I want to say to everyone, thanks for the support and the advice. I feel a lot better and am grateful to all you in this UA-cam family. Here is what I have learned from this situation.. 1. Do not touch a persons car even if they almost killed you due to negligence 2. calling the police was probably the best course of action even though they won't do anything (the police actually got back to me and literally said they will not investigate the situation), at least they have a record. 3. Be more aware of this area I live. I have been a bit too comfortable and relaxed. 4. Relocate to a safer neighborhood ASAP. Being on the autism spectrum, these situations are hard to navigate for me so I am glad to have all of your valuable feedback. I also want to say if some of my comments seemed like I am picking on a certain group or that I am exaggerating my situation, I apologize and am glad you are patient with me as conveying emotions especially strong emotions in a traumatic experience are especially hard for a person on the autism spectrum. Thanks again for the support and I am always learning.
I've been a witness of an assault with a knife here in Sweden, reported it immediately and the guy got arrested really quickly. I testified in court against him, v was *super* scared of retribution since I took a fucking video of the whole thing from my apartment window and gave it to the police and he easily would have been able to identify me from it. Nothing ever happened and eventually the police increased their presence in the neighborhood and kicked all the drug dealers out. I want to say that you're a bad ass for taking a picture of the guy, I'm sure it sent him the message that there may be consequences for his actions, even if the police don't do anything about it. Also personally I wouldn't be afraid of running into him, and I'd just pretend that I don't know him. But of course if you don't feel safe then get out of that area.
I guess you are living in Rosengård, both my son and daughter are living there. Both of them have been living there for at least 5 years and they never had any problems, I on the other hand have had a couple of disputes because I have been living on the wrong side of the law. Most of the violence in Malmö is amongst criminals but sometimes innocent bystanders get involved. Yeah they can be very easily offended when it comes to their car or other bling bling. I left that livestyle more than 10 years ago and are now living an Sven Svensson life up north in Jokkmokk, nice and quiet. Try to put it behind you, he most likely has forgotten about it so try to not let it eat you.
I live about 4 bus stops from Rosengård. I am in the Nobeltorget area. I am feeling a bit better. It was nice to have a lot of good feedback from you all on UA-cam. I actually was in Jokkmokk about 5 years ago. Was a cool experience.
Even the safest society will have bad apples and intense interactions may happen to all of us. Encounters with aggressive people are always stressful but unless You get hurt, You're still safe. You've dealt with this situation really well. Learn from it, keep Your head up and carry on. Cheers from Poland.
I'm a Swede but went to a school with about 50% immigrants and also grew up playing football and you learned quite quickly what groups of people not to engage with when their tempers flared. They often have very short fuses and they already get mad quickly for the smallest of reasons so it was always better to just not say anything when they were trying to start something. I saw people mouth back at them several times and it multiple times ended with a whole group of people jumping a single guy. We had a whole team in our football division that were so violent that neither teams or referees wanted to play/officiate those games and after years of struggle they were banned. 😅
@@jennybodin3710 Tänker inte säga namnet men deras klubb blev kickade i såväl fotboll som innebandy då många av spelarna höll på med båda sporter. Var och kollade på deras matcher två gånger. Båda fick avbrytas efter misshandel och polis fick tillkallas båda gånger. Ena gången stormade hela läktaren planen då de hade ett 50-tal vänner och släkt som tittade på och de ville vara med och bråka när det blev gruff på planen. Då kände man sig trygg som motspelare... 😅
Thats a good answer. i am a swede to and my advise is also that one must learn how to "read" other peoples behaviour. Some immigrant groups, especially kids/ young adults from middle east and african countries, you just cant interact with in certain situations. They are used to control their invironment with violence so, especially when they are in groups, you should not try to interact with them. They dont learn any boundaries from home and solved a lot of problems by violence. So just stay away from those groups! And this problem are all over sweden now. I see a lot as a schoolbus driver...
@@theoldfart8632 wow that’s so unfortunate. Do you think it’s a problem of poor integration in Swedish society? I did not see so much of the same issues in Texas with the same people. They were pretty chill for the most part with the exception of that one pharmacist I worked with who got kicked out of the pharmacy for abusing us employees and the customers. She was even mean to people from her same country. It’s surreal to see. I also have a hard time wrapping my brain around this as I can count how many times I got really mad in my life, literally and I am one of those people that wants to get along with everyone. Maybe I am just too naive.
I'm so sorry this happened to you!!! You were a victim of a random act of violence and that is terrifying. I think I can understand how you feel - I was brutally attacked in high school just for being different and it will forever stay in the back of my mind. My recommendation for you is to relocate to a safer area when you are able. There are many safer areas farther up north in Sweden. Have you ever considered Umeå? There is a large medical university hospital there. Let me know if something like this sounds workable for you.
Thanks for the advice. I will definitely find a safer area to live in a few months. I have also considered moving farther north in a few years not exactly sure where yet. Funny you mention Umeå. I am doing an online course right now through them for my nurse license.
@@becurious2000 I'm from Stockholm but I did a course in Wildlife Biology at Umeå University and went there for an excursion, If you could stand the harsh winters I'd totally recommend to move there! Never met such mellow and sweet people, nobody's in a hurry and the atmosphere is so calm. I would not recommend Stockholm if you want to keep your sanity x'D
You just received a new subscriber. I am so sorry you had to experience this. It hurts me to see good citizens like you get attacked in this way. I’ve also had experiences with these people. I hope everything will sort out for you and you being able to let go of your fear. Love from the Swedish west coast.
Thanks so much for the subscribe. 🙏🏻Yea I am feeling a lot better thanks to you all. I have learned a lot from this situation. Hopefully I can avoid such issues again in the future.😊
I am so sorry to hear about your experience and the effects it has had on you. Malmö is a great city and you have identified great areas which are very calm where you could move. You did right to report it to the police. Like someone suggested in a comment you are likely to be eligible for counselling sessions through your employer. And even if you would not be you would still need to pay only up to the maximum yearly healthcare fee which, as you might know, is very low in Sweden. It sounds like this horrible, once off experience, really has a very negative impact on your quality of life, and talking it though with a professional could help you to process it in a way that let’s you move forward.
ive gotten attacked once on my way from the store (3 minute walk away from where i used to live) by a group of immigrants. ive also gotten threats 2 seperate times. the police in my city even stated that the hate for native swedes is a problem in this city.
Yes, normal people would feel bad about almost running over someone, but you get people who won't in any society. However, there are cultures wherein no matter what a person has done they can never admit fault or take responsibility and absolutely never apologize. Europe has imported that in the multiple millions, tens of millions(?). Sweden, like almost all western countries, is so weak on crime that calling the police is pointless.
Yea 😢. I actually would love to sit down with this gentleman and talk like civilized adults but I was advised that in this case it is not wise. Some of my friends said I am a little too naive .
@@becurious2000 i actually did do the sit down and talk with the "victim" (i use quotes because they were jerks in the situation too) and it worked out well. i didnt try to bully and intimidate them though, I was genuinely hurt and angry they swore and insulted me in traffic for what i thought is an harmless maneuver, and it ended with me pushing the guy becuase i found him to be so annoying. so not the same situation. anyways we had a meeting with the police there and i apologized etc. if the store knows him you should have pursued it in my opinion. sometimes people can change after they get a wake up call with the potential of serious consequences. but then again some people can just refuse to accept that they are wrong. i guess you know what is best.
Sorry to hear about this, but i´m not surprised. I live in a small town in Sweden and even here bad things happens. The best thing is just to stay away from those people and don´t try to interact. Was it a middle eastern man?
I witnessed something very similar here in Brussels: a car that for no apparent reason swerved onto the pedestrian crossing to make a sudden stop, it put me and another pedestrian somewhat in danger so I felt the same "wtf" as the man beside me, but I went about my way and he lightly tapped the car hood in protest, then a middle eastern man steps out to confront that man very much in his face and tapping his cheek with his hand telling him he should not touch his car like that (like the car was his baby or something) the man got away relatively easily but clearly disgusted by this altercation. I stood by and when the driver let the poor man go I did interact with him to say "he just got scared that's all" trying to put some empathy in this person. Cultural differences should not be swept under the rug, frustration about these eastern peoples is ignored because some keep making excuses, fearing it's all prejudice but it's not. I myself find I'm actually more patient and tolerant with their religious bullshit than with christian bullshit, for no good reason. I don't have the solutions though, migration is necessary in all directions. I hope that with time we'll harmonise better across the globe.
There is no "harmonising" with Islam. Its baffling that people still dont understand this. And the reason you are more patient and tolerant with their bs is because media and the left has successfully indoctrinated western societies into the notion that critisizing islam or arabs/africans is automatically racist.
I am sorry that happened to you. If you have the ability to move to a safer part of sweden and isn't too much of a cost issue, then why not ... I understand it might be hard with your work though. Follow your heart and pay attention to your personal boundaries. If you think you wont be able to overcome the trauma of that experience - then its healthy to not overstep your personal boundaries. Sadly bad things can happen anywhere but if you know from knowledge and experience that its an unsafe area then its more a choice at that point. If you want to keep living in that more dangerous area, then having possible future incidents might be a more common factor then in a safer area. I know this from living a bit in Oakland, Cali (I am a Canadian living in Finland now). If your willing to living in a tougher hood, sometimes it does put a thicker skin on us... but personally, living in both types, I prefer to live in a safer area, even if if it costs bit extra (but you can always find deals if you look hard enough) and other things like work or volunteer work, I dont might a bit more challenging enviornement. It's always nice to come back to a place that you feel at peace and safe in if thats a possibility.
I agree. I’ll be moving in a few months. I am looking at my options. This was a big learning opportunity. I have seen a lot in Texas as most of my life was there. I almost got shot once by a guy who was high, I have had violent patients who were in gangs and white supremacists, I have fellow nurses who were murdered. I guess I let my guard down since coming here to Sweden because I was more relaxed and felt pretty safe. I’ll have to be more careful.
Sorry to hear that but not surprising unfortunately. I would still report this to the police even though nothing will come out of it. But its good to let them know. Usually people from those parts of the world have a very short temper and resort to violence quite fast. I'm guessing your knocking offended his "honor" and he needed to redeem himself immediately. This is quite typical from these parts of the world. I had a friend recently that told one of these people to stop harassing a woman. A few seconds later he got his head smashed with a champagne bottle and had to go to the emergency for stitching.
Whoa 😳 poor guy. I have a hard time understanding why people can be so angry. We even had similar things happen even among employees from the same culture at one of my last employers in Sweden. I never saw it so much among them in America. I wonder if they are just more afraid of the police in America than in Sweden.
@@becurious2000 I would guess it may also have something to do with Texan gun toting and legal mentality/possibilities there as compared to here in Sweden. On the whole though social integration of immigrants have over the last 20+ years literally been a massive negative for Swedish society. Its comparable to not having a functional immune system, while places like Texas in the US has a comparably robust one.
Don't touch their cars, they are more precious to many of them than their kids. It's their way of showing to family back home how successful they are and so on.
So sad. I have a friend from England whose friend got murdered by her father with a knife because she converted to Christian from Islam. Such a tragedy.
Sorry to hear you had to go through that situation Brandon. You have people like that everywhere, and May never run into one. Food for thought, check into bear spray, you never know when things can get out of hand. You still have the right to protect yourself. Just pray it doesn’t happen again.
Thanks uncle. Yea hopefully doesn’t happen again. Hopefully one of those ones in a lifetime things. Glad I did not fight back. He could have had a knife or a gun… who knows. Many have said he was probably under the influence. 🤷
Hi with a huge warm hug to you, it's been two weeks now since your scary encounter. I'm in NZ, lived for several years in Europe. Report all incidences to the Police no matter what then it's on record. I am being stacked etc since 2018 by NZ medical staff and their friends, I record and report. Anger is reaching a record peak globally. A friend abroad sends me daily a message to think of good things as shit does happen learn to avoid the toxic actors in this matrix. Thank you for sharing, I have now subscribed and look forward to the next time, stay safe and happy, think of the good things and enjoy nature regularily Sweden has so much of it, we spent many holidays there just out of Stromstad.
@@aryamanbhadauria1584 we got 30-40 arrests same week we gave police free hands, been going since, its now really hard to be a criminal here bc they can spy and raid and listen to everything without cause, and they can lock you up soon without cause indefinetly
Haha, "cleaning up"! Tror du på politikernas lögner? Det här skulle ha varit gjort minst 30 år tidigare, och det skulle ha varit 10 ggr brutalare än det värsta SD förespråkar nu.
Sorry that happened to you. I was randomly attacked a handful of times in San Francisco before we moved somewhere safer. I guess it can happen anywhere
Sorry to hear about your experience. I hope you were able to shake it off and carry on as usual. I had a similar experience when I was in my 20s. For the same reason. I learned never to touch someone else's car. It happened 50 years ago but has never happened again. Now I am 70 years old and retired, but especially during my last 11 professional years I met many immigrants from all corners of the world. They were all very nice and hard working. You always run the risk of meeting idiots. Doesn't matter where in the world you go. Good thing you called the police and even better with the photo. I hope you have a safe and secure future. Cars and Cyclists are always obliged by law to give way to pedestrians, but you still have to be careful as you are.
I know exactly how you’re feeling. People like us, that are not used tomorrow confrontation, freak out by things like this. Nevertheless, call the police. We need to stand up against bullies.
Hi from DFW area. So sorry you had to go throught this. I really look up to you being from Dallas area and I would like to follow in your footsteps and take a similar path to you to move to a Nordic country. Have you considered moving to Finland? They seem to have a lot of Swedish speakers there and as far as I can tell might let you take the nursing test in Swedish instead of Finnish but I'm not totally sure. Maybe a Finnish person on here has more info than me about this.
Yea actually I had looked into it. Currently I am focusing on perfecting my Swedish and getting my Swedish nursing license finalized, but who knows what’s in the future for me, a lot can happen.
Sorry these things happened to you. As a white swede that grew up in a bad minority swedish area, the best thing you could possibly do to avoid any issues is to simply ignore it and move on. Of course majority of immigrants are nice and good people. BUT! Especially when it comes to teen and young adult guys of certain groups, you don't look at them, you don't talk back to them, you simply ignore and walk away, even if they are causing trouble. The "issue" here was that you did an action towards that person as a response to their behavior, which they take VERY badly to. Giving these people a physical or verbal response will certainly lead to a bad outcome and the justice system isn't in our favor and everyone's information is publicly available which is why people ignore things even more. That is the sad reality of avoiding trouble in Sweden and it sure hasn't helped with people interacting with strangers, hopefully the interaction won't affect your life too much and I hope you'll be lucky enough to not having to interact with people like this anymore.
Hi I think you did the right thing. Your friend who is from the same part of the world is probably more tuned in culturally - I would listen to him. I have a severe anxiety disorder and PTSD - and I’m female. So yes be really aware of your surroundings and maybe get someone to walk home with you.listen to you gut!
