Bring your whole self to work | Mike Robbins | TEDxBerkeley

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  • @stanhopeishere
    @stanhopeishere 8 місяців тому +1

    The internal process of change is hitting home. It starts with us.

  • @thecryptichatter
    @thecryptichatter 8 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for the reminder that it's about practicing, not just understanding. It's like the difference between words and actions.

  • @chelseasavage5990
    @chelseasavage5990 2 роки тому +329

    I think everyone can relate to having those moments of being so nervous and awkward but to just lean into it and admit it really takes a bit of courage and vulnerability, which is nice though because unless you're in a room full of monsters it's a lovely reminder that we're all just people trying to do our thing 💖💖

  • @jettseverson
    @jettseverson 8 місяців тому +1

    The concept of 'Nothing Changes Until You Do' is massively resonating with me. I know it's a simple truth that change starts from within but it's still poignant to think about and I think this talk goes beyond just workplace dynamics, it delves into the core of personal growth and how a mindset shift can be a catalyst for positive change. At least that's what I'm now thinking about lol

  • @alicjakmusia
    @alicjakmusia 3 місяці тому +1

    I’ve read "Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken" - it’s a fantastic book. Highly recommend!

  • @thefast_and_the_curious
    @thefast_and_the_curious 2 роки тому +2

    Sometimes I feel like I'm too open a little too quickly with people, feels like a paradoxical kind of coping mechanism. I guess finding a balance is the right thing!

  • @annerossiter
    @annerossiter 2 роки тому +2

    This is the state of the world- we need to be reminded that we are human and should live as humans in all aspects of life. We have been trained to forget ourselves.

  • @dare2dreamwithme
    @dare2dreamwithme 4 місяці тому +1

    Love this message and also the idea of workplaces where people can just be who they are and connect on a human level with one another

  • @bethdanskin
    @bethdanskin 3 роки тому +249

    I knew I saved this one for a reason, definitely need to come back to this from time to time as a reminder. So helpful

  • @EcoBurstSocials
    @EcoBurstSocials 8 місяців тому +1

    The reminder that nobody ever has it all figured out is oddly comforting. Like not only does it make me feel better about not having figured some stuff out but it also makes me feel proud for having figured out the things I have, because maybe other people who look better "on paper" haven't sorted out their internal selves in the way that I have.

  • @miroslavhancinsky6111
    @miroslavhancinsky6111 2 роки тому +2

    I like the fact we put on a show at work, I don't want people to know the real me in my professional environment.

  • @westhalbrook2472
    @westhalbrook2472 5 місяців тому +1

    We spend so much time at our jobs, if we can't be comfortable being ourselves there then we're sacrificing those parts of ourselves, putting them away to bring out only when the time is right... I can't help but feel that must do something to our brains and sense of selves on a deeper level that we're not really considering enough

  • @bettamargot
    @bettamargot 7 місяців тому +1

    Authenticity at work is underrated. Thanks for highlighting its importance!

  • @erika-cheung
    @erika-cheung 3 місяці тому +1

    So glad to have come across this talk! I'm just starting my professional career and maintaining who I am is really important to me, thank you for the advice on how to do that!

  • @UrbanPotatoe
    @UrbanPotatoe 3 місяці тому +1

    I like that he also addressed how we need to create environments where people can bring their whole selves. It's up to the organization as well as the individual!

  • @AzimuthMindspace
    @AzimuthMindspace 3 місяці тому +1

    Oh wow this really raises the bar for what's expected in a workplace! It seems like a lot of this kind of content is going around and it makes me hopeful that things might change positively in the coming years!

  • @derekjohnston2105
    @derekjohnston2105 8 місяців тому +1

    Courage to be vulnerable is the real deal. It's where growth happens.

  • @IndaMoment
    @IndaMoment 7 місяців тому +1

    Why is being vulnerable so challenging yet so rewarding?

    • @mikerobbinsvideo
      @mikerobbinsvideo 7 місяців тому

      It can be scary, for sure...and it allows us to connect with others in a genuine way, which is something we all want

  • @shanteydevers
    @shanteydevers 8 місяців тому +1

    I appreciate the emphasis on vulnerability. It's true, courage is the key!

