How To Know What To Say During Stressful Moments

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    How to Think Faster Under Pressure
    High-pressure situations are, unfortunately, absolutely inevitable. Whatever it is that you want, oftentimes, it comes after a high-pressure situation. Whether it's an interview, a networking event, or a date, it's those times where we really would like an outcome that we feel the most pressure. And unfortunately, all too often we go home kicking ourselves saying, "Why did I say that and why didn't I just say that other thing?"
    So that's why, in this video, I want to help you think more sharply and more quickly in those high-pressure situations so you don't wind up at home kicking yourself and instead you are celebrating your big win. The first thing is to initially recognize that high-pressure situations caused us to do the exact opposite of what we would if we were going to do things well. And what that means is that when somebody approaches you at work and they're being hypercritical, what is the instinct? It's to shut down and close off. If somebody walks into a room that you really would like to speak to whether it's a mentor or a date, the instinct is to have your heart race, breathe really shallow, then go, "What do I say? What do I say? What do I say?" We need to do the opposite of these things physically.
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    0:32 Change your state by doing the opposite
    1:59 Know what to say in any high pressure situation
    3:31 Know your framework
    6:57 Summary on how to deal with high pressure situations
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  • @MasculineMan
    @MasculineMan 6 років тому +6445

    It's too bad youtube does not promote channels like this, it's clear that you care about your audience and want to add value to them, oppose to the other money grubbers on UA-cam.
    If you ever want an animation done for you you, let me know :)
    Keep up the great work Charlie

    • @FishyFox
      @FishyFox 6 років тому +95

      Masculine Man Dude, this is sweet! I hope he sees this because it's obvious that him caring about his audience makes us care back!

    • @Yonatan24
      @Yonatan24 6 років тому +14

      What exactly makes you think YT doesn't promote channels like this one?

    • @Gerard-uo9zb
      @Gerard-uo9zb 6 років тому +25

      Yonatan24 Because of the fact that they don't perhaps.

    • @Yonatan24
      @Yonatan24 6 років тому +28

      So the 100 million views this channel has, from UA-cam promoting his videos hundreds of millions and even billions of times, doesn't count?!
      I agree that this is a great channel but come on...

    • @Gerard-uo9zb
      @Gerard-uo9zb 6 років тому +33

      Yonatan24 Let me make myself clear, in comparison to the absolute trash channels such as the Paul brothers, this channel isn't promoted enough for the quality content it produces.

  • @aNighthawk
    @aNighthawk 5 років тому +3664

    "do the opposite"
    Interviewer:
    Charlie: you're hired

    • @maxclark5244
      @maxclark5244 5 років тому +8

      HawQ Interviewee?

    • @MrJayXo
      @MrJayXo 5 років тому +89

      @@maxclark5244 No, he did the opposite. Instead of the interviewer saying you're hired, the interviewee told the interviewer he's hired

    • @_viridium_
      @_viridium_ 4 роки тому +32

      @@ARMYALEX1869 "No, YOU'RE fired"

    • @mukulkopulwar
      @mukulkopulwar 4 роки тому +3

      Lol 😂😂😂

    • @mikethompson2745
      @mikethompson2745 4 роки тому +25

      I had a friend who hired himself like that.
      It's actually a common tactic to interview the interviewer to help you get a job.

  • @StephenRogue
    @StephenRogue 5 років тому +4277

    As an introvert, every conversation is a high pressure situation

    • @spaak3465
      @spaak3465 5 років тому +183

      Oof the relateableness is of the charts

    • @fryphilip7474
      @fryphilip7474 5 років тому +9

      Stephen Arellano buy the program

    • @BaioWithMayo
      @BaioWithMayo 5 років тому +163

      started using these tips and now there is sexual tension with every person i meet, idk which was better

    • @flamecrew9atroblox958
      @flamecrew9atroblox958 5 років тому

      Yes lol

    • @Dubhe68
      @Dubhe68 5 років тому +40

      @@BaioWithMayo dude 😂😂😂

  • @ispitmygumonthesidewalk9753
    @ispitmygumonthesidewalk9753 4 роки тому +4558

    I watched this video 10 times already now I’m think at 100x speed

    • @mikethompson2745
      @mikethompson2745 4 роки тому +240

      If each time made you 10 times faster, you'd be 10,000,000,00x speed. 10^10. ;P

    • @godzilla8690
      @godzilla8690 4 роки тому +22

      Logic level🦸

    • @GreenZapperZ
      @GreenZapperZ 4 роки тому +74

      It sure didn't improve your math as far as this comment shows.

    • @Ezra_27
      @Ezra_27 4 роки тому +21

      *YEAH, IT'S BIG BRAIN TIME.*

    • @donnersmom
      @donnersmom 4 роки тому +4

      Ha ha ha... You are great

  • @Trophonix
    @Trophonix 6 років тому +3548

    I walked up to a woman and said "Hey, I don't think I've met you yet. I'm Charlie" and shook her hand
    We're married now
    She still thinks my name is Charlie

  • @MrLazini
    @MrLazini 6 років тому +2790

    Watch this vid in 2x for 20 times faster thinking.. Works trust me

    • @hellterminator
      @hellterminator 6 років тому +71

      Shouldn't that be 100 times faster?

    • @mswriter3612
      @mswriter3612 6 років тому +48

      WOW it works..I had to speed up my listening and my brain adapted. I needed this.. I can do this with many videos..

