Yes. He blocked me on everything out of nowhere in the middle of a texting conversation. It got me so anxious, sad, confused and panicking for a week of begging and chasing him to unblock me. I inflated his ego so much doing this. I was just in disbelief that he could be so fake.
This is their favorite game where they TRY to gain control through ugly ways like blocking. Generally putting someone lower to feel better. pathetic, what a parasite you have to be to like such tricks. Their lives must be really miserable if they want to play like this. It's like they're screaming to stay in your head for a while because They know you'll forget about them quickly after their shits ,,love" show. WE DESERVE constant, devoted love and let fools find their equals.
I’m not at that stage yet, he blocked me Saturday cause I argued with him and called him a POS….Im not telling him or reaching out, but I f&$$? miss him…I know it’s crazy
Yes you're supposeded to completely forget what this issue was that caused the behaviour, usually that you quite innocently exposed their lies, not even consciously, just by accident. They over react and block you, go into fake moral indignation. Then days later they unblock you and act like nothing happened. They need time to work out a story that you were totally wrong, and they were totally right to react as they did. They expect you to forget it, and carry on as normal. All the time they've been working behind the scenes putting fires out with their other supply, and hoping that you'll be grateful to hear from them and forget what you caught them out doing, that you inadvertently exposed their lies.
Yup, she blocked me on the morning of my birthday over something so minor...at age 43?! I ignored her block and carried on with my birthday weekend... she then unblocked me two days later and asked to speak.. I gave her the opportunity.. first thing she said? "I love you"... funny kind of love they have... chaos and drama, that's exactly what I said being with her is like... removed myself..*again :( )
Screw her! Sounds like my idiot ex. Change your phone number and delete all of accounts and create all new ones. Block that hoe and move on! God bless the next fool who comes across them both! That’s what I did!
I have a friend who is a ( female golden child narc ) she doesn't block but has told me 100x how she has a degree in " Ignoring" people, did it to me for over a year after a misunderstanding, and I sat and watched as she sat back refusing to talk to me until I called & literally begged her to talk, apologizing & pleading for her to talk to me, and to this day, she has never meantioned what happened and says "I'm not ever apologizing for something I didnt do" but if we never discuss what happened how do you even know what the issue ever was? And I think more angry at myself at this point for allowing the manipulation to happen and being afraid to even address it because I know shes gonna get upset, say I'm accusing her of something shesnot doing and go silent until I apologize...Ive known her for over 20 yrs and it's getting so frustrating dealing with not being able to say anything or risk the friendship...I really need a way out of this! This is not the kind of friends I need in my life
This video was perfect timing! This just happened with me for a 3rd time with a Narc that's been back in my life for 2 yrs! He discarded me a year ago. Blocked me & then unblocked me 2 months ago. I fell for the...oh I missed you...I was wrong...etc...etc..We texted & seen each other for 1 month & then few weeks ago I went to his house. We had a great time! We hugged & kissed goodbye. He promised to text. 1 day...no text...2 days...no text. 3rd day I try texting...no response. Then I call...I'm blocked! I jump on messenger.. he quickly jumps on & blocks! The wind was knocked out of my sails! I couldn't understand what I did? I now know I did NOTHING!!! He wants the attn the chase because that's what I've done in the past! Guess what I blocked him on FB because he admitted to me he watches ALL his exes profiles...red flag! Now he can't see ME! He had just blocked messenger, not profile. Then I blocked on phone. Is it hard not to unblock...of course. I loved the guy but talk about an emotional roller coaster! Plus I told him when I let him back in if he hurt me I would block him & never go back & he said ok. I'm sure he's thinking...yeah right. But maybe since i actually blocked him on FB he knows I'm serious! Thank you for the info.
Yes I have seen this several times with mine. He would come back and say how sorry he is and then five minutes later... we would be fighting again over everything. He acted like nothing ever happened at all and he always refuses to talk about any past issues at all too. I looked through my past emails between us and I see the patterns you're talking about Ben. It's crazy and so unhealthy too. His moods shift like the wind all the time and he's always hot and then cold with him. I am up to 82 days of no contact right now and trying to beat my record of 128 days of no contact with him. He drove me crazy and I am sick of the fighting and the games anymore. Sometimes, I feel like I'm playing a game too, by ignoring him too though. He is currently giving me the silent treatment again and he's been silent with me now since this past January and I don't even know what I did wrong this time at all? I'm not going to bother reaching out anymore. What's the point? It's not like it will solve anything if I do. It will only just piss me off probably. Life has been good to me lately. Why ruin it?
