I QUIT Doing These Things in My 50’s for a HAPPIER Life
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- Опубліковано 18 тра 2024
- In this video I share 10 things I quit doing in my 50’s to live a simpler and happier life.
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I'm in my 60s and I stopped following a lot of socially acceptable things a long time ago. I am also not married to my partner of 16years, We also have separate rooms for mostly the same reasons you have, and we are much happier that way. neither of us follow fashion, I don't get my nails done and never have, don't celebrate most holidays including christmas, I don't cook for eveyone, don't follow diet culture, have never worn makeup not even for special occasions, (except a bit of bb cream with sunscreen as I live in australia) and I hate talking on the telephone. I am decluttering though, I live in a very small house and there is too much stuff for me to move around safely now as I have some mobility issues at times. Thankyou for sharing, it is good to know others have found the joy of being their authentic selves.
Yes…if we don’t live authentically, what’s the point? It’s been joyous shedding the skin of others’ expectations. Thanks for your comment! I hope future videos resonate with you too. 💕
Oh my goodness I felt like you were me talking with a more positive vibe. Although I'm 46, I felt ALL of that.
😻. It’s nice to know there are others out there who “buck the system” a bit. I’m glad that something you heard resonated with you. Isn’t it a great feeling to be validated! 🤩. Hoping you come back for more validation in future comment sections. 🥰🙏
I’m 65. I agree with you on everything you said. I don’t make a big deal out of most everything.
Don’t sweat the small stuff! Life is so much more enjoyable now.
Yes! Isn’t it? I find it so freeing to finally just be the me that was tempered all these years by others’ expectations of me. My ex- husband and sister (who no longer talks to me) are the only people who took issue with me taking back my life (so to speak.) Their loss. 😉🤩
Thanks for what you said Jen..! It's so close to my heart!❤️
This year I stopped cooking dinner for my sons.. I was so tired..! 🤕
I do most of the things you talk about, in my own life..
Hi Ola! Thanks for your comment. I make these videos to help me as much as to help others. When we find people we relate to as we transition into our later years, it feels less foreign. I'm glad you're here in this community!💕🙏
Hi it's almost 6.30 am here. I'm preparing breakfast while I watch you. I agree with your perspective on you doing you. We all should do what's right for us at the different times of our life. I also don't don't have my nails done...it isn't as pretty but it's healthier, doesn't cost me money and I like it😊
My mother always had the loveliest nails...painted and manicured...even into her 70s. I was always envious of her dainty hands! But I have to do what feels right for me. I know she is probably still cringing from heaven at the thought of me biting my nails! Lol.
I always appreciate reading your comments. 💗🙏
I have ADHD and number 3 resonated with me. Being a bit more minimalist and reducing buying things is helping our home feel more manageable. I keep forgetting to use our nice plates, I’m going to use them today. Great video!
Good morning to you! I’m glad that you understand…you’re welcome to visit my slightly cluttered home anytime! lol. It’s is hard with a busy mind to get all the things done…and I don’t want my life to be about getting all the tasks done. I want it to be about enjoying as much as I can each day. I’m happy to know I’ve inspired you in some way. What do your fancy dishes look like? Is there a story behind them?
I'm 54 (claiming 40 again :), never married, single, no kids, and never lived with someone long term. My ex and I used to sleep in separate bedrooms due to our sleep schedules, etc. and it worked. I also smiled when you talked about your polo shirts and wanting to wear your collar up. I did the same with my off brand shirt. I also didn't like to follow "trends" or "rules" and wore pin striped pants with a sweater that had strips going the opposite way and that got pointed out. I thought I looked fine. I never get my nails done, barely wear makeup, and most of of my clothes are thrifted. I've gotten more compliments on second hand clothes that I enjoy. It's still my dream to meet my person and share life together in a dream home we create, but in the meantime I feel inspired to know that there are more of us like minded "introverts" that enjoy life by sharing our own uniqueness with others. You have inspired me to start sharing what I am passionate about.....It's never too late to start a living a life you dream about...
Amy, your comment brought a huge smile to my face and a hug to my heart! ❤️ What’s a life lived if it’s lived by someone else’s rules? I just wish it didn’t take me til my 50’s to feel okay pushing back more. 😂
Thank you for this revelation of a video! I'm 39 and I was always wondering if I am "odd" because I like to sleep in my own bed, by myself. Same goes for having my own personal space.
You truly are a blessing! Thank you!
What a kind thing to say! Thank you. You are not weird! Sleep is so essential. Without good quality sleep, we can’t be our best selves. It’s a blessing to be in a relationship where my partner understands and accepts this. We are so much happier. 💕🙏
I’m 65 & am 100% like you!! When you said neurodivergent I gasped. Me too! Phone calls-hate them. IEvery thing you said is me too except I’m not in a relationship. It’s so validating! Thank you. 😃
Hey there! Happy that you resonated with the video. 🙏💕. I just realized I was neurodivergent this past summer. It’s been interesting to see my life through a different lens and it’s caused me to have much more compassion for myself. I’m suddenly a significant amount happier knowing this about myself. 😊💕
Way to go. You are walking your way on your own path. This shows you are a wise and mature person.
