I'm 85 and live blissfully alone. Thankfully I still have my mind and mostly my body so consider myself ambulatory. I love and enjoy my crafting and reading and watching UA-cam videos. I still drive to the grocery and medical clinic. I'm grateful for all of this.
I love my life now more than ever,I'm going to be 84 in one month. I love not having to argue anymore with husband or my children. Just want peace in my last years of life ❤
I recently lost my husband, and while I loved him and miss him, I am finding that living alone is very gratifying. I can come and go as I please. I don’t have to worry about having dinner on the table at a certain time. I feel guilty for saying it, but I am coming to really enjoy my life right now.
I AGREE 100%. Stay active in some way. I'm physically able, though my back aches, yet I go to work. The $$ really helps, I get my "social interaction" w/my coworkers & customers.
At 86 I live alone and I am very happy. My son lives nearby and we visit daily. My home is cozy and my garden is beautiful with a nice patio. A gardener comes every two weeks to cut the grass and tidy's up the garden. I am at peace with myself and the world. My live has never been better.
I'm 75 and widowed 2 1/2 years. My house is empty and I like it that way. When I come inside from a trip I lock the door to keep the world outside and when I go outside I lock the door to leave my heart inside.
I have close to the same story. I miss my husband every day, but when home alone, I feel blessed by memories and sad, but not alone. I enjoy the company of others to a point, but being alone is the second best thing to being with him and with whom I had SO much in common. I am grateful for everything, my dear husband and my life with him, my friends, my family and my love of learning, reading and writing.. This is life now and is also a blessing.
That's poeticly beautiful. My husband passed from cancer 15 years ago. He was the only man I ever loved. I'm content alone until I move to the next life, too.
I lost my husband 7 mos ago and I am just realizing living alone isn’t so bad. Although I miss him, I now feel I have vast freedom to do whatever I want. It’s so new (and nice) after caregiving for so long. I have to downsize and get away from this noisy neighborhood now.
That's me. Since divorcing many years ago I've had a couple long term relationships, but have no interest in living together in the same house permanently.
@@kathleenwharton2139 Carol Burnett, one of the loveliest people on the planet. What a beautiful person. She was always a most welcome television guest in our home. She brought in so much love and laughter. God bless her always. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I have lived alone since1997. I haven't dated since 2003. My time alone is like an elixer. Even though I live alone, I am never lonely. Anyone who understands their own spirituality knows that we are never alone. I have never been happier and never been in better shape financially. I wouldn't trade my present life for any other. I am deleriously happy and rarely find anything to complain about. God has trully blessed me and I am at peace.
Funny you mentioned how little you complain. Because I believe that road rage and "Karen-ism" is perpetuated by extremely unhappy people. Happy people aren't fostering conflict.
I've been solo for 20 yrs and I love it. I don't have the energy to navigate someone else anymore and I've created my own lifestyle that I absolutely love.
Best wishes going back to you as well. I enjoy being alone and carry many people in my heart and very grateful that I don’t have to live for any of them. The worst feeling in the world is living in a home full of people and still feeling alone. ‘ Please yourself at least one person‘s. Please try please other people and nobody’s pleased."’
@@glennso47 If you talk with yourself, it's possible, but strange. Maybe you have a friend as in childhood, one that only you can see. You could of course just be changing your mind. But I don't think you need to consult - lol !!!!
Today is my birthday and I am 77. Have been living alone now for 20 years. I love it never feel lonely can read when I want even at three in the morning or listen to my favourite music for hours and so on.....
Boy. I see myself in a lot of those signs. I'm 71 and live alone. But the last decade of my life has been stupendous. I am fulfilling goals I could never have achieved as long as I needed the approval of others. I finished by bachelor's degree. I went back to junior college and relearned all the mathematics I never really mastered before (with the help of an excellent text book and tutor). I manage an orchard and learned tree pruning. I've learned every method of food preservation and developed all the recipes to have six months of food on the shelf at all times. (I've never eaten so well!) I bought a piano and I'm working on regaining the skill in music I had to leave behind as a teenager. This is a wonderful time of life.
I live alone, since my dear husband died. But although I miss him dearly, I enjoy my space. I read, paint, watch videos. I can do what I want, when I want.
I have NEVER lived alone and it seems I have always had someone I had to care for. I am 73 and tired now. There are people living with me still, including an adult child and grandson. I often envy those living alone.
85% of the time, I'm thrilled to live alone! It's only if I'm ill, or something goes wrong in the house that I can't manage, that I wish a partner was around. Relationships are tough. I'm at peace with my two dogs! I also have several very good friends but I love my own space.
Hi Judy I’m almost 80 and live alone now , I too treasure my days when I don’t need to go out ,or have to visit someone , ,I love my few friends but don’t want to see them all the time , same with grandchildren , soo nice to visit then leave ,looking back on the last 30 years , one who I considered a friend turned out to be using me , I was slow to catch on , aloneness need not be lonely , best wishes from uk,xx
@@christinebeames712 I had a friend for over forty years who had raised red flags but since I’m easy going (?) I ignored it. Finally cut off the users and love my peace and quiet.
That’s sad. Best be blunt with them. Might help. Sometimes. I get more irritated by people who want to “help” and refuse to hear what I would really like if someone really wants to ‘help’. I am getting over this. Being blunt about it. Solitude is like a long cool drink of clean water when you’ve been nearly dead from thirst too long without knowing it.
I have felt like this all my life.walking until an empty home is so lovely. Oh I haven’t always managed to live alone so my life has been interesting, but choice to live alone would be yes every time.
I’m 68 and retired ! I live alone and love it ! Solitude is absolute freedom !! From what ? From another voice or voices ! The only voice I want to hear is the one in my head . But that voice in my head ,, I’m working hard to quiet it down as well. A quiet home that’s paid off, no mortgage- filled with stillness, calm, peace and serenity is what I consider living my golden years. In addition, money in the bank , ready available cash at home - and a monthly retirement pay $5,200.00 ! Monthly living expense ( water, electricity, sewer, garbage, car insurance, eating out , grocery shopping = $2,000.00 ) . Boundaries ? I have strong boundaries. Plenty of them. This is the life !
I have lived alone now for six years and I’m perfectly happy. My husband passed after 54 yrs of happy marriage and I love and miss him but I had no idea of the compromises I had been making. I’m 83 now and loving my peace. Everything in your video applies to me. I still enjoy my large family hugely but love my peace.
Now 78, retired and living alone I agree with the points made in this excellent video. Keep in mind that the wrong partner can make your life miserable and personal freedom is wonderful compensation for solitude. No drama and stress enables satisfaction with everyday life...
I’m over 80. Have been single since1988. Had a few dates at age 52, enough. Have lived alone without children or friends since then. Worked til 75. But living alone has been the basis of my happiness. I love my children, their mates and my eight grandchildren, and spending time with them. Have a few excellent friends and love and enjoy doing things with them. Have always had great coworkers. Never knock the ability of being able to close your door to the world and have your own created space and not having to please anyone else’s taste or schedules.
