Reading these videos always makes me realise how all these worries we have when growing up aren't a big deal. I guess I'm about the same age as you (second day being 23yo) so with so many of the advices I realise how quick you actually mature out of the worries people talk about on here. Also fun since most of your audience seems to be American, as a Dutchie everything about school. These worries are so normal, and the people here don't realise how you can just grow beyond the worries. Life's cool.
Happy birthday! Im turning 16 this year and Im realizing so much about myself, I feel more prepared for whatever the future holds and Im ready to explore the journey ahead!
not me after clicking on the video, seeing my comment was in the video and then just sitting there for 8 minutes in shock just fucking starstruck 😭 (thank you so fucking much for the advice btw. knowing this stuff is definitely gonna ease my worries about adult life. also for clarification about the job thing, its mainly pressure due to my parents. they’re always telling me that i HAVE to get a job NOW so that i can start paying for my car sooner so that’s what is causing me to worry about that.)
Hi, niko! On your first "100 diomonds" stream (around 4:00:00) i typed in chat "goodnight, niko".... And you responded by wishing me goodnight too!!! Ngl i was falling asleep with a smile on my face. 😊 This little thing is a lot for me (considering that you're one of my fav youtubers) Thank you very much, love your videos and i hope you'll get even more appreciated!!! 🙏❤
Hi Niko, I've been watching your content for the past few weeks, and I have to say, I’m very impressed by the way you share your wisdom and life advice with such compassion and kindness. It genuinely makes sense, and it has resonated with me deeply. I wanted to reach out to ask for your advice. I’m a 19-year-old male who’s about to start college soon. Over the past few years, I’ve been working on improving myself-working out, meeting new people, and striving to become a better version of myself. I’m also planning to focus more on improving my UA-cam channel. However, before all of this, three years ago, I met a girl who I really, really cared about. She was my first crush, and we eventually started dating. She was the reason I began doing many of the things I mentioned, like studying harder, becoming a better person, and even starting my UA-cam channel. To get straight to the point, this girl honestly changed me for the better. Even though our relationship had its challenges, particularly because she was dealing with significant mental health issues like anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, and borderline personality disorder, I still loved her deeply. She was the only person who genuinely loved me and did thoughtful things for me, like creating beautiful artworks and expressing her love for me. Unfortunately, our relationship only lasted for seven months. A toxic friend of mine spread false rumors about me, leading my girlfriend to believe I wasn’t a good boyfriend. I wasn’t aware of what was happening behind the scenes, and by the time I found out, it was too late. I confronted my toxic friend and cut ties with him, but when I tried to talk things out with my girlfriend, she didn’t seem to have the same energy or feelings as before. After this terrible experience, I decided to stop interacting with people in real life out of fear of being betrayed again. I never blamed my ex for what happened, and I’ve tried to work on myself since the breakup, but to be honest, I still haven’t felt truly happy. Now, three years have passed. - My UA-cam channel is growing. - I’ve matured a lot compared to who I was back then. - I’m more confident now. - I have a supportive friend group, consisting of online friends and two very supportive real-life friends. Everything was going well until I received a message from one of my friends, asking if I wanted to see her again. She wants to meet up with me, and honestly, despite all the work I’ve done on myself to become more confident and brave, this is one of those rare instances where I feel nervous. The truth is, I still love her, and I don’t want to mess things up. But I’m not sure why she wants to meet up after all these years. My friends speculate that she might want closure or perhaps even start a new relationship. I also talked to my therapist about this, and he recommended that I choose the option that’s best for me. He pointed out that the girl in question still has her mental health struggles, which can make relationships challenging. But he also said that if I truly love and care about her, I should follow my heart. So, do you have any advice on getting back with an ex who has had a positive influence on your life but the ex in question has mental problems???
My advice is to give it a shot, go with the flow. You can't know what she's going to say or her reasons until you meet up with her. Talk it out. Also, to answer your last question, you seem to not mind her mental problems, or at least the positives outweigh the negatives from how you make it sound. If I were you, I'd give the relationship another shot, and if it doesn't work you can just break up. The only way to find out is to try it. (Sorry if that comes off cold). Good luck :)
Hey Niko, I just turned 19 and I'm new to your channel *i found you about 45 minutes ago and now im going to binge your videos* and I don't need advice rn, but I wanna say thank you. There's a charm to your videos that bring back that classic UA-cam feel and it's not something I new that I needed so much. It's melancholic, but also comforting and warm. I just wanted to say thank you, and that you seem like a great guy!
Hey niko. Love your vids. I am a passionate guy (most of the times) I like writing and creating stuff. The problem is that I push myself too hard, I seek perfection in everything that I do. I always want to be the best whether is gym, art or whatever else. And I'm comparing myself all the time, and, a lot of the times, there're "better" people than me at that thing and I'm always comparing myself. I know that I shouldn't do it, but I can't help it. I always want to be "better" than everyone.
i dot know how to express the vibe i got while listening to this at 5 am, but i really like it. Theres soomething in the voice that that i can't explain. Really liked this type of content, i'll check it out tommorow Thats it. After looking at your home page you're really the most lukewarm milk toast commentary
Thankyou soo much the advice really helped!! ❤❤ I don’t know why but I think I just needed someone to tell me that I wasn’t doing the wrong thing by just relaxing. Tysm!!❤
Hey Niko, I feel like I've been blessed with a decent life, yet i can't stop thinking about my friends. Specifically my best friend. I met her in the third grade and we have been friends for years, but I feel like our relationship isn't the same at it used to be. It feels like we have become completely different people, and I can see she doesn't want to be friends with me for me anymore. I became friends with another girl and we weren't that close. Then introduced her to my best friend, and my best friend loved her. When they were talking she would tell her she likes things that she told me she hated before. Unfortunately, my other friend didn't seem to want to be as close to her, which resulted in a kind of one-sided friendship. My other friend still seemed to like me though, and she would come over, but she no longer can because if my best friend can't make it, she'll start crying and tells me to talk with her, and I end having to cancel because she tells me I hang out with other people to much and I should wait until she can come too. We got put in no classes together but my best friend and other friend did get put together. I feel like my best friend isn't even friends with me for me anymore, but every time I try to pull away she starts crying about how I never spend time with her, and when I invite her over her first question is if my other friend will be there, and if not, she's to busy to come. I'm really sorry if this turned into a rant, but please, do you have any advice for me?
Thank you for that last question, That really helped me out alot with something similar, i'm 24 and this girl really likes me and I didn't know if I needed to ask her out or not, and I know she wants to date, and her family has asked about me, we have chatted the last like week or so, we had traded numbers last weekend, because she had asked me for it, and I had really been contemplating if I really should go foward with this or not, this gives alot of thought that I can now think over the weekend, while I still don't have a full decisive decision, this got me closer to the answer I needed!
Hi niko. I've been watching your videos since last month and they've helped me a lot but, also your advices' affects on me are being cut by the environment around me. I live in india and I've been stressing a lot about my exams that decide my future. I'm in 10th grade and the last exam pretty much decides my future. My dad wants me to have a government job, my teachers and relatives expect me to get high marks and everyone around me expects a lot from me but, i want to be an artist. I've been feeling suicidal and I've commited acts of self harm on me like scarring and and bleeding myself. I just can't take this pressure anymore. Life feels like a competition now, my seniors got a lot of good grades and now everyone expects me to surpass them. I can't deal with all this anymore, everyday when i wake up, i feel down and end the day with either Harming myself or going to sleep. I've stopped working out to focus on my studies but, nothing is working. I keep trying but i don't feel like anything is progressing.
Hey man, I was just wondering how to build a portfolio and get jobs editing it’s been something I want to do but don’t know how to find jobs and such. Also love the breath of fresh air your channel is
Hey Niko, I'm almost 16 years old, and my life has been in shambles. I was born in Britain and lived there for 9 years before moving to my home country. My whole life, I wasn't respected as a citizen of the country but as a migrant, even though my parents are from this country. It's been so bad that I don't even feel like a citizen of my country, but just as a migrant. In school, I'm classified as a "nerd," which means everyone comes to me either to get answers to a test, to get homework, or to annoy me. I've had a single loyal friend my whole life because, before entering high school, I was bullied every day to the point where I was depressed. In high school, I still experience bullying from some people, but not as much as before. I've started to improve my life by going to the gym and working on my social skills, but deep down, I still feel depressed. I haven't talked to girls much because they never talked to me when I was in school, as I was the "weird kid." I'm unsure how to work on getting a girlfriend or at least knowing how to speak to women so they don't find me weird. What should I do?
Tell the world to go fuck itself. That's my approach after i was thrown away by basically everyone at school. Focus on yourself and do the things you enjoy and if you don't know what that is then experiment. Idk what country you're from but i also live abroad but have always had a pull to my home country but a huge spike in patriotism came when i learnt about the history of my country, region and city. Cheering on my national team with my parents also caused this. Try and meet new people - i like cars, motorsport and sport so i like racing and car meets and I've met a lot of people through this and the internet so try that. Also I assume you struggle with human interaction by the women part but the best thing to do is say 'fuck it'. Say what comes to your mind. If you find someone you get along with then great but if it's not that person then move on. Don't be scared to be awkward. I just say what comes to my mind without thinking about ehat i will say or what i said. I hope this helps man. Good luck :))
Change your personal perception of yourself and have actions that back it. Despite what people will think of you now, the actions and thought process you have of yourself will determine if it will stick or you will go through change and character development. Keep being focused , gym, and work on your social skills by going out or taking action and challenging yourself to talk to people. Life is a first person game and you have the ultimate control of it! Hope this helps bro
Hey niko ! I am currently a 13 year old and i feel stuck. My friends think i am doing amazing at school but i dont think so , I thinks i can do better . I am quite the procrastinator and waste my time. I think the main reason I have some anxiety is because my family is in a terrible financial situation and i believe that if I dont sucecced I will disapoint my mother. So my question is, How can I handle procrastination and thoughts of inferiority while trying to become the best version of myself?
Hey Niko, I'm turning 13 in middle school and I'm a year younger than everyone else, yet I hit puberty pretty early and I feel empty inside... Most likely because back in 6th grade I was bullied by most of the girls in my class for stupid reasons and my crush had been leaked, that happened a few weeks before graduation and ever since then I have always been socially awkward, paired with my overthinking makes it so much worse. My family has always been pretty awkward and I feel like I just runs in the genes, but no matter what I do I feel like I'll always be socially awkward and I always feel bad for people talking to me when they don't even know me. I heard a few people call me cute but I think something is going behind the scenes, and I always believe that no one will like me, yet I'm so young. I've been trying to look up guides to change myself, like waking up at 6am and doing my daily routine, but sometimes I believe my personality will never change, I'm trying not to get angry at people but it's just like an instinct. I try not to stare at people that I know because I'm afraid they're going to think I'm weird, what should I do?
These people have insecurities themselves, so they bully people to compensate that, you don't do that even though you have insecurities too, cause youre a better person then them :)
I've been there to a certain extent. Middle school sucked for me because I was such a hard-core introvert, had poor social skills and struggled with finding a good friend group. This is just an awkward time in your life and you just have to pull through it. Choose your friends carefully and find people that have similar interests and are interested in what you have to say, even if it's just a few words at a time. I had a couple of good friends in middle school, one of which I am still good friends with to this day, but most of the main group of friends didn't come around until high school. Before then my freshman year was taken over by Covid which absolutely wrecked my social skills. It took awhile to warm up to people, but eventually you just have to put yourself out there crawl out of your comfort zone. Another thing, don't worry to much about what others think of you. It'll just drive you crazy and you can't control that. Don't worry about getting into a relationship (I never had a girlfriend in high school). Everyone else is too worried about what others think of them, and may be projecting when they make fun of someone else. Instead just work on yourself and figure out what you truly want, which will take some time but it will be worth it.