Former NYer and American living in Chicago. I'm not trying to blame you for this crazy situation but don't touch other people's cars. Don't engage with people who have zero regard for public safety (speeding down the street). There are so many crazy people and road ragers out there in every country, even the safest countries in the world you need street smarts and your whits in some areas of the city. You likely experienced someone who was mentally ill and/or has no fear of the police (possibly a legit criminal). I'm sorry you experienced this scary experience.
Hi! I am so sorry this happened to you, it broke my heart hearing your story. And it touched me because i had too experience here myself and seen this too many times, where i live, the Netherlands, that were so similar. Having lived in several cities here in this country. It has been always the same experiences, sadly. I always keep my head down, mind my own self but one day, out of the blue, it happened. An incident i did not ask for. When i told the dude, please stop it, this is so sick behaviour, after he grabbed my behind, in broad daylight, afternoon, ( i was wearing a wide tracking suit and sneakers, in case anyone thinks i provoked,) he got so so mad and wanted to hit me and said to me, because i am a woman and should shut my mouth... I was really scared and wished i did not say anything. Everyone around watched and did nothing and the only thing that was missing there with this people, was popcorn😂....... On a daily base, this i see every time i walk here, out of my studio, just go grocery shopping. Situations like this. I saw in 1 of your video's some people " talking" in front/down of your window, you filmed, (sometimes seems more fighting but for some it is normal communication, for some)...i have this daily, even at 3 in the morning on weekdays so.....It seems " normal" behaviour around here. Absolutly no judging, not everyone's is like this, i know, but it is kinda the norm here, sadly. Anyway, on a brighter note, i just found your channel and i am really enjoying watching your video's. Myself, so called under an autistic spectrum lingering umbrella, have been looking for peacefull countries to live in and other reasons, nature, health issues because of this (my experiences), i developed tics among other stress here because of this created anxiety, to coop, it is not healty this way of living here every day, i have had enough, it s not ok to deal with stuff other people bother you with even we have to coexist. So Sweden came out as number 1 for me but no big cities. So, i stumbled on your video of " why i moved to Sweden". It was so relatable for me, the reasons you mentioned. I hope you'll keep making more video's😊😊 xoxo
It’s so interesting to hear your story. I appreciate the support and you watching my videos. Hopefully you can find a place you thrive. Once I am stable in Sweden and have got permanent residency I can see myself moving farther north or more out in the country as well. Right now though due to immigration related stuff it is easier for me to be in a bigger city as there are many more resources such as the immigration agency is here in Malmö. It can be difficult to travel on short notice long distances in a foreign land frequently to get all the paperwork in order . That happened a lot when I was working in Helsingborg and had to make frequent trips to Migrationsverket in Malmö during the week while I was working. Downtown Malmö I think is nice to visit, go to restaurants, things like that. But for me, to live there was affecting my health negatively. I have since moved to Limhamn just outside Malmö and I absolutely love it! It’s a cozy calmer area. There are still some of those kinds of people here but not as many. I think diversity is a beautiful thing but when one moves to another country one needs to have good manners and try to respect the culture of the land they move to so long as human rights are not being violated. I can give one good example. In Sweden it is good manners to respect the quietness on public transportation. However there tends to be more people from certain groups that will listen to the sound on their phone instead of on their headphones. Not everyone wants to hear what they are watching. Sometimes the stuff they are watching is downright disrespectful or disturbing material and there are children on the bus 🚃 as well. I think it comes down to absent mindedness or a lack of care for other people. If people were more loving and caring for each other then there would be less of this. I also feel like parents are not as involved with their children these days. I see so many disruptive gangs of teenage boys on the buses and going around town. The majority of them are not Swedish. I am not sure why this is. We had a similar problem with this in Texas because parents that were immigrants worked so much to survive that they were rarely home to raise the kids. In any case I hope you find a fantastic place you thrive!
@@becurious2000 thank you so much for your reply, i really agree with what you said here. I hope you find your way further in the future moving up north and i enjoy following your journey in Sweden and support your channel and i ll keep watching your video's, i enjoy them so much! Xo
Great that you talked to the physician who was familiar with the 'cultural thing'. I think it is interesting that workplaces often have policies to support employees who are victims of abuse at home, but not of violence that occurs on the way to or from work. I wonder if it is a question to ask a boss, supervisor, or even union representative (even hypothetically :-) ). Sounds as though you handled the situation well, regardless!
@@becurious2000I move to Thailand, the best i do in my life.I live here for half cost of Sweden. Only thing are safer in Sweden are traffic, here so dangerus. Ofcourse I can have problems here to,but for the most better here. Sorry for my englich.
Really sad to hear this happened to you. It’s important to not take it personally and also try to understand the deeper causes of what happened. My take when I hear these kinds of things is the following. I don’t think this is an issue of immigration, it’s an issue of masculinity and societal consequences of a toxic sense of manlihood. Young men, whose sense of masculinity depends heavily on others’ opinions, may be the most triggered by a threat to their manhood. Studies have shown that there might be a correlation that suggests that the more social pressure a man feels to be masculine, the more aggressive he may be. In this case you touching his car was taken as a threat to his fragile ego/masculinity. He felt a need to regain and protect that sense of having to be strong and prove his manhood through violence and domination. Unfortunately you had to be the victim of his insecurity. It’s an insane and absolutely unhealthy view of what it means to be a man and unfortunately both gangster culture and other social ideals play in here. The fact that the gender divide between education level of men and women are falling faster in the Scandinavian countries compared to the rest of Europe. Men are typically less educated than women enhance also in that sense feel that they are being left behind. In the US alone men are 4 times more likely to commit suicide than women . When you don’t have a higher education in a very competitive job, market your ability to provide for partner by, for example, having a good job and buying a house decreased. Traditionally these were the male roles and ideals to pursue. In a sense men who are not as well educated to have a right to feel left behind but the combination of this trend along with a fragile ego/sense of self is a toxic combination. Young men often lower income and education also fear more being obsolete and useless to society which is very tragic. Don’t know if this helps you but at least for me it makes a difference when I can see other people not as threatening but as fragile and vulnerable humans underneath that protective facade they’re constantly busy trying to manifest, protect and uphold. My presumption is that young men from immigrant background have an even more fragile sense of who they are since they are also battling society’s prejudice and bias against immigrants and people from other cultural background. It’s just a fact of life that people who are different from you will be viewed as a potential threat until you get to know them and realize you have more in common than what divides you. So in a sense, he is a victim of both unhealthy cultural norms and you were the victim of his fragile and toxic sense of who he is a world, he must see as threatening. It’s really tragic. If this ever happens to you again. I would maybe have a plan in your head for how to respond ahead of time. The only thing I can think of to disarm the potentially threatening situation like this. Is the first start by introducing yourself by name, and show that you wanna greet him and shake his hand. Gandhi is famous for having said, do the opposite. And what you were doing is probably the most opposite of what he is expecting. By kindly introducing yourself and telling him who you are, it might take him by surprise and it will also help him see that you are a person, and not a potential threat. Then, when you see that he’s not as physically threatening anymore, you can begin to perhaps apologize for the misunderstanding. And try to resolve the issue. I do not believe this is giving in or being weak. It has a bigger chance of the escalating, a potentially dangerous situation, and on top of that it might even make him think a little, and realized that not everyone is out to get him, and he doesn’t need to prove his masculinity to everyone. He is in a prison of his own making, and even though he might have shiny gold watches, and a fancy car, I bet it’s pretty lonely and scary. Young men look at their lives and compared to the lives and times of their fathers they feel they are loosing something. Gender equality is incredibly important but in the process they might see how women are rising and getting better, more competitive and fast while the traditional role of the man is becoming more unfamiliar and confusing. In this light his car is not only a car but a symbol of perhaps his success (or the image of success he wants others to believe) as a man. When feeling snubbed both in education and the job market men’s last resort to feeling good about themselves is to compare themselves to other men. And in that world having all the status symbols is your protection from being seen as an unattractive looser. Plain and simple. I think that’s what I would try to do at least if this ever happened to me. Take care of yourself.
You make some very good and valid points. Hopefully.... if there is a next time.... I don't freeze up like I did in total fight or flight mode. 😳 I see some similarities with with redneck culture where I come from in Texas with some of the hardcore redneck men. We have had some like that in my own family... I think of my late grandfather. I got bullied a lot myself in school growing up so I just learned to to try to avoid compromising situations. Now that I am in a new country, things are a little different and will take some time getting used to.
Im so sorry this happened to you. 😞 You never mensions what country of people you are referring to. Or is it the whole middle east? I find it could be useful to know, so more people dont have to learn the the hard way. I wish you well and i totally get why you would like to move to a different place. I would totally be out of there, if only for peace of mind. 🤗
Yea I did not mention the language or area they come from due to fear of being labeled as racist or cancelled. These days one has to be really careful what they say in these platforms. It really is frustrating because I love people from all cultures. It’s just I think some cultural differences could be improved or changed especially when it hurts other people. I am aware for example of certain cultural things from mine own culture that have room for improvement.
@@becurious2000 Yeah and this is exactly the problem my friend. Everyone that lives in europe will automatically know what regions you are talking about. Why you think is that ??? Because in every european country its the exact same people that are causing these problems. Crime statistics in all european countries show this very clearly. Migrants from the middle east and africa are way overrepresented relative to their % of the population. This goes for violent crimes, sexual assaults and robbery etc. These are facts, but people are tiptoeing around these facts, thinking these problems will go away if we dont talk about them. They will not, they will only get worse.
Years ago (90s), when I was in my late teens, someone tried to rob me in the city I grew up in (The Hague). It was at night (03:00 / 04:00 h) coming back from the city center after going out (bar and clubbing). I was alone on my bike and between my neighborhood and the city center is a neighborhood with a bad reputation I had to cross. The bad reputation was more something portrait by the media, probably because of the high immigrant population. I knew this neighborhood well because I worked there at a store every Saturday. The job also gave me the opportunity to see a lot of homes (and food :-) ) in this neighborhood. But I was going home, riding my bike, when a guy came up to me asking for directions. I stopped and when we were close to each other, he put a gun to my head. He said several times: "Give me your money !". I replied I didn't have any money. At that moment I went on a sort of autopilot. Later I realized I did have some money on me but at the moment I believed I had not. It all went very quickly. I managed to push him loose and rode away. When I looked over my shoulder, I saw him walking in the opposite direction. I drove directly to the police station. There I gave a description of the guy and left my name and number. At home, I woke up my mother and when I was just finished telling her what happened, the police called. They caught someone and they wanted me to check if this was the guy who tried to rob me. My mum and I went to the police station (it was still dark outside). Behind a one-sided or one-view window, I could see the guy who tried to rob me and I told the policeman. After that, the police wanted a statement. They showed me the gun. Although it looked very real, so far I could be the judge of that, it was a fake. My name was anonymized and therefore not available for the perpetrator. Later, the victim support agency (provided by the police or the state) called, asking how I'm doing, if I needed help, if I wanted to talk, or need therapy. I told them it wasn't bothering me that much, so I told her I didn't need help. She told me that in case I changed my mind, I could call them. After this incident I kept my job and I rode my bike through that neighborhood, day and night. Looking back, I'm glad that I went to the police and I hope it prevented harm to other people. So, Brandon, I think you should go to the police and tell your story. You were psychically attacked ! If you're hesitant to go alone, bring a friend. If necessary, write down the questions you have for the police, for example if they can anonymize your name in the statement for example. Oh, now I see you did go to the police in the pinned comment … And you have already analyzed the situation (points 1 to 4) so yes, be aware of where you are and in case you keep feeling unsafe, move to another place. Well, I hope you're okay, and take care !
Thanks for sharing your story. How scary 😱 I can’t imagine. I had a person threaten me with a gun but it was from another car and they chased me in my car about 2.5 minutes. They caught that guy and he ended up in prison. He was only 17 and was on methanphetamines
Thank you for sharing your story ! ;-) That's scary, being chased by a person with a gun. In case you want to move, I hope you can find something soon. And I do not know if Sweden has a housing crisis like we have over here, I hope not. My uncle owned the store where I worked every Saturday for years. And he told me a story about a man who came in the store with a knive. My uncle manouvered him out of the store while saying: "I'm sorry, I don't have time for this." And the guy walked away. 🙃 Well, hope you're doing fine and see you later.
Another case where I was a witness of a brutal unprovoked assault of one man and two women. I fell behind our group who went to a pub, I was locking my bike. Another grp behind me was not so lucky. A young man riding an e-scooter pretty much jumped a guy going fully swinging. He was eventually knocked to the ground where he had to take kicks to the head. The two wmn stepped in the way but was knocked to the ground. His 'gf' yelled for him to stop which he eventually did and rode off with the girl. This happened in a matter of 20-30 seconds and I was a bit drunk a bit in the distance. This guy was definitely on some stimulant drug that allowed such relentelss attacks. It almost looked like he did it for kicks/sport. I gave witness testimony to the police. I cursed out whoever would do something like this and I actually got a picture of the suspect from a restaurant worker who had come out. One of the two cops glared at me and almost yelled at me that 'Let us do our jobs!'. Abt 2-3 weeks later I see him whilst im at a pub, speeding with his e-scooter with his eyes Ö.Ô wide open passing by. I thought to myself 'we are so f***ed.'
So sorry you did run into an encounter like that. From a distance, it sounds like the guy probably did mostly feel some ridiculous need to jump into an intimidation display to try and save face, when he was clearly in the wrong and almost running people down in the road. At a guess, that was most likely where the whole thing ended for him, and Mr. Hothead almost immediately moved on to taking out his own problems on some other convenient target. (While thankfully that is not an everyday interaction for you, so you're very understandably left thinking about it more!) I could be very wrong, but that was the reading I got at least. Pretty sure I actually live in the part of town you mentioned, btw. Also a neurodivergent American import. No issues so far, thankfully. I have witnessed two different traffic-related altercations that turned physical with drivers puffing up at each other like that during the few years I've been in Sweden, though--one in Västra Hamnen and one in Lund. That was two more than I would have expected to run across, honestly. At least it did look like way more bark than bite both times, at any rate, and bystanders did step in.
Thanks , yea it was a shock but I have noticed an increase in these sorts of activities probably since moving to Malmö August although I have managed to not be the one being attacked. I see such angry people every week cycling, on the bus, on the street. It happened in Helsingborg but not that often. The apartment that I lived in in Helsingborg got broken into . I was on vacation but my neighbors got pictures of them when they broke the window.
