Trans Guy in Gay Relationship: Meet My BF!

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  • @andre-cmyk
    @andre-cmyk Рік тому +173

    not gonna lie,,, you’re one of the most comforting trans youtubers ive seen. its so nice to see that ur a guy with interests and a life and a full complex person and how that affected your transition. ive been questioning my gender intentionally for a few months but i have had intrusive thoughts about them for around 2 years and i'm only now figuring things out a little bit. its very scary and weird and its so personal, but your channel feels like watching a real time autobiography about it and it gives me a great deal of peace of mind and patience lol
    thank you!

    • @arthur_rockwell
      @arthur_rockwell  Рік тому +15

      Aw a "real time autobiography" is definitely one of things I was going for when I started this channel. And yeah, being trans is awesome but *because* it supports my "full complex" life. Good luck with your questioning!

    • @andre-cmyk
      @andre-cmyk Рік тому +7

      @@arthur_rockwell my thoughts exactly! ty and have a nice day :)

  • @rileycj2634
    @rileycj2634 Рік тому +225

    As a trans gay guy in a relationship its nice seeing other people like me, So happy for you guys! A lot of us think we would never be able to date (especially cis guys) but I hope they realize they should still have hope for the future❤

    • @francapiroto763
      @francapiroto763 Рік тому +25

      I feel like gay cis guys understand us more than we think. I was talking with a classmate about my voice insecurities and he related to that because he also had a more high pitched voice and I felt a lot better after that

    • @rileycj2634
      @rileycj2634 Рік тому +13

      @@francapiroto763 Yeah my cis bf can definitely relate to me with some stuff like not "passing", he looks naturally pretty androgynous and has long hair so he gets called a girl a lot in public. We both got misgendered by the same teacher at school all of last year so we bonded some over that lol.

    • @user-bl3si3kq6x
      @user-bl3si3kq6x Рік тому +14

      You are just like me but the inverse. MtF lesbian here! Love and let love!

    • @Bloody_Corpses
      @Bloody_Corpses Рік тому +1

      ​@@rileycj2634 that's a relief I didn't know that could happen to cis guys 😲

    • @jamesst_
      @jamesst_ Рік тому +7

      SAMEEEE OMG! I found my guy, hes a cis gay boy and he's the person that respects me the most! I feel so safe and comfortable around him, I'm so happy! 💓

  • @liminaljay3311
    @liminaljay3311 2 місяці тому +6

    As a gay trans guy watching this was soothing and inspiring. I haven’t dated much since transitioning, just one relationship that was a total mess. Watching you two talk and connect about your relationship in such a warm, affectionate way gave me hope for my future. Thank you!!

  • @eugeniocorpuz8338
    @eugeniocorpuz8338 3 місяці тому +5

    They both have a sense of humor.

  • @W3irdStranger
    @W3irdStranger 4 місяці тому +9

    You guys made my dysphoria distracted, thank you so much!!! Also, the names Arthur and Harry kinda remind me of a fantasy novel name lol (In a compliment-good way)

  • @speider_
    @speider_ 5 місяців тому +4

    Im a trans man dating a cis man, I'm his first boyfriend, and first trans partner too. He doesn't identify w any sexuality at all and that sometimes makes me a bit insecure

    • @Abby-00
      @Abby-00 5 місяців тому +1

      He’s straight

    • @iwromi1852
      @iwromi1852 2 місяці тому +1

      If you are pre-T it's most likely he's straight and is tricking you sadly.

  • @erick0515
    @erick0515 5 місяців тому +6

    Cute couple! Wish you guys all the best! 👍🏻

  • @JNO_JNO
    @JNO_JNO Місяць тому +2

    Who decided on the terminology cis without consulting biological men? I wasn’t consulted and reject the term.

