Three Secrets to Thriving After Losing Your Spouse - You Won’t Believe #2!
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In this heartfelt and insightful video, we explore the advice of three experienced individuals who share their personal stories and wisdom on how to live a fulfilling life after the loss of a spouse. They emphasize the importance of refusing to succumb to three specific pitfalls that can make your later years bleak.
Key Takeaways:
1. **Avoid Prolonged Grief**: While losing a spouse is deeply painful, dwelling in excessive grief can prevent you from living your remaining years meaningfully.
2. **Maintain Independence**: Over-relying on your children can strain relationships and reduce your quality of life. Learn to enjoy solitude and find new interests.
3. **Be Cautious with Remarriage**: Remarrying late in life comes with risks and challenges. Carefully consider if it’s the right choice for you.
Stories and Experiences:
- **Ms. Li's Journey**: From overwhelming grief to finding joy in life again.
- **Mrs. Hao's Realization**: Understanding the importance of independence after living with her daughter.
- **Mrs. Fang's Cautionary Tale**: The challenges and regrets of a rushed remarriage.
By embracing these principles, you can live a happy, self-sufficient, and enriching life, even after experiencing the profound loss of a spouse.
#LifeAfterLoss #HappyAging #Independence #SelfSufficiency #SeniorLiving #LifeWisdom #Remarriage #GriefRecovery
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I lost my husband it’s 19 years , every word is said itrue , you feel you whole life is shattered, I started trusting in God ,without God I wouldn’t have made it on my own, I am on my own with my children an grandchildren, quite happy, I keep myself busy doing things, thought of settling again never occurred to me , God had a reason for me to be alone, I am free to go or do what I want , sleep , cook , eat an watch tv whatever I want, I am quite happy the way I am ,
And you don't have anyone you have to clean up after or take care of! Life is much simpler!
❤❤❤YR on the right path-- ❤
The ONLY thing that helps after a spouse passes is TIME. How much time depends on the one left behind, but don't tell them when their grieving time should be over! That's their decision, not yours! You be patient, and let them grieve and listen to their stories WITHOUT injecting any advice. Just be there for them, and keep your opinions to yourself. If you have any good stories about the deceased probably everybody would love to hear them, no criticisms, keep everything positive and upbeat. And remember that YOU will be in their shoes someday.
😢😢😢 well ❤️🩹 put !, very well put! 😢😢😢
So very true
Perfect marriages or relationships aren't real; they're all different. What works for one person might not work for someone else. But I've come to understand that there's always a solution to problems. Five years ago, my wife and I were close to divorcing because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was tough, but we survived.
I truly want to find happiness as well. I have someone special in my life, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine living without her; my love for her is deep. I really hope she comes back, and I'm fully committed to making it happen. We've tried different ways, like therapy, to make things right.
Parting ways with someone you deeply care about is never easy, but in my particular circumstance, I was aided by a spiritual mentor who averted the collapse of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Thank you for this advice. I'll promptly start searching for her online. I appreciate it. I'm optimistic that pursuing this approach will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; her absence weighs heavily on me.
You should... I promise you will not regret it.
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I met a lady at church who was always happy, she had boundless energy. I asked how she stayed so happy. She answered that she was blessed because her husband had died at the age of 52. She said she travels, spends money without asking anyone, gets to watch something on TV besides Gun Smoke, only cooks if she feels like it. Saying that she dearly loved him but has never missed him.
I am only with my husband of 21 years because we are guardians of my daughter's ten year old special needs son. Husband is a narcissist and verbally abusive. I don't trust him with my grandson. I am slowly taking control of my money and decluttering my stuff.
Wow. There was no love lost there. She's heartless 💔
Believe you me, she is one smart women!!!!! Their nothing we can do but move on, your spouse is so happy and at rest😊😊😊😊
@@anablackford7457No she’s not heartless, she’s free. Big difference. Apparently, he was not a fun person to live with. There are a lot of them. Sometimes it’s better to be without them.
Honestly I thought something was wrong with me as I never missed mine once. RIP beloved
My husband and I were married for 65 years. On June 14, 2024 he passed away in his sleep. I am devastated. If it were not for my only child left, I don't know what I would do. I thank God for my daughter. God bless her and her family. It is terrible and my heart aches for the man who was my partner and my friend for so long, but daughter is my blessing.