Oh wow, I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you! It does not surprise me at all that all the Swedes were just sitting there and not helping. Swedes tend to not get involved with people outside of their own spheres in general, and in a situation where most of them there were probably familiar with the temper tantrums of the culture you're talking about, would likely further warrant non-involvement, unfortunately. I'm very glad you weren't badly hurt though! Please move further north if you can, up past Stockholm to a more rural setting maybe? We still have violence up here, but it's not quite as prevalent yet as it is down there where you are right now. Oh, also, your reaction to the guy handing out the info on the bike tracks sounds like a very Swedish response! LOL :) After that, you I think you can totally feel like you're Swed-ified! LOL :) Best of luck to you! /A fellow American in Sweden
Thanks for the comment and reassurance my fellow American. Yea I been seeing a lot that I should move further up north. I definitely will not be staying in this neighborhood. Hopefully I can move out in a few months.
Don't forget that if people would have helped, they would risk be slapped with a "hate crime" just cause of the attackers origin. People have lost friends/family/jobs/home's just cause they voted on "the wrong party". Good luck finding someone in Sweden that's wiling to risk their future defending a random nobody that might stab them in the back cause they perceived the actions to be a "hate crime"..
I’m in Gothenburg brother and when I walk in the city I see them in groups of like 5 or more and I never move out of the way, they do lol. Coming from Chicago, these people have no idea what it means to be a tough guy. First off, they’re all like 5’6 120lbs and I’m a 6’1 190lb long haired metal head from Chicago so I’m not too worried lol
Many European countries have allowed or even enabled the mass immigration of an "ideology" that is incompatible with anything that is not that "ideology". Sadly, I suspect things will get much worse and potentially take years before they get better. Those who live through those troubles will, hopefully, learn from them.
@@BosisofSweden The last 30 years Sweden has taken in 2,5 million migrants with a population of 8 million. Thats mass migration. Theres no way to integrate that many migrants in a small country like Sweden. Unfortunately the left and liberal politicians lied to the swedish people and said that sweden wouldnt survive without all these migrants. Now we have the facts and the problems are now so huge that it takes extreme measures to solve them if its even possible.
@@BosisofSweden a large enough number of people moving to any particular country who were not born in that country that the country cannot assimilate, find them employment, train them for employment if necessary, the number overwhelms the available social service, the immigrants create social chaos, etc
Still not true. We imported and let in many more people in the 1950's to 1980s than we do now and nobody ever talked about immigration crisis. The difference now is the far right wing government, containing Nazis in suits, that point their fingers on immigration as being the problem, the shooting gangsters in particular. This is simply not true. Most of those shooting gangsters are born and raised here, in the suburbs, the segregated and poor suburbs, where they only are pointed out as a problem, a liability, a social disaster. It is basically not about color, "race" and not even the problem with language and norms. What it comes down to is the Swedish racism, capitalism (increasing income gaps between the low class and the rich and how we treat the areas where these people live and work. You can use statistics anyway you want to try and prove anything that suits your purpose. We have known since the early 1970's that it is class (money, education, workplace, your ability to affect your life, health and the environment you live in) that is the main reason social problems occur. If a society treats its citizens differently due to skin color, language or religion you will have a society where the new lower class, low income class and working class will also be the immigrants and at the bottom black African immigrants@@AL-ku1zq. Racism looks the same all over the world and there is not one, single society that has a black, African rich class with the same social problems and violence within it as any black, African poor class. It just does not happen. Racism creates a new immigrated underclass more than problems with work opportunities. In my country you can clearly see it in the statistics. And the right wing rather focus their attention on that, spreading the word to its voters, than focusing on the fact that Swedish immigrants are much better than the rest of the population in starting their own small businesses, contributing to a healthier capitalism, contributing to taxes developing the country. The right wing don't particularly want them because they aren't obedient salary slaves. On the other hand they love their uneducated, unintelligent, low income masses that vote for them and their racist messages, completely unaware of how their salaries and tax money end up in the pockets of their masters.
The stupid Swedes voted for this. I voted against mass immigration already the first time I could vote, in 1991. Most "fellow" Swedes are still voting for it... And as the stupid cowards most Swedes are they also accepted gun laws, so you can't legally defend yourself either.
Hi B Curious! You may or maybe see this (this video is a month old now). I'm also American; have lived many years in Sweden now. TERRIBLY SORRY about what happened to you!! Hopefully, you're doing better now! Am writing here, because I just wanted to be supportive. 🙂 Basically, I honestly think that your encounter with this man was a RANDOM act! I would encourage you to NOT be more worried! Odds are that this man probably FORGOT all about what he did to you, soon after! He OBVIOUSLY has ANGER MANAGEMENT issues, and would have had MANY OTHER incidents like this, with MANY OTHERS, in his life! ...That people in the shop said that you DIDN'T do anything WRONG, and that they knew of him, is a GOOD thing! They would certainly NOT do anything to put you in any jeopardy, or anything. 🙂 And I even if he was in the area again, I HIGHLY DOUBT that 1) he woulld RECOGNIZE you, or 2) even REMEMBER his encounter with you!! That's USUALLY how these things turn out. Afterall, you did NOTHING against HIM, that would make him remember you! For him, you would just be "another face in a crowd", I'm pretty sure! 🙂...What happened to you was extremely MISSFORTUNATE, but I HOPE that you will not let this INTERRUPT the POSITIVE FLOW of your life, in general. 🙏... YOU DID NOTHING WRONG! HE was IN THE WRONG!! MY STORY (hadn't thought about this, in years): I went through a similar experience, a number of years ago. Was attacked by a gang of skinheads!! Literally right outside of the entrance to my apartment building! There were literally 14-15(!) of them!! ...Had seen a few of them around, earlier in the evening, and understood that they were visiting an apartment across the street. ...This was now me returning home, late that same evening (around midnite); and when I turned the corner to my street, there they all were, just hanging around (with 2or 3 pitbulls, as well)!! This was a quiet residential street; nobody else was around! ...As I tried to move quickly to the door, 5 or 6 of them rushed over to prevent me from opening the door! I was, of course, TERRIFIED, and fearful for my LIFE!! Long story short: A couple of them tried to attack me (I wasn't badly hurt), but I was able to get away! I retreated from the area, as quickly as I could; but I was afraid to RUN, because of the DOGS!! ...Needless to say; I was HIGHLY traumatized by this incident!! This was reported to the apartment management and the police was contacted, the next morning. The guy that lived in the apartment across the street was put on a watch list, as I understand it. ...I was terrified, and afraid, for quite a while, after that; because, as not in YOUR case, I wouldn't have recognized ANY of those guys (it was so dark), I had NO idea of WHO lived in that apartment (what he looked like, or anything), but HE would know what "I" looked like, AND what building I lived in!! Just like you, I was wary of coming home; taking different routes to reach my apartment!...And JUST as what happened to YOU; a couple of days after that attack (I was in university, at the time), a classmate (friend) of mine (who just happened to have had a SHAVEN head, at the time!), saw me in a hallway, and RUSHED me, with his head down, to PLAYFULLY give me a bear hug! It happened so FAST! I didn't know WHAT was happening! Just all of a sudden, there was this "skinned head" tackling me!! ...I thought I was DEAD!!! Ha ha 🙂(He knew nothing of what had just happened to me, a couple of nights previously! Told only a couple of close friends.) Day by day, my nerves finally calmed down. I remained cautious, though, of that apartment, across the street; but no skinhead types were ever seen in the area again (there had NEVER been any such characters ANYWHERE in the area before, either)! Some months later, I noticed that there were no longer any curtains in the windows to that apartrment. He had MOVED. ...Just as I believe is the case with YOU, I was (just) an unfortunate victim of a RANDOM act!! Just felt to share this life experience with you, to let you know that you are NOT alone, in your experiences of living, as an American, in this foreign land! 🙂 I trust that you will be (have been?) able to put YOUR unfortunate encounter BEHIND you, and "get on" with LIVING and ENJOYING your life!! LIVE WELL; BE WELL!! And continued GOOD LUCK with your life here in Sweden!! 👍...Och lycka till med SVENSKAN!!😊
Wow what a crazy story! Sounds like you definitely had a bit of trauma afterwards when you mentioned about your friend approaching you. I have had a bit still. When people suddenly start shouting in that language, I feel my heart drop and I freeze. I know they are not all like that and indeed some of my best friends are from that part of the world, but as some have mentioned, the deviant behavior is overrepresented among this group. I'll give an example, I was on the bus going home from work yesterday. You know how Swedish in general are quiet on public transportation and keep to themselves mostly, which is quite nice. The bus was very crowded as all were going home from work probably and it was very quiet. Suddenly, the man behind my back starts yelling in his language on his phone but I did not know he was on his phone and did not want to look at him. He talked loud the whole rest of the journey and I felt spit on my neck. I felt a panic attack beginning. The same thing happened 2 days before with another guy. Too much stress for my taste. I am looking forward to moving to another neighborhood. But it´s even in the hospital. We have had patients that behave just like that and it gives me so much anxiety. The older I get the less I can handle it and it does not help that I am on not the autism spectrum. It´s a tricky thing. I have a love hate relationship with big cities. They are fun and job opportunities are better, but they can be pretty stressful at the same time.
@@becurious2000 Hi again! 🙂 Yeah, REALLY crazy!! Ha ha ...Thx for your response! Yes, emotional trauma is a tricky thing! No rhyme or reason as to how long it may take for one's psyche and nervous system to "settle down" to a more manageable level, again. Unfortunately! ...When I wrote, " 'Day by day', my nerves finally calmed down.", THAT process took several MONTHS, actually! (I did remiss it as, "long story 'short'." 🙂) ...I can relate to your nervous reactions to sounds, actions, and people around you; those things being TRIGGERING for you. But, that's only NATURAL! Don't be hard on yourself!! That's why I shared my story with you; to hopefully show you that your responses to these recent encounters are all TOTALLY within reason, after what you've been through! ...It may take a while more; but in time, things WILL calm down again! 🙂 ...That you are aware, and have experience, of this folk group and their perpensity to be loud and aggressive is a GOOD thing!! You KNOW what to EXPECT, when they are around; so just let THAT be your "new 'default' mode"! When they START UP, just think: "Oh well, THAT was expected!". 😄 And keep REMINDING yourself that, whatever is going on, it's NOT directed towards YOU! 🙂 Just like you, the calm, quiet atmosphere Swedes generally live in is one of the things I appreciate most about living in Sweden. I'm also greatly disturbed by intrusive (loud) and inconsiderate people; föreigners, AND Swedes, alike!! ...I'm actually from "big city" America, so it's laughibly ironic that I wound up living here in (little) Sweden (that was NEVER my plan)! Ha ha ...But, as I alluded to, there are aspects of Swedish living that suit me quite well. Your "love-hate" issue with city life I GET, and pretty much AGREE with! Ha ha🙂 Again, all the BEST to you! I have a feeling you'll do just FINE!! 👍 PS - If you're ever feeling a bit pensive or the like; if I MAY suggest, just WATCH one of my videos!! 😉..Especially, this one: ua-cam.com/video/Nm_JPl5MAig/v-deo.html 😊 (a relatively new channel, in the making)
Unfortunately you can’t trust anyone anymore. The crime rate is escalating across the globe at an alarming rate and the law is just not keeping up. For whatever reason people are becoming increasingly angry and turning on each other.
Simple solution: Shave off your beard for a while. He won't recognize you then. In 6 months, he won't even recognize you with your beard. And take the help you can get. If you still feel unsafe after a couple of months, move. And it was right to call the police. I got attacked and beaten myself, half a year ago, and didn't hesitate to call the cops. I don't regret it.
@@becurious2000Malmö might be too warm but you can cover half your face with a scarf for a few months otherwise. I always use a scarf for half the year anyways.
@@becurious2000 As mentioned, I was attacked. The police found the guy, half an hour later. I got a notice, there will be a case out of it. But I wouldn't stand a chance pointing him out in court, half a year later. Other than he was from Greenland and short, I have no memory of his face. Not that I think it matters, as he admitted the attack, the day they caught him. I don't think he will remember you, even after two months, beard or no beard. But for your own peace of mind, you could take off your beard for a period.
Up to now I was pretty happy here. The tricky part is I got a really good job here. There are many more opportunities for me with my work experience here. I do think I’ll probably find another part of town to live or maybe move to the outskirts in a suburb once my time in this apartment ends. I have studied in Lund and some coworkers have encouraged me to consider living there instead. We will see what apartments I can find this summer
This is a classic case of what we call in New York...F%&# around and Find out. And this individual clearly is F'ing around and finding out that folks are passive and not protecting themselves and even worse, not protecting each other. If I witnessed this entire situation, you can rest assure that the gentleman grabbing you would be launched several feet away from you AFTER the police were notified. Your fears are valid, and it can be so destabilizing to experience this so close to home. You did nothing wrong, this man is clearly disturbed and feels empowered to act out since no one is doing anything. Like a cowboy in the wild west. Calling the police was the right thing to do. But I would encourage some strong language to your neighbors who witnessed this, that it's their responsibility to call the police and intervene. Ask yourself, if you witnessed this, would you just watch someone get victimized, if that's the case, take some ownership and have courage. Bullies and maniacs are experiencing terrible personal issues usually, are miserable people, and also typically deeply uneducated or have mental illness. There should be a concerted effort to educate the community on what we say in New York. "SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING" People should be calling the police immediately, recording the conflict, and intervening. I know it isnt fun and it doesnt jive with pacifism, but the native individuals who eat the fruit of peace, come from those who fought to the death to plant those seeds many years ago. Sometimes we must fight and stand up to maintain social justice. And not vigilante justice, but making it easy for the police to make an arrest and charge with assault. Be strong, don't give in to the fear and paranoia, if he's done it to you, he's done it to others, he wont remember you. But be better for your neighbors and hold them accountable for their lack of effort to step forward.
Yea I actually had a conversation with someone at the police about this week. She also mentioned I need to reach out to the landlords in this area about this guy since apparently he is known to people here. I had not thought about this. This is a new experience for me. I come from Texas from a small town where most have guns and people are too afraid to do stuff like this cause they’ll get shot. In the bigger cities though the gun violence in Texas is getting out of control. I moved to a big city in Texas just before I moved to Sweden and a drug deal went bad so this gang of Mexican mafia lit up my neighborhood at night with automatic rifles. I am very illiterate with gun names as I never was much of a gun enthusiast. They were on camera doing it but did not get caught. 3 months later they came through and did it again. Then I moved to Sweden. This happened in a “nice neighborhood “ in Fort Worth, Texas. So I have had some experience with stuff like this but it was at a distance. This was a first close encounter for me.
I’m sorry you went through this. It must be hard, especially since you have autism, to be a victim of a random act of violence. Please do know that it’s obviously not a racial thing. There are many factors which causes things like this to happen. And obviously, the amount of violent crime (or crime in general) is much, MUCH higher in the USA than it is in Sweden. I have lived in Sweden in so called ”no go zones” for 25+ years and have never had anything like this happen to me. Some people are just crazy. Again, sorry this happened to you. Talking to the police is the right thing to do. If you still feel uncomfortable, move to another city. Stockholm is nice, Umeå is nice, and there are lots of other smaller cities which are cool. Norrköping/Linnköping is chill as well!
