You are not wrong bro. And sometimes certain segments of community give very confusing signals "oh dont get married first, focus on career, enjoyr yourself" bla bla bla and this further desensitized younger generations from the prospect and importance of marriages.
And when they accidentally meet the one they are destined to marry, beyond their excitement they dont actually KNOW what it takes to make a successful marriage because they've been putting it off their minds their entire lives.
"Certain segments" mainly meaning the older generation. They are lost. They even give the "focus on career" advice to young sisters, but that should not be told to either the young males or females
Y'all really think marriage is butterfly and flowers. People have to focus on their careers so that they can provide for their family, marriage takes up a lot of money and commitment and not everyone has that.
@@sofiblinka2300 are you implying Quran says "marriage is butterfly and flowers"? You have a capitalistic view of marriage is unfit for a Muslim. Where did you learn this from? If you have such negativity and commercial and capitalistic idea of marriage, go to a more secular capitalistic video and comment there
Very interesting perspective. That excuse of not ready always wondered that. I couldnt wait to get married, you get to have an immediate best friend that both of you get to dedicate time, emotion and finance responsibilities.. Awesome. Lol different stupid world now.
If a Person wants to get married they should have a conversation about pregnancy Most people are afraid get married nine months later oh she’s pregnant lives over as a husband and now it’s fatherhood forever men end up in 2nd place the honeymoon dating romance travels is over
Most people can’t afford marriage nowadays, I’m 28 and will probably won’t get married until I’m 40. All the people I know either drown themselves with loans and debt to get married or basically become like myself. I would honestly blame the society for making marriage too expensive and making women see marriage as a way of obtaining wealth
InshAllah I hope brother that you'll get married soon. Ask Allah swt for help and read the life of the prophet Muhammed sas, how he choose women who were older, divorced, had past marriages, children, were not all muslims before marriage, etc. Let not the dunia and society fool you but read what our prophet sas said about marrying women who need a good man for protection and love, not money and societal approval. The intention of wanting to get married to someone good is all that is needed and InshAllah Allah will make it easy for you.
I can relate I'm not ready... Depressed ⬆️,how secularism destroyed us, when our grandparents were marrying at age of 16-15 even in some places 12 life were simple easier now your 20 go propose to her you need a car a house even her dad doesn't have one
@@lilvert9528 Life wasn't but marriage was do you know that sahaba were proposing only with ring of steel in mahr women were asking only to memorize one verse of Quran no money included nothing,I learn something depression doesn't exist I'm not just in shape
@@lilvert9528 we live in a period of time, we are blessed with a lot of information to make money, we keep our phones with us everywhere, all the information that we need is behind one search, but people are not using them the right way, and they are so lazy...
Your so right brother everything your saying happened to me except the part of divorce al hamdulilah even doe i thought about that so much but al hamdulilah alah can make you happy if you stick to it for allah and you will addapt to your new life it took me three years
I think you've got it wrong. It's the opposite in my country, every young guy DOES want to get married since fitna of porn and easy escorts is widespread, but it's the high expectations from the sisters and their families which forces to marry in our 30s. I've never met a practicing muslim guy delaying marriage due to his selfish reason, it's only those men who sleep around here and there and then get a virgin wife from back home to have kids.
I’m 24, I desperately want to marry, but I’m a recent convert and I fear I’m not yet worthy. My friend who helped me covert has a cousin who I was told I should ask her parents, but it turns out she’s 31 and a widow. I feel like a child in comparison. She even has a 7 year old. When her child is 18 I’ll only be 35.
Brother, my advice is that if you like her looks and also character and deen..Marry her , no problem.... But it's also normal if you prefer to marry a virgin... Also, Don't worry there are over billion women to choose from..... Use proxies, friends , friends of friends to find a suitable spouse for you... In sha Allah, you'll succeed..
If the 2 of you are on the same page as far as deen is concerned then marry her. The majority of the wives of the Prophet (pbuh) were widows or divorced.
brother gabriel this post is directed at a minority. the biggest issue we have in the west and maybe around the world is that the women dont want to settle for an average man, they have unrealistic expectations & have set the bar so high. alot of us brothers have been ready for marriage for years now but we are being forced to get married in our late 30's when the women decide to 'settle for less'. Also alot of women claim they want a man on deen but only when it is of benefit to them for example they want a man that lowers his gaze, stays loyal to her, helps with the cooking & chores, gives all of her rights, not to physically abuse her etc etc but they will reject a man if he believes women should abide by the hijab, not wear makeup or perfume, not go to mixed weddings or any pagan celebrations and not post public pics of herself. isnt this part of the deen too? ive been wanting to get married since i was 24 and i just turned 29 and still single!! and i know theres brothers out there in thier late 30s and early 40s who are still struggling. bro these are huge issues which needs to be addressed
And men want the skinny supermodel who shows of her body who they want to transform into a hijab wearing non-make up wearing housewive. Please! It’s all a missmatch. Plenty of good girls i know. But there aren’t good guys around. And the once who are go for girls around 20-24 😅
@@xSunnyDaysx men who are on deen wouldnt go for women who show off thier body. its actually a huge red flag. i believe only a small percentage of men want a supermodel, generally speaking men would want a woman whos at a healthy weight/size rather than someone who is obese
@@jaym6742 I know. They are counted in as well. But i would say some though. That’s why i said new flash. They have this heroism to save ‘certain’ ladies.
