Her mom actually moved to another state for her to attend a school with kids as gifted as she was. They visited first. She was allowed to do some trial days at the school. She made friends quickly. Mom asked her what did she want to do. The daughter told her she wanted to attend that school. So, mom made it happen.
There’s a difference between being gifted and being a genius. If you are a “gifted kid” you essentially have a developmental disorder sort of like ADHD or ASD that means you learn academic skills and social skills inverted from your peers - among other symptoms. It’s not an official diagnosis yet but it’s clear that’s the trajectory of the research. It’s simply that the world rewards the symptoms of being gifted and punishes those of ASD and ADHD - this is why being gifted is also correlated with anxiety and depression. It’s actually comorbid Being a GENIUS though is a very different thing - it requires that one of your kinds of intelligence is more than 2.5 or 3 standard deviations from the mean. This will not change as you get older and is relatively consistent- especially if trained in the area of your genius it can even expand.
My youngest was the same way. As soon as she found a school full of people like her, she relaxed and absolutely rocked school. Now shes in one of the top engineering schools in the US and absolutely THRIVING! Its been so incredible to watch her find her place! She graduated high-school with 67 credit hours of college classes and her associates degree. Now she's a 'year one', but doing junior level courses.
Only because she happened to be good at science. If her brilliance was in a field that was less valued no one would care and she'd probably be on the street half dead.
My oldest daughter ended up the same way. For years when she was little she hardly ever spoke and spent time alone. She was tested to see what disability she could possibly have but instead they found out her mind wasn't being challenged enough and she got bored easily. We moved her up a few grades in elementary school and she thrived. Now she's in her 30"s and works as a research supervisor for a group of scientists looking for a cure for Children's cancer. So always be involved early with your children because you never know. You have no idea of how much a child's mind can quickly soak up information.
I hope that big brain of hers finds the cure and we actually use it to help our children around the world!!! Good job mom for everything you’ve done and everything you are continuing to do to support your baby girl!!!
May God continue to bored that beautiful wonderful young woman. As a mom of a child in a three year battle with Wilms Tumor I pray they are successful. These babies are counting on them. 💕💕💕 Thanks for sharing mom!
I hear this a lot. My child threw the desk across the room because he’s bored. I’m glad it actually worked out in your situation where it was the truth
My son was very gifted . They placed in the program and he said it wasn’t challenging enough for him . I took him out . He started making beats at 13 and selling them . He died in 2017 due to cancer . But he was a genius.
When I was in 4th grade, I was 8 and school staff and administrators advised my parents to let them skip me to 7th grade because sending me to 5th grade would be a waste of my time and it would risk that I'd lose interest in my academics as they would seem boring. My mom didn't like the idea, but the administration team decided that I would be promoted to 6th Grade. By the time that I was in my Junior year, one of my teachers and the Guidance Counselor recommended for me to graduate. I was only 14 and I didn't like the idea as I knew that my mom would not let me attend college, let alone to live on campus, at such an early age to be surrounded by adult peers. I went to college 4.5 years after. At that time, I felt as though I had been cursed. In reality, it was a blessing in desguise. Those would be my mom's last four years before passing and I feel blessed to have stayed home with my mom for those last years of her life. God works mysterious ways.
Sorry for your loss. In this new age of Big Bang Theory smart kids are normalized & you not skipping ahead was you being gifted with staying home & getting to love your mom the way you couldn't from college.
I set records on these sorts of puzzles when I was evaluated as a child. A few decades, severe alcoholism, pill abuse, and a couple of head injuries later, I can sometimes fit a square peg into a square hole.
even at any set aside issues that weren’t forseen, those of us who have these ability’s are pushed too far and treated as adults rather than children which burns all of us out and leads us to addiction- you’re not alone and praise to you for continuing after
My friend brother was a certified genius. He never fit in. He had zero Social skills. He completed H.S. at 14. He received his PHD in Electrical Engineering with a double major in a second Engineering program at 22. He worked for the government 1 year. He slept in his car the entire time. Was found dead in his car during COVID. He was buried in trash and all his possessions in his car. He never owned a phone, almost never cash a check. Shopped Goodwill only. He often ate from soup kitchens and never paid for a meal at least not that we knew of. He would not allow any intervention and he was too smart to be in a guardianship 😢😢😢. So sad we just couldn't save him.😢😢😢
That’s so sad. I lived in my car during the pandemic but due to health reasons. I am in heart failure due to chemo I had to do when I was 19. It was already a difficult time so I can imagine the struggles with that alone but then to throw everything else he must have had going on in his mind, I hope he is RIP
As a child, I aced all my schoolwork as I found it too easy, but regularly scored badly for effort. This left me with a lifelong belief that I wasn't good enough for anyone. It took until my mid 40's for me to be diagnosed with autism, but by the damage was irreversible. Being gifted academically is worth nothing if it leaves a person feeling as though they have nothing worthwhile to contribute in life
I will say I agree with both of them I was a gifted kid that hit burnout early (13) due to extremely high expectations and other added stressors, but I went to a trade school that had way more like minded people my junior year and immediately thrived. It still took time through that to recover from burnout but hands on learning was way more beneficial for me and I was back to getting straight As like before the burnout set in. Gifted kids tend to be what some might call “too aware” meaning you over analyze everything you or anyone else does which is exhausting and super stressful, you could tell just by the “is that okay?” When she did the puzzle
My youngest son was very good at math. The school moved him to advanced math class and he failed. P.S. when he got older he got kicked out of a casino because they said he was cheating. He was that good. Unfortunately he also liked to drink and didn't get along with his wife so he took his own life.
@@BlizzyBeezz Overanalyzing and being "too aware" could also just be signs of slight OCD, or it could also mean that you're like me and suffer from ADHD (severe ADHD in my case.) However, I do agree with you on how stressful,exhausting and sometimes overwhelming/frustrating. It's interesting how some behaviors correlate with eachother, which could lead to uncovering both abilities/disabilities.
@@jerrysneedsr1066 I'm so sorry for your loss. Have you ever wondered what sort of possibilities and things your son could of accomplished if he had only put the same time,energy and effort as he did with drinking alcohol/gambling , and putting all that energy towards doing something good , imagine the possibilities
I've never understood why high IQ kids should skip straight to college or skip classes anyway. Intellugence is one thing but education and building social skills is another, you can't skip on thaz
They'll get bored at school from not being challenged enough. In my brother's case he was extremely turbulent and was a pain in the ahh of all his teachers. In my case I just didn't feel like learning (and ironically started feeling dumber) but also had trouble socializing with my classmates cause of difference in mindset
When I was a kid, if you were like this school didn't help you build either study or social skills. The "education" just taught you ever more elaborate forms of laziness to avoid going mad from boredom, and the "socialization" was daily abuse at the hands of ones peers. I hated school, so goddamned much. By the time I was shunted into the "gifted" program I was already broken. Didn't know how to learn until I was 30. And I still haven't figured out how to maintain relationships.
that is why you need to place them with similarly high iq individuals so that they don't feel out of place among other children. Problem with that is those schools tend to push them too hard so that they don't live like kids. So the difficulty is balance.
My daughter was considered gifted. But since we were military and moved every 18 months, many states require evaluation before placing a child in a gifted program. My daughter would be bored and not do her best at first because, as she said, "I already know this stuff!" When my husband retired, we moved back home. She was placed in all AP classes, finished all the required maths in less than 2 years. Took summer school classes to finish early. THEN her Senior year crashed and burned. Panic attacks, suicidal tendencies and had to be hospitalized for 3 months. I thank her wonderful principal, counselor and teachers, they rallied around her and helped her graduate with her class in regular classes. 3 of her teachers said she was so far ahead she only had to do the final. 2 only required attendance. 1 required a term paper. ❤
I was that kid. Parents chose not to alter my education. I had a breakdown in 5th grade. Then I realized it was all a joke. I kept that going until I retired at 65 years old. Then I realized that I had failed to be me. I took a year off and basically read, slept and concentrated. Now I am free. I have great creative and artistic projects underway. I have friends new and old who think that I am a good person and I love their company. Started teaching myself piano last month.
My youngest was taken to do a Mensah test, and the teacher told her she would have to leave her friends. My daughter failed by one point on purpose, I laughed and laughed. She was not going to leave her friends, and I just let her bloom.
Why would being a member of mensa require her to no longer have her old friends? Isn't the decision to go to a new school made between the student and the parent? Did they have some requirements i'm not aware of? Or did she tragically believe the teacher?
My sister excelled at school at did everything early. She was tested in about kindergarten and she answered “M” for every question because she didn’t want to take it. I made a deal with my mom and got sushi for doing the test and did well but she never wanted us to be in gifted programs anyways which I am thankful for.
This was my struggle When I was a kid. No brag either, it made me bored and extremely disruptive and weird. I would finish tests and just sit around bothering other kids or making noises or sticking my skin with pencils because I couldn’t sit still with my own thoughts. I had already memorized everything in the room and where it was. This was before fidget toys or tactile devices were a thing and you were supposed to just sit and wait for everyone else to finish. I got labeled retarded by most of my peers and some of my teachers because of my odd behavior, but cognitive tests put me way above college level in 3rd grade. Unfortunately, the world was much different then and my gifts weren’t nourished and i eventually found myself interested in drugs and alcohol to soothe the mania and overthinking. Now that I’m an adult, I am able to recognize what happened, but because I wasn’t trained when my brain was developing, I think my gift is gone. Sure I’m intelligent, but my problem solving skills, cause and effect recognition and pattern recognition skills aren’t what they used to be. If you have a kid like this….. give them EVERYTHING they need to nurture them. They will be the ones to save the world
I hope you don't give up. You may surprise yourself one day by challenging yourself in small ways for starters . Maybe waking up those dormant parts of your brain. I don't know much about your skills. But I hope you success in new growth and achievements. Hopefully achievements in things you thought you may have lost, but never did. Best wishes.
@@Sirjuancarlos6262 I dunno. I always had ADHD, but my retention abilities are now pretty average. I feel like there’s a window of opportunity in a developing brain that gets closed at a certain point if it’s not stimulated. That or I just fried it with all the garbage I put in my body in my 20s. Either way I did notice that when I went back to college I actually had to study and practice, which is something I didn’t have to do when I was in primary school. I thought “this must be how normal people learn!” I get interested in learning new skills, master them, and then move on to a new hobby. My uncle went to a Montessori school when he was 6 and went on to graduate Harvard medical, but like me he got bored as a surgeon and now does day trading!! lol
Oh I resonate so much with you. I would actually start doodling on the table as I would finish any test in half the time everyone else finished theirs and I would ace them too. There was one teacher that went all the way to the school director to tell them about how fast I understand the study material and how I always had no more then 1 mistake in my tests that I would complete in 15 minutes instead of 45. They all shrugged it off, my parents never really did anything with it and just labeled it as "the way I am". Now I'm an adult trying to give myself the space I need that I was not given as a child. Btw I had my breakthrought as a Cancer Research Assistant two years ago. The doctor I assisted was very suprised that I never went to medical school to become a doctor.
