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The bible actual encourages a marriage to be a two strong cord. Real Christian couples love working and depending on each other to grow in Christ. The bible says listen to your wife and glean off her Keep biblical Is this really a biblical site
My son who is a narcissist married a narcissist and 2 of their daughters are narcissist, it's a nightmare of a family, I completely shut them all out, a bit lonely but no longer sick to my soul anymore. Getting better everyday.
I can totally relate! My narcissistic brother married a narcissist, and their children are also narcissists. There was strife at every turn. I could not take the constant upheaval, and I finally cut them off. We have not spoken for many years, and they live just a couple of miles from me. I have always felt guilt over that, but Kris Reece's videos are really helping me to understand what is going on; it has been so freeing!
Seems like u r a little quick to label an entire family as narcissistic rather than see them as individuals. If a “child” is a narcissist as a result of a narcissist parent- is the child REALLY a narcissist OR perhaps they are actually TRYING to establish boundaries for themselves and u could be a sweet refuge for them rather than just walk away entirely. I have addicts in my family and I HAVE begun a journey and meetings for myself but if I have a meeting for my own self help and then one of THEM wants me to do something they don’t NEED me to do then it has been said that I AM being a narcissist or selfish for trying to look out for my own peace of mind or sanity. Clearly I don’t know u or ur dynamic I’m just asking you to be aware that “self preservation “ is not the same as being a narcissist
@@ShawnAbbott-j4n I understood what you mean. You point is remarkable. Plus, We should be always questioning ourselves whether it's me being narcissists or them. If not, then we become the narcissists itself. Only narcissists never questioned themselves. I have a cousin, she grow up with narcy father, my uncle. She is trained to be evil also, but we should be stand with her. Not to leave her till that sickness totally invade her.
Shut the door and never open it again to those who are evil and mean. No one deserves to be treated that way. I'm praying for healing to anyone going through this. It's by far the hardest t thing I've ever had to do. ❤️
Deeply sorry you have been through this. It is soul crushing. I know my own daughter who has been an everyday part of my life since her birth. I have had my grandson everyday since his birth. Until last march when my daughter announced my grandson was now her prisoner and I was no longer needed. A hard discard causing my grandson and myself to grieve. My daughter takes pleasure in others pain and it is a form of control. My grandson was 7 at the time of my daughter's discard. My grandson loves the Lord with all his heart, mind, body and soul. He adores Jesus. My daughter tells him there is "No God" This cuts me and my grandson to soul. My daughter never married and has custody. My grandson's father has been out of his life for 4 yrs now. Please pray for our circumstances. I am asking for the Holy Spirit to bring conviction to my daughter and that she repent, be delivered and come unto Salvation in Jesus. Substance abuse is present too. She hides it well so she thinks. I will be praying for you beloved. Grateful we are here and praying for one another. In Jesus name by the shed blood of Lord Jesus through the power of the Holy Spirit 🕊️🤍✝️🩸 Amen
Idolatry. When we are doing things to please the narcissist it interferes with truly pleasing the Lord. I seem to recall an important commandment "You shall have no other gods before me." A life revolving around one person or ourselves and not God, is idolatry.
Narcissism also opens the door to angry out bursts because you can never "get it right enough" for them. The frustration builds up to a point where (and you are absolutely right), they use every thing against you despite knowing you did what they asked. But it is never, EVER enough. I was a people pleaser early in life with a narcissistic mother, and nothing pleased her. Then I married a narcissistic wife, between the two of them I was contemplating suicide. But God intervened! He healed my soul! Thank you for these great teachings!
The one thing I noticed the most was I was completely pulled away from my relationship with God and even reached a point of questioning my beliefs. Looking back, the entire relationship felt demonic in the sense that I felt like I was under some spell. I prayed one simple prayer for God to save me from that nightmare and a few days later it was over and I was on my healing journey. God brought me back to Him and opened my eyes to the truth, not only about the narcissist, but my own disobedience that led me down that path. He truly is a loving Father. 🙏
My delayed obdnce also in an area please pray as semi stray in that way he pulls my little beat up tugggg boat ⛵ to shore ⚓ and anchors many a g a I n tho we going on 1 oar still afloat ❤bcuz of the creator thank u Jesus truly we Wana come home amen
Endure until the end and you will be rewarded for your obedience to the word of God. He said if you lose anything doing it His way He will give you double what ever you have lost. Look what happened to Job. Stay Awesome!
I second everything you said. But I was so stuck that I had completely turned away from the voice and guidance of God and began trusting in man. He became a military chaplain and eventually stopped me and the children from going to church, reading our bibles, etc. so I can say I prayed and God gave me instruction or caused him to flee from us, but out of fear, I talked him into staying as my life had completely changed from the day we met. I was a mother of four at that point and was no longer just responsible for myself. My situation ended in attempted murder and a divorce. Now I am on my healing journey with my eyes wide open and pushing to obey the voice of God from here on out. Narcissist are truly on assignment by the enemy and are protected like a strongman. They seem to get away with it all. But they do have to face God at some point because every knee shall bow at the end of it all
They are protected like a strongman? That resonates with my experience with my narc..is there supporting scripture for that concept that I can study? I truly see darkness on him at times and sometimes I smell brimstone when his cycle of abuse begins. When he rages I call out for "them" to be gone undervthe power and authoeity of Jesus Christ and the rage turns to lecturing and asvthey leave it turns to his self insight on his own behavior. Tell me if tjis man has demons working through and protecting him. He ckaims to be a neliever, he reads scriprure constantly, preaches and teaches Me constantly but has very telltale habits that such a string believer would not have. Im a believer and I study and Im in trouble. I think Im supposed yo take care of him - long suffering, etc...but he has taken over my life in So Many Ways.
Self-doubt, low self esteem,abandonment, self pity, self harm, lust, pride. These can creep in due to abuse from a partner. We must stay prayed up, keep fasting and-praising and worsting God daily.
Absolutely I am living it though my drug addict son it's terrible he me that I needed to go to church I said ok let's go but he doesn't go and I have no car and he's not in church
One verse that helped me understand we should not let ppl walk all over us was Jesus' simple command that we are to "love others AS we love OURSELVES." He didn't say to love others MORE THAN ourselves, but rather AS we love ourselves.
no, we not must pray fot them. It is dangerous, we dont have that power and the right to do that. They are more demons than humans so ... Jesus did not pray for demons.
When I was going through my divorce a few years ago, my ex being what I believe to be a covert narcissist or borderline personality disordered person (which seems very similar); when I finally agreed to divorce her God gave me a supernatural peace that lasted for hours until I went to bed and as I was going to bed I was laughing with joy. I was very confused and asked God why would you give me this peace and joy right after I agreed to a divorce that I even at that moment did not want. Over time and through information like in this video I can see that God does not want us to live in turmoil and he wants us to be able to look to Him instead of a spouse for all our validation and needs. Good stuff.
I experienced a similar peace when I finally saw the truth after years of praying that God would reveal it to me. It was like a huge weight was lifted off of me, and it was evident in my attitude and appearance. The love that God has for us is greater than we could possibly imagine, and He only wants the best for us, not a toxic, abusive relationship. I did not make my decision lightly, but by asking God for discernment and clarity. Keep seeking Him for the answers, and let Him direct your path. He will show you the way.
Wow, I had a similar experience. I was praying in the Spirit concerning my now ex -husband and even though I was very grieved, while praying, I began to laugh and said, "we are going to look back on this and laugh." Satan will not have the victory over us, even though he sent his best to destroy us! I imagined Satan saying, "I couldn't get her with this, this, or this so I'll put an enemy in her house and overwhelm her." Even though it had a devastating effect, I still have the victory!
@@thenarethechildrenfree I think the reference here is about a special place rather than an entrance into Heaven. Teri seems to be referencing something like receiving one of the five crowns one can get in Heaven.
This is a tough thing to get away from when the parent was the primary narcissistic relationship in your life right from the day you were born. You can always end up doubting your interactions with people. Praying and staying close to God certainly helps.
I left my toxic husband because I was getting physically ill and mentally abused. Through prayer and love and support, listening to Kris and Dr Ramani, I have healed and on my own with peace and love surrounding me.
Faith is truly the only armor against the enemy. I keep faith. As a single mom things are hard on me both of my sons are autistic and I’m constantly struggling to provide the basic necessities for them especially now that I’m homeschooling them because my hours to work are limited. I suffered an heart attack two years ago and I’m battling lupus my health isn’t the best. Yet God gives me strength. I will keep faith as I constantly struggle to pay bills and I constantly struggle to buy groceries for my children. The devil wants me to give up. But I know God Gives His Hardest Battles To His Strongest Soldiers. Jesus is King and I will serve him no matter my struggles.
There is alot of people with autism with UA-cam channel. Maybe you can communicate with them to get some information to help ease your mind. My first born was attacked by medical community with Vax. I watched him get hurt by Vax. Reported it to medical establishment. Doctor only got offended. Gaslighting is response for medical malpractice. 👈😊
Praying for you and your two precious sons! Your message reveals the depth of your struggle but you are uplifting with your own words of encouragement. God bless and keep you and yours!
Philippians 4. To be at peace even suffering needs. Hebrews 4. Enter into Jesus rest. Your prayers is what keeps you attached to the Vine. Run tell Jesus run to the Mercy Seat till you have the peace Beyond all comprehension. There is nothing more powerful than the awareness of the presence of God All Mighty. Stay Awesome!
