how putting yourself first helps everyone around you | set your foundation | @tiffanylaibhen
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- Опубліковано 24 вер 2024
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sooo many learned lessons! this was a tough one. because so many of us just want to take our people with us, but some things require you to go first… alone. grab your bevvys. we’re diving in for a quick one 🍷
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Move in silence that way no one can kill your dream before you get there.
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❤🙏🏾💯amen
outside energy can absolutely throw you off! 🎯
Amen
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I just sat in the shower and UGLY cried listening to this. I’m 24; oldest of 8 siblings and have taken care of my siblings since 12 & I finally have agreed to move to FL with my boyfriend to restart and finally live! I love you and thank you so much ❤
🥹😭 I love this for you!! sending lots of love + a big hug… it’s your time 🫂🤎
At the age 47 years old, I've realised I have over invested in helping others, but sadly when you set fire to yourself to keep others warm they don't realise the sacrifices you have made to give them opportunities. You are 💯 percent.😊 If you a person who is a essential front line worker this is a pivot lesson to learn. Your vision is yours don't share it - protect it.😊
Because they never asked you to make those sacrifices. I hear you though, and I’ve been there
So true. smh
Taken thanks 😊
to be fair, it’s not your fault… so many women are raised to put ourselves last… make sure everyone else is good + then mayyyybe find a moment for ourselves. I’ve seen so many women I admire in my life lose who they are in everything + everyone else.
it doesn’t have to be this way. as I can help more women recognize the importance of true self love, my heart is more + more content 🤎 sending you lovvve! make time to get to know + pour into YOU
Soooo true our growth is dependent on working on you first
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I come from a family that is JUST the OPPOSITE of yours. Everyone is broken, no one is satisfied. It's hard. I've always been a giver and give and give and give. I'm so tired. I found you today and subscribed and I'm super glad that I have....been binging non-stop. Just subscribed today and I do not regret it. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
time to focus on you 🙌🏾 I’m happy you’re here 🤎
@@TiffanyTV thank you so much. 🥹🥹🥹
I am too. My family has put me in debt without my permission and asked for money when I was just starting to earn a salary.
I am in the same boat. You ain’t alone. This video was timely.
I pray God deliver you✊🏽✊🏽 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
This message couldn’t have came at a better time. Definitely focusing on filling my cup without feeling the guilt.
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I have a strong feeling that when I walk through that door, so many will come behind me. As if their blessings are attached to my blessings
Amen!
that’s a beautiful perspective
yes yes yessss claim it 🙌🏾
Amen 🙏🏾
the Lord is so good. I absolutely needed to hear this today! As the eldest daughter of a very broken family, this really helped!
the oldest daughters alwayssss go through it 🤎
Been feeling guiltily for not talking care of my self in these 7 years. The only thing i know is be a pleaser to everyone. Thanks for this video
I am 22 years old and I learned this the hard way.I have always wanted the best for all my friends and because I like pulling everyone,I got hurt so bad by the same people. Now,my business is running well and I am moving into a new apartment all by myself in a month.I am so happy that I invested in myself,I need to stop undermining my capabilities
yes mam! other people cannot be the reason you don’t achieve your dreams. + it’s not fault of theirs. you don’t need to be mad at them or anything. just be about the business of making your life what you want it to be because no one else will
I used to be a heavy people pleaser always putting everyone above my own wellbeing. And that’s a cycle that still continues in my family but I’m breaking it. Its okay to help and be there for others but there has to be a healthy balance and boundaries between that. Another great video Tiffany 🫶🏽❤️
I messed up alot not realizing early on that what I wanted for myself and those around me was NOT what they wanted. When you’re the first to see some sort of success, its difficult to not want to bring along the people you’ve grown up with. However, I learned the hard and painful way that not everyone is happy for you and not everyone truly wants a better situation, they just want help to stay where they are. This video is a gem!
Yessssssss! 💯
This… 💯💎💅🏼
✨✨This message needs to be taught to every young person before they even start their first job. As amazing as it is to do things for loved ones, lets also normalise loving each other without any financial expectations or gains ✨✨
“What if you have to go first”, that hits hard! Bc not seeing it makes you feel like it’s not possible, even though we are more than capable of anything that we desire!