I have been ready to get married for the past 3 years now. Still unable to find a righteous woman. I am a practicing Muslim(29) who makes six figures salary in US. My parents were separated due to some dispute and it appears that it is a major reason for religious families ignoring me. In a time where divorce is so common I am considered as I have some disease. I welcome this test from Allah and live my life saying Alhumdulillah for everything and indeed Allah is with those who are patient!
“I’m not ready” means “I wanna continue having my freedom and do zina w every women that I come across, so I can start looking for a pious innocent virgin wife when my hairline starts receding”
Get married !! It is same like you say to me go to a pluto ,impossible thing ,im trying for 8 years ,no one wants me.when i think this must be it ,Allah will help me i get disapointed.so shaming and mocking someone and not knowing his struggle is not right .i will say to you in person if you ask me why im not married at my 29y that "i m not ready " because im to shy to say that no one wants me ,that i tried and got rejected many times,because i know how society will watch on me if they know the truth ,so you dont know how hard for us is to give answer on that question.
Maturity responsibilities and self sufficiency to get married and of course the education of marital rights. Getting married cuz your old is not. Reason to marry if you’ve had everything handed and eve made easy during your single bachelor lifestyle
Young men are always eager to get married but don’t have the wealth or status yet. And once we get the wealth and status, we are already old and don’t want to deal with others. So, we can just hope things work out in the in between lol
Well because you type of ppl throw red pill stuff in Deen ! Prophet didn’t use insecure tactics , women wasn’t his obsession and he was on mission, he respected individual with own temperament, skills, attitude but most Muslim men just want conditioned servant
The problem is many people wanna get married young but parents and society imposes that young people focus on getting a career and property which is important but shouldn’t be a means of delaying marriage. Once they have that, by then they have been exposed to so much fitna and haram that they get desensitised to marriage and lose that keenness for it.
Where does a woman even find a spouse if wali isn’t active or willing to be until he needs to? I feel like there aren’t many options outside of perhaps marriage apps (which I hear bad things about).
i agree , wali's don't make the efforts , thank god my dad does know what is important for his kids and he reacted well when i told him that i want to get married , he told me that we'll talk about it when you come back home he didn't shut me down or anything , he might tell me to wait but at least he leasned to my request
37 year old recent revert have been divorced twice with no kids but have been step father for 8 years. It seems pretty impossible brother. These Muslim dating apps are trash & trashy.
well her dad will not allow her to get married young 😑 and I can't get married young because her dad doesn't trust me. and she wants 50 thousand dollars mehir. these days you gotta go to a village and find yourself a wife. that what my grandpa did 😅
Bro everyone is not same, I'm trying my best but I don't have enough money to look after my parents how can I marry a women and take care of her 😅 Allah bless you brother
Dude what? Stop… don’t rush someone into getting married if they’re truly not ready. If they know they won’t be able to financially provide, then why dive in not knowing if you’ll be able to… at least make 6 figures before jumping into marriage, then ur ready financially. THIS DAY AND AGE IS EXPENSIVE, NO ONE DESERVES TO LIVE PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK!!!
Guardians need to teach the children about responsibilities how to do chores how do pay bills make them selfless and learn acts of service to others self sufficient deeds Prepare them mentally for marriage situations, talk to them at a young age about important reasons why they need to get married A unmarried life is a lonely isolated life as Muslims you can’t have haram relationships it’s a major sin Every one around you will either marry and move on without you or sadly pass Away once again leaving you behind
Got married at 24 while working part time. Adopted a new born the same year we got married. That was almost 9 years ago. As long as intention is pure Allah will provide. Even if it doesn't work out that you stay married to that person til the end you've still completed half your deen. There's a saying in sports that goes "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take"
Yeah and that is totally prohibited in Islam. You know brother sometimes I feel that I mean I dream to change the whole subcontinent. I dream to forbide this adding water to milk. Like a Governor of state you can say. Because these are the very reasons Muslims are getting oppressed there on daily basis. And now there is another deviant named Jummans . I am an outsider and I think it's just a little I know what's happening if I go there I will find even more
Muslim scholars should collectively enforce that marriage should be made easy for young men and women because costs of a modern day wedding is enough to deter anyone from marriage.
These kinds of videos are painful to me, I am very eager to get married and ready, but I am not able to find a good wife, alhamdulillah, it's very sad may Allah help us all.
