you can't learn how to fight back and stand up for yourself. You just try then you fail or not fail. most of the time most of us fail, it is normal, so don't be dissapoint about it. keep trying keep fighting.
@@Capris9x It isn't vauge it means that the people who do the right thing often do it for all the wrong reasons and it ends up hurting everyone around them instead of helping them
Yeah took til I was late 26 to even find out why I ever felt the way I did and never really feel whole, depending on the severity of treatment it can even be unprocessed trauma a thing I wouldve never thought to label it as but I had all the symptoms til recently. All guys really need to unshackle whats been conditioned into them and be free, be happy.
@@wintertarzanjagrup2527 Bro the thing is I have great genetics for muscle growth but I didn’t even knew this because I only started training at 22. But if I did start training at 14 I would have a perfect physique by now. Not only training but I’m also good at music, and this I always knew but I only started to really focus on it now, I could be already rich if only I had started earlier. But as I said, there’s no use in looking to the past i might as well go faster and stronger
Hey, I'm 46, and I keep trying to be better, both for others and for myself. I know it sounds cliché and hokey, but being able to get back up, dust myself off, and have a chuckle about what idiotic thing I did to mess things up this time has made life more bearable than it would likely be if I took myself too seriously.
An eye-opener for a man-child, like me, who happens to be 41 years old. In fact, it's the first time I encountered the term "man-child" and its meaning. I have an estranged father and a domineering mother and maternal aunts who never encouraged me and my sisters to think for ourselves. I acknowledge that it's my fault that I allowed my mother and maternal aunts to do the thinking for me and my sisters. And it's just recently that my father acknowledged his fault in not allowing me to think and decide for myself after I graduated from college. I believe it's never too late for me to improve myself.
Im 37 but my limit is 40, im planning to leave asap the title should be "40 year old boy" we humans are living till 90 or more what's the point in acting like if you are going to die at 50?
We must find a balance between being the one's at fault but also looking to what is happening out there, Not everybody can change their lives just by will alone, some get opportunities and reap the rewards, others have no opportunities despite chasing them relentlessly and there is also those who get the opportunity but throw it out of the window.
Or the fact some people are literally blacklisted SO THR JAILS CAN BR FULL I have over 1000 job application out there and for 6yrs straight, NOTHING. So this topic is truly more nuanced than ppl who have had a car can imagine.
@@mrsnipermask936 You could send 1000s of job applications and still stay unemployed basically ever since the 2008 housing collapse happened. That is exactly what I had suffered. Currently I got decent work. I live like a monk, rack in money, and plan for investments. However, as long as the next housing crash doesn't happen I will never have a place of my own. Boomers, people in power, and other groups I won't mention will screw the economy as long as they are around. And they will gaslight new generations by telling them they're lazy, they're manchildren, they need 20 years of education, they need 10 years of job experience, they need to get out of their mothers' basements, they need to touch grass and blablabla. It's all a lie.
When we take on WAY too much baggage and bullisht at too young an age for us to be able to handle it or know what's going on, then this is what you get as an adult. We're just doing the best we can do.
It’s the opposite. When you’re never seriously challenged, and relatively spoiled. You’re gonna have a man child, because they’ve never had to work for anything. Kids who have to grow up fast are proof of this.
@@rico14 Taking on way too much baggage and bullisht at too young an age IS a kid who has grown up way too fast which is where you get Peter Pan, hence my point.
23 yo young man here. I was raised by a single mother that worked a lot. My father was absent the majority of my life. I have used videos like these for guidance as I have never had any positive role models. I never feel sorry for myself as I have grown to be very independent and have benefited from it. I look around me and see people my age or older that have achieved very little in their lives. My goals are big and I’ve achieved a lot already that I hesitate to share my success with people, so it doesn’t come off as bragging. Learn from other peoples mistakes and keep building. Wisdom these days is more important than ever.
41 year old here. After busting my ass working 50+ hours a week at a full time job and remodeling two homes on the side, I got screwed over by my partner when she cheated and filed for child support at the worst possible moment. I never thought she would be so despicable and it caught me with my pants down. I was 36, in the middle of a remodel for a home I had sunk my life savings into that was suppose to be where my kids would grow up and now I needed to pay $2000/mo so that she could live with her new boyfriend and take the kids away. She was suppose to help with half the bills after she graduated from MBA school but that support disappeared before it ever materialized. Needless to say, I learned real quick there was more to life than working and money. I had to. I lost it all. If I didn't learn, I would of ended myself like so many other men who have lost it all. So yes. I'm a man child but I have to be. I have to find a way to live life to the fullest without things I thought would always be there. I had to find a new purpose in life and I had to accept that my life had changed forever and there was nothing I could do about it. I got no say in the matter. No amount of begging would get my kids back. Child custody is automatic as soon as one person decides they want it and there's nothing you can do to contest it. Either take it and raise your kids alone or accept weekend visits and walk away (I work and commute too far to see them during the weekdays). You can try to rage against it but that will either break you or kill you. I decided to grab life by the horns, refuse to let it kick me off and see where this crazy ride takes me: hell or high water.
Wow.... I can relate to an extent. It sucks to lose everything... but like you, I realized that life is MUCH more than working and earning money. That shit will send you to the grave faster. We don't really need that much to be okay in life. However, a good relationship or marriage goes a very long way. Sounds like your ex had no good intentions for you. Probably never has, unfortunately. You got this though. God bless. Remember to Pray continually.
G-d bless you and help you prosper. Your children are lucky to have you as a father, that is clear. I'm not sure about their mother but likely as they get older they will free themselves and come to you more. Bless you.
actually I can't blame you for not knowing a lot about those kinds of things because you did bust off your ass just to work as provider, that should be enough to say that you did what you could and rested while you could ----- but if it was me at your situation right now, I'll go and retire to a 3rd world country with whatever remaining money you're having and make a home and a small business there, if possible make my own farm to be self-sustaining, and if that woman still wants child support how could you send her if you're not getting 2k/month anymore? let's see what her partner does and see if she'd also do the same damned shit again and move to a diff guy or something until her eggs need freezing at least after that and she couldn't support the children then you could get them if you could dunno about the laws of a diff country like yours but man, that situation is just really so infuriating
Are you autistic? Lots of autistic people leave home late . I am autistic and the important thing is that you dont dick people around with incompetence. I know my limits and wont commit over that. That is the best you can do.
It’s weird you say this. I came to this conclusion on my own without any guidance or reading anything. I basically went through the whole grieving process for my father and now it’s like he is dead to me. It feels f’d up sometimes but my life has only improved since I cut him out.
My parents got in the way of anything I did that moved me towards independence because they feared if I became an independent man they would've no control over me. For example, the first time I tried to get a job my dad offered to match my part-time wages - I will pay you not to work. He even hid my interview letters so I'd miss job interviews and I found out later. A year later I decided not to do something he wanted me to do so as a punishment he cut me off financially. He wasn't giving me money because he was my dad and he loved me but money was a tool to manipulate me. Same when I joined a boxing gym to fight back against bullies - both parents stopped me from going because they feared if I learned to fight back and defend myself I would fight back against them when they used violence to force me to do things they wanted. I overheard them saying to relatives who were confused as to why my parents removed me from the boxing gym. I wasn't allowed to learn how to get a job, get a house, cook, and fight. My mum wouldn't even let me cook and when I tried she would throw the food I just cooked in the bin. I had to go to my best friend's house to get his mom to teach me how to cook. My mum is the only person who cooked and she only cooked when I did what she wanted. Again, it was about control and not love.
One thing that definitely makes it harder to avoid the manchild trappings at least here in Australia is the lack of affordable housing. It's hard gaining independence from your parents when the rent of the cheapest houses is more then most Australians average salary. I'm desperately hoping and working towards moving out with a friend cause as much as i love my parents i hate living in their house and under their rule.
What kind of circumstances and positive behavior from your parents would make you want to stay with them while still being your own man? Ex: parents had more money, a business, you had your own floor and nobody interfered in your life. Reason i ask is we are raising a teenager and are quite wealthy. We want him to want to stay with us because we believe in a large family where everyone can live together without interfering
@@doncorleone3901as an adult who lives with my parents and does not view it as a negative, I can just say this - understanding that framing of the situation is everything.. A man is always at some point going to want their own independent living situation and they should. But at the same time, parental support should not be viewed as a negative. Recognizing the positives, such as spending time with family who loves you and having a bit more financial flexibility, are huge. With a bit of parental support a man can attain a type of independence that is greater than average by having more money to make more impactful financial decisions and also keeping a humble appreciation for his roots and his loving family. While I can't wait til the day I'm truly independent, I appreciate every opportunity my parents have given me to grow into a mature and grateful man and achieve my dreams.. It shouldn't be viewed as a negative thing, unless the son is totally ungrateful and parasitic. It can truly be a great stepping stone in life and as many have mentioned, nowadays the cost of living is so high that it is realistically going to take men longer to get ahead enough in life to be truly independent, and if that's the case men might as well look at the bright sides of living with their family and maintain a mature perspective
To be fair, it's not living with family that makes you a man-child. This is a very particular cultural mindset. In most cultures around the world and for most of human history, you lived with or very close to your family and didn't get by our own place until marriage, and even then, it isn't uncommon to see new families simply adding on to the home of the patriarch. It's only in western countries, maybe even only Anglosphere countries, where people are expected to leave home, leave the town where your family lives, and form a completely seperate life removed from your family. You're not inherently a man-child if you simply live at home. You are a man-child if you do not handle your own responsibilities, if you don't take care of your own business to the best of your abilities, if you willfully choose to depend on ypur parents for everything (not that there's anything wrong with getting and asking for help when you actually need it), and if you refuse to try to grow as a person.
I have a job, currently not married and still living with my mom and dad,,, but I also provide them just like how they provide when I was a boy,, does that make me a man child?
The only thing women ever get blamed for is being the root cause of us humans getting kicked out of the good life. Thats litterally it and that was ages ago and most of the brunt of that got pass dumped onto a hapless creature with a tonue totally useless for talking! I swear if women were men and tried to pull this sort of thing, no one would stand for it! Um... don't overthink that last bit. On the other hand, I sure am glad women aren't men. They smell so much better and most of 'em aren't as furry. Plus, when you get that "look".😮 You know...THAT look👀 ... it's just not the same when it's not from a women. A human👈🏼 woman I might add,
Independence is a lie, because you're always depending on something. It's all one big circle, people take it way to serious and the price for "independence" (which usually means being a wage cuck, tied down to a place by bills or in worst case some sort of loan, which is quite the opposite of independence.) is misery. Like... How are you independent when you depend on a landlord that enables you to get a place to sleep, a bunch of stores that enable you to get food, doctors that fix you up if needed and lastly; a workplace that gives you the money for all that and a place in the rat-race as well. Even when living off the grid, you're depending on a source of clean drinking water, on some sort of income or food supply etc. The list could go on far longer and it applies to all that lives on earth. True independence is just as real as true self-made man or santa claus. P.S I just don't get it. So many people are seemingly proud of getting scammed by society while being miserable in the process. Grinders a miserable, Manchildren are miserable pretty much nobody is really happy or fulfilled, yet everyone is acting like they got it all together. Truth is: Existence is pure luck and live is total chaos. It's quite irrelevant what you live like and the best you can do is enjoying the ride while you can.
That excuse, that "parents are just doing what's best for you" reinforces the attachment problem. That language needs to be changed, because idealizing parents, excusing them of being devouring, abandoning, abusing, smothering is an infantile psychological defense. Seeing them for who they are as people who likely didn't know what they doing half the time and selfishly out to meet their own needs is how to step out of that. Once you see that, then it gets easy. It's like "Oh what am I even doing hanging around my parents then? Time to leave." Excusing them is part of the trauma bond that keeps man-children at home.
The hardest thing to do is tell to your parents to f*ck off and never to return home because most younger men have no where to go. Marriage and military enlistment rates are getting lower and lower. Young men who look for acceptance see there's nothing out there accept for opposition such as feminism, LGBTQ and imposter syndrome culture. When I became a truck driver at 28 in 2015, I was damn near kicked out of my parents house the year before and I had took all of my savings to get my apartment. I had got one eviction notice and that was enough to tell me I needed work every day and never be at home. I slept in my car and truck for 5 years straight and finally got my own house with the help of nobody, but myself. I say this because most American men are alone more than ever before. It's a harsh reality.
This is very true, it's sad that we have gotten this far. Unfortunately, I am one of these man-childs that was produced through these circumstances but I am understanding that I can't be reliant on my parents and need to take matters into my own hands. I appreciate your channel Mr. Forged
@@Forged88 1:41 that was somewhat me, my mother and grandmother were also over protective, but I always strived to be independent I wanted to be a Lad aka young adult until I was later 20s I didn't even want to be a teen when I was a teen I wanted freedom and independence and power
My father was authoritarian and physically abusive. I used to think it was normal but my cousins used to see the abuse sometimes and they’d ask me: “does he always do that?” His anger issues made him a terrible father despite the fact that he had good qualities. These good qualities such as financial stability meant nothing to me as I grew older. When my mom finally divorced and got her own cheap apartment, I decided to move in with her despite her not having the fanciest of things. If it weren’t for my fathers anger issues, he’d be pretty decent. For many years I associated anger with evilness because of my father. It wasn’t until many years later that I realized anger has it’s uses. My preference for my mother became a bad thing. Bills were getting more and more expensive and my mom was becoming more and more bitter. She’d tell me I couldn’t survive on my own and that I needed her to survive even at the age of 23. I’m now 26 and have lost years of my life because I believed in what my mother told me about myself. I no longer talk to either one of them anymore than is necessary.
