3 Easy Steps for ADHD Organization | ADHD Skills Part 3
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- Опубліковано 18 сер 2020
- Disorganization causes a lot of frustration and wasted time looking for things. And it can frustrate the people around you. Here are 3 steps to keep up with your stuff - Place, Retrieve and Return.
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The starting point for organization is making a place for everything. Even small things have a designated place. This can be a drawer for your pens, a container for your mail and a hook for your keys.
When you have organizational problems, the tendency is to want to keep things within reach. So you may have a lot of clutter lying about, but you feel you need it to look like that so you can keep up with things. Well when you are assigning your places, you do want to have the things you use most often in the most convenient place or within easy view. But the placement of things needs to be a little more intentional.
Once you decide where things should go, you have to commit to putting them back in their place right after you use them. So when you need something, you go retrieve it from it’s place, then you immediately return it when you’re done.
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Dr. Marks, I find your videos to be extremely helpful and informative. My doctor and I are thinking I may have BPD and/ or ADHD. I keep reading about a correlation between the two. Can you please help me understand how these conditions may be related?
Love this!!!! 😍 Thank you!!!
I'll start from the start but is there a decluttering video? We really need one 🥺
i realize I'm kinda randomly asking but does anyone know of a good place to watch newly released movies online?
@Dane Zechariah Thank you, signed up and it seems like they got a lot of movies there :) Appreciate it !!
My biggest mistake is setting something down and thinking I'll remember that place easy, no problem, and then 2 minutes later I will have completely forgotten it. Gets me all the time.
It always seems so logical at the time "there's no way I'll forget with it right there"... - forgets
My is almost 4 month my brain is devastating am very sad
Get some kind of location device like a Tile or something else. My sister got me one for Christmas because I never would spend the money on myself. I cannot begin to tell you how much stress this little thing has saved me from. I never look for my keys anymore. However, telling people with ADHD that they just need to change the way they think and plan, retrieve and return is like telling people with ADHD they just need to pick up after themselves. Sorry, I just don’t find that even remotely helpful. There are helpful therapists out there who have ADHD themselves and have real solutions that work for people that have ADHD. I don’t think this doctor is one of those. The place, retrieve, return suggestion alone puts me in doubt of everything else she may have to say. I want to say “really? That’s what I’ve been doing wrong all this time?! Gee, thanks doc. I am cured! “
And I don't know how every time i trust my memory again and believe that no, of course i will never forget about it 😂
I intentionally put things in a 'safe place' then forget what the safe place is.
The best advice I ever heard on organization is, when deciding on where an item's home will be, ask yourself "where would be the first place I would look for this?" That's where you should keep it.
Unless you can think of 5 places that make sense... lol
@@divinetrouble66 LOL, yes, very true! 😆🤣
I have found some items are good to have in a few different places, like scissors!
Good idea thanks.
@@MsShutterbug777 You're welcome, but I can't take credit for it... I think I heard it from Dana on "A Slob Comes Clean" here on UA-cam... she has awesome ideas for decluttering and organizing for our type of brains! I'm pretty sure she has ADHD, but I've never heard her mention it. Also, Cas from "Clutterbug" (she actually has ADHD too!) and "The Minimal Mom" who doesn't have ADHD, but has refreshing ideas/thoughts about all the unnecessary stuff we all have!
@@SweetStuffOnMonarchLane maybe a few small kids scissors? 1 for each spot.
"If you find something like a photo book resist the urge to look through it" this is me EVERYTIME. I always look and then I'm exhausted after!
My mom used to get so aggravated when she'd ask me to clean my room, because I'd get distracted by every piece of writing I found on the way, or by photo albums. Even now, at 40, I'll catch myself doing it and think of her, lol >
I don’t have photo book 😅
Thiiis, I get so amped and buy all these things to organize my home--but then as soon as I start, I get overwhelmed by how should I sort everything, and then it's, 'oh look, that book I forgot about! Lemme just look at it real quick...'
I seriously believe minimalism is key with ADHD.
I hate the way the word "minimalism" has been corrupted by lifestyle gurus with little education.