The destruction of clean pathway for the narcissist to get saved and delivered is continually butchered, and the enemy's stubbornness just carries on to hound you. Narcissism is that bad that no amount of empathy or decency seems to ever reach them who are the host to a parasitic demon
I am so glad I'm not the only one who was raised by a narcissist mum. Everyone I tried to have a relationship with was a narcissist too! I'm finally living for God and no relationship with anyone, for now.
Pastors who are narcissists are the absolute worst! They are self centered, not Christ centered. Their charisma and charm leads their congregations astray. Seminaries should really be doing some testing and weeding this personality out. They should never be allowed to be in a pastoral position. They do so much damage!
You ARE Speaking The Truth. I've confronted a few of them, with appropriate scripture, and it's shocking how humble and loving they APPEAR to be before their flock.. .until an anointed man confronts them with "it is written". Then they'll use the pulpit as a bunker, hiding behind it, firing a machine gun spray of subtle, masked counterattacks against any man who DAAAAAARES attempt to enlighten them where they err..... .....relentlessly, until he finally leaves! They spew their self glorying, self preserving, self serving twisted concocted theology, handling God's word deceitfully, to maintain dominance over "their" subjects.
Hi from South Africa 🇿🇦 my Mom was a covert Narc and I unwittingly married a grandiose narc... So 50 years of narcissistic abuse under the belt I agree with everything you said and the Lord warned me about 6 and 7... Especially 7. We really need to submit to JESUS and He will show us all the traits that have latched onto us. There is Power in His name to overcome 🎉🎉🎉
Good video. It’s astounding to me the negative energy these people emit as soon as you’re in their presence. It’s affects you. All their body language, smug answers, facial expressions, etc…it’s constant disapproval and disdain for your being. I’m almost out. Less than a week to go. I have stayed way too long with too much abuse. I just want to find myself again, who I am in God, heal and move forward from it.
I get sick at my stomach every time I’m in my daughters presence, as are all her young children!! There’s a demonic hateful spirit she exudes. Pernicious and sickening.
Your triggered into the abuse of abandonment _ usually done to a victim by the ponzi snake oil salesmen to con u out of something they want but don't have the skills to acquire them self. The mob, the gypsies, the carnaval, the bankers, the politicians, the pharasees, the people who aspire to be the king of the castle at the Trumen show_know the tricks of the trade _ they even write books on their NLP Social Engineering wet dream barbie house they live in. I remember watching a documentary on Michael Jackson where he walks through a store and orders almost every expensive statue in the store _ was like 800,000 cash out _ watch his face as he lives in the barbie house_ looks like a permanent constipation.
Guard your ❤️. Also, block if you can and limit exposure. And do a deliverance prayer to break soul ties and trauma bond. I attract Narcisssists like a magnet.
5:13 I suffered in two narcissistic relationships for over two decades and also had other narcissistic relationships in my life as well... I could see the destructive nature of these relationships, but could never leave because though they put me through heck, they were the only family I had... I remember crying out to God one day, believe when I was 40, (I'm 42 now), but I cried out to him "What is wrong with me, why do I love those who treat me horribly, do whatever to me and I quickly forgive them and without any apology, we just go back to normal, I wanted to know what is wrong with me that I love those who mimic they love me, but their actions say they hate me"... It was at that moment that God started leading me to videos like these and after decades of my life, I have the answers and he is teaching me how to overcome these toxic bonds...
God bless you. I totally get what you said. I was doing the same n wondered if I was sick because it's something like masochism. It really is demonic. I went to a few healing masses, fasted prayed and surrendered myself to Jesus. If you don't want that for your children and family you should not want it for yourself to be under someone's abuse.
4:00 "codependents are classic mood-monitors that pride themselves on "feeling" others' feelings...my friends this is not a superpower....this is a demonic distortion to what healthy interdependent relationships should look like." This is helpful to me because I always thought I was just intuned to others... but if I'm understanding right, you're saying that I pay more attention to others' feelings than is normal because I'm too busy trying to meet needs and solve problems that nobody asked me to and that aren't my responsibility Not sure I know what normal should look like but I believe God led me to your channel to help me 💜
Normal interpersonal relationships _ respect, mutuality, reciprocity, dignity, supportive growth where your at and where the other is at. Walking together, smelling the flowers feeding the birds and praising Jesus. PEACE.
This was my question. I’ve been able to feel others feelings/energy since I was younger even people I don’t know. And if I’m out in public it can be overwhelming. It’s actually heavy at times and not something I ever asked for. I’ll need to look into this more from a biblical perspective because that statement confused me.
Precious one, you're in my prayers tonight. In so very sorry, but once it is over, you will indeed soar like an eagle!! I know someone who is suffering too and I also grew up with covert and malignant narc parents and siblings. These narcs are a different kind of human. Half demon half human. Their only humanity is their flesh. I hate that, and I believe through the power of Jesus Christ they can become a new creature!! HOWEVER, a big FAT however, they must want to see their sinful ways and want to turn away from all of their self driven passions. It's like they're addicted to themselves and hate anyone who gets in the way of that. It's cruel, criminal to the heart, mind and spirit. 2 Tim 3 describes them very well!! God says, "of these, turn away from them"... Love our enemies, yes!! But remember, Jesus NEVER made then His friends!!! Pray for them!! Oh God have mercy o them. When I think of this person spending eternity in hell, my heart is in great sorrow for them so I must pray for God's mercy!! I do pray God works a great tidal wave of convicting cleansing within them for theirs and their family's sake!! God does hate divorce, but He also hates when devils attack His sheep!! He hates willful lawlessness... we must do right, speak, right and live out right. Pray for one another. Give mercy and kindness to as many as we can... this world is getting worse bc people are " lovers of themselves more than lovers of God". However, "every knewe shall bend".... every knee!! Let us already be kneeling in our hearts to Jesus when He comes because their knees will have to be broken. Let us live in Christ enduring faithfully with our knees always bent to Jesus, now
My parents did turn away!! God has endless mercy for them. They both gave their hearts to Jesus!! And they did become renewed and a NEW CREATURE in Christ Jesus!!!! "Behold a new thing I have done, the old is past away "!!! "Your past is left in your behind" Said Pumba ; The Lion King😇🕊🤣🤣
Reactive and overly intense emotional responses to what I perceived as mind games, not being listened to, or my boundaries not being respected. It lead to bouts of rage and lashing out towards people, who meant no harm. I had to re-learn that not everyone was messing with me. There were also doors of doubting God that opened and it took a long time to heal back to Jesus, as the narcissist in my life was Christian but would use scripture against me and to justify his behaviour. I knew nothing of narcissists before him, so it took way too long to figure it all out. But by God’s grace & lots of therapy, you can get back to where God feels safe & you are yourself but stronger and wiser.
Addiction is definitely a coping mechanism that many develop to survive the extinguishing of our needs, wants, and desires in a narcissistic relationship.
Trust God First....we should learn this from our parents and how and why Society should teach us to trust God first. Trusting people first is always going to lead us into chaos and confusion.
I walk out this journey in the rest of God Almighty....He ordered my steps therefore fear not little Ones....No confussion at all, I have the mind of Christ 🎉❤
"...both of these mindsets leave God out of the equation". I needed to hear this today! I have been working in the "get my power back" mindset. It hasn't really felt totally right inside to do so, but believed I needed some feelings of victory. So... taking charge of what was in my world was the answer to letting the narcissist and her flying monkey (both formerly in my inner circle at work) know they no longer had power over me. BUT - what you said showed me this: while I have been talking to God pretty much nonstop about this journey away from the narcissist and her minion, I was trying to do too much of the physical and emotional detachment behavior by myself. I "knew" I needed to surrender and forget about it all, letting God take care of me, the situation AND them - but haven't totally done it. That element to walking away from a Christian narcissist is as important as walking away from the non-Christian narcissist, but harder because... "Christian". Still, narcissism is narcissism, no matter what prettier and more attractive label the narcissist wears. Thank you Kris Reece for this excellent video. The timing of it was absolutely perfect for where I am right now!
I broke out of a narc relationship that was only 17 months long. It's been 8 months and I still can't stop thinking about how badly this person treated me. I find myself angry and even embarrassed of how she had me behaving, so foolish and weak. I find myself thinking about it everyday since and have even prayed to have it stop. It does not stop even in the middle of the night I wake up angry and can't sleep obsessing over it. Please pray for me ppl. I really need this removed from me.
I am only 3 months out of mine. I am still so so angry. Sometimes I feel so worthless. He had me so shameful and doubtful on who I was... so unlike myself. God brought me through. You're not alone. Praying for you!
I understand and what really helped me was deep therapy. I promise you once you put in the work the embarrassment goes away. I used to wake up middle of the night too just so ashamed and feeling disgusted.
Praying for you had the same thing happen and went back ! Harder now to have the strength and means to go. ! Don't do it . Don't look back Don't go back to Egypt or Gomorrah or what ever that insanity is.
