@@phoebeashley3348 I don't know is this going to help you but it is important to talk to someone you love about how you are feeling, you dont have to keep this to yourself and understand that it is ok to feel this way, we are human and there are many people that are or were in your situation. Don't let this affect your health. What I have noticed is that I keep worrying about everything, not feeling prepared or that I am not good enough and I'll be fired and I need to make a living etc etc etc.... but I am not doing somthing about it, meaning that I need to create a plan for when I am working so at the end of the day I know I have accomplished something also recognize that you are new and you'll need help for some time and it is ok. Eventually with time you'll gain confidence for now try to find a mentor in your workplace or outside. And my final recommendation, is that if you feel that you are underprepared you should put some extra hours studying or practicing whatever it is that you do. Also recognize your situation and be grateful of what you have, not many people right now have jobs, you should do everything on your power to be better everyday because you are able to do it.
Have you ever had an anxiety or panic attack at work? My second attack happened at work, my first one was at the mall it came out of no where, both times I was dizzy, lightheaded, blurry vision, I just felt uneasy, scared etc. So once I parked my car at work, I start to get anxious, I'm fine driving but I start to think about my first attack at work, so I get them at work because I kept thinking, I lost my job because I couldn't handle going to work anymore it sucks. I only wish I didn't left the mall when I had my first attack, and left work with my second attack, maybe if I didn't my brain wouldn't make me scare of leaving my house.
Kennedy C I feel like that. I ran away from a situation and moved locations. Thing is lost my confidence and my integrity as I didn't act in a professional manner. Need to let it go, don't feel happy and comfortable anymore.
I called in sick 3 times already and im only 2 months into my new job... im mentally so drained and physically sick cause i dont like going there and i dont feel that i belong there either. I honestly thought that im alone in this battle but its comforting to see that there are people going through the same situations like myslef...
Yeah, I know what you mean. I was surpsrised that I even made it to work today. The worst thing is that I have no control over my thoughts and behaviour when I'm stressed, which is basically all the time, so people at work must think I'm some freak
I have a fear that I’ll never find a job that I’ll know how to do. I’m so scared of making mistakes and think everyone judges me. I’m so hard on myself bc when I start a new job I think I have to know everything. I get scared I’ll never get the hang of a job. I hate having anxiety 😕
It's so relieving to look through the comments and see that others feel the exact same way I do about my job. I have an anxiety attack practically every day before I go to work, but this made me realise that it's because I'm imagining future problems and also associating how good I am at my job with my personal value - when my job has nothing to do with my personal value or who I am in any way. Hopefully this will help me feel better in the future
Beth Anthony I relate to what you've said here and so many of the other comments. I wish you well and hope you can begin to feel comfortable in your working environment. My issue is confidence and always has been. I've been used to for soo long of people telling me they have to let me go and each time I have to bounce back and start over somewhere else. I wouldn't wish this on anyone
Beth Anthony right? Me too. It’s jut sad that u can’t find people like me irl. At my work everyone seems to me so confident and that I am the only one with anxiety.
@@parmindersinghmaan6311 You are not alone. I feel like such a baby. I cry all of the time thinking about my new job. I told my wife I didn’t want to wake up from sleep last week. It’s slowly getting better as I learn each day. Hang in there.
Thanks for this. I started a new job recently, and so every morning before I head to work I get severe anxiety. "What if I fail a task today and they decide to fire me on the spot? What do my co-workers, supervisor, and boss *really* think of me? I don't really relate to any of my co-workers. Maybe I don't belong at this job..." I agree with the point about me confusing my tasks with my personal value. Learning that a mistake made in the workplace does *NOT* mean I am just a failure overall.
Yakita60 bless you ..I do understand you so well ..as I m exactly in the same situation :( 3weeks at new place and still terrified every morning, when is it going to end... i do make mistakes time to time as my anxiety kicks in I stop thinking logically, and boom failure. I hope we will get through this! We can do it girl! I am with you ! X
I've been so anxious also at my new job... I've been making some stupid mistakes and I'm always very nervous of messing up. I also don't feel comfortable enough with my team yet.
I can't speak for everyone but I am learning after a while to not be perfect and just do my job. Perfectionism should not be a goal. Perfectionism is a sickness.The goal should be growth. Allow yourself to make Mistakes and stop making everything into a crisis. Also don't be afraid to speak up if you believe something Is wrong or you need help.
Thank you for this comment, genuinely made me feel relaxed. Why do I strive for perfection at a place paying me bare minimum and where I'm not even happy?
JEFFMAN90, well, u know u're human, right? What would u say if I tell u I've made mistakes? What would u say if I told u countless numbers of human being here on youtube have also made mistakes? I know exactly what u're talking about, because I've been right where u r, I used to be afraid of making mistakes too, and I was down on myself a lot as well. That's the truth, and I'm sure u're a decent dude, I think u need a good look at u'reself, like honestly, take a good look at all u're achievements. In addition, look at how many people through out history have made mistakes. There r numerous, famous people who've made mistakes in their life time who've overcome them. Besides, u're not perfect, I'm not perfect, u c somebody on youtube, they're not perfect, we're not perfect, we make mistakes, and u're not defined by u're mistakes. U're not junk, u're a human being w values, beliefs, interests, a personality, so take a look at those things for a moment.
Thanks for the advice bro I appreciate it. I mostly fear failure due to me having ADHD and a learning disability so I'm always cautious when I do anything so I won't screw up.
u're welcome, well, what would u say if I told u I struggled through high school? I'm in college, and I found what my learning style is. I detect u're a hands on learner, r u? What do u do for work?
It’s so comforting to see that other relate. I recently got my first real job. I have an anxiety attack every time when I go. It’s all I think about before it, during it, after it. It feels like it takes over my life. My anxiety over it makes me nauseous and feel like I’m going to die sometimes, that’s how bad it is. I’ll sit and cry all day before I even have to be to work. It’s horrible. I can’t get a break and I feel like it’s taking over my life. All that I hope for right now is that in the months to come, I will get more comfortable in my job and with the people I work with. I have to go to work in about an hour and a half. I am terrified. I had a full on panic attack over it a few hours ago. Now I’m just trying to find comfort to get over it. I’m terrified because I never know what to expect in shift to come. I don’t understand how things work. I don’t know how to figure out what the tasks are for the day. I don’t know where to go half the time. I feel so uneducated and confused and I’m terrified to mess up. I already have at the job multiple times and it made me feel horrible. I dread going. Dread is an understatement. And I can quit but then I would just have to find another job and it would be the same thing. I feel trapped. I’m terrified and I just hope that I don’t feel this way in the next few months
Omg I feel the exact same way that I knew I had to comment on this. I'm only about a month into my new job and I've found myself in the same exact situation. I tend to overthink then my mind gets flooded to the extent that I feel nauseous and light headed. It feels like I can't escape from it that only recently I woke up in the middle of the night only to realize that my mind still had been overthinking about work even when I'm asleep. Not only do I feel restless but it messes with my emotions so much that I find myself crying alone in the bathroom a lot lately.
I hope you got through this...I started my new job yesterday and I got physically sick and it caused me to miss work today...I dread going back to work...it's so hectic...I can relate to you so much.
did it ever get better?? i’m going through the same exact thing. it was my third day together and i had a full on panic attack in front of all my coworkers and customers i was so embarrassed and i felt like i couldnt breathe and i couldn’t stop crying for a good 30 minutes. i rlly don’t wanna go back i’m just hoping it’ll get better or i’ll get the hang of it because i’m not even sure what caused the panic attack.
@@khogan7661 it does get better. And that’s a promise. I still struggle heavily with anxiety and life in general. I still get very anxious at work sometimes but it is nothing nearly as bad as it once was. Like I said in the post, it felt like it consumed me. The absolute dread and anxiety in the back of my head about either being at work or having to go back. I did end of quitting the job that I mention in this post. It’s was heavily damaging to me. But I applied at a different job and it ended up being much better. A smaller environment where you know everyone and it’s okay to ask questions. I have now been at said job for almost 2 years. And what’s crazier is I am actually working 2 jobs right now. I got another job last year. Both of course were very scary starting at but after a while it becomes routine and before you know it, you are the one helping or comforting other coworkers that struggle just as much as you did at one point. Just keep going. And it’s okay to make changes and go somewhere new. As long as you’re doing your best in any situation I’m at work, that’s all you can do. But just don’t give up. :)
I have social anxiety at work I always worry what others think of me. why does it matter at my job? I want to enjoy work not worry about others judging me.
