I've been a black male social worker for over 10yrs qualified. 20yrs total working within London children and family services. I can absolutely say, although you may be worried about the input of children's service, you absolutely NEED to know the Law. There are a few things I would have advised Sa Ra to do differently, but ultimately he played the game 99.9% Do not get triggered and engage with a woman like this and get your freedom and or child taken from you. There are many women out there TODAY that will still use this strategy and your child as a pawn for their gain, and this is sometimes why our black children out in the community are in the state they're in. I would happily provide free advice to anyone going through this, as I've worked extensively with children on the other side of this trauma, and as Sa Ra described with his own childhood, it could've quite easily gone the other way. Respect brother, please keep safe! One!
The law is farce & so is social services. Social services contribute to children truma in the name of 'safeguarding' that is irony. The mother told social services I wasn't a risk to children. But because she made false allegations I was prevented seeing children for year. Cafcass based on one phone can contribute to you not seeing your children for 4 or 5 months. In that time my daughter lashed out in school. Then 8 months later cafcass tell us what I already knew she was upset at not seeing her father. Good work social services. I don't care how long you worked with them . Cafcass can't even apply common sense, mother said children were safe with me, daughter was asking to see me, I looked after children on weekends 6 months after she made original allegations before she cut contact. Yet cafcass meant I hardly saw my children for 8 months. Once I had my section 7 interview contact was okay. You say it is the courts but 95% of the time courts take the advice of cafcass on contact.
I am pretty confident your advice would the same as every social worker get legal advice. In other words follow court route apply for c100. Social services are still a problem if want to say well that cafcass not much difference. When mother first left she wanted me to have contact with children it was children social services who prevented. Even when daughter was asking to see me. Social services recommended no contact. I had to chase them to get resolved. I offered every option for me see children. Then social workers get angry when you say to them was that acting in child best interest to deny contact when child asking for it. No common sense social services one extreme to another
This platform is so real being a father of 4 myself and Iv spent 14 years in these situations! Hat off to the platform and to the men that tell there story 🙏
It sounds like Sara got a lucky escape. So Sorry he had to go through this... I’m blindsided by this story. I hope he’s able to heal and meet someone who truly deserves him x
If you understand life, then you would know that experiences and memory doesn't heal It's the skill of not dwelling and moving on with life is the key, and most important nothing which is unjust will escape the record, which each and everyone will have to answer for on that day
@@thebeesnuts777 Agree to an extent, most memories fade, lots of things can be adjusted with attitude, but trauma is unique because it’s visually imprinted in the memory. Which is why people stay stuck. They have flash backs etc because it’s visually embedded in the psyche it takes a specialist psychotherapist to process trauma.
Wow, this is deep.. wishing you all the best with the current court proceedings Sa Ra and that you and your boy get to have un-disrupted contact going forward ASAP 💖
When I split with my wife I took my son - because of the neighbourhood I lived in, and what was happening on the streets, there was no way anyone else was raising my son. It was my responsibility to be there during his transition from boy to man….and there was no way I was going to let the streets take him.
Amazing interview 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 but I keep hearing each episode about men and there boys/ sons!!! What about daughters needing their dads?? Would love some conversation on that. 💫
It makes me angry when parents have to end up at court to see their child. I feel for this man and his babymom shouldnt be stopping him from seeing his son. If his willing to be there for his son and hold his responsibility then whats the problem. Clearly she has alot of issues and its the child who suffers in the end. I hope he gets the healing he needs and access to see his son. This needs to stop and we need to be supporting one another, Co parent better instead of tearing each other down.
I'm in shock that it took 6 years for this woman's madness to manifest.. no wonder its hard to leave..at that point, your fully invested..absolute madness 😪😪😪
I'm a single mum and watch this to understand a different perspective as I believe in not making assumptions and to learn. This is absolutely traumatsing and really sad. A child deserves a healthy relationship with both parents and neither mother or father should be subjected to abuse. A decent single mother isn't a red flag such like a decent single father. I'm sorry for your experiences.