  • @otherwords1375
    @otherwords1375 Рік тому +58

    I'm single now, but as a lesbian in a liberal city, my relationships have always drawn a ton of commentary from straight people in public, lol. "Now that's love right there," "now that's a Kodak moment," and of course the classic "you guys are so great together," etc. I guess I could bristle at the excessive attention, but I've come to find it endearing, honestly, because I think what people are really responding to is the sense of total enthrallment and devotion that my gfs and I have radiated. I find that straight couples often seem less effortlessly connected than gay couples, thanks to all the weird het-norm roleplay they have to negotiate, and I think, on some implicit level, straight people are themselves aware of this. Seeing a same-sex couple that's visibly in love is like briefly peering into a world where intimacy and vulnerability aren't countervailed by those expectations -- where love is truly pure, as such.

    • @arthur_rockwell
      @arthur_rockwell  Рік тому +18

      That's a great point (also beautifully articulated). I've absolutely felt like the energy surrounding gay dating has been radically different than that of my straight friends. Even many of my very liberal friends end up conforming to the "weird het-norm roleplay" at the end of the day and feel a lot of pressure to hit certain checkpoints at certain times. And it is wonderful to be free of that.

  • @KarolaTea
    @KarolaTea 4 місяці тому

    Great video, thanks both of you! Interesting to hear your thoughts and you are both very entertaining :)

  • @JordanP.
    @JordanP. Рік тому +66

    god this gives me confidence for dating. im happy for you both!

  • @fifi13912
    @fifi13912 5 місяців тому +2

    I am very confused as your boyfriend says when he and his best friend came out to each other in school they identified us lesbians for a while. How could your boyfriend have identified as a lesbian when he is a man?

    • @jargoggle
      @jargoggle 3 місяці тому +2

      i think its his best friend that identified as a lesbian at the time

  • @vherak05
    @vherak05 Рік тому +68

    As a trans gay guy not in a relationship, this video is inspiring. Glad to know happiness can exist for trans people.

    • @Zeuswashington
      @Zeuswashington Рік тому +1

      Can we date? I'm 22 years old

    • @rivroyerr
      @rivroyerr 10 місяців тому

      mood
      @@Zeuswashington

    • @bobbobbington3615
      @bobbobbington3615 10 місяців тому +1

      TrAnS gAy GuY.
      Love the sarcasm op.

    • @blvndr
      @blvndr 10 місяців тому

      @@bobbobbington3615bro why are you on this channel if ur so against ftms smh???

    • @bobbobbington3615
      @bobbobbington3615 10 місяців тому

      @@blvndr Because it's a free world, you ignorant cockroach.

  • @calfff
    @calfff Рік тому +34

    really, i look up to you as a trans boy. you're so authentic and i find your stories and thoughts super valuable. i hope to be as well-spoken, confident, and genuine as you are. you both look so happy in this video. and i couldn't help but think that if anyone, you in particular totally deserve to be. so heart-warming. happy for the both of you!

  • @sunnyb1185
    @sunnyb1185 Рік тому +38

    This really made me feel so nice. I go back and forth about being T4T, and while that can be a lovely thing for so many people I think for me it stems largely out of fear of cis men and transphobia in general. It's so reassuring seeing a relationship between a trans and cis person where understanding and respect seems to come so naturally!

    • @arthur_rockwell
      @arthur_rockwell  Рік тому +15

      Yeah T4T can be really beautiful and it's lovely to have things in common with your SO, but, at the end of the day, being trans is one of many identities I have. So even if I were dating another trans guy inevitably we'd have to respect and understand each other's different life experiences. And I think it's the ability to do that which determines if a relationship is going to work out! When that started to click for me was when I felt neutral on whether I'd end up w another trans guy.

    • @derekb4977
      @derekb4977 Рік тому +1

      ​@@arthur_rockwell you're in a heterosexual relationship facts.

  • @markrussell3428
    @markrussell3428 Рік тому +35

    A person can't watch this video and not be moved. You look happy together and that is awesome.

    • @radubradu
      @radubradu Рік тому +6

      i was so moved i had to find a toilet

    • @fullfungo
      @fullfungo 9 місяців тому +1

      @@radubraduyou should go see a doctor about it.

  • @sashamellon822
    @sashamellon822 Рік тому +24

    This isn’t new 20 years ago a trans guy came onto me. I just couldn’t get my head round it. I just had to say no to the guy . It’s still very difficult to understand that you would go through all of that just so you can wear men’s clothes and be a gay guy . But gender and sexuality are indeed different.

