Paul Washer Has a SOBERING Message for Young Men

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  • Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
  • Paul Washer has a SOBERING message for young men… In this video, Todd Friel highlights a clip of Paul Washer exhorting young men to be very mindful of where their hearts are before entering a relationship with a woman.
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  • @johansnyder866
    @johansnyder866 Місяць тому +91

    "when i was still a child, i thought like a child, reasoned like a child, but now that i am a man, i laid down the things of a child"

    • @brendan254
      @brendan254 Місяць тому +5

      "Including the worry that people would see me as childish"

  • @IvanHall-zy2tn
    @IvanHall-zy2tn Місяць тому +62

    I'm 23 and I can proudly say I got a lot of these things down but there's a couple I still need to work on. God has worked hard on me and I have great parents.

  • @melchisedecsomba8237
    @melchisedecsomba8237 Рік тому +86

    Thank you so much, Todd. As a young man, I really needed to hear this.

    • @nathanielkaymusic
      @nathanielkaymusic Місяць тому

      😢thank you for your honesty. I'll treasure this comment.

  • @petergust3607
    @petergust3607 Рік тому +108

    Yep 19 yr old here… the kick in the butt I needed

    • @cuvantul.evangheliei_
      @cuvantul.evangheliei_ Рік тому +10

      Same bro

    • @petergust3607
      @petergust3607 Рік тому +4

      @@cuvantul.evangheliei_ yeah it seems the message that hits the hardest is the one we need huh.

    • @treverfollows
      @treverfollows Місяць тому +2

      same bro

    • @mrsxber1916
      @mrsxber1916 Місяць тому +3

      Facts man

    • @davidgonzalez825
      @davidgonzalez825 Місяць тому +4

      Don't listen to Paul Washer, he will fill you with guilt and fear. Listen to Jesus, he will give you peace, strengthen you, transform you and give you courage.

  • @asdf9510ify
    @asdf9510ify Місяць тому +82

    I really want to be honest. Never been a relationship. I'm 35 and do want to get married. Sometimes I do feel scared about taking decisions. God help me

    • @8thMusketeer
      @8thMusketeer Місяць тому +13

      I'm in the same boat. Its rough. 😞

    • @courtneyboose3822
      @courtneyboose3822 16 днів тому +6

      Praying for you

    • @tasismithjennings27
      @tasismithjennings27 16 днів тому +1

      Gheez never been in a Relo come on man get out there go get some 🐱

    • @vincentmothapa2421
      @vincentmothapa2421 14 днів тому +1

      Well we already know what Paul Washer's wife would say 😅

    • @pb7778v
      @pb7778v 13 днів тому +2

      Same here brother 35 with the desire to get married and have children.

  • @CGGarage
    @CGGarage Місяць тому +27

    I'm almost 30 now, married, had no father growing up, but I wish I heard this when I was younger, would've really helped kicked me in the butt and I wouldn't have put us through so much hardships but at the same time, I'm happy I learned the lessons I did. Thanks for this video even if this video is years old.

  • @SQLxGuy
    @SQLxGuy 9 місяців тому +51

    I really needed this I am 18 and my dad wants me to be a bum and I don't want to I want to live my life for christ as a man

    • @Meru732
      @Meru732 3 місяці тому +5

      Godspeed

    • @lisahall1989
      @lisahall1989 2 місяці тому +2

      Follow Jesus all the days of your life. ❤

    • @NiyasPrayers
      @NiyasPrayers 23 дні тому

      God has your back 🕊️

  • @moisesdejesus5397
    @moisesdejesus5397 2 місяці тому +24

    1. When the time drew near for David to die, he gave a charge for Solomon his son.
    2. "I am about to go the way of all the earth," he said. "So be strong, show yourself A MAN" (1st Kings 2:1,2).......

  • @austinwilson5686
    @austinwilson5686 7 місяців тому +48

    21 year old...This isn't a game really. I am now filled with grief. Sorrowful.

    • @rumandredbull
      @rumandredbull Місяць тому +13

      Felt that man, I really wish I had more guard rails when I was as young as nine....20 now...10 years of bad choices before I got saved

    • @aservantofGodKingJesus
      @aservantofGodKingJesus 18 днів тому +5

      Jesus loves you...