But ... Yes. I agree with your point entirely. Routinely eliminating things you don't use or need is a great way to avoid visual clutter. It's been one of my biggest ways of keeping some control over my home.
I'm agree with you, I have ADHD and realized that less is more.
So do I! & I’ve been a maximalist with a scattered brain my whole life, until recently! Self sabotage is brutal. When I got rid of things, and stuff I felt so much instant relief that actually lasted for a change.
i hate having hoarder mania and adhd. i wish i was just born normal lol :(
That’s my problem I’m a hoarder type personality. My dads a full blown hoarder snd I have inherited it. I find comfort in collecting things. And I can’t let go of items I’m sentimental too. And I don’t know how to organize my room cause the amount of items I have are overwhelming. And I’m also unable to be satisfied with any place or decisions I make cause it always feels wrong or imperfect. Like I crave order but I can’t do that. I crave satisfaction and to have everything in its own place but I can’t figure it out. I may be autistic and I think this is part of my issue.
Guarantee after a week someone's going to suddenly remember this video and won't be able to find it
Lol 😆
It’s real
hahaha
Thank God for the history button! 😂😂😂
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Legit!
**Do not ever answer the phone while dealing with money, keys or anything important!**
This is my top tip to myself and I only learned by bitter experience. I never answer the phone while locking or unlocking a door or using a cashpoint or anything like that. Somehow the phone call wipes my memory of what I did with the keys, money, debit cards etc. And things you thought you'd done (like locking the door) somehow remain undone. And you have no idea.
So even if you feel like you're being rude, let the phone call wait. It saves so much hassle.
I'm 48 years old BTW and I only learned to do this in the last few years. Before this I got into some real pickles!
That's some great advice. And the situation does hit home for me!
it's the same for me, because someone called me as i was going inside my house i forgot to lock the door. Thankful i closed it behind me and nothing bad happened!
I’m always afraid I left the garage door open when I leave the driveway
Wait a fucking minute ............. how have I not realized this about myself
Good tip. To generalize, whenever a routine gets interrupted, bad things are likely to happen.
The part about not being able to find things and frustrating others really hit me deep. I lost count of how many times I have been yelled at in my life for not being able to see/find things.
Right they ask why aren’t you looking but it’s like I am looking I don’t see it and you didn’t give a good description of where it’s at. It’s always it’s in this room or on this shelf never very specific,
My dad's version of helping with the car was me watching amd then bejng asked every 15 mins to go get a new tool he would really badly describe. I.E. "get me the screwdriver with the blue handle" that turns out to be so dark you could hardly call it blue, and repeat!
Right! At first, it’s kind of silly or funny to other people. Then after the 10th or 100th time, it’s so frustrating. I always feel like everything is running away from me.
I keep EVERYTHING in its place. I hate a messy place, because it overwhelms me. So everything in my house has a place, and once I'm done whatever thing, it goes right back to its place. People call me a highly organized person, but I like to think it's because I'm lazy...it takes waaay longer to look for something than to just find it right away 😊)
I fully agree with you!
She is one of the best video instructors for adhd...
I once heard that one problem for people with ADHD or executive disfunction is having too much stuff. If there's so much stuff that there simply isn't room to organize and have a spot for everything, you'll need to downsize some things. That's what I'm working on today. 🙂
True, that’s why I am grateful that I don’t have the “collector’s” gene. I would never be able to sort things out.
I have tried to let go of everything and hope to build a VERY tiny house so I can't accumulate more
I live a very minimalistic lifestyle
additionally being unable to hold a job makes that accidentally possible 😅
@@thatnonchalantguy yeah. I have a chemistry degree but kept changing jobs because of all the paperwork. Finally took a factory job while I tried to figure out why I couldn't keep up with paperwork and reporting. Bid into an industrial maintenance apprenticeship at the factory and never had a job fit better. No paperwork. You walk up to equipment not running and as long as you have it running when you walk away no one cares how it happened
Nearly in tears. I never would have been able to pay for this coaching. Amazing stuff.
