Man Who Let Friend And Her Kids Live In His Home Describes Why He Evicted Her
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- A man who let his friend and her children live in a house he owns describes what he found inside and why he had to have them evicted.
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My 5'1" mother on her own with 7 kids kept our home spotless. We had cats, a dog, no dishwasher, no dryer (clothesline), none of the modern conveniences of the last 40 yrs. WTF ???
Because you’re a damn queen and an amazing mother! But no one should live like this with kids. But you’re a super mom
@@TheNicholle23 Nope, I was describing MY Mom. I'll never be the amazing woman she was !
Depression can do this
@@Bamcis100 your mom is an angel. I hope I’ll be half the great mother your mom is
That is awesome, and so cool that you appreciate all she did. I bet it was a happy home.
Can we all take a second to appreciate men like Bob, God bless him for trying to help those kids❤️
True...BOB IS A GOOD GUY
That’s why people are scared to help any one. She took advantage of that friend who helped her. Can’t blame the kids, it’s all on her!
Right? I hated that she blamed the kids like um excuse me?
At one point I had 5 kids ages 8 and under. The whole "my kids didn't help" doesn't fly with me, sis. You're the mother. When kids are little you do most of it and as they get older you teach them more and more and when they are teenagers they are already used to helping keep things clean because they've been doing it so many years.
There's no excuse for the house getting like that. Period. No matter what.
👏🏾👏🏾 Yes she used her kids as an excuse. I have 5 kids all 8 and under and they see me cleaning constantly so guess what they ALWAYS try to help mommy do... clean. She’s not a clean person and never has been, she set that example. They are just mocking what they’ve seen their whole lives 🤦🏽♀️🤢
Yep my sister and her children lived like that no matter where they lived because my sister . My mother raised all if us to start picking up after ourselves at a young age so I an sorry I only minutely buy her bipolar as a remotely reasonable excuse and even then it doesn't completely excuse her behavior.
@@RCButterfly I'm not making excuses for her and if she really can't even keep a clean place for her kids then she needs to be taking medication or something to help her. I have BP, along w PTSD, anxiety and depression. I don't take meds rn but if the time came that I felt I needed to, I would. Our kids shouldn't have to suffer, we brought them here. However, depression/mental illness is REAL af and sometimes ppl get so sad, they can't eat, sleep and barely take care of themselves. It's ok if that happens, as long as you're proactive about helping yourself be better too. Maybe go over and offer to help her clean, maybe she's just hella overwhelmed by herself. Sounds like she feels really alone.. For her and her kids sake, I hope she feels better soon.
If someone gave me a house and vehicle when I didn't have anything, I would be waxing and cleaning the house constantly.
@Misty Taylor....I’m with you Sis!! I would love 💗 a free house 🏡 and car 🚗.The man that gave me those things, I’d make him dinner EVERY Sunday just to say ThankYou 🙋🏽♀️💕
Ladies that makes the of us. People like this are the most ungrateful kind
Ok...I would be so appreciative...I will be sleeping and cleaning
Exactly
This woman is just an entitled scammer.
She just blamed her kids 😱.
😱😱😱
@@patlinn7186 I'm not surprised
She needs proper management skills. I mean, I see single adult with no responsibility also living in such condition, it's not about her kids, it's about her capability to manage the house, as well as teaching her kids survival skills.
I feel like that’s what mothers do lol
My teenagers didn’t pull their weight initially and Ive suffered depression on and off since my teens ... but my house has never ever looked like that!
Why are the children always blamed?? 🗣 YOU ARE THE ADULT!
I don't know the whole story here, was she working on a job to support her family? Or was she also home 24/7?
Overwhelmed is a legit reason, but to a point of total neglect, it's more than just depression, it's a lack of survival skill 😨
@emmett carney I've seen plenty of men who never take responsibility for their actions and blame others. Why do you think there are so many rapists, stalkers, domestic abusers and serial killers?
@emmett carney Do you have some kind of window of knowledge to know what all single mothers do? In this case, the husband/father committed suicide. No men were being blamed here. This "mother" has issues that need to be dealt with, she needs to get help and take responsibility. I don't see anyone denying that.
