Marriage during PhD - Not EASY (UNCUT) | Low Salary | Lack of Job Stability | Societal Perspective

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  • @romidey2991
    @romidey2991 Рік тому +40

    It's a serious social issue regarding marriage and takes a lot of guts to say all things publicly. Thanks a lot for sharing this. Wish you a great married life. Need more videos like this.

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому +2

      Thank you. There many such issues. Will make videos on this for sure

    • @abirmaity1272
      @abirmaity1272 Рік тому +1

      Ami vebe chilam phd korle meyeder line pore jai.... But reality is light years apart from my perception

  • @elonmusk4267
    @elonmusk4267 Рік тому +28

    You are so fucking awesome. People are really unaware what they have missed. And also Congratulations KD.

  • @iamJro98
    @iamJro98 10 місяців тому +15

    Sad part of this video is that it deserves more audiance ❤
    😢

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  9 місяців тому +2

      Please do share as much as possible

  • @abbishekr5507
    @abbishekr5507 Рік тому +10

    Congrats on finding your life partner and getting married bro.

  • @Creative_Sayali
    @Creative_Sayali 4 місяці тому +13

    I'm a married few months before. Now wants to pursue the PhD in Psychology. Currently doing a private job. I got very beautiful message here. Society will not going to accept our excuses. Even family members might going to feel unhappy. But it's my choice and passion to pursue PhD. So, I'll definitely overcome from this irrelevant stuff or chaos.
    As a married woman, I will definitely keep my home clean. Also I'll make perfectionist as a school Counselor.
    Dream : PhD in Psychology 🤞

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  4 місяці тому +2

      Definitely, nothing should stop you from your dream. Best wishes !!

    • @karthickgunasekaran3220
      @karthickgunasekaran3220 Місяць тому +1

      All the best

    • @womanin30
      @womanin30 12 днів тому +1

      good luck sister, hope you can make it, I also want to pursue my PhD but still not married here -,-

  • @sardarji162
    @sardarji162 Рік тому +24

    They don't know your value.IIT KHARAGPUR , IISC BANGALORE , ISRO AND FOREIGN RESEARCH TOUR aur kya chahiye bhai sahab

  • @sumit5016
    @sumit5016 Рік тому +15

    10:30 - 10:40 show this guys maturity
    Congratulations on your marriage! bro
    It's nice to hear your story

  • @sardarji162
    @sardarji162 Рік тому +9

    11:34 she is a doctor.Research weds medical

  • @sardarji162
    @sardarji162 Рік тому +20

    Marriages are like business these days.In india ,if you clear upsc or earning lakhs package then marriage is confirm. that's why engineers after btech go for mba instead of mtech and phd so that they can earn in lakhs in private sector instead of doing research.research is the important part of science and its application but in india knowledge is of no value only money money.god knows when people will understand.

  • @aniketchakraborti0920
    @aniketchakraborti0920 17 днів тому +1

    9:07 Harsh truth told by Sir/brother❤😂
    It's the fact I have seen in many cases of my relatives.😅😅

  • @paanaam
    @paanaam Рік тому +5

    I am a bit late... but better late than never...
    My heart felt blessings to you and bahu...
    Live long with all the happiness and healthy in life. Took ryt decision.
    God bless you and bahu

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому

      Thanks a lot Sir. It means a lot!!

  • @chakrabartisayantan4013
    @chakrabartisayantan4013 Рік тому +6

    It takes a lot of guts to tell the truth dada..many many congratulation for new life....and hats off to boudi ,she is a smart medico that's why she understood your true potential .

  • @Geo_Mind
    @Geo_Mind 7 місяців тому +6

    What I recommend is now total fellowship is 44-52k for 5 years, including HRA , if your research is good you will definitely get a post doc or RA , also the fellowship is tax free...i feel PhD scholars can also run a side buisness so it will increase their salary by atleast 10-15 k pm , I am doing the same.

    • @subhankarmait
      @subhankarmait 2 місяці тому

      @@Geo_Mind PhD or research karne pe money kharaj nehi hoga and baat kya money save kar sakte hain

    • @Geo_Mind
      @Geo_Mind 2 місяці тому

      @@subhankarmait depend karta hai kaha PhD kar rahe ho aur kis field me kar rahe ho..