I’m in tears because I keep getting diagnosed with anxiety when it feels like it’s ADHD
I could pay for it and still not be able to do it
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@monicarenee7949 yes. They kept telling me I was depressed. I said everything keeps falling apart but I am.still pretty happy
This video is super well done. I know this because I feel very called out by it 😂
Lol! That’s a great test! 😊👍🏽
Lol! Yes 100% me too!
100%. It feels like she's here scolding me by name 😂
@@christopherrto wooohooo rejection sensitive dysphoria for the win!
@@christopherrto Yes because scolding someone with ADHD immediately cures their executive function.
I DEFINITELY laughed out loud when you said to refrain from looking at the interesting things you find....that’s so me. As you said, this all seems very basic, but as you were going through everything I was thinking “that all seems like a LOT of work”. Lol
I use a flashlight to look for things...It helps me focas on individual items as I search. You put into words what we ADD folks deal with everyday. Thankyou for that!
Hey...thats a great idea very creative iwish i thought of that. Thinking about it...yeah...it would help with focus. Im going to try that..
Yeah thats sounds like its worth a shot 👍
Omg I’m gonna do that. But I might use a stick or wand instead.
Genius! Thanks for the tip!
I have another revolutionary suggestion, that helped me a lot and hopefully could help a lot of you:
If you have a ton of documents, go ahead and scan them using a scanning app on your phone, and then save them onto a Google drive file.
You wanna name the document files something short, simple, and obviously relevant.
Take your time with this. It took me 6 months to abolish the mountains of papers I had. Now, I can find almost any document instantaneously AND I have a full emtpy closet and a lot more space.
Extra tip: also scan and back-up important documents such as your passport. Its always good to have a copy of that in a secure place, and to be able to retrieve its information with your phone.
Smartphones can be so useful in things like these.
Thank you!
Thanks
How do u prevent from account getting getting hacked?(my biggest fear)
Do you change your password every often?
Agreed! Especially when I went through the whole house to find a paper just yesterday... Until I looked in "important stuff" pile. Have been thinking honestly that using Google Drive for storage is a solution, not that I ever actually did it. :( Also, that paper I searched for yesterday, I had converted it in a PDF but I'll need to show the original tomorrow so I'm stuck having to keep some physical papers.
It's easy to make a backup with your phone but I wouldn't leave an identity theft risk on the phone or even in Google drive. Use a USB harddrive. There are phone thumb drives and you can instantly backup photos of documents without leaving them accessible through the internet.
These videos crack me up. People that don’t have ADHD don’t get it but every time she talks about something I do, it cracks me up. It’s like a total stranger understands me more than people I have known my whole life.
Just the concept of someone being able to just do this without thinking about it 10000 times blows my mind..... 😂🤯
I'm finding that having what I call 'clutter baskets' at strategic points through my house is really helping me with this aspect of my adhd. Putting things away where they came from is sometimes too much so dumping it in a basket in clear view means that I'm A. Less likely to misplace things and when I can focus on cleaning up I can just take the basket and put things back later.
Hey there you might be onto something! I may use this as a first step for helping my issue!
When you show that garage picture my mind would want to start exploring everything, seeing what's inside the drawers and boxes. I would get lost in distraction.
"And if you find something like a photo album, resist the temptation to sit down and look at it while you are organizing." I have been called out. LOL. Great video and I live by the "Place, retrieve, return" mantra when I create spaces for my teams at work. Thanks.
I don't know how many times I've looked for something only to miss it and have someone else take one look around and find the thing. My partner and I joke about things being "Cleverly concealed in plain view."
This is self help at its best. Explaining small things that a person CAN do is so much more valuable than rolling out gigantic, seemingly intractable disorders which we often decide are our "hard wiring," therefore become our identity. Mental disorders are mostly a matter of the behavior habits we have developed. Habits can be changed. And I often ask myself: What simpler things CAN I do, in the midst of all these overwhelming problems about which it may seem I can do nothing.
Yes, and it gives one a sense of control which can ease our nerves. 🎉
That is so me. I lost my computer mouse on my desk the other day and my husband found it right beside where my keyboard was and I couldn't find it. As a child my dad threatened to spank me if he told me to look for something and I didn't find it. Because of the very reason that you said in this video.