24yo, have little to no connection with my parents despite still living at "home". I feel like im trapped and have zero clue what I should be doing in my life, the funniest or saddest part depending on your perspective is I had a better view and understanding of myself at 13 and younger. Half the time I'm wondering if I'm even real, the other half I'm just living on repeat. I hate the world I see outside my window and most of all I hate myself because I feel like I haven't lived one day in my entire life
21 year old here. I fear I'm heading in the same direction as you are. Parents keep pestering me to grow up and go outside, but I have no idea what to do once I'm out there. They keep asking me about what I would do if they suddenly disappear. I am sorry to say this, but the first thing I would consider doing is sticking my head in a bag of helium and leave my younger siblings to their own devices.
Try learning a trade. They pay well and you can make a lot of money. I am 51 and have been in a trade since I was 18 and started as a apprentice. It’s never to late and I’m not knocking you either but try for something that you have a future in. I never even went to college but learned on the job. Anyway sorry for rant and wish you the best 👍
I second it the above advice. Get in a trade. One thing I've come to believe is that it's perfectly okay if you don't follow some sort of passion into your career path. One of the ways we find value in life is through our sacrifices and the effort we put into something. It can be anything. Like getting good at an FPS game. We can always build value and build parts of our identity through prolonged effort in any endeavor we choose. We don't even really have to like it at first. Just getting started and taking it one step at a time is all it takes. Hope your life gets better.
Also. I'm not a financial advisor, but since you're young, perhaps look into buying some crypto if you haven't already. Get a Coinbase account, get maybe a little bit of bitcoin or ethereum and just sit on it for two years. The financial markets are in a bear market right now so from a long term perspective now would be the time to buy. That's not to say we may see more downside this year, but the markets eventually bounce back. Bitcoin's mining rewards will be cut in half next year and it's usually in the following few months that we have a bull run. I'm not trying to sell anything, I just wish I was more informed about certain things earlier in life.
My dad would always hit me as a child, I was always scared of him till now, he always wanted everything perfect and would get mad over the smallest thing such as the tongue of my shoe showing, I’m 22 and I stood up to him because he doesn’t respect anyone, doesn’t like people correcting him, doesn’t keep his word and if you use his word against his own to show him he’s wrong, his only respond is “I can do what I want”, I stood up to him and now I feel like I waisted so much time, I never been proud of myself, but for once I feel proud of myself and finally feel like I can take control over my life and try to be a man.
Growing up as a child with a tyrannical father figure is difficult. My father would constantly yell and scream at me and my family members. He would also get physically violent towards my mother and the few times he hit me. He even would embarrass us in public or make terrible financial decisions that would affect us due to selfish desire. He doesn't recogize his wrongdoings or just denies that he did them, and thus never truly sorry for his actions and never striving to do better next time. I cannot trust my father with life advice, so I instead resort on trying to find wisdom on the internet. One thing society really loves is indulging in comforting lies, and while there's so much I still don't know, I have at least gotten better on shifting away some of the lies. In my opinion, a true man is one who's kind, competent, independent, strong, and courageous. A true man is one who can be trusted with anything. A true man wouldn't hesitate to sacrifice his life to protect his family. A true man is someone who protects and lifts up the weak, rather than bully and push them down. A true man doesn't abandon his principles. A true man recognizes his wrongdoings and strives to become better next time. Jesus said to love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, and while my father has hurt me over the years, I still hope one day he finds redemption and inner peace on whatever may be tormenting him. Humanity may be one dysfunctional family, and while people must pay for their crimes, we're still in this together as cliche it may sound. After all our true battle is not in flesh and blood but within the human spirit against sin.
My father used to beat my mother and I relentlessly. It wasn't until my early 20s that I punched him twice in the face until he fell down. You could see the fake tough guy leave his body. He never challenged anyone again. I'm just sad that it took over 60 years for him to realize that he was never as tough as he thought. His whole life was a lie.
@@cool08player damn, guys unlucky to have fake fathers with the tough guy act. I hate those types of guys. A true tough man dosnt need to prive he's tough.
You got to pull yourselves by the bootstraps, change your mind, wake at 5 am, eat almonds and have positive vibes The poor are only poor because they want 2!
@@Ordoabchao-x9kPositive vibes won't do anything. That's just New Age gobbledygook. And lots of things are outside your control and you can't do everything by yourself. You need God to help you. Submit to God's will and He will provide you all the means and the right path.
The answer is you can't. People need to rely on each other right now. You can work FT, live at home and contribute to the household. There is nothing wrong with that. All the best to you.
I don't think that's anything new. In my opinion, that's been going on for all of time, they're just putting words to define those characteristics now.
It's always Man-child which shows how inequal men are treated today, women aren't scrutinized or belittled for childish behavior or made out to be a woman-child
I have become more of a man, my father ever was. My father was a weak coward. My Mum was really overprotective and worked 3 Jobs to keep me and my siblings fed. I moved out at 18 and figured a lot of things out by myself. I'm still far away from where i want to be, but i have built my body, worked myself head first trough walls over and over, i have truly become Independent, i have become a man others depend on. Never give up and find something worth living for.
@@2DaysOld Sometimes, i think i might would've prefered it that way, to be honest. I see it as irresponsible at best, putting life out there, if you're not able to sustain it in any healthy way.
Similar situation to me except my dad's gluttonous eating habbits ruined his health and his brain, my mom also followed this behavior and they both look 75 despite being mid 50's. You now know to be a better father to your future kids man. Keep up the grind and don't forget to socialize and meet new people ;)
I sincerely hope that there will be more and more parents that are actually ready to raise healthy adults. I feel like on one side I’m blessed that my parents weren’t the abusing me in any way but on the other hand the older I get the more I realize that I wish I had a father that would be role model for me, unfortunately he never was responsible man, all the stuff he bought is financed and he always just complains he’s broke and drowning in debt, and I feel like all I can do is look for things that I wish my dad would’ve taught me online. I wish all of you the best of luck in surpassing our parent’s mistakes :)
Gonna be 27 years old next month, no skill, no degree, no friends, jobless, never had a girlfriend and still living with my mother, my father died when i'm 19 ( he was a passive father, no masculine character at all), got health anxiety, phobias, anxious intrusive thoughts and panic attacks in the past few years, the only thing keeping me alive is my strong urge to change and becoming the man I want to be, thankfully my motivation for that is getting stronger, and my recent anxiety attacks are finally the last push to force me into action, for I assumed that my avoidance behavior of life tasks and challenges and overall cowardice in life is the main culprit of my mental health symptoms, I can't live like this, its time to finally face life task and challenges that I neglected and evaded for years.
This is perfectly true. I'm also grateful for the truth that a lot of men who have not much of a father figure is curbing themselves to a better man to be there for there sons
The sad part is that while I do have nagging father, I am too lazy, stubborn, and unexperienced in life to heed his advice. He keeps telling me to go out and see the world, spread my wings, but I have no idea where to start since the world is just to vast and confusing. By your age you should be this, by your age you should be that. It would be a lot more helpful if he actually did more than just pester me, but he's far too busy with work to support me and all my siblings.
@@whoareyoutoaccuseme6588why don't you say to him 'at your age you should be in a work position where you can spend more time with your kids. Why aren't you a manager with enough power you can leave the office when you want?'
Imagine growing up in a natural environment where everyday you have to chop wood and find food and build shelter for your survival. Everyone would grow up right if that were the case. You'd have no choice. Here in society though, we're strong in some sense but weakened in other ways. They tell us being part of a society is better and more convenient and its for our own survival and that we need things like capitalism to organize such large groups of people attempting to coexist, but at the end of the day this new "system" has failed us. No one has to chop wood anymore or forage for food, they just need to cheat, play the system, or know the right people. Thats what makes people successful today, and if you don't know those things, you suffer for it. And the world just yells at you to "man up" and "get to work" despite work not really making anyone a living wage these days.. Your "providers" these entitled women are all after are now the toxic ones who know how to play the system and who don't even feel remorse about it. We live in a society that encourages manipulation, dishonesty, and sociopathy. It encourages toxicity. And on top of that, men have less and less incentive to actually be men everyday. I'm not really sure how to interpret videos like this and I'll never know exactly the intention behind them, but demasculinizing others sure seems like a trait of toxic masculinity. And I'm really saddened to see so many men in the comments admitting to themselves that they aren't being man enough. I'm a man and I'm more man than most men alive today. And I don't need anyone to tell me. I just survived hell. If I can still survive in this toxic worthless mess you people call a society without resorting to dishonesty and manipulation, then I'm a man.
Never existing in the first place sounds like a much sweeter deal than being born into a hell hole on Ultra Nightmare difficulty surrounded by heartless people. I would never subject another human life into this cruelty with all of my pitfalls, not only that though the reality of one's situation or on a grander scale life in general is horrifying once you strip back the curtains. Many parents did us a disservice selfishly creating more life into this world when they themselves were abject failures in the eyes of society on a whole host of fronts.
1,000% I wish I were never born This world is a toilet bowl I consistently fail to understand why in GOD's name people reproduce. The cost of life is insufferable. What independence can be gained in a highly unaffordable world.
Part of improving is admitting you have a problem. All of these descriptions of a man-child definitely resonate with my own life. I finally moved out of home at 31, after being pretty much a basement dweller with no job, no money, no aspirations. I weighed 125 pounds, was weak, pathetic and did not have the slightest clue of how life worked. I am 40 now. I can't say I am perfect, because I am far from being it. I still love video games, other hobbies that might be considered (and most likely are) childish, but at least I can say I am self-sufficient. I work, have my own place, pay my bills, and are no longer afraid of taking risks or facing challenges head on. Also, having a healthy lifestyle, working out, avoiding bad habits, working out, might not sound like they do much for your life, but trust me, it does A LOT.
Good for you! But playing video games, or board games etc is a fine hobby no different than liking movies, doing gardening, fixing cars etc.. Be tough on yourself but never put yourself down needlessly. 😊
When I was 24 and my dad died, we were left on the streets, with no heritage or legacy whatsoever, he didn't leave a thing for us. Yet, I felt alleviated. Having him gone was freeing for me. At last I could start building my life the way I really wanted, and taking my own decisions. I took risks, endured crises, hunger, was on the verge of homelessness at least twice, and 10 years later, while I'm still lacking in many areas and always will, I am content with what I did with my life, despite how complicated everything has been. If you got nice parents, be grateful for them, most of us wish we had them.
The part about withdrawing from "social activities", the guy doing the video forgot to mention one important detail in regards to that.....incentive. Without it, it's simply nonsense.
It took me until I was seventeen to realise the absolute hell fatherlessness is, I met him last year and my head feels clearer now. I never tried in school never had hobbies and always lived in my older brothers shadow who was praised by my mother's side of the family. I met my older half brother who's 30+ and it was heartbreaking realising he had been robbed of his younger brothers too I despise my family for what they have done to me and I'm completely lost in life. I look at my friends fathers and think if I had just been allowed to see mine even just a few times a month growing up I would be ten times the man I am now, all the generational knowledge is gone and I'm never getting it back. A girl asked me if me and my full brother have the same dad (I'm freakishly tall in comparison to my dad brother and half brother) it completely shattered my brain thinking that my mother couldve held my real father away from me and I'm not convinced that the man I've met is my biological father I'm so lost I don't know how to process what's going on in my head
Look into possibly getting a DNA test done through Ancestry. I used them and was able to find some family that I didn’t know existed, and get some answers on some things myself. It’s just a start if you do it, but it would help you tremendously with figuring out who is who, simply from other people that have done this and they end up finding cousins, distant family members, etc..
You are so right about the generational knowledge, that’s one thing lost by not having my dad around. I don’t know much about my dads side it’s sad. Feel like my mom kidnapped me for her personal financial gain so she could live for free & not work as much.
a man is not supposed to provide for his family. it's the job for both husband and wife, as it has always been. the idea of having to provide for a physically and mentally healthy adult living in a society which gives him or her an adundence of opportunities to get an education, make decent money, build a career is nonsensical. there is the man-child, but there also is the man-slave, a man with the mentality of a financial slave.
This is an eye-opener for me. Me and my timid father lived with my sometimes narcissistic mother. I used to wonder why I felt so free when my mother passed away due to an illness but now I know why. I was enslaved under my mothers expectations. Honestly, I didn't learn to think for myself until she was gone. I blamed her for my "infantility".
@@notyourtypicalcomment2399 i know that. But I have to be honest myself. I really suffered the consequences of her overprotectiveness. She could have done better.
@@candyvegitto1310 not just your mother but your father, you said he was timid, he should have been concerned with his role and it’s impact on u, but he’s also not perfect.
