3 Tips To Overcome Social Anxiety & Shyness | Dr. Aziz - Confidence Coach
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Do shyness and social anxiety hold you back from living the life that you want to live? Do you feel as though you’re being held back from becoming the person you’re meant to be or creating the relationships that you want because you’re always bogged down in fear and insecurity?
If you’re tired of living life not on your own terms, then stick around!
Today I’m going to share three tips with you that I’ve picked up over fourteen years of work in the field of confidence coaching that are proven to help people rapidly shift out of shyness and into unstoppable confidence.
Almost everyone on the planet suffers from at least some degree of social anxiety (sometimes referred to as “shyness”)-that feeling of fear or apprehension when it comes to communicating with new people or starting new relationships.
Often, we feel as though new people are going to judge us or that we’re going to embarrass ourselves in some way, and the overwhelming intimidation holds us back from taking the risks that will bring us success and joy.
Unfortunately, for some of us, this apprehension begins to settle in as part of our identity as we move into adulthood. So, what can we do to combat this negative mindset once it has sunk its teeth into our psyches?
The first step is getting on your own side.
What do I mean by this? I mean that you must take control of that negative voice in your head-I call it your “toxic coach”-and change the pattern of non-stop beratement in your mind.
Your toxic coach is the source of all the self-doubt, self-criticism, and self-loathing that stops you in your tracks and sucks the joy out of your life. It makes you believe extreme falsehoods about yourself . . . and when you get hooked into that false reality, it demolishes the quality of your life.
Now, for some of you, this may be a bit of a review, but if this is the first video of mine that you’ve ever watched, then you can definitely catch up on this information through my podcast, Shrink for the Shy Guy, and my book, The Solution to Social Anxiety!
In the meantime, though, you can start to do this invaluable work by beginning to recognize the patterns of your toxic coach.
Regardless of whether you face social anxiety on a daily basis, the toxic coach is a universal human problem.
No one is free from that pesky voice that questions their every move and challenges their worth. That toxic coach is so persistent that it will harangue you even years after you’ve overcome great obstacles to find success:
- Sure, you built this company, but all of your employees hate you.
- Nobody cares that you came up with that great idea-they all still think you’re an idiot.
- Yeah, she gave you her phone number, but she’s never going to actually go out with you.
This downward spiral is a continuous and cyclical process that will control your life unless you get control of it starting now.
You must begin to catch the cues that your toxic coach is sending you, record it in some way and work consciously to refute it. One way to do this is to start a journal in which you literally have a conversation with your toxic coach and record it. Ask it questions and demand real answers:
- What’s going on?
- Why are you so upset?
- What is it that you want from me?
So often, we just go through life believing what the toxic coach has to say without ever realizing that we are the ones who are really in control. By recording this conversation with your toxic coach, we take it out of the realm of subconscious mystery and remove the intense hold it has on us.
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Get on your own side.
-take control of the toxic voice.
-Write down what it saying; and refute it!
-Journal, and have a convo with this.
I AM IN CHARGE OF IT.
-deal w that part of you that gets really scared.
-slow down. Learn how to take care of yourself.
Compelling future
- stop saying your like this forever.
• do you feel excited about your future?
- Have Faith. Believe if before you see it.
• listen to people’s success stories.
“If it’s possible for them, it’s possible for me”
Prove “it” wrong:
DO WHAT SCARES YOU.
Till fear has no powers to stop you.
“Fears isn’t the marker of success, you action is!”
• the first time won’t feel great, but it’ll get better...
• It won’t be smooth.
“DO IT SCARED.”
Thank you for sharing.
I get really shy, nervous, scared I don’t wanna be judged or hurt and distractions yes but they don’t help in the end i just feel shy, nervous, anxious and I dont have very many friends in school and I have low confidence
That can all be overcome Jasmine! Do you have my free ebook yet? If not, go here and get it: www.socialconfidencecenter.com/products/5-steps-to-unleash-your-inner-confidence/
I have spent months investigating treating shyness naturally and discovered a great resource at Seans Shy Program (check it out on google)
I paid $47 and have not received anything! Going on two months now!
@@GetMoreConfidence our life is fucked up we are inferior humans who are just born to be used
We are PATHETIC!!
Keep learning and taking risks
One step at a time
That "a few days anxiety is gone and then it comes back out of nowhere" reaaally spoke to me. After so much repetition i thought i finally made it i can express myself the BANG back to square 1. Im back at square 1 right now and its so frustrating to me
That's a normal progression in almost all areas of life. Acknowledge the setback and then set it aside and keep moving forward!