I am in the same position my work place is soo fast paced that I can’t keep up with my slow processing speed which is stressing me out even more which then causes the anxiety attacks
I feel the same way. So much goes on and I have trouble remembering and keeping up. I went through an entire divorce and only missed one day because I didn’t feel like I could
If other people can feel calm, relaxed, present at the same location as you, then why are you not? It's very simple, you're thinking and they're not. Thats why NkAhs process is helful, because you might end up discovering that what you thought was true is bullshit
My anxiety got so bad at work one day that I told my boss I'm done I just can't take it anymore now I am struggling to find a job and afraid I won't be able to keep it
no because they took advantage of me by putting most of the work load on me sorry for not answering recently i have to schedule a day to see a therapist to deal with my social anxiety
I had a major anxiety attack at my internship last Friday and now it's Sunday I'm having it again because my boss now knows my anxiety attack and I embarrassed and cried infront of him till my dad came to speak to him. I need to stop caring what they think of me. Let them think of me as incompetent all they want, my value is peace and happiness.
I am so sorry this was posted in 2015. I can't help but notice the word axiety and internship. I am doing internship as well and I broke down out of no where because I made a mistake. I was turning red, couldn't breathe, and had tears coming down. I had to go to another room before the tears came down more. how did it turn out for u? and I fear messing up and peopled thoughts about it ...I need help
marwa elashrfi hi marwa! You will make it through. For me, the place itself was toxic. The people there made my anxiety worse. One thing i got from my internship was that honestly, no one cares. Everyone will be busy with their jobs and have all been an intern once. It is their loss if they are treating you bad or make you feel terrible. This internship will make you see if this is the kind of place you want to work in, and find your values. it also gave me hindsight on my future career prospects! whatever may seem troubling to you there will pass and you will come out stronger! Remember to ask questions and keep asking when in doubt, there is no reason for you to feel guilty about it. Once theres clarity, it will ease ur anxiety. Dont worry about messing up, everyone messed up before during internship, its a learning process.
+Zoe Ng thank u for kindly responding , you are so right. everyone at the internship were once an intern as i. so how did u find peace and finally not care what they think of u ? did u ever see a therapist ? thanks
I feel like a failure every day at work. The stress of my job on top of being so new just kills me. I want to quit but I also will feel embarrassed if I give up after just 1.5 months.
Operator 104 I am exactly in the same position as you “were” I hoped. Don’t know what to do. I am afraid I am not good enough at my job and I am not valued and ppl think I am a failure
GAURAV SANKAR well I will tell you that I managed to steel myself & push through that first 6 months. Now, I honestly love my job. Have for awhile. I may still end up leaving for reasons at the national level, but as far as me personally, I love what I do & im super grateful that I stuck with it. Idk what your job is but, if it’s something you’ve spent all your passion & energy workin towards, something that you feel in your heart you want to do, then you should stick with it. Give it 6 months-1 year.
@@lgdurocher thank you for answering. I am glad things got better for you and I hope I'll feel like you in six months. Right now.... It is just hard... I feel like a failure and that everyone notices, I cannot sleep right, don't feel like eating etc etc.
I started a new job a couple of months ago and frequently feel like a failure. I sometimes cry on the way home thinking of the mistakes I’ve made. It’s slowly getting better. It’s a good paying job but it’s a lot to learn. It’s loud and we have to wear masks because of COVID so it’s difficult to communicate. I often can’t understand what my coworkers are trying to tell me and get frustrated. I’d hate to lose this job.
Don't worry guys and girls! everyone has some form of anxiety, I just go with it, learn to fell it, accept it, just go with it, don't fight it, it will pass in time. There will be good and bad times in your life daily..
so much of my work anxiety is that my bosses can be so humiliating...i go right to feeling inadequate, not good enough, and a failure....it is my lack of self worth due to years in an abusive marriage. Now at work i have 2 bosses similar to my ex-husband, and it brings up so much triggering...i walk in in the morning already anxious. also i so need this salary...single mom and i need to support people! That thought just adds to it.
I get so nervous at work.. I lack confidence because of it and I’m always second guessing myself and over complicating things 😔 I also get really timid with coworkers and customers
I recently started a new job hand washing cars and all I do is dread going. I'm scared of what others think of me, I'm scared of not performing well, and I'm scared of failing. I want to show my girlfriend and family I have value and I belong somewhere. I'm terrified if I fail my girlfriend will leave me and find someone else who can provide a better way of life for her. I have been miserable ever since I started working this job. I can't take any criticism without crying and trying to hide it from my co-workers. I cry myself to sleep some nights thinking about how I will eventually have to suck it up and deal with going into work everyday until the day I die.. I want everyone to know that you aren't alone and I wish there were more people who understood this feeling in our workplaces. I hope everyone finds peace and happiness one day.
I get anxiety before work everyday. I have had this job for 3 weeks. I am so scared of messing up. I am so scared of letting people down. I have already gotten a raise at this job so I know I must be doing something right. The people I work with are friendly but I find myself isolating myself. My job is so easy... why can't I just get myself to go? I missed 3 days in a row because my anxiety was making me physically ill. :(
Haley Bowser bro same, my coworkers are nicr, my job is simple-ish. I ask too much questions to my coworkers that it makes me think that I can never memorize my job.
Stumbled across this after a hard week at work… been at this job for just over a year now and every time I make a mistake, receive a complaint, or even a harshly worded email from a customer, I immediately think I am a failure, I’m not worthy, my confidence drops and I think I should quit because this job is not for me… Last week was particularly hard, burnt out, difficult customers and a busy manager that leaves my message cold and make me feel like I don’t have support. My mental health hit a dip. Never thought I needed to watch this video to see that I’ve been tying how I perform at work to my self worth. I am still me even when mistakes are made and when people complain. They don’t define who I am.
Being 19 and working at my first retail job these past couple days. I truly felt as if I should be working to have value and to be good at work and to be a good employee as well as being a good employee when it comes for customers. But now that I watch these. I now have different perspective of retail. When it comes to retail, and wanting to succeed, I want to be happy. Not succeed, I want happiness and peace as well as performing on what I can do. Putting my skills at work. Well being a person who has anxiety in social situations that create an illusion that I have to be perfect and successful to be a good employee under heavy social circumstances. I now I feel like as long as I am being me, as long as I'm doing what I'm good at. Being detail oriented, and handling customers with my knowledge I know, and speaking to them in the way that I know I can speak with them. Then I'm doing the task in my efficient way. Not what of others think what my efficiency should be.
My morning panick attacks before work has now started to affect me even when I have days off. I keep breathing and when I get to work everything is usually okay. I stopped drinking caffeine and started drinking decaffeinated coffee and that seems to help whilst I'm there.
wow, he's dope!! friends and family always tell me I'm basing my worth on my work performance. if I have a good day I feel like I have a purpose. When I have a bad day I always feel I'm worthless😔😔. Thanks for teaching me how wrong and foolish these thoughts are😄😄
Try to use your natural skills more, maybe you're a good listener or writer. Maybe you're really kind and fun. Life became so much better for me when I started to chitchat more with co-workers, and when I started having small talk more with clients on the phone. In fact it improved my perfomances because I listened better and everyone around me was happier
I'm scared of going to work everyday.. I'm scared of people and when I get nervous, I become really clumsy and I can't control my movement. I become really clumsy and jumpy
Associating our personal value with how well we perform in our job causes anxiety. Because when you make a mistake or sense you are judged by others based on your knowledge or skills it affects your personal worth. Currently learning how to separate these two.
I have a tremendous sense of personal value and self-love. I still get terrified to go to work, terrified to open the mail, email or answer the phone. I don’t think my anxiety IS who I am, but it’s always there terrorizing me.
If I fail at another job I just don't know what I am going to do next. It isn't exactly like there are plenty of jobs in my country and in this pandemic circumstances. I'm anxious about losing my job all the time. Even in my day off I can only think I have to go to work next day. I can't stop recalling every single mistake I make at work and how it's getting me closer to being fired. I'm almost 30 and I feel like I already failed at life.
Thank you very much! I used to go on interviews and just get panic attacks over and over again, after I watched your videos I went to two of them and was completely calm. Guess what happened. I got a job now and can't stop talking... and I thought that I am an introvert. thank you again !
Everything you said was how I felt my whole life and now that I've finally found a job after looking for one for a while, it makes me have crippling anxiety even when I don't fail.
About a month ago, I started a new job at a completely new place. The working environment is fast-paced and my boss always expect highly from me. On top of carrying tasks in the office, I am also responsible to perform as his personal assistant. So I have to always be on top of the game, every single day. I have to be quick, think fast, be prepared at all times. It gives me severe anxiety every day. Every night, I will spend about 3 hours planning on what to do tomorrow. Getting everything ready, the notes, the reminders, the updates, the lists. And on the next day, I will be working non stop from 8am to 7pm. I sleep late and tend to forget my own personal things to do. Every morning while I driving to work I just cant stop playing scenarios in my head of how the day would go. I did mess up twice because I forgot to remind him things, he was so mad that he said “this is the second strikes” when I messed up the second time about a week ago. I cant get over it and I am just so scared if I really mess up again. It was an honest mistake of forgetting to remind him, because I was still learning and getting the “rhythm” right.
Thank you so much for this video Noah. I was about to have a panic attack because of my new job but this video really helped me. You are helping a lot of people through these videos. Thank you.
