I grew up in an era where the highest compliment a woman or girl could receive is that she is "low maintenance". I am so glad that I have grown into being happy with the maintenance that I show myself to make me feel the best in my own skin. The things that we do and the time we take to achieve this should never be influenced by the opinions of others ❤❤❤ Love your freaking self!!!
I love being “low maintenance” because I prefer to focus more on creative projects, fun, and everything else I enjoy, but I usually look like crap so you win some you lose some 🤷🏻♀️ I try not to judge “high maintenance” people though, I just don’t understand the motivation. Which is ok, we don’t all have to understand each other, and different folks enjoy different things!
1. Color own hair - no more than 2 shades lighter, use colour renewal masks 2. Invest in oiling hair before sleeping - coconut, argan, Jojoba 3. Scalp treatment x1 a week, shampoo twice. Scalp solution line 4. Take time to style hair 5. Wash body after hair Prevents bacne 6. Use leave in with heat protection 7. Layer products individually 8. Detangling brush. Finger coil bangs and frizzy pieces 9. Diffuse to quickly dry 10. Night time routine - dry brush, clean body and face, castor oil on body, and massage it in. 11. Self tanner before bed 12. Hair refresh at night 13. Sleep with satin bonnet snd satin pillowcase and rotate them
I recently started doing a skincare routine at night. Using hyaluronic acid, retinol, and night creams. I noticed a huge difference in my skin texture. 5 years ago, I would never have spent the money on myself, but now I'm hitting 50, and I think it's about time to take care of me. I haven't invested this much time in my hair since high school, and I have to say I am loving it. My hair is just getting healthier, and the curls are bouncin baby. Thank you for all the product reviews and trials you do so that I can make the best choices for my hair. ❤ love ya girly 😊
I've never really paid attention to myself when it comes to beauty maintenance. I did the basics in my curl care and, of course, took care of my hygiene and would work out. I always had lower self-esteem and would put priority in taking care of other people, especially once I got married. However, now I am starting to put more effort into myself, which is when I found your videos that are amazing! I'm planning to color my hair for the first time, and it is currently very healthy curls, so I'm learning again how to spoil my hair. Im also starting to get my lashes done and my nails, not including skin care.I'm excited for the new me and feel so much prettier.
I have 3 kids, I legitimately don’t have time during the week to worry about my hair. I have a solid wash and style routine that works for me and I do it once a week. If my curls start to look questionable, then I whip out the braid skills. Do what works best for you 😊
Exactly, I am low maintenance because honestly I don't have the time. If I have 5 spare minutes I want them to be with my kids. Priorities change, the important thing is to be happy with ourselves
I don’t do makeup, still figuring out my hair routine, but I love putting time and effort into doing my own nails every weekend 😊 they’ve gotta look good, then I’m happy all week ☺️ thanks for the reminder and encouragement Mell, that looking after ourselves is important 🥰🌺
Maybe not surprisingly, the whole time I pushed myself to be low maintenance resulted in low efforts from people around me. And albeit it feels tiny bit of a late revelation, I am leaving it behind. I decided to be high maintenance and keep my expectations high too. The effort I put in myself actually always gave better results than the time I invested in other people. Living my life for me!
Loved this 💜 As a mama of two, my hair care is my self care. We all deserve it so much & I appreciate that you helped me to this point. My curls have given me new life! 💜 You’re the best!
I have learned so much from you over the couse of about four years!! I will be 60 in a few months but people say I look in my forties!! With a little extra time everyday….the little time is so worth it!! I want to send you a photo but not sure how🙄😂
My hair has never been low maintenance. I have an almost straight front and very curly back, so I’ve always had to work to blend the 2. I used to get a relaxer on the curly spot for 20+years. As my curl has moved to the majority of my hair now instead of just one spot I’ve finally ditched the damaging relaxer. I have to spend a LOT more time on wash days with my curls, but the time (and lots of $$$) I’m saving at the salon evens out!
For the longest time I didn't do anything, even less than the bare minimum, because I was very clumsy and unskilled. So now I feel like I'm occasionally over compensating. - Hair care: wash every 5 days, with detox every second wash, and treatment every 4th wash - I have a loooot of white/grey hairs (thanks genetics) so I have my roots colored at the salon every 3-4 weeks. Not brave enough to do this on my own. - Skincare: apply a daily cream against to reduce redness (this is a medical condition in my case) I go for facial treatments every 3 weeks, where I also get my eyebrows cleanup (I veeeery close to sporting a monobrow before) And I also get a pedicure. Most of the time, it's just a simple cleaning, but I will also occasionally have my toenails painted. - I have also started getting my nails done (gel manicure) every 3 weeks because I am a biter. I'd start munching at the smallest stress signal. ... aaaaand that's pretty much it. I feel like people will start jumping down my throat for not doing most of this on my own. And yeah, it costs a lot, compared to the... nothing from before. But I feel much more "presentable" these days. 😀
Hi Mell! I wanted to ask if you'd ever consider doing a video on strong hold gels/mousses. The humidity is really kicking my a** this summer and the products I have in my cupboard right now just aren't cutting it.
i am quite a fan of yours for several years you made me maintain my long thick curly hair and thank you for embracing my hair even though its not manageable but still i give you all the thanks for helping me throughout my curly hair journey 😍
I got “naturally beautiful” compliments in my teens and 20s, maybe 30s. I didn’t understand them. Now in my 50s, I don’t have much energy to try. But!!! I’m going to cut my own hair soon. I’m confident it’ll be “good enough” as I’ve done it a lot before and have loads to spare. Hairdressers can tell but the rest of the world can’t. Thank you for instilling confidence in all of us, whatever our approaches may be! 🌈
The first thing I did for myself was therapy and with that I feel better to put more effort into self care. One being a good bubble bath once a week. Preferably when I don't have to work the next day.