I literally put my life on hold for my family cause the guilt just wont let me put myself first and often times others dont second guess putting themselves first. Thank you for this i will watch it as many times as i can to remind myself that it's okay.
This is so important for us empaths, givers, healer, etc. to hear. I can't help others fly if I can't even fly myself. Learning to choose me has been the biggest relief I've experienced yet!
whew! THIS! 🎯🙌🏾
@@TiffanyTV So honored to get a heart ❤️ You're inspiring!
I needed to hear this. I’m an Empath too, and my cultural background has a tendency to make us feel guilty if we don’t help others. But after standing my ground to solidify myself, I think people around me have seen the difference. As I prepare to start my own business, some may be jealous and some are supportive. Nonetheless, we are the cycle breakers where we are called to be the first trailblazers in our families. It’s no easy feat, but there’s a reason why most empaths are called to do this. Blessings to you and many others blazing the path. ⭐️
TIFFANY!! Right on time. Of course.
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Getting through the door without always seeking to get others there first!!! Yes! ❤🎉❤ it’s me season.! 💕🌸💕💅🏽
You are hitting on every level! Last month I was upset at something and I was moved to get really quiet. Over the summer I was totally having a great time traveling - enjoying friends and family. But I was hearing way too much from everyone. So when I got so upset in Sept - I said I am getting too cluttered in my head. So I took a two week break from friends and travel (fun and work). And once I did, I felt so more free. I put my focus items as priority and I heard my voice. I started to feel less cluttered. And this has helped my soul so much. thank you for this message!!!
you’re so so welcome! that isolation will get you right everytime
Same !
The fact that your calling is exactly what I feel my calling is shook me to the core because I have never heard this out loud or have I felt like I can relate with anyone in regards to my purpose! Thank you 🙏🏽
The get through the door metaphor really clicked with me the way you explained it. I need to get through first and get solid enough to start helping them.
This video felt like a letter from God, I needed to hear it. Thank you ❤
Ditto!!!
Your calling is your calling Neicy. Preach!
As a fellow empath, 8:35 really brought the message home.❤ 🙏🏽
This is probably my favorite video yet. Right on time please don’t ever stop what you’re doing.
I really needed to hear this! I always thought I was really lucky to have a very supportive family until I started to really make strides in my career. Sometimes to love someone is to let them realize and discover at their pace. I am committed now not to "helping people" but to be an example. Which will always be a more powerful teacher.
It was a reason I came on this site, I've been watching your videos and LORDDDDDDD let me tell you. This one hit the most, I had to stop it and come back to it because it unpacked a lot for me that I needed to hear. I am currently going through my season of ME but I let others get in the way of ME and it's no one's fault but my own. This needed to be heard loudly too. It hit me to my soul lol. I can't get what I want by keeping the company around especially when I know they don't want me to win, I have to push this ego out of me and stop feeling sorry/pitty for others when no one felt it for me.
I love this. I 100% agree with you..
Trying to help others will cause more stress and heart break. Hard part of the journey. We live and we learn, biggest lesson learned.
come through generation cycle breaker IM PROUD OF YOU
Sis, I felt like you spoke to me directly. Thank you for making videos like this, I feel seen, heard, identified, thank you.
I’ve been on this journey for 62 years I didn’t look for people to cheer me young to walk this path with me. I had a few they were lessons. I learned them, and I remain true to who I am.
“Generational cycle breaker” wow…… haven’t thought about this before.
Thank you.
Something I realized after watching this video is that u cant give enough to others when u don’t give enough to yourself which made feel like i have to fill all the gaps in me to be able to show up to others as they really deserve without me feeling drawn or being taken advantage of
I love you Tiffany ❤this really helped
The algorithm brought this video up and I’m so happy it did. I was just explaining this to my younger cousin whose 22yo. You have a new follower 😊
welcome to the family live 😌🤎
Hey I don't know how you sitting hundreds of mile away can feel what I feel. How your every video solves my issues problems and mental blocks one by one. When people close to me are not able to. Even me myself m not able to.
Thanks a million for doing this. It is helping me. Making me feel better and to Live life with less anxiety. ❤.