My last job I was unhappy but I more or less mastered what the job required of me (I was contracting). I left for a multitude of reasons even though management wanted me to stay. It was too much stress, many people taking sick leave because we were all over worked (I went GP for a sick note once as well etc). Fast forward some months and I start a new job which pays so much more, a permanent role, but it went from starting off very well to not going so well in some key areas. My flaws are highlighted (which I'm working on using feedback I've received), and it's a whole new sector I'm in. My probation was extended, and I am feeling the anxiety. I have been reading self help stuff, I have support from my good friend and my siblings. I've always gotten good reviews with all of my jobs and I've been praised for how I've received my feedback at my new job but I feel overwhelmed. My workload has increased a whole lot and I am nervous about it all. A bit tearful writing this but all I can do is try my best and hope for the best.
This is helpful and less stressful. Just started a new placement job and it’s still kinda scary because as soon your skills are good you be put even more work and expected to be quick for it otherwise you’ll be judged. 😭❤️😭✨💞
I know this video is 5years old and you may never see this comment IDC I just wanted to say thank you so much from the bottom of my heart for making this video and all your other ones. I just started a new job and have been struggling with my anxiety. I’m trying really hard to work on my positive self talk and self reflection but I still struggle and I think a lot of things you said helped me and made sense and I can’t wait to apply this to my life as best as I can and rewatching this video when I need a reminder. I can’t thank you enough! Thank you thank you thank you!!!!
Jess Ford how did you make it work getting over anxiety? My friends have jobs and i don't im 19, i don't know how to get over thinking the person im working for will say "no" when i apply
Rich Panini Bread you never really “get over” anxiety, but dealing with it can get easier. It’s true a lot of people will say no but it’s never about you and anything you did it’s just sometimes things work out and sometimes they don’t. Just think people who are successful were never successful at first. For example J.K. Rowling’s book Harry Potter was turned away many times before someone picked it up. I suggest going for a job somewhere you like! I like talking to people and coffee and that so I applied to Starbucks during a hiring fair and I stopped by every few weeks to show how serious I was about the job and the manager remembered me and hired me as soon as a position became available. Do you like books? Work at a book store? Like kids? Get certified to babysit. Like working out? Be a receptionist at a gym. Etc etc. You can do it and don’t feel like because everyone else is doing something so do you. I didn’t have a job for awhile and it doesn’t make you any less valuable then someone who is working. Dealing with mental health is hard so give yourself some slack!
Jess Ford that's good! glad to hear your doing something you like but i feel like i would have mad anxiety doing something too social and yeah, a few people told me a gym receptionist at pf would be good but that sounds so boring. I appreciate the reply mad respect😤 also have a great day🤠
wow this made so much sense to me. I just started a new job and I was concerned about what everybody thought. I was mixing up the task that I do everyday with who I am.
This video I wish I had seen long ago cause it hit the nail on the coffin with my anxiety at work. I recently got fired and couldn't understand why I felt so depressed and direction less like I had no meaning in my life after I lost my job. I had tied my self worth and value to what I did without even noticing it. Thank you for the help.
Hi Noah, I am a counselor in another country/language and although I use a lot of what is in your videos already in cognitive therapy, it is always wonderful to be able to expand the ideas and consider new insights. Thank you very much for that! I hope you have a lot of sucess! Luv from Brazil.
Social Anxiety have shape my life in a very strong way. To the point on not wanting to work or study at a fiscal school. But I never saw it from this point of view. I've been to so many so call "psychologists" and psychiatrist and all they do is teach me that without a job or a degre, I'm not worthy, valuable, or successful. But what you say makes more sence and is true. Thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on Anxiety. It really helped me to understand about anxiety which we all go through in our lives and our capabilities of thinking goes far away from us. I am also dealing with anxiety but your video helped me to re think on my thought process again. Thank you so much Noah :)
This resonates so much with me. Thank you. “Worth” based on opinions is an illusion because it is just that: an opinion, something that exists in the mind. It is not reality. Wow. ❤️
Literally sobbing rn because I was so excited about this job that i was training to get but i got so anxious and nervous and i ended up overthinking things and got extremely overwhelmed and I ended up asking to leave which resulted in me not getting the job and now i feel terrible
I am an experienced EVS Technician at a hospital and I show a lot of anxiety at work everyday. I care about my job too much and I always fear that if I make a mistake, it would result in termination. I hate going into work feeling this way and I hope that I can go into work not feeling this way everyday.
Since as long as I can remember I have been a very successful and driven individual - don't get me wrong I have had some great failures too and nearly lost everything but I looked at these as experiences and have no regrets. I have won awards and my passion is success in everything I do (this includes my day job) and now more so, helping others to succeed and grow. I enjoy helping people who have found themselves in unfortunate situations through to business owners and leaders with whom I can engage with stimulating and meaningful discussions. As a family we are competitive in all aspects and we constantly achieve, my kids always receive glowing reports on their attitude and their results both academically and with extra curricula activities - this is our DNA.I have now found myself in a position where I face continuous anxiety at work - I don't want to post the reasons on here but when I watch some of your videos I can't relate my situation 100% to what you discuss. I can't possibly believe that I am the only one in this situation but I believe that I am quite unique in a positive sense (this is what I have been told a number of times) and the situation I find myself in goes completely against my values and beliefs and this is what I think I am struggling with - It's not a situation I can easily change in the short term.Would be great to know your thoughts.Many thanks, Stephen
I am about to have a panic attack just bc I don't want to go to work at a job I am actually great at. It's being trapped there unable to leave that freaks me out.
I feel that 100% the fact I can leave really does stress me out too. But what helps me is just really hyper focusing on what I’m doing. I try to stay in the moment. That way I don’t have time to think about the what if’s.
Thanks for saying my worth is not dependent on my achievements. This is not how I was raised. And my colleagues seem to have similar issues. Which is why I am going to make career take a lower priority in my life.
Today was my first day at work, I cried when I got home, I work at the register and a guy who only spoke Spanish tried saying that he gave me a 50 when I am almost positive he gave me a 20, I am beyond scared to go into work tomorrow in case I was actually wrong because now I am second guessing myself.
@@renyukgoncangmakan thanks, there were cameras and it turned out he was trying to scam me, sucks how it was on my first day, I did not need that to happen
Thank you for this wonderful reminder, Noah. I've been having some terrible time with my work -- but I know that I do just right and well with all the tasks that I'm given with. But I was too caring of what other people might think of me. Good job for making this video!
I’m not worried I will fail. I also value myself and know I have value even without working. I just simply don’t want to go to work and find it hard to force myself to do it, which causes anxiety. I genuinely dislike people and don’t care what they think about me, but in a work environment I am forced to be around people and inevitably be judged by them in some way (I don’t care) but I hate needing to be in that situation in order to make money and survive.
I get nervous that i'll do something wrong. Ive started my 1st job recently and I am very nervous with talking to people. I dont know whats wrong and whats right in the work place and I'm always scared i'm going to do something that'll make one of the longer workers or bosses mad. Specifically the bosses. I'm also afraid to get into a conflict with rude or angry people. Specifically shoppers. I get the thought in my mind that if I do this wrong I'll ruin everything in the store or I will be yelled at. I also dont really have initiative because Im scared that if I do something without the boss or other worker asking me, that'll get in trouble. For example if they asked me to organize a certain shelf and I see the one behind me is messy as well. I wont wanna touch it because they didn't say for me too and I'm scared that they'd yell at me or get angry. Things like that. I know its stupid. I feel like I'll mess up or someone will yell at me for something. Stuff like that.
I am the type of person who needs social human contact and working from home stripped me from that before I have a meaningful relationships with my colleagues. This creates a lot of anxiety and insecurity and affecting my productivity and mental health.
The greatest sense of value and worth come from when we give of purselves...more so then when we receive. This is why very rich people give to foundations and causes...so they feel worthy inside.
My struggle is I am very uncomfortable being on the front line. I would prefer to be in the background. I get lots of anxiety speaking to customers (I work on the phones ALL day. Like chained to my desk, taking claims. Call after call after call) and being introverted, call center customer service is the worst job for me. I love being part of a team and want to work in the background and away from confrontation. I loathe confrontation and I am soooo stressed out at work. I have struggled with anxiety for years. Social anxiety too, but it is better now. I am introverted and need a slower and quieter pace. I know they have data entry and online recruiting available. I keep asking to get moved over to a different department but nothing yet. Unfortunately, I need my job! Otherwise, my employer is a really good place to work. Great people, great boss. I am grateful for that.
I have my first pretty well paid job in my career and I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack almost everyday. My boss micromanages me to the point I can't even send an email without her rewriting it if she is even semi involved (she does this to our other team members as well). I feel like I am constantly messing up, but there is no right way because of the lack of communication and zero training. I've never felt so miserable. I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack even on the weekends.