Love this vid! I like your approach! I realized lately too that doing some prelim prep or "high maintenance" stuff keeps me more stress free, and I don't think it's different than making sure laundry or meal prep is done; it smooths things out! That being said, I really appreciate this vid because I was feeling the mostest, but now we can all be the mostest together, lol. The most important thing I did was actually schedule a time block for misc "hot babe" things, and create a weekly beauty schedule that fits in that time block; like I'll do a smoothing treatment, mask, at home nails, etc. If I don't schedule things, they don't get done, haha.
11:34 cellulite is normal! 80 - 90% of women have it, no matter if they are an Olympic athlete, super model, or average person! It’s not a flaw (if you were thinking that) 😊 but if that massage with castor oil feels good to you (it looks like it does) then GET IT GIRL
My mom can attest to the castor oil! Well not to the specific points you are making Mel, but she uses it with a pad like wrap when she has muscle aches. I've never tried it, but she puts it on when she goes to bed and she has said it has helped and sometimes gotten rid of her muscle aches
I'm high maintenance and have to watch a Manes by Mel video each and every week! Thanks for the great video! Part of my skincare routine is Whole Body Serum, cupping therapy, cavitation sonic, myofascial massage gun, and RF/ EMS Skin Rejuvenator. 🥰
@@ManesByMell ur my biggest inspiration ofc, no need to thank me but I'll thank u alot instead (I've started my journey 2years ago but I dyed it crazy colour for 7months, so it's not the same since my hair type changed as it's getting healthier) tysm 💗💗💗
Hey Mel ….I am high maintenance but worth it! My mantra. Hey I know you love your Dyson but I’ve heard about more cost effective hair dryers that have similar attributes. Can you do a video about them? Dyson is just too much money for me.
I have recently been using castor oil too. I just purchased the wrap to make the castor oil pack so we will see how that goes but I love it around eyes.
15:38 I struggle with fabulous because I have developed allergies to fragrance and many preservatives and chemicals. My hair is very fine so it gets greasy looking pretty quick and frizzy too. But you are fabulous and thank you for the videos and education.
Great video. So glad that you stress SPF for scalp because it is so important all over. Another You Tuber I watch had to have skin cancer removed from her scalp.
The curls look very good in this video on you. Much better then when the curls are tight or crisp looking. The hairstyle also looks less choppy like this as it blends together.
i love mel and been watching for years like when she would compare drugstore brands and i only struggle abit to watch now because its just Aveda or Oplex being shown and i know she wouldnt use cheap or crappy brands bc shes spon and its free but maybe show an alternative or an old drugstore brand that could be just as good bc i deffo dont have £40 to be buying those brands and just thought for others it would be great to show what she does use but also something EVERYONE can use too ... xxx
Amanda and Mell setting up the premiere: With live chat We'll get so many helpful productive consultations done Prem goes live: Amanda having flashbacks about something that saved her life and Mell dreamimg about being a bronze goddess😂🤣 100% sure I saw consultations being done too but the live chat and the seesters were also having fun doing it their way. Yes Mell😁, that was very very much enjoyable 💜💜💜💜💜 Amanda💕💕💕💕💕, during the premiere when u were asking us our thoughts on what hair color you should go for, for your wedding, the clip from the ManesByMell titled: " curly hair makeover + answering your questions about color damage " at 21:33 came to mind
My Dearest, most amazing Mel, please please give me your bestest rake and shake video!? I'm so grateful for everything I've learned from you and your seester!❤
I got me some Aveda shampoos. The fact I can use so much less to get so much more lather makes me feel like I am somehow saving money 😳 Gotta get the conditioners and maybe gel next😍 no going back for these curls I am curious about the spray conditioner you used… but I got weak fingers and find sprays hard to spray if they are to be sprayed on the hair 😬
This is how I am high maintenance for the last 6 years: My daily diet and food ingredients have to be the highest quality. Avoid eating/ordering out. Spending good time outdoors daily and physical activity a few times a week. Sleep routine is to be in bed by 11 the latest and 8hours everyday (not a mom yet). Beauty products have to be the most natural ingredients as possible (I make some myself). A good haircut every few months Eyelash perm every few months Seamless waxing Currently working on: Better styling techniques and tools (Dyson in my mind) Better outfits that fit my height (5'1).
My dad got me a birthday cake this year that said "Happy Birthday, High Maintenance Girl" 😂 (Btw, would you ever do a video about different brands and types of hair oils for people on different budgets? I swear most of the people I follow only use super expensive ones and I can't afford that, lol. So I just don't know what to use and in the meantime am not using anything.)
Mel, I really feel like you’re someone i want to share beauty tips with face to face- but since i cant do that do TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK About dove body polishes? Particularly the pomegranate one because it lightens and evens out your skin tone because of the pomegranate in it. And more importantly something that i feel like you really might like is the bioderma oil body wash? It foams but it leaves your skin feeling silky! I really must ask you to do a body skin care routine video soon- your body mists body scrubs body cream body wash EVERYTHING EVERYTHING!!