    • @subhankarmait
      @subhankarmait 2 місяці тому

      @@Geo_Mind state university and subject biology

    • @Geo_Mind
      @Geo_Mind 2 місяці тому

      @@subhankarmait agar JRF hai to mostly money save hota hai .

  • @vagishavartika6909
    @vagishavartika6909 11 місяців тому +4

    This is really true, well said and abdolutely correct

  • @subhrajitmajumder4000
    @subhrajitmajumder4000 Рік тому +4

    This is very insightful and highly needed there are very few videos regarding this. Please make more such videos.

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому

      Thanks. Surely will talk about other social issues like this. Stay tuned and share with others.

  • @SUDARSAN_DAS
    @SUDARSAN_DAS Рік тому +4

    Congratulations on your marriage, Sir!

  • @sardarji162
    @sardarji162 Рік тому +9

    6:06 that family will regret later 😅😅😅

  • @sardarji162
    @sardarji162 Рік тому +9

    Dada is giving motivation 😂😂😂

  • @D33p11
    @D33p11 3 місяці тому +1

    I believe you have met a perfect and smart partner who respects and understands the value of PHD and its fellows hard and dedicated effort. One of my distant cousin also got married to a bright girl from an educated family. I feel its the educated family that inculcates this respect and knowledge about education to know the value of people in the field of research and higher studies. Heartiest congratulations to both of you on your start of the new life together.

  • @KaranS542
    @KaranS542 7 місяців тому +6

    They don't know ur value. U r an IISc grad in CSE, u can easily earn 20lpa in a pvt company, plus a PhD from IIT kgp, which further increases ur value and u can go upto 50 lpa and beyond if u really focussed on earning money, u just chose ur own path and followed ur passion instead of money
    Respect++

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  7 місяців тому +2

      Thanks, unfortunately very less understands this in our society now a days

    • @Kazi-Nawaz-Parvez
      @Kazi-Nawaz-Parvez 3 місяці тому

      Who said phd candidates get job in industry ?

    • @jadejaprem5692
      @jadejaprem5692 23 дні тому

      working under someone is not my cup of tea. i have ego issues. iam also going in the path of phd.

  • @aaravkumar9918
    @aaravkumar9918 9 місяців тому +6

    Unemployed woman for sarkari Naukri guy to doctor, this shift 😂 hardworking ppl can respect for values 5 years of mbbs, 3 year ms, residency specialization then doctor. B tech m tech phd definitely bhaiyaa ✌️ by the way I'm looking for iiser/iisc or isi or CMI for this year as for UG

  • @ABCDEFGHIJX
    @ABCDEFGHIJX 11 місяців тому +8

    Hi , I also joined in 2023 in IISc Bangalore integrated PhD physics.
    Sometimes I feel I will be out of track of the regular marriage age(28-30, I think)
    currently my age is 21 , by the end of the phd I will on 27-28 ..
    then post doct 31-32..
    it's something really frustrating for phd Student who thinks like me that everything has a proper age....
    be it marriage or anything else.
    By the way best wishes for your married life.

    • @Nehasingh-fj2hk
      @Nehasingh-fj2hk 2 місяці тому +1

      How you enrolled in phd at age of 21.I think minimum age for phd enrollment is 23 or 24 after completing masters and qualifying net jrf

  • @palashmoon3808
    @palashmoon3808 Рік тому +6

    Congratulations KD!! Your videos always motivate me

  • @csestudent1989
    @csestudent1989 Рік тому +6

    Kudos to u for your dedication to choose this path. It takes lot of strength to stick to your choices. And it takes more strength to be so open about your personal life and discuss this social issue. Hope many people gets inspiration from your contents. Lots of love bhai. ❤

  • @kmishy
    @kmishy Місяць тому +1

    06:58 dil jodo se tuta hoga..bcz till then you would have thought future plans with that girl😮...similar case happened with me..after 6 month of conversation ___😢

  • @Ramkumar-rd8vq
    @Ramkumar-rd8vq 2 місяці тому +1

    THe Guidance you are providing through your youtube channel is truly inspiring. Please keep doing the work even after you graduate.

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  2 місяці тому

      Thank you for your nice words. Yes, I will keep on sharing my experiences in this channel and there is no plan to stop it.

