Such a great video, brother. If it's any helpful, I would like to share some brief personal realizations about the topic made in the last months. I would suggest an experience. The next time you, reader, experience that craving coming in, I plead you to try paying attention to it. Maybe you think that don't paying attention is what will make it go away, and you're partially right, but, if the cause of the problem doesn't chance, you'll feel that urge again in a moment of more stress and then... well, it'll happen again. So, pay attention. When the urge comes, when you cannot escape from it imersing yourself in another activity (because there'll be times like that), you should pay attention. What does you feel? You feel your mind stressed, numb, tired? You feel your chest empty, your stomach stinging? Do you feel now a hidden feeling of loneliness or fearfulness? Whatever you do feel, you'll notice now something important: in this moment you are not one with your feeling, because you are already a third person observer of it. Dr K. once said that neurologically this process of awareness and the strenght of discipline activates the same brain circuitries, and that's because discipline isn't anything other than having in mind your desire and choosing something else, instead of letting it take hold of you behind your eyes. Considering what this video said about dopamine, if we can strive for things that we don't desire and don't feel pleasurable, even our biology can be at our side. In my experience, what tends to happen is, the more I observe and "digest" some feeling, the less power it has on me in general, because I'm already accostumed to it and already know what it means. If I have to change habits to deal with it, so be it. If there's no escape from it, I meditate or about it, or away from it. It has no novelty anymore. And the thing is, I can feel somewhat greatful for it sometimes, because the addiction helps to sinalize to us that something is wrong, that we feel bad. Anyways, I hope it was helpful.
@@NewelOfKnowledge Much appreciated. I think that's my favorite video of yours, what you said about dopamine was groundbreaking for me even after years of study on the subject. Keep it up, brother, your work makes a real difference.
It sounds like, giving time to acknowledge and accept the tantrum of one's inner chimp (from another one of @Newelofknowlege outstanding clips) then offering something else occupy it when it starts kicking up.
@@TheCuratorIsHere But still far to relevant. Why are so many people addicted to going on vacations? Because they want to escape their life. If you need to board a plane, fly to hawaii into a hotel to escape the chores of your home, your home is not a home, but work you detest enough to regularly escape from. That is sadly a trap tons of people fall into. Adding the trap of "I buy a motorhome and.." falling right into the "This piece of freedom now binds loads of your time for cleaning, maintenance, preparation etc." Stressing you the fuck out before you can escape it into vacation. Seen it too often.
Usually at that point it’s a matter of finding patterns in your triggers. Even if you can’t pinpoint exactly when an addiction started, knowing what triggers it and why you fall to it often points back to how you were feeling when it first started (such as needing to feel safe or wanting someone to talk to). Asking yourself what you previously did to cope with those feelings and why it didn’t work can also help.
look for the teachings of Joe Dispenza and Neville Goddard could potentially offer valuable insights for healing. Their perspectives on the mind-body connection are fascinating
My dad smoked 100 a day, back in the 1960s. In 1970, he had a massive heart attack, at 55. He was told to quit immediately or die. Well he quit cold turkey, but by the end of the week he was climbing the walls. " When the ice cream van comes round, I'm going to buy cigarettes", he told my mum. The ice cream van strangely didn't arrive that day and he never smoked again. Sadly it was too late and bronchial cancer got him seven years later.
Nearly same for my grandma. She smoked a ton and about a year or two after she stopped, Lung Cancer. Luckily she survived. But... Don't start this shit, just don't start it... Damage done is not guaranteed to be repaired...
The best part is that he was honest upfront about the content so you don't waste your time with the fluff if you just want to get to the goods. I actually finished it BECAUSE he didn't try to drag you on.
It takes time and effort. I've battled so many addictions and have gone from rock bottom to success and freedom. Dare to be Exceptional. Dare to be Uncommon!
I have a question I ask when I find myself scrolling for too long: "what am I looking for?" it's a simple question. And often one that I answer with: "Nothing this can give me." It helps realize that I need to get off the phone, stop wasting time and go do the things that actually make me happy.
Smart. I do something similar with UA-cam shorts. After a hand full of videos my brain automatically says "This is not what we want .." and I can easily end the cycle. But this took some reflection and time.
As someone who has watched countless hours of improvement and psychology videos with minimal or temporary resolve, This has been one of the most complete and helpful videos I have ever watched. Thank you so much for this!
Hey there! That is actually the addiction I want to let go. I've formed the habit to watch self improvement videos whenever I feel helpless in life. However, the just keep me in a kind of passive state and the more I consume things like that the more I train my brain to believe that I should 24/7 think about how I HAVE to improve. Actually I have had therapy and the best would be to just apply the techniques.. But as these results don't show instantly (as opposed to UA-cam videos I could watch anytime for short term relief) I miss time to do acutal training like validating myself and taking care of myself (not by having people in the internet tell me what to do).. I have now deleted my UA-cam algorithm and after this video I'll stop watching these kinds of videos. How do you experience your intake of these videos? I mean, it sure can be a very good source of information, when you don't overdo it. Anyway. I hope you're doing fine. :-)
As someone who has watched countless hours of improvement and psychology videos I predict before watching this, the main idea of the video would be, like Dr. K. says "just get a good life than your addictions will go away".
