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did you find your shake?
Yeah, would love an update on the shake as well.
You don't look autistic.
I have zero social media. I had everything for so long mostly for my work. Then realized I didn’t know any of these people who seemed to have way too much opinions and control over my every action and expressed thought
Hi, I'm Dringa vlogs, I'm COMPLETELY blind, autistic, and have a chronic heart condition.
I JUST made a new video, last night, about autism, specifically Asperger's syndrome.
My youtube channel is Dringa vlogs
I love your autism AITA videos, I have to say those are my favorites, I can especially relate to the part about forcing that lady to grow up, people aren't that understanding of us.
i recently told my mum that i think i may be autistic and the first things she told me was "youre too smart" and "youre just acting autistic" excuse me what?!? 😭😭
Oh nooo - I'm sorry 😔 Hopefully if you slowly share information about autism/send links to resources, she might come around? Sometimes it take time to unlearn 💛
@@imautisticnowwhat ive tried that, i think she just ignored it and forgot about it since she thinks im just acting even though im just slowly trying to act more myself at home since i normally just do so in private. so now that she sees im acting differently she thinks im just faking it 😔 im gonna keep trying to encourage her to look into it a little more though 🤍
Explain to her that you can be a genious and also authistic. Those words sound like gaslighting. Work on your selfsteem and don't allow anyone to invalidate you. ❤❤❤.
awh, I’m so sorry that happened, you’re not alone I can relate!
@@consuelonavarrohidalgo5334 ive told her that, thank you though 🤍🤍
i just remembered the story of how my mum found out my dad is autistic. when i was starting preschool, i started showing signs of autism and my mum was like "that's weird. that is Not normal" and my dad was like "yes it is, i was the exact same way as a child." 2 years later, i got my diagnosis and my dad went "huh. wait. hold on" and now the entire house is 3/4ths autistic lmao
My sister and I are both ADHD and she is autistic, too (I am not sure, but I may be autistic, too 🤷🏻♀️) and our dad still says, when we talk about our ND issues "But I do this all the time, it's normal." 😂 He is SO CLOSE to getting it! (Also have to add, he doesn't say it in a dismissive tone, more like trying to cheer us up? 🤔)
My parents are definitely ADHD both, I got diagnosed last year and my mum dismissed my diagnosis and got offended when I suggested they had it too. I'm 90% I am ASD too and probably my dad as well...
My dad is ADHD and dyslexic. My mom and me are Autistic. Thats the problem. My mom was undiagnosed so i looked totally normal to her. Because shes me on steroids. My dad knew something was off though 😅
Haha that's funny 😁 What kind of signs did he think were "normal"?
Yep. I diagnosed my dad too 😂😂😂
Most neurodivergent shit that ever happened to me: a tour guide at the Johnny Cash museum asked if I wanted a job after he watched me showing my friends around the museum and explain the significance behind each song and photo and artifact. Aight guess my special interest
Do you live in Middle TN or were you just visiting?
@@melissaeveridge223 haha just visiting. Otherwise I would have IMMEDIATELY taken the job
that's amazing!! ha i'm glad you could go the museum & see everything first hand!
@@Goldlucky13 thanks me too! It was a dream of mine for years and even though none of my friends on this vacation particularly liked Johnny Cash, they came to the museum with me because they knew how special it was to me 💕
Museum tours
I was diagnosed in the wild by a 5-year-old non-verbal kid. This kid didn't talk to her parents at all, and didn't cuddle with them. She met me the first time, I was taking care of her in a nursery because she did better in the baby room. I didn't know what to do with her, so I invited her in and figured she would show me what she wanted and needed. I hadn't heard of autism at that time and didn't know what it was. She curled up in my lap and slept for 90 minutes. 3 weeks later she spotted me across the park and started yelling my name out to get my attention. Both times her parents were just shocked, they didn't even know she understood what names were (totally underestimating her because she didn't verbalize). Then when I got over to them, she gave me a big hug! It took me 25 years to figure out what she was telling me. That little girl recognized me immediately and knew that I was like her.
Aww, that's so cute! Gonna be smiling all evening now over this
This made me make happy tears 😭
I have a strong suspicion friend is autistic like me, brought up the subject. They said they didn't see themself as autistic. We stayed at that.
I still think of them as autistic and just treat them with that belief expecting 'what works for me may highly probably work for you'.
This approach works pretty well so far
cute but thats no diagnosis
I babysat my autistic friends and took care of autistic people for a job afterwards. I even was referred to go on a pity date with another autistic guy (whom I had never met) whose friend set the thing up (super weird. The allistic guy was so condescending. The autistic guy and I ended up having a long talk about chickens and both wondering why we were on a date.)
Anyway, it wasn't until after all these experiences that two different therapists suggested I might be autistic. Eventually it became clear that I wasn't just "really good with autistic people but that i was one. Some of these people MUST have known or suspected it and never told me.
I would have never even considered being autistic if my sister hadn't told me she thought I might be autistic. So I'm all for peer diagnosis as long as you are being respectful.
Oh my gosh sameeeee!!!!
Yeah, totes. My brother came to me about it, and then totally separately, my mom brought it up.
For me it was my partner.
Everyone in my family kept going "No way you're autistic, I used to be the same!" so I never really considered it.
Then my partner who is both autistic and ADHD, came to me and mentioned that some of the stuff I do and the experiences I've had are just so hilariously textbook for autistic people...
Yeah, it turns out, the people who kept telling me they were the same way _are just also autistic._
So yeah, as long as people aren't to incessant about it, and still treat others with respect, telling someone "hey, I think that might be autism" seem fine.
Same here. My (autistic) sister first mentioned to me that she thought I might be autistic when I was about 16, and I wrote it off until I was about 21 when I was like "wait, all of this describes my experiences to an uncanny degree". Later I found out that she was pushing my mom to get me assessed ever since I was 13 lol.
in the case of me and my sibling, i'm the one being like "you are the most autistic mfer here and I've got a diagnosis". and then with my gf, about 2 weeks into knowing her, i went "are you autistic or just built different?" and now we're both pretty sure she's autistic lmao
the woman ordering the yogurt parfait was SO me though like the way she immediately went into this very calm, controlled voice when she was on the phone and absolutely exploded the moment she hung up. whenever i have to talk to strangers i'm just immediately like "oh god oh god act neurotypical" and i become this uncanny valley gremlin. nobody does social interactions like nd people trying to mask
Uncanny valley gremlin is so perfect for the way I feel that I come off in public too-oh my god
Its Paige Layle. (I hope I spelled that right.)
uncanny valley gremlin.THANK YOU, that is stuck now. Amazing brains we have
Augh, this reminds me of how my mom always comments on my "phone voice."
