Becoming Self Centered Will Change Your Life | 4 Tips to Do It Right!

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  • Опубліковано 27 гру 2024

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  • @livinghealthywithchef_nots6855
    @livinghealthywithchef_nots6855 2 місяці тому +348

    It's my birthday today and I didn't wait for no one to celebrate my birthday before I celebrated it myself. I enjoyed celebrating myself and it is indeed the best feeling ever❤❤❤

    • @isysslepore72
      @isysslepore72 2 місяці тому +14

      Happy birthday and may you have a blessed and safe day 🎊 🎉

    • @yerushalom87
      @yerushalom87 2 місяці тому +12

      Happy Birthday 🎉❤ My birthday is tomorrow 🎇 🎈

    • @FaerieTidbits
      @FaerieTidbits 2 місяці тому +4

      Happy birthday!!

    • @make_emfall_inlovee
      @make_emfall_inlovee 2 місяці тому +2

      Happy Birthday

    • @livb4804
      @livb4804 2 місяці тому +2

      Happy Birthday 🎈🎂

  • @curlyisconfident
    @curlyisconfident 2 місяці тому +140

    Recovering people pleasers unite!! We were told to put ourselves last - but no more! It’s a game changer - call me selfish anyday. I take it as a compliment now because I know myself and how I treat the people who love me. Everyone’s opinion doesn’t matter 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @krissyaguilar1814
      @krissyaguilar1814 2 місяці тому +2

      Same

    • @sarah_rchdi
      @sarah_rchdi Місяць тому

      Same here ! It’s a struggle but necessary ! Can’t give it all to anyone anymore. Got to give it to our beautiful self ❤

  • @FaerieTidbits
    @FaerieTidbits 2 місяці тому +56

    As women, prioritizing ourselves is a life SAVER esp when we are conditioned to put ourselves last!

  • @zaira.mm3003
    @zaira.mm3003 2 місяці тому +85

    My parents sometimes tell me that I am selfish. But I know it is not true. I do care about other people, but in moderation. I just don’t do things I 100% don’t want to do and if i know it will make me feel resentful. I have my own priorities in life and I can’t break my own rules just to make them feel good. But again I am kind to others, I don’t like hurting others feelings. I consider myself lucky to know and feel when I need to stop and where this resentment-line is

    • @katiepop3442
      @katiepop3442 2 місяці тому +2

      Tell them Selfish or Selfcare. That usually shut them down❤

  • @FeminineTakeOff
    @FeminineTakeOff 2 місяці тому +113

    That’s right! Even in the Bible it says “love thy neighbor as thyself” how can we even know how to love others if we don’t love and care for ourselves!
    This is truly a great video.

    • @TheFeminineUniverse
      @TheFeminineUniverse  2 місяці тому +14

      Well said! I don't understand why people always sleep on that part.
      Glad you enjoyed this one, love💕

    • @divinedianec3170
      @divinedianec3170 2 місяці тому +3

      its good to love yourself but.
      The Bible teaches that Self-Centeredness is a sin because it leads to self-gratification and an overlooking of others' needs. The Bible also teaches that self-centeredness is antithetical to the teachings of Scripture.

  • @themela9podcastwithfulaniyira
    @themela9podcastwithfulaniyira 2 місяці тому +18

    I let go. I suffered. I’m aware of me now, I focus only on me. I am selfish intentionally. I am comfortable with it.

  • @cherissewilliams8748
    @cherissewilliams8748 2 місяці тому +120

    You have to stop asking people for things you refuse to give yourself! IT STARTS WITH YOU!
    I love how you explained this in a positive way. The imagery, the examples, you've done it again sis.
    Challenge accepted! Re-focusing on pouring into me❤

    • @InstavidDocs
      @InstavidDocs 2 місяці тому +2

      Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm thrilled that the message resonated with you. It's powerful to realize that our journey starts within. Embracing self-love and investing in yourself truly transforms everything. I'm here cheering you on as you refocus on pouring into yourself! ❤

  • @Laele267
    @Laele267 2 місяці тому +105

    I struggle so much with this, I can never understand if I’m taking care of myself or just being selfish.

    • @lauraoshea1701
      @lauraoshea1701 2 місяці тому

      I find that it helps to look at situations objectively, like an observer. Would you justify the person who acts or wants to act like you do? Or would you judge them as being selfish? Hope this helps 😉

    • @jesutofunmiadebumowa3610
      @jesutofunmiadebumowa3610 2 місяці тому +4

      There is something I have learnt from my student fellowship 😊, you cannot give others what you don't have. If you don't love yourself you can't love others. If you don't care for yourself you can't care for others. The love for others is a function of the love for yourself.