I have a friend in you, who I go to every evening and feel better. Sending you love and light ❤️. May you grow prosper and heal more as you help us all do that.
you don’t know how much this warms my heart 🥹🙏🏾
This is something I struggle with. I have so much family and a boyfriend that I care and love so much. Whenever they ask me for help, I wanna say yes to everything and while I love helping them, I’m always putting myself on the back burner. I’m trying to apply for medical school as well so that’s already difficult on top of trying to help everyone do everything. I feel so guilty saying no. 😢
I have lately realized all that you said. We cannot bring people with us if they don't want to... and maybe that is absolutely fine. We might want something more for them. But if they are happy being where they are, I guess we should leave it. I believe it comes to us as a guilt that they are not seeing what we see. In the end, we have to accept that we are responsible for creating our own lives and not everybody else's and be completely comfortable and proud of that.
🎯 … it’s not easy to accept when you love people
Thank you for this message. Every time I leave my parents' house, I leave feeling defeated and feeling that I should do more. I am currently trying to get myself afloat in my financial and personal life and that alone is alot. Then the anger of bad choices made in the past and anxiety for the future creeps in. I feel so heavy at times. I'm really going to work on getting myself settled first and conquering the negative thoughts that try to take over my mind.
Hey girl, I definitely feel inspired to first focus on my inner healing and solidify the outcomes. I am no longer dragging family cost it's really draining.
if you ever have to drag, you will ALWAYS be drained. I’m happy you’re choosing to fill your cup love 🙌🏾🤎 you deserve
Your stuff hits my soul at much deeper levels, goodness!! Thank you Universe for me finding you!
@@taxtechnicians8939 🫂🫂
This is a beautiful message, all of it. Thank you Tiffany for sharing like you received it.
I used to pour into others first until my life crashed and almost burned, if not for God. That is my testimony and thank you for the reminder to put me and my dreams first.
you’re so welcome love! I’m glad it spoke to you 🤎🤎
I love your energy so much! Been binge watching your videos and it has helped me so much. I’m currently deployed, away from family and friends. I don’t know where I’m going in life but I’m putting energy back into myself after trying to please everyone around me. It’s a lonely journey but I’m at peace with myself at least.
I only discovered your channel recently and I don't know what it is, your energy makes me want to be better. I respond to this so much better than the more aggressive lifestyle content. Thank you, looking forward to future videos.
Yes this video is spot on!! There is so many of us who are on this path!
My algorithm has been showing out lately 🙌🏽 This really resonated. I am working on this foundation.
I started shedding tears the last 10 mins remaining of the video. Thank you for sharing this message ❤ ❤❤ I needed this one.
Not even 5 mins in and soooo much hits exactly the same for me. ESPECIALLY towards the beginning when you spoke on how you no longer call it “curses” bc of the energy implied behind it and instead call it cycles bc that’s exactly what they REALLY are. OH and most definitely the part about ppl you’re trying to or feel obligated to bring along who DIDN’T necessarily ask or desire to come with you or make the changes you are or ones necessary. LOVE this. Women like you are what Eye'm attracting as my tribe. Gratitude love 🦋💪🏽😌
🥹 I receive this! thank you for being here 🤎
Your channel is exactly what I needed at this stage in my life. I’ve been carrying the emotional and financial burdens of my family since 10. Now at 22, feeling stuck and broken your videos give me comfort that nothing is wrong with me wanting to break the cycles of my family and there is hope to achieve my dreams. Thank you 🙏🏻
Hi Tiffany, this message couldn't come at a better time because now I'm in that point on focusing on myself 1st doing what i want without worrying about am i not selfish or not since I've always took care of everyone in my family.
your videos always seem to keep finding me at the right times. thank you
Omg. I felt like you read my thoughts. This video was right on. You have truly blessed me. Thank you
This message was sooo good❤🎉 Let’s get her to 100k subscribers!!
Thank you for this.
