I'm sorry but whenever I hear a man moving into a woman's home that is under her name solely, it never ends well for the man, whenever she is pissed off, she can now use the home as leverage against the man. Please men either get a home together or at least tell her to put your name on the house too immediately once it gets serious and committed.
This is basic common sense adult life principles, and the fact that black men don't get this is embarrassing. Why would any man entertain moving in with a women to a property which is not jointly owned, or where he's not also on the tenancy agreement. Black men behave like children.
To be honest most of it, he pretty much brought on it himself, she played him like a puppet master and he was happy to dance along to the show. He had too many warning signs and was let off, but he kept ignoring it and digging holes for himself. If someone is taking you to court for assault (which is a criminal record that can affect you getting job), at any one point she and her family could have dropped the charge but she/they didn't. That's already a sign that she wanted to get the result that she has now. How can you go back and be sneaking around sleeping with someone who has previously filed an assault charge on you, on top of that in a house where you have restraining order from going to? Why can't she come to where you are staying?. Didn't anybody around you friends/family not give you a hard talk to tell you to wake up and smell the roses. You asked her not many times not to bring violence to you, so it wasn't the first time she had done that?..
I'm a great believer that in this life, what goes around, comes back around. Karma doesn't sleep, trust me. Obviously what you hear or see on the podcast is a synopsis of the situation, and not the whole story. I take the criticism on the chin, as I'm big enough to be held responsible and take responsibility for my actions. Yes, I got burnt and learnt the hard way, bit as I said on the podcast, the final judge, juror and arbiter of this Whole process, shall be my son himself. I can say, I tried !!!! And also, the story is not yet finalised.
@@teflonbond5374 It may come across harsh, but if anyone I know personally tells me this, I would have said the same thing, we all don't know the ins and out to be honest and I am not try to judge you. The positive thing is that, the story is not over so keep your head king, but please also stop pouring gasoline on a flame which you admirably admit that SOME are self inflicted. Hold your head up and I hope in near future you and your son are reunited again. We are humans after all, applaud your bravery for coming on the podcast.
Blackthought, thank you for your comments and input. Sometimes we have to be able to understand that when we are in the bubble it's very difficult to see the clear picture until we step out of the bubble. Emotion in these kind of situations is sometimes the predominant input or urge that we act upon, and it has taken me time, trauma and disappointment to learn to stop and inhale and think before acting. So again thank you for your comments, I'm now at a stage were I no longer put myself in a position of danger or harm, no more petrol on the fire !! The saying, 'He who laughs last, shall laugh the longest' shall be the motto of this tale. One Love👊🏾
I’ll give it to him he’s an entertaining guest and great story teller The part where he went back to her yard while having an restraining order to lotion her up made me laugh 😂😂😂 But behind all the laughs and charisma his story is very sad and I feel for his son because it must be difficult hearing 1 thing from your mum, dad, grandmother etc
It’s a shame many men are in awful relationships as they have no other accommodation, time to fix up Men , this living in a woman’s house and not even having savings in case it goes wrong is an awful predicament to be in , unfortunately her Mum and stepdad saw you as nothing but a ponce , who has nothing to offer . To then go back and sleep with a person who has mistreated you is a reflection of the lack of respect you have for yourself , there is an old West Indian saying if you can’t hear you must feel . 🙏🏽
I think it’s so sad that so many of these stories are where the guys are having children with white women who for various reasons are not allowing the children to see their fathers or the black side of their family. In order for these children to feel good about themselves and foster a good black identity it is important that they are able to spend time with both sides of their family. This is something that the father’s need to seriously consider before entering into these relationships.
There’s something missing in this story, to receive supervised contact there must be serious risk of harm towards a child or parent. Also can never trust a man who doesn’t take off sunglasses in doors 👀
You obviously didn't hear or listen to the podcast intently enough. The reasons for the safeguarding issues where explained. Whether or not you trust a man who wears sunglasses indoors is your opinion and thankfully not a universal thing😅😂
Don’t you think if there was a risk he wouldn’t have a good relationship with his existing kids and their mother? He stated that they are millionaires. Never underestimate the power of money and white peoples ability to play the victim in situations where the law can come into place. There’s countless stories of white women claiming black men have done this and that and it’s all turned out to be lies.