Yo niko, how come most talking stages/situtianships i end up in always come to an end with the whole "im not ready for a relationship" line. And before that, it's basically like I'm their "boyfriend," like we go on dates, engage in some "activities," and do a couple of things, but when I want to make it official, it's always one of those lines. I keep being told that it isn't me and that I'm a decent person, the whole nine yards, but I still feel like it's me and my actions. Do I choose girls with commitment and daddy issues a lot? I'm so cooked, lmao
Hey Niko, I'm 15 yo, I have a boyfriend at this point in time, I've been with him for a month already, we are really connected between each other and it seems as if the relationship is gonna last for a long time, I really like him and he likes me back, we both love our time together and we don't really want to go fast. I'm scared that one day he's gonna lose interest on me or I'll lose interest on him out of being burned out from the relationship, we both live on different towns (about 30 minute travel time) so we keep distance from each other and still spend time with other friends and/or into our own goals. He's the best thing life has given me and I don't want to waste it.
hi niko i just found your channel and im literally amazed like how simplistic but quality these contain. i wanna thank you it gives me pleasure can you do me a favour though like i want to play and just talk with someone but my friends dont play mc can we possibly play together. its completely on you. thanks again man
Hey Niko. I am a 14 year old guy from Sweden and i have been playing ice hockey since I was 7. Today was my first training of the season and I felt just as I did every practice last season, terrible. I’m not good at it, I just play it for the fun of it. But the only fun I get out of it is sometimes during games. I constantly recieve negative backlash and I just don’t enjoy it as much as I once did. I have practice 5 times a week and gym with the team on top of that. Enough yapping, my question to you is if you think I should quit hockey and focus on my studies and starting to gym instead. (Note that my grades are quite good, but improvements can be made). PS: great videos!
Heyy niko 🙋🏾♂️ I'm currently struggling with a girl. I have known her since elementary school, but we started to talk nearly 4 years ago (I was moving to the US back then), and our friendship/relationship grew in a "very unique and the best way it could" as she says. I told her that I wanted to make it offcial, twice. She told me I am the best of all the men she knows (she says that love isn't for her and planning to become a nun). I am back in my hometown for summer, but we haven't met each other yet even though we had lots of plans I screw it up. She's mad at me for not inviting her to a meeting wit my fam and also because I started to smoke. She says that I disappointed her, and she told me that time will heal her. She will tell me when she's ready, but the waiting feels like a torture for me. I made this longer than it really is. I don’t really know if any advice is needed because she told me what to do, but I'm really afraid if one of us loses the feelings. Stay blessed niko, your advices had helped a lot of people
Don't look to change for her. Do what you think is right whether it's asking her on a date, taking her home, or something you think of but the chances are that after 2 rejections giving her space might be the best thing. Some things won't work and some people need to acknowledge that. Not trying to make your mood worse but sometimes you have to think about it as the other person.
@nathanguzy9174 I was so stressed about this. It's almost time to go back to the US, and I haven't seen her. She said there would be a farewell. I've spent my time here wit my family and other friends to keep myself distracted and give her the time she needs. But I still waiting for her notification to pop on my phone. It really helps to be listened Stay blessed bro 🙌🏾
For the second question, you want to find a hobby that you feel passionate about. I've had many hobbies in the past with different sports and other extracurriculars, but while they may have been fun I never felt truly passionate about them. I hardly ever practiced sports at home/on my free time because I just wasn't interested enough. That was until joined marching band in high school, drumline specifically (Yes I'm more of a nerd, but not those crazy Smash Bros band kids). There I met some of the best friends I've ever had, and I truly enjoyed drumming and I practice all the time and hardly ever stop thinking about it, to the point that I want to pursue it on a more professional level. Not too long ago, I was very interested in making animations and I wanted to pursue that as a career. However, while I did enjoy it to an extent, I didn't like how tedious and long the process was just to make a 2 minute animation even with a whole team so I gradually lost steam on that. Then I took a video production class and discovered my passion for filmmaking and I have created a few award-winning short films and I'm going to be starting college to pursue it. A final thing to add, even though I have all these things going for me, I still end up feeling empty and very bored. (That's probably because it's summer break and hardly anyone is hiring right now). But one thing I've had to keep in mind is this is just the slow part of my life and soon everything will pick up and I'll be stressed again. A simple place to start is just look for any extracurricular activities at your school or any clubs that sound interesting, or if not then you could even hit the gym/exercise in general. Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk.
Hi niko! Its my second time writing one of these lol, But before I go ahead and state my issue rn I just wanna say that I really like the way you give advice to people all around the world! And uh yea, so im in the 9th grade and I'm really scared 'cuz I had a really bad year last year (academic wise) and I was an academic achiever when I was younger and I was really hoping if you can help with having an academic comeback along with having really fake friends that just showed their true colors and all the common problems in highschool such as bullies and etc. Thank you!
Not really sure if my message will get noticed and then featured onto the video, I don't really expect to get a advice, this is more so to vent. Of course that doesn't mean I am not open to the possibility of getting featured onto the video and given advice, that would be greatly appreciated. So, I'm 17, I've got criticism from the past from a friend of mine, about who I am as a person, and that changed me. In a positive way I mean. I started to think, *a lot.* Reflecting and then fixing all these bad traits. I always strived towards trying to be logical and rational, being more self-aware and well-informed. Forcing myself to critically think whenever I can, and I would say my motivation for all this from the friend who criticized me, he himself is a role model to me, a logical and well informed individual. Yet, with my bipolar disorder and ocd I can't really seem to maintain and present a logical and rational me, most of the times I am impulsively irrational even though I try to reason with myself inside, I still end up being illogical and irrational. It feels as if though all my progress to becoming that me that I want to be is all a waste. I try to remember all these information related to psychology to better understand myself, yet, it is never crystalized and I just end up forgetting the knowledge I tried so hard to understand and implement, striving for self-awareness that will probably fade away.
Hi Niko, I recently discovered your channel and fell in love with your Q&A videos. Now onto my dilemma: I'm 21, in my 2nd year of college (already halfway done), studying biotechnology. Life has felt like a complete disaster ever since I finished high school. I don't have a girlfriend, I've lost a lot of friends, and I can't seem to "click" with the people at my college. I really don't have a strong interest in what I'm studying, and I'm worried that my future doesn't look so bright. When I finish my education, I'll probably end up working in a lab for the rest of my life, and that doesn't seem appealing to me. I can't quit because I'm already financially invested, so I just have to tough it out and deal with it. Some people know what they want to do from day one, but I've never had a clear idea about that. I'm afraid my life will become miserable: no friends, no purpose, no relationship, poverty, etc. What can I do in this situation? How can I improve or find my path?
All I can say is tough it out, get the diploma and do something else that may seem more appealing to you. My parents' friend is 44 years old and he had just now found out that he's a painter at heart. He tried cooking, music, geology, mile-high bridge and dam construction throughout the years. He first married at 28 and divorced 8 years later and now lives in another far away country (still working bridge construction). And throughout the years he was and is happy with his "we'll deal with it on the spot" mentality. TLDR: "Don't worry, be happy!"
Hey niko, I’m 13 and I had a close friend, she was always kind, even when her ADHD kicked in at night, at one point she said she liked me, although I rejected her cause she would always get jealous when I spoke to other girls. One day, I introduced her to a friend that was always nice to me, we would record videos together and stuff. This was a horrible idea cause after a few days karter (nickname for the friend that I recorded with) told me that he liked the girl I introduced him to. I helped him a bit, until he got r@cist to me for no reason.. You can probably assume what he said stuff like n* and monkey and other stuff. I was in their gc and they both were super rude, to the point where karter blocked me, unadded me and blocked me on all internet apps or whatever u call it. We stopped talking and yeah. Then, out of nowhere he made a video saying I s*xually harassed via? I spoke to via and she said ‘I definitely wasn’t forced to say what I said in his video’ which was weird, anyways, I’ve got no one to talk to, I don’t know what to do with my life and I think im getting depressed. Any advice?
I recommend you listening to "Pressure Cracks" and "Black Sheep" by Poor Man's Poison. They'll help relieve the pain while you're searching for solution
Hey Niko, im a 16 year old high school student going into my junior year. The only thing is that I need to pick the school I’m going to. In the school I’ve been going to for the past two years, I have moderately good friends that I don’t talk to out of school/gym but my dad loves there and I want to keep living with him. In the other school that I went to from 3rd grade to 8th grade I have good friends and a good home life with my mom, but I’d be going into a new school and I’d be far from my dad. Thanks for reading.
Hey Niko, you don’t have to make a video about me, but I’d appreciate a reply. I’m 14, and most of my life is pretty well. I shouldn’t have a reason to be upset. But I also feel so miserable on the inside. I try to get a girlfriend to feel like someone cares about me. But every girl just calls me ugly and tries to change me. I just wish there would be someone for me. I have friends, but I don’t have anyone I can have serious deep or thoughtful conversations with. Nobody cares. Besides that, I usually would tell people I’m fine even when I’m not, because if I did, they’d ask me why, and I don’t really have a good reason to be. And if I say that, people will just say I want attention. Which isn’t true. I’d appreciate some advice. Thanks.
Hey Niko, I’m 16 and I am very lonely. I have never had a girlfriend before. Many people think that I’m weird because I don’t have the best social skills. I’m moving schools and I hope that the new environment I’ll be in will give me a chance to make a connection with someone who wants to get to know me. I guess my question is how do I approach a woman and converse without sounding too forward or sounding like a creep?
Hi Niko! First of all, I wanted to say that I love your videos and your advice helps me really much! Thanks for the great content! Now, to my question: I'm still in high school, but I'm very determined to study law in university and to (hopefully) be a judge one day. And even though I'm already learning about court procedures, law, and court cases in my free time, in the back on my head there's this fear that after going through law school and doing everything that I need to do in order to become a judge in my country, I will find out that it's actually not my dream job and that I won't like it at all. I'm scared of wasting all those years for something that I won't even like doing. And again, I am very determined to become a judge and I'm quite sure that I will love it, but how could I ease my fear of not liking it in the end?
Hey Niko, this may get lost amonst the other comments but i'm 18 and i've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year now. She's lovely and i love her alot. Despite this, i have frequent thoughts of letting her go, shes a busy girl that is in insanly smart college classes. I haven't really met her parents yet and it has been something i've thought about and bought up to her multiple times since the start of this year. Despite knowing shes busy i frequently question if it might be something to do with me as an individual. Thank you for reading, i love the videos.
Yo niko, there's something i need advice for. Basically, there's a new girl in my class, and she has every trait of what i want in a girl, while being pretty attractive, but she already has a boyfriend, also, me and her are both 17, and i'm a bit overweight, weighing at 220 lbs at 5'11. And that girl is very nice to me, and never said that she wouldn't date me. And i've never had a girl be as nice as she is in any way, so i don't know if she's interested in me or just being friendly, i have no idea what to do.