Running over the kind gentle compassionate people. Narcs are church leaders, worship leaders! We know someone who went to their pastor for help, he turned on her and actually supported thr malignant covert sociopathic narc husband!! He made life much much WORSE for her. Basically, this pastor gave her husband permission and encouragement to abuse her even more! This woman is precious, kind, gentle. Now she sleeps in another room with her door locked. Now she wakes up with a body so tense she feels like she ran a marathon the day before! Now she is nervous every time she is home. This was a happy,content, serving loving gentle soul that this narc trashed, berated. Oppressed, smashed smashed smashed every day all day long then turns to the world, flashes his "charm" , wears his Jesus T shirts, "reads" his Bible and wins an Oscar every day for acting like a sheep. Then he gets rewarded for it!! Yet, he I'd angry and angrier bc her spirit is NOT broken! He has tried to take her safe people away. He attacks her safe people, hoping yo destroy them too. This human is inhuman. He goes after her humanity to destroy it bc, he thought she would be his slave bc of her gentle spirit!! But what someone like him does not understand is that gentle does not mean stupid or CONTROLLABLE. Bc he has NO identity he can't understand that her identity can not shaken or unmade. Bc she truly has Jesus, loves Jesus Christ's he can't destroy her or beat her enough to become a voiceless slave. Know who we are in Jesus Christ. They can hurt the body, but they cN not destroy the Holy Spirit within God's True Believers!! Hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah!!!
That’s just crazy. Yes, I was abused by a worship leader I had to work with a long time who is a covert “christian” narcissist. I can’t imagine what his wife goes through God please help her. He seemed like a decent worship leader until he would act like a baby any time he wanted something until someone gave it to him. Since he wasn’t my boss I could resist ridiculous requests and eventually he let loose his character ripping, confusing, abuse when we were alone wanting to “have a conversation.” He turned those unaware of his narcissism against me and so no group meetings to solve any problems worked. So I cut him off, told him I don’t trust him, and stopped talking to him except when I had to until I left that church. The whole audio team knew who he was. If he gets any resistance to his wishes his nature comes out eventually. What is worse is that his fingers of narcissism is throughout the leaders at that place. There are so sweet then when you try to have a conversation with someone about something that can be improved or someone didn’t do what they said, instantly it’s met with a brick wall and you do what I say mentality. So sad.
Thank you Kris, this is wise Biblical advice. I used to have a counselling group on Maui called Maui's Healing Room from Toxic Relationships. It was basically to help people understand NPD and to help them know that they weren't the sick one, but rather a target for narcissist who look for loving, kind, forgiving, patient, generous and empathetic people. Which in reality, is a wonderful compliment to us as people. But because of these things we are a target for the enemy. So as beautiful as we are in our spirit, we must put on the "whole armor of God".🙏🙏🙏
Yeeees!! Our daughter was a magnet to the one she married. Once he married her, ( was very covert) he took off the "nice guy" mask. He was never unselfish. But bc she does not need much, very content with herself and life, she didn't know the trap she stepped in was ALL COVERT AND, as she has learned and taught us, that he is a very malignant, wolf in sheep's clothing sociopathic narc. Came from very covert narc mother-- whom is interested with. And the father who is malignant. Women have no value other than slaves and swx objects. Deplorable and disgusting human beings. Everyone to these narcs are currency. Their value is " what they can do for me, what they make me look like and how they make me feel". When you don't fall into their unspoken/spoken demands, and demands to KEEP their illusions/facade-- you become their enemy. If you figure out who they really are-- they attack you, smear your character with zero respect care for the truth of who you truly are, how much love or generosity you have e given them. They will seek out your family, church, even your pastor to flash their "innocent" smiles, present themselves as sheep in a "victim" mask to the very nice, ignorant unlearned Christian leaders. Pull them into their tractor beam of "charm" and place a spell in these people to belive their every disgusting pathetic lying evil spirit. They must act like sheep to get near the sheep... but some sheep smell the wolf under their sheep clothes!! All TRUE believes must be watchful!! Especially leaders and be quick to say NO, GET OUT!! Jesus Did!! MANY TIMES! The problem is many church leaders are a bunch of cowards. Lacking faith. They let evil infiltrate their churches bc they are too afraid, faithless to stand and say NO! Many wives are being destroyed every day. Many children are hurting deeply. Wives go their pastors asking for help.but some who are either narcs themselves or just do not have Holy Spirit discernment actually fall into encouraging these demonic possessed spouses to ABUSE THEIR WIVES even M O R E. We know a pastor who told the husband "who cares abt the dog, just shoot it"!... all bc the wife said the husband locks the dog in a tiny room, is cruel to the dog... (just a small example of her husband's behaviors)... what did the husband do? Well, the idiot pastor gave him permission to abuse the dog further. Now the dog shivers all the time. Is afraid of its own shadow. So we are rehabilitating the dog with love and gentleness and acres and acres of freedom to run and enjoy bring a dog. This is also how he treats his wife. He imprisons her emotional. He bashes her opinions, her feelings, her needs and wants. He stripes her of her humanity. She is not allowed to spend money without fear. She has shown she is respectful with money,but he does not care. Yet he goes out and buys new things,spends a lot of money on himself. The list goes on and on and on. It's pure evil. Then he goes to church! Wears his Jesus T shirts and reads his Bible-- right after he bashed and berates her. Oh and he holds their two old when he fights her. Tells her she's crazy. Yells at her. Tells her everyone thinks she's crazy, her family, friends, the church people. She has tried to reach out ask Pastor to help her. Did he help her? NO! The puke is a narc HIMSELF!! So he helps the narc! Narcs always pal up with other narcs--"scratch my back and I'll scratch yours"... walk away. Draw the line. Dust off your feet!! Pray the blood of Christ over you, in you, around you!! The power of His Resurrection upon you!! No weapon formed against you shall NOT PROSPER IN JESUS CHRIST'S NAME!!! PRAY PSALM 50, 90, 90, 119!!! OUTLOUD!! In Jesus Name!! In Jesus NAME! Hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah!!!!
If Jesus wasn’t my anchor myself and my children’s lives would have been ruined long ago. Nothing about my life is self made- I owe EVERYTHING to Lord Jesus ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
In the quest to find peace and be married "till death set us apart" and also protect the children from feeling uncared or used as image building toys, I never realised how lost I was. Praying for years for a shift to a loving relationship I longed for so much. Yes, all of the above. God becomes the spouse and Jesus a painkiller. I honestly couldnt differentiated between pleasing God or pleasing a spouse or parent since the bible tells me to honor both. Limits? That's what I learnt that started to open my eyes to a new reality. I just pray that my life can glorify God more than my wounds 🤲
I worry about the suspicion. I'm not ready to date yet after being out of a 7 year relationship with a covert narcissist. I've been single for a year and a half and still not ready. The kind, loving things she said and did turned out to be lies. Tonight I found a stash of old Christmas cards in the Christmas deco box and had some from her in there. In addition to all the other loving things she wrote, the last card said that she was excited to be able to spend all the rest of her Christmases with me. She had to be planning it out since she left 6 months later to the day. One week before leaving she gave me a Father's Day card that went on about how much she loved me and how grateful she was to God for sending me and great a husband and father I was. I'm concerned that one day I will find a legitimately loving woman but won't be able to trust her when she is telling the truth about loving me.
I am currently going through the very same thing and I felt as though I will never ever let another man back into my life again. But when I look back on things that's not the real issue. The issue is trust. I am unable to trust and believe others again. Yet my heart yearns for real genuine love
@@dainieljones7862 I hope you can find the healing you're looking for. I'm ready to date now but as long as it's casual. I'm still not ready for a serious relationship and don't mind being single for now. I pray that God brings you the healing you need.
Enmeshed into others narcissistic tendencies leaves you living below your potential 💥 they block your blessings keeping you distanced from whatever you seek. I can see why its referred to as demonic distortion so to speak , by allowing yourself to be controlled or dominated by evil energy.
You did a great expose of the giving tree book. A demonic door can be giving of yourself through self neglect whilst always focusing on others, depleting yourself completely over time.
I’ve been experiencing these unfortunately. I’ve discovered MULTIPLE narcissists in my circle of friends and family. The influence we humans can have on one another is real. It is why advertising works. Just think about that how you don’t know you want something until it’s been presented to you VIA media.
Same here. 28yr marriage and my narcissistic wife decided she wanted to act like she's 30 and single again. I'm shocked at how much emotional and mental damage she has caused in my life. Satan is right there waiting to pounce on your down days.
I came to God at the end of my 7 year long relationship with my Narc. He was using the church to demonize me, but God had bigger plans. There is no other entity or person or thing bigger and powerful than the living God of Abraham.
I was married 3 plus decades to a covert narc. God did not open my eyes to him. And his narc family till I needed. I also come from child hood abuse And I realized lotsa my emotional tramma comes more from him or my past abuse. God helped me set boundaries in my marriage ect when he got sick. And God protected me and I see it more after the fact than at the time. Thx for all ur knowledge and esp from a christian aspect.
“For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers of this darkness, against evil, spiritual forces in the heavens.” Ephesians 6:12 CSB
I think one of the doors is Fear. I find myself fearing to do things so my ex his ex husband wouldn’t find out what is going on in my life and with that wouldn’t find ways to harm me. And I know that those are devil’s tactics so I would live in fear! But I remind myself- God is in control! He promised to take care of us(my son and me) and He never fails His promises! ❤
Thank you especially for the last point. 👍❤️ I am a victim of a victim of narcissism who (talking about myself here) also developed some narcissism along with confusion plus not knowing who I am... but the Lord has given me my identity and has helped me overcome much of the bad traits and of the confusion and I'm still growing in Him and through Him. ❤🤲
This is truly sobering - wish they taught this in school. It took me addiction to drugs alcohol and sex suicide ideation and a nervous breakdown to finally ‘get’ the narcisstic family cult system. Now Buddhist and sober - wow - there are some sick ones out there
What i see with a freind encapsulated in a narrcisstic relationship was violence. Henever realized he did anything wrong! I once saw his face change,brow drop dowb,&eyes turn black. I left there trailer right away. I had to get in my houseand settle down what i had just seen.