@emmett carney You don't think that men contribute to how their sons turn out? That boys don't pick up on how their fathers treat their mothers or females in general or that fathers don't abuse their sons? Or that a father being absent doesn't have anything to do with it (and bear in mind, there are deadbeat fathers out there). I never said all men are bad, nor did I say all women are good. Nor did I say anything about feminism. You're the one spewing and projecting here. Please show the statistics that back up your statements. It's likely far more complex than you like to portray it. I was abused as a child, by a male and a female. I don't need anyone to tell me that women can be abusive, cruel, or even murderous.
@emmett carney Again, I said NOTHING about feminism. You brought that up.
Bob is a really good man for caring about the kids enough to try to help her but some people need to get professional help before they're able to function. I clicked expecting to be amused but this level of dysfunction is just sad tbh. I feel for everyone involved in this, especially the kids.
And I feel bad about myself when I don't empty the dishwasher or sort socks....
Word. I've been unable to walk due to an injury this week and I've been on my hands and knees just to make sure the laundry gets done. Shes plain lazy
Omg I feel horrible when my home is a mess now I feel better
Same
*starts dusting*
Lollll
This is why I sold my dad’s rentals when he passed away. Renters are a nightmare. They don’t respect that they’re in someone else’s house.
Not all renters are like that. I'm a renter and have always looked after properties I've been in. And , I've always got my bond back. I brought up two kids, sometimes the house would be a bit messy, but never dirty.
I've been a renter my entire life and have always treated my apartments like they were my own. You sound like a nasty, judegemental person.
Not all because I rent and I’m a clean freak inside and outside of the home. I also have cats and my landlord says he could never tell because I keep their litter boxes cleaned and my home and yard
In some cities, renters can take over a property if they feel a landlord hadn’t done their part. My family and I had a property in SF and we sold it rather than continue to rent it out. It was an old house and constantly needed fixing so we knew it was in our best interest to do so before anything bad happened.
Remember that you deserve a clean space as that creates a clean mind. I've been through depression where even getting out of bed is a task, but you put your favorite music on and go one step at a time.
Kids go with the flow of their parents and don’t know better until they’re taught better. If they grew up around this level of disarray, they probably think it’s fairly normal. It’s not up the children to teach the parent and take care of the house.
Facts 👏🏾
100% correct
Got that right. I've had friends able to cook light meals when we were barely eight/nine years old.
I also had friends that depend on others to do *their* job (the so called outsourcing) to a point of literally leeching off people arnd them and play the victim card 24/7, hopping from one friend to another, etc.
My wife's parents house is always a mess everything is sticky and stuff piled up everywhere they wear shoes in the house and the carpet has almost turned black. Funny thing is all there kids live the same way, messy houses filthy cars funny thing is they complain about other people being dirty.
I was raised in a house very similar to this. Trust me it’s true. When I married and had a home of my own it is CLEAN. MINIMALISTIC. I will not make my children suffer the anxiety and depression I did as a kid from bad living conditions
I never understood people that allow this to happen. I grew up in the slums of NY with a single mom, two siblings. Our little two bed apartment was spotless, clothes clean, no garbage, always taken care of. We helped keep it clean.
My neighbor had 7 kids, 4 bedroom apartment and it was covered in months of dirty dishes, dirty clothes, garbage, rats, cockroaches. You couldn't see the floor. It was disgusting. I remember thinking, I'll never live like that. I never did.
Tbh with 7 kids it would be easy to become overwhelmed. My 2 young kids create a disaster every day and if i didnt clean it would accumulate.
Sounds like the best landlord you could dream of 0.o
He furnished the house and bought them a fking van.
Can we just take some time to appreciate what a wonderful human being bob is ❤️
Why didn't the sheriff get CPS involved?!
Cps has severe abuse cases going on. They might have just told her that she needs to clean and they'll come back to check.
Right. Times like this I get frustrated that law enforcement isn’t protecting little ones, but often focus on less impactful issues; I.e traffic tickets, serving someone a collection notice from an unpaid medical bill, marijuana... just my two cents 😌
@@perfect1087 Nonetheless, sheriff should have made some type of a report and/or referral in order to bring attention to the obvious neglect. What CPS does at that point is up to them.
@@Beefer-e4j actually with taking a kid away via CPS you have to be persistent. Write,call, email and stuff like that it's actually illeagal for them not to do anything.
Some people are delusional.