Don't most humans do that? I do it as well
I have never felt so seen until I saw that Paige Layle telephone call, the preparation, the psyche-up, then managing to sound "normal" and not utterly terrified to the people on the other end and then the euphoric, shaky sigh of relief after you put down the phone. I realised afterwards that I had been holding my breath and quietly shaking watching that.
Same here. I'll put off what I know will be a three minute call for days, then if I finally get around to calling I slip right into the mask and it goes just fine and I'm the only one who knows how stressful the whole thing was.
Yes! It feels so validating to see other people struggling with (what others see as) "basic" tasks in the same way I do. It makes me feel less broken.
Making phone calls at work is a nightmare. Each one takes me 30 minutes from the time I begin ramping myself up to actually making the 2-minute phone call plus recovery time afterwards. I can't do it if there are too many co-workers nearby, and I have to write a script in a Microsoft Word document first- one for my voicemail message if they don't answer, and one with dot points for if they do, along with reminders to say "How are you?" at the beginning and "Enjoy the rest of your day" at the end.
For me this also applies to any real time communication. It just takes me a little time to respond to things. I've learned to be careful so I'm sure I understand what the other person is saying, and, although I don't often script conversations word for word, it does help to have some time to think about how I'm going to phrase something to get my point across. When someone sends an "attention prompt" in DMs like "hey, you there?" I just shut down. You don't actually want me to answer off the cuff. Ask me what you want to know then give me some time to answer or you're probably getting back gibberish or a one word answer.
Same for me - I'm actually going through this process right now because I need to call my doctor about a prescription that isn't working, and I'm making notes in a journal, making sure I cover all the points I need to, and I'm imagining the conversation and possible problems.
My reactions my not be quite as extreme as Paige's, but they're in the same general vicinity.
That phone call was so stressful 😂 She was extra brave for filming that
i’ve considered trying to film one but the video would be 3 weeks long
@@kryssalouMOOD
Catholica Pandam here: Thank you for being nice about my special interest, I got so anxious when someone sent me this video because I thought it was going to be a cringe compilation but you were actually nice abt it so I appreciate that
It's very impressive really! And from what I understand a lot of the dishware is commemorative, right?
My mom brought home a harlequin for me in highschool and that was the end for me. I needed all of them and I needed them NOW.
I thought it was super cool. It's not something I'd collect for myself but.. idk I have to assume there's all this super rich history that goes with a bunch of it and gives it all different meanings. Which is cool to consider. Like.. that almost makes me want to research it but I like that kind of convoluted history/lore stuff. I just have enough going right now already... LOL
So, is it strictly memorabilia of JPII, or do Benedict XVI and/or Francis get some love, too?
I want to let you know (don't panic hear me out) that I'm a staunch athiest but the VIBE and the PRIDE and the TAKE NO SHIT attitude of you short has now made you my hero 😂😅
I’m homeless and recently I went to the doctor and they gave me information to apply for housing help and I was just so much more concerned about unhoused parents and not wanting to take resources away from them. My doctor said “You matter too” and it was so emotional for me.
I'm so happy your doctor made you feel cared for. And I hope you can get back up on your feet again soon💗💗
@@kid-ava thank you!
it’s been so hard for me to accept things like this. i’m in recovery, and even in rehabs i’d try to leave AMA bc “someone needs this bed more than i do.” i was very suicidal and wasn’t trying to have a future, i didn’t want to stop using drugs (they helped me function but helped me destroy myself too), at the time i did not believe i deserved it or was important
@@kryssalou I'm glad you recognize your worth and deservingness now. everyone deserves help and care, we're all human💗💔. also I hope you're doing better nowadays
@@kryssalou yeah, I understand. Self worth is hard. I live in my car and I actually feel lucky to have that option. I feel really bad for the people literally sleeping on the street. But also since I have been living in my car my substance use has increased. Life is hard. We are all just doing the best we can.
That call was THE BEST example of masking I think I’ve ever seen- you so clearly see the mask go up and come off where one second they’ve got so much emotion and the next they seem like this is something they do everyday and is second nature to them but then once the situation is over all the emotion comes back
I remember when I first read "Do you script conversations?" somewhere as a trait and i'm like, nah.
Literally pinned above my desk right now was a cheat sheet I wrote with all the information relevant to when I made a phone call about my car insurance.
Next to a similar sheet I made for when I called about medical insurance.
I don't have a script, I have reference material :/
There are sooo many epiphanies I've had in regards to ASD questionnaire things that I initially said "nah" too but then later realized I do in fact do once I heard someone explain how they do it anecdotally. Sometimes you need to see a real life example.
I had a coworker who asked how to answer the phone (we work in a pharmacy) i pulled out a 2 page thing that was like if customer says this say this and she looked at me and was like youre insane (but like non derogatory(?) we always joked about how being delusional is the way and if life sucks well just mentally overwrite reality so i dont think it was an insult but I was so happy to be able to share that phone script
@alexaliss8233 This is honestly such a legit problem in the nuerospicy space that my friend's therapist said she didn't know if someone was autistic via the answers, but whether or not they complained about the wording of the questions 😅
My mom used to make all my phone calls up until I was about 17, and she started kind of "on ramping" me for when I went to college. I was making calls the other day, and she commented, "You've come a long way on making phone calls. You used to hate making them."
I said, "I still hate making phone calls."
Confused, my mom replied, "but you're so good at it, when I was young I had your dad make all the calls" (this neglects the fact I don't have a husband to make my phone calls).
I said, "yes, I'm good at making phone calls, but I still hate doing them," and she legitimately couldn't wrap her mind around that.
I briefly had a job in a call center that was the worst job of my life, but my bosses didn't want me to leave because I was apparently excelling to the point that customers were leaving compliments for me. I don't know how to explain to people that even though I have a great phone etiquette I'm essentially having an anxiety attack every time the phone rings😅
@@kkuudandereI've noticed that when I was phoning from work it wasn't so hard, I'd still script before dialling but then it would be OK(ish) because it wasn't me phoning, it was the school... I became the non-physical entity whilst on the phone. I'd still avoid at all costs if I could but it didn't leave me in hysterical tears like it did when I was the person having to make a call !
Proof that boomers are coddled
I don't understand what's so hard to understand about "being good at something" =/= "enjoying doing something"? 😅 Does she genuinely believe that everyone enjoys everything they're good at, and can't possibly be good at anything they don't enjoy??? THAT makes no sense lol 😭
@@kkuudandere i worked in a call center for about a decade, 5 years on the phone and then I moved to QA and office work. I was bad on the phone already, now I have ptsd. They were also just awful and shady all the way around. Call center was the only job available and I had a kid to feed.
Sorry to hear it sucked like that for you too.
My first autistic "diagnosis" was from a game chat where after chatting for a while, someone asked me if I was autistic. When I answered no, she replied that she wondered because she works professionally with autistic kids and adults and I reminded her of her clients. That's when my research started.
