We were taught to hold it in

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  • @joshuachavis1060
    @joshuachavis1060 3 місяці тому +363

    Put that shit in music and share it with us Brother.
    4 years sober listening to you and Upchurch.👊👊🙏🏽

    • @homesteadgamer1257
      @homesteadgamer1257 3 місяці тому +3

      I would listen the shit out a song like that. And I'd bawl my eyes out every time. This is stuff that hits bone deep.

    • @ELJEFFE904
      @ELJEFFE904 3 місяці тому +8

      Have you ever heard "One more light" by Linkin Park?? Talk about a song that hits deep. Go check it out if you haven't already.

    • @Avocadomushroom
      @Avocadomushroom 3 місяці тому +1

      🫶🏼

    • @jamesgreenman7463
      @jamesgreenman7463 3 місяці тому +11

      Kolonopin the song by Adam.

    • @jamesgreenman7463
      @jamesgreenman7463 3 місяці тому +2

      Some real shit for today's ways.

  • @MostHighGuy
    @MostHighGuy 3 місяці тому +77

    I threw out the meds and dug into Jesus, it changes you, and helps explain why all the crap is happening to us all. He is the only answer, much love.

  • @ZacchaeusNifong
    @ZacchaeusNifong 3 місяці тому +23

    Monday night I went to a 12-step meeting. In my head, I thought, "The road is too long, and too rocky, for me to ever get through this." And the next person that got up and shared some of their story, literally addressed this very thought of mine through their sharing.
    We can do this.

    • @robertK3371
      @robertK3371 2 місяці тому +2

      You're not alone brother. We can do this

    • @April_Luvs_MMA
      @April_Luvs_MMA 2 місяці тому +1

      No doubt 💪🏼

  • @twistedtypos2029
    @twistedtypos2029 3 місяці тому +36

    I witnessed my Dad cry twice. Once for kidney stones and the other was my pet passed and he cried when I was. He cried because I was hurting so bad. I will keep you in my prayers. A good man cries. I always taught him it's okay to be emotional.😊

  • @GenXfrom75
    @GenXfrom75 3 місяці тому +401

    I was on Ativan when my husband was in Iraq. I couldn’t STOP crying. I was so lost without him. He came home physically 3 times… but different. We fought through it. Still going strong 21 years on February 18. PTSD is a mother fkr! Mine is from sexual trauma. My husband’s is from cold, hard war. 😢

    • @breathless8075
      @breathless8075 3 місяці тому +25

      Praying for You. I understand, both my husband and I have PTSD . Mine from MANY traumas, his from WAR too. Hang in there 🙏💖😢

    • @homesteadgamer1257
      @homesteadgamer1257 3 місяці тому +17

      Oh gosh, my eyes leaked. I'm so proud of you both for working through it and sticking together. So many people just give up at the first sign of struggle, and it only hurts the people that are abandoned. God bless you both.

    • @a-saltweapon
      @a-saltweapon 3 місяці тому +12

      GOD Bless you both! Sounds like my wife and I. Married 33 years in which 24 of that was Active duty. I can tell you when you return from deployments like that you don't come back the same even though you think you do. and ONLY !!! Truly strong wives make it through with their husbands. (so pat yourself on the back)After I told the VA where to stick their pharmaceuticals, we too went through some tough times. Have to ask GOD everyday for the strength and wisdom to move forward. Prayers for you and your family

    • @texasrose2315
      @texasrose2315 3 місяці тому +22

      I have PTSD from childhood trauma. I always felt guilty because I wasn't in a war, etc. A group of Vets helped me. I told them how I felt guilty about having PTSD not from war, etc. They were so kind and supportive. They even said childhood PTSD can be worse than PTSD from war. I don't know if that is true, I can't imagine the terror soldiers go through. Their kindness made a difference in my life. Respect to all who have served our country . ❤❤❤

    • @anthonythompson4110
      @anthonythompson4110 3 місяці тому +8

      Stay true to each other! Be there for each other! And ALWAYS KEEP FIGHTING FOR TOMORROW!

  • @mikehumphrey8702
    @mikehumphrey8702 3 місяці тому +106

    Just lost my woman of 17 years. 10 days ago man! I'm digging my heels in and grinding through it. Doing everything I can to make a positive tomorrow for her kids and grandkids. Do the same please sir! Much love good sir! And God bless!

    • @ManifestNMotivate369
      @ManifestNMotivate369 3 місяці тому +10

      Stay strong. I won't say pain gets better but you will have control over how you think and react to emotions on painful topics ECT. Much smoother to work through later. Be ready sir, the Abyss awaits.

    • @dklien6443
      @dklien6443 3 місяці тому +9

      Your fellow brothers and sisters are here for you ❤️

    • @davidwoody4040
      @davidwoody4040 3 місяці тому +8

      Stay super strong my wife got pregnant by somone I grew up with in 2020 so you are not alone trust me

    • @a-saltweapon
      @a-saltweapon 3 місяці тому +8

      Stay strong brother! You said the magic words "kids" and "Grandkids" .That is worth staying strong for.