I think she has major depression and just didn't care. I know quite a few people who live like this. It's more than laziness. It's having no will
you're right it usually has to do with mental illness, however it still endangers the health of the children and can make it normal/habit for them.
looks like no routine. looks like she is comfortable in mess and starting to clean uo after every act is a problem.
I'm so glad she got caught. People please speak up on any hoarders that have children. This is sick, toxic, dangerous to the poor children. She acts like she's detached from what she's done to the house and to her children. Not even acting embarrassed
Gosh how on earth do people live like this? It is absolutely disgusting and appalling
That lady also used her daughter's identity to get and use several credit cards. Maybe dr. Phil wasn't so harsh with her.
That’s just gross... don’t blame your children who don’t know any better. You as a parent set the rules of the house. It’s truly unfortunate for the children who grow up with the hurt of their parents.
No excuse for living like this
"I was doing most of it myself" what was she doing? If she cleaned up after herself it wouldn't get that bad.
Lol right?? You dd what by yourself, watched it get worse?
And, this is why good people stop helping others.
I need to stop feeling bad about having a few dishes in the sink.
When I was a kid my parents never had to ask my to clean up, I would clean the whole house. My room was never a mess and everything perfectly put away.
What i love about dr Phil is that he doesn't go for the BS excuses....💯👍🏿
Husband died...she’s still angry and is punishing herself and kids. Angry and goes into victim. She’s far gone now. Just plain angry that she got stuck with a life and no husband.
My single mother had one rule. Thurs was cleanup day, white glove spotless. It helped not to mess up during the week bc we knew what we faced on Thrus. Don't try to get out of it 😐.
Sadly, no good deed goes unpunished.
My kids don't help either but my home has never been this disgusting! Stop blaming your children!!
Filth, laziness and disrespect for other people's property
Huh...did I see a corpse in the fridge?
Probably
I grew up this way, I'm 33 and still struggle to clean my own room
It's nice to see a comment that isn't someone gloating about how this never happened to them
This is absolutely disgusting. She ruined the house she was given. What udder disrespect.
I've been depressed and your house can start to look like this but I've found that cleaning actually makes me feel better emotionally. I have 3kids and they will destroy a house in minutes but u have to hold them accountable and take things away from them to make them keep a clean hse.
It's disgusting that she let her kids live in that.
Have 5 kids....they clean I could tell you that...EVERY MAN HAVE THEIR OWN CHORE!
Beyond disgusting! I would have been ashamed to come on Dr Phil if I were her!
There u go that’s why he couldn’t afford it. She didn’t pay rents she took advantage of her friend
No good deed goes unpunished
Wow your friend does this for you and this is how you treat him
I have 7 kids in a 2 bedroom home and it’s hard to find places put clothes etc but look 👀 at this I feel a lot better. 👍
Is mind blowing how people can be so lassy...
Is the word "lassy", a slang ?
And Patria , well said , lol 😅
@@bezzerwizzer6448 yeah., was wondering also ., I think Lassy was a dog in an old TV show
@@tarkus4283 Maybe they meant lazy..? Not sure.
@@SighingDog probubly
@@SighingDog I mean, obviously 🙄
Seriously woman, blaming your kids 🤦🏻♀️ please. I am a single mummy of 2 and my place is always clean. At least admit to your own faults.
What kind of mom throw her kids under the bus? 🤬🤬
It's the kids fault that the animals are defecating and urinating on everything and she just leaves it? Wow. To let yourself live like that is one thing, but to subject your children to that is absolutely criminal.
She is taking ZERO responsibility and trying to blame the children for her neglect.
This has to be a serious illness.
Bruv how do you live with literal 💩 on the floors of your home. I had an aunty like this. She now lives in somebody else's garage 🙈
Dr Phil asks; why was the house that way??
Her response should hav been ; BECAUSE WE ARE FILTHY PIGS DR PHIL !!
I have depression
Stress
Anxiety
Sadness
Health issues and so on.......& I'm sorry but unless I've lost the movement in my arms legs & body.....no way could I live like this !.....even then I'd find a way to clean. It's just disgusting!
My kids don’t help either but I’ll be damned if my home ever gets that filthy
Him talking about house, me looking around my room 😳
I’m no stranger to a depression nest, but if you can’t take care of your own basic needs, you shouldn’t have kids.