Know exactly how this guy feels... When woman know how much the father loves there kids know exactly how to hurt you...so I can understand when men just give up....hope it all work out for this guy...real black man ☻
This is the second episode I’ve watched and I legit can’t get my head around the madness, the tittle is facts 👀🤦♀️ build a case and don’t let people draw you out your position 👏👏👏
This was actually hard to listen to.I understood where Sa Ra was coming from when he spoke on 'not being messy' & him moving a certain way whilst he was still under the same roof although they were no longer together.Everyone does not think like this.Smh It's actually a mind-fuq when the person who has done the wrong is the one pushing out all the anger & resentment - playing the victim. I hope things get better for him in regards to access to his child,our children *need* their fathers now more than ever! *side note* I chuckled at the story regarding the bike😄 Who's raising these new-age men that have no shame?! How u gonna be riding around on another man's bike......& not feel no way🤦🏽♀️ Make it make sense please.
I know Sa Ra and believe me when I say that he is ultra decent as a man and as a father. He also had the ability for this to go in a totally different way if he wanted to. All I can say is that I would not have tolerated what this man went through. It would have been peak for quite a few people. Sa Ra is a better man than me.
@@mombasablue2584 Thank you MombasaBlue. I am working really hard running my company but I will be scheduling some time within the next month. Keep well.
Did all this start around the time he started insulting the Prophet Muhammad pbuh... or was all this happening at the same time that he was insulting the prophet of islam? just something he should think about as food for thought!
This is awful. What is wrong with some women! My kids dad is the father to my two kids and as much as he gets on my nerves and visa versa, i have never NEVER stopped him from seeing them. I would never!!! That story broke my heart man. Truly sorry this happened to him. Please know that not all women are like that and take time out for yourself and heal.
I been there and went through similar... difference is I caught charges and went a wall.....but I got my son's through the court..... blessings to the most high I know your struggle bro
Wow! As women, we need to check ourselves and our friends if they carry on with nonsense. Also, as it was said at the beginning, this is HIS situation and HIS story to tell. People need to stop bringing other people’s baggage and using it as an excuse not to be in a relationship or to commit.
I think if im really honest... though not all situations are like the guy above.... women in the west are a step down society has destroyed their mindset
Women with children are a RED FLAG. I rate SaRa but that was a monumental mistake. Among the broad range of mental fuccrie in that dynamic, people's kids will always resent you playing their father.
Good man and woman go thru alot. And their kids too! Sometimes it come in like being good at heart makes the other partner resentful and envious instead of join in on the good vibes. KMT
I advise men to just go through the child support system too so that: 1. She cannot use the CSA system to emotionally threaten you. 2. She cannot request any further penny from you other than the government mandated figure.
Ratings bro fus we know each other Dj rid from back in the day at d9 club in Leicester . So yea man bless for this channel bro we all do and go through stuff . Men always get labeled the bad guy sara is a big man for him to remain calm an not done people I rate him bro . How u gonna be on road with next mans bike . Bm’s can be toxic and evil . All the best my guys hope you get to see your son more. See am a different breed of Nigga my bm’s know my past and it’s not happy. Am still that guy so I would be cool til I blow up like that volcano in Vincy. Keep it goin bro I can’t say how much your channel gives me power .
Wow!! Having watched Sa Ra's podcasts for years, I was totally taken a back. Having experienced the same fate as a child and a father, I know his pain. Don't think I could have held it down with another man riding my bike though. 😂😂
Can someone please try and get to the other side of this story. I'm dying to hear it. This has raised more questions than answers...what woman in their right mind would leave the comfort of this relationship? Two sides to every story despite my respect, loyalty and love for Sa Ra
I highly doubt she’d appear on a public platform and openly admit to cheating and playing multiple men and using her kids as financial gain. This is just me assuming but if the women is the way she is presented in this video I just don’t think that’s happening anytime soon.
So sorry for you and the children. Yes play by the rules.. Document everything. Never give.. Hopefully the other father could get his daughter. Maintain your Intelligence. Keep the law on your side. Your son is Blessed to have you for a Father. Not every woman is a Woman. You are a Great man.. Don't change, you just have not met the right woman. You are a Smart man. You remind me of my Father.. He never argued, he would leave.. Then they would talk later.. All the Best Brother.. I love your Spirit.. Stay Bless.. 💫
His ex didn't like him at all. She sounds crazy. But it's ironic that he starts the convo with saying how he's strategic & knew her for 10 years B4 they had a baby
I’m surprised he hasn’t even shed a tear on this podcast because that is what we call mental trauma , she is trying to destroy him mentally physically and emotionally and she doesn’t care at all
@@goliathmker3335 I’m sorry to that mate. Hopefully the future will be brighter . I’m not punjabi though, only the name. I guess there is good and and bad in any scope of earth.🙏🙏
Many women do it man, bitterness and wanting to lash out and hurt the dad is the most common reason; this happened to me as well. The family courts actively aid and assist the women doing this evil shit too.