Relocate to Slottsstaden, Ribbersborg, Västra hamnen, Limhamn - Anywhere close to the sea. I lived in the Möllan area 15 years ago. Many warnings but to me it seemed progressive, multi culti and picturesque. Five months in ~ then I realized ~ this area is social misery.
Yea I was thinking about Limhamn. I have a very dear friend and his wife who live there and are trying to encourage me to move there. I like Slottsstaden also .
I’ve spent a lot of time around Möllan after I moved from there. Even if not 100% in line with personal values, sometimes you have to protect yourself. Even if it comes with a little bit of “not in my backyard” thinking. The Möllan neighborhood is great, just not live there😋
I am a bit late, but the law in Sweden say that every car and bike are responsible towards the people walking. It is called Väjningsplikt, which means that it is never the person walkings fault. So the person could be as mad as he like it is his fault anyway. And the fact that he got out of the car assulting you is even worse. I would report it to the police with all the info you have to put it on a record. I been living i large, medium and small cities and never had that happen to me, so from my point of view it do not happen often. I dont know if that makes you feel better, but i just want to add that to maybe put som reliefe to you. I also want to say that there was nothing you could have done differently. You where walking where you should, acting as you should and just met a guy who for some reason lost his mind and acted out. That is not ok what the person did and not normal either.
Thanks for the assurance. That is interesting about väjningsplikt. I did not know that even applies to cyclists. Here in Malmö the cyclists are super aggressive and will run you over. I have missed a lot of buses and green cross walk lights because the cyclist are so aggressive. I assumed they had the right of way. I don't want to get run over by them anyways haha. I am not a fan of cycling or walking in Malmö especially in the summer because there are just so many bikes. It is a bit intimidating.
Talk to your work (it should apply to "to and from work" even if you weren't working when it happened), you most likely have the right to get crisis help if you want to through företagshälsovården.
Europe is facing this problem because of the amount of people coming in from violent countries that have completely different values that most Europeans share. It's not just Sweden. I would suggest moving to an area where the locals are the overwhelming majority. Or even moving to a different country that doesn't have this problem or one that is being much more strict and active against it.
@@charrua59 My first option would be moving to a different country but he might not be able to do that at the moment, that's why I said that. Europe needs to defend their own people like Poland is doing 👍
Regardless of how your brain has wired itself, you shouldn't have to worry about whether people will hurt you or not. Because that's the kind of world we should all strive for. So don't feel guilty about that. I will say, I don't believe a culture can have a temper. But I think a culture can TEACH lower levels of acceptance and tolerance, as well as to always be ready to fight at the drop of a hat. Regardless of whether you're in the right or wrong. And that guy was in the wrong since he didn't follow traffic recommendations and rules.
I have heard this from a few. Do you think it’s all of Malmö or just certain areas. I actually thrive better here than Helsingborg. I felt pretty lonely and bored in Helsingborg although it was a pretty city.
Of course it is not the whole group. There is, however, an huge proportion of that group that is very violent and hate filled. It is estimated that 10% to 25% of that group are extremists and that number is high enough that wherever that group goes the extremists are able to keep the others of their group "inline" with their ideology. That seems to be playing out as accurate when looking at where that group goes and the behaviour exhibited by that group.
I worked in a supermarket some years back and thought I saw a man of color pocket smth. I politely asked if I could see if he had anything, he actually did not. I was like 'oh my bad' but he got from 0-100 and punched me so that I flew back almost falling backwards. Police was called and they were there fast. Despite us having it on video the case was dropped in abt two weeks due to 'lack of evidence.' This sends clear signals to such criminals that their behavior, even according to the establisment, is justified.
I am not a health professional hence this is just an uneducated opinion. You speak like someone who is suffering ptsd. See a professional, sometimes an hour talking with them will be the only you need. That excess of environmental awareness is common after a crisis. I get it years ago when I was robbed in my country of origin (Argentina). It goes easy with the time, but better catch it early. About the police, bullies tend to get the message. Good you speak with them.
You are correct. I actually got diagnosed with PTSD in Texas before ever coming here. The police have been so kind as to provide me with support when needed which has been helpful.
I think he overreacted, and then tried to intimidate you. I think the correct way to act is to call the police, but I don't think I would dare to do it myself, partly because of my autism, where I have a highly eschewed sense of risk perception. I know what type of person you mean. I have a lot of friends from that part of the world here in Sweden. But I also have stories of road rage and similar akin to your story. Makes me confused. Overly aggressive people like that need to be dealt with by the judicial system. Unfortunately, often there is a problem with mistrust towards police, so actual witnesses just refuse to help, which only worsens the cultural clash. Don't get me wrong. We have people as aggressive as that natively, and used to have enormous problems. But, bystanders used to have no qualms of witnessing, which over time meant the problem mostly faded away as generation by generation learnt this was not acceptable behavior.
did you report him? if the dude gets checked by the police he might change his ways. people from countries like that have alot of generational trauma issues. also middle easterners do not do well in the northern climates.
I did. They did nothing. I hear the police are afraid of them. We have several “no go zones” filled with such people where even us as health care personnel must get permission from police to enter such as in the case of ambulances. I hear organized crime is blossoming in such areas . I moved to Limhamn and am doing much better here. I am so happy I have to pinch myself to know if it’s real.
So you need to understand that we took in a lot of people from some of the most violent countries in the world and they struggle to adapt to Sweden. It means many young people feel that gangster culture is a great alternative to get status and get rich. It has escalated badly over the past decade. The lack of understanding of Swedish culture means many attribute our actions to racism when it's simply that we have different values and behavior. Like not taking to strangers isn't because of them being non swedes. Not inviting neighbors also isn't about their origin. But if you expect us to behave according to your values from these countries you might assume we must be racist. We're not. But we are also peaceful. And these cultures are not. They act aggressively immediately. Especially young men. And it is ruining parts of our country now where swedes avoid these people.
It is interesting to hear this. I see and hear similar stories in the USA and other countries. I remember working with troubled youths that were males from Vietnamese gangs in Texas that did not integrate well into American society. One of them became one of my closest friends and cleaned up his life. He is doing great 20 years later but I know his story was exceptional.
Jag håller inte med. Jag har aldrig mött en aggressiv invandrare. Jag har faktiskt aldrig ens hört någon uttrycka sig på det sättet om invandrare, och jag växte bokstavligen upp med nazistgrannar. Det här är första gången jag ser någon säga så, och jag ser flera kommentarer här. Baserat på vad jag upplevt, hört och sett så ser det mer ut som en organiserad påverkanskampanj här på youtube än någon sorts organisk manifestation.
@@Hyello-be6vw Alla riktiga vapen är förbjudna att bära i det här pesselandet. T.o.m. Ryssland har bättre självförsvarslag. De får iaf bära riktig tårgas.
@@becurious2000 That might not be the best idea, pepper spray is counted as "firearms" in Sweden and you can get into trouble if you carry it around. There are "legal" versions but those are pretty sh!1 at actually stopping an attacker. A huge problem is that there are very few legal options for self defence, even worse is that you can't "escalate violence" so the attacker has all the power. This is what happens when to many idiot bleeding hearts and political activists care more about imported criminals than native people..
The irony is that he moved from a country where carrying a firearm for self-defense is a right, to the slave country Sweden, where it's hard to even get a gun, unless you're a criminal. (Jag är för övrigt svensk själv men har alltid föraktat den svenska fegheten och konformismen.)
This guy was on drugs, and he's definitely already in trouble with the police. Calling them won't make a difference because he's in deep already. The social aspect, the guys at the shop, is way more serious to him since it will affect his life directly. Some far off threat of prison is not really a deterrent when you're on drugs, but the social pressure weighs very heavily - especially in the kind of culture you're describing. I personally would try to catch him at another time and talk to him, he clearly needs to talk to someone from the real world. I understand that you could never do that, and I have to respect that. But how do we solve these kinds of problems without talking to each other? It's a vicious circle, integration needs to happen somewhere. These are super warm friendly people, I'm absolutely sure he would be so sorry and feel super bad if you approached him. He probably grew up in a tough landscape, using this strategy to survive, not realizing it's so unexpected and shocking. It's about as easy for him to calm down as it is for you to become an aggressive person. But you could become an aggressive person if this would happen every day - so he would become a calmer person in the opposite scenario.
I would also like to add that I have never met or seen an aggressive immigrant. I live in a small town, not a lot of drugs here, assuming that's why. However - Growing up, a lot of Swedish kids were aggressive to me. As soon as they saw me they would follow me in their old broken volvo's, throwing beer cans at me and shouting the F word and how they were going to kill me. Basically just because I wasn't a volvoraggare like them. This happened in many of the surrounding small towns as well, where they didn't know me. They just saw that I wasn't a volvoraggare and their idea of fun is assault. I never really understood why at the time, but I now realize that they were already at the end of the road. I sometimes see them lurking around the village whenever I go visit, life didn't treat them kindly.
There is likely some truth to what you say. I was attacked 15 years ago by a 17 year old guy with a gun. He was high on meth. I was in a nice neighborhood in my truck. He was in his friend’s car and they chased me for two and a half minutes with him hanging out the window with the gun. Thankfully the police got him. Hopefully he got help.
@@becurious2000 Yeah, these things are almost always due to personal trauma, stress or fear of some kind. If it was all down to cultural differences then it would be much more obvious because everyone in this group would be acting crazy like this.
We don't have an immigration crisis but we do have a right wing crisis that hits the working class/under class/poor or marginalized people really hard. So therefore violence increases, unemployment rises, crime rises.
I wonder what the pie in the sky best and kindest ideal way to tackle this problem would be if we had like a magic wand or something. Immigration has been with us for millennia and probably will be here to stay much longer in our future. I myself am the product of hundreds of immigrants that fled Europe and moved to the USA hundreds of years ago mixed in with a bit of the indigenous people of the Americas.
I would say a bit of this and that. Definitely heavy weights on educating immigrants in language, political and institutional skills so they know their rights and obligation well but also - tech the norms. We need to give people the means and opportunity to study, have a decent living standard and a meaningful life where you have the opportunity to somewhat control your life. Frustration and hopelessness are dangerous so influence over your work, economy, living situation. Like you wrote yourself - you have an agreement and can't move just like that - limits your freedom. The fact that the police doesn't have relations with the citizens in the hood is bad. So basically it is resources needed and used well. People with alot to lose are less likely to cause trouble or use violence. Right now we have bigger income gaps than we have ever had and the poorest group can hardly survive. I know it's not as bad as in the US for those groups but the right wing parties are really working on it, if you ask me. Vote them again and we will soon have skid row here too. It's all about class.@@becurious2000
@@becurious2000 The sad thing about it all is that the lefties like to call all swedes racists because swedes doesnt like the violence that has come with mass migration. That is while studies say that swedes are one of the least racist people in the world. And its also sad for all the migrants who are contributing and working hard for sweden who gets mixed up with criminal migrants. So the obvious solution is to throw out all criminal migrants from sweden. But that is the lefties against also.
@becurious2000 Toppen! 😃 Säkert mycket bättre. Bor själv i en litet samhälle med ca 1800 invånare men det är likadant. Dom "fördelade" och "placerade" samma "klientel" i mängder även till alla mindre byar så ingen kommer undan hot och våld, och folk vågar inte längre gå ut ens tidigt på kvällen. Jag har haft vänner från Polen och Tjeckien här som är chockade och inte heller vågar gå ut utan stark manligt sällskap eller stor hund. Innan detta skedde kunde man vara ute dygnet runt och dörrarna olåsta. Tryggheten är helt borta.
Do you think people can change though? I have seen some pretty wild people change even in my own family. I had a couple Hells Angels biker dudes in my family that cleaned up pretty good once given the right tools.
I want to say to everyone, thanks for the support and the advice. I feel a lot better and am grateful to all you in this UA-cam family. Here is what I have learned from this situation.. 1. Do not touch a persons car even if they almost killed you due to negligence 2. calling the police was probably the best course of action even though they won't do anything (the police actually got back to me and literally said they will not investigate the situation), at least they have a record. 3. Be more aware of this area I live. I have been a bit too comfortable and relaxed. 4. Relocate to a safer neighborhood ASAP.
Being on the autism spectrum, these situations are hard to navigate for me so I am glad to have all of your valuable feedback. I also want to say if some of my comments seemed like I am picking on a certain group or that I am exaggerating my situation, I apologize and am glad you are patient with me as conveying emotions especially strong emotions in a traumatic experience are especially hard for a person on the autism spectrum. Thanks again for the support and I am always learning.
I've been a witness of an assault with a knife here in Sweden, reported it immediately and the guy got arrested really quickly. I testified in court against him, v was *super* scared of retribution since I took a fucking video of the whole thing from my apartment window and gave it to the police and he easily would have been able to identify me from it. Nothing ever happened and eventually the police increased their presence in the neighborhood and kicked all the drug dealers out.
I want to say that you're a bad ass for taking a picture of the guy, I'm sure it sent him the message that there may be consequences for his actions, even if the police don't do anything about it. Also personally I wouldn't be afraid of running into him, and I'd just pretend that I don't know him. But of course if you don't feel safe then get out of that area.
@@bozyw8178 wow what a story you have and thanks for the reassurances. 😀
I guess you are living in Rosengård, both my son and daughter are living there. Both of them have been living there for at least 5 years and they never had any problems, I on the other hand have had a couple of disputes because I have been living on the wrong side of the law. Most of the violence in Malmö is amongst criminals but sometimes innocent bystanders get involved. Yeah they can be very easily offended when it comes to their car or other bling bling. I left that livestyle more than 10 years ago and are now living an Sven Svensson life up north in Jokkmokk, nice and quiet. Try to put it behind you, he most likely has forgotten about it so try to not let it eat you.
I live about 4 bus stops from Rosengård. I am in the Nobeltorget area. I am feeling a bit better. It was nice to have a lot of good feedback from you all on UA-cam. I actually was in Jokkmokk about 5 years ago. Was a cool experience.
Even the safest society will have bad apples and intense interactions may happen to all of us. Encounters with aggressive people are always stressful but unless You get hurt, You're still safe. You've dealt with this situation really well. Learn from it, keep Your head up and carry on. Cheers from Poland.
I'm a Swede but went to a school with about 50% immigrants and also grew up playing football and you learned quite quickly what groups of people not to engage with when their tempers flared.
They often have very short fuses and they already get mad quickly for the smallest of reasons so it was always better to just not say anything when they were trying to start something.
I saw people mouth back at them several times and it multiple times ended with a whole group of people jumping a single guy.
We had a whole team in our football division that were so violent that neither teams or referees wanted to play/officiate those games and after years of struggle they were banned. 😅
Oj! Vilket lag var det? 😮
@@jennybodin3710 Tänker inte säga namnet men deras klubb blev kickade i såväl fotboll som innebandy då många av spelarna höll på med båda sporter.