Ive been crawling on empty for a long while; loosing people in my life because they feel I’m not showing up for them how they wish I would. The guilt and sadness I feel is overwhelming but they don’t know that I have nothing to pour because my cup is empty AND cracked. I recently made my last attempt to show up to please others and it broke me…publicly. Message received . Here’s to laying firm foundations FIRST and pouring into ourselves before anyone else from here on out🥂❤.
whew. got emotional reading this because I re-late. and the tough part is they probably see you as the one who usually “has it all together”. I get itttt. sending you love as you embark on this part of your journey mama. it’s not easy, but it’s worth it. I hope this playlist of videos help you along 🙏🏾 ua-cam.com/play/PLlKjsCdwoi5roZ6-Zg50liLl4K28MNHvS.html&si=L8ypYxQveodXGxuf
Thank you Empress ❤️🙏🏾
In order to go after goals or dreams sum other just gone have to be hurt and even if u fall short make lasting impressions. The envy and drama comes with it
Thank you so much for lighting me with this beautiful knowledge.. I just stumbled here, and your words just resonate deep with me and have cried. It's now time to fill my cup ❤
Oh My Goodness Tiffany You Are Definitely My Girl! You are on point. You know as I think the majority of my life I have encouraged & poured into family, friends into others via ministry, started a non-profit etc that I left myself empty and I found myself thinking that was the right thing to do as I am passionate about seeing others happy begun to wonder if I would ever rise to the top and succeed. Growing up I had been surrounded by many that stated its not about us it's about others. But, Praise God as we have raised our children, here recently I have started to unapologetically put myself first and know that it's going to be okay and I now understand I am not being selfish or wrong for taking care of me first🙏🙌💗
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At 35yrs old today, this message was divine. Thank you sooo mich❤
I appreciate your candidness. You are so on point. Dont let anyone stop from doing what youve been called to do because they dont see what you see.
This is soo true! 🙌🏽 You have to fill yourself up and get yourself aligned before extending your arm back to help others. I’m going to keep myself full before giving out to other people.
i didn’t think i could relate so hard to someone on my goal with cycle breaker financially and passing legacy to generations
I am so grateful for your videos...
I feel like every time you're talking to me....
I'm on this journey of finding myself, loving myself and growing....you are helping me sooooo much. Thank you Tiffany ❤
this makes my heart smile love 😌🤎
This resonates with me(what a timing to be honest because i am in this season). This year,i have lost all my childhood friends,longterm friendships and the last break up with my friend made me realise i need to heal from this disease of trying to help everyone,trying to unite everyone,trying to help others realize their potential of who they are,trying to uplift and bringing people along. I always go back to them,apologizing thinking i did wrong but its just the guilt of didn't I work hard enough 😣.
But am glad i realized but it cost me too much,inclusive a child i was carrying(gone to heaven).
Now i am just going to be a lone ranger and focus on whats important❤
Sis you’re my confirmation that I’m on the right path. Currently homeless but at the same time I have a home. I have new job and studying to be a personal trainer but at the same time trying to figure my log term path because I want to heal folks like I’m healing myself. Thank you 😊
I started watching your videos when I was pregnant and wanted to watch content I could relate to and you were sharing your pregnancy journey, fast forward a year later and your content aligns because I’m on a healing journey! Thank you, for just being you and sharing because you’re helping me. You are AMAZING!!! 💜
I’m happy we can grow together love 🥰 hope newborn/infant/toddler life has treated you well. my threenager is a literal sour patch 😂
I really needed to see this. I consistently got advice from family or loved ones on elevating when they have never been there before. I realized I had to get answers elsewhere.
Prioritizing self-care and putting yourself first can indeed have a positive ripple effect on those around you. By setting a strong foundation for your well-being, you're better equipped to support and uplift others. It would be great to hear more about Tiffany Laibhen's insights on this topic.
I found this at the right time. The universe has been working on for so long and I’m glad I found this. ❤
I’m happy you’re here love 🤎
This resonates so deeply with me, thanks for this!
Thank you. I love your videos, it is not just about your message but it is also the way you make your videos and how femenine ad beautiful you look. This inspires me to prioritize myself and take care of me in all areas of my life.