I have always added things to my routine to try them "because people are saying" & there isn't any downside.. I'm 52 & people want to know WHAT I AM DOING & I'd never say it bc it's obnoxious but I've been doing it for 30 years, too late! for you! 😂 Good for you!
You look amazing. I was never taught about self care and I’m an older gal. I have started using homemade goat milk skin care, so gentle for mature skin. My fav hair products are Eva NYC and Verb but my dr says my hair products are too strong for my super sensitive skin. What is the gentlest hair product you know of for high porosity low density hair , that contains silicone. Ty so much
Love the message of this video!! Also, IME "Low/high maintenance" is just used to shame people for self care, like you said. Are there studies you looked at about the castor oil massage etc? It sounds plausible.
i take off my sunscreen in the evening with a little safflower oil. then i use the same oil and massage it all over my face and neck while watching UA-cam. sometimes this massage/UA-cam session can be over 20 minutes. then i gently wash my face with water and a microfiber cloth before my serums and moisturizer. i TRY to do this as unhurried as possible; so that i feel relaxed for sleeping.....self care y'all
I wear my curly hair straight so a keratin treatment is essential in the summers for me. Blowout, flat iron and keratin in the summers means my blowout will last a full week before wash day.
Not everyone will consider this "high maintenance", but I'll mention in case it helps anyone! I pretty much will ONLY use the Essie Gel Couture nail polish line because I find it long-wearing and it doesn't require a UV light! Also find it protects my nails somewhat from breaking. Painting nails less often, and I'm choosy about colors to make sure they flatter me (go with a lot of my clothing), so I don't feel like they clash with anything throughout the week!
I have long curly hair, and am looking for a good straightener to use on my hair. I used to use Remington hot tools, but I am not seeing the same results as the older models. Do you have any recommendations?
Omgg finally someone saying it’s ok to be high maintenance❤️❤️🙏 and…. I have a favor to ask.. I have homecoming coming up in a few weeks and I was wondering if you could maybe recommend some styles? I have shoulder length, medium density, medium sized strands and 2c to 3b curls. I’m always scared to put hairstyles in my hair cuz i don’t like messing up my curls😭 BUT I’ve gotten to a point where I luv my curls sm and def want to wear them to a fancy occasion…but I don’t know what to do😭 anyway thank u sm for ur videos❤️ and Amanda too❤️❤️ luv u guys sm
Any updates from your night routine? 👀 I am on top of my skin care. My best friend is an esthetician so I have a curated routine using high end products for my cleanser, a hypochlorous acid spray, serum, moisturizer, and a powder to make an overnight mask to sleep in. I also use the Laneige Lip Sleeping Mask. I am looking to incorporate a face oil to do a gua sha massage every night. I am terrible with my hair and body though but this will change! Once my son is sleeping consistently around the same time every night, I’ll get a little of that piece of my life back. In the AM I use a tinted sunscreen from Colorscience to even out my skin tone and when I am consistently threading and tinting my brows I feel like I look like my best self! It’s a plus when I have my eyelash extensions in. I want to do the dry brushing and be more consistent with my chemical exfoliant on my body. I def want to laser in the future but for now I do sugaring every couple of months. Can’t wait to see an update!
Love this Mel!! I can say castor oil definitely helps with lash health too! I’ll have to start doing it in my naval 😊. I’ve also been loving dry brushing and lotion with lactic acid after, and my red light panel!
What haircut should I ask for to get better volume? My hair has thinned out because of menopause and my curl pattern has changed but the curl by curl cut I usually get is not enough volume. Any advice?
I love a routine and taking time for yourself. My only issue with being high maintenance is that I always want to default to low maintenance -- I want to be flexible enough and adaptable enough that my day is not ruined if I'm not able to do all the things to "maintain." My one caveat to this is that I do require coffee in the morning. Or at least caffeine. But everything else is basically negotiable. On an ideal day, I feel pretty high maintenance!! But somedays life happens and I must be prepared to roll with it!
Hi Mell, I go for a lash lift to a salon and I dye my brows. I have a very elaborate skincare routine which is high maintenance, so my skin is in great condition and I don't have to wear make up which is low maintenance. :D
I also rotate my pillow cases AND I cover them with a sham type cover to protect them from my kids during the day. I need to figure out a bonnet or some way to sleep because it’s just loose right now. My satin scrunchies are breaking my hair I think. Everything breaks my hair. Or maybe it’s just new growth. I don’t know.
Girl!!! I am so high maintenance My husband and i have agreed upon a beauty budget for the year. An i have not been able to stick to it lol An yes i always watch your videos every Thursday 😉
I recently got a hair cut (I got 3a/3b hair) where the most it reaches is maybe my jaw. However, I tend to workout and my hair could already be hard to work with afterwards when it was longer, but seems harder to work with post workout when it's shorter. I've seen routines for preserving and refreshing curls for longer hair but never for hair that doesn't reach the shoulders. Any suggestions or tips?