You dodged a bullet sir! Even the dynamic of how she had you as a financial stepdad but unable to do anything discipline wise says a lot. The same way some men hate women and objectify them, some women hate men and do the same
Very hard to listen to this!! I'm not going to lie, i shed a tear.....I hope you find some peace within your self. You can see you have beautiful energy flowing through you, continue to shine. All the best for the future
I’ve been looking for this vid .. cheers Adz 👊🏽 Sa - I recall leaving a comment last year … cursing the Family Court system … I hope you got a good result with your son and hope your step daughter acknowledges that you 🫵🏽 were or hopefully still are one of the most influential positive male role models in her life 👊🏽
You done well bruv . Been through the same crap . No matter what she's done or what paperwork you have from court the police get called and us good dad's get fucked over by 'officer discretion ' . Your playing the most important game of your sons life and your attitude is perfect. Stay strong . Be more than reasonable everyone she causes you drama and eventually you'll get a proper court order that provides for you and your sons needs . You lose it once bruv and your fucked so hold it together untill ya win . Then deal with the PTSD once your settled . Been there mate so well done . being a real man ain't easy
Brother be warned!! Don't plant your seed in these types we have be careful a beta male or Nice guy type doesn't work unfortunately u have to be ruthless in a methodical way protect yourself and put yourself first! Gone are days of putting women before you and your well being.
I think when the man introduces himself and his story, and he talks about how he took on the bbms other kid(s) I think its vital to pause straight away an the host to quickly ask "when you took on her other kid(s) did you ask or know why 'thier' dads are not around IF THAT!!! Be the case Towards response before they continue to evaluate It will count towards suggestions and clarity In my case, and most man I've seen on here they have to explain about the bbms partner not being in thier on own lane It's a good and fair questioning for clarity and glass houses 👊🏿✊🏿
It’s a common thing black mothers do to the the fathers who WANT to be in their lives. They psychology are messed up. From not letting the father see the kids to money issues to calling the police. It’s a trait of the black woman who have fathers who do their part. Nothing new
This is so sad.. my mom was that mother so I was adamant that I wouldn’t do the same with my child. Using the child as a weapon is not it! My love for my child outweighs the dislike I have for her dad
That's a selfish act from the woman to use the child as a weapon of object against the father, this act of wickedness and selfishness will only cause the children to turn on the mother when they find out the truth later on and God help her if she was to ever get sick later on in her older years on whether her children will be there for her due to her own wickedness.
If this is true and it sounds like it is because I know women that are actually like this. I hope that child grows up and sees his mother for what she is. Been watching Sa Ra from his speaker corners day and it’s crazy to hear this is what he has going on in his personal life. Great podcast/platform for men.
It's crazy the way people will form such strong opinions about someone without hearing their side of the story. Sometimes it's good to reserve judgment.
@@watermarginramsgate180 and a lot of men lie too. Doesn't make sense to just believe something without hearing the other side of the story. Both men and women can do wrong/ lie.
@@watermarginramsgate180 no deflection. I just think it's funny how people just believe people without hearing the other person's side. Plus I have been able to observe these two individuals involved and I don't believe this story, sorry.
I got to the part where Sa Ra said where black women call the police on black men knowing how the history between the two are worldwide, is done in his eyes.. Bruh be more specific cah we done know some women are just vindictive such as the one you spoke about on this platform. But what about the black women who are suffering from abuse from black men especially physical, who are they supposed to call?
If a black woman is physically being abused and she calls the police on him then she is well within her rights. No man should be physically beating his partner and I am sure Sa Ra would be in full support of that. However we know that the first thing a woman will do when she doesn’t get her way is to call the police on her man. When there is no physical violence. He lived with her for 10 years and after 10 years she wants to call the police on him. Well done for having the courage and wisdom to walk way.