I know! When they ghost you long enough, it’s enough for you to forget about them so long as you don’t feel sorry for them. Feel sorry for yourself! Their disrespecting you and you allowing it is like you disrespecting you. I would never burn my own hand, over the stove. Why should I let him? Insanity! Never feel sorry for them! Or, “ love them from a distance. “
@@bonnielee316 It is very disrespectful and I totally agree with you there. It shows how immature they behave and how low their emotional intelligence is too. Mine behaves like a toddler and throws temper tantrums like one too. I’m up to 83 days of no contact today. I love my life now so much more. I took myself out his games and drama.. it’s not worth it. If you’re interested. I made a couple of videos on UA-cam about my story and what I went through. If you want to check it out.
the narc wouldn't block or unblock me; what he would do is that right before discarding me- or if I had brought up something in our relationship that had been bothering me- what he would do, is clear our conversation history. This was a huge red flag for me- I didn't recognize it the first time he did it- but after the second time, I started thinking, "okay, this guy has most definitely had a bunch of other relationships, because he's absolutely paranoid about covering his tracks ANYTIME there's a conflict.
3:00 he did exactly this to me. Literally blocked me out of nowhere while texting and the night we were supposed to meet. He never explained why he did that to me when he finally did unblock me a week later after i begged and apologized. 4:25 he made me look like the toxic one even though his insecurity, manipulation and need for control over me made me chase.
I wasn't with a narcissist but I was with someone like that who blocked me and unblocked me all the time. It was really exhausting especially when I already had abandonment issues. There was always a reason though, he said I wasn't myself enough, that I wasn't even trying. There was always something wrong even when I did my best
MY ex narc has been getting Karma dished to him left and right this year. GF he discarded me for broke up with him, lost his job, court cases not going his way, I won't let him control me, was hit with back child support for 6 years, and a week long stent in the hospital. Am I really not allowed to gloat a bit when I see him for child exchanges? Everything I karmicly blocked in his life has caught up to him all within a few months
I don't know if my Narc ever blocked me because I always blocked him. I do remember those odd messages I would get from him when I wouldn't play ball, asking me to block him. That one puzzled me, but of course it was to assert control, knowing that because I was already bonded to him I didn't want to do it. Wanting to please him and feel at my lowest I did it. Then when I suffered withdrawal I'd chase and practically stalk him. 🍒
Ben , Thanks for the clarification, I always wondered about this Block and Unblock game, and then they always have some sort of excuse as to why....It's crystal clear now. I just can't believe that I was stupid enough to fall for all the excuses. Thanks Ben.
I’ll tell you what happened to me before I even watch this video. I suspect that the man is mostly Borderline but seemingly 50% Borderline and 50% narcissist/psychopath. I thought to myself maybe it’s his disorder or maybe his anxiety or maybe his avoidant attachment style; Nope, it was strictly for cruelty. He was getting off on that power and bullying. Oh, he might have also been playing games to get me to do what he wanted. I looked it up on the internet and it could have been grooming in order to see what he could get away with. So the proof is that he found a woman that fit his type. He saw her for one month and then married her in the second month and she wanted a baby with him. She has two children from two previous men. Also, he was a compulsive liar. The fact that he was able to find, fall in love with and marry so easy showed me that all of his so-called, “ illnesses “ was just B.S. I learned a lesson not to feel sorry for certain people ever again. And that Borderlines can be mixed with NPD ( narcissistic personality disorder ). This person was unwilling to go into treatment. In my opinion, the ones that are getting off on bullying will not go into treatment because they will not give up that maladaptive way to make themselves feel better. I’ve got a covert narcissist sister who refuses to give it up. It helps her way too much for her to be able to give it up.
Good Video as Always, chock full of lucid, accurate, and applicable intel... And I'm glad you've resurfaced your backdrop walls, nice picture. Now those imperfections in the drywall don't show up as dirt specks on my computer screen. So I can put the Windex back up and keep it in the hall closet again. haha but nolol.
yes I fell for that after 2 months of no contact. The shame I feel is intense. Of course he just esed me to teach the new supply a lesson. He wants to maintain a herem - each woman have their role. Me at 50 was the nurturer/moter, ex 44 is the mother of his kids so need to keep her sweet to have access to the kids and the new 36 year old for hot s** + the extras he can land...total s** addict and has MHC (mother whore complex) sad excuse for a 'man' but he thinks he is Alpha 😂
What about if they yell so much or they say rude things and you just don’t want anyone that’s next to you to see the main text or hear the calling nonstop
the person I was dating me, I was in NC for four months didn't block her, she reached back out and put me on block again. I can give a rat's ass at this point if she ever takes me off of it. I'm done playing this childish grade school game.