  • @MrinmayPatra-r3r
    @MrinmayPatra-r3r Місяць тому +1

    Anyway you are doing your phd in ML and it’s an emerging field plus you have some corporate experience as well you will end up in a company working in ML research … in the longer terms you are going to do great… and even if you don’t join the corporate after a Post doc you will become a faculty in good institute and you will be doing research and teach and will have a good salary and a respected profession so nothing to worry about.

  • @kruparajanita1425
    @kruparajanita1425 8 місяців тому +2

    As a woman, doing phd and this relocation issues are much more dude...! I am highly being discouraged to change or give up my dreams temporarily

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  8 місяців тому +4

      Don't give up your dream

    • @kruparajanita1425
      @kruparajanita1425 8 місяців тому +4

      Sure, sir. But women are much more supportive to men in general... This is still India and ppl put family and stability first than dream. Risk is only valid if taken in business and earning money. I think I am yet to see positive stories and create one

  • @SOUMENMAJEE123
    @SOUMENMAJEE123 Рік тому +12

    it's better not to get married, why to take tension in life.. When u said Dada about those matrimonial sites it felt like hiring a job accept or reject.. Love urself, earn for urself live peace n happy according to me.

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому +8

      Yes matrimony sites are like that. Best is find someone do love marriage. But it's too getting difficult to find someone who will support you in your struggle day

    • @Deb_deCoder
      @Deb_deCoder Рік тому

      Matrimony sites are not like that.. gals are like that.. they just want guy's mony, it's hypergamy.. that's why matrimonial sites look like that.. it's right decision for men to earn mony and choose not to mrry.. there's nothing in mrrg for men.. plus there are chances of divorce and getting looted at court.. today a man can get everything without getting mrrd if he has mony.. no need to waste your MEAT, mony, energy, attention, time

  • @Lalala_1701
    @Lalala_1701 Рік тому +3

    Soo brave dada for sharing personal life experience just amazing 👏

  • @Dhiramanidas
    @Dhiramanidas Рік тому +3

    I am actually facing same issues about marriage.....n i am a girl. Here, in assam, guy s reject aftr knowing that i m doing phd n not in a permanent job 😅😅 very stressed life

    • @sardarji162
      @sardarji162 10 місяців тому +1

      You are beautiful so you can easily get married but for guys the situation is worst if their salary is low and don't have a permanent and satisfying job

    • @Dhiramanidas
      @Dhiramanidas 10 місяців тому +1

      @@sardarji162 no no no.... Nobody took it as that... It's always about money 💰 I have by now met worst guys for this matter... They need money n my job.. 😔

    • @JyotishmanHazarika-hs3ku
      @JyotishmanHazarika-hs3ku 5 місяців тому +1

      Bruh eya ekei khon axom ne jot moi thaku.😢😅😂 Anyways all the best for your future.

  • @khastakachori123
    @khastakachori123 Рік тому +2

    Its nice of you to talk about these social issues dada. Always had these questions in mind even though I have no plans of getting married soon😂. Couldnt ask my seniors about this because it might ge awkward. You have answered very important questions.
    Once again, happy married life dada

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому +1

      I would love talk about other issues as well. Life of a phd guy is not easy. There are always an other side, which is tough to deal with. Will talk about many such issues in future may be.

    • @khastakachori123
      @khastakachori123 Рік тому

      @@kishalaydas would be happy to hear from you dada!

  • @anb3036
    @anb3036 Рік тому +3

    Congratulations 👏🏻

  • @tauhait
    @tauhait Рік тому +4

    Inspring journey ❤ as always. Hats off!!🙏

  • @abhilashkumar1009
    @abhilashkumar1009 Рік тому +2

    Congratulations bhaiya...Hope for the happiest marriage life🎉🎉

  • @suvajitsaha1073
    @suvajitsaha1073 2 місяці тому +2

    Bro I find your video after 10 months of release. I must tell you people around us dont understand research and what is its importance. They have no idea about Ph.D. Marraige in the Ph.D. life is a very troublesome if you have a relationship also. I share my experince that I have to quit my longstanding relationship only to complete my Ph.D. Because parents of bride never understood that what Ph.D. demands, I was at ICMR lab. It was funny to know that 37000 is good enough salary to get married but not as a fellowship. I have been suggested to quit Phd and get a job to marry. I didn't. Because if a person cant respect my profession, then I am unable to respect her feelings.