Don't forget to brush arms and legs towards the heart! Leg swelling begone! stop x and gua sha...if I crave salt, I eat it before nightfall because eyebags. I time all my meals. It is extra and very time consuming, but my tummy never talks back at me for abusing her...even if i have to skip a meal. I'm also the same with my pillowcases. I just can't touch it after a few days. She needs to be fresh. Lastly miso. If youre regularity isn't very regular, a half a teaspoon uncooked miso will...free you from your burdens. And strengthen skin. Deliciously. I buy from ishiimiso. Yes the shipping will hurt. But it is worth it. Finally...never combing my hair if upset or rushed...bc if i cannot do it properly i should not do it at all. That means never skipping a step on wasday bc we never know what the future holds. That means preparing for old age. Menopause is real. Hospitalization real (i literally just cut my finger and could not do my twists for days bc my finger needed to heal and soaking my cut in leave in would not be healthy) Did my hair suffer. No. Bc I have snatched my routine to within an inch of its life. That means preparing for surprise deadlines and events on washday by not leaving a stone unturned...from scalp exfoiliation and oiling to sealing with a nice hair polish after the blowdry, double stocking favorites and layering well each product individually. And never going cheap on tools. Bc life happens. And stress is overrated. Money answers all things. And cute girls are not cute bc of the genetic lottery. It takes time and skill. Alot of it. I don't know about you...but I don't know any artisan that paints with off brand Crayola or architect or craftsman that has not bled dollar bills for the precision of their tools or the practice/honing of their skill. Price is apart of the commentment. A good woman is more precious than rubies. Scarlets and purples for clothing do not fall from the sky. I say let the worthy woman have the work of her hands. Ty for the great pick me up. It was absolutely inspirational. Bc I'm extra and I know it.
HELP!!!!!! I just recently have been trying to embrace my wavy/curly hair. I do get highlights to camo my gray. I get it done every 6 months to a year. I have long, thick hair as Amanda does. Ok, so here is my issue, I can not keep tables out of my hair. Day 3 and I have mass tangles! I sleep in a scarf or bonnet and sleep on a silk pillowcase. What shall I do???? I love my curls but find the tangles irritating. Any advice and tips are welcome and appreciated. Thank you. Colette
Hey hii. I've dry curly frizzy hair. I use leave in cream and hair gel and then i break the gel cast from hair. But after 2 hours i see that my hair gets mote frizzy and curls don't look DEFINED AND frizz free. Why is it so? What to do please help me out😢
I bought the Braun IPL hair removal for at home, the hairs are definitely disappearing but the last 2 times, its been causing hives all over my legs, that arnt going away and the itchiness is driving me crazy but i want the hairs gone.
I gave up high maintenance skin so that I could have better skin. I still wear makeup but not as much. No makeup = no harsh scrubs, makeup removers, deep pore cleansers, etc. funnily enough, my forehead lines have just about disappeared. I started washing my face with avocado oil. I cannot believe the change. I always wanted be a no makeup girl. Just for saving time and money. I was a product junkie. Still kind of am, but I managed to focus on skin improvements and now I just am a skin improvement and hair product junkie. I’m high maintenance and that’s just how I am.
I noticed that you no longer have Aveda product recommendations on your web site even though you still use them. Did you have to remove them from your lists?
In all honesty I never have time, but on the rare occasion that I do, I follow a lot of these tips. So sometimes my hair looks really nice. Lol but almost always I'm in a ponytail or some kind of twist/rolls.
I have always said my hair isn't high maintenance but it just takes more time yo do and that's ok. I'm not winning an award with how fast my hair is done and my hair would pay the price if I'm just hauling butt trying to do it 💯
I grew up in an era where the highest compliment a woman or girl could receive is that she is "low maintenance". I am so glad that I have grown into being happy with the maintenance that I show myself to make me feel the best in my own skin. The things that we do and the time we take to achieve this should never be influenced by the opinions of others ❤❤❤ Love your freaking self!!!
I love being “low maintenance” because I prefer to focus more on creative projects, fun, and everything else I enjoy, but I usually look like crap so you win some you lose some 🤷🏻♀️ I try not to judge “high maintenance” people though, I just don’t understand the motivation. Which is ok, we don’t all have to understand each other, and different folks enjoy different things!
I'm going to replay the first 30 seconds of this whenever I start to feel guilty about taking time for my appearance, I love it!
1. Color own hair - no more than 2 shades lighter, use colour renewal masks
2. Invest in oiling hair before sleeping - coconut, argan, Jojoba
3. Scalp treatment x1 a week, shampoo twice. Scalp solution line
4. Take time to style hair
5. Wash body after hair Prevents bacne
6. Use leave in with heat protection
7. Layer products individually
8. Detangling brush. Finger coil bangs and frizzy pieces
9. Diffuse to quickly dry
10. Night time routine - dry brush, clean body and face, castor oil on body, and massage it in.
11. Self tanner before bed
12. Hair refresh at night
13. Sleep with satin bonnet snd satin pillowcase and rotate them
I recently started doing a skincare routine at night. Using hyaluronic acid, retinol, and night creams. I noticed a huge difference in my skin texture. 5 years ago, I would never have spent the money on myself, but now I'm hitting 50, and I think it's about time to take care of me. I haven't invested this much time in my hair since high school, and I have to say I am loving it. My hair is just getting healthier, and the curls are bouncin baby. Thank you for all the product reviews and trials you do so that I can make the best choices for my hair. ❤ love ya girly 😊
What retinol do you use? Btw babe, if you like her vlogs you might like mine so swing by and take a peek. (Pleeeeeeease.)
I enjoy my extra care days. A pain to wash and style but I wake up days 2-5 with little to nothing to do. Love it!