What a nice thing to say! Thank you. I've become wiser in the last decade. Many experiences taught me to go the direction that feels right...not necessarily in the direction that others deemed correct. 😀🔆
My husband and I have separate rooms as well! The best ever! I also dress from the 70s .. my daughter dresses from the 50s and 60s.. i turn 60 next month and im living a great life! Thanks for the insight and ..subscribed!
So many similarities! Thanks for engaging in the conversation AND for joining my community! Happy to have you! 💕🙏
Oh my god, I love this! I hate talking on the phone too, I hate that you can’t see expressions, and I also live with someone I’m not married to and we have separate rooms and are very happy. Great to hear someone else bucks the ‘normal’ accepted way of living
Hi Helen! Here’s to “bucking the system” “marching to the beat of our own drummer” and “taking the road less traveled!” Cheers!
Holy moly can I relate to all of this (including neurodivergence and separate rooms!)
I remember the utter joy I felt when I received the only Christmas present I wanted: A Polo sweater(!) in 7th or 8th grade. Soon after that I discovered & fell in love with new wave & punk rock, and have never since looked back, fashion-trend-wise. I couldn't even properly fit in with the punk rockers, really! I just do what feels good. Thank you for this thought provoking and affirming list!
Hey there Anne! (My middle name spelled with an E also!) This is what I love so much about creating community here…I’m connecting with people who understand me and who appreciate the way I live my life. All while meeting so many interesting and creative folks like you! I’m looking forward to watching your monetization series and supporting you along the way! 💕🙏
Yay! A real person who says it just like it is. Nice one! 😊
Hi there! I feel I’ve earned the right at 54 yrs old! 😂. Thanks for your comment and for watching! I appreciate you. 🙏💕
Just checking in on your progress. You've "got it going now." 😎👍👏👍👍👍🎸🎸🎼🎵🎶🎙🎹Cheers, Bruce.
Right within the first few moments, this quote where you say, “I feel I have earned the right to make my own decisions.”
Yes, I think for the first time at 41. I am starting to finally feel a bit like a grown-up because of this very phenomenon. Like you wake up one day and you realize you can make your own decisions and that is your right to do so. it is a good feeling! It means we own our mistakes too, but that’s also satisfying.
Hi there! Agreed! In my 40’s (well, 38 to be exact) my first decision that I felt was my own to make was ending my marriage of 13 years. That was one of the hardest decisions to make, but necessary. Now, in my 50’s, I have less guilt about doing what I need to do for me. It was definitely a process to get to this point, though. I’m glad to know that you are there. There’s fulfillment in living for yourself as much as there is in living a life of service to others. Keep it all in balance. ⚖️💕. Thanks for joining my community and for your thoughtful comment. 🙏👋
Another video where I was nodding my head the whole way, haha! There are some differences like I would love for my nails to look nice (but they don't!) and I make a big deal of some holidays (and have completely let go of celebrating others in traditional ways.) And I don't have a live-in partner, but I would absolutely want separate bedrooms. Isn't it fabulous getting to "that age" where you get to be done with certain norms and just do you? Love it!
It IS wonderful! I have much more peace in my life…mostly! 🤪
I love listening to your wisdom and can relate with so much of what you share here! Foxes are way cooler than polo players on a shirt😂
Well that's a perspective I haven't thought about! I went to school in Los Angeles with a large number of wealthy kids even though my family was not. The pressure to fit in was immense. So although now I could care less about fashion, back then I was definitely influenced. I should look for a fox polo at the thrift and buy it for old times sake!
I cant believe how much I related to this video!! I do so many of the same things! Eg, don't follow fashion trends, don't do diet culture, don't do nails, don't cook for everyone, not married etc. I think thing you do that I don't in this list is sleep in separate bedrooms. We don't have the space plus we love a good cuddle before bed. But it's was genuinely wonderful to see someone else who doesn't do these norms.
Wow! Thanks for sharing that with me. I noticed I've lost a few subscribers since posting this....so I wonder if my not being married yet in a long term relationship has offended some. It's neither here nor there....I'm happier than I've ever been doing life my way. I appreciate your comment! 🙏💗
@beautifullifesageg.3951 I wouldn't worry about the loss too much, it just means they came to you for maybe 1 or 2 videos but your overall content just isn't for them. I also get a few subs from scammers and people trying to sell me SEO services, they subscribe, if I don't follow them back or take up their services they unsubscribe. Then you've got bot accounts that will unsubscribe once they've been caught and the account closed. So I won't worry about if this video was the cause or not. It just means the ones who stuck around are genuine viewers who enjoyed your content.