    • @womanin30
      @womanin30 12 днів тому

      I agreed about that, keep going brother you will find someone that can support you

  • @pankajkumarbarman765
    @pankajkumarbarman765 Рік тому +2

    Dada , you have special respect in my eyes ❤.I am very happy for you.

  • @prabirpaul1258
    @prabirpaul1258 Рік тому +3

    Congratulations dada and wish you a very good married life..
    Reception er treat ta baki roilo.

  • @gate_dose
    @gate_dose Рік тому +2

    Congratulations Bhaiya for your Marriage !!

  • @pradeeps8504
    @pradeeps8504 Рік тому +4

    Dear Brother, Your videos are always informative 👌. Respect from Tamilnadu 👍

  • @Ajay.Interview
    @Ajay.Interview Рік тому +1

    Congratulations KD🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @SHUBHAMSINGH-gh6ln
    @SHUBHAMSINGH-gh6ln Рік тому +3

    You are a 💎 gem sir

  • @sapnilpatel1645
    @sapnilpatel1645 Рік тому +2

    Congregations dada.
    And nice video.

  • @kushaldebnath1787
    @kushaldebnath1787 Рік тому +2

    Congratulations dada 😊❤️

  • @subhamoy7
    @subhamoy7 Рік тому +3

    Congratulations dada🎉

  • @pganesh8318
    @pganesh8318 Рік тому +8

    An eye opening and a life changing video for all aspirants who are willing to go for phd
    Thanks dada for always being honest and guiding aspirants.
    And congratulations on your marriage bhaiya wish you and bhabhi a happy married life ❤🎉

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому +1

      Thanks 💕😄

    • @pganesh8318
      @pganesh8318 Рік тому +2

      @@kishalaydasShe is definitely lucky to get a person like you bhaiya 🤗❤️

  • @rahultandon8125
    @rahultandon8125 7 місяців тому +1

    Good one 😊

  • @Vikassingh-fj5jn
    @Vikassingh-fj5jn 20 днів тому +1

    10:05

  • @MelonHusk7
    @MelonHusk7 9 місяців тому +2

    bhaiyya you are a doctor as well. xDD
    Chasing gold sometimes leads you to diamonds.

  • @gopikrishnanm5310
    @gopikrishnanm5310 Рік тому +1

    Congratulations brother. Wishing you a happy married life 💐

  • @aswinsrikanth408
    @aswinsrikanth408 Рік тому +1

    happy Married Life anna 💐💐

  • @kamalgupta5954
    @kamalgupta5954 Рік тому +2

    Congrats dada

  • @sardarji162
    @sardarji162 Рік тому +6

    After earning enough for my parents i would like to go Himalayas and stay in cave instead of getting married 😂😂😂

    • @Deb_deCoder
      @Deb_deCoder Рік тому

      right decision 👌 same here but not the himalayas part

    • @sardarji162
      @sardarji162 Рік тому

      @@Deb_deCoder then where

    • @Deb_deCoder
      @Deb_deCoder Рік тому

      @@sardarji162 no intention of becoming monk.. but to earn money and enjoy life without getting mrrd

  • @Srajit978
    @Srajit978 10 місяців тому +1

    Marriage is nowadays just a transaction.

    • @RockRock-fs2zk
      @RockRock-fs2zk 6 місяців тому

      Always been like that atleast in southa asia

  • @anitalayal9171
    @anitalayal9171 3 місяці тому +1

    Hlo sir thank u for sharing ur experience . Very nice video but plz guide me sir a lot of people have discouraged me saying that persuing phd from iit is very difficult. i want to take admission in IIT ropar. Plz give some interview tips also.

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  2 місяці тому +1

      There are some interview experience video in this channel in a playlist. Please follow them.

  • @anjanadas4893
    @anjanadas4893 Рік тому +2

    Congratulations 💐💐🧁🧁

  • @killbillpandey-p2m
    @killbillpandey-p2m Рік тому +3

    Y sb to thik hai lekin public ko y janna hai ki doc aur eng ki jodi kaise ban gai. Detail video chahiye janta ko...😂😂😂😊

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому

      Ha ha ha...may be someday in future will share.