@@ThePeacemaker8 I agree with what you said only one thing I would correct in what you said is some women cos not all will call the police when they can't get their own way... Dem particular gyal deh just bc wicked, str8.
@@CapreDiem42 Why do women ALWAYS come with the "not all" point. We KNOW it isn't all women but there are a few too many evil ones so we need to warn our young brothers
I've been a black male social worker for over 10yrs qualified. 20yrs total working within London children and family services. I can absolutely say, although you may be worried about the input of children's service, you absolutely NEED to know the Law. There are a few things I would have advised Sa Ra to do differently, but ultimately he played the game 99.9% Do not get triggered and engage with a woman like this and get your freedom and or child taken from you. There are many women out there TODAY that will still use this strategy and your child as a pawn for their gain, and this is sometimes why our black children out in the community are in the state they're in. I would happily provide free advice to anyone going through this, as I've worked extensively with children on the other side of this trauma, and as Sa Ra described with his own childhood, it could've quite easily gone the other way. Respect brother, please keep safe! One!
The law is farce & so is social services. Social services contribute to children truma in the name of 'safeguarding' that is irony.
The mother told social services I wasn't a risk to children. But because she made false allegations I was prevented seeing children for year. Cafcass based on one phone can contribute to you not seeing your children for 4 or 5 months. In that time my daughter lashed out in school. Then 8 months later cafcass tell us what I already knew she was upset at not seeing her father.
Good work social services. I don't care how long you worked with them .
Cafcass can't even apply common sense, mother said children were safe with me, daughter was asking to see me, I looked after children on weekends 6 months after she made original allegations before she cut contact.
Yet cafcass meant I hardly saw my children for 8 months.
Once I had my section 7 interview contact was okay.
You say it is the courts but 95% of the time courts take the advice of cafcass on contact.
I am pretty confident your advice would the same as every social worker get legal advice. In other words follow court route apply for c100. Social services are still a problem if want to say well that cafcass not much difference.
When mother first left she wanted me to have contact with children it was children social services who prevented. Even when daughter was asking to see me. Social services recommended no contact. I had to chase them to get resolved. I offered every option for me see children.
Then social workers get angry when you say to them was that acting in child best interest to deny contact when child asking for it.
No common sense social services one extreme to another
This platform is so real being a father of 4 myself and Iv spent 14 years in these situations! Hat off to the platform and to the men that tell there story 🙏
What a great man, it takes real strength to keep your calm through everything he’s had to endure. Hats off to the brother!
This episode from start to finish action pack. Hope this father gets to see his child again. Big up riddler on this one!
It sounds like Sara got a lucky escape. So Sorry he had to go through this... I’m blindsided by this story. I hope he’s able to heal and meet someone who truly deserves him x
If you understand life, then you would know that experiences and memory doesn't heal
It's the skill of not dwelling and moving on with life is the key, and most important nothing which is unjust will escape the record, which each and everyone will have to answer for on that day
@@thebeesnuts777 Agree to an extent, most memories fade, lots of things can be adjusted with attitude, but trauma is unique because it’s visually imprinted in the memory. Which is why people stay stuck. They have flash backs etc because it’s visually embedded in the psyche it takes a specialist psychotherapist to process trauma.
Instablaster...
NEVER EVER EVER EVER DATE A SINGLE MOTHER!!
@@FA9082 no never date a crazy person 😂
Wow, this is deep.. wishing you all the best with the current court proceedings Sa Ra and that you and your boy get to have un-disrupted contact going forward ASAP 💖
Thank you for coming on our platform to share your story✊🏾
I can't believe the similarities to my own situation in this story. Talk up the tings 🤴🏿
The first red flag was getting into a relationship with a single mother.
Exactly!
Exactly. Because you gotta know why that man wasn’t in a relationship/ marriage with her.
When I split with my wife I took my son - because of the neighbourhood I lived in, and what was happening on the streets, there was no way anyone else was raising my son. It was my responsibility to be there during his transition from boy to man….and there was no way I was going to let the streets take him.
Different level of madness😩
This is a good man🙏🏾🙏🏾👍🏾👍🏾👊🏾👊🏾
Thank you for sharing your story Brother.