Why you are so worried about your 30's?? Why are you all acting like it's 1850 we live to like 90 or more years now why being worried about getting married at 25??
is extremely important to socialize and play with other children as soon as possible (around ~2yo mark), if not, that will cripple person for life to have proper interactions with others
I used to blame my parents until i realized that they are, same as us, the products of their missfortune, enviroment and families. Now i'm 30 yo and i keep watching these videos in order to find that strenght to start living. I used to be fearful of people until a year ago. Even so, still strugling with it . Can't find the proper motivation or will power in me to do shit for myself and i keep falling into this comfort zone. All my friends have left me because i think they didn't see anything worthy of keeping in me. The breaking point was last year when my best friend stopped being my best friend because i was only thinking of myself. Took me a while to figure what she meant but she was right. Because of my circumstances i developed this ...way of doing things without realizing unconsciously that im doing it only for my own benefit. Even tho i realize it now ...i'm scared because i don't know how to solve it...and there are many more other things that i as well as others are dealing with that i'm not gonna discuss here. Even more telling you guys all this makes me feel so low, like i'm yelling for help in a pathetic atempt to get attention. I do need help and i do want help....just dont know how to get it ...i'm ashamed of myself and what i've become and im just afraid that im far too lost to recover ...but yeah ...my story in few words...I hope you all get the strenght to overcome these challenges and become the best versions of yourselves no matter how lost you may feel..
Awareness is the first stage to reach enlighment. The next stage is taking action and agency in ones life by starting to develop healthy habbits. Regular sleep times, going out for walks, cooking more healthy food... These are all very simple things that when added up can truly make a difference in your life. Feeling sad for ourselves is not gonna help anything. The thing that paralyses us from change is that some of us would rather live in our heads, wasting time imagining how life could be, and getting a small taste of that fantasy world we crave. By living in that fantasy world too long though, it gives us an unrealistic view and expectations about the kind of life we should be having for ourselves. And when that fantasy world seems so out of reach, you don't even try to reach it, you give up because the finish line seems so far away and impossible to reach. Small steps, is what we need. Don't focus on the finish line, focus on incorporating those small changes in your life. You'll be a better person everyday for it. No matter how small those changes are. Like the video says, no one is going to save you. You have to save yourself
Exactly man, I found out that I am very angry at my parents because they were arguing all the time because of very minor stuff, so I was scared to tell them that I feel miserable all my life - so I am angry that they werent there for me the way i needed... but being hurt just doesnt help you, it creates a vicious cycle of misery. If you are financially able to, please start therapy - it's not anything shameful. A lot of people hire trainers to assist them with their body, so getting a professional to help you navigate your mind is the same thing. Be strong and try to get some order in your life, take up a hobby - even if you dont know what hobby you would like. Be it excercising, reading, music, just something you can completely turn off your over analysing brain and just enjoy the moment... you can do it king
You’re never too far gone as long as your breathing. Come to Jesus. He will make you new. ❤ “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation; to wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation.” 2 Corinthians 5:17-19 KJV
As a 28-year-old male, I find this video incredibly sexist. A term like ‘man-child’ just degrades men who don’t act according to society’s standards. We never apply these same standards to women, which just reinforces the notion that men have more responsibilities than women, which is patriarchal.
I hate the fact that I was born just because I was born to uncaring parents. It is a curse and no one cares about leftover men. I don't even have a driver's license.
I am there for my kids. An eleven-year-old stepdaughter, an eight-year-old daughter, and a four-year-old son. I spend every hour that I'm not working with them. There's nothing more important to me than my kids. No way in the world they're going to grow up without me being their dad.
I’m 22 and noticed this shit at 19. I’m building my self up for the better. Upgrade yourself guys. Become that strong lvl 100 character. We fucking got this
@@napping7674 i want you to wake up every day. Look yourself in the mirror and say to yourself. "I am in control, no one is responsible for myself but me. I am young, and i have time. I will not waste it. Because i am one of the greatest people to have ever lived" I encourage you to start small, workout once a week, you'll find yourself starting to enjoy it and do it more often. Whenever something feels difficult, i want to you to see it as an opportunity to become a stronger man. Invest in your future, build your strength, and your 30 year old self will be forever grateful you did this.
Hyper masculinity is not the answer to a lack of success. You need to practice more self love ajd use that to motivate you and propel you forward. Your body knoes what to do to make it. Back in the day the American dream was a wife kids job and a house or place to stay. If we remember this is the ultimate goal a lot more of us will be content with who we are in life.
It's made by listening to Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson and many other similar online personalities and then thinking that that's how the world actually works
I am 26 Have wasted 8 years of my life from 16 onwards - playing videos games, watching adult content and trying every bit to run from any real responsibility . Always wished for some magic to happen and turn my life 360 . Well , it took me 10 long years to realise - I AM THE MAGIC in my story . It starts with me learning to take self responsibility and accepting the process of adulting into a man who enjoys looking after himself and his loved ones .
I am 29. I spent so much time in procrastination,though I also took degrees in between. But I learnt almost nothing of outside world during this time. Having mental illnesses,sedative medications and controlling parents hindered me a lot. At the age of 29,I have realized that I have wasted too much of time. And now despite having a very huge task in front of me,I am trying my best and I am trying hard. To all my fellow struggling men I would say that please do not give up and no matter whenever you wake up,you have a chance.
There are far more videos about men who don't measure up and so few about men who do. It is as if some have the idea that the path to manhood is orientating yourself in such a way that you can look down on the man child. Man cannot be defined negatively as "not that".
Well .. .affordable housing is not a primary option now. How the hell are people suppose to grow and be independent, if the material conditions are this crap? People in the past had their own place not because they were better men, but because they had better material conditions. People nowadays are more productive than ever, but in no way better financially than previous generations. As usual, these types of videos don't go beyond the individual conditions and ignore the more permeating circumstances that affect all of these individual conditions.
This sounds like Freudian psychology which is a bad thing. Plus, if you work 50 hours + a week like a commenter below, you are not a "manchild." Truly, just work and make money, that makes you useful to society which is the opposite of a Manchild. And you can work regardless of what you parents did or didn't do to you. And I'm not saying "work because that's what you're made for" I'm saying it's a good way to be productive and move up in life instead of listening to Freudian psychology which never takes a person's actual decisions into account when telling you who you should blame.
28 here. Honestly, I sometimes wonder about if I am one. But frankly, I don't care. My father lost his life to cancer before covid hit. So, my mother has started working more in his place. Most of my siblings have moved out. I've decided I'm not leaving her. I'm going to find a trade school, get an apprenticeship and learn how to become an electrician to help support her as long as I'm able. Growing up and learning to think for yourself is the goal of youth. But Independence means nothing if it comes at the cost of abandoning your family when they need you.
Joining the military in my teens set me on a good life path. That was 20+ years ago. Today I would not suggest the military to anyone! Times are a lot different than they were in the 90s and 80s.
my military parents constantly complained about the militarty growing up, treated me as if i was in the military with them. then when it came time for college time, they told me to go into the military or leave. (I left out a lot of stuff but just imagine living your life with a negative idea of your parents job, then for them to tell you go work there.)
military ain't so bad if you don't drink the koolaid, remember you're not fighting for flags, you're fighting for profit, get experience and become a merc/pmc. If not that criminals with military experience can do much better- It sounds f*cked up but that is the direction life is going in.
The root cause of this phenomenon is socioeconomic. The socioeconomic forces shape the family dynamics at young age which in turn reflect the psychosocial development of the child. Society changed in the past 30 years and so did people in how they view themselves in and others' social roles.
I like this video and I don't necessarily think that everything said here is 100% true but a lot of it is. I grew up in a household with both parents, but they were very controlling, and my father basically raised me and instilled me with fear to get his way of making me do things or not do things around the house that he wanted. I was never really taught to have independent thought and now at 27 years old. I have finally started to realize that and to realize the importance of confidence in oneself and pushing forward in your own beliefs, and trusting your own self, and not taking orders from somebody else. It was always negativity and being told about how every decision I made was dumb or wrong, and that I was not going to be successful unless I did what they wanted. Any time I wanted to try a new endeavor I was told I wouldn't be successful or that I wouldn't be able to do it. Eventually they started to wear off in my early to mid 20s and now I am in a much better place with that, but people have no idea how much it affects you to grow up in an environment like that until you're really old enough and mature enough to understand the impact that your parents can have on you as an adult. now of course everyone makes mistakes but there are basics that you need to know and they need to provide for your kids as parents and not everybody gets that and I was one of those people. This even poured into my love life up until recently, when I finally realized a relationship that I was in, was exactly the same situation of how I was raised. Constant fighting yelling and toxicity about how I was wrong getting the blame for it all and once in a while getting a sliver of positivity. I finally had enough and walked away from it because I know I needed to start respecting myself, even if it was just now in my mid 20s. Once again the impact of being raised in the household like that has many effects on you of what you don't even know until you're older, and I just realize that in my life especially being treated the way I was from my parents Made me, unconsciously, not respect myself because of how they spoke to me and treated me and how I excepted that as normal behavior from people. The environment that you live in, and that you are brought up in make some major difference in life, and plays into who you become. Although this is not set in stone, and like I said, you can always better yourself and always mold yourself and be a help to yourself. The honest reality is that some of us are dealt better hands than others in life but we must go forward with what we have. There's always hope and there's always room for improvement every day no matter how young you are or how old do you think you are. You can always change for the betterment of yourself.
Good luck being independent in an economy where even a medium wage job can’t upkeep rent and food for yourself. Oh, and I hope you don’t still have that “starting a family fantasy” in your head, we can’t really do that anymore unless both you and your significant other make 6 figures a year, but hey, If you want to raise a family in poverty and starvation, be my guest.
It falls to more than just having to "deal" with things as an adult, mainly it falls on HOW to learn as an adult while getting little to no help learning things. This contributes to long-term delays in becoming financially independent as well as mentally focused with real world distractions and little to no understanding from others in overwhelming fear of the real world. Speaking from experience of being raised by a feminist socialist without the promotion of a flag. All things were "too dangerous" and the world was just looking to "try and kidnap me" if she wasn't around. It was always "better" to just try and stay home all the time. I have memory issues...
Economy also plays a major role. My father only finished high school and has always been rather immature and easy to anger, yet he could still get a relatively comfortable office job, buy an apartment alongside my mom and to this day is still being paid a pension from his old job (not a retirement fund or savings, but an actual salary). Some of the most mature, capable and wise young adults i know are still forced to live with their families because either renting or buying a home is so fucking expensive.
The high cost of living and inflation are the main reasons young people have a hard time becoming self-sufficient these days. I help my adult children with rent because they are not able to keep up with the inflation anymore and I prefer that they don’t live in my home. But if I wasn’t able to help them, they would have to move back home after being independent for about 10 years. It’s simply economics more than any psychological damage why kids can’t move out.
I love how ppl keep creating syndromes and stuff to say we are broken in some way instead of just admitting that capitalism has made the world almost unbearable for ppl with not much money to live in and were just doing anything we can to no hang ourselves in the end of the day
Embrace loneliness, you do NOT need the approval of others to live, go to the gym, talk with someone, visit places, read and write. Because at the end of the day, if you mind your own business and grow as a person, everyone will wonder "what's the trick?" and they'll come to you. There is a saying "birds of a feather flock together". It's ok to be sad sometimes, to feel alone, but keep in mind you can't live your whole entire life like that. My advice, write those feelings and ideas down, reflect on them. You are not your past. And again take the time when you feel alone and are alone, to just think about what pressures you, believe me you'll soon find out that there's no reason to be sad. *Make a plan take the risk and be quiet.*
@@TurbanCatMccoyI thought it means that it's fine not to maintain long-term relationships, but because humans are social creatures, you still need to communicate with other people you meet even if it's just small talk or else you would end up like solitary confinement prisoners
Love how people are aware of this, yet continue to do it lmaoo. And then, to make it even funnier, people say don’t blame your parents, they were going through stuff. So they decide to have a kid instead of getting their shit together ?
Hard to find the innitiave to seek mentors when you're still very young and own father isnt there. Making us feel lost and significantly out of touch with regards to everything as we grow up
Independence and maturity is an illusion created by the ego. Everyone is a child and seems immature to someone else. We are dependants from birth till death. Only degrees vary. Did you build your house or the structure your in right now with your hands? Did you build UA-cam? Did you build the electric system that you depend on? What about your gas for your vehicle? What about the language you speak... What about... I could go on all day. In Indian culture the family lives together even in old age, kings and other nobles do the same, Africans in agricultural communities live as an extended family on large acres of land, the wealthy and elites of some states do the same... My point is relax and live your life however you choose to live it. Your family values don't have to be like all the others. How your parents lived or raised you is okay so don't feel bad for not fitting into the pedestalized mold in the mind of society or this articulate gentleman. Live your life as best as you can using your standards and keep your head up. Your success is dependent on your self esteem so be confident in who you are, you are all awesome and can be whoever and whatever you want to be.