  • @I-A-M-H-U-N-T-E-R
    @I-A-M-H-U-N-T-E-R 3 місяці тому +1

    Not gonna lie, this gave me a lil motivation to start taking more risks and embracing vulnerability more. The rewards seem worth leaning into that discomfort.

  • @ariadne1428
    @ariadne1428 8 місяців тому +1

    Being seen, heard, and valued-spot on! That's what everyone craves at work

  • @theonlyway977
    @theonlyway977 2 роки тому +3

    This has me shook for some reason. Brilliant thinking right here.

  • @andreshedberg
    @andreshedberg 5 місяців тому +1

    Lol I see myself in what he said about worrying over what others think when realistically, they're all just obsessing over themselves too. We're all guilty of that!

  • @ThisIsMyGalaxy
    @ThisIsMyGalaxy 4 місяці тому +1

    You could really tell he genuinely believes compassion is key for creating those safe, nurturing environments where people can excel. More leaders need to embody that energy.

  • @thereallyfatcat
    @thereallyfatcat 9 місяців тому +1

    The story about speaking up to be yourself is inspiring, I know how much courage that takes!

  • @remigradilenga4121
    @remigradilenga4121 8 місяців тому +1

    Wow, loved the honesty about nervousness in presentations. So relatable!

  • @amagodatfortnite
    @amagodatfortnite 5 місяців тому +1

    Loved his story about being nervous but choosing to be authentic with the president of the publishing company. It's a reminder that vulnerability can lead to unexpected positive outcomes.

  • @sultanvagram
    @sultanvagram 9 місяців тому +1

    "You can't get to courage without walking through vulnerability" amen brother

  • @andididntknow
    @andididntknow 3 місяці тому +1

    "Nothing changes until you do." Such a simple yet profound statement.

  • @valeriegervais
    @valeriegervais 2 роки тому +1

    Yep, most people are obsessed by their own thoughts of self. No time left to think about you.

  • @sylviecannon
    @sylviecannon 3 місяці тому +1

    Such great points being made here, I think the future of the workplace will be something that is more like a community or - at the risk of sounding cheesy - a family even.

  • @kristianzlee
    @kristianzlee 2 роки тому +1

    I have a few friends who have side hustles that they would NEVER mention at work, and for right reason!

  • @iamluckybob
    @iamluckybob 7 місяців тому +1

    Compassion and empathy, in the workplace? That's a refreshing perspective...

  • @silversurferdude
    @silversurferdude 4 місяці тому +1

    This talk has inspired me to try and be more open and vulnerable in my daily life. Hopefully I'll still feel this way when it's time to put it into practice 😅😅

  • @donschuster
    @donschuster 8 місяців тому +1

    Loved the practical advice from Google and Gap. Real strategies in action!

  • @1thekarmacollector
    @1thekarmacollector 3 місяці тому +1

    I appreciate the insights from Google and Gap, especially the acknowledgment of the vulnerability involved. It's heartening to see companies actively fostering a culture of authenticity.

  • @iamlaylathomas
    @iamlaylathomas 8 місяців тому +1

    Totally impressed by his vulnerability, admitting he was nervous trying to impress her.

  • @julianedleberg
    @julianedleberg 10 місяців тому +1

    I agree with what he's saying here, being in a professional environment comes with so many assumptions and expectations but when you're able to break free from all of that and show your co-workers your human side it's like it puts everyone at ease or something, and then some really awesome flow starts to happen, it's pretty cool stuff

  • @thezoeriley
    @thezoeriley 7 місяців тому +1

    Compassion and empathy in the workplace can change everything 💜

  • @givemeshelter788
    @givemeshelter788 8 місяців тому +1

    Loved hearing about such a transformative experience! I've been in a similar position quite recently where I said something that felt like it wasn't being received very well and I _wish_ I had had the courage to address the awkwardness in the room.

  • @dakjussord821
    @dakjussord821 2 роки тому +1

    The take home message for me was, "healthy bar of expectation" not obsessive but realistic. I can live with that.