Why does my narcissist husband block me and then unblock send me a text and block me again. But in his text it starts off telling me how this is all my fault and all the things I did to him that were in response to his lying etc. the rest of the text goes on to tell me how much he misses me, loves me and wishes I knew who he really was and would come look for him with open arms and ask for him back. What’s this all about ? He also left me for his older daughter ( had always been my competition and I never understood but she is his supply Can he be cheating on me with her? .. not sexually )
You can’t say that to abused people who have been abused by someone who has one tool to block someone who yells at them and thrashes them and are you a counselor
How come they block you but view you obsessively in private mode on LinkedIn? Is he seeing if I appear sad because he blocked me? I’m done with him just wonder why the constant cyberstalk views.
@@kaviyachidambaram9391 I know it’s him in Private Mode only because it’s his city, 24 views in 2 days, lol I’m sure it’s him but you can never see who private mode is, or block them nice huh? So they can stalk us and we cannot block them. I swear he leaves the city deliberately too or doesn’t realize whoever’s account he’s using shows his city, you can block the city.
Isn't that the reason the Narcissist gives the silent treatment, so you can chase.
YEP!
Yes. He blocked me on everything out of nowhere in the middle of a texting conversation. It got me so anxious, sad, confused and panicking for a week of begging and chasing him to unblock me. I inflated his ego so much doing this. I was just in disbelief that he could be so fake.
💯🤬 They "love-bomb" you(not always) and then ignore you after you fall for them...
RUN!!! It only will get worse!!!
This is their favorite game where they TRY to gain control through ugly ways like blocking. Generally putting someone lower to feel better. pathetic, what a parasite you have to be to like such tricks. Their lives must be really miserable if they want to play like this. It's like they're screaming to stay in your head for a while because They know you'll forget about them quickly after their shits ,,love" show. WE DESERVE constant, devoted love and let fools find their equals.
Happened to me too 😔
My situationship did this to me. They want you to get traumatized and addicted to the extreme highs and lows.
My narc has played the blocking game with me. I just pretend that nothing happened. I really don’t give a rat’s ass anymore.
Same here. She can keep me on block forever for all I care.
I’m not at that stage yet, he blocked me Saturday cause I argued with him and called him a POS….Im not telling him or reaching out, but I f&$$? miss him…I know it’s crazy
Yes you're supposeded to completely forget what this issue was that caused the behaviour, usually that you quite innocently exposed their lies, not even consciously, just by accident. They over react and block you, go into fake moral indignation. Then days later they unblock you and act like nothing happened. They need time to work out a story that you were totally wrong, and they were totally right to react as they did. They expect you to forget it, and carry on as normal. All the time they've been working behind the scenes putting fires out with their other supply, and hoping that you'll be grateful to hear from them and forget what you caught them out doing, that you inadvertently exposed their lies.
My Narc would do this by giving me the silent treatment.
Yup, she blocked me on the morning of my birthday over something so minor...at age 43?! I ignored her block and carried on with my birthday weekend... she then unblocked me two days later and asked to speak.. I gave her the opportunity.. first thing she said? "I love you"... funny kind of love they have... chaos and drama, that's exactly what I said being with her is like... removed myself..*again :( )
Screw her! Sounds like my idiot ex. Change your phone number and delete all of accounts and create all new ones. Block that hoe and move on! God bless the next fool who comes across them both! That’s what I did!
They love to ruin special occasions to devalue you and make themselves center of attention.
I have a friend who is a ( female golden child narc ) she doesn't block but has told me 100x how she has a degree in " Ignoring" people, did it to me for over a year after a misunderstanding, and I sat and watched as she sat back refusing to talk to me until I called & literally begged her to talk, apologizing & pleading for her to talk to me, and to this day, she has never meantioned what happened and says "I'm not ever apologizing for something I didnt do" but if we never discuss what happened how do you even know what the issue ever was? And I think more angry at myself at this point for allowing the manipulation to happen and being afraid to even address it because I know shes gonna get upset, say I'm accusing her of something shesnot doing and go silent until I apologize...Ive known her for over 20 yrs and it's getting so frustrating dealing with not being able to say anything or risk the friendship...I really need a way out of this! This is not the kind of friends I need in my life
Hey EVERYONE!!! BLOCK THE NARCISSIST!!!
BE STRONG.