    • @dongrammer627
      @dongrammer627 3 місяці тому +4

      What do you tell a woman with 2 black eyes? Nothing. Adam Calhoun already told her twice. 😂🤣😅

  • @esmereldamartinez9726
    @esmereldamartinez9726 3 місяці тому +22

    God Bless Everyone ❤who is reading this and watching Adam Calhoun 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽!!

  • @user-lk6vj2dy7d
    @user-lk6vj2dy7d 3 місяці тому +10

    This is way I like this guy no matter what he goes through he just speaks his mind god bless brother and your family

  • @undagroundhustla
    @undagroundhustla 3 місяці тому +162

    Love for God, Family, and Country.
    That's on my Granddaddy's headstone in Bourne National Cemetery.. 🇺🇸 rip MSgt Kelley

    • @tigercat73
      @tigercat73 3 місяці тому +5

      That's an awesome quote Brother!! Your Grandpa was an awesome person no doubt.

    • @chopper1168
      @chopper1168 3 місяці тому +1

      I’m from there and my uncles are there in Bourne mass

    • @user-sn6gr9wb4p
      @user-sn6gr9wb4p 3 місяці тому +1

      🫡

    • @undagroundhustla
      @undagroundhustla 3 місяці тому

      9 years in the U.S. NAVY and 25 years in the U.S. AIR FORCE. Hell of a man he was..🫡🇺🇸

    • @jasonsmith8039
      @jasonsmith8039 3 місяці тому +1

      Hooahh, GFC, ON MY FEET,NOT ON MY KNEES

  • @wandashaw490
    @wandashaw490 3 місяці тому +51

    Crying cleanse the soul, there's nothing wrong with crying and speaking to Our Father God.
    God Bless U and your Family 🙏

    • @robertray4428
      @robertray4428 3 місяці тому

      The Bible also says too much cryin makes us very bitter as well. Kind of like you cry to cleanse the soul. Do not be a person that cry’s everyday all the time eventually you become bitter. So cry yes but when it’s finished walk away don’t think too much about the situation that made you cry. Find away to make peace with the situation your in.

  • @behindtheseeyesiseewhatyou8953
    @behindtheseeyesiseewhatyou8953 3 місяці тому +3

    Adam,
    I’m 47 and I’m worth less than zero. I need both hips replaced, past due last year. Now they have failed and collapsed and I’m dealing with reallly bad swelling in my lower legs and two major vein problems. I have large infected wounds that require 2 visits per week to the wound clinic. I can’t get the hips done with an open wound. So.. I’ve battled. I’ve been battling for two years. Now my blood markers are showing rare white blood cells that could indicate leukemia. I’m tired but I fight. I cry alone.
    It’s a dark place with no remedy in sore but I must fight. We all must fight. I have no idea what tomorrow will bring but I know my pain will be there. I have no pain control due to the opiate epidemic… so life is suffering. I do have hope and it’s for my kids.. they are grown, 19 and almost 18.. but man is it hard. I was once a National caliber judo player and grappler and a 280 pound 6’3” monster . I’m now 5’11 due to my collapsed femoral heads… I’m an ashamed how my look and hope.. hope I can’t get help soon. I’m seeing doctors but they aren’t working together and it’s gonna kill me.

    • @tami-johutchins4816
      @tami-johutchins4816 3 місяці тому

      I am going through a lot too. I can't walk n I swell a lot...a lot! I hate going out cause of my condition n appearance. And this is just my physical problems. I don't have fam or friends so I am alone n must do everything while being handicapped. My mother was bedridden due to botched spine surgery. Of course, I don't think there are many good Drs anymore. When my mom would cry because of her condition, I would tell her that there is always someone worse off than u. It is the only way to keep sane. Also, find humor in everything possible. Turn the situation around, so that it doesn't destroy u. I am female but I never cry or rarely cry unless I am furious. I hold it in and always try to be tough so I could get through my situation. I am the only child n son was my mom. Now, it's just me and my cat. I know the struggles. And it is hard. But, crying is good even if u do it alone like me. Hang in there. I'm only a few years older than u but I feel helpless. Crying is not weak.... it's self therapy ❤

  • @bachatadivatv
    @bachatadivatv 3 місяці тому +2

    I’m a mother who is struggling so bad right now…. Definitely time to turn to God.. thanks for the reminder

  • @tigercat73
    @tigercat73 3 місяці тому +93

    Adam i needed this Brother im going through a healing period in my life. Awesome to hear you name God first.

  • @bmote48
    @bmote48 3 місяці тому +103

    Born 1980.... We were taught to never Cry, be a MAN AND TAKE IT!!! Is what I was raised on. I have a 14month old little Princess! So I totally Relate to ACal!!! A little Princess will make THE STRONGEST MAN my age Think Twice b4 going back to prison!!!! Love your content and your music Bro🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

    • @ItsLaurenE
      @ItsLaurenE 3 місяці тому +9

      Also born 1980. We grew up in a wonderful time, appliances were built to last, toys were better quality, kids did chores, mowed lawns, had lemonade stands to make money. I was able to buy my 1st skateboard and super Nintendo with my hard earned money. We grew up being kids not thinking about skin colors or orientations.
      Your little girl is lucky to have you be able to pause and think twice. She'll be able to love you through adventure, vacations, memories, home structure rather than letters written from a cell.
      Enjoy every moment. My 2 princesses are my heart and soul. Now ages 24 and 18. I tell them all the time it's an honor to be their mom.