At the beginning of this year I somehow made all my addictions (porn, competitive games, yt) almost disappear for like 2 months. I started playing new games instead of coping with the old ones, started playing online DnD campaigns with strangers and read manga. The thing that really triggered my "peace state" was that I left my first job. The sense of peace that I felt the moment I've got back home the last day of working was something I've never felt in my entire life: "It's over finally. I deserve my peace".
I feel a security in your words and mindset, you remind me of a close relative and your consistency in quality of video is second to none, thanks for your work
I am supposed to be studying for tomorrow's exams, and here I am again. Talk about addiction 😀 Seriously, this is one of the most insightful channels I have come across. Thank you for your input into making this world a better place, by bettering people. Bless your soul!
You'd be surprised how many people advocate for civilization to be torn down so that we don't have to deal with the negative effects of it like addictions. I suffer from a pmo addiction and have for years. Despite that I have been doing better lately in the past few months and that's one of the reasons I've been watching your videos in the first place rather than doom scrolling, which is a negative habit that I've managed to stop doing. I was also a video game addict which I have also stopped. In it's place I have been learning to play piano and my goal is to become a piano teacher. Also seeing a piano teacher every week has been helping me to get out of the house, as well as getting my social anxiety group back on the go to do social anxiety exposures every week. Last week I asked out a cute coffee barista. She turned me down but I felt great anyway because it wasn't a catastrophe like my anxiety was telling me and she seemed to like the interaction even though she turned me down. I've been suffering for years with depression and anxiety but I finally feel like I'm getting better from actually learning the skills you talk about in this video, that being self awareness and responsibility.
Hey man, great progress with asking the girl out on a date. I can tell you're on the right path. It's hard at times but I'll be supporting you every step of the way!
There’s a term called “repetition compulsion,” that I don’t believe should be over looked when it comes to addiction. I’m soft too, but being soft is abusive because it doesn’t address the addiction having the deleterious effect on the subject in that moment. Compassion might not be what someone needs. And getting well does mean _wanting_ to get well. Bless you, always! You do amazing work!
I find the number one thing that helps with combating all negative habits is to go through a review process. Treat yourself, at least from the angle of improvement, as your first and most critical business. You need to sit down with your board of directors on, at least, a quarterly basis and go through performance reviews. Be old school with it, fire them on the spot. Useless bums. At this point, I've fired so many that I need to really get the hiring process moved along.
Have you heard of hypnotherapy and neurological levels? I highly recommend, this reminded me of some practices that helped me a lot but that I'd forgotten about. While reaching an alpha state of mind during meditation, I try to visualize myself responding in situations or envisioning, hearing and feeling what is necessary to become a better person (breaking bad habits, starting new one which will lead me where i want to go). I find motivation and purpose for overcoming addictions, which I realized were the root cause of my procrastination. If that make sense for you.
Christ this is good! I always say it! I don’t engage in certain addictions because I _need_ to function at work! Because keeping Mental Hygiene _works!!!_ I feel like this video really backs up a lot of people’s resolve! Thank you!
Great video. personally for a start since self compassion is a new budding phenomenon in my life, i’m choosing to feel proud of myself for reducing the frequency of an addiction. And instead of treating slip ups with harsh words, embracing myself and feeling the disappointment with myself rather than towards myself. i believe it’ll lead to a lasting change for me. 😊
Man, I love this. I respect how much effort and work you must put into these videos. Please continue making them, I think you provide some of the most valuable content despite being comparatively new here, or at least to me!
Thank you mate, love that you give us a well thought through analysis and instruction in a calm demeanor and clean accent, and aren't just another jacked American man shouting cliches into the mic
Personally, whenever I delete social media my life instantly improves however, when I download it again I get chronically addicted to it and can’t find the motivation do anything productive bc i can feel it dry my dopamine receptors so I just choose not to use it anymore only once in a while.
Its no wonder the vast majority of people are basically just husks who give themselves in to the temptations of addiction and taking the route of least resistance, actually trying to fight against any of this is close to impossible, I've lost count of how many cycles I've been through of beating addiciton temporarily just to inevitably go back to the old patterns, the logical thing to do would be to just say fuq it and give up, I'm so sick of fighting it, give me a bridge and some meth
We are born addicted to food , water, Oxygen, shelter. I totally know how to kick them, and we all will in the end. I have also been addicted to drink, sex, cigarettes, weed, mostly organic substance. I mention the things we need as addiction because if you have never been addicted to a substance and can't empathize, just go without food, water or shelter for a couple days.