This is so emotional.Respect too this man.Dont give up! Your Amazing.We need more men like this. 😍
Amazing interview 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 but I keep hearing each episode about men and there boys/ sons!!! What about daughters needing their dads?? Would love some conversation on that. 💫
It makes me angry when parents have to end up at court to see their child. I feel for this man and his babymom shouldnt be stopping him from seeing his son. If his willing to be there for his son and hold his responsibility then whats the problem. Clearly she has alot of issues and its the child who suffers in the end. I hope he gets the healing he needs and access to see his son. This needs to stop and we need to be supporting one another, Co parent better instead of tearing each other down.
Sick episode, big up the guy, a class act for real
It's impossible (for Me for sure) to have this much patience. This Brotha went through something that certainly would've landed Me in prison.
Because you’re emotional like women. Get out of your feminine energy.
Very good podcast 👏🏾 it’s interesting to hear things from the mans point of view. Really enjoyed this but so sorry for what he went through 💔
Very good episode 🙌🏽 Good discussion and good tips. Hoping it all works out for him and them both & ultimately for all the children involved
Perhaps you can try and get this woman on your podcast to explain herself because I would love to know why she would do this to anyone
@@mombasablue2584 it would definitely be interesting to hear perspective. There’s always 3 sides to a story
@@MamaDramaPod Please believe me when I say that Sa Ra could have said much worse. She is WORSE than stated.
@@bigbroheavyweight9726 😩 it’s all mad. But she will defo have an opinion too.
Ladies and gentlemen be very careful who you chose to sleep with and procreate with. There are some real devils 👿 👿👿 out there.
Women only*
Such a real statement!!!
💯
I'm in shock that it took 6 years for this woman's madness to manifest.. no wonder its hard to leave..at that point, your fully invested..absolute madness 😪😪😪
This is what shocked me too
This episode is mad!!! See how some women are wicked!! Nah mannnn
It’s so sad that good men always end up with foolish woman and good woman end up with foolish men.
The ol family friend eh😏
I'm a single mum and watch this to understand a different perspective as I believe in not making assumptions and to learn. This is absolutely traumatsing and really sad. A child deserves a healthy relationship with both parents and neither mother or father should be subjected to abuse. A decent single mother isn't a red flag such like a decent single father. I'm sorry for your experiences.
Thank you for talking your truth brother stay strong 💪🙏🏾❤
“Some women” love it 😊
Agree!
*most women. Usually the ones with their pictures all over social media seeking attention
Facts
So many parallels with my life, I have nothing but respect for this man - solidarity with you brother!
Know exactly how this guy feels...
When woman know how much the father loves there kids know exactly how to hurt you...so I can understand when men just give up....hope it all work out for this guy...real black man ☻
Loved this episode big up Sa Ra
Real talk, so many man needs to express more of their issues and the impact that affect men.
Thank you for this episode God bless you!
This is the second episode I’ve watched and I legit can’t get my head around the madness, the tittle is facts 👀🤦♀️ build a case and don’t let people draw you out your position 👏👏👏
This was actually hard to listen to.I understood where Sa Ra was coming from when he spoke on 'not being messy' & him moving a certain way whilst he was still under the same roof although they were no longer together.Everyone does not think like this.Smh
It's actually a mind-fuq when the person who has done the wrong is the one pushing out all the anger & resentment - playing the victim.
I hope things get better for him in regards to access to his child,our children *need* their fathers now more than ever!
*side note* I chuckled at the story regarding the bike😄
Who's raising these new-age men that have no shame?! How u gonna be riding around on another man's bike......& not feel no way🤦🏽♀️
Make it make sense please.
Like he paid for the fucking bike
I have a feeling she wanted more money herself and just user that as an excuse to try extort him that wicked witch 😂
@@LugarLatore I thought the same thing.
I hope he sends a copy of the video to the bike man
The control a woman can have over the situation when there is a kid involved. It's scary.
I know Sa Ra and believe me when I say that he is ultra decent as a man and as a father. He also had the ability for this to go in a totally different way if he wanted to. All I can say is that I would not have tolerated what this man went through. It would have been peak for quite a few people. Sa Ra is a better man than me.
