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instrumental music (in order of appearance):
"me n you" - r.a.d
"your body" - pretty ricky
"motivation" - kelly rowland
"wap" - vitamin string quartet
"side to side" - midnite string quartet
"if u seek amy" - britney spears
"breathe" - britney spears
"my neck my back" - khia
"mgr" - t-shirts & sweats
"expelled from school" - toby tranter - Фільми й анімація
Grace killing her father by having premarital sex in The Secret Life of the American Teenager literally had me on the floor
At the time of its premiere I was still prudish and religious (and YOUNG), AND my mother and I got embarrassingly sucked into the drama of the series, so we genuinely found it sad. Years later, it's one of the unintentionally funniest things in all of television history.
it has the same energy as "SINGING KILLED MY GRANDMA"
"he didn't die just because you and I had sex" made an actual bark laugh come out of my mouth
SAME. I thought it must be a parody. It is not.
It was her reply that did me in. Something about her so seriously saying "Yes he did!" just killed me.
I forgot how ridiculous Secret Life of an American Teenager was.
@@rruhland That show was so bonkers, I can't believe it lasted as long as it did.
I understood why because her parents basically catholic guilt tripped her all of the time. This is what made it sad to me, but rewatching the clip made me frustrated because God doesn’t kill people to punish others for sex. It doesn’t work that way.
"It's about how the bodies of women are policed in such a way that you begin to think the chastity belt wasn't entirely a myth. It just took a different form."
Holy shit, well fucking said.
Omg I love your videos. Didn’t expect to see you here. As a trans woman, I really liked the dignity and respect in your most recent video.
I'll never forget being a young lesbian with my casually intolerant parents, going to see Blockers in cinema without knowing one of the characters was gay. Seeing the way she was treated as a character in the movie, how normal and okay and sympathetic it was in such a regular comedy (as opposed to a Gay Film, capital letters intended) was so special to me. It really changed and uplifted the way I saw myself. So special.
That is amazing
The whole "men have sex and are celebrated" but "Women have sex are shamed" has always been a disturbing thing to me. I was a teenager in the 1970s and I remember how this discussion went. Now don't think I was that progressive about this or anything, the drive for boys to have sex was a serious one - I mean when we were young. You didn't want to admit you didn't have it because it became like a stigma. However the question I constantly asked was, "Well, if women become less when they have sex, who do the guys have sex with? " Because that was the weird part to me. How do you not devalue the women if you want to have sex with them? Why would you want to do something that devalues another person? (I put it way differently when my vocabulary was more. . .teenage boy.) The reaction to that thinking - and let me make this clear, by my male and women peers - was "Are you gay or something." Good topic. Great video. Oh, and the sound was fine throughout, I would not have noticed you used your phone until you mentioned it.
As a heterosexual guy coming up in the 90s/00s, the thing I’ve always wondered since I was a kid is, Why do heterosexual guys seem like they hate women so much? That math doesn’t add up right
@@pleasedonotwatchmychannel it doesn't. There is something homoerotic abt men who are attracted to women but their lives.. are completely homosocial. Women are for sex but not much more. Their intimacies are with men.
The streets ain't ready for that one bruh, lol. I agree with you though is what I mean to say. I never liked the whole screwing someone just to leave them cuz that just objectefies people and that's just too shallow for me.
The "who do guys have sex with if women aren't supposed to have sex?" is such an important point. It kind of implies that some women are sacrificed to eternal sluttiness to feed men's egos and give them practice for their future pure wives. I don't think our culture collectively views female sexuality/promiscuity as negatively as we used to, but it definitely persists in many circles. I watched a video recently about the podcast "fresh and fit", which espouses the above perspective on women and sex, and was horrified at the size of their following because their views belong in the 1800s. We need to make that mindset go extinct
As someone who was socialized as a boy, and who is fem attracted, I always felt the same. A lot of guys want to have sex with girls, they are frustrated that finding a girl to have sex with can be difficult. So from a stand point of pure logical self intrest they should really like girls who have shown themselves as also wanting to have sex with guys. They should want to hang out with them and encourage that behaviour in other girls. But they don't, they shun them and treat them like crap. As a teenage "boy" who wanted to bone I got quite annoyed at that. And now as a fem myself who has come to terms with the fact I like to bone guys too I think its doubly crap
I loved Easy A and the To Do list. Need to check out Blockers and Plan B. I was so happy to learn the young ladies in Blockers weren’t sexualized. So many movies and shows could take note.