I suffer from that too. Commenting in case find a solution for it.
I get anxiety so bad it makes me not want to go to events. I am a mom of 4 and in my thirties...I homeschool my kids and it's going great except when I get together with the moms in our homeschool group I get nervous and my mind goes blank. I also put myself down in front of people be abuse I don't want anyone to think I'm arrogant. I have turned into a negative thinker and it is so frustrating. I cry it out and decide I'm never going to that again....whatever event it was. I feel unworthy and not smart enough and just very low self esteem.
You'll find a lot of videos here on my channel that will help you work your way out of this. It's possible and you can do it!
And u have to tolerate this for the benefit of your children
Social anxiety should be tackled both cognitively and spiritually, lots of energetic work would be the root solution to it, shifting the state of mind, breathing deeply through the diaphragm and being comfortable in your body is key! practicing this all on the daily and getting on with life along with expanding the comfort zone slowly but surely should be the solution
That can certainly help.
Dr. Aziz I feel more confident just watching you speak. Very inspirational. Please keep up the good work. Thank you
You're welcome shakattak!
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You’re deeply resonating with me bro. Love your it. I had crushing social anxiety for 40 years. I recently got off all my meds(except tree) and embraced being my authentic self. Resources like yours have pushed me into a much better way of life.
I just started listening but feel the impact of your words,its really somehow affects my success,whenever i feel like moving forward,the fewr of the results stops me.your videos have changed my life
Love the content. Really making a huge shift and all your teachings are right on!
The inner negative coach bit you were talking about hit home quite hard; I've never thought of it in that light before.
I bet it's related to why I'm constantly analysing situations and running what-if's in my mind.
It's probably a passive way for me to "solve" fight or flight situations, before they occur.
Very possible. That inner coach often isn't giving you the best advice. :)
I've struggled with depression and social anxiety for the past 20 years playing the nice guy act feeling disconnected from people believing that I'm the odd one out.Thank you Dr. Aziz for being an example for others to follow its nice to know that you talk from experience.
I ordered your new book not nice and I'm looking forward to putting into practice.
Your very welcome. and I can't wait for you to get a copy of my book! Please let me know what you think as you progress through it!
Same dude still going through it rn but one day I may break out of it
Thank you so much!! xo
I have social anxiety and I’m in high school and everything you said is true, I new I had anxiety but didn’t know what type till this video
The first positive step is identifying what you're experiencing and knowing you're not alone. Then you can move forward with overcoming the obstacles!
Another brilliant video. Thank you!
You're most welcome!
Keep writing - love the books!!!
Nothing can stop me now!
Love your material, Dr. Aziz. I own and have read The Art of Extraordinary Confidence and The Solution to Social Anxiety. I'm currently reading Not Nice. All of them have given me tools to deal with my social anxiety in a compassionate yet bold way. Extra shout-out to you for the Metroid reference in this video.
Metroid forever! LOL
Thank you Dr Aziz!
You're welcome Cindy!
Another great video Dr.Aziz! I love the powerful questions as they are super empowering. Definitely a gateway to 'get on your own side' 😍
Absolutely!
Smiled the whole video dawg thanks this video and be on your own side very helpful will be purchasing items from you when I can S.A and agoraphobia 2.5 years here.Please keep with the content
Thank you so much, and I absolutely will!
I can so relate to the 'night before' crippling anxiety!
Your book 'Not Nice' is truly amazing.
I love it. You are a brilliant writer.
Keep the videos coming :-)
Thank you for picking up my book!
My favorite video ❤
Thank you .this video is what I reallly needed❤❤❤
You're very welcome!
Social anxiety is my serious problem.
I’m in late 20s, still I’m controlled by shyness, unfortunately ,I hv to do customer services as my daily work which makes me more horrible. I really lack confidence to talk loud and to be more open to people around me. I hate myself because of the way I am, I’m feeling very low,hopeless and I wanna run away far..........
Hopefully your ebook will transform me.....🙏🙏🙏
It's a great place to start. After that if you're ready for to begin a path of complete transformation, check out www.TheConfidenceUniversity.com It's requires a MUCH smaller investment than traditional therapy and it's far more effective in less time.
Thank you so much Doctor for these great advices. You made me feel good. Keep up the good work. God Bless u! 😎
Happy to hear that!