I've never really paid attention to myself when it comes to beauty maintenance. I did the basics in my curl care and, of course, took care of my hygiene and would work out. I always had lower self-esteem and would put priority in taking care of other people, especially once I got married. However, now I am starting to put more effort into myself, which is when I found your videos that are amazing! I'm planning to color my hair for the first time, and it is currently very healthy curls, so I'm learning again how to spoil my hair. Im also starting to get my lashes done and my nails, not including skin care.I'm excited for the new me and feel so much prettier.
I have 3 kids, I legitimately don’t have time during the week to worry about my hair. I have a solid wash and style routine that works for me and I do it once a week. If my curls start to look questionable, then I whip out the braid skills. Do what works best for you 😊
Exactly, I am low maintenance because honestly I don't have the time. If I have 5 spare minutes I want them to be with my kids. Priorities change, the important thing is to be happy with ourselves
I don’t do makeup, still figuring out my hair routine, but I love putting time and effort into doing my own nails every weekend 😊 they’ve gotta look good, then I’m happy all week ☺️ thanks for the reminder and encouragement Mell, that looking after ourselves is important 🥰🌺
I love doing my high maintenance hair routine once a week and having low maintenance curls the rest of the week!!
Maybe not surprisingly, the whole time I pushed myself to be low maintenance resulted in low efforts from people around me. And albeit it feels tiny bit of a late revelation, I am leaving it behind. I decided to be high maintenance and keep my expectations high too. The effort I put in myself actually always gave better results than the time I invested in other people. Living my life for me!
Loved this 💜 As a mama of two, my hair care is my self care. We all deserve it so much & I appreciate that you helped me to this point. My curls have given me new life! 💜 You’re the best!
I have learned so much from you over the couse of about four years!! I will be 60 in a few months but people say I look in my forties!! With a little extra time everyday….the little time is so worth it!! I want to send you a photo but not sure how🙄😂
My hair has never been low maintenance. I have an almost straight front and very curly back, so I’ve always had to work to blend the 2. I used to get a relaxer on the curly spot for 20+years. As my curl has moved to the majority of my hair now instead of just one spot I’ve finally ditched the damaging relaxer. I have to spend a LOT more time on wash days with my curls, but the time (and lots of $$$) I’m saving at the salon evens out!
You just absolutely blew my mind with the self tan contouring. You are a goddess. ✨
For the longest time I didn't do anything, even less than the bare minimum, because I was very clumsy and unskilled. So now I feel like I'm occasionally over compensating.
- Hair care: wash every 5 days, with detox every second wash, and treatment every 4th wash
- I have a loooot of white/grey hairs (thanks genetics) so I have my roots colored at the salon every 3-4 weeks. Not brave enough to do this on my own.
- Skincare: apply a daily cream against to reduce redness (this is a medical condition in my case)
I go for facial treatments every 3 weeks, where I also get my eyebrows cleanup (I veeeery close to sporting a monobrow before)
And I also get a pedicure. Most of the time, it's just a simple cleaning, but I will also occasionally have my toenails painted.
- I have also started getting my nails done (gel manicure) every 3 weeks because I am a biter. I'd start munching at the smallest stress signal.
... aaaaand that's pretty much it. I feel like people will start jumping down my throat for not doing most of this on my own. And yeah, it costs a lot, compared to the... nothing from before. But I feel much more "presentable" these days. 😀
My friends laugh when i sleep over & turn up with a silk pillow. They call me princess 👸 😂😂
My satin pillowcase goes with me whenever I travel or sleep somewhere else!!
I wear a silk or satin bonnet😉
I am 56 and have stopped coloring my hair to embrace my grey. How should I change up my routine to help my grey, curly hair look great?
Hi Mell! I wanted to ask if you'd ever consider doing a video on strong hold gels/mousses. The humidity is really kicking my a** this summer and the products I have in my cupboard right now just aren't cutting it.
Yes Mel I've been walking in the very early morning for the past year. It's been great.
i am quite a fan of yours for several years you made me maintain my long thick curly hair and thank you for embracing my hair even though its not manageable but still i give you all the thanks for helping me throughout my curly hair journey 😍
I was never ashamed of being "high maintenance". I just do what feels right to me!
I got “naturally beautiful” compliments in my teens and 20s, maybe 30s. I didn’t understand them. Now in my 50s, I don’t have much energy to try. But!!! I’m going to cut my own hair soon. I’m confident it’ll be “good enough” as I’ve done it a lot before and have loads to spare. Hairdressers can tell but the rest of the world can’t. Thank you for instilling confidence in all of us, whatever our approaches may be! 🌈
The first thing I did for myself was therapy and with that I feel better to put more effort into self care. One being a good bubble bath once a week. Preferably when I don't have to work the next day.
Love this vid! I like your approach! I realized lately too that doing some prelim prep or "high maintenance" stuff keeps me more stress free, and I don't think it's different than making sure laundry or meal prep is done; it smooths things out! That being said, I really appreciate this vid because I was feeling the mostest, but now we can all be the mostest together, lol. The most important thing I did was actually schedule a time block for misc "hot babe" things, and create a weekly beauty schedule that fits in that time block; like I'll do a smoothing treatment, mask, at home nails, etc. If I don't schedule things, they don't get done, haha.