@@DendyJungle That's a weird way to blame the director for her husband cheating on her.
Little Darlings is good.
Easy a 👌
I LOVED Blockers!!!
Blockers was real fun
On the topic of male trauma connected with the loss of virginity - it's always sunny has an episode where Dennis mentions that his first sexual experience was at the age of 15 with a much older woman and he himself, being a very delusional man, sees it as his "conquest" even though it's very disturbing to the audience and it provides context for the way he treats and views sex in his adult life and it partially explains his behaviour. I just think it's interesting because sunny is of course is a sitcom with a very dark sense of humour and I think depending on who's watching it can be viewed through different lenses.
When I heard "Hoes in this House" in classy violins I couldn't help but laugh. Now googling classical WAP
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@@lethe.archive oh yes love them they didn’t lie once
Oh my god I'm so happy you talked about the To-Do List - It's so underrated!
Oh snap, one badass YTer commenting on another's vid... love to see it!
I literally thought Blockers was that dumb version I got from one trailer where I thought they were all stopping their daughters to keep them pure, i may watch that now.
The point how men's flippancy about virginity leading to trauma and is so true and they don't even know it half the time. The amount of times I've shared first time stories with guys and they brag about how they did it at a young age, or how it was with an older woman is crazy. And then I ask if they are okay or how that doesnt seem like it was good and I see them actually examine their experience for the first time, and they slowly realize it wasn't as "cool" as they thought. Kinda sad really
if I could elaborate on the point about teen boys not being protected from predatory behavior, there's this film starring River Phoenix called Jimmy Reardon where he plays this casanova type character. 15-year old Phoenix was pretty much sexualized the entire movie, with multiple love scenes and one even featuring a 35+ year old actress. even watching as a teen it made me WILDLY uncomfortable. it was directed by William Richert, who is a good friend of Gus Van Zant and Bruce Weber, and we already got their tea on their sketchy works involving young boys/men.
I love that movie. I forgot about that scene with that lady and him wasn't she also dating his father in the film😬made it more uncomfortable than it already is.
Easy A was my hands down my family's favorite movie when it came out, with three teenaged daughter and my mom. This movie educated all of us tbh and it really opened up a conversation space with our mom (who thankfully is cool as hell). At the time we were all teenagers when it came out and really changed the game on how I came into young adulthood.
Oh, and Burlesque. Can't forget about Burlesque.
The To-Do List is one of my favorite comedies. Everyone did a great job but Aubrey Plaza’s performance was especially entertaining. Brandy’s methodical attitude towards sexual curiosity and experience was such a breath of fresh air and actually made me feel more confident. And I died at the hand washing bit too 😂
I also can’t wait for part 2!
It’s got one of my favorite lines in all of movie-dom:
“Yeah, I tried to do the right thing but I ended up fucking your sister instead.”
@@rruhland gotta love Bill Hader
@IntrepidTit idk about all that, but his now ex-wife wrote and directed the film and he publicly dated rachel bilson (who played the sister) some time in 2019 i think. a little sus I guess but we'll never really know.
I like The Reader because it makes it clear that Michael was taken advantage of. Hannah was a twisted, abusive woman and he learns as he ages how much that affair impacted him.
You know. Really thinking about it, it's hilarious that people ask for homosexuality, without wanting homosexuality.
I mean, if a guy's gonna lose it, but you dont want women to until they're ready, who else can a dude lose it to?