This is so true. God is a true healer and the only one who can pull you out. It’s in Him that I have been able to not break. Our friend the Holy Spirit is a true friend that the Lord gave us, Jesus said I give you my peace not as the world gives it for a reason 🙏🏽
June 1, I will be standing up (sitting mute in my recliner, not grounded to my room) to a narc and her monkey, as she visits “her” dad, on hospice, in my house. I appreciate all prayers…
That's a good video to use as an inspection of our lives... In the area of Confusion, another reason I have seen in my life and others who are in a narcissistic relationship where people become confused, is that we recognize we are not perfect people and so we are constantly thinking that somehow it's us and yet there is nothing outside of the normal boundaries of relationship goof ups that you can point to. To this day, I am always evaluating what I may have done to cause it to fall apart. I ALWAYS land on the same thing that I did nothing to cause such a disastrous relationship to end like it did. And the next day, I'm back at it again. It can be real cause for confusion as well as the reasons you stated. Thank you for these videos. They are helpful!
Not if you find out what a evil Nimrod they really are and you break free from them then their demons cannot clean to you because you cast them out. Those that Messiah free are free indeed. But those who support the narcissist no matter how evil they are are the ones that really have to worry because they are really scattering abroad and not gathering together and those are the ones who will be possibly being having a nasty record on the day of judgment.
I’m out! I left a comment right before I left I left Dec 10 today is March 22. I came out like fire, now the last few weeks I’m tired. It takes a toll on you. I’m sorting through and praying for mercy and blessings. I returned to this cesspool against Gods will and I paid dearly. Stay out! Don’t punish yourself or bring your life under a curse like I did.
What I noticed is that since the narcissist rejects me and dismisses me I subconsciously expect the same from God. It's skewing all my relationships. It's like a door of rejection was opened. I just want to be free but I keep going back and forth and I get disappointed with her actions several times a week.
My husband is 44 I’m 25 he is a narc and not the only one in my home or family. You save me Everytime seriously it’s like I see so clear. I’m praying for this to work but I see divorce is inevitable they don’t want to change you can’t stop them it’s pointless
This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Kris-would you consider discussing elderly narcissist parent (s) and being trapped in caretaking or giving that over to God? My family is in the midst of abuse by a single chaotic covert narcissist right now and trying to find a way to protect ourselves.
I'm in the same situation, it's heartbreaking, I hope this gets resolved for you. I am looking after my Dad that has dementia, my mother and brother are narcassists, they were making my life a living hell, I was like a little puppy always going back for approval and thinking they would change, they never do all I got from them was hate.I ignore them now and don't mix with them, I still look after my Dad he lives on his own.I have surrendered everything to Jesus, I'm in a much better place. God bless you.
My eyes are finally opening up. As I watched this video I can see where my wife and I have opened up these doors. This has affected our relationship, children, and home. This is so good to understand how the demonic strongholds manifest.
My demonic narcissist was a barmaid- i was trapped by her charm and beauty + alcohol, it was a awful mix,when i find out she was a narcissist i break free and i was relieved -now i quit my narcissist, alcohol-i'am super happy,sometimes i think about her but it's not an obssession anymore!!! it's no contact, i block her phone -game over for her !!!!!!!!
Goodness! I grew with narcissistic parents and a former marriage to a malignant narcissist with psychopathic tendencies. Only God got me out of that marriage safely. Thank you for teaching and guiding through the word of God.
Couple of open doors that God is helping me close. People pleasing Codependency Trauma bond Confusion Just watched your past videos on embracing who God made me to be trying to work out my God given temperament. I absolutely love your video's they have been eye opening a little hard to hear at times but I like that too how do we learn if no ones going to teach the hard stuff. Im so thankful God has gifted you with this. Now forgive me because i am not good with words but I do pray God's covering over you that you will remain strong and unshakable in this teaching. The world needs more deep, honest truth teaching. Thank you so much for all the time, effort, learning and research you put into these videos and then share for free. Im learning and growing in faith, wisdom and discernment with these clips showing me where to turn in the bible and how to turn to God. May God continue to bless you. Much love from New Zealand 😊
Thank You, what you say is very good. I live with a Narcopath (over ten years). He had tried to totally destroy me, however God did not let that happen. There is no way to get out, so I live with this person in silence because he is so ready to attack with demonic energy. My hope is in God that he will resolve the problem. Thank you again, may God be with you and bless you.
I pray for supernatural resolution for you. Meditate on Exodus 14:13 and Psalm 3:1. God can and will protect you. I pray for Deliverance from your situation. God bless you.
@@oliviaj765 Thank You for your response. Thank you, for your encouragement and good wishes for my life in Christ Jesus. Hope you have a great day and may God bless you too!
Suspicion, confusion, identity crisis, codependent, trauma bonding, mal adaptive behaviour, narcissism,. So true this doors I have been, but God we must lay our worry and ask the lord for guidance
It's crazy I've often found myself saying things I would of never said to anyone...let alone a woman. I wasn't raised that way. Did it to cope. After 10 yrs finally got out. Thank god and people like Kris that have taken the time to do these videos to help people like us.
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thank you, for all you speak about....it does help us...sincerely,steve
I believe the door opens to low esteem and accepting abuse
The bible actual encourages a marriage to be a two strong cord.
Real Christian couples love working and depending on each other to grow in Christ.
The bible says listen to your wife and glean off her
Keep biblical
Is this really a biblical site
Where is love keeps no record of wrong.
Forgiveness
Perseverance
Marriage is for life and needs to be worked at
Who is the narcissist really here
No devil in hell or narcissist on earth can separate us from love of God.
Amen 🙏🏼
True Dat!
That's right AMEN
Amen 🙏✝️❤️
Hallelujah! ❤️🔥
No weapon formed against me shall prosper. 🙏
That’s right Amen to that 🙏🕯️
Ya thats what my narc ex keeps saying
"Who can I trust?"
*Jesus.*
Truth
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Yes❤ jesus is 💯trust worthy God..
Yes, he's the only one who we can trust completely!
I'm sorry, but trust no person, only Jesus.
My son who is a narcissist married a narcissist and 2 of their daughters are narcissist, it's a nightmare of a family, I completely shut them all out, a bit lonely but no longer sick to my soul anymore. Getting better everyday.
I can totally relate! My narcissistic brother married a narcissist, and their children are also narcissists. There was strife at every turn. I could not take the constant upheaval, and I finally cut them off. We have not spoken for many years, and they live just a couple of miles from me. I have always felt guilt over that, but Kris Reece's videos are really helping me to understand what is going on; it has been so freeing!
Seems like u r a little quick to label an entire family as narcissistic rather than see them as individuals. If a “child” is a narcissist as a result of a narcissist parent- is the child REALLY a narcissist OR perhaps they are actually TRYING to establish boundaries for themselves and u could be a sweet refuge for them rather than just walk away entirely. I have addicts in my family and I HAVE begun a journey and meetings for myself but if I have a meeting for my own self help and then one of THEM wants me to do something they don’t NEED me to do then it has been said that I AM being a narcissist or selfish for trying to look out for my own peace of mind or sanity. Clearly I don’t know u or ur dynamic I’m just asking you to be aware that “self preservation “ is not the same as being a narcissist
@@ShawnAbbott-j4n Where there is constant strife and upheaval, there are narcs. No question about it.
Thats so brave...bless the lord
@@ShawnAbbott-j4n I understood what you mean. You point is remarkable. Plus, We should be always questioning ourselves whether it's me being narcissists or them. If not, then we become the narcissists itself. Only narcissists never questioned themselves. I have a cousin, she grow up with narcy father, my uncle. She is trained to be evil also, but we should be stand with her. Not to leave her till that sickness totally invade her.
Shut the door and never open it again to those who are evil and mean. No one deserves to be treated that way. I'm praying for healing to anyone going through this. It's by far the hardest t thing I've ever had to do. ❤️
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That is exactly what I did.😊
Amen and thank you
Deeply sorry you have been through this.
It is soul crushing. I know my own daughter who has been an everyday part of my life since her birth. I have had my grandson everyday since his birth. Until last march when my daughter announced my grandson was now her prisoner and I was no longer needed. A hard discard causing my grandson and myself to grieve. My daughter takes pleasure in others pain and it is a form of control.
My grandson was 7 at the time of my daughter's discard.
My grandson loves the Lord with all his heart, mind, body and soul. He adores Jesus.
My daughter tells him there is "No God"
This cuts me and my grandson to soul.
My daughter never married and has custody. My grandson's father has been out of his life for 4 yrs now.
Please pray for our circumstances. I am asking for the Holy Spirit to bring conviction to my daughter and that she repent, be delivered and come unto Salvation in Jesus.
Substance abuse is present too. She hides it well so she thinks.
I will be praying for you beloved.
Grateful we are here and praying for one another.
In Jesus name by the shed blood of Lord Jesus through the power of the Holy Spirit 🕊️🤍✝️🩸
Amen
I was living with a narcissist for 17 years and now I'm dealing with my daughter's narcissism... my goodness 💔💔💔
Idolatry. When we are doing things to please the narcissist it interferes with truly pleasing the Lord. I seem to recall an important commandment "You shall have no other gods before me." A life revolving around one person or ourselves and not God, is idolatry.
