I would be rethinking the whole marriage considering this man is definitely a momma’s boy and he can’t ever make a move without momma! This man also has no ground to stand on for being mad at you, he chose to not answer your texts or even listen to you before he left when you said something! If he had then he would’ve known, his own actions caused him to miss the birth.
Well OP was right not to tell him she was in labor. With every text he proved she was not his priority and his mom was more important to him. Take in the information and act on it. Personally I would ask for a separation and therapy, individual and couple. After 6 months I'd reassess and it's either divorce or get back together with clear boundaries and one more strike you're out.
Husband definitely has something he needs to sort out. I would honestly go with the ultimatum route and let him know how you really feel. Now hes battling some demons and the behavior just cropped up, so something significant recently happened that has affected how he thinks and acts. Maybe someone close passed? Thats my only guess since he seems to have taken such a more serious role in his ill mothers issues, despite having other options.
You say you husband is mentally unwell, and is scared to lose his mom. Even if the mom is abusing it, and he is gullible, and you were having fights over it, you still handled it wrong. This is only going to cause lasting resentment, you could at lest have told him what was happening. I think it is normal to tell someone there is an emergency, instead you just ask him where he was and how long he will be gone. Sounds to me you held a grudge, and resented him for wanting him to be there for his mom when they are having a health scare.
I'd be rethinking the marriage.
I would be rethinking the whole marriage considering this man is definitely a momma’s boy and he can’t ever make a move without momma! This man also has no ground to stand on for being mad at you, he chose to not answer your texts or even listen to you before he left when you said something! If he had then he would’ve known, his own actions caused him to miss the birth.
Well OP was right not to tell him she was in labor. With every text he proved she was not his priority and his mom was more important to him. Take in the information and act on it. Personally I would ask for a separation and therapy, individual and couple. After 6 months I'd reassess and it's either divorce or get back together with clear boundaries and one more strike you're out.
That is called emotional incest and you need to leave him or else you and your daughter will always be second or 3rd.
Husband definitely has something he needs to sort out. I would honestly go with the ultimatum route and let him know how you really feel.
Now hes battling some demons and the behavior just cropped up, so something significant recently happened that has affected how he thinks and acts. Maybe someone close passed? Thats my only guess since he seems to have taken such a more serious role in his ill mothers issues, despite having other options.
You say you husband is mentally unwell, and is scared to lose his mom. Even if the mom is abusing it, and he is gullible, and you were having fights over it, you still handled it wrong. This is only going to cause lasting resentment, you could at lest have told him what was happening. I think it is normal to tell someone there is an emergency, instead you just ask him where he was and how long he will be gone. Sounds to me you held a grudge, and resented him for wanting him to be there for his mom when they are having a health scare.