Var och kollade på deras matcher två gånger. Båda fick avbrytas efter misshandel och polis fick tillkallas båda gånger. Ena gången stormade hela läktaren planen då de hade ett 50-tal vänner och släkt som tittade på och de ville vara med och bråka när det blev gruff på planen. Då kände man sig trygg som motspelare... 😅
Whoa that’s crazy. I definitely learn I’ll just have to let things go.
Thats a good answer. i am a swede to and my advise is also that one must learn how to "read" other peoples behaviour. Some immigrant groups, especially kids/ young adults from middle east and african countries, you just cant interact with in certain situations. They are used to control their invironment with violence so, especially when they are in groups, you should not try to interact with them. They dont learn any boundaries from home and solved a lot of problems by violence. So just stay away from those groups! And this problem are all over sweden now. I see a lot as a schoolbus driver...
@@theoldfart8632 wow that’s so unfortunate. Do you think it’s a problem of poor integration in Swedish society? I did not see so much of the same issues in Texas with the same people. They were pretty chill for the most part with the exception of that one pharmacist I worked with who got kicked out of the pharmacy for abusing us employees and the customers. She was even mean to people from her same country. It’s surreal to see. I also have a hard time wrapping my brain around this as I can count how many times I got really mad in my life, literally and I am one of those people that wants to get along with everyone. Maybe I am just too naive.
You should call the police. They more details they have around events the better. It will also help them make better decisions.
I'm so sorry this happened to you!!! You were a victim of a random act of violence and that is terrifying. I think I can understand how you feel - I was brutally attacked in high school just for being different and it will forever stay in the back of my mind.
My recommendation for you is to relocate to a safer area when you are able. There are many safer areas farther up north in Sweden. Have you ever considered Umeå? There is a large medical university hospital there. Let me know if something like this sounds workable for you.
Thanks for the advice. I will definitely find a safer area to live in a few months. I have also considered moving farther north in a few years not exactly sure where yet. Funny you mention Umeå. I am doing an online course right now through them for my nurse license.
@@becurious2000 I'm from Stockholm but I did a course in Wildlife Biology at Umeå University and went there for an excursion, If you could stand the harsh winters I'd totally recommend to move there! Never met such mellow and sweet people, nobody's in a hurry and the atmosphere is so calm. I would not recommend Stockholm if you want to keep your sanity x'D
@@patryciaalva9066 thanks for the tips! 😀
I don’t have a suggestion but I just wanted to say that I’m sorry you experienced this
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Contact the police. That is my suggestion.
Why call police ,they don't care .
Then he has more problems
You just received a new subscriber. I am so sorry you had to experience this. It hurts me to see good citizens like you get attacked in this way. I’ve also had experiences with these people. I hope everything will sort out for you and you being able to let go of your fear. Love from the Swedish west coast.
Thanks so much for the subscribe. 🙏🏻Yea I am feeling a lot better thanks to you all. I have learned a lot from this situation. Hopefully I can avoid such issues again in the future.😊
I am so sorry to hear about your experience and the effects it has had on you. Malmö is a great city and you have identified great areas which are very calm where you could move. You did right to report it to the police. Like someone suggested in a comment you are likely to be eligible for counselling sessions through your employer. And even if you would not be you would still need to pay only up to the maximum yearly healthcare fee which, as you might know, is very low in Sweden. It sounds like this horrible, once off experience, really has a very negative impact on your quality of life, and talking it though with a professional could help you to process it in a way that let’s you move forward.
Yes. Thanks for the advice. The police have actually provided me with free counseling services which I took advantage of.
ive gotten attacked once on my way from the store (3 minute walk away from where i used to live) by a group of immigrants. ive also gotten threats 2 seperate times. the police in my city even stated that the hate for native swedes is a problem in this city.
I am sorry to hear that.
Ungrateful immgrants
Yes, normal people would feel bad about almost running over someone, but you get people who won't in any society. However, there are cultures wherein no matter what a person has done they can never admit fault or take responsibility and absolutely never apologize. Europe has imported that in the multiple millions, tens of millions(?). Sweden, like almost all western countries, is so weak on crime that calling the police is pointless.
Yea 😢. I actually would love to sit down with this gentleman and talk like civilized adults but I was advised that in this case it is not wise. Some of my friends said I am a little too naive .
@@becurious2000 i actually did do the sit down and talk with the "victim" (i use quotes because they were jerks in the situation too) and it worked out well. i didnt try to bully and intimidate them though, I was genuinely hurt and angry they swore and insulted me in traffic for what i thought is an harmless maneuver, and it ended with me pushing the guy becuase i found him to be so annoying. so not the same situation. anyways we had a meeting with the police there and i apologized etc. if the store knows him you should have pursued it in my opinion. sometimes people can change after they get a wake up call with the potential of serious consequences. but then again some people can just refuse to accept that they are wrong. i guess you know what is best.
Sorry to hear about this, but i´m not surprised. I live in a small town in Sweden and even here bad things happens. The best thing is just to stay away from those people and don´t try to interact. Was it a middle eastern man?
I witnessed something very similar here in Brussels: a car that for no apparent reason swerved onto the pedestrian crossing to make a sudden stop, it put me and another pedestrian somewhat in danger so I felt the same "wtf" as the man beside me, but I went about my way and he lightly tapped the car hood in protest, then a middle eastern man steps out to confront that man very much in his face and tapping his cheek with his hand telling him he should not touch his car like that (like the car was his baby or something) the man got away relatively easily but clearly disgusted by this altercation. I stood by and when the driver let the poor man go I did interact with him to say "he just got scared that's all" trying to put some empathy in this person.
Cultural differences should not be swept under the rug, frustration about these eastern peoples is ignored because some keep making excuses, fearing it's all prejudice but it's not. I myself find I'm actually more patient and tolerant with their religious bullshit than with christian bullshit, for no good reason. I don't have the solutions though, migration is necessary in all directions. I hope that with time we'll harmonise better across the globe.
There is no "harmonising" with Islam. Its baffling that people still dont understand this. And the reason you are more patient and tolerant with their bs is because media and the left has successfully indoctrinated western societies into the notion that critisizing islam or arabs/africans is automatically racist.
I am sorry that happened to you. If you have the ability to move to a safer part of sweden and isn't too much of a cost issue, then why not ... I understand it might be hard with your work though. Follow your heart and pay attention to your personal boundaries. If you think you wont be able to overcome the trauma of that experience - then its healthy to not overstep your personal boundaries.
Sadly bad things can happen anywhere but if you know from knowledge and experience that its an unsafe area then its more a choice at that point. If you want to keep living in that more dangerous area, then having possible future incidents might be a more common factor then in a safer area. I know this from living a bit in Oakland, Cali (I am a Canadian living in Finland now).
If your willing to living in a tougher hood, sometimes it does put a thicker skin on us... but personally, living in both types, I prefer to live in a safer area, even if if it costs bit extra (but you can always find deals if you look hard enough) and other things like work or volunteer work, I dont might a bit more challenging enviornement. It's always nice to come back to a place that you feel at peace and safe in if thats a possibility.
I agree. I’ll be moving in a few months. I am looking at my options. This was a big learning opportunity. I have seen a lot in Texas as most of my life was there. I almost got shot once by a guy who was high, I have had violent patients who were in gangs and white supremacists, I have fellow nurses who were murdered. I guess I let my guard down since coming here to Sweden because I was more relaxed and felt pretty safe. I’ll have to be more careful.
Sorry to hear that but not surprising unfortunately. I would still report this to the police even though nothing will come out of it. But its good to let them know. Usually people from those parts of the world have a very short temper and resort to violence quite fast. I'm guessing your knocking offended his "honor" and he needed to redeem himself immediately. This is quite typical from these parts of the world. I had a friend recently that told one of these people to stop harassing a woman. A few seconds later he got his head smashed with a champagne bottle and had to go to the emergency for stitching.
Whoa 😳 poor guy. I have a hard time understanding why people can be so angry. We even had similar things happen even among employees from the same culture at one of my last employers in Sweden. I never saw it so much among them in America. I wonder if they are just more afraid of the police in America than in Sweden.
@@becurious2000 I would guess it may also have something to do with Texan gun toting and legal mentality/possibilities there as compared to here in Sweden.
On the whole though social integration of immigrants have over the last 20+ years literally been a massive negative for Swedish society. Its comparable to not having a functional immune system, while places like Texas in the US has a comparably robust one.
Don't touch their cars, they are more precious to many of them than their kids. It's their way of showing to family back home how successful they are and so on.
Fascinating. Note to myself for later 😜 yea I won’t do that again
I'm really sorry you had to go through that! Like many others have said, you should absolutely go to the police.
Im so sorry for what happened to you. ❤
It's happening all over Europe. London alone has seen a 20% rise in knife crime. Stay well away from any immigrant area.
So sad. I have a friend from England whose friend got murdered by her father with a knife because she converted to Christian from Islam. Such a tragedy.
Sorry to hear you had to go through that situation Brandon. You have people like that everywhere, and May never run into one. Food for thought, check into bear spray, you never know when things can get out of hand. You still have the right to protect yourself. Just pray it doesn’t happen again.
Thanks uncle. Yea hopefully doesn’t happen again. Hopefully one of those ones in a lifetime things. Glad I did not fight back. He could have had a knife or a gun… who knows. Many have said he was probably under the influence. 🤷
Hi with a huge warm hug to you, it's been two weeks now since your scary encounter. I'm in NZ, lived for several years in Europe.
Report all incidences to the Police no matter what then it's on record.
I am being stacked etc since 2018 by NZ medical staff and their friends, I record and report.
Anger is reaching a record peak globally. A friend abroad sends me daily a message to think of good things as shit does happen learn to avoid the toxic actors in this matrix.
Thank you for sharing, I have now subscribed and look forward to the next time, stay safe and happy, think of the good things and enjoy nature regularily Sweden has so much of it, we spent many holidays there just out of Stromstad.
Thanks for the support 😊🙏🏻 I went to New Zealand 9 years ago. It was one of my favorite places I have travelled to
As a swede, yeah we have dealt with this issue for decades, but we are now cleaning up the country.
What's the progress report?
@@aryamanbhadauria1584 we got 30-40 arrests same week we gave police free hands, been going since, its now really hard to be a criminal here bc they can spy and raid and listen to everything without cause, and they can lock you up soon without cause indefinetly
Haha, "cleaning up"! Tror du på politikernas lögner? Det här skulle ha varit gjort minst 30 år tidigare, och det skulle ha varit 10 ggr brutalare än det värsta SD förespråkar nu.
Sorry that happened to you. I was randomly attacked a handful of times in San Francisco before we moved somewhere safer. I guess it can happen anywhere
The fact that the store owners said they knew him and don’t call the police is concerning. I would move out of the area and then call the police.
Sorry to hear about your experience. I hope you were able to shake it off and carry on as usual. I had a similar experience when I was in my 20s. For the same reason. I learned never to touch someone else's car. It happened 50 years ago but has never happened again. Now I am 70 years old and retired, but especially during my last 11 professional years I met many immigrants from all corners of the world. They were all very nice and hard working.
You always run the risk of meeting idiots. Doesn't matter where in the world you go. Good thing you called the police and even better with the photo. I hope you have a safe and secure future. Cars and Cyclists are always obliged by law to give way to pedestrians, but you still have to be careful as you are.
I know exactly how you’re feeling. People like us, that are not used tomorrow confrontation, freak out by things like this. Nevertheless, call the police. We need to stand up against bullies.
Hi from DFW area. So sorry you had to go throught this. I really look up to you being from Dallas area and I would like to follow in your footsteps and take a similar path to you to move to a Nordic country. Have you considered moving to Finland? They seem to have a lot of Swedish speakers there and as far as I can tell might let you take the nursing test in Swedish instead of Finnish but I'm not totally sure. Maybe a Finnish person on here has more info than me about this.
Yea actually I had looked into it. Currently I am focusing on perfecting my Swedish and getting my Swedish nursing license finalized, but who knows what’s in the future for me, a lot can happen.
Sorry these things happened to you. As a white swede that grew up in a bad minority swedish area, the best thing you could possibly do to avoid any issues is to simply ignore it and move on. Of course majority of immigrants are nice and good people.
BUT! Especially when it comes to teen and young adult guys of certain groups, you don't look at them, you don't talk back to them, you simply ignore and walk away, even if they are causing trouble. The "issue" here was that you did an action towards that person as a response to their behavior, which they take VERY badly to.
Giving these people a physical or verbal response will certainly lead to a bad outcome and the justice system isn't in our favor and everyone's information is publicly available which is why people ignore things even more.
That is the sad reality of avoiding trouble in Sweden and it sure hasn't helped with people interacting with strangers, hopefully the interaction won't affect your life too much and I hope you'll be lucky enough to not having to interact with people like this anymore.
Hi I think you did the right thing. Your friend who is from the same part of the world is probably more tuned in culturally - I would listen to him. I have a severe anxiety disorder and PTSD - and I’m female. So yes be really aware of your surroundings and maybe get someone to walk home with you.listen to you gut!
Former NYer and American living in Chicago. I'm not trying to blame you for this crazy situation but don't touch other people's cars. Don't engage with people who have zero regard for public safety (speeding down the street). There are so many crazy people and road ragers out there in every country, even the safest countries in the world you need street smarts and your whits in some areas of the city.
You likely experienced someone who was mentally ill and/or has no fear of the police (possibly a legit criminal). I'm sorry you experienced this scary experience.
I know now. You know it was sort of a reflex he nearly hit me. It happened so fast. But now I know. Hind sight is 20/20 right?