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So sorry for your recent loss after so many years together. Give yourself grace & time. I wish for you some new beginnings. Maybe a new friend or craft, painting, you do not have to do things perfect to enjoy things, maybe visit a place. I wish you the best but for now go thru each day as best you can. Be sure to eat healthy & stay hydrated with water. Have compassion for yourself & you are worthy & enjoy the time you have been given.
I leave alone past 10 years. My spouse left me without a word. She lives alone & same with me.
r@satishnair8004 why do.the other (*I'm a widow)
Without telling me anything
Would u ever think why a man didn't say his last qhen inwas there a day before this death
Was it he may know he may be gone
Or.maybe he felt leaving world to the next without reminding or say last words better for his other
I cant understand why ..I took it as he was not in time and couldn't tell me..I felt sad?sadder..tan
I understand. Is not easy
My husband passed in Aug 2020, we were married for 43 years, I missed him very much, he was the first and last. I am making myself very busy, to drown my sorrow. Whenever I dreamt him I am in high spirit that day. I tried to live on the good memories. I do not want another husband. No man can fill his shoes. I eat what and when I like, I don’t have to ask anyone for anything, I am free like a bird and that’s how it will be until I meet him again.
Good for you! I feel very much like you have expressed. My wife passed too young after we were together 30 years.
Yes, my husband passed in 22, and we had been married 43 years old. No, I will not marry again. He can't be replaced, and I'm not interested in finding anyone. He was good to me. Why bother looking for someone who's going to be a pain in the butt. Until we meet again, I will always love him.
Same here my husband passed almost 6 years ago miss him no one can replace him we promised each other we would search for each other threw eternity
Happiness is what matters and one should be happy always, no point in drowning in sorrow or past ! Life is one great opportunity to do things , good for you and then good for the world! God has given you more time to accomplish unfinished dreams
I lost my husband in April 2020 after 3 weeks diagnosis of pancreatic cancer. We had our 43rd Anniversary a week before. He was a good man and I miss him terribly and I feel as you that I don’t want to be with another man. I have some wonderful lady friends and I go out a lot with them. It is lonely at night but I am doing ok. Hugs to you as it’s not easy!
I am looking forward to living alone, and traveling. My children are grown, and I can support myself, cook, go for walks, paint, I have friends. ...live your life.
My wife passed with MS 2 years ago after suffering it for 26 years. I was her carer. I live alone and rarely have any contact with my children who live fairly closeby. Our agreement is I only visit when invited by them. I don't want to enter another marriage. I am content to live alone and I walk about 15,000 steps each day.
So
Sorry my grama passed in 77 had no clue what ms was back then 🙌🙏🙌🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
Why do you need permission to visit your children. I live near my adult child & we stay in touch with texts, photo texts, emails. If I want to drop off something for a grandchild, a quick text or phone call. Emphasize that it is a quick pop over. Sometimes a 15 minute visit is what you need.
Thank you. Wise words. ❤
I’ve been married for 53 yrs..if anything happened to him,I’d never want another partner…I couldn’t be this lucky twice…I’m happy to read,work on hobbies, care for my cats..I have three living kids and a grandson who we have raised since birth..he is 17 ,will hopefully be on his own. I’m hoping for some peaceful time with my husband..who is still working! I’d be ok with living with my daughter,as we are both interested in the same things,but she has her life, and I’d never want to depend on her even if she was ok with it( and she would be)
In new relationships seek balance and retain your freedom. Learn to say no. Discover your own passions. Find shared values and hobbies
I lost my wife of 23 years and our 3 year old son in a house fire on FEB 27th 2023. I truly don't want to exist anymore. I'm 43, we were together half of our lives together. I don't know How to live this life without them. I've lost all my friends and most family through just my own grief. I don't want be in world that she isn't in. All I have is my elderly dog and she too is getting closer to the rainbow road. I've lost all passion, I have no idea what I'm doing anymore. All I can do is remember them and honor them until the day God come to take me to see them. Hopefully sooner than later.
🙏 prayers up for you. ❤❤❤
That wasn’t long ago at all
So very sorry for your loss. Please find support through grief counseling and prayers. God bless you with peace.