    • @MrLazini
      @MrLazini 6 років тому +6

      Not sure, we'll have to investigate it

    • @Peidaqsai
      @Peidaqsai 6 років тому +25

      I've always done it with all videos. Your mind can get all the informations normally and it consumes less time, your mind just needs to adapt to the new speed

    • @varunr4526
      @varunr4526 6 років тому +3

      Lazini lmaaaooo

  • @annocount7990
    @annocount7990 5 років тому +3754

    Teacher: Did you do your homework?
    Me: You are asking me if I did my homework?
    Teacher: Yes. Did you do it?
    Me: Hey, I don't think I've met you yet. I'm charlie

  • @lincolnlogs9907
    @lincolnlogs9907 6 років тому +2228

    I just asked my barber what he did for a living...

    • @melissa48027
      @melissa48027 4 роки тому +297

      So... what does your barber do for the living?

    • @philly8068
      @philly8068 4 роки тому +139

      One billion IQ😂

    • @TrueJEMtheArtist
      @TrueJEMtheArtist 4 роки тому +96

      Lincoln logs lmao that’s just as bad as my situation:
      Server: here you go and enjoy your food
      Me: thanks you too

    • @housebrigade
      @housebrigade 4 роки тому +97

      Looking at ur haircut he probably turned around and said he was a butcher

    • @ryantheapple7682
      @ryantheapple7682 4 роки тому +1

      Lol

  • @pawefornalik6638
    @pawefornalik6638 4 роки тому +554

    First time driving a car:
    Instructor: stop on the red
    Me: *do the opposite*

    • @JermaineToussaint
      @JermaineToussaint 4 роки тому +3

      Paweł Fornalik best one😹😹

    • @isabelac4758
      @isabelac4758 3 роки тому +6

      Turn on left.. Do the opposite lol

    • @Cher1111
      @Cher1111 3 роки тому +3

      I failed my drive test because of my instructor she’s a b¡tch she also yelled at me

    • @brickabang
      @brickabang 2 роки тому +2

      @@Cher1111 Yeah they told me that I’m not allowed to go at 80 mph so I went at 400 and still failed

  • @joostvanrens
    @joostvanrens 5 років тому +582

    I start all conversations with: "hey do you speak English?"
    Most co-workers don't even talk to me anymore

    • @yokaibyte2133
      @yokaibyte2133 4 роки тому +30

      Hey, do you speak English anymore? Try that... 😄

    • @QuackersMcCrackers
      @QuackersMcCrackers 3 роки тому +10

      Maybe they didn't speak English...

    • @savagenovelist2983
      @savagenovelist2983 3 роки тому +4

      314 likes.
      The math lover inside me: *joy intensifies*

    • @terrybyrd3738
      @terrybyrd3738 3 роки тому +2

      I'm gonna use that one at work - thanks!

    • @petershelton
      @petershelton 2 роки тому +1

      They must not speak English

  • @DashingPartyCrasher
    @DashingPartyCrasher 6 років тому +1178

    I'd like to expand on Charlie's summary:
    1. Do the opposite of what your body wants to do: Take a deep breath, put your arms down, and stand "tall" with shoulders back, chest out.
    2. Have a "go-to" phrase that you can say each time you meet someone in a certain situation, such as "Hi! I don't think we've met yet. I'm (your name)." Your go-to phrase(s) can be anything that have worked well for you.
    3. Know your framework or "step by step" process. For example on a date, start with fun banter, then share each other's values, and then make longer eye contact or even non-sexual touching. (Charlie has a link to the different frameworks.)
    4. If you ever feel lost in a conversation or are unsure of what to say, you can repeat what you (think you) just heard as a question. This forces the other person to repeat or clarify what they said.

    • @aur9035
      @aur9035 5 років тому +4

      Oh! Thank you so much!

    • @unknownface284
      @unknownface284 5 років тому +2

      Great work, mate

    • @tarylouisa7054
      @tarylouisa7054 5 років тому +1

      Thanks a lot !

    • @giantchook3368
      @giantchook3368 3 роки тому +2

      The Dale Carnegie Conversation Stack is a great tool to use to keep a conversation moving.

    • @selfdalireza4826
      @selfdalireza4826 3 роки тому +2

      Well done Gary

  • @NightOwlGamingz
    @NightOwlGamingz 4 роки тому +466

    Me talking to a girl that I have a crush on in class: “hey, do you speak English?”

    • @yetypicalmusic1869
      @yetypicalmusic1869 4 роки тому +32

      Her: *Angry Vietnamese*

    • @thedeadlinger6992
      @thedeadlinger6992 3 роки тому +18

      School: *Turns into a Vietcong infested Forest*

    • @mikeymorrison272
      @mikeymorrison272 3 роки тому +6

      @@thedeadlinger6992 *Fortunate Son plays*

    • @dabruh5741
      @dabruh5741 3 роки тому +1

      SOILDER:FAILS BUT GETS A SUPPLIER FOR BLUE MAGIC AND IS NOW A INFAMOUS DEALER IN NEW YORK NAMED BUMPY JOHNSON

    • @roelinamackintosh5376
      @roelinamackintosh5376 3 роки тому

      👏👏

  • @pooppooperson2328
    @pooppooperson2328 6 років тому +1308

    Job Interview:
    Me: Hey, I don't think I've met you yet, I'm Charlie
    Interviewer: You're hired

    • @unknownface284
      @unknownface284 5 років тому +1

    • @BasicShapes
      @BasicShapes 5 років тому +36

      HR Manager: So I've called you in because of the sexual allegations against you
      Me: Hey, I don't think I've met you yet, I'm Charlie
      HR Manager: You're fired

    • @zchmxwl8195
      @zchmxwl8195 5 років тому

      Fluffy Waffles 🤣

    • @epharonin1524
      @epharonin1524 4 роки тому +16

      @Fluffy Waffles
      HR Manager: “So, I've called you in because of the sexual allegations against you."
      Me: “Hey, I don't think I've met you yet, I'm Charlie!"
      HR Manager: “You're fired."
      Me: “No, I'm Charlie..."

