The power of appreciation: Mike Robbins at TEDxBellevue
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- Mike Robbins (www.Mike-Robbins.com) is the author of two books, Focus on the Good Stuff, and Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken, as well as the forthcoming book Nothing Changes Until You Do. He's an expert in teamwork, leadership, and emotional intelligence who delivers inspirational keynote addresses to audiences throughout the world. His clients include Google, Wells Fargo, Twitter, Gap, Adobe, the US Department of Labor, Stanford University, the San Francisco Giants, and many others. In this heartwarming, humorous, and thought-provoking talk at TEDxBellevue, Mike talks about "The Power of Appreciation." As Mike discusses, there is an important distinction between "recognition" and "appreciation." Leaders, teams, organizations, and individuals who understand this distinction can have much more impact, meaning, and productivity in their lives and with the people around them. He also discusses some important research in the field of positive psychology that exemplifies the importance of appreciation.
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"Celebrate what you want to see more of" is such a simple but succinct way of putting all this
I think the instinct to go quiet on someone whose just messed up big time is because you assume they're embarrassed or like if you say anything they might take out all their frustration on you
The bit about how to stay inspired about expressing appreciation was huge. I have that problem with lots of stuff, I get so excited about doing it but then the excitement or inspiration wears off
I hear you and can relate
Agreed appreciation is deeply needed in every type of relationship we have. It's very easy for people to slip into a negative mindset and start thinking along the lines of "oh that person just doesn't care about me"
I can definitely relate to not appreciating something when you're in it... I think it's a relative thing though, if it's all you've known you might not realize how wonderful it is until you're doing something different
Indeed...so true
I read a study recently that spoke about how when you do express gratitude people want to hear how their actions met your needs, not how they sacrificed their time or effort. So if someone helped you get through some tasks at work a good way to acknowledge it is to say "Thank you that was really stressing me out." instead of say "Thanks, I know that took away from your day."
I like the way he breaks this down like it's not about being touchy-feely, but creating an environment where people feel valued and can thrive. That's just good sense in any context!
I wish more leaders understood this concept. So many workplaces focus on empty recognition programs, but miss the mark on genuine appreciation. Imagine how different things could be if managers took the time to really see and value their team members as people!
There's something magical about people that can appreciate the journey instead of fixating on the destination
That's right. If you don't feel appreciated you won't work at your full capacity. Even money won't fix a situation like that
As someone who's struggled with self-worth, the idea that appreciation is about who you are, not just what you do, is really powerful. Makes me think about how I can start appreciating myself more, not just for my achievements, but for who I am as a person.
I like the idea of appreciation being not just some abstract idea, but something that can have a tangible impact on our lives.
Whether it's sports, work, or family life, we're all just humans trying our best. A little appreciation could go a long way in easing that pressure.
This talk is a wake-up call for how we treat each other, especially in high-stress environments
We are terrible at taking compliments! He's so right and then you end up feeling weird when you give someone one and they reject it.
This talk has me reflecting on all the times I've felt unappreciated, and how that's affected my motivation and performance. If a simple "I see you" could have made such a difference, imagine what consistent, genuine appreciation could do.
The idea of appreciation as a practice rather than just a spontaneous act is intriguing. Like any habit, it probably takes time to develop. But the potential benefits for relationships and overall wellbeing seem worth the effort.
I'm amazed at how something so simple can be so impactful... to think that it's not about grand gestures but just genuine acknowledgement of someone's value seems really doable
Yup haha I know exactly what he's talking about. I worked for a pretty huge company that had heaps of locations and I didn't realize how amazing my first branch was until I moved stores and wow... I never regretted anything so much as that move. Taught me a lot about appreciation for sure
Okay I get so weirdly emotional when he was talking about going back to the dugout during a bad game and needing a hug. I think I know that feeling, and just being ignored or left alone instead makes all those feelings so much worse
I left my job I loved for 15years a couple of months ago because I just didn't feel appreciated by my superiors, so yes, express it when you can!!
this opened my eyes to how much we undervalue appreciation in our daily lives. It's not just about saying "thanks," but truly acknowledging the person behind the action.