I couldnt help but draw a connection between the "neuroscience of wanting vs liking" part of the vid with the the scripture Romans 7:15-25. Specifically the apostle Paul's expression of "For I do not do the good that I wish, but the bad that I do not wish is what I practice" nwt. I think its quite interesting how complimentary these verses are with the theme of the video and findings from Professor Kent C. Berridge.
So far, I’m almost 18 months free of alcohol. With the help of another recovering alcoholic, I discovered my addiction, beyond the chemical dependence, was coming to terms with a lot of long held resentments, and getting my ego in check. Recovery can be effective when you have someone with lived in experience to talk through it. Of course I required medical assistance to physically recover to the point where I could address the actual causes of my addiction.
look for the teachings of Joe Dispenza and Neville Goddard could potentially offer valuable insights for healing. Their perspectives on the mind-body connection are fascinating
The idea of creating a life you don't want to escape from speaks to me on a level that hours of NoFap and PornFree content couldn't. I've been trying to do that for months now, but I couldn't find a way to phrase it as eloquently as you did. I thought porn was my problem for a long time. It turns out that it just so happened to be what I chose to escape from my life. Wanting to escape was the problem to begin with, and whatever I used to escape was just a symptom. The more exciting and meaningful I make my life, the less interested I am in porn, gaming, junk food, and scrolling through social media to find things to get pissed off about.
Amazing video. I'm reading "dopamine nation: why our addiction to pleasure is causing us pain by Dr. Anna Lembke" and this video is an amazing addition to my current interest on the topic addiction and dopamine overconsumption
Thx a lot for this video you did a great job I truly believe this will help a lot of people I wish you and anybody else who reads this comment the absolute best!!!
i was addicted to a video gane for 10 years and i managed to completely get rid of it by convoncing myself over and over that playing it is a complete waste of time , so i started unconsiously hating myself every time i opened the game and eventually just stopped for good. I havent opened the game since like 5 months
Thanks Unfortunately I have experienced ALL of this rational Am blessed with Love,secure, Have Wonderful hobbies,dependents(furry),beautiful subjects to learn.Iv structured courses,compiled by experts,aspirants to travel Also dancing frees the soul,and the scene I love gives love back. I experienced victory achieved success I MISS too many loved ones Your suggestion that I’m lacking dopamine is SO So helpful Look to the Positive onelove
I discovered your content a few months ago and thoroughly enjoy it. I would like to offer you a reflection and some food for thought since it seems as though one of your primary teachings is that of connection, rapport, and relationship. I am going to make the assumption that the majority of people who watch UA-cam videos are simply programmed to not consciously notice how jarring editing can be. However, there are many who are very conscious of it and it continuously breaks contact between you and your audience even if on a subconscious level. This also breaks attention, induces dissociation and other aspects. About every 3-10 seconds in your videos you have a jump cut / edit / contact disturbance. (Term used the field of gestalt therapy) I am wondering how aware you are of the impacts of such sudden cuts and if you have any “long version” videos. What is your intention on making such extreme edits? In other words, I would love to see one of your videos without any cuts at all and see how that goes. Perhaps you could even speak on a topic like building connection and connection disturbances or something of the like. The jump cut element also directly related to the topic of your video: addiction, and multiple fronts, including the nervous system activation and fast paced dopamine hit right now mentality. Again, lots of this occurs in the subtle realms for most. This is by no means a criticism merely I would like to share my subjective experience of how subconsciously one views UA-cam videos in terms of rapport and loss there of. Keep up the wonderful work.
Our ancestors had loads of drugs and substances. People have been using plants and fungi to get high for thousands of years. They were probably less likely to become addicted however, because their lives were less miserable.
I humbly disagree, because how can one define the amount of misery one experienced in the past? We don't suffer as much from diseases, most of us don't have to deal with famine/hunger in a daily basis, our living conditions are much better than those of our ancestors. It is true that capitalism, and specially late stage capitalism, is outright shit, however to say that feudalism/monarchies were any better is debatable. What I think is the case is: - We have a multitude of things that might induce addiction, ranging from alcohol, smoking, illegal drugs, going through pornography, up to overly processed food (lots of fats and sugar, for example). - Humanity now has a much deeper knowledge regarding chemistry, and as such is able to 'concoct' stronger substances (hence why some drugs are more addictive than others). - Some of the substances that we would indulge in were utilised in a ritualistic/religious manner - We don't have as many records from addiction from the past when compared to what we have nowadays - Capitalism propagates addiction on purpose to generate profit (you may know that smoking is bad, but you keep smoking anyways, because it's a strong addiction). I am talking out of my ass, mind you, I've done no research on the subject, but I do believe these aforementioned points are probably more closer to explaining the difference in addiction rates rather than just "they were less miserable". Additionally, I considered the argument of "we're now 8 billion people vs however many people were alive in this period of the past", but if the % of addicts remained the same or at least steady, then that line of reasoning would be false.