This 4 minute clip made me feel so much better about myself. LADY, stop blaming your kids! I know it’s frustrating and you want help, (I didn’t see the episode so idk how old the kids are except the one in the vid) but take their games or dolls or whatever until they clean their room. The fridge, living room, kitchen, those are YOUR responsibility as the adult.
Depression? Yeah, I have severe depression and my house has NEVER and would NEVER look like this. Some clutter is normal, and mental health can impact this but Nope. No excuse.
My mother raised 6 kids and we grew up in a neat organized clean home. Cleaning was never on this woman’s agenda ever. She is lying through her teeth. Every time I encounter someone with a dirty cluttered disorganized home they blame it on the kids the husband and even the family dog and they only started blaming the dog after the kids moved out and the husband died. They always have an excuse and never take responsibility for it. They need to participate in their own lives.. Even if you use reason with them it does not work. I told a woman who had a cluttered garage if you have 400 items in your garage that you can physically pick up and throw out and put one item a day in the trash you would only have 35 items left in your garage after 12 months. She told me when I said that that I was being mean to her. She said that because after I explained it in a way an idiot could understand, there was no way she could have an excuse to not clean out the garage.
What is sad is this is not the only time that I have seen houses that look this bad. Depression can be a big demotivator for something like this but I still don't get it.
If Idgaf and ungrateful af was a person she'd be it!!! Damn poor zman.
I don’t want my kids to clean🤣🤣🤣! I’m a perfectionist and a stay at home mom and freak out if more than 5 dishes are dirty! How does a house get like that?!?
Houses have clutter but this is a new level of disgusting.
How does1 live that dirty???
Aw, a free vehicle and a place to live is to over whelming😢
That is abusive neglect to your children!! Wake up woman!! Start cleaning up after you and your children
The laughing from the audience made me uncomfortable
For the record; EVERY mother pretty much does it by herself. I mean, who has young kids that help out in a truly meaningful and impactful way. Yes, they may pick up their toys or make their beds but generally speaking, mothers are not burdening their children with the upkeep of the home. She's just plain nasty and the fact that she has her kids living in such conditions is criminal.
I have 4 kids and yes, they can be messy, but that's why you teach them to clean up after themselves and lead by example.
She was doing this by herself without much help from her kids ,sounds like mom answered her own question.
People who can’t take accountability, their #1 excuse is I know I’m not perfect!! Every time!!!
Poor woman is clearly very unwell. She says she was depressed. This kind of shaming is unforgiveable. How is it helpful to her ( and her poor kids) to have her shame paraded for cheap entertainment. Dr. Phil is a grief tourist guide and all watching ( myself included) are on the tour bus.
No excuse for trash, expired items, and feces. The fact that you treat someone else's investment like this....
Yes it’s plain disgusting and hard for me to fathom how or why she let it get this bad, especially when others, her kids, live with her, but to give her some credit when you’re depressed it honestly can get this bad. There’s a Korean UA-cam channel Clean Avengers who cleans these kinds of homes and the stories of the ppl living in the trash are honestly really sad, they’re depressed and gone through some trauma. Not excusing her behavior especially when she is responsible for her kids wellbeing too, but depression is a valid reason in this situation and she first and foremost needs to seek psychological help, not through dr. Phil on national television, this isn’t helping
How can you come home and feel good and not feel dirty and yuck? Even in depression you just don’t throw rubbish on the ground
Okay firstly bob sounds like a genuinely amazing man.
Secondly, some people just can't cope. I think it's horrendous when trained psychologists will publicly judge someone clearly struggling with their mental health.
Depression, anxiety and childhood trauma can present itself in this way.
Hoarding, uncleanness, blame shifting as they can't accept their own reality.
Everyone here is a victim. Bob, the children and also the mother.
Everyone is so quick to point the finger of judgment and berate her instead of helping or just trying to understand why this is a continued struggle for her.
Some people have not been adequately trained in childhood.
As for the people saying we'll my mum had 10 kids and 16 parrots and had depression and kept a clean house etc etc well good for your mum, that is truly amazing if she can do that.
Everyone is different, has different capabilities and coping abilities.
You can't base judgement of another's actions off something you or someone you know would do differently because we are all different, some of us will need more help than others.
I figured in 2021 we wouldn't be shaming a single mother clearly not coping and saying I was depressed. Shame on everyone in that audience, these comments and dr. Phil himself for judging someone admitting they did wrong and opening up as to why. No one knows what that woman has been through or lives inside her head.