I had two things in mind aside from dealing my personal problems with my parents while trying my best to manage myself until I got enough money to get the shit outta it... First, Shotzi, a female wrestler, raised by his biological dad and her step dad. Both her step dad and her original dad had good relationship as best friends. In fact, she considers them are two of the best friends in the world and they help her raised as a better person. And the second one, my friend, a former PUA and taking his own philosophy of manhood and making connections with real relationships. He was living alone, has wicked brains in psychology, philosophy and business opportunity. He is not quite handsome and fat but he fits some balls. Loves playing videogames most of the time, suffered from depression, and being bashed by most people. He knows about truth about social status and power. It sometimes neglected due to constant confrontations with society. Now, I was asking myself if these two were worth as role models. Talking about guys who have been nurtured by parents and decision upon themselves to be a free person.
Everyone have some wisdom of their own. You just have to find those whom you can relate the most. Those who are raised by single fathers have more chances to become more psychologically stable than those with single mothers. Those who are extreme observationists & those who are reasonably obsessed over finding answers can accurately understand a lot of circumstances from a lot of perspectives even though they never experience those situations themselves
@@Forged88 Definitely agree with your point! Those who influenced by a right person will surely guaranteed the winning rate live right to the fullest. There are many other challenges that still tests our clarity over those obstacles and how long will keep our principles longer.
The system is screwed up and we inherently know it. But people don't realize that we have changed our percieved definition of a 'successful life'. Western society see's a 'successful life' as one who lives away from family and pays their apt. and bills. Because we see someone who pays off their apt. through playing video games as a 'successful life', but then someone who lives with their parents and plays video games as a 'unsuccessful life'. We have equated a 'successful life' to making enough money and paying off your monthly rent. Our society has changed drastically; our rent and cost of living is absurdly higher, and humans have uncontrollable access to things that are now addictions. We need to create a better percieved definition to a successful life, and right now Im thinking that should be 'someone who is not consumed by addictions created in this modern society'. Those addictions include popularized drug use, pointless internet usage, bad food, and video games, which are pointless. We need to realize that there are propaganda spells pushed at us, one of them is the topic of this video. You see no one wants to relate to the term 'man-child', but we all know the importance to relate to the word 'inner-child'. Think about that for a second .... now we need to rid our modern addictions which is supporting the 'man-child' but not actually helping our 'inner-child', and we need to change our percieved definition of a 'successful life' to 'someone who is not consumed by addictions created in this modern society', and we must know that we are being lied to and pushed propaganda to limit us.
Summing up this type of men are the consequence of scum parents, of course the damage is done involuntarily, possibly they are also the consequence of scum parents. It is very important before bringing children into the world to heal from all kinds of traumas and emotional wounds that you have. Excellent video.💯
Hello I'm 16 and I think my parents raised me quite well however I'm incredibly worried about my 5 year old bdother as I don't think my parents are doing a good job at disciplining him due to their age, he is very mercurial and a bit wierd icl, he says a lot of things a depressed person may say, and from what I know he has friends but isn't very socially inept. They have become a lot less strict than they used to. Should I step up and help by becoming a father like role model. If so how can I or should I do that.
Thanks, I really needed the pep talk. I've been feeling really down the last few months and couldn't quite understand why. The reality, was that I had started hiding away in my comfort zone again, and overindulging in non-productive and destructive habits
When you realized your mother was a castrating witch who wanted you to be a deflated, plastic teddy bear for her to hug until her death bed and your father was a nutless wonder who basically functioned as her pet or personal footstool, it can take years or decades to process, grieve and rage over what was done to you (or what should have been taught to you but wasn't). We live in the post-initiation rite world where essentially female schoolteachers and mothers dominate the psyches of impressionable boys, and dads are reduced to these cowed, spiritless pack mules whose job is to bring back money to pay the bills while the out of control mother calls the shots and gives little Johny "sensitivity training" instead of work and fighting skills to hold their ground and leave their mark in a work field. Dont beat yourself up if you havent forgiven your parents yet; parents who fail their sons should be begging their sons for forgiveness. Especially the ones that humiliated and drugged their kid instead of equipping and raising them. Forgiveness isnt easy, and takes a long time. Its painful. And the world doesn't give a sh*t about your suffering and struggles either, which sadly makes personal maturity and finding a community even harder after being stunted by cowards who were unprepared for what it took to really raise a resilient adult.
Take this shit with a grain of salt. UA-camrs as well as psychologist are out here to win . Whatever it is they trying to win it’s not your victory it’s theirs.
I started working full time at age 18. Two years prior I was started in a work program for learning disabled kids, where I got to leave school early two days a week to go work. I still sometimes feel like a kid who just got old. It's too late to start again, I had no idea that program would severely restrict my options and quality of life.
Men need to be strong leaders in the country, in the household, and in the work space, women need to be kind loving nurturers, neither one is better or more needed then the other, women are more emotion based and understanding, so they show the soft side of life, men are the protectors, so they lead in the pursuit of self-perseverance, not saying men shouldn't be loving and understanding, they just should be in another way. both are needed, men and women cant be treated equally because they aren't the same, you cant make water act like fire as much as you may try to pretend like it is, im not sexist, its not sexist to say women shouldn't be in the military, women shouldn't be fathers, just like men shouldn't have to nurture, men shouldn't have to raise the child on there own, its a team, and both have there roles, neither is grater then the other, our world today is destroying the sound foundation that God has built, the role of men, the role of women, and we are acting like gender isn't actually a thing.
Sou um cara de 27. Criado pela mãe e avô. Sim, me sinto um homem criança. A parte boa é que tenho consciência disso, não estou em negação! Agora que meus pais são idosos, as responsabilidades parecem que vieram tudo de uma vez mas não, eu que fugi delas a vida inteira.. mas a hora chegou, veio e passou.. estou aprendendo com meus erros e quero me tornar um Homem melhor. Keep grinding kings 🔥💪👑 I see you guys in the top of the world 🔝
Blaming parents for showering their love, care is just pathetic excuse for not growing up. They've seen hardship and don't want to see their kid suffer what they've been through. Great video
@@derek96720 can you elaborate on to your claim that only poor people do? If we’re all human then regardless of financial status, any human can think the same thing?
Damn. Just sat through this whole video reliving my entire childhood and adolescence. Almost as if you were reading my biography with some modifications. I hope I can free myself from this.
Eye opener, makes me appreciate my parents. While my dad was largely unpresent at work, he still encouraged and still encourages me in my pursuits of self improvement and independence. While my mom doesn't really encourage independence, she still encourages self improvement.
im sure not being able to afford housing as nothing to do with it as well as the living crisis and the fact that maturity is defined by responsibility and nothing more
Right. I'm getting real tired of these videos telling men they should be grinding 18 hours a day, in the gym 4 hours a day and get 2 hours of sleep and it's going to magically solve all your problems and make you a respectable man.
Exactly. They set image of a perfect man that never existed in real life. Our culture, economics, technology and society is completely different and one adapts as he can. And if you fail to be that ideal fiction picture from movies , you are somehow damaged. As for housing, families were living together for centuries and that was fine. Something doesn’t fit in all that masculinity and success religion. I really don’t care and just do what feels right for me. If I lose, not a big deal. But it will be in my own way
True, our world is changing fast for the worse. Not enough of these self help gurus acknowledge that. They are right that under any circumstance it is up to the individual man to make due and to strive ever forward, but we are not men in a vacuum. There are external realities that play a significant part in all of our lives. Picking yourself up by your bootstraps and being responsible in the 1950's meant getting a steady job maybe at a factory, that you planned to keep until retirement. Easy enough. We do not live in that world anymore.
@@ajdynamo6866Yeah, That sigma male strat is fucking bullshit and just a way to fear monger vulnerable guys who are at their low point. I might not be the healthiest person but I agree going to the gym and trying not to get fired is a good thing. But these videos don’t paint it the way I do. That patrick bateman strat is nowhere realistic, not everyone lives like him or I don’t know, The Tate brothers?
No cuz all the ills of the world are the fault of men, regardless of who is performing them 😂 (tbh it's kinda true cuz we have all the power in reality)
I don't have a father and I'm gay and yet still independent at 21 and masculine. It's all because people look down on me that's why I wanted to prove that I can still be manly despite my preferences 😌
Im gonna be 30 Soon, Im starting to wake up, my anger is ceasing and i see massive self improvement on the horizon of the son, i saw a video of penguin abandoning his colony and feeding grounds and instead heads towards the vast continent of 5,000 km, while alot of people saw a depressed,deranged penguin i saw myself as the penguin away from society but this time coming back (:
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The only thing my parents taught me is to fear everything. They never taught me how to fight back and stand up for myself.
Same, but it's not too late I just needa quit weed and get my shit together, I Know I will
They simply taught you survival through fleeing. You have to pick up from their slack by learning the part of fight, and focusing on creation.
you can't learn how to fight back and stand up for yourself. You just try then you fail or not fail. most of the time most of us fail, it is normal, so don't be dissapoint about it. keep trying keep fighting.
I'm in the same boat. Single mother, too, no father in my life.
Same. They taught me to fear everything.
One thing I've learned from my parents mistakes is the road to hell is often paved with good intentions
Yes, truly tragic.
Yep
This sounds a bit vague. What do you mean exactly by that? Your parents thought they did a good job but they actually did horrible?
@@Capris9x It isn't vauge it means that the people who do the right thing often do it for all the wrong reasons and it ends up hurting everyone around them instead of helping them
It does have one other meaning the path you take while you mean well you may unintentionally send others down a darker path in other words ignorance
I’m 23, I wish I took on self development earlier. If you are 20+ don’t give up, never give up, go faster and stronger
Yeah took til I was late 26 to even find out why I ever felt the way I did and never really feel whole, depending on the severity of treatment it can even be unprocessed trauma a thing I wouldve never thought to label it as but I had all the symptoms til recently. All guys really need to unshackle whats been conditioned into them and be free, be happy.
20 - 23 is the perfect time to start self development. 29 , 30 is kinda late
@@wintertarzanjagrup2527 Bro the thing is I have great genetics for muscle growth but I didn’t even knew this because I only started training at 22. But if I did start training at 14 I would have a perfect physique by now.
Not only training but I’m also good at music, and this I always knew but I only started to really focus on it now, I could be already rich if only I had started earlier.
But as I said, there’s no use in looking to the past i might as well go faster and stronger
Thank you, likewise.
Hey, I'm 46, and I keep trying to be better, both for others and for myself. I know it sounds cliché and hokey, but being able to get back up, dust myself off, and have a chuckle about what idiotic thing I did to mess things up this time has made life more bearable than it would likely be if I took myself too seriously.
An eye-opener for a man-child, like me, who happens to be 41 years old. In fact, it's the first time I encountered the term "man-child" and its meaning. I have an estranged father and a domineering mother and maternal aunts who never encouraged me and my sisters to think for ourselves. I acknowledge that it's my fault that I allowed my mother and maternal aunts to do the thinking for me and my sisters. And it's just recently that my father acknowledged his fault in not allowing me to think and decide for myself after I graduated from college. I believe it's never too late for me to improve myself.
U are like Finn instead u need to be like Tommy
its never too late, time to break your comfort zone
U still have time but you have to move fast and hard, everyday counts!
good on your for realising bro now you can think for yourself and have a very bright future ahead if you want it
Im 37 but my limit is 40, im planning to leave asap the title should be "40 year old boy" we humans are living till 90 or more what's the point in acting like if you are going to die at 50?
the fact that life cost has risen to nearly 4000% was never even scratched, without opportunities there is no self sufficiency
We must find a balance between being the one's at fault but also looking to what is happening out there, Not everybody can change their lives just by will alone, some get opportunities and reap the rewards, others have no opportunities despite chasing them relentlessly and there is also those who get the opportunity but throw it out of the window.
Or the fact some people are literally blacklisted SO THR JAILS CAN BR FULL I have over 1000 job application out there and for 6yrs straight, NOTHING. So this topic is truly more nuanced than ppl who have had a car can imagine.
@@mrsnipermask936 You could send 1000s of job applications and still stay unemployed basically ever since the 2008 housing collapse happened. That is exactly what I had suffered.
Currently I got decent work. I live like a monk, rack in money, and plan for investments. However, as long as the next housing crash doesn't happen I will never have a place of my own.
Boomers, people in power, and other groups I won't mention will screw the economy as long as they are around. And they will gaslight new generations by telling them they're lazy, they're manchildren, they need 20 years of education, they need 10 years of job experience, they need to get out of their mothers' basements, they need to touch grass and blablabla.
It's all a lie.
being kept in a modern cageless cage restricts potential for opportunity.
Stop being a victim
When we take on WAY too much baggage and bullisht at too young an age for us to be able to handle it or know what's going on, then this is what you get as an adult. We're just doing the best we can do.
So true. Just keep moving forward, reject modernity and seek prosperity and what that looks like to you.
It’s the opposite. When you’re never seriously challenged, and relatively spoiled. You’re gonna have a man child, because they’ve never had to work for anything. Kids who have to grow up fast are proof of this.
@@rico14 Taking on way too much baggage and bullisht at too young an age IS a kid who has grown up way too fast which is where you get Peter Pan, hence my point.
@@jonnuanez7183 💯👍
No.... Peter Pan never wanted to grow up and take responsibility. He wanted to live in Never Land and have fun forever.