I agree. In my opinion, the difference is they were too busy trying to survive, which involved a lot of physical activity and collaboration. In other words, they had a deeply motivating goal, exercise and socialization integrated into their daily routine. Our modern housing and working conditions have provided relative comfort but deprived us of a motive to function through those natural survival mechanisms, which we now have to reinvent. We now have to convince ourselves to run on a treadmill without a wild beast chasing us, thus we struggle with motivation. Addictions are, in fact, a way to cope with lack of meaning.
Where do you get your scripts? They are excellent. Your delivery and calm are also outstanding. Can one be addicted to complaining? Physical aggression? Or any repetitive behavior which build pathways that prompt actions and thoughts that become repetitive or entrenched with supporting neural networks and biochemical processes?
That first part, nah, don't be proud of me for that. I really don't do that whole "getting up and living" part, I'll get fired from my job if I don't go, so my hand is forced. How to quit your addictions? You gotta just get a life that you enjoy and that keeps you distracted and fulfilled enough that you don't need those things. Good luck!
love your videos so much cus they actually go in depth about the topic discussed and i learn alot from them which cannot be said about 99% of other channels on youtube especially all the bs masculinity self improvement clickbaiting videos i see. Also do you post any of this on platforms such as spotify?
@@NewelOfKnowledgeyes please. Lots of young guys come to me for advice since I’m a college senior. I suggested them your channel and I’m glad they find as value in the content you put out as I have.
@@NewelOfKnowledge if you are able to then that would be really good because people would be able to listen to it as a form of podcast if you know what i mean
Maybe it was the act of being force fed, the voilence of it, that made the rats express dislike. I like you and your video. I saw your story about the truffles when you were 18. It was charming. I'm just having to say that testing on animals is cruel and I've never heard this story of people not only manipulating the rats dopamine but also cruelly force-feeding a rat that doesn't want to eat. Why do we need to torture animals in order to "learn" what most of us know intuitively?
Addiction is a bitch it makes me feel weak like I've been defeated in life and I'm missing out on opportunities and where I want to be in life and I've prayed for God to relieve me of my diction but somehow it's the only thing that makes me feel happy and it's become a routine now where it's not just a substance but the whole patterns I've built from it and I just feel like I can't escape this
Such a great video, brother. If it's any helpful, I would like to share some brief personal realizations about the topic made in the last months. I would suggest an experience. The next time you, reader, experience that craving coming in, I plead you to try paying attention to it. Maybe you think that don't paying attention is what will make it go away, and you're partially right, but, if the cause of the problem doesn't chance, you'll feel that urge again in a moment of more stress and then... well, it'll happen again. So, pay attention.
When the urge comes, when you cannot escape from it imersing yourself in another activity (because there'll be times like that), you should pay attention. What does you feel? You feel your mind stressed, numb, tired? You feel your chest empty, your stomach stinging? Do you feel now a hidden feeling of loneliness or fearfulness? Whatever you do feel, you'll notice now something important: in this moment you are not one with your feeling, because you are already a third person observer of it.
Dr K. once said that neurologically this process of awareness and the strenght of discipline activates the same brain circuitries, and that's because discipline isn't anything other than having in mind your desire and choosing something else, instead of letting it take hold of you behind your eyes. Considering what this video said about dopamine, if we can strive for things that we don't desire and don't feel pleasurable, even our biology can be at our side.
In my experience, what tends to happen is, the more I observe and "digest" some feeling, the less power it has on me in general, because I'm already accostumed to it and already know what it means. If I have to change habits to deal with it, so be it. If there's no escape from it, I meditate or about it, or away from it. It has no novelty anymore. And the thing is, I can feel somewhat greatful for it sometimes, because the addiction helps to sinalize to us that something is wrong, that we feel bad.
Anyways, I hope it was helpful.
Dude. You're awesome. Thank you for sharing this!
@@NewelOfKnowledge Much appreciated. I think that's my favorite video of yours, what you said about dopamine was groundbreaking for me even after years of study on the subject. Keep it up, brother, your work makes a real difference.
It's helpful bro
It sounds like, giving time to acknowledge and accept the tantrum of one's inner chimp (from another one of @Newelofknowlege outstanding clips) then offering something else occupy it when it starts kicking up.
immense wisdom, thank you!
"Build a life you are not trying to escape from" 17:01
This!! Everything you said boils to this
And the hardest task to accomplish
This is sooo old advice
@@TheCuratorIsHere But still far to relevant.
Why are so many people addicted to going on vacations? Because they want to escape their life.
If you need to board a plane, fly to hawaii into a hotel to escape the chores of your home, your home is not a home, but work you detest enough to regularly escape from.