It could be a daily life of reliving trauma, depression is exhausting.
I think she needs compassion and therapy. Help.
Some ppl are just plain nasty....nasty....nasty....she must never even wash clothes
I have friends who have 4 kids under the age of 10 and their house is way cleaner than this.
This woman feels like the world owes her. Someone said she really changed when her husband passed and that makes sense. He probably did everything for her. Now she just blames her kids and denies everything. She's an abuser.
This woman was a grifter and took advantage with out expecting consequence.
She said she did it by herself...there's the answer.
Her will is broken. I feel sorry for that lady
Don’t feel bad for her. Later in this episode it shows that she’s been stealing money from her entire family
Poor man I know the feeling
Listen this mom is neglectful and knows it! That’s why she keeps moving. She knows what she is doing and doesn’t want to get caught.
Lmao she said she was doing some of it by herself 🤨 SOME OF WHAT 😳 I see no upkeep whatsoever 🤦🏽♀️ No order at all, depression is real but we’re grown so that is an excuse GO GET THE HELP YOU NEED 🗣 This type of behavior effects the kids 🥺
She was doing "most of it by myself". Most of what? Ignoring the chaos and filth?
A simple case of self benefit...she simply decided there was no benefit on her part to provide a safe environment for her children wich shows their level of importance to her.....continment shows intent💯
Did those kids never have friends over? Did they not go to other people's homes and realize their home was a pigsty? There is no freaking way that's "depression". That's bone lazy slovenliness.
I feel bad that my room is cluttered and disorganized😬😕
That's just pure laziness! Kids not helping or not!
I hate that they never upload full episodes, they only put little bits and pieces of random episodes. Then I can never find the rest of the parts to it 😒😒😒
The reason it’s that way is because for the parent. Not the kids. This women is a mess.
It's why I will always sell and not rent. No one is going to treat your home the way you would especially renters because it's not their home so they have a I don't care attitude. If they had 350,000 in debt for that house it would be a different story.
I feel sorry for her. I empathize so much.
I think kids would do this kinda damage if you let them live on their own 🤣🤣🤣
I feel so bad for these kids. One thing I don't understand: is you are depressed and can't take care of yourself or your kids properly (I'm not judging, I've been there, some days you just can't get out of bed I get it) but why would you get any animals?? That's where 90% of the gross filth comes from!
It’s scary how a MOTHER! did this to her children a bleeping MOTHER
hey im single grateful and clean BOB..
Growing up, our house would get scary close to this bad, often. My mother would eventually pull an all nighter once in a while and clean it all at once. She suffered severe childhood trauma and mental health issues that I sadly inherited the predisposition to. (She is doing much better nowadays) We never had pests, but there was clutter shoved in closets, little pieces of random trash here and there on the floor, or dresser. Dishes in bedroom. Pet turds not picked up, the kitchen floor tile, I don’t even want to talk about it. Weeks worth of dishes, 3 foot pile of laundry in the laundry room. I remember my mother always telling us it was our fault for not helping. And I believed it, but I also always felt like that wasn’t entirely fair as I knew she was ultimately responsible for the state of her home. And yes I definitely shoulda coulda done more chores with less backtalk. But in my defense, I was never trained as a child to take care of the house. I was just supposed to start pitching in all of the sudden in mid to late elementary school. And the odd thing is, our house was never that bad when my mom was a single mom. Anyway, thought ppl would appreciate the take from someone who’s lived it. It’s no excuse but I low key understand how bad mental health can get. Willpower who? I vowed to never lived like that. I let some chores pile up sometimes but not anymore than the average person who does that from time to time. Mainly laundry really but I have learned as an adult, it’s the STUFF/CLUTTER that gets ya.
My house is no where near spotless however I do have a modicum of cleanliness..yes my kids make messes but if I don’t say clean it up why would they!! Take responsibility this didn’t happen in 1 week....my home is clean no trash lying around yes toys and sometimes dishes in the sink but they are from that day or the night before and are never in there for more gan 24 hours...
Why is she blinking like that?
Just keep on making excuses but it's just sheer LAZINESS. HOW DISGUSTING! Now her kids live like this probably for the rest of their lives! Good going Mom..if you can call yourself one!