    • @Glockforce13
      @Glockforce13 3 місяці тому +1

      Its fucking insane how thats the ONLY thing that can make you cry. A little girl gives you something to live for and something to die for. Love my little princess, only thing that could make me cry.

    • @jessespencer6330
      @jessespencer6330 3 місяці тому +3

      Born in 80 as well, your 100% on thats how we were taught basically. Kinda like jesse ventura in predator 'aint got time to bleed'
      But 80s were the best years to be a kid growing up. Everything was new, movies and toys were amazing, hell toys were so cool they even made cartoons based off them. Snacks were awsome, lol i remember when microwave french fries first came out. Pizza night used to be a big deal at home on the weekend. Rent a vcr, rent some vhs movies order a pizza, play board games as a family.......
      Nowadays is totally different from how we were raised n what we were raised on.
      We were taught good things. Even in our cartoons and movies growing up we were taught good things.....every cartoon had a good lesson and message at the end to teach us.

    • @bmote48
      @bmote48 3 місяці тому +1

      @jessespencer6330 put some dirt on it n keep Going that was My Father!!!🇺🇸

    • @bradleysimpson9819
      @bradleysimpson9819 3 місяці тому

      82 here we are of the last rough-and-tumble generation lol.

  • @josephlawson7070
    @josephlawson7070 3 місяці тому +10

    What do we do? We turn to God, we lean on each other, and that takes faith. It's written on your arm. Faith and love leads to clarity. God bless brother, we got this.

  • @marketmash6953
    @marketmash6953 3 місяці тому +5

    Thanks for this Adam. 25 years of fighting the inner battle for me. Get rid of that junk, and fight the good fight. Fight to use discernment, fight for Christ's strength, fight for the souls of others, but don't fight yourself!! Band together and take back life.

  • @mattlove2110
    @mattlove2110 3 місяці тому +26

    I cried yesterday listening to some Toby Keith songs. I drive for a living and had to pull off the road and I balled. Haven't done that in a long long time.

    • @deannacameron8290
      @deannacameron8290 3 місяці тому +3

      Cancer sux.

    • @mattfoltz7752
      @mattfoltz7752 3 місяці тому +4

      Right there with you, brother. That shit hit hard. Stay safe driver.

    • @CBaller2020
      @CBaller2020 3 місяці тому +4

      RIP Toby Keith. A man's man, a great singer, and American Patriot. He was truly amazing!
      🎶🎶"Whiskey for my men and beer for my horses."🎶🎶

  • @marcieaz1197
    @marcieaz1197 3 місяці тому +46

    For God, Family, and Country Amen!
    The struggle is real Mind over matter.

  • @user-sg9gq6ug2r
    @user-sg9gq6ug2r 3 місяці тому +3

    Anxiety, and anger issues are a bitch. None of the meds have worked for me. But for some dumbass reason Natty ice by the 30 pk helps. I convinced myself that there is happiness in every can. God bless brother. I feel your pain and confusion

  • @peteetienne5493
    @peteetienne5493 3 місяці тому +11

    I have been Borderline Personalities Disorder with PTSD all my life, I can relate with you! From prison, to now I had to get off meds, and learn to cope without them. I am a recluse now, married 26 years, MeTo-ed 5 years. Lost family and a reason to live. Hang in there! You can do better then me, you can learn to be better. Much Love Brother!

    • @Acheron666
      @Acheron666 3 місяці тому

      Have you tried psilocybin therapy?
      I have the same conditions as you and I guarantee you that Psilocybin therapy is a life changer for people like us.
      I take 0.3g (every Sunday, I dose with 1.3g) of dried Cubensis mushrooms every morning and it’s literally changed my life for the better……..I came off all my medication to try dosing with psilocybin and got immediate results.

  • @dougsimon9629
    @dougsimon9629 3 місяці тому +65

    Oh shit here first!!!!!! Adam you are the man. Please don't give up the hard work. We all love ya!

  • @johndeatley2146
    @johndeatley2146 3 місяці тому +51

    When I met you in Fresno California I talked to you about Klonopin and the song Klonopin and how much it meant to me because I’ve been taking it for 10 years to combat what’s going on in my head and that conversation I had with you that night help me get to the point where I’m off of it and learn to fight my demons thank you for that night. I appreciate it brother you’re very kind and humble man and I’ll never forget that.🤘🤘ACAL FOR PRESIDENT

  • @CREEKERMARIAH
    @CREEKERMARIAH 3 місяці тому +1

    Adam I kicked a 8 yr long benzo chem dependency- from Doctors.
    You’re a huge inspiration to me🙏🏼GOD❤FAMILY🇺🇸COUNTRY

  • @jimmysexton4201
    @jimmysexton4201 3 місяці тому +5

    Brother, if you grew up like I did you didnt have a choice! I wouldnt be alive today had I not been so tuff! I thank God he has instilled peace and patience in my heart and mind as I've gotten older because both were sorely lacking for many, many years! God bless and be with you, my brother!!!