So after much speculation in my mind the race of the mother was white. Since the gentleman (who I believe) did not want to give his real reasons why girlfriends mum did not like him, one could assume it may have to do with race or class. The mum could have been concerned he was just there for the financial benefits which is fair. I also think we cannot discount race being an issue. His reasons for the girlfriends mum not liking him was vague but definitely an important part of the story. Also, my question is did the gentleman ever discuss with his baby mums mother's poor attitude towards him and what her problem was?
I was thinking the same thing. Let’s be honest if your paying your daughters rent and she moves in her boyfriend why would you still pay especially if you don’t like him. Unless I missed it knowing his BMs age could have provided some clarity.
Some of the stories on here…. Seems like all these men are innocent when that is not true. Two things can be true at once… the mother of your child could be a problem and and can you my guy..
He used the time spent with his son as pinnacle of all reasoning for this poor behaviour. Both mum and dad have really messed their child around and battling each other for what seems a very toxic relationship. This man has really not accepted what he has done wrong. Like why would this woman who had a child with you who had means to do it alternatively has gone through a long ass journey to do all of this and his not guilty of abuse or DV.
It takes Two to dance the Tango !! As for my 'poor behaviour' of which I have not accepted 🤔 please do enlighten me. As to the question that you pose, that's a question for my Ex to answer, not myself. It's very easy to pass judgement whilst sitting on one's sofa and working off the narrative that Men are to blame. Selfish, controlling and unbalanced Mothers really is a thing, hence this Podcast exists and within the corridors of any Family Court in the UK evidence can be found that would substantiate this claim. Yes, I did wrong and I've acknowledged my role within the relationship. The position of power, in relation to parenting is unfortunately predominantly given to the mother in this country, which is where the problems start !!!
This situation is overly messy. Can’t continue giving out servicing when allegations are being made and you have no access to the single most important thing in your life. (Your kids).. nah.. man is asking to get himself burnt.. I’m watching this laughing too coz he tried to justify it to the host.
Just to clarify. At the point that I was giving out servicing, as you put it, I was getting access to my child. And more than was stated within the court order.
I mean no disrespect. I know it may not seemed like it at the time, but from what I’ve seen in this video you chose the easy route. You lead with your emotions and didn’t think before making that decision to continue intimately with your BM. You were in your strongest position legally at that point and you had access to your child. You didn’t have to get involved like that at that point. Once that decision was made you opened yourself up to all the shit that happened after, that’s at least one, if not the main reason why the whole situation got worse than it already was.
Life is a process, as we all know. There was nothing he did wrong because at the end of the day alot of mind games were getting played on him by the others involved. It's a sad situation to say the least. Let's not forget he is a father already and knows how to co-parent !!!
Maybe, just maybe the way that you see things in your head is not the way other people see or read a situation. Of course we are all entitled to our own opinion, but I'm curious as to how you have gone for the negative options 🤔
Hmm I agree who runs away to elope in the middle of night….like Judge Judy says when the story doesn’t make sense it’s usually coz there’s a lie in it somewhere. Truth needs no further explanation
Dose anyone no where I can access housing I'm working but homeless, top it all off haven't seen my son's 7 years.. please if anyone can suggest an agency for housing Thank you🙏🏾
I'm sorry but whenever I hear a man moving into a woman's home that is under her name solely, it never ends well for the man, whenever she is pissed off, she can now use the home as leverage against the man. Please men either get a home together or at least tell her to put your name on the house too immediately once it gets serious and committed.
NEVER
Great comment... been in that situation. Never again. You absolutely NEVER move in with the modern woman
This is basic common sense adult life principles, and the fact that black men don't get this is embarrassing. Why would any man entertain moving in with a women to a property which is not jointly owned, or where he's not also on the tenancy agreement. Black men behave like children.
When your married yes
MEN‼️ Please understand when a woman is prepared to call the police on you. Especially as a Black man.... The love is 💀 and gone.
Just some recognition for the host, DJ Ridler, for always asking important questions and remaining unbiased. You're doing great with this. Thank you!
This guy is full of it!!! The more I listen the more i believe he beat her 😂 that’s why he is wearing shades coming to tell bare lies
Key word in this whole thing is “CONTROL”
He should of invested in a better legal team. Plus the time he saw her he should of kept it moving. Sleeping with her etc was a bad move
One thing men will do is sleep with their enemy. Their loyal to their boners.
Fascinating interview….thanks for sharing your story.
Thank you for your comments👍🏾
The way this man was treated is disgusting...
Nah, I can’t lie, this was soo funny to watch, every time he said “I let my guard down” it made my eyes roll!