That's sad to hear... guess what I've faced poor communication issues with my managers as well...just remember that it'll pass...you just need a support system to talk to...a good hobby...n we need to reassess n think that sometimes people with low emotional intelligence tend to treat others as commodities..I'm almost at the brink of a panic attack rn...but it's important to keep persevering
Great talk. I'm currently without a job and I feel less than on so many fronts. Your talk helped me so much today. I've had a few different careers in my life but none of them were me.
This is kind of approaching the issue from a different perspective, but exercise and sunlight help too. While I certainly agree the cognitive behavioral therapy is essential, I also find that it is helpful on a physiological level to move around and get some fresh air. I think this is most helpful when you are already trying to coach yourself out of your anxious thought patterns, but you can still feel the anxiety in your body.
I feel terrible because I've been in my new job for a year now and I'm still anxious. I even had a bit of a meltdown today because the work was just confusing me and I couldn't concentrate and any information told to me wasn't registering and I just felt completely and utterly stupid. I find learning new things tough and takes me longer than average to pick things up or constantly repeating the process before it sticks. But give me too many things at once and my brain just malfunctions. It doesn't help that we have to reach a daily target because if I fall short of it I get irritated with myself and feel I let myself down if I keep pestering colleagues for help. The anxiety is like my chest is tight constantly every time I think about work, whenever its before I start or even on my days off. I worked in retail for 6 years before I kicked myself into getting a government office job which was completely new for me. And now I just feel useless and don't have a clue what other job I want to do, or even be good at. When you don't enjoy work, it really drains you mentally if you think how long we actually spend most of our time working. Comforting that other people feel the same at least.
I have alot of workplace anxiety and I think it has to do with the fact that I'm not very committed to working there. I'm not very interested in analytics or sales and of course, there's the constant pressure that makes it worse. The only thing I want to do in life, is write and I have done a lot of that during the lockdown. I looked forward to doing it because it was something I'm interested in and I was pleasantly surprised to find that most of my dread and anxiety was considerably lessened in this endeavour. I hope to leave my job, and write for a living someday. I know that won't solve everything but it will solve some things and that is all one can ask for, sometimes
I know you posted this a year ago but try reading a book called office politics by a guy called (I think) Oliver James. It's about dealing with difficult personality types and is really very good 😊
Hi Noah. Your efforts are very much appreciated. In fact I downloaded ALL your videos so I can share it to my colleagues in times of difficult internet connections (hoping I will not be charged to some sort of legalities). --- From Middle East, allow me to say THANKS.
I got fired for Christmas, out of the blue. Big, nice job. Didn't see it coming. I felt worthless. But I put together my self-worth, started my business, and contacted lawyers about my job termination.
I worked 1 day at tropical smoothie and i got so much anxiety and panic attacks I haven´t showed up in 2 days. I thnik I´m gonna show up tomorrow and give an excuse and just suck it up all I can. The staff probably thinks I´m slow or stupid. I feel like they don´t like me. I want to be hard working and successful. But I let this anxiety stress me out so bad. I can´t stop overthinking things. So much fear. I´m going back tomorrow... wish me luck :(
I have been a big thrift store for about nearly 3 months and your right it is our thoughts that affect us. Its a struggle because the environment im in and some of our bosses treat us as we arent human but like robots and that can make anyone feel aniexty because for me personally i feel as if i make one mistake ill be gotten rid of and replaced even though i try to best of my ability.
I don’t feel confident in my job because things and rules change so much. I feel like I do so much with barley any help and I make mistakes. I have feel this with every job I’ve had and I feel like it’s me!!
I’ve been off for a week on vacation and I literally in tears over having to go back. They want us to change our jobs from medical illustrators to graphic designers. Apples and oranges - we have to create graphic projects along with our real work, turn them in and have them critiqued by the entire office. Then redo them based on the critique. To give us experience. To top it off we’re swamped but have to fit the projects in. My anxiety and fear of failure is through the roof. My days are numbered
This job is temporary and does not define me. If I get fired or need to quit I will find another job. I can find another job and I can always go back to college if I really need too.
This video actually helped me because For the past two weeks at work my manager has been on my ass about my performance and everyday I try to work hard and get shit done correctly then all of a sudden I get a complaint from someone and then she’s on my ass again it’s even on my weekends off I have stayed in the house and thought about all of the negative shit at work like it’s really taken a dip in my personal life like wtf am I thinking about work on my days off like why am I drinking alcohol to cope with the anxiety at work smh this video helped me a lot because I work from home and waking up looking at my computer before work drives me insane like when I hear an email notification I get nervous and sick but after watching this video it put a lot of shit in perspective and hopefully I can be calm and peaceful at work hopefully
I have been working at my job for almost 5 months (a barista at Starbucks) and almost every day I get anxiety and feel like a total failure. Last month I did a little better but the last few weeks have been horrible. I am having up and downs every day, feeling good and then going downhill from there. Woke up this morning and had a huge panic attack, feeling like I was nothing and feeling like everyone dislikes me at work, not trusting myself and not feeling like I can work in the environment at all. Feeling like this sucks so much, I’m tired of feeling like this almost every day. I cry a lot, not knowing what I should do; I feel like I need to quit and go to a new job and start somewhere fresh. I do love my job but having ups and downs almost every day sucks. I am on anxiety medication and have changed many times, I’m tired of doing that and some days I just don’t even know what to do anymore. Even though I’m watching this video and seeing there are people like me, I still feel so alone.
I've had a TON of work anxiety in just the past year! A boss that I loved, enjoyed working with, and respected and trusted was fired. I don't know what role I'm supposed to be playing now, and don't feel valued. I hate to stay, but am afraid to quit. Right now, I'm just treading water and hoping that things get better, but I've definitely had a lot of anxiety over my current work situation and had many sleepless nights.
omg I had no idea so many people felt work anxiety like I do. makes me feel so much better!
Carla Barbosa remember, YOU are NEVER alone
Me either
I am so sooooo anxious
Trust me. I have anxiety all the time when I go to my workplace.
Evil😂
I always get dressed an hour before work and just think about all the things that could go wrong. I hate asking for help and feel scared constantly.
Hey man are you better now?
@@Alfreditop I'm in a job I really love and the people around me are incredibly supportive.
omg this is what I’m feeling now. it’s my first ever job and I feel sick all week knowing I have to go, any tips I’m really strugging
@@phoebeashley3348 I don't know is this going to help you but it is important to talk to someone you love about how you are feeling, you dont have to keep this to yourself and understand that it is ok to feel this way, we are human and there are many people that are or were in your situation. Don't let this affect your health. What I have noticed is that I keep worrying about everything, not feeling prepared or that I am not good enough and I'll be fired and I need to make a living etc etc etc.... but I am not doing somthing about it, meaning that I need to create a plan for when I am working so at the end of the day I know I have accomplished something also recognize that you are new and you'll need help for some time and it is ok. Eventually with time you'll gain confidence for now try to find a mentor in your workplace or outside. And my final recommendation, is that if you feel that you are underprepared you should put some extra hours studying or practicing whatever it is that you do. Also recognize your situation and be grateful of what you have, not many people right now have jobs, you should do everything on your power to be better everyday because you are able to do it.
That's so meeeeeee
i am so nervous before work that I don't want to work anymore it makes me so nervous
Have you ever had an anxiety or panic attack at work? My second attack happened at work, my first one was at the mall it came out of no where, both times I was dizzy, lightheaded, blurry vision, I just felt uneasy, scared etc. So once I parked my car at work, I start to get anxious, I'm fine driving but I start to think about my first attack at work, so I get them at work because I kept thinking, I lost my job because I couldn't handle going to work anymore it sucks. I only wish I didn't left the mall when I had my first attack, and left work with my second attack, maybe if I didn't my brain wouldn't make me scare of leaving my house.
Kennedy C I feel like that. I ran away from a situation and moved locations. Thing is lost my confidence and my integrity as I didn't act in a professional manner. Need to let it go, don't feel happy and comfortable anymore.
I feel you dude, I shake so much when I'm on my way to work
I called in sick 3 times already and im only 2 months into my new job... im mentally so drained and physically sick cause i dont like going there and i dont feel that i belong there either. I honestly thought that im alone in this battle but its comforting to see that there are people going through the same situations like myslef...
Yeah, I know what you mean. I was surpsrised that I even made it to work today. The worst thing is that I have no control over my thoughts and behaviour when I'm stressed, which is basically all the time, so people at work must think I'm some freak
I have a fear that I’ll never find a job that I’ll know how to do. I’m so scared of making mistakes and think everyone judges me. I’m so hard on myself bc when I start a new job I think I have to know everything. I get scared I’ll never get the hang of a job. I hate having anxiety 😕
Cakefacexochi Im feeling you, same for me
We are literally the same person 😔
I feel like you just described me.. I thought i was the only one.
@@helenarichard That's actually quite wise.. How long do you stay at a company before making the move though ?
Same here I have social anxiety it’s hard for me to work with people I don’t know so I drink before I start work
It's so hard. Everyday waking up everyday knowing I'll be going through this feeling again. Preparing for work is just as bad as work itself.