    • @Sitababyy
      @Sitababyy 2 місяці тому +1

      When in doubt, be selfish. Don’t go by that to your kids if you’re a parent. 😂

  • @ShesaDiva527
    @ShesaDiva527 2 місяці тому +24

    Great topic. It's insane how many women I've come across in my lifetime who made it seem like I was a horrible person because I take care of myself (including my body) before taking care of others. We are always taught to put everyone else ahead of us, but I've never seen those results end well. I've had people look at me like was nuts because I excercise on a regular basis. I've responed, "My overall health is important to me. Its not about how I look, its about taking care of myself. I cannot take care of other people if I am messed up myself." and this is something I had to start applying to other areas of my life outside of fitness.

  • @DominiqueFrancon
    @DominiqueFrancon 2 місяці тому +10

    This really resonated with me. I am a people pleaser and it is slowly killing me. I find myself annoyed and frustrated with people all the time. I give generously to people who won’t even return my phone calls. The epiphany I had was that I’m not worthy of love so I’ve settled for being useful. . . for being used.

  • @sispeepgame
    @sispeepgame 2 місяці тому +9

    I love how you have the difference between self obsessed vs self absorbed. A lot of people get them confused, I can say I’m self obsessed MY world revolves around me, but the amount of self absorbed people in the world is getting out of control and it’s such an unattractive trait to have. People really be out here wanting you to do for them without considering you.

  • @kinendiaye7416
    @kinendiaye7416 2 місяці тому +44

    Challenge accepted with the help of God

  • @Comegetyomansis4840
    @Comegetyomansis4840 2 місяці тому +70

    I am listening to this on my first ever Hot Girl Walk lol I am eating cleaner and committing to a workout routine so challenge accepted!!!

    • @TheFeminineUniverse
      @TheFeminineUniverse  2 місяці тому +7

      Yesss! Come through hot girl walk! Love all of this for you💕
      Sending consistency, results and fulfillment your way!

    • @thebeautyspace
      @thebeautyspace 2 місяці тому

      I am joining u next week, Hot mama era loading 😂😂😂

  • @kev8006
    @kev8006 2 місяці тому +8

    Challenge Accepted! it's about time I get myself together and start to truly take life seriously.

  • @TheThrowBackProject
    @TheThrowBackProject 2 місяці тому +9

    These videos are really helpful for those who don’t have families to speak into their lives, but yet have to have mentors that are passed away. I will never know them. Thank for the new upload.

  • @testdep
    @testdep 2 місяці тому +3

    as a recovering people pleaser I literally have this vid on repeat every day because it hit like a truck.
    I already renovating my house (starting with my room), buying new things for myself, donating stuff I don't want anymore.
    I also started new hobbies like painting, something I wanted to do for decades.
    Guess why I didn't do it before? Because I wasn't self-centered. And it brought me nothing but defeat.

  • @kgalaletsoncube7507
    @kgalaletsoncube7507 2 місяці тому +79

    She's bacccccckkk ❤❤❤❤

    • @TheFeminineUniverse
      @TheFeminineUniverse  2 місяці тому +8

      Heyyyy, my love! Getting back to the regular schedule! 💕

    • @erinwright8092
      @erinwright8092 2 місяці тому

      Yes!!! I missed you!!! Sooooooo happy!!

    • @lorynkwagala6430
      @lorynkwagala6430 2 місяці тому

      Am so happy for the new video ❤ thanxs beautiful

  • @QBreezey
    @QBreezey 2 місяці тому +5

    Hey, girl! ❤ I haven't commented on anything of yours in a while. Challenge accepted! I spent nearly my whole life taking care of nearly everyone else but myself. I already knew i needed to take more time for self care, but its so hard because that's how ive been wired since i was a little girl, taking on the role as not only the oldest child in my family who had to set example for my younger sisters,but as a second mom and being a latchkey kid. Sadly, the long term effects carried into my adult life .But I needed to hear this . Thanks again!

  • @daniellerola6637
    @daniellerola6637 2 місяці тому +4

    Challenge accepted! An incredible video as always. I love how you always go deeper. The bit with the you've heard the say no to things that don't serve you was great, I'm always ready for actionable advice.

  • @sammydatr
    @sammydatr 2 місяці тому +37

    So glad you posted! I love your videos and they have changed my life. Please keep posting!! 🥺 Hopefully one day you can post on Spotify too!