Sadly relatable. Somehow not being able to see something that's right there. Also it was wrong for your dad to threaten you.
OMG, :D your comment totally made my day...(laughing with you and empathizing/relating completely)...
Label stuff with a sharpie on blue or green masking tape. It removes easily so boxes etc can be relabeled if necessary. I’m in my mid 60s and this strategy has at least given me a fighting chance. For a more permanent label use a labelling machine. It’s a wonderful feeling. Also papers that relate to current projects go into three ring binders, if a page is needed for a phone call, the paper doesn’t get removed from the binder, you simply open up to the right page. That means the paper doesn’t somehow go off for a wander into the stratosphere never to be seen again. My life has been super complicated, dealing with various elderly parents etc; this binder system is what has kept me somewhat sane.
I use clear boxes for most of my storage and slip an index card inside on one of the ends with the contents written on it. I can see the label through the side. But, removable tape also works well, especially if you can't or don't want to be able to see through the box.
Label printers are worth their weight in gold.😀
I have been decluttering for several years now. I wouldn’t sort through things more than 15 minutes at a time. It’s just too overwhelming.
After a few years, I look for one thing every day to declutter.
It really does help.
Thanks for explaining why I’ll be looking straight at something and not seeing it
I've just started my journey to learn and manage ADHD as an Adult. I cannot begin to describe how elated I am to find this channel. Thank you for this amazing resource!
Wow. I am feeling very proud of myself right now. Without knowing yet that I had ADD, I studied memory systems in college (but I was 36.). I then developed my own 6 month/12 month rule. If I hadn't looked at or used something within that time frame I parted with it...just like you said. Many other strategies you mention I also developed based on learning how memory works. 😊
I have never in my life felt so understood. Especially with being blind to obvious things, and trying to focus on everything at once because of impatience. It is so nice to hear that this is a valid thing. I have never been officially diagnosed with ADHD, and that has been a huge frustration of mine. I am gonna try again to get a diagnosis next year.
ADHD Tip: How to Stop Losing Your Stuff
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Have a Home for Everything. One technique is to store items where you typically use them.
Establish Daily Rituals.
Figure Out What You Lose Most.
So true 😻
Agree with everything you said, but if I put things away they dont exist. Therefore I might forget to pay a bill or take my meds, or finish a project if the reminder material is put away (even if it's on my list, wherever that is)! That said, my clutter is driving me crazy, but I dont have patience to dig around and find it. OR I do clean up my coffee table but within a few days its loaded with new stuff. Mostly paper, medicine, stapler, scissors, etc since I work at my coffee table. Trying to do baby steps but it's very hard.
Cynthia Collura - try using your phone calendar and create reminders for paying the bills, for doing errands so in that way you don’t need to leave the papers all over the counter and you can keep things nicer
@@cincycindy13 Pay a bill. Oh Shoot. Thanks for reminding me Cynthia.
@@CaToRi- A Bullet Journal is great for this. (Look for Bullet Journal Tutorial by Ryder Carroll)
After watching my now 8yo son struggle with severe ADHD, I started to recognize that I have also struggled with many of the same symptoms my whole life (just without the hyperactivity part). Now I’m realizing it’s been impossible for me to help him because I don’t have my own symptoms under control. As a teacher, this is especially frustrating for me both because I want to teach my son and because when I’m in the classroom my own ADD symptoms cause many issues with consistency and time management. These videos have been very helpful. I’m feeling motivated to tackle several tasks I need to complete to prep for the next school year. If this works, I’ll have some tips for my son, too.
This reminds me of my mom and me. Except she doesn’t understand that even tho she has “managed” her adhd. Her way of life is so hard for me also adhd to follow cause she is adhd and it’s frustrating for me because she says I’m just not trying hard enough or I’m lazy even tho of all people she should understand. But it’s like she’s blind to her own adhd. She constantly looses things and always blames us and yet when we loose things it’s like i need to focus and it’s my and it’s like a problem that has to be fixed even tho she is the same way. I really wish she would listen to me and try to work on her self and her own adhd behaviors that make it harder for me. We are two neruodivergent Brains with completely different gears. She’s found how to live life in with her brain but she gets so tunnel visioned and thinks the way she operates should automatically work for everyone else in the family.