As someone who struggles with accepting compliments, the part about graciously receiving appreciation made me think... I always thought I was being humble, but maybe I've been unintentionally rejecting people's kindness
Life can be tough, and it's easy to forget to say "Thanks" or "I see you"
I love how this talk bridges the gap between personal and professional life. The principles apply everywhere!
Thank you!
Man that is a tough way to learn the lesson about appreciation though. Good on him for turning it into such an opportunity though
Thanks! I appreciate your kind words. Yes, it was a hard way to learn a very important lesson about half of my lifetime ago. I am grateful for all that I learned.
We're so focused on performance that we forget the human element. I've definitely been that person sitting alone in the dugout after a failure, wishing someone would just acknowledge my effort.
This talk has me thinking about the ripple effects of appreciation... If it really does boost serotonin for both people, and leads to better performance and relationships, the cumulative impact could be huge for mental health in the office
I've always thought it was so brutal when a pitcher gets replaced like how he describes around the 5:20 mark and yes definitely couldn't imagine how that would go in an office setting!!
This talk really challenged my perspective on how I interact with others. I tend to be pretty task-focused, but I can see how taking the time to appreciate people could actually make everything run smoother.
The concept of looking for things to appreciate is so simple, yet so profound. It's like training your brain to focus on the positive. I can see how this could be a real mood-booster, especially on tough days.
Indeed!
100% the little things matter. All of my relationships would be better if I found a way to show them my appreciation
"celebrate what you want to see more of." such a great quote!
You know now that I'm thinking about I can't remember _any_ time that someone said something meaningful to me after I'd just failed at something
Giving and receiving love is what we're here to do. Appreciation is a form of love that should also be exercised.
The science behind appreciation raising serotonin levels is cool. Free happiness boost!
😊 What a confident, positive man, author& public speaker! Thank you!
I appreciate youtube so very much for bringing me Ted talks! Including this upload! ✔️🗝🙏🏽
Thank you for your kind words!
@@mikerobbinsvideo Thank you for the confidence🗝🙏🏽⚖️
The study around the 8:10 mark makes a lot of sense. It's hard to care about something when no one else around you does.
I think appreciation is also important because when you express it - especially for a person - you kind of leave yourself open to a type of vulnerability that you wouldn't otherwise experience.
Indeed!
I have had so many jobs where I have run myself into the ground for them yet it was never enough. One time, they decided to show me their gratitude by giving me a $50 voucher….sweet, yup, that didn’t even come close to the overtime I had given to them that day alone. I didn’t need a gift voucher, I wanted to feel that my hard work had been important and appreciated. They was the moment I stopped doing any over time and started drawing boundaries. Suddenly they were very interested in my well-being because I wasn’t doing all the work they had come to just expect for free.
Thats my life too!
Creating boundaries was the best move ever. It probably saved your sanity, maybe your life, and possibly got you a promotion. Thanks for your words.
I don't think people realise just how important is to be aware enough to recognise the trials and suffering someone can endure - appreciating some one's journey is how we create more empathy.
this is rad Shawn, awesome views here.
Empathy is something I'm just starting to understand.
I think an inability to appreciate others comes from insecurity. If someone is doing well, it feels as if you are not doing well enough, or if they make a mistake despite their efforts, it can validate and made you feel like you are right and ‘better’. Someone who is secure in themselves has no fear, experiences no loss and actually greatly benefits from others succeeding and being their wonderful selves.
His story about his mom really got me. ❤ Beautiful.
Thank you!
@@mikerobbinsvideo great talk - thank you
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Interesting how appreciation can boost productivity. I guess having our efforts recognized makes all the difference
The care factor is so important, not just in business relationships but all. When we appreciate, respect and understand, it sets us up for much more fulfilling connections
Couldn't agree more - anytime I have felt or seen genuine care from a person it has allowed me to put trust and faith into the person, which is rare
Noticing the past few years that it is becoming trendy to be kind and care again, which is nice to see
True, how many people, how many privileges, how many moments do we take for granted every day?
