Witnessing dying patients in Hospice
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
- Witnessing dying patience in Hospice with Hospice Nurse Penny who normalizes death through education & entertainment. Her witty, sarcastic personality has developed an incredible following on social media where she shares her experiences as a Hospice Nurse and educates her audience on death, grief and ultimately life in a fun and entertaining way. She joins me on DEAD Talks to talk in depth about her work, her perspectives on death and grief as well as how she got started.
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I'm 37 and on hospice. I appreciate this interview... Thank you!
thanks for listening!!
I am so sorry Laura.
I hope you're still here, Laura. If not, I hope its beautiful
I am gonna join laura soon @@Incognito_90
My daughters name is Laura. I haven’t seen her in four years. I wish I could see her again. I’m not in good health and I would really like to see her before it’s over. If you’re still here Laura, I hope you’re OK. and if you’re not, I hope you’re in heaven. If by some chance you are still here, please know that there is a heaven to gain and a hell to shun. Please give your heart to Jesus so you can go to heaven. I would like to meet you there one day. If you’re not here anymore, God bless you and rest in peace.
When my dad died he told me my mum was with him, our long dead family dog Judy, and his very long dead mother. I am a Christian and find this memory comforting. At the time I brushed his comments off as I was younger , but now at age 75 I do believe he did in fact accept his death because he saw my mum who came for him to take him home to heaven. God bless you and many thanks. From UK.
As a hospice nurse too, I think it's ironic that Nurse Penny says religious beliefs don't make sense, yet she, like the rest of us who have worked as nurses for some time have seen a lot that doesn't make sense. Many who are religious have amazing, beautiful, peaceful deaths because of a hope of Heaven. People ( patients and caregivers) sometimes have supernatural experiences and see angels and Jesus. There is so much more than we know; To try to "make sense" of it is futile. Heaven and Hell are as much of a possibility as some think they aren't. The spiritual realm is most certainly real.
My daddy was a devout Christian and the peace I gave him when he was dying was wonderful to see. He wasn't scared he truly believed he was going somewhere better and would see his parent again and other people he'd lost.
Anyone else get goosebumps when Penny was talking about the 40-year-old man who was dying, while she and a hospice aide were by his side? I know I sure did!
I did Hospice Nursing last 10 years of a 50 year career and Penny is right about everything she advises people about
No she's not right about everything! There is definitely a Heaven and a literally hell. And people better make sure they do figure it out before death because after you die you've made your decision wether right or wrong!
My sons freak (ages 30 and 34) and do not like me saying dead, so I negotiated and call it jumping up. Talking death is so difficult for people.
I know I'm late to the party, but this just reminded me of something. Years ago when I was a kid, I couldn't have been older than 12, I had this really weird dream in which I died. I was laying down, perhaps on a bed or on the ground, and my family was standing around me. Most of them were blurry, but my little brother was in focus, and he was crying. What was strange about it was that, in the dream, I wasn't sad or afraid at all. There was this warm light around me that kind of washed out everything and it was SO. FREAKING. PEACEFUL. I looked at my baby brother standing over me falling apart, and I just said, "No, its ok. It's so peaceful." It's the strangest, saddest, and happiest dream I've ever had.
I didn't experience a peaceful feeling like that until 20 years later, at one of my best friend's wake after she passed away. Her name was Donna, and her death was very sudden. There was only about a month from diagnosis to death. I was heart broken. My sadness and emotional whiplash completely disappeared when I walked into that funeral home, though. I could feel her so strongly that it was impossible to cry. She was right there. It was open casket, and my husband, my daughter, and I approached her body to say goodbye. It was strange, because even though I could feel her there, the feeling wasn't coming from her physical body. It was coming from everywhere, completely non-localized.
Oh, that reminds me of one more thing. We were at the hospital with Donna, and I was sitting in the bed next to her holding her hand. All of a sudden, she looks up at the ceiling and her eyes widened like she'd just seen... something. I don't know what she saw, and by that point she couldn't breathe well enough to speak, so I can only guess. But she definitely saw something, and whatever it was, it was apparently the craziest shit she'd ever seen in her life. I had never seen such a look on her face. If I remember correctly, she died 2 or 3 days later. I saw her in a dream a few months after that. It was a short dream. I walked into this house I'd never seen before, and she was sitting in the couch talking to someone. I said, "Oh hey! You're back!" She just looked at me, smiled and nodded, and then turned back to her conversation. It could've just been a dream, but it felt like more. It felt like she was really there. I think she was saying, "I'm fine, I'm busy having fun, go live your life." And so that's what I've done.