She gets frustrated with me hakf the time because of my adhd, but half the time it she down adhd that has her mishearing or forgetting or misplacing. It’s like she’s blind to herself.
Dr.Tracey, as someone who has struggled with this disorder throughout their childhood and into adulthood I am so thankful for this series and all your videos on the topic. You really are doing amazing work for people like myself who struggle with simple tasks in professional and personal life. Keep up the great work!
If you think it is worth while, could you make a video about some tips for people with ADHD and social anxiety? I am considered a great communicator with my peers and colleagues (at work), but I struggle to commit to any sort of plans or events with people I haven't known for years. I feel like it is hindering my networking abilities, and future opportunities that may be presented. Much appreciation being sent your way.
YES, I struggle with this, too!!
Me too! I watched her video of Avoidant Personality Disorder and man, does that ring a cord. I'm scared to commit to things and timelines. What if I miscalculated and have to adjust and then I have to face the fear of disappointing someone for not making the deadline?...these videos are wonderful. How incredible someone can see through the lens of so many people who feel like they are struggling and communicate in a clear and effective supportive way!
I love your series! My partner and I have ADHD, I was diagnosed in my teens, she has struggled her entire life but was never diagnosed because
Before, your string of thoughts and actions would have been
'I need to do this' -> Not actually doing it -> 'I really need to do this' -> Feeling stronger resistance -> 'I need to do this no matter what' -> Feeling self-remorse
But through relaxation, your action patterns will change as the following:
'I should do this' -> Not actually doing it -> Relaxation -> Feeling lower resistance
In such a way, you break away from the pattern of increasing your level of resistance, and create an opportunity to at least begin the work you need to do.
Nice
Thanks so much Daniel!
This explained EXACTLY WHAT I EXPERIENCE on a daily basis that I had no idea how to articulate!
Thank you!
@@loliluxe6618No problem. If you don't mind, visit my channel.
@@DrTraceyMarks Thank you, Dr. Tracey!
Honestly this really pointed out some issues I struggle with and it’s very refreshing to hear and see tips that are catered towards people with struggles like mine.
It’s frustrating to try and find tips and advice only to end up getting the nerotypical responses.
But this definitely sounds like the exact kind of state that I’ve been looking for. Thank you so much.
😂😂😂 I love how you speak on and explain these issues, perfect ❤❤❤
"When an object doesn't have a place, think of the place you would look first. That is the thing's home ❤"
It's so weird, I _know_ these things but still just hearing someone saying it to me again makes it more relevant today. Thank you!
Could you please talk about Rejection sensitive dysphoria? It would be very much appreciated c:
Its like you’ve been inside of my brain before. I hate being asked to look for stuff. Its like I have a scanning pattern in my head that I always follow, but I always scan over whats right in front of me. You are wonderful :D
working at a library puts this into great perspective. the catalogue keeps track of where an item is, so if it isnt where its supposed to be, it might as well be gone
I was sprays a daydreamer in school, “tuning out” because I was bored. Was also the one who did assignments and studied for tests at the last minute. Since I’m “older” no one ever thought to test me for this ( apparently it wasn’t a “ thing” in the 70s). (I was diagnosed at age 53). These ways to cope with ADHD without mee Ed da are very helpful and info for me … thanks for doing them Dr. Marks!!
As with a lot of strategies for ADHD the key is motivation. I believe it helps to see this as strongly tied in to an idea we have of ourselves and would like to project to others. My place was kind of cool but also a bit of a mess until I started to regularly have guests and a particular someone that I wanted to have a good impression of me. Disclosure - this transformation was during a mixed mania episode but it resulted in me being able to get rid of a lot of stuff and then really liking how my flat looks. I get good feedback from this and it completes a circle of motivation. Now if only I could actually make myself reply to their messages and not turn up late for absolutely every meet up. Having meetups at my flat sorted out my being late as I was already there (mostly). I achieved a place for everything and can mostly stick to it although tidying and cleaning can often end up being done as procrastination for something else more important.