  • @nikitbarapatre
    @nikitbarapatre 6 років тому +611

    I am thinking only 8.23X faster please help.

  • @brayjsanimation6165
    @brayjsanimation6165 3 роки тому +92

    is talking to my robber
    "Hey, do you speak english"
    *gets shot*
    "I don't think we've met yet, I'm Charlie."

  • @xXSaberToothSamuraiXx
    @xXSaberToothSamuraiXx 6 років тому +1804

    How to be Light Yagami 101

    • @user-ok7gr2lw2j
      @user-ok7gr2lw2j 6 років тому +189

      But how can I stop time to think things like for five minutes?

    • @xXSaberToothSamuraiXx
      @xXSaberToothSamuraiXx 6 років тому +80

      Ask Ryuk ;)

    • @deepakdahiya7471
      @deepakdahiya7471 6 років тому +43

      He really should go through that topic because that man is the idol human being.

    • @luisc5922
      @luisc5922 6 років тому +14

      L and lighto

    • @geryldpina7091
      @geryldpina7091 6 років тому +26

      Definitely not Light Turner

  • @CuriosityCulture
    @CuriosityCulture 6 років тому +525

    I usually don't like talking head videos. But you just have that energy man! Love it

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  6 років тому +41

      Thanks man!

    • @grivar
      @grivar 6 років тому +46

      Not sure this qualifies as a talking head video. A bit too much torso for that :P

    • @mahesh-re5ln
      @mahesh-re5ln 6 років тому +1

      Harshil Patel tom

    • @EscapingElyisum
      @EscapingElyisum 6 років тому +29

      it's almost like he does charisma tutorials

    • @joshmesser374
      @joshmesser374 6 років тому +3

      Not even once in a lifetime? That's a good music video come on

  • @AirElegant
    @AirElegant 6 років тому +598

    Take a deep breath. Oxygen is our best friend

    • @hellterminator
      @hellterminator 6 років тому +25

      The Apollo 1 crew might not agree with that.

    • @boslyporshy6553
      @boslyporshy6553 6 років тому +10

      Doesn't directly injecting oxygen into your blood stream kill you?

    • @hq4290
      @hq4290 6 років тому +17

      Bosly Porshy as does injecting any gas would reallt.

    • @Horesmi
      @Horesmi 6 років тому +20

      *hyperventilates in front of a crowd*

    • @EB8-1.1
      @EB8-1.1 5 років тому +2

      Even if i‘m a Fish ?

  • @candyheartsart
    @candyheartsart 4 роки тому +82

    Thank you so much for creating this content! As someone who has ADHD and Autism I struggle so much with social interactions and you are really helping me learn more about what to do, even if I don't really understand it.

    • @DaveE99
      @DaveE99 Рік тому +1

      Even for me just adhd, there is so many layers to things humans do. Understanding it can help but is different than learning how to relate to it to some extent.

  • @SelfMadeMillennial
    @SelfMadeMillennial 5 років тому +8

    I didn't start doing this first tip until a few months ago when someone told me, "Anything you feel, besides physical pain, you have the power to change." This has got me to start controlling my breathing, taking control of my feelings. Once you even have even just mild results it feels amazing!

  • @adadadrian9117
    @adadadrian9117 6 років тому +59

    i tried this in my kickboxing lesson. i opened up, found a solution to handle the punch and my partner broke my nose, thanks dude!

    • @iamyouare4308
      @iamyouare4308 4 роки тому +7

      You couldn't knock the froth of a cappuccino

    • @nathanjuan8737
      @nathanjuan8737 3 роки тому

      situation? application.....

  • @njamison1000
    @njamison1000 6 років тому +371

    "Do the opposite of what your body tells you to do."
    *twerks against management table*
    Job Interviewer: "What are you doing?"
    Me: *In a more relaxed tone* "Relieving my stress. Why the concern?"

    • @_omaradnan
      @_omaradnan 4 роки тому +28

      no you should say "what am I doing ?"

    • @abdulvahid4203
      @abdulvahid4203 4 роки тому +1

      TurtleTroll lol.

    • @Creepernator
      @Creepernator 4 роки тому +7

      Hahahah, this made me laugh out loud.

    • @sockpuppet2109
      @sockpuppet2109 4 роки тому +1

      @@_omaradnan b b bbbb:b ::g

    • @sallymichael2355
      @sallymichael2355 3 роки тому

      NO U DIDN'T
      Hahahaha how did u even think of that

  • @X2StealthZeikon2X
    @X2StealthZeikon2X 6 років тому +3

    I can't express how thankful I am for coming across this channel. As a person who has gone through a very rough year on my personal self worth, it's amazing how motivational these videos are to get myself back on my feet; whether its taking mental or physical notes on my diary. Keep up the good work!

  • @MCFishNuggets
    @MCFishNuggets 4 роки тому +26

    Boss: you haven’t been reaching your goal, your on thin ice
    Employee: hi, I don’t think we’ve met

  • @DMM-cv5fh
    @DMM-cv5fh 5 років тому +184

    In the Marines, we are taught a phrase over and over when dealing with high pressure situations- “slow is smooth, smooth is fast.” What do you think about that? I thought about that especially on your first point.

    • @BULLTRONHERO
      @BULLTRONHERO 4 роки тому +7

      03DM M240 My Soul Mirror was in the army; she taught me many things, along with “slow is smooth, and smooth is fast” and it has been absolutely one of the most consistently useful bits of mindware I’ve yet acquired.