  • @rachelcampbell9733
    @rachelcampbell9733 3 місяці тому +27

    Telling your daughter she is alright it is good. She needs that in her life. It is the security that having a loving father gives a daughter. Our society needs more of that.

  • @stanleymcdonald9366
    @stanleymcdonald9366 3 місяці тому +16

    Daughters have a way to humble a dad like no other

    • @coopnutz
      @coopnutz 3 місяці тому +3

      Mine Does Daily. She messages me Every morning and says NO DUMB SHII

    • @Ring0--
      @Ring0-- 3 місяці тому

      No woman, no cry.
      I can't handle nagging 😆

  • @Redneckdoortech
    @Redneckdoortech 3 місяці тому +1

    That was good bro. Thanks for opening up and speaking what all MEN think. I go through all the same bull

  • @user-gg1bo5kn3y
    @user-gg1bo5kn3y 3 місяці тому +2

    Praying for you brother......Jesus loves you and fix anything and anyone🙏🏼✝️📖💯

  • @WarrenGRamm
    @WarrenGRamm 3 місяці тому +60

    15 years sober, deployments and learning from a lot of mistakes like being physically there but not there. It’s all about God! Jesus Christ! It took me waaaay too long to figure out I needed my church family to go with all of the other stuff like sobriety. Read the Bible daily, go to church when the door is open, study with a man of God regularly. Be a servant. It has made me an exponentially better husband & father. Wholeheartedly recommend an Independent Baptist Church. God Bless

    • @Swearengen1980
      @Swearengen1980 3 місяці тому

      Whatever it takes. I'm 3.5 years sober. I did Church for a year, but I'm just not the divine believer type. I still go now and then because I do like the message, but man it's hard to find a good church where I'm at. So many of them have gone woke. I found an amazing therapist/substance abuse specialist a few years ago and weekly therapy was all I needed. I never got into AA either....quit going on my 1 year. I couldn't take their incessant whining over such trivial shit any longer. The last meeting I went to, a woman spend 30 minutes complaining about social justice and left the man whose dad died the day before 5 minutes....and no one told the woman, "This isn't the place for politics". A lot of shit like that where I'm at. In general you're right, I find most people need community. Although personally I'd recommend a Non-Denominational church. I grew up in a southern baptist church and the hypocrisy there, no thanks.

    • @michiganmikeupnorth
      @michiganmikeupnorth 2 місяці тому

      Keep fighting.

  • @jeffersonammon6823
    @jeffersonammon6823 3 місяці тому +27

    Tough day today and needed this. Still wont cry but hearing its not just me helps

    • @ACAL1
      @ACAL1  3 місяці тому +8

      Lol. I feel ya on the crying part

    • @just2bigballz
      @just2bigballz 3 місяці тому +4

      F that, I got yall. I'm crying right now, will drop some extra tears for my people.

    • @dougeisenhard6816
      @dougeisenhard6816 3 місяці тому +1

      Yeah man. No dude wants to cry. I feel ya. It’s alright though. Bless ya men. If you do cry, ya definitely gonna be called a cup cake though. It’s how we men support each other. It’s like free counseling!

    • @halfofmyheart3167
      @halfofmyheart3167 3 місяці тому +2

      @@just2bigballzsending love 💗

  • @codyskaggles4782
    @codyskaggles4782 3 місяці тому +4

    Amen my brother. God, Family, Country is exactly how all of us should be raised and how we should raise our own. God bless you Adam and your family.

  • @BSavageYo
    @BSavageYo 3 місяці тому +1

    It's is not what happens to us that is important. What is important is how we respond. ❤

  • @iloveschicken6527
    @iloveschicken6527 3 місяці тому +17

    I don't hold anything in anymore to appease to or look stronger to others. If I need to fart, I fart.. if I need to cry, I cry! Beer helps me get by... I just drink at home though.. no bars, clubs or getting in my car! The less friends I have, the better off I am. I have God, Jesus and my family and luckily some nice neighbors but I just keep them as that... neighbors. Stay you! God bless all!

  • @3jplatnum
    @3jplatnum 3 місяці тому +15

    I take my meds every day when I wake up and when I go to sleep. It's a stigma we don't talk about much especially as men. We gotta keep fighting everyday. Things do get better

    • @daveymills8751
      @daveymills8751 3 місяці тому

      You’re weak , throw in it the bin and harden up. , those meds are for the weak

  • @zeroneutral
    @zeroneutral 2 місяці тому

    God spoke to me. I am also going forward with a sober mind. No smoke, no drink.
    We need anger. We need to be intolerant with the benality of evil. Yet, we must confront evil with our sober minds and bodies and most of all, our spirit enriched with the grace of God.

  • @larrylucas5731
    @larrylucas5731 3 місяці тому +3

    I find myself asking those same questions. Hang in there brother and we will make it thru these times together. Luv ya bro!

  • @waynelagarde7956
    @waynelagarde7956 3 місяці тому +41

    Calhoun always speaking them facts. Much love and respect, brother.