Hello David. I am just so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. No one knows completely how it feels until you’ve actually experienced it first hand. It’s a deep pain that is almost inexplicable. I lost my husband just 1 month ago. It’s the hardest time of my life and deeply painful. What is getting me through all of this is knowing completely that my husband loved me more than life itself. He would want me to live a happy life and being the very best version of myself. He would want me to experience joy and to celebrate his life, not grieve it. Thats hard, as my grief has been a throbbing agonizing pain, and I know he would suffer if he knew how much I was hurting. He wouldn’t want that, so I wake up now thinking of him and trying my very hardest to celebrate everything I learned from him. Celebrate his love, his life, and to celebrate my own future because now it’s different having loved him. I am a better person, a more well rounded wiser woman as a result of loving him. This makes him happy, I can feel it. I hope you can spend some time living in a way that supports some level of happiness and joy. Maybe your late wife and son would want that for you. I am sure you would want that for them, if the tables were turned. God bless you. Prayers for you….🙏
Stop looking back. The best advice the Bible ever gave is, don’t look back. Don’t invite heartache in, telling it to put its feet up and relax we only have NOW. Today. I lost my husband too, many loved ones. I’ll see them again. They wouldn’t want me to stop my life because they’re gone.
PLEASE Don't Remarry uf you have a home 🏠 n Finances Eat/Drink 🍷/n Live a happy Life sometimes 🙏 Hod will look after you don't worry Trust in the Lord 🙏
Amen 🎉
Widowed at 80, I joined a bereavement group and met someone who is now my life partner. We live separately, but have dinner together every night and occasionally sleep together. I’m lucky.
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All must marry if a partner is dead. Trauma affects others
Only if you have experienced it can you really know. And every loss has a different way they died. Some very traumatic. If only more understanding could be accomplished.
I have been on my own for about 30 years and still happy
My spouse past on September 18 of 22 I will live the rest of my years widowed my wife was one of a kind.❤
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Mine passed November of 22. I miss him as much now as the day he died. I get it.
I understand 😢n
You sir, truly loved your wife. If a person loses their beloved spouse, they should always be true to them. Only my opinion.
@@BobHolepit no my husband encouraged me to find new love while I'm still alive. It's my choice. I'm just not able to find anyone that could top him. It's not a 'should' don't assume you know what love is.
I'm going into my 5th yr of widowhood. It's still difficult. I miss my husband every day. Not a day goes by that I don't think about him. However, i refuse to be too sad. It's unhealthy! And i know that my husband would be disturbed if he felt i just was "sad all the time" and not moving ahead with my life. I have a new man in my life. I think the world of him. New love has helped me to heal. However, i will never stop loving my late husband and he can never, ever be replaced ❤ Blessings.
Your approach is truly inspiring. It’s important to honor and cherish the memories of loved ones while also finding ways to move forward and embrace new opportunities. Your ability to find new love while continuing to hold your late husband in your heart shows remarkable strength and resilience. Wishing you continued peace and happiness as you navigate this journey. ❤️
I lost my husband this past January. We were married 53 wonderful years,he is missed beyond words ❤️
I lost the love of my life on our 49th year and the day after my birthday. It's still very hard coping as I've become an introvert by choice. We did everything together and in the last 6 years of his life became his caregiver. After 2 and a half years I've become so closed off to everything. I'll never remarry because he was my one and only. Hopefully, we'll meet up in the next dimension after I leave my vessel behind, God permit. I feel for everyone that's going through losing their spouse. The worse part of it was, I didn't get any spousal benefits from the VA or his from his Seaman's Union. I'm 71 and half now and so depressed and drained from fighting these institutions. Can't wait to leave this life behind.
I am a Widow of 2 years , married 48 years and I miss him dearly. I'm lonely and cry a lot so many Memories , how to keep going. I worry I won't be able to take care of the house or Car. It's not easy, I'm still working on my Confidence. I don't know how to Cope, my family have forgotten me .
My Daughters are busy raising their Children.😢 So I'm going to try to Make The Best of What I Have. 💔
I'm truly sorry for your loss. Losing a partner after so many years together leaves a deep void, and it's natural to feel lonely and overwhelmed, especially when dealing with practical concerns like maintaining your home and car. The grief you're experiencing is profound, and it’s important to give yourself permission to feel and process it at your own pace.
