Do I need to add a trigger warning for those yogurt clips? 😂😂 *shudders* And does autistic = INFJ?? If only it were that simple 😂 If you missed last week's TikTok reaction (we talk about faking autism, parents filming their children's meltdowns, and the struggle of choosing from menus): ua-cam.com/video/8bKavXJa524/v-deo.html And if you haven't chosen your fork yet...: ua-cam.com/video/bVoxCnaeNRI/v-deo.html Thank you for being here! These meme videos are soooo much fun to make, so I hope you enjoy watching them! 💛💛💛
Something I appreciate about my dad being (most likely) neurodivergent is that, even as a doctor, he ALWAYS asks "Did that hurt?" whenever he sees a patient. I could either scream in pain or not move because it hurts so much, and he'll still ask if it hurt. And he'll take my answer seriously.
I tried the scale thing when I was in my teens, got in trouble for describing a 5-pain as "between 8 and 10 during the peak". My inability to sleep was explained with laziness
@@v3ru586 [sarcasm] because we all know failure to sleep despite efforts in that direction is *clearly* evidence of laziness... [/sarcasm] wow. that sucks even to hear about. i'm sorry. :-/
I would like to formally say on behalf of my doctor-traumatized that *this post* legitimately helps me have more faith in the system. Appreciate you sharing
I'm INTJ, I took the test as part of a high school class and my teacher was surprised as she never had someone get INTJ before, and she told me that it is one of the rarest types. Explains why people seem to behave quite differently around me... I guess.
"I really wish equipment wouldn't notify me of things." I felt this so hard! I leave my phone on silent all the time. The washing machine plays a whole tune (Die Forelle by Shubert). The only way I can cope with it was by looking up what it was, learning it on the piano and then singing it EVERY SINGLE TIME the washing machine ends. My wife hates me.
Tip for anyone who wants to try mindfulness but is AUDHD or similar and struggles to balance being under vs overstimulated - literally just pick out some music you really like and is the right level of stimulation for your current moment, listen in headphones at whatever volume is comfortable and blocks out most other things, and practice focusing on only the music without having any thoughts about it or getting distracted. That's probably enough of a challenge to get you started, it certainly still is for me 😅 I personally recommend music without lyrics or at least lyrics that aren't prominent and will catch your attention. Good luck! 🤗
I'm gifted, autistic and pda and my mbti type is entj. That also makes perfect sense. I think the types are generally more exact when you try to understand the cognitive functions behind it and type yourself with assistance from people who know you well
@@justinwatson1510 well yes, I think there's a lot of the same benefits, but a little less issues with it. Both, when you see them as a tool for self reflection and expressing and understanding identities in social circles, can be very beneficial. As all labels and categories can be if you don't take them too far. That's how our brains define and understand things, by labeling, differentiating and categorizing. The advantage that Myers Briggs has over astrology is mainly that you do the assessment yourself and with and for others, and can actually find which category you can identify with most. That's like bottom-up processing, which is much more unbiased than the top-down approach of astrology, wherein you'd be assigned the category and then your brain actively tries to make it work. Which is why I'm saying that Myers Briggs assessment should be done in a conscious and educated way, not an online test.
The guy quitting on day one is 100% something I could do. 🤣 I actually use mostly free software because I can dive into the code myself and fix my own bugs. ^^
My watch is attached to me except when I shower. I don't forget it when I shower because I put it with my glasses, and I'm nearsighted enough that forgetting those is impossible.
I dont need meditation to focus on my senses, my senses already give me far too much information. I need meditation to dissociate from and calm my senses. 💛
16:54 well… then you scoop up the crumbs. They fuse with the icing and are delicious. It also prolongs the cake-eating process, allowing more time to savor the cake.
Wood chairs in that style were worse. Also, autistic me unloading the dishwasher and getting a steak knife stuck in my thumb. More autistic me pulling my hand out of the dishwasher and swinging the knife from my thumb and wondering what I was looking at, but also laughing.
My friend's appendix was about to burst but my friend didn't act normally. She got angry instead of screaming or crying. The doctors sent her home. Her appendix broke and she had to spend a week in the hospital.
I thought I was autistic for the longest time but then I remembered that I actually have ADHD (since childhood and all the way into adulthood still going strong lmao) but Idk man this vid is making me think again XD I felt so called out by the microwave one. Shit I felt called out by all of this lmao With the pain one, I recently went in for an eye mishap and I was feeling a bit of pain and the nurse asked me to rate it and I just kind of shrugged and was like "Idk? Everyone has a different level of pain tolerance so your idea of a 10 might be my 2" so we just kind of ended up at an impasse and I said 5 lmao I would pick the smol fork (1) I have smol spoons. Smol cat-related spoons.
Hmm. PDA might be difficult in medieval society OTOH sensory overwhelm would probably be a lot less likely unless you were in a large city and not wanting to stay home instead of being out and about gossiping would be seen as a good quality.
I remember getting INTP and the description was so eerily accurate, down to wearing old beaten-up sneakers. Turns out I'm not some "mental architect genius loner inventor", I'm an autistic dude on the edge of burnout spending hours in a maladaptive fantasy world where I can organize everything into clear categories and practice social interactions in the safety of my imagination.
(im a high masking, medium support needs female presenting autistic person, i started tranfering my pronouns to they/them recently)I constantly think about this concept. Even my hickups and burps and stuff sound weird sometimes, like other animals/ kinda demonic. And sometimes in public it feels like the moment i get noticed people look at me like im disgusting, or at least they look upset at me, like i stick out like a sore thumb. Honestly, i think Id get burned the moment i walked outside.
Talking about how autistic people response to pain gets underplayed in the doctor's office reminds me of how I've been treated when I'm having an allergic reaction. I'm moderately allergic to tree nuts (I've never had to be hospitalized but it would probably get to that point if i let it.) I was on break at work once, eating a salad that shouldn't have had any nuts in it, but my mouth started getting tingly and really itchy and my chest tightened. I assumed there must've been some kind of cross contamination and I went to tell my boss and explained that I needed to leave to get medicine because I didn't have any on me. I didn't wanna make a big scene but apparently i was TOO calm because she snapped at me to hurry up because my break was almost over. It's like she didn't believe or listen to me because I wasn't being emotional enough. But I did get medicine and am okay now :)
I can ignore a splitting headache all day, but the second I put on the wrong kind of shirt...end of the Goddamn world. I'll take pain over a label or scratchy seams any day.
I get intense anxiety that feels like hours long panic attacks if I come into contact with some soy products, or most edible plants during birch pollen season (that's a separate ordeal on it's own). But I have to get to the 'panic attack' stage to look like I'm suffering, and even then I just look like I'm having a meltdown and not an allergic reaction. I have been to the hospital for peanuts, though, and the check in nurse was a jerk. The doctor who saw me believed me but was still dubious because I wasn't puffed up or rashy. Just asthma-y. I felt amazing on the inflammation meds! The even dumber part is that none of this comes up on a basic blood scan, and I'd have to travel to a bigger city for a skin prick test with my current insurance. :D
Soooooo we have to spend the entire day masking and pretending to not mind anything, and then when we stay composed in an emergency/serious situation, suddenly they want us to flip out about it? Instructions unclear.
Sounds like the reaction to my celiac growing up. I don't get an anaphylaxis from gluten, so many don't believe the harm eating gluten does to my body. The fact that salmonella is worse was used as an argument that I shouldn't inconvenience the kitchen by expecting a glutenfree meal. Then there's this study showing that a glutenfree diet doesn't any good for a healthy person. Used as an argument for why I need to eat gluten My colleagues reaction the first time we were out eating caught me off guard. When they realised that my food tasted like shit, they apologised for not checking the place beforehand and organised me something glutenfree that was delicious.
Same here, but in my case it was my feet hurting from walking in the wrong shoes. And my 'quiet behaviour" was made worse by the fact that I just came out of a relationship in which I had been told to 'shut up' whenever I was in discomfort. So I quietly mentioned the pain, a girl in the group (that I just met) told me to stop whining and I did. Later, I repeated myself. She repeated *her* self and told me to shut the fuck up. Then we arrived at the scene, I took my shoes off and everyone gasped when they saw the blood that was running down the inside of the shoe. And the girl said; 'Ohmygod, are you insane or something? You should have made it clearer that the pain was unbearable! How should *I* have known you were in real pain? And I just stood there, reconsidering if I should have tried to reply to her initial "shut up" with a tormented scream and if I had, whether that would have réálly changed her attitude towards my pain or not.
I am sure there were so many autistic people in medieval times that were treated horribly, but I saw a tweet about how sweet it must've been to be an autistic nun, having a set schedule, same food every day, and mainly focus on doing one thing all the time (whether it's cooking those meals or cleaning - but not having to cook - or making lace for the monastery to sell or whatever)
They actually did a lot less work back then. There were demanding periods, sure, but the day to day also involved a lot more leisure. If you had to go somewhere, it was hours of travelling that might just be sitting or walking with a horse and Cart. I think it would have been nice.
The two haunted houses meme really hits! I’ve barely been diagnosed a month and the amount of times I’ve had to remind people that autism isn’t an intellectual disability (though ID can be Co-morbid, of course) but is actually a neuro-developmental disability is absolutely unreal 🙄😠
That is a pet peeve of mine. My son is AuDHD and has speech impediments and the ammount of times I have to remind people that just because he needs more time to reply does NOT mean he's stupid. It's like saying that all mute and deaf people are ID. Non autistic people can be ID too.
What's ID? Anyway yeah when I saw the haunted house meme a couple months back I was like Oh my god this is so true. Like literally I had been infantilized by someone who was working at Bucees because I was really shy and soft-spoken about asking for a cinnamon roll. I was thinking "you don't need to use baby-talk on me I understand what you're telling me"
My washingmachine makes a cute little melody when it's done! It makes me unreasonably happy, it sounds so friendly. I also found out (thanks to a game show!) that the melody is actually from the opera 'Die Forelle' by Schubert. :) I find the idea that my washingmachine will perform a little opera for me when it's done incredibly cute I wish more electronics would sing to us, so much better than the aggresive loud BEEP BEEP BEEPs 😂
I'm a bit better at the moment than I've often been at getting to bed in time to wake up naturally, but I always needed a loud, jarring alarm that went to 100% volume instantly, otherwise I just wouldn't wake up (and half the time I wouldn't wake up even with such an alarm). I also miss the nice square-wave "beep" that computers used to give at boot.
@@JonBraseomg my husband is hard to wake up, he would have the alarm so loud and going off every 5 mins or something, keep hitting snooze, it was very disturbing to me
My washing machine sings too and I love it 😆 although we had to get a newer model as the old one broke and it now plays different notes on the end which really hurts my brain because I'm expecting it to sound like the original lol
I swear it is the strangest thing to me that no one ever thought I could be autistic until I was an adult because I'm so fricking autistic and everything I do or say or am screams autism and it did when I was a kid too. How did it take 19years for me to get diagnosed??! At least I've got my diagnosis now :-)
Imagine waiting to be diagnosed until You're 44 years old, and then your living family doesn't believe you because narcissism Is the active decision maker . ...
It shocks me, as a neurodivergent person starting my life in the medical field, as an intern working up to 80 hours a week with no pay because I'm technically still studying, to hear that an actual full-time job is 40 hours a week, not 80. Like, I know that it shouldn't be legal to male someone work for 80 hours a week, but DAMN. No wonder I've been so fricking tired these past few weeks. Wtf.
Totally relate to this. Worst part for me is having to work on night shifts and... * _shivers_ * sleep in the hospital... Also, I freak out when people suggest I'd like to take a residency program, which here are usually 60 hours per week in theory but illegally extending to the tealm of 100 hours per week...