@@glennso47 Always. I didn't experience boredom alone until I was around 52. I'd already been bedridden for 4 years, unable to read, listen to music, be on the computer, watch a movie or TV. Lying there in the dark day after day and it took me that long to be bored. lol I didn't recognise the feeling at first. I'd only experienced boredom with others.
It is never selfish to prioritize your peace and mental health. It’s called setting boundaries and everyone is entitled to do that without needing permission from anyone else. When you put yourself first and fill your own cup before dealing with others, you find you have more energy and the ability to choose when you want to include someone else. You move through your life on your own terms, not anyone else’s. You create your own idea of peace and happiness. No one else should be in control of that. Some like the constant movement of a busy home, and then there are those of us who enjoy our own company and need a quiet place to be to refresh, reflect and recharge. 😊😉
1. You value peace and quiet more than ever. 2. You enjoy your own company. 3. You have strong boundaries and prioritize your well-being. 4. You're ready for more control over your space and time. 5. You've outgrown the need to care for others fulltime. 6. You want to age on your own terms. 7. You're ready for a fresh start. 8. You're craving minimalism and simplicity. 9. You want to make decisions without compromise. 10. You're ready for emotional independence. 11. You want to focus on your personal growth/self-discovery. 12. You're ready to create your own routine and embrace flexibility.
1. I did'nt get married to find out how much crap I could put up with. 2. I felt like I was carrying my spouse and kids uphill while getting my butt chewed on. 3. Too much drama and aggravation, when a Doctor tells you that stress is cumulative and you have exceeded your tolerance level. 4. You no longer feel like you want to live together. 5. Tired of being trapped in a decades old partnership. 6. I admit when the kids are moved out, it is nice to share expenses, cooking, cleaning, and have someone close by to call out to for help.
As a privacy-loving introvert with no spouse or dependents, living alone is my ideal goal. However, we're now living in a world that's a lot more turbulent and challenging than ever, and I do have concerns about having someone to help take care of me in illness as I age. My family is not particularly close so I can't say with certainty that I'll be able to depend on relatives or others to step up. If I fall at home or become incapacitated, I'm likely going to be in trouble. I can't afford those pricey medical alert devices. Rv living is out of the question. Living alone has great appeal, and it's great as long as you're in reasonably good health. Just remember there's another side to that coin.
I have lived alone for more than 30 years now. The first few years I lived alone I spent finding my true self. Gradually I began to realize that for me this is the best way to live.. Thank you for confirming that I am not alone in wanting to live alone on my own terms. So many people don't understand this and some of their comments can be hurtful. Such as, "What do you do all day?" And in conversations where I can't entirely agree with the person I'm talking to, "You have too much time on your hands". Mostly I can ignore their comments but sometimes they play on my mind. Your video validates my choice and I appreciate it.
I have a disability that affects my mobility, and so sadly, I had to retire early at 54 yrs. The number of people that have enquired, "Why don't you work?" I recall a rude worker on the till in boots chemist asking me that question. Nosy busy body's that can't keep their veiws to themselves.
The answer for me was a senior living facility I can have as much or as little human interaction as I want. If I become too frail to be on my own, the facility has an assisted living option, and (God Forbid) Memory Care. I feel comfortable and safe here.
Thank you for this video, it's not the type of video that is commonly made! All you hear about is the loneliness epidemic & how you need to be coupled or living with others in order to be happy not about the freedom & joy of living alone! I'm not denying that there's a lot of lonely people but what I am saying is that there's nothing wrong with wanting to live with the most interesting & fascinating person you know- yourself😊
I've lived alone since I left the family home, I love the peace, tranquility, the empty house, I don't have to answer to anyone, my family moved on, I wasn't destined to be in a relationship, I did try but I was unsuccessful and didn't enjoy it, I live in a small house, just big enough for me, I'm nearly 60, not been in a relationship since my early twenties, I love the freedom
Linda, I agree with you, We never live alone if you love the Lord, His presence in His words in the Bible are always with us, have a long and happy life! Sincerely,👍🤗✝️👏🏼🥰😇😃🌺📖😃💙✌️
I'm slowly becoming so disillusioned with the world, people are burdensome and tire me out. All I want to do is hide within my home, and not leave. It has reached the point where I find mankind nothing but nauseating and illogical.
Your points are well taken. I've lived alone for 27 years, now in my 70's. I love my children and family, but I've never been happier than I am now. When you have a relationship with God, you're never alone. It's great.
This is an excellent video. I have lived alone for many years, and it still feels good at 80 to be my own person and to set my own boundaries. Thank you for sharing this. Peace and joy.
I am divorced for decades, have had relationships and one thing is clear. I LOVE living alone. I like my stuff, my animals, my small home etc. I work in a job where I interact with hundreds of people in a day- all "wanting" something. I own two homes, am 100% financially secure ( including ready for retirement) and looking forward to having time to volunteer, travel, engage in more sports like Kayaking, hiking and biking with less restrictions on my time. I know after I lose my dog I will be lonely - but not for a human.
It's possible that by the time we age our interpersonal relationships have lost their gloss, making living alone feel better in spite of the loneliness.
I HAVE lived alone since my husband died 14 yrs ago....at first it was difficult..but as time passed,i found my independence..it was just me and my dog.... I had no one to answer to. If I felt like sleeping in a little longer I did. I enjoy my time alone. I am happier, I am not a social butterfly. I have my few friends and am very content..its qiuet. I live in an awesome subdivision with a mixture of elderly people and younger people with kids. Everyone watches out for one another. I feel safe here in this world of unknowns..
Living alone in retirement in the country. I enjoy the company of friends and family when we visit. But i enjoy my own company as well. I don't usually feel lonely and i enjoy not having to caretake or cook for others on a daily basis anymore. Tonight, I got home late and didn't feel like cooking. So I had a boiled egg and some raw veggies. I love I can focus on my own little projects unto completion without being interrupted by someone else's demands or wants! 😊
I have been living alone off and on through out my life. At 77 I love living alone. I’m very independent. I pray God allows me to continue for the rest of my life!!🙏🙏🙏 This information is powerful!! Excellent!! Thank you 🙏
I am 56 years old and lost my husband almost 4 years ago now. I miss him more than I can say. We never had any children. He was my best friend and we fit together so well. We both needed a lot of space and granted it to each other. I had the best of both worlds.
At 64 and divorced since 2007 I have no desire to live with anyone anymore. I like going to movies alone, eating alone and even live theater alone. If I want to come home and take a nap midday I can. Nobody telling me what to do. I have been sober for 16 years and am very happy.