Also, I feel that parfait room service one. Our hospital changed how they do meals. You used to give your choices to a nurse, but now you call down to food services yourself from your hospital room. I stayed overnight with my hysterectomy and learned this the hard way. The nurse kept reminding me to call and order meals because I kept procrastinating.
the phone call is SO RELATABLE 😂😂😂
- horrible anxiety, literally almost dying, physically unable to make the call
- dial happens, regrets are had, tunnel vision kicks in
- perfectly sensible and efficient interaction
- waking from the near death experience and being able to cross That One Thing off my list for today
Lmao you put this into words so well
The One Thing 😂😂😂
SERIOUSLY
The autistic strangers meeting in the wild has happened to me a couple times in the last month. Once with the lady waiting in line behind me at the pot dispensary, and another with a young woman cutting my hair at a barber shop recently.
Us 'tistics can spot our own from a mile away.
The ability to spot other neurodivergent people starts really young too. I'm AuDHD, and a nanny specializing in neurodivergent children.
I was playing with my niece (also AuDHD) at a park one day, and a little two year old boy walked up to us. He began playing with us by knocking down the sticks my niece was trying to stick straight up in the dirt. (She was eight and not pleased, but luckily old enough for me to explain that he's little and that's just how he plays. He doesn't know how to play in a big-kid way yet. She was okay with that explanation and was really patient with him after that.)
Thing is, I've been around neurodivergent children enough to recognize by the way this two-year-old boy was playing that he was autistic. His mom was watching us from a distance and wasn't interrupting, so I just kept playing with him.
After a while, the mom came up to us to tell her little boy that it was time to go. She claimed that he had never gone up to anybody like that before, so she watched from a distance. He was usually really shy, even around people he knew.
I didn't feel comfortable telling a complete stranger that her little boy was likely autistic, so I just smiled and told her that I was a nanny who worked with kids his age and he might have sensed that.
Despite what I told her, I have no doubt that little boy approached us because he saw the way my niece was playing and the way I was interacting with her and thought "I could join them. They look like they'd understand me and the way I play."
He felt comfortable with us because he noticed we're neurodivergent, even if he had no way of understanding it in that context.
Peer diagnosis is an interesting thing. It's just taking that same instinct that little two-year-old boy had and putting a name to it.
It's also why the children I nanny instinctively feel more comfortable with me, even if they're rarely diagnosed when I start nannying them.
So I'm all for peer-diagnosis. We all do it anyway, even if we aren't outright saying or putting a name to what we notice.
We gravitate to each other whether diagnosed or not. There will probably be a couple other missed autistic people around an adult diagnosis.
I think that's what happened to me in highschool with a nonverbal grade schooler and coincidentally caused me to research autism. He would get really quiet and just start staring at me anytime I was near, something he wouldn't usually do in the crowded and noisy cafeteria. I only just got diagnosed in the middle of 2023, but if that kid hadn't stared at me back in 2010 it probably wouldn't have happened. He was the whole reason I did the research at 19, which I promptly forgot about due to college until I started having strange anxiety and breakdowns at work a decade later.
Noticing someone is one thing, but actually getting a conversation going, that is a whole freaking different story. Two shy persons meeting is not a "double negative".
The ND radar is legendary for good reason😂
i told my mom i could be autistic and she says i shouldn't limit myself and implying its a bad thing 😭
I had a therapist who said that to me when I asked her if I might also have ADHD. She is no longer my therapist.
Disclaimer: I only have a personal (somewhat strong) suspicion on being on the spectrum, and one specialist suggesting some of my traits could be explained by being on the spectrum. And I don't know the topic that well. But still, it sounds like your mom has a wrong idea of what it means to be on the spectrum, and what it means to find it out. The way I think is, "coming out as autistic" is not about limiting yourself, it is about liberating yourself from having to fit in to a neurotypical person's role. Whether you are or are not autistic doesn't change who you are, it just describes and explains you. Probably what your mom said was just an initial reaction, and she needs time to process it. I guess it wouldn't hurt to look into some material on the topic (I've seen some warnings, though, that the autistic parents' support groups can be toxic, so I would not start there). I don't know what to recommend, but personally I might find some good youtube videos for example, and watch them together, pausing for a discussion where necessary etc.
I recently told my mom about how I suspect I'm on the spectrum and that I want to look into a diagnosis and she said the same thing... I'll admit it hurt a little bit that that's how she sees Autism but I can see where she's coming from and she hasn't looked into it as much as I have, so I can't entirely blame her 'XD
Thankfully she's still been very supportive of my decision anyway and is helping me try to get diagnosed, so hopefully that goes well ':D I definitely have it a LOT better than most, haha
Your mom has definitely thought she was autistic before
@@spectorcsm just to encourage you: my mom didn’t even believe me when I told her I think I’m autistic. She thought I was crazy for saying that. But months later she started to believe me. Now she believes me completely. It took me a while to see it in myself, so it takes parents a while as well. The older generation isn’t as informed on autism as we are.
"have you eaten today" looks like the book is a D&D book from the size and red bit on the spine... easily can be a special interest, lots of lore to dig into and be absorbed by.
Paige's phone call was amazing, thats how i feel every time. i struggle with calling family members even, because i dont want to interrupt whatever they are doing.
I agree that book seemed like the D&D player handbook and wanted to see if someone else had the same idea
Same. I wrote my own comment but also wanted to see if anyone though it was a dnd book too. They also have midevil style paintings in the background so I wound not be suprised if it's a special interest
I agree, that book is most definitely a D&D book. The art style as well as the page layout, in addition to the already mentioned hints fit the standard for 5E books.
texting is a godsend, emoji reacts and stickers especially so, i don't need to verbalize my feelings all the time
One time when my grandma was I’ll she had a home nurse come. I was visiting for a bit and when I went out of the room the nurse looked at my grandma and asked “hey is your granddaughter autistic?”
Turns out she saw me toe walking and the bells rang lol.
How is that a telling give away? Doesn't everyone do that indoors?
Being asked by a random stranger if I am autistic and how I could react would have to depend on the tone they used. Most do not believe that I am autistic when I do reveal it to them. Love your videos!
I can definitely see how that would feel invasive I personally have no secrets and love any opportunity to reaffirm my reality so id probably give them a whole notebook along with a feature length film about how im not diagnosed but i think the answer is yes
As a fizzy autistic I feel so seen by these categories
I love my fizzy water 😅 simple, yet tasty
The bubbles literally burn my mouth. Proud diagnosis of ASD Flat here
I'm a slightly fizzy autistic. I like bubbles but not too many.
@Lilycat5 I also prefer certain bubblyness lol I have soda water maker at home so I can add to my liking
Definitely ASD flat here, me and my son both!
Mad respect for phone call girl!!! I became so engaged I cheered out loud for her!!!