    • @epicmautauche2233
      @epicmautauche2233 4 роки тому +1

      I'm not in the military or in the marines, im 14. What does that mean?

    • @DMM-cv5fh
      @DMM-cv5fh 4 роки тому +37

      Epic Mautauche It means to slow down your movements and thought process enough for your rational mind to keep pace. For example, in Boot Camp the drill instructors are constantly screaming at you to go faster and faster and faster while you are required to perform different things from simply unlocking a combination lock to disassemble and assembling crew served weapons for cleaning and maintenance. You have to be fast and accurate in your movements, because in a combat situation your body movements will often go faster than your mind which makes you spaz out. So just take a breath remember slow is smooth and smooth is fast and you will find that what you’re doing is much faster than if you just go as fast as I can but really all you’re doing is shaking and spazzing out.

    • @epicmautauche2233
      @epicmautauche2233 4 роки тому +2

      @@DMM-cv5fh Oohh, okey thankss

    • @GoblinQueen2008
      @GoblinQueen2008 2 роки тому +8

      I found your comment very helpful and have learned something today. Thanks for sharing that. Also, kudos on the way you treated 14-year old 'Epic Mautauche'...your patient explanation, I think, clarified it for more than just him/her and we have gained valuable insight on something we didn't know that we didn't know. You have the makings of a great teacher, as well as, no doubt, being as chilled as a cucumber in an iceberg when under pressure. Awesome stuff. :}

  • @imransurbakti4417
    @imransurbakti4417 3 роки тому +30

    "OH MY GOD! YOU KILLED THAT GIRL?"
    "heyyy, do you speak english?"

  • @harithomas1911
    @harithomas1911 5 років тому +5

    I just wanted to say thank you so so much. These videos help someone who has a behavioural disorder to read other behavioural traits and stop them from feeling lonely and unwanted. On behalf of myself and others like me, thank you ever so much!!!

  • @randynelson5998
    @randynelson5998 4 роки тому +2

    How is this guy so genius. The sheer simplicity of the things he says blows my mind. “Hey, I haven’t met you yet. I’m Randy.” That is the simplest easiest thing I’ve never thought of. You can say that to ANYONE you don’t know and it’ll just unfold into a conversation. Thank you Charlie, I’ve watched your videos for years and you’ve helped my interactions so much. There’s just nowhere else to get this help!! Not everyone has the confidence to trial-and-error human interaction

  • @sebastianelytron8450
    @sebastianelytron8450 6 років тому +1283

    Under pressure? Stay cool as ice, ice, baby.

    • @iadjjisciajad3682
      @iadjjisciajad3682 6 років тому +28

      It's the terror of knowing what the world is about

    • @williams7787
      @williams7787 6 років тому +20

      Watching some good friends screaming let me out

    • @thomas.02
      @thomas.02 6 років тому +11

      best reference ever, unfortunately not quite original ;)

    • @fclp67
      @fclp67 6 років тому +8

      du du du dudududu

    • @akashchoudhary8162
      @akashchoudhary8162 6 років тому +4

      But ice melts under high pressure...

  • @Knowledge_Nuggies
    @Knowledge_Nuggies 4 роки тому +7

    Good stuff; here's my summary:
    • If there's something valuable to win, a high-pressure situation is usually the gate-keeper, e. g. dates, exams, job interviews etc.
    • 3 strategies to excel in high-pressure situations:
    1. Do the opposite of what u'd do by instinct
    □ We tend to do the wrong thing by instinct, that is get nervous, shut down, close off etc.
    □ Better: Consciously open ur body language, take a deep breath & calm down
    □ Think of the rituals athletes use to change their physical state
    2. Know the first thing to do/say in a particular type of situation
    □ Have a standard go-to-strategy, e. g. particular ice-breakers for meeting new ppl at networking events
    □ e. g. "Hey! I don't think I've met u yet. I'm [insert name]."
    3. Know ur frameworks for each type of situation
    □ There are many different frameworks (due to processual regularities), e. g. for dates, first impressions, case studies etc.
    □ e. g. good dates have 3 elements (in that order):
    1. Intrigue / interest (first spark; light fun; air of mystery)
    2. sharing of values, ambitions etc. (make a deeper connection)
    3. physical / sexual tension (comfortable long eye contact etc.)
    □ Use these frameworks as mental checklists to navigate these situations
    • Extra tip: Caught off-guard by a question? Rephrase the last words as a question ("Blablabla. What do u think of X?"->"Oh, u want my view on X?")
    ○ That gives u valuable time to change ur state, think etc.
    ○ Bonus points, if ur opponent even elaborates the initial question as a follow-up

  • @thesquirteler4520
    @thesquirteler4520 6 років тому +19

    Charlie, thank you again for your words of wisdom. They really do work! I was in a public setting all of today, and just by opening up my arms and rolling back my shoulders, I was totally at ease! Thank you for your dedication to this channel, it really does make a difference.

  • @metas1779
    @metas1779 6 років тому +41

    This guy's the guy! These vids are super helpful without being over the top like some other stuff I've seen. Well done.

  • @saarahturtle
    @saarahturtle 6 років тому +46

    This video is so needed for me. When I feel like there’s a lot of attention on me (from presenting or even putting my hand up in class to group situations) I feel like my mind goes foggy and I can’t think straight. I’m usually pretty confident but I become a different person and it’s the worst because I feel like there’s a physical boundary that I need to put the work in to stop.

    • @user-ok7gr2lw2j
      @user-ok7gr2lw2j 6 років тому +6

      Social Anxiety? Because I have that too...