Same here...I am 64 and divorced since 2005..I have worked abroad and lived an amazing life after finishing raising my 9 kids since 2013... im quite content with my own company and a few friends occasionally seeing 😂
Also 64 and divorced since 2003…Never had an issue doing things by myself. I’ve been living my best life since then…it’s been really amazing the things I’ve been able to do. I enjoy companionship, but have no desire to live with someone else. It’s been lovely 😉
I am 87yrs.old, I became a widow five yrs.ago, so I don’t live alone, I live with my loving two cats that give me their warm presence, but very little dependent, just for food, litter pan cleaning and loving companionship. I am ,thanks to my wonderful Father above still in pretty good shape, I take care of my house order and cleaning, I still drive and shop, and I used to teach painting got seniors at a college, but Covid stopped that, but I still paint for my own enjoyment, I see my two sons and families on special occasions and they stay in contact with me regularly, so, l am grateful for all my Lords blessings and live in spiritual and well-being peace. Of course I miss not traveling to far away places, but I did that plenty in my younger years, so, again, I am content and I am waiting for the Lord to come or call me to be with Him! Best wishes to you all seniors!👍✝️😃🤗🥰🌷'
I was happily alone after my husband’s death when I met a widowed gentleman who became the love of my life. After 12 years of togetherness I find the need to take separate “retreats” just to maintain my peace. I need solitude to find serenity while he can focus in the middle of a hurricane! It took me a long while to not feel guilty, much longer than it took him to accept what I needed. I doubt I will ever live with anyone again-especially not with my daughters.
I love my little nest! I can putter about as I see fit any time of day or night. I share it with two rescue fluffs. We are very happy. I work to stay healthy. My neighbor is only 5 months older but plagued with chronic, lifestyle-based ailments. He needs almost-daily home visits from a nurse. I do his laundry and light housekeeping, and I've made a good friend of his younger sister who has power of attorney over his care. I help him because it lightens her caregiving load. It definitely takes a village with babies AND elderly.
I am 73, and have been alone since my wife passed 5 years ago. I pretty much agree with the vid. I just enjoy myself and try to do something positive each day.
I completely agree with all the points for the most part, and have lived this way for nearly 30 years. I love it!!!!! I love my Independence and I wouldn't change it for anything. I think what we all need to understand is in life we come in this world alone and we go out that way! Since life is a solitary experience spiritually, any and everything we experience in between, people, circumstances, experiences, and materialism IS BY CHOICE.
I am 67, was married twice, both ended in disaster. I am extremely independant and have been living alone now for ten years. I love it! My family and friends visit regularly, and I have no problem doing ánything alone, actually love it! I can also still get into my car and go and visit whenever I want to. I also suspect that it is a relief for the family and friends that I am so self-sufficient. Of course health and financial independence are important to consider whatever the route you choose. Just be happy, whether you love living with someone or whether you enjoy living alone, just be happy!
Theres a huge difference between being alone and being lonely. With the amount of drama we're exposed to on a daily basis that we are forced to deal with, I look forward to getting to my place, my peace and sanity. I got my pooches and thats all the company I desire.
I love living alone. I dearly love my three adult children and grandchildren, but I don't want to live with them, and I certainly don't want them living with me. I have been by myself for nearly 40 years and at the wonderful age of 81 I see no reason to change. Unforeseen events or health issues may change my feelings but until then......
I’m 68 and have lived alone for over 22 years. I would not trade my Serenity and Solitude for anything. My grandpuppy PennyGirl has been here for 3 months. I keep in touch with my ex, 3 children and 3 grandchildren. I do love them dearly! However, I could not tell you the last time any of them have been here. I call myself a hermit. Dogs have been a big part of my life for many years. I understand them as they do me. No one could cope with my idiosyncrasies save my dogs. I could go on and on singing the praises of being alone, but not lonely. The 12 signs, I have 100. Freedom to choose whatever it may be is exhilarating. My family knows how much I love them. It is on my terms! ♥️
Im 56 divorced now for 7 years after 23 years of marriage at first I missed my toxic relationship , now I love living alone and never justify my decisions with any one and make myself a priority !!!!
Living alone is a 😊wonderful experienced but there's a time i wanted someone to talk to. But all the time i was living alone for 50 wonderful years. Now i am 71 and still living alone. I go whenever or wherever i want. No responsobility whatsoever but just to take care of myself.
I have lived alone this last, and probably the last stretch of time, since 2007. And overall, an additional 8 years starting at age 22. Moved away from home aged 19, and I’m 62 now. I have lived alone for 25 years and am recently retired. Things aren’t much gonna change and I’ve been doing and/or known of these things all along. In other words, ‘Man, have I had a great and blessed life!’ I’m so very fortunate. Yes, indeed. I’m a woman, too.
I live alone. Lots of strength in solitude. Can come and go as I desire. ❤ children grown and grandchildren in college and the us navy now. I have the best life.
These things are truly wonderful and meaningful to me. I wish anyone who reads this a happy day, filled with good fortune in life. May you have good health, abundant energy, and a peaceful life.
I have always been a loner. I loved and enjoyed my own company. Never felt the need to have many people in my life. My husband is not healthy and I always have to be around, just in case. I married at 39 and had a baby st 41. She's on her own now. I always made decisions and it was hard sharing that power. Now, I'm back to making all decisions again. I get in funks just wanting to be alone in the house for more than an hour. I feel guilty but he would take care of me. My fear is losing him but I've lived the solo life long enough to know what to do when that time comes. I won't be afraid.
I'm retired now but have lived alone since leaving the parental home in my twenties. The good vibe you get from a solitary home life can apply at any stage of your life, not just your later years.
Well said. Solitude, peace and contentment can be achieved at any age, not just when elderly. The only things that make it unachievable, are the needs of others.
I agree with the reasons offered but do find moments when it would be helpful to have someone to share with. The main reason why I am living alone is that I can afford to live in senior center. It's a question of economics.
Golly a lot of pictures of us reading and eating and relaxing! I live alone and just taking care of your home garden and domestic chores keeps me very busy!
I've never married and I've lived alone for many years. I'm now 85, and because I don't get out much now, I get lonely. But that's not much different from the way I've always been.
I learned to live alone but not by choice. I like to be around people and when I was working I was always around a lot of people. Now I choose when I want to be around a lot or just a few people. After retirement, I missed having structure. So I got a part-time seasonal job working in a farmer's market on the days I chose. My only regret is not having grandchildren to visit now and then. Every one of the 12 points is me. I can relate to all those you quoted. I don't mind living alone but it would be nice to have close friends, male and female that I can meet up with to spend time and have fun. Everyone I know is still wrapped around their families. Or too sick and less active. I only feel lonely when I can't find a partner to hang out with who is free financially capable and not afraid to go at the drop of a hat. I still go out but it's never as much fun as sharing an adventure. I call myself spoiled and I don't want to give up my life as it is now.
After 25years of marriage my husband dump me for other womens it took me years to readjust and now I just love my alone life I would’nt change a thing and never been so happy.
