HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE by Dale Carnegie | Animated Core Message
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Animated core message from Dale Carnegie's book 'How to Win Friends and Influence People.'
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This book changed my life. The greatest lesson I got from the book was not to talk behind someone's back or negatively (ever). This single greatest tip I've received
true never do that!!! They will link everything you say about that person to you.
*For those looking for notes* :
1. _Be Genuinely interested in people._
2. _Ask for advice._
3. _Offer praise._
ok, good one
that was great. thank you
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For anyone looking for *advanced notes*
If you suggest another person that they should read the book because they deal with people in their worklife....
If the person you suggest read it answers you with "do you know that there have been several studies that have shown that reading the book offers little to no efficacy for application in the workplace" .... well if you read the book and they answer you with that.... the book instructs you to avoid the argument at all costs. The book also says that you can't ever win an argument. So now you are boxxed in and need to tell that person a lie in order to avoid the argument entirely. Sure you know you've read the book but they don't so it's no big deal right? Because who are you to argue with science? You can't win that argument (or likely if you're suggesting the book, you don't know how wrong you are but you read the book and it made sense to you even though you have no idea yourself if you can win that argument) so you lie to your friend or co-worker.
Sooo what if your friend or co-worker has also read the book? They're going to know you're avoiding the argument and they're going to know that you're either really stupid for suggesting they read a book you've never read or they'll know you're a liar. Do friends lie to their friends? Sure your friend has no "proof" that you've read that book and now if it's just you and that person in the room and nobody else.... you've just become a total loser. If anyone else is observing your conversation and they have half a brain... well now you've become the ultimate loser by taking the advice of a book that literally .... _"insists upon itself"_ and instructs its readers to avoid discussing or criticizing it. (doesn't the book literally instruct to not criticize anything? lol convenient)
There are many apsects of narcissistic manipulation found in that book and they serve no good purpose. For example instead of lying to your friend you could give them "the silent treatment" and watch how they react. They might get angry that you just abruptly stop talking to them. And you do this just to preserve your own image because the book instructs its readers that the first person to "lose their cool" essentially loses in the public sphere. Way to go, bravo. Do you think you just won a friend by suggesting they read the book? When a "customer" is unhappy they'll easily tell 10 people about you and that book you read, so now you'll not know who else might read that book and pick up on your BS... you're only growing the problem that is suggesting the book to others now. But hey, don't worry none of those people know you read that book so even if you "white lied" about it.... it's not a problem if you just stop suggesting people read the book. Gotta cut your losses when you can man.
The book supposes that nobody has that knowledge available to question its integrity and the whole premise of "you can't win an argument" really is with respect to women. That's how toxic and narcissistic the book is... women in the 1930's recently had been given the right to vote. There are chapters devoted to dealing specifically with women. Don't get me wrong on this, I seriously think the context of the comment that "you can't win an argument" really has to do with how Dale Carnegie viewed women. You should definitely think twice before reading that book and "attempting to use it" or worse yet.... suggesting someone who knows the books major flaws. That's going to backfire and make you look like a moron one day. I can promise you that much.
@@campsitez2355 that isnt notes, just a long ass explanation no one wants to read.
I admire Dale's work and the chase he had for continued progress.
Some of my favourite quotes by Dale are:
• It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.
• Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get
• Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.
Lastly, my favourite & one i personally stand by -
• Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.
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my favorite point from the book is : it doesn't make much sense to argue with someone, because either you win the argument and hurt the person's pride, making him/her stick to their original point of view or maybe you lose the argument and the same thing happens on your side
I disagree, just kidding
Nonsense! A good argument done between mature people with good behaviours can lead to finding common ground and then residual points of contention. This can help bridge a gap between two people and their views. Arguing isnt about winning and beating the other side.
It is a great point to make! Unfortunately, what that means is, if you disagree, you might as well keep your mouth shut.🤔
@Crus Russ I have yet to come across two people argumenting where they are respectful and walk away smiling.
Without arguing, we have no resolution and we can't see the other person's point of view. The problem you are talking about is ego, not the act of arguing.
Read this book in 1985. Been using what I learned for 35 years. Highly recommend it to anyone.
same here! Changed my life
Just don't go praising people all the time ( unnecessary praise ) , it could lead distrust in you , also people may not give much value to your opinions . The key is to praise them where they have inserted some effort ,or in instances where they didn't consider receiving praise, etc .. by praising those moments people will see you as a warm hearted person.