Lost my husband 2022 after being married 40 years! I just gpt a puppy! Staying busy with what i want, no drama! No idea i was stressed till i wasn't! Why would i want a job (man), i don't get paid for!
Can never understand people that say they were blissfully married...and then they marry again when the other dies!
Easier said than done. I've never believed in a god nor an after life. I lost my husband 4 years ago and the pain in my chest has not gone away..if anything it is more severe. They say time heals all wounds, but it is never enough time. I'm so glad I had 40 years with him. But I hate these years without him. I try very hard to stay away from people. It is sickening to have to put on my "I'm FINE, everything's FINE" face. It took almost 3 1/2 years before I stopped sleeping little naps during the day and staying awake at night so I did not have to deal with people. Taking long walks in the forest during nights when the stars are bright enough to walk by is the only thing that brings comfort.
My husband passed in 2012, he was 62. We had been married 43 years. I had nursed him for 😮many years. I eventually started socialising but never really fitted in. I am now 81 and still want to live. I enjoy bowl's, skydiving, traveling etc my other pleasure is reading. I cannot find a companion, I don't want a husband. My age group are ready for Gods waiting room. Where do I go from here?
Where do you go from here? I would say: "Carry on fair lady, you are on a good path!" 🙂
That's great you want to live.
I'm in my 60's and iv found in life there are many storms we challenge and nothing ever stays the same I'm afraid!!!! I'm very lonely but sadly there are many others like us!!!!! I just live for the little things in life now and any thing after that is a bonus to me!!!! Every one's out for them selfs these days as we are now living in our last days!!! TIMOTHY 2V3 -- OUR LAST DAYS 😢---- I'm very lonely and I try my best to keep my self busy-- I modervate my self to get up early and leave my house for a coffee ☕️ at a near by Cafe and a read of the paper-- I then go on my power walk for 45 mins-- I love op shopping and love juses--- I read bible scripts and draw my time in getting to know juses!!! Our only real victory is in christ juses as there is no other!!! Juses is coming bck so there's alot to look forward to when I'm one day givn my wings to fly home !!!!! People don't give you happiness so iv found my own happiness in doing the things I like in life!!!! I have a roof over my head so I'm g8 full for that as there's alot of less unfortunate people in this world than my self!!!!!! People iv got to know frm the coffee shop and its a start to my day--- the staff know my order of a mugga latte skinny milk 😂--- life is only what we make it!!!!! ❤
JUSES IS THE WAY AND HES COMING BCK SOON!!!!!! FAITH IN CHRIST IS OUR SALVATION AMEN 🙏 ❤ WE MUST NEVER COMPLAIN BUT SOLDIER ON AS JUSES IS THE WAY AND OUR STRENGTH--- WITH OUT JUSES WE ARE NOTHING!!!! WE ARE CHALLENGED MANY OF STORMS IN THIS LIFE AS ITS ALL PART OF GODS PLAN 🙏 😊❤
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I realize l made a mistake in remarrying after my wife passed away(1994) and l remarried in 2014( 20 years passed since my wife’s death) what was that time telling me and it wasn’t worth it, she doesn’t like my son and l don’t really care for family either- l realize another woman cannot replace the birth mother, there was that itch to remarry, what a MISTAKE!!!! So have learned the hard way, the woman l married, we are just married on paper, that what happens when you (l) drop your standards, we don’t anything together anymore, that too l realize that was a DRAG!!!!, l learned about 2yrs into the marriage? well l learned that she’s a vegetarian, the restaurants that we went to were the 1’s she could eat at etc l like the comment that said don’t remarry if you have your own home etc-another MISTAKE!!!!, Well I’m sure you that have read this you get the picture
I have been on my own for 41 happy years!!!!😜😜♾️♾️🐬🐬
You have never married?