Hi! I am so sorry this happened to you, it broke my heart hearing your story. And it touched me because i had too experience here myself and seen this too many times, where i live, the Netherlands, that were so similar. Having lived in several cities here in this country. It has been always the same experiences, sadly. I always keep my head down, mind my own self but one day, out of the blue, it happened. An incident i did not ask for. When i told the dude, please stop it, this is so sick behaviour, after he grabbed my behind, in broad daylight, afternoon, ( i was wearing a wide tracking suit and sneakers, in case anyone thinks i provoked,) he got so so mad and wanted to hit me and said to me, because i am a woman and should shut my mouth... I was really scared and wished i did not say anything. Everyone around watched and did nothing and the only thing that was missing there with this people, was popcorn😂....... On a daily base, this i see every time i walk here, out of my studio, just go grocery shopping. Situations like this. I saw in 1 of your video's some people " talking" in front/down of your window, you filmed, (sometimes seems more fighting but for some it is normal communication, for some)...i have this daily, even at 3 in the morning on weekdays so.....It seems " normal" behaviour around here. Absolutly no judging, not everyone's is like this, i know, but it is kinda the norm here, sadly. Anyway, on a brighter note, i just found your channel and i am really enjoying watching your video's. Myself, so called under an autistic spectrum lingering umbrella, have been looking for peacefull countries to live in and other reasons, nature, health issues because of this (my experiences), i developed tics among other stress here because of this created anxiety, to coop, it is not healty this way of living here every day, i have had enough, it s not ok to deal with stuff other people bother you with even we have to coexist. So Sweden came out as number 1 for me but no big cities. So, i stumbled on your video of " why i moved to Sweden". It was so relatable for me, the reasons you mentioned. I hope you'll keep making more video's😊😊 xoxo
It’s so interesting to hear your story. I appreciate the support and you watching my videos. Hopefully you can find a place you thrive. Once I am stable in Sweden and have got permanent residency I can see myself moving farther north or more out in the country as well. Right now though due to immigration related stuff it is easier for me to be in a bigger city as there are many more resources such as the immigration agency is here in Malmö. It can be difficult to travel on short notice long distances in a foreign land frequently to get all the paperwork in order . That happened a lot when I was working in Helsingborg and had to make frequent trips to Migrationsverket in Malmö during the week while I was working. Downtown Malmö I think is nice to visit, go to restaurants, things like that. But for me, to live there was affecting my health negatively. I have since moved to Limhamn just outside Malmö and I absolutely love it! It’s a cozy calmer area. There are still some of those kinds of people here but not as many. I think diversity is a beautiful thing but when one moves to another country one needs to have good manners and try to respect the culture of the land they move to so long as human rights are not being violated. I can give one good example. In Sweden it is good manners to respect the quietness on public transportation. However there tends to be more people from certain groups that will listen to the sound on their phone instead of on their headphones. Not everyone wants to hear what they are watching. Sometimes the stuff they are watching is downright disrespectful or disturbing material and there are children on the bus 🚃 as well. I think it comes down to absent mindedness or a lack of care for other people. If people were more loving and caring for each other then there would be less of this. I also feel like parents are not as involved with their children these days. I see so many disruptive gangs of teenage boys on the buses and going around town. The majority of them are not Swedish. I am not sure why this is. We had a similar problem with this in Texas because parents that were immigrants worked so much to survive that they were rarely home to raise the kids. In any case I hope you find a fantastic place you thrive!
@@becurious2000 thank you so much for your reply, i really agree with what you said here. I hope you find your way further in the future moving up north and i enjoy following your journey in Sweden and support your channel and i ll keep watching your video's, i enjoy them so much! Xo
It's getting worse and worse unfortunately. I'm not really surprised.
I hate to agree, but currently it seems so. I am hoping with see some improvements soon.
Great that you talked to the physician who was familiar with the 'cultural thing'. I think it is interesting that workplaces often have policies to support employees who are victims of abuse at home, but not of violence that occurs on the way to or from work. I wonder if it is a question to ask a boss, supervisor, or even union representative (even hypothetically :-) ). Sounds as though you handled the situation well, regardless!
If you live in Malmö and had only 1 incident, your guardian angel is working overtime😂 holy shit
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I'am a 76 year old man and move from Sweden 2014 because Sweden are out off controll from crime.
Where did you move to?
@@becurious2000I move to Thailand, the best i do in my life.I live here for half cost of Sweden. Only thing are safer in Sweden are traffic, here so dangerus. Ofcourse I can have problems here to,but for the most better here. Sorry for my englich.
Where?
Stay safe out there.
Really sad to hear this happened to you. It’s important to not take it personally and also try to understand the deeper causes of what happened. My take when I hear these kinds of things is the following.
I don’t think this is an issue of immigration, it’s an issue of masculinity and societal consequences of a toxic sense of manlihood.
Young men, whose sense of masculinity depends heavily on others’ opinions, may be the most triggered by a threat to their manhood. Studies have shown that there might be a correlation that suggests that the more social pressure a man feels to be masculine, the more aggressive he may be. In this case you touching his car was taken as a threat to his fragile ego/masculinity. He felt a need to regain and protect that sense of having to be strong and prove his manhood through violence and domination. Unfortunately you had to be the victim of his insecurity.
It’s an insane and absolutely unhealthy view of what it means to be a man and unfortunately both gangster culture and other social ideals play in here. The fact that the gender divide between education level of men and women are falling faster in the Scandinavian countries compared to the rest of Europe. Men are typically less educated than women enhance also in that sense feel that they are being left behind. In the US alone men are 4 times more likely to commit suicide than women . When you don’t have a higher education in a very competitive job, market your ability to provide for partner by, for example, having a good job and buying a house decreased. Traditionally these were the male roles and ideals to pursue. In a sense men who are not as well educated to have a right to feel left behind but the combination of this trend along with a fragile ego/sense of self is a toxic combination. Young men often lower income and education also fear more being obsolete and useless to society which is very tragic.
Don’t know if this helps you but at least for me it makes a difference when I can see other people not as threatening but as fragile and vulnerable humans underneath that protective facade they’re constantly busy trying to manifest, protect and uphold. My presumption is that young men from immigrant background have an even more fragile sense of who they are since they are also battling society’s prejudice and bias against immigrants and people from other cultural background. It’s just a fact of life that people who are different from you will be viewed as a potential threat until you get to know them and realize you have more in common than what divides you. So in a sense, he is a victim of both unhealthy cultural norms and you were the victim of his fragile and toxic sense of who he is a world, he must see as threatening.
It’s really tragic.
If this ever happens to you again. I would maybe have a plan in your head for how to respond ahead of time. The only thing I can think of to disarm the potentially threatening situation like this. Is the first start by introducing yourself by name, and show that you wanna greet him and shake his hand. Gandhi is famous for having said, do the opposite. And what you were doing is probably the most opposite of what he is expecting. By kindly introducing yourself and telling him who you are, it might take him by surprise and it will also help him see that you are a person, and not a potential threat. Then, when you see that he’s not as physically threatening anymore, you can begin to perhaps apologize for the misunderstanding. And try to resolve the issue. I do not believe this is giving in or being weak. It has a bigger chance of the escalating, a potentially dangerous situation, and on top of that it might even make him think a little, and realized that not everyone is out to get him, and he doesn’t need to prove his masculinity to everyone. He is in a prison of his own making, and even though he might have shiny gold watches, and a fancy car, I bet it’s pretty lonely and scary. Young men look at their lives and compared to the lives and times of their fathers they feel they are loosing something. Gender equality is incredibly important but in the process they might see how women are rising and getting better, more competitive and fast while the traditional role of the man is becoming more unfamiliar and confusing. In this light his car is not only a car but a symbol of perhaps his success (or the image of success he wants others to believe) as a man. When feeling snubbed both in education and the job market men’s last resort to feeling good about themselves is to compare themselves to other men. And in that world having all the status symbols is your protection from being seen as an unattractive looser. Plain and simple.
I think that’s what I would try to do at least if this ever happened to me.
Take care of yourself.
You make some very good and valid points. Hopefully.... if there is a next time.... I don't freeze up like I did in total fight or flight mode. 😳 I see some similarities with with redneck culture where I come from in Texas with some of the hardcore redneck men. We have had some like that in my own family... I think of my late grandfather. I got bullied a lot myself in school growing up so I just learned to to try to avoid compromising situations. Now that I am in a new country, things are a little different and will take some time getting used to.
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Move to a smaller town northwards in the country.
A word of advice: avoid honking in anger or show aggression in traffic. Some people can be really hot tempered.
So very true!
Im so sorry this happened to you. 😞
You never mensions what country of people you are referring to. Or is it the whole middle east? I find it could be useful to know, so more people dont have to learn the the hard way.
I wish you well and i totally get why you would like to move to a different place. I would totally be out of there, if only for peace of mind. 🤗
Yea I did not mention the language or area they come from due to fear of being labeled as racist or cancelled. These days one has to be really careful what they say in these platforms. It really is frustrating because I love people from all cultures. It’s just I think some cultural differences could be improved or changed especially when it hurts other people. I am aware for example of certain cultural things from mine own culture that have room for improvement.
@@becurious2000 Yeah and this is exactly the problem my friend. Everyone that lives in europe will automatically know what regions you are talking about. Why you think is that ??? Because in every european country its the exact same people that are causing these problems. Crime statistics in all european countries show this very clearly. Migrants from the middle east and africa are way overrepresented relative to their % of the population. This goes for violent crimes, sexual assaults and robbery etc. These are facts, but people are tiptoeing around these facts, thinking these problems will go away if we dont talk about them. They will not, they will only get worse.
There are so many mentally ill violent people in the world. I have been on the defensive when I’m out and about. It’s sad but that’s our world.
Sad but true it seems
Years ago (90s), when I was in my late teens, someone tried to rob me in the city I grew up in (The Hague). It was at night (03:00 / 04:00 h) coming back from the city center after going out (bar and clubbing). I was alone on my bike and between my neighborhood and the city center is a neighborhood with a bad reputation I had to cross. The bad reputation was more something portrait by the media, probably because of the high immigrant population. I knew this neighborhood well because I worked there at a store every Saturday. The job also gave me the opportunity to see a lot of homes (and food :-) ) in this neighborhood. But I was going home, riding my bike, when a guy came up to me asking for directions. I stopped and when we were close to each other, he put a gun to my head. He said several times: "Give me your money !". I replied I didn't have any money. At that moment I went on a sort of autopilot. Later I realized I did have some money on me but at the moment I believed I had not. It all went very quickly. I managed to push him loose and rode away. When I looked over my shoulder, I saw him walking in the opposite direction. I drove directly to the police station. There I gave a description of the guy and left my name and number. At home, I woke up my mother and when I was just finished telling her what happened, the police called. They caught someone and they wanted me to check if this was the guy who tried to rob me. My mum and I went to the police station (it was still dark outside). Behind a one-sided or one-view window, I could see the guy who tried to rob me and I told the policeman. After that, the police wanted a statement. They showed me the gun. Although it looked very real, so far I could be the judge of that, it was a fake. My name was anonymized and therefore not available for the perpetrator.
Later, the victim support agency (provided by the police or the state) called, asking how I'm doing, if I needed help, if I wanted to talk, or need therapy. I told them it wasn't bothering me that much, so I told her I didn't need help. She told me that in case I changed my mind, I could call them.
After this incident I kept my job and I rode my bike through that neighborhood, day and night.
Looking back, I'm glad that I went to the police and I hope it prevented harm to other people.
So, Brandon, I think you should go to the police and tell your story. You were psychically attacked ! If you're hesitant to go alone, bring a friend. If necessary, write down the questions you have for the police, for example if they can anonymize your name in the statement for example.
Oh, now I see you did go to the police in the pinned comment … And you have already analyzed the situation (points 1 to 4) so yes, be aware of where you are and in case you keep feeling unsafe, move to another place.
Well, I hope you're okay, and take care !
Thanks for sharing your story. How scary 😱 I can’t imagine. I had a person threaten me with a gun but it was from another car and they chased me in my car about 2.5 minutes. They caught that guy and he ended up in prison. He was only 17 and was on methanphetamines
Thank you for sharing your story ! ;-)
That's scary, being chased by a person with a gun.
In case you want to move, I hope you can find something soon. And I do not know if Sweden has a housing crisis like we have over here, I hope not.
My uncle owned the store where I worked every Saturday for years. And he told me a story about a man who came in the store with a knive. My uncle manouvered him out of the store while saying: "I'm sorry, I don't have time for this." And the guy walked away. 🙃
Well, hope you're doing fine and see you later.
Another case where I was a witness of a brutal unprovoked assault of one man and two women.
I fell behind our group who went to a pub, I was locking my bike.
Another grp behind me was not so lucky.
A young man riding an e-scooter pretty much jumped a guy going fully swinging.
He was eventually knocked to the ground where he had to take kicks to the head.
The two wmn stepped in the way but was knocked to the ground.
His 'gf' yelled for him to stop which he eventually did and rode off with the girl.
This happened in a matter of 20-30 seconds and I was a bit drunk a bit in the distance.
This guy was definitely on some stimulant drug that allowed such relentelss attacks.
It almost looked like he did it for kicks/sport.
I gave witness testimony to the police.
I cursed out whoever would do something like this and I actually got a picture of the suspect from a restaurant worker who had come out.
One of the two cops glared at me and almost yelled at me that 'Let us do our jobs!'.
Abt 2-3 weeks later I see him whilst im at a pub, speeding with his e-scooter with his eyes Ö.Ô wide open passing by.
I thought to myself 'we are so f***ed.'
Man that's awful and scary :(
So sorry you did run into an encounter like that. From a distance, it sounds like the guy probably did mostly feel some ridiculous need to jump into an intimidation display to try and save face, when he was clearly in the wrong and almost running people down in the road. At a guess, that was most likely where the whole thing ended for him, and Mr. Hothead almost immediately moved on to taking out his own problems on some other convenient target. (While thankfully that is not an everyday interaction for you, so you're very understandably left thinking about it more!) I could be very wrong, but that was the reading I got at least.
Pretty sure I actually live in the part of town you mentioned, btw. Also a neurodivergent American import. No issues so far, thankfully. I have witnessed two different traffic-related altercations that turned physical with drivers puffing up at each other like that during the few years I've been in Sweden, though--one in Västra Hamnen and one in Lund. That was two more than I would have expected to run across, honestly. At least it did look like way more bark than bite both times, at any rate, and bystanders did step in.
Thanks , yea it was a shock but I have noticed an increase in these sorts of activities probably since moving to Malmö August although I have managed to not be the one being attacked. I see such angry people every week cycling, on the bus, on the street. It happened in Helsingborg but not that often. The apartment that I lived in in Helsingborg got broken into . I was on vacation but my neighbors got pictures of them when they broke the window.
Oh wow, I'm so sorry to hear that this happened to you! It does not surprise me at all that all the Swedes were just sitting there and not helping. Swedes tend to not get involved with people outside of their own spheres in general, and in a situation where most of them there were probably familiar with the temper tantrums of the culture you're talking about, would likely further warrant non-involvement, unfortunately. I'm very glad you weren't badly hurt though!
Please move further north if you can, up past Stockholm to a more rural setting maybe? We still have violence up here, but it's not quite as prevalent yet as it is down there where you are right now.
Oh, also, your reaction to the guy handing out the info on the bike tracks sounds like a very Swedish response! LOL :) After that, you I think you can totally feel like you're Swed-ified! LOL :)
Best of luck to you!
/A fellow American in Sweden
Thanks for the comment and reassurance my fellow American. Yea I been seeing a lot that I should move further up north. I definitely will not be staying in this neighborhood. Hopefully I can move out in a few months.
Don't forget that if people would have helped, they would risk be slapped with a "hate crime" just cause of the attackers origin. People have lost friends/family/jobs/home's just cause they voted on "the wrong party". Good luck finding someone in Sweden that's wiling to risk their future defending a random nobody that might stab them in the back cause they perceived the actions to be a "hate crime"..