Muslim men don't propose to me.. non-Muslims want to be serious with me but don't want to syahadah.. in the end I'm alone..hope one day serious n good moslem will be my husband
@@salihaayasbenderouaia7465 which one? Moslem man or not moslem man? Moslem man they didn't ask me to my mother or my brother directly... they just wanted to be close but didn't want to get married.. that's why I closed my heart for several years.. bismillah I want to start a new day from now on .
@@Kichidakatsumi look i can get a girlfriend, which I'm not doing only because it's not permissible Obviously i have sexual urges and i need a halal way to cope with them but society won't give me the right to marry because I'm still a student who needs about 6+ years to get qualified for marriage (considering earnings) i hope you understand my situation, and I'm trying my best to become a true man in this degenerated era (the name is a tribute to all the hard working men)
@@BarelyAlive247 Don't worry brother I'm literally in the same situation. Never forget that you always have other brothers enduring the same test. But INSHALLAH the reward from Allah the most generous will be something unimaginable! Also, ignore society.. that's what I'm doing. I will get married whether they like it or not inshallah because Allah hears my dua and I need the halal way because the other way is haram and there is no way Allah wants that for me. Truly an era of weak men but inshallah we can be the strong men that will bring back masculinity according to Islam
As salaamu alaykum brother, do you have a video on Islamic marriage in western countries. Legal marriage in US is a huge risk for men that earn good money and doing a nikkah only (avoiding legal marriage) is highly looked down upon even by the scholars in the west. This also makes Polygyny significantly more difficult. What advice do you have?
The situation in the UK is even worse. Many Imams here now won't do a nikah without you having a civil marriage first. It's a massive risk for a guy leaving him open to getting totally screwed over by the mad family law regime here.
To be honest we'd like to get married young but their is no option Then when WE have them WE get resentfull that WE had to wait 20 years After puberty to get accepted Like WE did all the struggle and now i have to shair it , i think for every humain being this deal doesn't sound appealing A Muslim man would love for the most part to grow with his wife but most Muslim sisters are not ready to grow with a brother And then they get pissed when WE have requirements later on They also apply western expectations on us and compaire us to western man where we're are complietely diffrent and have diffrent circumstances Over all i don't think it's the man's fault that the divorce rate is dropping M'y grand cousin is 25 and got married ressently to a 18 yo , i was so happy for him because he understood life better then his parents did I Hope to be able to do the same
دائماً يتحجج الشباب بالمال على أنه عائق و عندما يكون لديهم القليل تبدأ الطلبات بالازدياد بيضاء سمراء طويلة عيونها ملونة و الأهم موظفة لتشارك في المصروف و يكون هو في الوقع أقل من عادي إذا كانت الفتاة عادية فهي أقل من طموحه لن أدعي أنني لا أهتم للشكل ولكن على الأقل يكون شكله عادياً ولكن حجة النقود أجدها سخيفة أكيد يوجد الكثير من الفتيات الذين ليس المال من أولوياتهم على الأقل على الشباب ألا يكونوا سطحيين باختياراتهم فأنا أسمع الكثير من هذه الحجج بحياتي و كل من يأتي بحجة انه يهمه الدّين والأخلاق لا يعود كغيره
If you pray are making any effort at all to live in accordance with what Allah has revealed then you are more than qualified. The amount you make would be enough for any woman who is currently poorer than you.
@Original Blizzardhawk brother if you are fat you can do gym and if you have other conditions that you mentioned in previous comments like short not handsome(according to you) then be patient and believe in Allah Azzawajal Allah Azzawajal will help you to get married.
@@servantofthemerciful3511 Bro in India it doesn't matter how you looks if you have money or government job then you will get beautiful wife. As I am seeing peoples go after money than looks or deen.
@@Lost_in_Lostnesss Yes I agree with you but this is however a bad practice and affects upbringing of children as well. Even if someone looks is not liked but that woman should marry that man seeing deen as first priority then looks wealthy will be afterwards.
@@servantofthemerciful3511 nobody should marry somebody they dont find attractive even if its the most pious person on earth, thats wrong advice akhi.
@@senasezer422 you took it wrongly I wanted to say that most times money is given more priority other than deen first . However I agree the must find spouse to be pleasing.
Why get married when you can get sex for free? Its pointless for men in Western countries, especially when the marriage contract is financial suicide e.g. in event of divorce you lose half your assets, your home, your children.
Dr Mo Karim Ali married to the convert Woman when he worked in Egypt as a male Model عارض أزياء now he went to his wife's country Europe and is a successful personality who reached Dubai wow, is it because of his convert European wife's support along the years?
Let's see what brothers need to get married these days.. Ur own house Big salary Rich parents A modern NAK style soft diluted Islam (basically a hypocritical Islam), a seriously practicing brother can kiss marriage good bye in this day and age or his only option is to marry a older divorced women with 2,3 kids.. And even after all that u just qualify to be in game that doesn't even guarantee you marriage.. Daddy's little princess is still not sure if u are the right one..
