigh are you older than then? How are you so sure?
Thank you for pointing me to this channel, F D.
You sent me here FD and she's going to leave??!?!?!
I find that I’m much happier on media sites where the chances of social interaction is almost non existent. Like vsco to post pictures there are no interactions or Letterboxd where it’s minimal, Pinterest etc.
Great video! The bit at the beginning about feeling like aspects of your life don't belong to you once you share them hit hard, and it's something I've been struggling with as well for a long time. Honestly, I suspect anyone with a platform does to some degree, and it's nice to see someone put that so clearly into words.
As someone who studies digital culture (currently writing my thesis about UA-cam), I very rarely come across original takes about social media on social media. This video has the heart and the brain to hit you where it counts. Adding this to my list of potential case studies for my thesis for sure 👏
Good luck on your thesis!
@@kingdomgirl137 thank you!
I’ve told people I have “social media anxiety”. I want to get a platform but I’m scared of the void and who it could leave me to think I am. I don’t trust the void because it could make me not trust myself.
omg exactly
finally an internet experience i can relate to! i’ve grown up on the Internet too but never talked about myself, posted selfies of any kind (to this day i still use icons thats are not me), or did anything more than lurking. it started off as crippling low self-esteem but now has become a mix of intense need for privacy and my teenage years spent watching prominent feminists get dogpiled into oblivion back when ppl didn’t believe the Internet could actually affect real life. being a “public figure” has always seemed insanely exhausting to me. i’ve never been able to get into Twitter because you have to be a Persona on there and Have Opinions even on things you don’t know about. social media now requiring you to give up all this info to prove you’re a real person, putting us in positions where we have to perfectly brand ourselves rather than just hang out, and then forcefully connecting you with ppl you know irl when i’ve ALWAYS kept my Internet activities separate from my real life is why i only use like two sites consistently. i don’t even care about being up-to-date with things anymore i’m a long-time Tumblr user i was never in touch with the times.
I really think keeping a wall between the internet and your private life is a great idea for almost everyone. Not using your own face in a vid is something no one should be bothered about.
ingrid goes west sounds exactly like me in hs. i was stuck at home and undiagnosed nd so talking irl often didn’t work (so i couldn’t “touch grass”)and to supplement, i spent so much time intensively watching peoples snapchat stories and hoping a reply would turn into an open door for friendship and latching onto egirls i found cool :/ i definitely have to watch it
Lawd that Dorian Electra come like oxtails and rice on boxing day mawninnnn 😮💨
Funnily enough, Twitter is the only social media platform I use. It can be a shit place but my timeline is a carefully curated thing of good memes, cute animals, and pop culture/current events talk from people I actually respect. I never hate follow and I immediately mute users/topics that are not worth my attention. Granted, I use it more like a window, peering into the interesting with little back and forth because good faith and nuance is abysmal there. Ultimately, sharing the mundane parts of my life on the internet is bizarre to me because I don't care for people to know what's going on with me because I don't care for their opinions about my life, positive or not. But, Twitter at least helps me keep in touch with stuff I'd NEVER know about if I was completely off social media. I do think I spend too much of my downtime on Twitter but I can go days without checking it when my work/studies are completely occupying my time.
Kinda the same with me with Twitter and Instagram, with mostly artists and animators I like. But it's best to only be on for short amounts of time since it still a time sink.
That's my relationship with reddit, I carefully curate what I follow to make sure it isn't poisoning my perspective.
If this is really the end of this chapter of your life, I'd like to thank you for making me discover killer cliques, Gregg Araki and reefer madness. Your videos are a joy to watch, you have such a wonderful an unique style plus your writing always leaves me satisfied yet curious to find out more. Whatever you do next, im sure you'll do great You're very talented
I feel like the answer to unhealthy para-social relationships personally came to me with just accepting the chaos and disempowerment one gets when there’s something “bigger” to be desired by the ego. It’s that same liberating feeling you get when the current of the ocean moves you about and your just apart of it, good or bad, your just a small piece of an interconnected mosaic tapestry of life in the water. That feeling helped me get over comparing my self to others greatly. I saw other’s successes and realized it always takes so little to swallow up a person’s happy life, always a bigger fish. I also realized it doesn’t take much to find your great barrier reef, so to speak.