    • @colourmetransported
      @colourmetransported 10 місяців тому +21

      that's the thing. You think it's about clothes. But the clothes are just culture mostly. It's about the body underneath and actually being seen as a guy at face value, not a style or personality quirk.

    • @rivroyerr
      @rivroyerr 10 місяців тому

      this.@@colourmetransported

    • @jxc99
      @jxc99 8 місяців тому +10

      It’s good that you acknowledged gender and sexuality are different. If it was so important for trans people to be seen as straight, wouldn’t most gay people eventually transition?
      One thing that sparked my identity awareness was feeling annoyed that everyone thought I was a lesbian because I was a slightly masculine girl. In reality, I felt the opposite - my liking guys made it hard for me to realize I was also jealous and wanted to be seen as one.

    • @fashupora5487
      @fashupora5487 Місяць тому

      @@zeff8820what about transsexual women?

  • @NerfHerder909
    @NerfHerder909 Рік тому +32

    Jewish person here. When you announced that Chanukah is "the most important Jewish holiday, actually," and I saw the look on Harry's face, it gave me a great laugh. Happy for both of you!

    • @arthur_rockwell
      @arthur_rockwell  Рік тому +9

      Ahaha I'm happy to hear my silly jokes landed for more than one person 😅

  • @bavillalexander9983
    @bavillalexander9983 Рік тому +25

    Your bisexual boyfriend is beautiful

  • @salbaucom2979
    @salbaucom2979 Рік тому +22

    Im a 16 yo trans kid and it’s always really nice to see other trans people in happy relationships. It gives me some hope for myself too because I have the frustrating (and untrue) idea that no one will ever want to be with me because I’m trans. It’s something to work through but I always feel so happy seeing other trans people just existing and being happy :)

  • @mintreality1745
    @mintreality1745 Рік тому +20

    This was lovely to watch. You both look so happy and smiley and the way that you look at each other tells us everything. I'm so happy that you found each other. Looks like a perfect match.

  • @linzihan
    @linzihan Рік тому +30

    as someone pursuing a legal career its so comforting to see trans gay guys like me who are doing very academically focused jobs and are happy and are in fulfilling relationships

  • @lady_of_the_funk
    @lady_of_the_funk Рік тому +36

    How is this anything other than a heterosexual relationship (serious question)?

    • @colourmetransported
      @colourmetransported 10 місяців тому +9

      he looks male in every way. No heterosexual relationship has that much testosterone. Get a grip TERF. Better yet, get therapy.

    • @rivroyerr
      @rivroyerr 10 місяців тому +3

      cus theyre both men

    • @fullfungo
      @fullfungo 9 місяців тому +19

      Because it’s two guys in love.

    • @GIJadaSmith
      @GIJadaSmith 9 місяців тому +13

      Because she iDeNtiFiEs 👰🏻‍♂️

    • @Oceananswer
      @Oceananswer 20 днів тому +1

      What straight relationship has two obviously masculine dudes together ?

  • @goldie8855
    @goldie8855 Рік тому +14

    I just started watching your vids a couple hours ago and they’re really helping me! thanks for sharing so much of your life, you two are so cute together🖤

  • @lemons2001
    @lemons2001 6 місяців тому +1

    wanna hear your funny trans stories!

  • @oliverlezz
    @oliverlezz 6 місяців тому +4

    thanks for giving me hope 🥹

  • @dantaylor4953
    @dantaylor4953 3 місяці тому

    Good stuff!

  • @cooleo867
    @cooleo867 3 місяці тому +1

    The world you live In is an Ironic surreal mosaic world. My GOD.