I never thought about it that way before your comment - thank you!
Yes, the Lord set that on my heart. No marriage or anything in this world is worth it or compares to God & His love
Amen!!! They want you to worship and be the center of your existence… push all things aside including God second to them. The devil is a liar
Also opens the door to the evil spirits of hopelessness, death, and suicide
Narcissism also opens the door to angry out bursts because you can never "get it right enough" for them. The frustration builds up to a point where (and you are absolutely right), they use every thing against you despite knowing you did what they asked. But it is never, EVER enough. I was a people pleaser early in life with a narcissistic mother, and nothing pleased her. Then I married a narcissistic wife, between the two of them I was contemplating suicide. But God intervened! He healed my soul! Thank you for these great teachings!
Got it, I can relate to your story. I'm a people pleaser, raised religious, Narcissistic mother, married an abusive husband. Sounds a bit familiar 😄
@christinwatson3037 same here and it is torture
Same here ❤
@@johnanderson8865 Ecclesiastes 7:26 KJV explains your journey... And mine.
God is definitely the best one to be attatched to.
The one thing I noticed the most was I was completely pulled away from my relationship with God and even reached a point of questioning my beliefs. Looking back, the entire relationship felt demonic in the sense that I felt like I was under some spell. I prayed one simple prayer for God to save me from that nightmare and a few days later it was over and I was on my healing journey. God brought me back to Him and opened my eyes to the truth, not only about the narcissist, but my own disobedience that led me down that path. He truly is a loving Father. 🙏
My delayed obdnce also in an area please pray as semi stray in that way he pulls my little beat up tugggg boat ⛵ to shore ⚓ and anchors many a g a I n tho we going on 1 oar still afloat ❤bcuz of the creator thank u Jesus truly we Wana come home amen
Endure until the end and you will be rewarded for your obedience to the word of God. He said if you lose anything doing it His way He will give you double what ever you have lost. Look what happened to Job. Stay Awesome!
I second everything you said. But I was so stuck that I had completely turned away from the voice and guidance of God and began trusting in man. He became a military chaplain and eventually stopped me and the children from going to church, reading our bibles, etc. so I can say I prayed and God gave me instruction or caused him to flee from us, but out of fear, I talked him into staying as my life had completely changed from the day we met. I was a mother of four at that point and was no longer just responsible for myself. My situation ended in attempted murder and a divorce. Now I am on my healing journey with my eyes wide open and pushing to obey the voice of God from here on out. Narcissist are truly on assignment by the enemy and are protected like a strongman. They seem to get away with it all. But they do have to face God at some point because every knee shall bow at the end of it all
They are protected like a strongman? That resonates with my experience with my narc..is there supporting scripture for that concept that I can study? I truly see darkness on him at times and sometimes I smell brimstone when his cycle of abuse begins. When he rages I call out for "them" to be gone undervthe power and authoeity of Jesus Christ and the rage turns to lecturing and asvthey leave it turns to his self insight on his own behavior. Tell me if tjis man has demons working through and protecting him. He ckaims to be a neliever, he reads scriprure constantly, preaches and teaches Me constantly but has very telltale habits that such a string believer would not have. Im a believer and I study and Im in trouble. I think Im supposed yo take care of him - long suffering, etc...but he has taken over my life in So Many Ways.
Yes, it feels like you're put under a trance, spell, cursed. Weird feeling.
Self-doubt, low self esteem,abandonment, self pity, self harm, lust, pride. These can creep in due to abuse from a partner. We must stay prayed up, keep fasting and-praising and worsting God daily.
Philippians 4. To be at peace even suffering needs.
Hebrews 4. Enter into Jesus rest. Stay Awesome!
Absolutely I am living it though my drug addict son it's terrible he me that I needed to go to church I said ok let's go but he doesn't go and I have no car and he's not in church
I would also add the spirit of rejection, control, unforgiveness, and anxiety.
The ex narcissist in my life drive me head first into God.
God did for me what I couldn't do for myself.
Amen
Thank you
Same ❤
So true only safe place
Movie byline - “You complete me.” - No, God completes us.
One verse that helped me understand we should not let ppl walk all over us was Jesus' simple command that we are to "love others AS we love OURSELVES." He didn't say to love others MORE THAN ourselves, but rather AS we love ourselves.
Yes
@@recoveringbaptist2023 Amen!
Narcissists use BB guns-the BB stands for “backhanded belittlement”
Yes, after scratching my head for 2 days, it dawns on me what they said: insidious and down in the inner parts. Poison ☠️
Wow yep....
Three personalities of a narcissist:
1) The facade
2) The demon
3) The broken child within
Pray for them, but steer clear.
Fact
no, we not must pray fot them. It is dangerous, we dont have that power and the right to do that. They are more demons than humans so ... Jesus did not pray for demons.
@@palapalak.8907 broken child within ... o are you sure? What is your argument for that? They are not at all broken or more broken than other people.
@@teodoradediu7971 Research narcissism.
Why aren't they broken? I believe so.
1. Suspicion. 2. Confusion. 3. Identity crisis. 4. Co-dependence. 5. Trauma bonding.
6. Maladaptive behavior. 7. Narcissism.
When I was going through my divorce a few years ago, my ex being what I believe to be a covert narcissist or borderline personality disordered person (which seems very similar); when I finally agreed to divorce her God gave me a supernatural peace that lasted for hours until I went to bed and as I was going to bed I was laughing with joy. I was very confused and asked God why would you give me this peace and joy right after I agreed to a divorce that I even at that moment did not want. Over time and through information like in this video I can see that God does not want us to live in turmoil and he wants us to be able to look to Him instead of a spouse for all our validation and needs. Good stuff.
Praise God, I needed to hear that!!! Be blessed in every way "set free" one!
We're happy for you, Michael! 🙌 Thank you for sharing. Blessings from Austin 🔥
I completely understand this peace! I am thankful you are free!
I hope I can get out someday.
I experienced a similar peace when I finally saw the truth after years of praying that God would reveal it to me. It was like a huge weight was lifted off of me, and it was evident in my attitude and appearance. The love that God has for us is greater than we could possibly imagine, and He only wants the best for us, not a toxic, abusive relationship. I did not make my decision lightly, but by asking God for discernment and clarity. Keep seeking Him for the answers, and let Him direct your path. He will show you the way.
Wow, I had a similar experience. I was praying in the Spirit concerning my now ex -husband and even though I was very grieved, while praying, I began to laugh and said, "we are going to look back on this and laugh." Satan will not have the victory over us, even though he sent his best to destroy us! I imagined Satan saying, "I couldn't get her with this, this, or this so I'll put an enemy in her house and overwhelm her." Even though it had a devastating effect, I still have the victory!
There must be a very special place in heaven for those of us who have been damaged by narcissistic people.
You are saved by believing in Christ, not ny having a bad life.
@@thenarethechildrenfree I think the reference here is about a special place rather than an entrance into Heaven. Teri seems to be referencing something like receiving one of the five crowns one can get in Heaven.
This is a tough thing to get away from when the parent was the primary narcissistic relationship in your life right from the day you were born. You can always end up doubting your interactions with people. Praying and staying close to God certainly helps.
Agreed, so easy to avoid for some. Not if your parent is a narcissist. You still have to interact in some respect.
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Many children are trauma bonded to a parent.
Sad. :(
I left my toxic husband because I was getting physically ill and mentally abused. Through prayer and love and support, listening to Kris and Dr Ramani, I have healed and on my own with peace and love surrounding me.
I pray this for my daughter way to go Emily praise God
How to do it.
My husband is so toxic too, mentally, psychologically and physically
Faith is truly the only armor against the enemy. I keep faith. As a single mom things are hard on me both of my sons are autistic and I’m constantly struggling to provide the basic necessities for them especially now that I’m homeschooling them because my hours to work are limited. I suffered an heart attack two years ago and I’m battling lupus my health isn’t the best. Yet God gives me strength. I will keep faith as I constantly struggle to pay bills and I constantly struggle to buy groceries for my children. The devil wants me to give up. But I know God Gives His Hardest Battles To His Strongest Soldiers. Jesus is King and I will serve him no matter my struggles.
There is alot of people with autism with UA-cam channel. Maybe you can communicate with them to get some information to help ease your mind. My first born was attacked by medical community with Vax. I watched him get hurt by Vax. Reported it to medical establishment. Doctor only got offended. Gaslighting is response for medical malpractice. 👈😊
God bless you. Sending prayers for you and your sons. Stay strong my sister in Christ!!
Praying for you and your two precious sons! Your message reveals the depth of your struggle but you are uplifting with your own words of encouragement. God bless and keep you and yours!
❤❤❤The Lord is on your side! He will not forsake the work of His Hands. Will add you and your precious boys to my prayers..
Philippians 4. To be at peace even suffering needs.
Hebrews 4. Enter into Jesus rest.
Your prayers is what keeps you attached to the Vine. Run tell Jesus run to the Mercy Seat till you have the peace Beyond all comprehension. There is nothing more powerful than the awareness of the presence of God All Mighty. Stay Awesome!
There is NO POWER stronger than the power of GOD. PRAY FOR 🙏 HEALING AND NEVER LET LOOSE OF YOUR FAITH❤
I just started a fast and I prayed just last night for Abba to deliver me from any remaining trauma bonding! Very timely vid.. thanks!