Hi Big Bro it's lovely to hear from you. Hope you're keeping well and I can't wait for the Black Opinion to return
@@mombasablue2584 Thank you MombasaBlue. I am working really hard running my company but I will be scheduling some time within the next month. Keep well.
Did all this start around the time he started insulting the Prophet Muhammad pbuh... or was all this happening at the same time that he was insulting the prophet of islam? just something he should think about as food for thought!
Compelled to comment. Jahjah!
DEM GYAL YAH WICKED DEM WICKED DEM WICKED!!
This is awful. What is wrong with some women! My kids dad is the father to my two kids and as much as he gets on my nerves and visa versa, i have never NEVER stopped him from seeing them. I would never!!! That story broke my heart man. Truly sorry this happened to him. Please know that not all women are like that and take time out for yourself and heal.
Thank God I've seen a comment like this🙏🏼 we can't continue the generational downfalls we know destroys a normal society
Now....we over stand where sa ra's energy comes from.
I been there and went through similar... difference is I caught charges and went a wall.....but I got my son's through the court..... blessings to the most high I know your struggle bro
Wow! As women, we need to check ourselves and our friends if they carry on with nonsense.
Also, as it was said at the beginning, this is HIS situation and HIS story to tell. People need to stop bringing other people’s baggage and using it as an excuse not to be in a relationship or to commit.
Love your words of wisdom queen.❤
10000% sis
I think if im really honest... though not all situations are like the guy above.... women in the west are a step down society has destroyed their mindset
Women with children are a RED FLAG. I rate SaRa but that was a monumental mistake. Among the broad range of mental fuccrie in that dynamic, people's kids will always resent you playing their father.
100% facts
Good man and woman go thru alot. And their kids too! Sometimes it come in like being good at heart makes the other partner resentful and envious instead of join in on the good vibes. KMT
That part!!! cause this female person is legit deranged based on his side of the story.. makes no sense in her behaviour…
That gyal is wicked ur brave to eat from her after that fam ain’t I heard dexta daps poison song
As a woman respect for sharing your situation, some women / just extra and too disrespectful.
He should have got rid of her sooner. She lost respect because he was to accepting and reasonable when being abused.
I advise men to just go through the child support system too so that:
1. She cannot use the CSA system to emotionally threaten you.
2. She cannot request any further penny from you other than the government mandated figure.
Your baby mother sounds like a text book narcissist. Your son is in danger, he needs to live with you asap
WOW AND THESE WOMEN ALWAYS CRYING THERES NO GOOD MEN
AM STARTING TO THINK THEY WANT A MAN THEY CAN FOOL
Ratings bro fus we know each other Dj rid from back in the day at d9 club in Leicester . So yea man bless for this channel bro we all do and go through stuff . Men always get labeled the bad guy sara is a big man for him to remain calm an not done people I rate him bro . How u gonna be on road with next mans bike . Bm’s can be toxic and evil . All the best my guys hope you get to see your son more. See am a different breed of Nigga my bm’s know my past and it’s not happy. Am still that guy so I would be cool til I blow up like that volcano in Vincy. Keep it goin bro I can’t say how much your channel gives me power .
The woman that described is the personification of EVIL!!! Absolutely evil
Wow!! Having watched Sa Ra's podcasts for years, I was totally taken a back. Having experienced the same fate as a child and a father, I know his pain. Don't think I could have held it down with another man riding my bike though. 😂😂
That’s not the only thing he is riding lol
@@ghyslaindesintat496 which bike? 👩🏽🦱 or 🚲
👊🏿 you broke the rose tinted glasses there my G. Good job, well done. It will all work out in your favour 🙅🏾♂️👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿
Can someone please try and get to the other side of this story. I'm dying to hear it. This has raised more questions than answers...what woman in their right mind would leave the comfort of this relationship? Two sides to every story despite my respect, loyalty and love for Sa Ra
Maybe she could go on the sister podcast - the baby mothers podcast 🤔 💭
Same here
I highly doubt she’d appear on a public platform and openly admit to cheating and playing multiple men and using her kids as financial gain. This is just me assuming but if the women is the way she is presented in this video I just don’t think that’s happening anytime soon.
She had a second fiancé in St Lucia and was still cheating with another third man in the uk. What makes you think she’s not the problem ?