Children are a joy😂 to live with when small and even when growing up! Prefer children as they are a gift from God allowing them to make their own decisions is another joy for me as the saying goes : live and let live!!
Living alone as an older adult can be both a challenge and a blessing. For those listening to this, may you find the strength to embrace your independence and cherish the peace that comes with it. I pray that everyone watching this video is blessed with good health, inner peace, and endless moments of happiness. Let’s continue to support and inspire one another on this journey. 🙏✨
I love my living alone, TIME is all mine, no one taking what time I get to enjoy and how to enjoy it. I do not have to worry about entertaining some else.
Because of our ever changing uncertain economy, a number of oldwr adults that probably would prefer to live alone, can't because of nit very good health or finances, or, having adult children losing a job, or can't find gainful full time employment , then, not being able to afford daily and monthly(rent, utilities) expenses. So many rhings could happen to keep some older adults from wanting complete independence and solitude
I share a home with a roommate I love very much...but we both require "living alone" and do exactly that. We each occupy our own space, eat on our own times and prepare or buy what we want separately. View our own things in our own separate space. But are helpful to each other. It works wonderfully. I am not even capable of any other kind of life after making my own. I would resent not making my own decisions unimpeded.
I could not agree more! At 65, I sold everything in the U.S., moved to Costa Rica, and bought a beachfront home. I now live alone, in peace and tranquility. I do what I want, when I want, and with whom I want!
Being alone is fine as long as a person is reasonably healthy. But health eventually runs out. I’ve see many ‘independent’ people who lived a life of travel ignoring their family. Then as they aged they came home wanting their family to now help them.
Very meaningful video! These signs really touch the hearts of the elderly who want to find peace and freedom when living alone. Thank you for sharing! 👏😊
I'm 76 now and still not alone. My son and his wife have lived with me for 4 years now and it has turned my life upside down. I've always been a solitary person and now, because of their financial problems, I am trapped : I want to move to a smaller flat near the sea in Normandy France, but can't until they have paid their debts (I can no longer help them financially). It's so sad that as an independent person, I can't do as I wish. OK, I'm happy that they are here, but my life is running out and I've always helped my children and grandchildren. What I can't stand is being criticised for how I live, what I say etc.
Set some strong boundaries dear one. Tell them to back off or get out sooner. Better still, ask them when they will be moving out? Get them to give you a date or YOU will provide one. Remember it is YOUR HOME!! B
@@rosiemcking72 Thank you for your advice. If only it were so simple. They can't move out until they have paid off their debts - not anything I can do and don't want to do even if I had the money. My husband's wife started looking for apartments, but that was so stupid (I can understand it's not easy for her to live here either). My .son was furious, rightly so, but until then am trapped while they still owe money. If I "kick" them out, they would have no place to live - as a mother.....
I have been living alone since 2021 when my wife died. At first I was afraid to be alone. But now I’m at peace. I’ve always felt better alone than in a crowd.
I’ve lived alone totally for about 15 years after taking care of my aging parents and being a bachelor all my life. Living alone is totally awesome. Total freedom and I have my daily routine and my kitchen setup just the way I like it. It’s my oasis in the middle of the city. When I’m home I can shut out the world. And now with Amazon prime and next day delivery by 6am on orders 25.00 dollars or more and my Costco membership gives 2 days delivery on some items to, I’m in heaven. The only thing I need to leave the house for is groceries and gas in the car and an occasional trip to the hardware store. I spent so many decades of being here or being there in all types of weather and working in heavy industrial industries and high noise and heat n cold environments I’m sick n tired of that rat race. I’m my own person taking care of business my own way. It’s heaven on earth. Peace n Quiet. I can go 2 or 3 days without leaving the house, awesome.
I'm 85 and live blissfully alone. Thankfully I still have my mind and mostly my body so consider myself ambulatory. I love and enjoy my crafting and reading and watching UA-cam videos. I still drive to the grocery and medical clinic. I'm grateful for all of this.
I can definitely understand everything you said. Enjoy every day.
I love my life now more than ever,I'm going to be 84 in one month. I love not having to argue anymore with husband or my children. Just want peace in my last years of life ❤
Wow, you’re amazing ! What’s your secret?
Good for you Mary, it's awesome your happy and in great shape, sounds like.
It’s inspiring to hear how much joy you find in your independence, crafting, reading, and enjoying life.
I recently lost my husband, and while I loved him and miss him, I am finding that living alone is very gratifying. I can come and go as I please. I don’t have to worry about having dinner on the table at a certain time. I feel guilty for saying it, but I am coming to really enjoy my life right now.
Don't feel guilty! You've obviously earned & deserve your peace!! Embrace it!
My husband died in January after forty seven years of marriage. I don't feel guilty And feel the same way you do .
You are not caretaking anymore! That is what I like, I'm responsible for only what I do
@@msklvr5078 I Feel you
@@nmefdappl It's how I Feel
Another thing that’s essential is to be financially and physically independent.
I AGREE 100%. Stay active in some way. I'm physically able, though my back aches, yet I go to work. The $$ really helps, I get my "social interaction" w/my coworkers & customers.
At 86 I live alone and I am very happy. My son lives nearby and we visit daily. My home is cozy and my garden is beautiful with a nice patio. A gardener comes every two weeks to cut the grass and tidy's up the garden. I am at peace with myself and the world. My live has never been better.
I'm 75 and widowed 2 1/2 years.
My house is empty and I like it that way. When I come inside from a trip I lock the door to keep the world outside and when I go outside I lock the door to leave my heart inside.
I can so relate to this.
My husband died about the same time, I miss him, but I wanna live alone
I have close to the same story. I miss my husband every day, but when home alone, I feel blessed by memories and sad, but not alone. I enjoy the company of others to a point, but being alone is the second best thing to being with him and with whom I had SO much in common. I am grateful for everything, my dear husband and my life with him, my friends, my family and my love of learning, reading and writing.. This is life now and is also a blessing.
That's poeticly beautiful.
My husband passed from cancer 15 years ago. He was the only man I ever loved. I'm content alone until I move to the next life, too.
I lost my husband 7 mos ago and I am just realizing living alone isn’t so bad. Although I miss him, I now feel I have vast freedom to do whatever I want. It’s so new (and nice) after caregiving for so long. I have to downsize and get away from this noisy neighborhood now.
Carol Burnett said..if I ever married again..he would have to live next door 😊❤
😲Love that!
That's me. Since divorcing many years ago I've had a couple long term relationships, but have no interest in living together in the same house permanently.
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Put him next door! Lol 😆
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Carol Burnett, one of the loveliest people on the planet. What a beautiful person. She was always a most welcome television guest in our home. She brought in so much love and laughter. God bless her always.
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I Loved her Too. We never missed The Carol Burnett Show!