@@BlueberryDragon13 That's 16 hours a day if you get a full weekend. Many of these internships take up half of your weekend with random crap. Also, at least the ones in the medical field, have you take overnight shifts, which do allow you to get some hours of sleep when everything is quiet, but are indeed borderline slave labour
INTP here, i have taken the test multiple times throughout the last couple years to the same result, last year i started looking into autism and adhd and am convinced that there is some kind of correlation between certain personalities like INTP, INFJ AND INFP (Infp is what my sibling's personality is and self diagnoses as autistic) and disorders like autism and adhd. So many people relate heavily to these personalities and its very entertaining to watch videos of ppl doing 'INTP stuff' only to spot a whole truckload of autistic or adhd traits at the same time...that was my ted talk, thanks for reading. Hopefully i can try get a diagnosis soon of atleast something to explain my life-long differences to 'normal people'.
INTJ here agrees, and wonders specifically about introversion. It's described as being "not whether you're good at socializing, but whether it energizes you or drains you." Masking and sensory overload, anyone?
I think plain autism drives towards the INxJ type, and AuDHD drives towards INxP. But I also think the MBTI does a really crap job of evaluating E/I for autism. There *is* an introvert/extrovert distinction in autism, but autistic extroverts tend to have a lot of introverted trauma responses, and not the best social skills even without trauma, so the whole spectrum gets lumped into the I category.
@@Catlily5 I test as INTP, but there was a more obscure test I took once where it was possible to get high scores in two opposite categories (but wasn't supposed to happen unless some kind of masking was going on). I got what amounted to "introverted/extroverted", and in reflecting on that, I remembered that I had been a lot more outgoing prior to 3rd grade or so, and I realized that I could remember the moment that I promised myself "I won't be friends with anyone unless they're friends with me".
OK, back for a third comment... *Mindfulness* : Relax into your life by being present in the moment, by experiencing everything around you with all of your senses. *Autistic* : No, that's the problem. Also, I can feel my toenails too much now. Is that normal?
@@tracik1277 thats so true... i love nailpolish, got some sparkly shiny ones and it is perfect to stare at for visual stim. But after a day i can feel how heavy my nails are with polish. Thats why i got peely basecoats. I can peel them off as soon as i start feeling uncomfortable with them. And the peeling is a fun activity too :P
I was diagnosed when I was very young. But honestly the INFJ thing has been so helpful to me in helping me process & find out how best to use my oddities. I'm not special, I'm just weird. But weird is ok. I often feel alien. But sometimes you need a weird alien outlook to make sense of things & help people out.
I've asked several times, how doctors know the patient's pain lvl. I've been told that as the patient, I need to tell them. So I told them, my stomach hurts. Their answer: "it's not that bad" Then I got in trouble for "throwing a temper tantrum", eg having a meltdown. Guess the "yell until they get it" approach would go similarly
From what I’ve read, it took several decades after anesthesia was invented for doctors to accept it widely. Things haven’t changed as much as they might have.
Oh that first one! I got it immediately. It’s why I say that identifying my triggers is a bit like playing whack a mole. So much to choose from when you are heritably hypervigilant. When I first heard about PDA, the vlogger was talking about being unable to not say no, and I had this panic attack: I was overwhelmed with the sense that saying “no” was incredibly dangerous. I spent the day trying to track down the triggering memory, and finally found it: a conversation in a hallway with my primary school principal, in which he told me he didn’t like it when people didn’t do what he told them to, and then darkly intimated that if I continued to do so, he would hurt me badly, Mafia style - put me in the hospital. It took about two days for me to realize that, while he did say the first part, the second part was not real, it was how my persistent fear response heard it, and I had felt I was in mortal danger since I would not be able to do what he told me. So that’s how I stored the memory. The joys of an overly helpful amygdala.
@@jupiter1217 Oh, absolutely. Among other things, he was extremely tall, and a gym teacher type. After the initial wave of memory, I knew pretty quickly that he had not threatened me overtly with physical violence, but I was not sure for a while that he hadn't intimated it in some way. As vague memories from my hippocampus started to overtake the initial amygdala-based recollection, I felt more certain this was not the case. He was too intimidating by half for my neurotype, but probably would have gotten the reaction he wanted from many kids -- modulated fear that would make them feel like they better do what he said -- and if they weren't PDA, they could. One of the most useful pieces of knowledge that I've gotten from Robert Sapolsky is that the amygdala has its own memory storage, which is not accessible to the other parts of the brain. It's designed to allow for a fast, instinctive fight or flight reaction when you hear a rustling that may be the proverbial tiger in the bushes. I like this factoid because it both explains how the brain works, especially if you have heritable overactive flight of flight, and also shows that not all hard-to-access trigger memories are a result of repression. I imagine people can suppress a traumatic memory as a defense mechanism, but that's not the only way you can achieve hard-to-identify triggers. In fact, it was a troubling memory that I retained, absent the threat to life part, for many years, then it gradually faded. The "mortal threat" memory encoded in my amygdala remained, because those are more durable. Hence the fear of being called to the principal's office at 33 (the meme)...or 62. That's what I mean by my triggers and whack-a-mole. That reaction, and that stored sensation of mortal danger, has not done my functionality any good over the decades. But my own version of CPTSD has less to do with the particulars of individual events, and more to do with my lifelong hypervigilant/fearful avoidant predisposition. It's been incredibly important to me to distinguish that in my own mind, otherwise I continue the trend of ascribing too much importance to relatively minor events.
I'm an INTJ-T. I love how the description says "At times, Architects may wonder whether dealing with other people is even worth the frustration". During job interviews/assessments, I was, of course, always masking and kept the mask on when taking the personality tests. It was on one of these occasions that I had the feeling that I wouldn't get the job anyway, and decided there and then that I would do the last test unmasked. It was the Myers-Briggs. But (and here it gets slightly surrealistic) the lady from the agency thought that I had manipulated the Myers-Briggs as the result didn't correlate with that of the other tests...
@@helixxia9320 Nope, it is (was?) a Belgian thing. I stopped counting the number of times I did those tests over the years. Not sure what the added value was.
As someone who had to sit in those chairs... HATED THEM! Sensory hell. They were cold, static shocks from the exposed bolts, your thighs would stick to them in the summer, your hair would get stuck in the bolts on the back too!
Lol, I'm INFJ and Autistic. Also, yeah, the pain thing. When I was in labor, I was calm when I walked in, so they didn't think I was actually in labor. They stuck me in a room and nobody came for like 20 minutes. When someone finally came in and saw the fluids I leaked all over the floor, they were like, "Oh, you actually are in labor!" Like, yes, I wouldn't be here if I wasn't.
I get the ick from yogurt sometimes too. And I hate notifications! I have basically all notifications off besides email and texts, and I'm even annoyed by those (and it's on vibrate).
Omg this, I was already in hospital in the triage incase of early labour. I told the midwife I was having contractions closer together and thought I was in labour. And she was like the chart doesn’t show that and left, almost an hour later when she came back I was fully dilated and had to be rushed to the labour ward. There were other women screaming bloody murder or just groaning and looking in pain visibly that they would be prioritised. I just thought their pain must be worse than mine.
Omg! I had a former friend who loved Meyrs Briggs. She found out I was on the line between INFP and INFJ, and became obsessed with trying to research my personality type to fix our friendship. When what I really needed was just some space for my (likely) autistic brain to recover from her high-intensity super-extroverted visits. A therapist helped me communicate what I needed, and unfortunately that friendship did end. Interesting though that this friend was kinda but not quite on to something. I remember just wishing she'd talk to me or listen to me about what I need instead of trying to research who she felt I was.
ok but let's talk about your dress ! I love it !!! with your black hair, it's a perfect match ! We stand for a fashion icon :p also : without your videos, I'd never have realised I was autistic and how bad my masking was (because people still tell me, to this day, that I'm weird. To my FACE)
You’re so so kind!!! Thank you 🥰🥰 I really hope discovering more about yourself has helped you as much as it helped me 💛 Ahaha, yeah after all these years on earth I’m still often met with looks of confusion 😂
wahaha people have said the same to me and i notice it more now, which has its own pains, but yeah i am pretty bad at masking too~ people call me weird or quirky a lot. (in process of setting consultation with a therapist to get work done tho)
I tried the whole "be in the present" and "focus on your senses" thing. Absolute worst feeling I have subjected myself to. Now I can feel that it's too hot and be hyper-aware of everything my body is doing and every single minorly uncomfortable sensory input all at the same time! And once I'm aware, it is very difficult to stop. It was the only thing a therapist tried to teach me that was not just unhelpful but also actively harmful!
My weird autism spoon thing is that I really love circle spoons. Any spoon where the scoop isn't an oval but a nice perfect circle just really makes my lizard brain feel like it's chillin on a hot rock.
I think medical professionals are looking for nonverbal signs of pain. That's so ridiculous, because there are many reasons for people to appear pretty unaffected while they're in pain. I've had fibromyalgia and migraines for as long as I can remember, but wasn't diagnosed until adulthood. Before my diagnosis, so many people told me I couldn't possibly be in pain that I learned to conceal it. Now that I understand what's happening, I deliberately flinch when doctors are doing something to me that hurts more than it should. They respond very promptly to that. It's sad that I need to do that, but it helps me get the care I need.
I recently went to urgent care for something, and the doctor there actually trusted everything I said. If I said something hurt, she believed me without question. When I told her what my symptoms were, she didn't try to tell me what she thought they should be instead. She just listened, and adjusted accordingly. It was so refreshing not to have to fight to get adequate care and to be trusted about my own experiences. I usually have to argue to advocate for myself.
It's really good to know that I'm not alone with various experiences (thanks internet). I avoid going to the doctor unless I really have to. Some years ago a had some pain in my leg (I think it was an inflammation of the hip joint), the pain was waking me up many times a night => had to find better position for my leg to lower the pain and continue sleeping. I was able to move the leg only in a limited range. I went to the doctor, explained the situation. She tried moving my leg, let me walk around the table. Took my crutches and let me sit in the waiting room for some time. Seemed like she thought I was faking it, but I didn't realize it back then. Then she returned my crutches and gave me a return paper for my general practitioner. I didn't even go there at first, but then GP called me and after explanation sent me to another specialist. He was better, inspected me properly and seriously, gave me some medication and after some time I was better.
medical professionals should know that pain doesn't always come with signs of pain. my 3 scariest instances of pain, all unusual in pain reasons and ordered from least to most scary: root canal with bad sedation, lowest of the 3 in actual pain but highest in pain sensation for me. only time i genuinely screamed out in pain i think, having an unsedated nerve shredded and pulled out felt like having a rusty nail slowly driven into my soul. rammed my head into a wall when i tripped going up the stairs, was taking many painkillers at the time because of a terrible toothache and ended up feeling nothing of the headache i knew i had to have. scary not being able to feel how badly your head is damaged, ended up being fine even though the impact felt like it could seriously scramble my brain. and the worst pain I've never felt was breaking my wrist(and twisting it for x-rays) this is best described by sharing how my brain and my conscious mind experienced it. conscious reaction: my muscles feel a bit stiff after that fall, beter go to the doctor. my brain's autonomous functions: fatal error! sensory overload! shut down all non-vital systems! a broken bone to me feels like a sore muscle, but somehow it's enough that it can overpower sight, hearing, and equilibrium, causing me to temporarily go blind, deaf, and nauseous there are medical conditions that completely disable pain sensations, medical professionals should know this and account for this possibility.
Yeah . . . .I have very little pain reaction due to chronic pain, I can Walk pretty uneffected while being very dizzy and basically Not seeing anything, due to practise since childhood and never getting taken seriously . . .the fact I stay calm IS that reacting Like ITS new or whatever costs Energy I plain do not have
The yogurt thing is a problem for me as well. 😅 If I eat a bit of it it's fine, but if there's a lot of it in the tin, the more I eat the more grossed out I get.