Thank you for putting this out there, it's really helpful for whoever is trying to figure things out for themselves.
Absolutely avoid the email part in the video :)
*making sucking noise". But for real, people can smell your bullshit if you're trying to be a suck-up or praising for the sake of attention seeking.
Good seeing a fellow lankan on these parts.
Well said though, People can take this advice too far. unwarranted praise is a result of people pleasing and stems from low selfesteem.
Mostly it happens through subconcious, one might not even be aware.
genuine praise is the key
This book 30 years ago was instrumental in my success. Not only in my career but my personal life also. It is. It manipulation as some say, it is understanding human nature and bringing out the best in others as well as yourself. Can’t imagine where I would be today without using that book as a guide to being the best I could be. I read it from time to time as a refresher.
This book is a timeless treasure. 15 years ago, it began changing my life from the very first page. I really recommend you read the full book.
Be genuinely interested in them. Give them the satisfaction of talking about their interests.
Be eager to praise and appreciate. Honest appreciation
Basically act like a kiss ass for the sake of it
@@elpeluca7780 reality sucks 😔
Pepper them with inane questions about themselves, their history, their children, blah blah. Goad them to talk unceasingly about their own opinions. Works every time....
Hey Nathan, I love your work! Im 26 and have been able to climb the work ladder pretty fast. I think I've watched all your videos. The books you cover like Grit, Personal MBA and even this one has made an amazing difference the way I approach life and work. Can't thank you enough! Keep being amazing!
That's awesome to hear! Very happy to help!
Good praise! 😎
What's your favorite book?
You definitely learned your lesson from this book to compliment other!
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What core message I got from this book is that feed the ego and pride of other people and make them feel higher authority or important regularly and you will win their support for life .
1. Be genuinely interested in others 2:37
2. Give frequent praises 6:46
Is that even a Hypocrite approach?
Its the best book about dealing with people , and he keeps stressing about how important it is to be genuine , which a lot of other books don't . Its about saving yourself and others from misunderstandings qnd the best part is about how to criticize people. We often do it very bluntly or too roundabout and it either worsens the situation or just does nothing at all .
This is exactly what I've been doing since in my elem days. It really worked. We all crave for appreciation and people love to hear them so let's give it freely. Sometimes it helps people boost their energy and their confidence to go on with their lives. Just saying.
It's interesting how the main two tips discussed in this video are things I already knew but never truly applied. That's quite interesting. Thanks for this summary!
One of my favorite books too. Inspiring. A person to be always interested in others is not always an easy task these days. But the people who can show this deeply from their heart think will be high influencers.
What makes it one of your favorites?
My favourite line is, "Be Hearty in your approbation and be lavish in your praise."
Hardy in your appreciation*
Knowledge is power. Education allows ones choices to be decided when one is aware of this knowledge.
This is a hidden gem of a channel. Hands down best channel on youtube
I have never read the book, but I can say it works. I have always lived my life that way.
Great summary! Here are some other points from the book I enjoyed:
1) Avoid disputes and conflicts at any cost, and instead look for areas of agreement. When two people yell at each other, there is no communication. If you tend to disagree with this statement you should *really* read the book.
2) Make an effort to learn people's names. One's own name is the dearest sound in the world to everyone. Don't be the prick who says "I'm bad with names", since it only shows you haven't made an effort.
2) "Every man I meet is superior to me in some way. In that I learn from him" I found this way of thinking useful to actually become interested in other people.
I have heard this 4 times straight! I am going to create a playlist of your videos, so I can listen to these amazing books, over and over again.
Like all of your videos, I love your videos. Thank you so much for all your efforts!!
Nicely done!
I stayed away from this book for years thinking it was just a sales book on manipulating people.
I finally picked it up one day and quickly saw how wrong I'd been.
I've been following the Productivity Game for a very long time now. Nathan, I whole heartedly thank you for starting this, watching this channel has been mind transforming for me and I hope to improve myself every day by watching at least one new video from this channel. More power to you!
Whenever I see this book cover I think of this one asian girl on my flight who was reading it. I was smiling at her, thinking I could talk to her and become friends since she seems to want find friends. She totally ignored me. Last time I smiled at a stranger. 😶
she hadn't set her mentality right yet ig🤷🏻♀️
Lmaooo She was probably reading to do the opposite
That sounds unfortunately cold, I'm sorry to hear that... But hey, at least she's reading it so she's probably in the midst of gaining that perspective on people. It's been 9 months so I hope this same person may show a bit more warmth for her next interactions lol.