That is sadly a trap tons of people fall into. Adding the trap of "I buy a motorhome and.." falling right into the "This piece of freedom now binds loads of your time for cleaning, maintenance, preparation etc." Stressing you the fuck out before you can escape it into vacation. Seen it too often.
Doom scrolling brought me to this
And when your addiction starts in childhood it becomes a lot harder to do that introspection in my experience.
This I can relate to
Usually at that point it’s a matter of finding patterns in your triggers. Even if you can’t pinpoint exactly when an addiction started, knowing what triggers it and why you fall to it often points back to how you were feeling when it first started (such as needing to feel safe or wanting someone to talk to). Asking yourself what you previously did to cope with those feelings and why it didn’t work can also help.
read the book "the secret “,it can help you
look for the teachings of Joe Dispenza and Neville Goddard could potentially offer valuable insights for healing. Their perspectives on the mind-body connection are fascinating
My dad smoked 100 a day, back in the 1960s. In 1970, he had a massive heart attack, at 55. He was told to quit immediately or die.
Well he quit cold turkey, but by the end of the week he was climbing the walls.
" When the ice cream van comes round, I'm going to buy cigarettes", he told my mum.
The ice cream van strangely didn't arrive that day and he never smoked again.
Sadly it was too late and bronchial cancer got him seven years later.
Nearly same for my grandma. She smoked a ton and about a year or two after she stopped, Lung Cancer.
Luckily she survived. But... Don't start this shit, just don't start it... Damage done is not guaranteed to be repaired...
The best part is that he was honest upfront about the content so you don't waste your time with the fluff if you just want to get to the goods. I actually finished it BECAUSE he didn't try to drag you on.
loneliness has crippled me over the last 3 years constantly trying to feel apart of something
It takes time and effort. I've battled so many addictions and have gone from rock bottom to success and freedom.
Dare to be Exceptional.
Dare to be Uncommon!
I have a question I ask when I find myself scrolling for too long: "what am I looking for?" it's a simple question. And often one that I answer with: "Nothing this can give me."
It helps realize that I need to get off the phone, stop wasting time and go do the things that actually make me happy.
Smart. I do something similar with UA-cam shorts. After a hand full of videos my brain automatically says "This is not what we want .." and I can easily end the cycle.
But this took some reflection and time.
As someone who has watched countless hours of improvement and psychology videos with minimal or temporary resolve, This has been one of the most complete and helpful videos I have ever watched. Thank you so much for this!
Hey there! That is actually the addiction I want to let go. I've formed the habit to watch self improvement videos whenever I feel helpless in life. However, the just keep me in a kind of passive state and the more I consume things like that the more I train my brain to believe that I should 24/7 think about how I HAVE to improve. Actually I have had therapy and the best would be to just apply the techniques.. But as these results don't show instantly (as opposed to UA-cam videos I could watch anytime for short term relief) I miss time to do acutal training like validating myself and taking care of myself (not by having people in the internet tell me what to do)..
I have now deleted my UA-cam algorithm and after this video I'll stop watching these kinds of videos.
How do you experience your intake of these videos? I mean, it sure can be a very good source of information, when you don't overdo it.
Anyway. I hope you're doing fine. :-)
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As someone who has watched countless hours of improvement and psychology videos I predict before watching this, the main idea of the video would be, like Dr. K. says "just get a good life than your addictions will go away".
Thank you for being proud of me.
Time is our most precious asset
At the beginning of this year I somehow made all my addictions (porn, competitive games, yt) almost disappear for like 2 months. I started playing new games instead of coping with the old ones, started playing online DnD campaigns with strangers and read manga.
The thing that really triggered my "peace state" was that I left my first job. The sense of peace that I felt the moment I've got back home the last day of working was something I've never felt in my entire life: "It's over finally. I deserve my peace".
the best video i’ve seen on addiction it’s painfully obvious how much sheer thought, effort and time you’ve spent to get to this level
I feel a security in your words and mindset, you remind me of a close relative and your consistency in quality of video is second to none, thanks for your work
I am supposed to be studying for tomorrow's exams, and here I am again. Talk about addiction 😀
Seriously, this is one of the most insightful channels I have come across. Thank you for your input into making this world a better place, by bettering people. Bless your soul!
You'd be surprised how many people advocate for civilization to be torn down so that we don't have to deal with the negative effects of it like addictions.
I suffer from a pmo addiction and have for years. Despite that I have been doing better lately in the past few months and that's one of the reasons I've been watching your videos in the first place rather than doom scrolling, which is a negative habit that I've managed to stop doing. I was also a video game addict which I have also stopped. In it's place I have been learning to play piano and my goal is to become a piano teacher. Also seeing a piano teacher every week has been helping me to get out of the house, as well as getting my social anxiety group back on the go to do social anxiety exposures every week. Last week I asked out a cute coffee barista. She turned me down but I felt great anyway because it wasn't a catastrophe like my anxiety was telling me and she seemed to like the interaction even though she turned me down. I've been suffering for years with depression and anxiety but I finally feel like I'm getting better from actually learning the skills you talk about in this video, that being self awareness and responsibility.