Same, except I've learned to eat anything despite the icky feeling, after being told that it can cure celiac. (it's bs, celiac can't be cured, only treated with a glutenfree diet)
I can handle yoghurt if and only if it has a uniform texture and consistency, and it can't have anything in it like fruit or chocolate or whatever. So I pretty much can only do those dessert flavor ones. Defeats the purpose of eating yoghurt though lol
Also, syringing ears - I actually quite enjoy the process, but I do it myself because I can't function being deaf for two weeks while waiting for another appointment. Basically, I soak it in Earex for 10 minutes, then use one of those small syringes you get from Boots (can't generate enough force to do any damage). It's really rather satisfying when it clears out! *IMPORTANT NOTE*: If you're going to do this, always use warm, body-temperature water; you don't want the experience of doing it with cold water, believe me. Also, if you read this comment and give it a go, bear in mind that you're taking medical advice from some randomer on the Internet. This is not necessarily wise.
I clean my ears out at home, too! I use one of those baby nose sucker ball things. And I put some hydrogen peroxide in first for a minute before clearing everything out with water. *Is also random internet non-doctor*
a teaspoon of olive oil works too, actual home remedy my doctor and the doctor's assistant have told me about on separate occasions in preparation of getting my ears cleaned. now i mostly do it myself, got some drinking game syringe with a modified nozzle and if it doesn't work i put a drop of olive oil in my ear every day for a few days and try again.
About the chair thing. Here in Finland, due to changes in the national curriculums since 2016, schools are slowly being remodelled as physical environments. One of the smaller changes is that students get chairs with wheels that work like those spinning basic office chairs. In 2017, I did my student teaching in a school that had just gotten its new furniture and there was very little disturbances. I mean sure, most kids DID spin some but it really wasn't a point of misbehaviour or trouble at least in the classes that I taught. Of course, many other changes are not as autistic/ADHD friendly (or kid friendly in general, I'd argue) such as less closed classrooms and more open, flexible spaces with often more people in them at once and less structured timetables for the school day. I mean open offices do not work for adults in workplaces but "surely the kids will the fine right?!" But that's a separate thing, but the chairs not a problem from what I saw.
@@fraktaalimuoto Monilla lapsilla (ja opettajilla) onkin siinä kuulemma vaikeuksia. Itelle tuli korona-aika heti valmistumisen jälkeen vastaan ja sit päädyinkin aikuisopetukseen töihin eli en oo opetusharjoittelun jälkeen tehnyt yläkouluissa töitä. Mut tuttujen mukaan kuulemma pahimmillaan aika villi länsi, kun hommia tehdään hälysillä käytävillä ja remontoidussa luokkahuoneissa saattaa olla tyyliin seinät pelkkää ikkunaa.
I assume the deal with open floor plans is a result of office workers in the 90s hating cubicles. At least culturally. Child me thought having a cubicle seemed perfect: my own space with clear boundaries and the freedom to put cute knickknacks and pictures up. Enough privacy to stim quietly as needed without bothering anyone too, now that I'm thinking about it. Though perhaps one factor in the change may be the space saved by cramming people around a table: three feet of space with no boundaries vs 5x5 with walls I guess.
Spoon for cake . . . hmm . . . I see that. However, it seems that, for getting those last crumbs, there would be an extreme risk of SCRAPING against the plate. Me, I prefer a fork, I just moosh it against the crumbs and get them squished in between the tines, then (TMI...) suck them off the fork. Um. I . . . should not have shared that? Probably.
I'm autistic. I'm also an architect. So I know chairs. From designer chairs to utility stools and everything in between. So I almost lost my sh*t with the Autism torture device chair thing. You see, years ago I bought a Herman Miller Areon chair as an aspirational thing. Despite the torture it inflicted, I used it for for over a decade because I thought it was beautiful. Nevermind the horrible indestructable plastic pellicle "fabric" that wore-out the seat of my pants and felt like sitting on razor blades. Nevermind the arm-rest that refused to stay ajusted. Sitting in it felt like getting kicked in the spine. Reclining felt like getting hit in the back by a bus. But it looked so COOOOOOL!!!...... ...and it SPUN!... =D
Spinning is...a definite plus. All chairs should spin, in my opinion. I also prefer a chair that lets me put just the front of my foot on the floor and rapidly jiggle my whole leg up and down. That's one of my preferred stims. Someone needs to start designing Autistic chairs.
Yeah I got so angry at teacher on time for not letting me sit in the sofa meanwhile my EX friend also needed that but we both could have probably fit in that thing Nowadays till now I have taken chair what I sit in for granted so luxurious and the other chairs are sure better than in primary school but are not spinning and the textiles make me sweat in the long run
You know, masking is kind of like what pets/animals do. They know predators are out to get them, and you don't know that your pet needs to go to the vet until they're about ready to pass over the rainbow bridge.
After you mentioned the whole personalities and things I decided to re-do the test after focusing more on my inner self recently. I went from being the mediator (INFP-T) to the turbulent logician. And after a bit of digging these seem to be common among autistic individuals. And I relate with a bit of both. I approach things with logic aswell as emotions sometimes. The one thing that makes sense is not my favorite artist apparently had this personality type. But also I'm told by many I'm too law obedient. And by that I mean, I sometimes adhere too much to laws and regulations. Like crossing only on zebra crossings if available. Or doing things the legal way. I'm the party ruiner who says stuff like: "Ya can't walk around like that! It's illegal! Put some clothes on!" and I always feel scared of breaking the law. Logic is my forte I'd say even if sometimes I'm pretty illogical.
Oh my GOSH!!! The way you explained the feelings with food is soooo relateable!! I always feel like I'm not fully paying attention to what I'm eating because of sensory stuff with food. I've lost about 30 pounds in a year without trying because of issues with food like sensory stuff and just all of a sudden feeling bored or not hungry enough to try to eat that thing right in front of me. Eating feels like it takes so much energy. I've used snack type foods to help with this that don't have as many sensory issues with it. It's helped me to just keep the weight where I'm at.
I'm a spoon user for cake 100% it's just neater and cleaner that way. I'm also an INFJ autistic lol. And I feel ya on people not taking your pain seriously. Women are already taken less seriously by medical professionals but adding autistic on top of that and they act like we're an unfeeling block wood undeserving of care or respect. It's soul crushing.
Oh my goodness, the pain thing! I have a genetic condition that has caused me a heck of a lot of pain and other symptoms since I was about 3 years old (or at least that’s the first time my mum was aware enough of it to first take me to a doctor about it) but wasn’t diagnosed until my 30’s. As a child my mum had to teach me to ‘look likes I was in pain’ when I was being examined by a doctor and I also had occasions when people like teachers would refuse to believe something was wrong because I ‘wasn’t behaving how children who are in pain behave’. When I left the appointment after finally getting my diagnosis where the doctor explained in detail what was going on with my body causing the symptoms, my mum, who had been to the appointment with me, turned to me and said, I always thought you couldn’t possibly be in the amount of pain you said you were but I understand now that you are’. Even now, years later, I still still learn new things about the condition and think ‘wow, that explains that thing that I never even told anyone that I was experiencing’. And sometimes they are pretty bad symptoms that I really should have been getting treatment for! One thing I definitely found interesting to learn is that the comorbidity of my condition and autism is fairly common.
Every time I do one of those personality tests I come up with something different. But yeah the 'Tism puts a whole new light on all that and I think the answers I gave were just a reflection on the amount of masking I was doing or maybe it was burnout. I feel your pain wrt to the ear wax issue, which I caused by shoving earplugs in too far and pushing wax on to the eardrum. Now important stuff. Splades are an Australian eating device like a spork but betterer. They are the superior eating device for all cakes, pasta, dim sims and everything in between. Now ,I'm off to eat some yogurt with mango while doing breathing exercises.
and I just did the personality test again for the first time since I discovered I'm autistic and made a conscious effort to answer in an unmasked fashion and this time got INFJ-T. So I think you might be on to something here. The T for Turbulent could be the ADHD.
I did the personality test and my results came out as INFJ 😂. I’m only self diagnosed for autism though and I am getting my evaluation tomorrow.. not really looking forward to a 2 hour drive though.. 😭
I've been thinking about your laundry trouble. I'm not autistic, but I have a frontal lobe brain injury. There's a lot of overlap between my symptoms and autistic traits. Anyway, a strategy that I use for a different task is a small but brightly colored reminder sign on the wall where I'll easily see it. I cover it with a wall colored card when I don't need the reminder, and only uncover it when I do need it. It helps a lot!
I always get INTP which feels very accurate to me... I once got INTJ, but never F. I am super analytical. Incidentally, I am also PDA. So I guess there's a spectrum or something. 😉💜
I’m autistic and I’ve never liked the myer-Briggs tests since they never had a middle ground because I can be fairly logical but I also am very engrossed in my fantasies. And I was never good at answering the questions when they had 5 options from very good to very bad and some questions are hard to answer because there are different ways to interpret it
YES on mindfulness!!!!! My reaction has always been “you want me to be MORE aware of what I’m feeling and what’s happening around me?” It’s like: “focus on that kidney stone! Embrace the debilitating agony!”
Oops, I did not mean to speak of rope in the house of the hanged, sorry!! I didn’t choose that example by accident, been there, may be there again one of these days. 😩
The way she explained it made me think mindfulness is just a way of training neurotypicals to pay attention to stuff or be conscious of stuff at an autistic level but without the overwhelming part of it we experience, sensitivity to things, etc. "Neurotypicals, imagine what you could achieve if you didn't blindly block out so much useful information and blindly chase after subconscious social crap! To you, we present, 'Mindfulness'.* *Warning, excessive daily application of 'Mindfulness' will result in serious trauma, psychological scarring, excessive anxiety, possibly leading to several disorders, deterioration of physical health and social rejection. But enjoy because you'll never have the focus to get to that level" :)
@@strictnonconformist7369 CW: SH Just have to add in the (very real) risk of death in there to make it scary. (Autistic people are apparently way more likely to die from suicide than the general population).
i legit started to feel gross just cause you pointed out thinking about eating while i was eating. the last thing i want to do is focus on my inner sensations
I'm an INTJ. I am of the opinion that logic leads to better decisions than emotions. But I did think the description for INTJ was spot on with me. Edit: I misremembered, I'm ISTJ. Thanks to the result, I now know to avoid some pitfalls that often come with my personality type, such as stubbornness. If the shoe fits, why not wear it? However, I'm aware that some if not most people get results from this test that only kind of fit, or don't fit very well at all. In that case, feel free to disregard the result and any advice based on the result. "If any man is able to convince me and show me that I do not think or act right, I will gladly change; for I seek the truth by which no man was ever injured. But he is injured who abides in his error and ignorance." - Marcus Aurelius
Hey, you guys know that stuff is totally made up BS and has absolutely no science behind it, or involved with it in anyway? It's actually very ironic that you say you think logic leads to better decisions, because believing in something that is entirely made up without any proof what-so-ever, is a very illogical thing to do. You're relying entirely on your emotions, that want for it to be true. Sorry.
I will always be bothered by the mistaken assumotion that logic and emotions are completely orthogonal or that logic is somehow superior to emotions. Logic is only useful after initial assumptions have been made; by itself, logic is largely useless and can often be abused to cause harm.
@@litterbox2010 I’m an INTJ and yes, I know MBTI isn’t scientific at all. But it’s still a good way to describe one’s personality if it happens to fit someone. It’s how I found likeminded people before learning about autism. No reason to be rude towards the original poster. Maybe your own emotions got the best of you… not sure why!
I've done that personality test many times over the years and I'm always INFJ. I've recently been figuring out that I'm probably autistic. I have days when everything you say I'm like "me too!" and other times I feel like I'm an imposture and I don't relate to ALL the things, so I can't be... 😅 I struggle with mindfulness. No thank you on thinking about what I eat too deeply. The first breathing things I ever did I felt like I was holding the breath for soooooo long and I couldn't breathe. I kept thinking it was impossible.