I’m in Gothenburg brother and when I walk in the city I see them in groups of like 5 or more and I never move out of the way, they do lol. Coming from Chicago, these people have no idea what it means to be a tough guy. First off, they’re all like 5’6 120lbs and I’m a 6’1 190lb long haired metal head from Chicago so I’m not too worried lol
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Many European countries have allowed or even enabled the mass immigration of an "ideology" that is incompatible with anything that is not that "ideology". Sadly, I suspect things will get much worse and potentially take years before they get better. Those who live through those troubles will, hopefully, learn from them.
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Define mass immigration unless you are just being a right wing racist.
@@BosisofSweden The last 30 years Sweden has taken in 2,5 million migrants with a population of 8 million. Thats mass migration. Theres no way to integrate that many migrants in a small country like Sweden. Unfortunately the left and liberal politicians lied to the swedish people and said that sweden wouldnt survive without all these migrants. Now we have the facts and the problems are now so huge that it takes extreme measures to solve them if its even possible.
@@BosisofSweden a large enough number of people moving to any particular country who were not born in that country that the country cannot assimilate, find them employment, train them for employment if necessary, the number overwhelms the available social service, the immigrants create social chaos, etc
Still not true. We imported and let in many more people in the 1950's to 1980s than we do now and nobody ever talked about immigration crisis. The difference now is the far right wing government, containing Nazis in suits, that point their fingers on immigration as being the problem, the shooting gangsters in particular. This is simply not true. Most of those shooting gangsters are born and raised here, in the suburbs, the segregated and poor suburbs, where they only are pointed out as a problem, a liability, a social disaster. It is basically not about color, "race" and not even the problem with language and norms. What it comes down to is the Swedish racism, capitalism (increasing income gaps between the low class and the rich and how we treat the areas where these people live and work. You can use statistics anyway you want to try and prove anything that suits your purpose. We have known since the early 1970's that it is class (money, education, workplace, your ability to affect your life, health and the environment you live in) that is the main reason social problems occur. If a society treats its citizens differently due to skin color, language or religion you will have a society where the new lower class, low income class and working class will also be the immigrants and at the bottom black African immigrants@@AL-ku1zq. Racism looks the same all over the world and there is not one, single society that has a black, African rich class with the same social problems and violence within it as any black, African poor class. It just does not happen. Racism creates a new immigrated underclass more than problems with work opportunities. In my country you can clearly see it in the statistics. And the right wing rather focus their attention on that, spreading the word to its voters, than focusing on the fact that Swedish immigrants are much better than the rest of the population in starting their own small businesses, contributing to a healthier capitalism, contributing to taxes developing the country. The right wing don't particularly want them because they aren't obedient salary slaves. On the other hand they love their uneducated, unintelligent, low income masses that vote for them and their racist messages, completely unaware of how their salaries and tax money end up in the pockets of their masters.
Notify the police, move to a safer area of Sweden, and let the Swedish politicians figure out the mess they created.
Where to move ,there are no safe place in Sweden today .
Moved too Sweden back in beginning of the 80s. What politicians done too this country is a nightmare.
@@charrua59 Yep, this is what happens when you completely ignore the consequences of your actions and go
100% feel good ideology.
The stupid Swedes voted for this. I voted against mass immigration already the first time I could vote, in 1991. Most "fellow" Swedes are still voting for it...
And as the stupid cowards most Swedes are they also accepted gun laws, so you can't legally defend yourself either.
Report it to the police. Chances they'll catch him is slim, but the getting the incident into the national statistics is important.
Take care of yourself.
And watch your back.
Hi B Curious! You may or maybe see this (this video is a month old now). I'm also American; have lived many years in Sweden now. TERRIBLY SORRY about what happened to you!! Hopefully, you're doing better now! Am writing here, because I just wanted to be supportive. 🙂
Basically, I honestly think that your encounter with this man was a RANDOM act! I would encourage you to NOT be more worried! Odds are that this man probably FORGOT all about what he did to you, soon after! He OBVIOUSLY has ANGER MANAGEMENT issues, and would have had MANY OTHER incidents like this, with MANY OTHERS, in his life! ...That people in the shop said that you DIDN'T do anything WRONG, and that they knew of him, is a GOOD thing! They would certainly NOT do anything to put you in any jeopardy, or anything. 🙂 And I even if he was in the area again, I HIGHLY DOUBT that 1) he woulld RECOGNIZE you, or 2) even REMEMBER his encounter with you!! That's USUALLY how these things turn out. Afterall, you did NOTHING against HIM, that would make him remember you! For him, you would just be "another face in a crowd", I'm pretty sure! 🙂...What happened to you was extremely MISSFORTUNATE, but I HOPE that you will not let this INTERRUPT the POSITIVE FLOW of your life, in general. 🙏... YOU DID NOTHING WRONG! HE was IN THE WRONG!!
MY STORY (hadn't thought about this, in years): I went through a similar experience, a number of years ago. Was attacked by a gang of skinheads!! Literally right outside of the entrance to my apartment building! There were literally 14-15(!) of them!! ...Had seen a few of them around, earlier in the evening, and understood that they were visiting an apartment across the street. ...This was now me returning home, late that same evening (around midnite); and when I turned the corner to my street, there they all were, just hanging around (with 2or 3 pitbulls, as well)!! This was a quiet residential street; nobody else was around! ...As I tried to move quickly to the door, 5 or 6 of them rushed over to prevent me from opening the door! I was, of course, TERRIFIED, and fearful for my LIFE!!
Long story short: A couple of them tried to attack me (I wasn't badly hurt), but I was able to get away! I retreated from the area, as quickly as I could; but I was afraid to RUN, because of the DOGS!! ...Needless to say; I was HIGHLY traumatized by this incident!! This was reported to the apartment management and the police was contacted, the next morning. The guy that lived in the apartment across the street was put on a watch list, as I understand it. ...I was terrified, and afraid, for quite a while, after that; because, as not in YOUR case, I wouldn't have recognized ANY of those guys (it was so dark), I had NO idea of WHO lived in that apartment (what he looked like, or anything), but HE would know what "I" looked like, AND what building I lived in!! Just like you, I was wary of coming home; taking different routes to reach my apartment!...And JUST as what happened to YOU; a couple of days after that attack (I was in university, at the time), a classmate (friend) of mine (who just happened to have had a SHAVEN head, at the time!), saw me in a hallway, and RUSHED me, with his head down, to PLAYFULLY give me a bear hug! It happened so FAST! I didn't know WHAT was happening! Just all of a sudden, there was this "skinned head" tackling me!! ...I thought I was DEAD!!! Ha ha 🙂(He knew nothing of what had just happened to me, a couple of nights previously! Told only a couple of close friends.)
Day by day, my nerves finally calmed down. I remained cautious, though, of that apartment, across the street; but no skinhead types were ever seen in the area again (there had NEVER been any such characters ANYWHERE in the area before, either)! Some months later, I noticed that there were no longer any curtains in the windows to that apartrment. He had MOVED. ...Just as I believe is the case with YOU, I was (just) an unfortunate victim of a RANDOM act!!
Just felt to share this life experience with you, to let you know that you are NOT alone, in your experiences of living, as an American, in this foreign land! 🙂
I trust that you will be (have been?) able to put YOUR unfortunate encounter BEHIND you, and "get on" with LIVING and ENJOYING your life!!
LIVE WELL; BE WELL!! And continued GOOD LUCK with your life here in Sweden!! 👍...Och lycka till med SVENSKAN!!😊
Wow what a crazy story! Sounds like you definitely had a bit of trauma afterwards when you mentioned about your friend approaching you. I have had a bit still. When people suddenly start shouting in that language, I feel my heart drop and I freeze. I know they are not all like that and indeed some of my best friends are from that part of the world, but as some have mentioned, the deviant behavior is overrepresented among this group. I'll give an example, I was on the bus going home from work yesterday. You know how Swedish in general are quiet on public transportation and keep to themselves mostly, which is quite nice. The bus was very crowded as all were going home from work probably and it was very quiet. Suddenly, the man behind my back starts yelling in his language on his phone but I did not know he was on his phone and did not want to look at him. He talked loud the whole rest of the journey and I felt spit on my neck. I felt a panic attack beginning. The same thing happened 2 days before with another guy. Too much stress for my taste. I am looking forward to moving to another neighborhood. But it´s even in the hospital. We have had patients that behave just like that and it gives me so much anxiety. The older I get the less I can handle it and it does not help that I am on not the autism spectrum. It´s a tricky thing. I have a love hate relationship with big cities. They are fun and job opportunities are better, but they can be pretty stressful at the same time.
@@becurious2000 Hi again! 🙂 Yeah, REALLY crazy!! Ha ha ...Thx for your response! Yes, emotional trauma is a tricky thing! No rhyme or reason as to how long it may take for one's psyche and nervous system to "settle down" to a more manageable level, again. Unfortunately! ...When I wrote, " 'Day by day', my nerves finally calmed down.", THAT process took several MONTHS, actually! (I did remiss it as, "long story 'short'." 🙂) ...I can relate to your nervous reactions to sounds, actions, and people around you; those things being TRIGGERING for you. But, that's only NATURAL! Don't be hard on yourself!! That's why I shared my story with you; to hopefully show you that your responses to these recent encounters are all TOTALLY within reason, after what you've been through! ...It may take a while more; but in time, things WILL calm down again! 🙂 ...That you are aware, and have experience, of this folk group and their perpensity to be loud and aggressive is a GOOD thing!! You KNOW what to EXPECT, when they are around; so just let THAT be your "new 'default' mode"! When they START UP, just think: "Oh well, THAT was expected!". 😄 And keep REMINDING yourself that, whatever is going on, it's NOT directed towards YOU! 🙂
Just like you, the calm, quiet atmosphere Swedes generally live in is one of the things I appreciate most about living in Sweden. I'm also greatly disturbed by intrusive (loud) and inconsiderate people; föreigners, AND Swedes, alike!! ...I'm actually from "big city" America, so it's laughibly ironic that I wound up living here in (little) Sweden (that was NEVER my plan)! Ha ha ...But, as I alluded to, there are aspects of Swedish living that suit me quite well. Your "love-hate" issue with city life I GET, and pretty much AGREE with! Ha ha🙂
Again, all the BEST to you! I have a feeling you'll do just FINE!! 👍
PS - If you're ever feeling a bit pensive or the like; if I MAY suggest, just WATCH one of my videos!! 😉..Especially, this one: ua-cam.com/video/Nm_JPl5MAig/v-deo.html 😊
(a relatively new channel, in the making)
Pattern recognition is not racism.
seems like a person who is constantly in conflict, so most likely he has already messed with new people and already forgot about you
Great point 😅
Unfortunately you can’t trust anyone anymore. The crime rate is escalating across the globe at an alarming rate and the law is just not keeping up. For whatever reason people are becoming increasingly angry and turning on each other.
Simple solution:
Shave off your beard for a while. He won't recognize you then. In 6 months, he won't even recognize you with your beard.
And take the help you can get.
If you still feel unsafe after a couple of months, move.
And it was right to call the police. I got attacked and beaten myself, half a year ago, and didn't hesitate to call the cops. I don't regret it.
Haha smart strategy actually!
@@becurious2000Malmö might be too warm but you can cover half your face with a scarf for a few months otherwise. I always use a scarf for half the year anyways.
@@becurious2000 As mentioned, I was attacked. The police found the guy, half an hour later. I got a notice, there will be a case out of it. But I wouldn't stand a chance pointing him out in court, half a year later. Other than he was from Greenland and short, I have no memory of his face.
Not that I think it matters, as he admitted the attack, the day they caught him.
I don't think he will remember you, even after two months, beard or no beard.
But for your own peace of mind, you could take off your beard for a period.
Another smart suggestion. I’ll probably also wear a different coat
@@akyhne I really appreciate your input
Malmö, Swedens toilet nr 1.
You should move to another city.
Up to now I was pretty happy here. The tricky part is I got a really good job here. There are many more opportunities for me with my work experience here. I do think I’ll probably find another part of town to live or maybe move to the outskirts in a suburb once my time in this apartment ends. I have studied in Lund and some coworkers have encouraged me to consider living there instead. We will see what apartments I can find this summer
This is a classic case of what we call in New York...F%&# around and Find out. And this individual clearly is F'ing around and finding out that folks are passive and not protecting themselves and even worse, not protecting each other. If I witnessed this entire situation, you can rest assure that the gentleman grabbing you would be launched several feet away from you AFTER the police were notified. Your fears are valid, and it can be so destabilizing to experience this so close to home. You did nothing wrong, this man is clearly disturbed and feels empowered to act out since no one is doing anything. Like a cowboy in the wild west. Calling the police was the right thing to do. But I would encourage some strong language to your neighbors who witnessed this, that it's their responsibility to call the police and intervene. Ask yourself, if you witnessed this, would you just watch someone get victimized, if that's the case, take some ownership and have courage. Bullies and maniacs are experiencing terrible personal issues usually, are miserable people, and also typically deeply uneducated or have mental illness. There should be a concerted effort to educate the community on what we say in New York. "SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING" People should be calling the police immediately, recording the conflict, and intervening. I know it isnt fun and it doesnt jive with pacifism, but the native individuals who eat the fruit of peace, come from those who fought to the death to plant those seeds many years ago. Sometimes we must fight and stand up to maintain social justice. And not vigilante justice, but making it easy for the police to make an arrest and charge with assault. Be strong, don't give in to the fear and paranoia, if he's done it to you, he's done it to others, he wont remember you. But be better for your neighbors and hold them accountable for their lack of effort to step forward.
Yea I actually had a conversation with someone at the police about this week. She also mentioned I need to reach out to the landlords in this area about this guy since apparently he is known to people here. I had not thought about this. This is a new experience for me. I come from Texas from a small town where most have guns and people are too afraid to do stuff like this cause they’ll get shot. In the bigger cities though the gun violence in Texas is getting out of control. I moved to a big city in Texas just before I moved to Sweden and a drug deal went bad so this gang of Mexican mafia lit up my neighborhood at night with automatic rifles. I am very illiterate with gun names as I never was much of a gun enthusiast. They were on camera doing it but did not get caught. 3 months later they came through and did it again. Then I moved to Sweden. This happened in a “nice neighborhood “ in Fort Worth, Texas. So I have had some experience with stuff like this but it was at a distance. This was a first close encounter for me.
I’m sorry you went through this. It must be hard, especially since you have autism, to be a victim of a random act of violence.
Please do know that it’s obviously not a racial thing. There are many factors which causes things like this to happen. And obviously, the amount of violent crime (or crime in general) is much, MUCH higher in the USA than it is in Sweden.
I have lived in Sweden in so called ”no go zones” for 25+ years and have never had anything like this happen to me. Some people are just crazy.
Again, sorry this happened to you. Talking to the police is the right thing to do.
If you still feel uncomfortable, move to another city. Stockholm is nice, Umeå is nice, and there are lots of other smaller cities which are cool. Norrköping/Linnköping is chill as well!
Thanks for the kindness and understanding ❤️😊🙏🏻
Relocate to Slottsstaden, Ribbersborg, Västra hamnen, Limhamn - Anywhere close to the sea.