I just want you all to know. I have always been a straight 4.0 GPA student (best GPA for my school), I’ve taken every excelled class I can and made the top teams in sports. This always caused my parents to push me, to try getting me to do better. For all you parents out there. Don’t do that. My parents didn’t realize it and I never spoke out about it but with them trying to help push me they just dragged me. I started having suicidal thoughts and hating the world, them included. I came close many times to ending my life, but as you can tell, I didn’t. But they’d always tell me “why is your grade so low, it should be 100! It at least 98” and that really damaged me. I started thinking I wasn’t good enough. I started thinking they hated me and didn’t love me because they wouldn’t do the same with my brothers. I had a brother get a 1.7 GPA and my parents congratulated him. I was never congratulated for doing good in school which hurt me and started the suicidal thoughts. And although this video isn’t about sports at all. I played hockey and was always on the best/second best team. After games my mom would say nice job here nice job there. But my dad, trying to help, would always point out what I did wrong. Rarely the good things, he’d raise his voice when I tried talking back to say why I did it. I now know he was just trying to help, but you don’t realize that when you’re 13.
No he wasn’t just trying to help. He was doing it for his own ego. He may have been jealous of you and criticizing you gave him a sense of empowerment. What he did was wrong and you need to acknowledge that and of course forgive him.
@ maybe, he was my coach when I first started so he wouldn’t let me talk back because you don’t talk back to your coaches. But when he was no longer my coach he still told me not to talk back
Enjoy your age and your life, find the joy in it, not the ugly. Sometimes, as parents and adults, We think we know what's best for our kids, We don't. We are only trying. I know that I'm only speaking as a parent but they do love you. I love mine so much that the Universe couldn't measure and it wasn't enough, they resented my intrusion. So I had to back off and let them breathe and live their lives as they see fit, It was Fair and Right..for them. I had to govern my own. So find your peace.
Same here. My mom complained when we went had awards 2x a year for straight As.... mom would say another one don't you get one after every semester? I graduated 3rd out of 1200 with only 1 B IN MY ENTIRE HIGH SCHOOL CAREER. 3.89. All my family. Could do was say be a little more realistic be a hair dresser ... didn't get proper help for college watched people below me graduate bottom.of class get full rides... I didn't get a dime. Or help from the school. Ended up 50k in debt and still made straight As all through every college course. My family and school never supported me and I regret seeking help all these years later as disability doesn't pay the bills and I feel I wasted my talents and abilities because of constant roadblocks and mental health issues that went unnoticed and denied .
As the mother of 2 gifted children I couldn't agree more.... It's so important to understand how they learn and not to overwhelm them. Loving and protecting is more important than anything else ❤️
In this instance, her daughter was just having fun in the room until the adults noticed her doing the puzzles while they were working. The doctors weren't conducting a formal evaluation.
Signing up a kid for school basically says you give the school a general pass in their efforts to educate your child. This is the equivalent of a medical examination. Think about some doctor pulling your kid away to give them a CT scan or a psychological evaluation without even saying a word to you.
School is an institution where you give consent to be given a test at anytime when you get in It,the first day. Being a parent is different,you can't go to someone's child outside any institution and just randomly analyse them
"which could explain the panic attacks, she needs to be around peers who can relate to her and the way she thinks" ❤️ other kids have that, all the time, all their lives, she's always alone, I can't imagine that difference 🤯
This is why I hid my skills, I saw how adults ruined my friends life. I refused to do the cognative exams. My mom knew when I flunked it on purpose she gave me that proud smirk and said, "you're not that slick." I got into mensa at 11 and since then it's been annoying how some folks really expect greatness. Sometimes being brilliant can be a burden.
I think another burden would be the education failing you and setting you back rather than helping you get better at the things you lack in. Me personally, I don't think failing first grade got me any smarter and I don't think the tutors helped. You could say it's the mindset but I still think I am stupid. We probably don't understand each other at all.
@@aspendayss7941 You are not stupid, and some people do have high intelligence. You are absolutely right that the system has failed you and so many others. The truth is, the system is designed this way - to keep the wealthy in power while the masses remain ignorant and oppressed. The ultra-rich secretly manipulate governments to serve their self-serving agendas. And governments in turn use propaganda and manipulation to control the people. Sadly, public schools today are merely extensions of this corrupt system, failing to teach students the vital real-life skills they need to succeed, such as banking, saving, investing and building wealth. As someone who began learning about investing and financial literacy at the young age of 15 through my own initiative, it shocked me to discover that such critical knowledge was completely absent from my public school education. When I later attended a state school that finally did discuss topics like investing and 401Ks, I was appalled to see that my classmates were completely lost, not because they lacked intelligence, but because they had never been taught these essential money skills. The uncomfortable fact is that our education system is now more focused on churning out profit than producing an enlightened populace. If you can afford the best private education, you'll get the royal treatment. But if not, well, then you'll just have to settle for whatever menial job you can find. That's the harsh reality of the system we're trapped in today. The deck has been stacked against you and the majority from the start.
@@deckzone3000 They actually kicked you out for being smarter than them! That’s like a real-life episode of “Dumb and Dumber.” Honestly, it sounds like a classic case of an inferiority complex at play. My decision to walk away from Mensa was solidified when a fellow member expressed disbelief in the existence of Homo sapiens. At that moment, I recognized that I was surrounded by obstinate ignorance; her conviction nearly ignited my temper. So, they kicked you out don’t sweat it; Mensa isn’t a badge of honor but more like a fancy club where everyone’s trying to prove they did indeed understand the instructions to a childhood puzzle. Most members are just there for the validation - like toddlers wearing superhero capes, desperately hoping someone notices how “smart” they are. Real intellectuals? They’re too busy contemplating the universe or it's distruction.
I was a gifted kid. Reading before walking and talking, figuring out puzzles. They tested me at 14 had a 167 iq... hated math, loved english and history, curious about everything. Thankfully my parents wanted me to be normal as possible
Yes, but math was easy anyway, wasn't it? And the precice concepts and predictability were comfortable. I took gifted and talented English instead of trig. Both had their merits, but G&T English appealed to my creativity. It's a shame the teacher was a very unhappy person.
GIFTED AND GENIUS ARENT THE SAME!!! A genius has a skill set or type of intelligence several standard deviations from the mean. Gifted is defined by a slightly better academic performance- and may actually be a type of developmental disorder like ADHD or ASD. This is especially true since it’s linked to lower skills in other areas as well as depression and anxiety disorders which are often comorbid with developmental disorders. These things aren’t mutually exclusive but they aren’t the same thing. I’m a gifted genius with ADHD and possibly ASD. I’ve gone through testing at some of the top institutions and attended some of the best schools- genius is way more common than it used to be but there’s a difference between that and gifted for sure.
@@sarahnelson8836 This obsession with defining ‘gifted’ vs. ‘genius’ isn’t healthy, especially since these distinctions don’t even exist. Trying to split hairs over abstract terms is pointless and comes off as self-serving. Intelligence isn’t about labels; it’s about action. Instead of fixating on this, focus on contributing something meaningful.
@@yad1937 You do realize that there’s a very real damage that is done to gifted kids BECAUSE people don’t understand it’s not the same thing right? It very much matters to be able to provide kids the resources they actually need… because the evidence does show it is likely a complex disorder which you seem to think isn’t a big deal? But sure I’m self serving while you are the one who, despite not listening to the new evidence presented, is being totally self sacrificing
@@yad1937 I'm studying Early childhood education, and there is very much a difference in the way the educational system views both terms. The Special Education department has been trying to do away with labels for inclusion purposes for many years but it's not easy redefining anything.
This is easy to deal with. Just ask the kid what they want to do. If they would rather be bored in school but stay because of friends, do nothing, or encourage any hobby she picks up. If she would rather accelerate her schooling because she prefers the mental stimulation, do that. Just keep an eye on her and don't be to stubborn to change trajectories if she changes her mind or doesn't seem to be coping well with her choice.
Sorry but no, kids should not just do what they want to. I know what you mean but it's incredibly naive to think that even smart kids will make the right decisions. Children need a guiding hand.
Nope. If the kid is too smart for the class and you force them to stay, you are just making their life miserable. You may think you know better because you are older, but that is not necessarily true. You are putting a gifted child among dumb children(comparatively) where they can pick up things easily while the rest dont. Imagine you are teaching Algebra, the gifted kid picks it up quickly in the first lecture, but the rest of the class doesn't. The teacher takes repeats the lecture, repeats the formulas for other kids. While the gifted kid sits there bored listening to something she understands over and over again. The other issue is socialization, like kids do dumb stuff and fight over dumb illogical things. They do things without thinking, but a gifted kid would be smart enough to see through the thing and would not do it. Why push a doorbell and run, it may stimulate others, but not me. Or why fight over something illogical, or why argue over something when it is statistically clear. So the problems start arising and the kid becomes isolated from the rest. So it is better to listen to the kid if they are not satisfied with their class. Helping hand doesn't mean forcing kids to go through school because they dont know anything. Sometimes kids know better than we do and it is ok to listen to them.
@@danielcota5716 That’s why join the circus and get pregnant at 15 weren’t options I proposed. Parents have nothing to lose by listening to their kids and offering them good options based on the child’s personality. That’s a guiding hand. A forceful hand is giving your child no options. The video comment section has stories from gifted kids who weren’t given the choice on how or if they even wanted use their gifts and it did not turn out well for them.
Good for you!! I definitely felt held back by my family. School was such a waste of time. I am also thrilled to be free of those systems. I know how you feel.
Former gifted kid here, i was forced to be in our majorly underfunded gt program, and my friends and i were split up to boost the scores of classes. I was insanely bored, and started picking up bunches and bunches of extra hobbies just i could have more to do. Thankfully my parents helped me in every way they could, providing me the tools i needed to be successful. The real problem here is the school system being more concerned with scores than the teaching of students.
Same. I was placed in a GT program as a kid with a few others. I have no idea how I got into it but it was an extremely small group of us. I thought it was just a fun class but I ended up failing my entire freshman year of high school from the pressure. It can be crippling to wear the weight of this kind of "gift". I never felt normal as a child and found myself ostracized by my classmates as a whole. I remember doing these tests. I thought they were a game. I flew through them and always looked forward to them during "play time". I guess I was being tested all along. Sucks to know that now.