11:37 yeah, if I allow my mind to focus, I will feel my teeth existing, my toes touching, my bones existing, my clothes making contact with my skin, and my hair pulling on my scalp, and star breathing manually, and it will lead me to a full blown anxiety attack.
Your timing is immaculate! I was just binge watching your videos earlier today and then got a bit sad because I ran out of videos I hadn’t seen before. 😂 I love your content, thank you for the amazing videos and the work you put into them. 💛
Going off the medieval times meme, I’ve thought about this before and I have a theory that women w autism typically mask more than men w autism because you would have been killed/tortured if not masking in those times. Evolution of a survival mechanism 😢
mindfulness is a strange thing. the first time i tried it was exactly like u said. i nearly panicked. #1 if i think about the process of eating, it grosses me tf out i cannot. #2 paying attention to every. single. detail. of every. single. thing. is overwhelming. there are too many things & they are already Too Much (apparently bc autism.) then after about 20 years of trying & giving up meditation i finally understood what i was supposed to be doing & it clicked & it helps so, so much.
I debate if I will ever connect with it. There are two ways in which it could not work for someone: one is that the approach is simply wrong for an individual’s neurotype. Two is that the explanation someone (in this case, a therapist) is giving to the person does not make sense to them. Since explanations that make sense to me often leave others cold, I am very conscious of the second, and I have to say that the language that seems to resonate with therapist neurotypes is a non starter with me. There’s one more possibility I can see: that there are things that a person has to take care of first before they can make something else work. Maybe I need to learn to regulate better using other strategies before I can avoid overwhelm from mindfulness techniques. Or - and I have experienced this - I have to process for a long time before I am able to see something from the vantage point where it actually makes sense to me.
@jimwilliams3816 i totally get all of that. part of what had me stuck is that it wasn't being explained to me in a way i understood. this way? the way you focus on every single detail of every single thing? that's not it. i guess i could have said i finally found a method that was explained in a way my brain could grasp & worked for my brain. i've even incorporated a sort of gentle, non-interruptive swimming so i'm not sitting there fidgety & uncomfortable. i'm not saying meditation & mindfulness are for everyone, ofc not. but i do think there could be more ways to make it more accessible to neurodiverse brains.
Gentle swimming sounds like it makes a lot of sense. If I had somewhere to do that, I think I would try it. Semi swimming in a shallow area is about the closest I think I’ve come to meditating...and for that matter, swimming in a positive way. As near as I can tell I’m so repressed, all my stims are like anxious bursts. Either that or I do have a touch of Tourette’s. Thanks for the suggestion!
I hate, hate, hate how therapists dismiss me because I speak so matter-of-factly. Like, yeah, of course I look okay! Because if "being good at CBT" was an actual indicator for being able to live with depression long-term, I simply would not be here! I'm so good at it! So naturally I'm flushed into a spiral of intense emotions, completely disrupting my life, and going back to the next session absolutely unable to keep myself together, suddenly THEY BELIEVE ME. I am so tired. And yes, I test INFJ consistently.
Fun fact! If it hasn’t already been said-people think that autism would explain the idea of changelings to people back in the day. This knowledge that autism has always existed changed my thoughts on vaccines-thanks historians!!
my microwave beeps when you press the stop button, so i love to line up the beep of thr stop button with the beep of the timer finishing! im an INFP-T but im kind of scared to re-test because i see myself as an INFP a lot p.s. i use a fork because it feels better in my mouth
I have Crohn's and I've unfortunately had both ends of the doctor experience on a lot of occasions. If you're not emotional enough they won't help you and if you cry or scream in pain then you're "over-reacting". I've basically learnt to try and have a "Doctor mask" where I have to calmly explain my symptoms and exactly how much distress it's causing me while sounding authentic and not too emotional. It's honestly the worst. I can't control my reaction if I'm in extreme pain and sometimes I have something that is really disabling but it's not currently happening that moment so I struggle to convey how bad it is. For a positive thing though I had a hospital procedure this week where the people were SO lovely, they were really kind, explained everything and promised to stop immediately if I felt distressed (which they did) and they held my hand because it made me cry. It made such a difference and I appreciate their kindness so much. I wish every experience of mine had been like that.
"i worked this out my whole life looking for the truth and i found it through my own hard work and the UA-cam algorithm" I died , i cried laughed. You are always funny but thats the best part of these video. and is so fking truth 😭😂
I pretty much self-diagnosed myself with social anxiety only to find out I have general anxiety (specifically around social situations) so I was right. I just didn't look at the bigger picture. I'm also autistic so that may explain the specifics.
The sock!! Yes perfect illustration of masking. I couldn’t do myres briggs. It caused a meltdown and then the course leader threatened to kick me off the work course I was on where doing it was required.
The fork meme bothered me because I need to PICK THEM UP - the weight in my hand is really, really important to my choice because if it weighs wrong I have to think a lot harder about using it right. Sigh!
I think I was an INFJ in college, but I haven't taken the test in a long time & it can actually change over your lifetime. Cool fact nobody asked for 😂
I relate to being ignored when in pain as an autistic person. I’ve been made to suppress my emotions to fit in and one of them is pain. So, now people think I’m not in pain when I am (until I throw up from the pain). I also have earwax buildup and use these little scoop cleaners and special ear cleaner to prevent them scraping it medically.
The social rules and being taking seriously... JEEZ. The night of my 29 birthday (three weeks ago) the wife of my father (I refuse to call her mother in law, she does NOT deserve it) gave me a graphic novel that I hated way before that day. And I could not fake that I didn't like the present. She started screaming at me because of my attitude and my face and said to me that "well, fake it, as everyone does, I deserve it because how much effort I put looking for a thing you would like". I could't fake it, she took it personally and she didn't freaking care when I told her that I had a very rough week of being depressed. She just wanted the fake "Oh, I LOVE IT!!". Even knowing that I'm autistic, depressed, medicated, with two therapists and no stable job whatsoever. All she did was screaming "what about ME!?". And I told that to my grandma and she said that yeah, you should LEARN to fake it, as everyone does. Well, I CAN'T.
Even when you know how to fake it, when you have learned how to mask perfectly... there are days you simply can't. This is stupid, someone should have told her to fake beeing fine with someone not liking her gift, god damn. Why should you be compassionate for her, if she isn't for you
Chairs in school are one of those many topic, where everyone just acts like improvement isn't possible and like you're not even allowed to criticise it too much. I remember having just one teacher who indirectly aknowledged that replacing all the chairs with uncomfortable plastic chairs, when you could have just bought less expensive and more comfortable office chairs was a bad decision.
Cakes, if you choose to use cutlery, are definitely a fork food. Spoons are for things that are significantly liquid, like cereal or soup. Besides, you can smoosh the crumbs together between the tines and eat the last bits that way, no waste.
Thank you, it is nice to hear someone talking that gets it. I often feel no one in the world understand the words that I am speaking, or how I see things. You bring joy into the world, keep kicking butt!
I can totally relate to getting a job just so you could fix one bug. But I would probably find so many things I wanted to fix that I would stay for years.
I felt the same way about my Myers Briggs result (INTJ) because it does describe me so very well. I was 18 when I took it back in my first year of college (1995), and it's hasn't changed in almost three decades. There were some things about me that it just couldn't explain though. Once I stumbled across some adult autism videos back in early May I had that "OH SH*T!" moment that I might be autistic. I do notice that a lot of autistic people are FJs though.
I am a psychology nerd and that personality test has been my life for the better part of the last decade. I have been an INFP every time I take the test. That meme discribed me too 🤣🤣 I always say I can be a pushover, but don’t piss me off. I will be a tiger and my voice will NOT be silent. I won’t fight you physically but you won’t like what I say to you. I am a cusp of P and J though, so it makes even more sense!
I'm a INTJ and I think its description fits me quite well. About PDA, a couple of week ago at work, we needed to do some online courses on cyber security, but the courses were guide by some kind of video AI. So you needed to write it in a some kind of fake WhatsApp interface your answers. If you didn't answer correctly the AI told you you were wrong and that you can't go on until you answer correctly and I lost it!!! Don't tell me what to do, stoopid machine. Then I started to hit the keyboard and it replied "I can't understand you, please try again". AAAAARHHG! On the spoons and forks, the thing I dislike is eating food that I require to use knife and fork while eating. I usually cut everything at the start of the meal or cut with the side of the fork. 100% spoons for cakes.
yeah, I'm that guy who alertly watches the microwave at 00:01, waits just a tinsy bit more and then manages to stop the microwave before it can go BEEEEP-BEEEEP-BEEEEP!!! :) Truly a life saving skill, I'd say :D
the best part about being autistic and having autistic friends is you can minmax your knowledge by just infodumping at eachother until we somehow learn everything the other person did
INTP-T the logician, 89% introverted, 74% intuitive, 59% thinking, 54% prospecting, 56% turbulent thats me the Aspie. Personally i preger to est with chopsticks, and only use spoons if i eay something that cant be eaten with them.
Do I need to add a trigger warning for those yogurt clips? 😂😂 *shudders*
And does autistic = INFJ?? If only it were that simple 😂
If you missed last week's TikTok reaction (we talk about faking autism, parents filming their children's meltdowns, and the struggle of choosing from menus):
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And if you haven't chosen your fork yet...:
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Thank you for being here! These meme videos are soooo much fun to make, so I hope you enjoy watching them! 💛💛💛
Whats is INJF
I'm supposedly ISFJ. I don't remember the traits or anything though.
I tested as ENFP. I think I'm ADHD / autism combo
Intp here. 😅
i always felt like a lot of autistics are intp, like me. but hey those tests are considered invalid anyway so i suppose it hardly matters
Something I appreciate about my dad being (most likely) neurodivergent is that, even as a doctor, he ALWAYS asks "Did that hurt?" whenever he sees a patient. I could either scream in pain or not move because it hurts so much, and he'll still ask if it hurt. And he'll take my answer seriously.
Man that seems like it would b very easy to train people to do, just ask every time
"On a scale from 1 to 10, how does this hurt."
"I can give you a scale from 0 to 2, and it's a 1, meaning it hurts."
I tried the scale thing when I was in my teens, got in trouble for describing a 5-pain as "between 8 and 10 during the peak". My inability to sleep was explained with laziness
@@v3ru586 [sarcasm] because we all know failure to sleep despite efforts in that direction is *clearly* evidence of laziness... [/sarcasm] wow. that sucks even to hear about. i'm sorry. :-/
I would like to formally say on behalf of my doctor-traumatized that *this post* legitimately helps me have more faith in the system. Appreciate you sharing
I am NOT a special INFJ, I'll have you know!
I'm an elusive INFP 🙃
This channel is simply splendid ❤
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I'm INTJ, I took the test as part of a high school class and my teacher was surprised as she never had someone get INTJ before, and she told me that it is one of the rarest types. Explains why people seem to behave quite differently around me... I guess.
I am INTP and I feel like an alien. INTJ is even rarer though. 👀👀
@@yeahokaycoolcool INTJs are often autistic. I think the same is true for INTPs too.
@@yeahokaycoolcool Oh, really? Always got the impression it was the other way round. Especially in females.
"I really wish equipment wouldn't notify me of things."
I felt this so hard! I leave my phone on silent all the time. The washing machine plays a whole tune (Die Forelle by Shubert). The only way I can cope with it was by looking up what it was, learning it on the piano and then singing it EVERY SINGLE TIME the washing machine ends. My wife hates me.
Tip for anyone who wants to try mindfulness but is AUDHD or similar and struggles to balance being under vs overstimulated - literally just pick out some music you really like and is the right level of stimulation for your current moment, listen in headphones at whatever volume is comfortable and blocks out most other things, and practice focusing on only the music without having any thoughts about it or getting distracted. That's probably enough of a challenge to get you started, it certainly still is for me 😅 I personally recommend music without lyrics or at least lyrics that aren't prominent and will catch your attention. Good luck! 🤗
I'm gifted, autistic and pda and my mbti type is entj. That also makes perfect sense. I think the types are generally more exact when you try to understand the cognitive functions behind it and type yourself with assistance from people who know you well
The best description of the Myers-Briggs assessment (in my opinion) is "horoscopes for people who attended university."