Please expand on those last two sentences because this was beautiful to read and I’d like to implement more of that myself too! What do you mean by always a bigger fish?
@@leilanidru7506 Thanks! :) and great question.
So by bigger fish, I mean that in a competitive space, there will always be a person that does it “better” and will thus, swallow up your successes. Even if to the outsider’s perspective, who’s “better” is a silly question because you both are making a big splash. And, to someone who barely makes a wave in the ocean hiding in the sea rocks; ya’ll look like gods or something up there swimming in the open ocean. But almost everyone can be eaten instantly in the ocean, all the time. Even the apex predators, like sharks, they too get hunted for soup sometimes. The realization that We’re all just fish, big or small and all vulnerable in the endless current is kind of a liberating realization, like its not your fault if you don’t “make it”. It never is really up to you in the first place. I hope that elaboration helped :)
@1312 Revolutionary thank you for this😊💜 in a competitive space rn due to something school/work related and that was exactly the message I needed to internalize. It’s so easy to constantly compare and go down an exsistensial spiral of not being good enough. Screenshoted it 📸 you’re a good writer btw
@@leilanidru7506 I’m very glad it helped take any pressure off stuff you have in school. school, especially trying college put me in a place of questioning my worth in existence before…so I see you as much as I’d reckon possible there. I feel nothing but resentment for higher education for gatekeeping accommodations for people who have brain stuff like me. I’m also very glad you think my writings are worth saving in there. Sometimes I don’t know if there were a better way to say what I meant in less words or in a way that conveys the very specific emotion I have about it. Emotions hardly come so ready with a word to describe it because some feelings can feel almost too raw for words. Sometimes I worry when I point out the sheer chaos of like how it is in the ocean, I end up sounding pessimistic. But I really do worship chaos in how equalizing it is, how often seeing people become “big”, rise, or fall all ends up looking the same in the end; they all die with their successes and failings and chance always plays the biggest role of all. You, by chance of birth, could be a senator’s son, who literally goes back to fuel a drug addiction, after having his life threatened,with a gun by his dealer. And then still go back the next day for a hit. You could be that guy knowing full well you have the best healthcare in the world available but still be in such thralls of an addiction, just by chance, that you’d flush away all the security you had earlier. Or you could grow up with nothing and a society that treats you and your family and your community like less than human but climb your way to the supposed top of that society pushing everyone you knew aside for it, but then also give generously to your community without advocating for systemic change. By sheer chance after all that the very system that you compromised with that wants you gone from influence and power or worse. The system just puts you in the position of being a shark that is more constant in fear of being cannibalized by other sharks. You probably already know all that already but I say it because it just all goes to show how much life under this capitalist organization of society feels like a cruel joke for anyone who can’t divorce themselves from society at large and never be too concerned for the sword of Damocles falling on their head too. The most famous people, no matter who they are; they’re a person who could lose or gain anything because Capitalism is an Ouroboros of social power through the means of exponential growth and nobody who gets in the way of that will be spared no matter how close to power they are. Cannibalism of the rich by other rich is how people stay rich, and that system of cannibalism will try to adapt in any messed up way it can. Unlike the ocean, it sucks the people who make capitalist’s reproduce, as a class, won’t let it die. It really comes down to survival of who can best adapt in their respective niche consumer markets, or preserve growth in an antiquated market, like petrol: by any means no matter how anti-human.
I guess all I mean by that is those facts have to be repeated like mantras, especially if already known. Having pure hatred for such a cruel system I think can liberate folks from feeling down on themselves and realize it’s as vile as how the big-extinct cats were to our very distant ancestors, prior to humans. It threatened our collective survival like how capitalism does today. So, we should hate the system like we would any other predator considering us and our loved ones lunch.