Hey man, great progress with asking the girl out on a date. I can tell you're on the right path. It's hard at times but I'll be supporting you every step of the way!
Thank you for being harsh but also destigmatising addiction.
There’s a term called “repetition compulsion,” that I don’t believe should be over looked when it comes to addiction. I’m soft too, but being soft is abusive because it doesn’t address the addiction having the deleterious effect on the subject in that moment.
Compassion might not be what someone needs. And getting well does mean _wanting_ to get well.
Bless you, always!
You do amazing work!
I find the number one thing that helps with combating all negative habits is to go through a review process.
Treat yourself, at least from the angle of improvement, as your first and most critical business.
You need to sit down with your board of directors on, at least, a quarterly basis and go through performance reviews. Be old school with it, fire them on the spot. Useless bums.
At this point, I've fired so many that I need to really get the hiring process moved along.
So after proof reading this to check for sanity... I might need some help.
I find the contents of this video to be of a much higher quality than other ones I have seen from you (I already liked your videos)
Thanks for noticing! :) 💪🏻
True!!
Each his videos has been made in a good quality
Back handed compliment.
Have you heard of hypnotherapy and neurological levels? I highly recommend, this reminded me of some practices that helped me a lot but that I'd forgotten about. While reaching an alpha state of mind during meditation, I try to visualize myself responding in situations or envisioning, hearing and feeling what is necessary to become a better person (breaking bad habits, starting new one which will lead me where i want to go). I find motivation and purpose for overcoming addictions, which I realized were the root cause of my procrastination. If that make sense for you.
Christ this is good!
I always say it! I don’t engage in certain addictions because I _need_ to function at work! Because keeping Mental Hygiene _works!!!_
I feel like this video really backs up a lot of people’s resolve!
Thank you!
I just found a light drinking addiction. You have helped me to learn to be assertive. I genuinely love your channel. It's helps.
Thank you sir. From the bottom of my heart, you've saved my life.
this guy is underrated
21min video drop by lewis... time to stop everthing and enjoy doing my daily chores, i wonder how much i could get done with a 3h video :P
Ahahaha, 😂😂😂 enjoy your cleaning!
Great video. personally for a start since self compassion is a new budding phenomenon in my life, i’m choosing to feel proud of myself for reducing the frequency of an addiction. And instead of treating slip ups with harsh words, embracing myself and feeling the disappointment with myself rather than towards myself. i believe it’ll lead to a lasting change for me. 😊
0:22 I'm proud of myself for being a failure
Wit id say is another addiction
Man, I love this. I respect how much effort and work you must put into these videos. Please continue making them, I think you provide some of the most valuable content despite being comparatively new here, or at least to me!
Thank you :')
Thank you mate, love that you give us a well thought through analysis and instruction in a calm demeanor and clean accent, and aren't just another jacked American man shouting cliches into the mic
Man, as soon as I red "addiction" I clicked so fast. Your videos are so useful and educative, thank you so much 🙏
You red? Really? Why not green?
@@TheCuratorIsHere ya know, green is not quite my color. With this I don't mean that i dislike it, I just fancy red more
The best replacement I’ve found for any withdrawal is weight lifting. Huberman says ice baths can stimulate dopamine which can help too.
thank you for being one of the few actually helpful and genuine creators here❤
5 days free of Cigarettes. This time it's certain. 💪🙏
How’d you do?
How did you do it???
Personally, whenever I delete social media my life instantly improves however, when I download it again I get chronically addicted to it and can’t find the motivation do anything productive bc i can feel it dry my dopamine receptors so I just choose not to use it anymore only once in a while.
Well I got off alcohol and porn this month. Now just gotta beat social media.
Its no wonder the vast majority of people are basically just husks who give themselves in to the temptations of addiction and taking the route of least resistance, actually trying to fight against any of this is close to impossible, I've lost count of how many cycles I've been through of beating addiciton temporarily just to inevitably go back to the old patterns, the logical thing to do would be to just say fuq it and give up, I'm so sick of fighting it, give me a bridge and some meth
My reasons are simple. Shitty interpersonal relationships and financial inability to move away from them.
Me listening to this as I sip a drink at 11am. Quite insightful
This is incredibly well put together, thank you for such thoughtfully put together content
We are born addicted to food , water, Oxygen, shelter. I totally know how to kick them, and we all will in the end. I have also been addicted to drink, sex, cigarettes, weed, mostly organic substance. I mention the things we need as addiction because if you have never been addicted to a substance and can't empathize, just go without food, water or shelter for a couple days.