I lived in the Möllan area 15 years ago. Many warnings but to me it seemed progressive, multi culti and picturesque. Five months in ~ then I realized ~ this area is social misery.
Yea I was thinking about Limhamn. I have a very dear friend and his wife who live there and are trying to encourage me to move there. I like Slottsstaden also .
I’ve spent a lot of time around Möllan after I moved from there. Even if not 100% in line with personal values, sometimes you have to protect yourself. Even if it comes with a little bit of “not in my backyard” thinking. The Möllan neighborhood is great, just not live there😋
Limhamn is really nice, like a small city in itself and close to the sea with nice walking in nature options.
@@mariannepilgaard2524 it really is. I looked at a few apartments there. Hopefully I can get approved for one.
I am a bit late, but the law in Sweden say that every car and bike are responsible towards the people walking. It is called Väjningsplikt, which means that it is never the person walkings fault. So the person could be as mad as he like it is his fault anyway. And the fact that he got out of the car assulting you is even worse. I would report it to the police with all the info you have to put it on a record. I been living i large, medium and small cities and never had that happen to me, so from my point of view it do not happen often. I dont know if that makes you feel better, but i just want to add that to maybe put som reliefe to you.
I also want to say that there was nothing you could have done differently. You where walking where you should, acting as you should and just met a guy who for some reason lost his mind and acted out. That is not ok what the person did and not normal either.
Thanks for the assurance. That is interesting about väjningsplikt. I did not know that even applies to cyclists. Here in Malmö the cyclists are super aggressive and will run you over. I have missed a lot of buses and green cross walk lights because the cyclist are so aggressive. I assumed they had the right of way. I don't want to get run over by them anyways haha. I am not a fan of cycling or walking in Malmö especially in the summer because there are just so many bikes. It is a bit intimidating.
Wish you came here when most of this stuff didn't exist, it really just blew up in the last 10-15 years.
Talk to your work (it should apply to "to and from work" even if you weren't working when it happened), you most likely have the right to get crisis help if you want to through företagshälsovården.
Interesting thanks for the tip 😊
Europe is facing this problem because of the amount of people coming in from violent countries that have completely different values that most Europeans share. It's not just Sweden.
I would suggest moving to an area where the locals are the overwhelming majority.
Or even moving to a different country that doesn't have this problem or one that is being much more strict and active against it.
I’ll probably be moving to a different neighborhood in a few months closer to the sea
There's no such places in Sweden anymore. You better of moving to Polen.
@@charrua59 hasn’t Poland received 100s of thousands from the war? Seems like this is happening almost everywhere in different forms. 🤔
@@becurious2000 Yes from Ukraine. Not from that part of world your attacker came from. Not from the religion of peace . Refugees from Ukraine.
@@charrua59 My first option would be moving to a different country but he might not be able to do that at the moment, that's why I said that.
Europe needs to defend their own people like Poland is doing 👍
Regardless of how your brain has wired itself, you shouldn't have to worry about whether people will hurt you or not. Because that's the kind of world we should all strive for. So don't feel guilty about that.
I will say, I don't believe a culture can have a temper. But I think a culture can TEACH lower levels of acceptance and tolerance, as well as to always be ready to fight at the drop of a hat. Regardless of whether you're in the right or wrong. And that guy was in the wrong since he didn't follow traffic recommendations and rules.
Malmö is a dump.
I have heard this from a few. Do you think it’s all of Malmö or just certain areas. I actually thrive better here than Helsingborg. I felt pretty lonely and bored in Helsingborg although it was a pretty city.
@@becurious2000 Sertain spots are worse than others, wery few swedes live the further north you go in Sweden the safer it gets, in general.
What do you think about Jönköping? I stopped there for lunch this summer on the way to Stockholm. It seemed nice.
@@becurious2000 Much better than Malmö for sure.
@@becurious2000 I live in Jönköpings län, and I can highly recommend Jönköping if you want to live in a safe and quite beautiful city near the water.
Of course it is not the whole group. There is, however, an huge proportion of that group that is very violent and hate filled. It is estimated that 10% to 25% of that group are extremists and that number is high enough that wherever that group goes the extremists are able to keep the others of their group "inline" with their ideology. That seems to be playing out as accurate when looking at where that group goes and the behaviour exhibited by that group.
Very well put. I have many good friends from that region and I have even traveled there. I was having trouble processing my thoughts on this matter.
I worked in a supermarket some years back and thought I saw a man of color pocket smth.
I politely asked if I could see if he had anything, he actually did not.
I was like 'oh my bad' but he got from 0-100 and punched me so that I flew back almost falling backwards.
Police was called and they were there fast.
Despite us having it on video the case was dropped in abt two weeks due to 'lack of evidence.'
This sends clear signals to such criminals that their behavior, even according to the establisment, is justified.
We have a new thing in the USA too. In many places they are not punishing theft of less than 1000 dollars.
I am not a health professional hence this is just an uneducated opinion. You speak like someone who is suffering ptsd. See a professional, sometimes an hour talking with them will be the only you need. That excess of environmental awareness is common after a crisis. I get it years ago when I was robbed in my country of origin (Argentina). It goes easy with the time, but better catch it early.
About the police, bullies tend to get the message. Good you speak with them.
You are correct. I actually got diagnosed with PTSD in Texas before ever coming here. The police have been so kind as to provide me with support when needed which has been helpful.
Reach out to the police.
The police won't do anything.
This country is going down the shitter.
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Stay safe
I think he overreacted, and then tried to intimidate you.
I think the correct way to act is to call the police, but I don't think I would dare to do it myself, partly because of my autism, where I have a highly eschewed sense of risk perception.
I know what type of person you mean. I have a lot of friends from that part of the world here in Sweden. But I also have stories of road rage and similar akin to your story. Makes me confused. Overly aggressive people like that need to be dealt with by the judicial system. Unfortunately, often there is a problem with mistrust towards police, so actual witnesses just refuse to help, which only worsens the cultural clash.
Don't get me wrong. We have people as aggressive as that natively, and used to have enormous problems. But, bystanders used to have no qualms of witnessing, which over time meant the problem mostly faded away as generation by generation learnt this was not acceptable behavior.
Yea, I probably sound like I have overreacted to some here but I am the same with my autism, I have a very strong fear of pain and risk.
Racism is one thing - stupiedness, if a group of people show what they are made of, now you know and what you have gotten is wisdom.
This has definitely been a learning experience for me and I will definitely react differently next time.
did you report him? if the dude gets checked by the police he might change his ways. people from countries like that have alot of generational trauma issues. also middle easterners do not do well in the northern climates.
I did. They did nothing. I hear the police are afraid of them. We have several “no go zones” filled with such people where even us as health care personnel must get permission from police to enter such as in the case of ambulances. I hear organized crime is blossoming in such areas . I moved to Limhamn and am doing much better here. I am so happy I have to pinch myself to know if it’s real.
My tip is: Move to a safer city, if you dont then you have to accept that this is probably not the last time
I fear there may be some truth to this. I am planning to move to a better neighborhood this summer
What part of the world are you talking about ?
I am not sure if I get the question. I apologize. Sweden is mentioned in the title.
The violence is real.
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So you need to understand that we took in a lot of people from some of the most violent countries in the world and they struggle to adapt to Sweden. It means many young people feel that gangster culture is a great alternative to get status and get rich. It has escalated badly over the past decade. The lack of understanding of Swedish culture means many attribute our actions to racism when it's simply that we have different values and behavior. Like not taking to strangers isn't because of them being non swedes. Not inviting neighbors also isn't about their origin. But if you expect us to behave according to your values from these countries you might assume we must be racist. We're not. But we are also peaceful. And these cultures are not. They act aggressively immediately. Especially young men. And it is ruining parts of our country now where swedes avoid these people.
It is interesting to hear this. I see and hear similar stories in the USA and other countries. I remember working with troubled youths that were males from Vietnamese gangs in Texas that did not integrate well into American society. One of them became one of my closest friends and cleaned up his life. He is doing great 20 years later but I know his story was exceptional.
Jag håller inte med. Jag har aldrig mött en aggressiv invandrare. Jag har faktiskt aldrig ens hört någon uttrycka sig på det sättet om invandrare, och jag växte bokstavligen upp med nazistgrannar. Det här är första gången jag ser någon säga så, och jag ser flera kommentarer här. Baserat på vad jag upplevt, hört och sett så ser det mer ut som en organiserad påverkanskampanj här på youtube än någon sorts organisk manifestation.
Relocate asap! Malmö (Skåne in general) is the worst part of Sweden.
I am living in Limhamn now 😎
Move to Denmark 😊❤
Call the police.
The police will take the report and then bin it 2 weeks later, it's of no use.
Atombomba Malmö
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Pepper spray, bear spray, tazer
Which are all illegal in Sweden.
@@MrHenrikAnderssonthere are things that work like peppar spray that is not illegal
@@Hyello-be6vw Alla riktiga vapen är förbjudna att bära i det här pesselandet. T.o.m. Ryssland har bättre självförsvarslag. De får iaf bära riktig tårgas.
Brandon get a pepper sprayer
😂 I heard that from a few
I suspected he was a democrat.
@@becurious2000 That might not be the best idea, pepper spray is counted as "firearms" in Sweden and you can
get into trouble if you carry it around. There are "legal" versions but those are pretty sh!1 at actually stopping an
attacker. A huge problem is that there are very few legal options for self defence, even worse is that you can't
"escalate violence" so the attacker has all the power. This is what happens when to many idiot bleeding hearts
and political activists care more about imported criminals than native people..
Don't! They are illegal, and in your profession, you don't want that on your resume. @@becurious2000
The irony is that he moved from a country where carrying a firearm for self-defense is a right, to the slave country Sweden, where it's hard to even get a gun, unless you're a criminal.
(Jag är för övrigt svensk själv men har alltid föraktat den svenska fegheten och konformismen.)
This guy was on drugs, and he's definitely already in trouble with the police. Calling them won't make a difference because he's in deep already. The social aspect, the guys at the shop, is way more serious to him since it will affect his life directly. Some far off threat of prison is not really a deterrent when you're on drugs, but the social pressure weighs very heavily - especially in the kind of culture you're describing. I personally would try to catch him at another time and talk to him, he clearly needs to talk to someone from the real world. I understand that you could never do that, and I have to respect that. But how do we solve these kinds of problems without talking to each other? It's a vicious circle, integration needs to happen somewhere. These are super warm friendly people, I'm absolutely sure he would be so sorry and feel super bad if you approached him.
He probably grew up in a tough landscape, using this strategy to survive, not realizing it's so unexpected and shocking. It's about as easy for him to calm down as it is for you to become an aggressive person. But you could become an aggressive person if this would happen every day - so he would become a calmer person in the opposite scenario.
I would also like to add that I have never met or seen an aggressive immigrant. I live in a small town, not a lot of drugs here, assuming that's why.
However - Growing up, a lot of Swedish kids were aggressive to me. As soon as they saw me they would follow me in their old broken volvo's, throwing beer cans at me and shouting the F word and how they were going to kill me. Basically just because I wasn't a volvoraggare like them. This happened in many of the surrounding small towns as well, where they didn't know me. They just saw that I wasn't a volvoraggare and their idea of fun is assault. I never really understood why at the time, but I now realize that they were already at the end of the road. I sometimes see them lurking around the village whenever I go visit, life didn't treat them kindly.
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There is likely some truth to what you say. I was attacked 15 years ago by a 17 year old guy with a gun. He was high on meth. I was in a nice neighborhood in my truck. He was in his friend’s car and they chased me for two and a half minutes with him hanging out the window with the gun. Thankfully the police got him. Hopefully he got help.
@@becurious2000 Yeah, these things are almost always due to personal trauma, stress or fear of some kind. If it was all down to cultural differences then it would be much more obvious because everyone in this group would be acting crazy like this.
@@98Zai "volvoraggare"??! Hahaha that sound some madeup bullshit
Is a very small thing to go to the police they will do nothing, I will say try to forget the experience and carry on. take care.
I am hearing a general sentiment. I feel a lot better. Thanks 😊
We don't have an immigration crisis but we do have a right wing crisis that hits the working class/under class/poor or marginalized people really hard. So therefore violence increases, unemployment rises, crime rises.
I wonder what the pie in the sky best and kindest ideal way to tackle this problem would be if we had like a magic wand or something. Immigration has been with us for millennia and probably will be here to stay much longer in our future. I myself am the product of hundreds of immigrants that fled Europe and moved to the USA hundreds of years ago mixed in with a bit of the indigenous people of the Americas.
I would say a bit of this and that. Definitely heavy weights on educating immigrants in language, political and institutional skills so they know their rights and obligation well but also - tech the norms.
We need to give people the means and opportunity to study, have a decent living standard and a meaningful life where you have the opportunity to somewhat control your life. Frustration and hopelessness are dangerous so influence over your work, economy, living situation. Like you wrote yourself - you have an agreement and can't move just like that - limits your freedom.
The fact that the police doesn't have relations with the citizens in the hood is bad. So basically it is resources needed and used well. People with alot to lose are less likely to cause trouble or use violence. Right now we have bigger income gaps than we have ever had and the poorest group can hardly survive. I know it's not as bad as in the US for those groups but the right wing parties are really working on it, if you ask me. Vote them again and we will soon have skid row here too. It's all about class.@@becurious2000
That is absolute bullshit.
It really is true how important education and knowledge is.
@@becurious2000 The sad thing about it all is that the lefties like to call all swedes racists because swedes doesnt like the violence that has come with mass migration. That is while studies say that swedes are one of the least racist people in the world. And its also sad for all the migrants who are contributing and working hard for sweden who gets mixed up with criminal migrants. So the obvious solution is to throw out all criminal migrants from sweden. But that is the lefties against also.
Relocate but check demographic before so you don't end up in the same shitty atmosphere.
I am in Limhamn now 😎
@becurious2000 Toppen! 😃 Säkert mycket bättre.
Bor själv i en litet samhälle med ca 1800 invånare men det är likadant. Dom "fördelade" och "placerade" samma "klientel" i mängder även till alla mindre byar så ingen kommer undan hot och våld, och folk vågar inte längre gå ut ens tidigt på kvällen.
Jag har haft vänner från Polen och Tjeckien här som är chockade och inte heller vågar gå ut utan stark manligt sällskap eller stor hund.
Innan detta skedde kunde man vara ute dygnet runt och dörrarna olåsta. Tryggheten är helt borta.
wake up snd stop having empathy for people who cant even comprehend its meaning
Do you think people can change though? I have seen some pretty wild people change even in my own family. I had a couple Hells Angels biker dudes in my family that cleaned up pretty good once given the right tools.
I like that what you said about empathy, some people don't know what the means.
bully magnet
What is the green sponge thing?
@@becurious2000 its youtube's own smileys 😅
@@evilleader1991 ah got ya. First time seeing it