I've read this book years before and couldnt remember a thing! But watching your video brought back most of it! It's the refresher i needed! Thank you!
I love this post because I had a negative notion towards the book, but this video clearly has shifted my attitude towards the book
My favorite quote from this book: "We possess powers of various sorts which we habitually fail to use."
I hope more people will read this greatest book ever written on building and keeping relationships. For me this book is "How to love" guide.
Love this, you have a really good way of telling stories and your voice just tops it off.
Thank you. My mom took this course Recomended by her brother. She was a self conscious extreme introvert. It changed her life. I’m passing this on. I read it in high school but didn’t finish the book. Now much older I’m expecting a rewarding life because I forgot the key element, others. Thank you for reminding me and I hope to fine other videos from you.
I discovered the author biography by accident on Facebook. I watched the whole presentation video about his life and got interested on his life and his hobby ." public speaking" I was fascinated by it.
I read this book a while back, and this is an accurate summary
What was your favorite part?
Thank you for this. I read this book years ago and had forgotten how fundamental this was.
Thank you for your great summary and animations!
Some of Dale Carnegie’s recommendations are outdated. Especially at a time when social media platforms steal the majority of our attention.
Despite this, “How to win friends and influence people” is one of my all-time favorite books. I have already read it twice! But it made me think of how to apply the principles myself. How can I remember little details about another person, like their name or birthday? How can I make them feel important?
I just found a simple tool that helps me do that in a non-intrusive way. Dex is a personal CRM manager focused on reminding you to stay in touch with people instead of sales pipelines. Dex even integrates with all my social media accounts. I think it is the best way for anyone to make the principles of this great book a habit! :)
Every time I read pages and stories from this book, tears dropped down from my eyes even though there's no tragedies mentioned in this book.
But you know what Dale is SO TRUE....This is what(honest appreciation) I had been craving since my childhood and did a lot of mistakes just to get it (unconsciously). But there's a PRAGMATIC FACT -- that ADMIRER can be YOU to YOURSELF as well!! Since being aware about this fact, I genuinely became interested to people and to myself, looking the BRIGHT SIDES on every situations, honestly appreciating ....& it literally changed MY LIFE and All of my Friends!
This is not a book, it's a LAW!💞
Thanks so much for this insightful review.🌷🌼🙏...
Absolutely love your comment.
Do you have any insightful hacks to aid me in aquiring the mindset of such self-interest? I struggle with a massive amount of negative self-talk. Thank you!
A great summary of a great book. Thank you for all the hard work ✌!
I had this training at my previous work place and this video reminds me that I am probably not following what I was taught. Thank you for this reminder and it's a great summary video. Keep it up!
Love your book reviews. Keep them coming. They help a lot.
Which one is your favorite?
My brother is successful in life and I asked him which books have helped him the most, he said Atomic Habit and How to Win Friends and Influence People. I read both and totally agree. This book is awesome. I want to read both a second time to soak up everything.
Nathan , thanks for reviewing this book and appreciate your all efforts .The teachings of this book priceless. I applied many of them in my life and able get furitfull results.
Just discovered your channel. Thank you for all your hard work in making this excellent content available for free. Really learning a lot!
Thank you for all your content. I love listening to your summaries! This is personally one of my favorite books.
I greatly appreciate your work. I read this book a few years ago though, I realize again how important those are just now.
That was very insightful. I just recently started reading that book and was getting bored but now I am interested and more motivated then ever. Thank you
I can't be genuine about being interested if I'm not interested.
you can change your perspective on anything and become genuinely interested in it
selfish
That is very true. That is part of what the books talks about though. You have to be genuinely interested.👍
This is me. I can't stand listening to people's stories unless it's going to be funny. When I run across people who seem like they've read this book I'm just wishing they'd mind their own damn business. This book may work for the majority of the population but with people like me I can't help but wonder what their endgame is and I'm analyzing them the entire time until I can break away.
AZ0960440 you are operating with a fixed mindset. Seek a growth mindset. Admit you have room for improvement. Until you change your perspective, you are limiting your potential. Best of luck.
Thanks for this. I read this book awhile ago, but I got it confused with a different, not as good self-help book and promptly forgot the message. I appreciate the clear summary presented here.
Hi Nathan,
Thank you so much for taking this time to summarise a book. It is really difficult to read all good books but your summaries help me to learn new subjects every day. Wish that you keep adding amazing books to this series. Salute!