Hey niko love your videos man I just subscribed and I listen to it while playing too so yuh I have a long story so sorry if it was too long (just so you know in my religion it's not okay to kiss a girl or any physical touch with any girl that is not ur wife) I'm 17 years old, I knew this girl since I was a kid she was my mom's student and I was pretty close to her. And I had what I thought was love for her, She was toxic in every single way possible and I somehow find ways to say "no she likes me" and things like that. This situation stayed still for 6-7 years until 5 months ago me and her were Alone and we kissed. All along these 6 years I thought that when I kiss her I'd be the happiest man alive but just after this I felt like I was empty, The thing I thought would make me happy and comfortable didn't mean anything when we did it. It was an awful feeling being literally empty and I didn't want to do or see anything or anyone even my family. In this stage I watched this show called monster it's a show talks about how human brain works and things like that. After I finished it my whole mindset was changed, I don't think its because of the show. I don't know really but all my interests suddenly changed now I like art and poetry??! I don't know it kinda sound not too effective but changing ur interests not by ur own want is different. Now I'm so chill and let things go by its own I don't stress out by random things. I don't overthink anything at all I'm not afraid of death I don't care what people think or say about me. And I'm kinda attached to my religion now. And life feels better now. My view of people acting in a particular way is just too deep. And also I met this girl online and we loved each other we talked about our past and our mistakes in it and we accepted each other. our (long distance) relationship just seems so perfect we are 4 months in the relationship and I date her for marriage not for fun and stupid stuff like that. My life after one mistake is changed in so many different ways just by the feeling of emptiness Now I believe that everyone have to experience some kind of a mistake to feel empty just like I did and the kind of things u do or think in the empty stage will decide how ur life will be for the rest of it I just feel like ur the type of guy who would understand what I'm talking about So what is ur opinion about the story and the emptiness thing and like what's ur advice And yuh also what's ur advice for people who have an addiction with adult content? I have so many friends struggling with that. One more question im so sorry but I live in Egypt and the government is so missed up they just screwed us and I don't know what to do, Living as an average Egyptian is so bad. u can barely have the money to eat 1 meal, I'm in school now and I don't think I'll get a good job with my grades I have some hoppies like editing and drawing but I'm kind of scared of focusing on one hoppy and It just doesn't make a good living out of it what do you think about this too my calture is repeating it self and no one complains and I don't wanna face the same faith as my dad or his father etc.... So yuh thanks man for the great videos I like it so much
Hey Niko Im 16 and recently just got freindzoned by some girl on a sports team that I play on. She now tries to avoid me at almost all costs now and im feeling really depressed about it and seriously dont know what to do. It also doesnt help the fact that the whole team even knows about it and gives me a hard time about it. Is there any advice you could possibly give me? Thanks Alot Bro also luv the vids
Hey niko, I have this friend in school, who always calls me a dumbass for misremembering the smallest of things, doing things by accident and other stuff. There have been multiple times when I've wanted to stop being friends with him, however because he's been in the same classes as me in school that has been impossible to do. I really do not enjoy being around him and the thing is, sometimes he stops being mean to me for a week or so after realising I feel hurt, however after that he returns to his former self. What can I do in this situation?
Hi Niko! I’m a 15 year old boy, and I don’t really know how to get into a relationship. I see all my friends getting girlfriends and being happy about it, and even though they’re probably not gonna last long it still makes me feel like I’m lagging behind. The main issue is that I don’t really know how to start a relationship. Going on tinder as a 15 year old seems kind of dangerous, especially with all the pedos being exposed recently, and I don’t really know how to “shoot my shot” with girls at my school- especially without coming off as a creep. I don’t know if I’m ready/old enough for a relationship. What should I do?
I started a yt channel but im like a 13 year old boy, and my voice isn't deep like yours, and I don't think people like listening to a squeaky voice and stuff, what should I do, Im trying to make other stuff like edits and other things that don't use my voice but I don't really like doing them, if you respond, well thanks a lot for the help, thx and your my favorite UA-camr btw
Hey niko, I recently discovered your channel and love the advice from your videos so I figured maybe you could help me out with the crazy situation im currently stuck in. I(24M) own a house with my narcissistic girlfriend (23F) who oversteps all the time. How do I get out? We've been together for about 4 years now. Everything was good for about 1.5-2 years. We bought the house last year and it's in both of our names. I tried to breakup with her a few months ago but came back because I felt bad for leaving her. She has a lot of physical and mental health issues that she's not really able to deal with 100% alone. If she pushes herself too hard she will be sick for days. She doesn't want to sell the house but she wouldn't be able to afford it by herself. When I came back she told me she wants to get married within 2 years. Which I told her along time ago that the only way we'll get married is if she signs a prenup. Her response was no but she still tries to pressure me into marring her all the time. I live 5 hours away from all my friends and family. She always likes to complain and talk bad about my family and friends but yet if I say anything about hers its an argument. She oversteps all the time by going through my phone either when I'm not around or right in front of me. I have nothing to hide nor have I given her a reason to not trust me. Anytime I would mention her doing it she would get all defensive and upset that I had a problem with it. Caught her doing it this morning when I woke up for work, she was going through all my notifications. She hates when I go visit my family without her because im not constantly texting her. Having my location doesn't seem to be good enough. I feel stuck, tied down, and honestly scared. Not really scared of anything physical, just more mental abuse. I tried therapy for over a month and stopped because money became short. I pay the majority of the bills, I always have to cover bills for her. We used to split everything evenly but haven't in a very long time. Im always exhausted because after work I have to meet her every demand just to keep peace in the household. Letting out and caring for the dogs, doing dishes, cooking dinner. She does laundry but that's about it. I have no friends here, even if i did she wouldn't like me spending time away from her. I cant go out on hikes without her because she feels left out. She made me feel like I can't express my feelings along time ago because she would use it against me in any arguments we would have so i don't tell her more than I have to. She made me feel like I can't make videos or music because she didn't like the attention strangers living 10 hours away was giving me. She hates when Im on my computer working on my hobbies or playing video games. I have no privacy at all. I also feel crazy 95% of the time. I have anxiety now because of her. I always feel like im walking on eggshells because she likes to blowup over the smallest of things. My memory is terrible because she gaslights me all the time into thinking i said or did stuff i know i didn't do. I tend to keep my mouth shut because if i speak up for myself, the horns come out and it makes for an awful rest of the night/ few days. She volunteers me all the time do go out with her friends and family without even asking if i want to and when if i say no, she throws a tantrum like a child and asks "why" about 10 times before trying to convince me to go with her. Im tired of constantly tending to her and trying to keep up with the lies. I know im not perfect and I hate how far into this hole of lies ive dug over the years but I need out. Im constantly miserable, I would much rather be at work than at home when she has days off. Sorry that was an entire yap session but what are my options with the house? Should I force a sale? How do I get out of this situation and never look back? My friends and family that know about it are on my side and want me to leave. I just need some help getting started. Thanks to anyone who gives the time of day to read this and help me out!
Hey Niko, I moved to a new school this year and I joined the cross country team. I did cross country last year and I really liked it. I met one of my best friends and I always looked forward to going to practice. At my new school though, it’s not really fun at all. I haven’t made any friends on the team. And I’m by far the worst on my team. It’s super hard and not in a satisfying and fulfilling way like it was before. I don’t think I should quit because I don’t want to disappoint my parents or my team, but I don’t really want to keep doing it either. What should I do? Thank you.
Hey Niko, I stumbled across this video at a weird time of my life. I'm 16 and live in a country where the culture education is extremely competitive and toxic. Because of this, I am trying to peruse education abroad. However, learning more about education as a whole, I've discovered that I absolutely hate being in school. I don't hate learning, I love learning things I am interested in but I hate the system that education is built around. It feels like all my options are life or death, one big exam to determine the rest of my life. It also feels like not getting into a "top-tier school" would mean a less fortunate future for me. This sucks, I want to learn without the burden of ruining my life. How do I look at education in a more positive light and should I ignore the prospect that "bad grades = bad life?" I have an additional question to that (i don't know if this will be too much haha..) I have a girlfriend whose been through loads with me. However, because of my young age, no one takes us seriously, our parents constantly tell us we'll break up one day and education is the only thing that matters . Is it ok to disregard our feelings just because of our age? Despite everything, she's really the only real thing I have in life right now..
hey niko, I have ,probably, a repetitive question, I always wanted to be a UA-camr, and to be honest with you, currently I don't feel like anything besides online business can get you somewhere in life, unfortunately, I don't have any real skills that hasn't been seen before, I don't have money to get education for something like trading, crypto, investing, etc... What more, those things doesn't actually work in my country because of less amount of money here, anyways, question is, do you have any idea of how can one become UA-camr? I always heard those same words: work on quality over quantity, but whenever I try to give it my all onto my videos, they still don't get anywhere, is there like something we small/new UA-camrs don't know about? Or are we just unlucky or is it just a skill issue? Thank you if you answer this question, because I know there are poeple with more complicated questions.
Hi niko, I have a question that is probably not what you normally get. I'm 16 and my life is honestly I walk in the park, I have very little to complain about. the only problem I seen to sometimes have is finding motivation to do certain things. I have ADHD and dislexia and sometimes have very little motivation to do things like go to the gym, sometimes I also lose motivation to do things I do like. Do you have any advice around staying motivated in life?
Hi niko I love your videos but id like your advice on something. Im 15 and my boyfriend of a little over a year is acting different when we first started dating he would text me like every 20 minutes and try to talk to me but now i always have to text first once i didnt text him at all for a week to see if hed text me first he didnt and claimed he thought i was grounded and was worried about me so i let it go but now its really starting to get to me sometimes i wonder if i should just break up with him or just suddenly stop talking to him i dont think im very good for him anyway like a month a go i cheated on him which is a long story of me not thinking what i was doing was cheating then i told him right away every since then he has only texted me first once when i ask him he says he still loves me very much but i dont know if i belive him cause of how he acts hes never seemed quite interested in me hes never asked me a question about myself so i really dont know what to do I feel as if he does make me a better person even if they way he treats me aint perfect i have stopped self harm and my constant want to die is much less i think he has made me a better person but also made me bit crazier but maybe that just love? thank you if you decide to respond
Hey Niko, I'm really hoping you can see this and can help me with figure out what to do. I have (well had) a friend of 10 years, we've been friends since elementary school. At the beginning of 2024 I got into a super unhealthy relationship with someone who caused me to almost lose all of my friends. I introduced this partner to her and my friend group (who i have also been friends with for 10 years). She said a lot of stuff that upset them and I tried to take both sides, but it unfortunately led to me getting kicked out temporarly. I broke up with her in June because i found out that she was cheating on me, I was lucky enough to have some of my friends forgive me for doing the things I did at the beginning of 2024. But, I've tried to reach out to her to apologize and she told me that she forgave me, but no longer wanted to be friends. Ever since then, I've missed being friends with her and just want to start things over again. Do you think I should try to reach out again in the future or should I just give up on trying to be friends with her?