A sensible comment that i have seen so far..!!!in India for a guy,, marriage before 26 or 27 is rarely seen...in urban or semi urbun areas,,girls are busy to make their carrier (doctor, engineer, teacher, lawyer).... village girls are also tilting towars this 27 yo marriage rule,,,things are not as easy as presented....
Or maybe you're living in the day and age where you can't afford to keep looking for the women you want and should instead start looking for the women who need you and marry one of them for the sake of Allah and actually trust in Allah to give you the outcome that is best for you in this life and the next.
What brother needs to understand in modern day society most women are influenced by Kim Kardashian, they rather put more time into their ig than companionship, women have gone too picky, why do you think Andrew Tate blew up, he exposed all this and people said his committing zina but yet we ignore how a majority of women are moving mad.
SubhanAllah bro your eye 👀 color is so piercing. I'm trying to figure out how many colors I'm seeing, green, blue, hazel. Anyways regarding the topic 😒. I'm fearful most of us will never get married. The pressure to provide seems overwhelming, especially in the west, it seems like it's never enough what we have. Western sisters are out earning us a lot of the times and most of them don't want to marry until they finish college and all their eggs are cooked 😮💨😔.
Easy for you to say when you look like a damn model who chicks wanna marry. I know so many muslim brothers who have been put down upon over years with no basic female interaction due to their looks. Women truly these days go nothing but looks and money. And not every muslim is rich and handsome so think from their perspective
women care less about looks than men do. I have seen many women marry men who are much less attractive than they, but I have almost never seen a man marry a woman who is less attractive than him. lets not blame women for not being attracted to everyone even though their standards for looks are much lower than men. women care about character more than looks.
Bro everyone is not same, I'm trying my best but I don't have enough money to look after my parents how can I marry a women and take care of her 😅 Allah bless you brother
May Allah make everyone good muslim and give good spouses to them ameen
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You are not wrong bro. And sometimes certain segments of community give very confusing signals "oh dont get married first, focus on career, enjoyr yourself" bla bla bla and this further desensitized younger generations from the prospect and importance of marriages.
And when they accidentally meet the one they are destined to marry, beyond their excitement they dont actually KNOW what it takes to make a successful marriage because they've been putting it off their minds their entire lives.
"Certain segments" mainly meaning the older generation. They are lost. They even give the "focus on career" advice to young sisters, but that should not be told to either the young males or females
Y'all really think marriage is butterfly and flowers. People have to focus on their careers so that they can provide for their family, marriage takes up a lot of money and commitment and not everyone has that.
@@sofiblinka2300 are you implying Quran says "marriage is butterfly and flowers"? You have a capitalistic view of marriage is unfit for a Muslim. Where did you learn this from? If you have such negativity and commercial and capitalistic idea of marriage, go to a more secular capitalistic video and comment there
Money can be made over the entire life, but youth and drive are temporary
May Almighty guide us all 🤲🇰🇪
Your video gave me chills
Here you are ,a lot of men in the comment section blaming women for this
جزاك الله خيرا
Very true bro. I know many brothers like this unfortunately. May Allah swt help those looking for richeous spouses
I'm 21 and I can't wait to have a wife and kids Inshallah!
Me too inshallah may Allah bless us all with beautiful families 🤲🏾
Aameen
I only feel pleasure when I am providing for my wife an children or servings God. anything else is just pointless
Subhunallah we need this
This is salvation. this is true freedom.
Calm down
Bro, I wanted to get married at 16 years... Now I'm almost a 30 year old bachelor.
Same here 😭
Oh Allah what has happened to us😢
Enjoy yourself...now you are free of any fulfillment of sexual desires😊
I bet you're right! Now I'm getting to my thirties yet I feel worried how I'm I supposed to do!!
Very interesting perspective. That excuse of not ready always wondered that.
I couldnt wait to get married, you get to have an immediate best friend that both of you get to dedicate time, emotion and finance responsibilities.. Awesome.
Lol different stupid world now.
The more you delay your marriage the lesser chances of getting a decent spouse.
If a Person wants to get married they should have a conversation about pregnancy
Most people are afraid get married nine months later oh she’s pregnant lives over as a husband and now it’s fatherhood forever men end up in 2nd place the honeymoon dating romance travels is over
First time I hear this analysis and he nailed it !!
Most people can’t afford marriage nowadays, I’m 28 and will probably won’t get married until I’m 40. All the people I know either drown themselves with loans and debt to get married or basically become like myself. I would honestly blame the society for making marriage too expensive and making women see marriage as a way of obtaining wealth
InshAllah I hope brother that you'll get married soon. Ask Allah swt for help and read the life of the prophet Muhammed sas, how he choose women who were older, divorced, had past marriages, children, were not all muslims before marriage, etc. Let not the dunia and society fool you but read what our prophet sas said about marrying women who need a good man for protection and love, not money and societal approval. The intention of wanting to get married to someone good is all that is needed and InshAllah Allah will make it easy for you.
@@irenez3410 fear Allah and do not lie about our prophet sallalahu alayi wa sallam. He always recommended young fertile woman.