@neuroticnation144 Totally! I started crying because that is how I feel on the inside. I am slowly starting to unmask myself, thanks to a huge help from my wonderful, supporting & understanding husband. She was sooooo relatable to me.
Me too!! I flapped my hands when she ended the phone call. I felt so happy and relieved as if I made the call myself. 😂
Her video may have convinced me to finally try to get an official autism evaluation that I've been putting off for a few years. That's how close it is to my own experience.
Its Paige Layle. (I hope I spelled that right.)
I am so proud of her! I'm grinning right now. I had to order room service once and it was terrifying.
I don't have a problem spending money on things I need, but sometimes (when it isn't food), I'll take forever finding the 'right' thing to buy. Sometimes I'll end up leaving without buying anything because I can't make a decision (the pros and cons of each thing balancing out). If I can go in, knowing exactly what I want, it'll only take the amount time it takes to go in, find the the thing, pay, and leave. If I'm with someone (like my fiancee), I have someone to tell me which I should go for. This helps me when I can't decide because then I have a pesky little voice in my head going "If this isn't right and ruins your life, and least THAT PERSON is to blame."
As for taking forever to choose, sometimes I get lost in the pros and cons lists not being able to see which ones are more important and forgetting why I wanted the thing in the first place. I'm trying to remember that it doesn't have to be perfect and that I can return things, but it's still hard. Tried valuing my time but it creates too much pressure and judgement.
Yes! I like someone choosing for me and taking the weight off my chest. It's even better when that person knows me enough to decide if I need to be told what to do or if I need an advice. And sometimes I get pissed at that person and that's how I know I actually want the other thing 😂
@@Nashleyism So true. And yet sometimes, I'll find myself wondering if I wanted the other thing just because I didn't get it.
I'm not autistic but this is very relatable !
I swear I need like nutrient cubes or something any food that gives me pleasure im like hm im wasting my money on that and i have no clue why i feel that way
I only have about 800 hours in Stardew Valley, but it has been the best, chill wish-fulfilment game I've played in ages. Plant some crops, go exploring, build up your house, raise animals, go mining, help the local community, and best of all, everyone will like you even if you only ever give them (liked) gifts twice a week, no choices on interactions. I still have several farms where my relationships are near 0 with everyone except for Marnie... Those of you who know, know. Purple shorts gang unite!
Anyways, I started playing it because it has a chicken as the game icon. I love chickens and other birds, so of course I had to take the plunge and buy it. And convince bf to play it. And convince all my other friends to play it. Duh.
Im very excited for the next update to come out! ConcernedApe is too good to us. Time to put more 100s of hours in lol
Only about 800 hours put into it counts as a full-time job for 20 weeks, making me wonder: how much time is the average time players spend playing it in a year and until they quit?
@@strictnonconformist7369 For me the answer was 650 hours in almost a full year before I stopped for a long time, but I picked it up again eventually, as usual. Tbh that's quite a measured play time for me... My latest hyperfixation-game has taken 400 hours in two and a half months from me... Time just goes by fast when you finally do something that doesn't make you feel worse. xP
I just noticed the "everyone will like you" part...and with it of course remembered that it's pretty standard for video games that the player character is either very popular already or has mechanics to win NPCs over. Makes me wonder, where is that game that gives you the true autistic/neurodivergent experience, where the whole fucking world just hates you and there's nothing to be done about it.
@@Dreykopff I mean, in the beginning they don't all like you... You at least have to give gifts and/or talk to them regularly. Also, there's Shane. He hates the player until about 6 hearts in or so (not sure, don't like him, I want my ideal life of not talking to anyone for months and them still liking me regardless), so that's a bit more realistic in that sense I guess. Although his cutscenes can be a bit triggering later on, depending on sensitivities so I dunno if recommending his route as a new player with no info is the best way to go necessarily. Also, as someone who over thinks which reply is accurate all the dang time... Dating Sims to me sound like the real autistic experience. Try to plan your interactions, be kind and polite, then get a -5 love points penalty anyways. The confusion and the pain at that point mirrors real life quite well, lol. Or just suck at games in general and try to play any game that has social stuff as a necessary mechanic. The Sims has been one of those for me, everyone always hates me in that game and I just don't get it. qvq
There are only two ways I can call people who aren't my closest friends: when I'm extremely angry or after about 15 days of soul-crushing procrastination and overthinking.
As a child my gram and aunt took my cousin and I to the mall to pick out a toy each. Went to this shop that had all kinds of stuffies and I was so excited but overwhelmed. I’m the kind that has to take time to make a decision weigh out things to be sure of exactly what I want. A little time passed my cousin picked hers quickly then the threats started. Pick something or your not getting anything. That sent me into panic mode made it literally IMPOSSIBLE to choose. Terrible story short I was taken out of that store bawling and toyless. Cried the whole way back to my grams and instead of spending the night my parents were called and I was taken home. Still something that deeply hurts me to this day and I’m now in my 40s!!
Picking was easy for my cousin for multiple reasons. She’s not autistic, she -still to this day- is incredibly spoiled by my gram her mom and the whole fam really, and there was never financial struggle in her life so what to me was a very rare exciting opportunity to get a new toy to her was just yet another thing that would be forgotten about as soon as she got home with it.
I’m sure none of them even remember this but I sure do.
Oof, that’s awful… people often don’t realize how their actions can affect people for many years after. Sending positive vibes, and hoping you have a better group of folks that understand and accommodate you more
I feel sad for that little child you were!
The room service one! I felt that in my bones- too relatable! I type out orders on my phone before I call because sometimes my mind will go completely blank and I’ll panic and forget everything I planned to order. Having it in front of me helps me get through it. I definitely also rehearse what I’m going to say just like she did, too! 😅 She absolutely nailed that coffee order when he went off script! What an absolute legend!
I put our orders for all the restaurants in my phone, too. Since we always want the same things, I never have to ask everyone.
In drive-thru, I (or whomever is driving) can just read off of it. And when doing take-out, I can just hand the phone to the order taker.
It really helps with my brain freezing up during those social interactions.
@@persephonebasilissa5109 Good hack.
omg the phone call was so relatable, and honestly it's a great example of what masking looks like....to the person on the other end of the phone, she sounds confident and calm, but inwardly she worked very hard before and during to get to that point
"Is playing Stardew Valley a lot a common autistic thing?"
*Checks 200+ hours playtime*
"Oh."
The commenter below you (sorted by top comments) "only" has 800 hours 🤣
I have spent so many hundreds on hours on that game… ❤
I went absolutely crazy on that last one when she called for room service. OMG! She absolutely nailed it! I was so friggin happy for her. I had tears in my eyes and I was congratulating her on my end like "yes you did it! You go girl!"