11:34 cellulite is normal! 80 - 90% of women have it, no matter if they are an Olympic athlete, super model, or average person! It’s not a flaw (if you were thinking that) 😊 but if that massage with castor oil feels good to you (it looks like it does) then GET IT GIRL
And cellulite is way too deep in the skin for any creams or massages can penetrate, it needs an in office procedure
Yes, you are a MUST watch asap! ❤
My mom can attest to the castor oil! Well not to the specific points you are making Mel, but she uses it with a pad like wrap when she has muscle aches. I've never tried it, but she puts it on when she goes to bed and she has said it has helped and sometimes gotten rid of her muscle aches
I'm high maintenance and have to watch a Manes by Mel video each and every week! Thanks for the great video! Part of my skincare routine is Whole Body Serum, cupping therapy, cavitation sonic, myofascial massage gun, and RF/ EMS Skin Rejuvenator. 🥰
My wash day takes all NIGHT 💤💫
First!! Plus I really love ur hair mashallah! I'm still embracing my curls although they look quite frizzy but I love it
frizz is a curls friend
@@ManesByMell ur my biggest inspiration ofc, no need to thank me but I'll thank u alot instead (I've started my journey 2years ago but I dyed it crazy colour for 7months, so it's not the same since my hair type changed as it's getting healthier) tysm 💗💗💗
Hey Mel ….I am high maintenance but worth it! My mantra. Hey I know you love your Dyson but I’ve heard about more cost effective hair dryers that have similar attributes. Can you do a video about them? Dyson is just too much money for me.
I have recently been using castor oil too. I just purchased the wrap to make the castor oil pack so we will see how that goes but I love it around eyes.
15:38 I struggle with fabulous because I have developed allergies to fragrance and many preservatives and chemicals. My hair is very fine so it gets greasy looking pretty quick and frizzy too. But you are fabulous and thank you for the videos and education.
Great video. So glad that you stress SPF for scalp because it is so important all over. Another You Tuber I watch had to have skin cancer removed from her scalp.
The curls look very good in this video on you. Much better then when the curls are tight or crisp looking. The hairstyle also looks less choppy like this as it blends together.
I love your makeup. Especially the lip color. What is it?
i love mel and been watching for years like when she would compare drugstore brands and i only struggle abit to watch now because its just Aveda or Oplex being shown and i know she wouldnt use cheap or crappy brands bc shes spon and its free but maybe show an alternative or an old drugstore brand that could be just as good bc i deffo dont have £40 to be buying those brands and just thought for others it would be great to show what she does use but also something EVERYONE can use too ... xxx
Love this video. Definitely need a breakdown on oils!
i love this routine for you
its really working because i feel good and i feel like i look good
Loving the lighter hair on you! U suit golden blond shades for sure. Makes your look fuller and not as thin and stringy.
Your loyal fan Asa is always here! Happy to see something’s telling me this will be a really interesting live
make sure you head over to the chat box, the action os over there for now!!
Keep us updated about if the castor oil makes a difference and gives you results, cause I am very curious!! ❤
I love this hair color Mel!!
Amanda and Mell setting up the premiere: With live chat We'll get so many helpful productive consultations done
Prem goes live: Amanda having flashbacks about something that saved her life and Mell dreamimg about being a bronze goddess😂🤣
100% sure I saw consultations being done too but the live chat and the seesters were also having fun doing it their way. Yes Mell😁, that was very very much enjoyable 💜💜💜💜💜
Amanda💕💕💕💕💕, during the premiere when u were asking us our thoughts on what hair color you should go for, for your wedding, the clip from the ManesByMell titled:
" curly hair makeover + answering your questions about color damage " at 21:33 came to mind
Love your videos! I’ve been binging them lately trying to soak up the knowledge ❤
the sign!!! i love it haha
Girl your content is SO thoughtful and well executed you kill it every 👏damn 👏 time!!!
My nan used to always say “always be ready, so you never have to get ready”.
My Dearest, most amazing Mel, please please give me your bestest rake and shake video!? I'm so grateful for everything I've learned from you and your seester!❤
I got me some Aveda shampoos. The fact I can use so much less to get so much more lather makes me feel like I am somehow saving money 😳 Gotta get the conditioners and maybe gel next😍 no going back for these curls
I am curious about the spray conditioner you used… but I got weak fingers and find sprays hard to spray if they are to be sprayed on the hair 😬
Thanks for another great video as always!! Loved the live ❤️❤️❤️
I have course, thick, long 3B low porosity hair! What hair products should I use and how should use them? Give me a hair routine please 🙏
This is how I am high maintenance for the last 6 years:
My daily diet and food ingredients have to be the highest quality. Avoid eating/ordering out.
Spending good time outdoors daily and physical activity a few times a week.
Sleep routine is to be in bed by 11 the latest and 8hours everyday (not a mom yet).
Beauty products have to be the most natural ingredients as possible (I make some myself).
A good haircut every few months
Eyelash perm every few months
Seamless waxing
Currently working on:
Better styling techniques and tools (Dyson in my mind)
Better outfits that fit my height (5'1).
My dad got me a birthday cake this year that said "Happy Birthday, High Maintenance Girl" 😂
(Btw, would you ever do a video about different brands and types of hair oils for people on different budgets? I swear most of the people I follow only use super expensive ones and I can't afford that, lol. So I just don't know what to use and in the meantime am not using anything.)
Everything about this is just so so right.
We have the same routine even down to the castor oil and castor packs ❤ you have helped my hair care routine so much
Love ya! Can’t wait to hear more about your results with all the dry brush and castor oil ventures.