"My question is, why is she being evaluated without my consent?" Simple, she's not being evaluated. She's being marveled at. It's like watching someone crush a rubiks cube. You're amazed and hand them another or a bigger one. Are you testing them? No, you're just watching with your jaw on the floor.
Just to put this out there, not all kids NEED to be immediately moved up in grade level or shuffled off to another school, but all kids NEED to have this level of attention from their caregivers/guardians/parents. Most of the time, early intelligence is misunderstood as a problem to be solved, and not as the solution to the misunderstood problem.
I got stuck getting dragged to festivals and fell through the cracks most of my life. It's good to see a show that acknowledges the possibility of intelligent kids being misjudged due to being surrounded by people who either don't understand them or get jealous of their abilities...
My oldest son is extremely gifted as well. The kid amazes Me everyday. His teachers always recommend bumping grades, but it took something similar to this for His Dad and I to take it seriously. Love seeing this ❤
nearly 30 years ago I did a bunch of tests like this and I always had really strong spacial abilities. I was in the top 1% of the population for solving them quickly but the top 1% was mostly male. If you absolutely love puzzles, it's a real kick to do those puzzles and it is calming. Everyone always hated doing jigsaws with me because for every 10 I would put in the 3-4 other people doing the puzzle would put in 1. I had to stop doing jigsaws with others except for my daughter and we normally can finish a 1000 pice puzzle in 2-3 hours.
Wait it's not normal to finish them in that timeframe? I got my ADHD diagnosis quite recently - could my love for and being really fast at solving jigsaw puzzles be related?
@@natiquinn830Its pretty normal with practice tbh. There are puzzle competitions that people who love jigsaw puzzles go to even. Thats the problem with some IQ and cognitive tests, they target the average person, not the people who love certain hobbies that objectively make the tests easier and less nerve wracking to take.
@@natiquinn830 I don't know about the ADHD and puzzles, but having strong spacial abilities most defnitely. I've slowed down with puzzles as so others would find it more enjoyable to do puzzles with me.
This is exactly how I "played" with these puzzles. I was in the 3rd grade, and had no clue I was taking a bunch of tests. I thought we were playing games, and I was just happy to be winning.
😢 I feel this!!! My niece was sent to a Gifted School and she felt pushed/pressured into going. When tested again, they found her only 12 years old already at advanced college levels. She finished school early!!! Yay...NO!!! Never went to college...fell into the baby mama stereotype... unemployed because she doesn't like authority...and creates drama that nobody "supports" her!!!
See if she's willing to get an associates degree in either nursing, radiology tech, physical therapy assistant, occupational therapy assistant, respiratory therapy. I'm sure she'll get through one of these programs and, then will be financially independent quickly. Even LPN. Then, she can make all her own decisions from there.
Remember parents, if you ever have gifted kids it’s important to feed into their talents but don’t put too much pressure on them. I remember getting As in every subject for years and eventually the pressure my parents were placing on my shoulders grew too much. I tried too hard to please and lost the spark I had. Everything you do eventually grows dull and you can lose the motivation and confidence to even think you’ll be able to do anything. Don’t place the weight of your expectations on your kids.
My son used to get straight F's but scored very hight on SAT's so they kept passing him. So i had him tested and his IQ was 135 in 4th grade. He was so smart but refused to do his work. He is so stubborn and bullheaded.
This was me in highschool too. Flunked everything but my electives. Flunked pre algebra in 8th grade but tested high and was put in calculus and geometry in 9th. Was told I was smart but a social butterfly or didn't apply myself. Even had teachers ask if I was going to do the assignment or were they wasting paper. Junior year I did an IQ test and scored 145 and then 1500 on my SATs but was missing 21 credits by this point needed to graduate. Ended up diagnosed with AuDHD and took the GED test to grad early and skipped senior year.
I had/have severe social anxiety and was sent to a gifted program an hour away one day a week during elementary school and middle school. It took me out of my element completely and made my anxiety worse. Just be sure that your kids want to participate in special programs. It was really hard on me.
I also want to mention that I never related to my “peers.” They were drilled to be smart. Mine came from my own mind. I will never be able to explain how I was able to answer questions and solve things…these kids were still different than me. I was isolated with the isolated kids.
It makes sense as to why Meredith didn't want them to talk about jer child like that. It's her choice what she does for her daughter and it's also her daughter's choice! Just because she is smart doesn't mean she has to be singled out!
lol literally how my parents talk about my seven-year-old niece when she’s using her iPad. I wouldn’t put too much weight on what old people say they tend to find everything amazing
This girl is so lucky, she have smart intelligent grownups around. I wasn't and get diagnosed with autism with very high IQ at 42, and still my mother don't believe it. I cant servive now
@@sumaiya3385 I think he means that because of the lateness of his diagnosis, he can't survive by himself properly. I'm in the same boat as him. Got diagnosed at 28... I'm just messed up beyond help, I can't be fixed. You know what's worse? I'm sick enough to be useless, but not sick enough to be taken seriously. In some years I'll be living on the streets, IF I survive until then.
@@sumaiya3385 as someone that identifies with the other two comments; if you think it's hard to earn a living wage try doing so but your traits make it twice as hard since someone who is a more natural socializer will almost always be picked over you for financial reward. Similar to bro above me I'll be lucky to survive past my 30s. Inb4 I have to explain that acknowledging reality for what it is doesn't mean not trying to succeed anyways. What other choice do I have, really?
I was the same way. I met a guy who told me that he knew a friend who was a professor in an academy for gifted kids. When I met him, he was in a wheelchair. He was also very smart and gifted.
I’m not a genius, but I’m definitely not normal. My family, and friends, everyone I’m around, for that matter, sees the world in, one way or another, a very similar or the same way. I don’t. And when I try to speak and nobody seems to understand or they end up thinking I’m crazy, yes, that can lead me to panic attacks. The worst part is they don’t even see it. They don’t realize criticizing the way I think is hurting me so much, to them it’s all discipline or lecture. I just want someone to listen. Is that too much to ask in today’s world?
My son is like that. Took crib apart at 1 with plastic tools & mastered origami at 2. Hed watch cartoons & not even look at the paper & next thing you know theres swans & frogs all over the place
It’s because it’s not her. Some people are just self centered. They can’t be happy for others, even their own children. Look up “ narcissism.” Or borderline personality disorder. If it fits, never tell them. They will deny it. Do it for your own peace of mind. It’s ok to tell a counselor if you have one.
My mom always knew I had a high IQ testing just confirmed it but she also didn’t want me to feel pressured to be a “genius”. Meredith probably didn’t want other people unknowingly pressuring her kid. There is a difference between accommodating a gifted kid and pressuring them but you have to be careful.
Because it's not exciting. Have a read through of the comments from people who were diagnosed as gifted children. It comes with a whole host of issues, especially socialisation. Adults look at these kids and see a pay pig; someone they can ride to a better place in life. She's literally a child. She needs to be allowed to be a child without being forced into a maturity she's not ready for.
I was given one of those tests. The one where you have to match the blocks to the picture. I was told I did it faster than anyone she ever tested. I was slow with all the other tests though. I think it has to do with spatial reasoning. I'm told I'm a good packer. And I love Tetris.
We have one Math prodigy.. Calculus at 6yo? Was sent to gifted school.. Still overachiever then he went to a local uni for degree for a year.. Guess what?? They remove him after that one year cozz "he didnt finish high school and have the high school education cert" which usually was needed to further study.. Tried for oversea institution but not eligible for any scholarship cozz again he is from middle class family so scholarship is needed.. And oversea study for 12yo is so unheard of which need his parent to move together as legal guardian and it wasnt approved nor supported by the govt and authorities.. Luckily after some years a nice small country welcome him and his family to be the "Math Professor" despite knowing his "lack in papers proof"..
As a mentally gifted kid, I was given the chance to outright skip a grade if I felt like it, and skip another grade if I did some homework over the summer. They straight up told me I could skip to 8th grade Algebra when I was in the 3rd grade if I put in a little effort because I was already doing Algebra in the "GT" program for fun. Nobody taught me, I just "figured out the rules" intuitively. I decided to turn them all down. I stayed with my friends. One of the few times I disappointed my parents growing up, but they let me choose. Looking back, I could feel my intelligence slipping when I hit 16. I know for a fact if I had skipped courses, I would've breezed through college and be much further ahead in my career. Would I still make the same choice? You betcha. Just because your kid is smart, please don't force them to grow up faster and push them too hard.
@@sierraburr3147 I know a kid that was moved to a gifted program when he was in 1st grade because he was moving on to algebra and the school couldn’t accommodate him. I am also labeled as “gifted” but have learning disabilities so I was great at puzzles on the test and high comprehension but not assignments and did not skip a grade ever was also not put into a gifted program because I didn’t want to be. I never liked being called gifted by people I knew because it is extra expectations but don’t mind on here some people may be similar and are just sharing their own experiences. If you don’t believe it that’s okay it’s the internet you don’t need to trust it just move on. Sorry for the small rant
@@sierraburr3147 I'm not trying to feel special. My entire comment boils down to "I could've been special, but I chose not too and don't regret it. Parents of gifted children, please give them that choice" So you replying "you want to be viewed as special" to a comment that says "I chose not to be special and have no regrets" is insane to me. But you do you boo. I got nothing to prove, just giving out free advice.
Amen to all of this! I got to skip years of school and was kept with the same group of "gifted" kids for majority of my high school years. By the time we integrated with the rest of the school, I was filled with so much anxiety and had no idea how to socialise with people my own age. I didn't do the same things as them, I didn't think about the same things, and I was completely isolated from my peers. Looking back, I wish I was just allowed to be a child. The only validation I ever got from adults was for being smart and when life happened and trauma dumped shit all over me, the academic gifts were the first to go. Guess how I was treated after that...
@Stopthisrightnow560 Hope things have gotten better since then bro! We just got to take things at our own pace, regardless of whether it's faster or slower than others.
as someone who literally owns some of those puzzles, they are easy you can just train your brain to do such puzzles and it doesnt say that you are a genius, i am not a genius i am just really good at puzzles.
Those puzzles aren't as difficult as they make them out to be. These are literally children's toys. All this does is measure your spatial reasoning, which can be improved with practice. It also has little to do with being 'smart'. E.g people with astigmatism will generally do worse on these puzzles due to distortions in spatial vision and depth perception. They are about as difficult as standard puzzles - If you find this sort of thing interesting you'll definately do better than if someone asked you to do it as a 'test' of sorts.