Hey Niko I'm currently having problems in my school because I feel like all of the work that I do is going wasted. I'm trying my hardest but my grades are the worst
Hey Niko I’m 11 and my dad died when I was 8 years old and since then I’ve always had this crush on someone that I like and was wondering if you had any advice on it and if you knew how I should approach her cause I really like her so do you know or have any advice or experience and it would mean the world to me if you could try and help me with this
#askniko hey niko, first of all, i love listening to your videos in the background. my issue that i think as a boy, instead of being very insecure about sharing my feelings with anyone else, i feel like i do it too much. i feel like i sometimes tell people personal stuff that they dont want/have to know. i also feel like i repeat myself about my feelings often. as an example, i figured out that between me and a girl i liked, it simply wasnt gonna work out, and then i told my friends like normal, but i just repeat myself even though i know that theyre aware of it, and i know that after 1 time its enough. but sometimes i just dont feel understood, which leads me to tell them again. is there maybe something i have to know, to help me decide what i should share and what i shouldnt? fyi, im a 16 y/o guy
hey niko how do i turn a situationship to a relationship? I was talking to a girl and we get flirty and romantic and all but she fell out of love, saying she doesnt want any more commitments as of now and i understandably felt betrayed, and then i lashed out, so at one point it ended in a bad terms. Thats when i realize i want to fix it by apologizing after few days for us to take our time and i did, i apologized on her birthday, 5 days after everything that went down. I felt like she did accept my apology and yet nothing changes, she doesnt talk to me anymore and every text feels like a reply and not chatting if yk what i mean. How do i fix everything? i know i had to focus myself more but i dont want her to see me as an enemy
Hey niko, I'm 15 years old and I just need advice about a friend and what our actual relationship is. I've been very confused with how my friend treat me. I feel as if they only talk to me when it's convenient for them, they often just talk to me when they need something or need someone to talk to. I'm happy to be there for them but it's still hurt me whenever they'd leave me after finding someone else to talk to (I'm talking about a specific friend). They just moved to a new school and for the first week they talked to me since they felt lonely and had no one to talk to. But after a few days they just stopled texting me completely, and idk if our friendship is an actual friendship since I never understand how or what a friendship should be, I just don't feel like they see me as a friend, but a vessel to lean on to when you need someone. I hate being just that to them since we've known each other for a very long time now. I'd take any advice you can give since i really don't know what to do about it
Is it okay to being more happy for other people than for myself? I felt that way in my recent (and first ever) relationship with a girl. We broke up recently and now i alone again, but during that relationship i noticed how much it warms me to watch people i love and care about succeed in something. And i never was pleased with my results in anything, even if i indeed make great results. And my self-esteem not that great either. When i am alone i hate myself and think that i am miserable, but when i am around other people and especially people i like, i act a bit narcissistic. Like "of course i did great job, its me afterall" etc. Should i change as a person? Why? If yes - how i can do that? Greetings from Russia!
Hey Niko I’m 16 years old and I want to get into a relationship but every time I do I come to the same problem every time. my jealousy when she talks to other guys has friends that are guys anything how do I stop being jealous
Jealously can be tough but its important to remember that trust is the foundation of any relationship. When you feel jealous, Pause and remind yourself that your partner has chosen to be with you, and that she deserves your trust. Its helpful to communicate openly with her about your feelings, express how you feel can help both of you understand each other better. Building trust takes time, but with patience and open communication, you can overcome jealousy and have a healthier relationship. Also improving yourself is the key to boosting your self-confidence. Focus on what makes you a great partner and why she should want to stay with you. If you're constantly afraid she'll leave, that fear might drive her away. Instead, work on yourself both emotionally and mentally. Im in a relationship so this is from my experience.
#ask niko Hey niko am a 13 year old boy and am into photography since I was 10 I've loved photography but everyone I ask my parents my friends say that photography is a hobby and not a career and am confused and afraid because next year I have to pick my subjects for when I graduate so idk if I should pick subjects for photography or find something else to do love the content hope you see this
Hey Niko! I'm 21 and just failed two second-year college courses, so I need to switch majors. The new course isn’t appealing to me, and I'm considering taking a year off to figure things out, possibly working at a fast-food restaurant. However, I'm worried about falling behind while my classmates are graduating next year. What do you think I should do?
HI NIKO. 13 male in ireland just starting our version of middle school i think. Everyone my age wants to grow up realy fast but i want to just want to play video games and play sports. But Everyone calls me immature and its just hard looking for some advice.
Hey Niko, I'm currently 21 and in a weird part of my life. I dropped out of college, I'm about to break up with my girlfriend of 2 years, I am currently trying to find a fulltime job. I want to become a full fledged adult, like live on my own, rely on myself only, and try to find happiness. Is there something that I have to figure out to get "there" or is it just to "enjoy the journey" or something else? Thanks man!
Hey kuya niko! (brother in filipino). I'm 15 yrs old and i just got out of a relationship with this girl last summer who is now my classmate this school year and I've been pretty stressed out about it since i cant transfer schools or sections. I really loved this girl and i was about to move on but now that she's my classmate i get to see her everyday and i feel like my feelings for her are coming back. I really wanna move on since i don't wanna continue hurting myself again and ive heard that she has a new bf n stuff (still not sure that its true tho) . I also heard from my friend thats from my class. When they were having a group project together. She kept mentioning my name, saying things like (oooh i wish david were here) INFRONT of EVERYBODY. or like (where's david?) (David is my name btw). I also keep finding her looking at me or glancing at me at class which really bugs me out so if u can. Help a brother out. I really love listening to your advice and it helped me out a ton. Thank you.
Hey Niko, recently I've been feeling dissapointment towards things that have been praised heavily by fans and so far I have been taking steps to dealing with it with first, limiting social media use. So what do I do now that I've basically stopped the flooding but now dealing with the water that flooded in? Basically dealing with the ringing sensation in my head that is public opinion (specifically from fans since I've stopped listening to critics because of their current reputation.)
this might be the stuff I need fr. I'm feeling pressured as hell from expectations. the scholarship the tutors, school is going to be hard AF. I am experiencing calm before the storm rn. I can't fail and that makes me nervous, I'm 17 and next year I'm going to my dream uni at least I hope so. I wish to leave my country but the people I love are all here. the ambition in me is telling me to leave cause my country doesn't really have that many opportunities. I i know am gonna regret staying and miss out on my dreams but my family and friends. I don't know what to do. what is your advice on dealing with this predicament of mine
hey Niko, I am 22, I work as a security engineer at FAANG. 70k a year, my own apartment, I do Muay Thai kickboxing, have savings, living comfortably, and its alright, except I feel an itch for something else, idk what it is, i go to church and have faith and have a girlfriend, others would be happy with my life, but i feel something is missing. I work hard, have goals, have discipline and push myself daily, i just dont know what is missing... Did you have any advice for me? thank you.
hey niko, im 18 and leaving for college in less than 2 weeks from when im writing this. I am in the US and as you are probably aware, college is VERY expensive. that is something that has concerned me for a while now, the debt. I am really excited to go, especially as a student-athlete, but at the same time i am scared that I am wearing rose-tinted glasses and am ignorant to how this will affect the rest of my life. I am very grateful for my parents who are going to try their best to help me pay off interest on loans while I am at school so I can focus on my studies and athletics. with all of the worrying I have tried to almost accept that it will be a hurdle, and have come to the conclusion that as long as I am able to pay my bills and do what I enjoy, I should be ok. Is this conclusion shortsighted? If it is, what other things should I consider? If you take time to answer, thank you very much. edit: spelling mistakes
Niko, i need your advice. im 16 yo from Bulgaria :) aand for over 4 years so far ive been struggling to let go of someone because im obsessed with that person who i met in an online game, btw theyre 32 yo this year which makes it even more ridiculous. the person abandoned me because of me bein young dumb and naive but i had gotten too attached... they did lots of great things for me. and yes i have seeked help from friends, yes i have accepted the fact theyre not coming back and im okay with it. yes i talked to that person, they know exactly how i feel and what i should do, yes im aware that if i miss them, i should not want them back when theyre gone (especially for 4 years), yes i know "time heals everything". so as if my mindd refuses to let them go, when i am feelin great and forget this person for a month or so, my mind goes like: "no you gotta remember them!" and so my brain doesnt lemme get rid of the though of them. even when i had a romantic partner, i couldnt let go of that person (at least my partner didnt mind) but seems like nobody can help me. i am starting to give up? i just dunno what to do anymore like is that person gonna stay on my mind for a lifetime or what? i asked them to cut me off completely since my will wasnt strong enough. in a nutshell, how can i get rid of the though of them, ive accepted them as someone who ive been obsessed with and i dont want them back since its gonna be awkward for me i wont say a single word anyways. what should i do to forget this person?
Hey niko I am 16 almost 17 and. I currently do not know what to do, my mother has an uncurable cancer and i do not know how much time she has left and i just feel sad and empty knowing she has it. It feels like i have no purpouse left in life and i dont know how to cope with this and i need some advice about all of this.
Hi Nico, so i am 14 years old female, in junior high school, so i have a situation, like i have 4 really good friends but at the same time i am third wheeling both duos, like i am the backup friend. If one of the duo is not there they talk to me, other than that i have no friends, i need some advice on getting some friends. ty
Hey Nico, me and my gf have been through a lot recently I need advice,some background is that abt 9-10 months ago we were an amazing couple, then she broke up with me this March, we had time away from eachother and ended up getting back tgth in July, but it’s different this time, now she doesn’t put in the effort, doesn’t show she cares anymore, leaves me on delivered for hours at times, she gets mad at every little thing I do. I need help, I don’t know what to do. I love her sm and I don’t wanna break up with her but I don’t want to keep getting hurt like this. Any advice? Thank you!
hey niko, Im currently 13 and going to high school. Midway through the school year im going to move to the west coast of canada (I live in the east coast) and I dont have any friends there, before coming to canada I lived in brazil and my english isnt the greatest so its kind of hard making friends because of language barriers. Please help
Hey niko I am 15 and love in malta I don't know what to do with my life I am autistic and that holds me back in many regards so I always thought I would just graduate then go get a low paying job and love with my mom but now my family makes me go to college and the college of my choice didn't accept me due to my grades and now I go to a college that will give me an other chance but I still don't feel like going what do I do.
Hi, niko I´m 15 and I had girlfriend, it´s 3 month from our breakup, we are still friends, but I still have feelings for her. Should I tell her, or what am I suppose to do ? Do u think that the ´´method´´ from your friendzone video will help ? I know it´s not normal to date your ex, but a still like her so much, I told her it a few months ago and she told me to give it time. I don´t know if it is the time or not
Hey Niko I'm 17 years old I'm going to be a senior and there's this one friend that was there for me I talked to her about a lot of my problems she helped me I talked to her alot last summer I also sat with her at lunch every day she is a real friend but I texted her too much and she blocked me because I annoyed her, she had a lot going on, her business, it was hard because we don't have the same classes or same lunch, she needs space + she has a bf I'm just worried she won't come back even tho her friends told me she will but it's been months I'm thinking she will when school starts idk
She might of had something going on, if so don’t blame yourself, it happens
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Hey man can I get relationship advice? I have major trust issues and struggle to trust my girlfriend despite her not giving me a reason to suspect shes cheating or doing anything unfaithful. The trust issues is really destroying my relationship and Im not sure what to do. I really love this girl and want to be with her forever. I suspect that I have seperation anxiety and I get anxious when Im not with her. Shes given me several chances but I always end up going back to stage 1 (having trust issues) over and over again. Is there any advice you can give me?
Talk to her about it more (about how it's just your problem and NOT how she's probably cheating and other sht, it will destroy everything) and maybe visit a therapist
hi neko my name may be hard to read so just call Jojo, so i need a way to understand affection from people because when people showed affection afterwards people used me for task or other stuff or make fun of me so i need help understanding affection
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it's the nikoSMP, join today! Link in description
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you should do podcasts on spotify too fr i love listening to these types of videos
Reading these videos always makes me realise how all these worries we have when growing up aren't a big deal. I guess I'm about the same age as you (second day being 23yo) so with so many of the advices I realise how quick you actually mature out of the worries people talk about on here. Also fun since most of your audience seems to be American, as a Dutchie everything about school. These worries are so normal, and the people here don't realise how you can just grow beyond the worries. Life's cool.
Happy birthday!
@@BLET_55artem55 thanks!