Tip #1 is everything.
Thank you!
golden tips. ty doc.
Thanks!
hey ,if anyone else needs to find out about best ways to overcome shyness try Renkarter Stop Shyness Report (just google it ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my m8 got great success with it.
YOU are awesome, Dr. Aziz!! W-o-w, ending 2017 with an extremely powerful, useful, and timely video for me and I'm sure others, so thank you!!
Wishing you and your family a Merry Christmas and/or Happy Holidays!!
And may 2018 be your best year yet!!!!!
I know it will be for both of us!
Thank you for this
My pleasure!
Keep up the good work Dr. Aziz
Thank you, I will!
Hi! Just found you. Great inspiration! Came across your book on Amazon, reading the sample version on Kindle (totally addicted) wondering why the kindle version costs almost as much as the paperback... but still, feeling that I've come over something that can really be helpful for me. Thanks for being open and sharing! Power boost to ya.
So glad you found me, and thank you!
You have fully changed my life forever and I am eternally grateful, thank you Dr Aziz ♥️
That's so awesome to hear!
I used to be fine speaking in public and one day anxiety just came over me, suffered a panic attack and I haven’t been the same since. I can’t do my job of presenting anymore , it’s crippling.
You can beat this! I have a lot of helpful videos here on my channel that will be of use to you. If you'd like to explore more direct help reach out to me here: www.socialconfidencecenter.com/coaching/
Hey everyone, the best info that I have had was by following the Seans Shy Program (i found it on google) - without a doubt the no.1 resource i've tried.
Great video! Thank you for your videos.
My pleasure!
Thanks for this video
Most welcome!
Well presented video straight to the point easy to understand. Thanks. Keep making more videos. It helps.
Thank you, and I will!
Wow, this is so trure. When you live alone and practice self hatred subconciously its so detrimental. Thank you for your advice! Amen, so good.
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you your tip's are practical
You're welcome!
Such a great video. All very true.
“no longer mattering” as Dr. Claire Weeks put it 👍🏻
Yes! Thank you!
Thank you
You're welcome!
Thanks man
You're welcome!
Thank you bro
You're welcome!
Thank you, you really help me!
You're very welcome!
You are Great!!!!!!
Thank you Kathleen!
Wow those are awesome tips
Thank you, put them to good use!
@@GetMoreConfidence yes this isnt what I have my ex does
You the man coach !
No, YOU da' man Malik!
This was what I needed today. Tonight I'm going to this Christmas party with my family and two sets of family friends and their early twenties kids (my age) and I'm bringing my girlfriend along who also suffers from social anxiety and she'll be meeting them all for the first time. Also, there's probably going to be kereoke. Giddy up.
Let me know how it went!
im not shy i just don't care about most of the topics people choose to talk about, small talk bores me, i hate the idea of having to have something to say because its expected, im not shy i am willing to talk to people that are willing to have an actual conversation and not just spew verbal crap for the sake of just opening your mouth, conversation should serve a purpose not just to hear yourself talk, also some people do think you're a total idiot regardless of what you think yourself, the voice exists because outgoing people tend to be insensitive not because the shy person has something wrong with them. people should stop blaming the person who is shy and start pointing the finger at people that don't give a shit about how others feel around them
If this a social style that truly makes you happy and provides a fulfilling life then more power to you!
Yes
You bet!
Thanks for everything you do Aziz. You have completely changed my life. I've read two of your books so far and I think the next step in my journey is to face my anxiety in general (not just social). Do you know of any good books that focus on anxiety?
Do you have a copy of my first book on that very topic, The Solution To Social Anxiety? Also, if you're ready for the next level, you might benefit from being in one of my Mastermind Coaching Groups. If you’d like to investigate this further, let’s have a conversation and see if we’d be a good fit. Reach out to me via the Coaching page on my website here: www.socialconfidencecenter.com/coaching/
Metroid reference! nice!
:)
I liked your first two points. But I found this video in an epic quest to cure my social anxiety without having to talk to people... Surely there must be another way than #3!
Number #3 is CRITICAL! You say you suffer from social anxiety. "Social" isn't a thing when there's only one person. :) Your inner voice, someone I call Your Safety Police, is just trying to stop you from doing something uncomfortable. Remember, everything valuable you desire and want in life lies just on the other side of discomfort!
Thanks from India!!
You're welcome from the USA!