I can relate I'm not ready...
Depressed ⬆️,how secularism destroyed us, when our grandparents were marrying at age of 16-15 even in some places 12 life were simple easier
now your 20 go propose to her you need a car a house even her dad doesn't have one
Life wasn't easier back then lol. People are just lazy nowadays. Everyone can earn good money if he works hard and much
@@lilvert9528
Life wasn't but marriage was do you know that sahaba were proposing only with ring of steel in mahr women were asking only to memorize one verse of Quran no money included nothing,I learn something depression doesn't exist I'm not just in shape
@@lilvert9528 we live in a period of time, we are blessed with a lot of information to make money, we keep our phones with us everywhere, all the information that we need is behind one search, but people are not using them the right way, and they are so lazy...
How many poor families have you approached with what you can afford to offer?
May Allah reward you Ameen 🙏🏻
Your so right brother everything your saying happened to me except the part of divorce al hamdulilah even doe i thought about that so much but al hamdulilah alah can make you happy if you stick to it for allah and you will addapt to your new life it took me three years
I think you've got it wrong. It's the opposite in my country, every young guy DOES want to get married since fitna of porn and easy escorts is widespread, but it's the high expectations from the sisters and their families which forces to marry in our 30s. I've never met a practicing muslim guy delaying marriage due to his selfish reason, it's only those men who sleep around here and there and then get a virgin wife from back home to have kids.
@originalblizzardhawk644no bruh
I can't find a single sister whos not against being housewife. Someone advise me please
Go back home and find a poor girl from the village
@@sweettea1193 lmao, it works way better though
You need to move somewhere else my bro
@@sweettea1193 you using someone position against them it's truly disgusting.
@@sofiblinka2300 what's disgusting?
Those were some serious shots fired
I’m 24, I desperately want to marry, but I’m a recent convert and I fear I’m not yet worthy. My friend who helped me covert has a cousin who I was told I should ask her parents, but it turns out she’s 31 and a widow. I feel like a child in comparison. She even has a 7 year old. When her child is 18 I’ll only be 35.
Hey Assalamualaikum I help Muslims match I can help you out as well !
As Salam alkium have u tried halal dating websites.
Brother, my advice is that if you like her looks and also character and deen..Marry her , no problem....
But it's also normal if you prefer to marry a virgin...
Also, Don't worry there are over billion women to choose from.....
Use proxies, friends , friends of friends to find a suitable spouse for you...
In sha Allah, you'll succeed..
If the 2 of you are on the same page as far as deen is concerned then marry her. The majority of the wives of the Prophet (pbuh) were widows or divorced.
brother gabriel this post is directed at a minority. the biggest issue we have in the west and maybe around the world is that the women dont want to settle for an average man, they have unrealistic expectations & have set the bar so high. alot of us brothers have been ready for marriage for years now but we are being forced to get married in our late 30's when the women decide to 'settle for less'. Also alot of women claim they want a man on deen but only when it is of benefit to them for example they want a man that lowers his gaze, stays loyal to her, helps with the cooking & chores, gives all of her rights, not to physically abuse her etc etc but they will reject a man if he believes women should abide by the hijab, not wear makeup or perfume, not go to mixed weddings or any pagan celebrations and not post public pics of herself. isnt this part of the deen too? ive been wanting to get married since i was 24 and i just turned 29 and still single!! and i know theres brothers out there in thier late 30s and early 40s who are still struggling. bro these are huge issues which needs to be addressed
And men want the skinny supermodel who shows of her body who they want to transform into a hijab wearing non-make up wearing housewive. Please!
It’s all a missmatch.
Plenty of good girls i know. But there aren’t good guys around. And the once who are go for girls around 20-24 😅
@@xSunnyDaysx men who are on deen wouldnt go for women who show off thier body. its actually a huge red flag. i believe only a small percentage of men want a supermodel, generally speaking men would want a woman whos at a healthy weight/size rather than someone who is obese
@@jaym6742 Oh boy. News flash!
@@xSunnyDaysx bare in mind i said 'men who are on deen' not 'muslim men'
@@jaym6742 I know.
They are counted in as well. But i would say some though. That’s why i said new flash. They have this heroism to save ‘certain’ ladies.
I have been ready to get married for the past 3 years now. Still unable to find a righteous woman. I am a practicing Muslim(29) who makes six figures salary in US. My parents were separated due to some dispute and it appears that it is a major reason for religious families ignoring me. In a time where divorce is so common I am considered as I have some disease. I welcome this test from Allah and live my life saying Alhumdulillah for everything and indeed Allah is with those who are patient!
Truth right there
Why you're worried about these guys ? You think women need such guys as family leaders ? They're clearly not ready for kids and all
Really realistic and wise view.
Thank you so much.
It is quite disappointing how uninformed and critical many students of Islam are regarding the guidance of the youth
Inshallah so true bro
Jazak allah khair
Allahu uma barik i got married at 18 and my only regret is not marrying sooner
Wait but why would you want to get married earlier then 18?