My mother is absolutely obsessed with collecting things related to her religion and it includes Pope stuff. Saint stuff, famous priests' memoirs, almost anything. She approaches her faith with what I consider to be an autistic level of special interest beyond simply the catechism. I'm more convinced each day she's my hereditary autism link, but she's 75 and will never see herself needing any kind of diagnostic label. She doesn't even know I'm autistic because we disagree on so many things I have never felt comfortable sharing that deeply personal discovery with her because she'll apply her special interest in religion to try and convince me of things and I do not share that interest.
Paige's phone call is so real. You psych yourself up, second guess every aspect of your script about twenty times, and then you pick up the phone and THE NORMIE VOICE ACTIVATES. You sound completely calm and put together, you do the whole interaction like that, and then as soon as you hang up you just about whiplash back into yourself. Nobody masks like an autistic person on the phone.
I'm obsessed with the phone game Merge Dragons, but first Farmville. One of my special interests is D&D, which is how I know the guy on the not eating or drinking clip was reading the Dungeons and Dragons Players Handbook. 😅
That cat in the theater seat is totally me getting to do anything physical lol.
I hate getting shoes too because sometimes it’s just uncomfortable. But there’s a shoe store near me called SAS that makes orthopedic shoes. The shoes last upwards of a decade, they have half sizes and both wide and narrow sizes, if something is rubbing against your Achilles heel, they’ll add in a square to lift your heel, and they PUT ON THE SHOES FOR YOU LIKE YOURE A PRINCESS!! They’re so accommodating and I feel special when I go in, and with how long the shoes last I don’t feel as bad spending money on them (because they are quite pricey, but cheaper in the long run).
Apparently spending money on shoes is not a hang up for me, as I actually did not know how many shoes I had until I moved! Then a couple of days ago my son brought over another pair that I had not missed. I relate a lot more to the phone calling.
I recently applied to be a beta tester for a group that makes mods for one of my special interest games. I absolutely grueled over the application sheet for a couple of days. Then the day before Christmas eve I got the message asking for me to a 'phone' interview over discord and I was absolutely freaking out because I didn't see the request until like an hour later. That was fine, dude understood holiday things. Then I sat in an empty vc for like 20 minutes waiting for him to drag me to a locked channel for the interview and I was freaking out that whole time too. Dude scared the crap out of me when he pulled me over for the actual talk. It was fine tho, I got in and we're waiting now for our first playtest.
Congratulations!
People are generally, pretty understanding, especially when we build up the courage to communicate these things in a 'professional' (for lack of a better word) manner. Yeah, there are jerks out there, but I've found any decent employer will try and work with you to make things go smoothly. Especially with phones, lots of people don't like them, especially with strangers, and there are work arounds.
I hope it all goes great, and have fun with it.
Good job, and congratulations! :)
The mind bending fact that Pope merch exist and they are very varied.
I honestly had no clue that was even a thing. But I learned something new from this video!
instagram reels (esp the comments lol) are always wild, no matter wha5.
if you tell them about something that happened inb your day, youll get called a slur with a skull emoji at the end
Uh oh! 😅 I feel like UA-cam is the best platform for comments - most people are lovely! 🥰
Yeah ive stopped watching reels because the comments are so upsetting! It's a shame because there's so many great content creators on there
My mom used to be so confused when she saw me stirring my pop so aggressively, trying to get rid of the fizz 😂
Omfg. I never realized I did that too until you mentioned it. That fizz has no business being so aggressively fizzy or taking so long to settle lol
The phone call thing is SO relatable holy shit. I went to school for journalism and making “cold calls” was so hard it’s like half the reason I haven’t pursued a newspaper job. But I do have to make calls in my current job and you really do just gotta hype yourself and then send it.
ActuallyAutistic Instagram Reels were actually how I found out I was autistic! There are some really good ones on there. I've stopped watching them because of how toxic the comment sections have become, but the content creators on there are wonderful.
This has been a very nice source of comfort for me today! I recently caught covid for the first time and developed parosmia as a side effect, so I have been struggling to eat because all my food tastes rotten and expired now. Getting to watch some nice autism reels with you all is a nice break from having to think about that.
Hey, for that side effect parosmia, have you tried using castor oil? The way you'd have to use it might be yucky or at least weird sensory-wise, but perhaps that might help? It's at least known to help when you lose your sense of smell or taste (my twin did it and it worked-I was surprised), but not sure if it might help with parosmia. Anyway, glad you can find a source of comfort here, and hoping for a full recovery! (I, too, recently caught COVID for the first time 😞 Kudos for dodging it for so long!)
Instagram comments are notoriously one of the worst places on the internet!
I always panic when I have to make phone calls unless it's to someone I'm familiar with. I also make scripts for what I have to say, but I end up so nervous I barely look at them.
I also get really nervous when I have to write down an appointment to realize later that I had something that day
i didn't think i was autistic until i found a video from an autistic animator talking about it, then everything made sense! now i'm just trying to unmask after... a lot of years of masking 😆 these videos are a huge comfort, thank you for making them 😊
THE PHONE CALL. I have to do regular high stakes zoom calls (high stakes in terms of my career, I'm the creative lead for a ghostwriting company, and part of my job includes speaking with the CEO and clients/prospective clients) and I'm FILLED with anxiety before the call, and after the call I feel like I just one at football, like, I have to do a little twirl and go scream to my roommate like "AHHHHHHHH".
I had an uber driver realize I was autistic due to a conversation about agricultural right to repair law. He asked if I was in the legal or agricultural field, and I answered "no I work in a call center, mostly auditing stuff." Apparently knowing a bunch about something really random is a dead giveaway.
The phone call at the end was the most relatable thing ever. My psych casually mentions when it's been too long between visits (because I have to call for every one) and it KILLS ME.
Paige's room service call was SOOO satisfying! I love when a call goes perfectly right! She even asked for coffee AND milk! I wanna try ordering room service one day
I just wanna say, parallel play is such a vibe. Havent thought about it for ages, but even these days, me and the boys all sitting in a room, painting warhammer, is so good.
Occassionally involving some "lego-talk" (when youre talking, but both quite aware that your concentration is on what youre doing, not the conversation, which can be rather funny).
Its some of our fav times somehow haha
Also the food one is so me. Ill forget to eat for days and ill go gym, go work, etc.
It takes me forever to start everything. I literally was just talking me about this today. Its hard to explain how much I want to do something does not always equal my ability to actually do anything I want or need to do. It's so frustrating
Same tho for me it’s the fact I get so into whatever I start nothing else gets down and it’s an endless battle of me trying to sort out what is so important but missing the mark each time so i totally understand!
I am a collector of collections. My collections are different times in my life when that specific collection was my special interest and I move onto another in a few years and then get to enjoy the past collecting I have done and usually go onto fill in the gaps when I find the elusive collectible. My friend said my living space was like a "museum of you" which I took as a high compliment as a historian as well. Being surrounded by joy is a huge life perk of being a collector.