Booksmart is a really good movie (which I did NOT realize was a s*x comedy before watching it with my grandparents 💀) and even as an asexual, I thought it was really funny. I also want to point out Never Have I Ever, which does good on not shaming girls for their sexuality, but also kind of sexualizes the "teenagers" in the show (especially Paxton.)
emphasis on "teenagers" in quotes....
@@asterismos5451
Probably because 20-35 Somethings get cast as Teen Characters than actual teenagers? Just a thought
I thought the sexualisation of Paxton was on purpose as Devi is an unreliable narrator. But I hope the next season touches more on Paxton and his personality and not his body :/
I watched Fosse/Verdon on Hulu and there’s a scene where Bob Fosse is encouraged by his buddies to tell his infamous loss of virginity story. He describes how when he was 13, he danced in brothels to make money for his family and two middle aged sex workers forced themselves on him, taking turns. I was horrified and it was implied that Fosse was uncomfortable recounting the story. But his friends go on to call him “the luckiest boy in the world.” In the next episodes Fosse’s true feelings regarding the incident were explored more deeply and he says he felt humiliated, confused, guilty, and self loathing. I was relieved to see that the show did not perpetuate the harmful trope that sex is an accomplishment for men regardless of age or circumstance. For Fosse, it was traumatizing and they did a good job depicting it as such despite his friend’s accolades. It was very progressive.
This is a very important video and is something that I have commented to some of my friends before. How women have been robbed of the happiness or satisfaction of having and enjoying sex freely, because it "devalues them" but also how men have been pressured into being sexual beings to the point where not being sexually active for a man is seen as a failure. And how both this ideologies contradict eachother, and how they turn sex into a life changing event. I loved this video, I always love your videos Yhara
I'm not the audience for raunchy comedies, but I'm glad to see that we're moving in a direction where movies can talk openly about sexuality and its complications (especially the double standard placed on women). Thanks for the analysis.
I can't wait to see part 2 and what it has to say as well
I mean for women staying a virgin is seen as a good thing and for men staying a virgin is seen as a negative thing.
Why is the virgin always a straight A, type A person. I like when movies take that kind of student and make her a person that also likes sex or parties or "dumb" nonsensical things too. I was that kid growing up and for some reason, everyone's pressure just made me wanna act out the more I was told to be perfect
While they weren't the main characters, the "cool and popular" kids in Booksmart were actually intelligent (not Valedictorian boring straight A straight type people like the main characters are) yet were still getting good enough grades and attending the same/similar colleges as the main characters and yet were partying and having sex and enjoying life.
@@oldladytrexarms Thats the exact movie i was trying to reference. More characters like that should exist as main characters.
I hated the sexual pressure I had on me as a teenager in the late 90s and early 2000s. What made it worse is that there was no adult who wanted to have a real conversation about it, so these movies were all a lot of us had, as bad as they were.
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I love this too much.
this needed to be said. can't wait for part 2!
I think Bottoms has a chance to enter this pantheon later this summer
A good movie that should be included is Margarita with a Straw (2016) . I haven't watched it in a bit but I thought it took an interesting twist on the sex journey for teens. Especially since the main is a bisexual, disabled woman from India
awesome video, the sex negative shit also fucked me up as well(cis-het male) because i didn’t want to mess up any potential partners lives. i still remember when i was older and had an unabashed female friend who told me i was being a dumbass. Excellent analysis, and i can’t wait for part 2 :)
blockers is one of my favorite comedies, I watched it expecting to hate it but ended up loving it, it's ao funny, so heartwarming and so mature (like it handles the subjects it presents with responsability), it's a total go
I found plan B the other day, it's on my list already, but now this video may be the sign to go for this one as well, thanks Yahra
THANK YOU, because I knew couldnt be the only one who remembered the bonkers storyline from The Secret Life of The American Teenager where her dad dying was connected to her having sex. That's sexism, but also because Grace is supposed to be the christian girl, I think there's an aspect to purity culture that exists in American Evangelicism.