23 yo young man here. I was raised by a single mother that worked a lot. My father was absent the majority of my life. I have used videos like these for guidance as I have never had any positive role models. I never feel sorry for myself as I have grown to be very independent and have benefited from it. I look around me and see people my age or older that have achieved very little in their lives. My goals are big and I’ve achieved a lot already that I hesitate to share my success with people, so it doesn’t come off as bragging. Learn from other peoples mistakes and keep building. Wisdom these days is more important than ever.
Glad to hear you're doing well mate 👊
They seem honorable most of it is spot on those with good character would say
Ok
Sameee bro🤝💎
Same 😎
41 year old here. After busting my ass working 50+ hours a week at a full time job and remodeling two homes on the side, I got screwed over by my partner when she cheated and filed for child support at the worst possible moment. I never thought she would be so despicable and it caught me with my pants down. I was 36, in the middle of a remodel for a home I had sunk my life savings into that was suppose to be where my kids would grow up and now I needed to pay $2000/mo so that she could live with her new boyfriend and take the kids away. She was suppose to help with half the bills after she graduated from MBA school but that support disappeared before it ever materialized. Needless to say, I learned real quick there was more to life than working and money. I had to. I lost it all. If I didn't learn, I would of ended myself like so many other men who have lost it all. So yes. I'm a man child but I have to be. I have to find a way to live life to the fullest without things I thought would always be there. I had to find a new purpose in life and I had to accept that my life had changed forever and there was nothing I could do about it. I got no say in the matter. No amount of begging would get my kids back. Child custody is automatic as soon as one person decides they want it and there's nothing you can do to contest it. Either take it and raise your kids alone or accept weekend visits and walk away (I work and commute too far to see them during the weekdays). You can try to rage against it but that will either break you or kill you. I decided to grab life by the horns, refuse to let it kick me off and see where this crazy ride takes me: hell or high water.
Wow.... I can relate to an extent. It sucks to lose everything... but like you, I realized that life is MUCH more than working and earning money. That shit will send you to the grave faster. We don't really need that much to be okay in life. However, a good relationship or marriage goes a very long way. Sounds like your ex had no good intentions for you. Probably never has, unfortunately. You got this though. God bless. Remember to Pray continually.
You always marry your equal. First take care of head. Until God is first everything you do will fail.
@@rangercal1 marrying your equal is a lie women tell themselves
G-d bless you and help you prosper. Your children are lucky to have you as a father, that is clear. I'm not sure about their mother but likely as they get older they will free themselves and come to you more. Bless you.
actually I can't blame you for not knowing a lot about those kinds of things because you did bust off your ass just to work as provider, that should be enough to say that you did what you could and rested while you could ----- but if it was me at your situation right now, I'll go and retire to a 3rd world country with whatever remaining money you're having and make a home and a small business there, if possible make my own farm to be self-sustaining, and if that woman still wants child support how could you send her if you're not getting 2k/month anymore? let's see what her partner does and see if she'd also do the same damned shit again and move to a diff guy or something until her eggs need freezing
at least after that and she couldn't support the children then you could get them if you could
dunno about the laws of a diff country like yours but man, that situation is just really so infuriating
Well said, just recently moved out at 25, I can feel I'm developmentally behind some of my peers since I grew up a shut in. But I will catch up
Go after it mate 👊
Same here
Are you autistic? Lots of autistic people leave home late . I am autistic and the important thing is that you dont dick people around with incompetence. I know my limits and wont commit over that. That is the best you can do.
don't catch up... overtake!
all the best
Who cares? What's the hurry?
Forgive your parents then take *RESPONSIBILITY* henceforth (live as if your dad was dead and it's up to you).
Hell yeah I see youve been reading The way of the superior man
It’s weird you say this. I came to this conclusion on my own without any guidance or reading anything. I basically went through the whole grieving process for my father and now it’s like he is dead to me. It feels f’d up sometimes but my life has only improved since I cut him out.
how can I live as if my dad (or parents) were dead if they constantly need my help with demandings, running errands and stuff?
@@matheusgusmao00too young I guess
@@redflame300 I'm 28, I'll turn 29 in two months. They above 70.
My parents got in the way of anything I did that moved me towards independence because they feared if I became an independent man they would've no control over me. For example, the first time I tried to get a job my dad offered to match my part-time wages - I will pay you not to work. He even hid my interview letters so I'd miss job interviews and I found out later. A year later I decided not to do something he wanted me to do so as a punishment he cut me off financially. He wasn't giving me money because he was my dad and he loved me but money was a tool to manipulate me.
Same when I joined a boxing gym to fight back against bullies - both parents stopped me from going because they feared if I learned to fight back and defend myself I would fight back against them when they used violence to force me to do things they wanted. I overheard them saying to relatives who were confused as to why my parents removed me from the boxing gym. I wasn't allowed to learn how to get a job, get a house, cook, and fight. My mum wouldn't even let me cook and when I tried she would throw the food I just cooked in the bin. I had to go to my best friend's house to get his mom to teach me how to cook. My mum is the only person who cooked and she only cooked when I did what she wanted. Again, it was about control and not love.
same here. I hope you kept boxng and working
Join the military and never go back home, save all your money, take all the free financial education classes they offer to veterans.
Thats super f*ed. Military is one option. Thats what I'm doing.
That's incredible. I hope you got out of that toxic mess.
You need to read and learn about narcissistic parents
One thing that definitely makes it harder to avoid the manchild trappings at least here in Australia is the lack of affordable housing. It's hard gaining independence from your parents when the rent of the cheapest houses is more then most Australians average salary. I'm desperately hoping and working towards moving out with a friend cause as much as i love my parents i hate living in their house and under their rule.
What kind of circumstances and positive behavior from your parents would make you want to stay with them while still being your own man? Ex: parents had more money, a business, you had your own floor and nobody interfered in your life. Reason i ask is we are raising a teenager and are quite wealthy. We want him to want to stay with us because we believe in a large family where everyone can live together without interfering
@@doncorleone3901as an adult who lives with my parents and does not view it as a negative, I can just say this - understanding that framing of the situation is everything.. A man is always at some point going to want their own independent living situation and they should. But at the same time, parental support should not be viewed as a negative. Recognizing the positives, such as spending time with family who loves you and having a bit more financial flexibility, are huge. With a bit of parental support a man can attain a type of independence that is greater than average by having more money to make more impactful financial decisions and also keeping a humble appreciation for his roots and his loving family. While I can't wait til the day I'm truly independent, I appreciate every opportunity my parents have given me to grow into a mature and grateful man and achieve my dreams.. It shouldn't be viewed as a negative thing, unless the son is totally ungrateful and parasitic. It can truly be a great stepping stone in life and as many have mentioned, nowadays the cost of living is so high that it is realistically going to take men longer to get ahead enough in life to be truly independent, and if that's the case men might as well look at the bright sides of living with their family and maintain a mature perspective
To be fair, it's not living with family that makes you a man-child. This is a very particular cultural mindset. In most cultures around the world and for most of human history, you lived with or very close to your family and didn't get by our own place until marriage, and even then, it isn't uncommon to see new families simply adding on to the home of the patriarch. It's only in western countries, maybe even only Anglosphere countries, where people are expected to leave home, leave the town where your family lives, and form a completely seperate life removed from your family. You're not inherently a man-child if you simply live at home. You are a man-child if you do not handle your own responsibilities, if you don't take care of your own business to the best of your abilities, if you willfully choose to depend on ypur parents for everything (not that there's anything wrong with getting and asking for help when you actually need it), and if you refuse to try to grow as a person.
I have a job, currently not married and still living with my mom and dad,,, but I also provide them just like how they provide when I was a boy,, does that make me a man child?
Same
Why a women never called 'woman-child'? They are never blamed for anything.
Because they can learn from man like us, we have the responsibility take care of the family.
They’re not held on the same standards
Women never take responsibility or accountability, it’s NEVER their fault, so why would they be blamed for anything?
They're called gold diggers.
The only thing women ever get blamed for is being the root cause of us humans getting kicked out of the good life. Thats litterally it and that was ages ago and most of the brunt of that got pass dumped onto a hapless creature with a tonue totally useless for talking! I swear if women were men and tried to pull this sort of thing, no one would stand for it! Um... don't overthink that last bit.
On the other hand, I sure am glad women aren't men. They smell so much better and most of 'em aren't as furry. Plus, when you get that "look".😮 You know...THAT look👀 ... it's just not the same when it's not from a women. A human👈🏼 woman I might add,
Independence is a lie, because you're always depending on something.
It's all one big circle, people take it way to serious and the price for "independence"
(which usually means being a wage cuck, tied down to a place by bills or in worst case some sort of loan, which is quite the opposite of independence.)
is misery.
Like...
How are you independent when you depend on a landlord that enables you to get a place to sleep, a bunch of stores that enable you to get food,
doctors that fix you up if needed and lastly; a workplace that gives you the money for all that and a place in the rat-race as well.
Even when living off the grid, you're depending on a source of clean drinking water, on some sort of income or food supply etc.
The list could go on far longer and it applies to all that lives on earth.
True independence is just as real as true self-made man or santa claus.
P.S
I just don't get it. So many people are seemingly proud of getting scammed by society while being miserable in the process.
Grinders a miserable, Manchildren are miserable pretty much nobody is really happy or fulfilled, yet everyone is acting like they got it all together.
Truth is: Existence is pure luck and live is total chaos.
It's quite irrelevant what you live like and the best you can do is enjoying the ride while you can.
I absolutely agree with you
We should be depending on God
Yep the grass is not green on any side.
This is the best comment
That excuse, that "parents are just doing what's best for you" reinforces the attachment problem.
That language needs to be changed, because idealizing parents, excusing them of being devouring, abandoning, abusing, smothering is an infantile psychological defense. Seeing them for who they are as people who likely didn't know what they doing half the time and selfishly out to meet their own needs is how to step out of that.
Once you see that, then it gets easy. It's like "Oh what am I even doing hanging around my parents then? Time to leave."
Excusing them is part of the trauma bond that keeps man-children at home.
I mean, it's not like jobs pay enough for people to live by themselves.
@@minecraftercreeper1 that I understand, the economy is crazy and that could add to the problem
@cateyu5547 it's over for people who have social anxiety like me not sure what to do
@@doom5895 I hear ya, I’m trying to think of ways of help people in this spot, I believe in people’s potential to grow
The hardest thing to do is tell to your parents to f*ck off and never to return home because most younger men have no where to go. Marriage and military enlistment rates are getting lower and lower. Young men who look for acceptance see there's nothing out there accept for opposition such as feminism, LGBTQ and imposter syndrome culture. When I became a truck driver at 28 in 2015, I was damn near kicked out of my parents house the year before and I had took all of my savings to get my apartment. I had got one eviction notice and that was enough to tell me I needed work every day and never be at home. I slept in my car and truck for 5 years straight and finally got my own house with the help of nobody, but myself. I say this because most American men are alone more than ever before. It's a harsh reality.
This is very true, it's sad that we have gotten this far. Unfortunately, I am one of these man-childs that was produced through these circumstances but I am understanding that I can't be reliant on my parents and need to take matters into my own hands. I appreciate your channel Mr. Forged
A lot of us are my friend. Just be grateful that we become conscious of it a lot sooner than later
I can relate. I’m glad we can acknowledge it and have decided to do something about it. I wish you well in your journey.
@@Forged88 1:41 that was somewhat me, my mother and grandmother were also over protective, but I always strived to be independent
I wanted to be a Lad aka young adult until I was later 20s
I didn't even want to be a teen when I was a teen I wanted freedom and independence and power
Me, too.
haha me too
My father was authoritarian and physically abusive.
I used to think it was normal but my cousins used to see the abuse sometimes and they’d ask me: “does he always do that?”
His anger issues made him a terrible father despite the fact that he had good qualities. These good qualities such as financial stability meant nothing to me as I grew older. When my mom finally divorced and got her own cheap apartment, I decided to move in with her despite her not having the fanciest of things.
If it weren’t for my fathers anger issues, he’d be pretty decent.
For many years I associated anger with evilness because of my father. It wasn’t until many years later that I realized anger has it’s uses.
My preference for my mother became a bad thing. Bills were getting more and more expensive and my mom was becoming more and more bitter.
She’d tell me I couldn’t survive on my own and that I needed her to survive even at the age of 23. I’m now 26 and have lost years of my life because I believed in what my mother told me about myself.
I no longer talk to either one of them anymore than is necessary.
The real truth is that you have to go out and find your own way. You have to ; take away that burden of "taking care of you" out of their hands.
How you doing bro ? Hope all is well
24yo, have little to no connection with my parents despite still living at "home". I feel like im trapped and have zero clue what I should be doing in my life, the funniest or saddest part depending on your perspective is I had a better view and understanding of myself at 13 and younger. Half the time I'm wondering if I'm even real, the other half I'm just living on repeat. I hate the world I see outside my window and most of all I hate myself because I feel like I haven't lived one day in my entire life
21 year old here. I fear I'm heading in the same direction as you are. Parents keep pestering me to grow up and go outside, but I have no idea what to do once I'm out there. They keep asking me about what I would do if they suddenly disappear. I am sorry to say this, but the first thing I would consider doing is sticking my head in a bag of helium and leave my younger siblings to their own devices.