I know 😂
To be honest most of it, he pretty much brought on it himself, she played him like a puppet master and he was happy to dance along to the show. He had too many warning signs and was let off, but he kept ignoring it and digging holes for himself.
If someone is taking you to court for assault (which is a criminal record that can affect you getting job), at any one point she and her family could have dropped the charge but she/they didn't. That's already a sign that she wanted to get the result that she has now.
How can you go back and be sneaking around sleeping with someone who has previously filed an assault charge on you, on top of that in a house where you have restraining order from going to? Why can't she come to where you are staying?.
Didn't anybody around you friends/family not give you a hard talk to tell you to wake up and smell the roses.
You asked her not many times not to bring violence to you, so it wasn't the first time she had done that?..
I'm a great believer that in this life, what goes around, comes back around. Karma doesn't sleep, trust me. Obviously what you hear or see on the podcast is a synopsis of the situation, and not the whole story. I take the criticism on the chin, as I'm big enough to be held responsible and take responsibility for my actions. Yes, I got burnt and learnt the hard way, bit as I said on the podcast, the final judge, juror and arbiter of this Whole process, shall be my son himself. I can say, I tried !!!! And also, the story is not yet finalised.
@@teflonbond5374 It may come across harsh, but if anyone I know personally tells me this, I would have said the same thing, we all don't know the ins and out to be honest and I am not try to judge you. The positive thing is that, the story is not over so keep your head king, but please also stop pouring gasoline on a flame which you admirably admit that SOME are self inflicted. Hold your head up and I hope in near future you and your son are reunited again. We are humans after all, applaud your bravery for coming on the podcast.
Blackthought, thank you for your comments and input. Sometimes we have to be able to understand that when we are in the bubble it's very difficult to see the clear picture until we step out of the bubble. Emotion in these kind of situations is sometimes the predominant input or urge that we act upon, and it has taken me time, trauma and disappointment to learn to stop and inhale and think before acting. So again thank you for your comments, I'm now at a stage were I no longer put myself in a position of danger or harm, no more petrol on the fire !!
The saying, 'He who laughs last, shall laugh the longest' shall be the motto of this tale.
One Love👊🏾
@@teflonbond5374 you are welcome sir, stay strong
I’ll give it to him he’s an entertaining guest and great story teller
The part where he went back to her yard while having an restraining order to lotion her up made me laugh 😂😂😂
But behind all the laughs and charisma his story is very sad and I feel for his son because it must be difficult hearing 1 thing from your mum, dad, grandmother etc
It’s a shame many men are in awful relationships as they have no other accommodation, time to fix up Men , this living in a woman’s house and not even having savings in case it goes wrong is an awful predicament to be in , unfortunately her Mum and stepdad saw you as nothing but a ponce , who has nothing to offer . To then go back and sleep with a person who has mistreated you is a reflection of the lack of respect you have for yourself , there is an old West Indian saying if you can’t hear you must feel . 🙏🏽
This comment , bang on the money 💰
Facts. So many weak beta useless men in the UK. I hope men learn
I think it’s so sad that so many of these stories are where the guys are having children with white women who for various reasons are not allowing the children to see their fathers or the black side of their family. In order for these children to feel good about themselves and foster a good black identity it is important that they are able to spend time with both sides of their family. This is something that the father’s need to seriously consider before entering into these relationships.
There’s something missing in this story, to receive supervised contact there must be serious risk of harm towards a child or parent.
Also can never trust a man who doesn’t take off sunglasses in doors 👀
You obviously didn't hear or listen to the podcast intently enough. The reasons for the safeguarding issues where explained. Whether or not you trust a man who wears sunglasses indoors is your opinion and thankfully not a universal thing😅😂
Yeah I sense a fair bit of waffle
Don’t you think if there was a risk he wouldn’t have a good relationship with his existing kids and their mother? He stated that they are millionaires. Never underestimate the power of money and white peoples ability to play the victim in situations where the law can come into place. There’s countless stories of white women claiming black men have done this and that and it’s all turned out to be lies.
So after much speculation in my mind the race of the mother was white. Since the gentleman (who I believe) did not want to give his real reasons why girlfriends mum did not like him, one could assume it may have to do with race or class. The mum could have been concerned he was just there for the financial benefits which is fair. I also think we cannot discount race being an issue. His reasons for the girlfriends mum not liking him was vague but definitely an important part of the story. Also, my question is did the gentleman ever discuss with his baby mums mother's poor attitude towards him and what her problem was?