  • @krishna047-h5u
    @krishna047-h5u 9 місяців тому +3

    Bhai km se km 50k hi de dete stipend toh kuch chance tha

  • @sayanchakraborty5508
    @sayanchakraborty5508 Рік тому +4

    Baba Amar ki biye hobe na
    Ei gaan ta sunte takhn?😂😂

  • @pratikbhaumik2748
    @pratikbhaumik2748 11 місяців тому +1

    Do startup enjoy life

  • @Meinkamph-w3y
    @Meinkamph-w3y 5 місяців тому +1

    Sir i am a 3rd year(20 years age) btech student but i am in relationship for 5 years she is also in Btech same age our families knows about our relationship but the thing is i want to do PhD but in our country PhD after btech is just a dream coz it has cgpa and other academic requirements ,sir what advice will u give should i focus on PhD and then post doctoral career or for the sake of our relationship i should opt for different path...

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  5 місяців тому

      Sorry for very late response. I advise manage both. Both are important. Careers and relationships. Try to make your girlfriend and family understand everything so that they are convinced. Also don't quit dream of PhD if you really like it. Best wishes

  • @sriyansh3237
    @sriyansh3237 Рік тому +1

    Congratulations Bhaiya💐💐.Wish you a happy married life.

  • @subarnaray4096
    @subarnaray4096 Рік тому +1

    Did you get married due to family pressure that you are getting old ?

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому +1

      Frankly this pressure will be there...not only from family but from the surroundings. I am listening to this since 2016/17. But my family is very supportive, they allowed me to wait, build my career, complete mtech, start a PhD, publish a few papers and and then got married.
      But it's very rare to find that support from family

  • @haldersubrata
    @haldersubrata 8 місяців тому +1

    Congratulations

  • @its_radhakant
    @its_radhakant Рік тому +2

    ISRO me hote toh ladkiyon ki line lag jati😅

  • @debojitmandal8670
    @debojitmandal8670 Місяць тому +1

    i know this is a bit personal but y do u want to even get married in the first place how bad is a batchelors life.Literally if my parents asks me to marry i abuse them verbally.Have no clue why ur making this a very big deal there are multiple venfits ofg etting married but so r there cons as well

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Місяць тому

      It was a personal call. My parents' wishes are very important to me, but so is my dream. They supported me in the past when I decided to quit my job and pursue this path, so I don't want to disregard their wishes now. Like any aspect of life, both getting married and staying single come with their own pros and cons. Ultimately, it all comes down to perspective-no one is truly wrong in this situation.

    • @debojitmandal8670
      @debojitmandal8670 Місяць тому

      @@kishalaydas sir thats y i started with its a bit personal but any how congrats and stay happy now that u found ur partner i wish a happy married life for u both and stay blessed

  • @agnimitram340
    @agnimitram340 Рік тому +1

    Are you working from home? Or does kgp give a special room to researchers?

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому

      I am from Kgp. So in weekend I stay at home. In weekdays I used to be in campus in my hostel room

  • @Chiku2024love
    @Chiku2024love Рік тому +1

    What is the age difference between u too

  • @subhankarmait
    @subhankarmait 2 місяці тому +1

    Dada PhD karna pe kitna paisa lagta hai
    If I have jrf can I save some money

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  2 місяці тому

      @@subhankarmait video coming on that topic tomorrow in my channel. Please stay tuned and watch the video.

  • @arnabmandal4849
    @arnabmandal4849 Рік тому +3

    Hmm its true. Harsh fact. Bengali parrents judge their jamai bassed on govt job only.

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому +4

      Not only bengali..it's an issue throughout India. In fact I would say in Bengal we still have few progressive parents.

  • @Deb_deCoder
    @Deb_deCoder Рік тому +2

    Congratulations for marriage 🎉 boudi kiser doctor ? mbbs naki dentist ?

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому +3

      Thanks... dentist, but she takes care of my heart now 😄☺️

    • @Deb_deCoder
      @Deb_deCoder Рік тому +4

      @@kishalaydas knew it.. except dentist no other doctor gal marries other than doctor.. because dentists earn less money 💰 🤑

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому

      @@Deb_deCoder Another societal bias it is. I knew many doc gals marrying engineers and other professions.

    • @Deb_deCoder
      @Deb_deCoder Рік тому +3

      @@kishalaydas yeah mbbs doc gals can marry other profession boys only if there is bigger better deal.. this is fmle hypergamy

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому

      @@Deb_deCoder in this video I had talked about that only. It's not only about mbbs, it's overall an social issue.