  • @PansexLanza
    @PansexLanza Рік тому +17

    Nice video there. I'm pan cis guy in relationship with ftm gay guy and we are happy couple with 4 cats and 3 guinea pigs 😻

    • @cakepann
      @cakepann Рік тому +4

      That’s so sweet, lol, sounds ideal 🏳️‍🌈

    • @25mbl1995
      @25mbl1995 10 місяців тому

      4 cats and 3 guinea pigs sounds SO CUTE

    • @0n_Cloud_9
      @0n_Cloud_9 4 місяці тому

      This is so cute. ❤ one big happy family. 💕💕💕💕

  • @EmoSnowBall
    @EmoSnowBall Місяць тому +2

    Straight couple

  • @xenomorphlover
    @xenomorphlover 3 місяці тому +5

    Wouldn't that this make him straight again?....😬

    • @5thSonOfCain
      @5thSonOfCain 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@@crazyorganist1609Ehhhh well definitely if they walk out in public nobody would consider that straight even after knowing he transitioned. But also I feel like that's true for everyone....do any of us really know all about being a man or a woman? I feel like we just know what that means for us personally and whatever the society we're in expect of us. It's a pretty personal and internal experience right?

    • @iwromi1852
      @iwromi1852 Місяць тому

      @@crazyorganist1609 just say you're transphobic.

    • @ericmartin9296
      @ericmartin9296 7 днів тому

      YES

  • @chrisbenson3374
    @chrisbenson3374 Рік тому +28

    Straight with extra steps

  • @tyng6691
    @tyng6691 Рік тому +10

    So happy for you two! This video is so sweet and it makes me feel more hopeful for my future

  • @Lee-nl1tg
    @Lee-nl1tg Рік тому +4

    I was really looking forward to this video! It brings me so much joy to see you two in a happy secure relationship together ♡ Thank you for your vulnerability in talking about your relationship on a platform, it's some of the only rep I have seen of a gay trans man in a relationship ^-^

  • @misakistalker
    @misakistalker 2 місяці тому +3

    straight couple

    • @chronicdepression9
      @chronicdepression9 2 місяці тому +3

      lol. go watch some anime kiddo. that's not sigma.

    • @ericmartin9296
      @ericmartin9296 7 днів тому +1

      that is not a gay relationship they are a straight couple

  • @Cutie_Pie_Ruhi
    @Cutie_Pie_Ruhi Рік тому +28

    You could have just dated him as a girl. Wait! You are still a girl and you will always be.

    • @fast_and_the_curious7007
      @fast_and_the_curious7007 4 місяці тому +1

      Ew who let you in the comment section, anyways happy pride month I hope you get cured of your tranphobeness one day!! 🥰

    • @fashupora5487
      @fashupora5487 Місяць тому

      She’s insecure that she’s secretly attracted to him

  • @kevincollins53
    @kevincollins53 Рік тому +7

    Very happy for you both; I wish you all the best in your relationship. Arthur, you're an inspiration to me, and I appreciate that you've shared so much about your transition journey. ❤

  • @crashhdoll6606
    @crashhdoll6606 Рік тому +6

    i've never been this early for a video!! Just saw the first 10 seconds, yall look so cute!!

  • @user-bl3si3kq6x
    @user-bl3si3kq6x Рік тому +7

    I always knew I was attracted to cis women. I wasn't comfortable admitting I was gay until I finally accepted I was trans. I decided to accept my body for what it was. There's no shame being born into the wrong body or being attracted to the same gender. Love yourself even if no one else does.

  • @essendossev362
    @essendossev362 Рік тому +6

    Y'alls laugh together so much, it's an absolute joy to witness.

  • @itshardtobeoriginal6674
    @itshardtobeoriginal6674 Рік тому +9

    Do you guys like scones? I’m watching this while enjoying one rn.

    • @arthur_rockwell
      @arthur_rockwell  Рік тому +6

      I'm more of a savory food person, but I love that aesthetic haha

    • @rivroyerr
      @rivroyerr 10 місяців тому +1

      iconic

  • @tomigun6913
    @tomigun6913 Рік тому +19

    ...... this is why i always advise my friends not too get to involved with gay shipping culture, whether they Be yaoi, k pop shipping, and other types of toxic forced abominable gay shipping

  • @Vic2point0
    @Vic2point0 Рік тому +31

    So a man dating a woman.