I feel the same way because I get anxiety attacks every day at work the last one lasted 40 minutes and it sucked
I can relate! You must be a teacher like me.
@@lrockbr I'm actually a nurse. I'm doing a lot better now!
@@landerv9551 Yea--teachers and nurses--we suffer the most. I'm doing better too :)
It's so relieving to look through the comments and see that others feel the exact same way I do about my job. I have an anxiety attack practically every day before I go to work, but this made me realise that it's because I'm imagining future problems and also associating how good I am at my job with my personal value - when my job has nothing to do with my personal value or who I am in any way. Hopefully this will help me feel better in the future
Beth Anthony I relate to what you've said here and so many of the other comments. I wish you well and hope you can begin to feel comfortable in your working environment. My issue is confidence and always has been. I've been used to for soo long of people telling me they have to let me go and each time I have to bounce back and start over somewhere else. I wouldn't wish this on anyone
Beth Anthony right? Me too. It’s jut sad that u can’t find people like me irl. At my work everyone seems to me so confident and that I am the only one with anxiety.
I can so relate to this, you’re not alone and you’re doing your best ❤️ all the best to you and everyone else here
I feel same way Beth, I do feel I get worried of making mistakes or something I forget of a task I made a mistake while working. 💖💖
I don't know what I would do without these videos. I'm here trying not to cry, getting ready for work listening to your words...I hope to get better.
Did it help?
You are definitely not alone we will get through it we always do
I am going through the same thing right now i cry lying on the bed thinking like a loser🥺
@@parmindersinghmaan6311 me too you are not alone
@@parmindersinghmaan6311 You are not alone. I feel like such a baby. I cry all of the time thinking about my new job. I told my wife I didn’t want to wake up from sleep last week. It’s slowly getting better as I learn each day. Hang in there.
Thanks for this. I started a new job recently, and so every morning before I head to work I get severe anxiety.
"What if I fail a task today and they decide to fire me on the spot? What do my co-workers, supervisor, and boss *really* think of me? I don't really relate to any of my co-workers. Maybe I don't belong at this job..."
I agree with the point about me confusing my tasks with my personal value. Learning that a mistake made in the workplace does *NOT* mean I am just a failure overall.
Ever think of taking an ssri?
Yakita60 bless you ..I do understand you so well ..as I m exactly in the same situation
:( 3weeks at new place and still terrified every morning, when is it going to end... i do make mistakes time to time as my anxiety kicks in I stop thinking logically, and boom failure. I hope we will get through this! We can do it girl! I am with you ! X
I've been so anxious also at my new job... I've been making some stupid mistakes and I'm always very nervous of messing up. I also don't feel comfortable enough with my team yet.
Im not alone either., thank u guys
Same, plus I noticed that there are a toxic coworkers I must deal with them everyday 😞😯
I can't speak for everyone but I am learning after a while to not be perfect and just do my job.
Perfectionism should not be a goal. Perfectionism is a sickness.The goal should be growth. Allow yourself to make
Mistakes and stop making everything into a crisis. Also don't be afraid to speak up if you believe something
Is wrong or you need help.
Thank you for this comment, genuinely made me feel relaxed. Why do I strive for perfection at a place paying me bare minimum and where I'm not even happy?
I get anxiety at work because I fear failure. I'm scared that I'm gonna fuck up and its affecting my work performance.
+JEFFMAN90, who tells u u're a failure?
LTCWM1
Nobody but I'm scared of making mistakes and scared about what people will think of me
JEFFMAN90, well, u know u're human, right? What would u say if I tell u I've made mistakes? What would u say if I told u countless numbers of human being here on youtube have also made mistakes? I know exactly what u're talking about, because I've been right where u r, I used to be afraid of making mistakes too, and I was down on myself a lot as well. That's the truth, and I'm sure u're a decent dude, I think u need a good look at u'reself, like honestly, take a good look at all u're achievements. In addition, look at how many people through out history have made mistakes. There r numerous, famous people who've made mistakes in their life time who've overcome them. Besides, u're not perfect, I'm not perfect, u c somebody on youtube, they're not perfect, we're not perfect, we make mistakes, and u're not defined by u're mistakes. U're not junk, u're a human being w values, beliefs, interests, a personality, so take a look at those things for a moment.
Thanks for the advice bro I appreciate it. I mostly fear failure due to me having ADHD and a learning disability so I'm always cautious when I do anything so I won't screw up.
u're welcome, well, what would u say if I told u I struggled through high school? I'm in college, and I found what my learning style is. I detect u're a hands on learner, r u? What do u do for work?
It’s so comforting to see that other relate. I recently got my first real job. I have an anxiety attack every time when I go. It’s all I think about before it, during it, after it. It feels like it takes over my life. My anxiety over it makes me nauseous and feel like I’m going to die sometimes, that’s how bad it is. I’ll sit and cry all day before I even have to be to work. It’s horrible. I can’t get a break and I feel like it’s taking over my life. All that I hope for right now is that in the months to come, I will get more comfortable in my job and with the people I work with.
I have to go to work in about an hour and a half. I am terrified. I had a full on panic attack over it a few hours ago. Now I’m just trying to find comfort to get over it. I’m terrified because I never know what to expect in shift to come. I don’t understand how things work. I don’t know how to figure out what the tasks are for the day. I don’t know where to go half the time. I feel so uneducated and confused and I’m terrified to mess up. I already have at the job multiple times and it made me feel horrible. I dread going. Dread is an understatement. And I can quit but then I would just have to find another job and it would be the same thing. I feel trapped. I’m terrified and I just hope that I don’t feel this way in the next few months
Omg I feel the exact same way that I knew I had to comment on this. I'm only about a month into my new job and I've found myself in the same exact situation. I tend to overthink then my mind gets flooded to the extent that I feel nauseous and light headed. It feels like I can't escape from it that only recently I woke up in the middle of the night only to realize that my mind still had been overthinking about work even when I'm asleep. Not only do I feel restless but it messes with my emotions so much that I find myself crying alone in the bathroom a lot lately.
I hope you got through this...I started my new job yesterday and I got physically sick and it caused me to miss work today...I dread going back to work...it's so hectic...I can relate to you so much.
@@LetsdoDes Same here. I hope it eventually gets better. I get so worked up and then make mistakes. I beat myself up all of the time.
did it ever get better?? i’m going through the same exact thing. it was my third day together and i had a full on panic attack in front of all my coworkers and customers i was so embarrassed and i felt like i couldnt breathe and i couldn’t stop crying for a good 30 minutes. i rlly don’t wanna go back i’m just hoping it’ll get better or i’ll get the hang of it because i’m not even sure what caused the panic attack.
@@khogan7661 it does get better. And that’s a promise. I still struggle heavily with anxiety and life in general. I still get very anxious at work sometimes but it is nothing nearly as bad as it once was. Like I said in the post, it felt like it consumed me. The absolute dread and anxiety in the back of my head about either being at work or having to go back. I did end of quitting the job that I mention in this post. It’s was heavily damaging to me. But I applied at a different job and it ended up being much better. A smaller environment where you know everyone and it’s okay to ask questions. I have now been at said job for almost 2 years. And what’s crazier is I am actually working 2 jobs right now. I got another job last year. Both of course were very scary starting at but after a while it becomes routine and before you know it, you are the one helping or comforting other coworkers that struggle just as much as you did at one point. Just keep going. And it’s okay to make changes and go somewhere new. As long as you’re doing your best in any situation I’m at work, that’s all you can do. But just don’t give up. :)
I have social anxiety at work I always worry what others think of me. why does it matter at my job? I want to enjoy work not worry about others judging me.
Maybe you had a judgemental parent growing up or judgemental school "mates". It's highly likely this came from somewhere before work.
I even have social anxiety NOW even tho I work from home :(( this cycle is never getting over ;(
Maureen Almudena Work from home made my anxiety worst. 😞☹️
Omg same dude
I have the same problem
I’m in a high stress environment that constantly monitored and high pressure and I’ve been having panic attacks in the bathroom before my shifts 😭😭
How are you? I hope youre better now
My heart goes out to you because I know what it feels. My anxiety and panic attacks began due to work stress and pressure. Did you find another job?
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I am in the same position my work place is soo fast paced that I can’t keep up with my slow processing speed which is stressing me out even more which then causes the anxiety attacks
I feel the same way. So much goes on and I have trouble remembering and keeping up. I went through an entire divorce and only missed one day because I didn’t feel like I could
you just saved my life noah.
I am in that boat I have extreme anxiety at work. It just seems to get worse every day. It feels endless.
If other people can feel calm, relaxed, present at the same location as you, then why are you not? It's very simple, you're thinking and they're not. Thats why NkAhs process is helful, because you might end up discovering that what you thought was true is bullshit
My anxiety got so bad at work one day that I told my boss I'm done I just can't take it anymore now I am struggling to find a job and afraid I won't be able to keep it
no because they took advantage of me by putting most of the work load on me sorry for not answering recently i have to schedule a day to see a therapist to deal with my social anxiety
I feel the same way and I can never put my finger on what it is . Hope it eases for you
Pink Skies
I had a major anxiety attack at my internship last Friday and now it's Sunday I'm having it again because my boss now knows my anxiety attack and I embarrassed and cried infront of him till my dad came to speak to him. I need to stop caring what they think of me. Let them think of me as incompetent all they want, my value is peace and happiness.