    • @bENNYeBENEZER
      @bENNYeBENEZER 23 години тому +1

      Be healed, in jESUS' name, dear brother 🙏🤝🙇‍♂️

  • @jjminor
    @jjminor Місяць тому +16

    I have a son and a daughter. Both of them are teenagers so I pay attention to the dating scene.
    At this point, I don’t know who I would distress more. The boys or the girls.
    I have seen extremely bad decision-making and bad behavior from both and from both of people inside the church.
    I tell my son to never let himself be alone with a girl because he might end up in prison. I tell him that people lie about 90% of the time and not just non-Christians.
    It doesn’t matter your sex. People are pretty terrible. And I include myself.
    Probably the harder question is after you have become a man how do you get a woman to not reject you? 😅 you have to be persistent. I found a wife after hundreds of rejections and only had to travel around the world to do it. 😅
    I respect Paul washer and he has a very good point. You need to become a man and act like a man.
    The girl also needs to act like a woman and that is getting harder and harder to find as well. Even in the church.

  • @madeleinevanwykhon2991
    @madeleinevanwykhon2991 Місяць тому +7

    I'm an older women with two grownup sons... I'm glad to hear a godly man like this tell it as it is...

  • @Howard2k3k
    @Howard2k3k Місяць тому +7

    Very humbling and I really needed to hear this. Coming from a 33 year old. God bless you all

  • @FernadoSanchez-miranda
    @FernadoSanchez-miranda Місяць тому +12

    I live with my parents and I agree 100% what he says men think as men and boys think as boys

  • @internetlemonade9037
    @internetlemonade9037 Місяць тому +21

    Someone, preferably an older woman needs to say a similar lesson to girls on how they should become women. I’m not against either lesson, but I am noticing such a one sided focus on men and a lot of ease for women.

    • @jllemin4
      @jllemin4 Місяць тому +7

      Yeah. What is the point of becoming a righteous godly man who walks the path to find a woman if there aren't any woman on the path?

    • @uriahedwards
      @uriahedwards 16 днів тому +2

      @@jllemin4Because you honor God by reflecting the image of Christ.

    • @Vincent-yp1gj
      @Vincent-yp1gj 7 днів тому

      ​​@@uriahedwards ok. But isn't that for both genders?

    • @uriahedwards
      @uriahedwards 7 днів тому

      @@Vincent-yp1gj But nothing. You honor God by reflecting the image of Christ the Lord. Dont worry about other folks, seek to honor God. Specks and planks and the like

    • @awsambdaman
      @awsambdaman 5 днів тому +1

      Vincent-yp1gj yes it does go for both genders or it should

  • @calebmonaco9068
    @calebmonaco9068 Місяць тому +15

    Time are hard for young man me being one 24 years old. Been looking for a job that gives me money to support my self but to no avail. Prayed to God but nothing, and then this world sucks and frankly some people just love to drag your face in the place your at. I have no problem managing money I pay my own finacial commitments, and save money. Its just I try my hardest and find nothing I want to have a relationship but God tells me or something tells me not ready and feel like Ill never be.

    • @nathanaelj.marcelin7807
      @nathanaelj.marcelin7807 Місяць тому +8

      22 here brotha, I understood every single word and sentiment behind them. Any advice? Submit more to Him..what does that mean? Just go in ur prayer closet and keep asking Him and keep seeking Him! Everything else will come. I don’t have it better than you but the only thing I’m holding on to is Him.

    • @CarlosC77
      @CarlosC77 Місяць тому +7

      We are all on the same page man, we really frikn are. I don't know what God has planned for each of us but he is the ONLY one who can help us!

    • @artemisk.2334
      @artemisk.2334 Місяць тому +1

      You are doing well

    • @zaarongaming8174
      @zaarongaming8174 25 днів тому +3

      I feel you bro. Try to put yourself in God's shoes though; would you do well if he immediately brought you into the full blessing he has prepared for you? Would you squander the wealth? Would pornography trouble you marriage? Would you live a self-focused life? So work in the field God has given you, whether with honour or without, and have full confidence that God will exalt you when you are ready and his timing comes. Praying for you.