Happy birthday! Im turning 16 this year and Im realizing so much about myself, I feel more prepared for whatever the future holds and Im ready to explore the journey ahead!
not me after clicking on the video, seeing my comment was in the video and then just sitting there for 8 minutes in shock just fucking starstruck 😭 (thank you so fucking much for the advice btw. knowing this stuff is definitely gonna ease my worries about adult life. also for clarification about the job thing, its mainly pressure due to my parents. they’re always telling me that i HAVE to get a job NOW so that i can start paying for my car sooner so that’s what is causing me to worry about that.)
Just found this channel 5 minutes ago, I love this video so far
you won't regret watching his content, i love it so much
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Hi, niko!
On your first "100 diomonds" stream (around 4:00:00) i typed in chat "goodnight, niko".... And you responded by wishing me goodnight too!!! Ngl i was falling asleep with a smile on my face. 😊 This little thing is a lot for me (considering that you're one of my fav youtubers) Thank you very much, love your videos and i hope you'll get even more appreciated!!! 🙏❤
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Good video man turning 20 and going through really bad times rn this helped
Yes more stuff to listen to while cleaning thank you Niko please make more
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Hi Niko,
I've been watching your content for the past few weeks, and I have to say, I’m very impressed by the way you share your wisdom and life advice with such compassion and kindness. It genuinely makes sense, and it has resonated with me deeply. I wanted to reach out to ask for your advice.
I’m a 19-year-old male who’s about to start college soon. Over the past few years, I’ve been working on improving myself-working out, meeting new people, and striving to become a better version of myself. I’m also planning to focus more on improving my UA-cam channel.
However, before all of this, three years ago, I met a girl who I really, really cared about. She was my first crush, and we eventually started dating. She was the reason I began doing many of the things I mentioned, like studying harder, becoming a better person, and even starting my UA-cam channel.
To get straight to the point, this girl honestly changed me for the better.
Even though our relationship had its challenges, particularly because she was dealing with significant mental health issues like anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts, and borderline personality disorder, I still loved her deeply. She was the only person who genuinely loved me and did thoughtful things for me, like creating beautiful artworks and expressing her love for me.
Unfortunately, our relationship only lasted for seven months. A toxic friend of mine spread false rumors about me, leading my girlfriend to believe I wasn’t a good boyfriend. I wasn’t aware of what was happening behind the scenes, and by the time I found out, it was too late. I confronted my toxic friend and cut ties with him, but when I tried to talk things out with my girlfriend, she didn’t seem to have the same energy or feelings as before.
After this terrible experience, I decided to stop interacting with people in real life out of fear of being betrayed again. I never blamed my ex for what happened, and I’ve tried to work on myself since the breakup, but to be honest, I still haven’t felt truly happy.
Now, three years have passed.
- My UA-cam channel is growing.
- I’ve matured a lot compared to who I was back then.
- I’m more confident now.
- I have a supportive friend group, consisting of online friends and two very supportive real-life friends.
Everything was going well until I received a message from one of my friends, asking if I wanted to see her again.
She wants to meet up with me, and honestly, despite all the work I’ve done on myself to become more confident and brave, this is one of those rare instances where I feel nervous.
The truth is, I still love her, and I don’t want to mess things up. But I’m not sure why she wants to meet up after all these years. My friends speculate that she might want closure or perhaps even start a new relationship.
I also talked to my therapist about this, and he recommended that I choose the option that’s best for me. He pointed out that the girl in question still has her mental health struggles, which can make relationships challenging. But he also said that if I truly love and care about her, I should follow my heart.
So, do you have any advice on getting back with an ex who has had a positive influence on your life but the ex in question has mental problems???
holy flip u wrote a lot
@@christophemiyamoto3550 i want niko to have the full context for my situation so he can give me the best solution possible sooo yeahhhhh 😅
My advice is to give it a shot, go with the flow. You can't know what she's going to say or her reasons until you meet up with her. Talk it out.
Also, to answer your last question, you seem to not mind her mental problems, or at least the positives outweigh the negatives from how you make it sound. If I were you, I'd give the relationship another shot, and if it doesn't work you can just break up. The only way to find out is to try it. (Sorry if that comes off cold). Good luck :)
It’s honestly such a blessing to have this kind of wisdom on UA-cam ❤
Hey Niko, I just turned 19 and I'm new to your channel *i found you about 45 minutes ago and now im going to binge your videos* and I don't need advice rn, but I wanna say thank you.
There's a charm to your videos that bring back that classic UA-cam feel and it's not something I new that I needed so much.
It's melancholic, but also comforting and warm. I just wanted to say thank you, and that you seem like a great guy!
Hey niko. Love your vids. I am a passionate guy (most of the times) I like writing and creating stuff. The problem is that I push myself too hard, I seek perfection in everything that I do. I always want to be the best whether is gym, art or whatever else. And I'm comparing myself all the time, and, a lot of the times, there're "better" people than me at that thing and I'm always comparing myself. I know that I shouldn't do it, but I can't help it. I always want to be "better" than everyone.
i dot know how to express the vibe i got while listening to this at 5 am, but i really like it. Theres soomething in the voice that that i can't explain. Really liked this type of content, i'll check it out tommorow
Thats it. After looking at your home page you're really the most lukewarm milk toast commentary
Thankyou soo much the advice really helped!! ❤❤
I don’t know why but I think I just needed someone to tell me that I wasn’t doing the wrong thing by just relaxing. Tysm!!❤
Listening during my lunch break at school rn. It’s a cloudy overcast day and super relaxing.
Hey Niko, I feel like I've been blessed with a decent life, yet i can't stop thinking about my friends. Specifically my best friend. I met her in the third grade and we have been friends for years, but I feel like our relationship isn't the same at it used to be. It feels like we have become completely different people, and I can see she doesn't want to be friends with me for me anymore. I became friends with another girl and we weren't that close. Then introduced her to my best friend, and my best friend loved her. When they were talking she would tell her she likes things that she told me she hated before. Unfortunately, my other friend didn't seem to want to be as close to her, which resulted in a kind of one-sided friendship. My other friend still seemed to like me though, and she would come over, but she no longer can because if my best friend can't make it, she'll start crying and tells me to talk with her, and I end having to cancel because she tells me I hang out with other people to much and I should wait until she can come too. We got put in no classes together but my best friend and other friend did get put together. I feel like my best friend isn't even friends with me for me anymore, but every time I try to pull away she starts crying about how I never spend time with her, and when I invite her over her first question is if my other friend will be there, and if not, she's to busy to come. I'm really sorry if this turned into a rant, but please, do you have any advice for me?
Thank you for that last question, That really helped me out alot with something similar, i'm 24 and this girl really likes me and I didn't know if I needed to ask her out or not, and I know she wants to date, and her family has asked about me, we have chatted the last like week or so, we had traded numbers last weekend, because she had asked me for it, and I had really been contemplating if I really should go foward with this or not, this gives alot of thought that I can now think over the weekend, while I still don't have a full decisive decision, this got me closer to the answer I needed!
Hi niko. I've been watching your videos since last month and they've helped me a lot but, also your advices' affects on me are being cut by the environment around me.
I live in india and I've been stressing a lot about my exams that decide my future. I'm in 10th grade and the last exam pretty much decides my future. My dad wants me to have a government job, my teachers and relatives expect me to get high marks and everyone around me expects a lot from me but, i want to be an artist.
I've been feeling suicidal and I've commited acts of self harm on me like scarring and and bleeding myself. I just can't take this pressure anymore. Life feels like a competition now, my seniors got a lot of good grades and now everyone expects me to surpass them. I can't deal with all this anymore, everyday when i wake up, i feel down and end the day with either Harming myself or going to sleep. I've stopped working out to focus on my studies but, nothing is working. I keep trying but i don't feel like anything is progressing.
Hey man, I was just wondering how to build a portfolio and get jobs editing it’s been something I want to do but don’t know how to find jobs and such. Also love the breath of fresh air your channel is
Hey Niko, I'm almost 16 years old, and my life has been in shambles. I was born in Britain and lived there for 9 years before moving to my home country. My whole life, I wasn't respected as a citizen of the country but as a migrant, even though my parents are from this country. It's been so bad that I don't even feel like a citizen of my country, but just as a migrant. In school, I'm classified as a "nerd," which means everyone comes to me either to get answers to a test, to get homework, or to annoy me. I've had a single loyal friend my whole life because, before entering high school, I was bullied every day to the point where I was depressed. In high school, I still experience bullying from some people, but not as much as before. I've started to improve my life by going to the gym and working on my social skills, but deep down, I still feel depressed. I haven't talked to girls much because they never talked to me when I was in school, as I was the "weird kid." I'm unsure how to work on getting a girlfriend or at least knowing how to speak to women so they don't find me weird. What should I do?
Tell the world to go fuck itself. That's my approach after i was thrown away by basically everyone at school. Focus on yourself and do the things you enjoy and if you don't know what that is then experiment. Idk what country you're from but i also live abroad but have always had a pull to my home country but a huge spike in patriotism came when i learnt about the history of my country, region and city. Cheering on my national team with my parents also caused this. Try and meet new people - i like cars, motorsport and sport so i like racing and car meets and I've met a lot of people through this and the internet so try that. Also I assume you struggle with human interaction by the women part but the best thing to do is say 'fuck it'. Say what comes to your mind. If you find someone you get along with then great but if it's not that person then move on. Don't be scared to be awkward. I just say what comes to my mind without thinking about ehat i will say or what i said. I hope this helps man. Good luck :))
Change your personal perception of yourself and have actions that back it. Despite what people will think of you now, the actions and thought process you have of yourself will determine if it will stick or you will go through change and character development.
Keep being focused , gym, and work on your social skills by going out or taking action and challenging yourself to talk to people.
Life is a first person game and you have the ultimate control of it!
Hope this helps bro
I loved the video before watching it . Ty niko ❤️ .
Hey niko !
I am currently a 13 year old and i feel stuck. My friends think i am doing amazing at school but i dont think so , I thinks i can do better . I am quite the procrastinator and waste my time. I think the main reason I have some anxiety is because my family is in a terrible financial situation and i believe that if I dont sucecced I will disapoint my mother. So my question is, How can I handle procrastination and thoughts of inferiority while trying to become the best version of myself?
Hey Niko, I'm turning 13 in middle school and I'm a year younger than everyone else, yet I hit puberty pretty early and I feel empty inside... Most likely because back in 6th grade I was bullied by most of the girls in my class for stupid reasons and my crush had been leaked, that happened a few weeks before graduation and ever since then I have always been socially awkward, paired with my overthinking makes it so much worse. My family has always been pretty awkward and I feel like I just runs in the genes, but no matter what I do I feel like I'll always be socially awkward and I always feel bad for people talking to me when they don't even know me. I heard a few people call me cute but I think something is going behind the scenes, and I always believe that no one will like me, yet I'm so young. I've been trying to look up guides to change myself, like waking up at 6am and doing my daily routine, but sometimes I believe my personality will never change, I'm trying not to get angry at people but it's just like an instinct. I try not to stare at people that I know because I'm afraid they're going to think I'm weird, what should I do?
These people have insecurities themselves, so they bully people to compensate that, you don't do that even though you have insecurities too, cause youre a better person then them :)
I've been there to a certain extent. Middle school sucked for me because I was such a hard-core introvert, had poor social skills and struggled with finding a good friend group. This is just an awkward time in your life and you just have to pull through it. Choose your friends carefully and find people that have similar interests and are interested in what you have to say, even if it's just a few words at a time. I had a couple of good friends in middle school, one of which I am still good friends with to this day, but most of the main group of friends didn't come around until high school. Before then my freshman year was taken over by Covid which absolutely wrecked my social skills. It took awhile to warm up to people, but eventually you just have to put yourself out there crawl out of your comfort zone.