“I’m not ready” means “I wanna continue having my freedom and do zina w every women that I come across, so I can start looking for a pious innocent virgin wife when my hairline starts receding”
Get married !! It is same like you say to me go to a pluto ,impossible thing ,im trying for 8 years ,no one wants me.when i think this must be it ,Allah will help me i get disapointed.so shaming and mocking someone and not knowing his struggle is not right .i will say to you in person if you ask me why im not married at my 29y that "i m not ready " because im to shy to say that no one wants me ,that i tried and got rejected many times,because i know how society will watch on me if they know the truth ,so you dont know how hard for us is to give answer on that question.
Ibrahim Wrya from London take note, you....
Maturity responsibilities and self sufficiency to get married and of course the education of marital rights.
Getting married cuz your old is not. Reason to marry if you’ve had everything handed and eve made easy during your single bachelor lifestyle
Young men are always eager to get married but don’t have the wealth or status yet.
And once we get the wealth and status, we are already old and don’t want to deal with others.
So, we can just hope things work out in the in between lol
3D person , I laughed
Interesting i never thought about it that way
Well because you type of ppl throw red pill stuff in Deen ! Prophet didn’t use insecure tactics , women wasn’t his obsession and he was on mission, he respected individual with own temperament, skills, attitude but most Muslim men just want conditioned servant
But some may reach thirties while carrying for parents and mature in all aspects.
Halala
The problem is many people wanna get married young but parents and society imposes that young people focus on getting a career and property which is important but shouldn’t be a means of delaying marriage. Once they have that, by then they have been exposed to so much fitna and haram that they get desensitised to marriage and lose that keenness for it.
Zabardast bath bhai..... thank you
I’m 27 and officially givin up
I did when I was in my teens
I watching your vedio .....love from Bangladesh brother...
I'm 40 and not yet married..astaghfirullah..it's about my bad past
May Allāh Has Mercy on you ,Grant you hidaya and good rightous spouse Ameen yaa Allāh
Where does a woman even find a spouse if wali isn’t active or willing to be until he needs to? I feel like there aren’t many options outside of perhaps marriage apps (which I hear bad things about).
i agree , wali's don't make the efforts , thank god my dad does know what is important for his kids and he reacted well when i told him that i want to get married , he told me that we'll talk about it when you come back home
he didn't shut me down or anything , he might tell me to wait but at least he leasned to my request
37 year old recent revert have been divorced twice with no kids but have been step father for 8 years. It seems pretty impossible brother. These Muslim dating apps are trash & trashy.
well her dad will not allow her to get married young 😑 and I can't get married young because her dad doesn't trust me. and she wants 50 thousand dollars mehir.
these days you gotta go to a village and find yourself a wife. that what my grandpa did 😅
On point mashaAllah
Bro everyone is not same, I'm trying my best but I don't have enough money to look after my parents how can I marry a women and take care of her 😅 Allah bless you brother
He said people who is able to marry, listen again to the video dear brother
@@gagsjjmomom9014 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤝
Dude what? Stop… don’t rush someone into getting married if they’re truly not ready. If they know they won’t be able to financially provide, then why dive in not knowing if you’ll be able to… at least make 6 figures before jumping into marriage, then ur ready financially. THIS DAY AND AGE IS EXPENSIVE, NO ONE DESERVES TO LIVE PAYCHECK TO PAYCHECK!!!
you r right 👍
Guardians need to teach the children about responsibilities how to do chores how do pay bills make them selfless and learn acts of service to others self sufficient deeds
Prepare them mentally for marriage situations, talk to them at a young age about important reasons why they need to get married
A unmarried life is a lonely isolated life as Muslims you can’t have haram relationships it’s a major sin
Every one around you will either marry and move on without you or sadly pass
Away once again leaving you behind
bro for me it's not about that , money is the problem
Even if people want to get married, they don’t have resources to start a family so they have to wait till they get 25 at least
Got married at 24 while working part time. Adopted a new born the same year we got married. That was almost 9 years ago.
As long as intention is pure Allah will provide. Even if it doesn't work out that you stay married to that person til the end you've still completed half your deen. There's a saying in sports that goes "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take"
In India brothers don't have to own house car or money they demand from sisters in dowry 😅
Get 4 wifes lol
Yeah and that is totally prohibited in Islam. You know brother sometimes I feel that I mean I dream to change the whole subcontinent. I dream to forbide this adding water to milk. Like a Governor of state you can say. Because these are the very reasons Muslims are getting oppressed there on daily basis. And now there is another deviant named Jummans . I am an outsider and I think it's just a little I know what's happening if I go there I will find even more
@@sadiamohamed15 in India getting 4 wives is hard I think people in your area even your family also not to mention media will eat you
Muslim scholars should collectively enforce that marriage should be made easy for young men and women because costs of a modern day wedding is enough to deter anyone from marriage.