Nothing in life ever stays the same-- we are challenged many of storms in life but iv learnt to adjust my sails ⛵️ and move on --- iv found peace in Christ as the journey just gets sweeter every day--- im blessed with just with being humbled Amen 🙏 ❤️
I have just lost my husband of 50 years I feel so empty and full of grief things will never be the same 😂
Yes I'm in same boat-- life never stays the same so iv had to adjust my sails ⛵️ and chose to travel on smoother waters ; with just peace and juses !!!! ❤
❤JUSES IS COMING BCK AND IM WAITING ON GODS TIMING!!! I MUST BE PATIENT ; HAVE FAITH AND PRAY AMEN 🙏 ❤
Some of the best information out there! I have a good life, but if I do out live him, I don’t want another one! I just want to learn to live, life is a learning experience! Replacing a spouse isn’t something you can’t do,especially if he’s a really good one…. finding a new life is a good thing! I love learning new things, even with my insufferable brain fog, there is always something I will retain, remember, even my old foggy brain!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's wonderful to hear that you have a fulfilling life and a great perspective on learning and living. Embracing life as a continuous learning experience is so important, especially as we age. Replacing a spouse isn't easy, especially when you've had a great one, but finding new ways to enrich your life is indeed valuable. Your love for learning, despite the challenges of brain fog, is truly inspiring. There's always something new to discover and cherish. Keep embracing each moment and new experience with that positive outlook!
@@BuddhaZenWishdom exactly!!! I think we also need to learn to live first with ourselves!!!! I’ve been fighting health issues for almost two years and every step of the my wonderful hubby has been there, I’m ver lucky! I’ve apologize to him all the time for not helping him more…. He tells me not to worry about it, we both took the same vow, we both meant it and how they weren’t just words to us, plus how I’ve been here every day with him!
I lost my husband in April 2023
after 55 years. In the beginning I felt so lost. Thank God for my family and grandchildren. Have been doing well and just want to go forward. I think of him always. I know we will be together again.
Sorry to hear that
This is right on point.. I lost my wife of 42 years.. I feel lost, but I am coping.
I lost my wife of 41 years in 2021. Finally got over it in the last year. I'm 65 and fortunately I have a lot of money, so I'm starting to travel all over the world
Alone time is fine but having no one to share your accomplishments with or someone to do things for.Volunteering to benefit other would give purpose,life has so much less in it with my wife gone.She was a good friend.
I lost my husband 4yrs ago .
I miss him everyday....I was 64 when he passed away....I ment him when I 14yrs old....you always think you have more time ...I've always been independent..which has help me though I think ..my adult children have their own lives ..I live on my own ...Wouldn't want to to live with them ...young & old don't mix ...tho my children are very good if I need help .
Learning to release them yet never forget them is the dream 💭 love and live every days as it’s my last day ❤
I am widowed 8 years after 51 years of marriage. Part of grief for me was missing the life we had both good and bad. I have become much closer to my children and their children .
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I am 57. My longterm boyfriend died in January of 2024. He was super special and unique. I am in grief and wonder when ill feel good again. This video taught me to not wallow in grief, have gratitude for the love we shared, and to choose life. I am working on it.
My boyfriend died rather suddenly Mamorial Day 2023. It takes time dear. It really affected me. Be patient with yourself. Don’t let anyone hurry your grieving process. 💔😢
I am a lot older than you but he was younger than me. I am struggling too.
Great useful video and I agree in full and I’m 81 living alone !
This is si true.My husband died the same day and time.Marr.I led52 years.Its so lonely.😢 hope yourdays and years get better for you and for myself.❤
Live your life you’ve been given a gift of life
Very well explained. Life is really challenging after the death of spouse. Sweet memories , unfulfilled desires & dreams constantly remind you. Void remains unfulfilled.
I lost my wife on 15.05.2021 during 2nd wave of covid when I was 67. I am still struggling after 3 years. I have full support of daughter & her family.
Loss of spouse at advancing age cannot be filled only one can try to adjust to realities & reconcile.
Very nice suggestions Thanks sir
I didn't do very well. It's been almost 7 years. She passed of stage 4 recurrent ovarian cancer 3 days after her 51st birthday.
Lost my wife of 38 years!! Nothing is good anymore. My soulmate
Thank you for this. Very useful information. I really don’t wanna deal with that stuff, and I don’t want have to answer to anyone
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My creator is my parents period
Please find a friend someone you trust to talk to. I look at the pain and know that my first husband did not die to cause me such agony , also to help him rest i made a full life for our daughter and m( looking back i now know i was running from the pain) honor his memory learn to smile with you passed husband , hug his memory ,hug him in your mind to make him happy. Don't pup your pain on your husband, life is rough, stomp on it. God less.