    • @TheFeminineUniverse
      @TheFeminineUniverse  2 місяці тому +4

      It really makes my day to know these videos help! It's been a slow process, but the podcast process is in the works. More to come, love😘

  • @WonderWoman1984-uy5yn
    @WonderWoman1984-uy5yn Місяць тому

    I had the words "It starts with you" tattooed on my collarbone a year ago. My reminder that I have to do better than what my mother, her mother and her mother etc got.

  • @cocoalotuslife6756
    @cocoalotuslife6756 2 місяці тому +2

    I’m so happy to be here! I was up for hours unable to sleep. Mind racing, thoughts all over and anxiety on defcon 5. Thank you for this, I’ve pulled myself together lol!!!

  • @newestbarbee3250
    @newestbarbee3250 2 місяці тому +8

    Saweeetie exudes this. She always give main character energy!!

  • @iamsebastianmitchell
    @iamsebastianmitchell 2 місяці тому +3

    This is the best advice ever and it's arrived at just the right time. So grateful for you!

  • @DeeMac1121
    @DeeMac1121 2 місяці тому +6

    This is so perfect because I started the 75 hard challenge today as well!! We got this sisters. Challenge accepted!! ❤ 💪🏾

  • @mychannelafc
    @mychannelafc 2 місяці тому +4

    Your video clips are always so on point and very helpful in understanding what you're saying I love it!

  • @Katrica670
    @Katrica670 2 місяці тому +1

    @12:58 i just ❤ love love how you articulated that!

  • @ezlenen224
    @ezlenen224 2 місяці тому

    The best thing ever. I have been doing this for a couple of months Now. Finding time and spending time for myself. I care about, and I do love people, but I take care of myself

  • @brionymann7654
    @brionymann7654 2 місяці тому

    Challenge accepted! Love your neighbour as yourself doesn't mean you have to make yourself ill or can't have boundaries- sometimes it's a kind "No thank you, i don't want a sugar crash later" or "That's something that I'm not comfortable doing because of my beliefs, thank you for thinking of me though". I do a lot of things, faith based and otherwise for others but my gym time (sometimes very early to fit around responsibilities), hair appointments and derm appointments are not negotiable unless there's a major crisis

  • @mosrade
    @mosrade 2 місяці тому +2

    Challenge accepted !!! Thank you for this video !! I feel like every time I watch your videos it hits home for me. So relatable to where I am in life. Thank you Fr your videos help me a lot.

  • @keepingupwithfrancine
    @keepingupwithfrancine 2 місяці тому +7

    These are literally my favourite videos from the feminine universe ❤

  • @MsJujubee3
    @MsJujubee3 2 місяці тому +6

    I used to be so good at prioritizing myself and doing self care but now I’m a mom to a one year old and have hardly anytime to myself 😢

    • @Thesignarizzler123
      @Thesignarizzler123 2 місяці тому +5

      I can understand this. When my children were small it was a struggle just to find time to bath never mind anything else, please remember it does get easier. Hang in there it does get easier. Xx

    • @MsJujubee3
      @MsJujubee3 2 місяці тому +2

      @@Thesignarizzler123thanks so much! Yeah I’m really struggling and feel like a shell of a person.

    • @t.shepherd8630
      @t.shepherd8630 2 місяці тому +3

      Give yourself grace. Not being able to sleep a solid 7-8 hours makes any task difficult. Are you nursing? How old are you? Do you have any other kids? Work? All these things make prioritizing self hard.

  • @Makeupbykimberlyp
    @Makeupbykimberlyp 2 місяці тому +3

    Challenge accepted! Thank you so much for these videos! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾So much wisdom being imparted to us!

  • @kgrant10
    @kgrant10 2 місяці тому +1

    You are amazing, I love your videos, imagine if everyone lived by the information you share in your videos, the world would be a different place ❤

  • @LindsayGrandberry
    @LindsayGrandberry 2 місяці тому +1

    Hey hey!!!!! It's my birthday today Oct. 26!!!! Thank-you for all your great work!!!! xoxo

  • @mpilo_sibiya
    @mpilo_sibiya 2 місяці тому +5

    Perfect video to start the week with❤really excited about this it's really what I wanted to hear😊

  • @shyreesejohnson8412
    @shyreesejohnson8412 2 місяці тому

    I appreciate you 💝 Thank you so much for sharing this information I definitely needed this and in the mist of working on this! In this season in my life 🤍🏆🙏🏼

  • @T.C556
    @T.C556 2 місяці тому +2

    2 Tim 3:2 says that in the last days people will become lovers of themselves. I’m not saying what’s good or bad but there it is. The message is so well delivered in a seemingly positive way….🤷

  • @sarahwill89
    @sarahwill89 2 місяці тому

    You are the absolute best! It's been so long since your last video so I was sooo excited to see this one when it dropped. Look forward to the next video and anything else you drop! Please never stop doing this videos.