@@justinwatson1510 well yes, I think there's a lot of the same benefits, but a little less issues with it. Both, when you see them as a tool for self reflection and expressing and understanding identities in social circles, can be very beneficial. As all labels and categories can be if you don't take them too far. That's how our brains define and understand things, by labeling, differentiating and categorizing.
The advantage that Myers Briggs has over astrology is mainly that you do the assessment yourself and with and for others, and can actually find which category you can identify with most. That's like bottom-up processing, which is much more unbiased than the top-down approach of astrology, wherein you'd be assigned the category and then your brain actively tries to make it work. Which is why I'm saying that Myers Briggs assessment should be done in a conscious and educated way, not an online test.
The guy quitting on day one is 100% something I could do. 🤣
I actually use mostly free software because I can dive into the code myself and fix my own bugs. ^^
My watch is attached to me except when I shower. I don't forget it when I shower because I put it with my glasses, and I'm nearsighted enough that forgetting those is impossible.
I dont need meditation to focus on my senses, my senses already give me far too much information. I need meditation to dissociate from and calm my senses. 💛
16:54 well… then you scoop up the crumbs. They fuse with the icing and are delicious. It also prolongs the cake-eating process, allowing more time to savor the cake.
Wood chairs in that style were worse.
Also, autistic me unloading the dishwasher and getting a steak knife stuck in my thumb. More autistic me pulling my hand out of the dishwasher and swinging the knife from my thumb and wondering what I was looking at, but also laughing.
My type is INFP. I do try to be diplomatic but it's just the masking. Lol!
I am INTJ which I think is one of the most common autistic personalities too
Small forks and spoons for me, spoons for cake are smart because of the crumbs thing, and I got INFP. ♥
" Research & final diagnosis."
tbh i mean,,, i’d rather have to churn the butter constantly than be expected to regularly reply to emails
My friend's appendix was about to burst but my friend didn't act normally. She got angry instead of screaming or crying. The doctors sent her home. Her appendix broke and she had to spend a week in the hospital.
So what I'm hearing is that INTJ/INFJ folks should maybe consider an autism assessment? LOL. I took that test and came back INTJ every time.
I thought I was autistic for the longest time but then I remembered that I actually have ADHD (since childhood and all the way into adulthood still going strong lmao) but Idk man this vid is making me think again XD
I felt so called out by the microwave one. Shit I felt called out by all of this lmao
With the pain one, I recently went in for an eye mishap and I was feeling a bit of pain and the nurse asked me to rate it and I just kind of shrugged and was like "Idk? Everyone has a different level of pain tolerance so your idea of a 10 might be my 2" so we just kind of ended up at an impasse and I said 5 lmao
I would pick the smol fork (1) I have smol spoons. Smol cat-related spoons.
Hmm. PDA might be difficult in medieval society OTOH sensory overwhelm would probably be a lot less likely unless you were in a large city and not wanting to stay home instead of being out and about gossiping would be seen as a good quality.
New thingy learned: dairy based tasks
I remember getting INTP and the description was so eerily accurate, down to wearing old beaten-up sneakers. Turns out I'm not some "mental architect genius loner inventor", I'm an autistic dude on the edge of burnout spending hours in a maladaptive fantasy world where I can organize everything into clear categories and practice social interactions in the safety of my imagination.
😂😂 We must be long lost brothers. This comment is TOO funny, but true
+1 for "we must be siblings". 😬I mean it actually is my personality type but also that other stuff.
help this sounds like me
Brother?
ouch lol stay strong friends
I absolutely would have been burned as a witch.
Same-
Right here with you
Just keep churning the butter and you will be fine for now!
(im a high masking, medium support needs female presenting autistic person, i started tranfering my pronouns to they/them recently)I constantly think about this concept.
Even my hickups and burps and stuff sound weird sometimes, like other animals/ kinda demonic. And sometimes in public it feels like the moment i get noticed people look at me like im disgusting, or at least they look upset at me, like i stick out like a sore thumb. Honestly, i think Id get burned the moment i walked outside.
@@veggiemonkie5041Whenever I hiccup I say “Hiccup”. Some people find it cute, but for me it’s a necessity.
Talking about how autistic people response to pain gets underplayed in the doctor's office reminds me of how I've been treated when I'm having an allergic reaction. I'm moderately allergic to tree nuts (I've never had to be hospitalized but it would probably get to that point if i let it.) I was on break at work once, eating a salad that shouldn't have had any nuts in it, but my mouth started getting tingly and really itchy and my chest tightened. I assumed there must've been some kind of cross contamination and I went to tell my boss and explained that I needed to leave to get medicine because I didn't have any on me. I didn't wanna make a big scene but apparently i was TOO calm because she snapped at me to hurry up because my break was almost over. It's like she didn't believe or listen to me because I wasn't being emotional enough. But I did get medicine and am okay now :)
I can ignore a splitting headache all day, but the second I put on the wrong kind of shirt...end of the Goddamn world. I'll take pain over a label or scratchy seams any day.
I get intense anxiety that feels like hours long panic attacks if I come into contact with some soy products, or most edible plants during birch pollen season (that's a separate ordeal on it's own). But I have to get to the 'panic attack' stage to look like I'm suffering, and even then I just look like I'm having a meltdown and not an allergic reaction. I have been to the hospital for peanuts, though, and the check in nurse was a jerk. The doctor who saw me believed me but was still dubious because I wasn't puffed up or rashy. Just asthma-y. I felt amazing on the inflammation meds! The even dumber part is that none of this comes up on a basic blood scan, and I'd have to travel to a bigger city for a skin prick test with my current insurance. :D
Soooooo we have to spend the entire day masking and pretending to not mind anything, and then when we stay composed in an emergency/serious situation, suddenly they want us to flip out about it? Instructions unclear.
Sounds like the reaction to my celiac growing up. I don't get an anaphylaxis from gluten, so many don't believe the harm eating gluten does to my body. The fact that salmonella is worse was used as an argument that I shouldn't inconvenience the kitchen by expecting a glutenfree meal.
Then there's this study showing that a glutenfree diet doesn't any good for a healthy person. Used as an argument for why I need to eat gluten
My colleagues reaction the first time we were out eating caught me off guard. When they realised that my food tasted like shit, they apologised for not checking the place beforehand and organised me something glutenfree that was delicious.
Same here, but in my case it was my feet hurting from walking in the wrong shoes. And my 'quiet behaviour" was made worse by the fact that I just came out of a relationship in which I had been told to 'shut up' whenever I was in discomfort.
So I quietly mentioned the pain, a girl in the group (that I just met) told me to stop whining and I did.
Later, I repeated myself. She repeated *her* self and told me to shut the fuck up.
Then we arrived at the scene, I took my shoes off and everyone gasped when they saw the blood that was running down the inside of the shoe.
And the girl said; 'Ohmygod, are you insane or something? You should have made it clearer that the pain was unbearable! How should *I* have known you were in real pain?
And I just stood there, reconsidering if I should have tried to reply to her initial "shut up" with a tormented scream and if I had, whether that would have réálly changed her attitude towards my pain or not.
I am sure there were so many autistic people in medieval times that were treated horribly, but I saw a tweet about how sweet it must've been to be an autistic nun, having a set schedule, same food every day, and mainly focus on doing one thing all the time (whether it's cooking those meals or cleaning - but not having to cook - or making lace for the monastery to sell or whatever)
They actually did a lot less work back then. There were demanding periods, sure, but the day to day also involved a lot more leisure. If you had to go somewhere, it was hours of travelling that might just be sitting or walking with a horse and Cart. I think it would have been nice.
The meowing nuns are starting to make a bit more sense...
@@Anon26535a historical example of a whole ND friend group being infected with the same vocal stim
The two haunted houses meme really hits! I’ve barely been diagnosed a month and the amount of times I’ve had to remind people that autism isn’t an intellectual disability (though ID can be Co-morbid, of course) but is actually a neuro-developmental disability is absolutely unreal 🙄😠
Just wait till you meet the people who firmly believe that autism is an illness that can be cured! 🙄
That is a pet peeve of mine. My son is AuDHD and has speech impediments and the ammount of times I have to remind people that just because he needs more time to reply does NOT mean he's stupid. It's like saying that all mute and deaf people are ID. Non autistic people can be ID too.
What's ID? Anyway yeah when I saw the haunted house meme a couple months back I was like Oh my god this is so true. Like literally I had been infantilized by someone who was working at Bucees because I was really shy and soft-spoken about asking for a cinnamon roll. I was thinking "you don't need to use baby-talk on me I understand what you're telling me"
@@phoenixc7245ID = intellectual disability
My washingmachine makes a cute little melody when it's done! It makes me unreasonably happy, it sounds so friendly. I also found out (thanks to a game show!) that the melody is actually from the opera 'Die Forelle' by Schubert. :) I find the idea that my washingmachine will perform a little opera for me when it's done incredibly cute
I wish more electronics would sing to us, so much better than the aggresive loud BEEP BEEP BEEPs 😂
I'm a bit better at the moment than I've often been at getting to bed in time to wake up naturally, but I always needed a loud, jarring alarm that went to 100% volume instantly, otherwise I just wouldn't wake up (and half the time I wouldn't wake up even with such an alarm).
I also miss the nice square-wave "beep" that computers used to give at boot.
Yes I'm not a fan of the aggressive loud beep beep beep either. I'll have to look up the melody and hear it for myself
@@JonBraseomg my husband is hard to wake up, he would have the alarm so loud and going off every 5 mins or something, keep hitting snooze, it was very disturbing to me
Mine plays Handel and I make up a sweary song to it.
My washing machine sings too and I love it 😆 although we had to get a newer model as the old one broke and it now plays different notes on the end which really hurts my brain because I'm expecting it to sound like the original lol
I swear it is the strangest thing to me that no one ever thought I could be autistic until I was an adult because I'm so fricking autistic and everything I do or say or am screams autism and it did when I was a kid too. How did it take 19years for me to get diagnosed??! At least I've got my diagnosis now :-)
Imagine waiting to be diagnosed until You're 44 years old, and then your living family doesn't believe you because narcissism Is the active decision maker
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It shocks me, as a neurodivergent person starting my life in the medical field, as an intern working up to 80 hours a week with no pay because I'm technically still studying, to hear that an actual full-time job is 40 hours a week, not 80. Like, I know that it shouldn't be legal to male someone work for 80 hours a week, but DAMN. No wonder I've been so fricking tired these past few weeks. Wtf.
Totally relate to this. Worst part for me is having to work on night shifts and... * _shivers_ * sleep in the hospital...
Also, I freak out when people suggest I'd like to take a residency program, which here are usually 60 hours per week in theory but illegally extending to the tealm of 100 hours per week...
Personally I think everyone who goes into some internship program to train in a certain field of work should be paid.
80? But.. that’s 16 hours per day. And you’ll have to get to work. That means you have less than 8 hours to sleep. Where do you live, Qatar?
@@BlueberryDragon13 That's 16 hours a day if you get a full weekend. Many of these internships take up half of your weekend with random crap. Also, at least the ones in the medical field, have you take overnight shifts, which do allow you to get some hours of sleep when everything is quiet, but are indeed borderline slave labour
It’s a long standing hazing ritual that doctors do to students as a joke. The joke being you have to almost kill yourself to become a doctor.