I was like this when I was a kid. I took an IQ test when I was 12 and the lady administrating it said I was the first person she had ever seen complete one of the puzzles correctly. But I live in New Zealand and “gifted” isn’t something they understand. Occasionally throughout my schooling I was allowed to take maths classes with the year above but that wasn’t a constant thing and I’d have to go back to regular maths classes. I was already a year ahead at school since I moved from the UK and I absolutely would not have been allowed to move up higher. They don’t like making exceptions in NZ, every student is supposed to be the same. When I was in year 8 I didn’t have much school work because I had already passed all the levels they had so I just did nothing all the time. I remember telling my parents that I was bored and felt like I was wasting my time but no one ever did anything about it. I had friends at school but I never really felt connected to them, our problems were very different. I think kids really benefit when you nurture their talents otherwise they do even worse than their peers. Like I ended up dropping out of school at 15 due to anxiety and boredom.
As a gifted child, the only way that i cope is to learn as many languages that i can. I'm currently teaching myself Russian, French, Spanish, and a few languages from Asia. I can read a little Mandarin and Cantonese at times. English is my main language, Deutsch is my second. I also know signing for the disabled ( yes that's the correct term in Australia).
I was like this as a kid. By high school my anxiety was so bad I could barely get out of bed most of the time. But I don’t think going to a special school would’ve helped in my case, I was just terrified of falling below the ever-increasing standard I set for myself. I started college at 16 but then dropped out as a junior and now I’m a starving artist. Life takes a lot of twists and turns.
I have always been quite good at math, so I would get bored easily and just sit there, then if I was near friends I would talking causing me to get yelled at, also since I would sometimes be really good at certian types of math my teachers won’t call on me, causing me to become more bored and just want to go home. This is why I am grateful I’m in some advanced classes cause I do understand it but not enough to be so bored, except for the unit I’m in which I already know but actually like so not bored any ways.
Proper guidance for a child is so critical. I read books stand to stand in my local library, and blew the librarian's mind, but my parents never bothered to buy me more, or ask what subjects interested me.
Right before I started school imwas evaluated like this by a reputable psychiatrist who was an extremely nice man, he put 4 cognitive puzzles in front of me and just said solve them, i nailed every single one, he looked at my parents and grandmother and asked why my new school wanted to put me in special needs. He even sent a report telling the board of education that i don't belong in special needs, some years later i found out that the woman who was in charge of the board was corrupt and would collect a check for however many kids who were gifted in special needs education and didn't need to be there. An investigation was done on her after i graduated from high school and she was fired and had to pay back the money she collected over the years, my family ended up receiving a good chunk while other families received the same, during the investigation it ws revealed that she did this at two oe three other schools and got away with it or so she thought. She is now disgraced, wqs fired from the board of education and lost her teachers license and became a pariah of her community.
I’m insanely good at those. Duke university literally put me in the “Talent Identification Program” and I got to do all types of amazing things. You all see pieces or colorful parts where we see patterns and functionally as a whole.
I always wonder what would’ve been of me if my parents wouldn’t have neglected me… I don’t think I was gifted but I was always ahead of my classmates until both my parents left me to live with my grandma, then a neighbor, an aunt, etc which messed me up completely. Now I struggle to understand a sentence on a book lmao
I was "gifted" when it came to problem solving with my hands and critical thinking, too, if the topic kept me invested. I used to love playing chess and solitaire but was made fun of, so i stopped and lost my edge in chess 😮💨My dad always told me I was smarter than I was. Every time he said that I felt I wasn't good enough, being lifted is awesome, but if that's all my parents focus on, then the child will suffer like I did
She got that tism in her... me too and between my adhd and tism i enjoyed speed running those puzzles when i took them, was annoying how slow the test administrator was giving me them tho i never got to do tthe pyramid one
My 10 year old Grandson has ADHD and is also from a Military family so there has been 4 schools in 5 years. Always had behaviour problems and lacked social skills and was bullied. Until now, fast forward at 9, aced a a few tests and gained a place in an Opportunity class, Australias gifted program. Now is happy to attend school, made friends, excelling in academics. He finally found his people, weird thing is they are mostly high functioning but with ADHD or on the Autistic spectrum. Highly intelligent but very noisy kids who talk a lot.
I don’t consider myself gifted, but I did skip Grade 4 and graduated from high school when I was 15. Being younger (and thought to be smarter) than my classmates was a social nightmare. After graduation, but before I turned 16, I earned a very nice scholarship that would have paid for four years of University but it was withdrawn when it was noticed I was not yet 16, the minimum age for starting university. I was devastated. I wasn’t brilliant enough for getting support to start anyway. I was just smart enough to have gotten a good grade point average. So, I went to secretarial school, worked in offices my whole life, gradually going from being a receptionist to retiring as director of human resources so I think I made a pretty good use of my brain. But , socially and even academically, it was not a good journey, quite a bit of the time.
Genius here. Kids don't know why they're different, they just know they don't fit in -- and frankly they shouldn't be expected to fit in. Guides and mentors make a huge difference. Encourage curiosity and support independent study. A mind is a terrible thing to waste.
Part of my IQ test as a child was spatial reasoning. They set up blocks for me to mimic the shape. I completed them. They also asked questions like if this block was rotated(xyz and degrees), what would it look like? Although I have no idea what my actual IQ was scored at, everything they threw at me seemed easy. When the MRI scan and all the testing was complete, he told my mom.I did very good on all the tests. So she directly asked, so intelligence isn't her problem? The doctor, wide-eyed, slowly shook his head and said, 'no, that is absolutely not her problem'. She may have a d h d. In 1988, I was among the pioneers in hyperactive autistics.
I was a gifted child myself when I was younger, finishing work quickly and getting bored, then doing random things to fill the boredom, only to get in trouble, really killed my love of school. Sure, the boredom was resolved with being made the teachers aid but the fact that I was not challenged more really set me back and it hurt to be called out about my “weird” antics because I acted differently. I’m glad the girl’s mom made her wish to go to the more challenging school a priority and that must have made her so happy!
As a toddler turning 1 yr, my son went to see another pedia for his bi-yearly check up. On his 1st visit, the doc talked to us (parents) while playing with a block puzzle to make a train. My son watched her intently as i watched both while listening to her. The doc put it apart and placed the pieces just close enough to be within reach. My son looked at the woman then at the puzzle pieces and back again at her. Finally my son pulled the pieces closer and assembled them according to how she did it and pushed the result back to her. He assembled it faster than she did. She smiled at my son. Anyway everything was ok with him according to her.
What was more crippling as a gifted kid was constantly being shifted from district to district while in the foster system. Some families fostered the talents and found programs where kids could be around other kids like them and thrive, then had all of it ripped away with zero outlets. Being forced into confined boxes of materials that were mundane, tedious and boring. It was like suffocating.
Her mom actually moved to another state for her to attend a school with kids as gifted as she was. They visited first. She was allowed to do some trial days at the school. She made friends quickly. Mom asked her what did she want to do. The daughter told her she wanted to attend that school. So, mom made it happen.
😊 that is an efficient summary
I love mer she's such a great mom
@shtary Ikr 😢 Have you seen the scene where Mer tells Zola she doesnt have to be a doctor?
Thanks paragraph guy,summary appreciated😊
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Being gifted that young can feel like a curse if you don't have proper guidance and people that can understand you.
Yep.
Indeed
There’s a difference between being gifted and being a genius.
If you are a “gifted kid” you essentially have a developmental disorder sort of like ADHD or ASD that means you learn academic skills and social skills inverted from your peers - among other symptoms. It’s not an official diagnosis yet but it’s clear that’s the trajectory of the research. It’s simply that the world rewards the symptoms of being gifted and punishes those of ASD and ADHD - this is why being gifted is also correlated with anxiety and depression. It’s actually comorbid
Being a GENIUS though is a very different thing - it requires that one of your kinds of intelligence is more than 2.5 or 3 standard deviations from the mean. This will not change as you get older and is relatively consistent- especially if trained in the area of your genius it can even expand.
Especially if the parents use the child as a trophy child to show off EVERYWHERE.
Like the parents get addicted to the recognition or something...
@@sarahnelson8836thanks for the clarification. Can you recommend where I can learn about this more please?
My youngest was the same way. As soon as she found a school full of people like her, she relaxed and absolutely rocked school. Now shes in one of the top engineering schools in the US and absolutely THRIVING! Its been so incredible to watch her find her place! She graduated high-school with 67 credit hours of college classes and her associates degree. Now she's a 'year one', but doing junior level courses.
God bless her and you! You must be So proud!❤❤❤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Only because she happened to be good at science. If her brilliance was in a field that was less valued no one would care and she'd probably be on the street half dead.
I dont know ya...but I'm sooo proud of y'all 😊
i’m graduating from a very similar school this year! it’s been life change
@ congrats!
My oldest daughter ended up the same way. For years when she was little she hardly ever spoke and spent time alone. She was tested to see what disability she could possibly have but instead they found out her mind wasn't being challenged enough and she got bored easily. We moved her up a few grades in elementary school and she thrived. Now she's in her 30"s and works as a research supervisor for a group of scientists looking for a cure for Children's cancer. So always be involved early with your children because you never know. You have no idea of how much a child's mind can quickly soak up information.
I hope that big brain of hers finds the cure and we actually use it to help our children around the world!!! Good job mom for everything you’ve done and everything you are continuing to do to support your baby girl!!!
Amen ❤
May God continue to bored that beautiful wonderful young woman. As a mom of a child in a three year battle with Wilms Tumor I pray they are successful. These babies are counting on them. 💕💕💕 Thanks for sharing mom!
That's amazing!!
I hear this a lot. My child threw the desk across the room because he’s bored. I’m glad it actually worked out in your situation where it was the truth
My son was very gifted . They placed in the program and he said it wasn’t challenging enough for him . I took him out . He started making beats at 13 and selling them . He died in 2017 due to cancer . But he was a genius.
So sorry to hear this, rip to your son 😢
So sorry for your loss. He sounds like he is an angel.
WOW! This really hurts. So sorry for your loss😢
He still is a genius since he lives in your heart! Treasure his memories and feel blessed for the time and space that you shared together!💕
Sorry for your lost. Just want to ask did he have a youtube channel?