I just was introduced to your channel randomly through recommendations and I fell in love with it. You are doing great work and I really appreciate it. Keep up the good work and keep helping others!!!
Which book has been your favorite so far?
Another Excellent summary. I read this book 30 years ago, and it helped change my life entirely. Thank you!
Very good Work. I attend dale Carnegie Trainings in Germany many years ago . And really this change my life especially with the book how to win friends
I must say,
I may have learnt the life lesson, this totally has changed my attitudes and point of views.
Thank you for doing a great job.
I've read this one long time ago. But this was definitely a great summary and recap for me after long time. Thanks Nathan! )
Thank you for these free valuable lessons man. Much appreciated.
I have watched this book review before by few U Tuber but I felt the most engage listening to "Productive Activity". Thank you !
I really liked how you structured this video, easy to understand, and also gives the main points along with examples. Thank you for your hard work and time
Wow! I just came across this video. I searched for it after watching Steven Crowder talking about it. Anyway, I remember my parents and grandparents raving over this book in the 70's. You did an awesome job condensing it. Thank you.
Nathan, this morning I just discovered your channel, I appreciate it a lot. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for producing these books summaries. They are excellent!! 👏 👏 👏
Beautiful reminder that I needed!
Good job man,we love you for your work!
Great summary of the book! Tanks.
I really enjoy your work, its awesome and really applicable. Thanks man, keep doing a great job!
This book is like a bible to my father. He bought many and send them to all of his friends... Thanks for making this video
Thank you for the video, these are excellent tips! This is why I value leaders who praise and acknowledge people, and inspire by being genuine, rather than those who try to inspire by being a jerk, or correct behaviour through humiliation and screaming.
Love your work... Great videos, awesome explanation... Thanks a lot.
one of the Greatest books on personal development !
Thank you for all that you do!
Now it’s our turn to praise you for the good job you are doing :) keep it up!
This book is a classic. I read it some months ago! Great review!
What is your favorite thing about it?
This is the best channel EVER FOUND on UA-cam no cap
This book is worth reading especially those close-minded persons around the world who want to know the human relationships. It is highly recommended because it change a life if you really read it carefully.
My favorite summary of this book! I have a calendar reminder to watch monthly!!
A peaceful and positive way to prosper and live life more fully.
Wow, I would like to express this trait as often as I could from now on as long as I remember. Your uploaded material is great. Thank you very much.
Great job...love your summaries.
Wow! That was concise and delivered with grace. Thank you!
I like your book summaries so much !! Hope to see you in another one
Excellent book review! One of my all time favorite books!!
Loved your video keep up the good work.
thank you for sharing these precious skills
What was your favorite skill?
I loved how you made this book so interesting and easy to understand. You are blessed with the talent of simplyfy things 🙏
I have been putting this book on my reading list for more than 2 years now, because I don't like hyped books..
however after I watched this video, I think it is not as bad as i thought it to be..
thank you for the introduction, I think I will get into it in few weeks..
Love ur channel mate, appreciate your hard work to present content in such easy manner
I'm ordering this book today to read it myself!
That was a good description!
Excellent advice... Thans!!!
Basically, make them feel good and valued.
Timeless advice from DC, brilliant and insightful.
Now it's my turn to give you praise. What you do is very helpful! and all the animated graphics make all more understandable. Thanks a lot. You definitely help us to get the book message well. :)
Congratulations!
You offer great value to the world. I always check out your summaries before buying a new book, or to find out new interesting books.
Thank you!
Keep up the good work!
i love this channel and i bet everyone else does.
a big thank you is not enough!
That was a beautiful video. Well done, I especially like the part about showing interest in others, and you provided some great examples of how to do that.
your voice is really amazin to listen soothing and make me crave more of it in different audio books
Hey man i really appreciate the time you took in reviewing this book. U go me interested in it and mow i will get the full audiobook version to study it fully. 👍🏼
This is great! This book helped me so much over the last 10 years!
I just purposely applied these two keys and Met a phenomenal Vietnam Vet Mr. Keith who gave me his number all because I listened to him, asked him questions about what he was saying, and gave him genuine compliments. It didn't hurt me to do this. In fact, it made me happy to see him light up when I asked him about himself. I am going to connect him to my dad who is also a Vietnam vet. 🥰 Mr. Keith dropped off my uber eats and friendship! 😭
Thanks for making these videos Nathan!
This is one of the best books I have ever read.