  • @bestnewtunes8363
    @bestnewtunes8363 7 місяців тому +1

    Loved the part about self-compassion. We often forget to give ourselves a break.

  • @petermitchell3475
    @petermitchell3475 9 місяців тому +1

    Loved that his book is about being authentic and bringing your self to work. Depending on the culture it can be a difficult assignment.

  • @butterflyaffect
    @butterflyaffect 5 місяців тому +1

    Embracing authenticity and showing our vulnerable side can lead to some really great rapport building, I've never tried that in a professional setting though and in terms of the dynamic that's already established between me and my co-workers, I'm not sure how that would go down.

  • @rudolph1899
    @rudolph1899 2 роки тому +1

    The natural response to vulnerability is compassion. Good to remember next time you worry about being real. If you are real people will love you for it

  • @Sky-Leap
    @Sky-Leap 5 місяців тому +1

    when he opened up about being hella nervous during that book meeting even though he was tryna act all cool, that's so damn relatable, we've all been there putting on a front.

  • @jordanjpatterson
    @jordanjpatterson 9 місяців тому +1

    Everyone having a laugh and exhaling would have immediately raised the energy levels and made people more receptive. Great strategy

  • @MyAmazingDarkenedSky
    @MyAmazingDarkenedSky 7 місяців тому +1

    Mike, your openness about the nervousness we all feel before presentations struck a chord with me. It's refreshing to know even successful speakers like you go through it. Your honesty creates a relatable atmosphere that many of us can connect with, making this talk not just informative but deeply personal! Well done.

  • @CroonGirl
    @CroonGirl 3 місяці тому +1

    Personally I think there's a fine line, like you can come into a place with every intention of being "real" but maybe that's not actually what they want. I think there has to be some level of feeling things out before you start up with that vulnerability

  • @realminipowers
    @realminipowers 2 роки тому +1

    Very true, bring your whole self everywhere...

  • @thetrevorbinder
    @thetrevorbinder 5 місяців тому +1

    When he said you can't just understand this stuff intellectually, you gotta actively practice being vulnerable and authentic, something really clicked for me. There’s only so far _knowing_ all this stuff will take you before you just have to start doing it

  • @pierremartinetto
    @pierremartinetto 3 місяці тому +1

    This talk really made me think about how I present myself at work. Authenticity is so important! 🤔

  • @evanmosk
    @evanmosk 10 місяців тому +1

    Great talk Mike! Everyone should feel encouraged and confident to be who they really are, even in a professional setting.

  • @prisonermalloy5022
    @prisonermalloy5022 5 місяців тому +2

    "Nobody ever has" - damn, what a simple but heavy closing line! A whole perspective shift from just surviving to actually living your life. Impactful.

  • @frasernicholson8509
    @frasernicholson8509 7 місяців тому +1

    Hearing about companies like Google and Gap Inc. working towards environments where employees can be their true selves is inspiring. It shows that change in the corporate world is possible.

  • @sergeypestovskiy
    @sergeypestovskiy 2 роки тому +1

    I think it's important to understand there are just some work cultures that do not want us to bring our whole self work and although I'm all about sticking it to the man - there are many people that if were to take on this perspective, would easily find themselves without a job.

  • @averagestudent4632
    @averagestudent4632 6 місяців тому +1

    I just hope those in leadership roles will start embracing this ideal and making workplaces a little less stiff.

  • @ursulayildrim
    @ursulayildrim 3 місяці тому +1

    This talk is a game changer. We all need to hear this, especially those in leadership positions.

    • @mikerobbinsvideo
      @mikerobbinsvideo 3 місяці тому

      Thank you! Feel free to share it far and wide 🙂

  • @guntherhofer
    @guntherhofer 3 місяці тому +1

    I'm glad this kind of progress is being made in professional spaces!

  • @xoxo_karrie_xoxo
    @xoxo_karrie_xoxo 2 роки тому +1

    This is the truth! Hate working with people who are just mindlessly going through the motions

  • @lisa-lio
    @lisa-lio 4 місяці тому +1

    As someone who's just starting my career, this talk gives me a lot to think about in terms of who I want to be. Thanks!