    • @bellaw.5195
      @bellaw.5195 6 років тому +3

      That happeneds to me too!

    • @saarahturtle
      @saarahturtle 6 років тому +2

      LotusStream OceanMermaid I never thought that I had social anxiety. I might look into it.

    • @user-ok7gr2lw2j
      @user-ok7gr2lw2j 6 років тому +4

      No no... if you doubt you have that, you might decide yourself that you have social anxiety.
      Go to a UA-cam channel named Vanessa Van Edwards and look at her recent about how to deal with social anxiety. This might help you.

    • @PracticalInspiration
      @PracticalInspiration 6 років тому +4

      Responses like these are usually because you're so focused on yourself that you lose confidence. The techniques in this video are genuinely helpful. One other thing is working on your mindset as you'll develop your confidence. Do things, routines, that put you in a frame of mind that will have you believe the day ahead is going to be an amazing day. You'd be amazed how much of a positive effect this will have.
      In addition, practice! Seriously, if you get nervous in a group setting, then don't be afraid to push yourself to speak your mind. At first it's hard, but I promise it gets easier

  • @ryansecord8071
    @ryansecord8071 6 років тому +807

    Step 1: Stop caring.

    • @Tubeytime
      @Tubeytime 6 років тому +45

      Step 2: Be based.

    • @makeithappen8906
      @makeithappen8906 6 років тому +1

      Golden

    • @htoodoh5770
      @htoodoh5770 6 років тому

      Teodor Lukas what?

    • @BTwice-PSB
      @BTwice-PSB 6 років тому +11

      Ryan Secord this works 100 % if not then u still care but when u dont give shit anymore ur rock solid but yes u do end up as a litte cold on the inside haha

    • @kenonerboy
      @kenonerboy 6 років тому +6

      If i didnt care I'd leave...

  • @cody9744
    @cody9744 6 років тому +4

    I’ve been watching you for two years now and love how you still bring new skills to bear!

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  6 років тому +3

      ~ Thanks Cody! Appreciate you sticking with us since the beginning. :-)

  • @saarahturtle
    @saarahturtle 6 років тому

    Even after a year of subscribing to this channel, I can’t get over how you managed to do these videos so well in one take

  • @nicspinks
    @nicspinks 6 років тому +39

    I really liked the zoom in when you took a deep breath

  • @moritzschroder
    @moritzschroder 6 років тому +7

    Loved the video! Staying sharp under pressure has been a problem for me for a while now... when I create content, such as blog posts or my youtube videos, I can take my time with thinking and aligning my thoughts. But when put on the spot I tend to crash and burn. Definitely something I need to work more on in the future! 😉

  • @missestomlinson99
    @missestomlinson99 3 роки тому +32

    cashier: that’ll be 1.99$
    me: “think fast”
    also me: hands her 25 cents

  • @tarikalakkad2005
    @tarikalakkad2005 5 років тому

    Man can't get enough of your videos. I see sincerity in every single video.

  • @Blessthemartyr132
    @Blessthemartyr132 4 роки тому +6

    I love every video you make and I think you do such a great job gettingyour message across. I've definitely learned a lot from you and thanks so much.

  • @PracticalInspiration
    @PracticalInspiration 6 років тому +5

    Great video as always! This video focuses heavily on high pressure social situations, but the principle ideas can be extended to other pressure situations too. I've personally worked a lot on coping with stress myself and doing so allows me to achieve so much more in life.

  • @sdaisyclaire
    @sdaisyclaire 6 років тому

    This video just magically appears right after I worked in a shift where we were severly understaffed and a crowd of people exceeded our projections. Awesome!

  • @TheDenisedrake
    @TheDenisedrake 6 років тому

    Fabulous! Four times a year I am the lobby manager for huge dance recitals (300+ dancers). There are always a few parents or grandparents etc. who think they should be let in early, can go backstage or have some other issue that I have to say "no" to. I love the open body language and repeating the question or request. Thanks!

  • @MagicLink43
    @MagicLink43 6 років тому +163

    I've recently had trouble formulating my sentences and expressing what I want to say. Any advice that can help me overcome this hurdle?

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  6 років тому +109

      My guess is that the number one thing that would help you is slowing down. Often times we think we are speaking much more slowly than we are (if you've watched yourself on tape, it becomes obvious). Take a deep breath, collect your thoughts without filler words, and take advantage of the silence. In addition to giving you a few extra seconds to think, it can be great for commanding attention if you don't interrupt it with filler words

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  6 років тому +25

      My guess is that the number one thing that would help you is slowing down. Often times we think we are speaking much more slowly than we are (if you've watched yourself on tape, it becomes obvious). Take a deep breath, collect your thoughts without filler words, and take advantage of the silence. In addition to giving you a few extra seconds to think, it can be great for commanding attention if you don't interrupt it with filler words

    • @MagicLink43
      @MagicLink43 6 років тому +39

      Charisma on Command I think you're right. Many times I scramble through thoughts in my mind and can't seem to get anything out. Slowing down will definitely help. Looking back, I also do tend to interrupt silence and use filler words often. I will make a conscious effort to stop that. Thank you very much!

    • @PracticalInspiration
      @PracticalInspiration 6 років тому +16

      lol, I was about to respond with the same suggestions as the guys at Charisma on Command (not sure if it was Charlie or Ben).
      Another thing that might help is consider where your focus is. Often when we stumble on words or feel nerves it's because our focus is so heavily on ourselves rather than who we're talking to. For example, if you struggle in social situations, one really good thing is to keep asking questions, because if you ask others about themselves, then your focus is on them, not yourself. This can be a great confidence booster as you feel more comfortable in the conversation. I'm aware that may not be an answer to your specific issue, but hopefully identifying where your focus is when speaking will help you understand how to overcome it.