I'm wondering if you will be reviewing that new bounce curl styling brush for curls. It looks very interesting.
Mel, I really feel like you’re someone i want to share beauty tips with face to face- but since i cant do that do TELL ME WHAT YOU THINK
About dove body polishes? Particularly the pomegranate one because it lightens and evens out your skin tone because of the pomegranate in it. And more importantly something that i feel like you really might like is the bioderma oil body wash? It foams but it leaves your skin feeling silky! I really must ask you to do a body skin care routine video soon- your body mists body scrubs body cream body wash EVERYTHING EVERYTHING!!
I have always added things to my routine to try them "because people are saying" & there isn't any downside.. I'm 52 & people want to know WHAT I AM DOING & I'd never say it bc it's obnoxious but I've been doing it for 30 years, too late! for you! 😂 Good for you!
You look amazing. I was never taught about self care and I’m an older gal. I have started using homemade goat milk skin care, so gentle for mature skin. My fav hair products are Eva NYC and Verb but my dr says my hair products are too strong for my super sensitive skin. What is the gentlest hair product you know of for high porosity low density hair , that contains silicone. Ty so much
Oh yes i need to see Mell at least once or twice a week!
Love the message of this video!! Also, IME "Low/high maintenance" is just used to shame people for self care, like you said. Are there studies you looked at about the castor oil massage etc? It sounds plausible.
i take off my sunscreen in the evening with a little safflower oil. then i use the same oil and massage it all over my face and neck while watching UA-cam. sometimes this massage/UA-cam session can be over 20 minutes. then i gently wash my face with water and a microfiber cloth before my serums and moisturizer. i TRY to do this as unhurried as possible; so that i feel relaxed for sleeping.....self care y'all
Mell you should do a review on cream of nature products
I wear my curly hair straight so a keratin treatment is essential in the summers for me. Blowout, flat iron and keratin in the summers means my blowout will last a full week before wash day.
HEY MELL! Can u try a plopping hair routine? Like, can u dry ur hair in a plop? I LOVE UR VIDS😍
i used to feel about being high maintenance but your right we should not!!
Not everyone will consider this "high maintenance", but I'll mention in case it helps anyone! I pretty much will ONLY use the Essie Gel Couture nail polish line because I find it long-wearing and it doesn't require a UV light! Also find it protects my nails somewhat from breaking. Painting nails less often, and I'm choosy about colors to make sure they flatter me (go with a lot of my clothing), so I don't feel like they clash with anything throughout the week!
I have long curly hair, and am looking for a good straightener to use on my hair. I used to use Remington hot tools, but I am not seeing the same results as the older models. Do you have any recommendations?
I'm high maintenance!🙋♀️ Love this!❤
Omgg finally someone saying it’s ok to be high maintenance❤️❤️🙏 and…. I have a favor to ask.. I have homecoming coming up in a few weeks and I was wondering if you could maybe recommend some styles? I have shoulder length, medium density, medium sized strands and 2c to 3b curls. I’m always scared to put hairstyles in my hair cuz i don’t like messing up my curls😭 BUT I’ve gotten to a point where I luv my curls sm and def want to wear them to a fancy occasion…but I don’t know what to do😭 anyway thank u sm for ur videos❤️ and Amanda too❤️❤️ luv u guys sm
I watch you every week…multiple days! 😂
Any updates from your night routine? 👀
I am on top of my skin care. My best friend is an esthetician so I have a curated routine using high end products for my cleanser, a hypochlorous acid spray, serum, moisturizer, and a powder to make an overnight mask to sleep in. I also use the Laneige Lip Sleeping Mask. I am looking to incorporate a face oil to do a gua sha massage every night. I am terrible with my hair and body though but this will change! Once my son is sleeping consistently around the same time every night, I’ll get a little of that piece of my life back.
In the AM I use a tinted sunscreen from Colorscience to even out my skin tone and when I am consistently threading and tinting my brows I feel like I look like my best self! It’s a plus when I have my eyelash extensions in.
I want to do the dry brushing and be more consistent with my chemical exfoliant on my body. I def want to laser in the future but for now I do sugaring every couple of months.
Can’t wait to see an update!
Do you need a leave in primer, curl cream, and gel for coloured loose curls? Or is that too much? Using Eva NYC with verb cream and verb gel.
That pillow case trick is a genius idea! 😂
Love this Mel!! I can say castor oil definitely helps with lash health too! I’ll have to start doing it in my naval 😊. I’ve also been loving dry brushing and lotion with lactic acid after, and my red light panel!
What haircut should I ask for to get better volume? My hair has thinned out because of menopause and my curl pattern has changed but the curl by curl cut I usually get is not enough volume. Any advice?
I am wondering if you think it would be ok to use Castor oil as a final step in the hair routine to scrunch out the crunch? Or would it be to thick?
I love a routine and taking time for yourself. My only issue with being high maintenance is that I always want to default to low maintenance -- I want to be flexible enough and adaptable enough that my day is not ruined if I'm not able to do all the things to "maintain." My one caveat to this is that I do require coffee in the morning. Or at least caffeine. But everything else is basically negotiable. On an ideal day, I feel pretty high maintenance!! But somedays life happens and I must be prepared to roll with it!