HEY BEN, the Narcissist is like you punch me in the fist with your face. I didn't punch. you.
he limited me in contact so that I couldn't text him on facebook, but he left access to his photos so I could admire him wow 😑
This video was perfect timing! This just happened with me for a 3rd time with a Narc that's been back in my life for 2 yrs! He discarded me a year ago. Blocked me & then unblocked me 2 months ago. I fell for the...oh I missed you...I was wrong...etc...etc..We texted & seen each other for 1 month & then few weeks ago I went to his house. We had a great time! We hugged & kissed goodbye. He promised to text. 1 day...no text...2 days...no text. 3rd day I try texting...no response. Then I call...I'm blocked! I jump on messenger.. he quickly jumps on & blocks! The wind was knocked out of my sails! I couldn't understand what I did? I now know I did NOTHING!!! He wants the attn the chase because that's what I've done in the past! Guess what I blocked him on FB because he admitted to me he watches ALL his exes profiles...red flag! Now he can't see ME! He had just blocked messenger, not profile. Then I blocked on phone. Is it hard not to unblock...of course. I loved the guy but talk about an emotional roller coaster! Plus I told him when I let him back in if he hurt me I would block him & never go back & he said ok. I'm sure he's thinking...yeah right. But maybe since i actually blocked him on FB he knows I'm serious! Thank you for the info.
Yes I have seen this several times with mine. He would come back and say how sorry he is and then five minutes later... we would be fighting again over everything. He acted like nothing ever happened at all and he always refuses to talk about any past issues at all too. I looked through my past emails between us and I see the patterns you're talking about Ben. It's crazy and so unhealthy too. His moods shift like the wind all the time and he's always hot and then cold with him. I am up to 82 days of no contact right now and trying to beat my record of 128 days of no contact with him. He drove me crazy and I am sick of the fighting and the games anymore. Sometimes, I feel like I'm playing a game too, by ignoring him too though. He is currently giving me the silent treatment again and he's been silent with me now since this past January and I don't even know what I did wrong this time at all? I'm not going to bother reaching out anymore. What's the point? It's not like it will solve anything if I do. It will only just piss me off probably. Life has been good to me lately. Why ruin it?
I know! When they ghost you long enough, it’s enough for you to forget about them so long as you don’t feel sorry for them. Feel sorry for yourself! Their disrespecting you and you allowing it is like you disrespecting you. I would never burn my own hand, over the stove. Why should I let him? Insanity! Never feel sorry for them! Or, “ love them from a distance. “
Amnesia..fools
@@bonnielee316 It is very disrespectful and I totally agree with you there. It shows how immature they behave and how low their emotional intelligence is too. Mine behaves like a toddler and throws temper tantrums like one too. I’m up to 83 days of no contact today. I love my life now so much more. I took myself out his games and drama.. it’s not worth it. If you’re interested. I made a couple of videos on UA-cam about my story and what I went through. If you want to check it out.
Xenafire narcissistic abuse survivor,
Ok, thank you. I will check it out.
@@bonnielee316 you’re welcome. It felt good to get it out on video too. You should try it sometime.
the narc wouldn't block or unblock me; what he would do is that right before discarding me- or if I had brought up something in our relationship that had been bothering me- what he would do, is clear our conversation history.
This was a huge red flag for me- I didn't recognize it the first time he did it- but after the second time, I started thinking, "okay, this guy has most definitely had a bunch of other relationships, because he's absolutely paranoid about covering his tracks ANYTIME there's a conflict.
He did the block/unblock game. It's hard for me to be in a more regular relationship, it's not the same.
What do You mean by saying ,,It is not The same"?
Ivana Palamar,
Probably because of the drama and chaos roused her up so much that a, “ normal “ relationship might feel boring; just my guess.
@@bonnielee316 interesting how our brain work in these pattern
3:00 he did exactly this to me. Literally blocked me out of nowhere while texting and the night we were supposed to meet. He never explained why he did that to me when he finally did unblock me a week later after i begged and apologized. 4:25 he made me look like the toxic one even though his insecurity, manipulation and need for control over me made me chase.
I wasn't with a narcissist but I was with someone like that who blocked me and unblocked me all the time. It was really exhausting especially when I already had abandonment issues. There was always a reason though, he said I wasn't myself enough, that I wasn't even trying. There was always something wrong even when I did my best
This did happen to me the block/ unblock game till I finally had enough and walked away for good
Same
MY ex narc has been getting Karma dished to him left and right this year. GF he discarded me for broke up with him, lost his job, court cases not going his way, I won't let him control me, was hit with back child support for 6 years, and a week long stent in the hospital. Am I really not allowed to gloat a bit when I see him for child exchanges? Everything I karmicly blocked in his life has caught up to him all within a few months
I don't know if my Narc ever blocked me because I always blocked him. I do remember those odd messages I would get from him when I wouldn't play ball, asking me to block him. That one puzzled me, but of course it was to assert control, knowing that because I was already bonded to him I didn't want to do it. Wanting to please him and feel at my lowest I did it. Then when I suffered withdrawal I'd chase and practically stalk him. 🍒
Yup!