I am so sorry this was posted in 2015. I can't help but notice the word axiety and internship. I am doing internship as well and I broke down out of no where because I made a mistake. I was turning red, couldn't breathe, and had tears coming down. I had to go to another room before the tears came down more. how did it turn out for u? and I fear messing up and peopled thoughts about it ...I need help
no worries!
marwa elashrfi
hi marwa! You will make it through. For me, the place itself was toxic. The people there made my anxiety worse. One thing i got from my internship was that honestly, no one cares. Everyone will be busy with their jobs and have all been an intern once. It is their loss if they are treating you bad or make you feel terrible. This internship will make you see if this is the kind of place you want to work in, and find your values. it also gave me hindsight on my future career prospects! whatever may seem troubling to you there will pass and you will come out stronger! Remember to ask questions and keep asking when in doubt, there is no reason for you to feel guilty about it. Once theres clarity, it will ease ur anxiety. Dont worry about messing up, everyone messed up before during internship, its a learning process.
+Zoe Ng thank u for kindly responding , you are so right. everyone at the internship were once an intern as i. so how did u find peace and finally not care what they think of u ? did u ever see a therapist ? thanks
+Zoe Ng and I agree it def. is a learning process which they hve to understand that as well because no one is perfect
I feel like a failure every day at work. The stress of my job on top of being so new just kills me. I want to quit but I also will feel embarrassed if I give up after just 1.5 months.
I feel you
Operator 104 I am exactly in the same position as you “were” I hoped. Don’t know what to do. I am afraid I am not good enough at my job and I am not valued and ppl think I am a failure
GAURAV SANKAR well I will tell you that I managed to steel myself & push through that first 6 months. Now, I honestly love my job. Have for awhile. I may still end up leaving for reasons at the national level, but as far as me personally, I love what I do & im super grateful that I stuck with it. Idk what your job is but, if it’s something you’ve spent all your passion & energy workin towards, something that you feel in your heart you want to do, then you should stick with it. Give it 6 months-1 year.
@@lgdurocher thank you for answering. I am glad things got better for you and I hope I'll feel like you in six months. Right now.... It is just hard... I feel like a failure and that everyone notices, I cannot sleep right, don't feel like eating etc etc.
I started a new job a couple of months ago and frequently feel like a failure. I sometimes cry on the way home thinking of the mistakes I’ve made. It’s slowly getting better. It’s a good paying job but it’s a lot to learn. It’s loud and we have to wear masks because of COVID so it’s difficult to communicate. I often can’t understand what my coworkers are trying to tell me and get frustrated. I’d hate to lose this job.
Don't worry guys and girls! everyone has some form of anxiety, I just go with it, learn to fell it, accept it, just go with it, don't fight it, it will pass in time. There will be good and bad times in your life daily..
so much of my work anxiety is that my bosses can be so humiliating...i go right to feeling inadequate, not good enough, and a failure....it is my lack of self worth due to years in an abusive marriage. Now at work i have 2 bosses similar to my ex-husband, and it brings up so much triggering...i walk in in the morning already anxious. also i so need this salary...single mom and i need to support people! That thought just adds to it.
@@carolwhelihan1514 awe honey, are you okay now? Please tell me you talked to HR.
This was one of the best UA-cam videos I’ve seen on anxiety, thank you for this!
Yes!
I get so nervous at work.. I lack confidence because of it and I’m always second guessing myself and over complicating things 😔 I also get really timid with coworkers and customers
Me too it’s the same it’s so tiring...
Literally me
Yep, that’s me to a t. And yes it is completely exhausting, every single day
I recently started a new job hand washing cars and all I do is dread going. I'm scared of what others think of me, I'm scared of not performing well, and I'm scared of failing. I want to show my girlfriend and family I have value and I belong somewhere. I'm terrified if I fail my girlfriend will leave me and find someone else who can provide a better way of life for her. I have been miserable ever since I started working this job. I can't take any criticism without crying and trying to hide it from my co-workers. I cry myself to sleep some nights thinking about how I will eventually have to suck it up and deal with going into work everyday until the day I die.. I want everyone to know that you aren't alone and I wish there were more people who understood this feeling in our workplaces. I hope everyone finds peace and happiness one day.
This guy is so underrated
i dream of finding a job that doesn't stress me and going to work stress free, that would be incredible
So true...
I get anxiety before work everyday. I have had this job for 3 weeks. I am so scared of messing up. I am so scared of letting people down. I have already gotten a raise at this job so I know I must be doing something right. The people I work with are friendly but I find myself isolating myself. My job is so easy... why can't I just get myself to go? I missed 3 days in a row because my anxiety was making me physically ill. :(
Haley Bowser bro same, my coworkers are nicr, my job is simple-ish. I ask too much questions to my coworkers that it makes me think that I can never memorize my job.
Haley Nichole, I struggle also. Its like living a lie every day, not being tru to myself and coming home exhausted at the end of the day
Marinus Snyman I feel the same 😞
You got a raise in 3 weeks?
Same here!!! Ugh it’s the worst how’s it going now though ?
Stumbled across this after a hard week at work… been at this job for just over a year now and every time I make a mistake, receive a complaint, or even a harshly worded email from a customer, I immediately think I am a failure, I’m not worthy, my confidence drops and I think I should quit because this job is not for me… Last week was particularly hard, burnt out, difficult customers and a busy manager that leaves my message cold and make me feel like I don’t have support. My mental health hit a dip. Never thought I needed to watch this video to see that I’ve been tying how I perform at work to my self worth. I am still me even when mistakes are made and when people complain. They don’t define who I am.
Being 19 and working at my first retail job these past couple days. I truly felt as if I should be working to have value and to be good at work and to be a good employee as well as being a good employee when it comes for customers. But now that I watch these. I now have different perspective of retail. When it comes to retail, and wanting to succeed, I want to be happy. Not succeed, I want happiness and peace as well as performing on what I can do. Putting my skills at work. Well being a person who has anxiety in social situations that create an illusion that I have to be perfect and successful to be a good employee under heavy social circumstances. I now I feel like as long as I am being me, as long as I'm doing what I'm good at. Being detail oriented, and handling customers with my knowledge I know, and speaking to them in the way that I know I can speak with them. Then I'm doing the task in my efficient way. Not what of others think what my efficiency should be.
I go through this and would not wish it on anyone. I'm so sorry you guys are going through it.
My morning panick attacks before work has now started to affect me even when I have days off. I keep breathing and when I get to work everything is usually okay. I stopped drinking caffeine and started drinking decaffeinated coffee and that seems to help whilst I'm there.
wow, he's dope!! friends and family always tell me I'm basing my worth on my work performance. if I have a good day I feel like I have a purpose. When I have a bad day I always feel I'm worthless😔😔. Thanks for teaching me how wrong and foolish these thoughts are😄😄
Try to use your natural skills more, maybe you're a good listener or writer. Maybe you're really kind and fun. Life became so much better for me when I started to chitchat more with co-workers, and when I started having small talk more with clients on the phone. In fact it improved my perfomances because I listened better and everyone around me was happier
I'm scared of going to work everyday.. I'm scared of people and when I get nervous, I become really clumsy and I can't control my movement. I become really clumsy and jumpy
Actually, peace and happiness was my first thought, because when I'm peaceful I can use my imagination to create and when I create I feel successful.
Associating our personal value with how well we perform in our job causes anxiety. Because when you make a mistake or sense you are judged by others based on your knowledge or skills it affects your personal worth. Currently learning how to separate these two.
I have a tremendous sense of personal value and self-love.
I still get terrified to go to work, terrified to open the mail, email or answer the phone.
I don’t think my anxiety IS who I am, but it’s always there terrorizing me.
If I fail at another job I just don't know what I am going to do next. It isn't exactly like there are plenty of jobs in my country and in this pandemic circumstances. I'm anxious about losing my job all the time. Even in my day off I can only think I have to go to work next day. I can't stop recalling every single mistake I make at work and how it's getting me closer to being fired. I'm almost 30 and I feel like I already failed at life.
I thought I was alone with how I was feeling.... I honestly thought I was crazy!
Thank you very much! I used to go on interviews and just get panic attacks over and over again, after I watched your videos I went to two of them and was completely calm. Guess what happened. I got a job now and can't stop talking... and I thought that I am an introvert. thank you again !
Seriously opened my eyes to the way I think of myself and the "hobbies" and "skills" I've picked up just to feel worth something
Very moving ...
Can you make a video about , getting fired in jobs due to nervousness / anxieties...
I literally search for videos about handling work anxiety, cause I'm experiencing it right now. Thank you for this vid!