  • @cedrickdroui
    @cedrickdroui 2 роки тому +1

    Easy to bring your whole self to work when you love what you do!

  • @shureedouglas8682
    @shureedouglas8682 7 місяців тому +1

    It's amazing how honesty can transform a simple meeting into a pivotal moment.

  • @SpeckledDude
    @SpeckledDude 7 місяців тому +1

    This redefines the meaning of professionalism for me. I love the idea that incorporating our true selves into our work doesn’t make us less professional; it makes us more genuine and relatable. The full on effect that could have for entire workplaces is huge, especially if those in charge are leading the way for it

  • @denisgongolev
    @denisgongolev 2 роки тому +1

    "You'd be surprised how little people think of you" seriously true. I'm always thinking about myself as it pertains to the perception of me in the eyes of others. Only makes sense that many would also be doing the same.

  • @sagarmore3893
    @sagarmore3893 2 роки тому +7

    There is a shift towards having a quality of life, which involves being real in work. I think this has been pushed since the pandemic, and this talk almost predicted this shift in approaches to work.

  • @geraldsolley
    @geraldsolley 4 місяці тому +1

    You can tell he's been studying this stuff for years by how well he talks about it. He really practices what he preaches.

  • @artcornish3520
    @artcornish3520 5 місяців тому +1

    Sometimes I daydream about just quitting it all, getting an old van, and spending a year driving around listening to whole albums front to back. That would be the most authentic version of me

  • @blockchainbobisbroke
    @blockchainbobisbroke 2 роки тому +1

    The only way forward if we hope to find any balance

  • @finntwebster
    @finntwebster 2 роки тому +1

    Not just to work, to EVERYTHING!!!!!

  • @lacylahoma
    @lacylahoma 5 місяців тому +1

    I felt that point he made about really bringing your full, authentic self to work instead of hiding pieces of who you are.

  • @lanceabbott1994
    @lanceabbott1994 6 місяців тому +1

    The emphasis on vulnerability as a strength, not a weakness, is something many of us need to hear. It's strange that it's not a common perspective and you often have to go through troubles and experience it yourself

  • @eleanorrigbywhatdoesitmean
    @eleanorrigbywhatdoesitmean 8 місяців тому +1

    loved the story about him with his intimidating publisher! a very valuable example of how authenticity can be a positive if it's received well. I wonder what would have happened if the publisher was a male and not receptive to that level of vulnerability or authenticity. maybe not such a transformative moment?

  • @lizzaleleflame9967
    @lizzaleleflame9967 7 місяців тому +1

    Gap Inc.'s approach to employee well-being sounds awesome! 👌🏼🔥

  • @raewyngrezi7517
    @raewyngrezi7517 3 роки тому +1

    You do have a teacher like him, here he is, right here right now!

  • @samirahussein2390
    @samirahussein2390 2 роки тому +1

    I think for many of us who had a stint of WFM, going back into the office has been refreshing. There seems to be a lot more transparency going around.

  • @nyokakilemake2178
    @nyokakilemake2178 4 місяці тому +1

    This just makes me feel so sad for all the people who have opened up in the past and not been received well enough that they want to keep being vulnerable. Must be so hard for them to open up again

  • @vtyJr
    @vtyJr 2 роки тому +1

    “Vulnerability’s not bad, it is just hard”. So true.

  • @rickyohe
    @rickyohe 2 роки тому +1

    "You can't get to courage without walking through vulnerability." Wow I've definitely experienced this but I've never heard someone put it this aptly.

  • @owen-watson
    @owen-watson 9 місяців тому +1

    The 'Nothing Changes Until You Do' concept is hitting me deep, powerful stuff fr

  • @milagroczarnecki
    @milagroczarnecki 3 роки тому +1

    So Mike is an absolute King. Not only is great thinking moving forward after these last couple of years but his way of delivering this incredible talk, such ease! And comforting confidence. I like this dude and he clearly knows what he's talking about.

    • @samanthakatzalay
      @samanthakatzalay 3 роки тому +1

      couldn't agree more, ended up here after his other talk. forward thinking gentleman!