Another thing, don't worry to much about what others think of you. It'll just drive you crazy and you can't control that. Don't worry about getting into a relationship (I never had a girlfriend in high school). Everyone else is too worried about what others think of them, and may be projecting when they make fun of someone else. Instead just work on yourself and figure out what you truly want, which will take some time but it will be worth it.
Yo niko, how come most talking stages/situtianships i end up in always come to an end with the whole "im not ready for a relationship" line. And before that, it's basically like I'm their "boyfriend," like we go on dates, engage in some "activities," and do a couple of things, but when I want to make it official, it's always one of those lines. I keep being told that it isn't me and that I'm a decent person, the whole nine yards, but I still feel like it's me and my actions. Do I choose girls with commitment and daddy issues a lot? I'm so cooked, lmao
Hey Niko, I'm 15 yo, I have a boyfriend at this point in time, I've been with him for a month already, we are really connected between each other and it seems as if the relationship is gonna last for a long time, I really like him and he likes me back, we both love our time together and we don't really want to go fast. I'm scared that one day he's gonna lose interest on me or I'll lose interest on him out of being burned out from the relationship, we both live on different towns (about 30 minute travel time) so we keep distance from each other and still spend time with other friends and/or into our own goals. He's the best thing life has given me and I don't want to waste it.
Thank you for this video niko
hi niko
i just found your channel and im literally amazed like how simplistic but quality these contain. i wanna thank you it gives me pleasure
can you do me a favour though like i want to play and just talk with someone but my friends dont play mc can we possibly play together. its completely on you. thanks again man
Hey Niko. I am a 14 year old guy from Sweden and i have been playing ice hockey since I was 7. Today was my first training of the season and I felt just as I did every practice last season, terrible. I’m not good at it, I just play it for the fun of it. But the only fun I get out of it is sometimes during games. I constantly recieve negative backlash and I just don’t enjoy it as much as I once did. I have practice 5 times a week and gym with the team on top of that. Enough yapping, my question to you is if you think I should quit hockey and focus on my studies and starting to gym instead. (Note that my grades are quite good, but improvements can be made). PS: great videos!
Heyy niko 🙋🏾♂️
I'm currently struggling with a girl. I have known her since elementary school, but we started to talk nearly 4 years ago (I was moving to the US back then), and our friendship/relationship grew in a "very unique and the best way it could" as she says. I told her that I wanted to make it offcial, twice. She told me I am the best of all the men she knows (she says that love isn't for her and planning to become a nun). I am back in my hometown for summer, but we haven't met each other yet even though we had lots of plans
I screw it up. She's mad at me for not inviting her to a meeting wit my fam and also because I started to smoke. She says that I disappointed her, and she told me that time will heal her. She will tell me when she's ready, but the waiting feels like a torture for me.
I made this longer than it really is. I don’t really know if any advice is needed because she told me what to do, but I'm really afraid if one of us loses the feelings.
Stay blessed niko, your advices had helped a lot of people
Don't look to change for her. Do what you think is right whether it's asking her on a date, taking her home, or something you think of but the chances are that after 2 rejections giving her space might be the best thing. Some things won't work and some people need to acknowledge that. Not trying to make your mood worse but sometimes you have to think about it as the other person.
@nathanguzy9174 I was so stressed about this. It's almost time to go back to the US, and I haven't seen her. She said there would be a farewell. I've spent my time here wit my family and other friends to keep myself distracted and give her the time she needs. But I still waiting for her notification to pop on my phone.
It really helps to be listened
Stay blessed bro 🙌🏾
For the second question, you want to find a hobby that you feel passionate about. I've had many hobbies in the past with different sports and other extracurriculars, but while they may have been fun I never felt truly passionate about them. I hardly ever practiced sports at home/on my free time because I just wasn't interested enough.
That was until joined marching band in high school, drumline specifically (Yes I'm more of a nerd, but not those crazy Smash Bros band kids). There I met some of the best friends I've ever had, and I truly enjoyed drumming and I practice all the time and hardly ever stop thinking about it, to the point that I want to pursue it on a more professional level.
Not too long ago, I was very interested in making animations and I wanted to pursue that as a career. However, while I did enjoy it to an extent, I didn't like how tedious and long the process was just to make a 2 minute animation even with a whole team so I gradually lost steam on that. Then I took a video production class and discovered my passion for filmmaking and I have created a few award-winning short films and I'm going to be starting college to pursue it.
A final thing to add, even though I have all these things going for me, I still end up feeling empty and very bored. (That's probably because it's summer break and hardly anyone is hiring right now). But one thing I've had to keep in mind is this is just the slow part of my life and soon everything will pick up and I'll be stressed again.
A simple place to start is just look for any extracurricular activities at your school or any clubs that sound interesting, or if not then you could even hit the gym/exercise in general.
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Hi niko!
Its my second time writing one of these lol, But before I go ahead and state my issue rn I just wanna say that I really like the way you give advice to people all around the world! And uh yea, so im in the 9th grade and I'm really scared 'cuz I had a really bad year last year (academic wise) and I was an academic achiever when I was younger and I was really hoping if you can help with having an academic comeback along with having really fake friends that just showed their true colors and all the common problems in highschool such as bullies and etc. Thank you!
thank you niko
Not really sure if my message will get noticed and then featured onto the video, I don't really expect to get a advice, this is more so to vent. Of course that doesn't mean I am not open to the possibility of getting featured onto the video and given advice, that would be greatly appreciated. So, I'm 17, I've got criticism from the past from a friend of mine, about who I am as a person, and that changed me. In a positive way I mean. I started to think, *a lot.* Reflecting and then fixing all these bad traits. I always strived towards trying to be logical and rational, being more self-aware and well-informed. Forcing myself to critically think whenever I can, and I would say my motivation for all this from the friend who criticized me, he himself is a role model to me, a logical and well informed individual. Yet, with my bipolar disorder and ocd I can't really seem to maintain and present a logical and rational me, most of the times I am impulsively irrational even though I try to reason with myself inside, I still end up being illogical and irrational. It feels as if though all my progress to becoming that me that I want to be is all a waste. I try to remember all these information related to psychology to better understand myself, yet, it is never crystalized and I just end up forgetting the knowledge I tried so hard to understand and implement, striving for self-awareness that will probably fade away.
Hi Niko,
I recently discovered your channel and fell in love with your Q&A videos. Now onto my dilemma: I'm 21, in my 2nd year of college (already halfway done), studying biotechnology. Life has felt like a complete disaster ever since I finished high school. I don't have a girlfriend, I've lost a lot of friends, and I can't seem to "click" with the people at my college. I really don't have a strong interest in what I'm studying, and I'm worried that my future doesn't look so bright. When I finish my education, I'll probably end up working in a lab for the rest of my life, and that doesn't seem appealing to me. I can't quit because I'm already financially invested, so I just have to tough it out and deal with it. Some people know what they want to do from day one, but I've never had a clear idea about that. I'm afraid my life will become miserable: no friends, no purpose, no relationship, poverty, etc. What can I do in this situation? How can I improve or find my path?
All I can say is tough it out, get the diploma and do something else that may seem more appealing to you. My parents' friend is 44 years old and he had just now found out that he's a painter at heart. He tried cooking, music, geology, mile-high bridge and dam construction throughout the years. He first married at 28 and divorced 8 years later and now lives in another far away country (still working bridge construction). And throughout the years he was and is happy with his "we'll deal with it on the spot" mentality.
TLDR: "Don't worry, be happy!"
Hey niko, I’m 13 and I had a close friend, she was always kind, even when her ADHD kicked in at night, at one point she said she liked me, although I rejected her cause she would always get jealous when I spoke to other girls. One day, I introduced her to a friend that was always nice to me, we would record videos together and stuff. This was a horrible idea cause after a few days karter (nickname for the friend that I recorded with) told me that he liked the girl I introduced him to. I helped him a bit, until he got r@cist to me for no reason.. You can probably assume what he said stuff like n* and monkey and other stuff. I was in their gc and they both were super rude, to the point where karter blocked me, unadded me and blocked me on all internet apps or whatever u call it. We stopped talking and yeah. Then, out of nowhere he made a video saying I s*xually harassed via? I spoke to via and she said ‘I definitely wasn’t forced to say what I said in his video’ which was weird, anyways, I’ve got no one to talk to, I don’t know what to do with my life and I think im getting depressed. Any advice?
Tel your parents about this
I recommend you listening to "Pressure Cracks" and "Black Sheep" by Poor Man's Poison. They'll help relieve the pain while you're searching for solution
Speak to someone close to you. This isn't an Internet matter.
This is cyber bullying and in person bullying, in alot of places too this is illegal so
thanks niko
Hey Niko, im a 16 year old high school student going into my junior year. The only thing is that I need to pick the school I’m going to. In the school I’ve been going to for the past two years, I have moderately good friends that I don’t talk to out of school/gym but my dad loves there and I want to keep living with him. In the other school that I went to from 3rd grade to 8th grade I have good friends and a good home life with my mom, but I’d be going into a new school and I’d be far from my dad. Thanks for reading.
I seriously want to do it and leave everything behind
Hey Niko, you don’t have to make a video about me, but I’d appreciate a reply. I’m 14, and most of my life is pretty well. I shouldn’t have a reason to be upset. But I also feel so miserable on the inside. I try to get a girlfriend to feel like someone cares about me. But every girl just calls me ugly and tries to change me. I just wish there would be someone for me. I have friends, but I don’t have anyone I can have serious deep or thoughtful conversations with. Nobody cares. Besides that, I usually would tell people I’m fine even when I’m not, because if I did, they’d ask me why, and I don’t really have a good reason to be. And if I say that, people will just say I want attention. Which isn’t true. I’d appreciate some advice. Thanks.
Hey Niko, I’m 16 and I am very lonely. I have never had a girlfriend before. Many people think that I’m weird because I don’t have the best social skills. I’m moving schools and I hope that the new environment I’ll be in will give me a chance to make a connection with someone who wants to get to know me. I guess my question is how do I approach a woman and converse without sounding too forward or sounding like a creep?
Hi Niko! First of all, I wanted to say that I love your videos and your advice helps me really much! Thanks for the great content! Now, to my question: I'm still in high school, but I'm very determined to study law in university and to (hopefully) be a judge one day. And even though I'm already learning about court procedures, law, and court cases in my free time, in the back on my head there's this fear that after going through law school and doing everything that I need to do in order to become a judge in my country, I will find out that it's actually not my dream job and that I won't like it at all. I'm scared of wasting all those years for something that I won't even like doing. And again, I am very determined to become a judge and I'm quite sure that I will love it, but how could I ease my fear of not liking it in the end?
Hey Niko, this may get lost amonst the other comments but i'm 18 and i've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year now. She's lovely and i love her alot. Despite this, i have frequent thoughts of letting her go, shes a busy girl that is in insanly smart college classes. I haven't really met her parents yet and it has been something i've thought about and bought up to her multiple times since the start of this year. Despite knowing shes busy i frequently question if it might be something to do with me as an individual. Thank you for reading, i love the videos.
Yo niko, there's something i need advice for. Basically, there's a new girl in my class, and she has every trait of what i want in a girl, while being pretty attractive, but she already has a boyfriend, also, me and her are both 17, and i'm a bit overweight, weighing at 220 lbs at 5'11. And that girl is very nice to me, and never said that she wouldn't date me. And i've never had a girl be as nice as she is in any way, so i don't know if she's interested in me or just being friendly, i have no idea what to do.