Wow if blockers had been marketed differently I would have certainly seen it. I’ll have to catch it now
totally an aside but blockers and plan B both having a south asian main character is lovely--i know it's not the focus of either, but the way that your upbringing and identity affects your perception of sex and purity growing up is intense, and it makes me smile to see it portrayed positively/kindly in mainstream media :)
That's definitely another aspect of sex and sexuality and being a woman that wasn't mentioned. That and religion (in regards to Grace crying in Secret Life of the American Teenager). Good point and I definitely want to check out Plan B. I think it's cool seeing more representation because despite the fact I am white, I've always hated how "white" everything is in Hollywood. I like that our world is made up of people of different colors and backgrounds and such because it's boring for everything to just be one thing.
4:14 In most south asian,east asian,west Asian nations even boys,early 20s men r frowned upon if they engage in premarital sex,
there's a unspoken rule to do that after getting married,not talk about the opposite sex,love interest,potential girlfriends while interacting to adults.
patriarchy affects people differently in different places.
loved the string quartet version of WAP 😂
Ikr I really liked it too
@8:06 Ok i wanna comment about the substance of the video (which so far is great, love your work as always) but i am OBSESSED w/ this violin cover of WAP
Damn, Yhara really can not stop creating thoughtful, insightful, and funny as hell social/filmic commentary. I really love your video essays Yhara, thank you for putting your content out to the world 💖
There's a channel called Intelexual Media that has a ton of great videos with similar subjects! Great video and looking forward to Part 2!
Agreeing with you that Lex is brilliant!
There are some great anime about female sexuality too: such as B Gata H Kei, O Maidens in Your Savage Season, and Girls High are some good examples I can think of.
10:12 I saw this movie when I was a teen too and I’m really grateful for it
What do you think of the Devi in Never Have I Ever. Watching it I found it interesting how even though she's comically thirsty she wasn't sexualized or demonized for it. It also flips the script with social status where she gains a lot of social clout from lying about sleeping with the hottest guy in school.
Great vid. On the topic of “tired tropes in sex comedies”, can we kill the “premature ejac” joke/shaming (such as from “The To Do List” clip)? It’s a tired joke, and that sort of shaming can really wreak havoc in a person’s mind that then manifests itself in their relationships. There’s more to sex than just P in V! We got whole bodies to work with here, cmon! Chill out!
Also, pro tip fellas: girls aren’t the only ones who can get there more than once. Just relax, monitor your breathing, be patient. Rushing makes everything worse. We can all become gods in the bedroom if we learn patience and how to breathe properly. Also stay fed and hydrated, that makes a big difference.
There, that’s my sex ed talk. Great video, Yhara! Always looking forward to more!
Yes! I never understood why men think they can only get off once, sure it might take a little while but your balls aren't drained. For as much time as society spends on applauding men's sex lives it sure don't teach them how to even have one let alone a good one :/
I also find premature cute as you're so excited you can't control it? Thats hot, do it again.
I hate the script that hetero PiV sex follows. My best sexual partner always came really fast from penetration, but it was never an issue to me, we did other stuff, it never broke the flow of it. Some men act like it's the end of the world and because they've been conditioned to think sex is over after they've orgasmed they just sort of lie there guiltily complaining. It's so bizarre and very off-putting quite frankly. A man's orgasm isn't the end of sex, its not the purpose of sex and as another commenter has said, there's more to sex than PiV time.
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Shout out to Ike Barinholtz! Love seein those MadTV alums gettin some good work, cause, damn, that really was a good ass movie!
I think the only male lead sex comedy where none of the leads get laid and they all get hit with the life lessons that used to go to female protags in this genre was the Japanese drama series, Stand Up!!. I remember watching this in my early 20s and being so disappointed at the subversion. Just sitting there like "All....that.....effort....."
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I always get personally irked with the overabundance in teenage sex narratives as someone who's 29 and still a virgin, and as someone who feels like their youth has disappeared, just the sad fact that I never experienced young love. I always wanted to have sex and I'm immensely frustrated because nobody I meet wants sex and nobody ever desired me in that way and I feel so utterly lost and hopeless. It's kind of why I think high school sex lives like these are all fabricated and fake, or, if they aren't, then I am deeply resentful I never got to be a part of it.