    • @heyhey8528
      @heyhey8528 Рік тому +23

      no

    • @glittery_fairy
      @glittery_fairy Рік тому +38

      Did you really come here just to say this? Can't you just let people be?

    • @Vic2point0
      @Vic2point0 Рік тому +6

      @@glittery_fairy Of course we all *can* just look the other way as others proclaim that they've subscribed to an incoherent worldview, but that doesn't mean we should...

    • @metalhead4139
      @metalhead4139 Рік тому +5

      Pretty much

    • @heyhey8528
      @heyhey8528 Рік тому +10

      @@Vic2point0 its not incoherent its literally science.

  • @erwane.106
    @erwane.106 Рік тому +6

    happy you found each other!! ty for sharing your love with us, it's very inspiring as a bi trans guy!!

  • @JohnWick-zw4bk
    @JohnWick-zw4bk Рік тому +11

    broooo! I'm trans gay too!👀

  • @francapiroto763
    @francapiroto763 Рік тому +8

    Oh my God, you guys are so cute. Happy for you two 🎉

  • @kieranthiara3262
    @kieranthiara3262 Рік тому +2

    I LOVE all of this! I'm glad I stumbled across your channel when I did midst ending a long term relationship and re-entering the dating world with more of an intention to date men it's just lovely to see a trans guy such as yourself living life and thriving and knowing that is a possibility for us all since so much of the representation for trans men navigating spaces full of cis gay men aren't the most positive and I'm happy and hopeful that the narrative is changing!

  • @crashhdoll6606
    @crashhdoll6606 Рік тому +7

    Does harry post their drag online? If so I'll follow him if we can have the @

    • @arthur_rockwell
      @arthur_rockwell  Рік тому +9

      ❤ I alas cannot send you his (mostly inactive) drag insta because he says where he lives on it and I'm trying to be discreet about that... not getting doxxed yadda yadda... BUT it is possible that we might do future skit-type videos together and perhaps some of those might feature him in drag 💃

    • @crashhdoll6606
      @crashhdoll6606 Рік тому +3

      @@arthur_rockwell okok understandable!! Thanks tho

  • @troodleandcharlie226
    @troodleandcharlie226 Рік тому +10

    Omg why you two so cute together

  • @marveldraws
    @marveldraws Рік тому +4

    Trans gay boy here! Such an amazing couple! Gives me hope I may find love someday :))

  • @blackpinkjisoo4969
    @blackpinkjisoo4969 2 місяці тому

    queers for Palestine who are welcome in Palestine

  • @RS-ny8my
    @RS-ny8my Рік тому +7

    I’m going to be that teen girl and say S O A D O R A B L E

  • @emmelieapfel2417
    @emmelieapfel2417 Рік тому +6

    Thank you so much for sharing 🙏❤

  • @bruce8443
    @bruce8443 Рік тому +4

    Thanks

  • @neomatrix4412
    @neomatrix4412 10 місяців тому +1

    ever been with a single Trans Guy

  • @linotrampert4798
    @linotrampert4798 Рік тому +2

    😍

  • @doughboi2145
    @doughboi2145 Рік тому +1

    I hope I get a boyfriend one day

  • @supahmoneymagnet
    @supahmoneymagnet Рік тому

    I hope to find a research that will show what's the percentage of ftm that are ONLY attracted to men (IF THERE TRULY ARE - cuz i think almost all if not all ftm are either exclusively attracted to women or are attracted to both vs. those (THE MAJORITY it seems) who are only attracted to women... cuz there are soooo many gorgeous ftm, and i have just recently realized as a cis person that i am attracted to THE FACE AND THE VOICE AND MASCULINITY, like the butcher, the better, and handsome faces are my fave

  • @foreverwantingpie
    @foreverwantingpie 9 місяців тому

    *16 year old in public voice* omg you guys are soo cute

  • @AngloAm
    @AngloAm Рік тому +1

    What do you do as an economist?

  • @linzihan
    @linzihan Рік тому

    ‘I’M DATING ONE’ TOOK ME OUT LMFAOO

  • @peoplearedting-et1wz
    @peoplearedting-et1wz Рік тому

    Did you translation after meeting?