Yes! I completely agree! 😊♥️
Such a fitting message, thanks Tiff.
this is something ive struggled with for a long time. only do they not expect ti but they often think i cant do it but the way you put this gave me some more mph. thank you for letting god use you to speak in this moment. it means more than i could say rn
I be feelin like she makes these videos specifically for me personally 😅🥹🥲 Thank you Tiffany, this a whole word 🌹
Thank you for speaking to my soul, Tiffany.❤
As a fellow empath, boundaries are sometimes a tricky one, but healing and awareness is the key.
Being away from my own family and being strong all the time is exhausting, but listening to you somehow gives me the push I needed to pull through.
You were like the sister I never had.
Thank you for always inspiring me.
Sending love and light all the way from the Philippines 🇵🇭🥰
This jumped out to me and I had to listen. Thank you for this.
@@fashiongoddezz3462 you’re so welcome 🙏🏾
Perfect message at the right time, I needed to hear this, thank you.😢🙏
You are 100% true sometimes is hard to know what you really want because you don't believe you can not do it but when I saw your video you inspired me alot Tiffany ❤
Wow the timing of this message ✨🙏🏽
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This video is everything Ive been feeling and going thru. It is confirmation your vibe attracts your tribe. Keep going sis thanks for the motivation and inspiration and sharing your truth🫶🏽
I clicked because I thought you were gorgeous but this message couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you so much.
i’ve been watching your videos sm lately and i love love love your energy. your messages are comforting, yet powerful and they speak to me profoundly. thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world. you’re a beautiful soul ❤
I just stumbled on this channel and I'm hooked, love your aura. I pray for strength to be able to do everything i need to do to effect change.
Your videos are so relatable and provide so much. I need a note pad when watching to catch all of the gems! I saw your shirt. I am a Delaware native:)
I’m glad they are speaking to you sis 😌 yesss I went to Del State in Dover🥰💙❤️
@TiffanyTV wow. My mom and sister are Del State alum. My son almost went there too.
You are beautiful and you have found your calling. I am so empowered by your content. Keep sending blessings our way!
Great job on explaining this🙏🏻🌟 Thank you!
Tiffany this video found me I wake up saying thank you every morning and this is Why, Wow gratitude is a magical magnet 🧲 🙏 I love your message it speaks to my heart . I am so grateful 🙏 to get this message for my birthday. Life is so beautiful. AH
Based on this video I consider this channel my new Community ♥️
This chat was a mind blowing for me , thanks for that. U helped a lot with this vídeo ❤️
Thank you so much for making this video when you did. Truly amazing thank you.
you are so welcome 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you for being you 🫶🏾
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I am so glad this came across my feed. I needed to hear this. I am in such a difficult time in my life and I still feel the need to help those around me, and this has helped me understand I need to take care of myself first with out the guilt. Thank you - New Subscriber :)
🙏🏾 i’m so happy it spoke to you mama… welcome to the family 😌🤎
@@TiffanyTV 🥹
Can you do a video on moving in silence when it comes to your dreams and goals and ways to kill the urge to tell??❤❤❤I would love your perspective.
Wanting to bring people with you through the door is also going to them for advice and them saying don't do it/you can't do it/you won't make it and then holding yourself back because you believe them. You think you need them to agree with you and support you and believe in you in order to walk through the door.
You gained a new follower after watching a Kenyan UA-camr called Nairofey.I'm so inspired already❤
Wow ty so much this is everything I need to hear I keep replaying this. I love you videos it’s like your speaking to me ty ❤
You are a glass of wine for the soul. I truly appreciate you and your wisdom. God KEPT pushing you on my home page and now that I’m finally here. I found a place for grown woman, big sister talks I never knew I needed. Wow. Super emotional right now… thank you Tiff & thank you God ❤
whew 🥹 received! thank you love… I’m happy you’re here 🫂🤎
Me too!! 💕💕💕
This is good. For those in teh comment, work on healing co-dependency, Helping others to the detriment of your well-being and peace leads to stress and bad health. You deserve peace and ease.
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A great revelation! The messiah complex has plagued me since our around twelve. It nearly destroy everything that made me feel human and worthy. But thank God, He's God! He rescued me. And this video speaks directly to my situation! ✊🏽✊🏽🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
This resonates!
this!! 🙌🏾
My calling is my calling 😭 this hits so deep Sis. This message came at the right time 🙏🏾
🥹🙌🏾 that warms my heart mama