Because people say that money and other stuff are not important because it say to " get the slaves married "
These kinds of videos are painful to me, I am very eager to get married and ready, but I am not able to find a good wife, alhamdulillah, it's very sad may Allah help us all.
Muslim men don't propose to me.. non-Muslims want to be serious with me but don't want to syahadah.. in the end I'm alone..hope one day serious n good moslem will be my husband
They don't propus or you don't aknowledge those options ?
@@salihaayasbenderouaia7465 which one? Moslem man or not moslem man? Moslem man they didn't ask me to my mother or my brother directly... they just wanted to be close but didn't want to get married.. that's why I closed my heart for several years.. bismillah I want to start a new day from now on .
@@inayunita7885 in this case i understand
I need a Wife!!
Take off that giga chad name and then you'll get one.
@@sofiblinka2300 Why?
A real giga chad comment
@@Kichidakatsumi look
i can get a girlfriend, which I'm not doing only because it's not permissible
Obviously i have sexual urges and i need a halal way to cope with them
but society won't give me the right to marry because I'm still a student who needs about 6+ years to get qualified for marriage (considering earnings)
i hope you understand my situation,
and I'm trying my best to become a true man in this degenerated era
(the name is a tribute to all the hard working men)
@@BarelyAlive247 Don't worry brother I'm literally in the same situation. Never forget that you always have other brothers enduring the same test. But INSHALLAH the reward from Allah the most generous will be something unimaginable! Also, ignore society.. that's what I'm doing. I will get married whether they like it or not inshallah because Allah hears my dua and I need the halal way because the other way is haram and there is no way Allah wants that for me. Truly an era of weak men but inshallah we can be the strong men that will bring back masculinity according to Islam
As salaamu alaykum brother, do you have a video on Islamic marriage in western countries. Legal marriage in US is a huge risk for men that earn good money and doing a nikkah only (avoiding legal marriage) is highly looked down upon even by the scholars in the west. This also makes Polygyny significantly more difficult. What advice do you have?
Don't do poligamy as easy as that.
The situation in the UK is even worse. Many Imams here now won't do a nikah without you having a civil marriage first. It's a massive risk for a guy leaving him open to getting totally screwed over by the mad family law regime here.
Trust in Allah and don't plan on practicing polygyny.
To be honest we'd like to get married young but their is no option
Then when WE have them WE get resentfull that WE had to wait 20 years After puberty to get accepted
Like WE did all the struggle and now i have to shair it , i think for every humain being this deal doesn't sound appealing
A Muslim man would love for the most part to grow with his wife but most Muslim sisters are not ready to grow with a brother
And then they get pissed when WE have requirements later on
They also apply western expectations on us and compaire us to western man where we're are complietely diffrent and have diffrent circumstances
Over all i don't think it's the man's fault that the divorce rate is dropping
M'y grand cousin is 25 and got married ressently to a 18 yo , i was so happy for him because he understood life better then his parents did
I Hope to be able to do the same
True
Marriege is super thing solution.
I'm nearly 21 and honestly i want a halal "3D person" in my life pretty much right now.
Brother can I kindly get this video on my email so that I can upload it to my status?
دائماً يتحجج الشباب بالمال على أنه عائق و عندما يكون لديهم القليل تبدأ الطلبات بالازدياد بيضاء سمراء طويلة عيونها ملونة و الأهم موظفة لتشارك في المصروف و يكون هو في الوقع أقل من عادي إذا كانت الفتاة عادية فهي أقل من طموحه
لن أدعي أنني لا أهتم للشكل ولكن على الأقل يكون شكله عادياً ولكن حجة النقود أجدها سخيفة أكيد يوجد الكثير من الفتيات الذين ليس المال من أولوياتهم على الأقل على الشباب ألا يكونوا سطحيين باختياراتهم فأنا أسمع الكثير من هذه الحجج بحياتي و كل من يأتي بحجة انه يهمه الدّين والأخلاق لا يعود كغيره
We know the problem
What’s the solution brother
That's really an important question
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Isn't this the guy that says single men should marry single mother's?🤦
Are you a Muslim? If yes, so you are not better than our beloved Prophet Mohammad CSW. He married singles.
@@sadiamohamed15 Their wasn't laws that destroyed the man like in the modern era. What a stupid point.
Well, how are you going to marry a married mother? 😅
@@DSJWIX he meant either she is divorced or she is widow i think.
whats wrong with doing that? men these days are like sisters, wanting everything they get in this dunya to be perfect like a fairy tale
I don't get married becuase I'm not a rich man. I'm not educated. A woman deserved bertter than that.
If you pray are making any effort at all to live in accordance with what Allah has revealed then you are more than qualified.
The amount you make would be enough for any woman who is currently poorer than you.
Im 33 😂😂
What are the conditions like for marriage is that u have enough money for marriage or what
@Original Blizzardhawk brother if you are fat you can do gym and if you have other conditions that you mentioned in previous comments like short not handsome(according to you) then be patient and believe in Allah Azzawajal Allah Azzawajal will help you to get married.