    • @dannyclub09
      @dannyclub09 6 років тому +6

      I'm like this. And then I try and jokingly address the fact I'm being inarticulate but then am inarticulate in doing that and come across as a complete mess. Charlie is right though, I slow down and try and form the sentence in my mind first, even if it means pausing for a while mid-sentence, and it does help.

  • @DepressionTalks1
    @DepressionTalks1 6 років тому +115

    These tips are helpful for sure. I think overall you just have to be yourself, and be okay with slowly growing.

    • @DepressionTalks1
      @DepressionTalks1 6 років тому +4

      Solutionist ' Hm.. slow growth is better than no growth.

    • @woodsofchaos
      @woodsofchaos 6 років тому +6

      And it would have been equal to normal growth too, until you called it slow growth.

    • @Shifterfire
      @Shifterfire 6 років тому +5

      In personal growth, usually any meaningful growth is slow. And if you think it's fast, you realise later you haven't actually grown that much.

    • @DepressionTalks1
      @DepressionTalks1 6 років тому

      Himanshu Singh Cool perspective:]

    • @DepressionTalks1
      @DepressionTalks1 6 років тому

      Shifterfire Never thought of it that way:]

  • @Iron-Bridge
    @Iron-Bridge 6 років тому

    I'm glad this channel has passed the million subscriber mark. Lot of value to be found. You're doing very well and I wish you the very best on your rise. Cheers!

  • @h4468
    @h4468 5 років тому

    I hope you know how much impact your videos make in the world. You have literally shifted my entire life and how I view it

  • @talkingwalex2163
    @talkingwalex2163 4 роки тому +253

    Who else is here to learn how to human? 🙋‍♀️

    • @shriharir6450
      @shriharir6450 3 роки тому +3

      Meeee

    • @savagenovelist2983
      @savagenovelist2983 3 роки тому +1

      Turtle behind video screen with pfp of some random kid: Same...

    • @SoulTouchMusic93
      @SoulTouchMusic93 3 роки тому +3

      Gotta prepare to sneak by in case they decide to raid area 51 again ...

    • @TorontosFinestKrew
      @TorontosFinestKrew 3 роки тому

      I’m good enough to trust in my recklessness

    • @davidthor4405
      @davidthor4405 3 роки тому +1

      I mean I do have autism, so yeah

  • @SergioRugerio
    @SergioRugerio 6 років тому +165

    Charlie i have recently seen all your *infront of the camera* videos, it is amazing how much you have imporved your presentation skills, honestly i dont think there is a better presenter considering that you only make one take videos, with no cuts. I would love if you could go deeper on explaining how you prepare the videos.
    I know you already did a videos called "zero notes needed", but if you could go a little deeper it would be awesome.
    Thanks for sharing amazing, mind shifting content.

    • @PracticalInspiration
      @PracticalInspiration 6 років тому +6

      This is what I was thinking, his on camera charisma is amazing when you consider the subtleties of how he communicates. In general, I feel they've really done great work with how they generally edit videos, it's really come a huge way.

  • @deathsoulger1
    @deathsoulger1 3 роки тому +1

    This channels content is changing my life radically. Highly recommend this to anyone

  • @freshprince8919
    @freshprince8919 4 роки тому +1

    I had a similar experience with this, had this one friend that always attacked me in a social situation, I tried this technique. after a while though all the humility, I started speaking up ... go for it!

  • @vm3mm3mv29
    @vm3mm3mv29 6 років тому +605

    This channel is for aliens that want to mingle between humans

    • @thenoblemute7669
      @thenoblemute7669 6 років тому +41

      vm3m m3mv ~ oh no they've figured me out

    • @ishpeeedy
      @ishpeeedy 5 років тому +8

      You got me!
      Pshhht! Alert master Zucc ASAP!

    • @machduel
      @machduel 5 років тому +11

      Jokes aside there is a lot of stuff that he covers that you'd expect people to have already (charisma wise) then you go out into the world and everyone's a jerk.

    • @mihlalipotwana7448
      @mihlalipotwana7448 5 років тому +2

      You dont have to be soo loud

    • @scrapthatwithmatt9520
      @scrapthatwithmatt9520 4 роки тому

      Mythron na, not everyone, just the majority (80%)

  • @thewarhammer6606
    @thewarhammer6606 5 років тому +26

    Me: *Doing Tai Chi in the office's waiting room*
    Secratary: Sir... are you ok?
    Me: Can't talk. Im doing my interview ritual

  • @Seeker_CS
    @Seeker_CS 4 роки тому

    The fact that there are no cuts or jumps in this make it so much better. Nice

  • @celticsfangreen
    @celticsfangreen 5 років тому

    You’re a genius making a video and then linking 4 more of your videos that tag along with the main concept no wonder you have so many views

  • @abirdonalilactree
    @abirdonalilactree 6 років тому +34

    Under pressure, I'm pretty sure I'm going to say 'Hello, I'm Charly', now 😀

    • @amymartinez6477
      @amymartinez6477 5 років тому +3

      Funny if they are like oh you saw the video too!?

  • @claeswelinder2014
    @claeswelinder2014 6 років тому +66

    I can’t overemphasis the value in making a habit of visualizing possible scenarios and mentaly practice routines.
    This might require you to put down the phone and study your surroundings though ;)

    • @sgnome1725
      @sgnome1725 6 років тому

      Darn

    • @CBLK159
      @CBLK159 5 років тому +4

      Phone bad speak good

    • @rodrigozanabria2978
      @rodrigozanabria2978 5 років тому +3

      @@CBLK159 yes

    • @Resunaa
      @Resunaa 4 роки тому +1

      Oh people dont already do this?
      It's actually nice to visualize a universe with a conversation that I'm anticipating. Sometimes you can take replies you used in that scenario and place that in a real convo you're having, almost like reading a script from your memory. The more you do it the more accurate you can become and the more fluent your sentences will be.