I was thinking the same thing. Let’s be honest if your paying your daughters rent and she moves in her boyfriend why would you still pay especially if you don’t like him. Unless I missed it knowing his BMs age could have provided some clarity.
@@nathannahtan4663mum stopped paying it
Yh uno whites are plenty in barbados and its non blacks that are owning up shit in the carribean
Another good episode.
Parental alienation is real ! Sadly serious damage is done and can’t be healed ! Mothers with boys play really dangerous game
Banks Is A Funny Guy 😂😂😂
Woooooow 😲 that was ALOT
This man doesn’t learn 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Took 30 mins to comfirm the mum was just plain racist. Dude was scared to state the obvious.
Dunno why he stayed
@sabrinasmith1182 He couldn't resist that grey-nyash.
🤦🏾♂️ Bluefoot ting calling police on you trying to run off with your yute and you still messing with her joke man
@35.21 I was like noooooooo, but I get it happens.
Some of the stories on here…. Seems like all these men are innocent when that is not true. Two things can be true at once… the mother of your child could be a problem and and can you my guy..
they were probably both as one another
He used the time spent with his son as pinnacle of all reasoning for this poor behaviour. Both mum and dad have really messed their child around and battling each other for what seems a very toxic relationship. This man has really not accepted what he has done wrong. Like why would this woman who had a child with you who had means to do it alternatively has gone through a long ass journey to do all of this and his not guilty of abuse or DV.
It takes Two to dance the Tango !! As for my 'poor behaviour' of which I have not accepted 🤔 please do enlighten me. As to the question that you pose, that's a question for my Ex to answer, not myself. It's very easy to pass judgement whilst sitting on one's sofa and working off the narrative that Men are to blame. Selfish, controlling and unbalanced Mothers really is a thing, hence this Podcast exists and within the corridors of any Family Court in the UK evidence can be found that would substantiate this claim.
Yes, I did wrong and I've acknowledged my role within the relationship. The position of power, in relation to parenting is unfortunately predominantly given to the mother in this country, which is where the problems start !!!
This is crazy 😮
Is there someone I can talk to . I been in this situation for to long and Its getting to much
This situation is overly messy. Can’t continue giving out servicing when allegations are being made and you have no access to the single most important thing in your life. (Your kids).. nah.. man is asking to get himself burnt.. I’m watching this laughing too coz he tried to justify it to the host.
Just to clarify. At the point that I was giving out servicing, as you put it, I was getting access to my child. And more than was stated within the court order.
I mean no disrespect. I know it may not seemed like it at the time, but from what I’ve seen in this video you chose the easy route. You lead with your emotions and didn’t think before making that decision to continue intimately with your BM. You were in your strongest position legally at that point and you had access to your child. You didn’t have to get involved like that at that point. Once that decision was made you opened yourself up to all the shit that happened after, that’s at least one, if not the main reason why the whole situation got worse than it already was.
Life is a process, as we all know. There was nothing he did wrong because at the end of the day alot of mind games were getting played on him by the others involved. It's a sad situation to say the least. Let's not forget he is a father already and knows how to co-parent !!!
Hmm eloping in the middle of the night from her own property, sounds like she was running/being rescued from a dangerous situation.
Maybe, just maybe the way that you see things in your head is not the way other people see or read a situation. Of course we are all entitled to our own opinion, but I'm curious as to how you have gone for the negative options 🤔
Hmm I agree who runs away to elope in the middle of night….like Judge Judy says when the story doesn’t make sense it’s usually coz there’s a lie in it somewhere. Truth needs no further explanation
Same ole story of white woman tekking uno fi ediaaat. Also many gaps in the story, he's clearly no angel. Bmt
For real, I didn’t buy what he’s selling
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I’m not buying it all, why claim guilty if your innocent?
Why did they decided to take the child in the first place? He never went into that which I find fishy
Bombastic side eye to this guy. Author of a lot of his own misfortune in this story.
So much red flags in this and I’m only 15:11 !
Dose anyone no where I can access housing I'm working but homeless, top it all off haven't seen my son's 7 years.. please if anyone can suggest an agency for housing Thank you🙏🏾
What area do you live in ??
I mean, why are you wearing sunglasses indoors?
Perhaps his concealing his identity or he feels comfortable to wear glasses while he shares part of his life to strangers.
Why not?? As the comment states, its not easy laying yourself bare and open to criticism. Felt more comfortable with my shades on. Simple.