I couldnt help but draw a connection between the "neuroscience of wanting vs liking" part of the vid with the the scripture Romans 7:15-25. Specifically the apostle Paul's expression of "For I do not do the good that I wish, but the bad that I do not wish is what I practice" nwt. I think its quite interesting how complimentary these verses are with the theme of the video and findings from Professor Kent C. Berridge.
Bruhhhhh, you out here changing lives! I'm replacing my (one of 4) addiction with reading, book 1 is KWMLover! Turning boys into men we thank you
Lets go sir!!!!
0:43 in less than a minute i felt more understood than i was by my therapist in few years 😂
I'll improve for myself and for the people I love, I can and I will be better. Hope you're having a nice day o7
"Well on your way to beaten it" 😅 i see what you did there.
So far, I’m almost 18 months free of alcohol. With the help of another recovering alcoholic, I discovered my addiction, beyond the chemical dependence, was coming to terms with a lot of long held resentments, and getting my ego in check. Recovery can be effective when you have someone with lived in experience to talk through it. Of course I required medical assistance to physically recover to the point where I could address the actual causes of my addiction.
look for the teachings of Joe Dispenza and Neville Goddard could potentially offer valuable insights for healing. Their perspectives on the mind-body connection are fascinating
read the book "the secret “,it can help you
Say no more. I got it. Embrace the pain!
Thank you
The idea of creating a life you don't want to escape from speaks to me on a level that hours of NoFap and PornFree content couldn't. I've been trying to do that for months now, but I couldn't find a way to phrase it as eloquently as you did. I thought porn was my problem for a long time. It turns out that it just so happened to be what I chose to escape from my life. Wanting to escape was the problem to begin with, and whatever I used to escape was just a symptom. The more exciting and meaningful I make my life, the less interested I am in porn, gaming, junk food, and scrolling through social media to find things to get pissed off about.
The video is imperative!!! And thinking psychology make tones of money upon it , pharmaceutical and food industry, media work to then …
Amazing video. I'm reading "dopamine nation: why our addiction to pleasure is causing us pain by Dr. Anna Lembke" and this video is an amazing addition to my current interest on the topic addiction and dopamine overconsumption
Im been waiting for a video like this for a while thanks man ❤
My pleasure Calem 💪🏻
Gonna save this one to return to a few times
You’re such a legend man. Thanks for the videos 👌
Thx a lot for this video you did a great job I truly believe this will help a lot of people I wish you and anybody else who reads this comment the absolute best!!!
What an awesome and underrated channel, glad i found it
i was addicted to a video gane for 10 years and i managed to completely get rid of it by convoncing myself over and over that playing it is a complete waste of time , so i started unconsiously hating myself every time i opened the game and eventually just stopped for good. I havent opened the game since like 5 months
Thanks
Unfortunately I have experienced ALL of this rational
Am blessed with Love,secure,
Have Wonderful hobbies,dependents(furry),beautiful subjects to learn.Iv structured courses,compiled by experts,aspirants to travel
Also dancing frees the soul,and the scene I love gives love back.
I experienced victory achieved success
I MISS too many loved ones
Your suggestion that I’m lacking dopamine is SO So helpful
Look to the Positive
onelove
Wish I could see this video, but I'm dopamine fasting. You make great content.
Dude, you are awake. Thanks for this video.
Mind, you are addicted if you rather not do that thing, not bc it is considered an addiction for others but makes You happy.
Many thanks for the vid Lewis
Thanks for this free info, it helped me to realize some things
How do you cope with unavoidable stress without falling into addiction?
Channel that stress into healthy ways of managing it. Walking, good sleep, exercise, good conversations with others.
Obrigado por esse vídeo. Você está sendo muito importante para esse momento da minha existência.
Boa, br. Estamos no lugar certo.
Obrigado amigo! It's a pleasure to have you here.
this video actually helped me a lot thank you.
This is life change video
very deep & useful video, thanks and carry on bringing us more insights... :)
I discovered your content a few months ago and thoroughly enjoy it. I would like to offer you a reflection and some food for thought since it seems as though one of your primary teachings is that of connection, rapport, and relationship.
I am going to make the assumption that the majority of people who watch UA-cam videos are simply programmed to not consciously notice how jarring editing can be. However, there are many who are very conscious of it and it continuously breaks contact between you and your audience even if on a subconscious level. This also breaks attention, induces dissociation and other aspects.
About every 3-10 seconds in your videos you have a jump cut / edit / contact disturbance. (Term used the field of gestalt therapy) I am wondering how aware you are of the impacts of such sudden cuts and if you have any “long version” videos. What is your intention on making such extreme edits? In other words, I would love to see one of your videos without any cuts at all and see how that goes.
Perhaps you could even speak on a topic like building connection and connection disturbances or something of the like. The jump cut element also directly related to the topic of your video: addiction, and multiple fronts, including the nervous system activation and fast paced dopamine hit right now mentality. Again, lots of this occurs in the subtle realms for most.