Parasocial Relationships are a apart of social media. The way we interact online with people as if we already have a close relationship with that person takes a toll on our Mental Health. We think we are close to people who are not in our lives. This disconnects us from reality its self. It can damage our empathy,morals,and psyche. I try my hardest today to not take social media too seriously and not observe every piece of info it offers. I remind myself that it is ok to admire people who I don’t know but it’s not ok to feel as if I’m in personal relationship with them. We should not let social media take away our boundaries between each other.
Twitter was my drug from ages 13 to 22... It's been two months since I left the site, cold turkey. Feeling a lot like Renton at the end of Trainspotting (ironically my fave movie) : "I'll be just like you". Actually it made me realise social media didn't free us as it was supposed to be. Just like television before, it taught us to conform into new ideals, without ever looking back on it critically. Twitter is particularly fascinating in that regard, as they don't promote an ideal : they promote nihilism. Not a creative nihilism like the punks, a pointless, desperate nihilism that doesn't push anyone forward.
The only social media app I'm on is tumblr, I guess youtube as well. Both are highly curated to avoid mess. Barely touch twitter and Instagram just don't have the time.
Ohhhh same
Tumblr is still a thing?? I thought that site died years ago lol
@@skankfaceBECCA no its still going though lol very strongly
@@skankfaceBECCA yep and we like it that way.
@@Aishyo wait you like that the website is dead??? I was on circa 2011 so... its just weird to me people still use it. Its like still using myspace.
Twitter is part of my job requirement. Pray for me.
It also sounds as though you are of the people that thought having a photo taken of them took part of their soul. Relatable.
What I really loved about Ingrid Goes West is I think it’s one of the first “psychological thriller movies” where the audience actually sympathizes with the “crazy” stalker and the subject of the stalker’s desire is kind of the villain.
What Ingrid did wasn’t excusable, however when I was watching it… you could see how toxic Olsen’s character truly is.
She’s vapid and kind of a mean girl. She makes herself out to be something she isn’t online.
I felt the intro. While I don't use social media besides youtube, the feeling applies for a lot of relationships for me, where I feel too vulnerable for sharing everything about myself even to people close to me and prefer to keep a lot of things only to myself. It feels like if I shared them I'd be losing something
Ingrid goes west was wayyy ahead of it's time. So iconic! ✨
Preach, it only came out in 2017, yet is still a relevant, thought provoking social commentary on the toxic side of modern technology.
@@trinaq and influencer culture too!
Fear of losing the parts of myself that I share on social media. Yep. That's what I have been feeling subconsciously for many years but couldn't put into words. You're a great creator as always. 💕
I feel exactly the same about the dichotomy described here. On one hand I want to make friends with people who have similar interests and be seen for my creative pursuits but on the other, I'm inept at social media and the entire format stresses me out and drains me. It seems impossible to form social connections without social media but also feels impossible to live a good life while plugged into it.
This is so well made. As someone who also feels like they suck at social media in general, it's nice to see a take that isn't really cynical about it. Although I've been on different platforms for years, I don't think I ever even started commenting or posting until last year. Deleted most apps a few months ago after I just found myself endlessly doom scrolling for things I didn't actually care about. Strange how addictive something can be once you start actively engaging in it.
Highly recommend deleting all social media accounts. I deleted every social media account (besides UA-cam and Reddit) five years ago and I have never even once regretted it. You don't realize how much time you waste on those sites until you don't have them anymore. All the time I used to spend on them I used to pick up some real hobbies instead. I learned how to sew, learned a new language, and started exercising daily. I'm so much happier and healthier in general plus I find myself more grateful for what I have and slower to anger and I give myself and others more grace to make mistakes. It honestly felt like finally cutting off a super toxic relationship.