Hey niko love your videos man I just subscribed and I listen to it while playing too so yuh
I have a long story so sorry if it was too long
(just so you know in my religion it's not okay to kiss a girl or any physical touch with any girl that is not ur wife)
I'm 17 years old, I knew this girl since I was a kid she was my mom's student and I was pretty close to her.
And I had what I thought was love for her, She was toxic in every single way possible and I somehow find ways to say "no she likes me" and things like that.
This situation stayed still for 6-7 years until 5 months ago me and her were Alone and we kissed.
All along these 6 years I thought that when I kiss her I'd be the happiest man alive but just after this I felt like I was empty, The thing I thought would make me happy and comfortable didn't mean anything when we did it.
It was an awful feeling being literally empty and I didn't want to do or see anything or anyone even my family.
In this stage I watched this show called monster it's a show talks about how human brain works and things like that.
After I finished it my whole mindset was changed, I don't think its because of the show. I don't know really but all my interests suddenly changed now I like art and poetry??!
I don't know it kinda sound not too effective but changing ur interests not by ur own want is different.
Now I'm so chill and let things go by its own
I don't stress out by random things.
I don't overthink anything at all
I'm not afraid of death
I don't care what people think or say about me.
And I'm kinda attached to my religion now.
And life feels better now.
My view of people acting in a particular way is just too deep.
And also I met this girl online and we loved each other we talked about our past and our mistakes in it and we accepted each other. our (long distance) relationship just seems so perfect we are 4 months in the relationship and I date her for marriage not for fun and stupid stuff like that.
My life after one mistake is changed in so many different ways just by the feeling of emptiness
Now I believe that everyone have to experience some kind of a mistake to feel empty just like I did and the kind of things u do or think in the empty stage will decide how ur life will be for the rest of it
I just feel like ur the type of guy who would understand what I'm talking about
So what is ur opinion about the story and the emptiness thing and like what's ur advice
And yuh also what's ur advice for people who have an addiction with adult content? I have so many friends struggling with that.
One more question im so sorry but I live in Egypt and the government is so missed up they just screwed us and I don't know what to do, Living as an average Egyptian is so bad. u can barely have the money to eat 1 meal, I'm in school now and I don't think I'll get a good job with my grades
I have some hoppies like editing and drawing but I'm kind of scared of focusing on one hoppy and It just doesn't make a good living out of it
what do you think about this too
my calture is repeating it self and no one complains and I don't wanna face the same faith as my dad or his father etc....
So yuh thanks man for the great videos I like it so much
Hey Niko Im 16 and recently just got freindzoned by some girl on a sports team that I play on. She now tries to avoid me at almost all costs now and im feeling really depressed about it and seriously dont know what to do. It also doesnt help the fact that the whole team even knows about it and gives me a hard time about it. Is there any advice you could possibly give me? Thanks Alot Bro also luv the vids
Hey niko,
I have this friend in school, who always calls me a dumbass for misremembering the smallest of things, doing things by accident and other stuff. There have been multiple times when I've wanted to stop being friends with him, however because he's been in the same classes as me in school that has been impossible to do. I really do not enjoy being around him and the thing is, sometimes he stops being mean to me for a week or so after realising I feel hurt, however after that he returns to his former self. What can I do in this situation?
Hi Niko! I’m a 15 year old boy, and I don’t really know how to get into a relationship. I see all my friends getting girlfriends and being happy about it, and even though they’re probably not gonna last long it still makes me feel like I’m lagging behind. The main issue is that I don’t really know how to start a relationship. Going on tinder as a 15 year old seems kind of dangerous, especially with all the pedos being exposed recently, and I don’t really know how to “shoot my shot” with girls at my school- especially without coming off as a creep. I don’t know if I’m ready/old enough for a relationship. What should I do?
I started a yt channel but im like a 13 year old boy, and my voice isn't deep like yours, and I don't think people like listening to a squeaky voice and stuff, what should I do, Im trying to make other stuff like edits and other things that don't use my voice but I don't really like doing them, if you respond, well thanks a lot for the help,
thx and your my favorite UA-camr btw
im reponding so that my comment is more visible by niko hehehe
Hey niko, I recently discovered your channel and love the advice from your videos so I figured maybe you could help me out with the crazy situation im currently stuck in.
I(24M) own a house with my narcissistic girlfriend (23F) who oversteps all the time. How do I get out?
We've been together for about 4 years now. Everything was good for about 1.5-2 years. We bought the house last year and it's in both of our names. I tried to breakup with her a few months ago but came back because I felt bad for leaving her. She has a lot of physical and mental health issues that she's not really able to deal with 100% alone. If she pushes herself too hard she will be sick for days. She doesn't want to sell the house but she wouldn't be able to afford it by herself.
When I came back she told me she wants to get married within 2 years. Which I told her along time ago that the only way we'll get married is if she signs a prenup. Her response was no but she still tries to pressure me into marring her all the time.
I live 5 hours away from all my friends and family. She always likes to complain and talk bad about my family and friends but yet if I say anything about hers its an argument. She oversteps all the time by going through my phone either when I'm not around or right in front of me. I have nothing to hide nor have I given her a reason to not trust me. Anytime I would mention her doing it she would get all defensive and upset that I had a problem with it. Caught her doing it this morning when I woke up for work, she was going through all my notifications. She hates when I go visit my family without her because im not constantly texting her. Having my location doesn't seem to be good enough. I feel stuck, tied down, and honestly scared. Not really scared of anything physical, just more mental abuse. I tried therapy for over a month and stopped because money became short.
I pay the majority of the bills, I always have to cover bills for her. We used to split everything evenly but haven't in a very long time. Im always exhausted because after work I have to meet her every demand just to keep peace in the household. Letting out and caring for the dogs, doing dishes, cooking dinner. She does laundry but that's about it. I have no friends here, even if i did she wouldn't like me spending time away from her. I cant go out on hikes without her because she feels left out. She made me feel like I can't express my feelings along time ago because she would use it against me in any arguments we would have so i don't tell her more than I have to. She made me feel like I can't make videos or music because she didn't like the attention strangers living 10 hours away was giving me. She hates when Im on my computer working on my hobbies or playing video games. I have no privacy at all.
I also feel crazy 95% of the time. I have anxiety now because of her. I always feel like im walking on eggshells because she likes to blowup over the smallest of things. My memory is terrible because she gaslights me all the time into thinking i said or did stuff i know i didn't do. I tend to keep my mouth shut because if i speak up for myself, the horns come out and it makes for an awful rest of the night/ few days. She volunteers me all the time do go out with her friends and family without even asking if i want to and when if i say no, she throws a tantrum like a child and asks "why" about 10 times before trying to convince me to go with her.
Im tired of constantly tending to her and trying to keep up with the lies. I know im not perfect and I hate how far into this hole of lies ive dug over the years but I need out. Im constantly miserable, I would much rather be at work than at home when she has days off.
Sorry that was an entire yap session but what are my options with the house? Should I force a sale? How do I get out of this situation and never look back? My friends and family that know about it are on my side and want me to leave. I just need some help getting started. Thanks to anyone who gives the time of day to read this and help me out!
Hey Niko, I moved to a new school this year and I joined the cross country team. I did cross country last year and I really liked it. I met one of my best friends and I always looked forward to going to practice. At my new school though, it’s not really fun at all. I haven’t made any friends on the team. And I’m by far the worst on my team. It’s super hard and not in a satisfying and fulfilling way like it was before. I don’t think I should quit because I don’t want to disappoint my parents or my team, but I don’t really want to keep doing it either. What should I do? Thank you.
Hey Niko, I stumbled across this video at a weird time of my life. I'm 16 and live in a country where the culture education is extremely competitive and toxic. Because of this, I am trying to peruse education abroad. However, learning more about education as a whole, I've discovered that I absolutely hate being in school. I don't hate learning, I love learning things I am interested in but I hate the system that education is built around. It feels like all my options are life or death, one big exam to determine the rest of my life. It also feels like not getting into a "top-tier school" would mean a less fortunate future for me. This sucks, I want to learn without the burden of ruining my life. How do I look at education in a more positive light and should I ignore the prospect that "bad grades = bad life?"
I have an additional question to that (i don't know if this will be too much haha..) I have a girlfriend whose been through loads with me. However, because of my young age, no one takes us seriously, our parents constantly tell us we'll break up one day and education is the only thing that matters . Is it ok to disregard our feelings just because of our age? Despite everything, she's really the only real thing I have in life right now..
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hey niko, I have ,probably, a repetitive question, I always wanted to be a UA-camr, and to be honest with you, currently I don't feel like anything besides online business can get you somewhere in life, unfortunately, I don't have any real skills that hasn't been seen before, I don't have money to get education for something like trading, crypto, investing, etc... What more, those things doesn't actually work in my country because of less amount of money here, anyways, question is, do you have any idea of how can one become UA-camr? I always heard those same words: work on quality over quantity, but whenever I try to give it my all onto my videos, they still don't get anywhere, is there like something we small/new UA-camrs don't know about? Or are we just unlucky or is it just a skill issue? Thank you if you answer this question, because I know there are poeple with more complicated questions.
Hi niko, I have a question that is probably not what you normally get. I'm 16 and my life is honestly I walk in the park, I have very little to complain about. the only problem I seen to sometimes have is finding motivation to do certain things. I have ADHD and dislexia and sometimes have very little motivation to do things like go to the gym, sometimes I also lose motivation to do things I do like. Do you have any advice around staying motivated in life?
Hi niko I love your videos but id like your advice on something. Im 15 and my boyfriend of a little over a year is acting different when we first started dating he would text me like every 20 minutes and try to talk to me but now i always have to text first once i didnt text him at all for a week to see if hed text me first he didnt and claimed he thought i was grounded and was worried about me so i let it go but now its really starting to get to me sometimes i wonder if i should just break up with him or just suddenly stop talking to him i dont think im very good for him anyway like a month a go i cheated on him which is a long story of me not thinking what i was doing was cheating then i told him right away every since then he has only texted me first once when i ask him he says he still loves me very much but i dont know if i belive him cause of how he acts hes never seemed quite interested in me hes never asked me a question about myself so i really dont know what to do I feel as if he does make me a better person even if they way he treats me aint perfect i have stopped self harm and my constant want to die is much less i think he has made me a better person but also made me bit crazier but maybe that just love? thank you if you decide to respond
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Hey Niko, I'm really hoping you can see this and can help me with figure out what to do. I have (well had) a friend of 10 years, we've been friends since elementary school. At the beginning of 2024 I got into a super unhealthy relationship with someone who caused me to almost lose all of my friends. I introduced this partner to her and my friend group (who i have also been friends with for 10 years). She said a lot of stuff that upset them and I tried to take both sides, but it unfortunately led to me getting kicked out temporarly. I broke up with her in June because i found out that she was cheating on me, I was lucky enough to have some of my friends forgive me for doing the things I did at the beginning of 2024. But, I've tried to reach out to her to apologize and she told me that she forgave me, but no longer wanted to be friends. Ever since then, I've missed being friends with her and just want to start things over again. Do you think I should try to reach out again in the future or should I just give up on trying to be friends with her?