Condolences to all those gifted kids who were never given the opportunity to shine. 😢
"I feel like im watching the us open" had me on the floor 😂
that's the US open for neurologists yeh xD
When I was in 4th grade, I was 8 and school staff and administrators advised my parents to let them skip me to 7th grade because sending me to 5th grade would be a waste of my time and it would risk that I'd lose interest in my academics as they would seem boring. My mom didn't like the idea, but the administration team decided that I would be promoted to 6th Grade.
By the time that I was in my Junior year, one of my teachers and the Guidance Counselor recommended for me to graduate. I was only 14 and I didn't like the idea as I knew that my mom would not let me attend college, let alone to live on campus, at such an early age to be surrounded by adult peers. I went to college 4.5 years after. At that time, I felt as though I had been cursed. In reality, it was a blessing in desguise. Those would be my mom's last four years before passing and I feel blessed to have stayed home with my mom for those last years of her life.
God works mysterious ways.
Woah. Such an amazing story. Blessing in disguise indeed.
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Sorry for your loss❤
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Sorry for your loss.
In this new age of Big Bang Theory smart kids are normalized & you not skipping ahead was you being gifted with staying home & getting to love your mom the way you couldn't from college.
I set records on these sorts of puzzles when I was evaluated as a child. A few decades, severe alcoholism, pill abuse, and a couple of head injuries later, I can sometimes fit a square peg into a square hole.
Of course you can, because everything goes in the square hole.
Good news! Your sense of humour is better than ever! In fact losing a few IQ points actually gave you a little boost in that area so... Ups and downs.
I like the color blue yay 😁
even at any set aside issues that weren’t forseen, those of us who have these ability’s are pushed too far and treated as adults rather than children which burns all of us out and leads us to addiction- you’re not alone and praise to you for continuing after
Sounds like you made the wrong choices.
My friend brother was a certified genius. He never fit in. He had zero Social skills. He completed H.S. at 14. He received his PHD in Electrical Engineering with a double major in a second Engineering program at 22. He worked for the government 1 year. He slept in his car the entire time. Was found dead in his car during COVID. He was buried in trash and all his possessions in his car. He never owned a phone, almost never cash a check. Shopped Goodwill only. He often ate from soup kitchens and never paid for a meal at least not that we knew of. He would not allow any intervention and he was too smart to be in a guardianship 😢😢😢. So sad we just couldn't save him.😢😢😢
Wow so sad 😢
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That’s so sad. I lived in my car during the pandemic but due to health reasons. I am in heart failure due to chemo I had to do when I was 19. It was already a difficult time so I can imagine the struggles with that alone but then to throw everything else he must have had going on in his mind, I hope he is RIP
He sounds schizophrenic. Which many geniuses were, sadly.
As a child, I aced all my schoolwork as I found it too easy, but regularly scored badly for effort. This left me with a lifelong belief that I wasn't good enough for anyone. It took until my mid 40's for me to be diagnosed with autism, but by the damage was irreversible. Being gifted academically is worth nothing if it leaves a person feeling as though they have nothing worthwhile to contribute in life
Sure you did
I will say I agree with both of them
I was a gifted kid that hit burnout early (13) due to extremely high expectations and other added stressors, but I went to a trade school that had way more like minded people my junior year and immediately thrived. It still took time through that to recover from burnout but hands on learning was way more beneficial for me and I was back to getting straight As like before the burnout set in.
Gifted kids tend to be what some might call “too aware” meaning you over analyze everything you or anyone else does which is exhausting and super stressful, you could tell just by the “is that okay?” When she did the puzzle
My youngest son was very good at math. The school moved him to advanced math class and he failed. P.S. when he got older he got kicked out of a casino because they said he was cheating. He was that good. Unfortunately he also liked to drink and didn't get along with his wife so he took his own life.
@@BlizzyBeezz Overanalyzing and being "too aware" could also just be signs of slight OCD, or it could also mean that you're like me and suffer from ADHD (severe ADHD in my case.) However, I do agree with you on how stressful,exhausting and sometimes overwhelming/frustrating. It's interesting how some behaviors correlate with eachother, which could lead to uncovering both abilities/disabilities.
@@jerrysneedsr1066 I'm so sorry for your loss. Have you ever wondered what sort of possibilities and things your son could of accomplished if he had only put the same time,energy and effort as he did with drinking alcohol/gambling , and putting all that energy towards doing something good , imagine the possibilities
Thanks for your explanation. As a mum that makes loads of sense
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Sending hugs and prayers to you ❤️
I've never understood why high IQ kids should skip straight to college or skip classes anyway. Intellugence is one thing but education and building social skills is another, you can't skip on thaz
They'll get bored at school from not being challenged enough. In my brother's case he was extremely turbulent and was a pain in the ahh of all his teachers. In my case I just didn't feel like learning (and ironically started feeling dumber) but also had trouble socializing with my classmates cause of difference in mindset
When I was a kid, if you were like this school didn't help you build either study or social skills. The "education" just taught you ever more elaborate forms of laziness to avoid going mad from boredom, and the "socialization" was daily abuse at the hands of ones peers.
I hated school, so goddamned much. By the time I was shunted into the "gifted" program I was already broken. Didn't know how to learn until I was 30. And I still haven't figured out how to maintain relationships.
Same reason a dumb individual can’t be around people who are too smart. Makes it frustrating to understand or communicate
Dumb people make smart people dumb. Or do dumb stuff cause dumb stuff looks more fun.
that is why you need to place them with similarly high iq individuals so that they don't feel out of place among other children. Problem with that is those schools tend to push them too hard so that they don't live like kids. So the difficulty is balance.
My daughter was considered gifted. But since we were military and moved every 18 months, many states require evaluation before placing a child in a gifted program. My daughter would be bored and not do her best at first because, as she said, "I already know this stuff!" When my husband retired, we moved back home. She was placed in all AP classes, finished all the required maths in less than 2 years. Took summer school classes to finish early. THEN her Senior year crashed and burned. Panic attacks, suicidal tendencies and had to be hospitalized for 3 months. I thank her wonderful principal, counselor and teachers, they rallied around her and helped her graduate with her class in regular classes. 3 of her teachers said she was so far ahead she only had to do the final. 2 only required attendance. 1 required a term paper. ❤
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That’s quite a story ,,
What MOS your husband had to where yall moved every 18 months ?
I used to LOVE doing cognitive puzzles,as a teenager.They were a bit hard ,but I had a VERY good time!
I was that kid. Parents chose not to alter my education. I had a breakdown in 5th grade. Then I realized it was all a joke. I kept that going until I retired at 65 years old. Then I realized that I had failed to be me. I took a year off and basically read, slept and concentrated. Now I am free. I have great creative and artistic projects underway. I have friends new and old who think that I am a good person and I love their company. Started teaching myself piano last month.
My youngest was taken to do a Mensah test, and the teacher told her she would have to leave her friends. My daughter failed by one point on purpose, I laughed and laughed. She was not going to leave her friends, and I just let her bloom.
Why would being a member of mensa require her to no longer have her old friends? Isn't the decision to go to a new school made between the student and the parent? Did they have some requirements i'm not aware of? Or did she tragically believe the teacher?
@@funnyanimalshorts643bc this person is just makin shit up so they can sound cool in this comment section 😂
My sister excelled at school at did everything early. She was tested in about kindergarten and she answered “M” for every question because she didn’t want to take it. I made a deal with my mom and got sushi for doing the test and did well but she never wanted us to be in gifted programs anyways which I am thankful for.
Well done Mama/Papa.😊
@@hell037WHY would you not want to be in "gifted" programs.
This was my struggle
When I was a kid. No brag either, it made me bored and extremely disruptive and weird. I would finish tests and just sit around bothering other kids or making noises or sticking my skin with pencils because I couldn’t sit still with my own thoughts. I had already memorized everything in the room and where it was. This was before fidget toys or tactile devices were a thing and you were supposed to just sit and wait for everyone else to finish. I got labeled retarded by most of my peers and some of my teachers because of my odd behavior, but cognitive tests put me way above college level in 3rd grade. Unfortunately, the world was much different then and my gifts weren’t nourished and i eventually found myself interested in drugs and alcohol to soothe the mania and overthinking. Now that I’m an adult, I am able to recognize what happened, but because I wasn’t trained when my brain was developing, I think my gift is gone. Sure I’m intelligent, but my problem solving skills, cause and effect recognition and pattern recognition skills aren’t what they used to be. If you have a kid like this….. give them EVERYTHING they need to nurture them. They will be the ones to save the world
I hope you don't give up. You may surprise yourself one day by challenging yourself in small ways for starters . Maybe waking up those dormant parts of your brain. I don't know much about your skills. But I hope you success in new growth and achievements. Hopefully achievements in things you thought you may have lost, but never did. Best wishes.
As long as there is life there is time. Do something with it BLESSINGS ❤
@@Sirjuancarlos6262 I dunno. I always had ADHD, but my retention abilities are now pretty average. I feel like there’s a window of opportunity in a developing brain that gets closed at a certain point if it’s not stimulated. That or I just fried it with all the garbage I put in my body in my 20s. Either way I did notice that when I went back to college I actually had to study and practice, which is something I didn’t have to do when I was in primary school. I thought “this must be how normal people learn!”
I get interested in learning new skills, master them, and then move on to a new hobby.
My uncle went to a Montessori school when he was 6 and went on to graduate Harvard medical, but like me he got bored as a surgeon and now does day trading!! lol
I wonder if you could build toys for parents to give to their very smart children to stay busy.
Oh I resonate so much with you. I would actually start doodling on the table as I would finish any test in half the time everyone else finished theirs and I would ace them too. There was one teacher that went all the way to the school director to tell them about how fast I understand the study material and how I always had no more then 1 mistake in my tests that I would complete in 15 minutes instead of 45. They all shrugged it off, my parents never really did anything with it and just labeled it as "the way I am". Now I'm an adult trying to give myself the space I need that I was not given as a child. Btw I had my breakthrought as a Cancer Research Assistant two years ago. The doctor I assisted was very suprised that I never went to medical school to become a doctor.
Me after playing Block Blast for 4 hours per day:
🤔 How do Blocks Blast through a Red Tube?