So, a weird and imperfect analogy (I’ve actually never watched the show) you’re the collector’s version of Dexter, the serial killer serial killer?
I love "museum of you"! That's what my living space feels like now too 🥰
I did not really relate for the first one but I only discovered I was Autistic a month ago. Still in the "there must be some mistake as I can't be uncurable"
I had heart palpitations over buying a cell phone but likely because I knew getting one was a bad idea and it was over $1000 and I would be a slave to services forever. I had no choice as during the pandemic I was being blocked from health services because I only had a land line that I could not access in the parking lot of the Hospital.
I hate phones.
The ordering room service was so me that I cried.😪
I probably could have won a competition for the oldest cell phone because I hate spending money on something I don't really want!
It’s really nice to hear, people talking about having to psych yourself up for tasks. I used to have to do that for going to the grocery store. Before my anxiety disorder was diagnosed, It was such a source of random social interactions. I used to dread it and do all sorts of strategies to make it bearable. I get that pit in your stomach feeling for something many people don’t even think about.
Adults never seem to ask, but teaching an elementary school classes, usually grades 3-5, I’ve had kids ask me and I honestly answer ‘yes.’
The telephone one is SO me. I used to hate speaking on the phone and was afraid to do it, it felt like the other person could somehow listen to my thoughts! I had to plan what to say or else I stuttered and forgot half of it. And I had to hype myself up to do it every. single. time.
And then I learned to do it, I got used to it to the point that I felt comfortable working in a call center for years!
I stopped working in the call center because it is a lot of stress, and to this day I still prefer texting and e-mails to phone calls. But I am able to call now without planning each conversation ahead.
Getting diagnosed in 8 months🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😊
OMG TY FOR HEART
I'm in the process of getting a diagnosis but its gonna be halted because we're moving :')
You're getting an assessment. You don't know if they'll diagnose you.
The phone segment was too relatable
16:10
This part is the most relatable to me. It’s so hard to initiate any communication with anyone and her reaction is literally me, even when I am trying to just ask my friends via text how are they doing. I love it, she handled her order so well!
I actually was asked if I was autistic by a stranger one time, it was when I was about to go to the bus stop after school and I was kind of running from a parking lot to the sidewalk because I didn't want to late and I tend to walk and run "weird" and a concerned lady with a stroller stopped me and told me that it's dangerous here cause there are cars pasing by, and I said that I know, and then she asked me if i was autistic and I said yes, and she told me that she has a son that is autistic (most likely higher suport needs) and tends to run away into streets, I had to explain to her that I was just going to the bus and that I know what I'm doing, she then understood and let me go.
That's kinda sweet, just checking in on ya.
Im surprised i didnt pursue a diagnosis sooner because ive had two therapist tell me it may be worthwhile I had a boss tell me she thinks im autistic (she told me the way i explain my thoughts reminds her of her nephew) and i had two dates first date ask which like that one was like alright guys enough suspense ill check now
You looking around for the missing drink and thinking about "Have I actually finished it?" is in a way similar to my behaviour, just that I sometimes put things somewhere while deep into some unrelated thoughts and then later have no clue where I left the thing I'm searching for. And I'm bad at searching, if I am searching for something I may as well be staring right at it without seing it XD
Is it wrong that I find this soo cute? Or like, endearing? Like the room service one made me smile so much I was feeling giddy cause I was like "omg omg that's so meee!". Like I still haven't managed to book an appointment for starting an actual diagnosis because I have to call the hälsocentral (can't think of the english word, it's swedish, look it up xD) and that stresses me out for no good reason so I've just been avoiding it. But it's just so sweet to me to see people going through the same things I'm going through. It's also wonderful to see people's true selves and not just their mask all the time, it makes my heart all warm and makes me go *eeeeeee* ^-^
19:50 EVERY TIME AFTER I HAVE A PHONE CALL
TO. THE. FLOOR. SILENT SCREAMING. 😭🤣
Regarding Paige’s post, this is why autistic people are the best actors. It’s really the perfect clip to show how masking works. The NTs we interact with have no idea, but you get to see the intense stress we go through for stuff “most people” don’t really even think about.
"Ok Meg, that's what we're gonna feel today"
This isn't just me right: my eyes randomly start watering like I'm crying when I'm talking/thinking about a special interest or something personal, like explaining something I do that's autistic to someone who doesn't know I'm autistic. It's like, where did this emotion come from? It's the photosynthesis of root vegetables (an actual mini hyperfixation I had for a couple of days), calm down dude.
I start "randomly" crying when i think about just how wonderful life can be, or how much I love humans and art, haha. Like just this upwelling sense of pride and gratitude etc. Watching videos like this makes me so happy I tear up if I think abt it. It's such a funny experience. I don't think it fully reflects what you described though.
I guess i dislike talking about personal things? I don't know if you relate to that. I've been accused of victimizing myself enough that when I explain mannerisms I have or things I do to someone who doesn't relate or doesn't believe me, it feels like I'm making myself incompetent in their eyes and I just hate that.
Yes!! What you described first of all is definitely what I meant. Some things that make me so happy (proud is definitely the right word) cause this. When I mean talking about personal things, analysing my own brain and learning about neurodiversity is my special interest which is why it gives me that feeling.
I've also watched every one of Meg's videos, and cried over probably about half (particularly her early ones about signs of autism that were so relatable). I'm genuinely sorry you've been accused of victimising yourself - I probably don't need to tell you that you definitely aren't - I often feel like I am doing this because it seems like I always make conversations about me, although nobody has actually accused me of victimising myself. If I do make things about me (like now), it's to show that I understand, relate and care, but it doesn't feel like that sometimes so yeah I get that.
The fact you called this phenomenon "funny" also rings true. I think perhaps it's because we don't realise that we feel the emotion until we are 'crying' so it's a bit of a surprise, do you agree?
I love how you clarified that you talk about yourself to show that you relate, that you're trying to understand, and that the other person isn't alone. I do the same, and it's just such a nice way to show support in my opinion/experience.
It's also exciting that you find "funny" to be a fitting descriptor - I completely agree with your interpretation of it. I find myself kind of emotionally detached as well sometimes, and it's so interesting and bizarre how the body reacts to, and expresses, such sudden/unintentionally intense emotions. It fills me with joy, and it makes me feel more human. In most cases I will also subconsciously try to recognize the work/experiences it might've taken to get there (the labour, the dedication, the despair it can take to achieve something or reach a point in life where you are happy), which i think really adds to it. Speculating what it might've taken to beat that world record, to make that phone call, or to create this or that beautifully captivating piece of art. We put so much effort and love into almost everything we do, and appreciating it is the least I can do as a spectator. It really helps me remind myself that we're all just people trying to live together, and be happy doing it.