This is by no means a criticism merely I would like to share my subjective experience of how subconsciously one views UA-cam videos in terms of rapport and loss there of.
Keep up the wonderful work.
Haven't finished the video but im so happy im free when u upload:))
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Thank you
Thank you very much sir, your video was very informative, I'm starting from where i sit to practice what you suggested.
Dude this is great content, really inspiring
Our ancestors had loads of drugs and substances. People have been using plants and fungi to get high for thousands of years. They were probably less likely to become addicted however, because their lives were less miserable.
I humbly disagree, because how can one define the amount of misery one experienced in the past? We don't suffer as much from diseases, most of us don't have to deal with famine/hunger in a daily basis, our living conditions are much better than those of our ancestors.
It is true that capitalism, and specially late stage capitalism, is outright shit, however to say that feudalism/monarchies were any better is debatable.
What I think is the case is:
- We have a multitude of things that might induce addiction, ranging from alcohol, smoking, illegal drugs, going through pornography, up to overly processed food (lots of fats and sugar, for example).
- Humanity now has a much deeper knowledge regarding chemistry, and as such is able to 'concoct' stronger substances (hence why some drugs are more addictive than others).
- Some of the substances that we would indulge in were utilised in a ritualistic/religious manner
- We don't have as many records from addiction from the past when compared to what we have nowadays
- Capitalism propagates addiction on purpose to generate profit (you may know that smoking is bad, but you keep smoking anyways, because it's a strong addiction).
I am talking out of my ass, mind you, I've done no research on the subject, but I do believe these aforementioned points are probably more closer to explaining the difference in addiction rates rather than just "they were less miserable". Additionally, I considered the argument of "we're now 8 billion people vs however many people were alive in this period of the past", but if the % of addicts remained the same or at least steady, then that line of reasoning would be false.
I agree. In my opinion, the difference is they were too busy trying to survive, which involved a lot of physical activity and collaboration. In other words, they had a deeply motivating goal, exercise and socialization integrated into their daily routine. Our modern housing and working conditions have provided relative comfort but deprived us of a motive to function through those natural survival mechanisms, which we now have to reinvent. We now have to convince ourselves to run on a treadmill without a wild beast chasing us, thus we struggle with motivation. Addictions are, in fact, a way to cope with lack of meaning.
Where do you get your scripts? They are excellent. Your delivery and calm are also outstanding. Can one be addicted to complaining? Physical aggression? Or any repetitive behavior which build pathways that prompt actions and thoughts that become repetitive or entrenched with supporting neural networks and biochemical processes?
Very strong video with a strong message
Just in time!!!
I have a story about addiction spaning almost 10 years, finally starting to get over it. But I don't know how to share it.
Thank you.
Great thorough video!
Great video ❤ Thank you!
Definitely well on my way to beating it
Try to limit beating it to 2 or 3 times per week. Maybe start weightlifting or going for walks to get your mind off it
Wow, powerful stuff!
That first part, nah, don't be proud of me for that. I really don't do that whole "getting up and living" part, I'll get fired from my job if I don't go, so my hand is forced. How to quit your addictions? You gotta just get a life that you enjoy and that keeps you distracted and fulfilled enough that you don't need those things. Good luck!
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brian not able to process liking and wanting... rebooting...
love your videos so much cus they actually go in depth about the topic discussed and i learn alot from them which cannot be said about 99% of other channels on youtube especially all the bs masculinity self improvement clickbaiting videos i see. Also do you post any of this on platforms such as spotify?
Thank you! :) I don't have anything on spotify yet. Would you like me to upload there?
@@NewelOfKnowledgeyes please. Lots of young guys come to me for advice since I’m a college senior. I suggested them your channel and I’m glad they find as value in the content you put out as I have.
@@NewelOfKnowledge if you are able to then that would be really good because people would be able to listen to it as a form of podcast if you know what i mean
Love you Lewis ❤
cheers mate, this is very helpful.
Maybe it was the act of being force fed, the voilence of it, that made the rats express dislike. I like you and your video. I saw your story about the truffles when you were 18. It was charming. I'm just having to say that testing on animals is cruel and I've never heard this story of people not only manipulating the rats dopamine but also cruelly force-feeding a rat that doesn't want to eat. Why do we need to torture animals in order to "learn" what most of us know intuitively?
hmmm i still like this video but a few things we disagree on. cheers!
Thank you.
Addicted to these videos. 😅
Love this. Very helpful video, thank you.
Addiction is a bitch it makes me feel weak like I've been defeated in life and I'm missing out on opportunities and where I want to be in life and I've prayed for God to relieve me of my diction but somehow it's the only thing that makes me feel happy and it's become a routine now where it's not just a substance but the whole patterns I've built from it and I just feel like I can't escape this
Thank you ❤
Really enjoyed that video, thank you for the insight.
Though it seems the pdf link isn't working anymore?
Thanks
onelove
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