@ u can’t be serious 😭
😂😂 the way they’re talking about her in front of her makes them seem so fake and dumb 😂😂
I just want you all to know. I have always been a straight 4.0 GPA student (best GPA for my school), I’ve taken every excelled class I can and made the top teams in sports. This always caused my parents to push me, to try getting me to do better. For all you parents out there. Don’t do that. My parents didn’t realize it and I never spoke out about it but with them trying to help push me they just dragged me. I started having suicidal thoughts and hating the world, them included. I came close many times to ending my life, but as you can tell, I didn’t. But they’d always tell me “why is your grade so low, it should be 100! It at least 98” and that really damaged me. I started thinking I wasn’t good enough. I started thinking they hated me and didn’t love me because they wouldn’t do the same with my brothers. I had a brother get a 1.7 GPA and my parents congratulated him. I was never congratulated for doing good in school which hurt me and started the suicidal thoughts. And although this video isn’t about sports at all. I played hockey and was always on the best/second best team. After games my mom would say nice job here nice job there. But my dad, trying to help, would always point out what I did wrong. Rarely the good things, he’d raise his voice when I tried talking back to say why I did it. I now know he was just trying to help, but you don’t realize that when you’re 13.
No he wasn’t just trying to help. He was doing it for his own ego. He may have been jealous of you and criticizing you gave him a sense of empowerment. What he did was wrong and you need to acknowledge that and of course forgive him.
@ maybe, he was my coach when I first started so he wouldn’t let me talk back because you don’t talk back to your coaches. But when he was no longer my coach he still told me not to talk back
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Enjoy your age and your life, find the joy in it, not the ugly. Sometimes, as parents and adults, We think we know what's best for our kids, We don't. We are only trying. I know that I'm only speaking as a parent but they do love you. I love mine so much that the Universe couldn't measure and it wasn't enough, they resented my intrusion. So I had to back off and let them breathe and live their lives as they see fit, It was Fair and Right..for them. I had to govern my own. So find your peace.
Same here. My mom complained when we went had awards 2x a year for straight As.... mom would say another one don't you get one after every semester? I graduated 3rd out of 1200 with only 1 B IN MY ENTIRE HIGH SCHOOL CAREER. 3.89. All my family. Could do was say be a little more realistic be a hair dresser ... didn't get proper help for college watched people below me graduate bottom.of class get full rides... I didn't get a dime. Or help from the school. Ended up 50k in debt and still made straight As all through every college course. My family and school never supported me and I regret seeking help all these years later as disability doesn't pay the bills and I feel I wasted my talents and abilities because of constant roadblocks and mental health issues that went unnoticed and denied .
Kid hearing the praise : *tries her best to keep her composure*
The average kid can do cognitive puzzles better than the average adult.
Because they think more flexibly, while adults tend to try to apply their previous experience first.
I’m 54 years old I was officially diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome at 40/41 years old. I was soooo elated to finally find out why I was so different
I didn't get diagnosed with ADHD until I was in my mid 60's. I know how you feel.😏
As the mother of 2 gifted children I couldn't agree more.... It's so important to understand how they learn and not to overwhelm them. Loving and protecting is more important than anything else ❤️
i ask the same question too dr grey where was my consent everytime i was given an exam what a logic
In this instance, her daughter was just having fun in the room until the adults noticed her doing the puzzles while they were working. The doctors weren't conducting a formal evaluation.
Signing up a kid for school basically says you give the school a general pass in their efforts to educate your child. This is the equivalent of a medical examination. Think about some doctor pulling your kid away to give them a CT scan or a psychological evaluation without even saying a word to you.
School is an institution where you give consent to be given a test at anytime when you get in It,the first day. Being a parent is different,you can't go to someone's child outside any institution and just randomly analyse them
You’re the best! You actually shared the season and episode 🎉🎉🎉🎉 May you receive abundant blessings if you keep this behaviour up!
Most adults can’t pay bills but they cognitive-puzzle their way to make payments
This comment is top -tier!!! 😂😂😂
FR 😂
I have little money and bills get what I have to give
Simples
Pin this!!!!!!
Me… this is me😂😂
"which could explain the panic attacks, she needs to be around peers who can relate to her and the way she thinks" ❤️ other kids have that, all the time, all their lives, she's always alone, I can't imagine that difference 🤯
This is why I hid my skills, I saw how adults ruined my friends life. I refused to do the cognative exams. My mom knew when I flunked it on purpose she gave me that proud smirk and said, "you're not that slick." I got into mensa at 11 and since then it's been annoying how some folks really expect greatness. Sometimes being brilliant can be a burden.
I think another burden would be the education failing you and setting you back rather than helping you get better at the things you lack in. Me personally, I don't think failing first grade got me any smarter and I don't think the tutors helped. You could say it's the mindset but I still think I am stupid. We probably don't understand each other at all.
They kicked me out of Mensa for being too smart. 😢 They said I was making everyone feel inferior.
@@aspendayss7941 You are not stupid, and some people do have high intelligence. You are absolutely right that the system has failed you and so many others. The truth is, the system is designed this way - to keep the wealthy in power while the masses remain ignorant and oppressed. The ultra-rich secretly manipulate governments to serve their self-serving agendas. And governments in turn use propaganda and manipulation to control the people. Sadly, public schools today are merely extensions of this corrupt system, failing to teach students the vital real-life skills they need to succeed, such as banking, saving, investing and building wealth.
As someone who began learning about investing and financial literacy at the young age of 15 through my own initiative, it shocked me to discover that such critical knowledge was completely absent from my public school education. When I later attended a state school that finally did discuss topics like investing and 401Ks, I was appalled to see that my classmates were completely lost, not because they lacked intelligence, but because they had never been taught these essential money skills. The uncomfortable fact is that our education system is now more focused on churning out profit than producing an enlightened populace. If you can afford the best private education, you'll get the royal treatment. But if not, well, then you'll just have to settle for whatever menial job you can find. That's the harsh reality of the system we're trapped in today. The deck has been stacked against you and the majority from the start.
@@deckzone3000 They actually kicked you out for being smarter than them! That’s like a real-life episode of “Dumb and Dumber.” Honestly, it sounds like a classic case of an inferiority complex at play. My decision to walk away from Mensa was solidified when a fellow member expressed disbelief in the existence of Homo sapiens. At that moment, I recognized that I was surrounded by obstinate ignorance; her conviction nearly ignited my temper.
So, they kicked you out don’t sweat it; Mensa isn’t a badge of honor but more like a fancy club where everyone’s trying to prove they did indeed understand the instructions to a childhood puzzle. Most members are just there for the validation - like toddlers wearing superhero capes, desperately hoping someone notices how “smart” they are. Real intellectuals? They’re too busy contemplating the universe or it's distruction.
Just remember that Neurodivergent conditions are disabilities. Everyone is so fixated on "gifted" but not the suffering.
There is suffering but not for a second do I consider it a disability.
It’s a processing difference in the brain I don’t class that as a disability, not everyone “suffers” either
I was a gifted kid. Reading before walking and talking, figuring out puzzles. They tested me at 14 had a 167 iq... hated math, loved english and history, curious about everything. Thankfully my parents wanted me to be normal as possible
Yes, but math was easy anyway, wasn't it? And the precice concepts and predictability were comfortable. I took gifted and talented English instead of trig. Both had their merits, but G&T English appealed to my creativity. It's a shame the teacher was a very unhappy person.
GIFTED AND GENIUS ARENT THE SAME!!!
A genius has a skill set or type of intelligence several standard deviations from the mean.
Gifted is defined by a slightly better academic performance- and may actually be a type of developmental disorder like ADHD or ASD. This is especially true since it’s linked to lower skills in other areas as well as depression and anxiety disorders which are often comorbid with developmental disorders.
These things aren’t mutually exclusive but they aren’t the same thing. I’m a gifted genius with ADHD and possibly ASD. I’ve gone through testing at some of the top institutions and attended some of the best schools- genius is way more common than it used to be but there’s a difference between that and gifted for sure.
@@sarahnelson8836 This obsession with defining ‘gifted’ vs. ‘genius’ isn’t healthy, especially since these distinctions don’t even exist. Trying to split hairs over abstract terms is pointless and comes off as self-serving. Intelligence isn’t about labels; it’s about action. Instead of fixating on this, focus on contributing something meaningful.
@@yad1937 You do realize that there’s a very real damage that is done to gifted kids BECAUSE people don’t understand it’s not the same thing right? It very much matters to be able to provide kids the resources they actually need… because the evidence does show it is likely a complex disorder which you seem to think isn’t a big deal? But sure I’m self serving while you are the one who, despite not listening to the new evidence presented, is being totally self sacrificing
@@yad1937 I'm studying Early childhood education, and there is very much a difference in the way the educational system views both terms. The Special Education department has been trying to do away with labels for inclusion purposes for many years but it's not easy redefining anything.
This is easy to deal with. Just ask the kid what they want to do. If they would rather be bored in school but stay because of friends, do nothing, or encourage any hobby she picks up. If she would rather accelerate her schooling because she prefers the mental stimulation, do that. Just keep an eye on her and don't be to stubborn to change trajectories if she changes her mind or doesn't seem to be coping well with her choice.
Well said
Sorry but no, kids should not just do what they want to. I know what you mean but it's incredibly naive to think that even smart kids will make the right decisions. Children need a guiding hand.
Nope. If the kid is too smart for the class and you force them to stay, you are just making their life miserable. You may think you know better because you are older, but that is not necessarily true. You are putting a gifted child among dumb children(comparatively) where they can pick up things easily while the rest dont. Imagine you are teaching Algebra, the gifted kid picks it up quickly in the first lecture, but the rest of the class doesn't. The teacher takes repeats the lecture, repeats the formulas for other kids. While the gifted kid sits there bored listening to something she understands over and over again.
The other issue is socialization, like kids do dumb stuff and fight over dumb illogical things. They do things without thinking, but a gifted kid would be smart enough to see through the thing and would not do it. Why push a doorbell and run, it may stimulate others, but not me. Or why fight over something illogical, or why argue over something when it is statistically clear. So the problems start arising and the kid becomes isolated from the rest.
So it is better to listen to the kid if they are not satisfied with their class.
Helping hand doesn't mean forcing kids to go through school because they dont know anything. Sometimes kids know better than we do and it is ok to listen to them.
@@masoodjalal1152 I think you misunderstood what I said😂. I wasn’t disagreeing with your entire statement bruv.
@@danielcota5716 That’s why join the circus and get pregnant at 15 weren’t options I proposed. Parents have nothing to lose by listening to their kids and offering them good options based on the child’s personality. That’s a guiding hand. A forceful hand is giving your child no options. The video comment section has stories from gifted kids who weren’t given the choice on how or if they even wanted use their gifts and it did not turn out well for them.
Thats a cognitive puzzle, shows easiest puzzle ever
When I was a kid I was like that. My mom held me back a grade. I gave up, now as a adult no one can stop me from learning anything.
Good for you!! I definitely felt held back by my family. School was such a waste of time. I am also thrilled to be free of those systems. I know how you feel.
@whipwalk Not so much hold you back it's that they see things how they were.