Great video. You changed the way I think about SA. I still have a long way to go but I’m making improvements lately :)
Great to hear you're getting positive results!
Perfect video! Helps alot
So glad to hear!
“Do what you fear and the death of fear is certain.”
I love this video and you. Toxic coach is just another name for the ego, yeah?
Not necessarily.
yes i got it in 2 situations in my life
I'm sorry to hear that, but you can triumph over it!
Do what scares you that hit me up. Thanks for that.
It's one of the keys to getting everything you want.
naice.. great way to boost up the confidence!:)
Absolutely!
@@GetMoreConfidence :)
i love you king
great talk mans o many usegful tipps :)
Thank you!
Just got your book on audible!
Sweet! Which one?
The solution to social anxiety
Awesome, let me know what you think!
Wow really amazing. You've really changed the way i think about myself. What I admire about you is that your tips are practical and irrefutable. Thanks Dr. AZis keep it up. Im from Philippines, may i know where to buy the book "Not Nice". Im excited to learn whats in it.😁
Thank you so much! Glad you're finding my videos useful. You can always find all of my books here: DrAzizBooks.com
Just shared thins with my younger brother hoping it’ll help him the way it helped me ❤️❤️❤️
Way to go big brother!
This guy changed my life...am not perfect yet...but I'm in a much better place than I was when I first saw him on the internet.
Thank you Dr. Aziz
it's so much work
Valuable things often are.
You are saving me, i feel completely peaceful and full of hope when i'm watching you. Every word you say is essential and meaningful, you exude honesty and wisdom. I don't know what your religion is, maybe you just don't have one but i have to say this, may God be with you and save you as well.
Thank you so much for your support! Be sure to take full advantage of all my other free online resources…
1) First, stay in the loop by going here and signing up for my newsletter:
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In the process, you’ll receive my ebook that has helped thousands of people, “5 Steps To Unleash Your Inner Confidence.”
You’ll also receive a lot of helpful tips and information on a regular basis as well as access to resources only available to subscribers.
2) Subscribe to my podcast here: www.ShrinkForTheShyGuy.com
If offers great information for both men and women, including interviews with other leaders in the field of confidence and social anxiety.
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7. Check out my flagship confidence-building program, Confidence University: www.theconfidenceuniversity.com
I take meds that make me feel good so whenever I'm at parties or events I'm really social and out going but there are some days where I forget to take it or run out, I feel overwhelming anxiety and shyness, the people I had fun partying with see the total reverse in my mood and it makes me look fake... I wish I could feel comfortable anywhere anytime without medication, because I like being social and making friends, makes me feel awful nit talking to my new friends because it gives out the impression that I'm ignoring them but actually I'm totally blank headed and I stress over too much about if I'm boring or interesting enough to talk to, I want to fix this before I ruin anymore friendships
Merry Xmas
Thank you!
Can you talk about self consciousness? I really can’t sit in a group of FRIENDS without feeling self conscious
I address that in many videos here on my channel. Check out these two: ua-cam.com/video/mm3YXvuOb-Q/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/A0tNX3x3SBo/v-deo.html
I've been trying for a long time now to improve my confidence, awkwardness and shyness when talking to new people but only in a few instances do i come away feeling happy with how i did. I then start to fall into the cycle of im never gonna get better and im always just gonna be awkward.
That's your inner critic trying to convince you to stop trying to improve yourself. DON'T LISTEN.
That person talking to me looking away is a threat😂😂
Yeah I've been depressed since my senior year of high school 2015 all the way to my freshman year in college. I just never really put a finger on it until after my 1st year was done . My dream was just to go my dream school just to play football that's all I know through high school. Even when I want to try different things I always feel and thought being judged and dislike. I'm so distant from others even in my adulthood. Now I feel like a big disappointment. To my family and I have no friends once so ever. Hell this girl I liked probably loved now getting married to someone else on the day that we met so yeah my life is a complete mess. And I'm always the nice person.
That's a lot of challenges in a short paragraph! But, there's nothing you've said that can't be overcome and put behind you. You may need more assistance than just watching videos here on my channel, but that's a great place to start.
Do what scares you but I was doing job for year and half and I had social anxiety everyday. I gave up and now I am jobless. I faced my fear until the point of panic attacks in front of people. I don't know what to do apart from hiding in my room for 2 years now
Watch this video a few more times and apply what you learn gradually and see if things don't change for the better.
Hello sir .