    • @cosigi
      @cosigi 10 днів тому

      Find mentors, hang out with men paving their way through life. This will make it 10x better. Journal your journey because God will take your emotions through the furnace.

  • @jacksonkingsnow6105
    @jacksonkingsnow6105 12 днів тому +2

    i now know why some people hate this man, it is because he speaks the truth and the truth in our time is called ''judging''. I am thinking right now about what he said and it hits really hard.

  • @Mandieyy
    @Mandieyy Місяць тому +4

    Honestly, this is profound, sound doctrine. Unfiltered truth 😢

  • @user-mm8xd8sl4p
    @user-mm8xd8sl4p Місяць тому +3

    If i were a single and watched this i would have completely agreed with his statement but being in a new relationship knowing all her secrets promising her a future even though I'm not capable rn. It really hits hard

  • @sharingJesusChrist
    @sharingJesusChrist 16 днів тому +3

    Paul Washer's advice gave me a roundhouse kick, an uppercut and a good jab.😂

  • @yaasovbolanio9199
    @yaasovbolanio9199 28 днів тому +2

    Timely reminder for me as a young pastor

  • @CYXIN
    @CYXIN 5 днів тому +1

    Im a 17 yr old and I tell all my young Christian friends don’t get into a romantic relationship. Some listen some don’t, those that don’t get hit like a truck once they’ve seen what I said happen. It’s nice to see a community that agrees not those weak little boys who are complacent and are like the world. When the Bible says be transformed by the renewing of your mind.

  • @SapphireMedia-x4j
    @SapphireMedia-x4j 29 днів тому +4

    Man. I really see how much I'm pathetic

  • @pa1agyemankwadwoafriyie895
    @pa1agyemankwadwoafriyie895 3 дні тому +1

    I wish I had seen this and believed it at least 5 years ago

  • @spendingtimewithgod7965
    @spendingtimewithgod7965 13 днів тому

    Thank you LORD. As young men, it is very important to let the word of GOD work in us, and to guide us in our every day lives.
    Psalms 119:9- Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his ways, by taking heed thereto, according to thy word.

  • @angloaust1575
    @angloaust1575 Місяць тому +1

    It's a personal thing people join themselves together
    The male female attraction
    Isnt governed by rules or
    Regulations whatever works
    Out for the best
    Love will find a way!

  • @manishabiswakarma8614
    @manishabiswakarma8614 2 дні тому

    Wow...what a wonderful women..! Praise God .

  • @g.williams2047
    @g.williams2047 14 днів тому

    I am so thankful for the Lord putting me on the right path in life. I’m not perfect (far from it) but I’ve been able to focus on personal and spiritual growth. Thank you Lord for protecting me from something I wasn’t ready for!

  • @Ab.W-v2e
    @Ab.W-v2e 15 днів тому +1

    I love the way this guy talks

  • @langkisusngi5612
    @langkisusngi5612 Місяць тому

    Thank you..I really need to hear this it come at the right time 🙌

  • @spreadingthelightofchristj9081

    Thank you for the honesty brother Paul, I also don't trust myself that's why I need Jesus to help me live this life for His glory!!!

  • @professionaljourneytopro9851
    @professionaljourneytopro9851 3 дні тому

    This is so true even thought is hard to hear but it’s the truth and we accept for its regardless how it feel this what my dad thought us as men’s!!

  • @morningstarworshipperswors3409
    @morningstarworshipperswors3409 5 місяців тому +3

    God bless you Paul washer. Real word of God is this that you teach❤

  • @jezbread8111
    @jezbread8111 4 дні тому

    Who is the fellow sitting with Paul?

  • @dstrongcrowe432strong6
    @dstrongcrowe432strong6 9 днів тому

    Beautiful tribute!!!!!!

  • @gemillopez5797
    @gemillopez5797 22 дні тому +3

    Non of these Men are going to get on this or any other platform today. They will not openly state your wife my daughter is to be a VIRGIN. My daughter is to be a VIRGIN in order for Her to be Wife. This is a gift you as Her husband. This to only you as a husband on your wedding night??!