If spree did anything really well, it was integration of social media interfaces. I was seriously impressed by how natural all the apps looked. Joe’s performance was stellar and scary - certainly the plot was completely on the nose, but it was a fun watch!
It took me having a big social media break to actually start interacting with ppl and content that I like in social media in a genuine way, like me writing this comment right now. Then, i would use social media to show how I wanted my life to look like and always trying to follow how ppl showed their lives. Now I just don't show anything but my thoughts and interact with ppl's thoughts. In a way it gives me confidence and it helps me build and articulate my ideas. So thank you Yhara for always making room for interesting debates and conversations🙆💜💜 and rest whenever you need! This should be a safe space for you as much as you always make it for us viewers🙌 take care
that feeling of knowing that you don't quite get right the i dont do social media right, is so relatable, and the anxieties of recognizing that you shouldnt want to have massive amounts on attention on you, but also wanting to be seen at the same time by the void of the of people in algorithm, i think about this as someone who wants to be creative and place myself out there, but feeling the fear of the beast, of existing out loud too loudly and fearing of upsetting the massives and getting dogpiled, or ways that if u are a creative or aspiring creative the nature of industry seems like you need to engage in parts of the beast of parasocial dynamics, even if its at a cost, and just wow..seeing today just really speaks the things i have deeply felt, was anxious about..but find hard to place into words, and thank you for doing that.
@Zola really became one of my favorite movies shortly after I saw it. I love Taylor Paige's performance and it's a story of a character that has been shown in film but their ...humanity never taken too seriously, lesser people would probably say the trip is her own fault when it all comes down to is even in how the story ends people are not how they seem up front.
The end
SPOILERS:
The scene where...Jessica tells her side of the story and they got Zola walking out dressed in trash bags gave me one of my biggest laughs all year.
When I saw it theaters people were so confused and upset bc they felt it didn’t give the suspense that the Twitter thread but I loved it instantly
Ingrid was lonely and liked the idea of Taylor and her life in insta surface
damn, what a great vid to go out on. I think a lot about that difference between my personhood vs my persona. it's extra confusing on a platform like this that's constantly hammering home the importance of "authenticity."
anyway, congrats on escaping/taking a break from UA-cam, and I look forward to checking out whatever kinda writing you come out with next
😟😕🙁☹️😔 will be missed THOROUGHLY. You are one of my favorite essayists on here. I search for your videos all the time.
*this is all true. when im traveling, im rarely ever on social media because im out living my life......but when im stationary in one place for months, im on social media 12 hours a day watching other people do shit.....its to the point where i wonder if i could ever survive in prison because i wouldnt have social media and probably go insane.*
This is probably how those who cannot get out and do stuff (for whatever reason) can get sucked in and harmed in many ways by the interactions online :(
This is probably one of my favorite videos you’ve made. You’ve summed up a lot of what I feel and I really feel personally connected to the narratives here
What you said about how strange it is to "grow up with the internet" and still feel like you have no idea how to really interact with it really hit true for me and how when you do it almost kinda feels like you're giving a piece of yourself away felt so real. Great channel
3:59 - 4:05 I don't think you sound ridiculous the more we share(and however personal it could be) with others thinks it gives people the right to OUR lives. This goes harder for actual celebrities when fans or "stans" thinking they're part of the come up and refer to things in the said celebrity's life. People can build you up and take you down with what you let out.
Absolutely. I always recommend anyone use an alias and don't give away things they might regret sharing whenever possible. It can become overwhelming so fast
I'm glad that people are sharing the same thoughts I have on Twitter, I really can't stand being on the app , and around the end of 2019 and early 2020 I stopped going on it completely. I felt the same way, every time I logged in I saw something upsetting or that made me mad and I was like: I'm tired of being sad and angry and just stopped going on it. I still have my account up but privated and that's just b/c I have some mobile games linked to it but other than that haven't touched it in a year.
I enjoy Tumblr and Instagram way more, I like discussions of shows and movies I like on tumblr more and I like to look at the art, fan art, memes and small business I like on insta more. I also like reddit as well.