Keep praying to break the trama bond he did it for me he will do it for you! Stay away from them! You don't mix with satan!
How'd it go?
The destruction of clean pathway for the narcissist to get saved and delivered is continually butchered, and the enemy's stubbornness just carries on to hound you.
Narcissism is that bad that no amount of empathy or decency seems to ever reach them who are the host to a parasitic demon
I am so glad I'm not the only one who was raised by a narcissist mum. Everyone I tried to have a relationship with was a narcissist too! I'm finally living for God and no relationship with anyone, for now.
Pastors who are narcissists are the absolute worst! They are self centered, not Christ centered. Their charisma and charm leads their congregations astray. Seminaries should really be doing some testing and weeding this personality out. They should never be allowed to be in a pastoral position. They do so much damage!
You ARE Speaking The Truth.
I've confronted a few of them, with appropriate scripture, and it's shocking how humble and loving they APPEAR to be before their flock..
.until an anointed man confronts them with "it is written".
Then they'll use the pulpit as a bunker, hiding behind it, firing a machine gun spray of subtle, masked counterattacks against any man who DAAAAAARES attempt to enlighten them where they err.....
.....relentlessly, until he finally leaves!
They spew their self glorying, self preserving, self serving twisted concocted theology, handling God's word deceitfully, to maintain dominance over "their" subjects.
Exactly !!!
Amen and Amen!!!
They destroy marriages by convincing wives that THEY are their spiritual head, not their own stupid husband.
Wolf in sheep's clothing .💕🙏
Agree!! 💯
I am married to a covert narcissist. It only took me 7 years to discover what the diabolical problem was. I am saved and God shall deliver me.
Hi from South Africa 🇿🇦 my Mom was a covert Narc and I unwittingly married a grandiose narc... So 50 years of narcissistic abuse under the belt I agree with everything you said and the Lord warned me about 6 and 7... Especially 7. We really need to submit to JESUS and He will show us all the traits that have latched onto us. There is Power in His name to overcome 🎉🎉🎉
JESUS!!!
My story is similar. May Jesus bless and heal you!
Good video.
It’s astounding to me the negative energy these people emit as soon as you’re in their presence. It’s affects you. All their body language, smug answers, facial expressions, etc…it’s constant disapproval and disdain for your being. I’m almost out. Less than a week to go.
I have stayed way too long with too much abuse.
I just want to find myself again, who I am in God, heal and move forward from it.
I get sick at my stomach every time I’m in my daughters presence, as are all her young children!! There’s a demonic hateful spirit she exudes. Pernicious and sickening.
Your triggered into the abuse of abandonment _ usually done to a victim by the ponzi snake oil salesmen to con u out of something they want but don't have the skills to acquire them self. The mob, the gypsies, the carnaval, the bankers, the politicians, the pharasees, the people who aspire to be the king of the castle at the Trumen show_know the tricks of the trade _ they even write books on their NLP Social Engineering wet dream barbie house they live in. I remember watching a documentary on Michael Jackson where he walks through a store and orders almost every expensive statue in the store _ was like 800,000 cash out _ watch his face as he lives in the barbie house_ looks like a permanent constipation.
? are you out ? I fervently hope so !
Guard your ❤️. Also, block if you can and limit exposure. And do a deliverance prayer to break soul ties and trauma bond. I attract Narcisssists like a magnet.
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Demonic doors
Self doubt
Isolation
Fear
Depression
Anxiety
Loneliness
Despair
The list is actually endless
@@dr.manjugeorge3912 Yes, the list is endless, due to "the mystery of iniquity" in them.
5:13 I suffered in two narcissistic relationships for over two decades and also had other narcissistic relationships in my life as well...
I could see the destructive nature of these relationships, but could never leave because though they put me through heck, they were the only family I had...
I remember crying out to God one day, believe when I was 40, (I'm 42 now), but I cried out to him "What is wrong with me, why do I love those who treat me horribly, do whatever to me and I quickly forgive them and without any apology, we just go back to normal, I wanted to know what is wrong with me that I love those who mimic they love me, but their actions say they hate me"...
It was at that moment that God started leading me to videos like these and after decades of my life, I have the answers and he is teaching me how to overcome these toxic bonds...
@@Alert4adonai2ascendsoon Yes!!! Freedom is on its way, Amen...
They are the seedline of Cain.
God bless you. I totally get what you said. I was doing the same n wondered if I was sick because it's something like masochism. It really is demonic. I went to a few healing masses, fasted prayed and surrendered myself to Jesus. If you don't want that for your children and family you should not want it for yourself to be under someone's abuse.
4:00 "codependents are classic mood-monitors that pride themselves on "feeling" others' feelings...my friends this is not a superpower....this is a demonic distortion to what healthy interdependent relationships should look like."
This is helpful to me because I always thought I was just intuned to others...
but if I'm understanding right, you're saying that I pay more attention to others' feelings than is normal because I'm too busy trying to meet needs and solve problems that nobody asked me to and that aren't my responsibility
Not sure I know what normal should look like but I believe God led me to your channel to help me 💜
Normal interpersonal relationships _ respect, mutuality, reciprocity, dignity, supportive growth where your at and where the other is at. Walking together, smelling the flowers feeding the birds and praising Jesus. PEACE.
This was my question. I’ve been able to feel others feelings/energy since I was younger even people I don’t know. And if I’m out in public it can be overwhelming. It’s actually heavy at times and not something I ever asked for. I’ll need to look into this more from a biblical perspective because that statement confused me.
You got it! 👍
Sorry, but you and Kris are wrong here. Go look at my above comment to clarify this untrue statement.
Lust can be one opened by the narcissist...idolatry as well.
Narcs make you remind them of all the favors, sacrifices, help and assistance you provided for them.
Thank you so much! After 25 years, I've left my narcissist wife. I appreciate your words
I could only take 2.5 years. 25 years? I could not imagine the horror!
It's been 25 years for me with my nar... husband. Hoping to make the break soon! Keep me in your prayers for the provision I need to do so.
Precious one, you're in my prayers tonight. In so very sorry, but once it is over, you will indeed soar like an eagle!! I know someone who is suffering too and I also grew up with covert and malignant narc parents and siblings. These narcs are a different kind of human. Half demon half human. Their only humanity is their flesh. I hate that, and I believe through the power of Jesus Christ they can become a new creature!! HOWEVER, a big FAT however, they must want to see their sinful ways and want to turn away from all of their self driven passions. It's like they're addicted to themselves and hate anyone who gets in the way of that. It's cruel, criminal to the heart, mind and spirit. 2 Tim 3 describes them very well!! God says, "of these, turn away from them"...
Love our enemies, yes!! But remember, Jesus NEVER made then His friends!!! Pray for them!! Oh God have mercy o them. When I think of this person spending eternity in hell, my heart is in great sorrow for them so I must pray for God's mercy!! I do pray God works a great tidal wave of convicting cleansing within them for theirs and their family's sake!! God does hate divorce, but He also hates when devils attack His sheep!! He hates willful lawlessness... we must do right, speak, right and live out right. Pray for one another. Give mercy and kindness to as many as we can... this world is getting worse bc people are " lovers of themselves more than lovers of God". However, "every knewe shall bend".... every knee!! Let us already be kneeling in our hearts to Jesus when He comes because their knees will have to be broken. Let us live in Christ enduring faithfully with our knees always bent to Jesus, now
My parents did turn away!! God has endless mercy for them. They both gave their hearts to Jesus!! And they did become renewed and a NEW CREATURE in Christ Jesus!!!! "Behold a new thing I have done, the old is past away "!!!
"Your past is left in your behind"
Said Pumba ; The Lion King😇🕊🤣🤣
Reactive and overly intense emotional responses to what I perceived as mind games, not being listened to, or my boundaries not being respected. It lead to bouts of rage and lashing out towards people, who meant no harm. I had to re-learn that not everyone was messing with me. There were also doors of doubting God that opened and it took a long time to heal back to Jesus, as the narcissist in my life was Christian but would use scripture against me and to justify his behaviour. I knew nothing of narcissists before him, so it took way too long to figure it all out. But by God’s grace & lots of therapy, you can get back to where God feels safe & you are yourself but stronger and wiser.
Codependency not anymore
Trauma bounding is fading away
and I certainly don’t want to stay with him
Thank you❤️
Addiction is definitely a coping mechanism that many develop to survive the extinguishing of our needs, wants, and desires in a narcissistic relationship.
Trust God First....we should learn this from our parents and how and why
Society should teach us to trust God first. Trusting people first is always going to lead us into chaos and confusion.
@@jacquelinefroehle3583 golden words spoken
Amen. Be sober and vigilant! The enemy uses people to veer u off the path.🥴
I walk out this journey in the rest of God Almighty....He ordered my steps therefore fear not little Ones....No confussion at all, I have the mind of Christ 🎉❤
John 10:28
“And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.”