  • @Anuparna_Gangopadhyay
    @Anuparna_Gangopadhyay Рік тому

    Heartiest congratulations to you dada...😊

  • @Baban2209
    @Baban2209 Рік тому +3

    ❣️❣️🥰🥰

  • @Aryan-st7ze
    @Aryan-st7ze Рік тому +1

    can we do freelancing or job along with phd ?

  • @saddamkazmi
    @saddamkazmi Рік тому +2

    🎉

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому

      U made my marriage special bro. Thanks a lot!!

  • @rohanakhare3305
    @rohanakhare3305 Рік тому +2

    Why you didn't join FAANG

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому

      Watch this - ua-cam.com/video/c8ZDJSPjLeU/v-deo.html

  • @arindambhunia3616
    @arindambhunia3616 3 місяці тому +1

    Tomar bari ki Kharagpur e?

  • @abirmaity1272
    @abirmaity1272 Рік тому +2

    Dada apnar mone hoi na je eto talent niye jodi apni private sector e hussle korten thahole aj andha paisar malik hoten and apna kew o gold digger der theke bachar jonno mental energy koroch korte and apnar moddhe ki oi saddist mind set ta nei. ( ami jani apni sob comment poren tai doya kore answer korun. Btw i love u ( no homo) ) . Ignore korben na.

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому +1

      I worked in IT for 4 years, didn't find the job satisfaction. So switched to research and loving it. And I am not sadist, rather beleive in positive approach in life. Doesn't mean my life is smooth. But I always try to move on from negativity

  • @knighthacker2307
    @knighthacker2307 Рік тому +2

    how much earning in phd?

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому

      I am a pmrf fellow. So earning a decent amount.

  • @soumyadipbhunia4095
    @soumyadipbhunia4095 Рік тому +1

    Congratulations 🎉Dada , but why didn't you go for foreign Phd ?????...why it took 3 years for you to start phd after completing your masters????

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому

      Watch this
      ua-cam.com/video/jalQQRlLLT0/v-deo.html

    • @haldersubrata
      @haldersubrata 8 місяців тому

      My dear Son ,staying foreign country for long time is not easy if you are from middle class bengali family. 30 years back,my only objective was to go abroad specially Europe,US. After 3 attempt,I landed to ju comp sc and stayed 5,6 years in Europe. In every trip after one year I used to be home sick,desperate to come to kolkata ,stay with the people who are of my same race. Staying long time in foreign is mentally torture.

  • @sardarji162
    @sardarji162 Рік тому +1

    Kab hui dada apka biyah.....😂😂😂

  • @swatirauniyar9062
    @swatirauniyar9062 Рік тому +1

    Many many congratulations 🥳🥳
    1- Seeing your pics, I thought it's a love marriage. You both dated for approx. 2 years means you knew her from the start of 2022.
    2- These arrange marriage from relatives and matrimony sites are actually toxic. I also experienced it. I thought only I am facing it but after seeing your video, I felt we all are in same boat. Being a PhD student, you might have experienced more toxicity. A boy is judged by his salary and a girl by her physical beauty.
    3- Last year I also thought of doing of PhD but deferred. The reason mentioned by you was one of the many reasons.
    4- You took a big risk- left ISRO & a lavish job after M Tech from IISc BLR and joined IIT Kgp. Seeing your courage, God helped you and gifted you the best life-partner. Ache logo k sath bhagwan hamesha acha hi krta hai.
    Few quries coming to my mind-
    a- Did you meet your wife from any matrimony site? Did you send her a request or she sent the request first?
    b- As you both dated for approx 1.5 years, didn't your and her family ask why you both taking such a long time and quickly say yes & proceed for marriage asap?
    I am asking these personal questions as I related to your whole story and want to take advice. You are free to NOT answer my questions. 😀

    • @kishalaydas
      @kishalaydas  Рік тому +2

      A. Yes through a matrimony site. I guess I sent her a request.
      B. Fortunately our family was supportive both side and gave us enough time to understand each other.
      Thanks for your wish. Please do share the video with others to whom it might be helpful

    • @combatninjaturtle
      @combatninjaturtle 9 місяців тому

      Congratulations for your marriage life. 🎉