Everything you said was how I felt my whole life and now that I've finally found a job after looking for one for a while, it makes me have crippling anxiety even when I don't fail.
About a month ago, I started a new job at a completely new place. The working environment is fast-paced and my boss always expect highly from me. On top of carrying tasks in the office, I am also responsible to perform as his personal assistant. So I have to always be on top of the game, every single day. I have to be quick, think fast, be prepared at all times. It gives me severe anxiety every day. Every night, I will spend about 3 hours planning on what to do tomorrow. Getting everything ready, the notes, the reminders, the updates, the lists. And on the next day, I will be working non stop from 8am to 7pm. I sleep late and tend to forget my own personal things to do. Every morning while I driving to work I just cant stop playing scenarios in my head of how the day would go. I did mess up twice because I forgot to remind him things, he was so mad that he said “this is the second strikes” when I messed up the second time about a week ago. I cant get over it and I am just so scared if I really mess up again. It was an honest mistake of forgetting to remind him, because I was still learning and getting the “rhythm” right.
Thank you so much for this video Noah. I was about to have a panic attack because of my new job but this video really helped me. You are helping a lot of people through these videos. Thank you.
This will change it for me. Thank you so much for breaking down what's been so confusing for me.
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flatswing haha noted
My last job I was unhappy but I more or less mastered what the job required of me (I was contracting). I left for a multitude of reasons even though management wanted me to stay. It was too much stress, many people taking sick leave because we were all over worked (I went GP for a sick note once as well etc). Fast forward some months and I start a new job which pays so much more, a permanent role, but it went from starting off very well to not going so well in some key areas. My flaws are highlighted (which I'm working on using feedback I've received), and it's a whole new sector I'm in. My probation was extended, and I am feeling the anxiety. I have been reading self help stuff, I have support from my good friend and my siblings. I've always gotten good reviews with all of my jobs and I've been praised for how I've received my feedback at my new job but I feel overwhelmed. My workload has increased a whole lot and I am nervous about it all. A bit tearful writing this but all I can do is try my best and hope for the best.
This is helpful and less stressful. Just started a new placement job and it’s still kinda scary because as soon your skills are good you be put even more work and expected to be quick for it otherwise you’ll be judged. 😭❤️😭✨💞
The #1 most important thing that I want in my life is to simply be happy and I really don’t see that in my future at all which is rlly great
I know this video is 5years old and you may never see this comment IDC I just wanted to say thank you so much from the bottom of my heart for making this video and all your other ones. I just started a new job and have been struggling with my anxiety. I’m trying really hard to work on my positive self talk and self reflection but I still struggle and I think a lot of things you said helped me and made sense and I can’t wait to apply this to my life as best as I can and rewatching this video when I need a reminder. I can’t thank you enough! Thank you thank you thank you!!!!
Jess Ford how did you make it work getting over anxiety? My friends have jobs and i don't im 19, i don't know how to get over thinking the person im working for will say "no" when i apply
Rich Panini Bread you never really “get over” anxiety, but dealing with it can get easier. It’s true a lot of people will say no but it’s never about you and anything you did it’s just sometimes things work out and sometimes they don’t. Just think people who are successful were never successful at first. For example J.K. Rowling’s book Harry Potter was turned away many times before someone picked it up. I suggest going for a job somewhere you like! I like talking to people and coffee and that so I applied to Starbucks during a hiring fair and I stopped by every few weeks to show how serious I was about the job and the manager remembered me and hired me as soon as a position became available. Do you like books? Work at a book store? Like kids? Get certified to babysit. Like working out? Be a receptionist at a gym. Etc etc. You can do it and don’t feel like because everyone else is doing something so do you. I didn’t have a job for awhile and it doesn’t make you any less valuable then someone who is working. Dealing with mental health is hard so give yourself some slack!
Jess Ford that's good! glad to hear your doing something you like but i feel like i would have mad anxiety doing something too social and yeah, a few people told me a gym receptionist at pf would be good but that sounds so boring. I appreciate the reply mad respect😤 also have a great day🤠
wow this made so much sense to me. I just started a new job and I was concerned about what everybody thought. I was mixing up the task that I do everyday with who I am.
Thank you so much for this! I now know what to do to combat this anxiety, and it's nice to know I'm not the only one who experiences this.
This video I wish I had seen long ago cause it hit the nail on the coffin with my anxiety at work. I recently got fired and couldn't understand why I felt so depressed and direction less like I had no meaning in my life after I lost my job. I had tied my self worth and value to what I did without even noticing it. Thank you for the help.
Hi Noah,
I am a counselor in another country/language and although I use a lot of what is in your videos already in cognitive therapy, it is always wonderful to be able to expand the ideas and consider new insights. Thank you very much for that! I hope you have a lot of sucess! Luv from Brazil.
Dear Noah,
Thank you so much for your video. It has really calmed me this morning listening to it. Keep up the good work x
Social Anxiety have shape my life in a very strong way. To the point on not wanting to work or study at a fiscal school. But I never saw it from this point of view. I've been to so many so call "psychologists" and psychiatrist and all they do is teach me that without a job or a degre, I'm not worthy, valuable, or successful. But what you say makes more sence and is true. Thank you so much!
Thanks but now I need to know how to get rid of my negative thoughts.
Kya Sinclair Have a look through my other videos for ones that seem relevant.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on Anxiety. It really helped me to understand about anxiety which we all go through in our lives and our capabilities of thinking goes far away from us.
I am also dealing with anxiety but your video helped me to re think on my thought process again.
Thank you so much Noah :)
This resonates so much with me. Thank you. “Worth” based on opinions is an illusion because it is just that: an opinion, something that exists in the mind. It is not reality. Wow. ❤️
Literally sobbing rn because I was so excited about this job that i was training to get but i got so anxious and nervous and i ended up overthinking things and got extremely overwhelmed and I ended up asking to leave which resulted in me not getting the job and now i feel terrible
thank you. the message made me realize how some people are helped just by saying positive affirmations on a regular basis
I am an experienced EVS Technician at a hospital and I show a lot of anxiety at work everyday. I care about my job too much and I always fear that if I make a mistake, it would result in termination. I hate going into work feeling this way and I hope that I can go into work not feeling this way everyday.
I hear you Jacqueline.
Since as long as I can remember I have been a very successful and driven individual - don't get me wrong I have had some great failures too and nearly lost everything but I looked at these as experiences and have no regrets. I have won awards and my passion is success in everything I do (this includes my day job) and now more so, helping others to succeed and grow. I enjoy helping people who have found themselves in unfortunate situations through to business owners and leaders with whom I can engage with stimulating and meaningful discussions. As a family we are competitive in all aspects and we constantly achieve, my kids always receive glowing reports on their attitude and their results both academically and with extra curricula activities - this is our DNA.I have now found myself in a position where I face continuous anxiety at work - I don't want to post the reasons on here but when I watch some of your videos I can't relate my situation 100% to what you discuss. I can't possibly believe that I am the only one in this situation but I believe that I am quite unique in a positive sense (this is what I have been told a number of times) and the situation I find myself in goes completely against my values and beliefs and this is what I think I am struggling with - It's not a situation I can easily change in the short term.Would be great to know your thoughts.Many thanks, Stephen
I am about to have a panic attack just bc I don't want to go to work at a job I am actually great at. It's being trapped there unable to leave that freaks me out.
I feel that 100% the fact I can leave really does stress me out too. But what helps me is just really hyper focusing on what I’m doing. I try to stay in the moment. That way I don’t have time to think about the what if’s.
Scared to go to work because of my self confidence pretty much being non existent
Thanks for saying my worth is not dependent on my achievements. This is not how I was raised. And my colleagues seem to have similar issues. Which is why I am going to make career take a lower priority in my life.
Today was my first day at work, I cried when I got home, I work at the register and a guy who only spoke Spanish tried saying that he gave me a 50 when I am almost positive he gave me a 20, I am beyond scared to go into work tomorrow in case I was actually wrong because now I am second guessing myself.
Hi Ashleigh, was there any cctv in the premise? I hope it got resolved quickly
@@renyukgoncangmakan thanks, there were cameras and it turned out he was trying to scam me, sucks how it was on my first day, I did not need that to happen
Thank you for this wonderful reminder, Noah. I've been having some terrible time with my work -- but I know that I do just right and well with all the tasks that I'm given with. But I was too caring of what other people might think of me. Good job for making this video!
I’m not worried I will fail. I also value myself and know I have value even without working. I just simply don’t want to go to work and find it hard to force myself to do it, which causes anxiety. I genuinely dislike people and don’t care what they think about me, but in a work environment I am forced to be around people and inevitably be judged by them in some way (I don’t care) but I hate needing to be in that situation in order to make money and survive.