I've been minimising the channels and accounts that l follow on all my social media the last few days and already l've noticed a positive difference.
I’m thankful for the stoush between Facebook and Rupert Murdoch (using the Australian government as his proxy), which resulted in Facebook removing all news from their platform for Aussies.
I realised how much more I enjoyed the platform, and removed all but one source of news, focusing just on my humorous and dress history groups. I actually enjoy Facebook now. I don’t get into arguments in the comment sections now, and that alone made my life better.
@@katherinemorelle7115 l'm also an Aussie (greetings from QLD!) and the removal of news was so good. Now facebook is just a place to share memes with family, and l don't feel assaulted with toxicity.
@@the_alli_cat hey, fellow Queenslander!
What were you doing on these accounts that affected you so negatively?
@@ari_40ari_40 l was beating myself up because l didn't feel like l measured up to people l was following, or because l couldn't afford the things others had, or l wasn't happy like they seemed to be. It was feeding into my insecurities and l could no longer appreciate myself as l am now instead of a fantasy version l wanted to be.
Since deleting around 80% of the accounts l once followed, it felt good but l suddenly had nothing to consume. I became bored and began spending less time online and more time bringing back habits l had lost like language learning and meditation.
I really resonate with what you said about twitter specifically. It just hollowed me out and made me a reactionary, smug person. It led me to crave validation from my peers in a way no other social media has before. I deleted it off my phone and check it a few times a year and even in those brief times I can feel the yawning gape of that void. It's scary. The memes are great though !!! xP
Beautiful and thoughtful as always💜
A serendipitous video for the moment, no doubt.
You have given so much with these essays. Whether or not you decide to keep doing it, I hope you know you deserve to get all of that back and more.
I took a big break from social media starting in 2019. In your opening monologue, you said all the things I’ve been feeling but never knew how to say. I didn’t know how to be myself online because I felt like I had to hide part of myself because of hear of judgment. But I feel like I’m missing out on my close friends life. I work from home and am self employed. It get lonely. Thinking of making an Instagram again to keep up with friends
Fellow self employed lonely person here & I just wanna say if you feel like joining social media again, it’s completely possible to do it in a way that doesn’t hurt you. I find that keeping your page private & your follower count low is key! I used to have tons of people I either barely knew or didn’t know at all & that wasn’t the healthiest way to go about it. Stick with the people you care about & it’ll be better 🙂
When I became self-employed full time too the lonliness was more and more on top of living alone... like 1st commenter said there is a way to have the social media in an appropriate way. I agree. I decided I will keep all accounts private anyway. It def helps to have a type of social media when you don't have an innate friend group irl, because most people meet at 'work' esp whre they've been for a while.. Just do it on your terms!! I still love tumblr too as the most enjoyable public platform, it just has more ads than back in the day :p
Nice video! Everyone's relationship with social media is complicated. Even if we think we're above falling into unhealthy patterns of internet culture, we're human and get easily influenced by the environment we're in. The digital environment shaped my values and attitude. It made me insensitive, jealous and anxious but it also gave me escapism, awareness, and a bigger voice.
It's really important to have online boundaries to keep you from spiralling which is hard if you have an addiction to social media. I still catch myself comparing myself to others online, craving attention, or impulsively sharing unnecessary things. But I think departing from Twitter and not treating my social media presence as a representation of my true self helped a lot!
I love all of those movies, Riley Keough in Zola was one of my favourite performances of the year
Social media is an interesting mix, Twitter is a space I'll never join because of the reasons you stated, it's never interested me to want to go somewhere full of such vitriol with basically zero space for nuance, same as with tiktok (parts are cool and all but the misinformation and bandwagonning worries tf outta me). I appreciate the escapism same as you do, and one of the main reasons I like UA-cam is whilst authenticity is manufactured (thanks Lindsay Ellis), as you say, it's potentially showing more depth of the individual than any of the other platforms because it has to be much more thought out before posting now. This was an amazing video as always, hope you have a great break
Such a relief to see someone who holds some of the same feelings about social media as me, thank you for your insightful words
Just wanted to say how much I'm glad to have found your channel through FD signifier. Your voice, the presentation of ideas and arguments and the aesthetic to the videos are all super great ! Hope you're happy with whatever you do!