I absolutely love your mom! She raised such a beautiful person! You were talking about the one creator who made you cry on camera last time you watched one of her tiktoks... but I think I end up crying every single video I watch of yours! (But don't worry, it's always a good cry).
Your content and your viewpoints on things are just soooo comforting. I feel loved and seen watching every single one of your videos. I'm a 35 year old woman who about a year ago started realizing I may be autistic (not even on my way to being diagnosed, but have been learning as much as I can on my own). Your viewpoints on the video about "just privileged" warmed my whole heart. Because truly I may or not be actually autistic... but I certainly relate to many of the things I've been learning about autism. On that video when you empathized openly with people like me, saying that you don't find harm in people relating to autism if it's helping them have something to identify with, I simply melted.
I may or may not ever know for sure if I am or not by getting a diagnosis (Healthcare costs money)... but I am able to for my kids. My oldest daughter is currently being scheduled testing for autism (therapist recommended i didn't even have to ask) and I couldn't be more happy and relieved for that. My own mother, while she was physically present to raise me, really never had much to do with me, and I endured a lot of shame growing up from my step-dad. So honestly I don't know how much of my "symptoms" are from CPTSD or some type of nuerodivergency, or if I'll ever find out because by now I'll have been masking for so long if that is what it is for me.
Either way. That's why I said I love your mom. She's raised such a beautiful human being, and could you give her a hug for me? Thank you so much for everything you do!
Omg. The phone call situation. Not only do I have this issue when calling, but if I have to discuss something with the boss at work I get the same feeling. As a kid I used to count down when I had to do something similar. Once I hit zero I had no choice but to get up and do the thing.
NOT THE JOHN PAUL II MERCH (john paul II is like one of the biggest polish memes and especially the hour of his death (21:37 (9:37 pm)) which is called pope hour)
So much the phone call. I have to make phone calls for work sometimes, and if there's a way that I can send an e-mail instead, I will take it.
And yeah, phone calls never get better. I'm usually psyching myself up for an average of a half hour before I call someone.
And my husband has finally accepted that I can't "just call" someone - even my parents. I will try every other situationally appropriate method of communication first. (to be clear, I do video call my parents, but it's a weekly thing, on Sundays at 1 pm. If that has to change, we talk about it beforehand.)
Reflecting on my life, it's evident that signs of neurodivergence have been woven into the fabric of my existence. From being labelled with terms like autism and ADHD to my mum, now in her 50s, receiving a diagnosis last year, the journey's been illuminating. Observing my siblings, dyslexia's presence amongst us can't be ignored. My closest friends, too, navigate life with various neurodivergent traits, be it autism, ADHD, or dyslexia. My own experiences are punctuated by intense burnout, deep dives into subjects I'm passionate about, and unique ways of interacting with the world.
Since a young age, stimming has been a part of how I express and regulate my emotions - not through arm flapping, which only emerges in moments of extreme excitement, but through more subtle movements like wiggling, swaying, leg bouncing, and toe wiggling. Growing up, fidgeting was discouraged, so I learned to hide it or adopt less noticeable forms. Each visit to doctors or mental health professionals leaves me bewildered by their assertions that I'm too 'this' or 'that' to fit the autistic profile.
Textures play a huge role in my life; I have an aversion to most socks unless they're fluffy. My palette is adventurous, yet specific textures, like the gelatinous fat in pork pies, trigger an immediate gag reflex. Sensitivities to smells, lights, and sounds, juxtaposed with my own volume, outline my daily experiences. The sound of eating, unexpected changes to my environment, and an overwhelming need to control or understand actions in my vicinity deeply affect me. As a child, I'd find comfort in tearing paper into tiny pieces or meticulously chopping things up - all forms of stimming that went unnoticed or misunderstood.
Despite these clear indicators, scepticism surrounds my neurodivergent identity. Yet, it's these very experiences that underscore its validity. So, to those quick to doubt based on superficial assessments, I can't help but smile at the irony. Yes, my life is a testament to the spectrum of neurodivergence, and it's about time we broadened our understanding beyond narrow stereotypes.
I recently almost ordered room service for the first time in my life. Then I read that I needed to call the reception to make the order and NOPE. Instead I went to the hotel restaurant, which included a lot more (awkward as hell) communication, but at least I didn't have to make a phone call!
I notice myself doing things that seem a lot more complicated or hard to avoid simple tasks that just seem impossible. My dislike of phone calls seems to include even other people making "unnecessary" phone calls in my presence, because I have tried to talk people out of those 😅
"you can infodump ON me..." Meg, wtf?! lmao I'm laughing so hard 🤣😂😅
I'm not sure if this counts as a special interest but I really really love certain languages
That phonecall was so relateable. I’m the type, that has to check the phone numer multiple times, as I’m always afraid of calling the wrong number. And I tend to write down some keywords because I get so nervous, that I often forget things…and then I forget to look at my notes, because I‘m just so overconcentrated on communicating, like my life depends on this. It takes so much time ‚preparing’ a call…but it feels great , when it is successfully over.
Always the last person to leave class. That hurt. School bad. Learning good, school bad.
Me sitting in an aisle seat on a plane: "Oh no! I'm going to have to get up while the line is still forming so my row mates can get out! Ooooh nooooo!
@@marthamurphy3913 I really have to where my thickest mental shielding for public transit in all it's horrible forms. In an airplane, you're trapped in the sky with unpredictable strangers for... all of eternity as I recall, and the person next to you might try to have an impromptu conversation causing a game of word chess in your brain that may involuntarily use the resources you were reserving for not freaking out and getting taken down by the Air Marshal. And you must not say, "Please don't talk to me, I was hoping not to be arrested today."
@@raum_dellamorteNever do I feel more out of control of my life than when I'm in a plane.
5:10 Oh my gosh Stardew Valley is my current biggest hyperfixation right now :D
I always get excited to watch a new video from you. Highlight of ny weekend, especially when I'm feeling worse.
Peer diagnosis - I'd likely still be undiagnosed if a friend (who also worked for an autism charity) hadn't suggested it to me, but at the same time I think I'd be very hesitant suggesting it to anyone else unless they directly asked if I thought they were.
I think the book the person was reading in the "neurodivergent moments"' reel is a Dungeons & Dragons manual
the collapse!!! omg yes i feel seen. i usually doodle during phone calls to "put my anxiety somewhere".
also yes basically everyone my whole life, just not dr's, have decided i'm perceptibly autistic...i used to get kinda pissed when ppl'd say that (i wasn't diagnosed and only knew ppl who had super limited social abilities + intense learning disabilities so, yes it felt offensive bc i was very independent... I think with the higher advocacy these days and the spectrum concepts i would have not been so antagonized about peer dx.)
anyway i'm a millennial so i'm an og 'grammer so it's obviously better than tiktok lol. i like your clips round up videos you always have good commentary and it's fun!