  • @SCUMDOGFISHING
    @SCUMDOGFISHING 3 місяці тому +19

    They felt threatened for free speech............. and you had to go to court for it. The system is broken. Keep your head up Adam, and enjoy your loving family. They are truly the only thing that matters 🤘

  • @lucy0537
    @lucy0537 Місяць тому

    The more I watch Adam, the more I like him! I don't subscribe to much, but I just did with him!! He always speaks the TRUTH!!

  • @thechosen1515
    @thechosen1515 2 місяці тому +1

    Thanks brother, love ya bro. Stay strong keep strong. Your stronger then you realize. Stay positive and always pray. 🙏.

  • @countrygirl3458
    @countrygirl3458 3 місяці тому +30

    Amen, brother GOD must be the foundation of every family. He will carry you through the fire, all you have to do is ask. Love you brother and thank you for your honesty. Stay Blessed and prayed up!!🙏🙏🙏💯💯🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲

    • @tigercat73
      @tigercat73 3 місяці тому +3

      Preach Sister!! You nailed it without God it's impossible!!

  • @blessedbeyondmeasure6480
    @blessedbeyondmeasure6480 3 місяці тому +54

    Love and needed this today. What we do is Do what makes us feel better. I cry every time I hear your song Ramble I don't care who sees it. Without God we have nothing ❤❤

  • @user-ex8qe3gu5f
    @user-ex8qe3gu5f 2 місяці тому +1

    God is the way bro !!! God bless you brother God family country all the way !!!

  • @ckthompson7928
    @ckthompson7928 3 місяці тому +1

    Amazing what our children teach us...... It's like gods hand slapping us in the back of the head. I was like you , I would rather have fought than discuss it. Took 20 years to realize a disagreement isn't worth breaking somebody's face over. As you said fighting should be the last resort..... When they bring it,give em all you got....send them back home with a new outlook.... Crying is like physical pain , it's weakness leaving the body. Good video. Lots of us out here dealing with being taught wrong growing up, or not being taught anything at all..... Or just being fucked up in the head.... God bless you and your family. Keep being a stand up American and we'll do the same.

  • @LookingAboveCreations
    @LookingAboveCreations 3 місяці тому +14

    Having to say that to my daughter almost made me cry. That's when it started. It's not you. We don't work against principalities that we see. Deliverance. Cry in front of them. Go to the wilderness and fall in your creators arms. 🙏 ❤

  • @facelessqueenie8873
    @facelessqueenie8873 3 місяці тому +11

    I am a greenskeeper that just lost all my equipment and operators because of hard times and in the 80s, this golf course was built for the town's kids and families to have somewhere to go and play golf and swim at the Clubhouse pool . because it's a tiny mining town in the middle of nowhere...
    I have no clue how im going to save this course, but one thing for sure is, i wont give up. Thank you Adam. It's exactly what i needed to hear right now. Ps.. i was also raised believing if you cry or show emotion youre weak.. my father would antagonize me and call me weak, feeble, and his favorite one was no good rubbish... now i pay for his bills and basically support his whole lifestyle, and he still has never recognized that i am the only child who stayed.. because my mom loved him. I honored her.

  • @jimwilson9371
    @jimwilson9371 3 місяці тому

    God, Family and Country yes sir, keep praying.

  • @alekwick
    @alekwick 3 місяці тому

    Anger was my number one and tears were my last option I had to be tough all i had was me now I got God and Jesus Christ they’re teaching me about me and my emotions God and Jesus have healed a lot in me and it’s all their credit and glory and that’s truth!

  • @blessedbeyondmeasure6480
    @blessedbeyondmeasure6480 3 місяці тому +10

    You are a better man for being the way you are . Love that you let him cry.❤❤

  • @tanya41277
    @tanya41277 3 місяці тому +15

    Thanks for sharing. Someone needed that today.
    Men, take out the trash in your life. If it doesn't serve you....walk away. Only let the things that make you better get inside your home.

  • @Redneckerthanu
    @Redneckerthanu 3 місяці тому +1

    Ive gone introverted half the time i cant stand being around a lot of people i pick up on others energies ( empathic ) theirs just a lot of evil in the world, it’s very heavy i thank god my little tribe are filled with light and love!

  • @bellsg.3691
    @bellsg.3691 3 місяці тому

    I’ve been on Clonopin for about 28 years, I’m 51 years old and you hit the nail on the head. It numbs us, our natural reactions are somewhat gone. I can’t trust myself in public lol.. the way this world is now. I’d end up in court the way you did. Lol

  • @jsiebrassemusic
    @jsiebrassemusic 3 місяці тому +17

    My dad served in the army for 10ys. Never seen him cry until i was 9yrs old and my mom died and he had to tell me. Thru out life, my teenage years, i felt like i couldn't cry cause my dad always talked down to me when i did. Usually cause i was in trouble, but besides the point. So when i moved out, i drank those tears away. Fast forward. Im 25, my dad is 47. We both have learned, it's okay to cry. The Bible tells us he keeps all our tears in a vial. They're not wasted. They help us grow. 💪

    • @mattlol163
      @mattlol163 3 місяці тому

      i disagree.... i dont cry, not b/c im scared, but simply because it will CHANGE NOTHING AT ALL, it will HELP NO ONE, and it will get NOTHING DONE. Crying will NEVER change the situation you at crying about.
      Only action does.
      I tell my boys all the time, "why are you crying? Is it going to change anything? Is it going to help you feel better?
      The answer is no. Its a WASTE OF TIME to cry and it literally changes NOTHING about the situation.