I love all your videos. They're educational, thought provoking, and funny. UA-cam would be lesser without you, and I'll follow whereever you go. And buy any book or video you create in the future.
Ingrid Goes West and Zola are both among my favourite films of their respective years. Not only do they have pertinent things to say about the world and our online personas, I also loved how exciting and innovative the filmmaking itself was - especially in Zola, so incredibly engrossing whether it's making you laugh so hard it hurts or hanging on intense suspense and dread. Comedy films need more directors like Janicza Bravo!
This video really resonated with me. When I was a teen, I spent a lot of time online when there was a layer of anonymity also tied to it that you can't find as much anymore. Some people might feel differently, but I liked linking less of my personal life to my online life. I'm a shy person who enjoyed having a place where I could share about my interests without feeling like everything would be put on full display.
But with the way social media has changed, and how's it's become even an integral for certain creative industries, it's a double-edged sword. One one hand, it helps people to get the word out and have a place for them to show off their work, ideas, and thoughts. On the other, it puts pressure on people to be constantly rewarded for showing other people up, or creating unnecessary standards in a world that's already riddled with enough anxiety and indifference as it is.
I currently keep a Twitter solely for work reasons as a writer, though I find it difficult to partake regularly in the communities I should be technically a part of because I don't always relate to the hot takes and implicit expectation that people can't grow without contributing or reacting to them, or having social apps forcing you to make videos or only reward you for showing your face or popular content.
It's taken me a couple of years to really accept that I shouldn't have to force myself to join a discourse I don't feel comfortable in just to let other people I literally exist in this world. I try to minimize my personal social app usage, but when I do, I've become more open about just sharing what I want to share, or keeping blogs or notes or other journaling to explore my more personal interests and overall less obvious curating.
There's a video by another UA-cam who went down a meme rabbit hole and managed to find the info from a random blog of some guy who just photographs and notes things he finds randomly interesting, and it was comforting in the end how much he appreciated it. It definitely gave me the push to think less about hiding the niche things I like, because there's a chance someone else might find it and appreciate it someday. Or if it just makes you happy, that's all that really matters.
Aw man, I went and read the whole thread and now I NEED to watch Zola
Damn, does this hit different after Lindsay Ellis' announcement
The beginning of your video is all I've never been able to articulate about my relationship with social media, through many years of failed attempts to finally giving up on most platforms and feeling much better for it. It's reassuring to see so many viewers who also relate to it.
This video was so refreshing. I felt like I was the only one who felt EXACTLY as you described with social media.
Have you seen Eighth Grade? That’s another great example of social media use in film
i’ve been feeling like this forever and i didn’t know how to explain it. you put into words so well.
This has to be one of my new favorites from you. Then again you make a lot of good ones on your channel in general.
regarding the intro about the usage of social media, i've literally never related to something so much before. i also deleted my old social media accounts a few months ago because i was feeling similarly and i think being offline has definitely helped
Some of my most detailed core memories come from time spent on MySpace. And I know that may seem...kinda tragic, maybe, to anyone who wasn't there and experiencing adolescence in the years between 2006 and 2009...ish. I know lot of y'all reading this already know, but it wasn't like scrolling through your phone lurking Twitter for hours, which is an almost always solo activity. My vivid memories of MySpace always revolve around myself, my sister who is only 20 months younger than me, and a rotating combination of her girl friends and mine, gathered together in kitchen chairs arranged to encircle our family desktop. The one sitting in the actual office chair was whoever's turn it was to be "at the controls" in front of the keyboard and actively logged into their MySpace account-only sensible that they get the pilot's seat. This is such a wholesome collection of memories, even the SCENExxTRAIN mass add bulletins seem a little rose tinted now.