INTP here, i have taken the test multiple times throughout the last couple years to the same result, last year i started looking into autism and adhd and am convinced that there is some kind of correlation between certain personalities like INTP, INFJ AND INFP (Infp is what my sibling's personality is and self diagnoses as autistic) and disorders like autism and adhd. So many people relate heavily to these personalities and its very entertaining to watch videos of ppl doing 'INTP stuff' only to spot a whole truckload of autistic or adhd traits at the same time...that was my ted talk, thanks for reading. Hopefully i can try get a diagnosis soon of atleast something to explain my life-long differences to 'normal people'.
@@Tobyphonic i agree👍
INTJ here agrees, and wonders specifically about introversion. It's described as being "not whether you're good at socializing, but whether it energizes you or drains you." Masking and sensory overload, anyone?
I think plain autism drives towards the INxJ type, and AuDHD drives towards INxP.
But I also think the MBTI does a really crap job of evaluating E/I for autism. There *is* an introvert/extrovert distinction in autism, but autistic extroverts tend to have a lot of introverted trauma responses, and not the best social skills even without trauma, so the whole spectrum gets lumped into the I category.
I am an ENTP . I tested as an introvert during adolescence due to trauma. I am not super extroverted though.
@@Catlily5 I test as INTP, but there was a more obscure test I took once where it was possible to get high scores in two opposite categories (but wasn't supposed to happen unless some kind of masking was going on). I got what amounted to "introverted/extroverted", and in reflecting on that, I remembered that I had been a lot more outgoing prior to 3rd grade or so, and I realized that I could remember the moment that I promised myself "I won't be friends with anyone unless they're friends with me".
OK, back for a third comment...
*Mindfulness* : Relax into your life by being present in the moment, by experiencing everything around you with all of your senses.
*Autistic* : No, that's the problem. Also, I can feel my toenails too much now. Is that normal?
I can feel nail varnish on my fingernails. It feels hot and like my nails can’t ‘breathe’. I can’t bear to use the stuff.
@@tracik1277 thats so true... i love nailpolish, got some sparkly shiny ones and it is perfect to stare at for visual stim. But after a day i can feel how heavy my nails are with polish. Thats why i got peely basecoats. I can peel them off as soon as i start feeling uncomfortable with them. And the peeling is a fun activity too :P
I was diagnosed when I was very young.
But honestly the INFJ thing has been so helpful to me in helping me process & find out how best to use my oddities.
I'm not special, I'm just weird. But weird is ok. I often feel alien. But sometimes you need a weird alien outlook to make sense of things & help people out.
Yes I'm also infj and i did feel really connected to the description
Im an ISFP, crazy how accurate that shit is
I've asked several times, how doctors know the patient's pain lvl.
I've been told that as the patient, I need to tell them.
So I told them, my stomach hurts. Their answer: "it's not that bad"
Then I got in trouble for "throwing a temper tantrum", eg having a meltdown. Guess the "yell until they get it" approach would go similarly
From what I’ve read, it took several decades after anesthesia was invented for doctors to accept it widely. Things haven’t changed as much as they might have.
Drs misdiagnosed my prolapsed degenerative discs for 8 years because I present pain differently
Oh that first one! I got it immediately. It’s why I say that identifying my triggers is a bit like playing whack a mole. So much to choose from when you are heritably hypervigilant.
When I first heard about PDA, the vlogger was talking about being unable to not say no, and I had this panic attack: I was overwhelmed with the sense that saying “no” was incredibly dangerous. I spent the day trying to track down the triggering memory, and finally found it: a conversation in a hallway with my primary school principal, in which he told me he didn’t like it when people didn’t do what he told them to, and then darkly intimated that if I continued to do so, he would hurt me badly, Mafia style - put me in the hospital. It took about two days for me to realize that, while he did say the first part, the second part was not real, it was how my persistent fear response heard it, and I had felt I was in mortal danger since I would not be able to do what he told me. So that’s how I stored the memory. The joys of an overly helpful amygdala.
If it’s any help, you probably leapt to that conclusion because he worked hard to ensure his tone and demeanor have that impression.
@@jupiter1217 Oh, absolutely. Among other things, he was extremely tall, and a gym teacher type. After the initial wave of memory, I knew pretty quickly that he had not threatened me overtly with physical violence, but I was not sure for a while that he hadn't intimated it in some way. As vague memories from my hippocampus started to overtake the initial amygdala-based recollection, I felt more certain this was not the case. He was too intimidating by half for my neurotype, but probably would have gotten the reaction he wanted from many kids -- modulated fear that would make them feel like they better do what he said -- and if they weren't PDA, they could.
One of the most useful pieces of knowledge that I've gotten from Robert Sapolsky is that the amygdala has its own memory storage, which is not accessible to the other parts of the brain. It's designed to allow for a fast, instinctive fight or flight reaction when you hear a rustling that may be the proverbial tiger in the bushes. I like this factoid because it both explains how the brain works, especially if you have heritable overactive flight of flight, and also shows that not all hard-to-access trigger memories are a result of repression. I imagine people can suppress a traumatic memory as a defense mechanism, but that's not the only way you can achieve hard-to-identify triggers. In fact, it was a troubling memory that I retained, absent the threat to life part, for many years, then it gradually faded. The "mortal threat" memory encoded in my amygdala remained, because those are more durable. Hence the fear of being called to the principal's office at 33 (the meme)...or 62.
That's what I mean by my triggers and whack-a-mole. That reaction, and that stored sensation of mortal danger, has not done my functionality any good over the decades. But my own version of CPTSD has less to do with the particulars of individual events, and more to do with my lifelong hypervigilant/fearful avoidant predisposition. It's been incredibly important to me to distinguish that in my own mind, otherwise I continue the trend of ascribing too much importance to relatively minor events.
I'm an INTJ-T. I love how the description says "At times, Architects may wonder whether dealing with other people is even worth the frustration".
During job interviews/assessments, I was, of course, always masking and kept the mask on when taking the personality tests. It was on one of these occasions that I had the feeling that I wouldn't get the job anyway, and decided there and then that I would do the last test unmasked. It was the Myers-Briggs. But (and here it gets slightly surrealistic) the lady from the agency thought that I had manipulated the Myers-Briggs as the result didn't correlate with that of the other tests...
you have to do these tests for job interviews? is that an american thing
@@helixxia9320 Nope, it is (was?) a Belgian thing. I stopped counting the number of times I did those tests over the years.
Not sure what the added value was.
You gotta bite the doctor to show you're in pain 😂
As someone who had to sit in those chairs... HATED THEM! Sensory hell. They were cold, static shocks from the exposed bolts, your thighs would stick to them in the summer, your hair would get stuck in the bolts on the back too!
Lol, I'm INFJ and Autistic. Also, yeah, the pain thing. When I was in labor, I was calm when I walked in, so they didn't think I was actually in labor. They stuck me in a room and nobody came for like 20 minutes. When someone finally came in and saw the fluids I leaked all over the floor, they were like, "Oh, you actually are in labor!" Like, yes, I wouldn't be here if I wasn't.
I get the ick from yogurt sometimes too. And I hate notifications! I have basically all notifications off besides email and texts, and I'm even annoyed by those (and it's on vibrate).
Omg this, I was already in hospital in the triage incase of early labour. I told the midwife I was having contractions closer together and thought I was in labour. And she was like the chart doesn’t show that and left, almost an hour later when she came back I was fully dilated and had to be rushed to the labour ward. There were other women screaming bloody murder or just groaning and looking in pain visibly that they would be prioritised. I just thought their pain must be worse than mine.
I'm an infj, think I have autism, and when I was in labour my mother-in-law and husband thought I was zen, I was having contractions
Omg! I had a former friend who loved Meyrs Briggs. She found out I was on the line between INFP and INFJ, and became obsessed with trying to research my personality type to fix our friendship. When what I really needed was just some space for my (likely) autistic brain to recover from her high-intensity super-extroverted visits. A therapist helped me communicate what I needed, and unfortunately that friendship did end. Interesting though that this friend was kinda but not quite on to something. I remember just wishing she'd talk to me or listen to me about what I need instead of trying to research who she felt I was.
Oh my goodness! I'm on the same line as you! INFX is what I was told. That feels kind of cool. lol
ok but let's talk about your dress ! I love it !!! with your black hair, it's a perfect match ! We stand for a fashion icon :p
also : without your videos, I'd never have realised I was autistic and how bad my masking was (because people still tell me, to this day, that I'm weird. To my FACE)
and f me, I am an INFJ omg xD
You’re so so kind!!! Thank you 🥰🥰
I really hope discovering more about yourself has helped you as much as it helped me 💛 Ahaha, yeah after all these years on earth I’m still often met with looks of confusion 😂
wahaha people have said the same to me and i notice it more now, which has its own pains, but yeah i am pretty bad at masking too~ people call me weird or quirky a lot.
(in process of setting consultation with a therapist to get work done tho)
I tried the whole "be in the present" and "focus on your senses" thing. Absolute worst feeling I have subjected myself to. Now I can feel that it's too hot and be hyper-aware of everything my body is doing and every single minorly uncomfortable sensory input all at the same time! And once I'm aware, it is very difficult to stop. It was the only thing a therapist tried to teach me that was not just unhelpful but also actively harmful!
"I don't wanna be your washing machine" - one of the most beautiful things someone I don't even know personally has ever said to me!
The opposite of John Cooper Clarke's "I wanna be your vacuum cleaner"
@@thrownstair Oh my gosh - what a legend that man is!
My weird autism spoon thing is that I really love circle spoons. Any spoon where the scoop isn't an oval but a nice perfect circle just really makes my lizard brain feel like it's chillin on a hot rock.
I think medical professionals are looking for nonverbal signs of pain. That's so ridiculous, because there are many reasons for people to appear pretty unaffected while they're in pain. I've had fibromyalgia and migraines for as long as I can remember, but wasn't diagnosed until adulthood. Before my diagnosis, so many people told me I couldn't possibly be in pain that I learned to conceal it. Now that I understand what's happening, I deliberately flinch when doctors are doing something to me that hurts more than it should. They respond very promptly to that. It's sad that I need to do that, but it helps me get the care I need.
Than what’s the point medic?!? 😓
I recently went to urgent care for something, and the doctor there actually trusted everything I said. If I said something hurt, she believed me without question. When I told her what my symptoms were, she didn't try to tell me what she thought they should be instead. She just listened, and adjusted accordingly.
It was so refreshing not to have to fight to get adequate care and to be trusted about my own experiences. I usually have to argue to advocate for myself.
It's really good to know that I'm not alone with various experiences (thanks internet). I avoid going to the doctor unless I really have to. Some years ago a had some pain in my leg (I think it was an inflammation of the hip joint), the pain was waking me up many times a night => had to find better position for my leg to lower the pain and continue sleeping. I was able to move the leg only in a limited range. I went to the doctor, explained the situation. She tried moving my leg, let me walk around the table. Took my crutches and let me sit in the waiting room for some time. Seemed like she thought I was faking it, but I didn't realize it back then. Then she returned my crutches and gave me a return paper for my general practitioner. I didn't even go there at first, but then GP called me and after explanation sent me to another specialist. He was better, inspected me properly and seriously, gave me some medication and after some time I was better.
medical professionals should know that pain doesn't always come with signs of pain.
my 3 scariest instances of pain, all unusual in pain reasons and ordered from least to most scary:
root canal with bad sedation, lowest of the 3 in actual pain but highest in pain sensation for me.
only time i genuinely screamed out in pain i think, having an unsedated nerve shredded and pulled out felt like having a rusty nail slowly driven into my soul.
rammed my head into a wall when i tripped going up the stairs, was taking many painkillers at the time because of a terrible toothache and ended up feeling nothing of the headache i knew i had to have.
scary not being able to feel how badly your head is damaged, ended up being fine even though the impact felt like it could seriously scramble my brain.
and the worst pain I've never felt was breaking my wrist(and twisting it for x-rays)
this is best described by sharing how my brain and my conscious mind experienced it.
conscious reaction: my muscles feel a bit stiff after that fall, beter go to the doctor.
my brain's autonomous functions: fatal error! sensory overload! shut down all non-vital systems!
a broken bone to me feels like a sore muscle, but somehow it's enough that it can overpower sight, hearing, and equilibrium, causing me to temporarily go blind, deaf, and nauseous
there are medical conditions that completely disable pain sensations, medical professionals should know this and account for this possibility.