Yes motivation is a huge player. Thanks for sharing
Oh my gosh, Dr. Marks! Where have you been all my life?? I love you, lol
The whole "I'm just going to leave it here so Susie will look at it," 100% my BIGGEST pitfall..EVERY SINGLE TIME. Fantastic video. Thank you.
I've been experimenting with what I like to think of as task boxes. They're basically just a box with all the necessary things for a commonly done task. I can immediately put all that stuff into the box, and if I don't immediately put the box where it belongs, it's large enough and fast enough to deal with that it's not much of an issue.
It's still an experiment, but it doesn't take me much motivation to put the things into the box that's sitting right next to me. But it does take a little bit to put the box away when I'm done. But, even if I don't put it away immediately, it's still contained and I could put away dozens of them in a short period of time if I had to.
I started this when my kids were little, and I still do it years later. It really worked for me and is one of my favorite ways to be organized.
Thank you for your videos. I've been spending the last year actively trying to learn more anout ADHD, because I didn't know I had it until I was diagnosed and started treatment as an adult. Your videos are helpful. I avoided them for a while because the titles would make me feel really embarrassed. I'm a grown woman, and a lot of the things I struggle with are things I feel like I should've figured out by now, or things that only I seem to have a hard time doing. I'm glad I've started watching your videos in spite of the negative mental talk though. I'm starting to recognize how my feelings of shame are/were holding me back from finding realistic solutions. So, again, thank you for your content.
Thank you for this! I am always putting things down "just for a second" and then it gets lost! And I am guilty of "saving things for later." Great advice for my ADHD brains on this video. Thank you, thank you Thank you!
For all my important papers and stuff I have a big drawer where I make sure I throw everything in it. Even though it's all unorganized at least I know it's in there within the confines of the drawer.
When I was student teaching, I had a set of 4 folders for the day's paper work. Distribute, Copy, Return and Grade. It didn't take much effort to figure out what went where as it was usually pretty clear.
This is why I got one of those monitor trays for my desk. Besides the spaces for pens, thumb drives and other items, It forms a little "cave" for my keyboard where it can stay when it's not being used. Keeps the desk tidy and gives me space to work.
I love those trays
That's v good advice! I only learned to keep things in the right space through bitter experience, e.g. stuff I need for shopping stays in the shopping bag (a proper canvas bag) at all times, things like cash cards are either in that shopping bag or my jacket pocket, only 2 possible places. I keep little batteries for recharging a mobile phone inside the shopping bag so I'm never let down by flat batteries. None of this comes naturally to me. I'm still one of the most disorganised people I know!
I do the placing things, and everything, even if it's resting on a large surface, it has a specific place on that surface. This has helped me a lot with not seeing things I'm looking at
I really love how practical your advice is.
Oh my. So true! Thank you, Dr. Marks.
It is ten am on a Sunday and I am being DRAGGED. This Place, Retrieve, Return concept is great...!!!!! Thank you!
Thank you Dr Marks. For keeping it real
I am very thankful for your videos. Thank you Dr. Tracey Marks.
This woman is a savior!
Hello Dr. Tracey. Thank you for sharing and caring.
You’re so welcome Robert 😊❤️
I've been doing place, retrieve, and return for years, before I was aware of adhd, or that I even had it! Glad to know it's a viable strategy.
Absolutely correct. It's like giving myself helpers.
Thank you so much for posting this playlist - good advice, clearly explained. Brilliant!
The way she clearly communicates is sooo beautiful 🤩
I sent your ADHD videos to my family members with ADHD and they said it was really helpful to have everything broken down like this. Thanks for these!
Great tips. I also have a Tile which comes in handy when I can’t find my keys due to the fact that they aren’t on the hook they’re supposed to be on. It makes a loud ringing sound so I can find it. Usually I set them down somewhere and forgot about it, just like you said Dr. Tracy!
Yes, buying a tile and putting it on your keychain is actually a helpful suggestion. Telling someone with ADHD to have a hook for their key is laughable. I’ve had a hook for my key since the beginning of time with every intention of returning it to the hook as soon as I walk in the door. Does that happen? Hell no. Why doesn’t that happen? Because I have ADHD. You really want to improve a person with ADHD‘s life provide them with suggestions that are going to work with their brain instead of telling them to just change the way their brain works.