Try learning a trade. They pay well and you can make a lot of money. I am 51 and have been in a trade since I was 18 and started as a apprentice. It’s never to late and I’m not knocking you either but try for something that you have a future in. I never even went to college but learned on the job. Anyway sorry for rant and wish you the best 👍
I second it the above advice. Get in a trade.
One thing I've come to believe is that it's perfectly okay if you don't follow some sort of passion into your career path. One of the ways we find value in life is through our sacrifices and the effort we put into something.
It can be anything. Like getting good at an FPS game. We can always build value and build parts of our identity through prolonged effort in any endeavor we choose.
We don't even really have to like it at first. Just getting started and taking it one step at a time is all it takes.
Hope your life gets better.
Also. I'm not a financial advisor, but since you're young, perhaps look into buying some crypto if you haven't already. Get a Coinbase account, get maybe a little bit of bitcoin or ethereum and just sit on it for two years.
The financial markets are in a bear market right now so from a long term perspective now would be the time to buy.
That's not to say we may see more downside this year, but the markets eventually bounce back. Bitcoin's mining rewards will be cut in half next year and it's usually in the following few months that we have a bull run.
I'm not trying to sell anything, I just wish I was more informed about certain things earlier in life.
You have plenty of time to change it
My dad would always hit me as a child, I was always scared of him till now, he always wanted everything perfect and would get mad over the smallest thing such as the tongue of my shoe showing, I’m 22 and I stood up to him because he doesn’t respect anyone, doesn’t like people correcting him, doesn’t keep his word and if you use his word against his own to show him he’s wrong, his only respond is “I can do what I want”, I stood up to him and now I feel like I waisted so much time, I never been proud of myself, but for once I feel proud of myself and finally feel like I can take control over my life and try to be a man.
Growing up as a child with a tyrannical father figure is difficult. My father would constantly yell and scream at me and my family members. He would also get physically violent towards my mother and the few times he hit me. He even would embarrass us in public or make terrible financial decisions that would affect us due to selfish desire. He doesn't recogize his wrongdoings or just denies that he did them, and thus never truly sorry for his actions and never striving to do better next time.
I cannot trust my father with life advice, so I instead resort on trying to find wisdom on the internet. One thing society really loves is indulging in comforting lies, and while there's so much I still don't know, I have at least gotten better on shifting away some of the lies.
In my opinion, a true man is one who's kind, competent, independent, strong, and courageous. A true man is one who can be trusted with anything. A true man wouldn't hesitate to sacrifice his life to protect his family. A true man is someone who protects and lifts up the weak, rather than bully and push them down. A true man doesn't abandon his principles. A true man recognizes his wrongdoings and strives to become better next time.
Jesus said to love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, and while my father has hurt me over the years, I still hope one day he finds redemption and inner peace on whatever may be tormenting him. Humanity may be one dysfunctional family, and while people must pay for their crimes, we're still in this together as cliche it may sound. After all our true battle is not in flesh and blood but within the human spirit against sin.
My father used to beat my mother and I relentlessly. It wasn't until my early 20s that I punched him twice in the face until he fell down. You could see the fake tough guy leave his body. He never challenged anyone again. I'm just sad that it took over 60 years for him to realize that he was never as tough as he thought. His whole life was a lie.
@@cool08playerfair play man! Since I started training and now at 25 - 26 he never comes up and physically challenges me anymore.
Strange that hmm?? 🤔
@@cool08player damn, guys unlucky to have fake fathers with the tough guy act. I hate those types of guys. A true tough man dosnt need to prive he's tough.
Growing up with narcissistic parents has a horrible effect on us. It's sad but it explains alot. I never knew what my family were.
how tf is young man supposed to move out with todays prices and low wages ? Is this for real ?
You got to pull yourselves by the bootstraps, change your mind, wake at 5 am, eat almonds and have positive vibes
The poor are only poor because they want 2!
@@Ordoabchao-x9k dont forget no fap, meditation , 2 high intesity trainings a day , an apple after lunch and laws of attraction ;)
@@Ordoabchao-x9kPositive vibes won't do anything. That's just New Age gobbledygook. And lots of things are outside your control and you can't do everything by yourself. You need God to help you. Submit to God's will and He will provide you all the means and the right path.
The answer is you can't. People need to rely on each other right now. You can work FT, live at home and contribute to the household. There is nothing wrong with that. All the best to you.
Living in California is practically impossible on your own. They have destroyed the middle class, you’re either rich or poor
What about the overwhelming narcissistic abuse that children experience?
I don't think that's anything new. In my opinion, that's been going on for all of time, they're just putting words to define those characteristics now.
It's always Man-child which shows how inequal men are treated today, women aren't scrutinized or belittled for childish behavior or made out to be a woman-child
Aka a brat
I have become more of a man, my father ever was.
My father was a weak coward.
My Mum was really overprotective and worked 3 Jobs to keep me and my siblings fed.
I moved out at 18 and figured a lot of things out by myself.
I'm still far away from where i want to be, but i have built my body, worked myself head first trough walls over and over, i have truly become Independent, i have become a man others depend on.
Never give up and find something worth living for.
Cool Message, but don't scold your family. They had their own struggles and problems aswell. Without them, there would be no you
@@2DaysOld Sometimes, i think i might would've prefered it that way, to be honest.
I see it as irresponsible at best, putting life out there, if you're not able to sustain it in any healthy way.
Similar situation to me except my dad's gluttonous eating habbits ruined his health and his brain, my mom also followed this behavior and they both look 75 despite being mid 50's.
You now know to be a better father to your future kids man. Keep up the grind and don't forget to socialize and meet new people ;)
same
I sincerely hope that there will be more and more parents that are actually ready to raise healthy adults. I feel like on one side I’m blessed that my parents weren’t the abusing me in any way but on the other hand the older I get the more I realize that I wish I had a father that would be role model for me, unfortunately he never was responsible man, all the stuff he bought is financed and he always just complains he’s broke and drowning in debt, and I feel like all I can do is look for things that I wish my dad would’ve taught me online. I wish all of you the best of luck in surpassing our parent’s mistakes :)
Gonna be 27 years old next month, no skill, no degree, no friends, jobless, never had a girlfriend and still living with my mother, my father died when i'm 19 ( he was a passive father, no masculine character at all), got health anxiety, phobias, anxious intrusive thoughts and panic attacks in the past few years, the only thing keeping me alive is my strong urge to change and becoming the man I want to be, thankfully my motivation for that is getting stronger, and my recent anxiety attacks are finally the last push to force me into action, for I assumed that my avoidance behavior of life tasks and challenges and overall cowardice in life is the main culprit of my mental health symptoms, I can't live like this, its time to finally face life task and challenges that I neglected and evaded for years.
Wanna be accountability partners?
It takes real strength to do what you're doing. How are you going 8 months later? I'd genuinely love to hear. All the best
Damn
its been 10 months r u better now bro?
This is perfectly true. I'm also grateful for the truth that a lot of men who have not much of a father figure is curbing themselves to a better man to be there for there sons
The sad part is that while I do have nagging father, I am too lazy, stubborn, and unexperienced in life to heed his advice. He keeps telling me to go out and see the world, spread my wings, but I have no idea where to start since the world is just to vast and confusing.
By your age you should be this, by your age you should be that.
It would be a lot more helpful if he actually did more than just pester me, but he's far too busy with work to support me and all my siblings.
@@whoareyoutoaccuseme6588why don't you say to him 'at your age you should be in a work position where you can spend more time with your kids. Why aren't you a manager with enough power you can leave the office when you want?'
Imagine growing up in a natural environment where everyday you have to chop wood and find food and build shelter for your survival. Everyone would grow up right if that were the case. You'd have no choice. Here in society though, we're strong in some sense but weakened in other ways. They tell us being part of a society is better and more convenient and its for our own survival and that we need things like capitalism to organize such large groups of people attempting to coexist, but at the end of the day this new "system" has failed us. No one has to chop wood anymore or forage for food, they just need to cheat, play the system, or know the right people. Thats what makes people successful today, and if you don't know those things, you suffer for it. And the world just yells at you to "man up" and "get to work" despite work not really making anyone a living wage these days.. Your "providers" these entitled women are all after are now the toxic ones who know how to play the system and who don't even feel remorse about it. We live in a society that encourages manipulation, dishonesty, and sociopathy. It encourages toxicity. And on top of that, men have less and less incentive to actually be men everyday. I'm not really sure how to interpret videos like this and I'll never know exactly the intention behind them, but demasculinizing others sure seems like a trait of toxic masculinity. And I'm really saddened to see so many men in the comments admitting to themselves that they aren't being man enough. I'm a man and I'm more man than most men alive today. And I don't need anyone to tell me. I just survived hell. If I can still survive in this toxic worthless mess you people call a society without resorting to dishonesty and manipulation, then I'm a man.
Great comment.
Never existing in the first place sounds like a much sweeter deal than being born into a hell hole on Ultra Nightmare difficulty surrounded by heartless people.
I would never subject another human life into this cruelty with all of my pitfalls, not only that though the reality of one's situation or on a grander scale life in general is horrifying once you strip back the curtains.
Many parents did us a disservice selfishly creating more life into this world when they themselves were abject failures in the eyes of society on a whole host of fronts.
Embrace the shit that is life and all the beauty that comes with it, is my advice
Yeah, I’m an anti natalist myself. Read David benetar for more on this. But….you are already here so make the best of it
Hi there Zeke
1,000%
I wish I were never born
This world is a toilet bowl
I consistently fail to understand why in GOD's name people reproduce.
The cost of life is insufferable.
What independence can be gained in a highly unaffordable world.
What's why I'm not procreating.
Part of improving is admitting you have a problem. All of these descriptions of a man-child definitely resonate with my own life. I finally moved out of home at 31, after being pretty much a basement dweller with no job, no money, no aspirations. I weighed 125 pounds, was weak, pathetic and did not have the slightest clue of how life worked.
I am 40 now. I can't say I am perfect, because I am far from being it. I still love video games, other hobbies that might be considered (and most likely are) childish, but at least I can say I am self-sufficient. I work, have my own place, pay my bills, and are no longer afraid of taking risks or facing challenges head on. Also, having a healthy lifestyle, working out, avoiding bad habits, working out, might not sound like they do much for your life, but trust me, it does A LOT.
Thank you for sharing. There is hope
Good for you!
But playing video games, or board games etc is a fine hobby no different than liking movies, doing gardening, fixing cars etc.. Be tough on yourself but never put yourself down needlessly. 😊
When I was 24 and my dad died, we were left on the streets, with no heritage or legacy whatsoever, he didn't leave a thing for us. Yet, I felt alleviated. Having him gone was freeing for me. At last I could start building my life the way I really wanted, and taking my own decisions. I took risks, endured crises, hunger, was on the verge of homelessness at least twice, and 10 years later, while I'm still lacking in many areas and always will, I am content with what I did with my life, despite how complicated everything has been. If you got nice parents, be grateful for them, most of us wish we had them.
The part about withdrawing from "social activities", the guy doing the video forgot to mention one important detail in regards to that.....incentive. Without it, it's simply nonsense.
It took me until I was seventeen to realise the absolute hell fatherlessness is, I met him last year and my head feels clearer now. I never tried in school never had hobbies and always lived in my older brothers shadow who was praised by my mother's side of the family. I met my older half brother who's 30+ and it was heartbreaking realising he had been robbed of his younger brothers too I despise my family for what they have done to me and I'm completely lost in life. I look at my friends fathers and think if I had just been allowed to see mine even just a few times a month growing up I would be ten times the man I am now, all the generational knowledge is gone and I'm never getting it back. A girl asked me if me and my full brother have the same dad (I'm freakishly tall in comparison to my dad brother and half brother) it completely shattered my brain thinking that my mother couldve held my real father away from me and I'm not convinced that the man I've met is my biological father
I'm so lost I don't know how to process what's going on in my head
Wow that is an extremely difficult thing to come to terms with. Praying for you brother.
Look into possibly getting a DNA test done through Ancestry. I used them and was able to find some family that I didn’t know existed, and get some answers on some things myself. It’s just a start if you do it, but it would help you tremendously with figuring out who is who, simply from other people that have done this and they end up finding cousins, distant family members, etc..
Your concerns are valid and logical. Though I must state that height, apparently, isn't really based on genetics, but environment
You are so right about the generational knowledge, that’s one thing lost by not having my dad around. I don’t know much about my dads side it’s sad. Feel like my mom kidnapped me for her personal financial gain so she could live for free & not work as much.
a man is not supposed to provide for his family. it's the job for both husband and wife, as it has always been. the idea of having to provide for a physically and mentally healthy adult living in a society which gives him or her an adundence of opportunities to get an education, make decent money, build a career is nonsensical. there is the man-child, but there also is the man-slave, a man with the mentality of a financial slave.
This is an eye-opener for me. Me and my timid father lived with my sometimes narcissistic mother. I used to wonder why I felt so free when my mother passed away due to an illness but now I know why. I was enslaved under my mothers expectations. Honestly, I didn't learn to think for myself until she was gone. I blamed her for my "infantility".
real.
The irony, blaming your mom is childish grow up no one is perfect.