I have lived alone since1997. I haven't dated since 2003. My time alone is like an elixer. Even though I live alone, I am never lonely. Anyone who understands their own spirituality knows that we are never alone. I have never been happier and never been in better shape financially. I wouldn't trade my present life for any other. I am deleriously happy and rarely find anything to complain about. God has trully blessed me and I am at peace.
Funny you mentioned how little you complain. Because I believe that road rage and "Karen-ism" is perpetuated by extremely unhappy people. Happy people aren't fostering conflict.
My story is VERY SIMILAR
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Amen ❤ similar to my life and I wouldn’t change it
I've been solo for 20 yrs and I love it. I don't have the energy to navigate someone else anymore and I've created my own lifestyle that I absolutely love.
Me too.
You COULD'NT have
said it, any better...👁️
Couldn’t agree more!
I personally hate living alone.
@@MichaelRodgers-m4e Sorry to hear that. If you have only just started give it time you might find it gets better. If it’s not your first time sorry.
Everyone who reads this, we don't know each other and probably never will but I wish you all the best in life and all the luck in the world
Thank you🙏🏻 I also wish the same for you. Have a great day. 🤍
Thank you
And also to you
Light and love ❤️
Thank you so much .I wish you all det best 💖
Thank you for this. I really appreciate it.
Best wishes going back to you as well. I enjoy being alone and carry many people in my heart and very grateful that I don’t have to live for any of them. The worst feeling in the world is living in a home full of people and still feeling alone. ‘ Please yourself at least one person‘s. Please try please other people and nobody’s pleased."’
Living alone means I never lose an argument.
That makes me laugh, thank you !
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I lost an argument with myself once. Is that okay?
@@glennso47 If you talk with yourself, it's possible, but strange. Maybe you have a friend as in childhood, one that only you can see. You could of course just be changing your mind. But I don't think you need to consult - lol !!!!
Today is my birthday and I am 77. Have been living alone now for 20 years. I love it never feel lonely can read when I want even at three in the morning or listen to my favourite music for hours and so on.....
***Happy Birthday. Have the best one ever ‼️🎶🎵🎊💕
Happy birthday! Enjoy your day.
Happy birthday dear heart ✌️🙏🕊️🌎⏳🌹😊
Volunteering helps everyone ✌️🙏🕊️
@@neeltjebooysen2688 birthday blessings to you. May all your days be filled with joy.
Boy. I see myself in a lot of those signs. I'm 71 and live alone. But the last decade of my life has been stupendous. I am fulfilling goals I could never have achieved as long as I needed the approval of others. I finished by bachelor's degree. I went back to junior college and relearned all the mathematics I never really mastered before (with the help of an excellent text book and tutor). I manage an orchard and learned tree pruning. I've learned every method of food preservation and developed all the recipes to have six months of food on the shelf at all times. (I've never eaten so well!)
I bought a piano and I'm working on regaining the skill in music I had to leave behind as a teenager.
This is a wonderful time of life.
You’re amazing! I’m 60 and I would like to learn math which was always my Waterloo.
You are inspiring!
Continuous learning is the key for me! And a few talking parrots!
Fantastic!
I agree with all the points and believe it begins with feeling comfortable and happy in your own company.
That bond you have with another person who "gets you" and understands you is so rare and should be treasured.
I am a better person by myself.
Me too
me too
I don't want to burden others with my mental health problems, I have always lived alone and have no children.
I agree with your comment. 💐
I live alone, since my dear husband died. But although I miss him dearly, I enjoy my space. I read, paint, watch videos. I can do what I want, when I want.
I have NEVER lived alone and it seems I have always had someone I had to care for. I am 73 and tired now. There are people living with me still, including an adult child and grandson. I often envy those living alone.
Can you escape to a library. My heart goes out to you. 10:11
i'm 72 and a widow of 6 years. i have realized i'm very happy alone. i have pets and my hobbies. i am complete.
Yes, yearning for tranquility! That’s it. Peace & quiet is beautiful. Your own company is actually empowering.
85% of the time, I'm thrilled to live alone! It's only if I'm ill, or something goes wrong in the house that I can't manage, that I wish a partner was around. Relationships are tough. I'm at peace with my two dogs! I also have several very good friends but I love my own space.
Soon to be 78 and have lived alone for several years. At first it was hard but now I enjoy it. Most people I have met are users.
Isn’t that the truth!
Hi Judy I’m almost 80 and live alone now , I too treasure my days when I don’t need to go out ,or have to visit someone , ,I love my few friends but don’t want to see them all the time , same with grandchildren , soo nice to visit then leave ,looking back on the last 30 years , one who I considered a friend turned out to be using me , I was slow to catch on , aloneness need not be lonely , best wishes from uk,xx
@@christinebeames712 I had a friend for over forty years who had raised red flags but since I’m easy going (?) I ignored it. Finally cut off the users and love my peace and quiet.
That’s sad. Best be blunt with them. Might help. Sometimes. I get more irritated by people who want to “help” and refuse to hear what I would really like if someone really wants to ‘help’. I am getting over this. Being blunt about it. Solitude is like a long cool drink of clean water when you’ve been nearly dead from thirst too long without knowing it.
Love being on my own
No disappointment 😊
Living with another or others at this point would be impossible. I do what I want when I want, and come and go as I please.
And I have control of the remote and thermostat!!! LOL
Agree with everting you say.
I have felt like this all my life.walking until an empty home is so lovely. Oh I haven’t always managed to live alone so my life has been interesting, but choice to live alone would be yes every time.
I now understand what my Mom used to say.
@@Lorrainegalloway444 Lol
I’m 68 and retired ! I live alone and love it ! Solitude is absolute freedom !! From what ? From another voice or voices ! The only voice I want to hear is the one in my head . But that voice in my head ,, I’m working hard to quiet it down as well.
A quiet home that’s paid off, no mortgage- filled with stillness, calm, peace and serenity is what I consider living my golden years. In addition, money in the bank , ready available cash at home - and a monthly retirement pay $5,200.00 ! Monthly living expense ( water, electricity, sewer, garbage, car insurance, eating out , grocery shopping = $2,000.00 ) .
Boundaries ? I have strong boundaries. Plenty of them.
This is the life !
Wow, you sure had a plan and sounds like well executed. Enjoy!
I have lived alone now for six years and I’m perfectly happy. My husband passed after 54 yrs of happy marriage and I love and miss him but I had no idea of the compromises I had been making. I’m 83 now and loving my peace. Everything in your video applies to me. I still enjoy my large family hugely but love my peace.
Now 78, retired and living alone I agree with the points made in this excellent video. Keep in mind that the wrong partner can make your life miserable and personal freedom is wonderful compensation for solitude. No drama and stress enables satisfaction with everyday life...
I’m over 80. Have been single since1988. Had a few dates at age 52, enough. Have lived alone without children or friends since then. Worked til 75. But living alone has been the basis of my happiness. I love my children, their mates and my eight grandchildren, and spending time with them. Have a few excellent friends and love and enjoy doing things with them. Have always had great coworkers. Never knock the ability of being able to close your door to the world and have your own created space and not having to please anyone else’s taste or schedules.