King James
"...both of these mindsets leave God out of the equation". I needed to hear this today! I have been working in the "get my power back" mindset. It hasn't really felt totally right inside to do so, but believed I needed some feelings of victory. So... taking charge of what was in my world was the answer to letting the narcissist and her flying monkey (both formerly in my inner circle at work) know they no longer had power over me. BUT - what you said showed me this: while I have been talking to God pretty much nonstop about this journey away from the narcissist and her minion, I was trying to do too much of the physical and emotional detachment behavior by myself. I "knew" I needed to surrender and forget about it all, letting God take care of me, the situation AND them - but haven't totally done it. That element to walking away from a Christian narcissist is as important as walking away from the non-Christian narcissist, but harder because... "Christian". Still, narcissism is narcissism, no matter what prettier and more attractive label the narcissist wears. Thank you Kris Reece for this excellent video. The timing of it was absolutely perfect for where I am right now!
Door of anger
I broke out of a narc relationship that was only 17 months long. It's been 8 months and I still can't stop thinking about how badly this person treated me. I find myself angry and even embarrassed of how she had me behaving, so foolish and weak. I find myself thinking about it everyday since and have even prayed to have it stop. It does not stop even in the middle of the night I wake up angry and can't sleep obsessing over it. Please pray for me ppl. I really need this removed from me.
I am only 3 months out of mine. I am still so so angry. Sometimes I feel so worthless. He had me so shameful and doubtful on who I was... so unlike myself. God brought me through. You're not alone. Praying for you!
I understand and what really helped me was deep therapy. I promise you once you put in the work the embarrassment goes away. I used to wake up middle of the night too just so ashamed and feeling disgusted.
Praying for you had the same thing happen and went back ! Harder now to have the strength and means to go. ! Don't do it . Don't look back Don't go back to Egypt or Gomorrah or what ever that insanity is.
This information is so timely. Narcissistic traits you described are running through our churches. Thank you for sharing God’s wisdom
Running over the kind gentle compassionate people. Narcs are church leaders, worship leaders! We know someone who went to their pastor for help, he turned on her and actually supported thr malignant covert sociopathic narc husband!! He made life much much WORSE for her. Basically, this pastor gave her husband permission and encouragement to abuse her even more! This woman is precious, kind, gentle. Now she sleeps in another room with her door locked. Now she wakes up with a body so tense she feels like she ran a marathon the day before! Now she is nervous every time she is home. This was a happy,content, serving loving gentle soul that this narc trashed, berated. Oppressed, smashed smashed smashed every day all day long then turns to the world, flashes his "charm" , wears his Jesus T shirts, "reads" his Bible and wins an Oscar every day for acting like a sheep. Then he gets rewarded for it!! Yet, he I'd angry and angrier bc her spirit is NOT broken! He has tried to take her safe people away. He attacks her safe people, hoping yo destroy them too. This human is inhuman. He goes after her humanity to destroy it bc, he thought she would be his slave bc of her gentle spirit!! But what someone like him does not understand is that gentle does not mean stupid or CONTROLLABLE.
Bc he has NO identity he can't understand that her identity can not shaken or unmade. Bc she truly has Jesus, loves Jesus Christ's he can't destroy her or beat her enough to become a voiceless slave. Know who we are in Jesus Christ. They can hurt the body, but they cN not destroy the Holy Spirit within God's True Believers!! Hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah!!!
That’s just crazy. Yes, I was abused by a worship leader I had to work with a long time who is a covert “christian” narcissist. I can’t imagine what his wife goes through God please help her. He seemed like a decent worship leader until he would act like a baby any time he wanted something until someone gave it to him. Since he wasn’t my boss I could resist ridiculous requests and eventually he let loose his character ripping, confusing, abuse when we were alone wanting to “have a conversation.” He turned those unaware of his narcissism against me and so no group meetings to solve any problems worked. So I cut him off, told him I don’t trust him, and stopped talking to him except when I had to until I left that church. The whole audio team knew who he was. If he gets any resistance to his wishes his nature comes out eventually. What is worse is that his fingers of narcissism is throughout the leaders at that place. There are so sweet then when you try to have a conversation with someone about something that can be improved or someone didn’t do what they said, instantly it’s met with a brick wall and you do what I say mentality. So sad.
Thank you Kris, this is wise Biblical advice. I used to have a counselling group on Maui called Maui's Healing Room from Toxic Relationships. It was basically to help people understand NPD and to help them know that they weren't the sick one, but rather a target for narcissist who look for loving, kind, forgiving, patient, generous and empathetic people. Which in reality, is a wonderful compliment to us as people. But because of these things we are a target for the enemy. So as beautiful as we are in our spirit, we must put on the "whole armor of God".🙏🙏🙏
Thank you... I needed to hear that.
Yeeees!! Our daughter was a magnet to the one she married. Once he married her, ( was very covert) he took off the "nice guy" mask. He was never unselfish. But bc she does not need much, very content with herself and life, she didn't know the trap she stepped in was ALL COVERT AND, as she has learned and taught us, that he is a very malignant, wolf in sheep's clothing sociopathic narc. Came from very covert narc mother-- whom is interested with. And the father who is malignant. Women have no value other than slaves and swx objects. Deplorable and disgusting human beings. Everyone to these narcs are currency. Their value is " what they can do for me, what they make me look like and how they make me feel". When you don't fall into their unspoken/spoken demands, and demands to KEEP their illusions/facade-- you become their enemy. If you figure out who they really are-- they attack you, smear your character with zero respect care for the truth of who you truly are, how much love or generosity you have e given them. They will seek out your family, church, even your pastor to flash their "innocent" smiles, present themselves as sheep in a "victim" mask to the very nice, ignorant unlearned Christian leaders. Pull them into their tractor beam of "charm" and place a spell in these people to belive their every disgusting pathetic lying evil spirit. They must act like sheep to get near the sheep... but some sheep smell the wolf under their sheep clothes!! All TRUE believes must be watchful!! Especially leaders and be quick to say NO, GET OUT!! Jesus Did!! MANY TIMES! The problem is many church leaders are a bunch of cowards. Lacking faith. They let evil infiltrate their churches bc they are too afraid, faithless to stand and say NO! Many wives are being destroyed every day. Many children are hurting deeply. Wives go their pastors asking for help.but some who are either narcs themselves or just do not have Holy Spirit discernment actually fall into encouraging these demonic possessed spouses to ABUSE THEIR WIVES even M O R E. We know a pastor who told the husband "who cares abt the dog, just shoot it"!... all bc the wife said the husband locks the dog in a tiny room, is cruel to the dog... (just a small example of her husband's behaviors)... what did the husband do? Well, the idiot pastor gave him permission to abuse the dog further. Now the dog shivers all the time. Is afraid of its own shadow. So we are rehabilitating the dog with love and gentleness and acres and acres of freedom to run and enjoy bring a dog. This is also how he treats his wife. He imprisons her emotional. He bashes her opinions, her feelings, her needs and wants. He stripes her of her humanity. She is not allowed to spend money without fear. She has shown she is respectful with money,but he does not care. Yet he goes out and buys new things,spends a lot of money on himself. The list goes on and on and on. It's pure evil. Then he goes to church! Wears his Jesus T shirts and reads his Bible-- right after he bashed and berates her. Oh and he holds their two old when he fights her. Tells her she's crazy. Yells at her. Tells her everyone thinks she's crazy, her family, friends, the church people. She has tried to reach out ask Pastor to help her. Did he help her? NO! The puke is a narc HIMSELF!! So he helps the narc! Narcs always pal up with other narcs--"scratch my back and I'll scratch yours"... walk away. Draw the line. Dust off your feet!! Pray the blood of Christ over you, in you, around you!! The power of His Resurrection upon you!! No weapon formed against you shall NOT PROSPER IN JESUS CHRIST'S NAME!!! PRAY PSALM 50, 90, 90, 119!!! OUTLOUD!! In Jesus Name!! In Jesus NAME! Hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah!!!!
If Jesus wasn’t my anchor myself and my children’s lives would have been ruined long ago. Nothing about my life is self made- I owe EVERYTHING to Lord Jesus ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
In the quest to find peace and be married "till death set us apart" and also protect the children from feeling uncared or used as image building toys, I never realised how lost I was. Praying for years for a shift to a loving relationship I longed for so much.
Yes, all of the above. God becomes the spouse and Jesus a painkiller.
I honestly couldnt differentiated between pleasing God or pleasing a spouse or parent since the bible tells me to honor both. Limits? That's what I learnt that started to open my eyes to a new reality. I just pray that my life can glorify God more than my wounds 🤲
I worry about the suspicion. I'm not ready to date yet after being out of a 7 year relationship with a covert narcissist. I've been single for a year and a half and still not ready.
The kind, loving things she said and did turned out to be lies. Tonight I found a stash of old Christmas cards in the Christmas deco box and had some from her in there.
In addition to all the other loving things she wrote, the last card said that she was excited to be able to spend all the rest of her Christmases with me. She had to be planning it out since she left 6 months later to the day.
One week before leaving she gave me a Father's Day card that went on about how much she loved me and how grateful she was to God for sending me and great a husband and father I was.
I'm concerned that one day I will find a legitimately loving woman but won't be able to trust her when she is telling the truth about loving me.
I am currently going through the very same thing and I felt as though I will never ever let another man back into my life again. But when I look back on things that's not the real issue. The issue is trust. I am unable to trust and believe others again. Yet my heart yearns for real genuine love
@@dainieljones7862 I hope you can find the healing you're looking for. I'm ready to date now but as long as it's casual. I'm still not ready for a serious relationship and don't mind being single for now. I pray that God brings you the healing you need.
Enmeshed into others narcissistic tendencies leaves you living below your potential 💥 they block your blessings keeping you distanced from whatever you seek. I can see why its referred to as demonic distortion so to speak , by allowing yourself to be controlled or dominated by evil energy.