  • @BriBonita
    @BriBonita 2 місяці тому +12

    Challenge Accepted 🎉

  • @obiwuruchisom
    @obiwuruchisom 2 місяці тому +2

    Perfect video for me at this phase of my life!

  • @katherinesims1479
    @katherinesims1479 Місяць тому

    You make great content! Thanks for sharing!

  • @mindshiftmami
    @mindshiftmami 2 місяці тому

    Love your channel so much. Thank you for always putting together such thoughtful, visually appealing videos 🥰🫶🏽

  • @Akuajoy
    @Akuajoy 2 місяці тому +1

    The intro got me tearing up. I guess this really hit me hard. Thanks sis❤️

  • @TonjaWade
    @TonjaWade 2 місяці тому

    So glad you posted this topic. I was always so ready to give, and getting nothing in return! Thanks for this amazing topic. ♥️✨😮💋🌹🌹🌹

  • @FaithFashionFinances
    @FaithFashionFinances 2 місяці тому

    The right kind of self centred ..... Amen!

  • @crystallizeyourlife839
    @crystallizeyourlife839 2 місяці тому

    challenge accepted! love this video and the message that it is all about balance and self love 🙏♥

  • @Lindamorena
    @Lindamorena 2 місяці тому +6

    My good sis have you created the podcast as yet?
    always rooting for you

    • @TheFeminineUniverse
      @TheFeminineUniverse  2 місяці тому +5

      Hi, my love!! It's on the agenda, for sure.
      Interestingly, I've been contacted by a few podcast agencies so I'm sorting out if I want to consider that or go at it independently. Thank you for always checking in and rooting for me. I see it and I truly appreciate you 💕💕

  • @exoticloon
    @exoticloon 2 місяці тому +1

    Challenge Accepted. Let’s go Ladies! And thanks so much for reminding us Sis 🩷

  • @roannnaaaaa
    @roannnaaaaa 2 місяці тому +1

    challenge accepted and PASSED

  • @feliciaogunnowo
    @feliciaogunnowo 2 місяці тому

    Great video! I love what you said at 7:00; but how do you deal w/ cultures that argue that you must feed and take care of others first before yourself? b/c Ive run into that argument many times 😭

  • @pumpkinseed5498
    @pumpkinseed5498 2 місяці тому

    I swear fo' God it be a good day she drop a video!!! 😂 And on a serious note, at the conclusion of this video made my spirit rise up in my chest. I'm encouraged by this content! Thanks again 🥰

  • @rosal1802
    @rosal1802 2 місяці тому

    Excellent video! I love the "centerpiece" analogy ❤💃🏿.

  • @ms.rivera7898
    @ms.rivera7898 2 місяці тому

    I needed this video. Thank you.

  • @PatriciaAtukunda-d3k
    @PatriciaAtukunda-d3k 2 місяці тому

    Been literally waiting for a video
    Thank you 😊🤗😘

  • @vickihaliburtonrealtor7836
    @vickihaliburtonrealtor7836 2 місяці тому

    Challenge accepted!
    Thank you young lady!😊

  • @BostonSweetzmile
    @BostonSweetzmile 2 місяці тому +1

    This is amazing content.

  • @AndreaPortley
    @AndreaPortley 2 місяці тому

    Im there now!!! I'm going back to me the rest of this year!!! And so forth ❤❤❤

  • @thegirlwhoreads6217
    @thegirlwhoreads6217 2 місяці тому +9

    Yay! New video

  • @natasha1989ify
    @natasha1989ify 2 місяці тому

    I looooooove you and your channel!!! Big hugs from Denmark😍❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @djredd1225
    @djredd1225 2 місяці тому

    Challenge accepted! Love your videos! May I add to become God centered as well! Love your neighbor as yourself comes to mind.

  • @patriciacadogan2335
    @patriciacadogan2335 2 місяці тому

    I'm in this process right now. Challenge Accepted!