  • @brad-corfman
    @brad-corfman Місяць тому +2

    One of the great mistakes of the church is the conflation of marriage and manhood. And whether intentionally or not, Paul Washer is making it here.

  • @elmethra1525
    @elmethra1525 18 днів тому +1

    standing ovation 👏

  • @smokingcrab2290
    @smokingcrab2290 14 днів тому

    I'm learning now that dating and marriage to a woman is pain and suffering. It's not meant to be rewarding like we think it is. It's constant work, hardship, and heavy lifting. All the time. And Christians make it this way it seems. But regardless, the pain of relationships is inescapable.

  • @mohammedissa2750
    @mohammedissa2750 11 днів тому

    This message needs to be taught aggressively in this generation, a lot of young boys aren't on the right part in this era

  • @natesnautical
    @natesnautical 13 днів тому +2

    You can tell Paul Washer. He can keep modern woman to himself. We don't care....

  • @Anixcent
    @Anixcent 14 днів тому +1

    Im 14 and i needed to hear this😅

  • @pencilheadfamily19
    @pencilheadfamily19 16 днів тому

    Righteous 🙌🏽🫡🦅

  • @DavidLukoson-om7rl
    @DavidLukoson-om7rl 6 днів тому

    😂 He said "men have relationships with girls" but I know he really meant men have relationships with women .

  • @_Terminus_
    @_Terminus_ 22 дні тому

    If she likes you, she will come say hi, look up cassady campbell, "asking drunk girls for money"😅

  • @pencilheadfamily19
    @pencilheadfamily19 16 днів тому

    🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @ethanpal
    @ethanpal 14 днів тому +1

    Great video! The only thing is that while we need to normalize Christian guys being men in society we also need to normalize Christian family. There are certain Christian women it is okay I am alone with because they are my SISTERS in Christ and they also understand I am their brother in Christ. We need to take seriously spiritual sisters just as much, in fact more seriously then having a physical sister. This requires wisdom because if a sister in Christ doesn't understand i am her brother in Christ and how serious that is then yeah maybe I can't be alone with her and if their is a woman that I want to marry then i need to be careful being alone with her as well

  • @mogjqck
    @mogjqck 15 днів тому

    🚨🐺🚨🐺🚨🐺🚨🐺🚨🐺🚨

  • @DAVID-kd3qy
    @DAVID-kd3qy Рік тому +6

    Patriarchal prescriptions.

    • @ash0313
      @ash0313 9 місяців тому +26

      No. It's biblical

    • @scottgonzalez7574
      @scottgonzalez7574 2 місяці тому +16

      Absolutely it’s patriarcal and thats a good thing. That word has been turned into a bad word but its biblical. The old testament prophets and new testament apostles were patriarchs of the faith! REAL MEN!!!!

  • @ReligiouslyIncorrect
    @ReligiouslyIncorrect 5 місяців тому +5

    I can’t take a man who backloads works into the gospel seriously. No thanks Paul Washer, no thanks.

    • @michaeldavis2039
      @michaeldavis2039 Місяць тому

      On this subject, Paul Washer isn't talking about being saved...assuming that these young boys he is speaking to are already Christians, he is talking about Biblically-based wisdom and common sense concerning these young boys becoming men who qualify for a marriage commitment. As a Christian bachelor who is about to turn 50 years old, I have had many life delays because of being a caregiver to my sickly family, which nearly destroyed my life. My caregiving responsibilities finally ended in 2015 and I am still picking up the pieces of my life in order to prepare for marriage. I can tell you as I turn 50 years old, I face the reality that I'm still not financially ready to financially provide that kind of commitment for a wife and children....I can barely provide for myself alone on my current salary. I would have been ready for marriage earlier in life had it not been for my caregiving responsibilities to my sickly family for most of my adult life thus far. My only hope is in the Lord God directing me to a position where I am financially ready to provide for a wife and children....otherwise, I'm just content with remaining a bachelor for the rest of my natural life. Do I still desire marriage one day? Yes, but also it is written in the Bible, "Godliness with contentment is great gain," so as long as I have Christ in my life, I'm content even as a bachelor.
      These young boys need this sort of wisdom if they wish to become men who qualify for the responsibilities of a marriage commitment....regardless of the woman they are attracted to.