I tend to get travel anxiety and work anxiety . Thank you for this video
I get nervous that i'll do something wrong. Ive started my 1st job recently and I am very nervous with talking to people. I dont know whats wrong and whats right in the work place and I'm always scared i'm going to do something that'll make one of the longer workers or bosses mad. Specifically the bosses. I'm also afraid to get into a conflict with rude or angry people. Specifically shoppers. I get the thought in my mind that if I do this wrong I'll ruin everything in the store or I will be yelled at. I also dont really have initiative because Im scared that if I do something without the boss or other worker asking me, that'll get in trouble. For example if they asked me to organize a certain shelf and I see the one behind me is messy as well. I wont wanna touch it because they didn't say for me too and I'm scared that they'd yell at me or get angry. Things like that. I know its stupid. I feel like I'll mess up or someone will yell at me for something. Stuff like that.
Same here. I constantly worry about stuff I packages not being delivered safely. Like not broken or damaged.
I am the type of person who needs social human contact and working from home stripped me from that before I have a meaningful relationships with my colleagues. This creates a lot of anxiety and insecurity and affecting my productivity and mental health.
The greatest sense of value and worth come from when we give of purselves...more so then when we receive. This is why very rich people give to foundations and causes...so they feel worthy inside.
My struggle is I am very uncomfortable being on the front line. I would prefer to be in the background. I get lots of anxiety speaking to customers (I work on the phones ALL day. Like chained to my desk, taking claims. Call after call after call) and being introverted, call center customer service is the worst job for me. I love being part of a team and want to work in the background and away from confrontation. I loathe confrontation and I am soooo stressed out at work. I have struggled with anxiety for years. Social anxiety too, but it is better now. I am introverted and need a slower and quieter pace. I know they have data entry and online recruiting available. I keep asking to get moved over to a different department but nothing yet. Unfortunately, I need my job! Otherwise, my employer is a really good place to work. Great people, great boss. I am grateful for that.
Thank you so much Noah Elkerif:) you have truly changed my life.
Oh my God, I needed to hear this
I have anxiety before work. And it makes it worse when I have to walk there
I have my first pretty well paid job in my career and I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack almost everyday. My boss micromanages me to the point I can't even send an email without her rewriting it if she is even semi involved (she does this to our other team members as well). I feel like I am constantly messing up, but there is no right way because of the lack of communication and zero training. I've never felt so miserable. I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack even on the weekends.
That's sad to hear... guess what I've faced poor communication issues with my managers as well...just remember that it'll pass...you just need a support system to talk to...a good hobby...n we need to reassess n think that sometimes people with low emotional intelligence tend to treat others as commodities..I'm almost at the brink of a panic attack rn...but it's important to keep persevering
Great talk. I'm currently without a job and I feel less than on so many fronts. Your talk helped me so much today. I've had a few different careers in my life but none of them were me.
“Im clapping my hands.. am I a clapper?! No.” That part made me lol. Great video, thanks for the perspective!
I'm glad that 130k people are with me
This is kind of approaching the issue from a different perspective, but exercise and sunlight help too. While I certainly agree the cognitive behavioral therapy is essential, I also find that it is helpful on a physiological level to move around and get some fresh air. I think this is most helpful when you are already trying to coach yourself out of your anxious thought patterns, but you can still feel the anxiety in your body.
I feel terrible because I've been in my new job for a year now and I'm still anxious. I even had a bit of a meltdown today because the work was just confusing me and I couldn't concentrate and any information told to me wasn't registering and I just felt completely and utterly stupid. I find learning new things tough and takes me longer than average to pick things up or constantly repeating the process before it sticks. But give me too many things at once and my brain just malfunctions. It doesn't help that we have to reach a daily target because if I fall short of it I get irritated with myself and feel I let myself down if I keep pestering colleagues for help.
The anxiety is like my chest is tight constantly every time I think about work, whenever its before I start or even on my days off. I worked in retail for 6 years before I kicked myself into getting a government office job which was completely new for me. And now I just feel useless and don't have a clue what other job I want to do, or even be good at. When you don't enjoy work, it really drains you mentally if you think how long we actually spend most of our time working. Comforting that other people feel the same at least.
You are a beautiful person. Your videos are brilliant.You have helped me so much with my thought process and anxiety.
marie negron Really glad to hear it marie
Wow! "Facts don't determine how we feel, Thoughts Do!" So true!! Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us all!
I have alot of workplace anxiety and I think it has to do with the fact that I'm not very committed to working there. I'm not very interested in analytics or sales and of course, there's the constant pressure that makes it worse. The only thing I want to do in life, is write and I have done a lot of that during the lockdown. I looked forward to doing it because it was something I'm interested in and I was pleasantly surprised to find that most of my dread and anxiety was considerably lessened in this endeavour. I hope to leave my job, and write for a living someday. I know that won't solve everything but it will solve some things and that is all one can ask for, sometimes
From my own life experience, most peoples work anxiety stems from their crappy bosses and conniving coworkers.... Do you have some advice for that?
AwakeInNJ
Yup!! Agreed
I know you posted this a year ago but try reading a book called office politics by a guy called (I think) Oliver James. It's about dealing with difficult personality types and is really very good 😊
i agree with this. crappy bosses and co-workers are very powerful to make or break your job.
Wow I’ve never seen anyone take this approach and have this perspective on it. Really makes you think.
Hi Noah. Your efforts are very much appreciated. In fact I downloaded ALL your videos so I can share it to my colleagues in times of difficult internet connections (hoping I will not be charged to some sort of legalities). --- From Middle East, allow me to say THANKS.
Boskalis Middle East haha sounds good Boskalis
I got fired for Christmas, out of the blue. Big, nice job. Didn't see it coming. I felt worthless. But I put together my self-worth, started my business, and contacted lawyers about my job termination.
I worked 1 day at tropical smoothie and i got so much anxiety and panic attacks I haven´t showed up in 2 days. I thnik I´m gonna show up tomorrow and give an excuse and just suck it up all I can. The staff probably thinks I´m slow or stupid. I feel like they don´t like me. I want to be hard working and successful. But I let this anxiety stress me out so bad. I can´t stop overthinking things. So much fear. I´m going back tomorrow... wish me luck :(
I have been a big thrift store for about nearly 3 months and your right it is our thoughts that affect us. Its a struggle because the environment im in and some of our bosses treat us as we arent human but like robots and that can make anyone feel aniexty because for me personally i feel as if i make one mistake ill be gotten rid of and replaced even though i try to best of my ability.
I don’t feel confident in my job because things and rules change so much. I feel like I do so much with barley any help and I make mistakes. I have feel this with every job I’ve had and I feel like it’s me!!
I’ve been off for a week on vacation and I literally in tears over having to go back. They want us to change our jobs from medical illustrators to graphic designers. Apples and oranges - we have to create graphic projects along with our real work, turn them in and have them critiqued by the entire office. Then redo them based on the critique.
To give us experience. To top it off we’re swamped but have to fit the projects in. My anxiety and fear of failure is through the roof. My days are numbered
This job is temporary and does not define me. If I get fired or need to quit I will find another job. I can find another job and I can always go back to college if I really need too.
I'm so happy there are other people like this out here, we should all unite and make a village, we can all be friends
This video actually helped me because For the past two weeks at work my manager has been on my ass about my performance and everyday I try to work hard and get shit done correctly then all of a sudden I get a complaint from someone and then she’s on my ass again it’s even on my weekends off I have stayed in the house and thought about all of the negative shit at work like it’s really taken a dip in my personal life like wtf am I thinking about work on my days off like why am I drinking alcohol to cope with the anxiety at work smh this video helped me a lot because I work from home and waking up looking at my computer before work drives me insane like when I hear an email notification I get nervous and sick but after watching this video it put a lot of shit in perspective and hopefully I can be calm and peaceful at work hopefully
Im literally going broke because in to scared of having a job nothing or no one is stoppin me but my stupid brain
Thanks Noah - you’re a credit to UA-cam - you manage to get to the crux of negative thinking and how illogical it is
It’s so exhausting to just wake up every day with anxiety and the nausea and negative thoughts that come with it
I have been working at my job for almost 5 months (a barista at Starbucks) and almost every day I get anxiety and feel like a total failure. Last month I did a little better but the last few weeks have been horrible. I am having up and downs every day, feeling good and then going downhill from there. Woke up this morning and had a huge panic attack, feeling like I was nothing and feeling like everyone dislikes me at work, not trusting myself and not feeling like I can work in the environment at all. Feeling like this sucks so much, I’m tired of feeling like this almost every day. I cry a lot, not knowing what I should do; I feel like I need to quit and go to a new job and start somewhere fresh. I do love my job but having ups and downs almost every day sucks. I am on anxiety medication and have changed many times, I’m tired of doing that and some days I just don’t even know what to do anymore. Even though I’m watching this video and seeing there are people like me, I still feel so alone.
I've had a TON of work anxiety in just the past year! A boss that I loved, enjoyed working with, and respected and trusted was fired. I don't know what role I'm supposed to be playing now, and don't feel valued. I hate to stay, but am afraid to quit. Right now, I'm just treading water and hoping that things get better, but I've definitely had a lot of anxiety over my current work situation and had many sleepless nights.