@@notyourtypicalcomment2399 i know that. But I have to be honest myself. I really suffered the consequences of her overprotectiveness. She could have done better.
@@candyvegitto1310 not just your mother but your father, you said he was timid, he should have been concerned with his role and it’s impact on u, but he’s also not perfect.
@@candyvegitto1310 what were her expectations? Don’t have to be specific just an idea
Why you are so worried about your 30's?? Why are you all acting like it's 1850 we live to like 90 or more years now why being worried about getting married at 25??
Most people who use the term "man up" or "manchild" use it as a form of shaming. In 2023 we should know better than to fall for the shaming tactics
Yea unfortunately women use it mostly as insult
@@man58652 I could care less what a woman thinks, especially Western women. Materialist, Consumerist, gold diggers.
@@man58652 ironically they want you to treat them like daddys little girl
Back in the seventies they would say "get a job hippy!" which for me was actually good advice.
Job is slavery for big banks
"Without them there would be no you."
I wish dearly that had been the case. Oblivion is my greatest desire.
It's on sale on steam quite often.
@@S1NG15 Have you heard of the High Elves?
Ikr my parents had me by mistake how you have kids by mistake is beyond me
@@doom5895 It means you weren't trying for a baby but one night both of you got horny and...well, nine months later.
@@doom5895 daym bro😂
is extremely important to socialize and play with other children as soon as possible (around ~2yo mark), if not, that will cripple person for life to have proper interactions with others
Agreed 👊
yoooo is this actually true??
define "proper interactions with others"
I used to blame my parents until i realized that they are, same as us, the products of their missfortune, enviroment and families. Now i'm 30 yo and i keep watching these videos in order to find that strenght to start living. I used to be fearful of people until a year ago. Even so, still strugling with it . Can't find the proper motivation or will power in me to do shit for myself and i keep falling into this comfort zone. All my friends have left me because i think they didn't see anything worthy of keeping in me. The breaking point was last year when my best friend stopped being my best friend because i was only thinking of myself. Took me a while to figure what she meant but she was right. Because of my circumstances i developed this ...way of doing things without realizing unconsciously that im doing it only for my own benefit. Even tho i realize it now ...i'm scared because i don't know how to solve it...and there are many more other things that i as well as others are dealing with that i'm not gonna discuss here. Even more telling you guys all this makes me feel so low, like i'm yelling for help in a pathetic atempt to get attention. I do need help and i do want help....just dont know how to get it ...i'm ashamed of myself and what i've become and im just afraid that im far too lost to recover ...but yeah ...my story in few words...I hope you all get the strenght to overcome these challenges and become the best versions of yourselves no matter how lost you may feel..
Awareness is the first stage to reach enlighment. The next stage is taking action and agency in ones life by starting to develop healthy habbits. Regular sleep times, going out for walks, cooking more healthy food... These are all very simple things that when added up can truly make a difference in your life. Feeling sad for ourselves is not gonna help anything. The thing that paralyses us from change is that some of us would rather live in our heads, wasting time imagining how life could be, and getting a small taste of that fantasy world we crave. By living in that fantasy world too long though, it gives us an unrealistic view and expectations about the kind of life we should be having for ourselves. And when that fantasy world seems so out of reach, you don't even try to reach it, you give up because the finish line seems so far away and impossible to reach. Small steps, is what we need. Don't focus on the finish line, focus on incorporating those small changes in your life. You'll be a better person everyday for it. No matter how small those changes are. Like the video says, no one is going to save you. You have to save yourself
U r so right
We can’t blame anyone
Exactly man, I found out that I am very angry at my parents because they were arguing all the time because of very minor stuff, so I was scared to tell them that I feel miserable all my life - so I am angry that they werent there for me the way i needed... but being hurt just doesnt help you, it creates a vicious cycle of misery.
If you are financially able to, please start therapy - it's not anything shameful. A lot of people hire trainers to assist them with their body, so getting a professional to help you navigate your mind is the same thing.
Be strong and try to get some order in your life, take up a hobby - even if you dont know what hobby you would like. Be it excercising, reading, music, just something you can completely turn off your over analysing brain and just enjoy the moment... you can do it king
You’re never too far gone as long as your breathing. Come to Jesus. He will make you new. ❤
“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. And all things are of God, who hath reconciled us to himself by Jesus Christ, and hath given to us the ministry of reconciliation; to wit, that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses unto them; and hath committed unto us the word of reconciliation.”
2 Corinthians 5:17-19 KJV
Are you standing out in front of 7 Eleven talking to yourself yelling at the Air?
As a 28-year-old male, I find this video incredibly sexist. A term like ‘man-child’ just degrades men who don’t act according to society’s standards. We never apply these same standards to women, which just reinforces the notion that men have more responsibilities than women, which is patriarchal.
I hate the fact that I was born just because I was born to uncaring parents. It is a curse and no one cares about leftover men. I don't even have a driver's license.
Hey buddy I don't have my license either, work slowly if you have to get it, Stay Strong Homie you are cared for!That's why I'm writing this comment
brutal
You must find a friend/friends who are fighting for their life also and fight together, help each other, go through struggles together, win together.
I am there for my kids. An eleven-year-old stepdaughter, an eight-year-old daughter, and a four-year-old son. I spend every hour that I'm not working with them. There's nothing more important to me than my kids. No way in the world they're going to grow up without me being their dad.
Respect to you man. Blessings to you all.
@@shanepatrick641 Backatcha brother
I’m 22 and noticed this shit at 19. I’m building my self up for the better. Upgrade yourself guys. Become that strong lvl 100 character. We fucking got this
I notice this shit at 13 now I'm 20 but still don't know what to do I really don't want to become a man child I'm afraid😢
@@napping7674 i want you to wake up every day. Look yourself in the mirror and say to yourself.
"I am in control, no one is responsible for myself but me. I am young, and i have time. I will not waste it. Because i am one of the greatest people to have ever lived"
I encourage you to start small, workout once a week, you'll find yourself starting to enjoy it and do it more often. Whenever something feels difficult, i want to you to see it as an opportunity to become a stronger man. Invest in your future, build your strength, and your 30 year old self will be forever grateful you did this.
@@napping7674 you got this brother 💪🏾
Damn, this is a genuine brainrot type comment lol
22 rn, how did u fix urself
Hyper masculinity is not the answer to a lack of success. You need to practice more self love ajd use that to motivate you and propel you forward. Your body knoes what to do to make it.
Back in the day the American dream was a wife kids job and a house or place to stay. If we remember this is the ultimate goal a lot more of us will be content with who we are in life.
It's made by listening to Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson and many other similar online personalities and then thinking that that's how the world actually works
this needs be put out there for more young men to see
Thanks mate 👊 just hope that they're not overly sensitive about this issue
The AI voice is so bad.. never coming back to this channel
Deep video
now back to playing video games
I am 26
Have wasted 8 years of my life from 16 onwards - playing videos games, watching adult content and trying every bit to run from any real responsibility .
Always wished for some magic to happen and turn my life 360 .
Well , it took me 10 long years to realise - I AM THE MAGIC in my story .
It starts with me learning to take self responsibility and accepting the process of adulting into a man who enjoys looking after himself and his loved ones .
I'm 36 , don't worry about it, whatever you are doing is normal
@@mahdih2141and, I am turning 47 this December!
And, I'm turning 47 this December!
I am 29.
I spent so much time in procrastination,though I also took degrees in between.
But I learnt almost nothing of outside world during this time.
Having mental illnesses,sedative medications and controlling parents hindered me a lot.
At the age of 29,I have realized that I have wasted too much of time.
And now despite having a very huge task in front of me,I am trying my best and I am trying hard.
To all my fellow struggling men I would say that please do not give up and no matter whenever you wake up,you have a chance.
Add inflation, minimum wage society,
You have a recipe here
There are far more videos about men who don't measure up and so few about men who do. It is as if some have the idea that the path to manhood is orientating yourself in such a way that you can look down on the man child. Man cannot be defined negatively as "not that".
peer & "societal" pressure probably
I disagree. There will always be a child inside a man. It is okay to let the child inside you never die. It makes you more a man with a heart... ❤❤🎉😊
Well .. .affordable housing is not a primary option now. How the hell are people suppose to grow and be independent, if the material conditions are this crap? People in the past had their own place not because they were better men, but because they had better material conditions. People nowadays are more productive than ever, but in no way better financially than previous generations. As usual, these types of videos don't go beyond the individual conditions and ignore the more permeating circumstances that affect all of these individual conditions.
This sounds like Freudian psychology which is a bad thing.
Plus, if you work 50 hours + a week like a commenter below, you are not a "manchild."
Truly, just work and make money, that makes you useful to society which is the opposite of a Manchild.
And you can work regardless of what you parents did or didn't do to you.
And I'm not saying "work because that's what you're made for" I'm saying it's a good way to be productive and move up in life instead of listening to Freudian psychology which never takes a person's actual decisions into account when telling you who you should blame.
Based
28 here. Honestly, I sometimes wonder about if I am one. But frankly, I don't care. My father lost his life to cancer before covid hit. So, my mother has started working more in his place. Most of my siblings have moved out. I've decided I'm not leaving her. I'm going to find a trade school, get an apprenticeship and learn how to become an electrician to help support her as long as I'm able. Growing up and learning to think for yourself is the goal of youth. But Independence means nothing if it comes at the cost of abandoning your family when they need you.
Joining the military in my teens set me on a good life path. That was 20+ years ago. Today I would not suggest the military to anyone!
Times are a lot different than they were in the 90s and 80s.
my military parents constantly complained about the militarty growing up, treated me as if i was in the military with them. then when it came time for college time, they told me to go into the military or leave. (I left out a lot of stuff but just imagine living your life with a negative idea of your parents job, then for them to tell you go work there.)
military ain't so bad if you don't drink the koolaid, remember you're not fighting for flags, you're fighting for profit, get experience and become a merc/pmc. If not that criminals with military experience can do much better- It sounds f*cked up but that is the direction life is going in.
The root cause of this phenomenon is socioeconomic. The socioeconomic forces shape the family dynamics at young age which in turn reflect the psychosocial development of the child. Society changed in the past 30 years and so did people in how they view themselves in and others' social roles.
I'm 41 and I'm going through this. How embarrassing 😫
I don't want no woman in my life and I can't see myself with one yuck 🔥
I like this video and I don't necessarily think that everything said here is 100% true but a lot of it is. I grew up in a household with both parents, but they were very controlling, and my father basically raised me and instilled me with fear to get his way of making me do things or not do things around the house that he wanted. I was never really taught to have independent thought and now at 27 years old. I have finally started to realize that and to realize the importance of confidence in oneself and pushing forward in your own beliefs, and trusting your own self, and not taking orders from somebody else.
It was always negativity and being told about how every decision I made was dumb or wrong, and that I was not going to be successful unless I did what they wanted. Any time I wanted to try a new endeavor I was told I wouldn't be successful or that I wouldn't be able to do it. Eventually they started to wear off in my early to mid 20s and now I am in a much better place with that, but people have no idea how much it affects you to grow up in an environment like that until you're really old enough and mature enough to understand the impact that your parents can have on you as an adult. now of course everyone makes mistakes but there are basics that you need to know and they need to provide for your kids as parents and not everybody gets that and I was one of those people. This even poured into my love life up until recently, when I finally realized a relationship that I was in, was exactly the same situation of how I was raised. Constant fighting yelling and toxicity about how I was wrong getting the blame for it all and once in a while getting a sliver of positivity. I finally had enough and walked away from it because I know I needed to start respecting myself, even if it was just now in my mid 20s. Once again the impact of being raised in the household like that has many effects on you of what you don't even know until you're older, and I just realize that in my life especially being treated the way I was from my parents Made me, unconsciously, not respect myself because of how they spoke to me and treated me and how I excepted that as normal behavior from people.
The environment that you live in, and that you are brought up in make some major difference in life, and plays into who you become. Although this is not set in stone, and like I said, you can always better yourself and always mold yourself and be a help to yourself. The honest reality is that some of us are dealt better hands than others in life but we must go forward with what we have.
There's always hope and there's always room for improvement every day no matter how young you are or how old do you think you are. You can always change for the betterment of yourself.
I don't agree
Good luck being independent in an economy where even a medium wage job can’t upkeep rent and food for yourself. Oh, and I hope you don’t still have that “starting a family fantasy” in your head, we can’t really do that anymore unless both you and your significant other make 6 figures a year, but hey, If you want to raise a family in poverty and starvation, be my guest.
It falls to more than just having to "deal" with things as an adult, mainly it falls on HOW to learn as an adult while getting little to no help learning things.
This contributes to long-term delays in becoming financially independent as well as mentally focused with real world distractions and little to no understanding from others in overwhelming fear of the real world.
Speaking from experience of being raised by a feminist socialist without the promotion of a flag.
All things were "too dangerous" and the world was just looking to "try and kidnap me" if she wasn't around.
It was always "better" to just try and stay home all the time.
I have memory issues...
With how much rents cost we will have a whole generation of involuntary man childs
Living at home doesn't mean you're a man-child though
Economy also plays a major role.
My father only finished high school and has always been rather immature and easy to anger, yet he could still get a relatively comfortable office job, buy an apartment alongside my mom and to this day is still being paid a pension from his old job (not a retirement fund or savings, but an actual salary).