@@Paula_Shelton Having a hook is definitely not going to work. I'd recommend having a key bowl or similar so that you can just toss it in there when you get home and be done with it. I've rarely had issues misplacing my keys because I tend to just leave them on the closest horizontal surface to the door. Or, back in my pocket.
Better than a hook, but worse than a bowl, would be one of those magnetic bars that idiots use to hold their knives. Dangerous with knives, but quick and convenient with keys.
@@SmallSpoonBrigade A row of hooks at the back of the door works for me - except, of course, when my other half moves the key I need to one of the other hooks, and it becomes invisible.
Helpful, not just for people with ADHD but they could be helpful for anyone else. Thank you! ❤️
You're welcome Amelia!
I feel validated knowing why I do the things I do. And also, I feel horrible with my expectations of others in my family that also wrestle with these issues. Thank you for your smart insights. And I like your crisp clear voice and enunciation. It makes me happy to hear you talk.
I have self diagnosed autism. Now I'm thinking it's ADHD .I have a terrible time with organization and tidyness. I'll go several days fine,then it all falls apart.
Thanks so much for this video. I have a corner of my room that is my dumping ground. I'm going to spend the time to organize and weed out stuff I no longer need.
A place for everything and everything in it's place!😊
Thank You !!! Finally someone who actually understands the issues. It’s so hard to describe to others. I had truly fallen down the rabbit hole the past few years. To an extent that I didn’t feel like I could climb out of it. I’m really trying to figure things out. You not only give good advice, even just the understanding and acknowledgment that I/we are not just lazy or insane is uplifting. Thanks again. 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏
Just sending loves for your work which is so helpful and encouraging. Thank you!!! Grateful for your commitment and defication.
You are a gift from above. 100%. Thank you! I am so grateful to have found your channel. I have watched about 4 or so of your videos and already feel like you get me lol. Thank you for easing my mind and for the OUTSTANDING tips and confirmations. I look forward to watching and learning more from you.
Organizing is so hard because of the time it takes and the overwhelm it brings not knowing where to start. But breaking it down into bite size tasks does help. But also, when finished it really helps. I know exactly where something is and also the visual clutter is gone. Plus just having the things that I actually use help. Purging over the last few years has been a game changer. I’m not into minimalism but do find essentialism to be the perfect balance.
Thank you so much for this video. I started to do this on my own cuz I realized that I needed organization but this solidified that I’m doing the right thing and it actually works. I still have my days where I don’t want to function but I pay for the next day when I need something or want to cook or draw.
Thank u so much, I love this video. You have such a good voice! Its serious enough to convey importance without being harsh, while also maintaining a genuine care for whoever is watching!
I feel so relieved to have found Dr. Tracey Marks - was led here through a facebook group I'm in. She really understands (and doesn't shame) people with ADHD - her tips make sense.
Bless this Lady 🙏🏻 she’s doing Gods work
I literally prayed to God like today for a video that helped people like me with time management and organization and here you are 🤯
I absolutely need this skill ... Thank you 😊.
Thank you, Dr. Marks. Your videos are so wonderful.
Organization is the only "ADHD monster" I managed to tame, but I'm very proud of it :D
I started as a teen and was lucky to grow up during a Marie Kondo/minimalism/organization craze and learned a lot. I didn't even know I had ADHD back then, I just knew I was messy and lived with messy parents in a small house. I got so organized that I could call my mom and say "Go to my room, second drawer on my desk, on the left side, box with yellow lid, there's a notepad there, what does it say on the last written page?", ahahaha!
The "organizing space" skill has been seized. Now I need to learn how to organize time (planning/schedule) :) A bit harder, as I can't see 👀 time. I will try to make it more visual (clocks, timers, etc) and go from there :D
Timers and alarms, my friend. Keep a journal with you and write down how long your regular tasks take. Learning that I can mop the whole house in ten minutes, because I set a timer, was an eye opener.