I would love to hear her side also I’m so baffled
Grown man talking about a bike 😅
Thats a piss take though😂 ppl get smoked for less
He seems like a good man who will be discouraged from here on out because of some demon woman. This was really hard on my ears..and heart
So sorry for you and the children. Yes play by the rules.. Document everything. Never give.. Hopefully the other father could get his daughter. Maintain your Intelligence. Keep the law on your side. Your son is Blessed to have you for a Father. Not every woman is a Woman. You are a Great man.. Don't change, you just have not met the right woman. You are a Smart man. You remind me of my Father.. He never argued, he would leave.. Then they would talk later.. All the Best Brother.. I love your Spirit.. Stay Bless.. 💫
Facts👍👍
Wow! Similar to my story.Wishing you all the best with it.
Thank Jah jah for this platform... I need to tell my story!
He sounds like a good man and he's fine as well
I’m a woman and he’s story has triggered me. I would never have thought that he would attract a woman like her. I hope he finds a loving decent woman.
Informative 👏🏽👏🏽 careful who you trust #TrustsNo1
His ex didn't like him at all. She sounds crazy. But it's ironic that he starts the convo with saying how he's strategic & knew her for 10 years B4 they had a baby
He was blinded by the p
Keep up the goos work to the interviewer u did a great job
I’m surprised he hasn’t even shed a tear on this podcast because that is what we call mental trauma , she is trying to destroy him mentally physically and emotionally and she doesn’t care at all
Sa Ra Garvey best turn this into a script, he worked as an actor in a soap series. So man knows the ropes.
brilliant idea
Great convo!
I dated a punjabi and she made my life hell and stops me from seeing my child
@@goliathmker3335 I’m sorry to that mate.
Hopefully the future will be brighter .
I’m not punjabi though, only the name.
I guess there is good and and bad in any scope of earth.🙏🙏
@@kaliansingh1230 where are you from. Are you indian
@@goliathmker3335 I’m from Mozambique.
My great grandfather was from India.
@@kaliansingh1230 So you African.
Man I feel for this man I truly feel his pain
I’m curious to know where this level of hatred from his baby mum comes from, this just sounds like pure evil to do this to a man.
Many women do it man, bitterness and wanting to lash out and hurt the dad is the most common reason; this happened to me as well. The family courts actively aid and assist the women doing this evil shit too.
Facts
Man this gives me goosebumps!! I went thru something similar smh
What happened
You dodged a bullet sir! Even the dynamic of how she had you as a financial stepdad but unable to do anything discipline wise says a lot. The same way some men hate women and objectify them, some women hate men and do the same
Very hard to listen to this!! I'm not going to lie, i shed a tear.....I hope you find some peace within your self. You can see you have beautiful energy flowing through you, continue to shine. All the best for the future
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I’ve been looking for this vid .. cheers Adz 👊🏽
Sa - I recall leaving a comment last year … cursing the Family Court system … I hope you got a good result with your son and hope your step daughter acknowledges that you 🫵🏽 were or hopefully still are one of the most influential positive male role models in her life 👊🏽
Rasclart , feel very bad for you bro
Could never be me (I’m on 1/4 in) brilliant episode I will not wiling be with a baby mom it’s long
Madness shouldn't have to go through all of this if trying to participate in the child's life.
So we dont know what happened with the bike situation?
It makes me think if the father of the daughter bounced because the mother was giving him hella problems
Yow bro I'm going through the samething with my baby mother trust me some of them are evil.
When the whole of the island knows loooool
lmaooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
OK you got me wanting to watch the whole episode ...
I am sure he actor he used to be in channel 5 Family affairs
That's why I protect my feelings at all cost... I love my kids but I'm not emotionally attached like that, due to the past...
You done well bruv . Been through the same crap . No matter what she's done or what paperwork you have from court the police get called and us good dad's get fucked over by 'officer discretion ' . Your playing the most important game of your sons life and your attitude is perfect. Stay strong . Be more than reasonable everyone she causes you drama and eventually you'll get a proper court order that provides for you and your sons needs . You lose it once bruv and your fucked so hold it together untill ya win . Then deal with the PTSD once your settled . Been there mate so well done . being a real man ain't easy
😂😂 St Lucia man was being cheated on too by next Facebook man. We all knew she was cheating and with whom.