I predict that Mike will be at the forefront of ensuring morale within huge companies is kept high and that works are actually treated as people
Char
@@Chelsea-Chelsea I hope ya'll showed him this clip!
I really liked the distinction between recognition and appreciation. I'd been treating them as the same thing.
Thanks!
@@mikerobbinsvideo welcome
I am an engineer. I focus almost all of my time on climbing the corporate ladder and I have made it very high up and now I can finally life without worry of finances. I realize that I am fortunate to be where I am.
After watching this I realized that I have always brushed off my accomplishments and any gratitude given to me. Always thinking, "this accomplishment doesn't deserve recognition" and "I could have done better" and just focused on climbing the next step of the ladder.
Though I have always celebrated the accomplishments of others, I now think it's appropriate for me to celebrate myself also.
I thoroughly believe this should be at the forefront of all relationships - work, family, neighbours. If we just appreciated each other a little more, appreciated the differences in journey and skill, we would all get a lot more out of life.
Thank you! Yes, a little bit of appreciation goes a long way.
“I could have used some appreciation, not for what I had done, but for who I am” This hit me hard.
So many of us think and feel kind things towards people but never say anything. Listening to Mike's talk I realise that so much of why we aren't being more supportive of one another is not knowing how to articulate half the time.
Thats true we do!
This is a man sharing his experience so we don’t have to live through it to learn the lesson. Much appreciated.
Scheduling in appreciation might seem a little disingenuous at first, but even the effort to Scheduling in the reminder is an act of kindness. I like this.
I like the idea of practicing appreciation as opposed to just spontaneous acts of it here and there. I know it probably takes some time to develop just like any other habit though I can see how it would be beneficial once you got into the habit of it!
The things he talks about around 7:30 are an especially important part of this! It's easy to appreciate someone when they're doing well but letting them know they're still important and valued when they aren't performing at their best is way more difficult.
I am a manager and I have about 50 people I have to manage. This talk gave me the insight that I had I forgotten how important appreciation is. I forget that when I graduated from university and started my first job. I had a manager who came to me, patted me on the back and said that he believes in me. I still remember that moment.
Similar experience here, a manager I had from 20 years ago is still why I think kindness and guidance are the best tools when managing people. I'll forever appreciate that.
At my last job the only real praise I got was from co-workers, never those in charge and it was always along the lines of like, wow how can you do this job so well and for so long it's literally the worst role in the whole store. And for some reason that gave me a sense of pride about it?
I just needed to hear that showing appreciation is not a thing I personally grave but something that is good management practice if not just a great way to be with another human being. Because I don't receive it doesn't mean that it is not valuable. I will apply it to my life wherever it makes sense. Thank you for this wonderful talk.
The arm blow out story happened really early in this talk. This is how I knew it was going top be a good one
I'm guilty of not expressing enough appreciation, I know that but it just feels forced or like it's never the right time for it
I love the distinction he makes between recognition and appreciation! They are definitely two very different things.
This talk was given 9 years ago but is still so f*&!ing relevant.
I can't imagine how difficult it would be to refocus your purpose after literally dedicating your whole life to doing that one thing that you now can't.
10:20 To appreciate doesn’t mean to like, agree with or lets be friends. It is about seeing the value of what a person offers. This is a lesson I am still learning, to appreciate and value someone even if I personally don’t bond with them.
Appreciation can carry a whole team as far as I am concerned.
how so
I really love this guys story and demeanor. It would have been so easy for him to get wrapped up in the defeat of his injury and become a miserable person. The fact that he's done the opposite is such a great display of resilience!
the whole world needs to see this
we often wait too long to show our appreciation to the people who matter most, I know I've been guilty of that
Society focuses so much on what we haven’t got and struggling to get more. SO rarely do we stop and appreciate what we actually have and what we have achieved. We need to learn to appreciate ourselves more often!
And appreciate others and their struggles, also very important.
I always remember how appreciation is important. It helps me in my private life as well as in my career. If you show your appreciation people usually shows it back!
takes a lot of the discomfort out of life being appreciative.
I have a friend that says "I really appreciate it/preciate you" every g*dd*mn conversation. It's lost all meaning when I hear it from them.