I crave being alone. I am never lonely or bored.
I’ve been more alone and bored being in a large group than being alone.
@@glennso47 Always. I didn't experience boredom alone until I was around 52. I'd already been bedridden for 4 years, unable to read, listen to music, be on the computer, watch a movie or TV. Lying there in the dark day after day and it took me that long to be bored. lol I didn't recognise the feeling at first. I'd only experienced boredom with others.
Thank you for this. I thought I was just being selfish.
It is never selfish to prioritize your peace and mental health. It’s called setting boundaries and everyone is entitled to do that without needing permission from anyone else. When you put yourself first and fill your own cup before dealing with others, you find you have more energy and the ability to choose when you want to include someone else. You move through your life on your own terms, not anyone else’s. You create your own idea of peace and happiness. No one else should be in control of that. Some like the constant movement of a busy home, and then there are those of us who enjoy our own company and need a quiet place to be to refresh, reflect and recharge. 😊😉
1. You value peace and quiet more than ever.
2. You enjoy your own company.
3. You have strong boundaries and prioritize your well-being.
4. You're ready for more control over your space and time.
5. You've outgrown the need to care for others fulltime.
6. You want to age on your own terms.
7. You're ready for a fresh start.
8. You're craving minimalism and simplicity.
9. You want to make decisions without compromise.
10. You're ready for emotional independence.
11. You want to focus on your personal growth/self-discovery.
12. You're ready to create your own routine and embrace flexibility.
1. I did'nt get married to find out how much crap I could put up with.
2. I felt like I was carrying my spouse and kids uphill while getting my butt chewed on.
3. Too much drama and aggravation, when a Doctor tells you that stress is cumulative and you have exceeded your tolerance level.
4. You no longer feel like you want to live together.
5. Tired of being trapped in a decades old partnership.
6. I admit when the kids are moved out, it is nice to share expenses, cooking, cleaning, and have someone close by to call out to for help.
Thanks.. I live on my own, not really by choice, but it’s nice most of the time however
It took me a while to know how “yummy” my SOLITUDE, SERENITY, SILENCE is my well deserved blessing!
As a privacy-loving introvert with no spouse or dependents, living alone is my ideal goal. However, we're now living in a world that's a lot more turbulent and challenging than ever, and I do have concerns about having someone to help take care of me in illness as I age. My family is not particularly close so I can't say with certainty that I'll be able to depend on relatives or others to step up. If I fall at home or become incapacitated, I'm likely going to be in trouble. I can't afford those pricey medical alert devices. Rv living is out of the question.
Living alone has great appeal, and it's great as long as you're in reasonably good health. Just remember there's another side to that coin.
I have lived alone for more than 30 years now. The first few years I lived alone I spent finding my true self. Gradually I began to realize that for me this is the best way to live.. Thank you for confirming that I am not alone in wanting to live alone on my own terms. So many people don't understand this and some of their comments can be hurtful. Such as, "What do you do all day?" And in conversations where I can't entirely agree with the person I'm talking to, "You have too much time on your hands". Mostly I can ignore their comments but sometimes they play on my mind. Your video validates my choice and I appreciate it.
I have a disability that affects my mobility, and so sadly, I had to retire early at 54 yrs. The number of people that have enquired, "Why don't you work?" I recall a rude worker on the till in boots chemist asking me that question. Nosy busy body's that can't keep their veiws to themselves.
The answer for me was a senior living facility I can have as much or as little human interaction as I want. If I become too frail to be on my own, the facility has an assisted living option, and (God Forbid) Memory Care. I feel comfortable and safe here.
Best of both worlds! 💕
‘ Dinner parties ‘ with strangers seven nights a week ! Exhausting - also living everyday on the institution ‘s schedule.
Thank you for this video, it's not the type of video that is commonly made! All you hear about is the loneliness epidemic & how you need to be coupled or living with others in order to be happy not about the freedom & joy of living alone! I'm not denying that there's a lot of lonely people but what I am saying is that there's nothing wrong with wanting to live with the most interesting & fascinating person you know- yourself😊
Totally in agreement! Glad you found it helpful!
I've lived alone since I left the family home, I love the peace, tranquility, the empty house, I don't have to answer to anyone, my family moved on, I wasn't destined to be in a relationship, I did try but I was unsuccessful and didn't enjoy it, I live in a small house, just big enough for me, I'm nearly 60, not been in a relationship since my early twenties, I love the freedom
20 yrs living with my Lord. I’m not alone. But it’s is so peaceful. The world can be so loud. Amen 🙏
OMG! Amen to that-“alone” but NEVER lonely!
Amen sister!
Linda, I agree with you, We never live alone if you love the Lord, His presence in His words in the Bible are always with us, have a long and happy life! Sincerely,👍🤗✝️👏🏼🥰😇😃🌺📖😃💙✌️
I'm slowly becoming so disillusioned with the world, people are burdensome and tire me out. All I want to do is hide within my home, and not leave. It has reached the point where I find mankind nothing but nauseating and illogical.
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Your points are well taken. I've lived alone for 27 years, now in my 70's. I love my children and family, but I've never been happier than I am now. When you have a relationship with God, you're never alone. It's great.
Well said!
This is an excellent video. I have lived alone for many years, and it still feels good at 80 to be my own person and to set my own boundaries. Thank you for sharing this. Peace and joy.
I am divorced for decades, have had relationships and one thing is clear. I LOVE living alone. I like my stuff, my animals, my small home etc. I work in a job where I interact with hundreds of people in a day- all "wanting" something. I own two homes, am 100% financially secure ( including ready for retirement) and looking forward to having time to volunteer, travel, engage in more sports like Kayaking, hiking and biking with less restrictions on my time. I know after I lose my dog I will be lonely - but not for a human.
It's possible that by the time we age our interpersonal relationships have lost their gloss, making living alone feel better in spite of the loneliness.
I HAVE lived alone since my husband died 14 yrs ago....at first it was difficult..but as time passed,i found my independence..it was just me and my dog.... I had no one to answer to. If I felt like sleeping in a little longer I did. I enjoy my time alone. I am happier, I am not a social butterfly. I have my few friends and am very content..its qiuet. I live in an awesome subdivision with a mixture of elderly people and younger people with kids. Everyone watches out for one another. I feel safe here in this world of unknowns..
I love my freedom .I am alone ,but not lonely.I go out if i want ,if not i dont .
Living alone in retirement in the country. I enjoy the company of friends and family when we visit. But i enjoy my own company as well. I don't usually feel lonely and i enjoy not having to caretake or cook for others on a daily basis anymore. Tonight, I got home late and didn't feel like cooking. So I had a boiled egg and some raw veggies. I love I can focus on my own little projects unto completion without being interrupted by someone else's demands or wants! 😊
Independence is great
I have been living alone off and on through out my life. At 77 I love living alone. I’m very independent. I pray God allows me to continue for the rest of my life!!🙏🙏🙏
This information is powerful!! Excellent!!