Hey Niko I'm currently having problems in my school because I feel like all of the work that I do is going wasted. I'm trying my hardest but my grades are the worst
Hey Niko I’m 11 and my dad died when I was 8 years old and since then I’ve always had this crush on someone that I like and was wondering if you had any advice on it and if you knew how I should approach her cause I really like her so do you know or have any advice or experience and it would mean the world to me if you could try and help me with this
#askniko hey niko, first of all, i love listening to your videos in the background. my issue that i think as a boy, instead of being very insecure about sharing my feelings with anyone else, i feel like i do it too much. i feel like i sometimes tell people personal stuff that they dont want/have to know. i also feel like i repeat myself about my feelings often.
as an example, i figured out that between me and a girl i liked, it simply wasnt gonna work out, and then i told my friends like normal, but i just repeat myself even though i know that theyre aware of it, and i know that after 1 time its enough. but sometimes i just dont feel understood, which leads me to tell them again. is there maybe something i have to know, to help me decide what i should share and what i shouldnt?
fyi, im a 16 y/o guy
hey niko how do i turn a situationship to a relationship? I was talking to a girl and we get flirty and romantic and all but she fell out of love, saying she doesnt want any more commitments as of now and i understandably felt betrayed, and then i lashed out, so at one point it ended in a bad terms. Thats when i realize i want to fix it by apologizing after few days for us to take our time and i did, i apologized on her birthday, 5 days after everything that went down. I felt like she did accept my apology and yet nothing changes, she doesnt talk to me anymore and every text feels like a reply and not chatting if yk what i mean. How do i fix everything? i know i had to focus myself more but i dont want her to see me as an enemy
Hey niko, I'm 15 years old and I just need advice about a friend and what our actual relationship is. I've been very confused with how my friend treat me. I feel as if they only talk to me when it's convenient for them, they often just talk to me when they need something or need someone to talk to. I'm happy to be there for them but it's still hurt me whenever they'd leave me after finding someone else to talk to (I'm talking about a specific friend). They just moved to a new school and for the first week they talked to me since they felt lonely and had no one to talk to. But after a few days they just stopled texting me completely, and idk if our friendship is an actual friendship since I never understand how or what a friendship should be, I just don't feel like they see me as a friend, but a vessel to lean on to when you need someone. I hate being just that to them since we've known each other for a very long time now. I'd take any advice you can give since i really don't know what to do about it
Is it okay to being more happy for other people than for myself?
I felt that way in my recent (and first ever) relationship with a girl. We broke up recently and now i alone again, but during that relationship i noticed how much it warms me to watch people i love and care about succeed in something. And i never was pleased with my results in anything, even if i indeed make great results. And my self-esteem not that great either. When i am alone i hate myself and think that i am miserable, but when i am around other people and especially people i like, i act a bit narcissistic. Like "of course i did great job, its me afterall" etc. Should i change as a person? Why? If yes - how i can do that?
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Hey Niko I’m 16 years old and I want to get into a relationship but every time I do I come to the same problem every time. my jealousy when she talks to other guys has friends that are guys anything how do I stop being jealous
Jealously can be tough but its important to remember that trust is the foundation of any relationship. When you feel jealous, Pause and remind yourself that your partner has chosen to be with you, and that she deserves your trust. Its helpful to communicate openly with her about your feelings, express how you feel can help both of you understand each other better. Building trust takes time, but with patience and open communication, you can overcome jealousy and have a healthier relationship. Also improving yourself is the key to boosting your self-confidence. Focus on what makes you a great partner and why she should want to stay with you. If you're constantly afraid she'll leave, that fear might drive her away. Instead, work on yourself both emotionally and mentally. Im in a relationship so this is from my experience.
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Hey niko am a 13 year old boy and am into photography since I was 10 I've loved photography but everyone I ask my parents my friends say that photography is a hobby and not a career and am confused and afraid because next year I have to pick my subjects for when I graduate so idk if I should pick subjects for photography or find something else to do love the content hope you see this
Hey Niko! I'm 21 and just failed two second-year college courses, so I need to switch majors. The new course isn’t appealing to me, and I'm considering taking a year off to figure things out, possibly working at a fast-food restaurant. However, I'm worried about falling behind while my classmates are graduating next year. What do you think I should do?
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HI NIKO. 13 male in ireland just starting our version of middle school i think. Everyone my age wants to grow up realy fast but i want to just want to play video games and play sports. But Everyone calls me immature and its just hard looking for some advice.
Hey Niko, I'm currently 21 and in a weird part of my life. I dropped out of college, I'm about to break up with my girlfriend of 2 years, I am currently trying to find a fulltime job. I want to become a full fledged adult, like live on my own, rely on myself only, and try to find happiness. Is there something that I have to figure out to get "there" or is it just to "enjoy the journey" or something else? Thanks man!
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Hey kuya niko! (brother in filipino). I'm 15 yrs old and i just got out of a relationship with this girl last summer who is now my classmate this school year and I've been pretty stressed out about it since i cant transfer schools or sections. I really loved this girl and i was about to move on but now that she's my classmate i get to see her everyday and i feel like my feelings for her are coming back. I really wanna move on since i don't wanna continue hurting myself again and ive heard that she has a new bf n stuff (still not sure that its true tho) . I also heard from my friend thats from my class. When they were having a group project together. She kept mentioning my name, saying things like (oooh i wish david were here) INFRONT of EVERYBODY. or like (where's david?) (David is my name btw). I also keep finding her looking at me or glancing at me at class which really bugs me out so if u can. Help a brother out. I really love listening to your advice and it helped me out a ton.
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Hey Niko, recently I've been feeling dissapointment towards things that have been praised heavily by fans and so far I have been taking steps to dealing with it with first, limiting social media use. So what do I do now that I've basically stopped the flooding but now dealing with the water that flooded in? Basically dealing with the ringing sensation in my head that is public opinion (specifically from fans since I've stopped listening to critics because of their current reputation.)
this might be the stuff I need fr. I'm feeling pressured as hell from expectations. the scholarship the tutors, school is going to be hard AF. I am experiencing calm before the storm rn. I can't fail and that makes me nervous, I'm 17 and next year I'm going to my dream uni at least I hope so. I wish to leave my country but the people I love are all here. the ambition in me is telling me to leave cause my country doesn't really have that many opportunities. I i know am gonna regret staying and miss out on my dreams but my family and friends. I don't know what to do. what is your advice on dealing with this predicament of mine
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hey Niko, I am 22, I work as a security engineer at FAANG. 70k a year, my own apartment, I do Muay Thai kickboxing, have savings, living comfortably, and its alright, except I feel an itch for something else, idk what it is, i go to church and have faith and have a girlfriend, others would be happy with my life, but i feel something is missing. I work hard, have goals, have discipline and push myself daily, i just dont know what is missing... Did you have any advice for me? thank you.
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hey niko, im 18 and leaving for college in less than 2 weeks from when im writing this. I am in the US and as you are probably aware, college is VERY expensive. that is something that has concerned me for a while now, the debt. I am really excited to go, especially as a student-athlete, but at the same time i am scared that I am wearing rose-tinted glasses and am ignorant to how this will affect the rest of my life. I am very grateful for my parents who are going to try their best to help me pay off interest on loans while I am at school so I can focus on my studies and athletics.
with all of the worrying I have tried to almost accept that it will be a hurdle, and have come to the conclusion that as long as I am able to pay my bills and do what I enjoy, I should be ok. Is this conclusion shortsighted? If it is, what other things should I consider? If you take time to answer, thank you very much.
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Niko, i need your advice. im 16 yo from Bulgaria :) aand for over 4 years so far ive been struggling to let go of someone because im obsessed with that person who i met in an online game, btw theyre 32 yo this year which makes it even more ridiculous. the person abandoned me because of me bein young dumb and naive but i had gotten too attached... they did lots of great things for me. and yes i have seeked help from friends, yes i have accepted the fact theyre not coming back and im okay with it. yes i talked to that person, they know exactly how i feel and what i should do, yes im aware that if i miss them, i should not want them back when theyre gone (especially for 4 years), yes i know "time heals everything". so as if my mindd refuses to let them go, when i am feelin great and forget this person for a month or so, my mind goes like: "no you gotta remember them!" and so my brain doesnt lemme get rid of the though of them. even when i had a romantic partner, i couldnt let go of that person (at least my partner didnt mind) but seems like nobody can help me. i am starting to give up? i just dunno what to do anymore like is that person gonna stay on my mind for a lifetime or what? i asked them to cut me off completely since my will wasnt strong enough. in a nutshell, how can i get rid of the though of them, ive accepted them as someone who ive been obsessed with and i dont want them back since its gonna be awkward for me i wont say a single word anyways. what should i do to forget this person?
hi niko. have a question, im 16 and i have always wondered, did my dad leaving me change how i am and is it bad ? love youre vids btw
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I am 16 almost 17 and. I currently do not know what to do, my mother has an uncurable cancer and i do not know how much time she has left and i just feel sad and empty knowing she has it. It feels like i have no purpouse left in life and i dont know how to cope with this and i need some advice about all of this.
Hi Nico, so i am 14 years old female, in junior high school, so i have a situation, like i have 4 really good friends but at the same time i am third wheeling both duos, like i am the backup friend. If one of the duo is not there they talk to me, other than that i have no friends, i need some advice on getting some friends. ty
Hey Nico, me and my gf have been through a lot recently I need advice,some background is that abt 9-10 months ago we were an amazing couple, then she broke up with me this March, we had time away from eachother and ended up getting back tgth in July, but it’s different this time, now she doesn’t put in the effort, doesn’t show she cares anymore, leaves me on delivered for hours at times, she gets mad at every little thing I do. I need help, I don’t know what to do. I love her sm and I don’t wanna break up with her but I don’t want to keep getting hurt like this. Any advice? Thank you!
hey niko, Im currently 13 and going to high school. Midway through the school year im going to move to the west coast of canada (I live in the east coast) and I dont have any friends there, before coming to canada I lived in brazil and my english isnt the greatest so its kind of hard making friends because of language barriers. Please help
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Hey niko I am 15 and love in malta I don't know what to do with my life I am autistic and that holds me back in many regards so I always thought I would just graduate then go get a low paying job and love with my mom but now my family makes me go to college and the college of my choice didn't accept me due to my grades and now I go to a college that will give me an other chance but I still don't feel like going what do I do.
Hi, niko
I´m 15 and I had girlfriend, it´s 3 month from our breakup, we are still friends, but I still have feelings for her. Should I tell her, or what am I suppose to do ? Do u think that the ´´method´´ from your friendzone video will help ? I know it´s not normal to date your ex, but a still like her so much, I told her it a few months ago and she told me to give it time. I don´t know if it is the time or not
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Hey Niko I'm 17 years old I'm going to be a senior and there's this one friend that was there for me I talked to her about a lot of my problems she helped me I talked to her alot last summer I also sat with her at lunch every day she is a real friend but I texted her too much and she blocked me because I annoyed her, she had a lot going on, her business, it was hard because we don't have the same classes or same lunch, she needs space + she has a bf I'm just worried she won't come back even tho her friends told me she will but it's been months I'm thinking she will when school starts idk
Friends come and go. Don't cling to an illusion of permanence, accept and embrace change. Remember - it's better to leave it on a good note
She might of had something going on, if so don’t blame yourself, it happens
Hey man can I get relationship advice? I have major trust issues and struggle to trust my girlfriend despite her not giving me a reason to suspect shes cheating or doing anything unfaithful. The trust issues is really destroying my relationship and Im not sure what to do. I really love this girl and want to be with her forever. I suspect that I have seperation anxiety and I get anxious when Im not with her. Shes given me several chances but I always end up going back to stage 1 (having trust issues) over and over again. Is there any advice you can give me?
Talk to her about it more (about how it's just your problem and NOT how she's probably cheating and other sht, it will destroy everything) and maybe visit a therapist
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hi neko my name may be hard to read so just call Jojo, so i need a way to understand affection from people because when people showed affection afterwards people used me for task or other stuff or make fun of me so i need help understanding affection
does it jiggle?
nah it folds 💸💸💸
It claps
if you stop posting I’m gonna die
ho, very early sjsj
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