It sounds like you’ve been through a lot and have found ways to cope and honor your past. Reaching out to a trusted friend or confidant can be incredibly helpful, and finding ways to cherish and remember your loved ones can provide comfort. It’s important to take care of yourself and seek support, whether through friends, family, or professional help. Your advice about honoring memories while managing pain is heartfelt and wise. Take care, and may you find peace and strength. 🙏
All comments are not ok.Lifegoes on. . Stay alone,never get married. If lost partner no remarriage. Why to struggle. Live your life. Sources are abailable to make you occupied happy.
My wife died at 60 from cancer. It was absolute hell for a few years. Some friends helped. Then I met a lady from Vietnam and we have been together ever sense. So many guys when they are older and have no wife, expat to Southeast Asia and find a new wife and most are very happy.
How old is she, 12???
@@doctork1708 No, she is 60.
A lot of men end up broke also .
@@ZzXZ636 That is very true for a number of reasons.
1: Medical bills.
2: After spouse died, just threw their money away.
3: They have always lived paycheck to paycheck. How much they spent was too great for how much they earned.
4: Went to someplace like Southeast Asia and tried to act rich when they were actually poor.
5: They have gone through a divorce or two.
One thing to always do and that is always appear poor no mater how much you have or how much you earn. Never carry a credit card balance. Buy with cash. If you can't afford it, don't buy it.
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From u.k.
Or worse!
Seen it happen, 5 times!
I am only with my husband for 5 years total and we have not been married for a year when he passed away from cancer not even a month ago. I know that our time is short but our love is deep. I don't know how to move on. I am still young they said but I don't really care how many tomorrows I have left. I want to see him again.
Excellent advice! ♥️
Great points 🎉thanks for sharing
I'm from India,,a country where joint family was a tradition few years ago, but present generation wants money, property and comfort from elder generation,,but don't want to do any sacrifice for parents,, they openly say this attitude,,
Now I regret why I worked so hard to establish business and property for my children,, i am 60,, now I want to sale everything slowly and enjoy my further life which I couldn't for sake of my family
Just love this advice. Concurr 100 percent❤
Jesus fills the space after the death of your loved one.
things can never be the same and just like the first marriage. second marriages present many problems, one another's children, finances, personal habits....it's much wiser to remain single after the loss of a first marriage. no need to tie the knot again. older but wiser. companionship is another story, it can be very nice if one also maintains a certain sense of freedom.
Very interesting information!!!👍👍👍
Very very helpful advice sir
101 % correct...Never Ever think of second marriage. You are DOOMED forever . Absolute Zero.
I married at 20 yrs on the insistance of my dad.she died 10 days after marriage( drowned),after wards i made another major mistake of remarrying another girl at age 23 yrs again pressurised by my dad.she died after 12 yrs at age 32 yrs.so re marriage is a disaster in my life.
Lots of good advice here
Enjoy your freedom and solitude!
My husband died, after he died my son who is in his 40 took out all the equity out of the house that my husband left me. I miss him so much.
Geez abandoned twice! I am sorry for your loss.
So sorry!! How do you financially survive??
How does a son do that … if the house is not in his name that would be considered fraud
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I’m not understanding how that could happen?
Thank you so much
Watching ,reading ,listening to you,,i feel that “its me”,but i have to move on,,alone,,GOD BLESS ME🙏🙏🙏😉🥰🇵🇭It’s the,,trut? counts,,so impressive,it’s the way & reality of life,,Thank you so much,it makes me proud of myself ,,being alone but ?APPY &strong,I am 74,,👍👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏💐🇵🇭
Ll this is well till you are healthy, at far end days after 80 you may need support of somebody, whom you can trust and a dedicated one. No hired person can come near to these qualities. He may be a potential danger if he is after your wealth.
If there's understanding well, no material mater, no living together in the roof, no wanting to be spouse is necessary.... Only feelings to one other is required there... Wealth counting in which both are felt unsecured... Clearly discuss there is very important mater........ For wealthy state forward..