Since my childhood I use to stammer on some words while talking to strangers or a superior person than me but when I speak those words in alone or in front of mirror I don't stammer even on single word. I get nervous and words are not able to come out of my mouth .
How to cure this .
It's taking all my life 😭😭
Sir...I know I am good and i always wishes everyone should live happily and I have a goal to get succeed.But my mind always thinks about what others thinking about me, how I look to others perspective, am I looking hero for others or down, if some of my friends( but not closer) comes in front of me, I gets fear to talk with them due to this I stopped conversations with so many, even I am start with good conversation I get scared, these points are pulling me back. How i face it sir?
Check out these two videos: ua-cam.com/video/mm3YXvuOb-Q/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/A0tNX3x3SBo/v-deo.html
Hey Dr.Aziz this Angesom I have been watching your videos and it helps me a lot to know my self but I have this low self steam and it effecting my life because I think people are talking about me when ever am around people whether if it is in gym,work or other places.
I blame my self a lot for the things that I don’t have and I don’t push my self to do anything unless I have to and the toxic coach are controlling my thoughts and relationships with people.
Like right now I know what I really need to do but I always try to avoid doing it or make excuses.like I made up some things and make it so important and focus on it, Instead doing the things that matter to me and I should be doing in that moment but telling my self I will do later. I got used to so much and when it came to get the results that I need in my life , I don’t get it . Then the low self steam starts because when I see people get what they want, I start to frustrate and get jealous and hate the other people then I start blaming or use the people or the situation around me us an excuse.
You're not alone Angesom. This is very common with many people dealing with this. You can overcome it and really turn things around. You'd be a perfect candidate for my flagship virtual coaching program: www.TheConfidenceUniversity.com. Check it out and let me know what you think.
So how do we connect when I if sign up for flagship virtual coaching
dude this is like the ad 3 cure to get rich!
Does he have a weed plant in the back
LOL! No, I think it's a Japanese Maple.
S M love this comment😂💀
I thought the cure was weed hahaa
Novian P not really I just found out weed is greed
Looking for this comment and thought I was gonna need that for being more relaxed
What are the odds, finding a helpful video by a doctor with my name. 😂
So smart and handsome
Well, thank you!
dr aziz where can i buy your book from kind sir? i live in the UK
The-Matrix You can find it on Amazon. Also, you can find the audiobook on Audible I think.
www.DrAzizBooks.com
In home 🏠 i feel confident
But when i go out and people seeing me then my face goes down and I'm feel sad
I went to school with this guy yoooooo what u sayin g
?
It’s really hard to do all that it’s feel easy but it’s really really hard 💔💔🥺
Do a podcast with dr burns
Isn't that the maniacal dude from the Simpsons? ;)
Meanwhile my parents: just yell and call her names it's gonna work.
Um...yeah...that's helpful, right?
i want to become an actress but i can't im too shy i dont even like pictures!!! And i barely talk to anyone i feel like my dream will never come true:( i cry all night and wish that i can become an actress but then a voice in my head tells me its impossible and ive been depressed for 4 years ive wanted to become actress since i was 5
One of my top coaches is a professional actor and playwright who also had to overcome this. His name is Jonathon. If you'd like to speak with him hit up here: www.socialconfidencecenter.com/coaching/
Hug it out. I know exactly what you talking about.
I hope more doctors nowadays reference videogames in their lectures haha
Right?! :)
@@GetMoreConfidence I need to buy your book man. my self confidence/social anxiety is pretty bad imo
It’s funny with me... I have social anxiety but I run and race. The most comfortable social environment for me is the starting line, and then I run from everyone LMAO
Interesting approach. :)
Sir social phobia ,case I don't but it's necessary for me becoz my career is in danger, becoz I'm artist in films, any unique suggestion from u brother,
I'm not quite sure what you're asking here?
What if my believer is broken
That it needs a good mending.
P. Diddy real talk
Boom!
I have shyness + social anxiety + fear + intravertness + insecurity + weakness + nervousness + high sensitvity. Extremely tough to break the chain. These damaged me a lot; both socially and professionally.
Well I’m a freshman
And that means...?
bye bye social anxiety
So long!
First impulse: I will not be around 3 years from now.
What makes you say that David?
I thought this was gonna be Aziz ansari
Surprise! :)
I was able to do this with Weedborn CBD products.
Shyness and anxiety is demonic, the Bible has a lot to say about these strongholds.
How so?