    • @JennP.Can6316
      @JennP.Can6316 3 місяці тому

      @@mattlol163
      Actually you are right and wrong at the same time. It could be helpful for you to do some research on this subject. Sometimes not allowing a child to show natural emotion can affect families in a negative way later on as children grow into adulthood. And I would hope you want your kids to always feel comfortable coming to you and to be able to tell you anything. But if they feel judge, they would probably feel more hesitant to.
      All emotions are not equal but everyone possesses them. It is true that crying will not heal or solve the problems automatically but research indicates time and time again that it releases
      releases oxytocin
      and endorphins that kinda resets one's self. Sometimes allowing them to look at a problem more clearly or more accepting.
      Taking away that sense of natural emotions can impact the thought process later as well, and how one deals with certain situations. There are multiple benefits of crying, and The three different types of tears (look into that). But we should be teaching young ones how to deal with their emotions. Not, ignore them as if they aren't there, just because you don't get an immediate reaction or fix to a problem. Because they don't just go away.
      Now I'm not one for all this "new woke world "dramatic feelings stuff that adults are acting out".
      However we should safeguard our children's mental wellbeing or we will have a world full of uncontrolled rage, jealousy, fear, mental unrest, etc.... worse than it is now.
      I hope you see my point on this. Have a good day.

  • @MikeLandis-vv8jp
    @MikeLandis-vv8jp 3 місяці тому +11

    Hey Adam, it's ok to cry. For real man, it is. It helps a lot to let it out. Your kids will see you in a whole different way. And not a bad way. They'll see you as human, not weak. It takes a true man to cry, and even a bigger man when you let them see it. Trust me, they'll love you the same, hell maybe even more! Love ya man and keep them bangers coming!

  • @April_Luvs_MMA
    @April_Luvs_MMA 2 місяці тому

    You are such a amazing man, father, friend, role model and musician! Your words help many people, including myself. You through your music have helped me get through these pasts few months. I take the same medication's, It's not a cure all. All it helps but you're right I really need to start working out more and running again. Spending more time with family.
    Thanks, Adam. ♥️

  • @gatorsaw3315
    @gatorsaw3315 2 місяці тому

    Cant tell you one song he sings. But MAN I so get where he is coming from.. A good dude.. Prayers dude,, You got this

  • @krissynjeremy
    @krissynjeremy 3 місяці тому +9

    I have only seen the man that had a fling with my mom and created me in 2 pictures. He came from money my mom not so much. Then I had my first son and realized that him ,being a coward and wanting money instead of a son. He taught me the greatest lesson of my life. I have raised 2 amazing, respectful, strong men with my best friend and wife of 27 years yeah he may be able to buy just about anything he wants but he will never know the wealth of family. God ,Family, and Country. Thank you for all you do to make this spinning ball of disaster easier to handle. Stay safe and God Bless!

  • @williamsimmons2864
    @williamsimmons2864 3 місяці тому +19

    Good timing for this today. PTSD is a mofo mix that with all of my natural born tendencies to fuck up.

  • @oatsmasher8912
    @oatsmasher8912 3 місяці тому

    When my mom died a cpl yrs ago, i cried like i nvr believed. I cried in the shower every day for months. Still do every now and again. I listen to podcasts while i shower now to avoid the pain sessions

  • @nerdepreacher7787
    @nerdepreacher7787 3 місяці тому +2

    No shame in crying, thank you for sharing this, I had a bad PTSD reaction and showed this to her to help let her know it's always OK to cry, you helped facilitate a beautiful teaching moment.

  • @joshuaallen4871
    @joshuaallen4871 3 місяці тому +14

    Your speaking how I feel most the time. I dwell very much on people who have done me wrong and think many times what I should do to them. Then gotta remind my myself I like my freedom and I'm done with being locked up. Been off papers since February of 2023 and there is a few guys when I see them it takes a lot for me not to revert back to old ways.

  • @darrenhommell3414
    @darrenhommell3414 3 місяці тому +12

    we love you ACAL!!! GOD BLESS YOU ARE YOUR FAMILY!

  • @Cynthiabecker24
    @Cynthiabecker24 2 місяці тому +1

    Stumbled across your channel today.
    I was raised by a single Mum, and 6 older brothers. It does fuk me up to think I've always gotta be tough, not cry, push through, ignore emotions, but the flip side is....I'm alive.(And I only just see that as the flip side).
    I hope more boys see your message.
    God bless🙏🇦🇺💙

  • @sethhamm250
    @sethhamm250 2 місяці тому

    Adam is on the level. I’m 48 and just learned how to cry when my wife cheated and ruined my family. Wish I had not learned to just suck it up… not being a Nancy now… but those tears can heal your soul!

  • @jacobcaswell6462
    @jacobcaswell6462 3 місяці тому +16

    Thank you Adam I needed to hear that today ! You are 💯 correct on all of that .