I love your videos.
Just wanted to point out in a sincere and humble way that “not getting married “ is not a bad thing as long as you’re also keeping the bed undefiled is a practice amongst most people called “Christians” and I practise that faith. I believe in God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit and also believe in keeping the commandments. And in the Christian faith, having sec when you’re not married is a Sin. Sins are wrong. That was why I felt obliged to comment on that as you mentioned that not getting married was the right way to do things. Most people get married to keep the law, some for love, some to make children.
That single statement Does Not make me hate or judge you in any way sis. I still love your videos and will continue watching them.
Nice concept for the background 💜💜💜
This is my Christian Channel if it’s helpful 🤍
Love and light🤍💡
I can appreciate your perspective and your adherence to your faith. Thank you for sharing in such a mature and respectful way. 💗🙏
In my 50s I decided to always use my cool stuff, cute things, expensive high end accumulation, throw old crap away, never a reason to wear something ugly or cheap...but not out of vanity but just a waste of time if you have cute or fancy, wear it...even pajamas, socks, hair, rings...Whatever you love dont save it for a "special occasion", wear/do it to run errands, go to the park etc. We are here to express, so do that. And lastly, eat everthing you want in minimal moderation. No holidays here either, at least not directly. No stress is best.
I like the way you think! Thanks for adding to the conversation. You’re welcome to come back anytime. 😊🙏
Love the topic of this video. I've been with my partner for 19 years and we have 3 kids, we are not married. Over the years, people have told us to get married but we don't listen lol!! We don't sleep in the same bed either, and haven't since having kids. If it ain't broke, don't fix it!!
Very true! The only thing I still get stuck on is what to call him when I am referring to him. Sometimes husband just falls out..sometimes partner…I always feel strange calling him my boyfriend!
@@beautifullifesageg.3951 Husband always falls out for me too. I guess because it cuts out a lot of ignorant questions/comments from people. 🤷♀😂
Ditto!! I felt like I was watching myself!!
lol. Thanks for your comment! 🙏💕
To each his/her own.
Yes! Exactly! 👍
😂I was doing my nails while watching this … I can’t afford to get my nails done either… I have adhd and bite my nails when I don’t put nails on . I am a secretary and feel better having my nails done …. But I do them myself !!!
Hi fellow ADHDer! I don’t even have enough fingernail length to put nails on them! Oy!
I'm like you, I was never a follower of fashion. For one thing, I don't really like wearing high heels! 😂 At this moment in time, I can't imagine being in a relationship. I'm done with them. It may change in the future, but not for the foreseeable future. It's refreshing to learn about yours though, having your own rooms!
Heels⁉️ A thing of the past. I have one pair I keep “just in case” but haven’t had any of those situations yet. Btw…last night I slept fabulously….and my partner is still in his room SNORING! lol. 😆
Very nice presentation. And your goose did not quack - he honked! (I think...) Enjoy your new videibg adventure.
Thank you! 😃. I appreciate your goose observation! lol.
Ditto on using the good dishes. ❤
Definitely. 💯. Is there a story to tell about your nice dishes?
@beautifullifesageg.3951 They were a housewarming present from my in-laws, 25 years ago. Around dinnertime 12 years ago, I discovered all of the 'every day' dishes were in the dishwasher and I refused to rush to handwash enough for 6 people. So I pulled down the fancies, which were clean in their padded containers, and had only been used five times since we got them. I decided they would no longer be locked away for a 'special occasion', and they have become our everyday dishes.
@@AgingOnYourTerms I love that story!
Smart and mature. Thanks for sharing.
I appreciate your kindness!
We are so similar, except I am married, but we do each have our own rooms and thats been the best thing ever. Also, I do occasionally do my nails as I am a beauty enthusiast, however most often I don't wear makeup unless I'm going somewhere special. Thanks for sharing!
I appreciate your comment! Isn't it great having your own space? I had to share a room as a child and only had my own space for a few years as a teen before I moved out and in with my then husband. I love having my own space back as a mature adult! 💕
Independence AND flexibility AND surrounded with love 🌻beautiful
Thank you for validating my thoughts so generously! I like the way you think, Karen!💕🧠
😂😂😂I m almost the same
Easy on head on body in general and mental health as well not to follow those stupid rules ❤
Thanks for your comment! 🙏
We’re on the same page sister. 😂😂
Hey there! Glad to know it! Isn’t it a happier way to live…to do it on your own terms…rather than the terms that others expect of you? Thanks for taking the time to connect! 🙏💕
If you didn't have a partner, then I think we could be great roommates!
Aww...that's sweet! 😀
You don't break the law? why not? U taking all the fun out of life.
your video is way too noisy,please buy a microphone with wind screen
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