@@azlizzie That requires me to remember to start the timer and also that I manage to do the task without getting distracted and just starting sown thing else 😂 I know so many of the tips and hacks, but it's still a struggle. I'm getting better, tho. I do try to track things and getting a digital watch that allows me to set countdowns is a godsend. I usually get distracted in the shower, for example, but if I set a 10 minute timer in the beginning, it helps me keep a bit more on time. I set if for a lot of things: 5 minutes for my coffee brewing, 10 for rice cooking, 30 to do a task I enjoy but it's not urgent, 45 to solve a problem before taking a break, etc. ☺️
@@MituDjakarian i hear you. Seeing my list isn't the same as being able to start doing any of the things on the list. I nearly always require a body double for boring required tasks.
I like the before and after pictures idea, sometime I'll be cleaning/tidying for a while and when I'm done it doesn't feel like I've done much even if I have.
Something that helped me a lot with the specific example of phone, wallet, and keys, is having a wireless phone charger. My phone is placed there daily, and if I ever need it, I don't have to unplug it, I can just grab it, and return it. My keys hang on a little, brass, butterfly hook and my wallet is set on the table underneath the keys. I have a friend that has a mat in front of the door that says "Phone, Wallet, Keys" to remind her of each on the way out. I love that idea too!
You and this playlist is a godsend.
I'm a Registered Nurse of 36 years. You are A SUPERB educator! You get right to the meat on topics with clear easy to understand descriptions and examples. The education, and recommendations within this video are spot on!
Great feedback. This is great for my clients working on improving concentration and memory building.💛
It's as if she was talking directly to me. I have my watch on again now and bought some planners on Amazon. Thank you 👍🏼🙏🏼
THANK YOU !! My husband must listen to this , hearing it from a doctor might register in his head .
I showed this video to my boyfriend this afternoon after watching it last night as so many things rang true! He nodded sheepishly along the whole way through and has already started to find places for things is and trying to remember to put them back. He even pulled me up on leaving something out of its place just now! Hope this sticks as it will save so much wasted time trying to locate stuff - for him and me 😅 thank you!
Thank You Dr. Marks.
I was never told I was ADHD but my problem is I scatter things everywhere and sometimes hide things, me thinking it will get stolen or it’s in a safer place. But I’ll forget where I put things and take up my day looking for something till I find it.
Thank you again :D. Another section to add to my list. The breaking into chunks works, but I'm still having trouble not looking through things 😅
Thank you for this video, and accompanying Playlist. I'm a 42 yo electrician who started suffering from severe anxiety about a year ago. I've been struggling with organizational abilities and will be referencing the guides in your videos. Thank you.
Your really a good teacher and I appreciate your videos! Keep up the good work! ❤
Thanks so much for sharing your series on non-medication ways of working through executive function skills in ADHD. Loved how you are able to share advice that we can put into practice immediately. I definitely struggle with planning and organizing my tasks for the day, week and month ahead. Had a recent Aha moment that my typical to-do-list actually covers a month's worth of efforts. Would love to see more of your videos in this regard, towards developing these skills. Executive function skills is so poorly understood, yours is one of the few ones that really connected with your audience so strongly.
Good sharing Dr Tracey Marks. Thank you 👍
Good day. I just wanted to share how brilliant ALL of your videos are 👍👍👍
They've helped me a great deal with my ADHD, severe anxiety, and depression.
YOU are AWESOME!!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH 😍
I have my share of clutter like all of us, but there are a few items that i need on a daily basis that need to be in the same place all the time.
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I own 9 lint rollers because of this..... Tracy is out there saving us. 🙌 😅 I only got my diagnosis at 40 bc my partner could tell my NP "yeah we don't have doors on the kitchen cabinets and he can't remember what month it is half the time, let alone day.... or his work passwords. Please help." 🙏 😅
Very good info. My brain went to organizing daily tasks and I didn't think of this in a literal spacial setting when clicking the video for some reason.
God bless you Dr!! 💗 Even when Walmart is 100 times bigger than my house, I can find things easier at the store but not in my house. My ADD husband is always misplacing things and he can’t remember even minutes later where he left them. So lately, I’d rather go to the store and buy things again instead of a wild goose chase in my house that will take me hours without any luck