@@servantofthemerciful3511 Bro in India it doesn't matter how you looks if you have money or government job then you will get beautiful wife. As I am seeing peoples go after money than looks or deen.
@@Lost_in_Lostnesss Yes I agree with you but this is however a bad practice and affects upbringing of children as well. Even if someone looks is not liked but that woman should marry that man seeing deen as first priority then looks wealthy will be afterwards.
@@servantofthemerciful3511 nobody should marry somebody they dont find attractive even if its the most pious person on earth, thats wrong advice akhi.
@@senasezer422 you took it wrongly I wanted to say that most times money is given more priority other than deen first . However I agree the must find spouse to be pleasing.
Not ready with 30? Is he a child??
Marriage is too much work. Sounds like a hassle.
Assalam aleykum, am o rugaminte mare, cum pot sa iti trimit mesaj privat?
Why get married when you can get sex for free?
Its pointless for men in Western countries, especially when the marriage contract is financial suicide e.g. in event of divorce you lose half your assets, your home, your children.
You can't get sex for free. You get punished on the hereafter.
Why marry if that is all you want?
@@AbaAslam incorrect - don't sign the government marriage contract. Just do the Nikkah and that's it.
@@Jay-bc7kh That isnt what I meant. I was referring to your first sentence.
@@Jay-bc7kh Here in India it is illegal to do any marriage without registration, whether nikah or in a temple (hinduism)
Is gabriel not a bibles name?
Dr Mo Karim Ali married to the convert Woman when he worked in Egypt as a male Model عارض أزياء now he went to his wife's country Europe and is a successful personality who reached Dubai wow, is it because of his convert European wife's support along the years?
Wat do u mean?
🤷🏿♀️Yep!😒😈
Is Gabriel el Romani married? I am genuinely asking out of personal interest.
Another brutal blackpill about how Muslim revert who is white,blue eyes gets many proposals from females even in YT comments it’s over!
Yeah , he's...
He even has son (around 10 year old)
I think he doesn't only have one wife, but I'm not sure
No women want too ..
Let's see what brothers need to get married these days..
Ur own house
Big salary
Rich parents
A modern NAK style soft diluted Islam (basically a hypocritical Islam), a seriously practicing brother can kiss marriage good bye in this day and age or his only option is to marry a older divorced women with 2,3 kids..
And even after all that u just qualify to be in game that doesn't even guarantee you marriage.. Daddy's little princess is still not sure if u are the right one..
A sensible comment that i have seen so far..!!!in India for a guy,, marriage before 26 or 27 is rarely seen...in urban or semi urbun areas,,girls are busy to make their carrier (doctor, engineer, teacher, lawyer).... village girls are also tilting towars this 27 yo marriage rule,,,things are not as easy as presented....
Or maybe you're living in the day and age where you can't afford to keep looking for the women you want and should instead start looking for the women who need you and marry one of them for the sake of Allah and actually trust in Allah to give you the outcome that is best for you in this life and the next.
Bro we don't even have a proper job
Then how will you eat tomorrow?
I guarantee you'll find a way. Take that same approach with marriage. Get it done and then find a way.
With all due respect it is incomplete. If some one is not read then he has to wait. That's where fasting comes in.
The guy is not to blame, cus women told him you're not ready
Marriage ruined my life. You should be careful, don’t run into this idea.
You have two beautiful kids akhi
@@blueflame3531 having kids caused me more problems than any other thing in my life. I’m sorry if you can’t believe that’s true.
What brother needs to understand in modern day society most women are influenced by Kim Kardashian, they rather put more time into their ig than companionship, women have gone too picky, why do you think Andrew Tate blew up, he exposed all this and people said his committing zina but yet we ignore how a majority of women are moving mad.
Change your thumbnail mouth open pics. It makes u look tired and makes us feel tired
SubhanAllah bro your eye 👀 color is so piercing. I'm trying to figure out how many colors I'm seeing, green, blue, hazel. Anyways regarding the topic 😒. I'm fearful most of us will never get married. The pressure to provide seems overwhelming, especially in the west, it seems like it's never enough what we have. Western sisters are out earning us a lot of the times and most of them don't want to marry until they finish college and all their eggs are cooked 😮💨😔.
Don't blame men, women are the same
What a load of nonsense bro
Marriage is in Allah hands..u speaking like a demon...u been possess...watch your tongue...
Easy for you to say when you look like a damn model who chicks wanna marry. I know so many muslim brothers who have been put down upon over years with no basic female interaction due to their looks. Women truly these days go nothing but looks and money. And not every muslim is rich and handsome so think from their perspective
women care less about looks than men do. I have seen many women marry men who are much less attractive than they, but I have almost never seen a man marry a woman who is less attractive than him. lets not blame women for not being attracted to everyone even though their standards for looks are much lower than men. women care about character more than looks.
Bro everyone is not same, I'm trying my best but I don't have enough money to look after my parents how can I marry a women and take care of her 😅 Allah bless you brother