In any case great video and a great thesis I agree with. Female sexuality is so often demonised that I get the feeling plenty of women in my life have bought into it without giving a good critical thought to it or their own bodies. Personally when I hear that a woman has a libido and a sexual autonomy it just makes me desire them more.
You need to understand that it's a huge myth. Kids really aren't having sex as much as you think in high school. Regardless of whether you did or didn't, it shouldn't be the end all be all and make you regret your life. You need to understand that there's a lot more to life than sex. And if all you do is beg for it and mourn over not having it, your life is of course going to pass you by. There's so much more to life than just that. It will happen. There is no real normal age to have sex. My husband's aunt got married for the first time and had her first relationship 3 years ago at 79. Don't let society and Hollywood trick you.
Blockers was really clever and funny. I watched it in theaters with my friends and we had such a blast.
Been meaning to check out Plan B for a while now, it looks like a cute watch. Can't wait for part 2!
It starts out as American Pie, then detours straight into Harold and Kumar.
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Easy A is SOO good, going to see a special screening at the Alamo Drafthouse this weekend and can't wait!
Great work as always. As much as I love musicals I have never been able to get into Hairspray. I watched the 2007 version and enjoyed it but never watched it again. It just made me uneasy for some reason maybe some of this is why. I may revisit.
Around 1998 until about, I dunno, 2002ish (or whenever the Paris Hilton craze hit) there was this "fad" of virginity that most of the young pop stars had to pretend to adhere to, like Britney and Justin even though everyone knew they banged. And then Jessica Simpson, the boy groups... Christina Aguilera's first single was genie in a bottle about not giving in to the horrors of bodily temptation lol. It was always a theme in TV shows too. It was pervasive even though everyone knew it was all schtick. Then Paris Hilton happened and the whole thing went out the window lol.
Honestly, I think Mary Jane’s Not a Virgin Anymore is a great example of a type of raunchy chick-oriented teen comedy (I swear, in some alternate universe this became the low-budget indie documentary-like darling instead of Clerks) that doesn’t punish female sexuality.
Blockers was such a pleasant surprise.
i remember wanting to watch the to do list so badly when i was in high school, thank you for reminding me that it exists! i'm very very excited for part two, literally love your videos so much!!
I’m so excited for part two because I love your channel and stan for those shows!!
Yhara, I always love your videos. They truly are an education for me. You consistently challenge me to confront my biases (often biases that I didn’t even know I had) and that is a gift. Thank you for your work.
listening to your videos on my lunch break really brings me joy. i love your insight and words! excited for part two!
A fabulous video (as always) and a guaranteed part 2? What a treat!
The Scarlet Letter and The Crucible also was pretty similar in terms of the ridiculous double standards
Curious on your thoughts of Yes, God yes. As someone who grew up in a religious home it hit home for me, I can only imagine what it was like for women or teenager girls.
I didn’t see Blockers because, like you mentioned, the trailers made it seem incredibly misogynistic and one of those “dad’s can’t help but want to pRoTeCt their ‘little girls’” movies. I appreciate your review, analysis and now I’m gonna check it out
Great video, have added several movies on my to watch list as a result - looking forward to part 2!
Love your videos Yhara! Your analysis is always so good and spot on. Also, you have a very soothing voice!
I actually was grossed out by the trailer for Blockers and avoided it because of that Trojan horse thing. I saw the offered horse and was like "gross, hate horses"
Amazing, thank you. Very thankful to have your videos to look forward to.
Watching the To Do List tonight! Thank you Yhara!
I haven't watched it in a long time, but I know the tv series Some Girls (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Some_Girls_(TV_series)) had episodes about the girls wanting to lose their virginities or having sex generally. My vague memory is that it was handled quite plainly.