  • @melodyyoder6149
    @melodyyoder6149 2 місяці тому

    Girly I love your videos and I would just love it if you could make a video about how to plan things properly and effectively like good basic spread sheets for goal and even daily use because girl I'm lost

  • @zephomalunga5251
    @zephomalunga5251 2 місяці тому

    I am already the center piece of my life, ma'am 🥂

  • @FeminineElegancebyRoz
    @FeminineElegancebyRoz 2 місяці тому +11

    Challenge accepted....💋by God's grace💋💋💋

  • @malaga7122
    @malaga7122 2 місяці тому

    Challenge Accepted! Btw, I love your content, it is truly inspiring!

  • @shwetap8428
    @shwetap8428 12 днів тому

    Thankyou ❤

  • @muleyamusole9565
    @muleyamusole9565 Місяць тому

    Thank you for this. I need to learn to prioritize myself ❤challenge accepted.

  • @mariamdawson2239
    @mariamdawson2239 2 місяці тому

    Thank you feminine universe you’re indeed a gooddess ❤❤❤❤

  • @forgorsabina2517
    @forgorsabina2517 2 місяці тому

    I really love your videos ❤

  • @fredrickjenkins-lw6ns
    @fredrickjenkins-lw6ns 2 місяці тому +1

    Good for My baby girl!

  • @zoheret15
    @zoheret15 2 місяці тому

    Challenge accepted! Self care is self love so let’s do this.

  • @petalsm9937
    @petalsm9937 2 місяці тому

    This was a beautiful message, thank you my beautiful sister ❤❤❤ I can’t wait to dance with you too 😁😁😁🎉🎉🎉

  • @caroldaugherty9474
    @caroldaugherty9474 2 місяці тому

    Challenge to my self. Thank you

  • @bethanyLogan123
    @bethanyLogan123 2 місяці тому

    Wonderful video and channel ❤

  • @lynnbrown2089
    @lynnbrown2089 2 місяці тому

    Loveeee your videos ❤

  • @gladys.glad.
    @gladys.glad. 2 місяці тому

    Challenge Accepted ! Thank you ❤😘

  • @djai2968
    @djai2968 2 місяці тому +1

    ✨Challenge Accepted ✨

  • @crysloves2eat_eat
    @crysloves2eat_eat 2 місяці тому

    Loved this! Challenge accepted😃💚

  • @essenceg11
    @essenceg11 2 місяці тому +1

    Challenge Accepted!!!

  • @nomvelonomfanelohlophe683
    @nomvelonomfanelohlophe683 2 місяці тому

    Inspiration Accepted

  • @alannabennett8238
    @alannabennett8238 2 місяці тому +1

    Challenge Accepted!

  • @margaretgrant3511
    @margaretgrant3511 Місяць тому

    Challenge Accepted! 🦋

  • @HimeofKawaiiKingdom
    @HimeofKawaiiKingdom 2 місяці тому

    Amen, Challenge accepted ❤🙏

  • @Stdntcnselpodcast
    @Stdntcnselpodcast 2 місяці тому

    Just in time cause I’m literally at this point in my life 🎉❤

  • @prettypractical3372
    @prettypractical3372 2 місяці тому

    Challenge accepted. Tired of chasing butterflies. I’ll create my own garden now.

  • @PieWar1
    @PieWar1 2 місяці тому +2

    Challenge Accepted ❤

  • @mwelurosemary980
    @mwelurosemary980 2 місяці тому +2

    Feminine universe ❤❤❤❤

  • @ShebaTheMelaninatedQueen2663
    @ShebaTheMelaninatedQueen2663 2 місяці тому

    Yes

  • @juju21_7
    @juju21_7 2 місяці тому

    Challenge accepted….thank you

  • @nattyrocberry
    @nattyrocberry 2 місяці тому +1

    Challenge accepted ❤

  • @takaraburke6546
    @takaraburke6546 2 місяці тому +1

    Challenge accepted

  • @lesegochai2112
    @lesegochai2112 2 місяці тому +1

    Challenge accepted 🤩🤩🤩

  • @carinenkombot8517
    @carinenkombot8517 2 місяці тому

    CHALLENGE ACCEPTED ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @Katrica670
    @Katrica670 2 місяці тому

    Challenge acceoted!

  • @MariaPerez-zr8ue
    @MariaPerez-zr8ue 2 місяці тому

    Challenge Accepted 🙏💫

  • @lyrikingdom_
    @lyrikingdom_ 2 місяці тому +1

    Challenge Accepeted❤🎉

  • @dawnhyman5585
    @dawnhyman5585 2 місяці тому

    Challenge Accepted 🖤

  • @tj_sangs
    @tj_sangs 2 місяці тому +2

    Challenge accepted!

  • @ForGodalways77
    @ForGodalways77 2 місяці тому

    Challenge Accepted 🤝