I've had other dreams where I've seen dead loved ones, and in one of them, I was given information I couldn't have known, and it turned out to be true. So while I don't have any better understanding of death and consciousness than anyone else, I've seen enough to convince me that there's definitely something more to our existence, and whatever it is, it's fascinating. If anyone would like to know about it, feel free to ask. I'd add it here, but this comment is dangerously close to becoming a novel. Anywho, have a lovely day!
Your sure are a legend, Nurse Penny. You were my first hospice nurse on social media.❤️😎
she's lovely!
And dying alone. I Love all of my family and my children and Grandchildren.
😢😢😢😮😢i guess we are all dying alone. I suppose that some people, even your people, are just not there. They don't want to be around the death and dying scene.
Am so ill i wanna end it but have not figured a method yet@aimeekubik8803
He's an excellent interviewer, and she's so smart and empathetic, great episode!
I Love this beautiful video and it’s very inspiring and informative about death and dying and I didn’t get into learning about death till my age over 55 and want to learn as much as I can but yet when I was younger I felt scared to die and I still do and just feel just a tad better about death. But, I don’t want to die. The fear for me about death is suffocating /suffering
I very much doubt that you will feel anything of that kind. When you listen to more accounts of people who have died and come back, I believe you will agree with me on that
People are never are usual. They are all unique.
Heaven & hell are real!
I watched my dad leave at 69. I watched my grandmother leave in her 80s. Both looked up as if someone came got them, then they was gone. With my dad, the room had a feel why he was there for 2 weeks or so. After his passing, the whole room had a feeling as if it was a tomb where why he was alive, there was love in the room. I feel sorry for people that have no religion. Even if the religion is right or wrong, there is something else next BANK ON IT.
I've got to admit that the closer I've gotten to the age 50, which is just around the corner for me, the harder it has become to accept that I have lived out my life halfway already. It's rather scary to me. I wish I could live forever. I worry about leaving my daughter alone. She struggles with sime severe mental illnesses. I just want her to be okay, and to be able to navigate this crazy life on her own when I am gone. The day that girl was born, was the day I felt like I actually did something great in this world. Yes, I am a worrier...
I know what you mean. Got only one daughter, 11, autistic number 2, ... God bless... from Brazil
50 is past half way. How many 100 year olds you see running around? 45 is usually half way.
@@my2cents645 Your estimation of 45 is still a little too generous. Average life expectancy for 2024 is 79.25 years. So "middle age' is just shy of 40 years.
@@dragonfly9209 Well shit! I'm going to say 80 I dont care what you say :) In humor. God Bless.
@@my2cents645 Ah well....I'm in the sunset years myself---doesn't bother me a bit! God Bless you too ♥
I absolutely love you Penny, your tik tok brought me here. When you talk about your patients dying and seeing their loved ones coming to take them to the other side, you make the process seem less scary. All of your content you do on tik tok is so fascinating. Keep up the great work. You are a real life angel 😇
Hey, Peggy! I grew up and still live on Camano! And we are close in age and I was the black sheep trouble maker. We could have easily hung out! Love the story surrounding your late dad.
Penny, im 40. Your life story leading up to age 40 is alot like mine. Im at a crossroads in my life and i want to serve others. Its been nagging me for a while
It’s “patients”. NOT “patience”. I am a patient who has no patience for misspelling. 😂
I know - how can the actual TITLE be misspelled?!? lol 😂
😢😢😢😮😮 oh God.!!! Misspelling got you all out of sorts?
@@aimeekubik8803by adding a T. The grammar police are out and about.lol. Must be a boring life, nobody else cares.
Am 48 on hospice in Spore for cerebral and systemic lupus
Absolutely LOVE listening to Nurse Penny ❤
she's the best!
My brother came to me in a dream but I am certain he was really there.
The need of quality, caring case managers in the hospice field has not waned. I’ve seen so many vultures with arrogant power trips in various hospice groups. I’ve also seen many beautiful ones.
I always tell people, the first hospice place you contact is NOT the only one.
Meet the team. Get a feel for them. Do they feel clinical and cold and in a hurry or do they actually be present with you, care about you,, slow down and talk to you to help you relax so you can communicate your questions and feel comfortable with them?
Mt mom was angry and she would push ppl away, unstulp stayed, before she fall in a comma i layed beside her and help her tigh ,.until her last breath,❤
I fear death. This was helpful, thank you ❤
Wonderful wonderful experience listening to you both! Thank you!
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I have done hospice as a minister and Sad times my mind turns to take kind humor, done respectfully I have found at certain death and to die can find some humor does help to lighten the situation.
I used to work as a CNA in a nursing home and I watched my father battle cancer and pass from it when he was 49 and I was 18.
I love the idea of helping other people in the medical field, but how does your immune system respond to being around different dying people and being exposed to all of their bodily fluids?