Some of the most mature, capable and wise young adults i know are still forced to live with their families because either renting or buying a home is so fucking expensive.
The high cost of living and inflation are the main reasons young people have a hard time becoming self-sufficient these days. I help my adult children with rent because they are not able to keep up with the inflation anymore and I prefer that they don’t live in my home. But if I wasn’t able to help them, they would have to move back home after being independent for about 10 years. It’s simply economics more than any psychological damage why kids can’t move out.
This is total brainwashing bs.
Cope
I love how ppl keep creating syndromes and stuff to say we are broken in some way instead of just admitting that capitalism has made the world almost unbearable for ppl with not much money to live in and were just doing anything we can to no hang ourselves in the end of the day
Embrace loneliness, you do NOT need the approval of others to live, go to the gym, talk with someone, visit places, read and write. Because at the end of the day, if you mind your own business and grow as a person, everyone will wonder "what's the trick?" and they'll come to you. There is a saying "birds of a feather flock together". It's ok to be sad sometimes, to feel alone, but keep in mind you can't live your whole entire life like that. My advice, write those feelings and ideas down, reflect on them. You are not your past. And again take the time when you feel alone and are alone, to just think about what pressures you, believe me you'll soon find out that there's no reason to be sad. *Make a plan take the risk and be quiet.*
Talk with someone? You just said embrace loneliness, what???
@@TurbanCatMccoy damn, i was so dumb a year ago 😂😂
@@TurbanCatMccoyI thought it means that it's fine not to maintain long-term relationships, but because humans are social creatures, you still need to communicate with other people you meet even if it's just small talk or else you would end up like solitary confinement prisoners
Love how people are aware of this, yet continue to do it lmaoo. And then, to make it even funnier, people say don’t blame your parents, they were going through stuff. So they decide to have a kid instead of getting their shit together ?
This is hitting too close to home for me. For a guy who lost his father when he was 11 everything you said in this video is true.
Hard to find the innitiave to seek mentors when you're still very young and own father isnt there. Making us feel lost and significantly out of touch with regards to everything as we grow up
@@Forged88 And for that I am grateful for your channel, thank you.
Independence and maturity is an illusion created by the ego. Everyone is a child and seems immature to someone else. We are dependants from birth till death. Only degrees vary. Did you build your house or the structure your in right now with your hands? Did you build UA-cam? Did you build the electric system that you depend on? What about your gas for your vehicle? What about the language you speak... What about... I could go on all day. In Indian culture the family lives together even in old age, kings and other nobles do the same, Africans in agricultural communities live as an extended family on large acres of land, the wealthy and elites of some states do the same... My point is relax and live your life however you choose to live it. Your family values don't have to be like all the others. How your parents lived or raised you is okay so don't feel bad for not fitting into the pedestalized mold in the mind of society or this articulate gentleman. Live your life as best as you can using your standards and keep your head up. Your success is dependent on your self esteem so be confident in who you are, you are all awesome and can be whoever and whatever you want to be.
I had two things in mind aside from dealing my personal problems with my parents while trying my best to manage myself until I got enough money to get the shit outta it...
First, Shotzi, a female wrestler, raised by his biological dad and her step dad. Both her step dad and her original dad had good relationship as best friends. In fact, she considers them are two of the best friends in the world and they help her raised as a better person.
And the second one, my friend, a former PUA and taking his own philosophy of manhood and making connections with real relationships. He was living alone, has wicked brains in psychology, philosophy and business opportunity. He is not quite handsome and fat but he fits some balls. Loves playing videogames most of the time, suffered from depression, and being bashed by most people. He knows about truth about social status and power. It sometimes neglected due to constant confrontations with society.
Now, I was asking myself if these two were worth as role models. Talking about guys who have been nurtured by parents and decision upon themselves to be a free person.
Everyone have some wisdom of their own. You just have to find those whom you can relate the most. Those who are raised by single fathers have more chances to become more psychologically stable than those with single mothers. Those who are extreme observationists & those who are reasonably obsessed over finding answers can accurately understand a lot of circumstances from a lot of perspectives even though they never experience those situations themselves
@@Forged88 Definitely agree with your point! Those who influenced by a right person will surely guaranteed the winning rate live right to the fullest. There are many other challenges that still tests our clarity over those obstacles and how long will keep our principles longer.
The system is screwed up and we inherently know it. But people don't realize that we have changed our percieved definition of a 'successful life'. Western society see's a 'successful life' as one who lives away from family and pays their apt. and bills. Because we see someone who pays off their apt. through playing video games as a 'successful life', but then someone who lives with their parents and plays video games as a 'unsuccessful life'. We have equated a 'successful life' to making enough money and paying off your monthly rent. Our society has changed drastically; our rent and cost of living is absurdly higher, and humans have uncontrollable access to things that are now addictions. We need to create a better percieved definition to a successful life, and right now Im thinking that should be 'someone who is not consumed by addictions created in this modern society'. Those addictions include popularized drug use, pointless internet usage, bad food, and video games, which are pointless. We need to realize that there are propaganda spells pushed at us, one of them is the topic of this video. You see no one wants to relate to the term 'man-child', but we all know the importance to relate to the word 'inner-child'. Think about that for a second .... now we need to rid our modern addictions which is supporting the 'man-child' but not actually helping our 'inner-child', and we need to change our percieved definition of a 'successful life' to 'someone who is not consumed by addictions created in this modern society', and we must know that we are being lied to and pushed propaganda to limit us.
A bit of self projection going on here. Wanna talk about it?
Is everyone in this thread British? They all use the word "mum" instead of "mom."
Great, now tell us about the woman-child :^)
They do not exist, a woman who wants to be taken care by a man is...... Femenine.
@@j.manuelp.vicens3888They do exist. The ones who aren't mature and still throw fits like children.
@@ajdynamo6866 Yeah, I know who you're talking about... Though they claim they are strong and independent XD
Summing up this type of men are the consequence of scum parents, of course the damage is done involuntarily, possibly they are also the consequence of scum parents. It is very important before bringing children into the world to heal from all kinds of traumas and emotional wounds that you have. Excellent video.💯
Hello I'm 16 and I think my parents raised me quite well however I'm incredibly worried about my 5 year old bdother as I don't think my parents are doing a good job at disciplining him due to their age, he is very mercurial and a bit wierd icl, he says a lot of things a depressed person may say, and from what I know he has friends but isn't very socially inept. They have become a lot less strict than they used to. Should I step up and help by becoming a father like role model. If so how can I or should I do that.
@@Vilcabamba_RE_Disclosures thank you man. Motivated the hell out of me. It's hard asf 😭 that bastard won't listen for shit 😭
Thanks, I really needed the pep talk. I've been feeling really down the last few months and couldn't quite understand why. The reality, was that I had started hiding away in my comfort zone again, and overindulging in non-productive and destructive habits
I am just blocking this channel
XD
Why lol its something you need to hear
When you realized your mother was a castrating witch who wanted you to be a deflated, plastic teddy bear for her to hug until her death bed and your father was a nutless wonder who basically functioned as her pet or personal footstool, it can take years or decades to process, grieve and rage over what was done to you (or what should have been taught to you but wasn't). We live in the post-initiation rite world where essentially female schoolteachers and mothers dominate the psyches of impressionable boys, and dads are reduced to these cowed, spiritless pack mules whose job is to bring back money to pay the bills while the out of control mother calls the shots and gives little Johny "sensitivity training" instead of work and fighting skills to hold their ground and leave their mark in a work field.
Dont beat yourself up if you havent forgiven your parents yet; parents who fail their sons should be begging their sons for forgiveness. Especially the ones that humiliated and drugged their kid instead of equipping and raising them. Forgiveness isnt easy, and takes a long time. Its painful. And the world doesn't give a sh*t about your suffering and struggles either, which sadly makes personal maturity and finding a community even harder after being stunted by cowards who were unprepared for what it took to really raise a resilient adult.
Aldo narcissistic parenting, that stunts growth
Pleeeeease make a woman-child version too!!!!
Take this shit with a grain of salt. UA-camrs as well as psychologist are out here to win . Whatever it is they trying to win it’s not your victory it’s theirs.
"She can't trust you to lead, protect, and provide for her."
Good. That is by design. I'm not some resource to be exploited by women.
So you mean to tell me that being a man child is predetermined? And out of your control?
I started working full time at age 18. Two years prior I was started in a work program for learning disabled kids, where I got to leave school early two days a week to go work. I still sometimes feel like a kid who just got old. It's too late to start again, I had no idea that program would severely restrict my options and quality of life.
Sounds about right.
Men need to be strong leaders in the country, in the household, and in the work space, women need to be kind loving nurturers, neither one is better or more needed then the other, women are more emotion based and understanding, so they show the soft side of life, men are the protectors, so they lead in the pursuit of self-perseverance, not saying men shouldn't be loving and understanding, they just should be in another way. both are needed, men and women cant be treated equally because they aren't the same, you cant make water act like fire as much as you may try to pretend like it is, im not sexist, its not sexist to say women shouldn't be in the military, women shouldn't be fathers, just like men shouldn't have to nurture, men shouldn't have to raise the child on there own, its a team, and both have there roles, neither is grater then the other, our world today is destroying the sound foundation that God has built, the role of men, the role of women, and we are acting like gender isn't actually a thing.
Sou um cara de 27. Criado pela mãe e avô. Sim, me sinto um homem criança. A parte boa é que tenho consciência disso, não estou em negação! Agora que meus pais são idosos, as responsabilidades parecem que vieram tudo de uma vez mas não, eu que fugi delas a vida inteira.. mas a hora chegou, veio e passou.. estou aprendendo com meus erros e quero me tornar um Homem melhor. Keep grinding kings 🔥💪👑 I see you guys in the top of the world 🔝
5:18 yeah reality would beg to differ cuz mostly every couple i see are feminine and/or weak men
Blaming parents for showering their love, care is just pathetic excuse for not growing up. They've seen hardship and don't want to see their kid suffer what they've been through. Great video
Yet it seems sheltering and coddling your children more often than not generates dysfunctional adults who in turn develop dysfunctional societies.
Love is not coddling, and only poor parents think it is.
@@derek96720 Didn’t say it was, but there is such a thing as overdoing it.
@@derek96720 can you elaborate on to your claim that only poor people do? If we’re all human then regardless of financial status, any human can think the same thing?
@@suuudawg3069 poor as in "low quality." Not financially
Damn. Just sat through this whole video reliving my entire childhood and adolescence. Almost as if you were reading my biography with some modifications. I hope I can free myself from this.
Eye opener, makes me appreciate my parents. While my dad was largely unpresent at work, he still encouraged and still encourages me in my pursuits of self improvement and independence. While my mom doesn't really encourage independence, she still encourages self improvement.
im sure not being able to afford housing as nothing to do with it
as well as the living crisis
and the fact that maturity is defined by responsibility and nothing more
Right. I'm getting real tired of these videos telling men they should be grinding 18 hours a day, in the gym 4 hours a day and get 2 hours of sleep and it's going to magically solve all your problems and make you a respectable man.
Exactly. They set image of a perfect man that never existed in real life. Our culture, economics, technology and society is completely different and one adapts as he can. And if you fail to be that ideal fiction picture from movies , you are somehow damaged. As for housing, families were living together for centuries and that was fine. Something doesn’t fit in all that masculinity and success religion. I really don’t care and just do what feels right for me. If I lose, not a big deal. But it will be in my own way
@@naybaz7777 precisely
True, our world is changing fast for the worse. Not enough of these self help gurus acknowledge that. They are right that under any circumstance it is up to the individual man to make due and to strive ever forward, but we are not men in a vacuum. There are external realities that play a significant part in all of our lives. Picking yourself up by your bootstraps and being responsible in the 1950's meant getting a steady job maybe at a factory, that you planned to keep until retirement. Easy enough. We do not live in that world anymore.
@@ajdynamo6866Yeah, That sigma male strat is fucking bullshit and just a way to fear monger vulnerable guys who are at their low point. I might not be the healthiest person but I agree going to the gym and trying not to get fired is a good thing. But these videos don’t paint it the way I do. That patrick bateman strat is nowhere realistic, not everyone lives like him or I don’t know, The Tate brothers?
Everything in one word: Boomers.
Can you do one of these for Women too? cause I dated one, and boy howdy is it not talked about enough
No cuz all the ills of the world are the fault of men, regardless of who is performing them 😂 (tbh it's kinda true cuz we have all the power in reality)
Women sadly stay in that childish mindstate
what is this comment section
I don't have a father and I'm gay and yet still independent at 21 and masculine. It's all because people look down on me that's why I wanted to prove that I can still be manly despite my preferences 😌
At least for me it doesn't matter if you re manly or not, you still deserve respect and to live a happy life in peace.
Im gonna be 30 Soon, Im starting to wake up, my anger is ceasing and i see massive self improvement on the horizon of the son, i saw a video of penguin abandoning his colony and feeding grounds and instead heads towards the vast continent of 5,000 km, while alot of people saw a depressed,deranged penguin i saw myself as the penguin away from society but this time coming back (:
These videos are so weird.
They're pretty fun to watch though