  • @shannonhensley
    @shannonhensley 2 роки тому +1

    If only all workplaces could use this model

  • @tylerkmorris
    @tylerkmorris 3 роки тому +1

    Only now are we realising the "whole self" has a lot more to offer then just the work self.

  • @elizabethbernard3135
    @elizabethbernard3135 3 роки тому +1

    Could be should be, bring your whole self to everything!

  • @salberntsein
    @salberntsein 2 роки тому +3

    Truth! When we don't have to mask, we bring so much more to the table. Absolute truth.

  • @raphkisento
    @raphkisento 2 роки тому +1

    Yes true, when you do - you benefit more than the employer!

  • @morgannfields
    @morgannfields 2 роки тому +1

    had never even thought that something like being real at work would make a difference but it would

  • @emmajchance
    @emmajchance 3 роки тому +2

    I wish more people realised how when we are transparent in our struggles, it allows others to let their guard down and be open as well. That would make the ultimate working environment, people would probably care more and be more productive.

    • @saleisalovic
      @saleisalovic 3 роки тому +1

      it builds community, no doubt about that.

  • @thesugarshackishere
    @thesugarshackishere 2 роки тому +1

    Creating a work environment that makes people feel comfortable and cared for definitely helps productivity.

  • @albinachatton4390
    @albinachatton4390 2 роки тому +1

    It's very worthwhile to learn how to be vulnerable, even in a workplace

  • @riddermartijn
    @riddermartijn 2 роки тому +1

    What an absolute legend.

  • @williamsmythe
    @williamsmythe 3 роки тому +1

    Mike Robbins is an absolute legend.

  • @barbsteele
    @barbsteele 2 роки тому +51

    It can be really scary to let people see your real self though! Especially if you work in an environment where people love to talk about other people and especially if you aren't even that comfortable with yourself

    • @TRIGO_ALLINE
      @TRIGO_ALLINE 2 роки тому +1

      Work is what keeps me going....

    • @riciphariss107
      @riciphariss107 2 роки тому +1

      When we bring our whole selves to work, we bring our unique perspective and experience to our work, and can develop sustainable behaviors that help us thrive personally and professionally.❤️

    • @nestermaratos1070
      @nestermaratos1070 2 роки тому +1

      What it does mean is that the “you at work” should also be recognizable to and coherent with the “you at home.”

    • @yaboimike940
      @yaboimike940 2 роки тому +1

      readings about how other employees and teams have overcome challenges can inspire your team to embrace authenticity at work. Organize a suggested reading schedule with weekly or monthly time-markers. 📚

    • @fortunaterbush8607
      @fortunaterbush8607 2 роки тому +1

      Bringing our whole selves to work means approaching our jobs with a sense of playfulness, fully aware of our own (and everyone else’s) flawed humanness. It means daring to be distinct.

  • @TheCookieAngel
    @TheCookieAngel 6 місяців тому +1

    In todays world, creating a safe space at work is essential.

  • @mangocantu5382
    @mangocantu5382 2 роки тому +1

    I am that person. I am that person who says exactly how they're feeling. I remember when I had my first day of work with a new company some years ago being so nervous and when I said that to my new colleagues and boss they looked at me shocked, then laughed "well at least your honest!" I didn't want them to think I was always that jittery and chatty....

  • @rmmuskeet3831
    @rmmuskeet3831 4 місяці тому +1

    "Be yourself, everyone else is already taken." Such a powerful message!

  • @shhhadowisme
    @shhhadowisme 2 роки тому +3

    Love his closing statement! I think that's something a lot of us don't realise enough.

  • @ailamacdonald
    @ailamacdonald 6 місяців тому +1

    The balance between high expectations and nurturance that he talks about is crucial. It’s about pushing for excellence while also supporting and valuing each individual's uniqueness.

  • @giuliocecchinato
    @giuliocecchinato 3 роки тому +1

    Being who you really are require a lot of courage. Courage I don't always have.

  • @hortonm554
    @hortonm554 2 роки тому +1

    This is how we lead by example - don't think many bosses would appreciate it though.