  • @ghostlygoon84
    @ghostlygoon84 3 місяці тому +14

    Thanks for the Videos, Music & For Being Real! And For ACAL Clothing! Love It❤

  • @litlrikd
    @litlrikd 3 місяці тому +3

    This is by far the best and most real video I have seen from you! Keep working on yourself, Adam! Your family needs you!

  • @bryancurran8913
    @bryancurran8913 3 місяці тому +3

    That is true and the time I do cry only last 3 seconds then I'm mad again mad at nothing just can't stand the world but listening to your music and upchurch music make a difference in how I go about my day thank you for everything bro much respect to you Adam

  • @patrickhon8216
    @patrickhon8216 3 місяці тому +7

    Adam, you hit the nail on the head with this. So many of us were raised this way, and I empathize with you on this. You’re a real one, and I’m proud of the man you’re becoming.

  • @yourhuckleberry3015
    @yourhuckleberry3015 3 місяці тому +19

    Amen brother keep rockin it. I got my family, but stuck in a swamp. All the good ones moved away. Not much for family. But hell ya.. Got my GOD, COUNTRY AN FAMILY.. AN COUPLE TRU PEOPLE. MILITARY TOO. 🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @Thabeavster
    @Thabeavster 3 місяці тому +1

    Bro, I had to hear this. Military hardens you, distant family’s harden you, absence hardens you. I’ve got to find something to channel my “passion” towards and put an optimistic head on my shoulders. Any and everything gets on my nerves, and I carry that weight daily! It’s not healthy and it’s got to change!

  • @user-lc3vg8cq5w
    @user-lc3vg8cq5w 3 місяці тому

    Thank you for speaking on this. It’s hard to “be strong” all the time. I kept it bottled in for so long and then I’D SNAP on the stupidest shit. Then I’d start filling that bottle over again. Like you, my daughter saved me.
    THANK YOU!!

  • @leodell502
    @leodell502 3 місяці тому +9

    U can cry bro you stop holding it back ur not weak bro it a outlet❤️💪🏾🙏🏾

  • @timothyjones9863
    @timothyjones9863 3 місяці тому +11

    Yes this needs to be said!

  • @groovybearalexander7966
    @groovybearalexander7966 3 місяці тому

    I'm the exact same way breathe think and praise God 🙏

  • @brentlohr3394
    @brentlohr3394 3 місяці тому

    I was raised by a strict military father who taught me how to handle my anger. His advice didn’t always work but I gave it my best. Now well into mid age, I find myself self medicating just to get by.
    None of the medications I have been prescribed do much to help my issues.
    I tend to keep everything to myself. There are folks out there in the world that have things worse than I do, so let them find the light at the end of the tunnel

  • @camaro1139
    @camaro1139 3 місяці тому +15

    Thanks for reminding me im not the only one. I let me crys out in the truck by myself singing along to the music that hits the most. Thanks for the videos.

    • @tmartinez1948
      @tmartinez1948 3 місяці тому

      I cry every night when I hear a song that reminds me of my late husband where ever I am if I hear a certain song I CRY a lot! Then I feel better

  • @braydenspapi
    @braydenspapi 3 місяці тому +12

    Thank you for posting this video. Between your music and videos. You’ve helped me through a lot in life… keep it up, thank you

  • @zb4329
    @zb4329 3 місяці тому

    Amen brother. Iraq veteran with severe ptsd , been mad at the world longer than I can remember

  • @kingsleythedude1049
    @kingsleythedude1049 3 місяці тому +1

    Amen brother, God is good.

  • @stevenkahanek3824
    @stevenkahanek3824 3 місяці тому +4

    Come to ME all ye who are burdened and weary and I will give peace...GOD bless you brother... ✊🏻✊🏻✊🏻

  • @matt_arco
    @matt_arco 3 місяці тому +4

    hearing you say if your mentally fd up your not alone just helped so much, knowing im not the only one that struggles with this constant voice in my head telling me bad things, and thinking bad thoughts, then i snap out of it like what am i doing, i have a great job and family and GOD, its like i just go off down this path in my mind and have to remind myself to stop and say hey your making all this up, and all these situations, none of this has happened, snap out of it, your fine, i find myself doing this daily, it's rough but we can all push through with GOD on our side✝️💙

  • @jrberwick897
    @jrberwick897 3 місяці тому

    Amen Mr Adams ,thank for sharing your private life ! It is the way we was raised I'm a military brat ✨🙏🛡️⚔️🇺🇸❤️‍🔥🗡️🕯️🪔🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @UmbreyaSinclair
    @UmbreyaSinclair 3 місяці тому

    Crying doesn't make you less of a man. My wife taught me that, because I used to hold it all in, never talked about my problems, nothing and never really showed emotion at all. I feel more free now than I ever have

  • @cindyherring1998
    @cindyherring1998 3 місяці тому +8

    You hang in there my son and do what it takes that's legal!! You are right.. You are an awesome dad. Sharing life journeys with your kids and giving that wisdom if the best! Love you & you family and praying that you continue on this better path. Your so talented, and to hear you speak of God & Country warms my old 66 year old heart! Carry on sir.. With dignity! ❤

  • @buffiebarker872
    @buffiebarker872 3 місяці тому +11

    Amen! I really enjoyed hearing & seeing you be raw! God has you! You are helping so many people by putting your REAL human emotions, feelings, and personal flaws out there for all to see!! Keep moving forward and sharing your life experiences with your fans!