Thank you 🙏
Thanks for sharing!! You got this!
I am alone but not lonely. 68 now and finally happy
I’m 78 and love living alone!
I am 56 years old and lost my husband almost 4 years ago now. I miss him more than I can say. We never had any children. He was my best friend and we fit together so well. We both needed a lot of space and granted it to each other. I had the best of both worlds.
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At 64 and divorced since 2007 I have no desire to live with anyone anymore. I like going to movies alone, eating alone and even live theater alone. If I want to come home and take a nap midday I can. Nobody telling me what to do. I have been sober for 16 years and am very happy.
Same here...I am 64 and divorced since 2005..I have worked abroad and lived an amazing life after finishing raising my 9 kids since 2013... im quite content with my own company and a few friends occasionally seeing 😂
Also 64 and divorced since 2003…Never had an issue doing things by myself. I’ve been living my best life since then…it’s been really amazing the things I’ve been able to do. I enjoy companionship, but have no desire to live with someone else. It’s been lovely 😉
I am 87yrs.old, I became a widow five yrs.ago, so I don’t live alone, I live with my loving two cats that give me their warm presence, but very little dependent, just for food, litter pan cleaning and loving companionship. I am ,thanks to my wonderful Father above still in pretty good shape, I take care of my house order and cleaning, I still drive and shop, and I used to teach painting got seniors at a college, but Covid stopped that, but I still paint for my own enjoyment, I see my two sons and families on special occasions and they stay in contact with me regularly, so, l am grateful for all my Lords blessings and live in spiritual and well-being peace. Of course I miss not traveling to far away places, but I did that plenty in my younger years, so, again, I am content and I am waiting for the Lord to come or call me to be with Him! Best wishes to you all seniors!👍✝️😃🤗🥰🌷'
@@olgaburgos7780 you have a wonderful attitude--God Bless
I was happily alone after my husband’s death when I met a widowed gentleman who became the love of my life. After 12 years of togetherness I find the need to take separate “retreats” just to maintain my peace. I need solitude to find serenity while he can focus in the middle of a hurricane! It took me a long while to not feel guilty, much longer than it took him to accept what I needed. I doubt I will ever live with anyone again-especially not with my daughters.
After two lazy husbands...an ungrateful child...now in my 70's...I love living alone and in peace
I love my little nest! I can putter about as I see fit any time of day or night. I share it with two rescue fluffs. We are very happy. I work to stay healthy. My neighbor is only 5 months older but plagued with chronic, lifestyle-based ailments. He needs almost-daily home visits from a nurse. I do his laundry and light housekeeping, and I've made a good friend of his younger sister who has power of attorney over his care. I help him because it lightens her caregiving load. It definitely takes a village with babies AND elderly.
I am 73, and have been alone since my wife passed 5 years ago. I pretty much agree with the vid. I just enjoy myself and try to do something positive each day.
I completely agree with all the points for the most part, and have lived this way for nearly 30 years. I love it!!!!! I love my Independence and I wouldn't change it for anything.
I think what we all need to understand is in life we come in this world alone and we go out that way!
Since life is a solitary experience spiritually, any and everything we experience in between, people, circumstances, experiences, and materialism IS BY CHOICE.
Yes, yes, and yes!!! One hundred times yes!
I am 67, was married twice, both ended in disaster. I am extremely independant and have been living alone now for ten years. I love it! My family and friends visit regularly, and I have no problem doing ánything alone, actually love it!
I can also still get into my car and go and visit whenever I want to.
I also suspect that it is a relief for the family and friends that I am so self-sufficient.
Of course health and financial independence are important to consider whatever the route you choose.
Just be happy, whether you love living with someone or whether you enjoy living alone, just be happy!
Theres a huge difference between being alone and being lonely. With the amount of drama we're exposed to on a daily basis that we are forced to deal with, I look forward to getting to my place, my peace and sanity. I got my pooches and thats all the company I desire.
I love living alone. I dearly love my three adult children and grandchildren, but I don't want to live with them, and I certainly don't want them living with me. I have been by myself for nearly 40 years and at the wonderful age of 81 I see no reason to change. Unforeseen events or health issues may change my feelings but until then......
Even when I visit my family I stay in a service apartment. I’m sure my daughter in law appreciates that.
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I live alone and i love it. I am 63.
I’m 68 and have lived alone for over 22 years. I would not trade my Serenity and Solitude for anything. My grandpuppy PennyGirl has been here for 3 months. I keep in touch with my ex, 3 children and 3 grandchildren. I do love them dearly! However, I could not tell you the last time any of them have been here. I call myself a hermit. Dogs have been a big part of my life for many years. I understand them as they do me. No one could cope with my idiosyncrasies save my dogs. I could go on and on singing the praises of being alone, but not lonely. The 12 signs, I have 100. Freedom to choose whatever it may be is exhilarating. My family knows how much I love them. It is on my terms! ♥️
Im 56 divorced now for 7 years after 23 years of marriage at first I missed my toxic relationship , now I love living alone and never justify my decisions with any one and make myself a priority !!!!
Living alone is a 😊wonderful experienced but there's a time i wanted someone to talk to. But all the time i was living alone for 50 wonderful years. Now i am 71 and still living alone. I go whenever or wherever i want. No responsobility whatsoever but just to take care of myself.
👏👏👏 I'm 80 and have lived alone for 24 years. 😊
I’m 73 and love being alone! ❤
I have lived alone this last, and probably the last stretch of time, since 2007.
And overall, an additional 8 years starting at age 22. Moved away from home aged 19, and I’m 62 now. I have lived alone for 25 years and am recently retired. Things aren’t much gonna change and I’ve been doing and/or known of these things all along.
In other words, ‘Man, have I had a great and blessed life!’
I’m so very fortunate.
Yes, indeed. I’m a woman, too.
I live alone. Lots of strength in solitude. Can come and go as I desire. ❤ children grown and grandchildren in college and the us navy now. I have the best life.
That's wonderful. Wishing you continued peace and strength 💪
I do, by choice. Love it, every day.
Every word is so truthful. I am 68 and that is how i genuinely feel.
These things are truly wonderful and meaningful to me. I wish anyone who reads this a happy day, filled with good fortune in life. May you have good health, abundant energy, and a peaceful life.
Living alone. The best life ever.
I have always been a loner. I loved and enjoyed my own company. Never felt the need to have many people in my life. My husband is not healthy and I always have to be around, just in case. I married at 39 and had a baby st 41. She's on her own now. I always made decisions and it was hard sharing that power. Now, I'm back to making all decisions again. I get in funks just wanting to be alone in the house for more than an hour. I feel guilty but he would take care of me. My fear is losing him but I've lived the solo life long enough to know what to do when that time comes. I won't be afraid.