Former gifted kid here, i was forced to be in our majorly underfunded gt program, and my friends and i were split up to boost the scores of classes. I was insanely bored, and started picking up bunches and bunches of extra hobbies just i could have more to do. Thankfully my parents helped me in every way they could, providing me the tools i needed to be successful. The real problem here is the school system being more concerned with scores than the teaching of students.
Thank you for putting the season and episode in the front!!❤🎉❤
Same. I was placed in a GT program as a kid with a few others. I have no idea how I got into it but it was an extremely small group of us. I thought it was just a fun class but I ended up failing my entire freshman year of high school from the pressure.
It can be crippling to wear the weight of this kind of "gift". I never felt normal as a child and found myself ostracized by my classmates as a whole.
I remember doing these tests. I thought they were a game. I flew through them and always looked forward to them during "play time". I guess I was being tested all along. Sucks to know that now.
"My question is, why is she being evaluated without my consent?"
Simple, she's not being evaluated. She's being marveled at. It's like watching someone crush a rubiks cube. You're amazed and hand them another or a bigger one. Are you testing them? No, you're just watching with your jaw on the floor.
Perfect analogy......
Ohh i hate those “she’s gifted!” Parts in movies 😂 it’s always so terrifying
Sorry for your loss. Blessed were you to have such a light in your life. May you feel his love as he watches over you.
Watching over and over and over and over and over again..... Each time something different....
Tittle please
Just to put this out there, not all kids NEED to be immediately moved up in grade level or shuffled off to another school, but all kids NEED to have this level of attention from their caregivers/guardians/parents.
Most of the time, early intelligence is misunderstood as a problem to be solved, and not as the solution to the misunderstood problem.
It's always fun how other people want to make decisions for other people kids😂
Yea, it ain't hers either
I got stuck getting dragged to festivals and fell through the cracks most of my life.
It's good to see a show that acknowledges the possibility of intelligent kids being misjudged due to being surrounded by people who either don't understand them or get jealous of their abilities...
😢😢😢 😢 Imagine being 14 taking college classes and literally going to school 7 days a week. No days off. Just love on your kids and grandkids ❤❤❤
My oldest son is extremely gifted as well. The kid amazes Me everyday. His teachers always recommend bumping grades, but it took something similar to this for His Dad and I to take it seriously. Love seeing this ❤
nearly 30 years ago I did a bunch of tests like this and I always had really strong spacial abilities. I was in the top 1% of the population for solving them quickly but the top 1% was mostly male. If you absolutely love puzzles, it's a real kick to do those puzzles and it is calming. Everyone always hated doing jigsaws with me because for every 10 I would put in the 3-4 other people doing the puzzle would put in 1. I had to stop doing jigsaws with others except for my daughter and we normally can finish a 1000 pice puzzle in 2-3 hours.
I'm jaleous
Wait it's not normal to finish them in that timeframe? I got my ADHD diagnosis quite recently - could my love for and being really fast at solving jigsaw puzzles be related?
@@natiquinn830Its pretty normal with practice tbh. There are puzzle competitions that people who love jigsaw puzzles go to even.
Thats the problem with some IQ and cognitive tests, they target the average person, not the people who love certain hobbies that objectively make the tests easier and less nerve wracking to take.
@@natiquinn830 I don't know about the ADHD and puzzles, but having strong spacial abilities most defnitely. I've slowed down with puzzles as so others would find it more enjoyable to do puzzles with me.
I had a girl invite me over just for that. She also really wanted to convert me to jehovah's witness. She also sold me pot.
Finally someone who posts this kind of thing that has the brains to name the show along with season and episode.
SpEd, Psych, Neuro, Developmental and Pedia docs + wide thinking nurses + parents would appreciate this 😢❤
This is exactly how I "played" with these puzzles.
I was in the 3rd grade, and had no clue I was taking a bunch of tests. I thought we were playing games, and I was just happy to be winning.
😢 I feel this!!! My niece was sent to a Gifted School and she felt pushed/pressured into going. When tested again, they found her only 12 years old already at advanced college levels. She finished school early!!! Yay...NO!!!
Never went to college...fell into the baby mama stereotype... unemployed because she doesn't like authority...and creates drama that nobody "supports" her!!!
Now she is acting out. Pressure to be something before your time instead of evolving in time.
See if she's willing to get an associates degree in either nursing, radiology tech, physical therapy assistant, occupational therapy assistant, respiratory therapy. I'm sure she'll get through one of these programs and, then will be financially independent quickly. Even LPN. Then, she can make all her own decisions from there.
My favorite line "I FEEL LIKE I'M WATCHING THE US OPEN."
Remember parents, if you ever have gifted kids it’s important to feed into their talents but don’t put too much pressure on them.
I remember getting As in every subject for years and eventually the pressure my parents were placing on my shoulders grew too much. I tried too hard to please and lost the spark I had. Everything you do eventually grows dull and you can lose the motivation and confidence to even think you’ll be able to do anything.
Don’t place the weight of your expectations on your kids.
Thank you for the show infor in the description!!! Thats what i am after when i see good clips. So tired of searching for the answers lol
My son used to get straight F's but scored very hight on SAT's so they kept passing him. So i had him tested and his IQ was 135 in 4th grade. He was so smart but refused to do his work. He is so stubborn and bullheaded.
This was me in highschool too. Flunked everything but my electives. Flunked pre algebra in 8th grade but tested high and was put in calculus and geometry in 9th. Was told I was smart but a social butterfly or didn't apply myself. Even had teachers ask if I was going to do the assignment or were they wasting paper. Junior year I did an IQ test and scored 145 and then 1500 on my SATs but was missing 21 credits by this point needed to graduate. Ended up diagnosed with AuDHD and took the GED test to grad early and skipped senior year.
Finally background music that's not too loud or annoying
I had/have severe social anxiety and was sent to a gifted program an hour away one day a week during elementary school and middle school. It took me out of my element completely and made my anxiety worse. Just be sure that your kids want to participate in special programs. It was really hard on me.
I also want to mention that I never related to my “peers.” They were drilled to be smart. Mine came from my own mind. I will never be able to explain how I was able to answer questions and solve things…these kids were still different than me. I was isolated with the isolated kids.
It makes sense as to why Meredith didn't want them to talk about jer child like that. It's her choice what she does for her daughter and it's also her daughter's choice! Just because she is smart doesn't mean she has to be singled out!
lol literally how my parents talk about my seven-year-old niece when she’s using her iPad. I wouldn’t put too much weight on what old people say they tend to find everything amazing
Meanwhile in the background: niece playing chess at a high level and getting high scores in Tetris ;p
Cue 1000's of comments about how they or their children are equally "gifted" in 3....2....1....
This girl is so lucky, she have smart intelligent grownups around. I wasn't and get diagnosed with autism with very high IQ at 42, and still my mother don't believe it. I cant servive now
If u don't mind explaining can u please tell what happened? Why do u say that u can't survive?
@@sumaiya3385 I think he means that because of the lateness of his diagnosis, he can't survive by himself properly. I'm in the same boat as him. Got diagnosed at 28... I'm just messed up beyond help, I can't be fixed.
You know what's worse? I'm sick enough to be useless, but not sick enough to be taken seriously. In some years I'll be living on the streets, IF I survive until then.
@@sumaiya3385 as someone that identifies with the other two comments; if you think it's hard to earn a living wage try doing so but your traits make it twice as hard since someone who is a more natural socializer will almost always be picked over you for financial reward. Similar to bro above me I'll be lucky to survive past my 30s.
Inb4 I have to explain that acknowledging reality for what it is doesn't mean not trying to succeed anyways. What other choice do I have, really?
I was the same way. I met a guy who told me that he knew a friend who was a professor in an academy for gifted kids. When I met him, he was in a wheelchair. He was also very smart and gifted.
I’m not a genius, but I’m definitely not normal. My family, and friends, everyone I’m around, for that matter, sees the world in, one way or another, a very similar or the same way. I don’t. And when I try to speak and nobody seems to understand or they end up thinking I’m crazy, yes, that can lead me to panic attacks. The worst part is they don’t even see it. They don’t realize criticizing the way I think is hurting me so much, to them it’s all discipline or lecture. I just want someone to listen. Is that too much to ask in today’s world?
It's funny that the mom said evaluation when a bunch of doctors were just baffled 😂😂😂 They couldn't evaluate, just watch in awe 😂😂😂
NO WAY! Thats ZOLA 😭 !!!! Holy moly 😫 I stopped watching the show at some point and it’s like seeing an old friends child whose grown up 😭😭😭😭
Ray Charles could’ve passed those test with greater speed 😂
My son is like that. Took crib apart at 1 with plastic tools & mastered origami at 2. Hed watch cartoons & not even look at the paper & next thing you know theres swans & frogs all over the place
Mom acts like she's not even happy that her child is extra special
It’s because it’s not her. Some people are just self centered. They can’t be happy for others, even their own children. Look up “ narcissism.” Or borderline personality disorder. If it fits, never tell them. They will deny it. Do it for your own peace of mind. It’s ok to tell a counselor if you have one.
My mom always knew I had a high IQ testing just confirmed it but she also didn’t want me to feel pressured to be a “genius”. Meredith probably didn’t want other people unknowingly pressuring her kid. There is a difference between accommodating a gifted kid and pressuring them but you have to be careful.
@@user-AllenE i don't need to look up narcissism. I had to live with one and unfortunately I had to call him my father
Because it's not exciting.
Have a read through of the comments from people who were diagnosed as gifted children.
It comes with a whole host of issues, especially socialisation.
Adults look at these kids and see a pay pig; someone they can ride to a better place in life.
She's literally a child. She needs to be allowed to be a child without being forced into a maturity she's not ready for.
I was given one of those tests. The one where you have to match the blocks to the picture. I was told I did it faster than anyone she ever tested. I was slow with all the other tests though. I think it has to do with spatial reasoning. I'm told I'm a good packer. And I love Tetris.
You probably have a high visual spatial ability.
She's truly blessed 🙌
So from the comments everyone is supposedly “gifted”😂
Loved it when i saw it. Awesome series greys anatomy
Meredith Never Played About Zola Since She Got Her As A Baby
Im so happy they kept the original actress all those seasons
We have one Math prodigy.. Calculus at 6yo? Was sent to gifted school.. Still overachiever then he went to a local uni for degree for a year.. Guess what?? They remove him after that one year cozz "he didnt finish high school and have the high school education cert" which usually was needed to further study.. Tried for oversea institution but not eligible for any scholarship cozz again he is from middle class family so scholarship is needed.. And oversea study for 12yo is so unheard of which need his parent to move together as legal guardian and it wasnt approved nor supported by the govt and authorities.. Luckily after some years a nice small country welcome him and his family to be the "Math Professor" despite knowing his "lack in papers proof"..