This is great advice and I'm really going to try to take it on board. It makes sense why it's important and it seems like it doesn't take much to make someone's day better
I could not agree more with this talk, expressing appreciation for a thing kind of allows you to experience it on a whole other, deeper level.
I love positive reinforcement and appreciation. I am such a more relaxed person when I know my energy and effort is going un-noticed.
I LOVE this talk and the message Mike is trying to get across.
He's definitely right about how we often don't appreciate the things we have while we have them. Such a shame that we take things for granted so quickly.
The power of appreciation and gratitude is immense. The only problem is that I keep forgetting about it, then when I bring it back into my life I am amazed all over again. Thank you for this reminder- I found this video at the perfect time
You are welcome. Yes...appreciation is so powerful, and simple to practice (when we remember)
I'm curious how this approach to appreciation would work in different cultures. In some places, too much praise might seem insincere. But the underlying principle of valuing people for who they are seems universal.
I think expressing appreciation for a person is also really important because it means they're never going to feel like you're taking them for granted.
Appreciation has an amazing influence on people. That's for sure.
Yes indeed, it does!
When we can stop to appreciate the small things, the big things and just each other - life seems to have a much natural flow and it's a lot easier to cope.
@@jeffgoldygold yes true!
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I wish ppl could be this kind and understanding in day to day life but it's just so hard
The difference between recognition and appreciation was a great insight. I had never really thought about that before. And I felt it viscerally- I can remember times in my past where I have been recognised for my work and how ‘functional’ it felt, versus feeling truly appreciated.
I try to teach my children that when their teachers or friends do kind things for them, to always tell them thank you and why they are thankful. I believe appreciation is such an important part of ability to make long last connections and learn all that we can from each other.
I love to hear that, you are teaching them well
The more you appreciate the more you see Love in you life and the more you can give Love away to others.
Yes
Saying please and thank you and verbalizing is so important!
Indeed
Appreciation can lead to so many good things. Appreciating someone's experience, their drive, their story, their journey, their abilities or their weaknesses. I was stoked to see this come up on suggested video. Mike is on point. I mean, what he had to go through to get there is pretty unfortunate but it's funny that when we think we are at our lowest, it's when we find our purpose. Excellent topic, excellent speaker.
Okay the bit around 12:00 had me rolling it's so true after the thank you it's always either they compliment you back or they say something to make themselves seem not so great like "hey I like your shirt!" "thanks I'm a real POS though." lmao why do we do that??
Thanks for watching and for your comment. We are funny/weird as humans, eh?
I have had many jobs where I was given little gifts, like gift cards or something after I had done some significant work. Usually the gift was minuscule in comparison to the work and effort I had given, it was symbolic and felt like a strategic move on the part of the company to keep me calm and keep me giving more than what my job description entailed. It was only recognition, I never felt appreciated by my management, it was never acknowledged that I had given so much of myself and my time. That was the elephant in the room because the minute they appreciated me it means they were admitting they had asked too much.
This gave me a burst of hope for humanity that I've been lacking recently.
That is nice to hear!
Appreciation. Such a tremendous word, but often is forgotten...
I couldn't agree more about appreciating something while it's happening.
We were literally have a team building day last week and discussing how we could all tackle burn out and one of the things was through transparency! I can't wait to show my boss this!! Thank you!
When there's appreciation there is understanding and respect and these are things that really help in every day life.
Indeed
When I feel appreciated it always lifts me up.
Terrific send Myles!
@@yuvallove ☺️ 😊
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I have spent most of my life looking ahead. This talk makes it so clear that real life is here and now. Thanks Mike!
The stats on output from those that feel appreciated are wild.
Lots of heart in this talk.
People connecting with people. It is such common sense yet we keep missing the mark on this and focusing on accomplishments and successes. Being understood and heard as a human being rather than your results is empowering.
and liberating!
Good link to send Shannon, thanks for the share.
Saw this in group too Shannon, very cool.
@@bigthinking1715 it is isnt it?
How quickly we forget about common sense though
So many athletes must go through this in some capacity. You don’t just cruise your way through to retirement in sports, you gotta perform.