I'm retired now but have lived alone since leaving the parental home in my twenties. The good vibe you get from a solitary home life can apply at any stage of your life, not just your later years.
Well said. Solitude, peace and contentment can be achieved at any age, not just when elderly. The only things that make it unachievable, are the needs of others.
Love living alone.. my Daughter moved out.. getting to know me now ❤
I agree with the reasons offered but do find moments when it would be helpful to have someone to share with. The main reason why I am living alone is that I can afford to live in senior center. It's a question of economics.
Golly a lot of pictures of us reading and eating and relaxing! I live alone and just taking care of your home garden and domestic chores keeps me very busy!
I've never married and I've lived alone for many years. I'm now 85, and because I don't get out much now, I get lonely. But that's not much different from the way I've always been.
12 out of twelve. That's the answer. Thanks
Me 2 @ 66
@@caroleminke6116 Me 3 @ 68
Me to at 68
I learned to live alone but not by choice. I like to be around people and when I was working I was always around a lot of people. Now I choose when I want to be around a lot or just a few people. After retirement, I missed having structure. So I got a part-time seasonal job working in a farmer's market on the days I chose. My only regret is not having grandchildren to visit now and then. Every one of the 12 points is me. I can relate to all those you quoted. I don't mind living alone but it would be nice to have close friends, male and female that I can meet up with to spend time and have fun. Everyone I know is still wrapped around their families. Or too sick and less active. I only feel lonely when I can't find a partner to hang out with who is free financially capable and not afraid to go at the drop of a hat. I still go out but it's never as much fun as sharing an adventure. I call myself spoiled and I don't want to give up my life as it is now.
After 25years of marriage my husband dump me for other womens it took me years to readjust and now I just love my alone life I would’nt change a thing and never been so happy.
Children are a joy😂 to live with when small and even when growing up! Prefer children as they are a gift from God allowing them to make their own decisions is another joy for me as the saying goes : live and let live!!
62 here, lived alone for many years with cat in a pink apt. Love it
Living alone as an older adult can be both a challenge and a blessing. For those listening to this, may you find the strength to embrace your independence and cherish the peace that comes with it. I pray that everyone watching this video is blessed with good health, inner peace, and endless moments of happiness. Let’s continue to support and inspire one another on this journey. 🙏✨
There are challenges but totally worth it ❤
I love my living alone, TIME is all mine, no one taking what time I get to enjoy and how to enjoy it. I do not have to worry about entertaining some else.
I love living alone !!
Because of our ever changing uncertain economy, a number of oldwr adults that probably would prefer to live alone, can't because of nit very good health or finances, or, having adult children losing a job, or can't find gainful full time employment , then, not being able to afford daily and monthly(rent, utilities) expenses. So many rhings could happen to keep some older adults from wanting complete independence and solitude
I share a home with a roommate I love very much...but we both require "living alone" and do exactly that. We each occupy our own space, eat on our own times and prepare or buy what we want separately. View our own things in our own separate space. But are helpful to each other. It works wonderfully. I am not even capable of any other kind of life after making my own. I would resent not making my own decisions unimpeded.
That sounds like a perfect balance! Having your own space while still supporting each other is a great way to thrive together. Thanks for sharing!
I wish everyone who reads this comment a life full of happiness and success!
Thank you very much & I wish exactly the same back to you ❤
I love my privacy, peace and quiet are important to me. Drama is not welcome in my space!
I could not agree more! At 65, I sold everything in the U.S., moved to Costa Rica, and bought a beachfront home. I now live alone, in peace and tranquility. I do what I want, when I want, and with whom I want!
Amazing! Sounds like you're now living your best life. All the best
Being alone is fine as long as a person is reasonably healthy. But health eventually runs out. I’ve see many ‘independent’ people who lived a life of travel ignoring their family. Then as they aged they came home wanting their family to now help them.
Correct...one never gets something for nothing.
Time does eventually run out.. so live your best life and do what you want.
This is my mother.
Very meaningful video! These signs really touch the hearts of the elderly who want to find peace and freedom when living alone. Thank you for sharing! 👏😊
84 and have lived alone most of the time in the last 10 to 15 yrs..will not change a thing😂😅
I'm 76 now and still not alone. My son and his wife have lived with me for 4 years now and it has turned my life upside down. I've always been a solitary person and now, because of their financial problems, I am trapped : I want to move to a smaller flat near the sea in Normandy France, but can't until they have paid their debts (I can no longer help them financially). It's so sad that as an independent person, I can't do as I wish. OK, I'm happy that they are here, but my life is running out and I've always helped my children and grandchildren. What I can't stand is being criticised for how I live, what I say etc.
Set some strong boundaries dear one. Tell them to back off or get out sooner. Better still, ask them when they will be moving out? Get them to give you a date or YOU will provide one. Remember it is YOUR HOME!! B
@@rosiemcking72 Thank you for your advice. If only it were so simple. They can't move out until they have paid off their debts - not anything I can do and don't want to do even if I had the money. My husband's wife started looking for apartments, but that was so stupid (I can understand it's not easy for her to live here either). My .son was furious, rightly so, but until then am trapped while they still owe money. If I "kick" them out, they would have no place to live - as a mother.....
You could sell up move into a small place in the area you want. It's therr job to take care of themselves like adults
Less help you give them ... They learn to help themselves it strengthens ... Do what you feel is best. Take good care of You 🕊️🙏✨
The more given to them the more they take it for granted and don't respect you or appreciate what you have done.
I agree! My wife has the TV on 12 hours a day, my son smoking weed, eating ramen with door closed all day everyday. I’m so tired
I'm grateful to be 60 and live alone.
You have to have a good awareness of how the mind works. For you, and against you.
Mhh..That's a great perspective! Self-awareness is key to thriving in solo living. Thanks for sharing!
I have been living alone since 2021 when my wife died. At first I was afraid to be alone. But now I’m at peace. I’ve always felt better alone than in a crowd.
I’ve lived alone totally for about 15 years after taking care of my aging parents and being a bachelor all my life. Living alone is totally awesome. Total freedom and I have my daily routine and my kitchen setup just the way I like it. It’s my oasis in the middle of the city. When I’m home I can shut out the world. And now with Amazon prime and next day delivery by 6am on orders 25.00 dollars or more and my Costco membership gives 2 days delivery on some items to, I’m in heaven. The only thing I need to leave the house for is groceries and gas in the car and an occasional trip to the hardware store. I spent so many decades of being here or being there in all types of weather and working in heavy industrial industries and high noise and heat n cold environments I’m sick n tired of that rat race. I’m my own person taking care of business my own way. It’s heaven on earth. Peace n Quiet. I can go 2 or 3 days without leaving the house, awesome.
Very good piece. Agree fully.❤