I feel this so hard. You put it in words better than I could. There are so many things that I'm passionate about that never see social media- where I barely post at all. I wonder why I don't use these passions as internet capital, but then it's right there - capital. Somehow it feels like when you share something personal online, it's commodified - like it's been taken away from you and repurposed, and no longer holds the intimate value it did prior to publication. I think I'm coming to peace with a lacking social media presence and a fulfilling personal existence. Not because I believe social media is bad, but simply because I have not found a way to balance public and private life in a way that feels productive, and I'm losing interest in doing so.
I really appreciated and felt seen by your description of depression, thank you for sharing! I've been self employed and working from home since 2014 and it's slowly revealed and exacerbated the depression I've always had but once thought was much more manageable (and easier to ignore), and I'm still really struggling with it, but that metaphor about the river really hit close to home lol thank you
Keep bringing the videos back bruv. You've kept us at the edge of a cliff. :)
I think most of the things you were worried won't make sense not only make sense but are also very relatable either to my own experiences, or experiences I watched someone go through from the outside. Very comprehensive and poignant description of your thoughts and lived experiences of the topic, as always. Thank you for all the effort you put into these videos, they can be great starting points for further discussion as well.
Such a great video!! I always have to add all of the movies you mention to my “watch next” list - you make them seem so enticing!!
thank you so much for this video, spot on as always (I haven't finished it yet, but it's already so good)
I used to be really into Fb. If I was home I was always on; If I was out I was thinking about what I could post about when I got home. As a long time antisocial person I thought this counted as actual social interaction. Then it just left me feeling shitty all the time. At the start of the pandemic I decided to take breaks bc it was leaving me more stressed out. I check in about every other week. At first I would be on for a few hours catching up with what I missed and now when I get on its maybe for 10 minutes. It's helped me remember that oh yeah friends are the people I interact with irl
Thank you for all the enjoyment and thought-provoking moments you brought me with your content, I wish you nothing but the best for your future.
I never had a Twitter account and I'm always happy for that decision. However, I used to be on Wattpad almost everyday when I was 15 because I felt free and honest. I made so much friends that even to this day I love, but now I can't interact in social media anymore.
I'm getting so many feelings because of this video. Your work is some of my favourite ever and I sincerely thank you for introducing me to so many new movies and stories ❤️
Sad to see most of your videos gone as well ass seeing you go since you are one of my favorite youtube channels
Hope you're doing okay and whatever you decide to do you find happiness!
I have learned so much from you, and I hope you find a way to keep putting your words into the universe-even if it’s not social media related. They’re so, so good.
i’m so glad to see someone else articulate how i’ve been feeling since leaving social media, especially during the pandemic. on one hand, it comes with losing touch with friends and those connections. on the other, i feel so much less lonely without the apps. i have space to grow and make mistakes and i don’t have to neatly fit it into a box or feel a need to prove my worth to my peers. the internet is a strange, strange place. wishing you a wonderful hiatus and a breath of fresh air.
I will really miss your content! You make such insightful videos! I wish you all the best. Thank you for all your hard work!
loved this video, got me itching to rewatch ingrid goes west!! happy (almost) new year yhara, thanks for all of the amazing content you gave us in 2021
This is such a great video! Honestly as someone who has recently been making UA-cam Videos. I have had this social media anxiety recently. Always obsessed with the numbers and likes. Thank you for this video. You have explained the social media phenomenon so well!
What is completely blowing me away is how 1:1 Ingrid's approach to everything scans as 'woman with undiagnosed autism.' (I see a lot of ppl comparing it to Borderline but autism in women is so frequently misdiagnosed this way that 'borderline' itself needs major revisiting).