It sounds like you’re saying that understanding and emotional connection are more important than material wealth or living arrangements in a relationship. Clear communication and mutual feelings are crucial, and for those who are wealthy, being straightforward about these aspects is especially important.
I fear my wife's death more than my own!
I lost my 1 st wife few days after marriage.i married second wife at age 23 yrs.i lost her 13 yrs after marriage.i became totally depressed.
First of all , I hope that my hubby does not pass away , anytime soon .
Marriage is an institution of family, i.e., children. It is a good thing but few older folks enter marriage to have children so it doesn’t work so well then.
I lost my husband 4yrs. now and I sometimes feel lost without anyone there for me. It hurts a lot I am trying to cope with God's help.
She starts out good, but then the author devolves into complaining about her daughter and son-in-law!
This all sounds nice but much easier said than done. It just doesn’t work that way.
Better to be single than wish you were single
I don't know. I have never been married.
Amen
Why SE Asia??
Best ROI - return on investment. Doesn't matter where you go, the other party wants your assets and you want theirs.
Your investment in time and money is your asset and what you get in return may be long term or short term access to their assets, but you need to be happy with what you get.
@@josephyeo6966 Transactional relations. 😊
Widowed for 12y, depressed at the first 5 y till meeting a partner but we live separately for 5y, he didn’t want a commitment then I chose to be a happy single though sometimes lonely but it’s ok, far better to be a happy single, then a troubled couple anyway.
Why not
I pray you will not go on feeling like this
Easier said tgen done😢
I raised a family ,had a wonderful marriage and sacrificed things in my life to be fully there for my family. I am a widow of 12 years and will not be married again. I am enjoying the money and the me time. I am travelling with friends,eating what I want, playing sports and developing new friendships. It’s time for me now.
I. Am. 74 i. Dont. Like. Marry
Big mistake to get remarried to a Loo😂
Get a pet.
All BS. .... just bla bla, everyone is different. Let people grieve their own way..!
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Not doing anything for me has pissed me off the most an no money
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Do not Care anything about Margaret and her husband an Diane bullshit
Take the money and run!!!
A companion when you are older is fine as long as they are not, as the saying goes.... Looking for a nurse or a purse!
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I😢 Will Never Stop Loving or Thinking About My Spouse. ❤
I have a life partner after the death of my husband. No marriage No living together. He lives in His own home pays his own bills ,cleans his own house.I live in my own house, pay my own bills and clean my own house. We meet in the middle, and it works out nicely.
Congratulations.
Brilliant!
This is better than any other ways.wishing you happy times.
My situation too. It works amazingly well.
Makes for a great quality of life! Enjoy and Continued Blessings.
Married 58 years. I live alone. I live for my children my grandchildren and great grandchildren. I still grieve for one dear wife. I miss her so much.
Your wife left you with the gift of children. You are more blessed than some. Enjoy your precious children of all ages. They, although they not know it now, are blessed with you in their lives.
Iv been on my own now 17 years-- I now live for my grand children as my contentment is being with them--- ❤
Marriage is not what it used to be, and it is not seen as a lifelong commitment anymore. If I am single again, I would grief for a while, but I will not enter into a marriage or share a house.
Your loss
I think that's the way to go-if you had a GOOD marriage no one else can even begin to compare.
I lost my wife of fifty years in 2019 and it was a beautiful marriage. I almost died five months later from the grief and stress. Seven months after her death the pandemic hit. For three years I stayed home and stayed away from everyone including my adult children . Three years I met a beautiful woman who lost her husband after 61 years of marriage. We started dating and decided to move in together because we didn’t want to say good night and go to our own homes. After five months of living together we got married. It’s going to be a year and a half next month and we are happy so and thankful
@@George-wx9dj Your loss.
Marriage is not what it used to be that is a shame😢
Lost my companion of 43 years 9 years ago. It hurts still. Loneliness is missing the other self. Solitude is finding your self. Osho's words.
I agree 100%
Lost my beloved husband of 39 years 10 years ago. Was in so much pain I didn't know how I could still be alive. I still miss him so much.