The To Do list is so good. I am a fan of the American Pie franchise but it certainly has tons of predatory themes and moments, it's unfortunate cus the root of the main 4 films are strong. I rewatched during quarantine and the cathartic escapism and nostalgia was wild.
American pie fell off after the 3rd movie tbh.
@@GameChanger-xi4iy I liked the reunion film myself haha
@@GameChanger-xi4iy Reunion and Band Camp were good. All the other spin-offs were bad.
Part one of two? 😃 Always an exciting marker to see on one of Yhara's videos!
I had the wrong idea about blockers and now... I need to watch that movie.
AAAHHH! This video is just so good! I'm glad that you made it and I'm get I got to watch it
TIL that chastity belts are a myth lol. "Blockers" and "Booksmart" are two of my favorite movies of the last decade. So glad you featured them! I'll have to check out "The To Do List"; never heard of it.
I hadn't heard about most of these. Thanks for covering them. I really enjoyed your take.
Lived easy A but definitely wanna see blockers and to-do list now
If I have a daughter, I don’t even want virginity to be in her vocabulary. It is so absurd that we make such a big deal over the first time someone has sex, especially for women.
I agree that it is harmful for everyone, but I’m not going to pretend that it’s not way more harmful for women than it is for men. Outside of crazy-religious circles, men almost earn respect for having sex while women are shamed. In the US, anyway, and among people raised Christian, society is way more forgiving of men having premarital sex, while women are treated like having sex damages them in some way. I guess there’s an exception for gay guys, though gay guys are just presumed to be promiscuous and judged based on that presumption.
I agree but to play devils advocate. The way I see it is when someone's sexual experience gets far enough to KNOW what they want and HOW they like can they be blamed?
I loved Easy A and Blockers but i've never heard of Plan B or the To Do List! Now i want to watch those too.
As always excellent and thoughtful video, excited to see part 2 as well!
Maggie Carey used to be Bill Hader's wife, then they got divorced and he got into a relationship with Rachel Bilson his co-star from The Todo List. Really funny in a weird way tbh. Also I still love American Pie and always will especially Jim and Michelle, it was refreshing to see a girl who isn't the hot one nessicarily but she leads him in sexual experience and knows what she wants.
Great video as always, can't wait for part 2 🥰
Loved this video, there is so much truth in your words, and now I have some movies to watch!
just wanted 2 say ur videos r really great!! also love that film rec list in the description added a bunch of stuff to my watchlist thanks
You always seem to have such good movie recommendations, like after watching your videos I always want to watch the movies you talk about
Plan B and UnPregnant have a lot of the same plot points, with UnPregnant being somewhat older girls (HS seniors) with higher stakes (Needing to travel for an abortion in a "heartbeat law state" rather than needing Plan B. Both are very worth watching for the skewering of double standards, religious ridiculousness about sexuality, and realistic depictions of young female friendships.
still one of my favorite channels. good shit dude
Thank you for giving me a new list of movies to watch 😆
I love you Yhara. Great content as always 💖
My infinite gratitude to you
i love ur content so much, all of ur videos are so thought out and researched
Now I have some more movies on my list to watch, thank you!
I'm so glad I've found this channel... Great video!
thank for the movie recs :D!
I didn't know about these movies. Just finished Plan B and it was great. Will totally be watching the others.
you're just the best, constantly reminded why i subscribed to this channel
Love it. Thank you!!
Plan B is excellent! A friend of mine worked on it-I’ll have to show her this video
So excited for Part 2
Making a list of movies to watch. Thank you.
Another amazing video Yhara! Now also I have a nice movie rec list i gotta get through!
Wonderful video, Yhara.
Love Yhara always expanding my movie recommends. Can't wait for part 2!
Also glad Ike Barinholtz keeps getting work, wish more of that happened for the MADtv cast tho as it does for the SNL cast as most seasons had really talented actors.
3:47 even the fanfiction used this running gag (because well, it was part of the show).
6:54 oh yeah, I remember this. God I hated it.
16:57 can we please put him in the Single Dad Who Tries club?