Brother be warned!! Don't plant your seed in these types we have be careful a beta male or Nice guy type doesn't work unfortunately u have to be ruthless in a methodical way protect yourself and put yourself first! Gone are days of putting women before you and your well being.
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I think when the man introduces himself and his story, and he talks about how he took on the bbms other kid(s) I think its vital to pause straight away an the host to quickly ask "when you took on her other kid(s) did you ask or know why 'thier' dads are not around
IF THAT!!!
Be the case
Towards response before they continue to evaluate
It will count towards suggestions and clarity
In my case, and most man I've seen on here
they have to explain about the bbms partner not being in thier on own lane
It's a good and fair questioning for clarity and glass houses 👊🏿✊🏿
I would have went and got a solicitor ASAP ...
Dude is a good man and he is being treated like he is nothing.stay strong sa ra.👍👍
It’s a common thing black mothers do to the the fathers who WANT to be in their lives. They psychology are messed up. From not letting the father see the kids to money issues to calling the police. It’s a trait of the black woman who have fathers who do their part. Nothing new
I HATE to say this but what you say, from my experience talking to many black men, is true.
This is so sad.. my mom was that mother so I was adamant that I wouldn’t do the same with my child. Using the child as a weapon is not it! My love for my child outweighs the dislike I have for her dad
That's a selfish act from the woman to use the child as a weapon of object against the father, this act of wickedness and selfishness will only cause the children to turn on the mother when they find out the truth later on and God help her if she was to ever get sick later on in her older years on whether her children will be there for her due to her own wickedness.
No baby mums/dads. Simple rule
Kevin Samuels said it
The godfather usually knows whats best.👍👍
Who’s that?
@@SJ_Vibezz he literally said it in the comment
RIP KS
Sa Ra has been through a madness
This hurt my heart hearing this still ngl! 💔
I thought about this build a case thing . Because women are constantly on social media chatting shit they are constantly building a case against you.
That’s tough bro
If this is true and it sounds like it is because I know women that are actually like this. I hope that child grows up and sees his mother for what she is. Been watching Sa Ra from his speaker corners day and it’s crazy to hear this is what he has going on in his personal life. Great podcast/platform for men.
It's crazy the way people will form such strong opinions about someone without hearing their side of the story. Sometimes it's good to reserve judgment.
Unfortunately many women are exactly like this so I believe him
@@watermarginramsgate180 and a lot of men lie too. Doesn't make sense to just believe something without hearing the other side of the story. Both men and women can do wrong/ lie.
@@galaxychoc82 this is about women that lie there's enough posts on men that lie stop deflecting.
@@watermarginramsgate180 no deflection. I just think it's funny how people just believe people without hearing the other person's side. Plus I have been able to observe these two individuals involved and I don't believe this story, sorry.
@@galaxychoc82 troll that's a sympathiser for trash
Absolutely love this podcast
I wonder who the person was who messaged on Facebook! The whole story is mad and it's a shame how toxic situations become where children are involved.
I got to the part where Sa Ra said where black women call the police on black men knowing how the history between the two are worldwide, is done in his eyes.. Bruh be more specific cah we done know some women are just vindictive such as the one you spoke about on this platform. But what about the black women who are suffering from abuse from black men especially physical, who are they supposed to call?
Totally agree
If a black woman is physically being abused and she calls the police on him then she is well within her rights. No man should be physically beating his partner and I am sure Sa Ra would be in full support of that. However we know that the first thing a woman will do when she doesn’t get her way is to call the police on her man. When there is no physical violence. He lived with her for 10 years and after 10 years she wants to call the police on him. Well done for having the courage and wisdom to walk way.
@@ThePeacemaker8 I agree with what you said only one thing I would correct in what you said is some women cos not all will call the police when they can't get their own way... Dem particular gyal deh just bc wicked, str8.
@@CapreDiem42 Why do women ALWAYS come with the "not all" point. We KNOW it isn't all women but there are a few too many evil ones so we need to warn our young brothers
@@thrilla72 hello I agree with the warning. Secondly it's not just women that use the "not all" point. Men use it too just depends on the discussion.