Yeah . . . .I have very little pain reaction due to chronic pain, I can Walk pretty uneffected while being very dizzy and basically Not seeing anything, due to practise since childhood and never getting taken seriously . . .the fact I stay calm IS that reacting Like ITS new or whatever costs Energy I plain do not have
The yogurt thing is a problem for me as well. 😅 If I eat a bit of it it's fine, but if there's a lot of it in the tin, the more I eat the more grossed out I get.
Yeah 😅
Same situation with me lol
Same, except I've learned to eat anything despite the icky feeling, after being told that it can cure celiac. (it's bs, celiac can't be cured, only treated with a glutenfree diet)
I'm like that with pudding, I don't do jello
I can handle yoghurt if and only if it has a uniform texture and consistency, and it can't have anything in it like fruit or chocolate or whatever. So I pretty much can only do those dessert flavor ones. Defeats the purpose of eating yoghurt though lol
Also, syringing ears - I actually quite enjoy the process, but I do it myself because I can't function being deaf for two weeks while waiting for another appointment. Basically, I soak it in Earex for 10 minutes, then use one of those small syringes you get from Boots (can't generate enough force to do any damage). It's really rather satisfying when it clears out!
*IMPORTANT NOTE*: If you're going to do this, always use warm, body-temperature water; you don't want the experience of doing it with cold water, believe me. Also, if you read this comment and give it a go, bear in mind that you're taking medical advice from some randomer on the Internet. This is not necessarily wise.
I clean my ears out at home, too! I use one of those baby nose sucker ball things. And I put some hydrogen peroxide in first for a minute before clearing everything out with water. *Is also random internet non-doctor*
thanks lol
a teaspoon of olive oil works too, actual home remedy my doctor and the doctor's assistant have told me about on separate occasions in preparation of getting my ears cleaned.
now i mostly do it myself, got some drinking game syringe with a modified nozzle and if it doesn't work i put a drop of olive oil in my ear every day for a few days and try again.
About the chair thing. Here in Finland, due to changes in the national curriculums since 2016, schools are slowly being remodelled as physical environments. One of the smaller changes is that students get chairs with wheels that work like those spinning basic office chairs. In 2017, I did my student teaching in a school that had just gotten its new furniture and there was very little disturbances. I mean sure, most kids DID spin some but it really wasn't a point of misbehaviour or trouble at least in the classes that I taught. Of course, many other changes are not as autistic/ADHD friendly (or kid friendly in general, I'd argue) such as less closed classrooms and more open, flexible spaces with often more people in them at once and less structured timetables for the school day. I mean open offices do not work for adults in workplaces but "surely the kids will the fine right?!" But that's a separate thing, but the chairs not a problem from what I saw.
Argh. Avokonttoriratkaisu kouluissa kuulostaa pelottavalta. Kuinka kukaan enää pystyy keskittymään?
@@fraktaalimuoto Monilla lapsilla (ja opettajilla) onkin siinä kuulemma vaikeuksia. Itelle tuli korona-aika heti valmistumisen jälkeen vastaan ja sit päädyinkin aikuisopetukseen töihin eli en oo opetusharjoittelun jälkeen tehnyt yläkouluissa töitä. Mut tuttujen mukaan kuulemma pahimmillaan aika villi länsi, kun hommia tehdään hälysillä käytävillä ja remontoidussa luokkahuoneissa saattaa olla tyyliin seinät pelkkää ikkunaa.
I assume the deal with open floor plans is a result of office workers in the 90s hating cubicles. At least culturally. Child me thought having a cubicle seemed perfect: my own space with clear boundaries and the freedom to put cute knickknacks and pictures up. Enough privacy to stim quietly as needed without bothering anyone too, now that I'm thinking about it. Though perhaps one factor in the change may be the space saved by cramming people around a table: three feet of space with no boundaries vs 5x5 with walls I guess.
Spoon for cake . . . hmm . . . I see that. However, it seems that, for getting those last crumbs, there would be an extreme risk of SCRAPING against the plate. Me, I prefer a fork, I just moosh it against the crumbs and get them squished in between the tines, then (TMI...) suck them off the fork. Um. I . . . should not have shared that? Probably.
I'm autistic. I'm also an architect. So I know chairs. From designer chairs to utility stools and everything in between. So I almost lost my sh*t with the Autism torture device chair thing.
You see, years ago I bought a Herman Miller Areon chair as an aspirational thing. Despite the torture it inflicted, I used it for for over a decade because I thought it was beautiful. Nevermind the horrible indestructable plastic pellicle "fabric" that wore-out the seat of my pants and felt like sitting on razor blades. Nevermind the arm-rest that refused to stay ajusted. Sitting in it felt like getting kicked in the spine. Reclining felt like getting hit in the back by a bus.
But it looked so COOOOOOL!!!......
...and it SPUN!...
=D
Spinning is...a definite plus. All chairs should spin, in my opinion. I also prefer a chair that lets me put just the front of my foot on the floor and rapidly jiggle my whole leg up and down. That's one of my preferred stims.
Someone needs to start designing Autistic chairs.
Pretty sure everyone would love them, they'd b hot items
Yeah I got so angry at teacher on time for not letting me sit in the sofa meanwhile my EX friend also needed that but we both could have probably fit in that thing
Nowadays till now I have taken chair what I sit in for granted so luxurious and the other chairs are sure better than in primary school
but are not spinning and the textiles make me sweat in the long run
You know, masking is kind of like what pets/animals do. They know predators are out to get them, and you don't know that your pet needs to go to the vet until they're about ready to pass over the rainbow bridge.
After you mentioned the whole personalities and things I decided to re-do the test after focusing more on my inner self recently. I went from being the mediator (INFP-T) to the turbulent logician. And after a bit of digging these seem to be common among autistic individuals. And I relate with a bit of both. I approach things with logic aswell as emotions sometimes. The one thing that makes sense is not my favorite artist apparently had this personality type. But also I'm told by many I'm too law obedient. And by that I mean, I sometimes adhere too much to laws and regulations. Like crossing only on zebra crossings if available. Or doing things the legal way. I'm the party ruiner who says stuff like: "Ya can't walk around like that! It's illegal! Put some clothes on!" and I always feel scared of breaking the law. Logic is my forte I'd say even if sometimes I'm pretty illogical.
Oh my GOSH!!! The way you explained the feelings with food is soooo relateable!! I always feel like I'm not fully paying attention to what I'm eating because of sensory stuff with food. I've lost about 30 pounds in a year without trying because of issues with food like sensory stuff and just all of a sudden feeling bored or not hungry enough to try to eat that thing right in front of me. Eating feels like it takes so much energy. I've used snack type foods to help with this that don't have as many sensory issues with it. It's helped me to just keep the weight where I'm at.
I'm a spoon user for cake 100% it's just neater and cleaner that way. I'm also an INFJ autistic lol. And I feel ya on people not taking your pain seriously. Women are already taken less seriously by medical professionals but adding autistic on top of that and they act like we're an unfeeling block wood undeserving of care or respect. It's soul crushing.
Oh my goodness, the pain thing! I have a genetic condition that has caused me a heck of a lot of pain and other symptoms since I was about 3 years old (or at least that’s the first time my mum was aware enough of it to first take me to a doctor about it) but wasn’t diagnosed until my 30’s. As a child my mum had to teach me to ‘look likes I was in pain’ when I was being examined by a doctor and I also had occasions when people like teachers would refuse to believe something was wrong because I ‘wasn’t behaving how children who are in pain behave’.
When I left the appointment after finally getting my diagnosis where the doctor explained in detail what was going on with my body causing the symptoms, my mum, who had been to the appointment with me, turned to me and said, I always thought you couldn’t possibly be in the amount of pain you said you were but I understand now that you are’.
Even now, years later, I still still learn new things about the condition and think ‘wow, that explains that thing that I never even told anyone that I was experiencing’. And sometimes they are pretty bad symptoms that I really should have been getting treatment for!
One thing I definitely found interesting to learn is that the comorbidity of my condition and autism is fairly common.
do you mind sharing the name of your condition? I'd like to learn more about it
Every time I do one of those personality tests I come up with something different. But yeah the 'Tism puts a whole new light on all that and I think the answers I gave were just a reflection on the amount of masking I was doing or maybe it was burnout. I feel your pain wrt to the ear wax issue, which I caused by shoving earplugs in too far and pushing wax on to the eardrum. Now important stuff. Splades are an Australian eating device like a spork but betterer. They are the superior eating device for all cakes, pasta, dim sims and everything in between. Now ,I'm off to eat some yogurt with mango while doing breathing exercises.
and I just did the personality test again for the first time since I discovered I'm autistic and made a conscious effort to answer in an unmasked fashion and this time got INFJ-T. So I think you might be on to something here. The T for Turbulent could be the ADHD.
Where does your yogurt fall on the Myers-Briggs test? 😁
@@TheCimbrianBull probably from a great height and splatter everywhere
@@Warspite03 😅🤣😂😁
I did the personality test and my results came out as INFJ 😂. I’m only self diagnosed for autism though and I am getting my evaluation tomorrow.. not really looking forward to a 2 hour drive though.. 😭
I've been thinking about your laundry trouble. I'm not autistic, but I have a frontal lobe brain injury. There's a lot of overlap between my symptoms and autistic traits.
Anyway, a strategy that I use for a different task is a small but brightly colored reminder sign on the wall where I'll easily see it. I cover it with a wall colored card when I don't need the reminder, and only uncover it when I do need it. It helps a lot!
I always get INTP which feels very accurate to me... I once got INTJ, but never F. I am super analytical. Incidentally, I am also PDA. So I guess there's a spectrum or something. 😉💜
I’m autistic and I’ve never liked the myer-Briggs tests since they never had a middle ground because I can be fairly logical but I also am very engrossed in my fantasies. And I was never good at answering the questions when they had 5 options from very good to very bad and some questions are hard to answer because there are different ways to interpret it
YES on mindfulness!!!!! My reaction has always been “you want me to be MORE aware of what I’m feeling and what’s happening around me?” It’s like: “focus on that kidney stone! Embrace the debilitating agony!”
Aaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhh, you reminded me, on my birthday, no less, of what I'm certain from lots of experience, that I've got them in both kidneys! Thanks😂
Oops, I did not mean to speak of rope in the house of the hanged, sorry!! I didn’t choose that example by accident, been there, may be there again one of these days. 😩
The way she explained it made me think mindfulness is just a way of training neurotypicals to pay attention to stuff or be conscious of stuff at an autistic level but without the overwhelming part of it we experience, sensitivity to things, etc.
"Neurotypicals, imagine what you could achieve if you didn't blindly block out so much useful information and blindly chase after subconscious social crap! To you, we present, 'Mindfulness'.*
*Warning, excessive daily application of 'Mindfulness' will result in serious trauma, psychological scarring, excessive anxiety, possibly leading to several disorders, deterioration of physical health and social rejection. But enjoy because you'll never have the focus to get to that level" :)
@@markwright3161 you ought to make drug ads in the US, though you need a few more scary warnings read off at an absurdly fast rate to be competitive 😜
@@strictnonconformist7369 CW: SH Just have to add in the (very real) risk of death in there to make it scary.
(Autistic people are apparently way more likely to die from suicide than the general population).
i legit started to feel gross just cause you pointed out thinking about eating while i was eating. the last thing i want to do is focus on my inner sensations
Oh nooo - sorry!! I hope you can finish 💛💛
I'm an INTJ. I am of the opinion that logic leads to better decisions than emotions. But I did think the description for INTJ was spot on with me.