    • @bsivoljr
      @bsivoljr 3 роки тому

      @@Resunaa The crazy thing is that Im really good at this and can visualize tons of scenarios, however I never practice this.

  • @nabeel9187
    @nabeel9187 4 роки тому +1

    This channel has improved my life and mind a thousand times more than anything else.I found all the videos I have watched on this channel useful.
    Thank You

  • @jonneyblack4458
    @jonneyblack4458 5 років тому

    I've seen and read a lot of stuff on this topic, and this is the best video I've EVER seen. Very informative and clearly explained.

  • @physical_insanity
    @physical_insanity 6 років тому +12

    Thing is, even if I do say what I want, I still end up kicking myself thinking "why didn't I say this today?" even though it probably went pretty well.

  • @alexanderSnilsson
    @alexanderSnilsson 6 років тому +6

    These are all great tips I've tried to apply lately to varying degree. However, I must say that working on being conscious and aware throughout the day, really has paid off good to these high-pressure situations. It's like I've gotten better at "slow-mo" down the time to think and be less reactive. This is the more longterm fix that also requires tons of work. I've been using meditation, journaling and just focusing on being more present and aware. Thanks for GREAT content as always Charlie,
    /Alex

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  6 років тому +1

      I'm getting hooked on meditation. Definitely more videos on that soon!

    • @alexanderSnilsson
      @alexanderSnilsson 6 років тому

      SWEET! I'm starting to fall in love in it as well

  • @patriciavideojourn9117
    @patriciavideojourn9117 4 роки тому +1

    i have been watching their videos since the quarantine every morning as I prepare breakfast. Very helpful!

  • @justineamador8160
    @justineamador8160 5 років тому +2

    Charlie!
    Im so proud if you!
    Love your videos! 😍

  • @thatguyrajat
    @thatguyrajat 6 років тому +4

    Thanks for this one Charlie 👍

  • @ukaszs3986
    @ukaszs3986 4 роки тому +6

    Boss: Kowalski where is that crucial report I wanted on my desk yesterday?
    Me: Hey, do you speak english?

  • @QwertyTSecond
    @QwertyTSecond 6 років тому +1

    One thing I'd add is knowing what you want, gearing a framework to a specific goal you want and figuring out if you're on the right track to that.

  • @suryahr307
    @suryahr307 4 роки тому

    I have the most important interview of my life in 2 days and I get this video recommended. I didn't even watch any videos related to interviews!!

  • @VIK_1903
    @VIK_1903 6 років тому +184

    HOW TO MAKE ME CLICK HERE 10X FASTER

  • @xZankiohx
    @xZankiohx 6 років тому +66

    I came here in order to learn how to think 10x faster under pressure but now I can think 12x faster than normal under pressure. How can I go back please?

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  6 років тому +61

      Watch on .75 speed. 9X should be close enough

    • @xZankiohx
      @xZankiohx 6 років тому +10

      Charisma on Command thank you! Hahahahaha.

    • @vm3mm3mv29
      @vm3mm3mv29 6 років тому +3

      Charisma on Command 😂😂😂😂

    • @Infaviored
      @Infaviored 6 років тому +1

      That was actually really funny

  • @DemetriosLevi
    @DemetriosLevi 6 років тому

    This is the first video of yours I've watched, and I can see why you have over one million subs...this info is GOLD, man!

  • @kyrier9827
    @kyrier9827 5 років тому

    The thing I love about your advise is you dont say, "change your personality this way so people will like you." You instead suggest start doing this in daily life to be a more magnetic person. You help us to better our charisma without making it seem like we need to completely change who we are to be a "better person." You want us to better ourselves for our own wellbeing and not just for what other people think. Keep up the amazing work! 👍

  • @klubkudu
    @klubkudu 6 років тому +4

    Hey Charlie,
    I was just wondering if you could cover some texting or online behaviour that is charismatic. Like a certain way of texting because texting is a pretty big part of dating and relationships these days.
    Just a suggestion, keep up the good work!

  • @chiemikaononiwu4985
    @chiemikaononiwu4985 6 років тому +27

    The emoji he slid in at 5:14 💀💀💀

    • @CaptainCocaine
      @CaptainCocaine 5 років тому +2

      I'm surprised I don't see more comments about that.

    • @flueepwrien6587
      @flueepwrien6587 5 років тому +2

      @@CaptainCocaine exactly, best part of the video

  • @lauragriffin3368
    @lauragriffin3368 5 років тому +1

    Wow! This is great advice! I’m constantly surprised at how much value any one of these videos offer. They’re just awesome! They package up so many different things into one context so it’s useful immediately. Thank you for making this!

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  5 років тому

      ~ Happy to make it! Glad to hear you're getting value from our videos. :-)

  • @muskduh
    @muskduh 2 роки тому

    Appreciate your video, my man. Keep up the great work!

  • @TrashReturns
    @TrashReturns 6 років тому +9

    Your biceps just looks... handsome. Ever thought about a video on your workout?

  • @charitytoke6461
    @charitytoke6461 Рік тому +83

    Superb video. But, let me share this here knowing it can uplift someone that comes across it. Effective financial management made me rich and it is all you need if you want to build a strong financial future tomorrow. I started with 1000USD, 3 years ago I invested in a diversified stock market and fast forward to now I am worth 500000USD and am currently finishing my 8 unit apartments. I'm only 35 years old. Diversified stock investments have always proven to be very profitable, especially with the help of experts.