Paige ordering room service is hilarious. It’s crazy how we feel a short conversation requires a boost of adrenaline just to sound normal and pleasant on the phone. So relatable.
18:41 I related to this part specifically SO MUCH!! I do this at restaurants all the time before ordering where I will perfectly plan out exactly what I am going to say. ESPECIALLY because I can be a fairly picky eater so when I am asking to modify something in a meal I have to make sure I am THE NICEST PERSON IN THE ENTIRE WORLD lmao.
Omg! I was cheering with you after the phone call! LOL That's so relatable! Phone calls are such a challenge for us...
I'm early!!
I love these types of videos! And I love that in the last one you had to kind of stim. And I started stimming too because it was so me!!! It was making me so uncomfortable!!
I'm currently getting evaluated for autism, but I'm scared I'm with the wrong specialist because she said my special interests have to be secret hidden things like ancient history, torture devices or numbers and time tables. But I know that special interests are different for everyone.
I'm trying to trust my doctor, but it is hard when they make such comments like this or that autistic people don't have empathy. Because I said my dream was to write and draw a comic and help someone with my stories.
It's been hard, especially because of my anxiety and depression, but seeing these videos just make me feel like I really belong here! 💙
Thank you so much!!!
(Sorry if there are any mistakes. English is not my first language.)
I think it's easier for someone autistic to recognise someone else being autistic, than it is for someone allistic to do so. Basically just "it takes one to know one".
Quite recently, I started wondering how apparent it was that I'm autistic. I asked one of my friends if he could tell, and if so how obvious was it. I have known this guy for over a year.
He said he hadn't noticed (and N/A to the second half), *but* his ex-girlfriend, who I'd met twice ever, had mentioned to him that she thought I was probably autistic. He also mentioned that she's autistic and that might be why she was more aware of that, which I think seems reasonable.
Well, interesting: his ex was autistic, but he didn’t notice it in you?
And yet, there you are: whether he was consciously aware of it or not, he’s got a type he’s attracted to, because that’s what you and his ex have in common!
Rereading, ok, sounds like he’s not your boyfriend friend, but still!
Should it piss me off if another autistic tells me they are?
@@d0ct0rz3d4no, but if it does, you should maybe figure out why with someone that can help you explore that. Anger like that is probably self reflective in nature. And it'd be a horrible thing to do to someone. Even if you feel anger, you should sit with that and understand its a feeling you don't have to act on, can move past, and still act kindly in the moment.
I’m laughing so hard at the stuck cat … never seen anything so relatable 🤣
the main reason i stopped questioning it in my mind so much was at the start of lockdown and i had become over stimulated in wilkos and left fending off a meltdown and jumped in a taxi and just broke down, the taxi driver asked me calmly if i liked mcdonalds and i nodded and he took me silently to the one that's just down the rd from where we were (i trust way too easy when vulnerable) and he bought me a cheap burger out of his own money, i cried hard again at his kindness as we sat as i ate and he finally spoke properly and said "its ok, my sons autistic too and also struggles with shopping" i felt very seen and considered. so of course i shut down further. i had to type my address on my phone and he took me home quietly. it was surreal and comforting even if it did make me also want to bury myself so i couldn't be perceived lol.
I love this. I am a self-diagnosed teacher (after 8 years of research and still continuing to do so), and I was just talking to parents who want to send their autistic daughter to school next year, and they liked that I had a calming corner the kids could go to whenever they need a break due to emotional or sensory needs. I like how you mentioned that you hope more teachers can be accommodating, and I hope I can be.
Edit: I like the phone call one. I have to write down every thing I plan on saying or I won't remember what I want to say. I feel like I have to respond right away, and I have been ridiculed too many times by family for taking too long to respond to questions.
Oh, to see Meg doing my graspy "processing" hands while watching Paige on the phone made me cry! I'm so *not* alone.
the way i played sims so literally as a child cause i had no imagination 😭
Spent my whole time building houses and interior decorating
STARDEW VALLEY
I FEEL SO CALLED OUT 💀
"being a fan of the sims" STOPP i have 22,000 hours in just the sims LMAOO
I LOVE THE SIMSSS
I loved those chat up lines, they were next level great. I hope you found your protein shake remains. I really relate to the phone call also. Enjoy the veganuary deals!
Wow the phone call thing is so relatable. 😂
Hey Meg, can you make a tier ranking of executive function tasks?
Ranking from "I'm good and comfortable doing this" to excruciating. Some samples from the tasks are: task switching, making follow up calls, managing multiple conversations, filtering out noise, organizing, handling distractions, time awareness, etc...
Recently found this channel and enjoy it here. Hi from Poland. (Also are you ranking special interests again?)
THAT SKIRT. I WANT THAT SKIRT. It's so cute, plus I've worked as a strawberry picker for like 9 years so fair to say I love strawberries 😂
Also yeeeesss, I love Stardew Valley! One of my favourite games 🥰
I recently let myself spend five hours sifting through a bin of dice in a game shop in order to buy the perfect set of rainbow D&D dice. No food had been eaten that day, I was there until the shop almost closed, when I rushed the deal to escape the embarrasment of having to come back later to finish the job. I couldn't tell if the shoptenders tolerated me or actually enjoyed my stay, even though they told me it was fun hanging out (they saw the bottom of the bin for the first time, giving them the chance to clean it). I very much need to distance my feelings when spending money. I spent eighty eurocents per die, yet nearly panicked that it was happening and that the set was so rushedly decided upon.
I was on the phone with an employee of some technical product company, and at one point I dropped the info that I was autistic and they were all, "aha, that checks out"-sounding. I kept over-technicality'ing them.
I had to call my general practitioner (doctor) and delayed calling until the practice was ten minutes from closing. I then couldn't find their phone number and missed an entire day of "go call your GP".
It’s the flipping through the book while you talk for me 😂🙈 Relatable!
If it was an earnest question, I would find it mostly validating to be asked if I was autistic by a stranger. I'm fairly recently self-diagnosed so I vastly appreciate any confirmation that it's not all in my head : D
Aren't pick-up lines things you say to flirt to start a relationship? Because I feel like most of them would be creepy at this stage. And "Are you a grocery store because you overstimulate me" feels negative. "You can infodump to me anytime" is a nice one though.
Pickup lines are kind of creepy/come on strong in general, so autistic pickup lines doing the same fits
People generally understand that pickup lines are a joke. Nobody actually says them in a real dating context. It’s kind of like saying “It would be funny if people actually said this” but nobody actually does, unless it’s saying it as a joke.
NO DOCTOR ever picked up that I'm autistic-even though I was firstborn, and born breech [ass-first]. My mother told all her friends, "She's just shy, and a loner-and very creative!" Because I behaved and never got in trouble, my parents ignored the real issue. (Also, I admit that in the 60s, only boys were considered autistic.)
I'm 61 now, and have gone through life feeling very misunderstood!