Fantastic teacher.
Narcissist mother leaves self hatred in their children especially the scapegoat
You did a great expose of the giving tree book. A demonic door can be giving of yourself through self neglect whilst always focusing on others, depleting yourself completely over time.
God is the only one to help us not to get sick after having been near a narcissist. With Him, we are saved of all badness.
I’ve been experiencing these unfortunately. I’ve discovered MULTIPLE narcissists in my circle of friends and family. The influence we humans can have on one another is real. It is why advertising works. Just think about that how you don’t know you want something until it’s been presented to you VIA media.
THANKYOU! I love how well you communicate and bring in biblical truth! Well done! Your helping millions of people!
I'm so glad you're being blessed by the videos. Thanks so much for sharing :)
Spot on! Pride. Unforgiveness. Hate. Lust. Selfishness.
This was so accurate, at least for me. 😢 One step forward, two steps back. Praise God for His healing ❤️🩹
Same here. 28yr marriage and my narcissistic wife decided she wanted to act like she's 30 and single again. I'm shocked at how much emotional and mental damage she has caused in my life. Satan is right there waiting to pounce on your down days.
I came to God at the end of my 7 year long relationship with my Narc. He was using the church to demonize me, but God had bigger plans. There is no other entity or person or thing bigger and powerful than the living God of Abraham.
I was married 3 plus decades to a covert narc. God did not open my eyes to him. And his narc family till I needed. I also come from child hood abuse And I realized lotsa my emotional tramma comes more from him or my past abuse. God helped me set boundaries in my marriage ect when he got sick. And God protected me and I see it more after the fact than at the time. Thx for all ur knowledge and esp from a christian aspect.
Thank you Lord for protecting me through that ordeal.
I am in your service forever.
W
“For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers of this darkness, against evil, spiritual forces in the heavens.”
Ephesians 6:12 CSB
I think one of the doors is Fear. I find myself fearing to do things so my ex his ex husband wouldn’t find out what is going on in my life and with that wouldn’t find ways to harm me. And I know that those are devil’s tactics so I would live in fear! But I remind myself- God is in control! He promised to take care of us(my son and me) and He never fails His promises! ❤
Thank you especially for the last point. 👍❤️
I am a victim of a victim of narcissism who (talking about myself here) also developed some narcissism along with confusion plus not knowing who I am... but the Lord has given me my identity and has helped me overcome much of the bad traits and of the confusion and I'm still growing in Him and through Him. ❤🤲
Whew!!! This video is FILLED with wisdom and Truth-bombs!!! 💣💨👏🏼👏🏼❤️🔥🙌🏼🤲🏼
Stay connected to yourself, no matter what .
Golden words spoken
Nice to hear something about narcissism from a biblical standpoint. Thank you.
Suspisious, confusion, identity crisis, codependency, trauma bonding, maladaptive behavior, narcissism
Kris you are spot on and thank you. When you grow in the word and ask for his strength. You will be heading in the right direction. Thank you 👆
I fell into evil. Praise God for leaving the 99!
This is truly sobering - wish they taught this in school. It took me addiction to drugs alcohol and sex suicide ideation and a nervous breakdown to finally ‘get’ the narcisstic family cult system. Now Buddhist and sober - wow - there are some sick ones out there
What i see with a freind encapsulated in a narrcisstic relationship was violence. Henever realized he did anything wrong! I once saw his face change,brow drop dowb,&eyes turn black. I left there trailer right away. I had to get in my houseand settle down what i had just seen.
My narc would actually say ‘my friend’ a lot. As helpful as this information is, inserting that as often as you did, was incredibly triggering for me
“and forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us. And don’t let us yield to temptation. ””
Luke 11:4 NLT
This is so true. God is a true healer and the only one who can pull you out. It’s in Him that I have been able to not break. Our friend the Holy Spirit is a true friend that the Lord gave us, Jesus said I give you my peace not as the world gives it for a reason 🙏🏽
June 1, I will be standing up (sitting mute in my recliner, not grounded to my room) to a narc and her monkey, as she visits “her” dad, on hospice, in my house.
I appreciate all prayers…
That's a good video to use as an inspection of our lives... In the area of Confusion, another reason I have seen in my life and others who are in a narcissistic relationship where people become confused, is that we recognize we are not perfect people and so we are constantly thinking that somehow it's us and yet there is nothing outside of the normal boundaries of relationship goof ups that you can point to. To this day, I am always evaluating what I may have done to cause it to fall apart. I ALWAYS land on the same thing that I did nothing to cause such a disastrous relationship to end like it did. And the next day, I'm back at it again. It can be real cause for confusion as well as the reasons you stated. Thank you for these videos. They are helpful!
Thanks for watching and thank you for sharing.
You will share their demons because you open your heart
Not if you find out what a evil Nimrod they really are and you break free from them then their demons cannot clean to you because you cast them out. Those that Messiah free are free indeed.
But those who support the narcissist no matter how evil they are are the ones that really have to worry because they are really scattering abroad and not gathering together and those are the ones who will be possibly being having a nasty record on the day of judgment.
I’m out! I left a comment right before I left
I left Dec 10 today is March 22.
I came out like fire, now the last few weeks I’m tired. It takes a toll on you. I’m sorting through and praying for mercy and blessings.
I returned to this cesspool against Gods will and I paid dearly. Stay out! Don’t punish yourself or bring your life under a curse like I did.
I totally agree, I gave my relationship to God nd slowly I've started seeing for who he is, people had been telling me exactly what I see now
What I noticed is that since the narcissist rejects me and dismisses me I subconsciously expect the same from God. It's skewing all my relationships. It's like a door of rejection was opened. I just want to be free but I keep going back and forth and I get disappointed with her actions several times a week.
Psalm 118:8
Lord, it is so much better to trust in you to save me than to put my confidence in someone else. TPT
My husband is 44 I’m 25 he is a narc and not the only one in my home or family. You save me Everytime seriously it’s like I see so clear. I’m praying for this to work but I see divorce is inevitable they don’t want to change you can’t stop them it’s pointless
Thank God for protecting me from my soon ex husband
Thank you Kris. Spot on. Im now thriving! 😊
It is a shockingly FIERCE and RELENTLESS battle!!
This was exactly what I needed to hear today. Kris-would you consider discussing elderly narcissist parent (s) and being trapped in caretaking or giving that over to God? My family is in the midst of abuse by a single chaotic covert narcissist right now and trying to find a way to protect ourselves.
I'm in the same situation, it's heartbreaking, I hope this gets resolved for you. I am looking after my Dad that has dementia, my mother and brother are narcassists, they were making my life a living hell, I was like a little puppy always going back for approval and thinking they would change, they never do all I got from them was hate.I ignore them now and don't mix with them, I still look after my Dad he lives on his own.I have surrendered everything to Jesus, I'm in a much better place. God bless you.
My eyes are finally opening up. As I watched this video I can see where my wife and I have opened up these doors. This has affected our relationship, children, and home. This is so good to understand how the demonic strongholds manifest.
Thank you sister in Christ. Raised by narcistic parent s..i do silent treatment back and pray ,bcaurce i dont wanne be hurt over again and again 🙏🏻
My demonic narcissist was a barmaid- i was trapped by her charm and beauty + alcohol, it was a awful mix,when i find out she was a narcissist i break free and i was relieved -now i quit my narcissist, alcohol-i'am super happy,sometimes i think about her but it's not an obssession anymore!!! it's no contact, i block her phone -game over for her !!!!!!!!
Goodness! I grew with narcissistic parents and a former marriage to a malignant narcissist with psychopathic tendencies. Only God got me out of that marriage safely. Thank you for teaching and guiding through the word of God.
Couple of open doors that God is helping me close.
People pleasing
Codependency
Trauma bond
Confusion
Just watched your past videos on embracing who God made me to be trying to work out my God given temperament.
I absolutely love your video's they have been eye opening a little hard to hear at times but I like that too how do we learn if no ones going to teach the hard stuff. Im so thankful God has gifted you with this. Now forgive me because i am not good with words but I do pray God's covering over you that you will remain strong and unshakable in this teaching. The world needs more deep, honest truth teaching.
Thank you so much for all the time, effort, learning and research you put into these videos and then share for free. Im learning and growing in faith, wisdom and discernment with these clips showing me where to turn in the bible and how to turn to God. May God continue to bless you.
Much love from New Zealand 😊
Thank You, what you say is very good. I live with a Narcopath (over ten years). He had tried to totally destroy me, however God did not let that happen. There is no way to get out, so I live with this person in silence because he is so ready to attack with demonic energy. My hope is in God that he will resolve the problem. Thank you again, may God be with you and bless you.
I pray for supernatural resolution for you. Meditate on Exodus 14:13 and Psalm 3:1. God can and will protect you. I pray for Deliverance from your situation. God bless you.
@@oliviaj765 Thank You for your response. Thank you, for your encouragement and good wishes for my life in Christ Jesus. Hope you have a great day and may God bless you too!
Suspicion, confusion, identity crisis, codependent, trauma bonding, mal adaptive behaviour, narcissism,. So true this doors I have been, but God we must lay our worry and ask the lord for guidance
It's crazy I've often found myself saying things I would of never said to anyone...let alone a woman. I wasn't raised that way. Did it to cope. After 10 yrs finally got out. Thank god and people like Kris that have taken the time to do these videos to help people like us.