Hi Mell, I go for a lash lift to a salon and I dye my brows. I have a very elaborate skincare routine which is high maintenance, so my skin is in great condition and I don't have to wear make up which is low maintenance. :D
Does lash lift irritate your eyes? Btw babe, if you like her vlogs you might like mine so swing by and take a peek. (Pleeeeeeease.)
Thank you, great video
I also rotate my pillow cases AND I cover them with a sham type cover to protect them from my kids during the day. I need to figure out a bonnet or some way to sleep because it’s just loose right now. My satin scrunchies are breaking my hair I think. Everything breaks my hair. Or maybe it’s just new growth. I don’t know.
I do the same thing with rotating pillow cases! My husband thinks I’m crazy lol 😂
Girl!!! I am so high maintenance
My husband and i have agreed upon a beauty budget for the year. An i have not been able to stick to it lol
An yes i always watch your videos every Thursday 😉
I recently got a hair cut (I got 3a/3b hair) where the most it reaches is maybe my jaw. However, I tend to workout and my hair could already be hard to work with afterwards when it was longer, but seems harder to work with post workout when it's shorter. I've seen routines for preserving and refreshing curls for longer hair but never for hair that doesn't reach the shoulders. Any suggestions or tips?
Don't forget to brush arms and legs towards the heart! Leg swelling begone! stop x and gua sha...if I crave salt, I eat it before nightfall because eyebags. I time all my meals. It is extra and very time consuming, but my tummy never talks back at me for abusing her...even if i have to skip a meal. I'm also the same with my pillowcases. I just can't touch it after a few days. She needs to be fresh. Lastly miso. If youre regularity isn't very regular, a half a teaspoon uncooked miso will...free you from your burdens. And strengthen skin. Deliciously. I buy from ishiimiso. Yes the shipping will hurt. But it is worth it. Finally...never combing my hair if upset or rushed...bc if i cannot do it properly i should not do it at all. That means never skipping a step on wasday bc we never know what the future holds. That means preparing for old age. Menopause is real. Hospitalization real (i literally just cut my finger and could not do my twists for days bc my finger needed to heal and soaking my cut in leave in would not be healthy) Did my hair suffer. No. Bc I have snatched my routine to within an inch of its life. That means preparing for surprise deadlines and events on washday by not leaving a stone unturned...from scalp exfoiliation and oiling to sealing with a nice hair polish after the blowdry, double stocking favorites and layering well each product individually. And never going cheap on tools. Bc life happens. And stress is overrated. Money answers all things. And cute girls are not cute bc of the genetic lottery. It takes time and skill. Alot of it. I don't know about you...but I don't know any artisan that paints with off brand Crayola or architect or craftsman that has not bled dollar bills for the precision of their tools or the practice/honing of their skill. Price is apart of the commentment. A good woman is more precious than rubies. Scarlets and purples for clothing do not fall from the sky. I say let the worthy woman have the work of her hands. Ty for the great pick me up. It was absolutely inspirational. Bc I'm extra and I know it.
You are Extra. I Love It ❤
Could you do a product review of Kit-sch shampoos?
HELP!!!!!! I just recently have been trying to embrace my wavy/curly hair. I do get highlights to camo my gray. I get it done every 6 months to a year. I have long, thick hair as Amanda does.
Ok, so here is my issue, I can not keep tables out of my hair. Day 3 and I have mass tangles! I sleep in a scarf or bonnet and sleep on a silk pillowcase. What shall I do???? I love my curls but find the tangles irritating. Any advice and tips are welcome and appreciated.
Thank you.
Colette
Do you or Amanda use homemade flaxseed gel? I’ve considered trying it but haven’t pulled the trigger, I think my hair is more like Amanda’s 🤷🏼♀️
Love it❤
Hey hii. I've dry curly frizzy hair. I use leave in cream and hair gel and then i break the gel cast from hair. But after 2 hours i see that my hair gets mote frizzy and curls don't look DEFINED AND frizz free. Why is it so? What to do please help me out😢
Try a Fasciablaster instead of the wooden bead massager. It's game-changing.
I bought the Braun IPL hair removal for at home, the hairs are definitely disappearing but the last 2 times, its been causing hives all over my legs, that arnt going away and the itchiness is driving me crazy but i want the hairs gone.
I gave up high maintenance skin so that I could have better skin. I still wear makeup but not as much. No makeup = no harsh scrubs, makeup removers, deep pore cleansers, etc. funnily enough, my forehead lines have just about disappeared. I started washing my face with avocado oil. I cannot believe the change. I always wanted be a no makeup girl. Just for saving time and money. I was a product junkie. Still kind of am, but I managed to focus on skin improvements and now I just am a skin improvement and hair product junkie. I’m high maintenance and that’s just how I am.
I noticed that you no longer have Aveda product recommendations on your web site even though you still use them. Did you have to remove them from your lists?
In all honesty I never have time, but on the rare occasion that I do, I follow a lot of these tips. So sometimes my hair looks really nice. Lol but almost always I'm in a ponytail or some kind of twist/rolls.
I am sooo high maintenance lol!!! Great video as always!! Love chatting with you on the live chat too!! Much love and happiness!! Xoxo 😘
OMG I also have to wash my body after my hair. I thought I was the only one.
I have always said my hair isn't high maintenance but it just takes more time yo do and that's ok. I'm not winning an award with how fast my hair is done and my hair would pay the price if I'm just hauling butt trying to do it 💯
Hi from Ohio!! 😃