Are you saying they go through cycles of ghosting to get you bonded to them?
Yes
He definitely has been doing this to me to get me addicted to the extreme highs and lows.
Ben , Thanks for the clarification, I always wondered about this Block and Unblock game, and then they always have some sort of excuse as to why....It's crystal clear now. I just can't believe that I was stupid enough to fall for all the excuses. Thanks Ben.
Yes they love it.....
He even told me that rollercoasters are fun when i described our situationship as a emotional rollercoaster.
I’ll tell you what happened to me before I even watch this video.
I suspect that the man is mostly Borderline but seemingly 50% Borderline and 50% narcissist/psychopath.
I thought to myself maybe it’s his disorder or maybe his anxiety or maybe his avoidant attachment style; Nope, it was strictly for cruelty. He was getting off on that power and bullying. Oh, he might have also been playing games to get me to do what he wanted. I looked it up on the internet and it could have been grooming in order to see what he could get away with.
So the proof is that he found a woman that fit his type. He saw her for one month and then married her in the second month and she wanted a baby with him. She has two children from two previous men. Also, he was a compulsive liar. The fact that he was able to find, fall in love with and marry so easy showed me that all of his so-called, “ illnesses “ was just B.S. I learned a lesson not to feel sorry for certain people ever again. And that Borderlines can be mixed with NPD ( narcissistic personality disorder ). This person was unwilling to go into treatment. In my opinion, the ones that are getting off on bullying will not go into treatment because they will not give up that maladaptive way to make themselves feel better. I’ve got a covert narcissist sister who refuses to give it up. It helps her way too much for her to be able to give it up.
Good Video as Always, chock full of lucid, accurate, and applicable intel... And I'm glad you've resurfaced your backdrop walls, nice picture. Now those imperfections in the drywall don't show up as dirt specks on my computer screen. So I can put the Windex back up and keep it in the hall closet again. haha but nolol.
Very true
My ex gf always blocks me after a fight then unblocking then blocking again !!??
They sure do
yes I fell for that after 2 months of no contact. The shame I feel is intense. Of course he just esed me to teach the new supply a lesson. He wants to maintain a herem - each woman have their role. Me at 50 was the nurturer/moter, ex 44 is the mother of his kids so need to keep her sweet to have access to the kids and the new 36 year old for hot s** + the extras he can land...total s** addict and has MHC (mother whore complex) sad excuse for a 'man' but he thinks he is Alpha 😂
What about if they yell so much or they say rude things and you just don’t want anyone that’s next to you to see the main text or hear the calling nonstop
the person I was dating me, I was in NC for four months didn't block her, she reached back out and put me on block again. I can give a rat's ass at this point if she ever takes me off of it. I'm done playing this childish grade school game.
Great explanation. Just subscribed 👍
How do u know when ur blocked? I don't even know how to tell🤷♀️ I don't even bother looking.
I think it goes to voicemail.
You can't see their social media if they block you but usually you can block them back now on most apps.
I got tired of the arguing. It got old quick
Why does my narcissist husband block me and then unblock send me a text and block me again. But in his text it starts off telling me how this is all my fault and all the things I did to him that were in response to his lying etc. the rest of the text goes on to tell me how much he misses me, loves me and wishes I knew who he really was and would come look for him with open arms and ask for him back.
What’s this all about ?
He also left me for his older daughter ( had always been my competition and I never understood but she is his supply
Can he be cheating on me with her? .. not sexually )
You can’t say that to abused people who have been abused by someone who has one tool to block someone who yells at them and thrashes them and are you a counselor
are you even a narcissist? you seem too self aware. lol
Prob in therapy for awhile?
Read intro, he is self aware Narci
How come they block you but view you obsessively in private mode on LinkedIn? Is he seeing if I appear sad because he blocked me? I’m done with him just wonder why the constant cyberstalk views.
How to check who views us in private mode on linkedin ? Is premium needed to check it ?
@@kaviyachidambaram9391 I know it’s him in Private Mode only because it’s his city, 24 views in 2 days, lol I’m sure it’s him but you can never see who private mode is, or block them nice huh? So they can stalk us and we cannot block them. I swear he leaves the city deliberately too or doesn’t realize whoever’s account he’s using shows his city, you can block the city.