    • @ezekielgdk
      @ezekielgdk Місяць тому +9

      Faith without works is dead. Life without doing good things is not a life worth living.

    • @ReligiouslyIncorrect
      @ReligiouslyIncorrect Місяць тому +1

      @@ezekielgdk if you say so

    • @MadChickenz42
      @MadChickenz42 Місяць тому +20

      @@ReligiouslyIncorrectThe book of James emphatically says works WILL happen or the faith never existed. Faith first, works logically follow.

    • @ulliradtke1494
      @ulliradtke1494 Місяць тому +5

      You recognize an apple tree by the fruit it carries. You also recognize a follower of Christ by being Christlike. Yep, by the works they want to do because they are a new creation. They don't do works because they have to but because they can't help it.

  • @James5877
    @James5877 Місяць тому +4

    I think Paul Washer is being a little overly harsh and legalistic here

    • @mrsxber1916
      @mrsxber1916 Місяць тому +17

      It's a wake up call, it's not supposed to sound lovey dovey wishy washy.
      It's meant to sting so you can get off the couch and get to work

    • @davidgonzalez825
      @davidgonzalez825 Місяць тому +1

      This man teaches a Calvinist gospel, a gospel that we must hate and despise ourselves, he is a religious man that you will not see smiling, he teaches you that it is a sin to love yourself, he fills your mind with guilt and prejudice, as a result, you end up living a life with low self-esteem, guilt, anxiety, depression

    • @davidgonzalez825
      @davidgonzalez825 Місяць тому +1

      Don't listen to Paul Washer, he will fill you with guilt and fear and anxiety.

    • @KrishJaiswar-r7f
      @KrishJaiswar-r7f 18 днів тому

      ​@@davidgonzalez825 Ohkk I know that, but here in this videos it's about relationships, and I think he is right.

    • @spilledgrits06
      @spilledgrits06 17 днів тому +4

      He’s being truthful. No one will create a God who condemns oneself. The problem is many don’t like to or want to hear the truth. If people did they’d recognize it and realize their own sins instead of calling a man speaking the truth “a little overly harsh.” This is why we have soft men now. Men letting women lead, men being boys until they are 35, and men who can barely take care of their physical much less spiritual selves. Men who don’t know how to be men because being a biblical man is too “hard” or goes against the current culture.

  • @darioozuna9187
    @darioozuna9187 16 днів тому

    So, if you have money, you can be with anybody? Dont have sense for me. Sorry Paul, but i dont agree with and terrible example of buying a car.

    • @sharingJesusChrist
      @sharingJesusChrist 16 днів тому +2

      No you didn't get the point, He says guys man up, grow up think about your future and if you want to build a family start now change your mindset and discipline yourselves, and even if you're a 14 years old kid start now practice yourself be a hardworking person gain knowledge and experience, take this advice seriously if you don't want to learned the hard way. Experiencing your own failure because of the wrong decision you've made will be a very painful experience and a very regretful one.

    • @sharingJesusChrist
      @sharingJesusChrist 16 днів тому +2

      To understand Tod's analogy you are at least a parent or put yourself in the position of a parent with a daughter.

    • @darioozuna9187
      @darioozuna9187 8 днів тому

      @@sharingJesusChrist te agradezco tu respuesta! Asumo que somos hermanos en Cristo, gloria a Dios por eso.
      Siguiendo con el punto, a veces cuando un punto es claro, los ejemplos traen más oscuridad que luz. En este caso es una carga muy pesada e imposible para personas que no son del primer mundo y que encima no tienen la suerte de heredar una fortuna como el hermano Washer. Considero que como somos de todo el mundo los que escuchamos los mensajes de Paul, sería bueno considerar que nuestros países no tienen la misma economía y la admiración por Washer nos lleva a sentirnos mal por no cumplir con lo que él está diciendo.
      Saludos.