Lost my younger wife after thirty years together in December 2021. Thought I was going to lose it mentally and emothionally for the first few months, but pulled myself together to plan a celebration of life for the sake of friends and family (and myself). The event was well received and, gave me closure. I agree with the points presented in this video. Have no plans to re-marry, and am in good graces with my former in-laws. My adult daughter is divorced, and an excellent mother to her nearly adult sons. She has a new man in her life and they are clearly in love. I am independant, capable, and would never inject myself into their new lives together. God bless. Be well. Be generous.
My masculine died dec.22...my.birthday was dec 27...he died 2022....it’s still,very fresh to me..sometimes I feel like I’m slowly dying inside....now I’m crying....I need words of encouragement 😪😪😪😪😪😪
@@shelleycharlesworth5177 could you please tell me how you made it thru...I can’t stop crying and I’m losing weight...need a lil help
So much truth and wisdom to this video. My husband passed 5 years ago and it was difficult to get to where I am today but I’m grateful for how I’ve grown.
Well said 😊 I lost my husband 5 years ago this August, after a very long illness. It’s been a long road to get where I am today, but like you I am grateful for the journey and all I have learned along the way.
Greetings from Australia 🇦🇺
Sending hugs and love to you. We are survivors! 🌻
Am a widow for almost nine years already, i still grief coz i love my husband so much and i miss him so dearly.
But life for me must go on, i live alone and i enjoy traveling and seeing my friends. When loneliness strucked me, i do gardening and attend to my little business. I feel so blessed with my four responsible and career oriented children and got one grandson.
I hate the word widow.
Or late . Just say lost partner.
I lost my wife at 56 in 2016(illness), immersed myself in my work,hobbies & getting my daughters through college I was completely numb.I had no real time to greave for over a year when it all hit me.I then began to heal.God sent me a beautiful blessing after 4+ yrs & now I’m happily married.I pray my story gives people hope.🙏🏾✌🏽
Marrying after death of a spouse, and in old age, is disastrous many times!!!!
If the person is mature in way that does not objectify their partner. Accepts that another human being have their own ideas, beliefs, tastes, habits and preferences.. He would look for the things in common that made him choose her and accept her individuality .
Why remarry. At some stage you or your partner has to face losing one or the other once again in death. Why put yourself through that a second time?
I have been married to my husband for 30 years. My first marriage ended in divorce after 10 years. While my current marriage is fine, if my husband passes before me, I wouldn’t even consider re-marrying. I’m old now, and I can’t imagine accepting another man into my life. Sure, I will be sad, and grieve, but I think, for myself, I’ll be just fine alone for my last years. I hope to be able to travel a lot, as that is the thing I’ve always wanted to do a lot more of, either alone or with a group.
@kgs2280 I personally think traveling with a group would be nicer, you might make new friends and you can share your travel experiences together.
This is so wise, as they would not want us to be sad and remember the beautiful times we had together❤
Divorced at 40, 56 now and never had anyone but my children now grown up. I’m disable physical and mentally with independent children. I miss my boys so much and I fell that I’m not needed anymore. My second granddaughter (4 weeks old) I’m not allowed to see because her mother said I’m rude and opinionative. My son has not say on this🥺🕊🙏🏻
I lost my husband of 35yrs...4 years ago ...im still in so much pain and hurt...can you imagine went to church together and you alone comes back home..
But i tbank God everyday for his strength for the journey 😮😢
Ask God why he took your husband from you so early.
Widowhood is hard at first. But once you establish yourself enjoy the freedom of doing what you want, going where you want. JUST be yourself & thrive.
Marriage is always challenging. Live your life in GOD'S WILL.
My wife Christine passed away suddenly 10 months ago after 47 yrs married I'm gutted cannot move i feel crushed, We never went anywhere on our own, We loved doing everything together, And now theres nothing i feel im just waiting to go, I love my Christine so much.
I’m deeply sorry for your loss. Losing a life partner after so many years together is incredibly painful. It’s understandable that you feel crushed and are struggling to move forward. Your love for Christine is evident, and it’s important to allow yourself to grieve and seek support during this challenging time. Connecting with others who understand, or finding ways to honor her memory, might provide some comfort. If you feel overwhelmed, talking to a counselor or therapist can also be helpful. You don’t have to face this alone.