    • @catherinehughes2155
      @catherinehughes2155 Рік тому

      I'm really impressed. At 35, i was worth a little over $200,000 from * in the stock market. But what you've done with your *finances* and numbers you worth, is pure genius.

    • @torkwaskipolischez8484
      @torkwaskipolischez8484 Рік тому

      You have done well. It's people like you who set the benchmark for people like us to know that achieving financial stability and transition of status from being comfortable to wealthy is possible with the right *investment* plan.

    • @arlingjonathan4263
      @arlingjonathan4263 Рік тому

      I'm curious, is *investing* in a diversified stock *market* a pretty lucrative venture? Can you share how you achieved these figures?

    • @charitytoke6461
      @charitytoke6461 Рік тому

      @@arlingjonathan4263 Experience plays a key role when *investing* in diversified *stock markets*, which is why I have Rachel Hilda, whose experience has greatly helped me persevere in the diversified *stock market*. For three years she helped me grow my portfolio using her diversified knowledge of the financial *market*.

    • @arlingjonathan4263
      @arlingjonathan4263 Рік тому

      @@charitytoke6461 Thank you very much for the response, I don't know if you can share a medium that I could use to communicate with Rachel. It's really a tough time for me due to inflations and an additional source of *income* would be exactly what I need for me in these unprecedented times and does she accept a minimum amount for startup?

  • @RiaLuna1
    @RiaLuna1 5 років тому +1

    Thank you so much! Such a great and extremely helpful video!❤️❣️

  • @jnellieeightyfive7725
    @jnellieeightyfive7725 3 роки тому

    Love you Charlie. Keep up the amazing work ❤ we appreciate your support

  • @ACompleteUnknown97
    @ACompleteUnknown97 3 роки тому +7

    “Do the opposite”
    *George Costanza wants to know your location*

  • @DBZMacky
    @DBZMacky 6 років тому +6

    I guess this is Michael De Santa's ability IRL.

  • @RokonGaming
    @RokonGaming 6 років тому

    Fantastic video as always, Charlie. I'm always looking forward to improving myself socially.

  • @namesecond6186
    @namesecond6186 4 роки тому

    I liked how you actually gave instructions of what to do rather than just talk vaguely about the subjects like the rest of the videos.

  • @quadraticequation8196
    @quadraticequation8196 6 років тому +5

    Last time I was in a fight with my teacher....my nose started shaking 😢😖

  • @nathanh5448
    @nathanh5448 6 років тому +41

    Hi charlie, I wanted to ask you, can you do a video on Jeff Goldblum?

    • @Charismaoncommand
      @Charismaoncommand  6 років тому +26

      He's definitely an interesting character. Maybe for the new Jurassic World? I'll take a look and see if it makes sense

    • @victoryzy
      @victoryzy 6 років тому

      Especially his interviews with Conan!

    • @epharonin1524
      @epharonin1524 4 роки тому

      Got to do one on Rodney Dangerfield, too 😁

  • @SalemGTV
    @SalemGTV 6 років тому +1

    Dude! Your videos are improving! Nice work

  • @ujjwalb7406
    @ujjwalb7406 4 роки тому +1

    Love your work man

  • @Buraak97
    @Buraak97 6 років тому +13

    A:What do u think of this?
    B: What do i think about this?..
    Hahaha i wanna know if this realy works, genuis. Time to practice and implement frameworks

  • @1dgram
    @1dgram 6 років тому +3

    Or you could get into a bunch of different extreme sports that seem really dangerous but in actuality aren't that bad and eventually you'll rarely get adrenaline rushes any more and when you do they'll be much sublimed. Then the only thing is that teammates might wonder why you don't panic when something goes really wrong; you just weigh the options and calmly choose one; it can really freak some people out and make them wonder if you really care.

  • @a2h579
    @a2h579 3 роки тому +1

    That’s important to think faster for every successful person, good video ❤️

  • @PianistaPeralta
    @PianistaPeralta 5 років тому +1

    Your videos are just awesome, thank you for doing it! ❤

  • @shaun_rambaran
    @shaun_rambaran 6 років тому +4

    "Yes, Charlie. The proposal. Weren't you listening?..."

  • @thegoodkidboy7726
    @thegoodkidboy7726 5 років тому +3

    "So, what do you think?"
    "Yes"

  • @robbytheyogi990
    @robbytheyogi990 6 років тому +1

    Interesting addition of graphics in your videos Charlie!
    I like em :) Keep up the awesome work my man

  • @abenerice
    @abenerice 6 років тому

    Thank you Charlie, great content as usual!

  • @MetaphoricMinds
    @MetaphoricMinds 3 роки тому +19

    It is awkward that I'm here to learn how to socialize better, but my wife comes in while I'm being given dating advice from some guy on the internet.

    • @Ohakoo
      @Ohakoo 2 роки тому +3

      Are u alive?

  • @RemusNeo
    @RemusNeo 6 років тому +25

    Mm ba ba de
    Um bum ba de
    Um bu bu bum da de
    PRESSURE! pushing down on me
    Pressing down on you no man ask for
    Under pressure that brings a building down
    Splits a family in two
    Puts people on streets

  • @curlymixednezz
    @curlymixednezz 5 років тому +1

    You give some great insight... I love learning your perspective on life 💯

  • @MG-iq6lr
    @MG-iq6lr 5 років тому

    Excellent at speaking and a fast thinker himself.. no pauses, no ums and arrs. Impressive