Yhara, your videos actively make my life better. Thanks a lot, girl!
no, cause I'm legitimately gonna miss your videos so much. your videos are such an inspiration and introduced me to so many films that I never thought I would've liked.
have a nice hiatus though :'3
im only at 4 and a half minutes mark but what you specifically describe about social media use makes so much sense to me! im very glad to hear it in words and see that yea this is also a (i presume) common experience. (im also a pisces so maybe thats why idk)
i post drawings on twitter, have been for the last jfc 5 years and ive been so tired of it for the last 3. i deactivated like 2 days ago w the intent of reactivating, ive done these couple week breaks before. theres a constant fight of trying to be good enough for others, wanting to share bc i wanna feel connected but also feeling like i give myself away if i share stuff abt myself. i feel this even through drawing, that "drawing to post on twt" and "drawing for myself bc i like it" and "stuff i like needs to be projected on twitter" gets so muddied up, i feel like me n even my interests are sold off for the dopamine hit of getting some likes from strangers. theres a need to turn away from validation machines and be alone and not have to think about how i come across, not needing to prove myself. even if i have something funny to say or a good drawing to show.
This was beyond interesting! You said it all so well and easy to digest and you had me from start to finish! Such great work!
Amazing vid. Exactly how I feel about social media. Had a MySpace that someone set up for me and I never used. Never got on Twitter. Quit fb a year ago and haven't looked back. Definitely improved my mental health. Now I just need to give up reddit so I can stop getting angry at all the random comments from people I'll never meet or who might be/probably are bots.
Love your videos and I hope you keep making them but your mental health is definitely most important.
i'm going to miss your videos. thanks for all of them. wish you a great new year :)
This is one of the better interrogations of the current zeitgeist that I've seen
Feels like its identifying inductively without defining mechanism or principles (for the symbolic exchange), but that defining is such a level of abstraction, I can't imagine how to make it accessible
Still, I could (and would love to) see a future vid that coalesces the ideas in a codified way (even if only on a meta-systemic level)
I am bumping this for the algorithm but also to tell you that I love your videos
Woooow, I really can relate with many aspects of your experience using social media. Thanks for this! 💜
SPREE IS SO UNDERRATED OML
great video as always!
Thank you for finding the words to explain what so many of us felt but couldn't really express it. Hope the hiatus goes well and in the meantime we'll have all the amazing videos you've already made. Wish all the best 💕
You'll be greatly missed. You're one of my favourite creators on the platform.
I feel the same way. I have a Twitter so I won't be left out but I hate the site. I'm also a perpetual lurker because I rarely know what to say to a room of strangers.
I caught your Vonnegut reference, you; queen amongst fools!
You’ve been sick but now you’re well and there’s work to do!
what you said about social media + it taking you away from yourself (plus others corroborating in the comments, thank u thank u all!) i remember aged 15 getting to a moderately large amount of followers on tumblr, feeling sick about it for a week, and squelching the blog altogether. Never had any kind of social media presence after that! You described it so well !!!
This is one of the best objectively yet subjectively dissective piece on social media through cinema!!! Thank you for sharing your content and thoughts with us, Yhara
I'm 36 years old. I've had social media since about my late teens/early 20's. (Also was on message boards starting when I was 13.) About a year ago I went on a big deletion spree on my Twitter because I realized most of my stuff was just mean comments about t.v. show stars. I kept some stuff but I pretty much keep my Twitter as well as Facebook pretty impersonal- you don't really see any of my deep personal thoughts or problems. It was interesting to read the stuff that 23-year old me posted on Facebook in old FB groups that made me cringe before deleting that stuff as well. I've come to mostly use my social media to talk about my nostalgia for 1980's styled malls as well as promote areas in a small local city that I hope will go on an upswing. Again, really impersonal. I prefer it that way.
Great video! Makes me glad I've stuck to two social media sites, rather than go off the chain
Love this. Love you. Truly some of the best content on YT. I hope you don’t leave, but respect your choice either way! Thanks for your contribution to the culture.