I stayed sick when I was a CNA and I had trouble sleeping and a lot of nightmares. Maybe I’m just not the type to be a nurse 🤷♀️
P.S. when I say I stayed sick, I don’t mean literally. I just mean my immune system was always over reacting. I’d have cold sweats regularly
Well.. life, living bodies are energized. And energy has wave patterns. And how you receive or interact with these wave patterns is a thing. It’s like vibes, essentially. This is where “self-care” or “grounding” or how ever you interpret that .. some people just discharge it naturally, as in they simply go out side and don’t even realize but take a few deep breaths and long exhales. They laugh or find ways to laugh more. They talk about things instead of holding them in.
They go for walks outside in nature and drink water and sit and watch ducks in a pond.. so many ways. But sometimes we forget.. it’s like when you are in pain and you tend to shallow breathe and or hold your breath. You need to breathe! But you don’t even realize you are not doing this very well. The same with taking in that energy and not exhaling or discharging it.
Doctor told me 6 months in may 2022 i Gave itto God
I mean am kinda obsessed with life after death but not to the point of being scared. Am just Uber curious. It’s been this way since I was very young.
It is just unnecessary and, well, incorrect, when people make statements such as, “there’s something about 30” or “you just realize you’re going to die at 30” or linking 30 with middle age. This “death anxiety” thing isn’t just a foregone conclusion. No, people do not just realize they will die someday because they have turned 30. She says that young people are just waiting to get older. No, she may have, but please don’t watch this video and think it is universal. This is not the way that most people feel. I hope her use of sweeping generalizations does not confuse people. We don’t want you speaking for us. I am not a self-help proponent, so when I say death anxiety near the age of 30 or 40…or 50, it may be time to get some professional help. I do very much agree that people need to talk about death more and it needs to begin, in appropriate ways, in childhood. She speaks of fear of the unknown as it relates to death. All fear, of anything, does stem from lack of knowledge. This is why giving children information about death, illness, divorce is always better than avoiding the subject. Children and adults, can create terrifying scenarios in their minds just because they tend to make up their own answers to questions. These are often questions that can be easily answered, but either they go unasked or, as often happens with death, answers are not given because “it’s something we don’t talk about.”
My husband was diagnosed with Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis a year and a half ago. I’ve been hoping for a gradual decline ending with hospice. Penney’s father’s experience seemed so sudden. I wish I could find out more about his expected end but don’t find answers.
❤️sorry for delay here. sending love
Found you on my fyp on fb. Obssesed.
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0:01-0:13 "There ARE Things That Are WORSE Than Death!"
Oh, ABSOLUTELY!!!
Or, as Col. Henry Blake of "M*A*S*H" Fame once put it:
"Absitively!" 😳😊
There’s a spelling error on your video. It’s ”patients”
Thank you!
@@deadtalkspodcast welcome man, get malaurie back on she’s amazing
My ex and his family , myself too all have pretty dark sense of humor. My ex mother was on hospice in our home . We scared a few nurses. Not those in hospice though. Lol
Start asking them when they get close... Some describe Heaven and others describe hell...
Really critical to discern what they see .. pray that the Lord, Angels show them heaven...
Even several week before passing they have open dreams... talk to them...
They may even teach you...
But discernment is critical to see what is happening...
Pray, for the Lord to lead you and He will and does!
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Patients not patience
I had went to hospice house before they bring my mom i seen in the wall next time the bed ,she could of had any kind of breakfast, lunch , dinner ,, but she could not eat she had to put a mix powder in her water, she could not have nothing hit her lungs and they say ehen she swallow, it would go to her lungs not her stomach, ,but i went at 2 in the morning when she had that engry and got her powder white donuts, chocolate don, and a vanilla milkshake , but i knew it was to much but i load her up ,and all i did was take peace if the donuts ti let her just tast it, she was satisfied,, so bot its b en 7, months she been gone i keep that snacks in my house, and I would hipe some ine would donthe same for me when i go anywhere cant wait to be with my moma
The boy snickering at inappropriate times 😒
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“Patients” not “patience” in the title
I don't consider 30 middle aged . I'm 47 though lol
i'm 34 so i hope not lol
Right I'm 41 and just getting started baby!!!
I'm sorry.There's something about this woman that's very off putting to me. I usually love your interviews but i'm not even ten minutes into this and I had to click out of it.
@@MichaelaH2059 no problem ❤️
She will never "normalize" death tho, I'm sorry, people are and always will be afraid of death. So IMO it's really just about her own feeling of entertaining people.
Geeze spell it right!!!
@@sharonrogers6541 relax
Oops I can't find whatever initial comment I made. Please tell me what I misspelled. Thanks.