I remember watching these shows snd never bumping into a genius doing cognitive puzzles in math class
As a mentally gifted kid, I was given the chance to outright skip a grade if I felt like it, and skip another grade if I did some homework over the summer.
They straight up told me I could skip to 8th grade Algebra when I was in the 3rd grade if I put in a little effort because I was already doing Algebra in the "GT" program for fun. Nobody taught me, I just "figured out the rules" intuitively.
I decided to turn them all down. I stayed with my friends. One of the few times I disappointed my parents growing up, but they let me choose.
Looking back, I could feel my intelligence slipping when I hit 16. I know for a fact if I had skipped courses, I would've breezed through college and be much further ahead in my career.
Would I still make the same choice? You betcha.
Just because your kid is smart, please don't force them to grow up faster and push them too hard.
Why do I feel like this just isnt true at all but you want to be viewed as extremely special in this comment section lolllo
@@sierraburr3147 I know a kid that was moved to a gifted program when he was in 1st grade because he was moving on to algebra and the school couldn’t accommodate him.
I am also labeled as “gifted” but have learning disabilities so I was great at puzzles on the test and high comprehension but not assignments and did not skip a grade ever was also not put into a gifted program because I didn’t want to be.
I never liked being called gifted by people I knew because it is extra expectations but don’t mind on here some people may be similar and are just sharing their own experiences.
If you don’t believe it that’s okay it’s the internet you don’t need to trust it just move on.
Sorry for the small rant
@@sierraburr3147
I'm not trying to feel special. My entire comment boils down to "I could've been special, but I chose not too and don't regret it. Parents of gifted children, please give them that choice"
So you replying "you want to be viewed as special" to a comment that says "I chose not to be special and have no regrets" is insane to me.
But you do you boo. I got nothing to prove, just giving out free advice.
Amen to all of this!
I got to skip years of school and was kept with the same group of "gifted" kids for majority of my high school years.
By the time we integrated with the rest of the school, I was filled with so much anxiety and had no idea how to socialise with people my own age. I didn't do the same things as them, I didn't think about the same things, and I was completely isolated from my peers.
Looking back, I wish I was just allowed to be a child. The only validation I ever got from adults was for being smart and when life happened and trauma dumped shit all over me, the academic gifts were the first to go. Guess how I was treated after that...
@Stopthisrightnow560 Hope things have gotten better since then bro! We just got to take things at our own pace, regardless of whether it's faster or slower than others.
Okay literally every single one of those puzzles are easy to figure out this show has its moments but this moment is just wow
as someone who literally owns some of those puzzles, they are easy you can just train your brain to do such puzzles and it doesnt say that you are a genius, i am not a genius i am just really good at puzzles.
Those puzzles aren't as difficult as they make them out to be. These are literally children's toys. All this does is measure your spatial reasoning, which can be improved with practice. It also has little to do with being 'smart'. E.g people with astigmatism will generally do worse on these puzzles due to distortions in spatial vision and depth perception.
They are about as difficult as standard puzzles - If you find this sort of thing interesting you'll definately do better than if someone asked you to do it as a 'test' of sorts.
I was like this when I was a kid. I took an IQ test when I was 12 and the lady administrating it said I was the first person she had ever seen complete one of the puzzles correctly. But I live in New Zealand and “gifted” isn’t something they understand. Occasionally throughout my schooling I was allowed to take maths classes with the year above but that wasn’t a constant thing and I’d have to go back to regular maths classes. I was already a year ahead at school since I moved from the UK and I absolutely would not have been allowed to move up higher. They don’t like making exceptions in NZ, every student is supposed to be the same.
When I was in year 8 I didn’t have much school work because I had already passed all the levels they had so I just did nothing all the time. I remember telling my parents that I was bored and felt like I was wasting my time but no one ever did anything about it. I had friends at school but I never really felt connected to them, our problems were very different. I think kids really benefit when you nurture their talents otherwise they do even worse than their peers. Like I ended up dropping out of school at 15 due to anxiety and boredom.
As a gifted child, the only way that i cope is to learn as many languages that i can. I'm currently teaching myself Russian, French, Spanish, and a few languages from Asia. I can read a little Mandarin and Cantonese at times. English is my main language, Deutsch is my second. I also know signing for the disabled ( yes that's the correct term in Australia).
I was like this as a kid. By high school my anxiety was so bad I could barely get out of bed most of the time. But I don’t think going to a special school would’ve helped in my case, I was just terrified of falling below the ever-increasing standard I set for myself. I started college at 16 but then dropped out as a junior and now I’m a starving artist. Life takes a lot of twists and turns.
I have always been quite good at math, so I would get bored easily and just sit there, then if I was near friends I would talking causing me to get yelled at, also since I would sometimes be really good at certian types of math my teachers won’t call on me, causing me to become more bored and just want to go home. This is why I am grateful I’m in some advanced classes cause I do understand it but not enough to be so bored, except for the unit I’m in which I already know but actually like so not bored any ways.
Proper guidance for a child is so critical. I read books stand to stand in my local library, and blew the librarian's mind, but my parents never bothered to buy me more, or ask what subjects interested me.
Where at. that sounds like a blessing and struggle. Take care you sound like a wonderful soul.good luck stand tall
Right before I started school imwas evaluated like this by a reputable psychiatrist who was an extremely nice man, he put 4 cognitive puzzles in front of me and just said solve them, i nailed every single one, he looked at my parents and grandmother and asked why my new school wanted to put me in special needs. He even sent a report telling the board of education that i don't belong in special needs, some years later i found out that the woman who was in charge of the board was corrupt and would collect a check for however many kids who were gifted in special needs education and didn't need to be there. An investigation was done on her after i graduated from high school and she was fired and had to pay back the money she collected over the years, my family ended up receiving a good chunk while other families received the same, during the investigation it ws revealed that she did this at two oe three other schools and got away with it or so she thought. She is now disgraced, wqs fired from the board of education and lost her teachers license and became a pariah of her community.
I’m insanely good at those. Duke university literally put me in the “Talent Identification Program” and I got to do all types of amazing things. You all see pieces or colorful parts where we see patterns and functionally as a whole.
I always wonder what would’ve been of me if my parents wouldn’t have neglected me… I don’t think I was gifted but I was always ahead of my classmates until both my parents left me to live with my grandma, then a neighbor, an aunt, etc which messed me up completely. Now I struggle to understand a sentence on a book lmao
PTSD is real. Cptsd is a real bitch. But there's real help now too. Brain fitness has a free daily exercise.
@@DeRone22 sounds like severe trauma. Same girlie, same. Except I'm losing my memory
The ignorance of confusion evaluation with admiration.
I was "gifted" when it came to problem solving with my hands and critical thinking, too, if the topic kept me invested. I used to love playing chess and solitaire but was made fun of, so i stopped and lost my edge in chess 😮💨My dad always told me I was smarter than I was. Every time he said that I felt I wasn't good enough, being lifted is awesome, but if that's all my parents focus on, then the child will suffer like I did
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She got that tism in her... me too and between my adhd and tism i enjoyed speed running those puzzles when i took them, was annoying how slow the test administrator was giving me them tho i never got to do tthe pyramid one
Just because someone has a higher then average intelligence does not put them on the spectrum.
My 10 year old Grandson has ADHD and is also from a Military family so there has been 4 schools in 5 years.
Always had behaviour problems and lacked social skills and was bullied.
Until now, fast forward at 9, aced a a few tests and gained a place in an Opportunity class, Australias gifted program. Now is happy to attend school, made friends, excelling in academics. He finally found his people, weird thing is they are mostly high functioning but with ADHD or on the Autistic spectrum. Highly intelligent but very noisy kids who talk a lot.
I don’t consider myself gifted, but I did skip Grade 4 and graduated from high school when I was 15. Being younger (and thought to be smarter) than my classmates was a social nightmare. After graduation, but before I turned 16, I earned a very nice scholarship that would have paid for four years of University but it was withdrawn when it was noticed I was not yet 16, the minimum age for starting university. I was devastated. I wasn’t brilliant enough for getting support to start anyway. I was just smart enough to have gotten a good grade point average. So, I went to secretarial school, worked in offices my whole life, gradually going from being a receptionist to retiring as director of human resources so I think I made a pretty good use of my brain. But , socially and even academically, it was not a good journey, quite a bit of the time.
Well sorry you feel that way. But I think you sound amazing! Graduating at 15 ? Yes - That's gifted!
Genius here. Kids don't know why they're different, they just know they don't fit in -- and frankly they shouldn't be expected to fit in. Guides and mentors make a huge difference. Encourage curiosity and support independent study. A mind is a terrible thing to waste.
She's literally just mashing legos together
Part of my IQ test as a child was spatial reasoning. They set up blocks for me to mimic the shape. I completed them. They also asked questions like if this block was rotated(xyz and degrees), what would it look like? Although I have no idea what my actual IQ was scored at, everything they threw at me seemed easy. When the MRI scan and all the testing was complete, he told my mom.I did very good on all the tests. So she directly asked, so intelligence isn't her problem? The doctor, wide-eyed, slowly shook his head and said, 'no, that is absolutely not her problem'. She may have a d h d. In 1988, I was among the pioneers in hyperactive autistics.
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I was a gifted child myself when I was younger, finishing work quickly and getting bored, then doing random things to fill the boredom, only to get in trouble, really killed my love of school. Sure, the boredom was resolved with being made the teachers aid but the fact that I was not challenged more really set me back and it hurt to be called out about my “weird” antics because I acted differently.
I’m glad the girl’s mom made her wish to go to the more challenging school a priority and that must have made her so happy!
As a toddler turning 1 yr, my son went to see another pedia for his bi-yearly check up. On his 1st visit, the doc talked to us (parents) while playing with a block puzzle to make a train. My son watched her intently as i watched both while listening to her. The doc put it apart and placed the pieces just close enough to be within reach. My son looked at the woman then at the puzzle pieces and back again at her. Finally my son pulled the pieces closer and assembled them according to how she did it and pushed the result back to her. He assembled it faster than she did. She smiled at my son. Anyway everything was ok with him according to her.
What was more crippling as a gifted kid was constantly being shifted from district to district while in the foster system. Some families fostered the talents and found programs where kids could be around other kids like them and thrive, then had all of it ripped away with zero outlets. Being forced into confined boxes of materials that were mundane, tedious and boring. It was like suffocating.
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