Edit: I misremembered, I'm ISTJ. Thanks to the result, I now know to avoid some pitfalls that often come with my personality type, such as stubbornness. If the shoe fits, why not wear it?
However, I'm aware that some if not most people get results from this test that only kind of fit, or don't fit very well at all. In that case, feel free to disregard the result and any advice based on the result.
"If any man is able to convince me and show me that I do not think or act right, I will gladly change; for I seek the truth by which no man was ever injured. But he is injured who abides in his error and ignorance."
- Marcus Aurelius
Same story for me as an INTP.
Hey, you guys know that stuff is totally made up BS and has absolutely no science behind it, or involved with it in anyway?
It's actually very ironic that you say you think logic leads to better decisions, because believing in something that is entirely made up without any proof what-so-ever, is a very illogical thing to do. You're relying entirely on your emotions, that want for it to be true.
Sorry.
I will always be bothered by the mistaken assumotion that logic and emotions are completely orthogonal or that logic is somehow superior to emotions. Logic is only useful after initial assumptions have been made; by itself, logic is largely useless and can often be abused to cause harm.
@@litterbox2010 I’m an INTJ and yes, I know MBTI isn’t scientific at all. But it’s still a good way to describe one’s personality if it happens to fit someone. It’s how I found likeminded people before learning about autism. No reason to be rude towards the original poster. Maybe your own emotions got the best of you… not sure why!
@@justinwatson1510 Anything can be abused to cause harm. But it usually takes emotions to want to cause harm.
I've done that personality test many times over the years and I'm always INFJ.
I've recently been figuring out that I'm probably autistic. I have days when everything you say I'm like "me too!" and other times I feel like I'm an imposture and I don't relate to ALL the things, so I can't be... 😅
I struggle with mindfulness. No thank you on thinking about what I eat too deeply. The first breathing things I ever did I felt like I was holding the breath for soooooo long and I couldn't breathe. I kept thinking it was impossible.
11:37 yeah, if I allow my mind to focus, I will feel my teeth existing, my toes touching, my bones existing, my clothes making contact with my skin, and my hair pulling on my scalp, and star breathing manually, and it will lead me to a full blown anxiety attack.
I've never really done mindfullness because I'm already so hyper aware and I am afraid of being even more aware
Your timing is immaculate! I was just binge watching your videos earlier today and then got a bit sad because I ran out of videos I hadn’t seen before. 😂
I love your content, thank you for the amazing videos and the work you put into them. 💛
My favorite videos!
So glad you like them!
Going off the medieval times meme, I’ve thought about this before and I have a theory that women w autism typically mask more than men w autism because you would have been killed/tortured if not masking in those times. Evolution of a survival mechanism 😢
mindfulness is a strange thing. the first time i tried it was exactly like u said. i nearly panicked. #1 if i think about the process of eating, it grosses me tf out i cannot. #2 paying attention to every. single. detail. of every. single. thing. is overwhelming. there are too many things & they are already Too Much (apparently bc autism.) then after about 20 years of trying & giving up meditation i finally understood what i was supposed to be doing & it clicked & it helps so, so much.
I debate if I will ever connect with it. There are two ways in which it could not work for someone: one is that the approach is simply wrong for an individual’s neurotype. Two is that the explanation someone (in this case, a therapist) is giving to the person does not make sense to them. Since explanations that make sense to me often leave others cold, I am very conscious of the second, and I have to say that the language that seems to resonate with therapist neurotypes is a non starter with me.
There’s one more possibility I can see: that there are things that a person has to take care of first before they can make something else work. Maybe I need to learn to regulate better using other strategies before I can avoid overwhelm from mindfulness techniques. Or - and I have experienced this - I have to process for a long time before I am able to see something from the vantage point where it actually makes sense to me.
@jimwilliams3816 i totally get all of that. part of what had me stuck is that it wasn't being explained to me in a way i understood. this way? the way you focus on every single detail of every single thing? that's not it.
i guess i could have said i finally found a method that was explained in a way my brain could grasp & worked for my brain. i've even incorporated a sort of gentle, non-interruptive swimming so i'm not sitting there fidgety & uncomfortable.
i'm not saying meditation & mindfulness are for everyone, ofc not. but i do think there could be more ways to make it more accessible to neurodiverse brains.
Gentle swimming sounds like it makes a lot of sense. If I had somewhere to do that, I think I would try it. Semi swimming in a shallow area is about the closest I think I’ve come to meditating...and for that matter, swimming in a positive way. As near as I can tell I’m so repressed, all my stims are like anxious bursts. Either that or I do have a touch of Tourette’s. Thanks for the suggestion!
I hate, hate, hate how therapists dismiss me because I speak so matter-of-factly. Like, yeah, of course I look okay! Because if "being good at CBT" was an actual indicator for being able to live with depression long-term, I simply would not be here! I'm so good at it! So naturally I'm flushed into a spiral of intense emotions, completely disrupting my life, and going back to the next session absolutely unable to keep myself together, suddenly THEY BELIEVE ME. I am so tired. And yes, I test INFJ consistently.
Fun fact! If it hasn’t already been said-people think that autism would explain the idea of changelings to people back in the day. This knowledge that autism has always existed changed my thoughts on vaccines-thanks historians!!
How interesting!
my microwave beeps when you press the stop button, so i love to line up the beep of thr stop button with the beep of the timer finishing! im an INFP-T but im kind of scared to re-test because i see myself as an INFP a lot
p.s. i use a fork because it feels better in my mouth
Most microwaves have a setting that disables the beep entirely.
I have Crohn's and I've unfortunately had both ends of the doctor experience on a lot of occasions. If you're not emotional enough they won't help you and if you cry or scream in pain then you're "over-reacting". I've basically learnt to try and have a "Doctor mask" where I have to calmly explain my symptoms and exactly how much distress it's causing me while sounding authentic and not too emotional. It's honestly the worst. I can't control my reaction if I'm in extreme pain and sometimes I have something that is really disabling but it's not currently happening that moment so I struggle to convey how bad it is.
For a positive thing though I had a hospital procedure this week where the people were SO lovely, they were really kind, explained everything and promised to stop immediately if I felt distressed (which they did) and they held my hand because it made me cry. It made such a difference and I appreciate their kindness so much. I wish every experience of mine had been like that.
"i worked this out my whole life looking for the truth and i found it through my own hard work and the UA-cam algorithm" I died , i cried laughed. You are always funny but thats the best part of these video. and is so fking truth 😭😂
The gaps at the back made the chairs even more uncomfortable! I was squirming around all day, too!
I pretty much self-diagnosed myself with social anxiety only to find out I have general anxiety (specifically around social situations) so I was right. I just didn't look at the bigger picture. I'm also autistic so that may explain the specifics.
Ok explain more please
Omg I do the microwave thing. Ill6 always have my eye on the countdown so I can stop it at one
The pain one is me. Broke my wrist but no one believed me because I wasn't crying like a baby.
Yeah, feel that.
The sock!! Yes perfect illustration of masking.
I couldn’t do myres briggs. It caused a meltdown and then the course leader threatened to kick me off the work course I was on where doing it was required.
The fork meme bothered me because I need to PICK THEM UP - the weight in my hand is really, really important to my choice because if it weighs wrong I have to think a lot harder about using it right. Sigh!
"don't tell me when to breathe" I felt that 😭😂
I think I was an INFJ in college, but I haven't taken the test in a long time & it can actually change over your lifetime. Cool fact nobody asked for 😂
I relate to being ignored when in pain as an autistic person. I’ve been made to suppress my emotions to fit in and one of them is pain. So, now people think I’m not in pain when I am (until I throw up from the pain). I also have earwax buildup and use these little scoop cleaners and special ear cleaner to prevent them scraping it medically.
The social rules and being taking seriously... JEEZ. The night of my 29 birthday (three weeks ago) the wife of my father (I refuse to call her mother in law, she does NOT deserve it) gave me a graphic novel that I hated way before that day. And I could not fake that I didn't like the present. She started screaming at me because of my attitude and my face and said to me that "well, fake it, as everyone does, I deserve it because how much effort I put looking for a thing you would like". I could't fake it, she took it personally and she didn't freaking care when I told her that I had a very rough week of being depressed. She just wanted the fake "Oh, I LOVE IT!!". Even knowing that I'm autistic, depressed, medicated, with two therapists and no stable job whatsoever. All she did was screaming "what about ME!?".
And I told that to my grandma and she said that yeah, you should LEARN to fake it, as everyone does. Well, I CAN'T.
These people you speak of need to get over themselves. Keep telling the truth. It will be there whether you fake it or not.
Even when you know how to fake it, when you have learned how to mask perfectly... there are days you simply can't. This is stupid, someone should have told her to fake beeing fine with someone not liking her gift, god damn. Why should you be compassionate for her, if she isn't for you
I would get INFJ and INFP alternately every time i took it. It drove me nuts that i couldn't be the same each time taking the quiz
Chairs in school are one of those many topic, where everyone just acts like improvement isn't possible and like you're not even allowed to criticise it too much.
I remember having just one teacher who indirectly aknowledged that replacing all the chairs with uncomfortable plastic chairs, when you could have just bought less expensive and more comfortable office chairs was a bad decision.
I am INFP, but I had the same experience!
Same!
At last check, I was INFP.
Same
Cakes, if you choose to use cutlery, are definitely a fork food. Spoons are for things that are significantly liquid, like cereal or soup. Besides, you can smoosh the crumbs together between the tines and eat the last bits that way, no waste.
Thank you, it is nice to hear someone talking that gets it. I often feel no one in the world understand the words that I am speaking, or how I see things. You bring joy into the world, keep kicking butt!
I can totally relate to getting a job just so you could fix one bug. But I would probably find so many things I wanted to fix that I would stay for years.
I felt the same way about my Myers Briggs result (INTJ) because it does describe me so very well. I was 18 when I took it back in my first year of college (1995), and it's hasn't changed in almost three decades. There were some things about me that it just couldn't explain though. Once I stumbled across some adult autism videos back in early May I had that "OH SH*T!" moment that I might be autistic. I do notice that a lot of autistic people are FJs though.
Seems like there are lots of INTP's in this comment section.
Yes. All pf this😊
I am a psychology nerd and that personality test has been my life for the better part of the last decade. I have been an INFP every time I take the test. That meme discribed me too 🤣🤣 I always say I can be a pushover, but don’t piss me off. I will be a tiger and my voice will NOT be silent. I won’t fight you physically but you won’t like what I say to you. I am a cusp of P and J though, so it makes even more sense!
2:17 My autistic self senses a character from my special interest in that pfp
You’ve awakened my autism
I'm a INTJ and I think its description fits me quite well.
About PDA, a couple of week ago at work, we needed to do some online courses on cyber security, but the courses were guide by some kind of video AI. So you needed to write it in a some kind of fake WhatsApp interface your answers. If you didn't answer correctly the AI told you you were wrong and that you can't go on until you answer correctly and I lost it!!! Don't tell me what to do, stoopid machine. Then I started to hit the keyboard and it replied "I can't understand you, please try again". AAAAARHHG!
On the spoons and forks, the thing I dislike is eating food that I require to use knife and fork while eating. I usually cut everything at the start of the meal or cut with the side of the fork. 100% spoons for cakes.
1:06 And the amount of likes it got so far matches the spirit…
yeah, I'm that guy who alertly watches the microwave at 00:01, waits just a tinsy bit more and then manages to stop the microwave before it can go BEEEEP-BEEEEP-BEEEEP!!! :) Truly a life saving skill, I'd say :D
the best part about being autistic and having autistic friends is you can minmax your knowledge by just infodumping at eachother until we somehow learn everything the other person did
INTP-T the logician, 89% introverted, 74% intuitive, 59% thinking, 54% prospecting, 56% turbulent thats me the Aspie. Personally i preger to est with chopsticks, and only use spoons if i eay something that cant be eaten with them.