  • @sixteezchild
    @sixteezchild 3 місяці тому

    Yes sir...lots of anger issues to go around. And if you've pushed back anger so many times you cannot name, then what is going on today is highly likely to be compounding that already built up anger! My husband and I are mad too and we are both at home together! It gets a little loud at times, but it's never gone further than that. Some days though are very challenging! Hang in there my Patriot brother...we are going to get through this together and in tact!

  • @peterwilson9589
    @peterwilson9589 2 місяці тому

    Brother you don't know how much I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS!! I'm going thru the same battle I don't want to raise my Girls like I was and I struggle everyday with this! The world is changing and I'm Gonna break the curse on me and be the Husband/ Father God intended me to be! Thank you again for putting your heart and soul out there for us to do this together!

  • @hillbillyheart217
    @hillbillyheart217 3 місяці тому +3

    Ya know, I didn’t always like your chosen forms of expression on this platform, but the last two years I’ve seen immense growth and honesty…..with yourself and others. I’m a retired parole officer. I respect what you’ve been through. I think you’re doing quite well, but reality can be fickle and problems are part of life. As long as you continue to communicate and help others, you’ll keep moving forward. You’ve quickly became someone I enjoy listening to because you’ve thought about life in ways others cannot comprehend. Thank you for being so honest…and for striving to grow and showing your kids that mistakes happen, but you can always try harder. Much respect.

    • @cindyherring1998
      @cindyherring1998 3 місяці тому

      Retired Corrections Officer here and I agree 💯%

  • @marleespender
    @marleespender 3 місяці тому +5

    I really needed to hear this. Been feeling really bad lately about having to take medicine to control my issues. So many people lately are making it sound like it’s a choice. Sometimes it is and sometimes it’s just not. Thank you for using your voice. God bless you and your beautiful family.

  • @michaelmarro9214
    @michaelmarro9214 2 місяці тому

    Praying for you brother. I'm praying for all of us.

  • @BlindTovenProductions
    @BlindTovenProductions 3 місяці тому

    This is so true. When I was 10 my life was almost taken away from me because of a brain tumor, instead I lost my sight. 10 years later in 2021, I lost my Dad from "covid". The day after his funeral me, my mama, my wife, and our son got in a bad vehicle accident. It was bad, we flipped 6 times. We all could've died. During this whole process, I was Mr. tough guy. Trying to stay strong for my mama, who was grieving, my wife, who had to learn how to walk again because of the wreck, for my sister, who also lost her dad. I didn't give myself time to grieve. Now I can't cry. Even when I want to I can't. I did cry a little bit when my son was born on January 25 last month, but other than that, it's really impossible. It's a tough situation, and I pray for people who go through the same thing.

  • @ell1s_gaming431
    @ell1s_gaming431 3 місяці тому +4

    Been stuck inside feeling like I'm going to just ball up in a corner and cry until I die. Or I get so angry inside that I could fight anyone. Every since my dad passed away in 2019. I feel these things and then I see my 10 year old daughter and my 4 month old son and I remember that he taught me his whole life how to prepare for being a great father like he was and in those moments I feel him near me. Smiling and just as happy as he would be. I've never said this to anyone. I get it Adam ... I get it. Love you bro!!! Signed.... Just a small town Arkansas country boy.

  • @robertpeterson3876
    @robertpeterson3876 3 місяці тому +2

    All I can say is AMEN to this video , words can't justify how true this is

  • @porkchop2129
    @porkchop2129 3 місяці тому

    I watched this a half a day late and I think god needed me to see it now. You’ve once again inspired me Mr.Calhoun. Thank you.

  • @user-ze3nm7pf4l
    @user-ze3nm7pf4l 3 місяці тому +1

    I know exactly what your going through I battle with mental health every day and it's not easy...

  • @johnwurtsmith5306
    @johnwurtsmith5306 3 місяці тому +4

    Brother I'm 52 I was angry at the world till around 5 years ago I say down to write a book about my fucked up life and as it went I have a huge relief I'm not saying I still don't snap easy but I'm learning to curb it and calm myself down ( most of the time) God bless you and your family love the music Keep it coming looking forward to your country album

  • @foxxyourface
    @foxxyourface 3 місяці тому +5

    Say sorry to church, you built what you have on the kids back.

    • @foxxyourface
      @foxxyourface 3 місяці тому +3

      Those communist LA Canadians is hos , most of us saw your fraud the moment you joined them

  • @dylangodfrey8480
    @dylangodfrey8480 3 місяці тому

    I just had my moment of clarity. . . Had to check myself in and get meds, I've lost a car, a motorcycle, and my sanity. I noticed me being ugly. Had to fix myself. . . . The good lord is with us all. Firmly believe he's the reason I decided to get help and be the best father and husband I can be. They're all I have left.

  • @cameronegan7140
    @cameronegan7140 3 місяці тому

    Got charged with assault and never even touched someone. Your absolutely correct brother. The world is changing and we need to change with it. You can still be the man you are and protect you and your’s . Stay good